tasksource/scruples

1{"id": "ySQlJw4BNwbaNiHcdS6Hdf3ZHnBrAg9d", "post_id": "axdpn3", "action": {"description": "wanting to wear a shirt", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to wear a shirt?", "text": "My boyfriend (well just call him M) and I are creators on Instagram (he is also on TikTok). I'm a digital and traditional artist and in one of my classes we create t shirts and things (socks, lanyards, water bottles, stickers, you name it). I'm a big fan of putting my art on t shirts so I can sell them.\n\nM wanted to make some posts for TikTok and wanted to use the shirt I made today. My one personal rule is that if the shirt isn't being given to someone else, then I wear it first (this is because I know I wont get it back. Ive made one other shirt that I've worn, and he wore it for a week and hasn't given it back.) So I told him no, because I haven't worn the shirt yet. \n\nM proceeded to complain about not having content to post, and how his IG post today didn't get any engagement, saying \"of course you dont know, because you never look.\"\n\nAm I the asshole for wanting to wear the shirt I made just once?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}2{"id": "P96wm6qNDeGdaHy25VrNmYPWbtyTAxDN", "post_id": "actige", "action": null, "title": "Aita here? Two parents, two different reactions", "text": "Background: I have ocd and the only contamination issue I have is around food. Both parents know this. What has lead me to ask this question is this mornings reaction from parent B.\n\nThis morning parent b offered to make me breakfast, I responded how I always do: that\u2019s very kind but I\u2019m happy to come make it myself. Parent b said it was no trouble. I accepted. Two slices of toast came and apu I check the toast for signs of mould. First piece had no issues, I ate it. Second piece however had something green growing on the edge. I cut this bit off but I couldn\u2019t shake in my head that the whole piece must be contaminated and so I took the toast back and apologised that I couldn\u2019t eat it cos of the mould and we checked the date on the bread and it said the 30th December. Nearly a week past its best before. Parent b apologised and we threw it away. No drama.\n\nNearly identical situation occurred about 6 months ago with parent a. Parent a offered to make me a toasted sandwich. I said that would be very kind but I was happy to make it myself. Parent a said it was no problem, I accepted. When the sandwich came I checked the bread for mould and found green and white stuff growing down one side of the bread. I take it back to the kitchen and explain that it has mould and I\u2019m sorry but I can\u2019t eat it. I will make myself something else. Parent a goes ballistic. I\u2019m \u201cungrateful and don\u2019t trust them and did I really think they\u2019d feed me mould?\u201d I pointed out the mould- clearly visible. \u201cWell someone must\u2019ve not sealed the bread package properly (ie me) and that\u2019s how it got mouldy.\u201d I asked if parent a had checked the date and that just seemed to escalate their reaction. They stormed out screaming and crying. I checked the bread date and it was 2 or 3 days past the best before.\n\nAita in either situation? Parent a\u2019s reaction made me think I was. But now I\u2019ve had the same situation with parent b and they didn\u2019t get angry or pissed off maybe I wasn\u2019t the asshole? Obviously I think I need to just make my own food. Then I can\u2019t cause trouble.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}3{"id": "QYwk7bbUf8VOiCDKRSoarulHfeZ3Rf6c", "post_id": "a0be1t", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be told to save money", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be told to save money?", "text": " \n\nMy really good friend is getting married. Yay!happy for her. I'm a bridesmaid in her wedding. Also yay. I am currently underemployed which my friend knows. I make about 35k (Canadian a year). I'm sensitive about this. I'm in a social work type field. \n\nOkay so friend lives a plane ride away. Approximately 600 bucks. Flights are pricey.  Anyway she hasn't decided yet but is thinking about a destination bacherlorette party...so it would be flight from Canada to that city, apparently a small gap of time then flight back to her wedding city but not enough so I can fly back home in between so it's looking like lots of unpaid leave. And it's just after Xmas next year so pricey time to fly.\n\nSince she got engaged she's been saying things along the lines of \"start saving for my bach party\" and \"we gotta save for the party\". I let her know these kinds of comments are super stressful for me as I have other savings goals and I'm doing my best to save for her thing too, but I am feeling unhappy financially.  She responded by basically saying she too has savings goals (her parent is paying for the whole wedding) and at least I'm not a homeless person like what happened to thousands of people in California. I just told her again i wanted to bring it up that telling me to save makes me feel stressed and anxious. She wrote it on the official bridesmaid invitation that I needed to save for her party and I mentioned how I didn't like that and she was like Oh so that's all your remember about my gift?! \n\nIt just runs me the wrong way and I think it's crazy tacky to tell people especially people struggling financially to save for your destination bacherlorette party. She thinks I'm overreacting and that I want to ban her from talking about her wedding. Its embarrassing enough to admit to financial struggles and she doesn't seem to get it. I just want her to tell me my presence and support are enough at her wedding.  Am I the asshole for saying what I said and for not prioritizing saving to be in her wedding party? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}4{"id": "Wn1d74VAGKsZEdpDr2E5gt3dRsY4iFRx", "post_id": "acxtqt", "action": {"description": "being disappointed that my friend is bringing someone with them to visit me", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being disappointed that my friend is bringing someone with them to visit me", "text": "I've been very lonely for a long time, few friends, don't see anyone very often; my friend on the other side of the country had planned a trip to come visit me in a few weeks, and I was extremely looking forward to it. Then she tells me that a friend of hers had also planned a trip to my town by coincidence, and that they're now coming together with the intent to hang out as a group. I'm really not a group person, but I guess I could handle it with someone I know; it's just that I was really looking forward to seeing her by herself, and hanging out with someone I don't know makes me very uncomfortable - it always has, and she knows this. I don't think she's the asshole here, but I'm not sure if I am either? I'm a little peeved at her, but mostly just saddened. What do you think?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}5{"id": "ETj3fuuyAqtOeVIMFhbZzToJM3Lkfpqf", "post_id": "9whlu1", "action": {"description": "being late for work due to a power outage", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being late for work due to a power outage?", "text": "Alt account because friends know my real one. \n\nThis isn't a regular \"I said something or did something I shouldn't have\" asshole, this is a \"I know I fucked up, how much do I look like an asshole\".\n\nI'm currently a student teacher/intern for a school near my college.  Today I was supposed to substitute teach so my mentor teacher could do some work with the other school's teachers.\n\nI set my alarm on my computer and on my phone last night to wake me up early, due to me having trouble waking up sometimes.\n\nHowever, last night, a breaker in my fuse box flipped off and shut off my computer and stopped charging my phone, which then died during the night.  I woke up at 8:00 A.M (when class started) and rushed to put on clothes and bike to the school.  I got there around 8:05-8:10 and found another substitute teacher talking to my mentor teacher.  Also in the room is my college teacher who is like an overseer of our progress.\n\nI walked in and my mentor teacher and college teacher sat down with me.  They were worried because they couldn't reach me on my phone (still was dead), and I was late, which is never like me.  \n\nI told them what happened, that I was so sorry, and I can still be there and teach.  \n\nMy two teachers understood but thought it best for me to go home.  I argued against that, saying I'm here and I can teach, but got told to think about how to not let them happen in the future.   I walked out of the building dejected and know that the whole staff knows that I am unreliable and I messed up.\n\nMy mentor teacher and college teacher each texted me and told me not to be too hard on myself and it is okay.  \n\nI have chronic anxiety so my morning has been sitting at home in humiliation that this happened.\n\nNow I am trying to figure out what my next steps are, and how much do I look like an asshole and how to fix it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}6{"id": "0RpE03gHX7k3usIjWIZMHbZsufJhBj0e", "post_id": "9wkv4o", "action": {"description": "going off on a friend for making a comment about my sports team", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for going off on a friend for making a comment about my sports team?", "text": "Pretty much was hanging out with two friends. I was watching the Lakers game. They won at the very last minute and I immediately hopped up and celebrated. Before I could even finish celebrating one friend started going on about how the Lakers suck. It just pissed me off so much I screamed at her to get out my room until she left. \n\n\nShe knows I'm a huge fan and she likes them too. She was only saying it to antagonize me. Am I the dick here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}7{"id": "tb6yl5VDFA23aGW7zvXjMy3e2i13CLdf", "post_id": "b27zco", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to prom", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to prom?", "text": "Okay, some quick backstory. I'm 18 almost 19 in college and my gf is one year younger. However, she took classes to get out of high school a semester early. So now we are both in college together and enjoying it a ton. But now it's getting close to the end of her(supposed to be) senior year at the high school. Which means prom is also coming up. \n\nNow, I don't know about all of you but I think prom is one of the most elaborate scams ever devised by the education system and entertainment (case in point: every high school sweetheart film ever made). Which is why I never went to my senior prom.\n\nIts overpriced, you REQUIRE a nice outfit, and to top it off neither of us go to the school anymore. I've given her all these points and yet she still wants to go. We did, however, go to the homecoming last year. Let me tell you, I've never been more disappointed with my school and you have gym teachers getting arrested for sexual conduct with students here. \n\nShe was upset about the homecoming being bad too and I just know that prom going to be exactly the same way because there is no way our school makes enough money for a proper dance. So what do all think? Am I wrong for not wanting to go to a dance with my her? I'd rather spend the night at somewhere that would actually be fun. Perhaps a nightly beach walk or something.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}8{"id": "LMm10e7QluyuZFyhnN0NHsO8yVVFQg95", "post_id": "aeb549", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my long distance Gf for the 4th time which supposedly led her to kill herself", "pronormative_score": 32, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my long distance Gf for the 4th time which supposedly led her to kill herself?", "text": "She was constantly lying to me, whether it be out of kindness or to protect the relationship from heading towards an argument (meaning bad things she's done but has lied to keep me from questioning her). We've constantly had arguments with each other and she even started feeling like we weren't meant to be. So the 3rd time I broke it off, I felt sure I wasn't going to be with her, as I had no emotions. This was due to the fact that she is extremely selfish and wouldn't even console me when I was in a bad state. She then started to say things like I'll kill myself if you leave me, or she couldn't get attracted to other men. Being the asshole that I am, I decide to stick with her to make sure she stays safe, but I've really had enough at that point. Fast forward a few weeks later and the lies ensue. I face my fear of having a death on my soul and just tell her I've had enough with the lies, I break it off for the last time and she's quiet for a few days. She hasn't killed herself at that point as I've seen her online and she's tried to message me, (I've blocked her everywhere). Then I get messages from her on Instagram somehow, saying she'll actually kill herself, and I replied with \"well atleast you won't be able to hurt anyone\".......\nI'm not familiar with Instagram but I think if their profile picture disappears they've blocked you? Correct me if I'm wrong. But I'm feeling guilty as fuck and anxiety is eating me alive. I'm religious, so having a death on me is.. Idk how to feel. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 32, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 32, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}9{"id": "AL5hgBGX02eG3FrnwRgCPmMMEeXwq1w1", "post_id": "b1k73l", "action": {"description": "asking my so to wait and follow our new Mint budget", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "Aita for asking my SO to wait and follow our new Mint budget?", "text": "Backstory is that we have a mint budget we follow now with our current financial situation. Well that situation just changed and we have more $$$ to play with but I\u2019m not sure how much yet. My SO doesn\u2019t work and choose to stay at home to raise our first kid. It\u2019s going good. Now with kid #2 the finances change and I got a raise at work so in my mind I want to see what the next paycheck looks like before we start spending more money on things. We have allocated money for everything already and once mint says we reached it, we\u2019re done with that category. We agreed we would wait to see what our new financial situation was. The paycheck won\u2019t come till the end of the month. SO buys stuff for the kids knowing we have more money in the future even though on the current budget we have maxed the kids spending out. SO reasoning is that we need it. My reasoning is that we agreed to wait for new budget before spending. Aita here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}10{"id": "X2Quj6gnZqM3fwqSiZGTBic2ARBPc6dm", "post_id": "almxxz", "action": {"description": "not wanting to move to France with my dad", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to move to France with my dad?", "text": "Hey guys, I'm sorry if it's obvious one way or the other whether I'm an asshole or not, I just really dont know. Also, sorry if my writing is poor, but I'm kinda just writing off the cuff.\n\nMy dad recently got with a new girlfriend, and she's nice and all, but she's been talking a LOT about moving out of the country, even by next year. And my dad seems to be really into it, so I'm pretty sure it's a certainty.\n\nThey're talking about moving to France, and France is nice and all, but I don't know. I kinda like America, and I feel like I haven't stayed in one place for more than a year for a while. Either I move schools, or I move grades, or I move states. I'm always moving, I haven't made friends that last more than a year besides a couple internet friends (that I've drifted from quite a bit) since third grade, and through that the only stable thing in my life has been the country I live in. No matter how much shit had changed all the time, at least I've been in my home country, where almost everyone speaks the same language as me, and have around the same mannerisms and expressions.\n\nI feel like one of the only things familiar to me will be ripped away, and that's scary. Especially with article 13 coming soon, I wouldnt be able to access most of the YouTube channels I love to watch, and that's my main source of entertainment and coping mechanism for sad times.\n\nSo in moving to France, I would be giving up the only familiar thing in my life, my country, language, and culture, as well as giving up my main source of entertainment and coping mechanism. I don't know how I would continue living.\n\n But is it right for me to hold my parents back like this? If their dream is to constantly move around, who am I to hold them back? I would feel terrible if I held them back and made them unhappy. But then again, I've always been going with the flow whenever we have to move and just being okay with it, even when it's destroyed me. When is it time to be selfish and think about my own happiness?\n\nHonestly, I see only a couple possible futures for me and none of them look happy.\n\n1: I move to France, and then inevitably move again in another year or so, and spend the rest of my life with no real friends or connections.\n2: I don't move with my dad, and move in with my mom (which is a non option, really. Long story)\n3: I put my foot down and refuse to move, which will either result in option 1 or me holding my parents back from happiness and feeling guilty forever.\n\nI don't know anymore, and I'm so confused. Please tell me if I'm the asshole. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}11{"id": "UqzHovc5IG6sWyO8iU0qcvTZsAGazgUC", "post_id": "b25r78", "action": {"description": "not forgiving my MIL", "pronormative_score": 32, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for not forgiving my MIL?", "text": "Some years ago my husband and I built a DIY patio behind our house. We finished it just before Labor Day and decided to have a patio opening cookout. We invited his parents, my parents, and his brother and SIL. When the food was served everyone was chowing down except my MIL. She asked my FIL if her meat looked cooked enough. He said it was. She put it down and didn't eat it. Eventually she took it back to the grill and cooked it some more while everyone else was eating and enjoying themselves. No big deal right?\nA few days later my in-laws dropped by my husband's work to give him something. MIL took the opportunity to take him aside and tell him how terrible the food at the cookout had been and that she couldn't believe she had to grill it herself. My husband got so upset he had to walk away from them. He called her later that day to tell her how hurt he was by what she'd said, but rather than apologize she reiterated that the food was awful. When my husband told me all this I vowed that I would never cook a meal for them again (prior to this we had them over for dinner on a monthly or so basis). Now I wouldn't be so mad if anyone else had said their meat was still pink in the middle but no one did. \nFlash forward 6 or so years, I can't even remember exactly, and I have kept my vow. But my husband says it's time to move on. I told him he is welcome to cook for them but other than grilling he's no cook. So AITA for holding this for so many years? Should I do like he wants and cook an Easter dinner this year? I honestly don't even think they've noticed that I haven't cooked for them in years, so it's not like their feelings are being hurt. Other than this I have a good relationship with them. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 31, "EVERYBODY": 12, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 32, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}12{"id": "PoIZ8cZ1EFhkwQ1l1e1SjeNs37tw7Sjk", "post_id": "ajxxfm", "action": {"description": "making MIL leave our home while my fiance is away", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for making MIL leave our home while my fiance is away?", "text": "I don't even know where to begin here. Unlike a lot of people I've never had any issues with my (soon-to-be) in-laws before - in fact my fiance's parents quite liked me the handful of times we've met, and we've always gotten along. The shit realllllllly hit the fan this past weekend though.\n\n​\n\nSo, my fiance travels a lot for work and was out of town for about a week-ish. During the weekend his mother was planning to come for her annual visit (we live near Phoenix AZ, she lives in San Diego CA) and was going to stay in our guestroom for a few days until he returned from his trip so we could all spend time together. The first day was fairly good, we went out to lunch and watched her favorite gameshow for a while, chatted about random stuff. We'd never gotten to know each other very well or spent time alone together so it was somewhat awkward, but it was fine. \n\n​\n\nBut then the second day when we go out to lunch is when things start going downhill... see, MIL is nice and all but is very naive and gullible, to put it nicely. She could hear something on the radio and immediately take it as truth without any sort of fact-checking or research on her own, which is something that's even gotten my fiance rather irritated with her on occasion. She is also very stubborn and likes to talk a LOT, so she will always give you her blunt opinion. And on top of this, she is a staunch Trump supporter and wants the wall built ASAP, because she believes \"all the illegal immigrants in San Diego are the cause of all the traffic\". Needless to say, I don't exactly share her views. Which that in itself isn't a problem, I've known she's rather conservative and made it a point to avoid politics as a topic of conversation so as not to cause any conflict. However, she wants to talk about anything and everything with me, and with the current political climate and government shutdown in place, she's very enthusiastic to discuss it.\n\n​\n\nShe begins asking me questions about my views regarding the shutdown, the wall, Trump, etc. I say I'd rather not talk about something like that but she insists, adding how ridiculous she thinks it is that \"Democrats won't fund the wall to keep our country safe\". I'm desperately trying to avoid giving my honest opinion and instead try to talk about something else, but she keeps poking at me \"oh come on, tell me what you think! Don't you think we should stop illegal aliens from entering our country?\" like she's expecting me to agree with her.\n\n​\n\nClearly she wasn't budging, so I just say I don't think the wall is a good idea and that Trump is causing even more damage than good to the country with this shutdown (Sidenote: my father works a government job and has been without pay during this period, so it's a bit of an extra touchy subject for me). Immediately her expression goes from an eager grin to completely stone-faced. I go on saying that most illegal immigrants come in through airplanes anyway and just overstay their visas so a wall wouldn't stop that, and she goes off saying that's not true because she heard this from Breitbart or that on Fox News and the president tweeted this and that and it's all the Democrats fault and blah blah. Which again, if that's your opinion then fine - I tend to respect others' opinions as long as they do the same for me. But she goes on this tirade trying to \"educate\" me and how I shouldn't by into the lies of liberal media or whatever. When she finally stops to take a breath I quickly say \"clearly we aren't going to agree about this so let's just not talk about it\".\n\n​\n\nAnd that quieted her down... for about 30 seconds.\n\n​\n\nThen she starts mumbling about how I must've gotten my views from my mother (who is in fact quite liberal) and that it's so unfortunate that I've bought into all this false information and that we disrespect our president and country so much. Obviously this struck a nerve with me now that she's brought my mother into this, whom she's only met twice and my mother knows they have opposing views but has never said a bad word about her. So flat-out tell her that I'd like her to stop, I don't agree with her views and especially knowing how much my father is struggling to pay bills right now she's the one being rude while staying under my roof.\n\n​\n\nThis only offended her further, and eventually it just got to the point where I asked her to leave and stay with her friend in town or a hotel for the remainder of her trip. She was completely shocked and initially refused to leave, saying she had a right to be here because this was her son's house too and he invited her here (although she's never actually invited, she just randomly calls up and says \"hey I'm coming to stay from X day to Y day!\" but that hasn't been a problem since we only see her once a year and we shift our schedules around if needed). I tell her it's my house as well and she's no longer welcome to stay here if she's going to insult my family and argue with me over something as simple as a different viewpoint. So she huffs and gathers her stuff, gets in her car and drives off.\n\n​\n\nI barely have a few minutes to take a breath and process everything that just happened when I get a call from my fiance, angry that I kicked his mother out of our home. I figured she probably just gave him one side of the story and spun it in her favor, so I explain what happened but he insists she would've calmed down if I just let her vent, and that I shouldn't have told her to leave. This irritated me and I said she's not welcome while I'm here alone and that she'll be staying elsewhere, which of course he wasn't happy about. \n\n​\n\nMy fiance and I barely spoke the rest of the time he was out of town, and he was still fairly annoyed when I picked him up at the airport. He was especially upset because apparently his mother had left for San Diego early because of the incident, so he missed out on seeing her. Now that we've had some time to talk about it he understands my point of view, but since he sees his mom so rarely he can't help but feeling down about it and I'm left questioning my decision and feeling very guilty. I've considered contacting her to apologize even though I really feel like I shouldn't - in fact I've thought about barring her from the wedding altogether if this continues to be a persistent issue between us, because god forbid she starts drama with myself or my family at my own wedding. I'm not sure how to feel about this, so I'll leave it up to the fellow Redditers to determine if I'm the asshole.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}13{"id": "qAdcTR8YMFlkpS6KAzfbFG99cJ7x48FT", "post_id": "b33719", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my girlfriend for having pitty sex", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 21}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my girlfriend for having pitty sex", "text": "Okay so here is the situation. So my girlfriend and I recently moved in together, because of this we sometimes get in little arguments over stupid stuff. Well yesterday we had one of those arguments and it put both of us in a bad mood. We end up making up, we have dinner together, watch TV everything seems fine. So we go to bed. Usually I initiate sex but tonight she does. Our usual routine with sex is foreplay and such, until she cums, then we start having sex. Well no matter what I did she couldn\u2019t cum and this probably went on for 20 to 30 min. So she gets annoyed and says \u201cI\u2019m not going to cum, I\u2019m going to bed goodnight\u201d and rolls over. She says it with kind of an attitude. Now she\u2019s extremely wet, and up until this point everything was pointing in the direction of sex. So I\u2019m like what the fuck and I say \u201care you serious, are you really going to tease me and then just go to bed\u201d. So I roll over and a minute or two passes by and then she rolls back over initiates again. And we start having sex. And I ask \u201cis this pitty sex?\u201d She says \u201cyes\u201d. So I said \u201cfuck this\u201d stop having sex and go take a shower. When I get back we have a little argument she calls me an \u201casshole\u201d I say \u201cI\u2019m not having fucking pitty sex\u201d, we end up going to bed. This morning we apologize to each other. I still wanna talk about it when we both get home from work but I\u2019m still confused about the whole situation\n\nI feel like she could\u2019ve easily still been into it, or could have cum later during sex and that her abruptly turning over and giving me attitude because I couldn\u2019t make her cum is kind of a dick move. I also think she got in her own head, because I can almost always make her cum and that it wasn\u2019t my fault to begin with. But then again me getting mad at her for not wanting to have sex and getting even more annoyed because of pitty sex is also kind of a dick move. I don\u2019t know what to think. \n\nSo who is the asshole? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 21}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}14{"id": "LyUHAJSBDXCWR39iz4txpskfKVQV9Q10", "post_id": "b3bbrg", "action": {"description": "not wanting randoms at my wedding", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA because I don\u2019t want randoms at my wedding?", "text": "So...my mom and dad split up over 20 years ago and he has been remarried for similar length of time. My mom had custody of me and my brother and never met anyone permanent. When I gave her a Save The Date I said she could invite someone but I had to approve of the person as I didn\u2019t want randoms at my wedding. It\u2019s now less than 6 months away and I asked her who she is bringing, she flew off the handle when I said she couldn\u2019t bring a man (she doesn\u2019t have one in mind) and I expected her to bring a friend. Am I being unreasonable? She said \u201cI shouldn\u2019t be told who to bring to my daughters wedding!\u201d In a shrill voice. But that daughter is me \ud83e\udd14 and surely what I want goes? I understand that seeing my dad with his wife is shit, but that\u2019s why I said to bring her best friend.  I\u2019m very aware I have been a people-pleaser all my life and I have been trying to get out the habit, but have I gone too far? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}15{"id": "LYmAPIp3kLvjYdGdkRurRtgH2G87KDRt", "post_id": "b7lx1x", "action": {"description": "cutting off good female friend due to booty call", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA - cutting off good female friend due to booty call....", "text": "Background for reference: I'm a 44 year old married male with 3 kids. I have many male and female friendships developed in the usual ways - work colleagues, sport, social groups, kids parents etc. \n\nAt one past employer, I got close to a female peer / colleague. We had a relatively close relationship insofar as we would often lunch together, grab a drink after work in our group, and generally hang out. \n\nI left the job to go elsewhere, as did she. We did however stay in touch - regular text/email, the odd lunch catch up - basically friends...we were very comfortable with each other and I really felt she was a good friend. We both shared a lot of personal information. \n\nShe moved away (only a state / 1 hour flight away) with her partner, and had a child. Two years pass.\n\nAfter a number of false starts (I was going to visit / work schedules not aligning) she finally plans a trip to her home city (her family is also here)\n\nWe schedule a lunch for a Friday. ( I'm actually pretty happy with that and schedule a half day off work) She bails and asks to move our catch up to Monday. Sure thing - family stuff will likely be required - I can juggle my schedule and move to Monday.\n\nOn the Sunday, I get a message from my friend asking \"how long our lunch will take\" on Monday as she is keen on setting up a date with an ex partner. Basically a booty call.  Her relationship has not been in a good place for some time.\n\nThe inference being that our catch up was holding her back from hooking up with an ex.\nI get pretty offended. I make my excuses for the lunch, and avoid any chance to reschedule while she is in the city.\n\nHer trip ends, and she returns interstate.\nI receive one further friendly email as if nothing has happened. I don't respond and have made no attempt to contact again. \n\nI have blocked her number and email. AITA.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}16{"id": "8kc0BReuMylcjZ2yCjrJ6PsyVc6AsBLE", "post_id": "a2kgkv", "action": {"description": "crying everyday normal", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA? Crying everyday normal?", "text": "AITA? So in another thread, a woman made an off hand comment about how going to grad school was stressful and she is literally crying everyday. I said I realized school can be stressful but if she is literally crying everyday maybe she should reevaluate why she is there or at least see a therapist as to why she feels the need to break into tears at least once a day. Of course I was told I was being insensitive and that I would never know the stress and pressures of going to grad school. Full discourse I did go to undergrad so I\u2019m not completely out of the loop when it comes to academics but in no way did I cry everyday. She then brought up my military service and claimed I would never tell a war veteran with PTSD the same. Well I know plenty of vets with PTSD and not a single one cry everyday either. I just feel like these people are trying to make their graduate experience seem like a trial by fire when there is literally millions of people who have done it without all the dramatics. I asked a friend with two masters (both from Virginia Tech and yes he was there when the massacre happened) and not even he cried more that once. I\u2019m not trying to prove to anyone I\u2019m a tough guy and yes, I have cried plenty of times before. But I believe if you are truly crying everyday or even a few times a week you need to seek help. There\u2019s a word for that; depression. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}17{"id": "trQhUewlqGqFHuILFrCk6g8cLlTfCP6g", "post_id": "9uq3lp", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my friend for constantly flaking out on plans", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I got mad at my friend for constantly flaking out on plans?", "text": "So I have a good friend that I enjoy hanging out with, but they aren\u2019t good at turning people down so whenever I invited her somewhere and she doesn\u2019t want to go she says yes and then either constantly reschedules, claims she will get back to me with a time that works for her, or cancels at the last minute with some lame excuse. So would I be an asshole if I confronted her and told her to cut the crap and just be straight with me so that I don\u2019t waste the time and energy trying to make things work if she doesn\u2019t want to go? Also do I have any right to be upset since even though my gut tells me she is just being flaky, she is also a very busy person so there is a chance that I\u2019m just overly sensitive.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}18{"id": "asNElCSzHfRQxvZW8w2i4caKnZOoyvvl", "post_id": "ba602o", "action": {"description": "blocking my girlfriend for not respecting my feelings", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for blocking my girlfriend for not respecting my feelings?", "text": " I (18M) am still a student and currently in my vacation so I'm home all day. My girlfriend (19F) works as a cashier in a mart. She basically leaves at 7 and returns at 4, and I'm so much attached to her that I basically spend all my day waiting for her to return. It's been a couple of days she's returning home late, at 6 mostly. Like always she texts me that she's back home, but these few days she says she's tired and that's it. She doesn't text me at all for a few hours and just texts me back at night as if nothing's happened. I don't know if I'm overreacting, but I don't get why she doesn't even text me saying that she'll get some sleep and then text me after waking up. She wakes up, does her shopping for dinner, goes to her friend comes back and then texts me saying what I have been up to. So today I've had enough so I said i was sad and mad that she didn't text me saying she'd sleep and didn't text me after waking up. I said that I'd text her tomorrow because I was not in a good mood today. I'd be happy to hear her out tomorrow and accept it if I was overreacting and maybe she was really tired and i would be the asshole then for not seeing it through her perspective. But she kept on spamming me hearts and kiss emojis, which to me was very annoying. I proceeded to tell her that her way of approaching and handling this situation was making it worse and we should just call it a day and go to sleep. She kept texting me saying why I had to be mad about small things like these, she also said that atleast she texted back despite the fact it being late. I didn't want to ignore her, but I was pretty much very annoyed so I still calmly said you're just forcing me to talk and its making it worse to which she replied that she didn't know how trying to handle the situation is making it worse and asked why I was thinking like that. \"I don't have anybody else except for you to talk to\", that's what she said. So I said \"bro\" and was typing out my message that this isn't okay at all but she quickly replied with \"yes sis\" which might would've been her attempt at trying to be funny but I honestly had enough. All i asked for was time and space which isn't even much as I said I'd text her back in the morning and it was 9 here already. She said \"Go on then, text me back when you're mood is good. What can I do? Me speaking seems to only make the situation worse and annoy you.\" She said this in our language with much respect so this was very sarcastic and this is only a rough translation. I was pretty annoyed. I said you don't have to say that as a reply to her \"take rest\". So she started to rant again \"Who am I to you anyways.. and blah blah blah\", so I just blocked her for now.\n\nI will text her back in the morning but I don't know if what i did was a good approach to this situation. I don't even know if the title is right for this but I'd really appreciate you guys' take on this. Thanks.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}19{"id": "9poF9IZtjt8kZcuNhen4KxK0BOlRoXxQ", "post_id": "9t4q3q", "action": {"description": "panic kicking a dog", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA, for panic kicking a dog.", "text": "About a week ago I was walking to school and a lady was walking her dog, he saw me and managed to get off the leash. He ran full speed at me barking and snarling and I panicked and punted him.\n\nThe owner was livid and I tried to explain that I panicked but she walked away.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}20{"id": "XtA8hBy4SNbyxJE4XFFCsZvAUWuEPlzv", "post_id": "ao3q50", "action": {"description": "giving my boss an ultimatum that willcost him thousands", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for giving my boss an ultimatum that willcost him thousands?", "text": "Throwaway because I'm really not sure how this will go and don't want it attached to my main.\n\n\nOkay so, to start with I handed in my notice of contract termination at my job the other day. We are required to give 2 weeks notice, so that's exactly what I did. I explained to my boss that I'd found a better paying job elsewhere and would be leaving. He asked me why and I explained that it was simply due to my workplaces refusal to give me holiday time I was due.\n\nAs employees we're entitled to 4 weeks off a year, spanning from April to April. If you don't use them within that time period then you just lose them, but if you leave employment in that time you're entitled to be payed all the days you didn't take. I have three weeks. My job has a policy of only four people off at any one time, 3 employees and one manager. The problem is we're a building of 50+ employees so unless you get them all booked right away you'll always have people off on the days you want. \n\nNow you might be thinking 'well you should just book them earlier'. While you're correct in thinking that, I have to work around my parents schedules too, so when they go on vacations I come home and look after my younger brother and sister. I don't mind this, they're great kids so I'm happy to do it. \n\nAnyway, as I still have three weeks left and I ended up losing two weeks last year for the same reasons, I figured I could take two weeks off, be happy with that and just lose a week. Nope ,can't be done. My boss has told two others to take two weeks off so he has to say no to me, so he's doing me to lose paid time off the second year in a row.\n\nOkay so onto the meat of this tale. I got a new job, have handed in my two weeks notice and I start on the 18th of \nFebruary. My boss pulls my aside yesterday and asks if I'd be willing to go down to working one day a week until April, as it means he gets a \u00a33,000 bonus for staff retention year to year. If I leave it means we've lost too many people and he doesn't get the bonus. I told my boss that I'd be happy to work one Saturday a week(my new job is Mon-Fri) until mid March on the condition that he gives me my three weeks paid vacation from March-April and that he not change my contract as it means id get paid less for the time taken off, as id be classed as part time from then on and wouldn't be paid as I would've before.\n\nI thought this was a fair request, given that I get paid for the time if I leave anyway, and this way we'd both still get what we want. Nope, my boss loses his sh*t, telling me I'm blackmailing him and what I was requesting was fraud and is illegal. Now I'm not a lawyer, I have no idea if thats true, it just seemed like an idea that I could leave and he'd still receive his bonus. I told him that if he didn't agree to that then I'd be leaving at the end of my notice period at that would be it. He stormed off and the only thing he's said to me since was a snide comment when my colleagues were talking about work he told me 'its not your problem anymore is it?' when I chimed in with a comment.\n\nSo Reddit, Am I The Asshole for how I 'blackmailed' my boss. I don't think I am to make it clear, but all his comments has really made me wonder.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}21{"id": "wsHKrTPSiBGttaJiPpoJlgJ5nsF4h7Og", "post_id": "a9v1wv", "action": {"description": "calling the police on my sister", "pronormative_score": 75, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA For Calling the Police on my Sister?", "text": "So some background here:\n\nI have an older, 21 year old sister who just returned from university abroad back home. She has always been very narcissistic and materialistic but in her time abroad in Australia it's become much, much worse. Her usual habit is to scream and scream and scream like a five year old child whenever she doesn't get whatever she wants - no matter how large or small.\n\n​\n\nIf I leave my room for five seconds she starts yelling at me to return to my room. If I leave my door open she yells at me to close my door. Every single morning I'm woken up by the sound of her incessant yelling.\n\n​\n\nMy parents are unwilling to say no. Whenever she yells and throws a temper tantrum my parents cave in and give her whatever she wants. My parents (who are working class) already busted their asses off to fund her lavish lifestyle while studying in Australia. I personally worked incredibly hard to earn a full ride to college so that my parents wouldn't be crippled by dept.\n\n​\n\nThe part that gets me the most and absolutely boils my blood is that this bitch has the audacity to hit my parents when she doesn't get her way. She will literally physically assault them and destroy property around our home.\n\n​\n\nI got sick and tired of it and called the police on her (for a second time) to have her arrested because it was reaching a point where I genuinely feared for the well being of myself and my parents. My sister has threatened to attack us with knives in the past and as a result we no longer keep knives (even to cook) in our home. My sister was arrested once previously for domestic violence and this is her second offense.\n\n​\n\nMy parents are both very angry at me because, in their eyes, I just ruined her life forever.\n\n​\n\nWe have tried to get her to see a professional and get some medication to help with her issues but she has refused every time, saying that she's fine and we're the ones in the wrong. Am I the asshole here for wanting to get her out of our lives?\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 75, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 75, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}22{"id": "P1t4Zgz6poJCIqZnsULNryXEC8iychnY", "post_id": "akpwpf", "action": {"description": "wanting to back out of my best friend's bachelorette weekend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to back out of my best friend\u2019s bachelorette weekend?", "text": "My best friend is getting married in May and it\u2019s been the plan all along that her bachelorette would be a weekend away in April. I have helped her plan parts of the trip and was completely on board until this past weekend when she sent me the detailed itinerary of the plans. I\u2019ve been busy these past few weeks and I know she\u2019s been working with ironing out the details with another one of her bridesmaids. \n\nSo the new details I learned this weekend that are making me want to back out were:\n\n1. We\u2019re going away for two nights, not one. I have a full time job and a three year old. My husband is extremely hands on with our son and is totally capable of and will be happy to take care of him for two nights by himself. But I\u2019ve never spent a night away from our son and I am not sure I want to do it now. I think it\u2019s a lot to ask of my husband. Especially because my friend, as much as I love her, is not the most sacrificing by nature and would never do things that don\u2019t fit into her normal life/routine for me. So I don\u2019t want to go out of my way for her. \n\n2. There are going to be 15 people there, none of who I am super fond of or have anything in common with. I\u2019ve met them a few times over the last 3-4 years and while they were okay to have a brief chat with over dinner, spending 2 days with them seems like A LOT to handle. I initially thought it\u2019ll be just the bridesmaids so like 4-5 of us. \n\n3. They have plans to go clubbing one of the nights and I just don\u2019t do that. Probably the only person in the group who doesn\u2019t. I don\u2019t drink and going clubbing with 15 people with who I have nothing in common just sounds quite unpleasant. \n\n4. I\u2019m pregnant and will be 4-months along in April. This adds to the whole not wanting to go clubbing and on long hikes (I haven\u2019t gone hiking in 3+ years) with a large group of women that I\u2019m not friends with. Hiking features a lot in the planned itinerary. \n\n5. It\u2019s going to be pricey and I\u2019m not comfortable spending a huge amount of money on a weekend that I know I wouldn\u2019t enjoy. I would actually be happier giving that money to my friend as an add-on to her wedding gift. \n\nSo how selfish am I being? My plan is to offer that instead of driving there on Friday night, I can drive up there on Saturday and be there for a photoshoot, lunch, hangout and dinner that she has planned and then drive back home. They have a few things planned for Sunday that I\u2019ll miss but I\u2019m okay with that. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}23{"id": "J2bBmpfOxqxdZ1ILdEUe0II22cnrBgIx", "post_id": "b4j8tx", "action": {"description": "telling an old lady to shut up and keep quiet", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling an old lady to shut up and keep quiet?", "text": "\nOnce a month I (21m) take my grandma to play bingo for about 6 hours, as she\u2019s 92 can\u2019t walk properly, partly deaf, has dementia (early stages) and doesn\u2019t really get to do much for fun and apart from caring for her none of my other family really take her anywhere. I adore my grandma so I\u2019ll do anything to make her happy. When my grandmas at the bingo she\u2019s a completely different woman, I\u2019ve never seen her so happy, she walks (with her walking trolly for support) faster than I\u2019ve ever seen, she smiles, gets all excited and it just makes my entire day.\n\nToday I took her as I always take her the first day after my payday so that I can play along side her (even though I have absolutely no clue what the hell I\u2019m doing), everything was going as normal, I was losing money in confusion, my grandma was somehow winning constantly as always and we were having fun, about half way through the day another lady sat behind us, I see this lady quite a lot and she\u2019s there every time I\u2019m there, her friend came with her and they sat right behind us and spent the whole time chatting super loudly. \n\nNow I\u2019m not sure if any of you have ever gone to bingo but being able to hear the speaker is vital in order to play, and the usual expectation is that everyone should keep quiet or should speak quietly. But because of them chatting about how the bus driver wasn\u2019t white, and what groceries they bought that morning my grandma was struggling to hear the speaker and I could see she was starting to not enjoy our day. \n\nI decided to not say anything as I know this lady was just catching up with a friend, but after 2 hours of constant talking (they weren\u2019t playing at all) I decided to turn around and I politely said \u201cwould you be able to keep your voice down my grandma can\u2019t hear the speaker and she\u2019s trying to play\u201d the lady looked at me, didn\u2019t respond and went back to her conversation, I decided to let it slide as I didn\u2019t fancy arguing with someone 3 times my age, and I gave her the benefit of the doubt that she didn\u2019t understand me, about an hour later my grandma got irritated and went \u201c Yap Yap Yap that\u2019s what they sound like\u201d, my grandma says things like that sometimes without realising, it\u2019s just how she is now because of her dementia and she can\u2019t help it, evidently the lady heard us because she turned and started having a go at my grandma who didn\u2019t understand what was going on so I said \u201c if you kept quiet then my grandma wouldn\u2019t mock you, so I suggest you shut up, keep quiet, play what you came here for and leave her alone\u201d to be fair to her the lady did as I said and they kept their voices down. \n\nAfter we left I felt awful, I just feel guilty for being rude but I did what I had to to make sure my grandma was okay, AITA? I feel like I am. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}24{"id": "5OQ22DTkpNrFqIkAUinBMfXFdh272JcF", "post_id": "agy794", "action": {"description": "being upset about my ex dating others while living with me", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for being upset about my ex dating others while living with me?", "text": "I broke to with my girlfriend about five months ago. Due to living situations she stayed living with me until she could save up to fully moved out. Over these months we've been dealing with it but came to a form of normalcy. \n\nThere has been some flirting time to time since our relationship but I chaulked it up tonl us dating nearly three years. Recently she attempted to kiss me, but I pulled out of it. I didn't think going down there road would be a good idea as we broke up due to us not exactly clicking very well, though I suspect it was due to me being stubborn and not wanting to change from enjoying not being alone; I won't deny that fact. \n\nEven though we aren't together anymore, I avoided dating anyone or get close enough to that  because it was still a fresh breakup and to not put her in a place of uncomfort while she lived with me. \n\nThe other day I found out she's dating one of her friends and ever since I felt a sinking feeling and generally upset about it, and I'm not sure exactly why that is. \n\nAm I the asshole for being upset about her seeing other people while she's living with me? Am I upset just because I keep seeing her everyday and things would be different if we didn't live with each other?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}25{"id": "HMBDRqVZT39TpfNsB08Dx9BmS5u9vUgj", "post_id": "a8cxol", "action": {"description": "asking my SIL to repay vet costs that I helped her with", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA If I asked my SIL to repay vet costs that I helped her with?", "text": "I'll be short and sweet here. My SIL lives next door and is kind of a shitty cat owner. She feeds and shelters them, but emotionally neglects them to the point where one cat ran away and lives with a neighbor across the street now, and her other cat basically moved in with us, but goes home for the odd feeding. Husband and I are big cat people, so we always showed affection to their cat when it came over and thus, the unofficial adoption. To be honest, her cat is kinda annoying and our cat isn't a fan, and I wish he didn't like us so much, but what can you do. \n\nAnyway, about 6 months ago I noticed her cat loosing weight, despite eating a ton of food at our house and at her house. Deduced it was diabetes. Mentioned to her he was skinny, kept hinting he should see a vet, even weighed him and proved he was loosing weight and still she dragged her feet about taking him to the vet. \n\nNow they don't make a lot of money, but enough for a vet, and plus don't own pets if you can't take care of them. Anyway she is aggressively cheap and I just knew it was about money so I offered to pay half if she took him to the vet. She immediately agrees, makes an appt, takes him to the vet, they run a bunch of tests and treat him for a few things, to the tune of $400. I pay my half as promised, with no expectations that she would pay me back. It was a straight up gift on my part.\n\nFast forward a few months and her cat is doing much better. Weight is back on and then some. Still spends 90% of it's time chilling at our house. I mean, he sleeps in our bed. \n\nHere is where I am thinking of potentially entering asshole territory: her grandma died over the summer, shortly after the vet trip, and she just now received an unexpected inheritance of around $30k. I would never expect her to pay me back normally, but now that she has this big windfall, would I be a jerk if I asked her to kick me back the money I paid for her cat? \n\nSorry I lied at the beginning and said this would be short and sweet. Anyway, debating asking for the money, but curious on what you all think. \n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}26{"id": "UbJRtvSmBGn8eLywyrfl0y0hwsD02FmA", "post_id": "asx6jc", "action": {"description": "joking about a subreddit's imminent brigading", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for joking about a subreddit's imminent brigading?", "text": "This happened back during the Super Bowl \"Sweet Victory\" controversy, so I waited a while before posting so people's heads could cool down and I could get an unbiased answer.\n\n​\n\nBasically, Maroon 5 teased that they would play play \"Sweet Victory\" during the half time show in honor of Stephen Hillenburg. That turned out to be a lie. r/BikiniBottomTwitter was pretty pissed off about it, with everyone posting memes about their disappointment, but it was all rather humorous and generally fun. That's why I'm on that sub in the first place, I don't care much for Spongebob, but it's funny. Well, I saw a comment saying something to the effect of \"I bet the Marroon 5 subreddit is going to get a lot of shit for this.\" I thought, \"You know, they probably are. I wonder what's happening there?\"\n\n​\n\nSo I check out r/Maroon5, and it's just this tiny 750ish subscriber dead fansub. However, there were two posts already on it from Spongebob fans. One of them was an angry troll saying \"fuck maroon 5,\" but the other one was a humorous picture of the Pitchfork Salesman from... whichever episode of Spongebob featured a pitchfork salesman.\n\n​\n\nNow, what I expected was mostly posts of the latter sort: teasing, but ultimately good natured meme posts. I decided to post one like it in the name of fake internet points. It said \"Don't mind me, I'm just here to watch Spongebob fans burn this place to the ground.\" My post was third out of what turned out to be hundreds, and I got like 2000 upvotes. However, the ensuing shitstorm was NOT the jokes I was expecting, but mostly variants on \"fuck maroon 5.\" It was uuuuuuugly.\n\n​\n\nSo my moral quandary is this: was I part of the problem, and if so, how much? I got there before the brigade really became a \"brigade,\" but my post certainly could be viewed as actual encouragement to \"burn this place to the ground,\" and really I knew that it was always possible that people would get mean.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}27{"id": "bGVuBZPWP7Pj8eDFzCdEU8mR4GIKRMdl", "post_id": "b5xsb4", "action": {"description": "making a \"hook up pact\" whilst having a girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 39}, "title": "AITA for making a \"hook up pact\" whilst having a girlfriend.", "text": "Hey guys,\n\nA week ago I attended a party with a bunch of classmates, whereof a girl that I share a lot of common friends with from \"back in the days\" also was there, let's call her C. We don't really talk much apart from when we're drunk, but she has been slightly flirty with me, despite both of us having a partner. She knows that I could never cheat on my girlfriend (C's friend who is also a classmate tried really hard to make me go home with her a few months back), however C stated: \"I know that if we didn't both had partners, then we definitely would've hooked up by now\". I think C is smart, funny and good looking, so I replied that we should make a pact; whenever one of us is single, then we'll message each other for a hook up to which she agreed with.\n\nNow I told this to my best friend, and he told me that he found it slightly \"bad mannered\", a break of trust and a gatekeeping for being unfaithful, and stated that it's kind of \"assuming you won't be with your girlfriend for a long time\". I was honestly lost for words, because I can see what he means, but I honestly didn't think that much of it. Both C and I meant what we said when we agreed, but I yeah, idk. This is my first relationship ever, and the pact just seemed like a fun thing to do.\n\nPlease let me know if I'm being a complete asshole without realising it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 38, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 39}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}28{"id": "oYbDs1ULzLTCQq8LnsfLgIRDj6twzLtN", "post_id": "aj4wyl", "action": null, "title": "AITA: My brothers boyfriend is a pathological liar but I might have crossed a line to prove it", "text": "TL;DR: I have done a ridiculous amount of research into things my brother's boyfriend has told me and my brother and have not found a single thing to be true. My brother is clueless. I've breached some trust here and fallen down a bit of a rabbit hole, AITA? And can I confront my brother about this asshole without him hating me?\n\nSorry for how long this is but this is some Dirty John shit and it needs some explaining. My \\[24F\\] brother David \\[27M\\] has been dating Kyle \\[29M\\] for about six months and immediately I thought something was off about him. Despite only being 27 (later found out his actual age is \\~29) he claimed he was a VP at a MAJOR company and that this company flew him places in private chartered jets and gave him a beautiful, giant apartment in a downtown area. This was despite him constantly (during working hours!) being at my brother's apartment, and my brother never once sending me a Snapchat or any other picture from them hanging out at his place. Early on in their relationship David actually confronted him about how he felt it was weird he'd never been to his apartment, and Kyle fed him some shit about how he just didn't feel \"emotionally connected\" to the apartment because he was going to be quitting his job at MAJOR company soon to pursue a law degree. And David bought that for some reason! After I pointed out that it still didn't seem right, David would get hostile or outright change the subject when I would bring it up. \n\nFast forward to Christmas where David asked us if he could bring Kyle home to my parents house as a show of support from us about his new relationship. I still had my reservations about him, but I went in with an open mind. The week was an absolute nightmare. He was incredibly negative and outright rude to me and my parents but David didn't seem to notice at all. But that isn't the point of this post. What he also did the whole weekend is just make up some insane fucking lies that while I could not immediately debunk in the moment, I have since debunked. Here are the best:\n\n* **He claims to have played basketball at a very well known college for basketball.** I'm talking Elite Eight well known. I debunked this before we even met him with a look at their readily available online roster from the year he claimed to play.\n* **He claims to have received a full ride scholarship, despite only playing for one year and was allowed to keep the full ride scholarship after he quit playing.** No injury involved, he just \"wasn't feeling it.\" I asked my boyfriend's brother who plays college sports on scholarship if this is something he had ever heard of, and he laughed in my face and said no. \n* **He claims to have attended an elite school (not Ivy but one of the best in the country) and graduated with a BS and a Master's with NO DEBT.** (he later mocked me and my brother for having student loans, so charming.) I debunked this by finding the commencement list online from the years he could have graduated. This one has room for error, because people can be left off a program, but still. \n* **Once again, claimed to be a VP at a Major Company.** I asked my boyfriend's dad, who is a VP at a smaller company, if that were possible and if any of the perks he described were possible, and he said no. \n* **He claimed to have a pilot's license.** This was a big ol' fuckup because my dad works for the FAA and he checked the database and he ain't on it. \n* **He claimed to have been accepted to Yale Law school with the option to defer for five years.** I talked to my best friend who is currently in law school whether she'd ever heard of a five year deferment, and she said someone in his family had to be dying for him to even get a one year deferment. And it's still rare. \n\nThese are the greatest hits and the best stuff I have to go off of. Aside from this stuff, he's incredibly manipulative and possessive. I talked to one of his friends (Amanda) and she said she hadn't seen David in like a month because Kyle doesn't like her and insults her constantly. (She has been debunking his lies for a long time.) At the moment, David is away in Africa on his dream vacation for another week. He has left his apartment keys, his car keys and his dog to Kyle to watch. Kyle told David before he left that he would keep the dog at \"his place\" (which I don't think exists) and just keep his keys for safe keeping. But while he's been gone, Amanda and her husband have walked by her home every other night while walking their dog and saw Kyle inside on the couch. My dad and mom were going to be in the city for a conference and asked if they could stay at David's apartment instead of a hotel, and Kyle said he wasn't in town to give them the keys. Sure enough they show up at David's apartment and Kyle isn't there but David's car is gone too. After he told David he wouldn't be using it. \n\nSo finally we get to the asshole part: this is a LOT of digging. On top of the above stuff, I've looked up criminal records, talked to all David's friends (they hate Kyle too FWIW,) asked a friend to use his Lexus Nexus access to look him up, and have done a lot lot lot of stuff behind his back to prove this guy is not who he says he is. We're very close to hiring a private investigator. I've trespassed on a lot of trust here. I feel like I've crossed a line. But I just want to be absolutely sure that if I ever confront David about him, Kyle can't talk his way out of it. But can I even confront him at this point without displaying this huge breach of trust I've done? Have I crossed a line into asshole territory or am I still just being protective? \n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 27, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 27, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}29{"id": "xXuFn3WHVRj11t3hyKM6EEGT3E3WtF2z", "post_id": "ab035u", "action": {"description": "not wishing my brother a happy b-day tomorrow after he punched me in the face earlier this month", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for not wishing my brother a happy B-day tomorrow after he punched me in the face earlier this month?", "text": "The title pretty much says it all, but I'll go into more detail about what happened\n\n\nMy brother (19m) and I (18f) got into an argument, he wouldn't stop poking and touching me, even after I was repeating \"Dont touch me\" and \"leave me alone\" when he didnt stop, eventually I told him \"go fuck off somewhere else for once, you fuckin' troglodyte\" he didnt like that so he grabbed the top of my head and punched me in the face. I haven't spoke a word to him since even though we live in the same house\n\n\nSo, Reddit, what do you think? WIBTA if I didn't wish him a happy birthday tomorrow?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}30{"id": "6Plfui1qpf4L2pUgYhymQ6BMoW6N1f6m", "post_id": "b0rwi3", "action": {"description": "not inviting my husbands extended family to our wedding", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not inviting my husbands extended family to our wedding?", "text": "SN: this has already happened, we married last December.\n\nSo long story short, we had a super small wedding, 45 people. We invited his mum, dad, brother, sister, surviving gparents & 1 of his aunties. We however, didnt invite his other aunty (let's call her paula). Paula, since we met, has taken disdain for me, most likely because I have bright red hair, piercings & tattoos, kinda alternative looking. Shes always made fun of how I look and speak (I'm 5 ft 2, thin and pretty shy), not to mention at every gathering, shes gotten crazy drunk and embarrassed herself.\n\nI said that if he wanted her there we could, but it was my husbands idea not to invite her, at the encouragement of his mum (Paula's sister). He also said he just didnt want the added stress of worrying shed say or do something dumb (she started a fight at his sisters wedding 2 years ago). She also likes to be vocal about her hatred of kids, and the majority of my cousins are under 10, and they are like my siblings- I love them to death.\n\nBasically the wedding happened, without her and it was an incredibly beautiful day. she found out through Facebook about it. She was LIVID, she sent abusive message after message to my poor husband saying how ungrateful he is for not inviting her, and then got his grandparents involved & said that if they didnt cut contact with my husband and I, she would. So now his grandad refuses to speak to him and it's completely ruined him as he looks up to him.\n\nHis mum and dad are on our side though, but it begs the questions AITA for not inviting her and causing all this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}31{"id": "SM2XNceoreoWPZhzPMj3BGdl3yKT4uyw", "post_id": "aqp6tl", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend to stop asking me for advice", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my boyfriend to stop asking me for advice", "text": "My bf is facing a big life decision currently, and he's having a really hard time making it. He keeps going over and over and thinking of new reasons to say yes or no.\n\nEach time he does it, he calls me and says, I think I should say yes because x, or I think I should say no because y.\n\nI've advised him to write these down in some sort of pros and cons list, as each time he thinks of something, he changes his mind based on the new reason. It's clearly complicated and has a lot of pros and cons, and when he brings it up, I can't remember all the previous reasons he had, so I don't know what to advise him. \n\nIt's been paralyzing him for weeks, and he's just obsessing in circles, and \"deciding\" based on the most recent potential factor he thought of, which I think is a bad idea, and may lead to making a bad decision.\n\nI finally told him to stop talking to me about it if he's not going to follow my advice. I feel like I just keep hearing the same thing over and over, and I've been trying to be a good listener, but I'm getting a little frustrated.\n\nAm I being an asshole? I've offered to sit down with him and make the list, but short of forcing him to sit down and do it \"right now\", I don't think it's going to happen.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}32{"id": "ontkQ7z7ec8LpLM2blHDNPU2o9ldS7oB", "post_id": "afi3vm", "action": null, "title": "AITA- Pranked my best uni friend with disastrous consequences", "text": "Context -So I had a uni friend (let's call her Ani) and we were friends from the very first year. We clicked and totally hit it off. She was very nice, very sweet (Italian) and she was always friendly. We would constantly go out to pubs (this is happening in London), restaurants and out as a group for coffee. We were happy and close.\n\nSo this story happens in our final year about a month ago from this posting. The final year is a big year because we have our dissertations to do. During the summer we were allocated a supervisor and chose topics. Ani got a notoriously lazy and slow replying supervisor from whom she couldn't get a reply from. So she messaged another lecturer (Jane, who taught both of us last year) and asked her of she knows if her supervisor was alive. Jane replied that Ani should just chill out and relax and stop disturbing the supervisor till after summer. Ani was annoyed a lot by this and told me this story. \n\nFast forwarding to December - I was in our uni library on the ground floor researching some stuff and I got a text from Ani. We messaged and turns out she was on the second floor. I told her I'd meet up in 10 minutes. This is where I thought of doing the prank. \n\nI yped in Google - disguise my email and came to a website that could send pretend emails to people as if from another person. So I sent an email as if from Jane (the teacher that pussed Ani off) to Ani with this text:\n\n'Dear Ani, I thought long and hard about out conversation last summer. I spoke with your supervisor and as a sorry here is a document with some research materials and links you might find useful.'\nAttached was a word doc\nIn the document was a meme saying - you've been pranked LOL.\n\nSo I sent that off and then as a test I sent the same email to myself instead of Ani using the same website. The email was sent to junk and was blocked with the labels saying it was dangerous and malicious and that you had to give specific permission to open it. So I thought to myself that there is no point of telling Ani about the prank (which I had the full intention of doing because I was meeting her in 10 minutes) since the email was so blocked she wouldn't open it. \n\nThis. Is. Where. I. Ducked. Up\n\nA week later I forgot about the incident. Ani didn't say anything either so I thought she never got it. Because if I got an email like that my first reaction would be to message the group chat and say - 'lmao which one of you shi* heads sent this?'. A week later I get an email from the head of department saying that she needs to interview me about 'impersonation of a teacher and harassment of a student'. My heart collapsed.\n\nI message Ani out of panic and tell her the truth and apologise. I take it all on the chin. She tells me she was deeply hurt and traumatised and how I have no respect for her. I told her that's not true. We've been friends for so long. She tells me that she told the ENTIRE department about this and she was having another meeting with other lecturers. I told her:\n\n-I'll take any punishment that comes to me even if it is suspension\n\nAni- suspension? You're going to get expelled.\n\nAt this point I was shaking. In England you pay for uni but you do get loans to help. I am not an British citizen. So I pay double without the loan that my parents pay and they struggle to. I work part time to help out too. To have all of that swept away in one go was terrifying. That night I seriously thought of ending i because of the shame I brought to myself and my parents. Then I decided to write a defence for myself and prepared for the interview. \n\nWhen I came to the interview the head of the department was very formal and just asked for my side. I was very apologetic, telling her that :\nI did not intend to be malicious\nI had the full intention of telling her if my test email sent through.\nI had no vendetta against her or Jane.\nAni and I were best friends.\nIf I thought that what I was doing was so wrong and I had the intention of doing it anonymously to I wouldn't have been stupid enough to do it on the uni system in the uni library.\n\n(I'll post the resolution email from the head to me at the end if you want to read)\n\nThe head looked at the email, briefly smiled when she saw the meme and told me to wait for the judgment. A week later I was told that the case was dismissed and everything was fine and just not to repeat this again. Also the head told me that Ani asked her to tell me never to contact her again or come near her. Prior to this she had blocked me on all social media.\n\nSo am I the asshole here? Or was the joke taken too far? \n\nTL;DR - made a prank email disguised from a lecturer to a friend with a meme inside. She took it personally and tried to get me expelled. \n\nThe resolution email from the head of department to me -\n\nDear Mark,\n\n\nThank you for coming to speak to me and H on Thursday and for giving us your account of the incident described in my last email. I\u2019ve now had a chance to speak to the student who received the spoof email, and I\u2019m writing to let you know that on behalf of the department, I have decided that no further action needs to be taken. This is because this is your first violation of King\u2019s IT policy, and the incident does not appear to be part of a pattern of harassment of other King\u2019s students or staff. I have let IT know the outcome of this investigation, and asked them to unblock your KCL account by the end of the day today.\n\n\nI include here a brief summary of our discussion, for the record and so that D is aware of the details. Please let me know if you would like to make any amendments to this account.\n\n\nWhen we met, you admitted immediately that you had sent the spoof email. You said that you and the student who received the email were friends, and that you sent the email as a joke from a library computer right before you were due to meet up with her, expecting that you would have a chance to explain the joke right away. You said that you had sent her other joke messages in the past, although not through King\u2019s email. You said that you had not previously sent spoof emails, and that you found instructions for doing so online before sending this email. When you sent yourself a test email, you realized that the email you sent to her had been quarantined, so you assumed that she would not see it; it was only when you spoke to her later after she had released the email that you realized the seriousness of what you had done. You said that you knew about the student\u2019s earlier correspondence with J about her dissertation because the student had told you about it herself at the time.\u00a0\n\n\nIn our meeting, you expressed remorse for sending the email, and said that you understood the gravity of the offence and would not repeat it. You said that you are not currently experiencing difficulties that are interfering with your studies or your wellbeing, apart from the ongoing responsibility of caring for your younger siblings.\n\n\nAs we discussed at the meeting, any further violations of King\u2019s policy (IT or otherwise) will be treated as a second offence, and may jeopardize your degree. This incident has been logged with the Student Conduct office in case this happens, although if there are no further violations, this incident will not appear on your King\u2019s record. I would add from my conversation with the student who received the email that she has been distressed by this incident, and would like you to refrain from contacting her. I ask you to please respect her wishes.\n\n\nThank you again for your cooperation with this investigation. I wish you the best for the remainder of your degree, and I encourage you to speak to D as your personal tutor if you find that you are encountering any difficulties at any point.\n\n\nBest wishes,\n\nA)\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}33{"id": "IYDI7lasFts4cqaZK7qzECQjSs76pOm6", "post_id": "av6xeq", "action": {"description": "not tipping when picking up a carry out order from a sit down restaurant", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not tipping when picking up a carry out order from a sit down restaurant?", "text": "I was picking up sushi tonight from one of our go to restaurants. I called it in, drove there, and walked in to pick it up. The host/waiter ran my credit card and handed me my receipt. It had a tip line because it's the same receipt that some one sitting down would get. I drew a line through the tip and wrote the original total. As I was walking out the host/waiter must have picked up my receipt because I heard him scoff that I drew a line through the tip. \n\nI am a firm believer in tipping your waiters. My baseline tip is 20% and higher for good service. I just didn't think this situation warranted a tip. \n\nI'd like to know if I'm wrong so I can correct myself in the future. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}34{"id": "ZTQKCugBaQ4FqNeScnA2CYGK8ucRdbCv", "post_id": "b4t2pj", "action": {"description": "barely tipping my extremely rude waiter", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for barely tipping my extremely rude waiter?", "text": "Just had dinner at a chinese restaurant that usually doesn\u2019t have good service, but tonight they were particularly rude and literally all they did was bring me my food. Had to ask for my own water and soy sauce... It was a $40 meal, and I tipped him $2. The waiter got super pissed saying, \u201cis this it? your meal was $40\u201d and i explained why i didn\u2019t feel like he deserved a 15% tip. He pretty much just blew me off and told me that he doesn\u2019t want my money and that i\u2019m a lousy person. AITA here? Would like to note that I am chinese myself so no racism here", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}35{"id": "NOwaTFWW7Q7IIa3ifS3RJ8Zb5JpaXB3C", "post_id": "ae025w", "action": {"description": "putting parsley on my roommates scrambled eggs", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for putting parsley on my roommates scrambled eggs?", "text": "So. Bit of context here. Me and my roommate (25 y/o males) work and live together and we're both pretty lazy. For the new year I decided to start waking up earlier and walking to work and I've started cooking breakfast to make sure the day gets started in the right way. This week I've been making scrambled eggs (american style), toast and avocado with -> FRESH PARSLEY <- sprinkled on top of the eggs.\n\nEvery morning this week I've woken up my roommate with a really really pleasant surprise of home cooked food. He always acts really grateful, and I'm happy to do it because I enjoy making food... However. After cleaning the plates today I noticed that he had hid ALL of the parsley I had sprinkled on his eggs under his cup.\n\nParsley goes with eggs. He's making his morning experience WORSE by eating around it... and then trying to hide the evidence- WEIRD MUCH??\n\nSo tomorrow I am going to put more parsley on the eggs I make. I'm actually going to put more on than I put yesterday. So yeah. Sorry if this is the wrong format but can you just honestly tell me if I am the asshole in this situation?? I will update this post as developments happen.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}36{"id": "DwEphytqIHeazkLfFtsuMh5qm9yval90", "post_id": "a4ef03", "action": {"description": "leaving a very confused Deli Girl Holding a Pile of meat without saying a word", "pronormative_score": 72, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA For Leaving A Very Confused Deli Girl Holding A Pile Of Meat Without Saying A Word?", "text": "Holy fuck.\n\nI go to do some shopping today, and I stop at the deli counter to grab some meats and cheeses.\n\nThis girl in her mid twenties greets me.\n\nI ask for 1lb of the oven roasted turkey meat, which is $3.98/lb, thinly sliced. She starts slicing the meat and asks me if it's ok if it's a little over. \n\nOf course it is.\n\nShe bags up the meat, prices it, and hands it to me. I look at it like wtf.\n\nThe slices are half as thick as a DVD case, and the price tag says $12.18 for 1.745 lbs @ $6.98/lb.\n\nI politely tell her I think she made a mistake, my shit's $3.98/lb. \n\nShe says \"No, sorry, the price has gone up, we just haven't changed the sign.\"\n\nI said, politely: \"I asked for a pound, this says it's almost two.\"\n\nShe takes it from me and says \"where does it say that?\" \n\nAt this point, I'm audibly irritated.\n\n\"At the top. Right there. One point seven four five pounds.\"\n\n\"Well I asked you if it was ok if it was a little over...\"\n\nShe starts taking out the meat, which is so thick, this shit's like 5-6 fucking slices, and begins to rebag and weigh it. \n\nShe puts 2 slices on the scale. \n\nGrabs another slice and tears it in half, tosses that on too.\n\nBags it, prices it. Tries to hand it to me.\n\nI looked right through her dead eyes, put my stupid little shopping basket down on the ground where I was standing, and just walked out the door.\n\nAm I the asshole for not being able to deal with this person? I instantly lost all patience, and I didn't wanna be that guy who's like \"Can I speak to your manager?\" \n\nI just wanted to buy some fucking groceries.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 70, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 72, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}37{"id": "kREI7sVnVWab7amIcrcOlGwuJhW80nWR", "post_id": "b9i3aa", "action": {"description": "doing porn", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for doing porn?", "text": "Obvious Throwaway account. Yadda Yadda..\n\nI'm in a weird spot in life right now, and I'm not sure where to begin with this.. Basically, I've been doing porn on the side to make money. I'm currently in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. I'm a stay at home mom that can't get a job because of childcare expenses. We live in a pretty high standard of living area and are planning on moving soon. Until then, money's been tight. The child's father gives me child support but it's just enough to cover bills, nothing more. I've turned to making porn videos on pornhub. My boyfriend's upset with me because of it. I've told him time and time again that he can trust me. I've promised to stop after we get moved and I can get a stable income. However he's really upset by it. I'm his first real girlfriend and it bothers him that guys/girls will look at me like that. I don't think it's that big of a deal, I've tried talking to him about it but he refuses. He said he feels like shit for asking me to stop. I told him lastnight that I was going to stop when we move but I wasnt going to disable my account. That way, I can still make money off it, I just won't make new content. He got really upset. I'm torn here because I don't want to upset him but at the same time, I see no harm in doing what I'm doing. Am I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}38{"id": "z0FtNZaoO86zAFbUgHtgHCvePraE7T1s", "post_id": "ajtahm", "action": {"description": "asking a mexican woman where to find empanada dough", "pronormative_score": 37, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for asking a Mexican woman where to find empanada dough?", "text": "I work in an office with 4 cubicles, the woman next to me is Mexican. She openly talks about being Mexican fairly often, with me and other people in the office. We talk about food fairly often, Mexican and otherwise. \n\nI've been wanting to make my own empanadas but all the grocery stores in my town do not carry any Hispanic foods besides the Tex-Mex basics. I thought, if anyone knows where to get Hispanic foods, it would be someone who was Hispanic who makes Hispanic food. Made sense in my head.\n\nToday when I was on my way out to go home, I stopped and said exactly, \"Hey, do you know where to get empanada dough? I can't find it in the stores around here.\"\n\nShe is usually a very warm person, this time she seemed almost exhausted by my question and told me about a store for Hispanic food in the town over. My boss quickly called me over and showed me on his computer some stores that should have it. Another coworker made the comment, \"Jeez, asking the Mexican where to get Mexican food?\" I was a bit stunned so I just mumbled, \"I just thought she might know.\" I tried to change the topic a little and talked about the different kinds of empanadas my partner and I have made, but I wound up saying my byes and rushing out because of the awkwardness. I might actually be in a bit of trouble over this considering the way my boss was acting.\n\nJust how much of a racist asshole was I today? \n\n ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 31, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 37, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}39{"id": "Eu8sYWgqbNoC00eGd2zna9V8BBaY9KCt", "post_id": "b8cfzr", "action": {"description": "not paying a domme after she ignored my safe word", "pronormative_score": 215, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA For Not Paying A Domme After She Ignored My Safe word?", "text": "I'm in my early 20's and into hot chicks dominating me, I'm into ballbusting (you can guess what that is) but I'm more of a light to medium max player of it. I contacted this really smkoin' domme and set up a session for 90 mins for $350, not bad for a experienced hot domme. I met up with her at her place on Saturday and surprisingly she didn't ask for the money up front, which they usually all do. I did however give a deposit of $50 to her and we spoke for about 5 mins of my limits with ballbusting. I said medium power max, and she asked to restrain and ball gag me and I agreed to this. The \"safe word\" word be me holding a ball in my hand and if I drop it she'd stop immediately and ungag me and check my status. I thought this was good and safe, about 10 mins in she's kicking kinda hard, my balls kill. 20 mins in she's kneeing really hard and I'm in a lot of pain, she steps back and boots me full force in the balls even though I said med power max. I'm dying at this point and drop the ball expecting her to stop, but she keeps kicking 3 more kicks as powerful as the first. I basically almost pass out and felt like I couldn't breathe and was choking. I'm thrashing around hard and break one of the restraints and cover myself before she gets another one in. I cover myself up and she stops and starts yelling at me for breaking her equipment while unrestraining me, I hit the ground holding myself and I knew something was wrong with my berries. I gather all my strength to get up and she says she's ending the session now and to give her the $300 I owe her. I slowly put my clothes back on and tell her she ignored my safeword and was dangerous, and I'm going to the hospital now and will not be paying her. She starts berating me and goes on the phone to call someone and said that she's going to tell the domme community in my city about me not paying and I wont ever get another session. I limp out of there quick and into my car and straight to the hospital. My balls are normally walnut sized but they doubled from that so I was scared af, not to mention the pain. Thankfully nothing was damaged down there and I'm recovering well.\n\nI told my friend about this the next day and she's a domme as well and we sometimes play, she said I'm a huge asshole/douche and should have paid her still. Said that she pushed my limits like any good domme and that I didn't pay her and broke her straps which caused her to lose a lot. \n\nAITA? Also please don't judge me lmao, I know it's a weird fetish.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 215, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 215, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}40{"id": "ploydNBA186WdUUWOHXJTzYUqo60HAjg", "post_id": "b3kbde", "action": {"description": "giving up on trying to follow the rules in my house", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA when I give up on trying to follow the rules in my house?", "text": "So. Lately, I've been extremely depressed. I've pretty much given up on most things and just sleep all the time. My step mom and my dad aren't helping in the slightest. My dad doesn't seem to care that I've lost all my happiness and hasn't spent any time with me for the past month and my step mom... Is being my step mom. Pandering to her own daughters and throwing my siblings and I in the mud. So. Her daughter is allowed to eat any snacks she likes even before dinner and when I get like a hot picket two hours before dinner, I get yelled at. She stays up all night on her phone, I play video games during the week and I'm the bad guy. I'm 17 years old and I buy everything for myself at this point and I'm not allowed to play video games during the week. I've given up trying to please them and I've just been telling them to fuck off. On my one day off all week, I ask if we can go out to eat since we haven't in a long time. They said no because they had darts and made me cook a pizza instead. It feels like they're just avoiding me and my siblings at this point cause I really haven't seen them all week and the only time I have, I've been yelled at.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}41{"id": "jXOzUwp5M8GU3JjVClEniyHntNyNCMxj", "post_id": "b4jokt", "action": {"description": "ghosting my friend after she turned me down", "pronormative_score": 27, "contranormative_score": 31}, "title": "AITA for ghosting my friend after she turned me down?", "text": "I have a friend that I\u2019ve known since last spring.  We got along really well and had a lot of the same interests.  I caught feelings for her a while ago, but was too chicken shit to do anything about it now.  I confessed how I felt to her and asked her out.  She was really nice about it, but didn\u2019t feel the same way.  \n\nI don\u2019t hold it against her or think negatively of her, but it\u2019s kind of like a Pandora\u2019s box type situation.  There\u2019s no going back to the way things were before.  She wants to continue to be friends and keeps trying to text and approach me about it.  I just don\u2019t see how we can be friends, my feelings for her haven\u2019t changed and remaining in the friendship would just be painful.  \n\nLately I\u2019ve been ignoring her texts and avoiding her. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 31, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 16, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 27, "WRONG": 31}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}42{"id": "MWeoBXAZ8yo4RbsTh4xzEaVrHrnAWKZv", "post_id": "a9v7mu", "action": {"description": "refusing to help my brother who's struggling at the moment", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "Wibta if I refused to help my brother who\u2019s struggling at the moment?", "text": "Due to being an irresponsible adult who doesn\u2019t understand the concept of saving money, my brother doesn\u2019t have a car at the moment. He\u2019s currently struggling getting to and from work, because his job (which is near where I live) is a 20 minute drive from his home. On public transportation, that\u2019s about an hour and a half commute. \n\nAt first I didn\u2019t mind helping him out, because despite his flaws that have led him to this situation, he\u2019s my brother and I want to be there for him. But it\u2019s turned into a weekly thing, where at least twice a week he\u2019s either asking me for rides, asking to borrow my car for days, or asking if I can lend him money. Sometimes I\u2019m busy, and sometimes I just really don\u2019t feel like it. I\u2019m currently on break from school, so it\u2019s not like I have an excuse to not want to let him borrow my car, I just don\u2019t want to. I want to be able to know that it\u2019s in my possession ready for me to use if I need it for whatever reason, even if it\u2019s just to go to a friends house. \n\nThe thing is, aside from this issue, my brother and I get along well. I don\u2019t want to hurt his feelings and have it hurt our relationship. \n\nAm I really the asshole for wanting to put myself first when my brother is struggling? Because I sure feel like an asshole for it, and that\u2019s why it\u2019s so hard for me to say no sometimes. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}43{"id": "4fAbH4wC4cuj3rV4PdxCavWJAp6LvNR6", "post_id": "ax178w", "action": {"description": "wanting my friend to break up with her boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my friend to break up with her boyfriend", "text": "They\u2019ve been dating for about 5 months. They\u2019re relationship isn\u2019t toxic exactly, but he\u2019s constantly grounded (they\u2019re 17) and when she tried to say how hurt she is or how it\u2019s impacting her, he just goes on about how much more hurt she is. \n\nShe talks to me everyday about their constant arguments. It\u2019s gotten to the point where the insecurity she has in her relationship is fucking up everyone else around her. \nI want to tell her to break up with him, but don\u2019t want to make the wrong decision. Help!! ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}44{"id": "6y0CaRJws8TjQVUmtTb6BvmdmJZt0Wb0", "post_id": "aefupm", "action": {"description": "moving out and snapping on my roommate", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for moving out and snapping on my roommate?", "text": "Hey everyone. I\u2019m in a bit of a conflict and could use outside opinions. \n\nTo begin, at the beginning of August, I moved in with 2 random college roommate in an off campus townhouse. I signed the lease with two other girls, we will call them H and S. \n\nS turned out to not be a very good roommate but this story is not about her. She moved in and hasn\u2019t stayed a night over sense. She also abandoned a lizard that was on the brink of death when I found it in her room.  Anyway, S is out of the picture now and I thought everything would be fine in a spacious apartment with just one other roommate. \n\nH and I got along for months, even would call her a friend. She is a nice girl but she is a hypochondriac and allows her boyfriend to treat her like crap. She has caught him multiple times on tinder with other girls, going on double dates with his brother and other girls, calling her a bitch on her birthday, and that is just the beginning. I have been supportive of her every time she comes home crying because of him. \n\nOn top of the drama, H has 2 cats that completely ruin the place. She does not tend to the litter box as often as she should, but insists on keeping it in a closet in the kitchen. It stinks up the whole apartment. Not to mention both of the cats are males and have a dominance issue that leads to spraying. She has put off getting them fixed multiple times, and now it\u2019s to the point that the apartment literally reeks of cat. H is also horrible at cleaning up after herself. She leaves rotting food in her room for weeks at a time and doesn\u2019t understand you have to use hot water when cleaning dishes. They are left all caked in food and slippery with grease.\n\nSince S moved out a while ago, H and I have been looking for another roommate. My good friend and old roommate D just got back from a 6 month trip in France and wanted to move into the extra room. H and I happily obliged. \n\nToday, D texted me saying that she was uncomfortable living in the apartment because it reeks and gave her a headache after staying for just a day. I keep to myself in my closed off room when I am home, so I don\u2019t really smell it too much. I brought up this situation with H, suggesting we move the litter box to her room since she has the largest bedroom (by far) and it would help solve some of the issues. \n\nH completely freaked out and said that she refuses to move the box to her room because she doesn\u2019t want her room to smell like poop (even though if she cleaned it regularly, this wouldn\u2019t be an issue) and that she doesn\u2019t have room since her boyfriend is going to be moving into it with her. This was complete news to me. He expected to live here rent free, use my refrigerator, tv, everything but chip in a little for utilities.\n\nI finally snapped and told her D and I are moving out immediately and that her boyfriend can take over my lease. I told her that I am tired of living in a litter box with someone so unwilling to compromise, let alone respect. \n\nNow, I\u2019m not going to pretend I\u2019m the best roommate. I leave clutter around every once in a while, usually mail or school work for a day or 2. But I\u2019m not dirty.\n\nI on one hand feel guilty for snapping and causing conflict right before classes start, but I don\u2019t know if I can handle another semester with her. I also want to live with my friend I have missed for half a year, but I want it to be pleasant for everyone. \n\nSo Reddit, am I the asshole for snapping on my roommate and moving out suddenly?\n\nTL,DR; one of my roommates has cats that pee everywhere, who doesn\u2019t clean and is gross. My new roommate got sick from the cats and wants to move out and I want to go with her. I snapped on my old roommate for being gross, selfish and unwilling to compromise.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}45{"id": "nY3AO1s7zpbgEHxn0JQ0isNOVvA0tIkR", "post_id": "atxd77", "action": {"description": "not tipping the delivery guy", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not tipping the delivery guy?", "text": "I work in an office downtown and the other day I forgot lunch. I had class that evening till 10, so I knew I had to eat something. I was extremely busy so ordered a sandwich delivered. It ended up costing like $12, which was around $7 for the food and $5 delivery fee. Under that it said the delivery fee all goes to the delivery guy. It recommended a tip but I decided not to leave one. \n\nWell, when I picked up my food from the front desk, the delivery guy started asking if I wanted to leave a tip. I said \"no\" and he asked if I was 100% sure I absolutely did not want to do that. I got a little uncomfortable but said \"no\" again and left. He scowled at me and left. The receptionist looked at me sideways and said bye to the delivery dude. \n\nI feel terrible for not leaving a tip. Am I the asshole in this scenario. \n\nTL;DR: did not leave a tip for a delivery guy and he was a little salty. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}46{"id": "PBkrUcET0eR0oWmPkXcjl1SjfEHtEuhk", "post_id": "atgpb2", "action": {"description": "not wanting me spend time with my prendre friends kid", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not wanting me spend time with my prendre friends kid?", "text": "So this has just happened, and I want to know if I\u2019m being unreasonable or not\n\nSo I\u2019m on my way home from my grandparents, with my dad driving, and my mum who\u2019s at home texts my dads phone, he asks me to check it and I do, now tonight once we are home my mum and dads friends, we\u2019ll call them H and W (husband and wife), are coming over for dinner, I don\u2019t care, I know them, I\u2019ll say hi and disappear to play video games, but the text says \u2018oh their bringing their son(S) with them tonight as their daughters out\u2019 which has pissed me off, as it means I will have to entertain a 13 year old for the evening, when all I want to do is sit down and play anthem which released today for me this evening, and I got pissed and then my dad got pissed at me for it, saying it will be fine \n\nSo AITA? It\u2019s not that I hate or dislike this kid really I just don\u2019t want to have to entertain him for the evening ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}47{"id": "OPPjaeRwL3oPTzHhZjF6XVZC6hZeUTVO", "post_id": "a2m9en", "action": {"description": "being angry at a friend for bailing", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being angry at a friend for bailing?", "text": "The last few hours have been spent justifying my actions, and I just need to get an objective opinion.\n\nLast night, I (23M) met friends who are visiting SF just for the weekend. Let's call them Anna and Conor. We knew each other from a company we all worked for and I'm very close with Conor especially. We had dinner, chit chat, lovely. We said our goodbyes and agreed to meet up in the morning and explore the city. \n\nThis morning, I didn't hear from them. There were 3 of them (one girl I'm not close with) and I assumed they were jet lagged and wanted to catch up on sleep. At 10:30 I message Anna to see how she is. No response.\n\nAt 11, I message Conor to see what the plan is. No response. \n\nFlash forward to 1pm and I see on Instagram that they are exploring and have had brunch. I meanwhile haven't eaten yet as I was waiting for them to contact me, as we had agreed. I am visiting SF too for work and so have no other friends here etc.\n\nBy 2pm I'm pissed, and receive messages from them both basically saying they had no WiFi or internet. Bear in mind the Instagram posts. I am at this point upset and angry. I have been friends with them both for a long time, and nothing like this has happened before. What transpired was me asking where they were to speak in person (to make things civil), which was met with them not responding. Again due to lack of WiFi. \n\nEventually, I was told that this was a communication issue and I was overreacting. A few messages later they seem to see my point slightly, but still push back. I feel abandoned, and completely left out. I spent the whole day alone while they had fun. I told them both they are bad friends, and have made me feel terrible.\n\nAITA for being so upset? It's made me reconsider the friendship given their reaction. They have always been great and I've  never even had a disagreement with either of them, but this has really destroyed my opinion. Has ayone else experienced anything like this? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}48{"id": "ukCsdSUNxqXot0pyYkU9shoABX7wpq4A", "post_id": "b2jdmg", "action": {"description": "not caring about a sick 'friend' any more", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not caring about a sick 'friend' any more?", "text": "I had been friends with X for about 12 years.\u00a0\u00a0I met her through a family member (Y).\u00a0\u00a0She\u2019s always been a demanding, manipulative sort.\u00a0Back then I tolerated it because although she was hard work she was still a good friend.\u00a0About 2-3 years after I met her she got chronically ill.\u00a0\u00a0She used the illness as leverage for getting her own way even more often.\u00a0\u00a0Still, I didn\u2019t mind so much.\u00a0\nOver the years we made mutual friends, and Y met a lady (Z) and married her.\u00a0\u00a0As things progressed, X would frequently hang out with mutual friends/Y&Z without inviting me.\u00a0\u00a0Fine \u2013 sometimes you want to see people alone, but this was happening more and more often.\u00a0She even started seeing my nephew who was only 15 at the time.\u00a0\u00a0I started to do the same, because X and the others were always busy doing things at weekends, and so I had to meet other people or sit at home alone.\u00a0\u00a0X told me that it upset her and made her cry that I was seeing friends without her, even though she had been doing the same thing to me for much longer.\u00a0\nI should point out that I am also chronically ill, mentally.\u00a0\u00a0I\u2019ve had depression/OCD from the age of 8, and used to have bad anxiety (which now only comes in waves when my serotonin levels are low).\u00a0\u00a0At first a lot of the mutual friends either didn\u2019t know or thought it was much less serious than it is, but I am very open about it nowadays and most people know.\nMe and X grew further and further apart.\u00a0\u00a0Not too long ago we attempted reconciliation. I told her how I felt I was being shut out, and how it reminded me of when I was bullied throughout school.\u00a0\u00a0She told me that she was upset that I didn\u2019t seem to care enough about her illness.\u00a0\u00a0I made it clear that it was painful for me to see her getting close to Y and Z without me.\u00a0\u00a0I had found out later that on previous occasions when they had met up that and suggested inviting me along,\u00a0\u00a0X had said \u2018she\u2019s busy on that day\u2019 or \u2018she wouldn\u2019t like that\u2019.\u00a0\u00a0Never was I even asked.\u00a0\u00a0I also found out that X had lied about cancelling a night out with me under the pretence of having to work, but she went out with Z instead.\u00a0\u00a0It was only when Z posted on Facebook that I found out.\u00a0\u00a0X said work had been cancelled.\u00a0\u00a0Later, Z told me (inadvertently) there had never been work \u2013 X just wanted to go out with Z instead.\u00a0\u00a0I know that X has lied to others about such things because I\u2019ve witnessed it.\nThings are going on as before.\u00a0\u00a0X is still meeting up with my friends and family and never asked me, even though she has promised she would least sometimes.\u00a0\u00a0It happened this weekend and it was just too much.\u00a0\u00a0I now don\u2019t want anything to do with her.\u00a0\u00a0I\u2019ll be polite when we cross paths but I have no interest in being a friend any longer.\u00a0X has managed to convince everyone that she is the \u2018victim\u2019 here because she is ill and needs special treatment, and I\u2019m the bad guy for not giving it to her.\u00a0\u00a0Some people even tell me that I\u2019m over-reacting because of my mental issues.\u00a0\u00a0It\u2019s painful and isolating.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}49{"id": "JnYALCWM3df0fbwGdetqXBi4DkgCK7Go", "post_id": "aiin87", "action": {"description": "considering confronting a regular customer at a store I work for", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for considering confronting a regular customer at a store I work for?", "text": "So, I\u2019m a mid-twenties woman in a small town in the UK. Theres a regular customer who has been asking me out and trying to flirt. I don\u2019t really mind this/brush it off since I won\u2019t waste negative energy on someone who likely believes they\u2019re just being nice.\n\nFast forward a few months; I\u2019m a smoker and was outside the store and along the street for a cigarette break. This regular customer notices me and comes over to chat. I\u2019m a little annoyed since I more or less want some peace while I smoke but I chat any way. As he was about to leave, he asks for a kiss and proceeds to lean in for one; I immediately pull away and shout \u2018no\u2019 before even thinking. He laughs and leaves.\n\nNow, for context I\u2019m bisexual with a preference for women, so during his advances have told him I\u2019m a lesbian in panic in an attempt for him to leave me alone, which I now see as wrong and has only made him pursue harder.\n\nSo my question is, I\u2019ve grown sick and tired of being made to feel uncomfortable by his advances, after repeatedly trying to politely reject him to no avail. Would I be an asshole if I confronted him in a colder manner? Is he just so oblivious to my rejections? I feel like squashing this behaviour in a softer nicer way isn\u2019t working for me but I also don\u2019t want to step out of bounds in my work place and face major consequences if he decides to be the asshole and complain. \n\nMy boss and I get on really well, and I fully believe they\u2019ll have my back on this, but I\u2019m unsure what upper management would do in this scenario.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}50{"id": "AbaJpsmOmDSgoBrmJpByqOqkIGdfyRh9", "post_id": "ab8pzq", "action": {"description": "cutting people out of my life", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting people out of my life?", "text": "I have always been the person everyone runs to whenever they need something. I won't (can't) say no when I know someone needs help. This makes \"friendships\" very interesting because people tend to remember me only when they need something.\n\nIn the last 3 years, I cut about a dozen people from my life. Out of them, 3 were actually very important to me; one of them was even my BFF. \n\nIt's the same story for all of them. Friend needs something so they call me for help. In most cases, it's something like babysitting their kids while they go out, or driving them somewhere when they need a ride. Many times though, I have also helped them moved, have cleaned their houses for them when they couldn't, and even allowed them to live with me when they couldn't live at home. \n\nAnd I'd run, every single time someone needed me, I'd be right there for them.\n\nMy \"awakening\" happened a few years ago when one day, my daughter simply asked me if my BFF and I weren't talking anymore. I wondered why she'd think that and she told me it was because my BFF never liked or commented on anything I posted on social media. I had never realized that up to that point, so I started paying closer attention. Sure enough, any of our friends posted something, she'd love it, comment it or whatever. Nothing whenever I posted something. She even ignored my comments on her own posts, while liking/commenting everything else others wrote. I asked her and she said I was being stupid, she was just busy. She would never call me to talk or get together, and whenever I'd call her, she'd say she was too busy (and then I'd see her out with other friends). \n\nThis went on for 2 years. The day I basically said \"FUCK YOU\" was after another friend made a group chat to invite us (about 5 friends in total, ex-bff included) to her b-day brunch. My husband had had an accident and was in the hospital (nothing serious, more for observation) and I posted that I couldn't make it cuz SO was in the hospital and I didn't know what time he'd be released.\n\nShe never asked what happened. She never asked if he was ok. She never called or messaged. When I got home, I deleted her (and all her friends) off all social media and never contacted her again. \n\nAITA for expecting more from her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}51{"id": "JCP6VvuxHO6mP5fdHQ39z705KMAPiE5x", "post_id": "b8nyri", "action": {"description": "not taking the extra long way around to travel with my friend to a workshop", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not taking the extra long way around to travel with my friend to a workshop", "text": "So for more context. My friend and I are going to a workshop and we have to take public transport. For me it is easier and cheaper to go directly and take the short route. My friend can't take this route and now he asked me to take an extra long route so we can travel together. I don't want to waste extra time and money just so we can travel together ( long way takes about 45 min longer and costs about \u20ac8 more). Because i don't want to take the long route he now calls me boring in front of everyone.\nAm I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}52{"id": "MeyMlbm3ZAoFDS397sZahaBcALLnKe3Y", "post_id": "aqxb27", "action": {"description": "telling my parents to stop being overprotective", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if i told my parents to stop being overprotective?", "text": "so, long story, here we go.\nswipe down and read if you want, but there will be a lot to read, so disclaimer\n\ni, myself, am personally not a parent.\n\ni wanted to post this on here because i thought that this would maybe belong here. i'm sorry if it doesn't, i'm new to writing on reddit, but i am familiar with the social media.\n\nready?\n\ni am a freshmen at a high school (which i'm obviously not going to aim) but if there is one detail that should contribute to the story the most, it's that i like math. a lot. and when i mean a lot, i mean A LOT. it's very tough for me to say this, but i have two parents, both asian immigrants, but have recently gotten exponentially harder on me.\n\nnow, not to brag here, but i just want to put out that i am fast-tracking (doing everything i can in the hope of me graduating early) and to help with that, i have decided that i am going to start practicing advanced mathematics (specifically calculus, i enjoy it the most) and when i told my parents that i wanted to pursue graduating early, they just shrugged it off. i am a light gamer, something that you should know, so i'm not too good, but i have a mechanical keyboard with cherry mx blue switches (basically a very loud keyboard) and i love it so much, i use it on my keyboard to study for anything, or on that matter, do anything. it's nice to use. i also use discord, because the friends at my high school live 20 min away by car, so we thought that this would be a more practical use to communicate. well, one day, my parents were napping, while i was typing up an assignment for a technology class (i can't take all math classes yet since i'm only a freshman) and my parents have this \"nap schedule\". basically, i started working and chatting at about 2:30, which is usually when they awaken from their naps. so, i start working, and then i get grounded, because i was allegedly \"gaming\" while \"talking loudly\". all i was doing was typing on a loud keyboard (which, i'm sorry parents, but i tried isolating the noise to my room only), and talking to far away friends. so, they enabled \"kaspersky security parental controls\" and now 90% of the stuff i use is banned, even though i haven't even logged on to my gaming stuff in 2 weeks. how is it that they can just ban my stuff while jumping to conclusions? even worse, they not only told me to study ahead of my schooling (which, as mentioned earlier, 3 years in advance studying) and worst of all, i have to pick my classes soon for next year. that's only accessible by visiting the website on a computer. so, i can't even pick my courses because the website has religious words in the url. this is just some of the stuff that they have done, and i might in the future update you with more they have done. so, wibta if i was to tell them to stop wrongly punishing me and destroying my social life, as well as being overprotective?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}53{"id": "ZSQEkHW5jj3b1OZRxEHGRUluFuCrXE9G", "post_id": "a3jdz2", "action": {"description": "thinking my girlfriend is crazy", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for thinking my girlfriend is crazy?", "text": "Not exactly sure what subreddit this goes in. But My girlfriend (20F) and I (19M) have been together for a year and a half now. She lives with her parents still and I share an apartment with 2 other guys. Her parents are extremely conservative and I think are just making her feel guilty anytime she is at the house with them. I don\u2019t believe it\u2019s directed at her but her mom has said before to her \u201cdon\u2019t get pregnant it will change your life\u201d and so she will feel guilty just because she and I aren\u2019t conservative and are definitely liberal at our core. Basically because of her upbringing and her background she thinks that sex is super scary and that she will get pregnant immediately if I never wear a condom. So that\u2019s fine I wrap it up. I spend the night occasionally at hers and she\u2019ll sometimes come hangout at mine. Never spending the night of course because that\u2019d be the end of the world for her parents.  She claims to enjoy sex and so once a month I\u2019ll get to have sex with my girlfriend. Mind you I have to pull out while I wear a condom that is coated in spermicide. She\u2019s an athlete like me though and extremely skinny so it\u2019s not uncommon for their period cycles to be out of wack. Some months we have more sex others we have less. She\u2019ll blow me here and there and give a handjob despite me telling her I don\u2019t like them. But every month the week before she gets her period she\u2019ll say that she\u2019s late (23 day cycle is normal for her) and that she\u2019s worried about being pregnant. How could she possibly be worried if we are only having sex once in a given month? and when we do have sex, I pull out with a condom on right before I finish or I won\u2019t even finish via having vaginal sex at all because we don\u2019t have it enough for me to be able to have sex with her at a pace that I can finish at... (basically got mad at me last time because she climaxed and I hadn\u2019t yet and it was painful for her. Gee I wonder why) I try and tell her there\u2019s no possible way she could be, she goes onto say that I\u2019ll never understand because it\u2019s not my body and that I\u2019m not the one that could have a human growing inside of them....\n\nMore background, she and both of her siblings all went to catholic school and her sister(23) recently got married to her high school sweetheart. Another relationship that would shame her about sex and sex before marriage. They supposedly abstained up until marriage. That\u2019s something she had used to say but said I had changed her mind about that. And also had told me that beginning of our relationship last year she\u2019d be able to spend the night with me more as our relationship progressed. She even brought up that her sister is moving out next year and she may move in with them. \n\nWe definitely had a lot more sex last year but I\u2019ve gotten a promotion and she didn\u2019t so she\u2019s trying to focus more. And she also had girlfriends\u2019 houses last year she said she was spending the night at but has since distanced herself. So her parents are a lot more protective this year than last and it\u2019s impacting our sex life. \nShe claims to enjoy sex and sometimes she\u2019ll be the one to initiate it. Only when I\u2019m not talking to her about it and basically when I forget about it completely. \n\nSo I guess what Im just going to start doing is trying not to even think about sex with my girlfriend at all and never be the one to initiate it. Because it winds up just blowing up in my face when I do. It\u2019s not fair to me but I\u2019m hoping to marry this girl eventually and hope that she\u2019ll sexually blossom in the years to come. But right now she\u2019s driving me insane with constantly worrying and it\u2019s making me just want to distance myself from that aspect of our relationship. \n\nTL:DR girlfriend has vaginal sex with me once a month where I have to pull out with a condom on. Complains that she may be pregnant every month. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}54{"id": "wLl9oqEL920dJwjn2ZsDrCTTDrTdSvit", "post_id": "alnaid", "action": {"description": "not wanting to cancel a weekend trip with my friends to go to sister's court case", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to cancel a weekend trip with my friends to go to sister's court case?", "text": "Long story short, my sister was arrested because her boyfriend called the cops on her for what I've been told was domestic abuse. Unfortunately I do not know all the details but my mother is purchasing a $400 plane ticket to go be with my sister tomorrow. I love my sister dearly and I do not believe these charges are warrented but her boyfriend is a piece of work.\n\n I however have plans to meet with some of my friends who I have not seen in over 6 months at my cabin this weekend. I don't want to cancel my plans which I've had for 3 months to stand in a courtroom halfway across the country. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}55{"id": "xhNOD6u3Iq3HIuHsTL7CWC6ckxIbztsv", "post_id": "amcawi", "action": {"description": "not wanting my bf to come on a trip I'm going on with my ex", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my bf to come on a trip I\u2019m going on with my ex?", "text": "Throwaway account. Here\u2019s some background: My ex and I dated for about a month before we realized we weren\u2019t right for each other (so it wasn\u2019t a very serious relationship). Despite this we realized we are completely right as friends. We still hang out regularly because we have similar hobbies and humor and have mutual friend groups. I have been dating my current boyfriend for four months now and it\u2019s great. We\u2019re nothing similar like me and my ex, but we connect on greater level where we aren\u2019t fighting all the time like I was with my ex. It\u2019s a much better relationship. Because my ex and I are so close, he and my bf have hung out a couple times with me and others. Both times it seemed fine and they actually got along well.\n\nHere\u2019s the problem: In March a few of my friends are going to Maine to go hiking and see a friend couple who recently moved. My ex is among these friends going. I mentioned it to my bf and he wants to come and...I don\u2019t want him to lol. First he doesn\u2019t even know those friends and two, these are my friends. I want to be alone with them. He just came from some game convention thing with his friends that I didn\u2019t even ask to go to (for one thing, idc about games) I know people need time with their friends. I told my bf I didn\u2019t think that was a good idea and he said he didn\u2019t see the problem since two people who are coming are in a relationship. However, they were already in the friend group and not a couple when I first met them and they\u2019re the only couple besides the one in Maine. He got upset and said he only wanted to share an activity with me and feels bad that I\u2019m more okay with spending time with my ex than I am with him and that I act very cliquey. However, I only spend time with my ex because we\u2019re friends. If I hated everything about him, obviously I would not want to hang out with him. Am I being an asshole here?\n\nTl;dr: ex and I are still friends and we\u2019re going on a trip. Bf wants to tag along and I said no. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}56{"id": "q0BgEMvVdxtDxkD0lumQ1XDdS1bRIut8", "post_id": "b91rw6", "action": {"description": "not babysitting my brothers kids", "pronormative_score": 49, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not babysitting my brothers kids?", "text": "Bare with me as at first it seems like i am 100% the asshole:\n\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014Relevant \u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\nNow i am a frequent member of r/childfree. I personally HATE children, and my family knows this. I am 23 years old, the youngest of three, and live in a state where marijuana is legal(medically and recreationally). Now, currently im a single male, who can cook, loves to work on cars(which is my side business), watch movies, and works from home(my job is okay with the use of marijuana). So i dont go out too often.\n\nSo suffice to say i smoke quite often, my house is not baby proofed, and with the constant workload i have, i cant really take on kids, whether mine or someone elses.\n\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\n\nMy brother planned to go on a week long cruise with his wife, on their anniversary. In which they were going to leave their kids with our sister, which they cant do as her husbands side of the family had a medical emergency, so they flew out to be with his family, \n\nIt is two days before their trip. They just now decided to ask me if i would watch them, and of course i said no. Now i cant spare an entire week of not working, just so they can go on a cruise. Especially since they arent paying me, and i would have to use my PTO days, Which i was saving for a guys trip in two months.\n\nNow they dont want any marijuana in the house while their kids are there, and they want their kids to be in a safe environment. Which is completely understandable, But i cannot move my entire work setup to their house, and my house is not a safe fit for kids. Nor can i cancel on the repair appointments i have scheduled through the week.\n\nSo him and his wife yelled at me for about an hour, on how i should make time to watch their crotch goblins,  since they are family, and have had this trip planned for five years. They also wanted me to throwout the 2 ounces of skywalker OG, and manage to make my house kid safe in two days.\n\nWhen i told them their request was beyond unrealistic and unreasonable, they called me a useless, drug addicted asshole, and hung up on me. In the four hours following, they have ranted about me on facebook,  sister thinks i should watch them,  but their is no feasible way without me making a much larger sacrifice than like $900 cruise tickets.\n\nTldr: am i(23m) an asshole for refusing to watch my brothers kids, so he and his wife can go on a cruise, that they had planned for five years, two days before they leave, when i have no time to care for two children, pared with my hatred of children, and the fact that my house is in **NO WAY safe for children**", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 49, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 49, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}57{"id": "Hj2HuMZ6YdjkD0wrMa583yFQRSrLcxYW", "post_id": "awcjld", "action": {"description": "telling my downstairs neighbor \"No Promises\" about fixing \"loud walking\" sounds", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling my downstairs neighbor \"No Promises\" about fixing \"loud walking\" sounds?", "text": "I live in a co-op in NYC. The building is a post-war 6-story wood-beam building. I live on the top floor.\n\nAt around 8pm tonight, my downstairs neighbor came up and rang my bell. He introduced himself and told me that my walking is too loud and he often hears me walking around at 2-3am. Note that it's not a loud TV or music or whatever -- it's \"loud walking\".\n\nI have rugs on my floors (in compliance with the co-op board requirements) but simply put, the building is not soundproof in any way shape or form, and sound reverberates.\n\nHe asked me if I can try to walk quieter, and asked me to wear slippers around the house. I flat-out told him that I'm not stomping around, and of course I won't *intentionally try* to make noise, but that I'm not going to promise to wear slippers or restrict the time of day/night that I walk around the apartment.\n\nHe looked dejected (and a bit pissed off) that I wouldn't promise to reduce the noise.\n\nOf course, I don't wish him ill, but frankly, I don't want to make a promise I can't keep, and I don't want to set any type of precedent for him complaining that I'm not doing something I said I was going to do.\n\nAm I the asshole for not agreeing to wear slippers or enact a self-imposed curfew?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}58{"id": "T1AWeggUEhXgwaNgY5OWIWcYFdNJLQYF", "post_id": "aotycg", "action": {"description": "not changing lanes at the swimming pool", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for not changing lanes at the swimming pool?", "text": "Okay so some background. My sister (16) and I (19) have recently started going swimming every weekend to try and improve our health. We both have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, so we can\u2019t go super fast and we have to take a lot of breaks, but we can swim at a perfectly decent speed which usually isn\u2019t a problem.\n\nThe pool we swim at has three lanes: one lane has a parent and toddler class on a Saturday morning so it\u2019s out of bounds. The second is an adults and children lane, and the third is adults only. My sister and I were swimming in the adults lane when a man came in who was swimming much faster than us. And he wouldn\u2019t stop at all between laps. It quickly became impossible for my sister and I to swim in the lane, because every single time we started, he\u2019d catch up to us and we\u2019d hold him back. He made it very clear we were getting in the way, saying excuse me and knocking into me a few times (I think on purpose but I\u2019m not sure). He also seemed to get annoyed by us taking breaks and standing at the end of the pool, even though we tried to keep out of the way. He also wouldn\u2019t keep in line, he was kind of zigzagging across the lane trying to overtake everybody. It was a nightmare.\n\nEventually he got our attention and said to us: \u201cExcuse me girls, this is the ADULT lane, and it can be quite fast. Maybe you\u2019d be better suited to that lane\u201d (points to the children\u2019s lane). This pissed me off for two reasons. Firstly the other lane was completely full and nobody was following the rules about swimming clockwise, so it would be completely impossible for us to swim there. Secondly, I look a little young for my age but I\u2019m clearly not a child, and the way he talked to me was very condescending. I didn\u2019t want to make a scene so I just gave him a kind of grimace smile and continued swimming in the adult lane. We ended up getting out a few minutes later though, because it was so annoying. \n\nAITA for not moving? I\u2019m genuinely not sure because as much as my sister and I are entitled to swim there, he is too and we were slowing him down quite a bit. But I don\u2019t want to feel like I can\u2019t swim in a shared pool just because of one person. I\u2019ve been wanting to bring my blind friend swimming with me but now I\u2019m worried that people will get annoyed with her too, and she can be quite easily upset if she thinks she\u2019s inconveniencing people.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}59{"id": "Kqy9RzhoA9Y1tCFcJGBw9rXqyi9YEgrV", "post_id": "axaak6", "action": {"description": "cutting through red carpets, film sets and fashion shoots on the streets of New York City when I'm late and they are on public streets/sidewalks/parks", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for cutting through red carpets, film sets and fashion shoots on the streets of New York City when I'm late and they are on public streets/sidewalks/parks?", "text": "Does it matter if somebody asks me not to?\n\nDoes it matter if my office or house can only be accessed through the area that has been cut off? \n\nOtherwise, I  have two frequently occurring examples when it wasn't blocking my apartment or office:\n\nExample 1: Most frequently this occurs when I'm heading or leaving my Best friend's house. For whatever reason fashion shows, award show red carpets and film/tv shoots keep happening in the area in front of her apartment building, and so I've accidentally cut through weird red carpets before trying to leave in a hurry (no one told me not too, and I was confused what was happening. But I didn't have time to figure out if there was a way to go around because I had somewhere to be.) ; so I charged through the chaos) and one film shoot, which the production assistant asked me to go a different way when trying to get to my friend's apartment, but there was no way around it to get in.\n\nExample 2: I  used to go to school in NYU, and they would always have film sets all over the Washington Square area, and production assistants blocking off spaces in the park or space by the West 4th station when they weren't even filming at the moment. So if I was running late for class (which I would be very late for if I took their proposed detour), I would just walk past the PA's with my headphones even though I knew they were trying to ask me to walk around the park.\n\nSeveral times, I've been yelled at by security guys. Ironically  always in situations where they are blocking the only exit or entrance, and when no one told me to go around the set or fashion show paparazzi area to begin with. But I usually respond with \"sorry, I'm late,\" and keep walking. I feel like I might be an asshole, and I also feel like the entertainment and fashion industry are assholes for expecting people to change their lives for their commercial gain.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}60{"id": "yiJmvJQV02NGjHjzRHKNRnua3i8nSBGS", "post_id": "arp58e", "action": {"description": "accusing my bf of hurting my dog after he chewed his son's shoe", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for accusing my bf of hurting my dog after he chewed his son's shoe?", "text": "I was in the shower when it happened,  so I didn'thear anything.  Apparently,  my puppy (8 months, adopted at 6 months) chewed my boyfriend's son's very expensive shoe.  I immediately offered to buy a new pair, as I obviously felt terrible.  When I went to see my dog, who was now in his crate, I noticed a wound on his front leg that was not there earlier.  I asked my boyfriend what happened, and he said that my dog went to his crate on his own, and he didn't touch him.  I want to believe him, but I've seen him get very angry toward my other dog in the past, and had to intervene before he hurt her.  \n\nNow my boyfriend is upset saying that I had no right to accuse him of hurting an animal.  Am I the asshole for thinking he could have caused my dog's injury?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}61{"id": "vGqGFHnZxLsZvLEJB40UZmdEeal66aDQ", "post_id": "ai4k7p", "action": {"description": "being pissed at my girlfriend for adopting a cat", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for being pissed at my girlfriend for adopting a cat?", "text": "I wrote this out once, but it ended up being super long so I tried to cut it down a bit. It didn't work too well. I (23m) am pissed at my girlfriend (24f) for going out and adopting a cat today, without even talking to me about it. We've been together for a little over a year, and have known each other for about a year and a half. She has a two year old daughter from a previous relationship, and they split custody almost 50/50. I had no intentions of having kids at this point in my life, but here I am trying to do my best. \n\nAnyway, my girlfriend recently moved out of her sister's house after her sister's dog bit her daughter. She moved into a small apartment on her own. I haven't moved in because my commute to work would be about an hour, and she's not even sure she's going to stay there when her lease is up near the end of this year. Also I'm just not sure I'm ready for that. She took two pay cuts last year, one because her job was making her miserable so she found something else. The other because the new place fired her and a bunch of other people after they got a remote staff. I gave her support and encouragement both times. Now she makes less than ever, and is trying to make it on her own. Her new job was super understanding of the move and everybody donated stuff to help her get on her feet, and they pooled together about $2000 to help her so she wouldn't have to get a second job. My problem is that she has no concept of financial responsibility. She's constantly spending money on useless things, without concern for how it will affect her bank account in the morning. For example, a $30 oil diffuser that she used for a week and then gave away because it wasn't helping her sleep like the internet said it would. She got one $30 lamp (that didn't even come with a shade), instead of the 3 $10 lamps that I suggested, but now complains that it's too dark. She has two gym memberships that she never uses, she just bought the new iPhone, even though her old one worked just fine, etc. We always go back and forth over what she should, and shouldn't buy, and she's already gone in the negatives, and needed someone to bail her out. I constantly try to help her with advice, and she always nods and then does the exact opposite, and it comes around to bite her in the butt. Or she'll call up her dad right in front of me, and ask him, and he'll say the same thing I did. I come from a family that is terrible with their money, and I've been helping to pay bills, (groceries, rent, medical bills, new appliances, renovations, taxes one year, brother's attorney most recently) since I was 10, while my stepdad was out buying a motorcycle, new guns, etc. So I know what it's like to be in a family with spending problems, eventually someone has to pay. But this means I also know how to handle my finances, and am usually never strapped for cash. Whereas, she's always had her dad (who generally agrees with me about her spending habits) to bail her out when things get hairy.\n\nSo this brings us to this cat. She said she gets bored and lonely on the rare weekend where she doesn't have her daughter, and I have things to get done at my house so I don't come to her. So she adopted an 8 year old cat. She got the cat for the two days every other month that she's alone, but it's going to be another responsibility every day for her. She complains that when she has her daughter she never has time to get things done, so instead of getting back into the gym those day, or getting a hobby, she got a living creature that she will now be responsible for. It has all of its shots, and its check ups are all up to date, I get it, she doesn't have to put much money into the cat right now, but eventually she will. Between cat food, litter, vet bills, damage to the furniture or apartment, eventually it will be a burden. She has a 2 year old who is already so much responsibility, I don't know why she thought a pet would make things better. The other problem is she knows that I'm allergic to cats. She knows they make my eyes, neck, and back of my throat itchy, they make my eyes water, and nose run. It's unpleasant for me to be around cats like that. They're cute to look at on the internet, but that's just where I prefer them to stay. She knows this. Yes, I can take allergy medicine but it's not 100% effective, plus that's more money that I have to spend, just to be mostly comfortable when I'm with her. I can honestly get past the allergy part, I'm bothered that I didn't factor in at all into her decision, sure, but the money thing is really what's concerning to me. Sure the cat could end up being perfect with no extra vet bills, but that would only encourage her to get more unnecessary things. Also this isn't the first animal she's adopted. She got a dog not long before she got pregnant while she was living with her ex in an apartment. Then she had to give it to her dad when she couldn't handle it while being pregnant. \n\nSo basically I'm hurt that she didn't even ask me about it. She said no matter what I said it wouldn't have stopped her. She's surprised I'm making such a big deal out of this, and that I'll just get over it. I didn't ask her to, but she said she won't apologize for doing it or even for not getting my opinion, and is acting like I'm a terrible person. Any major thing I do, I try to hear out her opinion on, because this is supposed to be a team effort, but she purposely didn't say anything to me because she knows I would have told her I didn't think it would be a good idea. Since I don't live there I don't get a say, even though she wants me to move in, but with her getting a cat I'm even less likely to do it. I get that we don't split bills and that she can spend her money however she wants, but I'm concerned that she won't change in the future when the bills are split, and I'll be in a family that struggles just like I've been in for the past 23 years. Or that she won't have the money when her daughter actually needs something, and I don't mean another giant toy that there's no room for. She has so many medical bills from herself and her daughter, and I know there will be more, no two year old in daycare stays healthy for long. I told her I wasn't okay with it, and that I'm very frustrated with this decision. I didn't give her an ultimatum or anything, and honestly I don't know what I even want to happen moving forward. I'm just at my wits end, and I wish she saved for unexpected expenses, and would listen to me for once. I've never taken more than about five minutes to move on after her poor decisions, but this time it's been all day, and I still haven't moved on. Am I the asshole for being so frustrated by this, or is she right and I should just get over it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}62{"id": "7ST5bXnecaSRiRSRHD4D5VWCpWGnGOJg", "post_id": "an21gj", "action": {"description": "wanting a new life", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting a new life?", "text": "My ex-boyfriend who I dated two years ago and I hadn't talked in ages. He found out I'm leaving school and he came up to me and was upset about how things ended, he wasn't ready to not see me in school everyday, not have me be at least somewhere around and he said he wishes he could get a re-do because I was always the one and what not. I did try to talk to him through December because I heard his father passed away and I guess I just haven't gotten over him. He has a girlfriend now and he knows I still have feelings for him, but he keeps doing little things like send stuff over to my house or say good things about me when I'm not around and even asks people stuff about me. It really does make me happy, but I know it's not healthy and I want to completely change my life, hence the school change. But he is putting his relationship in the pits and I understand why he could feel like I've been leading him on since everyone knows I never stopped loving him. In fact, it is so hard for me to not fall into his arms right now, but I want to grow and start afresh. His current girlfriend has stopped talking to him and I think they're on the verge of a break up and I can't help but think it's because he thought he could be with me. I've never stopped hurting from how we left things two years ago but I don't believe any good can come of this. I'm scared I'm hurting him, again.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}63{"id": "EsKL4TVDzpC3v093tfyt1ziz5piwiP0d", "post_id": "aatmxp", "action": {"description": "being annoyed with disabled coworker", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed with disabled coworker", "text": " So I'm not sure if I'm in the wrong/ an asshole for being annoyed with a disabled coworker ( will refer to as A) here's some of the reasons I find myself being annoyed. (My first post with this, don't mind the formatting)\n\n-When *A* constantly blocks customer access to my counter with their wheelchair when *A* is  trying to talk to me even if I'm working with someone ? \n-*A* always leaves their opened waterbottles or sometimes snacks on the edge of my counter too so *A* can reach it easily and then they forget it when they leave. \n-*A* always complains over the comms that their guardian is late and how \"*guardian* better make it up to me\" even though *A* knows *guardian* works in the cities and traffic is bad at any given time of day. \n\nLike, *A* is nice and all,  but these are constantly constantly getting on my nerves. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}64{"id": "64moKL5KTeYtRFhKLL5bag8z88X2MKCe", "post_id": "aztcxv", "action": {"description": "being attracted to people with mental issues", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being attracted to people with mental issues?", "text": "Strap in folks\n\nSo I've come to the realization that I often find myself more attracted to people (mostly girls but I swing both ways) who have mental issues than those without.\n\nThis is for two reasons:\n\nFirst of all, I have mental issues myself (depression, anxiety, autism, etc) and I often find that it is easier to relate to those who also share these and other mental illnesses in many aspects of life. Sharing experiences and thought process helps me feel less of a weirdo and that there are people like me.\n\nSecondly, I enjoy helping other people through their problems. I get quite a bit of satisfaction out of seeing somebody's life take a turn for the better and knowing I helped with that improvement. So I like hearing peoples problems and giving advice and sometimes going out of my way and sacrificing my mental health and well being to help them improve their mental states, education, relationships, etc.\n\nI told a friend about this attraction once. And to say she was offended is an understatement.\n\nI got a very long, scathing speech about how I'm taking advantage of those with mental issues, how I'm a terrible person and a villain with a hero complex. \n\nI made the mistake of trying to explain myself, and got blocked.\n\nI was hurt, because she was a really good friend, but I also felt ashamed of myself for having this attraction.\n\nAITA? Am I taking advantage of people for their own selfish gain of feeling like a hero?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}65{"id": "y6ImD5ynDrS6qZF90oWcvG6dhQDcdpA7", "post_id": "af5pvj", "action": {"description": "being pissed bout this convo between my bf and his ex", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being pissed bout this convo between my bf and his ex?", "text": "He used to shit talk me to this girl months ago. \n\nShe said: I dunno what to say. I\u2019m sad you\u2019re not in my life (my fault) and I\u2019m still curious and sad as to why I\u2019m not enough. I wish I could have answers but I know you don\u2019t want to be pressed (you said you didn\u2019t wanna talk). So I guess goodbye then? I do Not think you\u2019ll ever want to talk to me.\n\nHe: I'm extremely hesitant to but I would like to speak one day with you. There's a couple things I want to talk about. But if it's going to be a shit show or rehashing things, there's no reason.\n\nShe: It would mainly just be a final convo and I\u2019m ok with that. Just kinda sucks\n\nHe: Unless one of us dies, I highly doubt that it would be the last convo ever. Maybe some time next week or the week after.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}66{"id": "AZfFMwzTDy4BypS5nkejpZNxcyj6ZcxX", "post_id": "a8ajkm", "action": {"description": "being pissed iff with my mom for witholding information", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being pissed iff with my mom for witholding information?", "text": "My mom has a habit of hiding information from me (M29) specifically on the medical side of things. \nI've always been pretty tight not with my family, we live in different towns but we talk regularly and I go and see them whenever I can. Whenever somebody close in the family falls I'll or something bad happens, Im always the last person to find out, and it's always from somebody else. When I was at university, she failed to tell me for months that my nan had been diagnosed with cancer. This was the first time (to my knowledge) she'd done this, and where my issue with it all started. She said it was so that I wouldn't get stressed during my exams, which I can understand, but I explained to her that it was my nan and I had a right to know, and for future reference could she please tell me as I didn't want her to bare the burden alone. We're all family. She agreed. Fast forward a year and my nans cancer has taken a turn for the worst I get that this is her mother and she had her own coping system, but the only reason I found out was because my step brother told me. I chose to not say anything about her breaking her promise and consoled her as much as I could.\n\nThere have been other little things here and there after this, like my stepdad having a stroke and my brother's telling me, but I'm going to fast forward past this to last year. I was walking in the street of my old hometown and bumped into an old friend of the family and got chatting. After all the formalities, I was asked how my mom was doing now and if she was feeling better. Absolutely dumbfounded I asked what he meant, it turned out  that she'd had troubles with her womb and needed to have a hysterectomy, but they couldn't operate on her because she'd also had some issues with circulation in her legs and had a bad blood clot and some other issues (my memory of the whole ordeal is hazy and everytime I asked mom about this she'd always tell me it was nothing and not to worry). So after I confronted mom about not telling me this, I got the usual didn't want to worry me, and it wasn't that big a deal etc etc. I did lose my shit a little bit with this one, because as her only child I should be made aware of these things and how would she like it if I withheld information like that from her. \n\nShe then apologised and again told me that she would let me know for future reference. In her defence, she did keep me up to date with what was going on with her for a while, and gave me dates when she had her hysterectomy surgery so I was there for her and gave all the support I could. However, after the surgery she failed to tell me the one thing I worried would happen, that during the surgery her bladder got perverated and caused her to be incontinent. She tried to keep this from me for weeks until my stepdad told me. I again tried to have a stern but fair conversation with her. She's not been able to work nearly a year now while she's been on the waiting list to have repairation surgery, but did keep me up to date with appointments again.\n\nFast forward to today and I've just received a call from my step brother telling me that she's had her surgery today but hasn't came out yet. He's at the hospital waiting for her. To give you insight. My step brother (her husband's son) lives in Amsterdam, we live in the UK. He knew and came all the way over here a few days earlier from Christmas so he could see her, and I find out because he tells me. \n\nI'm getting fed up with it now, I'm always the last to hear about anything and I want to be there for my family, and it hurts that I'm always kept in the dark about this stuff. I'm going to the hospital after work to see her but it's going to take all my willpower to not lose it. Reddit, AITA for being selfish about this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}67{"id": "m5BOZYvVYgL3u9m9y18xut4Js1tMCmMQ", "post_id": "ainl99", "action": {"description": "causing my autistic friend to leave my discord server", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for causing my autistic friend to leave my discord server?", "text": "So I know this guy who has actual diagnosed autism. We have been friends for about a year now. He doesn't have many friends but I thought he was fun to be around. We sent eachother memes and just did normal things that online friends do. So anyway I made a discord server and naturally he was invited. I gave him admin privilages because I trusted him. This particular server had an NSFW channel. Sometimes people posted NSFW art of a video game called Splatoon. Every time someone did he and I got really angry and claimed the characters were too pure for this. I was joking, but I soon found out that he was not. It escalated to the point where he started deleting those NSFW messages. I took action and removed his admin privilages and blocked him from viewing the channel. He soon responded with \"But I thought you said no Splatoon NSFW?\" Then before I could explain myself he left. I feel like I should have maybe given him a second chance or just not have given him admin privilages in the first place? He does have autism and I now realize he doesn't understand sarcasm very well. I just feel like a really shitty friend right now and I want some outside opinions.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}68{"id": "FPtaJJXqspe2yyn3mZD3B59PjZow8GSK", "post_id": "amu1i5", "action": {"description": "refusing to pay my friend $35 after learning he had previously scammed me out of $160", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for refusing to pay my friend $35 after learning he had previously scammed me out of $160?", "text": "A couple months ago I decided to play a 1v1 bet against my friend in a fighting game called Brawlhalla. He was the one who offered the bet to me, which was surprising because he is known to be pretty bad at the game. I quickly accepted his offer and we began fighting. After a couple lost games I realized I was getting destroyed and a little tilted, so i did a big bet in an attempt to get my money back. I lost that one too, and at this point I owed about $160.  I decided that I wasn\u2019t going to be able to beat him so I stopped betting against him and agreed to pay him the money that I owed him as soon as I had the money. A couple weeks later I wanted to get Black Ops 4 because my friends were all playing it and the same friend I bet against agreed to buy the game for me. The game cost about $35, putting me at about $195 in debt.  Fast forward to today, about a month later. My other friend who is known to be very good at brawlhalla told me that during the entirety of my bets, he was playing for the worse friend. He told me this because he didn\u2019t realistically expect me to pay $195 so instead he should just settle for the $35 I ACTUALLY owed instead of the money that they tried to scam me from.  So I was a little bit pissed upon hearing that my friend tried scamming me out of $160 and I decided to test him. I pretended like I had the full $195 and was ready to pay him, and he said \u201cokay yea ill take it\u201d. At this point I realized he was fully willing to completely scam me out of $195 and I now feel like the $35 that I owe him aside from the scam bets should not be paid. Am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}69{"id": "JCPNWxzgamiypsXG8NFBDjGcZN0r5GZi", "post_id": "a343uu", "action": null, "title": "AITA The neighbor kid hit my parked car while I was abroad and caused $1,000 worth of damages. Nobody told me and everyone says I'm the asshole for asking for reimbursement.", "text": " \n\nI was staying with my girlfriend in Germany for three months so I left my car parked across the street at my parent's house. While I was working remotely and trying to make enough to get a visa, the neighbor kid who is 16 backed up into my front end and caused significant damage to my bumper, headlamp assembly, and hood.\n\nAfter the incident he and his mother walked next door to my parent's house to try to resolve the situation. His parents were all upset that we'd call the police or file a claim, but my parent's said don't worry about it. He apologized to them and offered to pay but my parents apparently told them not to worry about it.\n\nI returned home two days ago to find about $1,000 dollars worth of damage to my car, and I'm understandably upset because 1. Nobody told me about it and 2. There is no compensation for me at all.\n\nI'm being told my parents to forget it, the kid apologized and \"These things happen.\" Everyone thinks I'm the asshole and overreacting, but none of them have to pay $1,000 and deal with the aftermath.\n\nIn my opinion, the kid hit a car, didn't inform the owner, and at absolute minimum should reimburse me for the damages.\n\nReddit, what's your take? Am I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 55, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 56, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}70{"id": "YOfiWovHVEDml64r9ICjtGuOCCwbyON5", "post_id": "a71swz", "action": {"description": "not telling my girlfriend I walk my dog with my best friend everynight", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for not telling my girlfriend i walk my dog with my best friend everynight", "text": "The situation is: i(male) have been walking my dog with my best friend for close to a year now, she is ratjer attractive and likes the same stuff i do, an during the walks we mostly talk about our days. Or have a drink if one of us is feeling down. But then about a month ago there was this old friend who i saw a again after a long time, and we clicked and she became my girlfriend. But she is a very jealous person and i dont think she would approve of the walking. Further side info: i used to have a crush on my best friend. And i think my gf is in love with another girl.. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}71{"id": "ONu7k7l0af06UrsQYEk9a4OYUigmtavl", "post_id": "9ymnk9", "action": {"description": "not caring about my aunt getting in a crash", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not caring about my aunt getting in a crash?", "text": "Just to preface, I (M15) have met my aunt less than 10 times in my entire life, my family generally have little contact with any family outside of direct siblings/ our parents because of awful grandparents, so I didn't know her myself much at all.\n\nRecently, my aunt got into an accident on a moped which sent her to the hospital, and she had a stroke while she was there. My father was distraught by the news, and has visited her nigh daily to see how she is recovering, as it is his sister. I however, even when first hearing about her crash, felt unempathetic, I just didn't care about this woman I hardly know. I can't help feeling as if I should care a bit more, as she is family, but I have hardly even spoken with her in years. I can't respond for about ~15 hours, so I'm not ignoring responses im just asleep or at school. Thank you all for responding.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}72{"id": "oFhX9dBtlcOeYCIJKE430VmuUePQgiev", "post_id": "9w64we", "action": {"description": "telling my parents I don't want my Christmas presents to be giving to charity", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling my parents I don't want my Christmas presents to be giving to charity", "text": "My mom suggested instead of Christmas presents we donate it all to charities, specifically helping the fire victims here in CA. I budgeted my holiday spending anticipating clothes and cooking supplies from them, and I would rather get the tax deduction than them if/when I donate to help. My siblings are already on board and said it's something we all should do given what we have but I disagree. It doesn't help that I'm the only Democrat and me feeling like a hypocrite for not wanting this. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}73{"id": "QeHVTFbzV8CjSe45HJ04X9CoLIUHKfm6", "post_id": "ahucot", "action": {"description": "quitting a monopoly game when my siblings \"cheat\"", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA For quitting a monopoly game when my siblings \"cheat\"", "text": "Honestly I'm torn on this one so, internet do your thing.\n\nSo when ever we play monopoly, my younger brother often goes around the board once (if that) and quits. Usually he doesn't have any property and if he does we just auction it off or he gives it to someone. I'm honestly fine with that. \n\nTonight, my sister, her friend, my brother and I were playing and right on que he quits while running off to play fortnite. We decide since he has a couple properties to just let him play as a \"ghost\", rolling for him, he buys any properties he lands on that he can, and making only legit fair trades we all approve of.\n\nSo all was going ok and the game was nearing an end when my sister's friend starts running out of money. Since she lands on brother's spot, we jokingly have her go ask if she really has to pay. She pays. After landing on the same space a few times later, she asks again. She pays again. Now hes back and interested. He lands on an unowned spot and I say I'm going to buy it away next turn (we agreed paying double what he paid on our next turn was legit).\n\nSo this is where everything goes down. At this point the other two have him sit with us so I cant just buy it since hes \"playing\". Ok whatever I dont mind too much. But his next turn he wills all his property and money to my sister, calls me a loser and walks away again. I'm having none of this. I argue it should go to auction, she argues he can do what he wants with it. At this point we're all annoyed. I throw the dice annoyedly on the board and we all decide it's a good place to stop. We joke around and come out fine but still lowkey annoyed at one another. \n\nSo, Tl:Dr, am I the asshole for getting annoyed at sibling monopoly time?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}74{"id": "jzoltIWANXDGQCaOpb64uzhZwxeCJw1w", "post_id": "au03ci", "action": {"description": "not grooming my visible body hair", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not grooming my visible body hair?", "text": "This is a stupid non-issue and I'm embarrassed even asking but my sister's wedding is coming up and I dont want to fuck up her photos or anything... I'm really hairy but really lazy, and some people are really grossed out by seeing a girl with really hairy legs/pits in a culture where it absolutely is not the norm. It garners way more shock than you think it would and now I'm afraid that it's not worth making people uncomfortable (or even grossed out, unfortunately). We are going to a hot beach-y place for my sisters bachelorette party and (it is probably self-centered to think this) I'm worried that it in some way will wreck it for someone or her... but again, you would be amazed at how much shit I get for it. AITA if I don't shave my legs and armpits at least for my sister's wedding/bachelorette party? Is it like a scruffy beard situation where at the very least it should be groomed? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 16, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}75{"id": "SeK4gj4dARJTw83LsWomXpvB5EwPqMem", "post_id": "aj7s5g", "action": {"description": "accidentally telling my sister in law that people with her major are terrible", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA For accidentally telling my sister in law that people with her major are terrible?", "text": "This happened over the weekend and im still feeling fallout.\n\nI own a business. I hired a man who became my best friend. Both me, him, and another employee of mine try to go out to a fancy restaurant every month, get slightly drunk, and talk about whatever. Music, politics, sports, ect. Stuff we imagine really snobby rich people do since we all came from modest backgrounds.\n\nWe call it white tie night, though we dont actually wear white ties. We also bring dates, i bring my wife. My wife set up my best friend with her sister, they are now married. Yadayada background over.\n\nSo this weekend was white tie night. My best friend, now brother in law, brings his wife my sister in law. We start drinking, having fun. The subject turns to the media and journalists.\n\nI hate them. IMO they profit off of discontent and tragedy, theyre not out to report the truth theyre just out to report what gets the most clicks or views or whatever. I also hate the fact that you cant criticize their grossness without being called anti first amendment.\n\nNews flash, theyre billion dollar corporations, just like banks. They need to be critisized. I also think people who go into journalism are usually sociopaths who need to control what people see and how they view things. They want people to die and get hurt and they want people to fight. I view them like war profiteers. The movie Nightcrawler comes to mind.\n\nNow i was also drunk like everyone else so i mightve been more passionate but it was white tie night and im around family and friends. Other people have ranted about politicians, celebrities, corporations, ect and even if we disagreed it was all in good fun.\n\nWell lo and behold, my sister in law changed her major to journalism last year. I didnt know, i thought she wanted to be a vet. My sister in law says im being offensive, I retort that she made fun of guys with southern accents in the past and i didnt whine despite me having one, and thats not even a choice on my part.\n\nThe whole evening is awkward. My wife and brother in law try to save it but it was a bust. Apparently my sister in law has been shit talking me to my wife whose defending me.\n\nAm i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}76{"id": "SMDa8wJ3ukblVSYA4aDhMPvMmJmLAh5I", "post_id": "ad2k4l", "action": {"description": "trying selling a hoodie to my ex", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trying selling a hoodie to my ex?", "text": "Weird title, I know.\nHere\u2019s a little bit of backstory: I dated this girl for almost 6 months, but we \u201cquickly\u201d found out we were more like great friends than a couple, so we broke it up and continued to talk regularly. During the time we were together, me and my family would give her gifts. I would often get her clothes from the store I used to work at.\nAnyway, about a two ago, I ordered a hoodie from a Chinese girl on instagram, at 400$. The hoodie came about a month later. Once it got here, I realized that the size was actually in the asian size chart, instead of american, so it didn\u2019t fit me right at all. I call the girl and she tells me she could change it for me, so I wait another month for the hoodie to arrive, and when it does, the girl has the audacity to tell me that she can\u2019t change it, but rather lower the price of the original by 10$, because the one she first gave me didn\u2019t have a tag anymore, even though it never had a tag in the first place! So I just say fuck it and buy the hoodie for a second time at 30$, it just so happened that the day I went to get it, my ex was waiting for me at my house, so we started talking and I let her know about the hoodie and she says she\u2019ll take it off my hands. Since I didn\u2019t feel like making her pay full price, I told her I would do 30$ to at least make up for having to buy it again. She posts a picture of it on instagram and my dad happened to see, he then casually tells me \u201chey, isn\u2019t that the same hoodie you bought like two months ago?\u201d and I then explained the situation. He then scolded me and told me I should have given it to her for free (even though I used to make 260$ a month, so 70$ for a hoodie is a lot of money for me) so I call her up and let her know she could keep it.\n\nNow it\u2019s eating me up, I\u2019m not sure if I should have just given it to her to begin with or if giving it to her for 30$ wasn\u2019t such a big deal. AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}77{"id": "S3TPk7Qwvt8U924tCmLS9A6sO9sbr2Zd", "post_id": "ao09pd", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be around most of my siblings", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: For Not Wanting To Be Around Most Of My Siblings", "text": "This argument has been going on for years between me and my parents, but has quieted down a little bit in the recent years since I've started college. The argument is that I don't want to actively pursue a relationship with the majority of my siblings, and though I've stopped actively avoiding them, I don't want them in my life (with the exception of two of my older brothers). This had always upset my parents, who firmly believe that you don't have to like your family but you still have to love them. In the end I cave and argue to do whatever my parents ask of me, but I want that to change now that I have started college. Thankfully now I don't interact with my siblings much at all, except for one brother whom I'm really close with and goes to college with me.\n\nBefore however, my parents would have me share rooms with my siblings who had moved back in for a reason or another, and in any argument that would start between me and another siblings, I would be excepted to be mature about it and let the situation go, because I was the most responsible. More often than not I was told to bite my tongue around my other siblings and whenever I would avoid them my parents would guilt trip me into hanging out with them.\n\nSo, some background on why I hate my siblings so much, most at least. At least 4 of my siblings are current or recovering drug addicts, and I think a few still are in trouble with the law. One reason I personally don't want them near me is because I don't want to be associated with anything illegal. \n\nAnother reason is the way they treat me and my parents. Since I'm the youngest I don't have perfect memory of their childhoods or mine for that matter. But I remember a lot of stories that I've been told by my parents about my siblings. A lot of them used to steal from us, probably to buy drugs. Two of my siblings I especially want to avoid are my sister and one of my oldest brothers.\n\n(Some background: anger issues and disabilities practically run in my family, which makes arguments that much more worse. I am legally disabled and have been since 7 years old, and I have medications I take every day for my disabilities.) My only sister, several years ago when I was in elementary school, we believe had stolen my medication and sold it. My parents had because so upset and worried, that they installed a lock on the cabinet where the meds were, which I believe conveniently was dismantled about two weeks later. She, in my opinion, has always put drugs and her self before anyone else. Often did drugs or drank in front of my, behind my parents back. Would be in and out of prison constantly. Would call random people in the middle of the night while I was trying to sleep (we shared a room until she moved out at 18). And never respected anyone. She constantly starts drama with anyone, isn't below using violence to get her way and will readily complain about being poor and then buy like $50 manicures every week. Me and her were never really close, as she preferred her friends over me and would get mad at my parents when they would make her play with me. The only times she would \"play with me\" voluntarily (for the most part that I can remember) was when should would take me or my brother somewhere under the impression of going somewhere to play, when she really would be taking us to where should could meet friends, or boyfriends, and on one occasion drink and smoke in front of me, I was 7. At 11 it was common knowledge for me not to touch our laundry basket because I was afraid of breaking a liquor bottle that she occasionally hid in there. I remember at one point, I was maybe 9, me, my sister and my mom were in the car going somewhere and my sister was complaining about how clingy I was. My mom said smiling that my sister was the one who begged for a little sister and my sister responded in an upset tone \"well I regret it\". And I don't think I've ever felt that unloved and worthless before. Don't get me wrong I have loving parents and my siblings say they love me. But in that moment I think I finally realized I was never going to get the loving relationship with my sister that was like it was in the movies or the way my friends described their sister were like.\n\nIn another instance one of my older brothers, his wife and their baby was living with us for 2 years (I believe rent free or incredibly cheap, as my parents believed in helping family when they are down). Though we have no solid proof we believe they were addicts. Some reasons for our suspicions were random pills scattered in drawers or on tables (no bottle in sight), our codine cough syrup was weirdly empty after a few months of them living there (even though only two people used it and neither said it was anything less than half full. And it was a BIG bottle too), and they always worked jobs that would pay them in cash at the end of the night (even though they conveniently seemed to never half enough money for anything that they begged/made my parents buy for my nephew (their son)). They would occasionally make me baby sit my newphew with no thanks or pay. Sometimes they woild leave me with him, saying they would be back at 10 pm or soemthing but wouldnt be found til 2 am. Always made my dad or another one of my older brothers baby sit my nephew constantly, even when they were in the house themselves, they just wouldn't pay attention to him and my parents would have to step up to the plate. During the first year they were there Christmas had passed and everyone got gifts, I had gotten a new camera I was really exited about and a bag for it. But since I didn't need it I put it away in my closet, that a shared with my niece because we shared a room. Fast forward 4 months and I decide I know a perfect place I could take pictures of with my camera. I go looking for it and it's gone, only the travel bag is left. I was fuming and told my parents, we searched but never found it. My parents believe it was stolen and pawned my brother or his now ex wife, as they had done the same with an xbox they had rented in my mom's name. I remember vividly, no words of apologies, but my parents asking how I could be so careless leaving something expensive \"lying around\" when I know my siblings have stolen stuff before. I still feel guilty about not being more careful to this day because I know the camera costed at least $300 which we definitely could have used to keep on tract with bills.\n\nIn the end, though my siblings have grown up some and changed in the time since I've last seen them. But a lot of the stuff they've done still mess me up today. I went through depression in high school for 2 years and during that I tried to get closure with my sister for the way I felt she treated me. I'll admit I didn't go about it the right way, I ended up explaining that I had been writing about things she had done when I was little and that I was sharing them with a self help group. She got mad and stormed off. My mom come to me and told me to accept that my sister would never apologize, that it was so long ago no one knows if what I remember actually happened and to just let it go. My sister ended up coming back and I apologized and sorta argued to move forward a forget the past (though I don't think I can). And while I'd like to think that they have changed, both have kids, their own homes, but still start drama on facebook, sister still continues to do drugs, fight and \"divorce\" her husband. I don't think I'll really ever be able to trust them. And I know that they've had their own issues to overcome that could be the cause of drug abuse (one was raped when they were a toddler. And the other had lived with a drug addicted mother till puberty) I don't feel that the way the choose to cope with it was okay or a right thing to put others through.\n\nSo am I the asshole for not wanting to be near them? I don't have the heart to tell any one it's because I'm afraid of letting them in my life and just being used for profit or gain again. Or should I stay firm if my parents ask me make accommodations for them, and tell them no? I want a relationship with my siblings but I feel that they don't really care. It's past the point of where I don't actually believe it when they say they love me, no matter how much I genuinely want them to.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}78{"id": "TloPAXucVC8ku6yd7TtGdOJgWnsH6GDD", "post_id": "aq8i59", "action": {"description": "refusing to accept mental illness as a justification", "pronormative_score": 70, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for refusing to accept mental illness as a justification?", "text": "Obligatory disclaimers here at the beginning: this is probably gonna be a throwaway account as I'm not much of a Reddit user and I don't want this getting back to me for reasons that will become obvious, so apologies if I'm shitty at replying to comments. Also I'm on the mobile app and apparently that fucks with formatting, so apologies if this post looks a little bit wonky. Sorry if this gets long but y'all are gonna need a bit of backstory for context and I have a real issue with rambling. \n\nI met my now ex-girlfriend at school when we were 14. We were best friends for a year before we began dating and then were together for about six years. I'm 22 now and we've been broken up for a little over six months. I find it easier to tell a story with names so we'll call my ex Jessica. \n\nThe year that we were friends was great. We were both kind of \"emo kids\" and, being that we lived kind of in the middle of nowhere and there weren't any other emos at our school, we kinda naturally drifted towards each other. She was a kind, sweet girl at first - very bubbly, always smiling, always friendly to everybody. She could be a little hyperactive at times, but I'm incredibly laid back and  a bit shy so we kinda  balanced each other's energy perfectly. We'd hang out at each other's houses almost every night after school and play video games, or go walk around the local park if the weather was nicer. I awkwardly asked her out on Valentine's Day of 2012, thinking I was being dead romantic. Still one of the biggest mistakes of my life. \n\nShe started to change pretty soon after we started dating. She'd always been semi-jealous when it came to me, even when we were just friends. Think, if anyone else called me their best friend she'd get on their arse like \"actually sweetie he's *MY* best friend but nice try :)\" or she'd sulk a little if I made plans with other friends and didn't invite her. I'd always found it endearing, I guess because I was never the one getting chewed out. Boy did that change when we started dating! If I so much as spoke to another girl to ask her for the homework for some class, Jessica would get angry with me and demand to know who she was and what we were talking about. I did confront her about it a couple months into the relationship and she cried and told me she was super scared of being cheated on because she'd seen her dad do it to her mum her whole life and said she was sorry. At the time I thought that was reasonable, said alright and tried to move past it. \n\nThe jealousy didn't stop. In fact, it only continued to escalate. When we were 16 she, without my knowing or my consent, went through my Facebook friends and Instagram followers and blocked any girls I wasn't related to. When we were 18 we started renting a flat together and she threatened one of our neighbours to \"keep the fuck away from me\" because she brought over cookies as a welcome gift while Jessica was out. That same year when I came out as bisexual, she told me that she didn't want me hanging out with my best friend since childhood because he was gay and she was afraid of any \"funny business\" going on. It reached a point where she wouldn't even let me go to the hairdresser's because the only one in our town had three women and a gay guy working there and she didn't want any of them touching me. She also repeatedly called my workplace saying I needed to come home because there was an emergency if she knew I was on a shift with all female co-workers (which was often) resulting in me eventually being sacked. \n\nHonestly, if it was just the intense jealousy, I might have been able to cope, or try to salvage some semblance of a relationship with her. But she would also insult me constantly. I'm pretty prone to eczema and she'd make fun of me if I had a breakout of it on my face. She mocked me when I lost my job and she became the breadwinner of the house. She'd either tease me or get incredibly angry with me if I ever cried about anything (I'm a sucker for crying at films). I gained a little weight around 19 when I had an injury and could no longer go to the gym and she called me fat relentlessly (in hindsight, I really wasn't fat at all), which I believe was one of the catalysts to me developing bulimia. All in all it was a shitty, emotionally abusive situation and I should've gotten out of it sooner than I did. \n\nI eventually broke it off because she started to become physically and sexually violent and I was genuinely afraid for my life one night. I'm now staying with my aforementioned childhood best friend and his husband, have a new job, am in recovery for my eating disorder and am well on the way to getting back on my feet. To be clear, I'm not asking if I'm the asshole because of what happened in the relationship because I've come to accept that I was a victim and none of it was my fault. \n\nHowever. A \"friend of Jessica's\" recently reached out to me to let me know that Jess has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and is recieving treatment for it. My response was basically \"ah that sucks for her and I'm glad she's getting treatment but what's that to do with me?\"  What eventually transpired was that I was not speaking to her friend, but in fact Jessica herself through her friend's account, and that I was expected to forgive everything she did because of her diagnosis. I flat out refused because, while I'm no means an expert on personality disorders and do understand that they can make people act irrationally, I don't believe they're an excuse for outright abusive behaviours. Since I refused to forgive her, I've had countless messages from her, from mutual friends, and even from her mother which all essentially boil down to \"she can't help being an abusive person, you're being awful for not forgiving her.\" I'll note here she hasn't actually *apologised*, just incessantly asked me to \"forgive and forget\", \"get over it\" and even to give her a second chance. I'm starting to doubt that I'm doing the right thing by refusing to accept her BPD as an excuse. AITA and should I forgive her? \n\nTL;DR: my ex was incredibly abusive when we were together and has since been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, which she's using to try and justify her behaviours without actually apologising. I refuse to accept it as an excuse and she, her mother and our mutual friends are telling me I'm the asshole for not forgiving her. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 70, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 70, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}79{"id": "76gdyX56ZTExOBaFNU4BqKM1RDxzSUew", "post_id": "apew2b", "action": {"description": "trusting this guy", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trusting this guy?", "text": "Met a guy at a hotel bar that I stay at on a regular basis. He\u2019s a construction worker and only there for a period of time. He thought I was cute and I thought he was cute. We hooked up. Then I went back to my own country. Next time I come out we hook up a lot. He took care of me, took me out for my birthday. We knew it was only hooking up and I was cool with that. Left a note with a friend to give this guy (note was in a sealed envelope and it basically said my number and something about my ass that we\u2019d been talking about). I get a message on my phone saying hi etc, I don\u2019t have his number but I checked it was his area code etc and it made reference to the comment about my ass. So I thought it was him. It got a bit heated and I sent a couple of pics. Turns out, he opened the note in the bar, shared it with his work crew and it was them that texted me. To say I\u2019m mortified is an understatement. They have a pic of my boobs... AITA for even doing that note to him since it was only a hook up?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}80{"id": "cgdQQbygqM2bWyEk3lAt0UKeD8HIObjK", "post_id": "b9qtvq", "action": {"description": "approaching random girls in public to get their phone number", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA For approaching random girls in public to get their phone number", "text": "Whenever my friends and I are out, we convince one another to go up to attractive strangers and chat with them, complimenting them and being friendly or whatever, and then attempt to ask for their phone number. Nothing forceful or anything, just blatantly 'picking up chics'.\n\nCall it a challenge or a game or whatever, because most if the time we never call them back or text them. It started out as challenging ourselves to gain some confidence and learning to handle rejection.\n\nA little background: We're teenagers and we're pretty introverted and shy hence how it started out as a challenge. But the more we do it the more it seems we're having fun. \n\nThere's a couple of things why I would think this is bad:\n1) Girls we approach might feel really uncomfortable and this is kinda borderline sexual harrasment right?\n2) We're basically using people as ways for us to feel better\n3) Not texting them later makes it worse because that makes it even more like we're using them as 'tools'", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 18, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}81{"id": "NTSGsl2Ghggwqb4Qeo6DnI0Ty3M4NZhT", "post_id": "9tq44z", "action": {"description": "blowing off my birth mother", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for blowing off my birth mother?", "text": "So for some basic background, i was adopted at birth by my mother and father. I never had an interest in locating my birth parents. A few years ago I used a popular consumer genetic testing service. Now with this service it matches you with genetic relatives, who would sometimes message me asking for info since they're trying to make some family tree or something. I would always just say that i have no information for them since i dont know anything about my birth parents.  \n\nA few months ago i got a message from my birth mother (which the genetic testing service confirmed) who was very polite in reaching out and wanted to make sure i was really her son and if i had any questions. I asked about any diseases i should know about that might run the family i should look out for and she let me know. Then she told me i was her only child and wanted to get in touch through facebook, and that *her* mother wants to speak to me as i'm her only grandkid.   \n\nAt that point i just said \"I'm not really comfortable with that right now\" and there's been no communication since. My parents are making me feel like i did something wrong for blowing her off in so few words and not really leaving the possibility for more of a connection.  \n\nAITA for just straight up denying my birth mothers request, even though i never asked for any sort of relationship?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}82{"id": "y7yV3pMnthdxBpc8OMDkvyutyTImjMd0", "post_id": "av9o72", "action": {"description": "being uncomfortable around mentally disabled people", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For being uncomfortable around mentally disabled people?", "text": "It's not that I don't like them, but I just get a general sense of unease around, say, a person with down syndrome. I go to school with a guy with down syndrome, and he's pretty cool. I just... tend to keep my distance.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}83{"id": "6rIDK4U69fSm5YDCq6oyg3ZGL6amRL5p", "post_id": "a99r8u", "action": {"description": "wanting a dog even though everyone says I shouldn't get one", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for wanting a dog even though everyone says I shouldn\u2019t get one?", "text": "I\u2018ve been wanting a dog for ages now but haven\u2019t done it because I everyone I know says it\u2019s not the right time - well it hasn\u2019t been the right time for 10 years now and I\u2019m fucking fed up. A bunch of people my age have gotten a dog even though everyone says it\u2019s a bad idea and their dogs are fucking okay. \n\nBoth me and my partner work full time but my\nparents in law have a dog and a house and a garden where they could be all day until we get home. My SO can work from home 80% of the time. We\u2019re 24 and 29 and everyone I\u2019ve talked to about this says it\u2019s not the right time - well fuck you motherfucker it hasn\u2019t been the right time for a decade now, I\u2019m burnt out at 25 and I need a dog. I\u2018d make it work, fuck you!\n\nI\u2018m so fed up. I just want a dog to be happy. Am I really the selfish asshole everyone says I am just because I want a dog?! ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}84{"id": "2ljfS0zJ6VkPvh0ktJQQKRCUjgxCsmxE", "post_id": "b4pp2v", "action": {"description": "not wanting my brother to come over tomorrow", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my brother to come over tomorrow?", "text": "It\u2019s my grandpa\u2019s birthday and I live with my grandparents. He wants my dad and my brother to come over tomorrow for a meal but I don\u2019t want my brother to come. The truth is I don\u2019t want either of them to come over.\nMy reasons are that I\u2019ve had a really hard week. I\u2019m tired, I wasn\u2019t able to be as productive as I would like to be and college has been kicking my butt. I don\u2019t want to deal with other people and especially not my brother. He\u2019s an energetic and rambunctious 11 year old, and he doesn\u2019t know the meaning of \u201cleave me alone.\u201d I just don\u2019t want to deal with him and for some reason I\u2019m feeling like a jerk for it.\nI haven\u2019t expressed this to my grandpa by the way, I wouldn\u2019t suggest that he not invite the people he wants to spend his birthday with. I just want to know if I\u2019m justified in my feelings not wanting to spend time with someone.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}85{"id": "G1jruiTnvTO2RsN9y5JkOAN1wQlgJZNW", "post_id": "axcv51", "action": {"description": "doing a separate, more thoughtful retirement gift", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for doing a separate, more thoughtful retirement gift?", "text": "One of my department coworkers is set to retire at the end of March and people are starting to plan gifts, party, etc. One of the other department members sent out an email with a generic, \"funny retirement\" gift and suggested we all go in on it for coworker. Everyone quickly agreed and that was the end of it.\n\nNormally this type of gift would probably be fine but the person retiring is a very thoughtful and caring coworker. I've talked to them a bunch regarding their post-retirement plans and came up with a really nice, sentimental gift idea that compliments their plans nicely. This gift would be more expensive than what the department is planning to do.\n\nWIBTA if I purchased and gave this gift on my own without coworkers chipping in or attaching their names to it?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}86{"id": "PGgjIh2AJN6hgzmAuUJKIiHwmfFkzL2w", "post_id": "auip9o", "action": {"description": "not helping out an old lady for petrol", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not helping out an old lady for petrol?", "text": "This just happened. On mobile sorry for the format. \n\nSo, I finished my morning gym class and I was rushing to the tube coz a bit late for work. Someone in a car asked for me, and i heard and stopped. I was like hmm yes? How can I help. \n\nIt\u2019s an old-ish lady and she started to give me some background and She told me she\u2019s a well-known artist and forgot her wallet or something and she doesn\u2019t have any cash or cards and she lives 80 miles away. Ask if I can help. She mentioned she needs about 40 quid. \n\nI honestly thought it\u2019s someone asking for direction and paused for a sec and I said sorry. I don\u2019t have any cash. And then she said there\u2019s an ATM few mins down to the road she can later bank transfer back to me and ask me to google her name. In my mind, I\u2019m like I\u2019m not going backwards for few mins and take out 40 quid cash and give it to you when I\u2019m getting late for work. When I said I\u2019m really sorry and she went to cry mode way too faster than I expected and I didn\u2019t know what to do but saying sorry and then rushed to the tube. \n\nThis was 7am. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}87{"id": "5S5pFgdUUHatTenteRL7E6n1Q91OUU9E", "post_id": "aidv5z", "action": {"description": "not wanting my ex's pit bull around my newborn", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my ex\u2019s pit bull around my newborn?", "text": "I\u2019m not automatically against pit bulls, despite stats involving dog bites. My friend\u2019s pit is the best-trained dog I\u2019ve met, and he has never so much as growled at any person or other dog. The pit bull my ex owns, however, has had two incidents in the past year.  The first incident involved my 5lb dog. His dog & my dog both ate dinner & there must have been a morsel on the floor bc suddenly he growled & snapped &, as my ex describes it, \u201cput Lila\u2019s head inside his mouth\u201d but he didn\u2019t bite bc there would\u2019ve been puncture wounds. In the 2nd incident, my daughter\u2019s 11-year-old friend came over. Normally he\u2019d introduce his dog to new people, but he was in the bathroom& I was taking a nap. My daughter opened the door (he had told her to wait until he was out of the bathroom & she didn\u2019t listen) & his dog lunged at the little girl & bit her hand. Her hand was bruised & bleeding, she had to go to urgent care & skip volleyball camp for a week. I understand that my daughter should\u2019ve listened, but her not listening shouldn\u2019t result in a kid\u2019s hand being scarred. His dog is \u201cinsecure\u201d and \u201cjust gets nervous,\u201d but he\u2019s also 75lb and in those rare moments he snaps, no one is in control of the situation but him. I\u2019ve tried to be understanding of the fact that he has owned his rescue dog for almost 6 years, but his dog even jumped up and almost knocked me down when I came back from the birth certificate office 4 days after I gave birth, and he jumped up on the bed w my older daughter & knocked the wind out of her. Yesterday the dog head butted my small dog & made her cry again. He has no rules & goes on the couch & bed as he pleases. Cesar Chavez did training with him & it didn\u2019t help, so further training wouldn\u2019t be helpful in my eyes.  Things are getting hairy with this conflict, but I just feel like I can\u2019t risk my daughters\u2019 safety further & I couldn\u2019t live with myself if that dog hurts or kills my newborn. My older daughter I\u2019m not super worried about bc she doesn\u2019t get in his face & he knows her, but dogs snap on babies all the time.... Am I the asshole for implementing a no-pit-bull rule for my home & refusing to have my newborn around the dog? If I am, is there a compromise I\u2019m not seeing? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}88{"id": "XB4UBxzXB2tzbJnzAjy3Md99jCVvQ2WE", "post_id": "b4q5g4", "action": {"description": "abandoning my friends because of one weird kid", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for abandoning my friends because of one weird kid?", "text": "Ok, so I had these two friends, let\u2019s call them M and S. We were pretty good friends in school. Then, near the end of one year, there was this very very Creepy Girl. Creepy was actually kinda normal when we first met her, so we let her hang with us at lunch and stuff. Then things shifted into M. Night Shamalama territory. \n\nOne day, Creepy said that she had DID. Now, I have no idea what someone who actually has it is like. So I said that mental illness doesn\u2019t mean we can\u2019t be friends. Now comes the weird part. She said that her pharmacy stopped making her DID pills because \u201cnobody was really using them.\u201d Which sounded illegal and kinda like bullshit. But I went with it. \n\nOne day at lunch, she asked M, S, and I if we wanted to see the her other \u201cpersonality\u201d which for here, we\u2019ll call Creepy-X. I was hesitant but M and S said okay, so I went with it. Creepy sat in her chair, fell limp, then came back to life while pulling her hood up and\u2014I shit you not\u2014SPEAKING IN AN AUSTRALIAN ACCENT. \n\nThings turned into a big spiral of unsettling, like when she was passing out in the middle of the cafeteria, when I found her notebook full of drawings of Youtubers like Jacksepticeye and Markiplier in bondage gear, when she said that she was an allmighty, eternal being... It was just too weird for me. So I gradually stopped hanging out with them. \n\nAm I in the wrong just because I didn\u2019t \u201cget\u201d her? Or was she really just a dangerous person to be around?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}89{"id": "rrbwoPaBxHRragHkaluCSCb6urnEOZyv", "post_id": "ba3r7x", "action": {"description": "telling my wife that our daughter is buying alchol with fake ID", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my wife that our daughter is buying alchol with fake ID?", "text": "My daughter is 17 but biologically not mine,  I've been with her mum for 13 years now. The relationship between me and my daughter has always been good. We also have 3 sons. She does well at school and never really give's us much grief. She's sensible, hard working and driven. We've allowed her to drink on the occasion as long as we are aware of where and with who which is usually her circle of friends or her BF of 2 years. \n\nHere's the problem. I've gone in her bedroom  and seen her friends DL on thd bed. We knew she was going out tonight for food and to her friends to stay and chances are she'd be having a couple there. If she was to go out without us knowing and something happened I'd never forgive myself. Her mum wouldnt forgive me either.  I dont want TBTA that ruined her night out, grassed her up and caused WW3 in our house.\n\nReddit, AITA?  \n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}90{"id": "8iL1QwhVdspjARCPBaPpyjnuvBO9qfyD", "post_id": "ahjjk7", "action": {"description": "sharing a pornographic video of a female colleague at work that I randomly found with my coworkers", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 48}, "title": "AITA for sharing a pornographic video of a female colleague at work that I randomly found with my coworkers.", "text": "So during one of my fap sessions while browsing through the blonde amateurs sections I was shocked to find a video of a girl from my office. The video was pov and kinda dark but you could definitely tell it was her. So later that night I went to dinner with one of my friends from work and just randomly in conversation I told him look what I found. He was shocked as well since she was a preety nice girl and we'd never expect something like this from her. \nSo I guess from there the video spread like wildfire and the girl eventually found out and apparently had a breakdown and sobbed at work. \n\nTl;Dr- Found a porn video of a girl from work, told a friend, he told someone else and then it spread. Girl ended up breaking down and crying at work.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 47, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 48}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}91{"id": "dTxL0WyyLFkPqfMkz4zQaBjEkZG9ibDX", "post_id": "as6qe6", "action": {"description": "seeking legal retribution over rumors", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for seeking legal retribution over rumors?", "text": "For some backstory i recently (6 months ago) had a falling out with a group i used to be close friends with some of which i've known for years.\n\nAmong them tho is an ex of mine (lets called them Jane) that has never-ending reasons for people to throw her pity parties and has spread rumors about me before and another one (and lets call this one Marsha) who has horror stories about other ex-friends that i believed till this happened.\n\nAfter a fun night celebrating up the country we take the long trip back home and on the way drop people off, got down to the last two to drop off, one of which is Jane. We drop them off in the city and ask if they have money for the bus/need to be dropped home and they assure us that they're fine.\n\nFast forward to the next day, i'm in work and i don't finish till late, after checking my phone i find myself blocked and kicked from every group chat and a slew of messages including every version of how im a terrible person from \"a toxic relationship towards women\" to \"sucking the fun out of everything\". \nApparently Jane accused me and the driver of abandoning them without the money to get home and people with a grudge against me for whatever reason took this opportunity to see what kind of bull they could get away with sticking on my image.\n\nAll this ended up blowing over and i just stayed out of it, not the type for drama but two weeks ago, one of the friends i knew for years comes into me in work (first time i've seen him since the fallout) and confronts me about supposedly stalking Marsha, with \"texts to prove it\".\n\nThis was the last straw and after that i've started the process of a defamation of character case. \nI don't know if i'm just being petty but after this i don't want to imagine what sort of things people are believing if its been this long and people would believe that about me.\n\nTL:DR- People are spreading bull and evidence isn't convincing enough, so forcing them to court just to avoid the possible collateral damage a suspected charge might have on my life.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}92{"id": "zrT3PgMApNJ3qNr6DhCaqjjm6jPYIjEL", "post_id": "b5ojec", "action": {"description": "breaking up for my girlfriend because her mental issues made me feel useless", "pronormative_score": 25, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for breaking up for my girlfriend because her mental issues made me feel useless", "text": "In 8th grade I asked a shy, quiet girl out and she said yes. Looking back on it now it was something I jumped into too soon as I really didn\u2019t know her all that much. Things went smoothly for the first year and then things started to go downhill.\n\nThis girl had some pretty bad social and mental issues (social anxiety, depression of some degree, and even lived in a not so supporting household). This led to her being a girl who kept to herself mostly, even from her boyfriend. It would be a journey just to find her in the morning, as she didn\u2019t have a phone.\n\nThen her problems got worse, to the point of her cutting herself. This is when she completely separated herself from everyone, including me. She would barely talk to me and seeing her so broken and hurt made me as a boyfriend feel useless and pathetic. \n\nI felt horrible that I couldn\u2019t help her. She was very much in a bad place and there was nothing I could do.  I wanted her to be able to find someone who could help her with her issues.\n\nWith us being so separated, I started losing the feelings for her I used to have and started getting feelings for another girl who shared feelings back. It was a feeling I missed. \n\nAfter a month of this, I told my current girlfriend that I wanted to end our relationship and told her that I was losing feelings and that I felt that she needed to find someone who could actually help her with her problems. This went over like a car on bricks.\n\nImmediately, word went round that I left her for another girl and that I broke up with her because of her mental issues. People HATED me. They didn\u2019t know my side of the story and didn\u2019t bother to find out. The took the word of the innocent, shy girl.\n\nThree months later and that girl is more social than she ever was. She\u2019s actually talking to people in our school. So i don\u2019t know if I was holding her back or if she just randomly became social. \n\nSo the question is Am I The Asshole that everyone thinks I still am?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 25, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}93{"id": "hMzHE07W1qvzjBibZTG1y1Z3Rzkw6SUY", "post_id": "b3nc47", "action": null, "title": "AITA - GF is disgusted by bodily fluids so doesn't like giving BJs", "text": "I'm actually not that bothered by this, I can live with not getting them. She does try to give me them to make me happy but when she tries she has a tendency to go \"ugh\" etc when anything leaks out so I can't really get turned on by it. It also stops me enjoying it as I'm worried about finishing anywhere near her. I also have had problems getting it up in the past due to anxiety and it goes down easily when I'm taken out of the moment and start  worrying about things, so I tend to avoid it. \n\nFor this reason when she offers to do it for me I tend to turn it down, then she gets really offended that I won't let her do it and I'm trying to make her feel bad for her phobia and that a lot of girls wouldn't do it for their BFs, but the whole idea of it just isn't a turn on anymore when shes so disgusted by it.\n\nSo AITA for this, I don't feel like I can do anything about it but I don't want her thinking that she's inadequate or she doesn't make me happy or anything or that I'm deliberately trying to cause conflict", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}94{"id": "gGHIJTYhxeHr6tW4N7i8zzhjRgHIpcJD", "post_id": "ab6d1d", "action": {"description": "insisting on receiving payment before providing pizza", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For insisting on receiving payment before providing pizza", "text": "Hey, so this happened ages ago when I was delivering pizza and I keep thinking about it occasionally.\n\nI showed up to a customer's door with their pizza, they ask me to give them the pizza, I say I need the money first. Over the course of me refusing to hand over the pizza several times, he says the money's all the way over there, why should he have to make more than one trip, why am I being so insistent about it, do I seriously think he's gonna steal the pizza, why don't I trust him. I tell him I treat everyone the same way, I always take the money first, that's just the rules.\n\nImportant detail: this guy isn't white. He is clearly hurt by a perceived lack of trust and I think he thinks it's a racism thing. Also I did tell him it was store policy but I was lying. It was just my policy.\n\nHe did go and get the money by the way. I didn't think he was trying to pull anything. It was just a rule I enforced for everyone. Never in my pizza delivery career did I ever provide pizza before receiving payment. In fact it was rare that I ever had to ask for the money. Most of my customers knew the drill without me needing to say anything.\n\nI think another driver might've given this guy the benefit of the doubt. Pizza theft isn't exactly an issue and this rule wasn't store policy or anything", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}95{"id": "KwyvJoj23wNDPDzeTfdmJZ6fF85361hZ", "post_id": "9wi8vm", "action": {"description": "going to my boyfriends house for Christmas and not getting his brother a gift", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA If I go to my boyfriends house for Christmas and don't get his brother a gift?", "text": "Hey All, \n\n​\n\nI'll try and make this brief. My boyfriend and I are together 4 years. I get along great with his parents, but his older brother literally hasn't said more than 10 words to me in our 4 years knowing each other. At first I would greet him and ask how he is, and I would get no response. He would walk past me in the kitchen, finish what he was doing and go on his way. \n\nSo last year I spend Christmas with my boyfriend and his family for the first time. I showed up with gifts for everyone, including the brother (a PlayStation gift card), but was too nervous to give it to him directly because I thought he hated me or something so I gave it to my boyfriend to give to him when I left. I never got a thank you. \n\nSo fast forward this year, I was again invited to Christmas with my boyfriend and I want to accept, but the first thing that came to my mind was \"What am I going to get the brother?\". I asked my boyfriend and he didn't really know. He said I could get him another gift card, or I could just get him nothing because he won't get me anything and he probably won't say thanks either. \n\nI immediately refused and said I couldn't show up with gifts for everyone but him, but then I thought about the facts that I talk to everyone but him, and if I can't face him long enough to give him his gift, should I be getting him one in the first place? Also, to be fair to him, he's seems very socially inept. He rarely leaves the house, and I've heard that he treats mostly everyone except his family the way he treats me, but it's never been confirmed. \n\nSo I leave it to you redditors, would I be the asshole if I showed up with no gift for the brother who ignores me?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}96{"id": "97GdSsvyHw5seChPQuWfVLlIytyAPu6a", "post_id": "asq0tt", "action": {"description": "being upset that my so didn't shovel before I came home", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset that my SO didn't shovel before I came home?", "text": "I feel the title is very watered down. Hopefully I can give a clearer picture.\n\n\nBackground: My husband and I are recently new homeowners in a state that is getting dumped with snow. Much to my husbands dismay, we don't have enough saved for the snowblower he wants, so we're stuck with shoveling it ourselves (sidenote: in case it gets brought up, no I will not pay for snow-removal service when both of us are strong, able-bodied adults who have the time). I work nights, 10 hour shifts, and he works days, 8 hour shifts. Both of our jobs are physically demanding. So far we've been good about doing our fair share of winter maintenance. \n\n\nSituation: I am working 12 hour shifts most of the week due to a surge in production (yay overtime pay). Due to incoming weather, his job notified employees yesterday afternoon that today they would start an hour late. The snow started falling at 11pm and hasn't stopped. I got off after 830 am this morning ready to take a shower and do some shoveling, if needed. Turns out it was very much needed as my husband didn't shovel any of the driveway (1 car length by 3 car widths of pavement), the back sidewalk (idk, 25? feet) or the front steps and sidewalk ( about 30? feet total). It's been snowing for 9ish hours so it's not a small amount, it's several inches deep. \n\n\nI shovel the driveway and the back sidewalk. I start the front sidewalk but I stop because I'm upset and think it's unfair. So I text him, stating clearly why I'm kinda pissed and that the front sidewalk will be waiting for him to shovel when he gets home. I also say that \"I don't love him any less, that I'm just upset.\" I don't want him thinking I hate him, I'm just upset at the situation. No response yet but I dont expect one until he goes to lunch. I suspect he used the extra hour this morning to sleep in, which he has every right to do. However maybe a text about how he didn't get to the shoveling would have been appreciated, that way I wouldn't have been blindsided. \n\n\nI've been going back and forth over if I should feel this way. Half of me is saying \"Suck it up, Buttercup, that's life,\" while the other half says I need to make my feelings known so I don't push it down and allow it to fester and manifest in some other way. So, fair Reddit, AITA for assuming my husband would do some shoveling before he went to work and not leave me with it all?\n\n\nP.S. I may not comment until some hours from now, as I need to get some sleep before my shift tonight. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}97{"id": "o8hNsqckn9qLp0UeGOZMei1jAqEmdz13", "post_id": "ac97yo", "action": {"description": "not wanting contact with this girl anymore", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not wanting contact with this girl anymore?", "text": "A while ago I (male, 30) was in a bad place and turned to alcohol and dating-apps. One of the girls I met was 35 and wanted to come over to my place at night after a very minimal amount of chatting. I figured it was a classic bootycall. She came over, we had a good time, had drinks, and as expected she stayed the night. And that's where my fuck-up happend: I don't want to blame the excessive amount of alcohol (I'm pretty good at handeling my drink, but drank over 6 beers before she even came over, drank a lot more with her) but for some reason I was a fucking idiot and didn't use protection. \n\nThe next morning I realized this was a major fuck-up and went out to get us breakfast and got her a morning-after pill. She took it, we had breakfast, she told me she didn't have any STD's (which I wasn't so sure about given how easily she slept with me) and she left. (It later turned out she didn't give me any STD's btw).\n\nI ended up seeing her 4 more times in the next two weeks (I made sure to use condoms every time) - we always met at night, and I was very clear about not wanting a relationship - she said she didn't either. After those two weeks I kind of got my life together a bit more and wanted to quit casual hookups to go after this other girl that I was really in love with. So I broke up with her - and she took it HARD. Talked about wanting to commit suicide and stuff. I recommend her some people/telephone numbers/anonymous chat organisations that could help her and broke off contact. \n\nOver the next two months she occassionally (drunk) texted me to tell me she wanted to date again. I kept saying I was over it, that I had moved on and that I didn't want any contact anymore.\n\nFast forward another month: she texts me pictures of an ultrasound, telling me she had become pregnant by me and had a miscarriage. I'm not sure if the pictures are legit - but there's a date on them that fits the timeline. I realise the morning-after pill doesn't have a 100% success-rate but she did get her period about 1,5week after the unprotected sex. Always used condoms after that first time. \n\nNow she keeps blaming me for everything. I figured I'd go with believing her story, had a convo via texts about how I'm really sorry this happend, that it was never my intention and that I should've used a condom that first time. However, she keeps saying I'm a horrible person for breaking it off with her, how it's unfair that I continue with life while she's had to deal with this, that she's mad and believes I treated her like a toy, and so on.\n\nI obviously feel bad about the whole thing and would like to hear your opinions. \n\nPS: I know I really fucked up having  unprotected sex with someone I just met an hour ago, after months I'm still mad at myself about it, but is there anything I could've done better after that fact? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}98{"id": "5SypvtzekY4CUAfzVTK2OmVxggqGEpnX", "post_id": "b5le9f", "action": {"description": "lashing out at my gf for texting a guy who was flirting with her", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for lashing out at my gf for texting a guy who was flirting with her??", "text": "So me and my gf are together for about 2.5 years now and around our 1 year anniversary she told me that a guy from high school texted her three months ago flirting with her. Personally I did not care that someone flirted with her. The thing that bothered me was that she only told me three months after he flirted with her. She then told me that she would cut off all ties with him. I said ok and it was left at that. A couple of days ago she told me she was going out with a couple of high school friends (I\u2019ve met 4 of them before). I was more than ok with her seeing some old friends. She then told me that the guy who flirted with her was gonna be there. Out of curiosity I asked have you talked to him since the last incident. She said, \u201cyes, we speak here and there.\u201d I was pissed at this point. I later asked her if she initiated any conversation with him and she told me yes. I lashed out at her and was furious about what happened.\n\nOn a side note I was friends with her ex-best friend and she made me cut off all ties with her because my gf believed that she was into me. I cut all ties even though she was a good friend of mine.\n\nAITA for getting pissed at my gf and thinking smt is going on between the two of them?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}99{"id": "c43i91IqPxVsryjDsVNwYxqXNXu3wMEh", "post_id": "b0qs3z", "action": {"description": "asking how the girl I asked out is doing okay", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked how the girl I asked out is doing okay?", "text": "So long story short.\n\nI liked this girl, she liked me but didn't want a relationship, and I'm totally fine with that. Furthermore we talked about some stuff and she said she wanted to remain friends up also didn't want to talk for a bit so she could get on top of her emtions.\n\nToday I saw her and she seemed like she wasn't doing to well, she's got a therapist and all that stuff, but I wanna just check up on her to see if she's all good?\n\nWIBTA if I did this?\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}100{"id": "14ReLdn0qoypLmO1i8E9axQlHKvcdmtp", "post_id": "aq7yqr", "action": null, "title": "AITA if my girlfriend asked me out and I refused to pay if I didn\u2019t have the money?", "text": "It was three years ago. I was twelve and me and my girfriend have been together since we were like five. She hated my friends but hung out with me to annoy my friends and since a few months before that I was very sceptical about are relationship. I was very low on money, as I 1. Spent my christmas money and money I got for doing good in school somewhere near the end of the year and I recieved very little pocket money. I had about 40 euros before that. On January 30th, 2016 I bought a lego dimensions expansion box, 30 euros. This is a videogame with actual lego and I wanted it for some time. I had only 11 euros by valentine\u2019s day. About a week before then she asked whether we should do something on valentine\u2019s day. It would have been on a sunday. I said that we could just hang out, but she insisted we\u2019d do something. It was the last week for star wars: the force awakens. We both had seen it and I said I\u2019d rather spend the day at her home or at mine, but she really wanted to go. The price for movie tickets were 11.50 a piece and thats excluding popcorn etc. I said I didn\u2019t have too much money so asked whether we could split the price 50/50, as I would recieve my pocket money before that. No no no, I should pay for it, she said, because that\u2019s romantic. Well, I don\u2019t have my money, but I\u2019m sure my parents could buy it! That\u2019s not romantic either. Fine, I\u2019ll pay she said. In addition, we also could buy a rose at school, but we said to each other that we wouldn\u2019t do it and I was planning to get one before we went to the movie theatre. That friday she texted me that she was very mad at me for not getting more money and spending it two weeks earlier, when we didn\u2019t have any plans for it yet. I responded saying this, she ignored that. Later that day, I got a rose. The last class of the day I sat in front of two girls who I regularly have a chit-chat with and explained the situation, which might\u2019ve made my girlfriend mad because she probably overheard me. The next day I was playing a sportsgame at 8 in the morning so I left and didn\u2019t check my phone. We got home and we left to go to an amusement park and were away the entire day. I had left my phone at home. We ate on our way home and got home at 9. Me being younger meant that I fell asleep immediately, again not checking my phone. The next day I had a lot of texts from the school group chat for homework so my girlfriend\u2019s text was at the bottom. I didn\u2019t read it and found out about it in the evening. We chatted for a while and she ended it with a \u2018see you tomorrow\u2019. We met up and she broke up with me. I know this is long, but thanks for reading anyway. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}101{"id": "PUGVJ5ajIjzDE0wPc1kFpxO359O4To4S", "post_id": "aaenoe", "action": null, "title": "AITA? My brother never gives me alone time", "text": "Me and my brother share a room. Whenever I get a second of alone time without him, he finds a way to ruin it. I always give him chances to be in there alone, but it seems like he never gives me any. I get mad at him sometimes, but I feel like it's totally justified. Whenever I adress the situation he turns it on me saying I always kick him out, but I don't. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}102{"id": "9KoeHpmtiLellORv7rz8240KkZJ43fiA", "post_id": "aljcox", "action": {"description": "not wanting to continue pregnancy", "pronormative_score": 225, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to continue pregnancy...", "text": "Throwaway so I don't get psychotic prolifers harrassing me through this already horrible time. Me and my husband are pregnant with our first child. We just found out at our midpregnancy scan that our baby has Patau's syndrome. Apparently, he didn't show many of the early warning signs that most babies do, so it went unnoticed. The baby is currently okay, but we were told that his likelihood of surviving up to and after birth are dim to say in the least. Obviously, we're both heart broken. And it hurts me that I may never be able to meet my baby. But I don't want to meet him if it just means he's going to die anyway! This is hard enough, I would rather just end the pregnancy and try again once we're up to it. I feel like a failure, and I just want to get past this and have it be over so we can try again at our family. But my husband wants to meet him. He thinks it would bring us more \"closure\" when he dies. I think its just going to open me up to more pain. Pregnancy is hard enough without the life at the end of the tunnel. I understand my husband is having just as hard of a time as me right now, and it might bring him closure to say his goodbyes to the little guy. And maybe I am being insensitive or selfish? I just dont want to have to grieve a second time over him...am I being selfish? The longer we wait the harder it gets and I just want to tell him too bad, and end the pregnancy, but I dont want to hurt him or our marriage and he just wont listen...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 83, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 142, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 225, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}103{"id": "mWjZVGfez7JzZgHMQ5Ma7BWe5KZwHunH", "post_id": "a2raki", "action": {"description": "using my roommates cleaning supplies to clean our bathroom", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for using my roommates cleaning supplies to clean our bathroom?", "text": "College student here (20F) living on campus. The dorm I\u2019m in is apartment style with four bedrooms and two bathrooms. I share a bathroom with the girl in the room next to mine.\n\nI haven\u2019t really spoken much to her aside from a couple of \u201cHello\u2019s\u201d here and there and the occasional \u201cHow was your day.\u201d Barely even acquaintances honestly. Throughout the semester I\u2019ve kinda taken charge on keeping our bathroom clean\u2014I\u2019m kind of a clean freak so I took it upon myself to wipe down our tub and shower curtain every now and then.\n\nShe, however, does not seem to be on the same page. She\u2019s prone to leaving hair in the bathtub, and has never bothered to try and straighten up the bathroom on her own accord. She has the cleaning supplies for it, but I\u2019ve never seen them used. I\u2019ve gone the past couple weeks without cleaning, and our bath tub and shower curtain ended up getting very dirty. Nothing was ever done about it on her end, so I finally snapped today and wiped everything down again.\n\nWhen I tried to scrub the grime in the bath tub with my Clorox wipes, I realized it was going to be a hassle. But, my roommate had a scrubbing brush and a bottle of Fabuloso sitting on the toilet. I figured since she had never used it, and it was going toward our communal bathroom, I made the call that it wouldn\u2019t be a big deal if I used the stuff to clean our place of bathing. 20 minutes later, everything was relatively spic-and-span.\n\nNow that I\u2019m thinking about it though, I feel like I overstepped a boundary somehow. As I mentioned before, we\u2019re barely acquaintances, and even though I used her stuff to clean a space we both use...I still used her stuff, y\u2019know? We move out in two weeks and being that she never bothered to scrub the bathroom before, I figured she wasn\u2019t going to start now. But now I\u2019m afraid she\u2019ll get angry if she realizes her stuff was used. She already moved her little trashcan out of the bathroom and next to her sink, I assume because she no longer wanted me using it. So I\u2019m not sure here, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}104{"id": "JzLVjiUZJmSMAr22oLc2puFKgrW4YQmD", "post_id": "a19y1m", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Roommate wants to move out Jan 2nd and want his deposit that day.", "text": "HI, very long time lurker, and in need of some advice, and I apologize for the long post.  \nI (F 38)am the leaseholder of a three bedroom house; I rent out two rooms.   \nI got a text this afternoon that roommate #3 (M 24) wants to move out Jan 1st, that the room is too small for him and he wants to spend NYE in a larger space. My response was \"cool.\"  \nWhen I spoke in person, he wants to move out Jan 2nd and wants his deposit back the same week. ( I am in my last year of grad school)   \nI said if he has to move out on the first or the 15th, and will receive his deposit after I inspect the room.    \n\"He needs the money now,\" I explained that he is moving out at the worst time possible, that it's almost imposable to find a suitable roommate Jan 1st. So I have to cover his part of the rent, my part of rent and tuition for my last semester. I asked him to work with me so I can have a paycheck so I don't leave my self-broke. I'll give him back his deposit two weeks after he moves out. He said that I was making him feel bad for moving out.  To be honest, I am worried about me. I don't have any other support but student loans and a part-time job. I am in the middle of finals, and now I'm scrambling to find a roommate. Am I the asshole by not letting him move out on the second and giving him his deposit then and there?  \n\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}105{"id": "UDRPL5dBlmNTqRJeTfj9bwqYddvSxcP2", "post_id": "a0z0if", "action": {"description": "not reporting my abusive grandfather to the police for something he did 30 years ago", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for not reporting my abusive grandfather to the police for something he did 30 years ago?", "text": "(Trigger warning - this is about childhood sexual abuse.  Don't read if you find it upsetting.)\n\n\nSeriously, if that sort of thing bothers you, maybe skip this post.  I was reading a post over on /r/legaladvice about someone who was abused by their piano teacher for a number of years and s/he is considering reporting the teacher to the police because the teacher is teaching again and they're afraid the teacher is going to harm another child.  In reading through the comments, I discovered that Colorado has no statute of limitations on prosecuting childhood sexual abuse (That is something that has changed since I lived there -- I didn't know this until yesterday).\n\nIn 1988 I lived in Colorado where my grandfather used molest and rape me (I was an 8 year old boy at the time) and my sister.  In 1990 my mom cut off contact with him and reported what he had been doing to my sister to the police.  I was too terrified to say what he had been doing to me because A: I was told \"This is all your fault.  I don't want to do this, you're making me\" (I have since gotten into therapy and do accept it was not, in fact, my fault) and B: because one time I tried to use a pocket knife to stop him from hurting my sister.  It didn't work and he just beat me up, telling me the horrible things he would do if I ever tried to stop him again or if I told anyone what he had been doing.  I still have a physical scar from it.  \n\nSo when I got stuck in therapy to see if he had done anything to me, I still thought it was my fault and I was still afraid of him.  By the time I could trust the therapist, she transferred me to another therapist and I felt I couldn't trust anyone.  That therapist told my mom \"The grandfather wasn't interested in boys, so your son is fine.\"\n\nJust my sister went to the police.  They interviewed her and gave my grandfather a polygraph test.  He passed the test (Something psychopaths can do very easily.  Fun, err, disturbing little trivia fact.) and the police declined to bring charges against him.  My mom tried to tell the rest of the extended family and they all turned against us saying she was spreading lies.  In 1992 we cut ties and moved three states away.  We couldn't do anything about him and we just had to move on with our lives.  I remember at one point looking at the laws and seeing that the statute of limitations had passed on what he did to me.  Not that I had any faith in our justice system to prosecute him, honestly.  \n\nI tried to heal and move on (Some days are better than others).\n\nThen I saw that post and read some commentators that said there is no statute of limitations for that type of crime in Colorado anymore.  That means I could report him.  \n\nI thought a lot about it, and I just don't want to.  I've talked about my history on reddit before, and had someone message me saying I was a \"little (derogatory word)\" for not taking the law into my own hand and going to beat the shit out of him.  I had lunch with a friend and he told me that I'm a bad person for not going back to Colorado to take care of this because he might hurt other kids.  My grandfather is now 90 years old.  Has he hurt other kids?  Maybe.  I try not to think about it.  I'd like to think he's now too old to do that anymore.  \n\nMoreover, I don't want to take revenge on him.  I don't want to send a senile, 90 year old man to die in prison.  Even if he is a heartless monster.  I don't know if I strong enough to travel back to Colorado for whatever that would involve (I still live three states away).  I don't want to deal with the inevitable nightmares of going back to confront him.  I called him on the phone once, and it didn't go very well (See my post history, if you're curious).  \n\nI just want to go on with my life, forget that bastard and just heal.  Does that make me an asshole?  \"Evil prevails when good men do nothing\" as the saying goes, but I don't know if I can do anything and I don't want to deal with the guilt of sending him to die in prison.  I know he'd be going because of his crimes, but I struggle with guilt and anxiety.  I know that it would eat me alive to know I was the catalyst that sent him to prison.  \n\n\ntl/dr; my grandfather used to rape/molest me 30 years ago in Colorado.  I just discovered that the laws were changed to remove the statute of limitations on child sex abuse crimes.  I don't live anywhere near him and I want to get on with my life and healing, not going back to Colorado to try and bring him to justice.  ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}106{"id": "Dy3QqtkFvL6WrIcxD3JP2sIlPDTN8wNv", "post_id": "a4tn63", "action": {"description": "disowning my family", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I disown my family?", "text": "This is going to be kind of long: I almost killed myself last March, and I attribute it 80% to my parents. \n\nStrike 1: My parents were an absolute disaster during my high school years, and any time they suspect that I feel this way, they go on about how there's no rule book and they were doing the best they could. They did have a reason for being disasters: my baby sister died at 3 months old due to complications from surgery. My dad became extremely controlling (he had to know where my sister and I were at all times, who we hung out with, even where we picked up new words/phrases), and my mom became extremely depressed. She wouldn't acknowledge that there was an issue, though, so I went through high school with a narcissistic and controlling father and a generally absent mother. This all shaped the rest of the issues I have, some of which are detailed below. \n\nStrike 2: I was homeschooled from kindergarten through high school, so my parents affected and controlled literally every part of my life. I was told what exactly to believe, commanded not to question it, and fed a bunch of bs that anyone who believed differently than my parents was evil and going to hell. My entire freshman year of college I honestly believed that being gay was one of the worst things that anyone could ever be. I met my best friend that year, a very awesome, very gay person. I later discovered that I am bisexual. I haven't told my parents, since they always go on about how their friends with gay kids are so strong to put up with the \"choices\" their children made.\n\nStrike 3: I grew up in an extremely conservative Christian home that gave little credibility to mental illness. I'd really like to think that when I started showing signs of depression at 15 a serious conversation about mental health and an appointment with a psychiatrist would have not lead me to almost kill myself at 19. My parents did give me options: I could go see a Christian counselor who would tell me to pray more and give my worries to God, like what my parents had already told me, or I could talk to the family doctor. I was sort of fed up with religion at that point, so I talked with the family doctor. She said it sounded like I was depressed and gave me a bottle of pills. She told me to come back if they weren't working. Looking back, this was absolutely not an appropriate response to what I was dealing with, and it took me years to figure out I wasn't supposed to feel down all the time.\n\nI've talked to many trusted people about this situation, including the fact that the only way I see ever being at peace is to never have to deal with the people who screwed me up this badly again. Initially, I wanted to completely disown them, and after talking it out more and thinking on it, my counselor even agreed it would be a good thing for me if it's what I still want. I know family is supposed to be forever and all that, but I haven't felt love for them since I was a very little kid, and it stresses me out enough to be around them that it can trigger a depressive episode and make me question my safety. I even ended up changing majors so I had to take summer classes just so I didn't have to be around my family all summer. I get depressed even thinking about going back for the holidays. \n\nSo would I be the asshole if I sat them down, expressed my grievances, and told them I never wanted to see or hear from them again, for my own happiness and health? \n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}107{"id": "AaPBEiMmiDPitVDZDFGYO19zeQdS72zw", "post_id": "aif69u", "action": {"description": "confronting my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA For confronting my girlfriend", "text": "AITA for confronting my girlfriend over soaked underwear?\n\nA little bit of backstory, for the past week we have done nothing but argue, day in day out. She's been finishing late from work everyday and I'd become a little suspicious. It isn't something that normally happens. \n\nOne day I was doing laundry and went into the bathroom after she had come back and picked up socks etc; as I picked up her pants they were wet through. \n\nI asked jokingly of she'd peed a little to make light of it, but she didn't respond and changed the subject immediately. I asked her out of curiosity and she started shouting saying things like \"why don't I trust her\" \n\nShould I have said anything at all or just ignored it? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}108{"id": "ZMaRJM5vsc1thhkZq8BFryTWhxk3kKAA", "post_id": "agm8ml", "action": {"description": "keeping my maintain long distance relationship and also pursuing other girls", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 47}, "title": "AITA if I keep my maintain long distance relationship and also pursue other girls?", "text": "LONG POST. \n\nTo start off. I am twenty two year old guy. I don't think I am an asshole or some douchebag. A year ago, I met this girl on tinder and we started talking for about two months or so, she became really attached to me, even though we've never met. That frightened me quite a lot because I didn't feel like I did anything worthy of such affection. Later on it all dwindled down because I starter to give her a cold shoulder because of my fear of her falling in love with me. I still haven't deleted her from snapchat and all that. Fast forward ten months, it's almost christmas time. I see her story saying she wants to talk to anyone (she did have a boyfriend somewhere in between those ten months, so I had thought she still has one). I decide to text and \" catch up\" on everything that's changed in her life... And we started talking for hours and days. She was still the same nice girls, still almost as affectionate as she was before. New years come around and she snapped me she loves me. I knew I couldn't say it back to her, so I didn't and explained as to why I couldn't say it back. She seemed content with it. We were planning on meeting sometime soon (she lives around 100miles away from me) so we sorted our schedules out and she bought a train ticket to visit me for three days.\nShe stayed in my shared house, in my room. Everything was absolutely wonderful and great. Sex was good, we had nice conversations and a lot of laughs. Couldn't ask for more, right?? Well. After she left, I thought to myself \"fuck, it's gonna suck not being near her\". Now I'd have to wait for a month or two to see her again. The biggest problem for me is that my feelings towards her have now grown even after we met and shared a lot of intimate moments. I fear it will only worsen as time goes on and we're apart during that time. She left my place this past sunday, so it's still fresh in my mind and I keep thinking about it and how it will, most likely, turn out. She's really into me and I feel so pressured. If I were to break up with her now, I would definitely hurt her really badly, but I don't want to break up with her. She's fun. She won't be my future soulmate, but I certainly enjoy being with her. \n\nI also am twenty two with this mentality towards girls and my relationships with them \"I want to get as much experience as I can so I don't fuck it all up with the one that's meant for me.\" meaning I should try and pursue other girls, but I really don't want to cheat, yet I feel like I will if I keep this up. Sorry this is such a rant.\n\nTl;dr am I the asshole for wanting to keep this girl with me while also pursuing other girls in my town? If I were to break up with her right now, I know I would ruin her and that's the last thing I want. Some time should pass and I want things to become less extreme. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 47, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 47}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}109{"id": "UALlEHqRzEEtRug5pFpqJQFyg7AWt6Di", "post_id": "b9wkih", "action": {"description": "not approaching my supervisor because he feels awkward around me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not approaching my supervisor because he feels awkward around me?", "text": "Here's the situation..... This coming summer I'll be working at this company part-time for 2 years. Initially, there are 3 of us in our department. One ended up leaving a year later, and the other was let go. Since I work part-time with varying schedules, I never really needed to talk to the supervisor for tasks. I come in and ask my co-workers what's going on and what tasks must be completed.\n\n  \nWell since they are both gone, I wasn't properly trained and pretty much figured out how to do the job as I go day-by-day, considering I only work a handful of hours a week/day. I approached the supervisor once with a question and he said he'll teach me how to solve the issue once he's done with something. He never did. And this was like several months ago. Apparently, there's more work that needs to be done as my job description but he NEVER comes up to me or bothers training me. \n\nI figured he doesn't hate me or my job performance because if he did, I would have been fired. When I run into him in the hallway, he's polite and respectful. However, he's not really vocal about what things must be done, nor has he hired anyone else to help me within my department. It's not a difficult job, despite me picking up a few more responsibilities but considering I work less than 15 hours a week at most, I do believe someone should be there who can commit to more hours to be able to handle customer inquiries, etc. in a timely manner.\n\n​\n\nI basically feel like I'm doing whatever I want at my job at my own pace without supervision. I've been alone in my department now for 9 months and he has not approached me at all. AITA for letting this go on for so long? Is it my job to come up/confront him about the situation? I don't want to make him feel nervous/awkward, even though I am nice and make myself approachable. \n\n​\n\ntl;dr - Boss doesn't talk to me because he's nervous/awkward around me.\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}110{"id": "IPHMDaF94JzbEUXWEPJuXHAlLnBgZXIJ", "post_id": "atb27s", "action": {"description": "sleeping with my brothers, girlfriends sister", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for sleeping with my brothers, girlfriends sister?", "text": "Essentially the title. My brother (23M) and his gf (21F) have been dating for about a year now. I recently went to a party with her sister and some friends. I knew my brother didn't care if we hooked up but his gf asked me not to. I told her I wouldn't try to in kind of a backwards way of answering her request. When we got there, we did some X and some other stuff and by the end of the night had hooked up. Neither of us are interested in anything serious, but she seems to still be interested in playing around. One of our friends told my brothers gf and now she's mad, but my brother doesn't care. When I asked her what the big deal was (not like we're related and they're not even married or engaged) she wouldn't answer me. She's not Christian and neither am I. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}111{"id": "23UIL8l0tpPR4SHGHJIrKEWSo2VHkIiO", "post_id": "b4bshb", "action": null, "title": "AITA in this situation?", "text": "So today at my school in my science class where got done taking a quiz. The dude I sit next to who I will call M was talking to some other kids. The teacher told M that he wasn't allowed to talk for the rest of class. Me and M are kind of friends so I started messing with him. I was saying dumb stuff like, \"I heard you where gay. Is that true.\" He would then hurt me (like flicking me or gripping the back of my neck) and push me across the room on my chair. (The chairs had wheels) After a few times of him pushing me he then opened up his computer. He wrote \" (my name) you are a fag. You will never get a girlfriend and no one will ever love you. You're worthless.\" He hit me with a low blow since I have a bad self image of myself and I think I wilp never get a girlfriend. I never even dated a girl. I then said, \"I heard your girlfriend friend was going to break up with you.\" He then got up out of his chair and started screaming at me. He was saying to never talk about his girlfriend again. After he calmed down I wrote on my computer, \"we both hit low blows on each other. Truce?\" He then got up again and started screaming at me. The teacher kept us after class and had us apologize to each other. So was I the asshole in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}112{"id": "3tEEPIgQfSOIf1zTHwfOcSWbqsKgdbrf", "post_id": "9t91ug", "action": {"description": "talking back to my coach", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for talking back to my coach?", "text": "A bit of background before the main story- I am a sophmore in high school who runs cross country, one of the slowest kids in the entire group. I also have failing grades, little or no social life, and am very sensative when people yell at me. This is not the first time he has done this to me. Now, onto the main story. I was using the bike indoors, where one of the bikes was out of order. I was just touching it to see what was wrong with it, and then my coach yells to me: \"What's wrong with you! Can't you read the sign?!\" He said this in a very loud voice, and I am one of those people who don't enjoy getting yelled at, and am brought to near tears when yelled at. I replied with \"A lot of things.\" He told me to go home, that attitude wasn't wanted here. I left, headed to the locker room, thought about my life and its importance to the people around me, then left to go home. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}113{"id": "5ssHy7WTBfu4aKO8951Qlnd8gQM1QJdZ", "post_id": "a8uxc8", "action": {"description": "getting upset with my girlfriend for being friends with her Ex-hookups", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting upset with my girlfriend for being friends with her Ex-hookups?", "text": "My girlfriend regularly goes out, and so do I. She is very social, and kind, but she flirts and talks with her ex hookups regularly & actively when I\u2019m around and not around. She loves calling them her \u2018friends\u2019 and even recently let one of her guy \u2018friends\u2019 move in as a roommate, she keeps telling me not to get worried, she\u2019s committed to me, etc, but am I an asshole for being concerned?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}114{"id": "t7iDt67Vw5BeoMtHoVORwK6QoOao08ej", "post_id": "apamk0", "action": {"description": "looking up my (ex) girlfriends activities online and confronting her about it", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for looking up my (ex) girlfriends activities online and confronting her about it?", "text": "I know this is really long but I would REALLY value the feedback. If it's positive I'll feel better about myself, and if it's negative I'll at least be able to use it to try and learn from my mistake in the future, so please, read.\n\n​\n\nI'll try to explain things the best I can. I'm very emotional right now and it's definitely affecting how I'm thinking right now.\n\n​\n\nBackground: \n\nI got in a relationship with a girl I met online a little under a year ago. It's been pretty complicated. We never actually met, but that didn't stop me from becoming very attached to her. I had some trust issues and early on and ended up doing some snooping on her, I talked to her about it and we got in a fight and broke up but ended up getting back together later, it was rocky for a while but eventually we learned to get along and ended up making it work for a while. She's sick and has been for a long time. She ended up having to move in with her parents several months ago and our contact was strained during that time. We only talked a couple of times a week, she progressively got sicker and sicker over time but I stuck by her. Anything she needed I was there. I helped support her emotionally and financially. I really felt like I loved this girl. Eventually she even told me that once she got better she wanted us to live together, that she loves me more than I can possibly know for sticking by her side through the time she's been sick and waiting for her. My point here is that I felt very close to her and she felt very close to me. I've never felt so strongly about someone before. (I still believe everything she told me about her condition and I also have even spoken to her mother and her sister about it, I also believe that she did have feelings for me and even loved me). Onto the story.\n\n​\n\nNeither of us use social media very much, so I never cared before, but recently I had suggested that we be friends on Facebook so I could send her messages from my work computer, she agreed initially but then backed down saying that her family was uncomfortable with it since her last boyfriend had harassed her and her family after they broke up. So she told me that she was going to hold off on it and I said that I understood. \n\n​\n\nHonestly though, this dealt a huge blow to my trust, I felt like she was trying to hide something from me. I'm not going to go into huge amounts of details, but ended up finding her LoL account info and looked up her match history. I found games dating months back, she was queuing with her friends nearly every day. Days that she said she was too sick to talk, days she said she was even in the hospital. This led me to believe that she was on alternate profiles, or marking herself offline on discord and the like, so she could sneak around behind my back and do stuff with her friends, and not have to do stuff with me. (She did this before when we were fighting, but I didn't think she'd do it when we were getting along fine).\n\n​\n\nI called her today and confronted her on this. I did my best to maintain a level head, and gave her the opportunity to be honest with me first, and I told her that if she was honest with me that I was completely willing to forget about it. She flipped out at me and said that it wasn't her that she was letting a friend use her account. She told me I was a psycho for doing this again and that she was done and never to contact her again or she would \"fuck my life up\".\n\n​\n\nBut here's why I feel even worse about it:\n\n​\n\nWe got into a conversation just a few days ago about us and we both reaffirmed to each other that we wanted to be together and that we loved eachother. She promised to be more proactive in contacting me and such. She followed through on this and for the past few days she was indeed talking to me more. Just this morning she called me just to wish me a good morning, and to tell me she loved me. That's when I brought up what I found.\n\n​\n\nAITA for snooping on her? Was it wrong of me to go seeking out her history? I feel like I shouldn't have ever brought it up, I feel awful like I've thrown away a year of hard work for nothing...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}115{"id": "IDwmWRpAkMENWIN6UtFQeWWhFxjC7IZw", "post_id": "alu53s", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend because she's too 'clingy'", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend because she's too 'clingy'?", "text": "Before I get on with the story I want to point out that I have BPD, generalized anxiety disorder, and depression. This makes my emotions switch on a dime and causes me to see through something called \"black and white\" vision (basically I can go from hating someone to adoring them for no apparent reason).\n\nSo I've never really dated anyone mostly because I'm a flaming homosexual and the only people attracted to me are guys. A few months ago one of my friends openly stated she had a crush on me. This kind of shocked me because I had a but of a crush on her as well, but she had a boyfriend. \n\nWe had talked a bit and a few days later I told her that I get really anxious and a relationship wouldnt be good for either of us mentally. (She has depression aswell) Besides, I didnt want her to cheat on her boyfriend. \n\nShe said that she understood and I thought we would go back to being friends. I was wrong. Whenever I'd go get lunch and sit with a few of my friends she would get really affectionate with me; aka hold my hand, hug me, etc. This would be fine but 1: we weren't dating and 2: touching me made me really uncomfortable.\n\nI didn't say anything but I didnt really share the affections. That night she texted me, asking if I was mad at her. I had explained that I wasnt mad but just got really anxious when people touch me. I also went on a long tangent about how we shouldn't date because my BPD makes it extremly difficult for both people in the relationship. She seemed understanding so I thought that was it.\n\nA few days after I was in a very bad place mentally and it showed. She talked with me and made me feel a lot better, which in turn led me to get clingy that day. I wanted to hold her and hug her, even if that was very odd for me. I needed someone to hug that day, and she was that person. I guess she assumed that was the normal and for the next few weeks tried holding and kissing me. I was visibly anxious once again and told her that it made me uncomfortable. \n\nShe took this as anger and ended up avoiding me for the next week because she thought I was mad at her. This was not true and I had confronted her about it. After this things went back to normal, and by normal it meant she was clingy and close to me again. \n\nNow I knew she had her own problems and I really didn't want to cause things to go worse for her. This meant I let her hold me close no matter how uncomfortable it made me. I wanted to help her and by avoiding her efforts it obviously affected her negativly.\n\nThis went on for a while and I kind of let it happen. It took its toll on me, getting me into a worse state by the day. The only time I drew the line was when she invited me to her house for a dinner the very day. I got anxious at the thought and frantically made any excuse I could. She told me how important it was to her and I told that I couldn't. This led to a mini fight and she ghosted me for a week. Again she thought I was mad at her and had again explained that situations made me very anxious and could send me into a very bad panic attack.\n\nAgain things back to normal. Up until I had snapped. I got upset and told her to please stop touching me and to stop getting upset after I dont answer her constant calls or texted. I got mad because she wouldnt listen to me and we technically broke up. She was really hurt by that, and avoided me. I had come back to re-breakup, but being much more polite about it. I told her that it just wouldn't work, and continuing a relationship would only hurt us both. I apologized for earlier but said I still didnt want a relationship.\n\nAm I an asshole for breaking it off with her?\n\nTLDR: My mental illnesses make relationships very hard. Girl tries to date me anyway even though I am openly uncomfortable. After not listening to my requests I decide to break up with her. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}116{"id": "bGpSk63znoj3NRkjiwOHgmwma7dT32Pv", "post_id": "b49ozu", "action": {"description": "pointing out her hypocrisy", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for pointing out her hypocrisy?", "text": "My girlfriend is very strong willed.  She\u2019s quick to call out bullshit when she sees it.  It\u2019s fun being with her when she\u2019s in terminator mode.  If and it\u2019s a big if I\u2019m not the focus of her wraith.  \n\n\nThere are sometimes that she really pisses  me off.  Not so much that she goes off, but that she\u2019s kind of a hypocrite about it.  She calls my friends and I \u201cfrat bros\u201d even though none of us have ever been in a frat.  She says we\u2019re toxic when we\u2019re together as a group.  Disrespectful and harassing.  Harassing as in one of my friends will dare try to talk to a girl in a bar.  She also overheard us playing fuck,marry,kill once and lost her freaking mind over it.  \n\nShe\u2019s no treat whenever she\u2019s around her friends.  The are the catiest group of girls I\u2019ve ever been around.  I\u2019m not a very sensitive person, but even I\u2019ve felt bad about some of the shit they will talk.  There\u2019s this gay bar that they go to so they don\u2019t have to deal with guys hitting on them.  Sometimes I\u2019ll play DD for her.  One time I went in there and they had completely taken over the middle of the glowing dance floor thing.   There were a few guys who were able to dance on the very edge of it, they were taking up almost all the space on it.  I\u2019ve also seen one of them grab someone\u2019s crotch as we were leaving and they just laughed about it. \n\nShe also helps her self to anything in my fridge when we\u2019re here.  Doesn\u2019t ask, just takes.  I didn\u2019t mind, I just assumed that that was the kind of relationship we had after that though.  When I was over at her\u2019s though I went to check out what she had and there was this taco dip thing she had in a big pan.  It looked really good so I start putting some on a plate when she comes out.  She got irritated about it saying she was trying to make it last and actually made me scoop it back off the plate into the pan. \n\nThere\u2019s been other minor things.  The only other one probably worth mentioning is that she shit talks her one friend who doesn\u2019t work and lives with her boyfriend supporting her.   She\u2019s said that she would never allow herself to live like that.  Relying on a partner for everything.  Literally besides our first date, she\u2019s never even offered to go 50/50.  \n\nThis all probably sounds harsh.  She\u2019s a lot more than these examples and I get excited every time I\u2019m about to see her.   The hypocrisy has been rubbing me the wrong way for a while though and it\u2019s not something I\u2019ve been able to push out of my head or just ignore.  Like I said at the top, she calls out bullshit where ever she sees it.  I want to take a page out her book. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}117{"id": "2RNY6daFbQtN97ACckOVV2qXJRokDC9x", "post_id": "awzpwk", "action": {"description": "going to a store without my friend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for going to a store without my friend", "text": "I'm best friends with someone who shares an interest in the metaphysical with me. About a month ago she found a store that sells all sorts of metaphysical things and brought me there. She is only able to leave the house about once a week, and thats when we go to this store. \n\nThis week she couldn't go, so I decided to bring one of my other friends instead, who doesn't really get along with my friend. I told her I was going and she got upset, she said it was our thing, that this other friend doesn't even like that kind of stuff & I'm showing someone she doesn't like her thing. She said it was shitty that I couldn't just wait until we could do it together since I wouldn't have known about it in the first place if it weren't for her. \n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}118{"id": "p0QWNZIOvNr7vQK8MhynXvBTImknsB8f", "post_id": "azibdb", "action": {"description": "making trash mountains", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for making trash mountains?", "text": "My husband recently moved in with me, now that he has a job in my city. Before then, he would visit me on weekends. He has brought trash mountains to my attention before, but I just kept forgetting. The way I take the trash out is I try to pile up as much as I can in one can so that I can just dump the entire thing out when it's time. If stuff keeps falling I'll put them in another bag. I know this seems lazy, but I am a very busy doctoral student. I am rarely (if ever) home; I am usually always in my office. When it's time to clean and stuff, my husband usually always helps by taking out the trash, dusting, and swiffering; sometimes he will wipe the counters and vacuum if I can't. Today he took out the trash and asked me again to not make trash mountains again, as it makes the trash harder to take out. He also asked me to flatten the Coke boxes before putting them in the trash can.\n\n​\n\nI feel those are reasonable requests, but I feel like a terrible person for having done all that... I feel like I made trash mountains and stuff because I'm terrible... AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}119{"id": "GpQBkCFWemXbLLXCnJH5srhYLZvVfZcw", "post_id": "as6hhl", "action": {"description": "not being ok with watching the kids on my ex-wife's week while she goes out with her former affair partner", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for not being ok with watching the kids on my ex-wife's week while she goes out with her former affair partner?", "text": "So to make the relationship backstory short my ex-wife had a >1 year affair and divorced me because she wasn't happy and wanted to be with him. After a lot of on again off again stuff its final that she has chosen to be in a relationship with the affair partner. Per our custody arrangement we have 50/50 split custody (one week on, one week off) of our two girls aged 5 and 7. We are currently living together and co-parenting until my ex-wife can afford to move out.\n\nMy ex-wife has a friend, let's call her Mary, who has cancer and lives close to my ex-wife's work and with whom she stays most nights when it's my week to watch the girls. Not too long ago I found out that she had lied to me about staying with Mary when she was really spending the night with the affair partner. It is currently her week to watch the kids and tonight she asked me if I was okay with taking care of the girls overnight so she could stay with Mary. I told her that if she was actually staying with Mary I was fine with it. She asked me what I meant and I told her that I was not okay with doing a favor for her that directly benefited the guy she had cheated on me with and who I obviously hate. She stated that it shouldn't matter who she was staying with if I'm okay with watching them for her to stay with Mary then I should be fine with watching them for whatever reason and that I was being controlling. I think there's a big difference and told her that putting conditions on a favor is not controlling since the other option is just a straight no.  \n\nI've been pretty messed up by everything that's gone down and don't have a ton of people who I can ask for advice, so reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}120{"id": "ytsQuyEJYnEjVhoSyVvXpDmUwekWM0in", "post_id": "af2e0c", "action": {"description": "being fed up with a customer, and asking my manager to ban them from the store", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being fed up with a customer, and asking my manager to ban them from the store?", "text": "It's me again :>\n\n​\n\nI work at Starbucks, and have been working here for the past year now. I really do enjoy my job and I'm always happy when I get to work. I get along well with my co-workers, and many of our regular customers. Before I continue, I've worked in customer service for a few years now outside of SB and I am well aware that people are not always going to be pleasant. I'm usually well at diffusing situations and staying calm under pressure, which is part of the reason I'm pretty decent at my job. However, there's one customer who's a regular that I've been having issues with these past few months, and today was my breaking point and the worst interaction I've had with him.\n\n​\n\nHe always has the same order - tall, extra dry cappuccino with whole milk. I'm also convinced that he doesn't really know what a cappuccino is. No matter who is making his order, he always sends it back and says that something is wrong - the milk isn't foamy enough, it feels too heavy or too light, the espresso doesn't taste correct, there's not enough of something or it's too hot or too cold... literally any and every excuse in the book has been made, and every single time he makes someone remake his drink. Now, he's older than I am by a good amount of years - I never want to disrespect someone older than I or stick my nose up at difficult customers, so I usually just stay calm and ignore it. I'm used to it and let things like that go. Starbucks is overpriced and inexpensive, I totally get it. But he comes in at least 5 to 6 times a week, so how can it possibly be made incorrectly every time, when we make cappuccinos at least 30 times a day?\n\n​\n\n(Side note: He has caused problems with my co-workers before as well. One of my co-workers in particular simply refuses to serve him. She sees him come in, and has to go in the back and wait until he leaves. This is because he blew up at her and asked her why she couldn't do something so simple, and that she needed to be re-trained, and some other pretty harsh stuff. Not to mention, he also swiped a few dollars from our tip jar. This story is actually pretty funny, but another time. Anyway, I wasn't working there yet when this took place; this is just what I have been told. This had already caused him to get a store ban for 6 months.)\n\n​\n\nThis morning we were completely slammed. The line wrapped almost all the way around the store and we had at least 15-20 orders pending, with 4-6 drinks being made. currently We can typically only make 2 or 3 drinks at a time for each of us (usually two baristas make drinks - this isn't necessarily important, just helps more with the situation). Cappuccino Man leans over and asks me how long it will take to get his drink. I eyeball the very long line of orders, and tell him 15 minutes at the most. Most drinks are made in less than 45 seconds to a minute, depending on complexity. He gets visibly annoyed once I tell him this, and asks if I can \"just make his drink now so he can leave\". I apologize and tell him I cannot do that, as we have to do our drinks in order and it just wouldn't be fair to other customers. One thing that can be annoying is when people see how incredibly busy we are and then get upset when it takes longer than 3 minutes to complete an order, but I digress. He doesn't say anything in response, and just steps back and continues watching me and my co-worker make drinks.\n\n​\n\nFinally, I get to his drink. Before I can even start preparing his order, he calls over to my other co-worker that's making drinks, and says to him: \"Hey, can you make my drink instead? I don't have time to wait on her.\", while pointing at me. Immediately, I got annoyed. But, I just handed over the order to my co-worker and kept it moving. I make two other drinks, and just as I'm starting to calm down, I'm called over by Cappuccino Man. Since he had already annoyed me a bit, I didn't want to be dramatic and start anything, but I knew he was going to ask me to remake it. I decided I would question him on what exactly happened instead of just bending over backwards again, to hopefully make some kind of change. Food/customer service workers are still just people, man.\n\n​\n\nOf course, he claimed it tasted \"off\". I pushed a bit and asked what was wrong, even re-reading through his order to \"make sure\" it was what he had ordered. He said the thought the problem was with the milk's density. I asked, is it too much or too less foam? He said he couldn't really put his finger on it, and asked me to remake it. I said I would make it again, but I wouldn't know what to change if I didn't know what was wrong, so it would be pointless. To be fair, we do ask what needs to be changed or what seems to taste incorrectly when we remake drinks so we're not playing a guessing game and wasting product. Then, he asked if my manager was there and that he would like to speak to him. I grab my manager and they talk for a few minutes, so I see this as an opportunity to sit in the back for a second to calm down. \n\n​\n\nCappuccino Man leaves, but not before speaking to another customer, who I'm assuming he knows personally, saying \"oh, don't let the girl in the blue hat make your drink\" loud enough for me to hear over espresso machines running and milk steaming, which isn't exactly quiet. It was so completely embarrassing, especially with all of these people in the store and in front of my boss. I wanted to cry, honestly. My manager comes in the back and talks to me, asking why I didn't just remake his drink. I explain how I felt and apologised, but also stood up for myself. I told him I can handle a lot of things, but he was agitating me and I know I'm not incompetent.  I asked if it was possible to report and/or ban him, and I know I'm not the only employee who felt this way. However, Boss Man didn't really care for my side of the story. \"He's a regular, we can't lose customers, he has no reason to be banned, you need to not be so aggressive, this is grounds for a write-up\" etc. I understand that I have to have that \"the customer is always right\" attitude, and I can't put someone on blast for wanting a remade drink. He may not be purposefully trying to be difficult.\n\n​\n\nI've gotten mixed responses on how I should or shouldn't have handled it from friends and family, how I was being unprofessional or how my actions were justified, but I can't help feeling bad for acting that way towards someone older than myself, and to a customer at the very least. Did I fuck up? Was this really necessary?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}121{"id": "b9mrHUV3GlQMTi9NyJ8IMUchbkCWynkT", "post_id": "b16grk", "action": {"description": "confronting a close friend of mine about me being the one who always initiates contact", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for confronting a close friend of mine about me being the one who always initiates contact?", "text": "I really like this girl. I've been really close with her and we've been talking almost every evening on the phone for hours. She was talking to a few people like my best friend and a few friends of hers too, but I don't really care about that... why should I?\nAt some point in time, I noticed that I was always texting first and calling her, so I stopped calling her to find out if she would call me on her own. She didn't call me for two weeks, but she was talking to my best friend a few times on the phone. Strangely, on the day he went on vacation with his family and couldn't talk to her she suddenly called. I was really happy, but also a little confused.\nA few weeks later I confronted her about me being the one who always initiates contact and stuff like that and she got really defensive and tried to switch up what I said to make me look like the bad guy. \nThis was always just a stupid back and forth and she was just getting annoyed at me, even though I was just asking myself if it was even worth it to try to talk to her. Today I kinda argued with her via texts about me not trying to lose her, because she's really really important to me. She ignores my messages almost every time I text her about how I feel and if I say I just want to know what's up and that I don't want to be ignored she says that she just doesn't see the need to justify herself and answer every little text I send her.\n I was really straight with her after that. I told her that she's really important to me and that I don't want to lose her, but I also feel like she doesn't want to talk to me and that I think it's just me running after her at this point. She's ignoring me again. Am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}122{"id": "wtI4UBpJpGGOcbFff1aBD3suh1SSarzc", "post_id": "aq0id9", "action": {"description": "not helping my mother take care of her horses", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not helping my mother take care of her horses?", "text": "**Cast of characters:**\n\n**Me**: 18/m senior in high school who attends an online school and also works from home\n\n**Mother**: My mother, whose house I live in (I mean, my parents are married, so I guess it's also my dad's house)\n\n​\n\n**Background:**\n\nSo, we are your average middle class American family, except for the fact that my mom has two horses, and our whole life seems to resolve around them. Now, you may say, \"But elaboratenoodle! Horses are so expensive \u2014 you are very privileged!\" However, I can assure you that we are far from wealthy \u2014 the horses are our only \"splurge,\" and I don't enjoy or ever ride them. Because of the horses, my mother has disrupted our lives in a bunch of little ways, but the biggest issue was when she moved our whole family to a different county in order to buy a farm, which meant leaving all of my friends behind and moving to an area where the closest grocery store is almost half an hour away, and going to my office (which I only do once a week) takes almost an hour. But, the little things are just as bad \u2014 things like selling our beloved pop-up camper to buy a horse trailer. Now, as every pre-teen has inevitably been told, *owning horses is expensive*. And, yeah, it can be. However, the prices goes up significantly when the two perfectionists that are my parents decide to purchase *a farm*, a brand new truck, a tractor, and a horse trailer.\n\nMy parents are pretty smart, but all of these things are pretty financially taxing, and I know we're in a lot of debt. Now, don't get me wrong: I still have an amazing life, and my parents really do care about and love me and my siblings. They even helped me to buy my first car, and pay for my insurance. Still, I still am not happy about this horse scenario. Because we are in debt, I feel *really* guilty whenever they spend money on me at all \u2014 I've started paying for my own tuition, a lot of my own food, and I will occasionally secretly cover their grocery bills when I go shopping. But, it's taken a toll on our lives: we avoid making necessary repairs to our house and our cars, paying the taxes is always an ordeal, and we can't afford to go on any trips.\n\nNow, I understand that it's their money, and I appreciate everything that they do for me. But now, I'm preparing to go to college, and their income is high enough to prevent me from getting good financial aid, but because they spend it so foolishly, they can't afford to even help me a little, like paying for my books or helping me out with the cost of housing. And I know that I don't deserve any of their money, but I am still not thrilled about the prospect of owing \\~$100,000 for college (and no, I am not going to community college; the closest \"community\" college is farther away than several four-year universities).\n\n​\n\n**The Situation:**\n\nSo, as you can tell, I am not super thrilled about the horses, and they've been a lot of trouble from my perspective. But, they are really something she enjoys, and a way for her to connect with my sister. Okay, great. But, one challenge is that my sister chose to attend a brick and mortar school, meaning that only myself and my mother are home during the day. Because of this, my mom often tries to guilt me into helping her with the \"daily chores,\" which include obsessively cleaning up after her horses, as well as brushing them, feeding them, and occasionally riding them.\n\nUnfortunately, I am very busy at all times: I have an intense course load (trust me, it's not the type of online school you're thinking of), in addition to a bunch of extracurriculars, as well as my responsibilities as my company's only web developer / IT specialist / technical support representative. I have a crazy life, but I am very lonely and depressed, which isn't great when combined with a huge workload. I am awake and working from about 8:00 AM to 2:00 AM, I have no local friends outside of work (and all of those people are a lot older than me), and the only time I get out of the house is when I go to the office or go skiing with my dad (we got really cheap season passes for which I had to pay most of the price). My mom, however doesn't really have time for this either, as she also works, in addition to having to take care of the house during the day, but I really don't think it's fair for me to expect me to add even more chaos to my life for these stupid animals \u2014 chaos that leaves me covered in filth for the rest of my day. I feel guilty for leaving her so much work, but I really do not need more stress in my life right now. AITA?\n\n​\n\nTL;DR: My mother has thrown our lives into chaos because of her horses, and I don't want to help take care of them.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}123{"id": "9Bwy1IW5ttZCX1tV3QRP3Mowx8e9CepO", "post_id": "axondu", "action": {"description": "asking my twin sister for asking why she never wished me a happy birthday, a week after our actual birthday", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for asking my twin sister for asking why she never wished me a happy birthday, a week after our actual birthday?", "text": "So on Monday, February 25, my twin sister and I turned 20 years old. \n\nWe are both in college, although she lives on campus at hers, which is about two hours away. I commute to my school because it\u2019s only fifteen minutes from home. We always _at least_ text each other a \u201chappy birthday\u201d each year. \n\nThis year, I went around the house collecting some baby pictures of her and I (and two of them included our older brother). I then made a collage of them and made a post to her on Facebook to wish her a happy birthday. \n\n\n So this passed Monday, around 11 PM I was just scrolling through my texts to clear up space on my phone and saw she hadn\u2019t texted me in awhile. Then I saw it was the same on Facebook and such. My heart just kind of... broke. I don\u2019t know. I know this all sounds very petty, but it did. So I texted her saying, \u201cSo like you never wished me happy birthday... what\u2019s that all about?\u201d\n\nHer response was this: \u201c? I could ask the same of you??\u201d\n\nI\u2019ll show the rest of the conversation, her replies will be marked by the letter \u201cH\u201d. \n\nMe: \u201cI did. I sent you a whole collage and then sent you a Jake [one of our dogs]pic on messenger. I went around the house for baby pics cuz 20 is the end of teens and all you know?\u201d\n\nH: \u201cI just happen to have randomly woken up rn but I don\u2019t know why you\u2019re up right now and I feel like you just want to start a fight or create a problem so I\u2019m going back to sleep as should you and you have found something to be angry about that you had a week to mention.\u201d\n\nMe: \u201cI\u2019m not angry and I can see why it can be misinterpreted as angry cuz I was just sending multiple texts but the multiple texts was to clarify when I had said happy birthday. And when I asked about why you didn\u2019t say it it\u2019s cuz I just felt weird about it that\u2019s all.\u201d\n\nH: \u201cI don\u2019t necessarily think you\u2019re angry I just think that you have made something an issue just to have an issue because it\u2019s late and the issue doesn\u2019t really exist and you\u2019re just making up a reason to be resentful.\u201d\n\nMe: \u201cIt\u2019s just hurtful I guess. It just showed I wasn\u2019t on your mind enough to text a quick \u201chbd\u201d at the very least is all I\u2019m trying to say.\u201d\n\nHer: \u201cIf it is so hurtful I don\u2019t understand why you are mentioning it a week later that seems unfair.\u201d\n\nMe: \u201c I\u2019m mentioning it a week later because I was hoping you would still end up sending something out eventually. But yeah sorry for being unfair I guess and it is late, I\u2019ll go to bed.\u201d\n\nHer: \u201cWhatever.\u201d\n\nSo AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}124{"id": "ms4U2ZaVr5UYIdpvwZqvJbJyq5Hp96Xq", "post_id": "b93ble", "action": {"description": "filing a police report against my bro's homeless dad for identity theft", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I file a police report against my bro's homeless dad for identity theft?", "text": "(18M) Let me start off by saying I don't like the guy but this isn't about my personal feelings for him. This is more because my little brother (12y/o) adores him, my brother is fantastic at basketball and his dad's a great coach for him and even though I don't get sports I think he genuinely has a future in it, he just got invited to his first national tournament. Okay now that the background is out of the way here's the situation.\n\nSo about 3 months ago I got a letter from the local power company saying that I was 1,000 dollars in debt to them from 2013, but here's the thing I was 13 at the time. So I called them to figure out what happened and once they told me the street address I immediately recognized it belonged to my old step dad. Obviously I was furious, so I talked to my mom about it to make sure she didn't give him permission to do anything like this, because he's a great manipulator and that was about the time they were thinking of getting back together (they didn't) and she assured that she would never let something like that happen and she was just finding out about it as well\n\nMy mom called him and told him to either pay the debt or have it put back into his name. But the problem with that is he's currently living out of a tent in a friend's backyard so I know for a fact he won't be able to pay it but once it's out out of my name it's not my problem. He tells her that he'll do it and I thought that was that\n\nYesterday I call the power company so I can make sure that this won't affect my credit or anything because I have no idea how that works and it's better to be safe than sorry seeing as how I'm planning on moving out in the next couple of months. So after asking her to check my name in their system the lady asks me \"How would you like to pay your debt?\" and  I was LIVID (obviously I didn't take this out on her shes just doing her job) and I explained that I was minor at the time and she transfers me over to the debt collectors agency and after explaining that I was minor to a 2nd woman she helps me file a letter of dispute. But then she tells me that the power company may require me to file a police report and name anyone who I might think is a suspect if I want this to be taken out of my name.\n\nIt's hard because when I was his exact age my dad started drinking heavily and fell out of my life and that was hard one me. I don't want my little brother to go through that too, seeing as how this is punishable by up to 5 years in prison where we live. We're also super close, the kid is genuinely one of my best friends and I don't want him to resent me even if his dad doesn't end up getting jail time. Obviously he knows nothing about any of this and I'd like to keep it that way but if I have to file a police report he's eventually going to find out.\n \nSo if I file this police report WIBTA?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}125{"id": "pH0a4F77kX0iQlGGJoFoAadtvcAqQ83I", "post_id": "9tnapa", "action": {"description": "starting getting angry at my boyfriend when he plays games for too long", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA if I start getting angry at my boyfriend when he plays games for too long?", "text": "I don\u2019t mind him playing games but when he plays for 2-3 hours I ask him to finish up or stop playing. Sometimes he refuses and gets angry at me or stop and is a little bitter about it, and of cause I get angry too...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}126{"id": "FckmBIxa30KOSDNIlnQxM5Rb7ZHsDReG", "post_id": "b33p5x", "action": {"description": "not wanting a foster brother", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting a foster brother", "text": "Ok, I know I seem like a bitch, but hear me out.\n\n​\n\nI'm an orthodox Jew, and I live in a predominantly Orthodox Jewish neighborhood. One of the kids in this neighborhood was just taken out of his home, and needs a foster family for 6 months. \n\n​\n\nI'm a 13 year old boy, and I grew up with 3 older brothers. They all were reclusive to me, but they're amazing people and I love them. This kid, though, is a mess. Drinks excessively to the point of danger, drives drunk, smokes pot, comes home at 3AM on saturday nights, aggressive to his younger sister (she tattled on him about the pot), and so on.\n\n​\n\nI know it's a product of his home, but I really don't want to have to live with this person for 6 months. It's not really my choice, but AITA for not wanting him near me for half a year?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}127{"id": "DIOfkInr35NFKabTht3m7Xu66tgQ04Bg", "post_id": "aw0ghf", "action": {"description": "thinking showing pubes in public is against general social etiquette", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for thinking showing pubes in public is against general social etiquette?", "text": "I made a comment on another post here basically assuming that it\u2019s impolite to show pubes in a public area but I got downvoted quite a bit and everyone told me that in fact it is socially acceptable.  Am I wrong or am I the asshole for saying people should cover their pubes/pubic region in public?  I seriously want to know the answer to this so I can adjust my viewpoint accordingly.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}128{"id": "Zgt9kQ7LeO3EiONMgMbwaFhj4MdiZPwV", "post_id": "b9w575", "action": {"description": "eating a one night stands leftovers", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for eating a one night stands leftovers?", "text": "Simple story. Tinder date ended up coming over to my place after a coffee date and afternoon delight turned into a night of wine and snuggles. We had some food delivered at 2am to fill those late night cravings, and didnt finish her meal(which, and not like this matters ultimately, i paid for) \n\nIn the morning before work i grabbed the rest of her samewhich and gobbled that shit like a freshly cleaned vacuum. She texted me later and said that it was rude to do so, which tbh felt a bit strange to me. \n\nThat girl was nice and all but shit i was hungry and our late night anttics didnt leave me time to make breakfast.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}129{"id": "5Q8CjLPlV0GIQk7UvUwFY2xfD9RlGTfp", "post_id": "aibno7", "action": {"description": "stiring up shit with an acquaintance and his girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for stiring up shit with an acquaintance and his girlfriend?", "text": "I had a bit of a crush on my roommate's sister, who was in a happy committed relationship but who I feel was pretty flirty with me. So I stopped hanging out with her.\n\nI found out that her boyfriend might have been involved in a high-profile rape case, a pretty major thing. So I looked into it a bit, it looked like a case of mistaken identity, and that the actual person involved was his cousin or brother or something. They just had similar names. This is all based on an internet witch hunt, and those are not very accurate anyway. I knew that the witch hunt did target him though.\n\nI discovered that his cousin/brother/whatever was in junior high during the events of the rape case, and it looks like everyone else involved was in highschool, so I kept looking into it. Eventually I found out through a different source that one of his friends was involved in \"revenge porn\". Even if he wasn't the one involved in the rape case  directly, the fact that he's hanging out with people like that after  going through that witch hunt, after he saw that kind of revenge porn ruin someone's life. Well that's a huge red flag, and I couldn't keep  setting on it.\n\nThe problem is that it's all conjecture. I couldn't get any details of the \"revenge porn\" without pushing someone harder than I wanted to, and while it certainly looks like he was one of the rapists, the fact is that I'm basing that judgment off of a witch hunt. A witch hunt that got 2 people convicted (to probation, it was described in the news as a miscarriage of justice), but a witch hunt none the less.\n\nSo I let his girlfriend know what was going on. The guy phones me, understandably angry, and talks to me a bunch of facebook. After talking to him, I only feel more confident that he was involved. But I also have an obvious bias against the guy.\n\nIt really wasn't my place to get involved, especially where I had a crush on her, and I created a bunch of drama for what could have been no reasons. I feel like machiavellian asshole who got the two of them broken up for my own selfish reasons, and while under normal circumstances I would have pursued her I feel like if I did that in the future it would just be proving to myself how much of an asshole I am.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}130{"id": "zm9nOhdlDy9EwCBP4Q2u3UZQjaN63KsH", "post_id": "a85k27", "action": {"description": "not tolerating friends dogs", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA because I wont tolerate friends dogs", "text": "AITA when I ask my friend to control his dogs when I bring my toddler over? Let me explain.\n\nMy close friend got married to a dog lover. They have 2 weimaraners and they are absolutely insane. They've had then for about 2 years and they both stay inside always. They do not listen, they bark incessantly, and they will jump all over you and scratch the shit out of you with their claws and gnaw at your hands with their mouths. What angers me the most is the wife always makes up some kind of excuse for their behavior.\n\n\"Oh they're just excited\"\n\"She's just showing affection\"\n\"I would never put my dogs outside, you wouldn't put your kids outside would you?\"\n\nI get it. People love dogs and cats and I'm on the other side of that spectrum. I can tolerate and enjoy dogs but their not my thing.\n\nSo here's whats got me a frustrated.\n\nI recently gave my friend, J, his christmas gift. I gave him my deceased brothers Xbox One. My brother passed a couple years ago and I kept his xbox but it stayed in my basement collecting dust and since I have a ps4 I never really used it and it didnt seem fair to let it sit there. So I decided a month ago since me and J were getting along so well that he should receive it because he only has a xbox 360. \n\nSo we were texting tonight and he suggested i come over and bring my 4 year old daughter. Last time I brought her those dogs cornered her and scratched her legs with their paws. So I texted him and asked if he could rein his dogs in since my daughter didnt like being scratched(more like I'll kill a dog if they hurt her). His response was, 'I cant do anything about that.'   ....I'm trying to be a reasonable person but wtf man? Cant keep your dogs in check?? Or put them in the other room for a small amount of time? \n\nSo I say cmon man im just protecting my kid from scratches. He asks, 'What do you want me to do?'\n\nAt this point I'm hurt and fucking angry. I can feel my blood pumping over a stupidass text convo. I tell him I just dont want her scratched and all I get is 'i cant help that.' So I just tell him I'll come over when I'm not watching my daughter one day and thats the end of the conversation. \n\nAt this point I'm ready to say fuck it. I have had the shittiest day and I'm confused as to whether I'm not being reasonable and this is why I wrote this. Maybe the internet can clarify. Sorry for the format this is all on my phone so thanks for reading.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}131{"id": "oVlga29if15hDR1gqytHGfXtN3mwjHvE", "post_id": "azmw3c", "action": {"description": "getting angry at my friend for complaining", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting angry at my friend for complaining?", "text": "(Mobile, sorry. Throwaway because friend knows my main) \n\nAs baity as this title may sound, I did not tell my friend how i felt. I feel like I might though, since it\u2019s not going to stop anytime soon. \n\nWe were having dinner at my friend\u2019s house. We were having a chat with another friend and out came the subject of money problems. \n\nAs a background, My family is not in a \u201cgood\u201d position monetarily. I split my bills with my brother and our mother lives alone. She works a lot and has nothing to her name. She\u2019s nearing 60 and not retiring any time soon. She refuses help from us.  My father is very poor, lives in another country and is very sick. I consider myself lucky that i can still get myself \u201cluxuries\u201d like my pet bird. \n\nShe complained that her father didn\u2019t work. (He lost his job) Her mother paid all the bills. (She lives with her parents). She was worried and complained that money was tight. Their window had to be replaced since it was getting old, the oven was old too. She was angry that because of her father they wouldn\u2019t be able to have their trip to europe as they wished, since they\u2019d have to pay for him.   \nShe also said that her parents were getting bored of their cottage house and they were thinking of building another one, but she complained that they didn\u2019t have enough money and would have to sell the old one. \nThe whole monologue was a very \u201cwoe is me\u201d vibe, and it made my heart sink.  \nI told her she was lucky to be able to worry about such things, and to feel grateful that she had such a nice life. \nShe kept complaining. \n\nThis happens rather often. I\u2019m getting pretty tired of hearing it. \nWIBTA if i told her how i felt? \n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}132{"id": "r4S7Ps6vQgKaKODrgS8LDF7A2mEVbFwP", "post_id": "b2477h", "action": {"description": "hating my Stepmom", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For hating my Stepmom?", "text": " \n\n( first post, fyi - happy birthday to me )\n\nBeforehand, let me apologize for the absolute word soup I'm throwing at you guys; it's hard for me to gather up my thoughts right now, so I'm just typing out memories and personal problems as they come back to me. I probably missed a few, too.\n\nFor some reason I just can't conjure up any positive feelings for her; I care about my stepmom and I know for a fact that she cares about me but almost everything she does seems to stress me out; nothing seems to be good enough for her when I clean the house with my sister, and she loses her temper incredibly easily with us. If we ever say anything that contradicts her, she raises her voice at us for arguing with her, and tells us that we never do anything she tells us to; that maybe she should just become harder on us if we're going to be like that. She just lashes out in anger and rarely tries to make up afterwards, even going as far as to say that it's our fault for pissing her off and being so uncooperative in the first place. And any perceived sign of disrespect (real or not) at all is immediately pointed out and I'm scolded for it. Recently, when I revealed that I feel safer talking with my biological mother (who has a history of drug abuse and is very financially unstable, on top of the fact that she use to stand us up during visitation. Still, I feel like I can talk to her and trust her more) , she launched into this huge, night-long lecture about how ungrateful I am for the work she puts into us, and how she loves us more than that woman ever could, and that if I wanted to be with our biological mom so badly then why don't we try and live with her. Any little thing can piss her off, and she launches into a lecture about how I need to have good grades so I don't end up in my parent's basement like my biological mom did, or worse. One time, she started to yell at my sister who was hyperventilating and obviously having an anxiety attack from already being chewed out for her grades. Occasionally, my stepmom changes up rules when they've always been a certain way, and pretends like it's always been like that. Because of her temper and different way of thinking, I never feel like I could share my inner thoughts around her; they always get targeted as some form of disrespect or they get shrugged off as childish. Both of my parents never seem to take me seriously, and treat me like I know nothing. My stepmom is also incredibly passive aggressive to everybody in the house; even my dad. I'm honestly just afraid of her; she never seems to be able to control her feelings and I can't relax while she's in the house because she'll probably find something to get stressed about.\n\nI'm not even a bad kid; I try my hardest in school and I really try to make my parents happy because I care about them. I used to love my stepmom but for some reason that feeling's just faded entirely into an urge to get the hell out of this house.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}133{"id": "ZLJkE0XEDE5OT6cY7jv33qFtzOW61Ujt", "post_id": "b7vrug", "action": {"description": "preventing my brother in law from getting a job", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "Wibta if I prevented my brother in law from getting a job?", "text": "So basically my whole family smokes weed. My mom, dad, stepmom, four brothers, and my two sisters. \nMy sister\u2019s fianc\u00e9 also smokes and my sister used to smoke until she got pregnant about 3 months ago. \nMy brother in law we\u2019ll call D, just lost his job and had to move back in with his dad with my pregnant sister who we\u2019ll call P.\nMy other sister (C) is married and has two kids with my brother in law (M). M works in the construction industry and has a very high position.\nM offered to put in a letter of recommendation for D, which basically cements him getting a job,  on the condition that he would pass the drug test.  \nThe way my sister explained it to me was that if M recommend him and he failed the test it would really risk his credibility and potentially affect his income. \nI\u2019m not sure if that\u2019s an over exaggeration. \nBut nonetheless today I was helping them move and I noticed he was already smoking when I got there. I also saw a little cleansing kit I\u2019m not sure what they\u2019re called. The things at smoke shops that\u2019s supposed to clean your pee for drug tests. \nWIBTA if I tell C about this? \n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}134{"id": "qXgX5NfNf3DtpVYjr0AyjwuXcZBDypMM", "post_id": "aspy14", "action": {"description": "negatively reacting to how my roommate handles food", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for negatively reacting to how my roommate handles food?", "text": "I've been living in an apartment with 3 of my friends from school since September. I really enjoy cooking, so I'd often treat the guys to a big meal once every 2 weeks or so where everyone would pitch in and I'd cook the main course. This was the norm for the fall, but now 2 of my roommates Aaron and Stan (fake names) are on a diet and prefer going out every week for an expensive cheat meal. I was happy that I didn't have to plan a week ahead, but also sad that I couldn't cook for anyone but myself anymore. This past week I go up to Aaron and Stan and ask to make them a cheat meal, and they agree on my idea for mac & cheese. I ask if I can make it a dinner party and invite some of my friends and they agree with that as well, making the total amount of people about 12.\n\n​\n\nAaron lets me know that he and Stan are more concerned about their meal and doesn't want to pay for everyone else's food. Understandable, since it was my idea to invite everyone. I ask him how much he thinks he and Stan will eat and he says 2lbs each. Using how much I've eaten in the past and how much Aaron and Stan will eat, I get what I think will enough pasta and cheese to satisfy everyone, which was about $50 worth and I get reimbursed by Aaron and Stan $10.\n\n​\n\nHere's where it gets weird. Aaron demands that he grate the cheese, not because he's especially good at it but because he missed his arm workout that day. I hand him the cheese and the grater and let him do whatever. Aaron takes the cheese and starts aggressively grating this cheese. Like, he's screaming and looks like he's trying to fist the plate into submission. After one poor, poor pound of cheese he moves onto the next one. I take the cheese and take a look at it before I dump it in the pot.\n\n​\n\nThere are few tiny, red specks in there.\n\nHe cut himself on the grater and is bleeding into the cheese.\n\n​\n\nAt this point I'm surprised and disgusted, but I didn't want to say anything because he's acting like a raving lunatic. Right before the first mac & cheese batch is done, the guests arrive. I finish the meal, toss on some breadcrumbs, and have all 12 dig in. Everyone's complimenting the meal, so I at least know that no one's poisoned from Aaron's lunacy. It took them about 15 minutes for all 12 guests to give up, with both pots less than half empty (Each pot had about 3lbs of food).\n\n​\n\nAt this point I'm pretty upset. I now have $50 worth of cheese and noodles that I don't know what to do with, except make mac & cheese for the next month. Aaron and Stan wildly overestimated the amount of food that they would eat, and let's not forget how Aaron BLED INTO THE FOOD. I've already seen the wrappers of the other cheese that I bought in the trash and everyone's avoiding each other. Am I the asshole for getting moody about my roommate's food habits, even though some have been the norm for months? Am I the asshole for willingly letting guests eat food with blood in it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}135{"id": "Ix02IJlPfAefeNHuQiVGZltWZtFq2JPT", "post_id": "aupia0", "action": {"description": "ripping my 3 year olds PreK a new one", "pronormative_score": 42, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA for Ripping my 3 year olds PreK a new one?", "text": "So. This happened almost 2 years ago. I have wondered for quite some time if I was right or wrong. \n\nKinda long, so I apologize. \n\nSo, we live in a small town, and wanted to really start socializing our son. We found a very highly rated pre-K program a couple towns over for him to start going 2 days a week, for 2.5 hrs at a time. We thought it would be a great introduction to school as well as let him get quality time in with kids his own age. They wouldnt let him go alone until he was 3, so we started him about 2 weeks prior, and we would hang out and wait in a separate part of the building. He did great. Loved it. We were all so pleased with how it was going. They have a giant monthly calendar as you walk into the building to let everyone know the daily activities. \n\nThe night of my sons 3rd birthday, we have a house fire. A mouse chewed into an outlet in the basement and fire spread through the hvac system as we slept. We awoke to smoke and fire alarms. I rushed to get our three children out, and my husband went to work putting the fire out with a hose. We were out of our home for nearly 6 months while repairs were being done. \n\nMy husband and I talked about it, and we just wanted to continue normal life for our kids. We had so much to do (we had no clothes, no food, nothing, insurance claims, bank calls...the list was endless). So 2 days later, we decided we would send him to school. He wanted to go, we just wanted their loves to stay as normal as possible as the world seemed so crazy at home. The night before taking him to school, I call the director and let her know what happened, and let them know my son would be there, as we are trying to keep life fun and happy. \n\nWhen I arrived, my plan was to drop him off, and stick close to ensure I'd be close if I needed to pick him up.  I ran in, met with his teacher and made certain she was aware of the situation, and then left. I did not take note of the calender, as I was off to try and buy clothes for a family of 5 to last a week. \n\nAbout an hour later I get a phone call....I needed to come get my son as he was freaking out because THEY DECIDED HE WAS READY TO GO THROUGH A FIRE DRILL, didnt warn him, and he was upset that his family didnt come out of the building. I was heated. I walked in and demanded who thought this was a good idea. The director. Why? Because he needs to get used to them.  Ffs. I lost my mind on her. Hes fucking 3. Just turned fucking 3. He doesnt have the mental capacity to understand this stuff. Admittedly,  I was harsh. But what really got me was, she said, \"well....it was on the calendar\". I asked her if everyone knew the situation, why did no one even mention to me when I dropped him off? No response. \n\nSo. Reddit. AITA for going off on my 3 year olds school. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 35, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 42, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}136{"id": "V9JrYq1rOHHpXAHxw4EYxrNwqPxWUkTF", "post_id": "b6nugf", "action": {"description": "offering my best friend money for a sexual favor", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "WIBTA if I offered my best friend money for a sexual favor", "text": "Context: My best friend (let's call him Jake, M, 22) and me (M, 22) have been friends for 7-8 years now. He helped me through very tough times and we're in a great relationship with each other now.\n\nEven when I told him a year ago that I have strong feelings for him, he was okay with it and didn't give me a hard time, but rather went \"ok\" with it and it became a casual topic pretty quick.. for him.\n\nI have strong desires towards him (which he knows about, but doesn't want to talk much about obviously), and my brain recently picked up the idea of asking him if I could give him a Bj (and give him a significant amount of money for that (relevant because his current job doesn't pay him much and made me think he'd be more inclined to accept)) \n\nMy question is: Would I be the asshole for asking him about this, potentially worsen our friendship? I'm very conflicted right now as it's obviously a very weird thing to ask (for me), but he never seemed to be bothered about even very private topics we discussed and forgets _everything really quick_.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}137{"id": "id5R6lCMKn3dA4LUAI1BDoT8oPCrYUeJ", "post_id": "b93y7v", "action": null, "title": "AITA ???", "text": "My ex (M22) and I (F20) recently got back together 2 weeks ago. Everything has been great... until last night. He has rarely had problems at home, his parents are very loving, understanding, and accept him for who he is. My parents however are very controlling and critical and it takes a large toll on me. My parents often threaten to kick me out because I don\u2019t often conform to their rules (since they have always been controlling, I sometimes rebel against them when I feel like they\u2019re being unfair) so my anxiety is through the roof at that point. (side note: I hadn\u2019t brought up any problems with my parents since we got back together).  My ex and I had plans to see each other but before we meet up I tell him what had just happened between my parents and I. He picks me up and he seems a little distant (not looking at me, straight faced, not talking or smiling), it may have been my anxiety but I start feeling like he doesn\u2019t want to be around me because of my negative situation. So I tell him how I felt in that moment \u201cI feel like you\u2019re being distant because you don\u2019t want to deal with my problems right now.\u201d I probably could have worded it better but he immediately started getting defensive and said \u201cIt\u2019s just like the same shit as before\u201d. He starts yelling at me saying that I don\u2019t appreciate anything he does, that just because i\u2019m going through stuff at home doesn\u2019t mean I should take it out on him, that i\u2019m this way because of my parents. I\u2019m sobbing at this point and I tell him he took what I said the wrong way, that I\u2019m just upset about my home life, and apologize, but he\u2019s angry now. I start having a panic attack because I feel like everyone I love is going against me/ doesn\u2019t accept me. He says he blew off all his other plans to \u201cbe there for me\u201d so i tell him to take me home. He lets me leave as i\u2019m crying without saying anything. I hated going back to my home environment now with another added problem. Was I in the wrong?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}138{"id": "cu90wxNQoAvmPEhKh1dAN01w04mqdCVy", "post_id": "b5jeb2", "action": null, "title": "AITA new guy wont let me cutt the line", "text": "My first time posting on Reddit but I have to know of I'm being unreasonable. Also I'm on a phone. I don't know why you need that info but everyone else says it. Anyway.\n\nI work at a tourist trap strip mall in a small leather shop.  A few years back a sushi place opened across the (fake) street and instantly became where I get my sodas. It's a 15 sec walk and  the soda is $1 even. The owner knew me and that My store was unlocked and unattended while I'm getting the soda so I am in an out. Including when he has a line. Yes it seems like a dick move but once again it's the reason I go there. I walk around the line place the $1 down and head back to work. \n\nSeveral years later. He hired a new guy... I'm not sure if he's just new or if he's making a point but he makes me wait in the line of people ordering food. Tourist that have never seen sushi before much less know what they want... Then he has to cash me out. Scan the soda... Tell me the total... Then I tell him I work there... Then I wait for a new total... Then I pay and have to wait for him to print out the receipt. \n\nSo I really cannot leave the store unattended that long so am I the asshole? Should I say something to the owner? Or should I just stop getting sodas there?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}139{"id": "lh2bKZBxr7d0ycxuvdk7Bs2YVWMKEj55", "post_id": "9xg445", "action": {"description": "directly telling my group of friends I don't want associate with them anymore and cut off contact", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for directly telling my group of friends I don't want associate with them anymore and cut off contact?", "text": "This is kind of a result of a previous thread I made here ([https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/9t3uz8/aita\\_for\\_asking\\_for\\_more\\_commitment\\_and\\_more/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/9t3uz8/aita_for_asking_for_more_commitment_and_more/)).  TL;DR of that post: I asked for more commitment for DnD sessions. I got  a hard no and my group is continuing to plan sessions ad hoc (last  sessions was at least 3/4 weeks ago fyi.) instead of on a (bi)weekly  basis.\n\nI am at a point where I want to  get more out of friendships and relationships in general than my current  group of friends are offering me. I am considering just telling them  that I don't want to be friends anymore and leave all group(chat)s we have.\n\nBecause we are 'officially' still friends there's still a chance we may be doing stuff together. This potential is in my opinion never met and so I am waiting to have my needs met. This potential never being met puts a strain on my patience and I really don't feel anything towards waiting for nothing. In other words: I want to cut off contact just so I don't have to put effort towards putting myself on hold and never being rewarded for it.  \n\n\nSo in short: would I be the asshole  for cutting off contact with my current group of friends because I feel  we're not doing enough together?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}140{"id": "IRs5dEkSlKfyTmursb29wQNFybmv1mL0", "post_id": "as5lxi", "action": {"description": "refusing to help", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to help?", "text": "Repost cause my title wasn't original for my first time posting here, so here's a title with it.\n\nTarget worker here. I was working self-checkout today, which in itself is no big deal, however it was extremely busy and it was just me with no available backup, because you know, President's Day. I had probably like 5 or 6 lights going at once out of 10 registers, when this little old lady in a wheelchair rolls herself up to me and asks if I can go grab her an electric scooter. The same electric scooters that she has to pass to even get inside the store. As politely as I could I told her I couldn't leave the area because it's extremely busy (as there are multiple impatient, foot tapping Karens behind me) and I would be unable to assist her. I legit barely had time to breathe. As she's rolling away towards one of our security associates, I hear her mumble and try to guilt trip me into still helping her out, \"And you're gonna make me wheel myself all the way down to the end.\" Security was legit 5 feet away from me. I was so over this lady, and the guest I immediately helped after her had heard everything and was extremely sympathetic thank God for that.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}141{"id": "yOZTG1LlwCTmxukoHfvhTkcOGgrgUBs1", "post_id": "b6ryyw", "action": {"description": "deciding to cut out a friend because I felt shunned by her", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for deciding to cut out a friend because I felt shunned by her?", "text": " It started 6 months ago, this friend I've known for 20 years started to shun me for no apparent reason. After she cancelled on a staycation a mutual friend and I were planning for her birthday (citing family commitments), she kind of stopped responding in the group chat. In the months that followed, she went silent, though there were occasional social media posts; and she was still posting active on her cats\u2019 Instagram account.\n\n​\n\nFor some reason, I got increasingly annoyed because I felt non-existent to her; she did not text me when I went on my solo trip overseas, despite sharing the excitement months earlier. She would react to other friends' posts on social media (some who aren't even close) but not once to my posts. It almost seemed on purpose. I realized much later that her personal Instagram account was no longer following mine (no idea when it happened), but her \u201ccats\u2019 account\u201d was still following mine. I told the mutual friend about this, only to be told the 'unfollowing' could've been accidental, and that I might be overthinking things. At some point I came to a conclusion that the mutual friend probably knows something was up, but just didn't want to escalate matters.\n\n​\n\nBeing a passive introvert, I stopped initiating communication after attempts in the group chat got zero reciprocation from her. The only exception was wishing her happy birthday, to which she replied a simple \u201cthank you!\u201d.  I mailed to her some gifts over Christmas, and she didn't even have the decency to let me know she received it. I only knew she received it when I recently asked the mutual friend.\n\n​\n\nDespite wanting to consider that she might really be having personal difficulties and not wanting to be guilt tripped for being upset over all of this, I still eventually decided I\u2019ve had enough.\n\nI unfollowed her on Instagram, later also removing her \"cats account\" from my followers, and I left the WhatsApp group chat. We are still on each other's Facebook, though she hasn't posted anything in 3 months. Either that, or she has been only posting to selected audiences to view (something she has done to others before). \n\n​\n\nI left things at that, but last week I received a tracked parcel from her. It contained some items which I guess are gifts she got for me over the months and held onto, maybe waiting for a time to meet up... I don't know, maybe even thinking that is presumptuous. There was also a 'thank you' card in which she wrote \"Thanks for everything. Take Care.\" Not sure what kind of context that should be interpreted though.\n\nReceiving this now feels too little too late, and it no longer matters as much as it used to anymore.  Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}142{"id": "ROIgLbEyklg6UEfY3YT7POYPbF3TqJO0", "post_id": "azz7th", "action": {"description": "being pissed at my boyfriend about Mother's Day", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being pissed at my boyfriend about Mother's Day?", "text": "So it's mother's day in the UK at the end of this month. My mother passed away in early Feb, her birthday would have been the end of March. I'm pretty broken up about it NGL, but I've been trying to be patient and not let my emotions get the better of me.\n\nThis evening my BF is trying to organise his mother's day with his siblings who live out of town and realised that we are due to be at a show on the night before mother's day (booked way before my mother died) . He turns to me and asks what I'm going to do about the meal he's going to for his mother during the day. I'm like, I dunno I'll sort something. He pushes for an answer to which I'm like, I have like 2 weeks to decide dude, chill. He pushes further and asks if I should just come to his mother's thing.\n\nWell that went super well. I ask him if he's thought about what he's just asked me to do. I burst out crying and just sob. He apologises, frequently, over the next hour. I'm still pretty upset, so I just say it's fine. I haven't really spoken to him but I'm sat here stewing about it while he (now) sleeps.\n\nI just feel like I have no perspective on this because its still pretty fresh. \n\nAm I the Asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}143{"id": "8JHmSQGKRr8h2blF7FQqMDQ8LsXfq4xt", "post_id": "9wlbvo", "action": null, "title": "AITA for the way I handled this argument that has ultimately lead to an impending divorce?", "text": "  \n\nSome backstory: My husband lost his construction job in 2017 just before winter in the Midwest. I decided to take a job offer with better pay and worse hours (80+ hours a week) so my husband could stay home and study for his CDL. He claimed to want a more stable career. \n\nThis continues for several months until I completely burn myself out trying to manage the kids (4) and the household while working so much. My husband decided to start looking for a job again, putting a pin in the CDL goal. He found a job that took him away from home for 3-4 months at a time working in agricultural construction this past spring. While he was gone I decided to go back to college online. \n\nHe worked there for four months before he **intentionally** got fired (he told me this). During this time he was striking up conversations with an ex, who has been a continuous dark cloud over our relationship because of my own insecurities. He then comes back to Indiana and tells his father I said he wasn\u2019t allowed back home because he didn\u2019t have a job (I never said these words and I didn\u2019t know he was coming back home until after he\u2019d already returned to the state.) \n\nHis father gives him an under-the-table job two hours away from our home, so my husband has been staying with his dad and his uncle for the last six months. \n\n​\n\n​\n\nI have been trying to get a handle on our money because I am hoping to go to law school and my credit report doesn\u2019t look so great. I started working on a budget this afternoon and four hours later I had all the finances in one place. While my husband and I were texting about our days, I sent him a photo of what I\u2019d done for the day. He makes an inaccurate comment about how we would have \u201c$500 left over a month.\u201d \n\nI explain to him we wouldn\u2019t have any left-overs anymore because I was doing a zero-based budget. I joke that I didn\u2019t think he would read everything so closely and he shuts down for a moment. He then goes into it, telling me how he needs to pay his dad back for all the charity and is upset I didn\u2019t consult with him. \n\nI try explaining to him these numbers were based on whether or not my ex-husband would pay his child support payments on time every week (which he hasn\u2019t done for 11 years, but they started up again recently). He then takes offense that I used his name and ends the conversation before \u201cit leads to a stupid ass argumentative tone that ends up with us getting nasty with each other\u201d. \n\n​\n\n​\n\nI wasn\u2019t finished explaining the budget but he wanted to end the conversation without letting me explain. So I messaged him anyway. He goes off, implying I think he should screw over his father and telling me \u201cit\u2019s nice you can write the whole budget without even asking if I have any debts I need to settle\u201d. (Him not being considerate of me has been an ongoing issue in our relationship \u2013 including him disappearing for hours into the early morning with his friend to get high and not calling me \u2013 and it has never been a problem for the past three years that I\u2019ve managed the finances without \u201cconsulting\u201d him.)\n\nI threw my hands up. I\u2019m functioning as a single mother of four, in college full-time, one of my children has ODD/ADD and I\u2019m driving back and forth to the school twice a week for a problem, my kids have 2-3 out of school activities a piece, I\u2019m the only one cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, paying the bills, dealing with household problems.\n\nI acknowledge on a weekly basis how much it means to me that my husband works so hard and keeps a steady income so we can pay for necessities. I give him massages every time I see him because he\u2019s in manual labor. I do not feel like I downplay what he does at all. I do not receive the same acknowledgment.\n\nI told him he could hand the finances, then, and he agreed. I gave him every password to every account.  He states we\u2019re going to have a surplus of cash because he didn\u2019t know what half the accounts were (I only sent him our utilities, two credit cards we don\u2019t use, the internet log in, our car insurance, and our debt consolidation payment). He then tells me the bills will just \u201chave to wait\u201d until he has better internet service. \n\nI tell him I would take that as a sign of being apathetic to the needs of his family. I told him \u201csince I\u2019ve been doing such a shitty job handling the finances, there\u2019s no reason for money to continue to touch my hands\u201d. He claims I put words in his mouth and then said \u201cfuck you\u201d to me. I told him he didn\u2019t say it, but he implied it. I wrote down a nicer way he could have asked. \n\nHe tells me I blew shit out of proportion \u201cin a feminine manner\u201d and that I \u201cmake \\[him\\] look like a dumbass\u201d. (There were just the two of us texting???) I asked him if he thought my opinions, thoughts, words, and ideas don\u2019t matter because I have a vagina.\n\nHe exact words were \u201cWell, if the stereotypical shoe fits, makeover them Pradas\u201d. (I don\u2019t even know what this means, the most expensive pair of shoes I own I got on clearance for less than $30.) At this point, I stop responding to him because it\u2019s not getting anywhere and he\u2019s being ridiculous.\n\nAfterward, he called me on the phone and demanded my email account information. I told him I didn\u2019t want to give it to him and told him it was not because I have anything to hide, but because of the nasty way, he demanded it. He told me to shut the fuck up. I hung up on him. \n\nHe called back and asked if I was done being a bitch. I hung up again. \n\nHe called back and started screaming at me. At one point he accused me of thinking I\u2019m always right about everything (which is completely untrue and I\u2019ve, on more than just one occasion, admitted to being wrong/defeated, and I\u2019m not a spoiled sport about it). I told him he was being disrespectful by calling me names and telling me to \u201cshut up\u201d. I said I wanted a divorce and that I didn\u2019t want a partner who couldn\u2019t be mad without disrespecting me. He mocked me and told me he wouldn\u2019t sign papers.\n\nI told him I didn\u2019t need his signature and that the courts grant contested divorces. He finally stopped screaming at me and said \u201cFine, I\u2019ll sign your damn papers and find somewhere else to live\u201d. And he hung up.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}144{"id": "yec9zC7cjmpjf8KIrqlWgvs1sVAOIBCK", "post_id": "b6bm1u", "action": {"description": "staying with my gf even tho I am not in love with her anymore", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for staying with my GF even tho I am not in love with her anymore?", "text": "Hello people, so here's the story. I won't go into too many details as I don't want to be traced back by people that know me. \nBasically, me and my girlfriend have been together for a few years now (we are both in our early 20ies) but recently (I'd say 1 year-ish) I've completely lost feelings for her, and yet, I'm still with her.\nNow, the reason why I have not broken up with her is because one of her relatives was really sick and in and out of hospitals, so I felt like making sure she was ok was my responsibility and my first priority. The problem was that, even tho I \"love\" her, I haven't been \"in love\" with her for a while now, so I wouldn never initiate sex or cuddles, and being affectionate towards her looked very forced and fake on my part.\nBecause of this dilemma, I feel like I might have done more bad than good as she is not stupid, and even though she hasn't mentioned anything, she probably knows something is up, which means I might have just made her sadder for the past year instead of helping her at all. \n\nNow, a little over a month a go, this relative passed away so I've spent nearly every day with her, and it seems like there will never be a good time to tell her I've lost feelings for her, and that I want to end the relationship. \n\n\nAITA for staying with her? And WIBTA if I broke up with her now? \n(Also some constructive criticism will be highly appreciated) ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}145{"id": "zf2SJt2ack7A99eNhvkqG48u7vUHOOax", "post_id": "b1ar96", "action": {"description": "being mad at my friend for declining a date with me and then avoiding me sincd then", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my friend for declining a date with me and then avoiding me sincd then?", "text": "I have had a crush on this girl for two years. We did a lot of stuff over the past few months: went to dinner together, got breakfast a few times, and I supported her at all of her soccer matches (we go to the same college). She's had a fucked up year and has been so courageous through all of the trials. I made sure I was a friend who was always there if she needed to vent.\n\nThen, her friends started to ask her if we were dating, apparently even one of the guys from the men's soccer team got jealous. People thought we were a couple. We looked good together. When I make her laugh, I see people looking over at us and smiling. We looked like a couple. She noticed that and for whatever reason made her uncomfortable. She proceeded to avoid me for two weeks. This is the first time she avoided me. I approached her about it, she told me everything, profusely apologized and that was that. Fast forward to February.\n\nIf people thought we were a couple and we looked good together, she'll say yes if I ask her out right? I got a soft no, she wanted to stay friends. I told her if she needs space I'm more than okay with that as I probably need space too. After a bit of thinking over the next week, I was confused as to how she could say no. I understand there might not be attraction, but this was more than a friendship, we were borderline dating. So that got me mad. AITA for being mad about her not feeling the same way? I understand some people just don't feel some type of way for others, but we were doing things that couples do.\n\nThen tonight, after over a month of no communication, I checked in to see if we were cool. She said yeah and apologized if she made me feel like she was avoiding me (we used to bump into each other a lot so I should have seen her at least once, she's definitely avoiding me). I didn't want conflict so I acted like she hasn't been ignoring me and said, \"Nah not really, I wanna give u space and it's been good for me, but I didn't wanna get completely cut off yknow?\" Ambiguous statement, but I was referring to the future. I didn't want one month of no communication to turn into a few months. She took it as though I accused her of cutting me off for the past month and got triggered: \"I'm not sure how I cut you off? Literally just haven't seen you?\" That really set me off. We used to see each other at lunch every Tuesday and Thursday but I haven't seen her in over a month. I texted her happy bday, she didn't text me on mine (few days apart). Hasn't texted me once since I asked her out. Literally has done everything in her power to avoid me. AITA for being mad these things?\n\ntl;Dr\n\nAsked a friend out after we were pretty much dating. Her friends and my friends thought we were dating. I got shot down AITA for being mad that she said no?\n\nAfter I asked, a month went by. I texted her to check up, she thought I accused her of cutting me off (which I think she did) which really pissed me off. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}146{"id": "Iw0D9FNHxtZOutjWnJvyXjw4C7v4nxkI", "post_id": "9v9zph", "action": {"description": "getting pissed at my neighors for being scared of my dog", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting pissed at my neighors for being scared of my dog?", "text": "AITA:\n\nEveryday. Everyday I see my neighbors. They live one floor below me and I see them everyday, but more importantly, my dog, Hatter, sees them everyday. \n\nShe is the friendliest, most excitable, loving dog I've ever owned. She's a medium sized dog and if you go through my profile you'll find pictures of her.\n\nEveryday when I walk her and run into my neighbors they let out a shrill gasp, they jump away, they act like she's a monster who just said \"Boo\". Just this morning the mother gasped, threw herself out of our path and cowarded. Like with her hands over her head..One morning the father of a special needs child saw my dog coming down the stairs, leashed I may add,  grabbed his daughter and threw her against a wall out of our path. Legit, hard enough that it hurt her.  S not even afraid of dogs! Everytime we see the child with her (nanny/grandmother?) She claps with delight and pets Hat.\n\nLook, I understand not liking dogs or even being scared of dogs, but this behavior is ridiculous and it serioisly pisses me off. I've lived here for months, I say she's friendly Every fucking time you act scared. She's never once barked at you or your family, or really ever since we've moved in. She's never lunged at you or made a move. She walks down the stairs and flicks her old ear at you and if you were interested in petting her she wouldn't say no, she'd even throw in a few face licks. \n\nTheir reaction just pisses me off and it basically ruins our whole walk. If you're scared of dogs, whatever, but don't fucking inflict that fear on your child. Don't act like I've just appeared before you in a puff of smoke laughing manically. I'm a girl and her dog, trying to take a walk. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}147{"id": "W96r02WD8YwtuG0TshLNLdtQKrK6FK6N", "post_id": "9w7rbc", "action": {"description": "not wanting any contact with my uncle", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting any contact with my uncle?", "text": "Obligatory apologies for formatting, I'm on mobile\n\nMy uncle has been clean from meth for about 18 years now, but a few weeks ago he had a major episode that he's just now coming down from. A variety of circumstances triggered this, but the main two were his mother (my grandmother) dying, and having to move out of the senior park he's lived in for years as her full time caretaker.\n\nDuring his episode he showed up at our house multiple times threatening us though he never came inside, and caused us to be scared for our safety\n\nNow that he's mostly down from this trip and acting normal and sane again, my family expects me to be fine interacting with him again but the thought of being in the same room with him makes me panicky and I don't think I'll be able to get over this anytime soon\n\n\nTLDR: am I an asshole for not wanting to be around my brother now that he's off his meth trip?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}148{"id": "5OF2PUbCpo8UlykU0u11vjj43vRFNw6Z", "post_id": "avyoa5", "action": {"description": "kicking a friend out", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for kicking a friend out?", "text": "I\u2019ve been friends with this girl, let\u2019s call her M, for a few years. After graduating last year, we\u2019ve only talked once when she needed somewhere to stay for a night because her and her boyfriend got in a fight. \n\nI said sure. She leaves the next morning and we, again, have no contact for about 5 months. \n\nOne day she calls my suite mate, a close friend who I share apartment with, and tells us both that her boyfriend randomly kicked her out. She has no where to go besides her parents house, they\u2019re both raging alcoholics, and asks if she can just stay one night with us. We say yes. \n\nShe tells us all about how she never saw it coming and she has no idea what to do. My suitemate asks me if it\u2019s okay if M moves in with us for the time being. This is risky for us; if our school finds out she\u2019s living with us we would suffer all the repercussions. We both agree to let her stay because we would feel horrible if she had to move back in with her parents. \n\nA few weeks pass and she\u2019s keeping contact with her ex-boyfriend. Both I and my suite-mate A repeatedly tell her we aren\u2019t okay with this, and that we don\u2019t want to be her parents but we let her live with us to get away from him. One night she tells us she\u2019s going to stay with a friend, and we find out she lied to us and went and stayed at her ex-boyfriend\u2019s house. \n\nSuitemate tells her that if she gets back with ex-boyfriend, she\u2019s not living with us. \nWithin a week of this, M brings him over to our dorm to move all of her stuff out and says she\u2019s going back to live with her ex-boyfriend. \n\nNot even two days later she calls and says they got in another fight. Both I and my suite mate let her move back in. \n\nAbout a week passes and I realize she\u2019s still talking to her ex-boyfriend every day. I warn her, in the nicest way possible, that this can\u2019t happen again and I think it\u2019s best to cut contact completely. She shrugs this off and tells me they\u2019re just friends. \n\nOn Valentines she tells us she\u2019s going to stay with her mom, and then posts two pictures with her ex-boyfriend on Instagram that have obviously been taken that day.\n\nMy suite-mate and I decided together to confront her and text her a simple, \u201cSo you\u2019ll be coming over tomorrow to get your stuff?\u201d Keep in mind that we\u2019ve made it very clear that she is moving out if she gets back with this guy. She texts back \u201cwhat?\u201d and we tell her we don\u2019t appreciate repeatedly being lied to, and that we aren\u2019t trying to parent her but that the one rule was that we weren\u2019t going to let her live with us rent-free to get away from her boyfriend if they were STILL DATING.\n\nMy question is, are we the assholes for giving her that one guideline to live with us? It was completely rent free and we never asked her to clean or help with anything, just that she not get back with her boyfriend that had kicked her out twice. A few people have told me we should have confronted the issue differently and we were bitches the way we handled it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}149{"id": "8YIBsLVG6ojDB2Aa5JxunRi7BP0yq754", "post_id": "a7kfkz", "action": {"description": "reporting my school shop teacher to the principal because of an unsafe shop", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for reporting my school shop teacher to the principal because of an unsafe shop?", "text": "He doesn't know how to use the machinery in the shop so just leaves it to students. He doesn't have eye protection available so I had to use safety glasses I had with me. He leaves students alone in the shop with machines that are very dangerous and could cause massive injuries if not used safely. He leaves students alone in the shop with machines that cost several tens of thousands of dollars. \nI could've had a serious accident today with nobody to even know I was hurt because he left for the other room without notifying me and I pressed the wrong button on a lathe at 300RPM. \nI am considering reporting him to the principal (which would likely put his job on the line because he's endangering lots of people and risking breaking expensive machinery) because I feel extremely unsafe working in the shop. \nAm I overreacting? Am I the one who's in the wrong? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}150{"id": "tubBnsGRA1DNkTm0Jzx9DIJHZEkekflT", "post_id": "9zq9jp", "action": {"description": "not wanting to participate in my families religious practices", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to participate in my families religious practices?", "text": "I'm a 21 year old male. I was raised in a catholic house and attended a catholic school. When I was younger my parents were fairly devout but not necessarily overbearing about religion. We'd say grace at meals and attend church every sunday. As I've grown up and learned about religion I've realized its not something I wish to participate in. I did go through an obnoxious atheist phase in my mid teens but now I'd say I am more agnostic than atheist. Christmas is coming up and my parents are always wanting to go to multiple masses throughout the holidays. They do not really attend mass on weekends anymore and I personally believe they are so firm about attending christmas mass because they feel guilty and know their parents would want them to be there even though they are now deceased. The past few years I've shared how I do not want to attend mass as I don't support Catholicism and it usually ends in a large fight, ruining the day and me caving and attending mass just to appease my parents. This year, I want to put my foot down and not go. I am not telling them not to attend mass but I in good conscience just can't support an institution who fosters and protects pedophiles. Also I have a very close family member who is part of the LGBT community and again do not wish to support something that says my family member will burn in hell for his sexual preference. AITA for sticking to my morals that i feel very strongly about even if it causes conflict during the holidays or should I swallow my pride and attend for the sake of the greater good? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}151{"id": "skwXGxRCJXnDPBEryng4o5hR0nZaly31", "post_id": "9tbqyt", "action": {"description": "not keeping my own room clean although I always clean up after myself in shared spaces", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not keeping my own room clean although I always clean up after myself in shared spaces?", "text": "My roommate gives me crap about how messy my room can get during my work week. I work 13-14 hour days 5/7 days of the week so when I get home I just shower then sleep or browse the internet for an hour and then sleep. Doing this results in my clothes piling up on the floor on my room and general trash like empty cups from tea places that I go to or a take out bag from my work.\n\nMy roommate has commented multiple times that my room is a mess and I need to clean it up. We were friends that ended up needing a place to live in a similar area and we aren't that bad in terms of housemates. I always clean up after myself after using the kitchen, restroom, or living room since that's what I believe is right but when it comes to my own room I feel like 5 shirts on the floor that get's cleaned up on Monday doesn't matter much.\n\nAITA for not really caring about clothes being strewn about my own room?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}152{"id": "mujg3meiXFLvXCRckYYzmSFi5tTYG8Ih", "post_id": "alur4f", "action": {"description": "not supporting my mother", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not supporting my mother?", "text": "Hey so, made this account ages ago as a sort of throw-away for lurking and just subbing. I saw this thread and sort of had something I needed to get out. Kinda a long post so here we go.\n\n​\n\nSo there's sort of a lot of background to get through, I guess, for it to make a little more sense. My mum is a single-mother. Dad walked out when I was young, the typical story.  Basically, in my hometown, the only members of my family are me, my mum (who I'll call M) and my step-grandad (I'll label G here.) M's been obsessively protective of me throughout my entire life -- she basically cut herself off from anyone who wasn't me, and frequently told me things like how she doesn't \"**need any friends**\" because she \"**has me**\" and how I'm all she needed. I'm entirely aware of how unhealthy that is, don't worry. Throughout most of my teen years I frequently encouraged her to get out more and form actual connections that weren't me or her family.\n\n​\n\nSo, I eventually (clearly not what M wanted) moved three hours out of my hometown to go to university, and well, she took it with a mixed bag. But I thought she was coping well. Then recently, on call with her, she mentions how she's found a potential new job; and it's a job she's really been wanting to get for a while now. At first I'm happy for her -- but then she mentions it's way outside of my hometown. Immediately, my thoughts go to *G*\\- he has literally no one else in the town. The rest of our family don't bother contacting him (since he's only a step-relation, ties were cut after my Grandma died) and he's at that life stage where a lot of his friends are gone. M's about the only person he has left that still visits outside of nurses and such.  He's provided for and helped us for so long, the thought of him ending up alone is just, well, awful for me. He's well into late 80s, and his health isn't exactly well. My worry is if something happens and he just has no one around him to help. Or even anyone to talk to.\n\n​\n\nM seemed surprised, and I think that she'd forgotten to even consider him, but she got angry at me for not supporting her after so long of telling her she needed to get out more and be ambitious. She pointed out that, well, she's not his caretaker or anything, so she doesn't have to stay and look after him. She also rightly brought up that *I* left without much debate about leaving him, so it's hypocritical of me. I'm less sure of that since well... I left thinking that she'd be there. Getting to the point, we got in a massive argument over it, where I brought up that she wasn't really considering anyone other than herself and that she had other things to consider before making a big move like that.  \n\nThis is without mentioning that said job would also be way closer to where my Uni is, so she'd effectively be moving to me. This didn't slip my attention either.\n\nWe fought, we called each other selfish, it was a bit of a yelling match over the phone and we haven't spoken a lot since. She did, however, tell the rest of the family who've contacted me trying to explain her side. \n\nThis includes G, who says that he just wants M to be happy. Which is what I expected from him, really. But it doesn't make me any less worried about him being left behind in his last years.\n\n​\n\nAnd now I'm just worrying -- because I'm starting to see it from her point of view. For years I've gone on to her about pursuing what she wants to do, but when she turns around and says she's going to, I've essentially said \"no not like that\". I just really don't like the idea of my grandad being alone but I'm beginning to think telling my mum that I didn't approve of what she wants to do might have been the wrong move. She clearly felt really passionate about this job opportunity, and she was excited to tell me. And I just shut her down because I didn't really think about how much she'd wanted this. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}153{"id": "HMN5bZiU5QOWZMhTMoKb59oIpY0gV4nD", "post_id": "aplcmh", "action": {"description": "asking my best friend to split the referral points she gets from me for signing up for a cc", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for asking my Best Friend to split the referral points she gets from me for signing up for a CC?", "text": "My bestFriend and I were figuring out which CC was\u00a0the best one based on\u00a0purchases we were going to make this year.\n\nShe ended up signing up earlier this month for the CC. I mentioned to her that I was not ready since I had to wait to make sure I can spend the minimum requirements to get the welcome offer points.\n\nSince some things changed over the weekend I can now spend enough to get the points on the welcome offer.\n\nShe mentioned that she can refer me because she will get 10k points which is == $100 dollars.\u00a0\n\nI asked her since she was referring me could we split the points 50/50 or that she could take me out to dinner a couple (2x).\u00a0\n\nShe\u2019s like no, those are my money/points and I don\u2019t want to share them with you. I told her it is only fair since without me she would not be getting any points.\n\nAITA for asking for some part of the points that she will receiving for referring me?\u00a0", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}154{"id": "oqejW9HuizGS7zGFvrkKSfGCjLTVnTQu", "post_id": "aagp2a", "action": {"description": "demanding a refund", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for demanding a refund?", "text": "few months back I took a vacation to Japan and mostly lived in Airbnbs. This particular hostel I stayed at was in Kyoto and I reserved a small room for 4 nights. Everything was fine until the 4th night when I found a cockroach near my bed. I have a really bad phobia of insects in general(particularly roaches), and it crawled under my bed. I contacted staff members through the app and was generally being difficult: asking them to come deal with it, to pack my luggage up for me as it was right next to the bed and threatening to leave a bad review. They were unable to do anything, giving me excuses about the shop and stores selling roach bait being closed( literally just hit 9 pm). The staff member also accused me of leaving open food around ,telling me to just go if \"I do not like here\" and promising to back the fee for tonight. After an hour or two of literally just staring at my luggage from meters away I quickly packed my stuff up, stored my luggage at the reception and left. I slept at a Manga cafe and returned in the morning to get my luggage. When I asked for a refund for my 4th night two days later ( they still haven't refunded me) they typed in broken English telling me to be a man and to not still think like a kid. The fee came through later. I know roaches are common in Japan especially in the summer, but I don't think what i did was wrong. I didn't even leave a bad review or cause a scene considering that the hostel was attached to a restaurant managed by the same company(customers were eating there when this happened). AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}155{"id": "UNHmfHCdt7v6y26pCCanYpmVkMyctNzA", "post_id": "a58suv", "action": {"description": "kicking this dude out of my discord server", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for kicking this dude out of my discord server?", "text": "so i have a relatively small discord server. it\u2019s not really an official fandom server or anything like that, it\u2019s just for me and my friends. recently it\u2019s been a little dead, and no one has talked in the general chat since like, november 27th. this guy in my server who i knew from another server was in it, but he only came into the chat to complain. like, he didn\u2019t start any conversations, he just complained about it being dead, and said the server should \u201ccommit fucking scooter ankle,\u201d etc. so, i thought if he was only gonna complain, i was just gonna kick him. but people think i\u2019m being a dick for kicking him since i should be focused on making the chat more active. it\u2019s literally the equivalent of a teenager\u2019s imessage group chat so i didn\u2019t bother. am i the asshole?\n\nTL;DR: i have a small server. guy only comes in to complain about it being dead. i kick the guy. people call me a dick. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}156{"id": "z7ihlJhJ2N5RGid1SSi1h8MMWs1Thm8e", "post_id": "9tf83n", "action": {"description": "getting upset with my so when she cuddles with her gay friend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For getting upset with my SO when she cuddles with her gay friend?", "text": "Some background.  I'm a straight guy, she's a straight girl.  She's really close with a guy who used to be bi, but is now \"strictly gay.\"  I just find it weird and a little creepy that she will cuddle with this guy.  I don't know if I'm being irrational and should just let it be or if I being a little upset is normal.  She says she's not attracted to him; I'm not scared of him trying to take her from me or anything.  I hope I don't come off as homophobic, I just think it's weird for her to cuddle/sleep in the same bed with another dude, regardless his orientation.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}157{"id": "qOzU8wIoxBvJRjHFU7XeP45A1BzzmJEa", "post_id": "a74j65", "action": {"description": "saying that illegal acts should be punished", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for saying that illegal acts should be punished?", "text": "I got into an argument on the libertarian subreddit, and I'm really confused why my comments got so negative reception.  \n\n\nThe post was a comic about weed use, and how smoking a joint can ruin your life, because of the unjust laws. I found the comic quite nice. It made a point I agreed with. I support legalisation of weed 100%. \n\n​\n\nHowever, I think that people who smoke weed, while knowing it's illegal, should not be surprised, and angry when they get punished for it, because they consciously decided to break the law. I argued, that even if the ban on drugs is completely stupid, they can't just go against the law, and then complain, how unjust everyting is. I don't want to smoke weed, but I like occasionally drinking alcohol, so to relate to the situation, I imagined that alcohol is banned, just like weed. I argued, that while I'd be just as outraged as them, I could hold myself back, because not breaking the law comes natural to me. (Just as a side note because I didn't include this in the argument: I have a pretty rebellious nature, and I like complaining about unjust things, but after several arguments, and fights with my parents, I learned, that complaining doesn't get me anywhere, it won't change the law, and it doesn't oblige me to break the law)\n\n​\n\nI don't want to seem like an ass, but I didn't really understand the arguments of the other side. They rephrased my sentences, replacing words, and asking questions. It didn't give me anything to think about, I could only repeat what I said in my first comment. They compared my views on weed smokers to people protesting against authoritian governments, and german people trying to shelter jews from nazis. I want to be respectful, and consider all sides, but I honestly don't know how thos relate to what I said \n\n​\n\nThe full argument can be read in my comment history. I don't want validation, I'm not mad at all, I'm genuienly confused, because I don't know what I did wrong.\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}158{"id": "eu01n60ngRXPV8Xj2e6KGq0psniy4pgM", "post_id": "a2j69o", "action": {"description": "getting upset over paying 2x my bill", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting upset over paying 2x my bill?", "text": "I'm not sure if this qualifies as a dick move. It really caught me off guard.\n\nWas getting brunch with the roomies and some of their friends. I get a $15 meal, they all get their own stuff with bloody maries.\n\nThe bill comes, we all hand over our cards, I get mine back to see it's almost $30, 2x as much as what I paid for. I speak up. Apparently the table decided to split the bill 5 ways. I reiterate my bill is twice what I paid. They say I should have said something when the bill came, even though I didn't hear this conversation. I push the issue a little more but no one is budging, so I let it drop, thinking maybe I'm overreacting.\n\nUsually these guys are cool but I feel like I was just told to fuck off for no reason. For some reason I'm pretty upset about it, but I feel like maybe I shouldn't be? I don't know, it came out of nowhere. Honestly wondering if I'm overreacting or not, because I am admittedly under a lot of stress right now. I'm having money troubles so it's not like $15 is just pennies to me, but I don't like getting petty over money.\n\nWhat do you guys say?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}159{"id": "cmn4REu0mbVXfp6e2vH0AnxSdMvH8F1T", "post_id": "b9wr6e", "action": {"description": "saving porn on my phone", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for saving porn on my phone?", "text": "Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost a year. Our anniversary is this Sunday. A couple months ago I was home alone and as many people do, I got a little in the mood and decided to watch porn and get it over with. I was looking at pictures and they were hot to me and I figured maybe I wouldn't be able to find this again, So I saved some pictures. Once I finished my business, I realized that it was dumb of me to keep then on my phone, so I deleted them. I completely forgot that I had the Google Photos app, which backs up ALL of the pictures on my phone. I just deleted the pictures from my gallery, not Google Photos.\n\nFast forward to yesterday. \n\nI went to the bathroom and left my girlfriend alone with my phone. When I came back she was visibly upset. She said went on my Google photos to find pictures of us. And she told me she saw something she didnt like. I didnt know what she was talking about until I unlocked my phone. Right there, waiting for me were the pictures I saved months ago, and forgot that they were still backed up onto Google photos. \n\nShe said that she can't trust me anymore and I've apologized A LOT. I told her it wont happen again, but I didnt tell her that I feel like shes over reacting. I dont know who the girl in the pictures is and I will never even be able to talk to her. \n\nSo please help me out, reddit. AITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}160{"id": "ago6oGYhRsg03nsQjcJBnpXIKMnN5AZI", "post_id": "a6uh34", "action": {"description": "whoring it up now that I'm single", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for whoring it up now that I'm single?", "text": "I'm a 39 and recently single. I've done a little whoring in the past but never really \"sowed my wild oats,\" so I figured that now is as good of a time as any. Plus, I'm planning on spending some time in Costa Rica, where prostitution is legal. \n\nDoes this make me an asshole?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}161{"id": "MUPq2zaTcL8iOMazjFdLiXHvOIg5sHti", "post_id": "9vco1p", "action": {"description": "being short with my neighbor", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being short with my neighbor?", "text": "A few weeks ago, I was woken up when my next door neighbor arrived home, bumping very loud club-style music. It was 4am on a Wednesday but I didn\u2019t act immediately because I figured it\u2019d only be a moment before she turned off her car and went inside. About 10 minutes later, it became apparent that she was just hanging out in her car. I tried to put a pillow over my head, but the bass was up so high that even if the sound was dulled, I could feel the beat. A few more minutes pass until I sent her a text message.\n\n\n\nMe: \u201cDo you have any control over the music outside, or is that someone else?\u201d\n\n\nHer: \u201cSorry, that\u2019s me. Turned it off.\u201d\n\n\nMe: \u201cGirl.. it\u2019s 4am on a Wednesday\u201d\n\n\nHer: \u201cI know. I had a friend call me to take them home after getting plastered.\u201d\n\nHer: \u201cI\u2019m sorry I woke you. I\u2019ll be quiet. Go back to sleep.\u201d\n\n\nMy boyfriend thought I was super rude. I was just incredulous at her seeming lack of self awareness (this wasn\u2019t the first time this happened).\n\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}162{"id": "MmurnOiQAR8ErXiOgMisfvRsPndy4zp6", "post_id": "ass55i", "action": {"description": "telling my partner there is 28 days in February", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my partner there is 28 days In February", "text": "I(30F) tell my partner(22f) that this month rent is due a little earlier because February is short. She says \u201cyou act like I\u2019m supposed to know these things\u201d. I said \u201cyou\u2019re 22, how do you not know February is a shortened month?\u201d\nShe starts crying and I apologize...but damn? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}163{"id": "szW069H45Qsd7baWmVw48RDCj4WCuFUS", "post_id": "a0at31", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be an autistic girl's friend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be an autistic girl's friend?", "text": "To give some background info, I(13F) used to be friends with a mildy(?) autistic girl(13F) in school, but told her I didn't want to be friends because she kept bothering me.\n\nShe's annoying, really annoying. She would follow me and try to sit next to me at lunch, and when I'd walk away she'd start following me. Once I told her I wanted to go with *only* my friend to the school library (not to be rude, I just wanted to study with him) when she saw my friend she asked him \"wanna go with the library with us?\". There have been multiple instances of me being annoyed by her. In fact, when I told her I didn't want to be her friend she got all upset and called me a bitch.\n\nShe only has one friend who she barely sees (my friend), only sometimes during lunch in school. A lot of people gossip about her and call her autistic, and I feel like I'm being an asshole for trying to ignore her while she constantly tries to talk to me or follow me, she's in almost all my classes. She barely puts effort into school, once I had to come over and she told me she doesn't do her homework, she does it in lunch or during class, and almost made me fail a project once (we had a group project and I ended up with her + other kid)\n\nAITA here for refusing to be friends with this autistic girl?\n\ntl;dr: Autistic girl is bothering me and is being kind of rude, I don't want to be her friend but feel bad because everyone makes fun of her. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}164{"id": "ndGNsJGfb7cPOBiODYfU4ZK29QfxdeXI", "post_id": "b54jfz", "action": {"description": "viewing my relationship differently after he disclosed his past bisexual experiences", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for viewing my relationship differently after he disclosed his past bisexual experiences?", "text": "My boyfriend and I were talking about past experiences and he opened up about a couple of times he had slept with a man.  I was pretty shocked, I would have never guessed.  He\u2019s never mentioned being attracted to men.  I was supportive and thanked him for being open with me about it.  For some reason it\u2019s changed how I feel about him though.  I really can\u2019t put my finger on what exactly about it that\u2019s troubling me, but I do feel less comfortable in the relationship now.  I don\u2019t have any prejudices against lgbt people, some of my best friends are part of that community.  I don\u2019t know how or even if I should voice any of this to him.  I care about him a lot, but now it just feels like there\u2019s this whole new dimension to him and I don\u2019t know him like I thought I did.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}165{"id": "CY6BDjjtaiSwmjwAjzt7UZCtpCHyMH7F", "post_id": "awmxab", "action": {"description": "basically ruining my parents' marriage", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for basically ruining my parents' marriage?", "text": "This happened a month ago.\n\nMy parents are both extremely religious, and when I told them I'm an atheist, they almost disowned me. My dad won't talk to me anymore, but my mom asked questions about why I didn't believe in god on a daily basis. I told my mom that if she wanted to truly understand why, I have a few books that she can read (like The God Delusion, etc).\n\nMy mom read them all and started to doubt religion. She told my dad this, and they fought. Now my mom is also an atheist, but my parents are barely talking to each other anymore. Both of them are considering a divorce.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}166{"id": "RYiFwACTPR76nWpvJ9zFvd8PXrbZDuLu", "post_id": "aut3ui", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend, \"just because we're dating doesn't mean I dont find other girls attractive\"", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA For telling my girlfriend, \"just because we're dating doesn't mean i dont find other girls attractive\"", "text": "I said this when we first started dating. I thought of it as a throwaway comment really. My intention wasn't to say i found other people MORE attractive than her but thats what she took from it.\n\nI had no idea all attractive people fell off the face of the earth as soon as you enter into a relationship. Am i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}167{"id": "lJI1N17MRENtiq7mE9iQv45giY0vDigC", "post_id": "ac19fh", "action": {"description": "not giving my coworker gas money for a 3 hour trip", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn\u2019t give my coworker gas money for a 3 hour trip?", "text": "Okay so... the title already sounds like I\u2019m TA but if you keep reading it might put some things in perspective. \n\nNext week we have a business trip that\u2019s about 3 hours away... cool. My coworker is driving and I said I\u2019d tag along with her. She wants to drive. I can\u2019t remember if she asked me or I asked her but the point is I\u2019ll be in her car to and from this business trip. Since its business, she can get reimbursed for the mileage (a bit more than 50 cents a mile) which is a rate that includes gas.\n\nSince our employer is paying for the mileage I feel like I shouldn\u2019t have to give her gas money. Is this wrong on my part? WIBTA if I didn\u2019t offer her anything? Granted she hasn\u2019t asked but I usually offer gas money for trips even if they don\u2019t, but I don\u2019t feel like it\u2019s necessary in this case. \n\nI want this to be known I don\u2019t want to drive but I am perfectly capable of doing so, and there is also company provided transportation to get to the location. But we\u2019d have to Uber everywhere for the two days that we are down there, which would also be reimbursed.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}168{"id": "B0nHk0K85iR2SiW0o6MuFMZlIH4J5254", "post_id": "atsvqk", "action": {"description": "hating my friend's s/o", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for hating my friend's S/O?", "text": "I love my friend. She is insightful, confident, encouraging, intelligent, and just overall a person I enjoy having in my life. Her boyfriend not so much. \n\nI met the couple through my boyfriend and have known them for about a year now. The boyfriend is loud (like he is literally constantly yelling), overbearing, and narcissistic.\n\nHe and my friend have had a long and as far as I can tell healthy relationship. They make each other laugh and have supported one another through hardship. I don't want to be unsupportive, because I do think they are good for each other. But at the same time I personally can't stand to be around this guy. \n\nAITA for wanting to stay friends with her and not spend time with him?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}169{"id": "Y1EG3nSp7yLWkA6lDq6JRuQUNbFxVh8G", "post_id": "ano5uu", "action": {"description": "forcing my family to choose between my mother and I", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I forced my family to choose between my mother and I?", "text": "FTP and on mobile (Sorry!). TL;DR included below.\n\n\nContext:\n\nI was emotionally abused by my mother thought my childhood (especially teenage years), i.e. neglect, control, invalidation, shaming and outright bullying. The result of which is that I have several mental disorders, however, I was looked after materially and financially. I'm no longer on speaking terms with my mother after she kicked me out of the house (presented as an impossible ultimatum so that she can tell family members that I chose to leave) and she refuses to acknowledge I exist apart from what she needs to do to keep up appearances. It's also important to mention that I get mad panic attacks when I know that I'll have to be in the same room as her and that no one in my family acknowledges that she was abusive towards me (but not everyone is fully informed of that fact).\n\n\nTL;DR my mother emotionally abused me, the result of which is that I have shitty mental health and I get panic attacks whenever I have to see her.\n\n\nWIBTA if I refused to be in the same place as her and had to force my small family (of 7) to choose who to spend events such as Christmas Eve with?\n\n\nApart from my parents, no one else in my family really knew what was happening and they did not contribute to the abuse, so I would be making them suffer for my mother's actions.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}170{"id": "ttVQqOhFwp2jv2g3cMj7J5HEcuJWhM4x", "post_id": "azw0tq", "action": {"description": "constantly interrupting my roommates working if they decide to work in the kitchen", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for constantly interrupting my roommates working if they decide to work in the kitchen", "text": "I understand why they want to work in the kitchen, growing up I would also work in the kitchen so my parents could keep an eye on me and help me with homework while preparing food. However IMO the kitchen is an open area and anyone shouldn't feel burdened to make food without worrying about disrupting other people (especially if they are working). I've had enough and would like to eat when I'm hungry. I would also like to point out that this includes group meetings with their classmates (that of course have to meet at our house and do it in the kitchen while we have 2 other living rooms), and practicing presentations. The most annoying thing they do is 'business' calls over skype with the webcam and everything. I actually enjoy the idea of a 'professional' call for an interview or with a 'client' while I'm in the background banging pots and making oatmeal for breakfast in my PJs, I believe it would send the message across. Am I the asshole for wanting this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}171{"id": "I7wswwpdsujG2Fcbyw2xGkJlyc54BSsv", "post_id": "9uflde", "action": {"description": "being upset with my grandmother, who is choosing not to attend my wedding", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset with my grandmother, who is choosing not to attend my wedding?", "text": "Guys, I need to know my level of assholery on this. I feel terrible and want some advice on how to handle the situation because I love my grandmother dearly. \n\nA little background information, I grew up living close to my grandma and seeing her several times a month. Shes the grandparent I would consider myself closest to. Around a year ago I moved out of state for school and am now around 2000 miles away, so I only see her a few times a year. Even still, I feel like our relationship is strong. My grandma lives in a tiny town that no one in my family lives near anymore because everyones jobs took them elsewhere. Because of this, she says shes lonely. She is single and has two cats. She got her cats about a year ago after her old one passed away and these cats are her life. She says they have separation anxiety and she cant leave them alone or with anyone else for more than three hours. She said they will stop eating and may try hurting themselves if she is gone for too long. She stopped visiting my father/mother (3 hours drive away) around six months ago and says they have to come to her because she can't leave her cats. That being said, shes mentioned leaving for day trips with her brother and sister before and says her neighbor is a trusted cat sitter who the cats are comfortable with. She has no physical disabilities and is only 70. She retired two years ago and still drives herself/goes shopping weekly/goes out with friends and siblings every time I talk with her. \n\nMy fiance and I just booked our wedding venue and are opting to have it in a location that is in between all of our guests. Everyone is spread out so everyone will have to travel a bit. When I told my grandma about this, she said she was sorry to hear I wasnt getting married within an hour or two of her and she would be unable to come. She said at first it was because she had no money. My father and I both told her we would happily pay for her transport , lodging, food, everything. It's that important to me she is there. Then, she said it was because of the cats. I asked if her brother or sister could take care of them for 1-3 days (they live ten minutes away) or if her cat sitting neighbor could help out. She said it wouldn't be possible because their lives would be put at risk. In my opinion, shes putting her cats over her granddaughter. It hurts badly and I cant understand why she is being like this.\n\nI told my father I think she may have a mental illness and if he had any ideas for help, but he and the rest of my family laugh it off and just say shes \"a crazy cat lady\". \n\nIt seems to me like she will not be attending, even though she is physically capable,financial capable with family assistance, has no other obligations, just is irrationally worried for her cats. I love my own cat dearly and can understand wanting it to be safe and comfortable while I'm away, especially if it has anxiety, but it seems like my grandmother may be projecting her own feelings of anxiety onto her pets.\n\nHolidays are coming and I cant help feeling upset about my grandmother. I feel almost angry towards her for deciding not to attend. I feel like I cannot mention the wedding at holidays if she is near because she is upset with me for having it more than an hour and a half away.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}172{"id": "V3bgdBP6ngqixyWoh8DwQXIDQvLYaK7o", "post_id": "at09bm", "action": {"description": "taking and using my guitar on public transportation", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for taking and using my guitar on public transportation?", "text": "Every morning going to school I have an hour of public transport, as well as every evening.\nOn Thursdays there's a music club and I have to take my guitar, so in transports I have a school backpack and a guitar bag.\nDuring rush hour there are lots of people and the bags on my front and back basically double my footprint, when I want to go sit down at a seat I have to carry both with outstretched arms and avoid hitting people with it.\nAnd when I'm sitting I have both at my feet and it takes more space.\n\nWhen there are few people I sometimes play my guitar, it's an electric and when I play amped it's always on headphones, so it's pretty quiet but you can still hear it", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}173{"id": "akHcAozAqX627Gj4cXitTpQs2QQXwCtI", "post_id": "azry23", "action": {"description": "asking my mother to kick out my sister", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for asking my mother to kick out my sister", "text": "On mobile so apologies for the formatting already. \n\nThis all started back in 2015, the good old brother[19M] sister[22F] bathroom debacle. She may be one of the grossest, most unclean person I know and cannot keep something clean to save her life no matter how often asked by others. She is just drop dead lazy. I would have been 15 at the time of the first incident, she would have her stuff all over the bathroom (shared by both of us) and would constantly spill makeup and oral care products over the counter. I'd ask her to clean it up and she would say yes and continue to never do it. This would go back and forth continuing the same pattern over a couple weeks. Until one day I got my mother involved to ask her to clean in, in which she hesitantly obliged.\n\nThe clean bathroom would last for about a week and then back to the same old disgusting mess after that. Over the next 4 years it would get worse with the slop expanding to living spaces and the kitchen, never cleaning up after herself even when asked by my mother and father. \n\nThis brings us to tonight after I have absolutely had enough of it, me and my mother got into a yelling match going back and forth. My mother finally says that's she's done all she can and that my sister won't listen to her. I then told her that she should kick her out (she does not contribute to the household or pay rent at the age of 22) which ultimately made my mother cry. \n\nNow kids making your mother cry always makes you the asshole, however in this circumstance are my views unjust? Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}174{"id": "emjBmkE1c0Zd6W1z31Iauol763uLhAjp", "post_id": "aexlgl", "action": {"description": "being hesitant about moving 800+miles away from my home state with my ex husband who has a history of leaving me holding the bag", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being hesitant about moving 800+miles away from my home state with my ex husband who has a history of leaving me holding the bag?", "text": "We are not a couple but we share children. We jointly decided to make this move for economic reasons. The cost of living and \"living wage\" are not close to level in my home state so it's always a struggle. \n\nMoving would benefit all parties, most importantly, the quality of life of the children would increase when funds are not so tight. \n\nThe problem is. He has already proven that when he doesn't get his way or his feelings get hurt, he leaves. Thus the relationship ended in divorce. When this move happens, I'll be starting over AGAIN and will not be in a place to fully support the children and myself for at least a month and will have to rely on his support.\n\nHe thinks I'm being dramatic because we are arguing now and it's giving me flash backs of the time he moved out when I was visiting family states away and left our children with a babysitter and I've now expressed my concerns for the joint move. \n\nI don't think I'm being TA here. I've been hesitant to do this for 3 years and I've finally agreed but I also need to think through all the possible scenarios just in case we do this and he leaves prior to me being established enough to support the children and their needs. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}175{"id": "YjyEY5Tke3SqwH1Y7mOuJXRr6lWPRQZu", "post_id": "ahjb5j", "action": null, "title": "AITA for how I responded to my friend?", "text": "So I've been having some wonky health stuff lately and it would be a while before I could see a doctor (I've since seen a doctor, all my tests came back fine, nothing seems to be wrong, and the thing I went in for has actually since resolved itself) so I asked a friend who I thought might know something because they have a health problem impacting the same region of the body I figured may be vaguely related or at least they'd be able to point in the right direction. I'm not comfortable explaining exactly what was up, but it's like if you're having issues with weird leg and foot pain that feels like pins and needles and you know your friend has diabetic neuropathy, even if you're not diabetic, you may ask them about neuropathy because neuropathy is nerve damage often in the hands and feet so it's vaguely related. So I asked my friend and they said my issue sounds like the beginnings of them being diagnosed with a certain condition, and I replied along the lines of \"Thank you for your help, but I hope it's not that\" because it's an incurable condition that from what I understand will continue to get worse and is also supposed to be pretty painful. My friend got super offended and started saying stuff like \"You don't want to be like me? Is it that bad to be like me you'd say that to my face?\"\n\nI don't get it. \n\nTo use another example but a real one this time, I have [trigeminal neuralgia](https://www.ninds.nih.gov/Disorders/Patient-Caregiver-Education/Fact-Sheets/Trigeminal-Neuralgia-Fact-Sheet). If a friend described symptoms to me that sounded like TN, I'd not at all be offended if they said they don't want to have TN like I do, even if they said it to my face. It's totally normal to not want to have TN. In fact, if you want to have TN, there's probably something very very wrong with you. I totally understand not wanting to be like me in that I have TN. I don't want to have it either. \n\nThis could just be an issue of two people thinking very differently, but if it's not meant with any sort of \"I think people with X condition are lesser or inherently have a worse quality of life without me knowing what it's like to have X,\" I don't see the issue of stating in a conversation where it's relevant that you hope whatever you're experiencing isn't X. It's different to out of the blue say to someone you know has cancer or something that you're glad you don't currently have cancer like they do, for example. But this was relevant to our conversation, relevant to something I was experiencing related to my health, and I think it wasn't said in a rude way. \n\nThey've not really spoken to me since the issue resolved and I got the news all my labs were fine.\n\nAITA for how I responded to my friend? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}176{"id": "VJeIbrQJvLI7k9ijaZCeqy6HpoukT6tV", "post_id": "a83sy4", "action": {"description": "telling my coworker her newborn baby looked like a Cabbage Patch Kid", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for telling my coworker her newborn baby looked like a Cabbage Patch Kid?", "text": "This happened a while ago, but I was just reminded by another AITA. Anyway, I thought Cabbage Patch Kids were cute, and I said it sincerely as a compliment. My girlfriend at the time informed me that they in fact or not cute. I obviously never brought it up again, but I didn't have much small talk with my co-worker after that. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}177{"id": "jNMqLMPskIg7uJGT5q0uFauOku1zTbKA", "post_id": "b4ndw3", "action": {"description": "being grossed out that my sister licks the ice cream lid", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being grossed out that my sister licks the ice cream lid?", "text": "I didn't realize until just now that for the last forever years she's been licking the lid of the icecream container after we eat it past the first layer because \"it isn't touching\" then when I got pissed and grossed out she says I'm \"overreacting.\"\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}178{"id": "wzs2TohV2yLpfhC8qDXaUOuhNcnZoIFh", "post_id": "b24fsy", "action": {"description": "being annoyed at my friend for non-stop talking about his girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed at my friend for non-stop talking about his girlfriend", "text": "So this is a pretty simple situation, my friend just got a new girlfriend, and he will not stop talking about her (Like we would be in the middle of having a normal conversation, and he would start sending selfies of her, and obsessing over her) Even when we are talking in real life, he will kind of just mention her subtley. Most of the time I just respond with something along the lines of \"No one cares\" And hes been getting mad at me over that. So im just wondering what the people of reddit think of this situation.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}179{"id": "8LY6ILafpBUXtdUZmBuOUZ1UV4kgooRO", "post_id": "a6cg0p", "action": {"description": "breaking my freindship with a girl because she liked to burn snails and small creatures", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for breaking my freindship with a girl because she liked to burn snails and small creatures?", "text": "I was freinds with a girl and she posted an instagram story and in the picture  there was 2 or 3 burnt snails with she writing \"too bored so am just burning snails\"\n\nI Pmed her telling Her how she was mistreating animals and she responded with \n\n\"as if youve never done it before\"\n\nWhich surprised me cuz i dont think burning snails is acceptable behaviour\n\nSo i proceeded to tell her she was wrong to burn snails and she responded with \n\n\"its my hobby to burn stuff\"\n\nAnd when i told her she was being cruel she said\n\n\"ARE YOU DONE?    QUIT BLABBERING! \"\n\nAITA? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}180{"id": "EbhUW4BGGVaFKqAeJIbvNXKeS2fTdJO1", "post_id": "ay0qqa", "action": {"description": "embracing my background with my girlfriend who disagrees with it", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for embracing my background with my girlfriend who disagrees with it", "text": "I wanna keep this short, but I promise I won't exclude any information\nSo today is Ash wednesday in the Catholic faith, and I got my ashes done on my forehead. They're quite prominent, but it doesn't bother me. I live in quite a sectarian city that I won't name. Catholics and Protestants have had a long hatred of eachother which has only started to recently cool a bit. I'm not a catholic in the religious sense, probably more agnostic, but I come from a catholic family. I should note, where I live, being a catholic generally equates to a nationalist while being a protestant generally equates to being a unionist. I am a non practicing catholic bordering on agnostic and am 100% nationalist. My girlfriend is not religious and is 100% unionist. \n\nSo after I got my ashes done we went out for the day. I didn't tell her I'd got them done so I thought it would be a bit of a shock, but not a big deal and we could laugh about it. When we met up, she immediatly told  me off for getting them, that I shouldn't have cause I'm not religious. She refused to walk next to me, and after saying I look like a retard she half-jokingly said that she didn't want to be seen with me and if she'd have known she'd have just went out with me tomorrow. she insisted I wash it off but I refused. While I might not be the most religious person, I am proud of where I come from, and I find that participating in religious events from my culture is a good way for me to express that. \n\nI told her if she was going to be like this then I'd simply get a bus home, she walked on past me. While I was waiting she texted me and essentially told me to come back, she was getting cold. When I got down to her, she was on the phone to her friend. Her friend was in the same place we were headed so she planned to meet up with her. This kinda hurt, it seemed like she wanted someone else to be around so she wasn't alone with me. Her friend is also protestant, and I didn't want to be made fun of by my SO and her friend. I made up a story about having a test to study for tomorrow so I had to go home. She gave me an annoyed \"bye\" and walked in the opposite direction. \n\nI don't see the problem, I like getting my ashes done, even it's not for explicitly religious reasons, it's just something I've always done. I don't agree with her political beliefs but I don't belittle her for it, I occasionally make light digs if it comes up in conversation and apologise if she thinks I went too far. \n\nThis happened about an hour ago and we haven't spoke since, normally, we'll both apologise in an argument, but I don't feel i should this time, I feel I've been treated wrongly for simply getting a black cross on my forehead\n\nSo Reddit, I know nobody wants to get involved in religious debates, but AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}181{"id": "QCwGUFFUnD45WldgetljAfMCJMxzjfi1", "post_id": "b17ub6", "action": {"description": "telling a girl that her friends were talking smack about her", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling a girl that her friends were talking smack about her?", "text": "In one of the lectures I'm in, there's a trio of girls that sit in the seats ahead of me. This is a standard pattern. I don't know any of these girls.\n\nI'm not really listening to the conversation they're having before lecture. I'm doing my own thing and one of the three girls, let's call her A, was talking about how stressed she was for one of her classes and how lost she is. The other two didn't really say anything but they were like \"aw that sucks\" and stuff like that. \n\nOne of the other girls started to complain about something else and A was offering actual tips and resources and anything else that could prove useful in whatever situation. I believe it's another class but A seemed confident and was willing to help one of her friends.\n\nA then went to get up to go to the bathroom and fill her water bottle. In the time she was gone, I overheard the girls complain about how annoying she is and how \"she's such a dipshit to not get this class\" and stuff related to that. I decided to listen in because they were really going at it and one of them even joked about spitting in her lunch that was left on her desk. I have no idea what the context of any of this was, and A seemed nice.\n\nEventually, after about 7 minutes, A returned to her seat. As she was doing so, I pulled her aside and told her, maybe a bit loudly, that her friends were calling her a bitch and a dumbass and threatened to spit in her food-- and maybe they did, because I wasn't watching them for a minute and I did hear them giggle crudely at some point. A was really upset about it and left the lecture, and one of the two girls told me to mind my own business.\n\nI personally wasn't having it because I'd fucking hate it if two of my friends talked shit about me. I have no idea what happened next or will happen to their friendship.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}182{"id": "37welM3umCg4CIZJA3EuowyYvn1JXxV5", "post_id": "apnijn", "action": {"description": "not spending time with my brother when he's sick", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not spending time with my brother when he's sick?", "text": "A couple of weeks ago I came back home from college for the weekend. I found out, once I was home, that my younger brother had the stomach flu and was in peak sick mode during the weekend. Usually my brother and I love spending time with each other but I didn't want to risk getting sick so I didn't spend time with him that weekend.\n\nI refused to be in the same room with him. I wouldn't enter his room for any reason. I refused to have my meals at the same time with him, although I did let him eat first. Occasionally I would even sanitize things he may have touched such as doorknobs or mainly shared bathroom areas.\n\nI did try spending some time with him. We talked on the phone from separate rooms in the house and facetimed while watching the same movie from different areas in the house. I still missed him!\n\nNow my mother said that I was being a jerk and, I'll even admit that I may have gone, over the top in making sure I didn't get sick. I did have a test in the following week that I did not want to be sick for especially since you can't make them up. I was watching out for myself.\n\nSo, let me know, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}183{"id": "JNn3TzgdzLxj1PbG37FloRoxVTG5Gfej", "post_id": "aqh353", "action": {"description": "stating my opinions to my mother", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for stating my opinions to my mother?", "text": "I don't really know how to word the title but it's basically accurate. My mother recently receieved a diagnosis of pancreatic cancer. She is a worrier/planner so she's making lists and plans and setting up appointments to sort out her financials.\n\nI told her when she was diagnosed that whatever she wanted to do is fine. Anything she wants me to do, IDC. This part of our lives is about her. I would like to minimize her burden.\n\nOkay but anyway, back to the question. Mom is talking about life insurance and she told me she wanted me to be executor of the estate. Obviously I said ok and we talked about how she'd want things divided. The next day, she tells me her husband offered to be executor so there would be no tension between my sister and me. And before I could I stop myself, I told her I didn't trust him and that he's manipulated her/others before. (I dunno if their marriage is important context but she and I live separately from her husband because he cheated, she left, but they've been \"dating\" and half-living together for the last 2 years. She left him about 4 years ago I think.)\n\nShe obviously doesn't feel the same way about her husband that I do and I've been thinking about that conversation since yesterday morning. I don't want to push her into doing things (I have done this in the past) but at the same time, I do want her to consider all opinions before making decisions. But then on the other hand, I don't want to burden her with doubts about her marriage while she's dealing with her medical issues.\n\nI have a feeling this topic will come up more and more often. Am I an asshole if I keep sharing my honest opinions with her? Or should I just shut up and support her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}184{"id": "ZPMBArRQPoiJjJy4OlUGMInzGNbKX3Aa", "post_id": "aa1p65", "action": {"description": "sleeping at my guy friend's house even though my boyfriend doesn't want me to", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for sleeping at my guy friend's house even though my boyfriend doesn't want me to?", "text": "My (21f) boyfriend (21m) and I have been dating for roughly a year with a 5 month break in the middle. \nI messaged him last night to say that i'm having a sleepover with my male friend (let's call him B).\nBoyfriend is very upset. \nI've known B for twice as long as I've known my boyfriend and he's practically family. \nI've slept over with B regularly over the past year. Boyfriend has never complained before and nothing has ever happened between me and B. \n\nI'm also a bit suspicious of boyfriend because I found out recently he was lying to me about how he lost his job. He also talks about how his friend and her husband keep trying to sleep with him (he stays at their place occasionally). So I feel like he has no place telling me where I can and cannot stay overnight. \nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}185{"id": "bPWTZRiR6GF58mNt1LJHuTInuUDuTwcN", "post_id": "b83dtq", "action": {"description": "not telling my mom that I'm pregnant", "pronormative_score": 75, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not telling my mom that I'm pregnant?", "text": "I'm about 37 weeks pregnant but I still haven't told any of my biological family. We aren't on speaking terms except for the very rare occasional \"are you alive\" text that somehow turns into them screaming at me for leaving. I never contact them - they reach out to me.\n\nAbout 2 years ago, I ran away from home (I was 20 at that time) because my family was incredibly controlling and mentally abusive. My mother is the dictionary definition of a narcissistic parent and my grandfather runs the family like a cult. They are extremely religious and push their values on anyone they meet to a crazy extent. They controlled every aspect of my life for the twenty years that I lived in my mother's house. I'm talking reading the miles on my car to make sure I was only travelling to school and back, controlling my bank account to make sure I could only spend on gas, and constantly invading my phone messages, emails, and other privacy to confront me about what friends would say, what I would say, etc. I left, found a stable job and a home, fell in love with someone who makes me genuinely happy, and here I am pregnant with his child.\n\nMy boyfriend hasn't pressured me to tell them, but for some reason I feel that I should. I know I'm terrified of telling them due to how I know they'll react. I guess I feel guilty though for hiding it, but is it hiding if we haven't talked for months? I know they'll say that I hid it, that I lied about it by not bringing it up the last time they decided to harrass me about my decision, that I'm all kinds of nasty things for being unmarried. I don't know if I can honestly handle that. And then what about my baby? I wonder if she will hate me later for my half of the family not knowing of her existence or her not getting the choice to meet them. I'm scared of how they would treat her if given the opportunity. I don't want them to face the same treatment I got growing up.\n\nThis has been sitting on my mind, so I figured I'd ask. It feels wrong not telling them, but I'm honestly afraid to tell. AITA if I just never tell them?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 75, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 75, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}186{"id": "J8pdbCNyBkiDoMZdrXfwQmDjyZ7Ezmja", "post_id": "au3vyi", "action": {"description": "telling a guy/friend that I don't want a relationship the same night we first kissed", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling a guy/friend that I don\u2019t want a relationship the same night we first kissed?", "text": "He likes me, I like him, we both know it. \nWe were hanging out at a friends house and we\u2019re left alone, everything was good until I started dropping hints that I wanted to kiss him, he got the hits very quickly and kissed me and I kissed him back. We stayed the rest of the day together, we gave each other a little kiss from time to time. \nWhen we both left and went home, I thought about things and having an actual relationship with him... turns out I\u2019m not really ready for one, my mental health is not good; so I text him a paragraph saying how sorry I was and that I can\u2019t have a relationship at the moment, that I can\u2019t take it and I explained to him why, he said he understood and was willing to wait for me to be ready but he tends to bottle up his emotions so idk if I hurt him or not.\nWas I the asshole for telling him on the very same day we kissed? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}187{"id": "C4ustItAUff7VJRX5f8oIjlA79kh42Rq", "post_id": "aszjv4", "action": {"description": "saying 'good riddance' when I found out my ex-best friend is drinking themselves to death", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for saying 'good riddance' when I found out my ex-best friend is drinking themselves to death?", "text": "In high school I had a friend that we'll call Alice. At the start, we were somewhat of an item, but I said something stupid and we had a minor falling out.\n\n​\n\nMonths pass and we are on great terms again. She got a boyfriend we'll call Chad, her dream lad. He was a hopeless romantic and super good to her at first. About a month later, Chad dumped her when she didn't say that she loved him. He started dating some chick the very next day that he had wanted (and probably been cheating with). This entire debacle sparked Alice's downward spiral into a deeper depression than she had been in from bulimia (which I found out about later), and she called bawling because she was contemplating suicide.\n\n​\n\nOver time, Alice started to drift. She stopped responding to me - she was 'fine' and just 'busy'; her Snapchat story showed her at parties. She'd make plans, only to never show, and later I'd see that she had gone to some other thing. I tried to help her out on this for two years instead of just leaving.\n\n​\n\nShe joined the robotics team with me and some other friends. Another person on this team, Rachel, was an absolute nutcase. Hated me for calling her out on letting my friend sing soprano but not me. Supposedly, this incident was extreme enough to make Rachel contemplate suicide that night.\n\n​\n\nDuring a robotics meeting it came up about myself and the other captain's college choices. I had said that I was accepted to school in Florida and, without missing a beat, Rachel fires out \"Make sure you don't remake Parkland!\" days after the massacre. I stormed out and found out that Alice ended up comforting Rachel. She constantly referred to me as her best friend to everyone under the sun, but she never acted like it.\n\n​\n\nThe straw that broke the camel's back was in the middle of packing to move. My family had decided that they were also going to move, with me, 2 weeks before the date I was planning to leave for school, on top of me working full-time, and insulted me for 'not packing enough', when I packed half the house. One day I snapped from all the pressure and went into my room with a blade. Nobody was answering my frantic messages or pleas for help, except Alice. I called her about twenty minutes later, in tears, and begged for help. She laughed and hung up the phone.\n\n​\n\nThe other day, I'm talking to one of my robotics buddies. Talk turns to the roster. Alice quit. Turns out she's drinking, smoking, and bulimic again as a type-1 diabetic - essentially a death sentence. After thinking about it, all I could say was, \"good riddance\", in the hopes that she could never hurt someone again like she hurt me.\n\n​\n\nTL;DR - My 'best friend' from high school whose life I saved multiple times laughed at me when I called her - suicidal - and hung up to leave me to die. I found out that she is a smoking, bulimic, alcoholic diabetic, and said \"good riddance.\"\n\nReddit, Am I The Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}188{"id": "larmf4xuo443WvNsEfLXJgnHOnwSWtTQ", "post_id": "aovghg", "action": {"description": "not welcoming my sister's abusive boyfriend to my home", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not welcoming my sister's abusive boyfriend to my home?", "text": "So my sister, let's call her K (19), has been dating this young man, let's call him N (19), for almost 2 years now. They have been great friends since middle School, but he always wanted more from her. Even when she was in other relationships, although he never once acted on it or pressured her to leave her at-the-time boyfriends. I was always secretly rooting for him.\n\nTime jump to their senior year of highschool, she gets out of a terrible relationship, bounces around a couple guys, falls into a very deep depression and only continues to rely on \"boyfriends\" for emotional stability. N is by her side as the best supportive friend he can be. After a few rounds in hospitals and seeking mental care, they decide to become a couple. She is doing great, but obviously still has moments of emotional instability and depression.  In fall of her senior year she decides to move out of our parents' house because \"they are crazy and controlling\". She had just turned 18 and had convinced herself and her friends and friends' parents my parents were crazy and not allowing her to be an adult. They only had 2 rules, don't get drunk and don't smoke in the house. Other that those 2 things, she was free as a bird now that she was 18. After a lot of emotional trauma for the whole family, she moves in with N, now her boyfriend of 3 months.\n\nFast forward to about 6 months living with N and his mom and stepdad. We are seeing very serious signs of emotional abuse and she eventually tells us of physical abuse as well. Not only this, but her depression has been even more extreme and she has frequent panic attacks, almost all with N being the cause of  stress. After  6 months of us telling her we will do anything to get her out and basically telling her she needs to leave him and she can live with either parent or myself, she decides to finally do what she needs to be better. She moves out of his house, breaks up with him and moves in with me (I have my own house about an hour away). She does all of this over one weekend, after deciding it is what's best for her.\n\nFast forward to 1 month later, after sitting on my couch for 2 weeks without a job, my parents buying her a car, all new furniture for her room, she decided she needed to give N a second chance. K also now denied all accounts of any emotional or physical abuse from N. K texted my family in a group text and basically demanded we accept her choice and tell her we love her, or she won't talk to us or be in our lives anymore. And this is something she would follow through with as she has shut some of us out for months at a time before.\n\nNow, currently a month after K got back together with N, all of her stuff is still at my house, but she has been living with him and his mom and stepdad while she waits to find her own place. K did decide she shouldn't live with N anymore, but that they should still be in a relationship.  \n\nNow she is asking me to let N come with her to my house and hang out and help her pack to move back. So, am I the asshole for not wanting to have anything to do with N?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}189{"id": "ZagmDYEQY1WbRG071fIgUiOjNGFZlkJS", "post_id": "b69xv0", "action": {"description": "asking my homeroom teacher to talk to my mother about my grades", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for asking my homeroom teacher to talk to my mother about my grades?", "text": "Some background: my father put a lot of pressure on my education when I was younger and would basically claim that whenever I did well in school it was because of him, he isn't married to my mum, so I stopped contacting him. Last year my mum got a boyfriend who moved in with us even tho, he has a flat of his own and his daughter sleeps over pretty often too. Mum always said that I don't have to do well in school, but she wants me to be happy.\n\nA few weeks ago I got some bad grades, not terrible ones, but enough to notice. I'm mostly a good student, but I didn't have time to prepare for the lessons and had trouble with understanding some things in Maths.\n\nAfter seeing those my mother said that I should rethink my life and she doesn't want to hear any excuses from me. That stressed me out a lot, I'm afraid of being a disappointment. Later that week during a test I remembered the situation and couldn't focus on it anymore, so I did horribly.\n\nShe later messaged me (during a lesson) to talk about my grades and say she's worried. She also said that from her point of view it's \"a cry for help\" (I want to move out later this year and live with my girlfriend of 3 years, mother was fine with that). I told her how what she had said previously made me stressed and that I failed a test because of it. She replied that I should stop blaming her for my failings.\n\nI thought about the whole situation and asked my homeroom teacher to tell her that I'm doing perfectly fine, I'm pretty much the best in class and that it's okay to do badly sometimes. She didn't want to hear that from me, so I thought she would listen to the teacher.\n\nShe just came back from a parent-teacher conference and made sure to let me know how tired she was. She asked me, as if it were my fault, if I think it's okay for her to leave the house at 7:30 a.m. and come back at 8:30 p.m., she also asked me why I \"snitched\" on her (yes, she literally used this word) and why didn't I talk to her myself.\n\nSo AITA for not talking to her myself?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}190{"id": "v4GTIPDPYggCUfF5YXwia4ZmBcgC3BEa", "post_id": "akv7wl", "action": {"description": "refusing to apologize for yelling at my GF, even if that means she will break up with me as a result", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to apologize for yelling at my GF, even if that means she will break up with me as a result?", "text": "I want to give you guys a little idea about the context, so this post is probably going to be a little long. \n\n​\n\nMy gf (20f) and I (21m) have a LDR. This obviously brings some difficulties, as we only see eachother every three months or so. We're both in uni, but she has been struggling alot with motivation and anxiety. She doesn't enjoy the path she's going and as a result has been very down the last months. She wants to quit uni, but has absolutely no idea what to do instead. I have been helping her as much as I can, I think. I am always trying to give her advice, help her with motivation, be supportive when she is feeling down etc. But I am getting a little frustrated about the fact that she is not following any advice i give her! I have been helping her with her with options she could explore instead of uni, i've told her that it would be good to get a therapist to help her with her anxiety (as I know I just simply fix that for her) etc. The problem is that, instead of working towards a solution, or trying to find a passion, she decides to do nothing. I know it is a scary situation to not know what the hell you want to do with your life, but the problem is that she has been getting angry with me because supposedly i am not helping her \"enough\".\n\n​\n\nAn example is that would ask me: What should i do? Should I quit uni, should I continue? What would you do? My answer to this was simply: I would not continue with uni if you KNOW that it is not going to make you happy. \n\nShe then gets frustrated and tells me that I always give the same answer, and that she just wants me to tell her what to do! It's like she expects me to know exactly which career is going to make her happy? I really dont know either obviously. I told her that maybe you could go to the US for a couple months to study English, kinda like a gap year. But then she refuses to look into things like that. It's like she just expects to one day wake up and have found her passion. As you can understand this lethargy is making me slightly annoyed, because like I said, she refuses to actually take the advice that i give her, and then she gets mad at me for not helping her enough. Anyways, this was some background information. Now to the actual situation that I am dealing with now.\n\n​\n\nLast night we were on the phone and the same subject came up. I could tell by her voice that something was wrong, so I asked her what was up. She then said that she was just confused because she doesnt know what the fuck she wants to do with her life. She then (again) told me that I am not helping her enough. Of course this kinda struck a nerve with me, because i have been doing everything i can to help her. Ive been doing a lot of research for her, exploring different options etc. Anyways, i responded with: \"babe, but you haven't been doing any of the things i told you! You haven't told your parents you want to go to a psychologist, you haven't been going to the gym, you haven't done the research to go to america, you havent read any books, you havent listened to any audiobooks on anxiety, you havent meditated, etc. I have given you so many options on how to feel better, but youre just not listening to me!\"  She then gets mad at me that i always give the same answer, and that she just wants me to help her.. So i try (for the millionth time) to give her my opinion on the matter, and i try to explain to her what i would do in her shoes. But as i try to talk, she just keeps interrupting me about everything i say. She doesn't let me talk at all and just keeps rambling on about how I don't care about her, how I don't help her enough etc. I keep asking her: can you stop interrupting me please? This literally goes on for 15 minutes, i just cant say 3 words withour her interrupting me, and telling me that im not supporitve enough. So now I am getting really frustrated, because i am trying to HELP her, but instead of listening to what i have to say she decides to interrupt me and ramble on about how i DONT help her. So yea, at this point im getting very very annoyed and angry, but i try to stay calm because we've had some prior issues about me \"yelling at her\" and she says that i have anger issues, even though i have never called her any bad names other than maybe \"hypocrite\", i've never threatened her etc, but yea she stills believes i have anger issues because i tend to raise my voice in arguments when i get frustrated. \n\n​\n\nSo yea, back to the story. Gf and I are still on the phone, and i keep telling her: can i talk now? Are you done? Can i please talk without you interrupting me? So then i tell her that I am getting very frustrated that she doesn't let me finish my story, and that she really has to stop interrupting me. While i tell her this, she decides AGAIN to answer mid-sentence and i just get very angry and yell at her: Can you just SHUT UP AND STOP INTERRUPTING ME PLEASE! I admit I did yell this quite aggresively, but I was just so exasperated. After i yelled at her she tells me i broke the rule (of not yelling) and that she is done, that she cant be with someone that treats her so poorly, that i do not respect her, that no matter how many times she interrupts me i should NEVER disrespect her like that etc. I then tell her I did not treat her badly, and that she doesn't see her own flaws, and that I try everything to help her but that she just doesn't appreciate my help. I then hang up. She now demands that i apolize for my behavior, and that I promise her that I will get therapy to help me with my anger issues ( which i dont believe i have). So i refuse to apologize, and she wants to break up if i do not say sorry. So yea, thats where we are now. AITA for not apologizing?\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}191{"id": "Maz4gaNQqFoMJoGdltHpRIjP7Uvlz8dw", "post_id": "ao0cw7", "action": {"description": "not enjoying my sister's singing", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not enjoying my sister's singing?", "text": "My sister (16) is very interested in musical theatre/acting. She enjoys singing very loudly around the house. I (18f) on the other hand am fairly quiet and like my peace.  \nI try to a supportive sister, but sometimes it just gets a bit much. Especially when im down for dinner and trying to eat. I end up not going down to eat and hang out with my family as much. Now, when I ask her (Nicely) to be quiet, i'm usually met with my mother/father telling me it's her passion and i should just pretty much deal with it. And my sister ends up being pretty rude to me.  \nNow a point she brings up which I think is actually quite valid is that for a while, I was talking quite late with my friends online. The only thing is I havent done this in a while, so while I do feel bad it's not like it's an ongoing issue, as well as my problem was mostly accidental, and I made sure to shut up when asked. But I can't help like feeling like a hypocrite whenever this is mentioned.  Am I an asshole in this situation?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}192{"id": "EO0MenrJtDFeM3LxqHM7ogn42gDiHgos", "post_id": "b9ajjf", "action": {"description": "expecting more than half the pizza", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 28}, "title": "AITA for expecting more than half the pizza?", "text": "I'm going to order a pizza tomorrow. My wife doesn't really like me getting pizza because it's unhealthy, and it's expensive here in Japan. I get that, but it's a taste of my home country that I love, as she knows. I found a coupon and she gave me permission to buy it and bring it back for our dinner tomorrow. I'm going to order a large not because it's a good value but because I like eating a lot of pizza.\n\n​\n\nSounds great, right? But she says half of the pizza is mine, half is hers. I do not agree to this, but she expects it. I am taller and bigger than her. I eat more than her. I think 60% mine, 40% hers is a fair ratio given our respective bodies. I've brought this up before, but she has repeatedly demanded that she deserves half the pie, as we are supposed to be equals.\n\n​\n\nI order pizza about 4 times a year. I also take her to a nice sushi place 4 times a year, because I know that she really likes it. I order cheap plates off the kid's menu, because that's my taste in sushi. I encourage her to order the expensive plates with nice fish because I know she'll appreciate it.\n\n​\n\nShe still insists on half the pizza being hers. My plan as always is to let her eat her fill, which will surely be less than half of the pizza, then eat the remainder of her self-declared half until I myself am full and satisfied. She will have to eat natto for breakfast the next day instead of leftover pizza, and I don't plan to feel bad about it.\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 13, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 28}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}193{"id": "akqpHEjSaUr7hOWRA4wDwGkem4GwgHhp", "post_id": "a9h2qa", "action": {"description": "being annoyed at my mum making me sick", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed at my mum making me sick?", "text": "Some background:\n\nI'm (20F) currently travelling with my mom (48F) to visit some family members for Christmas. We left home a while ago. Soon after we started travelling, she took a number of does of prescription drugs (not prescribed to her) because she thought they'd be \"good to take while travelling\". The drugs have messed up her body and she hasn't slept properly in weeks. As a result, she's gotten quite sick (presumably from a weakened immune system) . We don't a lot of money so I've typically had to sleep in the same bed while we travel. We've finally met up with our family members and now I'm sick too, I've spent my Christmas lying on the couch with a stomach ache, a sore throat and I'm losing my voice etc (same symptoms). \n\nAITA for being (at least a bit) annoyed at my mom for taking the drugs and presumably making me sick on Christmas? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}194{"id": "HfW39dPEga4lxOoCdiO82f39nuZeTrKV", "post_id": "asprlr", "action": {"description": "not letting my kids go on vacation with my ex because it's my time with them", "pronormative_score": 59, "contranormative_score": 3433}, "title": "AITA for not letting my kids go on vacation with my ex because it's my time with them.", "text": "So right now both of my kids (16 year old son and 9 year old daughter) and my ex are extremely mad at me because I won't give up my appointed time with them. My son wont even talk to me and my daughter is crying all the time. \n\n​\n\nA little backstory. Me and my ex divorced shortly after my daughter was born. I blame him for it and he blames me. I won't go into detail here. We ended up with a 50/50 custody agreement switching every other week. While this was 8 years ago we're still not on good terms. We rarely ever talk to each other outside of the kids and i'm perfectly fine with that. One thing we have agreed on since the beginning though is that we don't plan things on days that aren't ours. And unless it's extremely important we don't \"switch\" days or weeks. In the 8 years since we've been divorced I have never asked him to have the kids on a day that isn't mine and I've never given him one of my days even if he begged. \n\n​\n\nWell, last week my ex contacted me and told me the \"good\" news. His parents are hosting a week long family reunion in the summer at Disneyland and he want's to take the kids. Well, the problem is that it's on one of my weeks. He asked me to let the kids stay with him that week or to switch a week with me and I shot him down. It's my week with them and I get to spend it with them. I told him if it's so important to him to reschedule but he claims his parents can't do that and this is the only week that the whole family can go and he told me that I need to \"think of them\". I told him \"tough luck\" and hung up on him.\n\n​\n\nWell, this last Sunday when my ex dropped the kids off with me my son refused to talk to me at all and my daughter wouldn't even look at me. When I asked my ex what was wrong he refused to talk to me, only saying \"ask them\" in a snarky tone before leaving. When I asked my daughter what was wrong she burst into tears and said that i was \"not letting daddy take them to Disneyland\". Asking my son (who still refuses to talk to me) it turns out that my ex told them I was not letting them go to Disneyland with him. He's trying to paint me as the bad guy. I sat both of them down last night to talk to them and explain it's my week with them but they refused to listen to me. My daughter just cried and my son told me i'm only doing this to get back at my ex.\n\n​\n\nI'm not though. I think its unfair for him to do this when his parents scheduled it during my time with them. I demanded an apology from my ex and him to set things straight but he refuses, and his last text to me being \"can't tell them the truth cause they already know it\". \n\n​\n\nI'm so pissed right now. Am i the asshole because my ex scheduled something during MY time with MY kids? How is it my fault that i'm only using my right to spend time with them? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3346, "OTHER": 55, "EVERYBODY": 87, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 6}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 59, "WRONG": 3433}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}195{"id": "yZj0cOuYq5YdMbAEPo6j4svClTNNeBon", "post_id": "anvhru", "action": {"description": "laughing during Miss Bala in the theatre", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for laughing during Miss Bala in the theatre?", "text": "Not much detail needed here. I went to see Miss Bala because someone in our weekly movie watching list wanted to and me and one other guy like bad movies (we had heard it was really bad). I audibly laughed about 4 times throughout the last half of movie because it was *really* bad. \n\nI'm asking because it was a movie attempting to be serious and idk would you guys be pissed off if you were enjoying the movie and someone found it laughably bad?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}196{"id": "rQ0TkxEKJSeE1m2S3ux24Z9YMVY9HQpu", "post_id": "a4sl74", "action": {"description": "not wanting to have sex with my GF while its her time of the month", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to have sex with my GF while its her time of the month?", "text": "My SO and I have been having an argument because I am uncomfortable with having sex with her while it is her time of the month. It's not that I'm scared about it or anything like that, but I have done it before, and I found it very uncomfortable. \n\nSo Reddit, am I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}197{"id": "RwwzmBMGwDxuzKprZlGhx1WddLgnQS4v", "post_id": "b8fc3l", "action": {"description": "giving my son money without my wife's knowledge", "pronormative_score": 78, "contranormative_score": 33}, "title": "AITA for giving my son money without my wife's knowledge?", "text": "When my son started University it wasn't very far away from our house so me and my wife agreed to let our son to stay at our house while he's still in uni.\n\nBefore I start dotting down my story, let me tell you something... money is definitely not an obstacle in our household, we have way more than enough, but the disproportion of each family member's money is huge.\n\nFor example: last week my son went to a place to eat, spent roughly $7 and paid via his debit card. When he came back home, my wife had a go at him for spending $7 on a meal...\n\nI came back from work and she told me what happened... I said \"I will talk to him about it.\" but when I went to his room I just told him \"Don't worry about it.\"\n\nWhen I came back to the kitchen she told me \"Do you like my new perfume?\" I told her it was nice and all.. and when I asked her how much she paid for it, she said $160.. that was when I was displeased. I closed the kitchen door and said \"You just started boiling at [my son's name] for spending $7 on a meal whereas you spent $160 on your perfume, where's the fairness in that?\" she got upset and went to the bathroom.\n\nTwo weeks ago I started giving my son money without my wife's knowledge. My son isn't the type of person to spend it on drugs or some other toxins, in-fact he uses the money as a mature adult and entertains himself with food or other things every now and then.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 78, "EVERYBODY": 26, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 16}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 78, "WRONG": 33}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}198{"id": "CF4b2IBcqWSuq1T4n2HViiXgimK9Cxah", "post_id": "b5hp9l", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my wife that we spent way too much time with her family friends on our honeymoon", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 28}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my wife that we spent way too much time with her family friends on our honeymoon?", "text": "Greetings from Belize where my week old marriage is already on the fucking rocks. Happy days yo! \n\nI will try to make this short while adding all relevant details and I also want to make this as equitable to my wife as it is to me and even though I feel she is wrong, I wouldn't be posting here unless I was self aware enough to admit some fault. \n\nI got married to my wife on March 9th. Her parents agreed that if we had a small and cheap ceremony they would pay for 100% of our honey moon and allow us to stay in their house (they plan on retiring there in a few years) for 3 weeks. I wasn't aware of this but one of the conditions of this was that my wife and I were supposed to stop in and say hello to multiple sets of their \"Belize friends.\" I think all told it's 5 different couples that we were supposed to make an appearance. As of yesterday, we were on couple 4 and while I was sort of annoyed that I wasn't made aware of this, couples 1 through 3 were nice people and the second set was these two hilarious gay dudes named Rod and Pete and Pete owns a helicopter who flew us all around to see the sites and that was awesome. \n\nCouple 4 was where shit hit the fan. They were much older, had obviously been fighting with each other and were super agitated. It was about 1000 degrees inside their house and they just sat and bitched the entire time about how their kids never call, how the husband's alcohol problem had flared up again, how the wife wanted to die because of her plantar fasciitis. We sat in these people's sweltering living room or almost 6 hours (that's not a joke) and we weren't offered so much as a drink and when I finally said I'd like some water, the kitchen was filthy as were the dishes and the husband was so shitty because I took a bottle of hot Dasani from under the sink. \n\nWhen we left,  I lost it with my wife. I told her that was one of the most miserable experiences of my life and those were two of the most miserable people I've ever met. She retaliated that those were two of her \"dearest friends\" and I was being super ungrateful to her parents who were paying for the trip. I told her that I wished her parents had made it clear that spending a full work day with American gothic on opiates was a condition of the honeymoon. She got so pissed at me that she called Rod and Pete to pick her up and I haven't seen her since yesterday evening. Her phone is either off or dead as my texts are not showing as delivered. I don't know how to get to their house even though its not that far so I'm just sort of hunkered down staring at my phone not sure what to do. \n\n\nAm I the asshole here? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 15, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 28}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}199{"id": "YvGOaw4vIYvYulnFEarHikO7IQltN66e", "post_id": "akq1ho", "action": {"description": "not inviting my father to my graduation ceremony", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn't invite my father to my graduation ceremony?", "text": "I'm a high school senior who is graduating in June. When I was in elementary school, my parents split after my mom found out he cheated. Since then, I don't see him often. I honestly can't remember the last time I saw him but it must've been some time in the first half of 2018. \n\nI'd say since the split our relationship has been very cold. It's hard to talk to him and we don't really contact each other. I'm civil and he's civil but it is very awkward. \n\nHe does give my siblings and I money when we need it for school. As a high school senior, I've been trying to apply for as many scholarships as I can so I don't have to rely on him to fund my post-secondary education but I'm starting to realize the likelihood of getting a full ride is very slim. \n\nMy mother and siblings do not like my father. This isn't something I can bring up to them without hearing a biased answer. My mother and siblings do plan on attending my graduation ceremony and I don't know if they would be upset if they bumped into my father at the ceremony. If I do invite my father, I would be giving them a heads up. I've mentioned in the past in casual conversation that I wasn't sure if I should invite him and they said ultimately it was up to me. \n\nWIBTA if I didn't invite my father to my graduation ceremony? \n\n  ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}200{"id": "nCe0DxM2MSFx0MEg2k3B7bsJU1mygbkV", "post_id": "aks7o3", "action": {"description": "being lazy", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for being lazy?", "text": "I was going to post this on /r/Depression but then I saw this sub, mayne its a good idea to post here. For backstory I'm a 18YO (M) depressed, anxious guy, I finished HS 1 year ago, and took a year off (basically spent 2018 doing absolutelly nothing) I never had a job, umfortunally depression got the best of me I guess. Anyway, yesterday my uncle came here to make dinner (paarents were on vacation, only me and my grandmother home) so, he is there doing whatever, and I'm here, playing on my 3DS, on an online match. Out of nowhere, he comes ate me and tells me to go buy some Ketchup, because he needs 'em. I tell him to wait, as I'm playing, he tells me to go at once and I ask for him to wait again. He then scream \"dude, I'm cooking hurry\" and I say \"okay, lemme just--\" he slaps me on the head. Oh boy, I lose it there, I punch in in the stomach and he starts yo get all angry, full of himself. He nearly broke my 3DS too. So, I decided to go at once (sorry to whoever was playing with me) and on the way I shout at him \"piece of shit\" he instantly comes at me with his fist closed, with a grin on his face and by there I'm ready to (try to) punch him too. If it werent for my gramma, we would have fought right there. Anyway ff, he's gone, he text me asking if I'm angry, tells me he was wrong for hitting me, but I was also wrong for not \"obbeying\".  He then tells me that I don't have a job, I don't help with anything and that I SHOULD do everything someone asks me, and that we live in a society and some shit like that. I send him a long text explaining that I can barelly leave my bed, and That I'm bordeline suicidal, and that I feel like a leech for my family, and that its hard to even do most things when I feel like that. he just says that he understands, says that he'll kill me if I kill myself, but that I still should do everything someone asks me. He also told me that Im lucky I have a home, and that I'm not abused by anyone etc..\nNow, I'm not gonna lie... I'm lazy as FUCK. Like really lazy. All I do is take out the trash and help my gramma as she cannot move very well. That is not to say that I'm ungratefull for what everyone offers me (home, food, internet), I never complain, and I rarelly spend money since I dont leave my house really. Also, I AM looking for a job, I'm just not lucky with that. Later on my grandma said that \"we were both wrong because he hit me  but I also didn't obey\". I got so pissed, I said \"Look  HE was wrong, he came to THE HOUSE WHERE I LIVE house and started giving orders to me, and then hit me. I appreciate that he was making dinner, but NOBODY ASKED HIM TO, it was his choice, I could have made something else instead, so while im gratefull, Ill not suck his dick because of that\". My mom and her mother procceded to tell me that I'm wrong.. \n\nSo reddit, AITA for all that happened? \nAlso, AITA for being lazy in general?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}201{"id": "nYeTECUeezYLgqoilTuIpovDDeHb6PE7", "post_id": "b5uaz5", "action": {"description": "telling my perfect girlfriend I need a break", "pronormative_score": 33, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling my perfect girlfriend I need a break?", "text": "I\u2019m a 23 year old male. I\u2019ve been dealing with severe Hashimoto\u2019s, Myalgic Encephalomyelitis, chronic insomnia, and POTs syndrome for the last 4 years. I was a former college football player with a bright future. I had several surgeries in a row to correct some cartilage injuries. The health issues started after the surgeries. \n\nMy dating life has been mostly non-existent for the last few years because I just don\u2019t have the fucking physical/mental energy to date. Around New Years Eve, I met a girl from Tinder for drinks. We had a great time and have been dating the last several weeks. \n\nOver the last 3 weeks, my health has declined severely as a result of me over-exerting myself between work, dating, and life in general. \n\nI feel numb, flat, and just totally apathetic. My girlfriend noticed something was wrong over the last several weeks. I tried explaining my health issues to her. I told her that dark, low energy phases like this are common for me. She said she understood and was fully supportive, but still asks me to go out drinking, dancing, etc... when I really only have the energy to lay around her apartment. \n\nYesterday, I told her I needed a 4 week break to simply focus on my health and recharge. She was heartbroken. She told me she doesn\u2019t expect me to come back, but that she cares and wants me to get healthy. I\u2019m so torn. I care about her, but I\u2019m not sure what I want with her right now because I\u2019m to exhausted to think clearly. She\u2019s the perfect girlfriend, but I can\u2019t physically handle anything outside work and immediate family right now. AITA for asking for a break from her? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 26, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 33, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}202{"id": "kFWxEmJwsvgAldTZfZoclVAdbm4qk4lI", "post_id": "ae1gf2", "action": {"description": "causing tension with my roommate", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for causing tension with my roommate?", "text": "I don't know if this fits here cause I'm also asking \"how am I the asshole\" because I genuinely don't know what I did but I must've done something.\n\nMy college roommate and I were paired up to be dorm roommates since first semester of college. We had a good relationship and moved into an apartment together the next year because we didnt have on campus housing. Things were great, we were good friends and spent most of our time watching tv together cause neither of us went out much. \n\nDuring the end of our junior year I got a boyfriend while on spring break. I'm very private about my relationships and rarely tell anyone if I dont have to. Once I returned from spring break I didn't have any desire to tell my roommate about this bf because in the past when i had opened up about relationships she was super judgmental to the point where I was upset the things she said. She is also exclusively into women so boys wasn't something we ever bonded over. I would've told her if he was going to be around but since it was long distance I figured it didnt affect her and wanted to avoid the judgement. \n\nWe hung out less and less as I spent more time at school doing homework or in my room skyping my bf. She was also gone a lot so I didnt think much of it. Eventually she started texting my other friends saying I was being weird and ignoring her. My one friend told me this and I didn't know what to say but didn't want to put that friend in an awkward situation by letting my roommate know she snitched. My friend just told her to talk to me, so I waited. She never did. She would just consistently complain about me to my other friends. \n\nBy this point I dug my heels in and refused to confront her about it because she was the one mad so she should come to me about it. This lasted for a few months and she'd act normal around me but complain behind my back. During this time my bf and I broke up and a very good friend of mine died along with other family issues. I didn't have the mental energy to deal with her as it was the least of my worries at the time.\n\nShe eventually got more frustrated to my face and would stop cleaning, told me not to use her groceries which we had always shared including things like salt. And she started closing her bedroom door because she was convinced I was messing with her stuff (we would leave our doors open when we weren't home so the other would know and not lock the other out.) I then started dating a friend of mine, a girl. She'd stay over some nights cause I was real anxious to be home alone with my roommate. One night we were...... doing things because my roommates door was closed so we assumed she wasn't home. Well I got a furious text calling me all sorts of names saying how dare I keep her up with my noise. I told her I didnt even know she was home and was not at all doing it on purpose. At one point she invited me to dinner cause I assumed she wanted to finally talk but she just started complaining about how bad her life was. \n\nWe lived together for a few more months until she moved out early and we havent spoke since.\n\nSo, what was it that caused her to react in such an extreme way?\n\nTL;DR spent less time with my roommate and didnt tell her about my long distance bf and she started talking shit to my friends and the internet but never talked to me. AITA for not going to her?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}203{"id": "oI3ZdTvSdczryezF4Gu8Mdpk82ftTZOd", "post_id": "amvvr1", "action": {"description": "not going to an expo with my family", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not going to an expo with my family?", "text": "This definetly needs more explanation. Today when I woke up my mom told me that were going out to an animal expo with my brother, my mom, and my moms friend. I just woke up and am very groggy, so i just brush it off until later.\nI did have plans today to spend with a few of my friends what I have planned for a while as Im currently out of time for videogames for irl reasons.  So ffw later into the day, im playing online and my mom comes in and says \"Lets go!\" and explains she bought tickets for me. Remember, she did NOT tel me before on what this is or what were doing, so I start an argument saying that I want to stay home and that she should have told me before. She then calls me an asshole and my brother calls me selfish. She was well aware that today I wanted to spend with my friends and that I dont usually get to do these things. Now my mom is really pissed and my brothers being a brat as always. Am i the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}204{"id": "S8u8psLYzqyY4eXUL1FG5V9vZFiDloL6", "post_id": "ahnn77", "action": {"description": "accidentally catfishing a romanian kid", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for accidentally catfishing a romanian kid", "text": "I was going on omegle and doing some erp.  (I know, pathetic.)  Basically, I use this character when i'm rping, she's into all this kinky shit.  Anyway, I was talking to some guy as the character but we had a very long conversation that got very non-sexual.  Eventually he asked for a pic and I am not this person so I made up the excuse that I had to go to class.  He said he wanted to stay in touch but I left abruptly.  I didn't want to tell him the truth, because I didn't want to shatter his idea of this \"friend.\"   But I also didn't want to hurt him which I probably did.  Am I an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}205{"id": "O5udgxRZnD0Uw6ucuQrnrlI7YmZYQPT8", "post_id": "a97vsi", "action": {"description": "posting about my weight loss on social media", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for posting about my weight loss on social media?", "text": "I've always been the fat girl in my friend group, ever since we were in high school. A couple of my other friends were a bit on the chubby side and would complain about it (including my friend Jen, who this post is about), but I was legitimately obese.\n\nA while back I got tired of feeling unattractive and having health problems. I started to try and lose weight. I've never tried to lose weight before, but so far it's going great and I recently dropped into having an overweight BMI rather than an obese BMI for the first time I can remember.\n\nI don't talk about my weight loss journey much in person, since I don't want to be annoying and I know I easily *could* be if given the chance. If people comment on my weight loss (tbf it's a big difference), I just say I'm working out more and trying to eat healthier and then I change the subject. But I'm really proud of how much I've accomplished so far, so I've admittedly posted a few things on social media.\n\nOne of the few things I posted was a before/after picture to celebrate me not being obese anymore. In the caption I said something about how glad I am that I started this journey, and a few things about how miserable I was in the before picture because I was always in pain and felt so unattractive, and how much better this has been for my health and my confidence. I only talked about my feelings towards my body, and I was very careful not to bring other people into it or make generalizations about other obese people because I know from firsthand experience how hurtful that is.\n\nSo I got some compliments and the usual \"you go, girl!\" from some of my friends, but then when I met up with my friend Jen she started talking about the post. Jen's had body image issues for a long time and always puts herself down. She's talked a lot before about wishing she was thin. Her problems got worse for a while a few months ago because her now ex-bf of two years cheated on her with a skinny girl and she took as a sign that she's not good enough. I'm including this because it's the part that makes me wonder the most if I'm an insensitive asshole for not thinking of how the post would make her feel.\n\nJen said the post made her feel worse about herself and asked if I could tone it down. She said it seems kind of arrogant of me to brag about how easy it has been for me to lose weight, and that my behavior on social media looks like I just want attention. She said me talking about how I didn't like my body before would make other people feel bad, and that I should try to be more compassionate. She told me to be careful that I don't turn into the same kind of person I used to hate. I didn't really know what to say so I thanked her and told her she'd given me a lot to think about and I would try to have more empathy moving forward. Kind of regretting it now?\n\nJen's the sweetest person ever, and it's killing me to know that my post hurt her. It's true that I like the feeling of people cheering me on and complimenting me on my weight loss, after a lifetime of being the fat girl who was always insulted and never taken seriously. But I've made four posts about my weight loss in seven months. That doesn't seem like a lot. I still want to keep posting my accomplishments. Part of me is saying that it's my accomplishment and if I want to brag about it on social media, a place where everyone brags about everything, it's not my fault if someone takes it too personally. But at the same time I feel guilty, especially given Jen's history. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}206{"id": "hIurYYNOVq103IFonXYpfX3rgPALAJ0E", "post_id": "ak6npt", "action": {"description": "wanting a financial abortion", "pronormative_score": 23, "contranormative_score": 44}, "title": "AITA for wanting a financial abortion?", "text": "So I dated a girl for a few months, it was shaping up to be a longterm thing, but things went bad. We basically went a few months with no contact, until she contacted me, saying she was a few months pregnant and needed my support. I was floored. We'd barely spoken since the breakup, and I was clear as day about the fact that I NEVER wanted kids. \n\nThis was one of the worst things that could conceivably happen to me. She suggested getting back together, which I shut down right out of the gate. I explained that we were through months ago, and that I don't want to be a father, and hung up. She is dead set on keeping it, there have been tests, and the kid is mine, though I dont know how the fuck it happened, since we were fairly strict with contraceptives.\n\nI have a new GF, and we've just moved to a great new apartment. This phonecall literally shook me to my core, and I am freaking out like crazy. I've been searching for every possible way out, and I heard of a financial abortion, or whatever its called. Basically I want to resign any rights and responsibilities for the kid, since I never wanted him/her to begin with. I refuse to pay out the ass for a kid I don't want, and I obviously won't and can't force the mother to get rid of the baby, or give it up for adoption.\n\nHer friends have called me, saying that I really hurt her by refusing to acknowledge this kid, and calling me selfish and whatnot, but I can't handle all that stuff right now, or ever probably. Am I the asshole for wanting a \"financial abortion\", that is, no contact, no child support, no custody, and is it morally and legally okay???", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 41, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 23, "WRONG": 44}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}207{"id": "LN6SeCpA9MSycHj48C3YOkwijtGpQyFO", "post_id": "b140dy", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for breaking up with my girlfriend?", "text": "WIBTA for breaking up with my girlfriend because we're moving away? We'll both be going off to college this year, and will definitely be living in different cities, and if everything works out for me, different countries.  \n\n\nWe both knew when we started dating that this relationship had an expiry date and that this was a just for fun thing because we both liked each other. We had even talked about it and discussed the subject and concluded that it'll be best to break up before going off to college because studies matter more.  \n\n\nShe is really emotionally attached, and has been through her fair share of shitty breakups. One of the motives behind me wanting to breakup is to show her that not all relationships end in emotional trauma. That being said, I also firmly believe that I won't be able to function in a long distance relationship. I am a relatively closed off person and if things work out, I'll be in a new city in a new country in about 6 months, so the starting weeks of college are gonna be difficult enough as it is.   \n\n\nAnd plus, one more reason is that, it's not like we're coming back. I don't plan on coming back to my country to settle down, and I don't think she'll stay here for long either. I personally think long distance relationships are just a way for some people to blame geography for the breakup. I would've considered trying it, had I honestly seen a future, but I don't.  \n\n\nWe had decided that we would break up eventually, but she has been talking to her friends and they have somehow convinced her that things will work out in a long distance relationship. I can't blame her friends either as they only want to see her happy. I really like her as a person and as a friend and I really want us to part on good terms and not just be another salty ex.  \n\n\nWIBTA if I just go through and break up with her?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}208{"id": "rnzC3i7OMRLF9wllII5wThJ59lJ1eCsJ", "post_id": "b1gmcv", "action": {"description": "blocking a friend for screenshotting a pic and sending it to a friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for blocking a friend for screenshotting a pic and sending it to a friend", "text": "**it was not a pic that you would think it was oof**\n\nSo I had been talking to this girl for about maybe 2 months and she was pretty friendly. She would sometimes sends pics of herself (**NOT LIKE THAT).** I never did send any pics of myself as I am very anxious of how I look. One time I got enough courage to do it after I told her about my baby sis (she' soooo cute). She asked me to send a pic of my sis with me to prove it was actually my sister. So I did. She instantly took a screenshot. I was alright then, shouldn't be any harm. BUT NOOOOO. She sends it to a mutual friends WITHOUT MY PERMISSION. I was so pissed at her. She knew I was insecure, and still did it. I stopped talking to her after that and blocked her on all my accounts. This caused her to go on a rant with  all my friends, who tell me to unblock her. I don't. I think about it, but then she starts being a b\\*tch at school, so I just leave it at that. I recently found out she made a mindmap of \"13 reasons why?\", but for herself, and my name was on it. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}209{"id": "fbdvLfebBiO2CFF17i0T8oAPfsDjMxdB", "post_id": "au3in2", "action": {"description": "hating my roommates lack of decency", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for hating my roommates lack of decency", "text": "So I live with a roommate who really likes to jerk it every now and then. This wouldn't really bug me but what does is that he does it in the open and doesn't care if anyone can walk in on him. This with my room being infront of his I get to hear all the glorious sounds that come with the jerking. He doesn't even close the door to his room and when confronted about it he flat out said no to closing his door while jerking it. If I even try to close my door to avoid the sounds he'll play dumb and ask me why I'm closing my door. It's at its worst at night when I'm trying to sleep and all I hear is him. It's come to the point where I'm not even comfortable in my own room if he's on his bed jerking it. \n\nSo AITA for hating my roommates lack of decency or should I just deal with it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}210{"id": "kc5k2Uvr7fcTnFnq1qG9I6zVU5pWXmJp", "post_id": "amejzc", "action": {"description": "expecting people to show up to game night", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For expecting people to show up to game night?", "text": "This is a retroactive AITA as this was about 2 years ago. As such, I may not remember all the details. \n\nSo 2 years ago I was in the midst of running a Pathfinder campaign (think D&D) that was going great. Good, fun group who showed up regularly and brought good personality to the table. During April, one of my players ended up missing game for 3 weeks straight due to her working on her Master's Thesis. I recognize that as an important, and legitimate reason for missing the game. \n\nThat being said, after the 3rd week, I told her that if she didn't start showing up to game in the coming weeks, I would not hold her spot in the game anymore. I only run 4-5 players at most and we had 5. Now, this was not a threat, nor was I kicking her out. It simply meant that if she didn't start coming regularly then I would give her spot to another player if one wanted to join and showed up regularly. I felt it was an imposition on me the GM to hold a spot for someone who wasn't showing up regularly. This situation was also made worse by some inter-player drama that occurred a month earlier, but that is irrelevant to this situation. \n\nNow, I admit in hindsight that I was a bit of a dick in the way I presented that to her, making it sound like an ultimatum. It wasn't, nor was it intended to be. While I could have handled the situation better, I feel my reasoning in the matter was sound. I wasn't trying to be rude or threatening, just informing her that after a certain point of missing the game that I felt I couldn't hold someone's spot. She eventually returned and all was great, but if you're going to be gone for a prolonged period, it's a bit of an imposition to refuse a new player for someone who isn't there.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}211{"id": "5EQaiuNLY9opNV4syvwp3KcI2xTMpqEv", "post_id": "9vwino", "action": {"description": "ignoring my 'sister'", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ignoring my 'sister'?", "text": "Yes I'm on mobile, I'm sorry. \n\nA little back-story: My biological father who was never there, ran off to another country to avoid paying child support. He'd come back here and there but always put any expenses on my mom or dad. \n\nAnyways, I recently had a baby, and I let my go on vacation with my mother and grandmother to their home country(to visit his great great grandparents). Where they were told to not let my bio father see the baby. We all hated him, so they agreed. \n\n He texts me complaining, trying to guilt trip me, then tries to use my half sisters as leverage. (They live with him) He dodges any criticism I throw at him by saying that he was always there for me. I actually only seen him around a total of 16 times since he left after I was born,since he lives in another country. Anyways I cut him off completely from any social media. \n\nOkay back to now: He's sending me texts through my little sisters account pretending to be her. I know how she texts. She's 10. He keeps trying to get me to send pictures of my baby, pulling the \"I'm your sister\" card. Kinda insulting that he thinks I can't tell the difference. So I had to block her too unfortunately, even though it's technically not her texting me. \n\nAm I the asshole for blocking my sisters account because her dad is spamming me on it multiple times a day? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}212{"id": "EWtgIwYhslbXLk2zqME06Dps5y62TTTx", "post_id": "a9bht6", "action": {"description": "refusing to play the snare drum for my acquaintance's recording", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for refusing to play the snare drum for my acquaintance's recording?", "text": "My acquaintance is in the process of recording his version of \"The Little Drummer Boy\". His version isn't much different, just adds a couple verses extending it to ten minutes or so. Also, he is a classical music lover and put the snare drum part from Ravel's Bolero. You'd think \"oh well, that's not bad.\"\n\nWRONG. THE SNARE DRUM PART IN BOLERO REPEATS THE SAME RYTHM FOR 17 MINUTES.\n\nHe wanted me to play snare drum for this. He already has a snare player, but he doesn't like his playing for some reason and the two have had childish arguments and stuff. I refused for two reasons.\n\nA: I would play the snare drum part if it was actually Bolero, but this is not Bolero so I'd be repeating the same rythm while a mediocre carol is being sung.\n\nB: I'm in a quartet of my own (and a freelance composer), and I have a LOT of work to do in both the quartet and my freelancing duties. This on my plate would make this holiday season more stressful than it already is.\n\nI don't know. I feel like an asshole for refusing. Am I right?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}213{"id": "1llri5YSV6ZJDYYB6MAdCv54qJU6yRBk", "post_id": "a8jjv5", "action": {"description": "not having a friend as a bridesmaid when I was hers", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA: Not having a friend as a bridesmaid when I was hers.", "text": "So, a friend I hadn't spoken to in a couple of years asked me to be her bridesmaid. I thought great, what a way to rekindle the friendship and said yes. \n\nWe start speaking on a regular occasion (every couple of weeks) to help plan and check in on each other. Her saying how much she missed me and me saying the same. \n\nA couple of months before her wedding I get engaged too. Everything is fine between us. \n\nWedding rolls around and she has the best day of her life and I am there for her.\n\nQueue her not speaking to me at all or engaging in conversation at all. This was 4 months ago. We didnt have a fight or anything it just died.\n\nSo I start planning my wedding and pick 3 of my closest friend as well as my sister and my partners sister to be my bridesmaid.\n\nMe (not thinking) put a status on social media about buying bridesmaid dresses. \n\nI then get a screenshot from a mutual friend of ours of their conversation where she is bitching about me behind my back and saying about the fact that I hadn't messaged her and said to her first about not being bridesmaid. \n\nI don't know what to feel or what to do.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}214{"id": "Ykx6LuW1DTsfRY4ERXdxoWHCrO1hI3iX", "post_id": "asd8br", "action": {"description": "getting with my friends \"ex\"", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For getting with my friends \"ex\"", "text": "Basically there's two friends who I've been close with for awhile, one is C who I've known longest and the other is J who I met about 8 months ago and brought into our circle of friends. C is usually a chill guy but pretty quiet about his personal life, J is a pretty quirky gal and we've always gotten along great. Going back a few weeks a spark lit between J and I which quickly turned into dating and honestly I've been happy but when I told C he got upset and angry with me. Turns out him and J had a brief thing a few months ago but never told anyone, things didn't work out because J felt they were incompatible romantically and they moved on agreeing to be friends. He still has feelings for her and when he  told me this I went and confronted J, she said that she viewed it as a mistake because she'd have rather kept him as a close friend.  When I talked to C I told him that I was sorry if me and J being together made him upset but I really like her and if he wants to remain friends he'd need to accept it, he then threw a fit about how I'm an ass who doesn't care about his friends feelings. He quickly apologized the next day but damage was done. \n\n​\n\nSo AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}215{"id": "3heMgoBLWnP7m6SbJNS2PjYwM0ftLISO", "post_id": "axt8nd", "action": {"description": "not accepting a work related call", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not accepting a work related call?", "text": "I recently started a new job that deals with battery services and road side assistance. I normally work from 7am to 8pm. I run calls and am on the road all day long. \n\nLast night I took a late night call because it was close to my home. I'd be there in back in 30 minutes no biggie. \n\nToday I ran my normal schedule. I received a call at 8pm. It was to drive 3hrs one way. I'd be back home at 2am the earliest. I told them I was exhausted and didn't want to cause an accident. I'm sure I'll get a tongue lashing for it tomorrow. I already dont spend enough time with my family as is. Not to mention I have a three month old to help take care of at various hours of the night.\n\nSo dudes and dudettes, am I the asshole for not accepting this call? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}216{"id": "x8N5XeLZngw9CXXozOuzuSrVPykQl06c", "post_id": "afvbja", "action": {"description": "not wanting to give up some of my time with my son", "pronormative_score": 287, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to give up some of my time with my son.", "text": "A bit of background on myself, I have been separated from my baby mother since just after our son was born, so about 3 years. I have a court order in place, that sets my parent time with him for every weekend. Baby mother approached me at drop off last night saying she, wants me to give up every second weekend to her, because she says she doesn\u2019t get enough time with him. Now I understand wanting to be with him more and all but, she already has him for 22/30 days of a month whereas I get 8/30.. Her reasoning is that she\u2019s in school right now which makes finding time for him hard but I just don\u2019t want to lose any of my time with my boy, I look forward to every weekend with him and we have tons of fun. Am I the asshole for not wanting to give up any of my time to her?? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 236, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 51, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 287, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}217{"id": "4e70ZqjXBjxiIA4T5pBEn7vJ8R8ecMhO", "post_id": "atl80w", "action": {"description": "ending a friendship over feeling manipulated", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ending a friendship over feeling manipulated?", "text": "I met F through our SOs at a party. She was openly homophobic during this party and I don\u2019t  like having hateful people in my life so I forgot about her for a while. \n\nI gave her a chance and started following her on social media after my bf and I bumped into F and her bf at a store. My bf said he missed his friend, so I thought if I tried to be her friend despite our differences, maybe they could reconnect. \n\nOne day she posts a job opening, so I message her to thank her for posting because I\u2019m going to apply. I ended up getting the job, and thanked her for that as well.\n\nShe offers to carpool with me to our training, and the entire time she\u2019s questioning me about my mental health, my religion, my politics, a lot. It made me really uncomfortable.\n\nTraining day passes, a few months go by,  and the invasive questions do not stop. I stop showing up early at this point because keeping my guard up was exhausting.\n\nOne day, I leave work and I get a text from F. She\u2019s confused because she\u2019s been friendly and we should be close by now.  I told her that I still feel like we\u2019re getting to know each other and that when I\u2019m at work, I am there to work. I set clear boundaries about her asking personal questions and to not force me into acting closer to her than I perceive us to be. \n\nA few more weeks go by and F starts treating me differently and even starts talking badly about me to our coworkers. I started panic attacking at work. \n\nI texted my boss to quit my job. She called me, and we were both kind of sobbing. My boss knows my mental health situation and felt awful about the anxiety, but we both agreed that the job was holding back any progress on my mental health and ended the working relationship as amicably as we could. \n\nI found out that F manipulated our boss to think that we were best friends. Our boss said she was sorry that our job ruined our strong friendship, and how awful that must be for what I\u2019m going through. When I told her I barely knew F and that I was confused because F made things worse for me, she said that\u2019s not what F had to say about our friendship. I was confused but left it at that. \n\nA week later, F texted me to ask what\u2019s going on because she got me the job and had a right to know. I ignored it because the very last text in our convo was where I asked to her respect my boundaries. Ironic. \n\nThe next weekend, F texts MY BF asking him why I won\u2019t tell her why I left. She even tried to manipulate him by using her bf. She said \u201che\u2019d like to see you once this is over\u201d \n\nOur bfs shouldn\u2019t have to sacrifice their friendship because we don\u2019t get along. I was done. \n\nI texted her saying I found her threat to my bf disrespectful, and if she respected me she would have listened to my boundaries the first time. I told her there\u2019s a difference between getting to know me and manipulating me to think we\u2019re close. All she said was \u201cokay, understood\u201d and then blocked my number. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}218{"id": "RkK5SZB50NpiHMFfLuEttObiSqOIMYQ3", "post_id": "aie3h6", "action": {"description": "not moving my car", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not moving my car?", "text": "Made a throwaway just because I have friends who frequent this sub even though this is really kind of a mild post. \n\nI\u2019m in my mid-20s, moved back in with my parents about a year and a half ago when I started grad school. I\u2019m in my last year now. A couple of days ago, my sister also moved back with plans to start grad school in the fall. So...it\u2019s a little crowded. My sister rented a uhaul for her stuff and had it parked in front of the house. My mom and I took it back yesterday, with my mom driving the truck and me following behind in my car. Then, we drove back home together.\n\nMy family and I live in a row house. There\u2019s a parking spot right in front of the house, and another one down the street. Those spots are where my parents park, and I usually park on the street. So I\u2019m driving my mom home and I go to park where I usually park, and she tells me to just park in the spot in front of the house. I kind of protest, because I don\u2019t want to have to move my car later, and tell her I\u2019ll just drop her off in front of the house and then go park on the street. At this point she gets a little irritated with me and tells me to just park in front of the house and leave it alone. I\u2019m like, fine, whatever, not a big deal. \n\nLater that day my dad comes home and asks why I\u2019m parked in front of the house. I told him what happened with my mom. I can tell he\u2019s kind of annoyed that I parked there, but I don\u2019t think it\u2019s a big deal so I just brush it off. \n\nNow today, I have the day off and I\u2019m just hanging out at home. I go to the basement and am working out on the treadmill when my dad comes down the stairs. He says: \u201chey, so your mother and I had a discussion about the parking spot and it\u2019s okay if you move your car\u201d. Now at this point I\u2019m irritated. I said something along the lines of \u201cwhat are you talking about? I know I\u2019m ALLOWED to move my car, all I said is that I parked there because mom told me to and I didn\u2019t feel like arguing with her!\u201d Now I know I kind of blew up here, but I was annoyed because  i could tell he just wanted me to move my car and I don\u2019t like when people beat around the bush. \n\nI finished my workout, took a shower, then I\u2019m just in the living room when here comes my dad again. He looks at me and says \u201cyou know, whatever issues your mother and I are having with the parking spot, you don\u2019t have to get into the middle of them\u201d.\n\nSo now I\u2019m furious. I tell him \u201cI have no idea what you\u2019re talking about! If you want me to move my car, just ask me to!\u201d And he just walks away.\n\nSo I\u2019ve decided I\u2019m not moving the car unless he explicitly asks me to. It\u2019s now apparent to me that my mom told me to park in the spot to piss off my dad. But honestly that\u2019s none of my business and I had no idea when I parked in the spot. I just want to get my degree and move out, I have no interest in being involved in my parents marital drama.\n\nSo, am I the asshole for not moving my car (even though it seems obvious my dad wants me to) because he won\u2019t ask?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}219{"id": "meZL5geqcHvnEOjfrFZG6xeqM4FIQQKU", "post_id": "9zufol", "action": {"description": "refusing to move when a person doesn't backup to let me park", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for refusing to move when a person doesn\u2019t backup to let me park?", "text": "I was on the way to the movies today, and it was packed, I guess due to today being Black Friday. Anyway I was reverse parking into a space when a car comes up out of nowhere allowing me no space to reverse park. I continue inching toward the car, backing up while not hitting the car. It comes to the point where I can\u2019t back up more without hitting her car. I roll down the window and ask the woman driving the car to backup since there are no cars behind her. She doesn\u2019t budge. I\u2019m assuming she wants me to accidentally hit her car so she can get some money out of it, but I honestly don\u2019t know. I put my car in park, and we\u2019re at a standstill for a minute. Then I put my car in drive and drive up a little to get some space to keep backing up, barely hitting a parked car up ahead. I get the space needed to park, put the car in reverse and make it into the slot, almost hitting her car.\n\nI know she\u2019s not obliged to back up, but seriously? There were no cars behind her and the both of us could\u2019ve saved two minutes. The entire encounter made me angry but I\u2019m just wondering if finding another place to park was the move here and whether I was the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}220{"id": "48P2QGNYzE3TJVOMQh0hockoRoUN8yd0", "post_id": "b6gjkh", "action": {"description": "not wanting to have any contact with my father", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to have any contact with my father?", "text": "So my father used to mentally and physically abuse me for a very long time, from like my 10th till I moved out (19). And now he claims that he wants to have contact again but I don't want it anymore. He didn't even tell me he is sorry for the things he did. Now everyone says I'm the asshole because he wants to 'make things right' but I don't give him the chance., am I the asshole here?\n\n​\n\np.s. excuse me for my English ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}221{"id": "ClEJSGSIZyGTVzKdBsZQRbaudHN8bF1j", "post_id": "asgeee", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend to stop talking to his lying cheating ex, when he insists it's bc of the child", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my boyfriend to stop talking to his lying cheating ex, when he insists it\u2019s bc of the child", "text": "My bf and I have been together for just short of 2 years now and it\u2019s starting to become more serious. We have plans to move to another state together and we are starting a life. I have never been one to tell a SO that they are not allowed to speak to an ex or not have a friendship with them. But this girl, let\u2019s call her Manda, I just don\u2019t like and she really fucked him over. \n\nShe has an 8 or maybe 9 year old daughter and according to him is a terrible mother, I guess while they were together he developed a strong bond with this little girl bc the mother wouldn\u2019t do shit for her and he kinda just took the daddy role (even though this isn\u2019t his kid). Recently I found out they (him and the little girl) still speak which i honestly at first though was nice. But upon reading these messages it\u2019s mostly him and Manda talking, and most recently he told her something private about my life that I asked him not to share, his excuse was \u201cwell you\u2019re a big part of my life and we talk about life\u201d. \nThe child is awesome and they seem to have a solid bond, he even mails her gifts and made sure to send birthday wishes and cute things. \n\nHim and Manda dated a little over a year and he told me he stayed with her bc of the child and the fact that they had nowhere else to go. He moved to another state with her and claims he did it so he could set them up somewhere else and then leave. I guess while they were there among other trashy and hurtful things that she did, she took HIS tent to a festival and had sex with someone else in it (her now 2nd baby daddy) and he left and came back here. \n\nI see him sending her pictures of her he took, videos of her hooping, and photos of them with the child in recent messages which bothered me. He also tells her things like her new hair looks good or she\u2019s cute in whatever Facebook picture. He keeps saying he only talks to her to maintain an okay relationship so she will let him still communicate with the kid. I feel as though she\u2019s using this to her advantage and I don\u2019t like the stories he\u2019s told me about things she\u2019s done to him, and recently I\u2019ve asked him to stop speaking to her. \n\nApparently she is coming to the state for a visit and her excuse for adding our city to her trip is \u201cto spend as much time with _____ as possible\u201d the blank being his sister who I guess is still her friend. He tells me he\u2019s going to see her (and the child) and he\u2019s going to take the kid out for the day etc. I once again flipped and said no that\u2019s not cool, bc I don\u2019t believe it\u2019s just going to be the kid. \n\nI only heard about this child a few months ago. They were together about a year (and he was in the kids life), I feel like I would have been aware of him and the kid\u2019s relationship sooner if it was so significant. So am I the asshole for asking him to sever ties so we can move on with our lives together? Bc he\u2019s got me feeling like I\u2019m being irrational. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}222{"id": "G3KBc69kJhrwshJtE2mhaDeDPGLzYJRs", "post_id": "a3bhur", "action": {"description": "letting dogs be loud and play for an hour everyday", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for letting dogs be loud and play for an hour everyday", "text": "I work as a dog sitter/dog walker. One of the dogs I take regular walks with lives in a house with a really big fenced in garden. So I usually bring a couple of dogs over to her so they can play there (with the owners consent of course). It\u2019s really convenient for me since there\u2019s no dog parks nearby and the dog love it. I\u2019m there every weekday from around 11 pm to 12 pm. And of course when dogs play it can get a bit loud sometimes but it\u2019s never an hour of constant barking.\n\nWell the other day one of the neighbors told me the dogs are making too much noise and is disturbing him when he does his yoga. I told him it\u2019s only for an hour in the middle of the day and maybe he could do his yoga after. But he told me I had to take the dogs someplace else because it\u2019s rude and disturbing. I double checked with the owners and they said he can\u2019t tell me what to do with their dog on their property and that they would talk with the neighbor. But now every time I see him he gives me the stink eye. But I really don\u2019t want to stop taking my other dogs there because then the dog who lives there won\u2019t get to play with them anymore and I can tell how much she loves to play with them.\n\nSo am I the asshole if I keep taking my other dogs there and disturb the neighbor? I understand it can be disturbing but it\u2019s not constant barking and it\u2019s only for an hour in the middle of the day.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}223{"id": "gbuIRqaiHeqcaQmEO9zWToSTyn5LiWS1", "post_id": "age612", "action": {"description": "feeling annoyed that a close friend asked me if I would be willing to look after her bf", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for feeling annoyed that a close friend asked me if I would be willing to look after her bf?", "text": "For some context, I live in eastern Massachusetts and a friend of mine lives about an hour away by train. We are pretty close friends in college and I haven't seen her since winter break has begun. I've asked to hang out twice now and both times, she denied hanging out because she was busy. I told her to let me know of a day that shes willing to take the train and meet up. Fast forward a good two weeks from the last time she responded to my \"lmk\" texts and she suddenly asks me \n\n\"Hi whats up, I've got a doctors appointment at \\*place near my college\\* and I was wondering if you were ok to hang with \\*name of bf\\* while I get checked up. It shouldn't take long.\"\n\nJust some clarification, they are in a long distance relationship and I have hung out with him when hes visited before. I've cooked for him, gotten drunk together, and had fun. I'd say we're friends, but in a different perspective, Its a forced relationship. I hang out with him because they are happy together and I value our friendship enough to get to know someone that a friend of mine likes being with. \n\nGoing back to our back and forth texting, \n\nTo this I reply,\n\n\"Sorry, that was unexpected. Maybe? I'll let you know if I can, but you should also let me know when YOU'RE free! We should meet up some other time.\"\n\nI understand this is petty.\n\nHer reply, \"Okay yep will do, cool!\"\n\n​\n\nI think i'd be a great time to show him around and just have a fun time, but Im not getting the motivation because friendships dont run on 1 sided motivation. \n\n​\n\nIn the one month of break we've had thus far, AITA for not wanting to/feeling annoyed that a good friend of mine asked me to almost babysit her bf when she hasn't even made an attempt to hang out with me after I've asked her multiple times when shes free? \n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}224{"id": "7ci75WuHZgm1NEqkwiZMEYFENFFz5OWw", "post_id": "aumra9", "action": {"description": "wanting my roommates girlfriend to pay rent", "pronormative_score": 41, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for wanting my roommates girlfriend to pay rent", "text": "Hear me out, I genuinely don\u2019t know.\n\nSo I (M 20) live in a three bedroom apartment with two other guys (both M 20). We all have girlfriends who come and go, but one girlfriend (M 19) lives with us permanently. The three of us guys pay rent out of pocket, while the girlfriend in particular (we\u2019ll call her Amy) has a room on campus that she has never once slept in, and that room costs more than what she would pay to live here. She hardly ever visits her own room. \n\nAmy eats food that her roommate pays for, uses up utilities with us, uses our bathroom, etc etc. She doesn\u2019t buy food. She doesn\u2019t pay for anything, except for herself. This is typically fine, she can pay her own food and expenses. But she wastes money paying for a place on campus when it could make living at my apartment cheaper for both of my roommates and myself. Even she would pay less.\n\nThis is something I\u2019ve never voiced to my roommate who dates her, because I know the girlfriends me and my other roommate bring over don\u2019t pay rent either. The difference is they come temporarily and leave. Half the time they\u2019re not here. And while they temporarily take up space and do the same things as Amy, they leave just as often to stay at where they live.\n\nAmy and her boyfriend knew prior to moving in that Amy would be staying with us full-time. She\u2019s cool as a roommate, but she also takes up a lot of space, makes the place dirty, sits on our couch all day, uses our shower and bathroom constantly.\n\nMy parents wonder why I live with 4 people full time and three pay rent. It\u2019s more of a burden for them when they help me in affording college, and it would make rent cheaper for the other three.\n\nThe main reason why Amy doesn\u2019t pay rent, is because her parents don\u2019t know she lives with a bunch of guys. Her, and her boyfriend, have no plan on telling her parents. I can understand, but her parents are also paying thousands every semester for a room she\u2019s never slept in. Amy and her boyfriend would rather not approach the issue then pay less for where they\u2019re living because their parents cover most of it. I pay out of pocket for where I live a lot of the time. It\u2019s tougher for me, when I feel it\u2019d be easier if she paid rent.\n\nI approached my roommate who dates Amy, and low-key asked that since he knew beforehand that Amy would be living with us full-time, why she didn\u2019t pay rent this year. He maintained the fact that since there\u2019s only 3 people on the lease, it shouldn\u2019t affect me at all and it\u2019s not my problem. If she didn\u2019t exist it wouldn\u2019t make a difference. \n\nIt\u2019s a small apartment, and she\u2019s constantly around. She takes up a lot of space. \n\nI don\u2019t know, I\u2019m really unsure if I\u2019m in the wrong place even asking.\n\nAm I an asshole for pulling my roommate aside after several months this morning, and asking him why she doesn\u2019t pay rent? \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 38, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 41, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}225{"id": "xQwvcOspDRjtpZff1eQeYLrfUaEPSnQ1", "post_id": "aj10ol", "action": {"description": "telling my fianc\u00e9 I wanted to end the phone call with her", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my fianc\u00e9 I wanted to end the phone call with her?", "text": "I work, my fianc\u00e9 stays home. Normally she sleeps in and we usually touch base around 11am. I have to be at work by 830. I am a manager of a company so my 40 minute ride in consists of calling my supervisors and laying out the plan for the day. Then I listen to my news and weather on my ride in, kind of my mental prep for the day. \n\nNow, my fianc\u00e9 has a terrible habit of calling me but not talking. Like literally, not speaking. This happens at least daily and i have conveyed multiple times that i dont like it. She just wants to be on the phone with me and not talk. I have expressed to her this is frustrating for me as while I enjoy talking to her, I want to actually talk if we are on the phone. Also, she calls me throughout the day when I am trying to work and honestly, my ride in to work is really the only time I ever have that is just mine...so anyway. \n\nThis morning she calls, as she woke up early, and asks me one thing, then, silence...i try to talk to her and get one word answers and silence, followed by silence and, you guessed it, more silence. So I say honey, I'm going to get off here I love you. She asked if I'm at work yet, so I tell her no, still 10 minutes out. So she says \"oh, so you just WANT to get off the phone with me?\" And I reply, \"yes babe I do, you aren't talking to me.\" So then she gets pissed and hangs up...calls back...3 times...crying that I hurt her feelings. I apologize for hurting her feelings, I honestly wasn't trying to. I reiterated that it is not enjoyable for me and it is frustrating to be on the phone just listening to her breathing. Then she goes offensive and starts really being hateful to me saying that she hopes I have a great fucking day etc...i say I'm sorry again for hurting her feelings and that I love her, which, she doesn't respond to. Like more silence for a solid minute until finally I say \"bye I love you\" and hang up. \n\nUmm, am I missing something here? Am I the asshole? \n\nTldr: fianc\u00e9 calls to let me hear her breathe instead of talk, that's frustrating for me. She asks if I want to get off the phone...and i say yes...so now I'm an asshole apparently...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}226{"id": "0TGk0hxM0vhYAlgOGj9hH53LTgM21Hpd", "post_id": "avh15p", "action": {"description": "not letting my brother-in-law go on vacation with us", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "WIBTA for not letting my brother-in-law go on vacation with us.", "text": "warning: wall of text. Lots of backstory. \n\nSeveral years ago my wife and I had a destination wedding in another state. Her whole family went. Her parents are divorced and the older of the two brothers lived with his mom.(this is the brother in question) Because they didn't have a lot of money they road with us in the car and took a bus home at the end of the week. (We stayed a second week by ourselves for a honeymoon). \n\nHer mom talks about that trip all the time. she said it was one of the best trip she ever took in her whole life. she talks about how much she loved to go back there someday. \n\nso this year for Christmas we decided to surprise her with a suitcase and a letter saying basically that we were taking her back there this summer. Because my wife sister is older and married now they will be going also. \n\nA few days ago I find out that the brother somehow thinks that he was invited to and that he's going on vacation with us. My wife doesn't really care so long as he pays his own way. \n\nHere's the problem though. This brother is like the most socially inept person I've ever met. He never learn to be an adult and is just a complete embarrassment to be around in public. He has this really annoying need for constant attention. If people are talking about things that he doesn't know about or have any experience with, he will just start making stuff up. He makes up insanely unbelievable stories about things he's done or seen that anybody would know is not true. And when you're talkin about things he will try to correct you and tell you you're wrong and then make up lies to support it. \n\nEx: someone asked if Dr pepper is made by Coke or Pepsi. I explained the doctor pepper is its own company and not made by either. He chimes in that dr. Pepper is actually made by Coke but Coke keeps it a secret. I told him that's ridiculous. He tells me that his friend's dad is the CFO for Coca-Cola and told him that they make Dr pepper. \n\nIt causes a lot of stress in the group. He will start trying to cut me down and tell lies. I will call him on his lies and expose him. Then he will get mad and pout and everyone will get mad at me for being mean to him. \n\nso anyway I find out that he thinks he's going on this vacation. I told my wife no way. If he's going I'm not going. We have going on a week-long trip with him before and it was a nightmare. everyone was mad at me the whole time for arguing with him. They think I should just let it go and let him lie. \n\nPart of me realizes that since I'm the only one that has a problem with him, I should bow out. But my wife and I are the ones that planned this trip. This is our vacation spot that we go to every year on our anniversary. (Forgot to mention this trip would be on our anniversary). We have gone every year since we were married and I really don't want to have to skip it.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}227{"id": "0N54whpfCQ0XZOeYLAoTSAIQpqYjUWSj", "post_id": "ayyz1a", "action": {"description": "not letting my sister use my 1,000$ Laptop", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not letting my sister use my 1,000$ Laptop?", "text": "So for some context I have a twin sister and we get along most of the time but every now and again she'll ask me to use my drawing tablet so she could make some art. Last summer she asked me so she could make some art for people on Twitter. I said sure and thought it would only be a few days. But she kept it with her nearly the entire summer in her room. About half way in i asked about the art and for the tablet back but she says no and that she's almost done. Sometime at the end she finally gives me back my tablet and thanked me. But sometimes she'll ask me to do something or ask for stuff such as going to the store to get her stuff. If I say no she'll whine and act pretty bratty because I'm not doing what she wants.\n\nFast forward about 6 months and it's the middle of January. I was at home alone for awhile relaxing and on my laptop on a weekend day. When my little brother walked in I saw my sis then walk in to dining room where my laptop and tablet are. (keep in mind my laptop is about 1,000$ and the Tablet cost 80-90$ and she has no way to pay me back) She walks right up to me when i stand with my laptop open but doing nothing. Not even a minute in the house and this is how it goes.\n\nCast.\n\nMe: Me TS: Twin Sister\n\nTS: Hey bro can i try out your tablet since it's fixed now? You're not using your laptop.\n\nME: I'm sorry but I just got up and i was going to do laundry.\n\nTS: Cm'on there's nothing going on.  \nI sit back down and log out of my profile so she can't get in. She huffs and starts to walk away clearly angry about not getting to use my laptop.\n\nMe: Wow entitled much?\n\nShe gets real pissed off at me because of what I called her and then pushes me away from her while still grabbing my shirt hard. After that she storms up the stairs.\n\nI realize that I shouldn't of said that to piss her off more but there was one time where she called me an Asshole for simply not doing something for her.  \nPeople of Reddit was I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}228{"id": "FfUdnBHRsrX5MhJnyRl0EyKL6nMIHKiT", "post_id": "b5zaqg", "action": null, "title": "AITA - redo events or make up events", "text": "Ok so this one is more of a Whos the Ahole and I got this idea by a guy who posted a very similar situation but not quite the same\n\n​\n\nMe and my partner differ on this and I want to know what reddit thinks in general to make life easy we'll say that I am the one who says this is not allowed\n\n​\n\nThe person im speaking of is my younger brother He recently missed my Bday. Now this isn't the first thing he missed and he told me that I should come to his place and he would throw me a mini party. I told him no thanks because IMO he could have made it to this its just a long drive and he had work the next day.\n\n​\n\nIt wasn't a huge party and he would have been able to get back home by 10-11 and he starts at 9 (up at 745ish) as we were done by 9 (was a dinner)\n\n​\n\nI've told him no, you sholdn't get do overs when IMO you COULD have made it you just didn't have the energy to make the drive. In general I don't believe in do overs.\n\n​\n\nAITA or should I let my brother throw me a mini party after he missed mine?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}229{"id": "DpJ4R9sPKvRTxrX9QpZEEvMVvG4bZeTn", "post_id": "ak9fg4", "action": {"description": "not wanting my mom's best friend to join us on a trip to the Philippines to visit family", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my mom\u2019s best friend to join us on a trip to the Philippines to visit family?", "text": "Hi y\u2019all, just wanna get other people\u2019s thoughts on this. I figured that if my mom wants her friend to go so badly, they should just plan their own trip, but let me explain. Sorry for the long read. TL;DR at bottom. \n\nThe Situation:\n\nBack when I graduated from high school, my mom\u2019s graduation gift to me was \u201ca ticket to the Philippines (redeemable at a future date).\u201d This is in quotations because there was no actual ticket, rather it was a comment written in my grad card because 1) I had already told her that even though I wanted to go, I would be in school and didn\u2019t know when I\u2019d actually be able to go and 2) she couldn\u2019t actually afford a ticket at the time. This becomes important later on (imo). \n \nThis past summer, I applied to medical school and was successful(!), so I\u2019ll be starting this coming fall. That being said, I\u2019ve been studying/working throughout college and after graduation to prep my application and save money to pay for aforementioned apps, so I\u2019ve never really been able to take any vacations or trips. In this span of ~6 years, my mom has gone to the Philippines (without me, because I was in school) 3 times, each time for 3-4 weeks. \n\nSince I\u2019ll start school in the fall, I\u2019ve started to plan my last day at work, and when I\u2019ll finally be taking my trip to the Philippines. I told my mom about this, and asked if she would come with me and if the offer for the free ticket was still on the table. She admitted that money was still tight (which didn\u2019t surprise me because my dad is still unemployed), and that she probably wouldn\u2019t be able to cover her ticket, let alone mine. I was fine with this though, since I\u2019ve been working full time and have managed to start saving a bit (after finally paying off the ~$6k I spent of my own money to apply to med school in the first place). I really want my mom to come with me, because the first time I went to the PI was with her, and I\u2019d like to be able to enjoy a trip with her again. My tagalog is also not the greatest, and even though I know enough to get by and some of my family members speak some english, things still get lost in translation. \n\nSince I want my mom to come with me, I crunched the numbers and figured I can afford to buy my mom\u2019s ticket, so I offered to do so for her. This she happily accepted, and we started trying to plan out dates for the trip. The main point of this trip, at least, as I intended it, was to visit and spend time with family. It\u2019s been almost 10 years since I\u2019ve last gone, and my grandmother\u2019s getting pretty up there in age. My mom knows this. \n\nAs we\u2019re figuring out dates, my mom pulls out her phone, and calls her best friend, who we\u2019ll call Marie. Cue her telling Marie about our upcoming trip, and telling her she should come with us. She spends a good half hour discussing logistics, places her friend can stay, and other touristy islands and places they could visit. Marie sounds excited for the trip and plans to come. \n\nAfter she hangs up, I ask my mom why she invited Marie, as I wanted it to be us two to visit family. Her response was basically \u201cMarie has been wanting to come with me to the PI forever!!! We\u2019re finally going, so of course she should come. I told her she could the next time I went.\u201d \nOf course, I responded saying that I wanted it to be a family visit trip, not one where we\u2019d go around to all the touristy places so she and her could take pics (this was what she was talking with her about). She basically brushed that aside and said \u201cShe\u2019s been wanting to go for so long, so she has to come. Don\u2019t be selfish.\u201d As if I haven\u2019t too??\n\nThis is really annoying me, since this isn\u2019t at all what I intended it to be and I feel like the trip would be much different now if her best friend does come. I\u2019m at the point where I almost want to not pay for my mom\u2019s ticket anymore, because I wanted it to be a trip for me and her, not here and her friend. But of course, if I don\u2019t pay, my mom won\u2019t be coming with me and won\u2019t be able to see her family. So, AITA here, and WIBTA if I did tell her I didn\u2019t want to pay for her anymore?\n\nTL;DR: Mom invited her best friend on a trip to visit family that I was going to pay her way for and calls me selfish for not wanting the best friend to come because \u201cshe wants to go too.\u201d\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}230{"id": "8LXTAb304j6P6iBzAME5nVrXHTZZEYkj", "post_id": "ajf302", "action": {"description": "telling my team mate to use his brain", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling my team mate to use his brain?", "text": "Every wednesday at 7 pm we play in a CSGO tournament. Every single wednesday one guy on my team asks when we play and sometimes that he can't play today instead of telling us in advance. Yesterday he showed up 5 hours ahead of the game to tell us he couldn't play. Today he asks what time the match is and the first couple of times I answered by saying 7 pm. This has gone on for weeks and today I said \"Same time as always\" and he answered \"Is it that hard to say 7 pm?\" I answered back \"Is it that hard to use your brain?\". Now he refuses to play in the match we had to move to today because he couldn't play yesterday. AITA for telling him to use his brain after he has pulled this shit 6 weeks in a row?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}231{"id": "FzL4KuvyJOv458GgyREu3ZnSqK2rAYCl", "post_id": "9tfo87", "action": {"description": "starting ghosting her", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I started ghosting her?", "text": "Alright so there\u2019s thing some guys tend to do when they get rejected, and that\u2019s just stop talking to the girl altogether. I recently confessed to a girl and she politely declined and I understood, we both agreed to stay as friends. I\u2019ve been trying to start conversation or text her in an effort to be a friend like she agreed, but she always just dry texts me back. Stuff like, \u201clol yeah\u201d or \u201cthanks lol\u201d she\u2019s been making it crazy difficult to \u201cbe a friend\u201d like she agreed and I don\u2019t want to come off as one of those dudes who stop talking to her because she rejected me. So WIBTA if I just stopped trying to be her friend?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}232{"id": "VbXRdEyUSbig3FkRRBHmIZWltAC5r07P", "post_id": "ao5usd", "action": {"description": "not wanting to split the cost of an expensive hotel with my partner when a perfectly good alternative is free for both of us", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to split the cost of an expensive hotel with my partner when a perfectly good alternative is free for both of us?", "text": "My girlfriend is standing up in her best friend's wedding, I'll be her plus one. It's across the country over a holiday weekend, perfect.\n\nI travel for work regularly and have status/points in most travel programs (hotels, rental cars, etc.) I often use my points for both of us when we travel, which I don't mind at all. I offered to use my hotel points to book a nice Marriott property for our 2-night stay.\n\nMy girlfriend is now insisting that we stay at the designated hotel with the wedding party/family. That boutique hotel is not a part of my travel program, costs \\~$250/night, and is a ten minute walk from the hotel I've already booked for free. I understand that being closer may be important to her, but I' already spending a lot of my time and money just to be there -- for a couple that I'm not even friends with.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}233{"id": "v0xNLdBaEqQvktzxPDFir8lsQw7uMb8P", "post_id": "aismr6", "action": {"description": "wanting a pic my friend took of me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting a pic my friend took of me?", "text": "so my friend and I were hanging out in my garage and I was playing some bass, and he started taking some pictures of me, no big deal. Anyways he is taking a photography class and developed them and got a grade. I thought the picture was cool so I asked if I could have it, and he said absolutely no. Note the picture doesn't have my face in it or anything and you can't tell who I am, but I would like the picture and he doesn't want to give it to me. So AITA? \nP.S. It's a film camera so that's why we can't share the pic", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}234{"id": "E0nEBKciv0v50WW1US6wWo17Uqo1vz7b", "post_id": "b3nwfi", "action": {"description": "telling him to stop eating my food", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA to tell him to stop eating my food?", "text": "I have a friend of a friend who has been occasionally staying in my apartment when me or my roommate are away on weekends. Initially he stayed with us on a two week sublet as I was on a work trip, so it worked out perfectly. At that time I told him he was welcome to finish off my food, since I was gone for weeks. He doesn't live in our city, but often visits and needs a place to stay for a few days, and I need someone to feed my cat, so it's been a good mutual arrangement. \n\nI came back from a recent 5-day trip, exhausted and hungry. He's considerate in taking off the bedding and sheets before he leaves, though the house is a bit messier than it was, but this time I opened the fridge and it was totally empty. He'd cleared out all my food, cheeses, almond butter (that I brought in a suitcase from the US) and I had nothing left. It's been pissing me off, because he doesn't seem to be aware how expensive some of the stuff he's eating is. I'm pretty sparing and I'll make stuff last for ages, and then after one stay of his, it's gone and I have to restock everything.\n\nI'm torn about letting it go and just accepting it as a cost -- he did take care of my cat--or asking him politely in future to just eat the perishable food, but I don't even know how you go about asking that without sounding like a petty asshole? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}235{"id": "N05C3smeI4QFwSDhudiqV1lupcx6Aj33", "post_id": "b5xslz", "action": {"description": "reporting a former friend to the police", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for reporting a former friend to the police", "text": ". A former good friend started being distant after I refused his advances. A girl contacted me and confided that he had groomed her, and was flirting with underage girls so he could have sex with them the minute they became legal, then ditch them. This is a crime in my country. She sent printscreens that looked dodgy. I mentioned this to said former friend in an argument where I cut him off for stabbing me in the back. Didn't say I was going to make them public or anything like that and his response was to immediately block me. This made me suspicious but still not overwhelmingly convinced. Former friend then spent 3 months on a total smear campaign about me. Since I had blocked him on messenger (he blocked my entire fb profile as soon as he read my message saying I had seen dodgy stuff about the way he treats underage girls) and mails people I'm friends with , badmouthing me, taunting them etc. During this time, more girls came forward confirming he had done the same things to them when they were underage, and one even saying he had slept with an underager.\n\nThis was incredibly alarming so I brought police attention to it.  Police said I was right to call as this is a concern, and that they'll need to talk to the actual victims to move forward. I tell the girls this and they agree to do that. That marks the end of my involvement. Someone said former friend finds out a couple of hours later , and now everyone's calling me an asshole and posting statuses about me on FB, calling me a liar, accusing me of trying to ruin his life because I'm \"jealous\", mailing everyone I know calling me a liar. The girls' timelines all check out, and the former friend was always *extremely* questionable when it came to girls, so I'm on the fence. Especially after his reaction/the last 3 months. Even though I stated this when defending myself, people are now harassing me via inbox, messaging others etc. and saying I'm wrong for contacting the police and \"butting in and reporting stupid stuff over facebook\". The thing is if I didn't report it, and the allegations the girls were making were 100% true, then I would feel guilty like hell for not reporting it.\n\nPeople are asking for the printscreens, but if he's done this to me, I could only imagine what he would do to his alleged victims so I won't reveal names/reveal printscreens. AITA for reporting him to the police or should I have just stayed out of it? I feel like I did the right thing, but the amount of hate and ostracisation I'm getting is now making me second guess myself. I have severe depression and anxiety and the way people have consistently came at me today is making my mental state worse, even though my close friends have told me I was right to report.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}236{"id": "7yHvgUJPLnhYfYdc8fe1cA38yYq3a3Nm", "post_id": "b0lyow", "action": {"description": "having an abortion behind my boyfriend's back", "pronormative_score": 106, "contranormative_score": 23}, "title": "AITA for having an abortion behind my boyfriend's back ?", "text": "In December, my boyfriend and I had sex and the condom broke. I didn't think of using plan B as I have PCOS and was told it would be hard for me to have children without treatment, so at that point I was mostly worried about STDs. One month later I bought a pregnancy test as my period was late and it came back positive right away. I can't describe how I felt at that moment, I was euphoric because I realized I could have children but also terrified because I knew I wouldn't be able to keep my baby although I wanted it more than anything in the world.\n\n​\n\nI come from a very very conservative family, honour killings are frequent where my parents are from. I'm not allowed to date, let alone have sex before marriage, so them knowing about the pregnancy would be a death sentence for me. My cousin was severly beaten up by her father and brothers for hanging out with a boy after school. If they found out, they would take me to their home country and kill me there, and no one would know about it. They would also find a way to hurt my boyfriend. My parents trust me entirely and think I'm a virgin, they would lose their mind over this. \n\n​\n\nMy boyfriend and I have often talked about what we would do if I got pregnant. He told me he would be there for me, get a full time job, an appartment. He always said it would be a blessing to have kids with me. I have told him about how my parents would react but he wouldn't understand. He thought they would be mad at me but would eventually let it go, but I know my parents and they would definetly not react this way. If my boyfriend found out I was pregnant he would'nt have let me get an abortion. I know he would have been thrilled to be a father.\n\n​\n\nSo when I found out I was pregnant I knew what I had to do, but I was terrified, angry and disgusted at myself for doing this to my baby. I was nine weeks pregnant when I had a medical abortion at the hospital all by myself. \n\nI keep thinking about what would have happened if I was born into a different, more tolerant family. It's been five weeks since the abortion and I feel extremely disgusted with myself for doing this behind my boyfriend's back. It was his baby too and I really wish we could have kept it.\n\n​\n\ntl;dr : I got pregnant and got an abortion to avoid being a victim of honour killing. I hid the pregnancy and abortion from my boyfriend because he would have wanted me to keep it, and doesn't believe what my parents are capable of in order to save their \"honour\". AITA ?\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 20, "OTHER": 72, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 34, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 106, "WRONG": 23}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}237{"id": "4NTL6z9A96z2gVaSiV7UP5PqfY06KQpi", "post_id": "b0rc6r", "action": {"description": "wanting my dad and stepmom to give back my foster brother", "pronormative_score": 27, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for wanting my dad and stepmom to give back my foster brother?", "text": "My dad and stepmom have 4 foster children, the youngest of whom is 9 and has been with them for about 9 months. I think he's a legitimate phychopath, which is why he has been through 28 homes. I find him very creepy with how he studies things, the types of questions he asks and how he treats those he thinks are weaker than him. His behavior is often disturbing. \n\nI am in my 30's and live 1800km away.  They are visiting my little family for a few days and I have watched him allow my 1 year old to climb up his legs to stand and then kick him down. I've watched him taunt the dog with a toy, and when my dog finally got the toy, he slapped her quite hard a cross the face and called her a bad dog. He actively terrorizes the cat (who recently had hip surgery) and thinks it's funny when she tries to run away from him, but she can't because she's hurt. I have addressed each one of these circumstances and each time it's \"They were being mean to me. \" or \"No I didn't.\"\n\nMy other cat recently passed and he deliberately calls her by the wrong name to ask how she died. This question comes up several times a day and each time I say that she had cancer, but I don't think that's the type of answer he's looking for. Either he wants to know specifically about the death part, or he's trying to hurt me. The way he studies my face when he asks is the creepiest thing I've ever experienced.\n\nHe also becomes very angry at the drop of a hat over perceived sleights like helping to clean a mess he didn't make or a request to help with setting the whole table instead of just his spot. \n\nAITA for wanting my parents to remove him from their lives and the lives of the rest of the kids (who I absolutely love and consider my family, the system be damned). I don't think they can benefit him and I know for a fact he isn't benefiting their family. That being said, I'm not a psychologist of any kind and I don't know what traumas he has experienced. Maybe he really does need them. How can I not BTA for hating on a little kid so much?  I don't even live anywhere near them, how can I even have an opinion on this without BTA? I'm just afraid of what adolescence is going to do to him and I really don't want him anywhere near my baby or fur babies. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 26, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 27, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}238{"id": "5I1O69SbV31pPas1tFDNwSJYlf5ajFJe", "post_id": "avhzed", "action": {"description": "not wanting to continuously hear about my gfs heritage", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to continuously hear about my GFs heritage?", "text": "She\u2019s from New York and is Dominican. So naturally she\u2019s always bragging (there might be a better word) about it. But she is so damn long winded, constantly repeating things over and over. I can\u2019t stand to be in these conversations that you just can\u2019t escape and they just keep going and going and going and going. \n\n\u201cNew York\u2019s food is the best, OMG NO the bodaga, the bodaga on the corner, the fucking best sandwich\u2019s OMG NO you don\u2019t under stand the best and oh the dancing the dancing is so fun and the parades omg the parades and my people from my island and and....\u201d \n\nIt. just. Doesn\u2019t. Stop. It\u2019s the only thing she wants to talk about, where she\u2019s from. Like, it\u2019s cool and all but I could give two shits about where I\u2019m from. I could not imagine moving somewhere and this being a thing I do. It\u2019s just a bunch of small talk that doesn\u2019t mean all that much, you know?\n\nSo I was just sitting down eating with her while she rattled on and on about New York and the island, not saying anything, just eating cause I was fucking starved and she looks at me like \u201coh you\u2019re not interested?\u201d\n\nAnd I said \u201cno, not really, i mean...\u201d \n\nShe got all pissy and stormed off. \u201cOh ok what I want to talk about isn\u2019t interesting, right, that\u2019s how you feel, right\u201d \n\nI told her I think it\u2019s just a meaningless conversation, you\u2019re just going on about how great it is. Like cool but I just don\u2019t care that much. And I\u2019m trying to eat...\n\nAITA? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}239{"id": "K9xlpzHagYpoJ88Z7UY3dKWs45bd08uc", "post_id": "ah62rm", "action": {"description": "going radio silence on a girl after she bailed on our date", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA For going radio silence on a girl after she bailed on our date?", "text": "So I've been going out with this girl for a few months now, nothing super serious but we did have a little fling last summer so when we started dating we jumped to seeing each other very regularly pretty much immediately. \n\nWe haven't seen each other in a couple weeks, mostly due to her irregular work schedule, she's a bartender and has been working a lot more than usual recently. That's been a little frustrating but understandable. My real annoyance comes from that over the past couple weeks she's made 4 dates with me, and then bailed pretty close to the date each time. Excuses were pretty much always work related, and I definitely understand having to pick up a last minute shift, or having a really trying day and being too tired to go out. On the other hand I can't help but be unhappy with the situation. \n\nThat brings us to the current situation, I asked her last weekend when she would be free next because I'd like to see her. She responded that she was going to be getting off early on Wednesday and we should go out after. I agreed and planned on seeing her Wednesday night. Wednesday morning she texts me to ask if we're still going out, I confirm and we agree I'll pick her up from work. \n\nLater on in the day she texts me to say she still wants to go out, but she's gotta be home by 10:30. I was a little disappointed because she often doesn't get off until 9:00 or so, but it had been a couple weeks since I'd seen her so I agreed and told her to let me know when she would be off. She assured me again it would be early because Wednesdays are slow. \n\n9:00pm rolls around and I haven't heard from her, so I text to ask if she is still stuck at work. No response. \n\nToday, she finally texted me back over 24 hours later. The text just said \"I lost my phone \ud83d\udc80\ud83d\udc80\ud83d\udc80.\" I sort of doubt the truthfulness of that, but even if it were true I kinda feel like there's any number of ways she could have cancelled on me. Besides surely bailing on a fifth date in a row, this time with no contact, should warrant some kind of apology. \n\nAnyway I haven't texted her back, and I kind of don't plan to. I had discussed the situation with my best friend, and he told me not texting her back is a dick move. Am I the asshole if the way I prefer to handle it is just to kind of stop talking to her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}240{"id": "iDN26ALrCt2fm7Ya2PNTrwvZOYkpvt5U", "post_id": "ahtc9x", "action": {"description": "being disappointed my friend got me a different gift to the one I've been hinting heavily about? sorry", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for being disappointed my friend got me a different gift to the one I\u2019ve been hinting heavily about? Sorry", "text": "First up, on mobile yada yada, throwaway so it can\u2019t be tied back to me, friendo is active on cringe subs and I dunno if this counts so playing it safe, with that out the way, on with the show.\n\nSo for a while now I\u2019ve been talking to this friend online, we\u2019ve become really close, shared a whole lotta shit that hasn\u2019t really been shared to other people, point is, we\u2019re really close.\n\nNow going back a bit, we\u2019ve a history of getting each other games as gifts, typically things we want to play with each other but one or the other of us is in a bit of a tough spot financially, so we nab it for them, never really anything expensive, just more indie stuff, usually $20-30 tops.\n\nNow it being Christmas and all recently I decided I\u2019d get them something special, and I know they\u2019d been wanting to try this game, it was more expensive than our usual sort of game (not AAA, but that sort of pricing), but they\u2019d really enjoyed the last in the series and had been saying they wanted to check it out when they got the money, so I figured why not.\n\nAt the time they didn\u2019t get me anything, but I was fine with that cause again, money, and also I\u2019m really bad at accepting gifts so I sorta refused to say if I wanted anything (though in fairness at the time there wasn\u2019t really anything I was looking into that was particularly cheap).\n\nSo anyway, time passes by and a YouTuber I watch starts up a new series of an older game that I really get into watching and want to play, as it so happens my friend has the game and had been playing it recently, so I dropped a few not so subtle hints about really wanting to play it at some point, to be absolutely clear this wasn\u2019t a demand for them to get me it or anything, more trying to get it in their mind for the next time they were looking at getting me something.\n\nRight now with (most) of the backstory out the way, on with the potential assholery. Recently friendo has been going through a bit of a rough time, and I\u2019ve been trying to help them out as best as I can, and I guess they wanted to reward me (personally I don\u2019t really feel it\u2019s warranted, but I\u2019m grateful nonetheless), and so in our typical fashion they decided to pick me up a game\n\nNow they\u2019re also a frequent watcher of the youtubes, and someone they follow started playing a game very similar to the game I\u2019ve rather unsubtly hinted at, and have been asking what I think of it. I\u2019ve said I think it looks good, but Whilst I haven\u2019t outright said it, I\u2019ve tried to hint I\u2019d prefer the other one (which I\u2019d like to add is cheaper than the game friendo was talking about).\n\nTo round it up, friendo ended up getting me the second game, and whilst I\u2019m grateful for the thought, I\u2019m finding myself disappointed that they got me it instead of the other game I\u2019ve been hinting at for weeks, I haven\u2019t shown this at all to them, and I fully intend to give the game a go, I just wanted a second (or however many people) opinion on if I\u2019m an asshole for being disappointed, and if I\u2019d be the asshole if I kept hinting about the other game after a little while?\n\nApologies for the long post, TLDR:\nFriend who I\u2019ve been hinting at wanting a certain game for a while got me another game of the same genre(?). AITA for being a little disappointed they got me the other game instead?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}241{"id": "BJvaRla5VHJfIslTdnh4RIsmtUaVPp3t", "post_id": "a8d33k", "action": {"description": "lashing out to my girlfriend for her jokes", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if I lashed out to my girlfriend for her jokes?", "text": "My girlfriend (19F) lately have been finding quite the enjoyment out of some of my(22M) errors or lack of knowledge of some stuff and from time to time she really holds onto it for the moment. Yes sometimes it's funny but she's been overstepping it. \n\nI've told her before that it's a bit uncomfortable to take it knowing that I don't make a joke out of her mistakes or misunderstandings because I know myself and my type humour I could take it far, so I avoid doing that out of respect. \n\nYesterday we were talking about food and I didn't know some stuff and she started again with it, I went on a bit of a rant about how she could joke about that but couldn't take a shit joke about her because she would get mad easily, and just hanged up the phone. \n\nAITA for lashing out or is it comprehensible?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}242{"id": "2FQhwpxbSY3eFFemevtU6H1KCp4EgM0S", "post_id": "a35bje", "action": {"description": "not wanting to answer my family's technology questions all the time", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to answer my family's technology questions all the time?", "text": "I can't go one week without my technologically illiterate family members calling me or texting me about their latest dumpster fire of a problem.\n\nI have reset my Aunt's passwords for her email accounts, Facebook and Spotify at least 5 times in the last year. I always make her write down the passwords that she comes up with and she always forgets them. Most recently she decided to get a new phone and switched from the easy to use iPhone platform that she has been using for years to Android and she's pissed that \"My Spotify isn't on here, and they told me it would transfer.\" Spotify WAS on her phone, she's just too stupid to realize she needs to sign into it and as we all know history likes to repeat itself so of course, she doesn't know the username or password.\n\nMy other Aunt can't remember her email password. Doesn't have access to the recovery email and doesn't know her secret questions. Yet I'm the jerk for not wanting to help her sort it out.\n  \nThey always love to say \"But you helped me set up the password\" when I tell them I don't remember it. I don't know in what world a person is expected to keep track of someone else's passwords but I don't live in it, I've got enough passwords of my own to keep track of, not to mention the fact that I watched them write it down last time we reset it. \n\nI love my Dad but how many times can I show him how to switch his Chrome default search engine back to Google before I lose my shit and just stop helping? \n\nIt feels like the only time my family calls me is if they have a question about their computer or phone, and I can't stand it. I work on an IT helpdesk all day talking to idiots. I wish they would just recognize that I don't want to sit and answer IT questions and fix issues that wouldn't be issues if they would just fucking listen.\n\nThis Thanksgiving within 5 minutes of me arriving I'm being asked to look at problems with 3 peoples phones and fix my Dad's web browser again for the 10th time this year. Along with other Family asking if I can drive over an hour to come figure out why their WiFi isn't working right, and to make it worse my father decides to say \"Oh yeah, he can come up with us when we come up to your house for Christmas Eve this year.\" \n\nMy Family doesn't realize that I'm beginning to resent them because the only thing they ever want from me is free IT help. \n\nTLDR: Family is bad with technology, I'm at the end of my rope when it comes to helping them. They never learn anything or make any effort to stop the problem from happening again in the future. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}243{"id": "t69hcZYcIAVAVRaeitVODFrox8du5lrQ", "post_id": "b990vt", "action": {"description": "looking through my bosses deleted reddit history", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for looking through my bosses deleted reddit history?", "text": "So my boss is an avid redditor, and recently his alt account was leaked. He found out, and deleted everything he has ever posted. As most people know,  nothing deleted stay gone forever on reddit.\n\nWhen I heard about this account I decided to look at it, because of morbid curiosity and I was told he'd found my main account (where I've ranted about him quite a few times) and I just wanted to see if there was anything fun to poke fun at him about, or things he'd never actually say in real life.\n\nWhat I found was so much worse.\n\nHe made a post in one of the depression support subreddits about his wife having an extreme depressive episode. He's never been secretive about his struggles with depression and his dark thoughts, but he specifically mentioned that she didn't know he was posting. \n\nHe also had a separate post where he talked about a big falling out he and his father had over the holidays, that was a really personal and really intense account of the situation. \n\nIt was the kind of thing nobody he knew was ever supposed to read.\n\nObviously I'm never going to tell him that I know. I'm not supposed to, and I feel extremely guilty for knowing. On the one hand, he deleted it because he didn't want people he knew to read it. On the other, once posted on the internet it's there forever. \n\nI just feel like the asshole.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}244{"id": "YcRho4RlmW9wX4GsYt5loHBzMOHhATZG", "post_id": "ar2z2r", "action": {"description": "telling this girl she was the asshole", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling this girl she was the asshole?", "text": "So I was over on the Entitled Bitch sub and this girl was posting about how mean her roommates are. Except she admitted to not cleaning and replacing toilet paper BEC type stuff. Until she said that she left a shattered bottle of sparkling grape juice AND THEN JUST LEFT TO CATCH HER BUS! Then had the audacity to complain about her poor roommates reactions. Her daddy said she was right tho. So I told her that she was the entitled bitch in that scenario, a long with several other people. She called me a jerk and blocked me. I took a few screen shots of my/her comments but I don't know how to post them bc this is my first actual post as opposed to lurking and commenting lol. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}245{"id": "h2bZrZFibUMjsi6lLaIEFU5K0VI9UuUZ", "post_id": "b9widu", "action": {"description": "asking my husband to cover the increase in our insurance after an accident he caused", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I ask my husband to cover the increase in our insurance after an accident he caused?", "text": "We've been married for 2 1/2 years and our finances are almost completely separate. Our Auto insurance is combined to one policy, but we each pay separately for our individual coverage every month. \n\nI got an email this morning stating that our renewal was ready for review. I logged in to check out the paperwork and saw that our rates increased by about $80 a month total.  \n\nI called our insurance company and asked what was going on, to find out that my husband was at fault for an accident back in October. I knew about a large dent in his front bumper, but he told me he had hit a guard rail and it was just cosmetic damage. Never mentioned anything about an insurance claim. \n\nI feel a bit conflicted about how to handle this. Both of our individual rates increased, and we would normally pay for those separately. However,  I think he should cover the total increase since he caused the accident and then LIED to me about it. \n\nIt's not that much money at the end of the day and maybe I'm just pissed right now. We'll have to have a serious talk about the lying regardless, but WIBTA if I ask him to cover the full $80.00 per month increase?\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}246{"id": "uTFOERjFwFyP4sXV03k14qtQ843ICsd0", "post_id": "ak5mmo", "action": {"description": "not talking to her after our Hookup", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA For not talking to Her after our Hookup?", "text": "So, I met this girl, Cindy about a month ago, and we've been flirting for quite sometime. To me it was pretty clear that it was not serious, and at most a hookup, since I never said any of that feely shit, since I generally don't like talking to girls I hook up with afterwards, unless I know them well. However, during the hookup, which fyi happened last sunday, it became clear that she was insecure, possibly a bit attached to me, and possibly a virgin, since I had to explain some pretty basic concepts to her. \n\nAnyway, the hookup thing was fine, but nothing special, so I did what I normally do, I thanked her for the night, and sent her some generic texts, and sort of started disappearing. However, I got several texts from her asking when we were gonna go out next time, and that sort of stuff, which I've ignored, since I don't want any relationship type shit with her, or anyone really. A mutual friend said she has feelings for me, which I basically laughed off, since Imo, we did the deed, and are pretty much done. I don't plan on seeing her, or talking to her that much, just becasue I'm not much for doing that stuff, but she still me, and seems to be a bit upset. AITA here, I did what I planned to do, and I'm done.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}247{"id": "EjS2i5GailutufCTw38CuQ4guGldgsbV", "post_id": "aqb8cl", "action": {"description": "not turning down a girl at a wedding", "pronormative_score": 77, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for not turning down a girl at a wedding?", "text": "So over the weekend my ex got married and I was invited to the wedding. It was kinda weird but I am really close with the groom and frankly his whole family so it wasn't that surprising.\n\nBut a couple of days before the wedding the soon to be bride told me that I wasn't allowed to hit on any women at her wedding. Which I thought was really weird to make such a direct demand but whatever it was her wedding.\n\nSo at the wedding I am having a good time, I am drinking, mingling, and dancing and just having a good time. I am not out trying to pick up anyone but I am having a good time. As the reception is winding down one of the bridesmaids asked me what my plans were for the night and invites me to her hotel room and I agreed.\n\nThe bride is now pretty pissed at me. 1 I don't know why it bothers her so much, seems strange and 2 I didn't break my promise, she picked me up not the other way around.\n\nSo am I an asshole for not rejecting a girl at my ex's wedding?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 76, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 77, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}248{"id": "wZzb5fWs3TWaEgREqb9yQloM87NYuxGp", "post_id": "aakco6", "action": {"description": "telling my mom not to come to graduation", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom not to come to graduation?", "text": "Well, where to start? I haven't talked with my mother regularly in two years and I think it took me a lot to get to that point. I guess I'll split this up by major events?\n\n2 years ago, pre-wedding:\n\nThere was a large family event, small-family (less than 20 with cousins and aunts) but the event was big enough to get most of them together, my mother was not explicitly invited.\n\nMy mother was not invited because the person getting married and she had not on spoken in years. It was decided that she would be allowed to act as a plus-one to any member that wanted to take her and basically everyone offered. My mom took to this as being a huge sign of disrespect, not getting an explicit invitation, and chose not to come. Eventually asking me not to participate either. I chose to go because I hadn't seen some of these cousins in years.\n\nThe out-of-town family was staying the weekend so I asked if we wanted to go to a theme park. Everyone ended up thinking it was a great idea. I invited my mom but then my aunt decided to go and my mom blew up. Also choosing not to go to that either. She had made it about herself, as if the theme park visit was about family getting to see her. At this point, I guess she decided she was having an argument with her sister.\n\nSo, I was casually asked to not go. I think a week or two before my mom tried to make plans for the weekend of the wedding to which I think I initially agreed. I think it was spring break maybe summer, I'm at uni hence the title. Once I realized the dates I made it clear I couldn't hang out with her. I think this is when I thought of going to the park and invited her.\n\n​\n\n2 years ago, post-wedding:\n\nMost of the family hung out excluding my mother. She chose not to come. I even pleaded for her to participate and it was a constant will she won't she. By the end of it, right as I was driving home, I think she sent a several \"page\" text (it's not really pages on iPhone anymore but you get the point?) maybe saying sorry but it quickly broke down into an argument. When arguing with her it's just so stressful trying to get all these things across and never getting a chance so I got to the point of finally saying alright express all you grievances so I can get my turn. It ended with her saying this aunt raped her with a water hose before I was born. She had never mentioned this and I don't really understand how this was relevant to the situation. It felt manipulative and I couldn't really process anything at all anymore so I told her she needed to leave me alone. \n\nI blocked her from my phone and that's really the only way to get a hold of me. She has my main email address and I never let it get out of control but shes never emailed. I could no longer handle the instability and unpredictability of her meltdowns. I think I had recently told her that and then like a day later a meltdown happened. It was like she was pretending not to hear me and would specifically do what I told her stressed me out.\n\nFast forward 1 year ago:\n\nThere was another wedding and literally, everyone was invited. I hadn't talked to my mother since the last one. I didn't sit with her at the ceremony or the after thing (the dance/ eating/ party thing after the church. I get confused on the terms, sorry.). I got pretty drunk and I think I started talking to her about my 17 years younger half-brother. He's basically illiterate and now aged in the double digits. I think she left shortly after? I know another aunt came over and tried to reconcile differences at some point. Deciding she would mediate but I think she had chosen to fight for my mom so not true meditation.  I know I got way drunk I can't remember much? I don't think I talked to my mom during this time through text.\n\nWithin a week:\n\nI've been doing great! I was constantly a nervous wreck most of my life. I always had terrible acne but I've been getting good sleep and eating well. My face is clear, I make great grades, and I'm making friends.\n\nI play Fortnite with my little brother and he has expressed that he planned on going to graduation. I texted my mother at the start of this semester, my senior year, to start coordinating plans for graduation. Earlier last week I texted her and asked if it would be okay to call, she agreed. The phone call went well. She was acting very nervous at first but I can't really guess why. She was like almost expecting a certain thing but sounded generally happy. I think she thought I was calling because I was like dying or something? I ended up having to hang up because of a quick emergency. So, I texted her back 5 minutes later and said it was good talking to you and said sorry for just springing up out of nowhere to talk. She responded with a massive text talking about how much I hurt her and that she'll remember these things \"until the day I die\" saying she left the most recent wedding early because of me. I accepted fault and said I was pretty drunk. Then it was just text after text of her resaying all the same stuff and not really listening to what I had to say. Similar to the last time we texted and maybe as it has always been?\n\nI recently read a book, the laws of human nature, and I have been considering peoples backgrounds when how they act. I have learned to understand my mother's behavior and I was trying to forgive her. I don't want to act the way she acts. This book explains it is very likely I will fall into the same habits if I don't stay conscious about it. I don't know why I reached out, I guess it's my mom. I want to be able to have a stable relationship.  \n\nAnyway, I asked my mom if it would be okay if I visit over the current winter break. She started sending all the texts about how disrespectful I was and that there need to be rules I have to accept if I'm to see my little brother. Honestly, it has been two years and she had acted cool in the texts earlier this semester about coming to graduation. Well, I didn't like the tone of the conversation so I said we would go back to not talking. She started being whishy-washy and tried to make it sound like it was her idea to not talk? Idk it sounds petty but I think it is relevant to say it was my choice.\n\nPrevious 24 hours:\n\nShe is obviously pissed and was talking about years of grief. When I expressed one thing specifically that she constantly makes me feel bad about she acted as if she was never mad about that and made it seem like it was actually me who was mad over this event 14 years in the past. She graduated from college and moved me into my dads while she lived with the aunt I mentioned earlier. I decided to stay with my dad once she got an apartment and shes always told me how it hurt her and never accepts an apology for it. I mentioned this grievance and she made it seem like she was never mad about me staying with my dad and that she thought I was the one mad this whole time. Like what do I even have to be mad about that I stayed living with my dad?\n\nI decided to uninvite her to my graduation. It is way too much stress. She hasn't helped me with the price of a cheeseburger since I started. She never really makes me feel good about myself. I just don't want to talk to her at all anymore. I've started a new book about surviving psychological abuse and she is a textbook abuser. \\*cue I can see clearly now\\*. \n\nI texted her and I think I'll just copy paste? me: Well, I put a lot of thought into it. I don\u2019t want you at my graduation. I\u2019m no longer interested in maintaining a relationship. You had a lot of terrible things to say and if I ever try to explain how you make me feel you minimize or ignore it maybe you say I have the wrong memory all-together. Anyway, I don\u2019t wanna deal with it anymore. I was really trying to be nice when I reached out, you\u2019re very angry. I think you project a lot so I feel like I sound like you when I\u2019m trying to explain what you do but that\u2019s for you to figure out! Bye I guess \n\nHer: You know what Erick, I\u2019m done with you son. You\u2019ve been so disrespectful and shitty towards me since you were about 11. You\u2019ve got issues, and you need to grow up! I\u2019m a good mom and was a \u201cgreat\u201d mom to you. You totally don\u2019t deserve me. Thank God I have \\[little bro\\] because if all I had as a reference as a mom and you were my only child I\u2019d probably have shot myself. Don\u2019t contact me again.\n\nSo, grand-finale, my mother just told me she would have killed herself if I was her only son and that I've been terrible since I was 11? Who gets mad at an 11-year-old. She has a social work degree, I would think they tell you it is never the child's fault?\n\nI think I'm better off. I think she's being manipulative and knows full well what she does.\n\nTL;DR  First, I think you need to read it all, I know I needed to write it! Haven't talked to my mom in 2 years. She hasn't talked with most of her family in as long or much much longer. I told her she is not invited to my college graduation and that I don't want to talk to her anymore. She said she would have killed herself if I was her only son and to not contact her anymore.\n\nJust here for the judgment. AMIA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}249{"id": "J7jwPEZ2435wkOagDy3wxKBFQfGRE8lU", "post_id": "azxtxw", "action": {"description": "not wanting to take care of my elderly father", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA If I don\u2019t want to take care of my elderly father", "text": "My eighty year old father who is mentally ok but physically not the best, loses balance constantly and falls on the regular. Could no longer afford living in his home nor could he manage living on his own. My sister is handicapped and living on her own (which she shouldn\u2019t because she keeps falling mainly because she is obese and a hoarder in addition to her disability). My brother lives on the other side of the country and has made it known he wants nothing to do with helping with the situation. Mom died a few years ago. EVERYTHING was placed on my shoulders to move dad and sell the house etc etc etc. now he\u2019s living with us. Zero room in my house for him, he\u2019s living in my dining room.  He\u2019s very needy and everyone in the house is just stressed with the lack of room and I\u2019m exhausted from him constantly needing help. Falling in the middle of the night(going to the bathroom), messing up his tv with the remote (counted yesterday 37 times he needed help just with the remote), showers, dressing, putting his shoes on, expecting me to make every meal and every snack, testing his blood, etc..I come home from working part time and the sink is full of dishes doesn\u2019t pick up after himself.  Also me taking him was assumed because there was no one else to take him. I was never asked not that I would have said no even though I want to. Sorry for the rant. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}250{"id": "JFU3Sv4zVv5lEYzdbXWZAIg5c7Q7uYcr", "post_id": "a860fy", "action": {"description": "being upset that I was not included in my grade's holiday gift exchange", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset that I was not included in my grade\u2019s holiday gift exchange?", "text": "Earlier this week my grade had an annual secret Santa gift exchange event, which I only found out about the day before. I\u2019ve always participated in them, but this particular year I\u2019m involved in a special program where I spend the mornings at my high school and generally the afternoons (when I still have classes) at a university and do classes there, so I usually miss the class my grade does the exchange during.\n\nI brought it up with some classmates (not the teacher because I don\u2019t see her around a lot and I get nervous talking to them) and all they had to say that no one told them to tell me and that I was being salty. \n\nThat particular comment hurt (and albeit angered) me to an extent because I wasn\u2019t mad that I didn\u2019t get a gift like everybody else, but that I felt neglected and ignored that no one, not even the teacher or my close friends thought to include me in a tradition that circles around friendship and community. I should also add that since I miss virtually every afternoon with my class, I feel substantially isolated from them compared to previous years, and this secret Santa debacle has felt like being kicked when I\u2019m down.\n\nNeither of my parents think ITA, but that doesn\u2019t mean I\u2019m not, was I possibly overreacting?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}251{"id": "0BhRx9gk3KUJjezKmvdc54z9eMlrk7bA", "post_id": "a9awvk", "action": {"description": "expecting family time", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for expecting family time?", "text": "This morning I woke up and saw my husband watching video game streams, his typical pastime. Later he said the streamers he was watching were having cash giveaways that required participation to be entered. He continued to watch while he covertly built the kids' bikes in the garage as I had asked, then left to run a last-minute grocery errand for dinner, then came home and went upstairs to watch more streaming. \n\nAfter wrapping gifts, I did dishes and put dinner in the oven, and asked him to turn it off to spend time with me with/without kids. He said no. That the stream was only for today and it is not okay for me to expect him to stop doing what he finds enjoyable just because I want him to do something I find enjoyable. But if I was okay letting him spend $100 on app purchases for this game (same one he's watching) that he'd shut it off no problem. But last year he spent a little over $2,000 on in-app purchases for this game, and after a lengthy discussion, said he wouldn't buy anymore. So I'm not a huge fan of okaying any more money for it.\n\nIt's almost 6pm and says he doesn't know when it will end, but that there are 2 more streamers left. I feel like the evening is almost over and I am so disappointed and feel saddened that he would rather watch games than spend time with me. Am I an asshole for being upset and having unrealistic expectations?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}252{"id": "AzR47wUfeKVvFglYUvdZws9O8fq1OBn3", "post_id": "afht61", "action": {"description": "saying this to my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for saying this to my girlfriend", "text": "I (27M) and my gf (24F) were having a casual night in the bar and were heading to a place to eat some food. My gf was telling me about how she was surviving on having Cup Noodles during her survival days. With this, she jokingly mentioned that she was going on dates just to get food and save it for next day and blah blah. We were laughing about it and she said \"I didn't even have anything or any sex with them\" and I, in this light moment, jokingly said \"Oh really! You sure?\".And then, she was fuming and pissed off at me because of saying that and one thing led to another and we fought and left for home. According to me, I didn't mean to hurt her obviously but she thinks I call her 'slut'. So AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}253{"id": "OKyXjXnRgBxjdUzTVJ04QyJQlNOl5C5j", "post_id": "aiyhjx", "action": {"description": "suggesting to my fiance that we sleep in separate rooms", "pronormative_score": 162, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for suggesting to my fiance that we sleep in separate rooms?", "text": "Here's the background. I'm a light sleeper and prefer to have a quiet bedroom at night with no noise or distractions such as the TV.\nHe's a heavy sleeper, could probably fall asleep in 2.5 seconds in the middle of a rock concert and snores as loud as a train. Also he says he has to sleep with the TV on with the volume at about half of its potential. Although sometimes he compromises and lowers the volume about 3 points.\n\nEvery night, guaranteed, he will put on some stupid action movie with lots of explosions, gunshots, yelling and carcrashes then happily fall asleep while I'm tossing and turning. If I turn it down he'll wake up saying he can't hear it.... *in his sleep*\n\nTonight I had had enough of having shitty sleeps and went psycho and told him from now on, I'm sleeping in a separate room.\n\nHe thinks this is a terrible idea and that if we can't share a bed at night then what's the point of being a couple when we could just be roommates instead. But I just want a good night's sleep for once!\n\nSo Reddit, AITA?\n\nI'll add this for good measure. We've been together 8 years, engaged for 1 with 2 kids. I've been dealing with this for what feels like forever.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 155, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 162, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}254{"id": "QCZ4BHL4cI8FTHAoE6K6TSEUOuSbJzVl", "post_id": "ar40fy", "action": {"description": "asking a mentally handicapped mans carer to move train carriages", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking a mentally handicapped mans carer to move train carriages?", "text": "In Australia, NSW the trains have designated quiet carriages, they\u2019re fully labeled and marked so it\u2019s not easy to miss. I ask people to be quiet all the time. Today a severely mentally handicapped gentleman, who was wheelchair bound and his carer get on to the last carriage of the train which is marked as a quiet carriage, the man was morning and screeching constantly and I asked the carer if he could move him into the next carriage because he was disturbing the silence. I honestly felt like an asshole but it\u2019s a hour long train ride and I could hear him over my headphones.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}255{"id": "8T5cysv7vPLDkIy92aOjLgA3c9H4Ljwi", "post_id": "b2ftzm", "action": {"description": "not eating any food at a Dinner Party", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA If I Didn\u2019t Eat Any Food At A Dinner Party.", "text": "My parents and I went to a dinner party and the food there was terrible. I grabbed what I thought I would liked and ended up leaving it to rot in the garbage. My parents think it was very rude of me to grab all that food and not eat it, but the food was just plain bad. It was over salted and had a terrible after taste.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}256{"id": "y83Ouda8infddzDDxVNfzXLUGbXKduBY", "post_id": "apb09g", "action": {"description": "calling out my friend for ignoring my texts completely", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for calling out my friend for ignoring my texts completely.", "text": " My friend has been completely ignoring my texts as of late, so I finally called her out on it. I don't expect her to reply to every text under the sun, but there have been multiple times where I have initiated a question in order to hang out and have gotten no responses. Once or twice is fine, but for it to happen more than that finally got to me.  I kinda feel like shit, kinda don't once the conversation ended because she agreed with me that she was being rude. \n\n​\n\nFor context, she does have social anxiety, but in the past she has told me that she wasn't up to hanging out because of her mental illness which I one hundred percent respect and understand, but based on her Instagram stories and posts or whatever, I felt ignored. So I called her out on it. She told me agreed that it was rude and it kinda ended with that.  She told me that she doesn't have the mental energy to talk to anyone, but was able to go out of town with someone for a day trip. But I guess certain people calm other people down and I am still trying to understand the different versions of social anxiety because day in and day out it's different. \n\nThe last message that was sent was that I told her a simple message that she wasn't feeling well would've been enough and she just ended the conversation with \"okay\". The last \"seen\" message was me telling her that she can still talk to me if she needs someone to talk to with no response, but that's fine. She needs space I get it. I've probably lost  a friend, but it is what it is. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}257{"id": "MuLaNDdwbc31eTnzCQbGjlSaTauBZbpz", "post_id": "ak8563", "action": {"description": "loudly heckling cat-callers", "pronormative_score": 40, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for loudly heckling cat-callers?", "text": "This is something I've been in the habit of doing for like two months now, ever since moving to a big city. Random dudes shouting at people has always been a pet peeve of mine (*watch me about to be a hypocrite*), so I've been experimenting with being the change you wanna see in the world, etc. \n\nAnyway when I see it happening I tend to loudly \"*booo!*\" them, like you would a villain in a silent movie. This pretty frequently earns me some cussing in return and the occasional threat of an ass-kicking, but I'm a fairly big fucker and no one has made good yet. \n\nBasically no one who's observed me doing this thinks I'm not an asshole for doing it. Guys think I'm a white knight who's cruising for a bruising. Girls think I'm just drawing attention to the situation and making it worse. My rationale is that, if I can make the experience uncomfortable for the cat-caller in question, maybe I can discourage the behavior. And maybe help to create an atmosphere of dudes telling other dudes to knock that shit off. Also, OK, I find it funny. But I could very well be an asshole and should maybe stop. Hence the question. \n\nThanks!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 40, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 40, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}258{"id": "c02MPzt3bX4KAvX3oEoYO3UcyvWvTyIj", "post_id": "b11jw2", "action": {"description": "not wanting to share my shampoo with my gf", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to share my shampoo with my GF", "text": "Me and my gf have been dating for couple years and living together for half a year now. We get along really well and haven't had big problems. If we did, we have survived everything well. However there's this problem where we strongly disagree: \n\nBecause I'm living in a permanent apartment and she moved from far away with little belongings, I have been generous and we have shared everything we have. Sometimes though I've been little annoyed, for example when she eats snacks I bought and reserved for myself without asking me, or if she just grabs my phone to play with it (even though there's nothing I want to hide from her). \n\nLast Christmas my family bought me a small bottle of fancy shampoo. My gf has a big bottle of shampoo for women. She has a long hair so she uses quite a lot of it. So when I started using the new shampoo my gf just casually asked before going to shower if she could use it. I thought for a while and said no. Maybe I was tired of sharing everything and wanted to have something, even small, of my own. Besides my family got it as a present for me, and I was afraid my gf would use 1/3 of the small bottle on her hair.\n\nShe got angry and stormed out of the room. She spend the next hour sulking locked in a room and when I tried to ask why she's mad she just said she feels uncomfortable if there's something I don't want to share with her and she doesn't want to talk with me.\n\nShould I just share literally everything, even gifts for me, with my gf or is it normal to want to have some personal items of your own in a relationship?\n\nTL;DR: Didn't share my gift-shampoo with my gf because I want to have something of my own, she got mad and will be uncomfortable if I don't share everything.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}259{"id": "dU3RSRv49R0kzrSsc0KKV1kjnJqjjCVs", "post_id": "addosp", "action": {"description": "going to bed earlier than my roommate", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for going to bed earlier than my roommate?", "text": "We are both college freshman. The main conflict is that we have radically different sleep schedules. Rather, i have a schedule and he does not. I go to bed around 10-10:30, whereas he stays up until 12 with the lights on, playing video games and on his phone. He usually leaves around then and comes back at 1 am, and being clumsy as he is, makes it known thats hes back. He also keeps the room very hot which is difficult for me to sleep in.\n\nAll of these little pet peeves drive me crazy. I really value being able to have consitant sleep and as it is now its very difficult to get that. But, I worry that its my fault for not staying up late and going to parties at night and not living the college life. Am i being unreasonable? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}260{"id": "8bvPAy2OtrYr4j81GdRDvIswQrgx3e7I", "post_id": "b4unjs", "action": {"description": "trying to clean the washing machine's filter and have it get stuck", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trying to clean the washing machine's filter and have it get stuck?", "text": "Okay, so we have a dog in the apartment and thus lots of tiny hair that ends up on our clothes when playing with it. Hair accumulates on the machine washer's door and i figured that the filter might need a little bit of cleaning. I am living with my best friend in a rented apparent with one more guy. My friend and the other guy lived here before me and in my place lived a girl which I replaced. When i tried cleaning the filter, it got stuck because there were hair clips from the girl in the filter that jammed in between the filter and the washer, essentially getting the filter stuck. I couldn't put it in fully, i couldn't take it out.   \n\n\nThis is where the problem arises. My best friend (we've known each other since kindergarten, now we are 21-22) came in the kitchen and saw me fiddling with the filter and i told him it got stuck for unknown reasons ( at the time ). When he found out, he suddenly started blaming me and shaming me - \"Why don't you ask ME for \\*permission\\* to do things? Why do you do things on your own mind? Why do you think you can do everything on your own? Why do you think you can REPAIR the washing machine by yourself? Why do you think you know everything and can \\*fix\\* things on your own? Why do you constantly brake things that are none of your business? Why do you think you are a mechanic and feel the need to fiddle around? YOU BROKE THE WASHING MACHINE, I DON'T CARE, I WANT IT FIXED! Take responsibility for once in your life, you broke it and STOP complaining!\". Now, keep in mind that i haven't really fiddled with anything up to that point in that apt. I did tell him that its not my fault that it got stuck and i told him the reason why it happened, i followed the manual and i only wanted to clean out the filter which is something normal to do with a washing machine in my mind. I would've paid for repairs \\*if needed\\*, the thing was in warranty too, hell, i would've paid for the darn whole washing machine too.  \n\n\nSo am I the asshole? I only tried cleaning out the filter and it jammed for reasons beyond me.. I fixed the issue by myself and he didn't offer any help. Am i the asshole for \\*breaking\\* the washer and \\*complaining\\* that it is not my fault that this happened ( though i held responsibility to fix it ), or is my friend the asshole for shouting at me and pointing fingers at me and blaming me for absolutely everything possible? I asked my father and he said i am in the wrong since I got the filter stuck and I shouldn't be offended by my friend's reaction.  \n\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}261{"id": "EFZOS8FmbYC1c6qw0ZM2TbmjdrJHfAAi", "post_id": "ataimh", "action": {"description": "wanting to cut off a manipulative friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to cut off a manipulative friend?", "text": "First post and I'm on mobile.\n\nThis might be long.\n\nA couple days ago, my friend flipped. She started ignoring us, and left our group chat. She said (after nobody responded to her), \"I guess you all hate me. I'm just going to leave then.\" I texted to ask if she was ok, but she wouldnt tell me what was wrong. She had also been talking about everyone in the group behind our backs. \n\nThe next day, my friend tried to come up to me in school and pretend like nothing had happened. I ignored her, and she yelled after me.\n\nThat day she asked someone to add her back to our group chat, and they did. She starts by saying \"I'm sorry I suck guys. I didnt mean to hurt your feelings. I love you.\" Nobody responded. I thought this was a little manipulative tbh.\n\nShe texts me and asks if she can explain. I say sure. She said she wasn't mad at us, but dealing with her own issues. I said fine. Whatever. I told her it sounded like a guilt trip to make us feel bad. Especially since she talked about how much we all hate her. She says she wanted someone to ask if she was ok because we should care about her. I tell her I DID ask if she was ok. She ignores that.\n\nShe then says that I attacked her by ignoring her? I said that that was playing the victim card. She yelled at me. I say that I would have offered help if she told me what was wrong, and she says that I \"attacked her for needing help.\" We go back and forth for a little while, until she goes onto the group chat that she was added back into.\n\nShe says, \"I know I said sorry before, but you guys are clearly still upset.\"\n\nI respond (in the group chat), \"I know I said sorry before, but you guys are clearly still upset = Its ridiculous that you guys are upset\"\n\nI called her out for manipulation. I said that she was trying to make our issues seem ridiculous and is trying to get us to apologize to her. She was the one talking about us and ignoring us. It's not fair for her to act like it's our fault for not forgiving her yet. \n\nShe calls me a crappy friend and a \"jerk.\" I call her the same. She says its ridiculous that I keep saying that she's manipulative, and I say that that's what it sounds like. I also add that others think so too. (It is actually true, multiple people told me they agreed.)\n\nA second friend and I kick her out of the group chat again. (We use a messaging app and you can do that). \n\nNow, about a week later, she texts someone in the group and asks to be added back into the chat. She says that it's not fair that I am keeping her away from her friends, but it wasn't just me. Anyone could add her back, but nobody has.\n\nI've told our group that I'm not interested in letting myself be walked all over, and people seem to agree. I want to cut her off from the group, but her best friend is in the group too and isn't so sure. So, AITA for wanting to cut her off or did she actually do nothing wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}262{"id": "e9SsF3cgT6CsEOwA4WdBfAlDqVih5F8R", "post_id": "ash6n7", "action": {"description": "being weirded out my by fianc\u00e9s porn", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for being weirded out my by fianc\u00e9s porn?", "text": "Porn has always been a big issue in our relationship. We have been together for 7 years and engaged for 3. \nToday upon opening my laptop I came across some incest porn. Obviously it wasn\u2019t me looking at this, and it left me pretty shook. \nI\u2019ve known my fianc\u00e9 likes milf porn and such, but I had no idea he was into THIS. We have 2 two year old girls, so the thought that he has been getting off to stuff like this is really unsettling.\nWhen he got home from work, he could tell something was off with me so I straight up told him that I saw it. He was embarrassed, of course, and kept saying that he \u201cisn\u2019t into it personally,\u201d but I am just having a hard time letting this settle and I keep thinking about it. I haven\u2019t let him change our daughters diapers or left him alone with them at all, which may be an overreaction, but I don\u2019t care. AITA for calling him out, and not being able to deal with this?\n\nEdit to clarify: first off, I am not against porn. I don\u2019t disagree with it or ban my fianc\u00e9 from watching it, I just don\u2019t personally watch it myself so I don\u2019t understand the appeal. Secondly, I was trying to be very general with my post, but to be more specific by \u201cincest porn\u201d I meant he literally left his reddit up and he is active in multiple incest subreddits. And lastly, I don\u2019t think it was a crazy jump for me to be concerned for my children, because invest is quite literally having sex with your family and my daughters are our family. I have never been concerned about him with our children before, but with this random discovery I deemed it necessary to be that over protective mother for my sweet girls, whether it hurt his feelings or not. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 17, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 4}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}263{"id": "1Eaarjl4R23eaBDlAaavSZtfoP5GWnh0", "post_id": "amsvsn", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend for posting on gonewild", "pronormative_score": 66, "contranormative_score": 40}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend for posting on gonewild", "text": "My girlfriend and I had been going strong a while now and it\u2019s all been fine till recently.  Recently though she and I got into an argument about this, and now I\u2019m just not sure if I did the right thing. \n\nI was knackered after a night out so I do what I usually do after a night out. Lay in my bed and scroll through reddit till i realise I should sleep. So I\u2019m scrolling and I\u2019m not sure if this is just me, but when I see a porn post or an NSFW post in general I click it. So I just see a gonewild post and think \u201coh cool\u201d and click on it. Still reeling from \u00a31 night at the club I didn\u2019t immediately notice it was my girlfriend, but something was familiar about the post. The bed looked familiar, so did the overall room, but then I saw her body realised \u201cwait that\u2019s my girlfriend\u201d. I was mostly in shock and just started looking through her history and what I saw confirmed that it was 100% her.  Just filled with a mixed ball of emotion I decided I should sleep, but I couldn\u2019t. \n\nSo I waited till the morning my mind going mad. Eventually I texted her confronting her about it. I got a bit aggy saying how I felt like she was cheating on me and she was saying to me that since it was the internet it wasn\u2019t cheating. In all honesty I said some nasty things and I could tell she wasn\u2019t having a good time either. Said to her that I would like her to stop posting, and if she doesn\u2019t then I didn\u2019t really want to continue things with her. She started saying loads of stuff even suggesting I join her for couple posts? In the end I realised she didn\u2019t want to stop so I ended things then and there. Haven\u2019t messaged her since and my mates are aggy at me asking what was going on. I\u2019m not going to expose her, but this is a bit much for me right now. \n\nAITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 23, "OTHER": 48, "EVERYBODY": 17, "NOBODY": 18, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 66, "WRONG": 40}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}264{"id": "yCOqQJAaJ7N036sdO1VZZC4mmcgT0lu5", "post_id": "am7e5h", "action": {"description": "not wanting my neighbor to stop calling me three times a day and pop by when I ignore her calls because I'm busy", "pronormative_score": 30, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my neighbor to stop calling me three times a day and pop by when I ignore her calls because I'm busy?", "text": "A bit of backstory, I'm 22 and my neighbor is in her mid 30s, we are both female but we are complete opposites. I moved out of my parents house to be on my own last year, so it's all very new to me. I'm not assertive at all and I have trouble establishing boundaries. \n\nI became friends with one of my neighbors and she's disabled (she weighs 500+ pounds and cannot walk/stand for long periods of time or drive). I would ask if she needed anything from the store if I saw her and I was already going. Huge mistake. She then started asking me for favors constantly; asking me to pick up her groceries or can I drive her to doctor's appointment. I have very small car and not to be mean, but she would simply not fit. She is very inconsiderate and quite selfish and basically sucks people dry and annoys people until they stop doing her favors. \n\nNow, all that being said, I don't believe she is doing this maliciously. She's had a rough childhood and her mother never taught her how to be a functioning adult. She is heavily dependent on other people. I have come to her with problems of my own. I adopted a puppy and it was very stressful and she's helped me with researching training and she's talked to me when I'm feeling sad/anxiety. \n\nI work full time and on my days off, I like to do nothing but play video games, do laundry, and be lazy in my nightgown. She calls me and leaves me a voicemail to stop being so antisocial and to come down for coffee in the lobby. I tell her that I'm not ready and I don't feel like socializing at the moment. She accepts it and we agree to talk later. \n\nI wind up taking a nap and I get woken up by her calling and I said, hey i'm sleeping can I call you back when I wake up more? she said that's fine, but I'm going to come up there (to my apartment) if you don't call me back in the next 15 minutes. And I'm half asleep and I'm just like yeah don't do that, i'm gonna fall back asleep. \n\n20 minutes later, I hear pounding on my door and i'm like oh, it's probably maintenance and I get my robe on and it's her standing at my door. I hate when people drop by unannounced. Unless it's family or super close friends, I don't want anyone just coming by because I don't feel like talking to the person. \n\nShe said \"I figured you would ignore your phone if I called so I decided to just come up\" and I'm just standing there like wtf? and she just walks right into my apartment and plops down on my couch. And I'm grumpy but I'm drinking coffee so I'm waking up. She tells me about more dog training shit and I'm just like, I've figured out a training solution that works well with both me and my dog. She still makes me take down all this information. \n\nThank god my little pup has to go outside to potty, it's been about 30 minutes that she's been in my apartment. So we leave my apartment  and she says she'll meet me in the lobby when I come back in and i'm just thinking *I do not give a solitary fuck actually*. I let my pup do her business and come back inside. \n\nI notice she has a wallet that looks very similar to mine and I ask her that I have one just like that. And she tells me that she found it on the ground and the ID says **my full name**. And I'm not trying to jump to conclusions so I ask if I dropped it on my way out of the elevator? \n\nShe says no she got it from my purse. And i'm like wtf? you went through my purse? She said that she wanted her food stamps card back because I got a couple things for her the day before at the grocery store. And I tell her \"Why didn't you just ask for it back, it's not even in my wallet, it's in a pocket in my purse.\" \n\nShe just laughs it off and says I love messing with you and I make an excuse to leave and go back to my apartment. I double check to make sure nothing was taken from my wallet but she just wanted to do a \"harmless prank\". \n\nShe called me that same night and I told her I need her to respect my boundaries and not to come over unannounced anymore because it stresses me out to have uninvited guests. She said that she just wants to be close friends with me and didn't really see the problem. Am I the asshole here? I don't want her in my space but she also justifies herself by saying she is just trying to make friends.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 30, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 30, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}265{"id": "FNhqQIqlbPHgJIaeLYpY8IzOfHemEHaC", "post_id": "arivvi", "action": {"description": "expecting someone to work on the day they broke up with their boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA expecting someone to work on the day they broke up with their boyfriend", "text": "I work in a restaurant and in my city, like most, Valentine's day is one of THE busiest nights of the year no matter where you work. I had made everyone aware well in advance that it was going to be a crazy dinner service, and we'd all be kept late.\n\nI come in to find that the other bartender had broken up with her boyfriend of 4 years THAT morning. She's upset and in a state. \n\nThe kitchen manager has already decided to send her home. (He is new to the country and hasn't worked much in restaurants so doesnt realise what we're in for). I repeatedly try to communicate my concerns, I am adamant that she has to stay. We cannot be short staffed, two of the servers are brand new. \n\nI offered compromises such as her solely covering takeout/delivery & answering the phones. She would be completely away from face to face interactions, that way we weren't completely losing a person. Also told her she was more than welcome to take an hour to go for a walk, call somebody, go collect herself, etc. She would not be needed until the rush started. \n\nHe sends her home any ways, telling the girl he's not a HEARTLESS MONSTER, alluding that I am being unreasonable expecting her to stay. \n\nJust a side note, I am female and have worked through difficult situations before. But now he has a total dislike for me because I was adamant that she work. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}266{"id": "VSxP1n9f3hiEC3yjFMdsQgjOrbC8YfBb", "post_id": "avlgma", "action": null, "title": "AITA: My boyfriend (M24) said I am (F22) toxic and selfish for asking to move our plans back by an hour?", "text": "My boyfriend and I had plans to go to an amusement park tomorrow (we have season passes). I asked him if we could leave at 10am instead 9 as I will be up late studying for an exam. He got upset saying this is his only day off and I\u2019m ruining it. He told me he wants to \u201cmake the most of his day\u201d and leaving later would ruin this. Additionally he said if I am tired this would be an issue, as I would be downer. When I got a bit frustrated saying he didn\u2019t seem to be understanding of my school work, he got extremely angry saying I am selfish and toxic and make everything about me. He even went as far to say I\u2019m not mature enough for a relationship. What am I missing here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}267{"id": "sNfHAWegzRBIw4uAEQhavhLYLFfHVxNs", "post_id": "b9vx9b", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to my friend's birthday party", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to my friend's birthday party?", "text": "I have a friend whose boyfriend's birthday is this Sunday. I've hung out with him and his boyfriend only a few times, but we're pretty good friends. He texted me saying that he was planning on celebrating his boyfriend's birthday by taking him out to a restaurant and then just walking around the city, but he also said it would be fun if I came along, since the three of us have hung out a couple of times without any problems. I told him that sounded like a good idea.\n\nNow, my friend changed his mind and told me that instead of going out to eat and just explore around and have fun, he's gonna throw his boyfriend a surprise birthday party and invite a bunch of people. I have social anxiety, so I start to feel really nervous and uncomfortable when I'm with a small group of people I don't know. It's not a huge party, it's a handful of people (like 10-12 I think) that all know each other and are close, so I wouldn't be able to just kinda fade into the background or anything. People would notice me not saying anything and just staying in my corner, which would make me feel even worse. I've been in these situations before, and every time I get too nervous to start or continue conversations with people, so I always end up uncomfortable and by myself.\n\nI told my friend I don't really feel like going for these reasons, and now he's upset. So, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}268{"id": "bdFuMJCvuGAXfzMLu8CQNApRCVgvaYw7", "post_id": "am0mut", "action": {"description": "asking my husband to leave the apartment for a couple of hours", "pronormative_score": 44, "contranormative_score": 37}, "title": "AITA for asking my husband to leave the apartment for a couple of hours?", "text": "We live in a studio apartment which means pretty much no alone time when both are home. I will sometimes go to the kitchen to bake/ hang out but usually we are in the same room. I work full time and he works only 10-20 hours a week which gives him plenty of time home alone (we don't have kids). He doesn't go out a lot or meets friends often so he really is usually home when I'm home. It's not like I can't read a book with him in the room or watch shows he doesn't want to watch but it is just a different feeling when you are completely alone. I have always valued that and loved living alone.\n\nHe moved in to my apartment almost 2 years ago and I guess it still doesn't feel like his apartment yet. Whenever I ask him to meet his friends or find something to do so I could have a couple of hours to myself on a Saturday afternoon, he gets really hurt and says he doesn't feel welcome in his own home. Then he wants me to specify exactly how many hours I need and what he is supposed to do outside when his friends don't have time for him.\n\nThis Sunday we're going on a day trip to the sea and he said if in addition he can't be home on Saturday, he doesn't really have a relaxing weekend at all. But he his home alone all day today (Friday) and he probably doesn't have to work on Monday either... I don't understand his problem there as he has plenty of free time every week.\n\nRegarding finding a bigger apartment: So far we have not been able to move because his job situation is so unstable and he is not making much money. And we live in a big city where affordable housing is almost non existent. We hope his situation will change this year and we can move then.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 37, "OTHER": 25, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 19, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 44, "WRONG": 37}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}269{"id": "3m4Td5RwxdLyGrzp7G2zdVyR2LBVUBja", "post_id": "ar5tll", "action": {"description": "disregarding fish tank size", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For disregarding fish tank size?", "text": "I am a freshman in college and it's important to find ways to cope with this stress. While I didn't plan it, one of my ways ended up being fish. Specifically my pet comet goldfish. How I got her is important to the story, as I didn't go out and buy a goldfish that, for those of you who don't know, grow to be quite a large size. Instead, I got her through my zoology class. One of our first labs involved fish and when the lab was over, there were about 30 goldfish in need of re-homing. I wasn't going to get one, I really wasn't...but then I did, which I fully admit was an impulse decision as I hadn't done my research first. Long story short, a single comet goldfish requires a tank size of at least 55 gallons for when they're full size. Campus rules say you can't have an aquarium larger than 10 gallons, so I currently have her in that.\n\n​\n\nI did my research after getting her and I'm taking as good of care of her as I can. I have everything except a big enough tank that I would happily purchase if I was allowed to have it. She's healthy and I've owned her for a few months now. The fish and fish care are incredibly stress relieving for me, even the tank cleaning is relaxing. There are days when I come home from a long day of classes and stare at her swimming around for hours to unwind myself. This is where I find myself asking the question, \"am I an asshole?\"\n\n​\n\nI know she will need a bigger aquarium soon. She has plenty of room right now because she's a baby, but she'll grow. Many people on the fish subreddits say to re-home your goldfish if you can't provide the perfect home for them, either to someone else or to a local fish store. However, I do not know anyone who lives off campus who would take a goldfish, and I refuse to leave her at home for my family to take care of, both because I know they won't do as good a job as I do with the cleaning, and because it's not fair to dump that responsibility on them. There is no local fish store where I live, and I have no car to travel to somewhere that does. Even if I did have a store to give her to, she's a 40 cent goldfish, not an exotic fish. They most likely wouldn't take her.\n\n​\n\nIn my opinion, she's a rescue fish who's getting a better life than she normally would have seeing as she was a disposable \"lab rat\" fish who would have died otherwise. I really enjoy having her and I plan on buying a 55 gallon as soon as I have my own place, and if she were to die before that, I would not replace her since I now know I can't house one correctly here. That being said, I still want an unbiased opinion from people who aren't me.\n\n​\n\nI know this isn't the typical AITA post, and I hope I don't come across as fishing for attention (pun intended). I just want an objective view on my situation/choices.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}270{"id": "6rPZNCnIhWFdB5iZM7JSSXq6qVeqwPYR", "post_id": "9v36ht", "action": {"description": "asking my kids which parent they loved more", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my kids which parent they loved more?", "text": "This is more hypothetical than anything because I\u2019m curious about what y\u2019all think about this. I know a lot of parents that do this and I can\u2019t help but feel it\u2019s potentially developmentally or emotionally damaging to children when they\u2019re asked \u201cDo you love mommy more or daddy more?\u201d or even worse \u201cIf we were to separate, who would you wanna stay with?\u201d OR EVEN WORSE (and yes, I have heard this) \u201cIf one of us were drowning, who would you save first?\u201d\n\nBut WIBTA if I asked my kids if they loved mommy or daddy more?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}271{"id": "yHI61n7g50Oc5EyzUpagONH3X0K4YMjq", "post_id": "abo0gz", "action": {"description": "using the word \"retarded\"", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for using the word \"retarded\"", "text": "So right off the bat that is not a word I would use to describe a person. I know that it is a low insult to everyone with any mental impairment far more than whoever is being an idot that would have been called such. \n\nHowever in my mind it is a word with a definition and there is no reason not to use it. \n\nWhat brought this to my attention was a person who interrupted me and proceeded to insult me and call me an asshole. I was just having a conversation with a friend about my motorcycle and the problems I'm having with it, perticularly the fact that I had to retard the ignition significantly to get it to start. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}272{"id": "a4D3ZHASP1bxDqP1Sz5yCiuk4r7H9AtD", "post_id": "azk7wl", "action": {"description": "expecting my unemployed live in boyfriend to take care of most of the chores at home", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for expecting my unemployed live in boyfriend to take care of most of the chores at home?", "text": "We've been living together for 2 years now and we've both had full time jobs the entire time. \n\n He was let go 3 weeks though and hasnt put effort into looking for another job. He said he needs time the time off anyway and can just dip into his savings to pay his share of the bills.  \n\nWhen we were both working, I felt the chores were spilt 60/40 with me doing more because i like to have things tidy and he doesnt mind having things laying around all day long.  Since he hasn't been working though, he put in way more effort into cleaning up. The chores are now split to 25/75 and he told me to pick up my slack.  He says that since he doesnt need help to pay his share of the bills  that I should still clean up just as much. \n\nI thought that since im busy at work he would take on the cleaning at home more.  I come home every day and find a clean apartment with him playing video games on the couch but now he says hes tired of cleaning up after me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}273{"id": "YyFnjVGjEDZKu1TkJUyaS2icCikUMiiC", "post_id": "aqi9qx", "action": {"description": "not wanting to buy a new candle my housemate's dog destroyed", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to buy a new candle my housemate's dog destroyed?", "text": "A few years ago I lived with this girl that had a rescue dog that she had adopted a few years before. The dog was super sweet and super clingy and loved humans. Sadly she did not have a lot of time for him, so she never walked him, saying that he was too old, which I think is complete BS. He only went out in the small backyard to do his business. He spent all his day in the living room waiting for someone to come home and play with him. He also had a lot of energy and was not properly trained, which led to him chomping on everything he could reach. We were advised when we moved into the house that he does this, so I did my best to always keep food out of the dog's reach. He still got into some of my friend's chocolate one time and had to go to the vet. \n\nNow, one thing that bothered me about living with this girl was the fact that she was not very tidy or clean. It was an awkward situation, since the house belonged to the girl's father and was already stuffed with the girl's and her boyfriend's belongings. They owned a lot of toys from TV shows and such and generally their stuff was just everywhere, while I barely ever had a place to put my laptop. \n\nOne time after christmas, I wanted to sit at the dining table to eat and discovered that it was covered in stuff, some of them wrapped presents. I decided to put the presents on one of the chairs, so I could eat at the table. Later in the day, the dog's owner calls me downstairs to inform me that the dog had gotten into the presents and eaten a scented candle and that this was a gift from her parents to her boyfriend's parents and that the candle had to be replaced...by me. Not only did she want me to pay for the candle, which is still annoying enough but whatever, but she wanted me to personally go out right then and shop for the candle, as it had to be there the next day. I was honestly shocked that she wanted me to go buy this candle. For one, she did not know what was in the presents, so she did not put a note on it saying that it might be something edible. Also, I did not feel that it was my responsibilty to replace an item that her dog ate and it is not like she replaced my friend's chocolate when the dog jumped on the counter and ate those and I would've never asked her to because it's ridiculous. Ultimately, I only had two more months living with them though, so I did go shopping for the candle, which of course was a christmas-scented candle and was now out of stock. I bought a similar candle, which the housemate said she couldn't use and offered me to keep it. How generous.\n\nSo AITA for initially not wanting to replace the candle and still feeling annoyed at this girl for this? I wouldn't have done it, but my parents convinced me to just try and keep the peace. \n\n​\n\nTL;DR my housemate's dog ate a candle that I had moved from a table to a chair and my housemate wanted me to shop for the exact candle and when I bought a similiar one from the same brand didn't want it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}274{"id": "s9M9BUn3Bv0UxtRLzAO0NANOiVyXF9KT", "post_id": "b380z6", "action": null, "title": "AITA on my birthday", "text": "So its my birthday soon, and my family always a small dinner (direct family only). However now days my grandma always comes. But whenever she's here she makes everything about her and always bitches about me and what I do, it's super annoying and always ruins my mood. Don't get me wrong i love her to bits but also always ruins everything. Also if she's not there she's coming to dinner the next day\nSo am I the asshole for wanting to enjoy my birthday", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}275{"id": "Zl4lyCFHM6cIUe0ssuGKMciMURypGzHE", "post_id": "ao3z9u", "action": {"description": "not wanting to get mixed up with my friends relationship issues", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to get mixed up with my friends relationship issues?", "text": "A few months back two of my closest friends got together and dated for a few months before splitting it off. It was their first relationship and things got a little heated between them. The girl broke it off because she felt it wasn't working and the guy started on a downward spiral. It became an obsession of his, the only thing he talked about on his discord server was how upset he was all the time and how its all her fault for not \"trying to make it work.\" Of course I'm his friend and so I gave him my best advice but he turned it down (I suggested he simply move on, i understand being upset for a little while but at this point he became fixed on it) when he refused all advice I, and a few others in our group  had given him he started saying we \"were never there for him,\" and \"if we were going through a hard time he would be there for us,\" he said my neutral position on it was \"unhealthy\" and that I should also be upset with him. His ex, who was also pretty upset moved on and we're still quite close. He blocked me on basically everything and won't talk to me or really anyone. So, Am I The Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}276{"id": "OjFWW3iIAheVWGVizGcYHiM6SmnDiSSR", "post_id": "b41fzr", "action": {"description": "telling my gf I'm no longer physically attracted to her", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my gf I'm no longer physically attracted to her?", "text": "After having been together for a year, my gf seemingly cares less about her appearance now. In particular, she no longer shaves her underarms and lip area.\n\nI've not said anything to her about this as I don't know how to do it without potentially straining our relationship. WIBTA if I told her I'm not longer physically attracted to her?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}277{"id": "qJjIIqEw5vqKBWIVLt1JYP4vZsjPnk7r", "post_id": "a5djn1", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be friends with my college roommate", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be friends with my college roommate?", "text": "A little background, after my freshman year my good friend and I decided we were fed up with dorms and made plans to move into an on campus apartment for our sophomore year.  We were the first ones to put our names down for the apartment and up until mid summer we were the only ones listed in the apartment.  Well room assignments came around and two random roommates were also assigned to the apartment.  This was no big deal and was something we both saw coming as it was pretty unrealistic to get an apartment all to ourselves.\n\nAnyway, after moving into the apartment Saturday morning things were strange.  I didn't see my first random roommate (we'll call him Mat) until nine at night since he was staying in his room with the door closed.  My second random roommate (let's call him Tim) didn't move in until late Sunday night and made quite a commotion doing so.  The next morning, I saw Mat in the kitchen and we introduced ourselves.  The basics like what our major was, our year, where we're from, etc. in general he's a pretty decent guy and I don't have any problems with him.\n\nTim on the other hand...\n\nI didn't see Tim until Wednesday night when I was in the kitchen waiting for water to boil.  He came up the stairs and I said something along the lines of \"hey how's it going\" and he walked right past me.  No wave.  No eye contact.  Nothing.  He walked straight past me and into his room.  Off to a great start.\n\nI saw him again the next day and tried to start a conversation.  I managed to get a small wave out of him as he passed by but that was it.  \n\nThis continued on for weeks until Mat, my friend, and I had to almost drag him out of his room to fill out our roommate agreement.  During this ,we all agreed to keep the apartment clean, take out the trash as it fills, and just generally be respectful of one another.  Well the three of us did, Tim did little more than sit there quietly.\n\nTo no ones surprise Tim didn't keep up his end of things.  He has a popcorn maker and there are constantly kernels left all over the floor and the trash can will overflow with his microwave meal packages.  On top of all of this Tim gets really into his video games.  And I mean **REALLY** into them.  He stays up late swearing his head off and dropping every racial slur under the sun at these games.\n\nSome of my favorite quotes of his include (if you're easily offended don't click the spoilers)\n\n\">!Get raped you fucking nigger!<\"\n\n\">!I can barely understand you go back to your own country spic!<\"\n\n\">!Don't talk to me you fucking dipshit!<\"\n\nand the list continues\n\nThis finally prompted the three of us to talk to our RA and have a mediation to try and get things worked out with him.  The mediation wasn't very productive but Tim told us he'd do better.\n\nShockingly nothing changed.  Food was still being left on the floor.  He was still stuffing his trash into an already filled trashcan rather than taking it out.  And his choices in language and volume level didn't change.\n\nAbout a month later we go to the housing office to attempt to get something done.  The housing office organizes a SECOND mediation with our RA and our housing coordinator.  This mediation went a bit better and a chore chart was organized to make sure everything gets done.\n\nThings have been relatively stagnant since then, he still yells at his video games but the apartment stays clean.  There's still almost no communication and trying to talk to him feels like cornering a wild animal.  \n\nWell last week I came out of the bathroom to see Tim standing there waiting for me.  He said something along the lines of \"hey... would you and \\[friend's name\\] want to get pizza sometime?\" I told him I'd have to talk to my friend but maybe.\n\nI have no intention of getting pizza with this guy.  He's ignored every attempt at communication and friendship for months now and has been outright disrespectful at times.  I appreciate him finally reaching out but for me it's too late.  So am I the asshole for not wanting to be friends with my roommate after months of him blatantly disrespecting and ignoring me?\n\nTL:DR One of my four college roommates has refused to talk to anyone in the apartment for months now.  He's disrespectful, messy, and yells racial slurs at his video games and is just not the kind of person I want to associate with.  He finally asked my friend and I if we'd want to grab food sometime but I feel like it's too little too late after living together for four months and having no communication.\n\nAlso thank you to anyone who read this novel of a post, this is me trying to summarize four months of hell.  I didn't even include his 7' green inflatable dinosaur, his latex sex suit, or his $300 dragon sex mask.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}278{"id": "z1AhWH3NqOYzsVUNQ4HRHhMzbsM1Wdei", "post_id": "axe2n2", "action": {"description": "breaking my friend's string and not paying", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For breaking my friend's string and not paying?", "text": "Backstory: My friend (lets call him Dave) uses his Diabolo a lot and his strings started wearing down. His other friend broke his Diabolo strings once but Dave managed to fix it. \nSo now Dave lets me borrow it. I play with it for a few minutes and the string breaks again and this time Dave can't fix it. Dave is angry at me and wants me to pay for it but I say that the string was already broken and refuse to pay for the string. (he said it was $10 and I'm pretty sure thats BS) Now his friends are telling me to repay him and that I'm an asshole because I don't want to pay. \n\nAITA for not repaying my friend to breaking his string?\n ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}279{"id": "hJuDE7tmgsm3fBEMqWNYuPFotjCIuLin", "post_id": "a15yrc", "action": {"description": "not wanting my fianc\u00e9 to get a part-time job", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my fianc\u00e9 to get a part-time job?", "text": "I know the title sounds controlling but hear me out first.  My fianc\u00e9 is on disability for have a mass in the brain and having it was removed, but he lost his left Peripheral vision on each eye and he gets seizures. If you saw him you wouldn\u2019t be able to tell all that happen to him. I am starting college beginning of next year and he wants a part-time job to contribute our financial situation. I told him helping out with chores around the house and cooking was all he had to do. We came to an agreement only because one we live in Texas and if it gets too hot for him he could have a seizure. Two my job does mandatory overtime so it my be problematic if I can\u2019t drive him to work since I am the only on who can drive(we live in a small city the bus system sucks).  Three next year he has to go back to the hospital to do testing and possibly another brain surgery because we don\u2019t know what the future may hold for us. Finally I don\u2019t mind if he has a job cause I would hate to be coup up in the apartment 24/7 like he does, but in the past times he tried it just ended up in the ER because the migraines became unbearable or he had multiple seizures. Right now agreement was and still is to just help with the house upkeeps and making dinner, but I just feel like rethinking the conversation makes me feel like a controlling a-hole", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}280{"id": "fQIaAq8Wydj95K1r8IkZl79hYvRSs8Lu", "post_id": "awfwvn", "action": {"description": "not going on our family holiday", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for not going on our family holiday?", "text": "So I (32f) am part of a very close family, we all love each other etc. Fam wants to go away for Christmas, to Fiji. I said no, I\u2019d like to go somewhere new. One of my sisters has been guilting me for deciding to miss an opportunity to make memories with the whole family.\n\nBackstory: I\u2019ve been to Fiji three times with one sister, her family and my mum at least three times. I told them I wouldn\u2019t go to Fiji during the planning stages, and left it at that, but my sisters kept planning and ended up deciding on Fiji despite my wishes, because they have kids and Fiji is easy with kids. I also like staying out, drinking and generally running amuck on holiday. Whereas my family is in bed by 9.30.\n\nI feel like I might bet he asshole, because I have it easierand should be more flexible as a single female. Also because I\u2019m willing to miss family time to explore a new place. But I also feel like I\u2019m not the asshole because if it\u2019s a family holiday, it should be a choice of all family members. \n\nMy sisters are older than me and got to travel through their 20s, but because of the age difference during my 20s, my dad was sick so I didn\u2019t travel at all. I\u2019ve got the travel bug late, after dad passed away, while they\u2019re busy having babies. \n\nSo, judgment please?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}281{"id": "P18q4gySnJa8CjuG9b2iMglmrAUDPqQc", "post_id": "axn0kp", "action": {"description": "not giving a lady my parking space", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not giving a lady my parking space?", "text": "I work at a group home in a residential part of a city. The parking is off street parking, but there are often plenty of spaces.\n\nThe lady across from the street where I work, always parks in the same spot as it is right in front of her house. I was pulling up to park (there was ample spaces) and I\u2019m the type of person that pulls right up to the sign that says \u201cno parking past this sign\u201d  it just so happen to be in front of her house.\n\nAs I\u2019m parking, she pulls right up behind me and starts honking her horn. She rolled down her window and asked if I could pull forward. Using the nicest voice I have, I mustered out the words: \u201cI\u2019m sorry, but I can\u2019t. The sign says no parking.\u201d Slightly annoyed she replied: \u201cwell can you park some where else? There\u2019s plenty of space on the other side of the road\u201d.  \n\nAgain, using my nice voice, said that I wasn\u2019t going to move.\n\nShe said that \u201cthis is a family home. This is my spot. I have lived here for years. There\u2019s such a thing as respect. You\u2019re not going to move? You\u2019re a piece of work. Who\u2019s your boss?\u201d\n\nShe ended up parking just behind me. Blah. \n\nEdit: written on my phone.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}282{"id": "7uPavRy0eCHEqlznpC1e9oBgxwoJkayX", "post_id": "ahi4fx", "action": {"description": "not making my kids 19 and 12 eat foods they don't like even when other people cook them", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not making my kids 19 and 12 eat foods they don't like even when other people cook them?", "text": "My kids are not picky eaters, but they each have a relatively common food ingredient that they don't like. One doesn't like cooked carrots and the other doesn't like onions. I don't like mushrooms and my husband doesn't like peaches so to us this has never seemed all that odd. We were at a family function that had a potluck buffet set up and they each opted not to eat certain things because of the aforementioned ingredients. A cousin I'll call Harriet of my husband's got offended because she was doing that \"I made such and such you have to try it!\" thing with some kind of multiple layer dip/salad concoction. It looked...off somehow so I don't think anyone was eating it. \n\nHarriett really tried to push it on the kids and my oldest declined politely, but my youngest kind of froze so she put some on his plate. He didn't eat it and when he went to dispose of his plate she got upset that he was throwing it away. I handled it in the moment by telling her that we don't make food a battle ground and to leave him alone. I freely admit I could have been politer but he's on the spectrum and she's knows this and does moderately aggressive boundary pushing with everyone but especially my youngest in ways that work my nerves. My MIL seems to think I could have been kinder and encouraged him to at least taste it. I think people's plates are their own business. We are not having a fight over this or anything, but I am genuinely curious if my husband and I are missing a key social grace. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}283{"id": "C4p4hWXtkSNbuMdQOYARbePzLohE8Km1", "post_id": "asmfzq", "action": {"description": "my wife miscarrying and I want to leave the relationship", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for my wife miscarrying and I want to leave the relationship?", "text": "I'm not going to leave her soon. I'm giving her a little time unless she changes.\n\nLet me get into some background, we were set up to be married. We both liked each other during the engagement period, etc. She's not who she was, she has a temper and sometimes is pretty nasty. I don't know why.\n\nI was thinking about leaving her, but then she got pregnant, so I'm like atleast I'll have a kid to look forward too.\n\nMiscarriage, wasn't expecting it. She's depressed... I'm really upset too but it's harder on her.\n\nNow, though I have to face reality. I'm pretty sure I want to leave.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}284{"id": "DTwI0soKAOXotfQiNUatyVg9t7ViUPdw", "post_id": "acldt8", "action": {"description": "wanting a burglar to serve his full sentence instead of getting early parole", "pronormative_score": 25, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting a burglar to serve his full sentence instead of getting early parole?", "text": "I'll try to put as many details as possible. \n\nI live in AL, USA. In Oct 2015, while I was sleeping next to my newborn, my door was kicked in. I woke up immediately and seconds (felt like minutes) later, one guy enters my bedroom, we lock eyes, he and his friend run. I never saw the friend, but I was able to pick the guy out of a line-up of assorted mugshots. So yes, he has a prior conviction. He was convicted and sentenced to 10 years in Jan 2016. It's now Jan 2019, and I get a call from the district attorney saying he is being put up for parole, the hearing is later this month, and if I oppose him having parole, I should show up and voice my experience for a better chance at his parole being denied. And they were also going to write a letter on my behalf. \n\nSo I go to talk to my SO about my options, and he says I should let it go. Granted, he was at work. He didn't experience the pure fear that I felt. He didn't experience the violation of a strange person in our private home, it disturbed my peace and I still have nightmares about that crack headed man's face. I've also had a friend voice her opinion of, \"oh he's been locked in that hell hole for 3 years, I think that's punishment enough, maybe he's a changed man and just wants to see his family again.\" I don't have any empathy for the man. But others seem too. \n\nSo, am I the asshole for wanting to show up and do my best to have him serve the full 10? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 25, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}285{"id": "GV20mEu4gHrt1vdHVLvVhEh7QCOkx82t", "post_id": "auefo7", "action": {"description": "expecting my wife to pick up some more of the household chores while she's unemployed", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for expecting my wife to pick up some more of the household chores while she\u2019s unemployed?", "text": "Three weeks ago my wife unexpectedly (well sort of expectedly) quit her job because her boss was a jerk and they had their issues. Before this we both had been working but I was covering the majority of our bills (rent, car, cable etc) while she was paying for groceries and her student loans (I have none). We share a studio apartment in the city for which the rent is incredibly reasonable and I was ok with this because getting her debt free was a priority. \n\nSuddenly without income on her end I\u2019m paying for groceries and if she remains unemployed past this payment I\u2019m on the hook for her loans since I co-signed them when she refinanced. Obviously this is a bit of stress for me but I have savings and I just got a raise so it\u2019s not a catastrophe.\n\nMy wife has been applying for jobs and I\u2019m empathetic to that struggle because I was unemployed for 9 months after graduate school but I\u2019m more and more starting to resent her seemingly lax attitude. Multiple times last week I came home from 9hour+ days to find her in bed sleeping or with a migraine, she\u2019s always sleeping in and has told me she\u2019s been waking up past noon on more than one occasion, she still wants to go out even though she knows I will have to cover for her, and she\u2019s used my credit card to make clothing purchases for herself. \n\nAll this can be explained away. The sleeping is due to depression and the fact that she needed some new clothes for interviews is something I can believe but when I ask her to maybe do the dishes or clean up the house or some errands we need done she acts like it\u2019s a burden to her and makes me feel terrible for asking.  I completely get that applying for jobs is a full time job but right now I\u2019m doing a full time job + commuting + house chores + taking care of her while I don\u2019t see her making any progress and I\u2019m feeling taken advantage of.  \n\nAm I wrong to ask her to pull her weight? Especially if I\u2019m going to have to cover her student loans next month? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}286{"id": "f90U5JzYEou6Fv19uoM1WUZXAIwA2ekx", "post_id": "awjwke", "action": {"description": "refusing to drive my roommate to work", "pronormative_score": 47, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for refusing to drive my roommate to work", "text": "First some back story; I (23F) own a car and she (21F) doesn't drive, so I drive us everywhere all  the time. I never ask for gas money, and I don't mind driving us to get groceries or to go out. However, lately she has been missing the bus 10 minutes before her shift at work and then asks me for a ride even though she leaves at risky times to catch the bus (leaving 3 minutes before it gets to the stop). The first few times I agreed because I didn't want her to get into trouble and lose her job - we are both in our last year of University and its not cheap.  \n\n​\n\nToday is Saturday and the first Saturday that I haven't worked in weeks. I slept in, made myself breakfast and was catching up on the news when she comes running in to tell me, \"I just missed my bus, I guess I'll have to walk 20 minutes in the cold...\" in an angry tone. I just stared at her and said \"That's shitty\" and continued to read the news as she stood in my door way for 2 minutes before finally heading back out. I feel a little guilty but I am annoyed that she expected me to offer her a ride.\n\n​\n\nAITA for not offering her a ride and making her walk to work? \n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 47, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 47, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}287{"id": "jbpO2jJKFGm0skhbSg83zeLiV7skJgqv", "post_id": "aweiox", "action": {"description": "not talking to my roommate about laundry", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not talking to my roommate about laundry?", "text": "My roommate stopped me from doing laundry when I came home at 7 PM because he said he was getting ready to do his first. By stop, I mean I was putting my clothes in the washer, and I took them out when he told me to because I wasn\u2019t time pressed. \n\nI slept until 11 PM afterwards, so he could finish his laundry. When I went downstairs to start the oven, I saw that he was on the couch with a movie, so I assumed that was what he was doing during this time. But I didn\u2019t talk to him. \n\nAt 11, I took his wet clothes from the wash and put them in the dryer, but I didn\u2019t turn it on because I don\u2019t know if his wash requires something (e.g., what temp, if he uses dryer sheets). I then put my clothes in the wash.\n\nAt 11:45, I put his wet clothes from the dryer and put them on top of the dryer.\n\nAt 12:15, he took my clothes out of the dryer and blamed me for being the asshole for not communicating. He said that he was angry because my putting wet clothes in a pile on top of the dryer could lead them to sour (but didn\u2019t address that possibility for me). And I said not only did I rearrange my schedule for you, I assumed you wouldn\u2019t mind if you waited an hour more for your clothes because I had already waited 3 hours. I said I would\u2019ve put them in the dryer after I was done and not started the dryer cycle for the same reasons. He said he wouldn\u2019t have done that if he were me, but I said I would not mind. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}288{"id": "786NLP8B8c4oQyXd5HchWDysxQWnGSIn", "post_id": "aadyk4", "action": {"description": "inserting myself into a couple's (very public) argument", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for inserting myself into a couple's (very public) argument?", "text": "So I'm a 26 year old lady from the sticks, recently relocated to NYC and still very much a fish out of water. I mention that because maybe my behavior makes a bit more sense in context, but then again maybe not. Anyway: \n\nYesterday I was on a semi-crowded subway car headed back from work. Standing up, headphones in, as is my custom. It's a decently long commute and the whole time there's a youngish couple (guy and girl, mid-twenties) across the way from me, having what seems to be an increasingly heated argument. They're not speaking English but the guy in question is clearly upset, and appears to be the more aggrieved party. I mostly mind my own business. At some point, though, he gets to the point where he's full-on screaming at her. Very public freakout. To the level that a couple jokers actually have their phones out and are filming it and others are sort of hooting and laughing. \n\nNow, the guy's not big but his body language is more than a bit aggressive, and I notice that the lady is actually starting to cry. Soooo... in what I think is an unobtrusive manner, I sidle up to the guy and say, *\"Hey dude, take it easy OK?\"* \n\nI don't touch him or anything, but predictably he shifts the full brunt of his anger to me and starts cussing me out, telling me to mind my own fucking business bitch, etc etc. Maybe not being a dude saved me from a full-on ass-kicking, but who knows. I didn't really try to defend myself, apart from continually telling him to calm down. It's difficult to read the vibe in the car at that point, but I can readily tell that nobody has my back in this. \n\nI get a teensy bit of satisfaction when he exits at the next stop (his apparent girlfriend goes and sits in the far corner), but mostly I immediately feel like a raging douche. Several people give me a sort of eye-rolly dismissive look that indicates they agree. One helpful gentleman politely tells me that doing that kind of thing is a bad move and I really should mind my own business, especially when it's between a couple like that. \n\nSo at present I feel like way less of a good samaritan and way more of a busy-body asshole. I also don't know why I felt the need to step in in that instance when I know I'll be obliged to ignore all kinds of equally disturbing behavior on public transport in the future. As I said, I'm still getting the hang of the vibe here. D'you think IWTA there? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}289{"id": "PUq5vzLn3kNu0jJZ9MeexGUbjxI5rat2", "post_id": "agtubk", "action": {"description": "wanting a soccer ball of equal quality for the sale price", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting a soccer ball of equal quality for the sale price?", "text": "    So after the World Cup this year I was on a soccer website that had the official match ball(165$, very high quality soccer ball) on sale for 50$ (71$ with shipping and tax) . I bought it and got a confirmation email that they had gotten my order.\n    2 weeks later I was wondering why it hadn\u2019t shipped. I emailed them and they told me they ran out of stock and weren\u2019t going to get any more. They said I could instead get a different ball for the price I paid. So they offered me a 60$(already less than I paid)ball for what I paid(which was of lesser quality). I then asked if I could have a refund instead. \n    Another 2 weeks later and no refund. I email back in and ask if they can just give me another ball of equivalent quality(Another ball that cost 165$) they said no but they can offer me a ball from last year (165$ at full retail price/on there website, but usually around 80-100$ on other sites) for 25% off. Some quick math would reveal that they were offering 41$ off after I had already paid 71$.\n   I was getting fed up at this point and emailed a new person from customer service. They refunded the ball, and said for my trouble they would sign me up for the rewards program (10$ but gives you a lot of discounts from their website) for free. I had to email in one more time after this because the person then forgot to add me to the rewards program. But in the end I did get my refund and was added to the rewards program for free. Was I being an A hole/ choosing beggar during this or was it justified?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}290{"id": "frnUT9GO435Kzol32YHDKH8njmJtyypd", "post_id": "9uuhfe", "action": {"description": "getting a second cat", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting a second cat?", "text": "\n\nI\u2019d been waiting for years to have a cat again, and adopted an older one that needed to be rehomed.  I did not realize the cat was as old as she was when I took her and her age quickly started to show. She only moves to eat and use litter box.  The rest of the time she rests in one spot.  That\u2019s it.  Very sweet cat but she\u2019s like a living fixture in my house. \n\nWhen I was first dating SO, one of the earlier important questions I asked was if he was ok with cats, if we/I could have a cat down the road if we live together.  He said yes.  He said yes because we were newly in love and we were enamored with each other and I badly wanted a cat and although he\u2019s an anti-cat guy he said OK.  I already had a cat, but I know she is old- I\u2019m asking about another cat. \n\nAnd after a couple of years cat discussions came up and he changed his position on cats. He hates cats, he\u2019s allergic (even though I\u2019ve never seen him have an allergic reaction when he\u2019s over at my place with my cat), says cats are horrible and murderous, they kill for sport, cats stink, litter box stinks, they don\u2019t love their people etc etc etc.   And he took back his agreement to have a cat.   He now says NO CATS when we live together. \n\nThe subject of moving in together has come up  and we have been looking at places and without any particular rush are planning on living together, that\u2019s the long term plan. \n\nNext thing I know, my teenager comes home with a kitten.  Now- I didn\u2019t go LOOKING for this kitty. Neither did my teenager who just found it, it was dumped and starving.  So we fed the kitten, knowing we couldn\u2019t keep it but just helping until I can get it to a rescue for her forever home.  I didn\u2019t mention it to SO because we had other things going on and it was temporary anyway.  In hindsight- probably should\u2019ve mentioned it.   ..... SO comes over and learns there is a kitten here.   I tell him the cat is not staying (even though of course I do want to keep her) I\u2019m going to send her to rescue.  He says \u201cNo No No No- I know you want that cat your kids are in love with that cat it\u2019s already been here and you guys are attached to the cat. So absolutely DO NOT get rid of that cat because you will be making me the bad guy and no thank you to that. The kids will know it was me who spoiled it and made you get rid of the cat.\u201d  He was piiiiiiissed.  But told me not to get rid of the cat. \n\nSoooooo I kept the cat.   But he couldn\u2019t sleep and was so upset because he took this as a HUGE sign that I don\u2019t want to live with him since he said he wouldn\u2019t live with a cat and now here\u2019s cat that will be around for a long time. When this came up in an argument a month or so later, and I reminded him that he told me to keep the cat that he did not want to be the bad guy or make my kids upset that they had to part with the kitten.  He told me I should\u2019ve known better and that I was supposed to go ahead and not keep the kitty of my own accord, not because he told me to.\n\nGreat when he tells me this NOW, after we are all really and truly attached to the cat and after the cat is very attached to us.  She loves and trusts us very much.   I\u2019m reluctant to even try and rehome her now. This is her home. And I love her. I know I should\u2019ve discussed this with SO more as it\u2019s a big decision that affects us both in the event we live together.  And I do want to live together. I just want him to accept a cat like he said he would.  It\u2019s JUST a cat. Its not a sign that I don\u2019t love SO or want to live together. \n\nNow SO is so mad. He doesn\u2019t want to come over. He\u2019s pissed all the time about me getting a cat.  It\u2019s almost getting worse.  The more he thinks about it, the more upset he is and it\u2019s snowballing into a huge thing.  Also he flat out said he will NEVER EVER EVER live with a cat.  He wants to live with me 100%.  This is not him looking for an excuse not to live together. He does.  Just not with my cat.  \n\nHonestly ..... I love this cat. I really do. It\u2019s important to me.  So important that it was one of the few questions I ask in the beginning of a relationship. Dealbreaker questions.  And for me a cat is one of those questions.  \n\nI understand how he feels.  ***He feels like I chose this cat over him. Over his feelings. Over our relationship.  And he\u2019s very very butthurt.***\n\nBut it\u2019s JUST A CAT.  I get it. He doesn\u2019t like cats.  I wish he would get over it and do this for me.  He wishes I would get rid of the cat for him.   I told him, it\u2019s fine you don\u2019t have to live with a cat.  He said Neither do you.  \n\nI think he should accept the cat because it means so much to me.  Just deal with it it\u2019s not the worst thing in the world. He thinks I don\u2019t care about his feelings and that I should not have a cat because it means so much to him. \n \nAITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}291{"id": "ep9BWLb3YgReSkAKRQTUdANyjw46dwMW", "post_id": "aw11t5", "action": {"description": "changing my oil", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for changing my oil?", "text": "I drive a VW sedan, but it\u2019s technically not my car but my dad\u2019s. It was due for an oil change and instead of taking it to get serviced, I just went and bought myself new oil and an oil filter and did the change myself. It went fine and I thought it was no big deal. \n\nMy dad is super annoyed that I did that and claims it was irresponsible, and yelled at me after I already did it that car is not a toy I can just take apart and play with.  I did tell him I was going to do it before it happened, but in a statement rather than a question. \n\nAITA for performing a routine maintenance service on my daily vehicle without consulting my dad, who\u2019s the owner of the car?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}292{"id": "aLQR3ePP5IQalA8PSatpu5xC8LALsxLo", "post_id": "amopxx", "action": {"description": "wanting divorce mainly because wife has never been to work for last 9 years", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting divorce mainly because wife has never been to work for last 9 years?", "text": "I'm a foreigner, living in a European country and married a local there. After marriage, I said she should look for a job as the life was very expensive there and almost all of my salary was being used to pay bills and everything. After one year, she said she wanted to study master degree as it would help her to get a job that she wants. I agreed, she enrolled and completed a 2 year degree in almost 4 years.\n\nAfter that I asked that she should be looking for jobs, and she sometimes sends the applications. But it seems to me that she has given up on everything. Most of the day she is on her computer playing video games, and then sleeping almost all day.\n\nIt is literally impossible to talk to her. As soon I try to talk, it always follow the same pattern:\n\n**Step 1:** Crying\n\n**Step 2:** Shouting while giving reasons: \"I am applying for jobs, what can I do if no one wants to give me job?\"\n\n**Step 3:** Blame me (\"I had to move to this city because of you, it ruined my life as I did not want to move\")\n\n**Step 4:** throwing things and screaming that I'm the asshole who is not being any help to her.\n\nI don't know what i should do. I want to get out of this situation but i feel guilty and i feel that maybe I am a terrible person.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}293{"id": "oDdO94ufcYhkEuYJIIRQVflMz7dnLXaH", "post_id": "az0mgx", "action": {"description": "wanting to say no to one of my close friends staying the night, with just under a days notice", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to say no to one of my close friends staying the night, with just under a days notice?", "text": "So my close friend (F23) and her boyfriend (M24) have asked if they can stay the night at my place after our mutual best friends birthday. \nShe only just asked me. \nThe party is tomorrow at 3pm \nAnd she has had more than 2 months to ask if she could stay the night. \n\nFor the past week Ive been so busy at work, doing alooot of hours (which she has been aware about) that I\u2019ve been so exhausted when I finally get home. The party is my only day off I will have this week.\nSo the house is a mess.  I feel embarrassed about it. \n\nShe said in the message that \u201cit\u2019s totally fine if you say no \ud83d\udc95\u201d  but near the beginning of the message she said that she wasn\u2019t able to that her and her partner might no be able to go. It feels like a big guilt trip. \n  (They live 45min away from the party destination) she can\u2019t drive, but her boyfriend does. \nIf she had at least asked a week prior I would probably  say yes to them. \n\nI don\u2019t want to be that person that is the reason that someone can\u2019t go\nbut \non the other hand I don\u2019t want to drop everything willy-nilly, she needs to understand that she can\u2019t do this kind of thing, that people won\u2019t say yes to her all the time? \n\nAITA if I say no? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}294{"id": "05xloBDOvhZHK6QMyPIpYSCkRMDDKB6r", "post_id": "aomup7", "action": {"description": "asking my wife why services haven't been scheduled earlier before we list our house", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my wife why services haven\u2019t been scheduled earlier before we list our house?", "text": "I\u2019m out of the country for work on a completely opposite time schedule than back home, so it\u2019s near impossible for me to call and schedule this stuff. My wife is a stay-at-home mom that sends our kid to day care 3x a week while I am gone.\n\nSeveral weeks ago, our realtor told us a few things that would help our house sell: drywall repair holes from paintings, yard debris, freshen up landscaping, power washing the house...etc. We agreed and three days later, I flew out of the country. I had to remind my wife 2-3 times a week to schedule the power washer (realtors husband) and get drywall repair. She kept telling me she was going to ask our friends for their landscaper\u2019s number. Finally, after 3.5 weeks, she gets people out for quotes, still no landscaper. \n\nNow it\u2019s Friday night and I get back on Monday morning. She hasn\u2019t scheduled any of the services except the power washing. Tonight I asked her about the landscaper and she blew up at me because I was agitated she hadn\u2019t yet schedule it. I explained that companies have multiple customers, and one week before photographing the house and listing it, not all of the repairs or services might get done. She hung up on me and sent me the \ud83d\udd95\ud83c\udffb emoji. This is not our first house we\u2019ve sold, and me being away for business is scheduled out well in advance. AITA?\n\nTL;DR: I\u2019m 6000 miles away and can\u2019t get repairs quoted or performed while gone, but stay at home wife is mad at me for asking why things aren\u2019t scheduled yet, a week before a professional photographer is coming out so we can list our house \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}295{"id": "UZNqKx1039aP7lTTyzz36AWw2teQk4D8", "post_id": "ayl20d", "action": {"description": "leaving my husband with mental illness and now taking the kids", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for leaving my husband with mental illness and now taking the kids?", "text": "Was married 10ish years, 2 children, and I ended our marriage last year. Ex and I both had depression and anxiety at some point (I had pretty bad post natal depression both times and while I'd love to say he was super supportive and caring, he really wasn't.). He was incredibly difficult to live with, has a lot of autistic traits I didn't see in the beginning. I tried to involve him in caring for the kids, attending their appointments, but he had no patience with them and I often had to step in to avoid a meltdown. He did nothing to help keep the house in order, inside or out, despite both of us working and me pleading for help. Both of our children have autism and I believe he does as well. In the end I couldn't take any more, I'd begun to resent him because I felt unheard and unappreciated, more like his mother and maid than his wife or partner. I'm not perfect, I know he felt like I was too controlling and I'll admit that I probably was. Our children thrive on routine and it was always left to me to ensure it happened, my own anxiety was a factor in this as well. I didn't think either of us were particularly happy in our relationship but he claims he was.\n\nI'm in a really good place now, happier than I've ever been. The children have been spending 7 nights / fortnight with him and 7 with me (split into 5/2/2/5, not 7 straight) and they're coping really well with that. He isn't. He is deeply depressed and needs a lot of help (which he is slowly getting but has had to be hospitalised). Obviously the best thing for the children is that they spend the majority of their time with me until he's back on his feet. I respect him as a person and he's a good father. He thinks I'll end up taking them and they won't want to see him any more.\n\nI've accepted the fact his family and our friends (none of whom are speaking to me) think I'm the asshole here. I tried so hard to support him while taking care of the kids and their needs and the house and working but in the end I couldn't do it. He's hurt, and he's having a breakdown that has been coming for years, and I'm well aware that what I did was selfish but it was also self preservation.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}296{"id": "Er9A37kahTMyhoFKQu23O3Lt1idQSGcb", "post_id": "az3rzn", "action": {"description": "not spending the night at my girlfriends", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not spending the night at my girlfriends.", "text": "So me (23) and my gf (19) live a little over an hour away from each other. I work at a hospital fri, sat, and Sunday. I spend every day I don\u2019t work at my gfs apartment. \n\nI am sick right now and was at my gfs last night to drop off some stuff I had of hers. My boss was trying to get someone to cover my shift today and tomorrow since i am sick, but didn\u2019t know if he could find anyone. My gf was begging me to spend the night but I just couldn\u2019t because I didn\u2019t know if I was going to have to work or not and wouldn\u2019t be able to drive an hour and be at work at 6am. \n\nShe starts crying and telling me I don\u2019t love her if I don\u2019t stay. I tell her I wish I could but I can\u2019t and spend half an hour trying to calm her down telling her how much she means to me and promise I would be at her house 1st thing if I didn\u2019t work. Then she screams at me that \u201cI should leave since that is what I wanted to do\u201d and threw my new Iphone XS. I scream \u201cwhat the fuck, bitch\u201d. Then she pushes me out while crying. I felt awful all the way home.\n\nShe has never acted like this the almost 2 years we been dating. I assume it was coming from some insecurity. But today I find that she has me blocked on Everything and I texted her roommate who won\u2019t respond to me. AITA for not staying with her?\n\nTLDR; I didn\u2019t spend the night at my girls place and she blocked me and won\u2019t talk now.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}297{"id": "AnR0VkCqAPdZWWMuLdMLk0p988o2R14x", "post_id": "aoza2d", "action": {"description": "wanting my roommate pay for damage to my furniture", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting my roommate pay for damage to my furniture?", "text": "I have been living in a house with 3 other roommates for about a year and a half now. When we initially moved in, I was the sole person who furnished our house, including a wooden dining table, nice rolley chairs, and two nice leather couches.\n\nAbout 6 months after we\u2019ve been living in the house, one particular roommate, let\u2019s say Billy, got a kitten. No one had a problem with it, including me. As time went on, the kitten started growing up and discovering things around the house that it could scratch... fast forward about a month and both of the nice leather couches I furnished the house with are completely torn up with cat scratches all on the back and arms of both couches.\n\nFast forward another month and while I was staying at my other friends house, I come back and see that the wooden dining room table has two legs broken off of it that looked like they were stinted in place by the legs of the chairs as if to hide that the legs were broken off the table. None of the roommates told me about it and I had to ask them about it for them to even admit that it was broken, and I still to this day don\u2019t know who actually did it.\n\nAnd now, in the present, the landlord is gearing up to sell the house and we all have to move out, so I told the roommate that owns the cat that he should pay me for the damage his cat did to my couches. He claims that he didn\u2019t ask for me to furnish the house which makes him exempt from the damage his cat did to my couches. When I told him the couches were there before his cat was there, his response was that I should\u2019ve moved the couches after I saw they were already damaged and that he was still exempt from paying for the damage. He also said that he was willing to furnish the house with cheaper stuff but he never said anything to me about furnishing?\n\nAITA?\n\ntldr; I furnished a house with nice furniture and my roommate won\u2019t pay me for damage that his pet caused, saying I should\u2019ve moved it and that he didn\u2019t ask me to furnish the house.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}298{"id": "6Rm694eEOGTGvjcES2QL4ntCE8mXawBn", "post_id": "a914tv", "action": {"description": "thinking my ex needs to get over me cheating on him and am annoyed that he's not", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for thinking my ex needs to get over me cheating on him and am annoyed that he\u2019s not?", "text": "So, just to preface this, I know I\u2019m the asshole for cheating, I have no doubt about that, but that\u2019s not what I\u2019m asking about here in this post so please refrain from making your judgement based on this. \n\n(Also, please bear with me, this is going to be long, I\u2019m very long-winded, sorry everybody.) \n\nFor some background, I am now 27 and my ex is 30. We dated semi-casually/semi-seriously when I was 16 and he was 19 for about a year. \n\nI describe it this way because we were teenagers, only communicated through texts (infrequently), saw each other maybe once a month (he joined the military shortly after we started talking), and did not have very much in common other than mutual attraction. However, we were \u201cofficial\u201d and did exchange \u2018I love yous\u2019 and talk jokingly but hopefully about having a future together. \n\nHe found out I was planning to cheat on him after he went through my phone and saw that I was also talking to other guys (I never was physically with anyone but I might have been had he not called me out on it and it\u2019s still cheating regardless). When he confronted me, I lied about it, and we broke up right then and there but still continued to date on and off for about another year before we officially called it quits. \n\nI\u2019m not excusing my behavior but I came from a really messed up background \u2014 I was in and out of foster care and was severely abused both at home and in the system. Because of this, I was also pretty messed up. I lied about little and big things, stole food and clothing, cheated on people and in school, manipulated others for my own gain, abused drugs and alcohol, was very promiscuous, and all around did not give a fuck about anyone other than myself and my 3 sisters. I was desperate to be loved but not trusting enough to ever give anyone the opportunity, so in order to protect myself and keep my options open because since that\u2019s all I ever learned how to do, I was rarely faithful in my relationships. I was also a bitch about a lot of things but was still pretty submissive and doting in other ways, so I\u2019m sure it was a confusing whirlwind for anyone I was involved with. All in all, I wasn\u2019t the best person, let alone friend or girlfriend. \n\nI feel incredibly guilty about who I was back then and what I did to others. I have worked very hard in my adult life to never be that person again through lots of intensive therapy, medication, getting an education, and choosing to be better and do good each day. I can never take back the hurt I caused others but I have centered my life around making up for my transgressions through other means. I own and operate a non-profit that houses and fully sponsors homeless teens and young adults who have aged out of the system to receive counseling and work towards their future goals, whether that be college or entering the work force. This information is probably meaningless for the purpose of this but I feel as if it\u2019s important to know that my behavior was circumstantial and it is not who I am.  \n\nMy ex and I still talk, we grew up together so he knows my situation, and I have apologized profusely to him over the years. He calls me up crying about once or twice every single year to tell me how I\u2019ve ruined his ability to trust and love others and how hurt he still is. Sometimes he hits me up and is very flirtatious and tries to spark things up again (I always turn these advances down). Other times, if I\u2019m dating someone and he knows who they are, he will antagonize them, insult them, and has, on occasion, gotten physical with them. I never severed ties with him because I always felt like he was justified in his treatment towards me and his resulting behavior because of how I wronged him, because I thought he was amazing and I felt like I was beneath him, and I felt so guilty for messing up such a good thing with a good guy that part of me hoped we\u2019d get back together. \n\nRecently, about a few weeks ago, we were catching up and he started bragging to me about all these things he\u2019s doing (he is very accomplished, has his PhD and has won a lot of awards, and is such an upstanding, good person, he adopted his cousin\u2019s twin boys because the cousin is strung out on heroin, so he kind of deserves to brag and be complimented for all he\u2019s done) but I thought it was strange because we hadn\u2019t spoken in length for years. Then he started bragging about how he hadn\u2019t dated anyone since we had been together, something he does often, even though this is a lie as I know at least three people he has seen and two he has been \u201cofficial\u201d with. He again blamed me for his unwillingness and inability to get involved with others and started saying straight up bullshit about the times we were together (saying we dated at a different time than we did by several years, saying we were never official and only talked for one month, etc). Then he started coming on to me, demanded I start sending him nudes regularly, and that we be fuck buddies. \n\nAt this point, I just lost it. I started yelling about how he can\u2019t change the facts of things just because he doesn\u2019t like how they turned out, how rude it is of him to always try to use me for sex (something he has admitted to in the past), that it\u2019s not fair he pops back into my life to punish me every few months and that I was done with it, that I had always felt sorry about how I treated him before now but that I wasn\u2019t sorry anymore because he\u2019s acting creepy and pathetic, that it had been over 10 years since all this happened and he should have been over it by now and that not dating anyone in your twenties doesn\u2019t make you some saint like he\u2019s always painting himself out to be, I told him he needs to stop blaming me for his intimacy issues and stop using me to make himself feel good, that he is being ridiculous and that even though he thinks I\u2019m the horrible person it\u2019s really him, and that he needed professional help. I did say I wish I had never hurt him or anyone else but that I was a teenager, raising myself and living in constant fear, and that no one should be judged based off of who they were as teenagers and that he of all people should know that (he also did some very messed up things as a teenager which I won\u2019t elaborate on as it\u2019s not pertinent to this). \n\nHe got really pissed off and started cussing me out and saying that I was a good for nothing whore and that I would never be anything more, that everyone knew what a slut I was and that that no one actually liked me, that I can\u2019t call him out on acting like a shitty person because I am the actual truly shitty person, that I don\u2019t deserve to be happy or loved, that I was an idiot, that he wasn\u2019t immature but that I was for raising my voice and always using slang words (I work with teenagers, it rubs off, what can I say), that I would never be as accomplished him and would never amount to anything, and that he was the best thing that has ever and will ever happen to me. \n\nI rolled my eyes and laughed at him and get kind of snarky and told him I don\u2019t owe him anything, that it was gracious of me to apologize as much as I had but that I didn\u2019t have to but did because I wanted him to know it was me and not him, and that even if I did owe him something it most certainly wouldn\u2019t be my body and that he\u2019s raising his cousin\u2019s boys badly if he believes that. \n\nHe said that since I just put out for everyone and since he\u2019s already seen it all then I shouldn\u2019t be such a bitch about us hooking up or sending him nudes and that it\u2019s offensive to him that I\u2019m shutting him down. \n\nI hold him that the only reason he was mad was because I was supposedly a whore but that I wouldn\u2019t be a whore for him. \n\nHe stormed off after this and then blocked me on all social media a few minutes later. We haven\u2019t talked or seen each other since. \n\nI don\u2019t really feel bad about cheating on him anymore or about how he\u2019s dealt with that (I still know it was wrong). My opinion of him has completely flipped from placing him on a pedestal to thinking lower of him and believing he\u2019s just an egotistical jerk who\u2019s got everyone else fooled (we\u2019re from a small town and he\u2019s very popular here, everyone loves him and thinks he is literally the world\u2019s greatest person, and everyone he meets outside of our town think the same thing). \n\nA couple days after we fought, I started to feel like I am actually in the wrong for being mad at him, fussing at him, and for having stopped feeling bad, and for starting to feel kind of repulsed by him. I know that everything impacts each person differently and I don\u2019t want to invalidate his feelings or belittle them and I know that everyone moves on or doesn\u2019t at their own pace and own prerogative and it\u2019s not my position to say how or when someone does or doesn\u2019t do this. I know that even though I might have seen our relationship as silly and was not really invested in it or him, he may have been very committed and in love and I could have crushed him, so just because I feel one way doesn\u2019t mean he will feel the same way, and I can\u2019t project that into him. \n\nBut truth be told, and to be quite blunt about it, I truly just feel like he\u2019s being a little bitch about it and that he has now wronged me so we\u2019re even somehow. \n\nI don\u2019t really know how to feel about how I\u2019m feeling and keep switching between feeling like I crossed the line and will never be in the right when it comes to him because of our history OR feeling relieved, vindicated, and very appalled at and vexed by him. \n\nI\u2019m just here looking for some unbiased clarification as of course my friends support my side of it just as I\u2019m sure his friends support his. \n\nSo reddit, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}299{"id": "hxf69Q2pnTb4UglHd27KsvhzfKuE0E7S", "post_id": "ahyxj6", "action": {"description": "sleeping with my stepsister's friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for sleeping with my stepsister's friend?", "text": "I'll try to explain it as best as I can. I live with my dad, stepmom and stepsister M. She's 18 and I'm 20, this weekend we are home with the two of us and she decided to throw a party yesterday.\n\nI went out to a buddy of mine for a smoke sesh and came back around 11 P.M. M was having a girls night and she invited 5 people. I have seen all her friends a few times and I would consider myself to be good friends with M. I greeted everyone and went to my room as to not disturb them further. Was feeling pretty good already but decided to roll myself a blunt and took my bong out for a few bowls throughout the night. \n\nAround 12 the munchies kicked in and I went downstairs to grab some snacks. They saw me in the kitchen and it was obvious they were already pretty drunk. I got dared to take 4 shots back to back and they started teasing me and calling me a pussy for not doing it. Now I was already pretty high but decided to to do it because why not. M asked me if I had some green and I gave them my bong and took a few hits with them. Left the bong downstairs for them to use and went up with my snacks and rolled another blunt. \n\nI was just puffing and watching YouTube in my bed when someone opened my door. It was M and her friend S. They were laughing their asses off and they both jumped on my bed. I was roughly a [9] at this point and was not sure what to do. I asked them how they were doing and all they did was giggle, touch and tease me. They were both in lingerie too. Somebody called M and she left my room but S was still laying down on my bed. Usually she's pretty shy but a real sweetheart nonetheless. That was not the case now and she was barraging me with questions and kept eying me. \n\nLong story short, we shared the blunt I had left and went to watch some Netflix. This eventually escalated and we ended up having sex and falling asleep afterwards. I don't even know if we used protection.\n\nThis morning I was woken up by M who angrily told me to 'wake the fuck up'. She told me she couldn't believe I had slept with her friend and called me disgusting. I tried to apologize but she was having none of it and stormed out of my room. She hasn't talked to me since and acts like I don't exist. I have a bunch of messages from S thanking me for the night and that she loved it but she had to tell M and that she's sorry.\n\nAm I the asshole here? Honestly if I was fully sober I would have never done this but I was not in control. I definitely understand where she's coming from but I don't believe I'm entirely in the wrong here.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}300{"id": "MvV7uN9RKucbq6BmmKzndEGUPZEjFTpp", "post_id": "9wuffq", "action": {"description": "getting someone mad at me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For getting someone mad at me", "text": "So this happened recently and I\u2019m a freshmen in high school, pretty much what happened is during PE we have a \u201cweekly sport\u201d in which we would do a sport each week. \n\nSo this week it was basketball and I\u2019m not the best at it but I can make shots. So pretty much our coach puts us in random teams and I\u2019m put with the most lazy person ever and half way through one of the games she calls me out for \u201cball hogging\u201d because I\u2019m only passing it to 2 other people because they actually want to play. \n\nAfter this I ignore it and I keep on playing but after a while the ball rebounds off the rim and goes straight for her. Then she ignores the ball and just stands there like a statue, after this I recover the ball and I shoot and make it.\n\nAfter this as I\u2019m walking back I tell her \u201cand you call me ball hog\u201d after this she goes bat shit crazy on me and starts pushing up to me, the teacher comes to defuse the situation and she says that we won\u2019t be playing together after that point on. So I\u2019m just wondering am I the asshole for saying \u201cand you call be ball hog\u201d\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}301{"id": "q0J0v1yNy8ePbwoibA2Ieo4ERhrSWN3y", "post_id": "a5wmb5", "action": {"description": "questioning the mods of Legal Advice why they would lock an update that's clearly asking for more help", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for questioning the mods of Legal Advice why they would lock an update that's clearly asking for more help?", "text": "I got banned from r/legaladvice and r/bestoflegaladvice for this shit. [Here](https://www.reddit.com/r/bestoflegaladvice/comments/a5tcdv/update_to_the_girl_being_groped_by_her_teacher_he/ebpnhct/) is the link to my comment on the Best Of post (where you'll find the link to the update) that contains everything in it's edit, where I posted the message between me and the, in my opinion, abusive mod. Also contains the comment where he bans me for posting the edit showcasing his abuse. \n\nOr maybe it isn't abuse? Am I the asshole in any of this? I mean sure I used curse words but that's who I am I curse like a mother fuck, and the second message I literally said, \"But again, it's not fucked up if you can prove me wrong,\" in the hopes they'd show me why I'm wrong. But they didn't. They immediately banned and muted me for that shit. Then again, the, \"an absolute jerk\" part probably triggered them. Because they're an absolute jerk imo, now. \n\nTheir only argument they've given me about the fucking locked post was because she didn't use a question mark. I mean, bonus question: is she not requesting help? She's talking about how she doesn't know what to do, and trying to discuss it, but they locked it because there's no question. Should she really be locked, and I banned for questioning this shit? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}302{"id": "R09dwfqHa5WSqXz309hdIA7U4Ay9t8mO", "post_id": "b0qi55", "action": {"description": "getting mad at someone on twitter, but somebody else got mad", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at someone on twitter, but somebody else got mad?", "text": "Backstory:\n\nWe were playing an official game of 11th grade basketball with referees and stuff. Our team felt like either the refs were dumb af or we were getting cheated. We were supposed to have 6+ free throws but were somehow negated by the refs because you cant argue against them or else you get a technical foul. Close fight. We lost.\n\nYeah, I was mad obviously. So I decided to post on twitter. I said \" my teacher probably hired some construction workers and gave them referee clothes fuck you refs\". Thought I was being creative and all instead of just saying something simple like \"refs dumb\" etc. \n\nWent to bed and the next thing I knew was my PE teacher wanted to talk to me. I knew it was about the tweet but why the teacher instead of the ref? I got called into the office and we talked. Apparently the principal saw it and she hates profanity. Who the fuck thinks profanity is taboo? The teacher's ass is getting chewed on by the higher ups because of my mistake. My tweet is also a violation of \"disrespect\" based on the student handbook. Dont know how that was disrespect but I lost one medal because of it. I asked on what the refs were thinking at that time etc. and they just kept defending them saying \"You want me to cancel next year's games?\" \"They are licensed\" \"They dont see everything\" \"We paid a lot\" etc. And they just kept talking about how we should be more respectful and respect the refs because they are licensed and experienced. I dont care if they were licensed or not but they disrespected my game, I \"disrespected\" them. But as a student, I am powerless against people with misuse of power, even if i'm right.\n\nI kinda guess my roast was too good intead of just saying \" dumb ref lol\"\n\nTLDR: Tweeted against ref, pricipal got mad, suspended\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}303{"id": "flRBSJyozQs0WEMSsAUmM1wCPY7HQej6", "post_id": "aknpm3", "action": {"description": "telling employee to not focus on one task", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Telling Employee To Not Focus On One Task", "text": "So we've hired this new employee and last month I gave her a ton of duties to do, but she focused on one I explicitly told her not to do as I had a handle on it. She had done it the month before so I suppose there's some familiarity to her but it distracted her from other duties.  \n\n\nSo I approached her about it and mentioned it, she said she wouldn't do it again.  \n\n\nWell this month same thing, she's working on the thing I told her not to, and foregoing duties that actually need her attention.  \n\n\nSo, AITA for coming down on her for this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}304{"id": "zfGbb6uftaIIFwPX81saZYtJnWuTJ96A", "post_id": "a2vnng", "action": {"description": "trying to convince a woman to remover her stroller from the bike rack on an intercity train so that I could properly store my bike", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for trying to convince a woman to remover her stroller from the bike rack on an intercity train so that I could properly store my bike?", "text": "Context: fairly busy, but not overcrowded train I take every other weekend to see my gf in a city. The train ride is about 2 hours long and has 6-7 intermediate stops. There is a woman in the seat next to the bike rack playing with an iPad while her kids are screaming and running around the aisles. All three bike racks are taken up by her stroller (which is folded flat).\n\nMe: ma\u2019am is this your stroller?\n\nHer: *stares at me blankly*\n\nMe: ...\n\nHer: so what if it is\n\nMe: it\u2019s in the bike rack and I need to mount my bike.\n\nHer: *immediately begins getting super agitated and defensive and acting like i had just threatened her* it\u2019s my stroller and I need it why the hell am I supposed to do with it?\n\n*this is the part where I start to question my temper in hundsight* It was a very long day and my bullshit tolerance was at a supreme low.\n\nMe: I don\u2019t care what you do with it. It\u2019s not a bicycle and there are luggage racks in every other cabbin. I will help you move it if this is too much to ask you. I\u2019m not leaving my bike in the doorway where anyone can just take it on their way off the train.\n\nHer: you have no right to tell me what to do! I was here first and I have a ticket just like you\n\nMe: look lady, you obviously don\u2019t give a damn about raising your kids the way you\u2019re letting them run up and down the train and you\u2019re just using them as an excuse to act lazy and entitled. Move the stroller or I\u2019ll find the conductors to move it for you.\n\nShe calls my bluff and I\u2019m honestly not willing to go through the trouble so I just say \u201cfine, relax. I\u2019ll put my bike in the doorway\u201d. She freaks out more and tells me not to tell her to relax and I just shrug it off and sit down in a seat where I can watch my bike so it doesn\u2019t get stolen. She spends the next two stops glaring at me before making one of the older kids carry the stroller off the train. \n\nObviously I was in the right on the grounds of what the rules are, but part of me feels like I could have done better with the last thing I said and prevented it from becoming a scene.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}305{"id": "ucVzE2kWKrMue276JpNK9PUi0cZD1HRx", "post_id": "azrb3l", "action": {"description": "getting angry at a snapping at a good friend of mine", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For getting angry at a snapping at a good friend of mine", "text": "**Some info before hand.**   \nMy friend group enjoys insulting each other for fun, most are actual insults which would normally piss people off, but to us it doesn't really bother any of us. We treat them as over the internet \"play punches\". We have one friend who is one of my Closer friends in the group, who has gone through a tough life, and is the kinda the center of this story. Lets call him **T**  \n\n\n**The incident**  \nIt was a normal discord call between us all, with everything going normally. We were joking around and the conversation drifted to school, and things about it. **T** Dropped out of high school at a young age and because of that, and the fact he lives in Florida, he ended up being mentioned in the conversation. I didn't talk or pay attention during this time (i was playing *Warframe* and blasting music) but What transpired is one playful insult dug way to deep at that moment. I cant quote it but the insult really hurt my friend. Afterword we completely stopped with the insults about real life, with us realizing our insults about the real life dug way to deep in a good amount of the Group.  \n\n\n**Aftermath (And where the issue happened)**  \nWe mostly stopped with the insults, at times we will still throw some joking ones but not at the same level as before, i think all of us feel extremely guilty about the entire situation. But there is still a good friend to us all who will still throw the normal insults. I guess i was feeling pissed off or rubbed the wrong way but this one joke set me off. All of us recently saw a meme about sending people a box of Gummy D\\*\\*ks (gummy bears style but shaped like D\\*\\*ks). He thought it would be Glorious to send one of those to my work. with my name on it. I lost it, \"what if that causes me to get fired\" and all the lot, it was honestly when i look back at it a real massive overreaction. I straight up told him \"no one does those joke any more why do you think its F\\*\\*king ok to do those jokes still!\" and honestly ripped into him. he ended up leaving the server in the end stating \"i cant be here if im only hurting peoples feelings\".   \n\n\n**AITA** for snapping? we never told people outright in the group to stop doing those more realistic jokes / insults.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}306{"id": "GTx7ncq0NZHhFdBPmAJ3q34BRoqe2vbu", "post_id": "awpvb7", "action": {"description": "going on vacation with a friend my wife dislikes, without my wife", "pronormative_score": 37, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA Going on vacation with a friend my wife dislikes, without my wife.", "text": "Basic information: My wife doesn't work and does next to nothing to contribute to the house. I'm the sole source of income and feel our relationship contribution is 95% from me. I was laid off from my previous job and had to get a new one a year ago (making more money), so I'm just now eligible for paid vacation.  I'm a member of an organization that I've been in for just over 20 years and very very much enjoy going to this event I'm going to soon, that I've had to miss the last 2 years.  I've taken my wife with me every time I've gone since we've been together,  however,  she usually just lies around the tent while we're there due to the heat and said she doesn't want to go this year. I invited a gaming friend to go with me six months or so ago who is flying to the US from Norway just to go with me, and have been looking forward to the event ever since.  \n\nHer side: We can't afford for me to go. The house needs work. I'm taking our only vehicle and leaving her without a means to get around.  Her health is not the best. Her mom will be pissed because she has helped us financially. \n\nMy defense:  While money is tight and I will be on a budget, I've gone to this event in the past with less money and we are not going to starve or have utilities cut off for it etc. The house is really old, and does need work, but over the last few weeks I've been renovating our bathroom during my off time with almost no help from her. Her license is  suspended due to a drunk driving charge so she can't legally drive anywhere. A big part of her health issues is that she drinks too much, doesn't take her daily medication regularly, eats almost nothing,  and spends most (like 90% or more) of her time lying down in bed. I suspect she has mental health issues,  but she refuses to see a psychiatrist. The financial support from her mom has -never- been asked for and the biggest chunk of cash ($2000 +)  was to pay off her fine from the DUI. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 36, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 37, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}307{"id": "9M87MH1RlFk5hKLbN5ufqxW5BX7QVssD", "post_id": "b2mtwb", "action": {"description": "accusing my girlfriend of manipulating me by turning me on", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for accusing my girlfriend of manipulating me by turning me on", "text": "My girlfriend and I have been together for a year. We've always had a very active sex life, but recently I am beginning to feel like she manipulates me with sex. She'll ask for kisses all the time and she's a very passionate kisser. It turns me on a lot and when I'm into it it's all well and good. However I have noticed that when I'm not in the mood and say no to sex, she'll still ask me to kiss her and she knows that turns me on, even when I just said no. \n\nWe got into a fight because she accused me of not showing her enough affection, but I think she is manipulating me by trying to turn me on all the time, even when it's inappropriate. Even when we have just had a fight or when we're in public, she'll go in for it. I'm getting tired of it and I think she is ignoring my boundaries, and I'm sick of her pestering me about affection when I don't feel in the mood. I told her to back off and now she's mad at me. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}308{"id": "2WD6I4CFavTg7A3WrO79xwX3TnscY2Ic", "post_id": "b13azs", "action": {"description": "telling my friend something", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend something.", "text": "Hi. First time posting in this subreddit. Sorry for format, I'm on mobile.\n\nOkay so... \nBit of background, two of my friends fell out about a year before this happened. They were best friends and ended up hating each other. I still talked to both if them because I didn't want to pick sides. Let's call these people C and R.\n\nC and R both went to a mutual friend's party.  C noticed that R was being rude while the group party was eating. R was on their phone showing another person at the party (J) a video. They both had headphones in. C wanted me to mention this to J so I did. J didn't like this and told R. R told J that I was 'untrustworthy'.\n\n I began to ignore it and bottled it up for a few months until I finally broke down. This meant a teacher got involved because they can't have a crying child in school. The teacher pulled R out of class and we had to have a meeting. R emphasised the point that she couldn't trust me anymore and I pointed out that C wanted me to say it. We left it at that and ignored each other ever since. \n\nThis has left me questioning 'Am I the asshole?'\nSo am I?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}309{"id": "MCYd2P022waojJtpsyvCHmkpGgYEjPPb", "post_id": "a81vgl", "action": {"description": "not repaying my friend $6 for a cab ride", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not repaying my friend $6 for a cab ride?", "text": "About a month back, two friends, my husband, and myself went to a concert together in Manhattan. One friend, \"Mitch\", somehow got very drunk during the concert (we were all drinking, but he was especially drunk at the end) and suggested we go back to his place to play some Jackbox Games. \n\nI expressed hesitation because I had a feeling that if he was this drunk, it meant that he would pass out early. He insisted that he was fine. We talked about getting food before leaving but everyone said they weren't hungry. Eventually, I agreed to go to Mitch's place with my husband, \"Caleb\", and the other guy, \"Rob\". I hailed a cab off the street and then we went to Mitch's place in Queens. Tip + fare is \\~$24. \n\nWe get there and Mitch is alternately smoking (on his balcony) or talking about making Vietnamese noodles. He gives Caleb and I a beer... to split. I'm frustrated so I tell him we came there to play games so sit his ass down and stop talking about noodles. We play approximately two games before he falls asleep on the couch. \n\nCaleb, Rob, and I play another game while Mitch is asleep but they're really much better with four people so we head back to our respective places via Lyft. \n\nThe next day, I get a text (on the group text with Mitch, Caleb, and Rob) from Mitch asking everyone to each pay him $6 for the cab to his place. I sent a text back, \"No, that's part of being the after party host\".  A couple hours later, I get a request from Venmo for $6 (as did Caleb). I send another text explaining that I wasn't kidding, I'm not paying and that if we had gone back to our place, we would've paid for the cab. This dissolves into an \"epic\" text fight where neither of us are understanding how the other doesn't get that they're being ridiculous. My main argument is that he is asking to pay $6 to get home, while Caleb and I would pay a total of $26 to get home ($12 for the cab to Mitch's plus $14 for the Lyft). His argument is basically we split the cab, so we should split the fare. \n\n​\n\n**Additional info that may be relevant:**\n\n* We are all well paid professionals - with Mitch making the second highest single salary out of the four of us (so it's not about needing the money).\n* We regularly host people at our place, and buy all the beer/wine and snacks. We don't ask for reimbursement. \n* Mitch also hosts, but is generally less likely to have beer to share.\n* From Mitch, Rob lives slightly less than a mile away and Caleb and I live about 2 miles in the other direction.\n* I was convinced that I was not the asshole here, but we recently met up with Mitch for the first time after this fight and he (and Rob) expressed total confusion that I thought I was in the right. We're no longer fighting but I wanted to make this post to see once and for all who is in the right. I will accept the outcome either way, and will show the post to Mitch as well. \n* We never paid him the $12\n* I asked my husband to chime in on the text battle and he responded dryly \"It seems like you've got it handled\". \n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}310{"id": "fAAObzvKQXd5QKE7eddqMFk9vKChbMAm", "post_id": "auw7cj", "action": null, "title": "AITA update on my parents letting my abuser abuse me.", "text": "original post \nhttps://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/audxs2/aita_telling_my_mum_and_dad_that_i_hate_them_and/?utm_source=reddit-android\n\nSo I know it's only been a day but I got a bus ticket for later today back down to my place so I thought I would have one last chat with my mum and dad before I cut them out completely. \n\nI said I would just listen to why they decided to do what they did and they didn't have a good enough reason, they were saying how they didn't know what to do and dad thought that by acting like his father (my abuser lost his father in a motorcycle crash) he would stop. \n\nI then asked them why they failed to protect me as parents they had no answer and kinda just looked down at the floor. \n\nI told them that they are lucky I was so strong and got through my eating disorder and other issuss myself because from now on I would be doing everything myself. \n\nI also added that I would be keeping in contact with my younger sister and if anything like this happens I will be calling the police and getting custody of her, so you better not fuck up with your other daughter. \n(I'm keeping an eye on my sister) \n\nI told them that this would be the last time they see me and I got up and left, both mum and dad cried a lot and begged for my forgiveness but refused and left. \n\nthanks so much for the messages, you gave me strength to do this and I love you all. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}311{"id": "4QqURq7cDguVMZCPznFrsgGuFFcwCOyk", "post_id": "aa4f9p", "action": {"description": "ordering more food than everyone else when someone else was paying for it", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for ordering more food than everyone else when someone else was paying for it?", "text": "This happened several years ago but it still pops up in my mind on occasion because I felt like a jerk about it.\n\nOne of my professors in college invited my class of 7 or 8 students to lunch at a local sub joint and offered to pay for all of us. I was either second or third in line to order, and the person(s) in front of me ordered a 6\" sub. I ordered a 12\" because that's what I always do at sub places. Everyone after me ordered a 6\".\n\nI hadn't thought about it at the time of ordering, but this place was also a little expensive. Not super expensive but a sandwich here definitely cost more than, say, Subway. Was I an asshole for ordering too much food?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}312{"id": "pGlarZKUCpuM4DRdt7H11DIdJoG0jyek", "post_id": "b64kqu", "action": {"description": "not wanting to call my stepfather \"Dad\"", "pronormative_score": 148, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to call my stepfather \"Dad\"?", "text": "So hear me out. In the past few years, my parents got divorced and my mom, who I live with, decided to get remarried. It's been about two years, and I'm not a big fan of her husband. He's OK but he never really tried to get to know me, and he and my mother argue a lot. When our interactions have happened, we've argued a lot, and he's not been very nice. During their arguments, there's nothing too malicious, but they clearly have a lot of issues with each other and really shouldn't even be together in the first place. A few days ago, for some reason, my mom and I started talking about my stepdad, and she referred to him as \"your father.\" I was a little taken aback. With everything going on, why should I call him that? I blurted, \"he's not my dad.\" It wasn't an angry statement, just matter of fact. For some reason, she got really angry, and told me I was \"ungrateful\" and never \"accepted him.\" She hasn't really spoken to me since. Is this justified, or am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 145, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 148, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}313{"id": "INXuIqveImuBxhSWfRwBir5bDyAOojVi", "post_id": "ahdoxk", "action": {"description": "calling a woman a cunt at the grocery store", "pronormative_score": 69, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA for calling a woman a cunt at the grocery store?", "text": "Some relevant background information: I have a myriad of health concerns, most of which are joint/back related. Spinel stenosis, osteoarthritis, and my cartilage are essentially being attacked by my body and being broken down and along with this being legally blind. So with all of that, I really can't bend down, walk very far, or walk without limping for the most part. I have good days and bad days like most people my bad days however just involve me being stuck in bed until my body decides to stop hating me. \n\nNow onto today's events, I was grocery shopping, minding my own damn business just trying to get some chicken noodle soup before a damn blizzard hit and I see a package of I think taco seasoning? Idk what it was, but I asked the person in front of me if they dropped it, they said no, and I went along. Now if I could have bend down and picked it up I would have, however, if I tried to do that today there's a 90% chance I would have been stuck bend over or at least in severe pain, and falling is a real possibility for me as I'm not good with balance.\n\nAnother woman in the isle pushes past me and says \"Fine just leave it then.\", I figured she just didn't know I had joint pains or didn't notice me limping around and turned to say \"Sorry, I have joint problems and can't really bend over.\" and she scoffs and says \"don't make up fake excuses\" and then calls me a 'lazy millennial' and said something else under her breath I couldn't quite catch, and typically I'm pretty rational but I'm already in pain and this lady struck a nerve so I said \"Don't be such a cunt\" and walked off to continue my shopping. \n\nWhen telling a friend of mine this, they said I was being an asshole to her. Personally, I don't think I was, she's the one pushing people aside and starting shit, so I figure I'd let the internet decide. \n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 67, "EVERYBODY": 15, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 69, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}314{"id": "zx0Q98LwKivyyiPdykVKRJZLCpEOWXhX", "post_id": "awmlkg", "action": {"description": "being \"that friend\" that never goes out", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA Being \"that friend\" that never goes out", "text": "Throwaway for reasons\n\n​\n\nBackground info:\n\nI do have a invisible disability and 90% of the time I'm in pain and I just can't go out. It affect my stomach and I can't eat certain/most foods. My friends know about my disability because it eventually came to the point where didn't want them to think I'm bailing on them when they invite me to go out to eat. I'm not the type of person that tells people about every detail about my life, disability, financial issue, and etc.\n\nI'm not working because my disability is affecting me 24/7. I tried to work full-time in a office for 2 months and my pain fucking tripled. Before that I was working part-time it was okay but I couldn't stand over 4-5 hrs and they never had any hours for me. \n\nI'm not on SS disability. I applied and they denied me. I'm in waiting process for a hearing. (it's been 2 1/2 years)\n\n\\------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------\n\nI'm \"that friend\" that always cancels or makes excuses to not go out. Most of time I cancel on people. It's not because I want to cancel its because I'm poor. \n\nI don't have money to just throw on eating food out in expensive places, go to events, and etc. \n\nMy friend invite me to go an convention for 3-4 days and obviously it would be awesome to go. I'm just stuck on what to say to them. My family is struggling to pay bills as is. You don't know how many fucking time I've crying into a panic attack because my family can't even afford basic needs.\n\n​\n\n*Even if I wanted to go this would be the prices:*\n\n*Flight - $140*\n\n*Hotel- $160/per night*\n\n*Food-$50/ per day*\n\n*Tickets- $60 for one day at convention*\n\n*More stuff they want to do: $$ ???*\n\n​\n\nI hate saying no to people or making excuses. I just don't want to tell my friend; \"Hey, sorry I can't go because I'm poor and have my own issues\". Like it's unfair to them and me. \n\n​\n\nWould I be an asshole if I just tell me friend that I can't afford it and I'm poor?\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}315{"id": "3fT5sJUsGVetjelWAq6evBL6HCmGd6eO", "post_id": "aejr4t", "action": {"description": "not giving my broke girlfriend $2 for a tamale", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 30}, "title": "AITA for not giving my broke girlfriend $2 for a tamale?", "text": "This happened last weekend but she's still not talking to me so I decided to bring it here for judgment instead.\n\nMy GF and I (both late 20s) have been together for about a year and a half. When I met her she was financially stable, though I make mid-six figures and she makes mid-five figures. I appreciated that she was frugal (as am I) and didn't waste money on things like trips or expensive meals out or material items no one needs. After a while she admitted to me that the reason she is so frugal is because she grew up very poor and does not have a safety net. Last spring she had an accident that resulted in her being in the hospital for some time and saddled her with a great deal of medical bills. From day one she was adamant that because we had only been dating for a few months, I was not responsible for any of her bills, nor did she even want me to know the financial specifics of them. I was fine with that and we continued as usual. I did notice that she has become more frugal than before and has acted as if she is under more stress, but I honestly thought it had more to do with the accident than anything else.\n\nLast weekend we met up with two of our other friends for brunch. My GF said she wasn't hungry and didn't order anything during the meal and just had a cappuccino and some of my home fries, but we all split the meal four ways anyway because that's how it is with these friends. It wasn't a huge bill but she was obviously annoyed about having to put her card down for it, even though we've all paid our share of meals where we had the smallest item before. Anyway, when we were on our way home we passed a woman selling tamales on the corner for $2 apiece. GF says to me \"Babe, do you have $2?\" I did have cash, but she had literally just sat through a meal saying she wasn't hungry, and I was embarrassed by the way she had rolled her eyes while settling the bill, so I told her there was a bank across the street. She went \"I don't want to have to take out a $20 just for a two dollar tamale,\" and I told her \"Fine, don't get a tamale then.\" She got really quiet and went \"I'm just really hungry,\" and I kind of snapped at her and told her that she should have ordered something at brunch instead of just eating my leftovers. Then she told me that she has been \"food insecure\" over the past few weeks because of her medical/credit card debt and that she didn't have the $20 in her bank account to take out because she had to pay at brunch. She said she hadn't told me about any of this because she \"knew\" I would judge her for not handling her money more wisely, started crying, called me an asshole, and walked off. I haven't spoken to her since it happened on Sunday.\n\nI don't think this is fair for a number of reasons, the biggest being that I'm not a mind reader and wouldn't know anything about her finances because she expressly told me her medical bills were none of my business. I highly doubt the \"food insecure\" claim, but either way, she has been way too eager to let me pick up the bill when we go out to eat over the past couple months (even though at the beginning of the relationship we always split it evenly, or she'd pay if she ordered the more expensive thing). She makes a salary and I have no reason to believe she can't afford food to eat, so I'm pretty sure this is a guilt trip situation. But like I said, she hasn't spoken to me since Sunday and it's Thursday morning, so I am looking for an objective opinion: am I the asshole for not giving her tamale money, or does she need to realize that she can't keep mooching off people just because she's in debt?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 29, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 30}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}316{"id": "52zBwBr8cmSlXpL5Mx9U3zgDzqb9EQM4", "post_id": "b6wcxv", "action": {"description": "not wanting my kids to eat candy for breakfast", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my kids to eat candy for breakfast?", "text": "Recently started traveling for week about one work-week a month.   My wife works too, and I am usually the one that does drop off of our two kids.\n\nShe\u2019s been bribing them (a 3 and 5 yr old) with dessert every afternoon to behave, and candy every morning to behave and get dressed.  \n\nI said \u201cthanks - I\u2019m either an enabler come Monday who is raising assholes who only behave for candy, or the actual asshole in their eyes because I don\u2019t give them chocolate for doing normal shit every kid has to learn to do\u201d\n\nShe responded \u201cwhat I choose to do to survive alone, is my choice. I would really appreciate less judgment\u201d\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}317{"id": "SXL8xIET3aAZll5AmQcopZO8qScTJu9I", "post_id": "9xgxc4", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Two people did all the work on a group project", "text": "I\u2019m in college and one of the larger projects in the year is a group presentation to the class. After we got this assignment our group made a date to manage who was doing what, what to work on, etc. Fast forward to that date and when me and my friend get there we were greeted by a nearly complete PowerPoint. To try and help we started structuring the presentation, made it flow a lot better but honestly we were just polishing a finished product. Fast forward again to when we met our teacher to discuss what could be improved, changed or added, that escalated into one girl crying and the other calling us lazy and doing no work. She said there was an email of the PowerPoint. Me or my friend never saw the PowerPoint. One of the girls had my number and could have contacted me or my friend. I was mad because they did everything and left nothing for the rest of us which could lead to a low mark. They were mad for obvious reasons. AITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}318{"id": "KM6BkzdN1kTdUbAJNqmjEHpebGz1rUrn", "post_id": "aqq53t", "action": {"description": "not wanting to bring two friends (a couple) to our vacation", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA (AWTA) for not wanting to bring two friends (a couple) to our vacation?", "text": "Bit of context here. My SO has been friends with the girl for 6 years, they went to highschool together, they're close and they could be considered BF's. I met my SO through her, and she is also a close friend of mine.\n\nWe've known her boyfriend since they started dating so about 3-4 years. \n\nNow, they do this thing where we simply HAVE to spend every festive occasion together (NY for example, couple of years in a row), and we've also been taking winter/summer vacations with them.\n\nNow, I don't exactly mind them, and while they can be fun, the two of them together can sometimes be toxic to be around, individually and  paired up, won't go into details but it can and did previously take from the vacationing experience.\n\nMe and my SO both agree that we don't want to take our next summer vacation with them, and we tried toning their will down by saying we plan on moving in together so we can't really afford a vacation, and we thought we could just schedule a last minute one while they are already away. \n\nWe also simply considered telling them nicely how we want to be left alone, since I don't want to deal with anyone else's baggage other than the two of us.\n\nAre we the assholes for trying to weasel out of it, or would we be the assholes for telling them straight up, we wanna go alone? \n\nMy SO fears that this would deeply hurt our friend because she has issues with being neglected, and would most likely take it to heart. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}319{"id": "MOFtArPOKnnvRy8zafXbSGAP3quu96G6", "post_id": "apgh0b", "action": {"description": "missing my bus", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for missing my bus?", "text": "Today I was waiting for my school bus inside my house, like every other day. Usually, the driver pulls up about half a block away, then I leave the house and walk out to the bus, because I live in Wisconsin and it's literally been colder than Antarctica recently. It takes 30 seconds tops to get to the bus, not much of an inconvenience imo. Especially because the bus driver is obligated to wait 2 minutes before they leave if no one gets on the bus.\n\nAnyways, when I was waiting today I saw the bus coming and began to walk out, but the driver didn't stop at all and kept driving. My parents were not in the room at the time, but when they saw the bus driving away without me they got angry I didn't get on. I explained to them that the bus didn't stop, so it wasn't my fault. They started yelling saying \u00a8I can never see my wrongs\u00a8, \u00a8I should have been waiting outside\u00a8 (keep in mind its like 10 degrees), etc., etc. \n\nI guess I could have been waiting outside, but I've been doing it like this since last year, the bus driver knows what to do. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}320{"id": "hAtcPtFtptmnSFLRvXuQiq27B0h8mwPK", "post_id": "a7etyy", "action": {"description": "planning to ask my bf to stop hanging out with his best friend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for planning to ask my bf to stop hanging out with his best friend?", "text": "Our relationship is really healthy although this petition i plan to make. we both are very respectful to each other. He smokes weed frequently with his best friend but now he is into cocaine. And I'm ok with weed but not with cocaine. He is his only close friend. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}321{"id": "boJt7tKJdtmzWyIjGarQS4z0z0Lx9LYk", "post_id": "a8rcxy", "action": {"description": "being worried about my girlfriend drinking too much", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA when I'm worried about my girlfriend drinking too much?", "text": "My girlfriend is 18, so it's illegal for her to drink here. I don't worry about the law too much, but I'm concerned for her health when she drinks, even though it's not that often. Usually when she does drink, she's with friends and drinks drinks with low alcohol content (4.5%), so it's not a concern to her health. However, I still get worried about her for some reason, so I always just tell her \"be safe, don't drink too much\" before she does. I'm never with her when she does, if that's important.\n\n​\n\nAm I being irrational, or am I justifiably worried? I never try to stop her, but should I? Thanks for your help.\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}322{"id": "5tUyTrfg9FehBDbP6OvIc6WUqUnfWOBD", "post_id": "ayyr6n", "action": {"description": "telling my sister's boyfriend the truth about her", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 253}, "title": "AITA for telling my sister's boyfriend the truth about her", "text": "My sister has been dating this guy for over a year. they're really serious, talking marriage, etc. I made a comment to my parents that it was good of him to be with her, knowing her history, which is that her old boyfriend abused her and was basically her pimp for a few months before she came back to live with my parents. I am unsure if I believe how little agency she claims she had in the situation. My parents then shocked me by saying that they weren't sure if he knew what happened.\n\nI thought it was wrong of her to be with this guy while concealing something so major that would make most guys not want to be with her. I went over to their apartment and took her boyfriend aside and told him. He did not react as expected, but instead he started yelling at me, telling me I'm terrible and disgusting and he threw me out of their apartment. I don't know if he actually knew or if he was surprised by the news and taking it out on me.\n\nI reached out to my sister and told her that if I was going to be in her life, I would need a heartfelt apology from her boyfriend from reacting so cruelly, and she responded by telling me she doesn't want me in her life and I can fuck off. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 252, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 253}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}323{"id": "O1aJVb0B6Cyi8cbwusAZuayb1AIM3p1W", "post_id": "a7ptmq", "action": {"description": "writing out a list of reasons why I was breaking up with my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AItA for writing out a list of reasons why I was breaking up with my boyfriend?", "text": "I'm gonna try to keep this short but basically I (19) broke up with my boyfriend (22) of 10 months (my first relationship, his 7th?ish but longest) and I did so while referencing a list that I'd wrote; the list including how he'd been taking out his anger at other things on me and would just say \"yeah, sure, fine, you're right\" when I showed him proof that I wasn't doing the things he said only to bring them up later, it included the 3 times he didn't stop when I said no, and how he kept pushing me to do sexual things when we agreed that we'd stop because I didn't feel able to say no, an incident where he'd left me alone at his parents house (an hour away from mine) after promising he would help me move out of my parents that weekend because he spontaneously decided he wanted to go to their cottage, gave me 3 broken toes, a concussion, and a black eye accidently by doing unnecessarily dangerous things to me, or just straight up ignoring my wellbeing for his own comfort, refused when I kept asking him to get help for his problems, finally culminating in a month where he told me he didn't know if he wanted to be with me wherein I didn't sleep and had dozens of panic attacks a day because I'd become so isolated I thought he was the best, or the only thing, I'd ever get. The last straw for me was finding out that during that month he'd begun relentlessly flirting with other girls on social media, whether they were interested or not, and was taking another girl on dates near identical to our first dates, all while burying any posts of me under his woodworking and not telling any of them I existed.\n\n​\n\nNow, as for why I wrote it all out; any other time we'd fought, he would yell and throw things I'd end up so exhausted from the flashbacks and panic it caused, he'd have a panic attack and I'd drop everything to take care of him even though he never stopped yelling or physically intimidating things, and I'd give up. The next day he'd promise he'd try to do better, and make me laugh and smile even though nothing had been solved. I didn't want to give in without having fixed anything this time so I wrote out the points I wanted to make on my phone and read them off my phone. I wanted him to realize everything that he'd done. I wanted him to never do that to anyone else. I wanted him to realize he needed help, and get better. To be completely honest, a part of me wanted him to try to make it all up to me. \n\n​\n\nI'm not proud of how I handled the breakup, I said a few things I regret (told him to rot when he asked me not to end it), but I agreed to be friends with him like he asked me to. Then, he changed his mind, so I said goodbye and he asked why it had to be \"this existential\". We've fought twice since the breakup and every time he says something like \"why don't you send me the essay you wrote about me being a terrible person and I'll go over it with my therapist\". (I know I shouldn't have kept talking to him, but I really wanted to help him get better). I recognize that the list was definitely weird, and probably a Bit Much^(TM), but am I an asshole for what I did?\n\n​\n\n**TL;DR: wrote out a list of reasons I was breaking up with my ex because I didn't want to give in without getting it all off my chest and without solving anything as usual, AItA?**", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}324{"id": "RU3sDCbX9avVtfxuObePS2Ohp6MleeDs", "post_id": "a6cxbq", "action": {"description": "drinking my girlfriend's beer", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for drinking my girlfriend\u2019s beer?", "text": "My girlfriend left a pint of really nice double IPA in my fridge for the last two weeks. She is at work right now and will not be home until almost 12:00 am.\n\nI have finished all of my beer and just made cornbread, scrambled eggs, and homemade gravy for dinner. I really want to drink her beer too, and she doesn\u2019t like beer that much. I don\u2019t want to text her and ask, because she might say no, and then I really can\u2019t take it.\n\nAm I the asshole if I drink it? Even if I buy her breakfast to make up for it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}325{"id": "4HzraopV9COKBnjp2e7Dmdcj7jReIzri", "post_id": "a4kjhz", "action": {"description": "not answering my phone", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not answering my phone?", "text": "I live with my phone on 'Do Not Disturb' for numerous reason. The other day I notice that I've had about four missed calls from my flatmate (lets call her Sarah) and a message asking 'Are you in?'.  So, I message her back asking what's up - theres no reply after so I put my phone back down. \n\n​\n\nAbout an hour later, my other flatmate finds me in the kitchen and starts to shout at me because \"Sarah has been locked outside in the cold for an hour!\". Obviously, at first I felt really bad thinking she had forgotten her key. However it soon transpired that she had returned to the apartment with far too much equipment (we're film students and often book out loads of stuff for shoots) to carry herself and didn't want to abandon anything to make trips. \n\n​\n\nAfter hearing this I tried to argue that Sarah's choice to be dropped off outside with all the equipment has nothing to with me.  She hadn't planned for me to help previously and as aforementioned, she didn't even know if I was home. Meaning she probably knew while getting dropped off that she might be stuck outside for an hour. Why didn't whoever helped her carry it to the flat also help her get it upstairs? \n\n​\n\nIf I had known of course I would've helped her. \n\n​\n\nSo, I walked into the kitchen the next day to find them talking about me and we all proceed to have a big old argument about it all and we haven't spoken since.\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole?\n\n ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}326{"id": "qRcDcFOkdOusgRyM5BvjNjuDLlZOosXC", "post_id": "a2004b", "action": {"description": "calling out my mother", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for calling out my mother?", "text": "To preface, this was after church (I\u2019m not Christian but act like I am) and just my mother and I were on our way to lunch with the family. \n\nThe topic goes to this 12 year old girl at church. My mother just goes on an on saying that she is ugly and has a weird face, for about two or three minutes. I 17M, finally have had enough and tell her that judging a 12 year old kid about their looks is rude and something that should remain unsaid. Now, I will admit, that kid isn\u2019t super good looking, but maybe I just think it doesn\u2019t matter because I\u2019m gay, but she is super nice usually. \n\nWell my mother got all upset at me and every time she said an opinion at lunch she would then say, \u201cOh wait, ntaylor7746 said I\u2019m not allowed to have an opinion.\u201d Am I the asshole for calling her, a grown ass 44 year old woman, put for talking shit about a child?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}327{"id": "k5g3wzBCJsHJOnAh8CHGUj3ZyVjj5VAE", "post_id": "ap0hm1", "action": {"description": "refusing to give my grandma's friend information", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to give my grandma's friend information", "text": "Hubby and I moved across the country to help my mom with my grandparents (shopping, doctor visits, etc). My grandmother has alzheimer's and it's still in the beginning stages, which makes dealing with her a little difficult. She's in her late 70s and refuses to be told how to live, even if it's good for her health. Because of insurance changed, we have had to change their doctor a couple of times. Her last three doctors have told her that she's diabetic, but she refuses to believe it and continually sites the doctor before them saying she's \"borderline\" only. She's actually gotten into full blown arguments with my grandfather, my mother, and myself about the fact that she has to take her medication as prescribed and the fact that her diet absolutely has to change in order to keep her healthy. I have even gone so far as to threaten her with a home (not that I could ever follow through with the threat, I was just grasping at straws). My grandfather is and has been ready to be put in a home for over a decade because he does not want to become a burden to anyone. My grandmother, on the other hand, refused to talk to me for almost two weeks just for mentioning it. Then, about eight months ago, a friend of my grandmother's moved back into town (she had been living with her son and hated it). She's on the list for section 8 housing, but jumped the gun and moved into my grandparents' house. From what my grandfather was told, she would be there two weeks, she was there three months and only left because she had to (my uncle was coming into town and my grandfather told her that they needed the space). She still takes my grandmother out all the time, and while they are out she borrows money from my grandmother with no real repayment plan in place. She also comes over a few times a week to eat dinner, completely uninvited. \n\n​\n\nSomewhere in the mix of all that (about three months ago), my grandmother started calling on her friend to take her to the doctor. I would show up to take her to appointments only to find out that she was already gone. Or I would find out, after the fact, about her going to an appointment that I didn't even know about. This is especially problematic because her friend doesn't tell us what's happening and my grandmother doesn't remember everything or just refuses to tell us about her appointments. When my mother confronted my grandparents about it, they responded by saying that I'm unreliable. Which blows my mind because until this started happening, I was always the one taking them to their appointments without fail, and I am still the one that takes my grandfather to all of his appointments. Of course, asking them how I can be considered unreliable when I don't even know about the appointment gets met with silence. So, we've officially told my grandmother that she is no longer allowed to go to the doctor without me or my mother, on at least four separate times now. I even went so far as to call her friend and tell her that she cannot take my grandmother to any appointments. Like, I don't even care if you take her shopping or whatever. That's between you and her, but no more doctors. That's my job. That was two weeks ago.\n\n​\n\nLast week, my grandmother had outpatient surgery. Her friend went with us because my grandmother had no idea where she was supposed to go and I wasn't involved in any of the planning for this surgery. There was a mass removed, which had to be sent to pathology. I set up the appointment for the results. I also set up an appointment for my grandfather's dermatologist later on the same day. That day is Monday. I woke up sick as a dog on Friday, but I have been forcing medication down my throat to get myself well enough over the weekend to not have to ask my mom to take time off work for this. Well, midday on Friday, grandma's friend calls me.  \n\n\nFriend: Hey \\[my name\\]. I heard you had to go to the Social Security Office on Monday?\n\nMe: No...?\n\nFriend: Oh, well, your grandmother's appointment is on Monday. At what time?\n\nMe: Why?\n\nFriend: So that I can go.\n\nMe: Why?\n\nFriend: \\*mumbles\\* Okay. Okay. Talk to you later.\n\n​\n\nMy mother comes home later on, from being with my grandparents. She caught my grandma attempting to make plans with her friend for Monday. Her excuse is that I'm sick and I won't be able to take her. I'm at the point where I want to call her friend and reiterate that she is not to take my grandmother to the doctors anymore. Am I being unreasonable here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}328{"id": "dnzwUk2isGhD7d1PMbT9aaqvgZLsNvaY", "post_id": "ad24ai", "action": {"description": "telling off my dad", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for telling off my dad", "text": "My dad has two female dogs that stay outside most of the time. He lives out in the country and has a pretty large fenced in yard. Neither of his dogs are fixed. Last year when one of them went into heat, a neighbor dog jumped the fence and mated with her. Later when the other girl went into heat, he decided that he was going to \"take care of the problem\". I assumed he was going to get them both fixed. I was wrong. He \"shot at\" the neighbor dog (he has stormtrooper aim). When I found out I yelled at him for it, saying it is his responsibility to get his dogs spayed and that shooting at the dog was wrong. Most people I tell this to say I shouldn't have yelled at him and that he was just protecting his property. I don't think I was wrong, but pretty much everyone in my family acts like I was.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}329{"id": "yRJoX5Qi3DhlmoVZ7BYPwo64xKSe98y8", "post_id": "9v3plb", "action": {"description": "wanting pay as a social media \"handler\" for my brother", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting pay as a social media \"handler\" for my brother?", "text": "Some backstory. My brother makes music and he asked if I wanted to be a part. Ofc  I said yes.\nAfter some brainstorming we came to the conclusion that I could handle his social media (i dont have a better word for it).\n\nNow we havent started and I havent asked this queston yet, but i still want to know if its a fair question.\n\nSadly he is not very well known but he is hard working.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}330{"id": "Z06bjndNFyRnYKzWGuGUpU4Xb4eH4ad7", "post_id": "ax7atz", "action": {"description": "calling out my ex's lil sis for being rude and petty", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for calling out my ex\u2019s lil sis for being rude and petty?", "text": "TLDR at bottom\nBackground: I\u2019ve known my ex (J) since 2013.\nI currently pay rent and live with J\u2019s mum, J\u2019s step dad and J. J and I are still best friends post breakup.\nJ\u2019s family has had this dog for the last 8 years, and for the last 5 years it has always shit and piss inside the house and none of them bothered to retrain her.\n\nJ\u2019s little sister (R) moved out Easter 2018. Occasionally she comes back to stay for a few days.\n\nR shows up out of nowhere unannounced, and sends a Facebook message to myself and J saying:\n\u201cIdk if you guys are here but I'm at home in town tonight and until Fri or Sat\u201d. \n\nThen starts the problems. \nSpare bed upstairs isn\u2019t made, she complains to us that it isn\u2019t made. R is 21 in less than 2 months. She lived in this house for 4 years before moving out. J tells her to make the bed.\n\n20 minutes later R says:\n\u201cAlso do you guys not know how to pick up dog shit and air out a house. That shit i just picked up looks like its been sitting there for days.\u201d\n\nJ and I had spent 2 hours cleaning the entire house, and there was no dog shit there at 8:30pm when we went to bed.\nI have always in the past just let her walk over me. I decided enough was enough. \n\nMe: \u201cJfc R we\u2019ve been in bed since 8:30 which is more than enough time for her to shit\nThe house has been open every day, if you have a problem remember she\u2019s YOUR family dog\u201d\n\nR replies:\n\u201cThe shit was white and crusty it did not just come out of her ass, hence why I made the comment \nNo need to go off on a tangent and be rude.\nYou literally haven\u2019t even seen me to say hi and you\u2019re already having a go at me when I\u2019m literally not even mad?\nHOME SWEET HOME HEY!\nRemember who\u2019s house you\u2019re actually in\u201d\n\nMy reply:\n\u201cWell it wasn\u2019t up there when we went to bed.\nYou were the one being rude R, \u201cdon\u2019t you know how to pick up dog shit and air out a house\u201d is pretty fucking rude, and I\u2019m not putting up with that shit.\nSorry for not getting out of bed at 10pm to come and say hello? \nTemember that it\u2019s you MOTHERS house, NOT yours, and I pay RENT to live here, which means I\u2019m entitled to be here\u201d\n\nR replies:\n\u201cIt\u2019s called sarcasm darl \nStop trying to fucking argue and prove a stupid point haha\nThis is literally so dumb, come talk to my face if you have further irrelevant & petty shit to say\u201d\n\nMy reply:\n\u201cHmmmmmmm or you could\u2019ve just dealt with it and been an adult about it\nI don\u2019t need to prove anything, you\u2019ve done that yourself.\n\u201cRemember who\u2019s house you\u2019re actually in\u201d ?\nThink you\u2019re the one being petty R, wake up to yourself.\u201d\n\nAITA?\n\nTLDR; my ex\u2019s little sister (21) came to her parents house where I currently live and pay rent and ex lives here too, proceeds to complain about dog shit on the floor which wasn\u2019t there when we went to bed, I call her out that it\u2019s her family dog then call her out for being rude and petty after she tells me \u201cremember who\u2019s house you\u2019re actually in\u201d", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}331{"id": "rfudKICjkzToGXOyukez9m71zPTNBOB0", "post_id": "ba2kbi", "action": {"description": "not wanting to get to know my dead beat dad", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to get to know my dead beat dad", "text": "For my entire life (I\u2019m 20) my father has been out of the picture, he left me and my mom when I was like 4 months old due to circumstances that I am not aware of but I\u2019m sure are dicey to talk about given that both my mom and dad walk on eggshells about the topic (I have a theory that drugs MAY be involved???) \n\nWell a few weeks ago a man messaged me on Facebook claiming to be my dad , I thought it was a prank until I asked my mom and she confirmed he was in fact my dad. \n\nSo now here I am , with a dad all of the sudden and idk what to do. I\u2019ve talked to him a bit just to see what he\u2019s like I suppose and he wants to get to know me more but like, this is a lot. And I\u2019m already going through a lot on the side. Even if I wasn\u2019t, I don\u2019t really know how I feel about talking to him because I\u2019ve grown to resent him for making a kid and then just ditching . Like wtf, furthermore he made his G R A N D entrance to my life.... on *FACEBOOK* \nFacebook. Because messenger is where you have all the life changing, reality shattering conversations.\nAll these things combined make me not want to talk to him or let him in my life but I feel really bad about that because he genuinely sounds apologetic about leaving . \nI just don\u2019t really know what to do and I want to know if I\u2019m being an ass by not forgiving him or something. \n\n(Sorry if this was confusing I was kinda panicking about it and sorta just word vomited about it)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}332{"id": "sx1AnQjbv3oDH4LLzqBzPas7gJcstz7R", "post_id": "b99vfw", "action": {"description": "being passive aggressive, and refusing to repeat my name to a customer", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For being passive aggressive, and refusing to repeat my name to a customer.", "text": "I work cash register at a [redacted] I've worked here for 3(1/2) months, from new management I've gone from an above average employee to the best non manager worker I've never had a bad experience with a customer I always keep my self level headed, and try to be as nice as possible, and help the new managers deal with rude, or customers who want to resolve their orders I've had only 2 refunds in my time here, and I do all the work i can. \nToday I was put on drive thru with no assistance, and the only food handler for the night didn't come in,i had worked from 4 to 7 getting out big orders till a customer ordered a sandwich with the sauce on the side fresh fries 2 orders, and a large amount of chicken with extra sides I got everything through fresh, and I know the fries where fresh since I dropped them the moment he was up at the window I got everything bagged up except I put sauce on the sandwich, and the customer pulled the fries out over them being cold tossing them on the window sill, and yelling about the sandwich I let him keep the first I made since it's trash at that point, and I'm trying to explain the wait since it was only 2 employees running things with no chicken at all for the afternoon so he starts asking for the old management, and I try to say all of them are gone he gets frustrated, and he ask for a refund I just get him out of there since he's backing up the line, so I give him his money, and then he ask for my name I had already repeated it 3 times throughout his entire ordering process, and was getting bothered with him so I just refused to waste my time the whole time I kept my voice calm as how I'm sevely sick so my vocals hurt when I speak loudly the guy said you should look for a new job cause you're an asshole.\n\nIronic he didn't mention him calling me, an asshole, cursing, and raising his voice over an order I could've fixed in the report he called in.\n Also he claims his wife comes in constantly for 30 dollar orders I only get one day off looks like he wanted chicken a day earlier since I've never seen him before.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}333{"id": "XrKYbE6i1APiOZziOBxm7wij1SjoXPRZ", "post_id": "agyxhq", "action": {"description": "not wanting to post a picture of my girlfriend and I on facebook", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to post a picture of my girlfriend and I on facebook? [M36, F37]", "text": "To start, I don't use facebook. I think I made 2 posts in the last year, neither of which were important at all. I don't even log in. Almost missed a graduation party because the invite came through facebook, luckily I ran into the person before it happened. I don't like social media, I don't like my life on display, I have like 100 friends on there, it's pointless to me, along with IG, Snapchat, etc. I don't use social media. I'd rather live my life in the moment and enjoy the time and effort I put into the relationship instead of hearing what other people think.\n\nSo, she asked if I would post a pic of us and I said I don't use facebook. she's my friend on there, but again, that means nothing to me. She got all upset and was trying to force it down my throat, but I stood firm. I don't post to facebook and I don't need validation from people online.\n\nShe talked to her friend and her friend, who gets upset when her on/off boyfriend adds girls to facebook all the time, chimed in that I'm immature and she should dump me if I don't \"Claim\" her on facebook. I think this is petty. I explained I spend 4-6 days a week with her, our kids hang out, we crash at each others places all the time, we go on road trips, we're planning a trip to Europe this summer. It's not like I'm hiding anything and I don't want/need validation from people. I don't show off, I don't brag, it's just how it's always been with me. I don't even post pics of places I go. The important people in my life know, I've sent them pics of us together and that's it.\n\nHer son can't get off snapchat and constantly lies and advertises that he's drinking underage and using drugs (another story, it's being worked out). I just don't like putting my life on display.\n\nI said I'm not changing my mind on this, facebook doesn't define my relationships and if she wants to end it over somthing as petty as this, then go for it. Her friend is already telling her to end it, which taking advice from here is backwards since she is dumping/getting back together with this guy all the time over stupid stuff. I think this is more an insecurity thing and at this age, shouldn't be. This is high school drama to me and is unecessary.\n\nAnyway, thanks for reading. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}334{"id": "moxJdXkfEmuSNvrVJHewsPSdQKEgxhTA", "post_id": "a10cg5", "action": {"description": "wanting to play my ps4 offline at my friend's expense", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "WIBTA for wanting to play my PS4 offline at my friend's expense?", "text": "Okay, I'll do my best to make this brief.\n\nI recently found out I will have to go to Wisconsin for some medical reasons unimportant to the story. For years, my friend and I have \"game shared\" on PS4. This allows only one copy of the game to purchased but it can be played on two consoles. So my friend and I, trying to save some cash, decided to buy a bunch of (digital) games through my account but split the price because his PS4 would get the game as well (gigantic mistake). The issue with \"game sharing\" is that the PS4 games we bought cannot be played offline on my PS4, but they can on his. With my trip coming up, I will be offline for a few weeks and would like to play my games during that time. If I were to un-game share (which I don't need his approval to do), all the games we split the payment on would be unplayable on his PS4, but playable on mine. We split the price of almost all the games, so he spent money on them as well as I. WIBTA for rendering his games useless so I would be able to play?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}335{"id": "QNuiC33YRHbtgGKEPc52PtdcfQb5Jxge", "post_id": "ar0j7p", "action": {"description": "hating my parents because they don't seem to understand me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for hating my parents because they don't seem to understand me", "text": "Ok first of all english is my second language sorry\nfor typos, but anyways let's go\n\n(19 btw) I've been struggeling with my mom and my step dad for a long time now there genuine nice parents and they do a lot for me like paying for important stuff like my drivers license ect.\n\nAnd here comes the deal for me they always expect me to be fast as fuck with certain things like drivers license even if i struggle very bad with it and i hate to tell them such things cuz they always get goddam mad at me for it what makes me just more anxious so i flee into my digital world to avoid my problems.\n\nNow there responding with always pressuring to take my internet away the only thing i have in this shithole of a village (we moved a year ago from east to north germany and i still struggle to fit in here) i have basically no friends here besides my weekly yu gi oh group meeting wich i started around 3 weeks ago so i guess thats getting a bit better\n\nI can't really move away here cuz i failed at my dream to be chef and now I'm here doing volunteer work too get a bit of money and yeah that not getting better for a bit.\n\nAlso another huge thing for me is that my mom is always correcting me its like her drug she also barely tells me she's proud like my step dad does, so its even harder for me cuz I'd like atleast a bit of recognition for what i do when that makes sense.\n\nAnyway my life consist of being mostly alone in my room single with almost 0 friends and no enjoyable things around my parents a making me feel worse and worse each day and i just want a solution or atleast to know if my behavior is wrong.\n\n\nThx in advance\n\nThis is also my first post sorry for any mistakes.\n\nAlso on mobile\n\nSo AITA here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}336{"id": "QCCC2rEpYf6aS98jgsErqUjqtpSRXNrj", "post_id": "b0urw4", "action": {"description": "pretending to be stupid", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for pretending to be stupid?", "text": "Back when I was in highschool, there was a fellow friend of mine who slightly struggled in his studies. He told me that seeing all his classmates score higher than him in exams made him had less confidence in himself(he\u2019s depressed because of it if I remembered correctly). Being me, I pondered on this thought for awhile and came up with a solution.\n\nThe week after, I sat beside him in class and asked him mostly the questions that were kinda hard. My best subject was Maths but that was also his worst.  I asked him questions after questions. If he explained it to me wrongly I would know and did the \u2018but i though u need to do this first\u2019. I can see why Maths was his worst as he had no passion in studying it at all. I lied to him about how i cant study at all and barely passed everything. After I mentioned that, he said that he is glad to have a friend that is not as smart as everyone else and on par with him.\n\nLong story short, I scored above average in the mid-year exams while he barely passed. He got transferred not long after due to family issues. We haven\u2019t got intouch since. Im just wondering if I did the wrong thing or not.\n\n(I know this story is kinda WAY out of league with other AITA stories but this thing has been on my mind a lot and i wanna lift the burden off my shoulders by sharing this with others and reading take on this story.tqvm)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}337{"id": "y8AH85o0rfSyLNnmS45YcldR3k4Uy1Hg", "post_id": "aqqhri", "action": {"description": "telling my dad that I don't want to get my mom a gift for Valentine's day when her birthday is next week", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my dad that I don't want to get my mom a gift for Valentine's Day when her birthday is next week?", "text": "Let me preface this by saying that I love both my parents very much. Ever since I was a kid, my dad has always incorporated me and my brother into his Valentine's day gift to my mom. For example, he once got her a bath robe and had us give to her while saying that it was a gift from all of us. I didn't really have a problem with this, but now that both me and my brother are older and have our own sources of income he keeps telling us how we have to get our mom separate gifts on Valentine's day, then again on her birthday on the 21st.\n\n I didn't really think about it too much until this year. When I asked my dad why he expected us to do this he completely blew up on me, he told me that I was being cheap and didn't love my mom enough to give her two gifts. He kind of made me feel like an asshole and when I mentioned it to my brother, he told me not to think about it too much. At this point, I honestly just feel confused, is what I am saying justified or is this normal and I am just being an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}338{"id": "4RgUxnLxuTrMFxsf01AOEqlmIattJeo9", "post_id": "alst6f", "action": {"description": "not being friends with my best friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not being friends with my best friend?", "text": "About 2 weeks ago I had a party for my mom and I invited my best friend, we can call her Candle. So I invited Candle and she told me that she would be there. Fast forward to the day before the party, her and I are hanging out and I asked her what her plans were for tomorrow she mentioned everything but coming to my moms birthday party and when I brought it up she said nothing, but \u201coh okay.\u201d So I assumed alright she might not be coming, whatever no big deal. \n\nThe Day of the party I have family asking about Candle wondering if she was coming, not really having an answer I decide to text her \u201chey are you coming tonight ?\u201d I didn\u2019t get a text back for the rest of the day. Later on that night though she post a Snapchat story of her with her other friends getting ready. Now at this point I\u2019m drunk and a little hurt and reply back to the story about how I couldn\u2019t get a text back. She opened that and never replied back for the rest of the night. \n\nNext morning I wake up and she text me saying, \u201csorry I couldn\u2019t make it but HMU after work and I\u2019ll smoke you out fat.\u201d I\u2019m sorry but to me that isn\u2019t an apology. I didn\u2019t respond back to her for a few days she tried calling me and I really didn\u2019t want to even answer so I didn\u2019t. I did what she did to me I ignored her. A week later I decide to talk to her and see if she says anything maybe even apologize in person. Guess what? she didn\u2019t. I\u2019m the one that had to bring it up and all I got out of her was \u201cYeah I fucked up,\u201d and \u201cyou caught me while I was faded\u201d those aren\u2019t apologies and she obviously didn\u2019t see it as a big deal so I left it at that and I left knowing that I don\u2019t want to be friends w a person like this. so I took her off my family sharing which we had Apple Music together. Later that day she notices and we have an argument and our friendship had ended. I just wanna know am I the asshole in this? Should I have just let it go? I\u2019m willing to share the screenshots of our argument so you all can get a better understanding of that as well. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}339{"id": "oCdtTPJTuQ8CIwTqGDWwnfO85U6mmjbs", "post_id": "9vytax", "action": {"description": "not wanting to date trans person", "pronormative_score": 35, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to date trans person?", "text": "My girlfriend opened up that she wants to transition to a guy. Ive always known her bi tendencies, but the fact she wants to change is too much to me. We\u2019ve gotten to the point in dating where our love is pretty much unconditional, and she claims shed support me and love me no matter what even if i change  to change to a girl. Im straight, but i dont ever doubt my love for her. Am i the asshole for not wanting to date a dude? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 34, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 35, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}340{"id": "GLMytRltFTkOtDqrgPKq0z3XVM7sKZ07", "post_id": "ai1186", "action": null, "title": "AITA in this break up?", "text": "My girlfriend (24f) and I (23m) have been in a 3 year relationship together. It's mostly been long distance but we've been meeting each other and traveling together very often during that time. Until this year when she moved to study in my city. Making things much easier and providing us a good base to continue life together.\n\nThis year we've both been under heavy stress. Myself, I've been aggresively job hunting after graduation  for over 6 months with very little hope and just getting more and more depressed after each rejection. My ex-gf was facing stress from a grandfather who's been terminally ill for a year, with also lots of assignments keeping her busy at university.\n\nDuring our time together we've both known about each other's issues, but not how great the stress is for each of us. I was blind by her schedule, so I structured my tasks around her, so I could spend time with her hanging out, going out, going for walks n talks etc. In some cases, she did bring up her grandfather, and every time I'd listen and talk about it. However I never sugar coated it. I tried to voice my stress. Telling her directly, about rejections or how stressed out I am. But at this point she seemed go be already annoyed at me for reasons I couldn't understand, she would often play mobile games and not communicate properly with me, which was not like her.\n\nIt was 2-3 months after her arrival when she broke up with me before xmas holidays, stating the reasons being me and my family. For hurting her feelings, and not supporting her at all. She said that she would sit in my bathroom and cry in secret and go to a friends house to sleepover there instead. She also stated very petty reasons that I'm a bad boyfriend, in most cases a lie or an exageration. Her crying state made me fall for it and sympathise with her. She also revealed to me \"dark secrets\" that she has never told me about. She said she was suicidal since 12 years old and that before me she cheated horribly with her ex, threatening me that she would do the same to me if we went on for longer, she never spoke to me about any of these things, not even hinting.\n\nA lot of her issues, seem to stem from a time before I've known her. Yet in her final dialogue with me, placed the blame on myself. I haven't been in contact with her since and only known of her progress through mutual friends. Fixing out she seemed to have recovered, posting unusually Instagram posts with hastags of #happiness #positivity etc. Rather superficial in my opinion. I also found out that after returning to uni after holidays, she immediately went on a date with a friend she met there. So it's clear she moved on very quickly.\n\nI've left this relationship feeling incredibly guilty and sorry for her, as it really was an amazing relationship. We treated each other, and she admitted this, yet she didn't speak to me about any of these feelings she said she had. Seemed like she built up all the negatives and just burst by the end. I also feel very angry and resentful, as I feel I was betrayed. Opening my house to her, settling her in to a new city, keeping her busy with what time we had. I had my stress, and she had hers. I tried to talk about it, but she shut herself off. Am I really a bad partner, and a monster that she sees me as ?\n\nIronically, I acquired a great job a week after we broke up, with many benefits, prospects etc. So it's rather oddly timed, as a part of my life continues and another runs off. Certainly missed details, but it would get rather wordy and messy.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}341{"id": "Jm52edDGXBVE6CVBtxHqAxPmof9PV4Zv", "post_id": "ah2f43", "action": {"description": "I was supposing to meet my boyfriend's parents this weekend but I cancelled because we're expecting snow storms this weekend and his parents are helping someone move and his mom isn't ready to meet me yet", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA - I [25M] was supposed to meet my boyfriend's [24M] parents this weekend but I cancelled because we're expecting snow storms this weekend and his parents are helping someone move and his mom isn't ready to meet me yet?", "text": "We've been planning this trip for months. He just met my parents over Christmas. My parents have accepted that I'm gay and everything so the whole visit was perfect. His mom is apparently extremely moody and not very happy about the whole thing yet, and had no intention of meeting me. His stepdad was also telling my boyfriend that they were helping someone move all weekend so they weren't going to be available anyways.\n\nMy boyfriend's aunt who's super accepting booked us a hotel suite to stay in for the weekend. When I found out his dad wasn't going to be available I said it didn't seem to be worth risking it with the weather in central Illinois this weekend. I repeatedly told him let's reschedule when I should come but he refused to do that, and eventually sent me his aunt's number telling me to tell her myself nexuses he's sick of being a \"messenger\".\n\nWe're long distance but he usually drives 6 hours north from Missouri to visit me every few weeks since he's in graduate school and I work full time. I've only visited him once via plane so I know this makes it look like I don't want to bother visiting him ever...I explained my reasoning with the weather, and his parents, but he wouldn't listen.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}342{"id": "5Go8vE3Arl5Kv54si1AfcxaxEpZl8cw5", "post_id": "9wjh0l", "action": {"description": "calling my friends out in semi-public", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling my friends out in semi-public", "text": "Context: Myself and three friends of mine were planning to go to a basketball game on Sunday(yesterday) night. We had planned in on Tuesday of last week (Election Day), and I bought all the tickets then. Everyone paid me and what not things are all good. A little more context: I'm on the quarter system at my university, so this week is pre finals week/finals week and the week after is finals week. So Sunday arrives, game is at 6pm. We all kind of preemptively set 4:45-5:00pm as the departure time. 4o'clock rolls around and one of my friends texts us saying he isn't feeling well and has a lot of HW so he sold the ticket to one of our mutual friends; nbd because I like the guy and he's pretty chill. I come downstairs (we all live in this \"house\" on campus thats for like 30 people so kind of frat style but it isn't a frat) at 430, after finishing up studying to ask the other two how soon they want to depart. They both then look at each other and say sorry they don't want to go, they have a lot of homework.\n\nAt this moment I just become pissed because this is literal last minute cancelling and I essentially bitch at them. They say its not personal and that they just have homework to do and that they just don't feel like it. Plus, \"its finals week, cmon man\". This is all in the commons room and a bit extra people are there, like 1-3 who aren't involved, and I essentially tell them that they are giving me a big fuck you by cancelling last minute. I kind of go on to abscond them for a minute about how this is just bs leaving me because you couldn't get your shit together. My rationale is that not only was this planned Tuesday, but we all know our workload in advance so its not a shock like there was a lot of work this week. Secondly, we were all watching football downstairs that day, but I left for three and a half hours to do homework in leu of going to the game. And now I'm being called a child by my roommate (was one of the ppl that was going) and that I'm overreacting to something that wasn't personal.\n\nI understand that it isn't personal, but I'm still upset about it because they are my friends and they couldn't go because they couldn't plan ahead. \n\nI talked to my dad about this and he says that people just do this, that people look out for their own self interests and that cancelling plans last minute happens all the time. So AITA for calling out two of my friends?\n\nAlso just for closure sake: I went with the first guy, and invite two other dudes in the house I wasn't friends with particularly, but just wanted to not waste the tickets.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}343{"id": "sDelusJXYrW6Mm410WFKZRkbIW1ldjcO", "post_id": "a1p90f", "action": {"description": "not complying to the upstairs ask", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA if I don't comply to the upstairs ask?", "text": "So my upstairs neighbors are lovely. They create docos in their spare time. They have just sent this text message requiring me to avoid normal saturday things (laundry, vacuuming, an using the bathroom).\n---\nText he sent:\nHey [pumunk] We're having some people around tomorrow afternoon as part of the documentary we're currently filming. You might hear a bit more stomping than usual. Also I would like to ask if it's possible for you to avoid doing any noisy activities such as using the washing machine, hoovering or using the bathroom fan during this time? Sorry to have ask you this but the sound will be picked up in the film due to the lack of sound insulation. We should only be filming from around 2.30-4pm. Hope this is ok. Thanks\n\nMy response:\nI dont want to be an issue but there needs to be more notice.\nI know how film projects go. Do you think it is likely you will be earlier than 230 or later than 4?\n---\nSo I am left wondering what to say next. Do I just agree?\n\nI do not like the short notice nature of this. I do not want them to make me an after thought. My gut says do not be an ass but I know filming usually goes over what you plan. Maybe they won't but I do not feel like they asked, just informed me I needed to be quiet.\n\nTalk sense to me reddit. I do not want to be an asshole but I also do not like being dictated to.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}344{"id": "KsXvNXdfzaScClBaw7OgiQLcsYJ4ikO1", "post_id": "ax6t9r", "action": {"description": "not making an effort to reconnect with my dad", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not making an effort to reconnect with my dad?", "text": "My parents divorced when I was too young to remember. My mom got custody of me because my dad had gambling/financial issues. I would visit him on weekends but as I got older, visits grew less frequent. I even remember him not showing up to my highschool graduation. Around 10 years ago he married another woman and has 3 kids with her now. I'm 22 now, in school full-time and working part time, still living with my mom. \n\nAs time went on, I would often forget to text him and he would never really text me, except maybe once every four months. He lives ~3 hour drive away and I don't have a car, or alot of money/time to take the train down to visit, and the one or two times I do visit every year I'm met with \"why do you never come visit\". \n\nThis is where I begin to wonder AITA because I'm done with making every effort and only being met with complaints about why I never visit. My siblings there even call me a \"ghost brother\" which kinda hurt me to hear. Meanwhile every time I ask to meet up halfway (they have a car, and don't work weekends...) I'm told to just take the train down and see them. I just think of it as a two way street and if they're not making any effort, why should I? \n\nThis is a big deal for me even though it may not seem significant because I have anxiety and I'm already stressed out enough about putting myself through school. It's always gnawing at the back of my head like \"shit I should really go visit ...\" but I just hate confrontation and hate how they have no sympathy for me trying to get an education. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}345{"id": "mhrXTSet8UNOnrobliwoZWBiYSvGSLQ8", "post_id": "b90e98", "action": {"description": "telling my bil that he's a lowlife who doesn't deserve an opinion", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for telling my BIL that he\u2019s a lowlife who doesn\u2019t deserve an opinion?", "text": "So my brother in law is a piece of work. First of all he\u2019s been to jail multiple times in his life for things that are definitely his fault. He is a strain on society. He doesn\u2019t work and stays at home because he\u2019s lazy and legitimately doesn\u2019t keep a job for more than 3 months at a time. \nHe lost his license, and has no desire to work to get it back.\nMy sister is the sole breadwinner and they\u2019re broke all the time because all he collects is  government assistance. My sister doesn\u2019t leave him because they have a child and she can\u2019t afford to live alone.\nSo, while sitting home all day he posts multiple things against our political leader (our leader is a decent person and everyone is kinda split half half with liking him). \nHe constantly posts against the government and just stupid click bait posts against people who like our leader, and pushes his agenda 24/7. His is the more unpopular opinion, and it\u2019s very backwards.\nFinally, I snapped. My BIL doesn\u2019t contribute to our society and he shouldn\u2019t even be allowed to have an opinion against our government because he doesn\u2019t help or pay taxes. He lives off the government. So I let him know that on one of his posts. I\u2019m sick of him pushing his political agenda when he doesn\u2019t even do anything to help out in society. \nNow my family are mad at me, my sister doesn\u2019t speak to me and I look like an asshole to them. \n\nReddit, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}346{"id": "bjJ8mS8PGZTGr85aN0YQCLvEVokZqhz4", "post_id": "ai0ld4", "action": {"description": "getting upset at my boyfriend for taking suggestive photos of his ex", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For getting upset at my boyfriend for taking suggestive photos of his ex?", "text": "My boyfriend and I started dating about 6 months ago. For the last 5 months, we have been in an exclusive and serious relationship (he basically moved in with me). About 2 months ago, he let me look at the photos on his phone so that I could send myself some pictures he had taken on a recent trip together. Apparently I scrolled up a bit too far because I found that shortly before we went on this trip, he had taken several close-up shots of his ex's ass in tight sweatpants as she was laying on the ground playing with the 4 year old daughter they have together (he sees his daughter and ex about 4-5 times week as they have shared custody). \n\nWhen I confronted him about the photos and told him how much it hurt me to find out that he would look at another woman that way and would go as far as to take pictures of her body even though he is in a committed relationship with me, he barely acknowledged my feelings. When I asked him why he did it, he said it was \"hard to let go\" of his ex (she was the one who left him).\n\nHe basically showed no remorse about the photos, and said it doesn't mean anything so he has nothing to apologize for. I know they have a history together, and he promised me that the only reason he sees his ex is because they have shared custody of their daughter. However, I am his girlfriend now (he pursued me, if that makes any difference), and it bothers me so much that he did this. We have a great sex life and he always tells me he is very attracted to me and loves me, but this incident is starting to make me question our entire relationship. It really makes me wonder what else he does behind my back.\n\nAITA for getting upset at these photos? I am sure he wouldn't physically cheat and FWIW his ex basically wants nothing to do with him aside from their responsibilities to their daughter, but I still feel like he is being unfaithful to me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}347{"id": "1Arl61QYS964SAjHltwPELLcArMtTdek", "post_id": "b9f2kg", "action": {"description": "not dancing with a guy friend during dance class who rejected me", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not dancing with a guy friend during dance class who rejected me?", "text": "So... we're in grad school and currently taking a dance class together (along with 2 other friends). \n\nThis guy man. He is relentlessly trying to spend time with me, even after he rejected me. I've been trying to distance myself from him as best I can without ruining the friendship, but it's been hard.\n\nHe asked me to hang out on Monday, which I said no to. He asked me on Tuesday, which I said yes to since I had to be on campus anyway for the dance class. We spent 4 hours together and then went to our dance class. \n\nHe insisted on us getting there at exactly the right time and going in together. I told him clearly I wanted to get to know other people in our class. \n\nWe did. We warmed up next to each other, but then I moved away from him a bit. When it came time to choose dance partners, I chose a random guy who was closest to me.\n\nAfterwards, he told me he wanted to dance with me. I didn't want to say why I didn't want to dance with him, but I did say that we switch dance partners each class, so it wouldn't be a big deal. He told me \"you had to look at me before you looked at him, and you still chose him. We walked in together so I expected us to dance together\"\n\nI just don't get this guy at all. AITA for not dancing with him? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}348{"id": "4X59P8V0IM5yjncxITnkxGaSpqAmZVlR", "post_id": "ay88uz", "action": {"description": "insisting that my boyfriend is bi", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 34}, "title": "AITA For Insisting That My Boyfriend Is Bi???", "text": "I've been with my boyfriend for 1 and a half years.  My bf is kinda the typical frat bro and honestly nothing from the outset screams anything but heterosexual, so when we started dating I assumed he was straight.\n\n About 6 months in he mentioned that he had a \"bate buddy\" in college, so I replied \"oh who was she? Did you date\" and he just laughed was like \"it's not a she\". I'm bi myself so it wasn't a big deal at all to me, but I definitely was shocked so I told him I didn't know he was bi, to which he laughed and said he was \"100% straight\" and it was \"just a guy thing\". I obviously thought it was an odd excuse but I grew up with all girls so I don't know much about guys so I just left it alone.\n\n\nSo shortly after that we were having sexy times and he wanted me to describe my past romps with woman, so I ask him about his past \"bate buddies\" and he gets really quiet and admits that sometimes they went further than just masturbating beside each other and goes on to tell me that he's done just about anything you could think of with another guy a couple times. So I made a lighthearted joke about it; something along the lines of \"should I be worried another guy is going to take you away from me\". He didn't get mad but I could see he was a bit upset by it and just kept saying that he's straight and he was just experimenting but he doesn't have any interest in guys. \n\nSo today I ask to use his phone to quickly buy something online because mine broke so when I opened it I'm greeted by gay porn. He snatched it out of my hand and laughs but was obviously embarassed I say to him that they're is nothing wrong with being bisexual and I don't care if he watches that type of porn. He just kinda blows up and insists he's not bisexual and that he's tired of me trying to say he is. I really really tried to explain to him there is nothing wrong with it and I'm nit trying to but labels on him but I think he should just accept it if he's okay. But he just got even angrier ans stormed out.\n\nI feel super bad about it but I honestly just want him to be comfortable with who he is. I used to deny I was bi so it's a bit personal to me. I also think that the reason he won't admit it is because his dad left his family for another man so I think it might be some internal hostility (even through they have a very good relationship now)\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 34, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 34}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}349{"id": "8Ost9yNZ5wG33FEUZwtB1IAo6LUOTESq", "post_id": "am1jzc", "action": {"description": "asking for the rings back", "pronormative_score": 29, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for asking for the rings back?", "text": "Long story short my wife is planning on filing for divorce out of the blue without trying to fix the problems she has with our marriage with counseling or other services. We are in the process of trying to split our finances/debts/things up (luckily we are both young and our only real asset/debt is our house). We have been together for 4.5 years but we were only married for 11 weeks...\n\nIn one conversation about how to split some of our finances and random items I asked to get both the engagement ring and wedding band back (worth ~4K together originally). I worked my ass off selling my soul for a contracted project that I was miserable doing for almost 6 months to be able to make the money to buy them. Considering that she had little regard for our marriage I felt it was reasonable to get them back to try and recoup some of my money. When I did this she looked at me like I was an alien but reluctantly agreed.\n\nAm I the asshole for asking for them back to try and get some of my money back?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 13, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 29, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}350{"id": "90FiOM8qkYFDdukuJnfA4MULhAPIMsXq", "post_id": "at2h8v", "action": {"description": "wanting to sleep in my own bed", "pronormative_score": 38, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to sleep in my own bed.", "text": "I\u2019m a 26f and currently live with my parents, as they are both disabled & I care for them. \nMy sister and her 2 children live in the next city over. Sometimes they come to stay, and as we only have a 2 bedroom home, I let my sister and her kids have my room and I sleep on the sofa, which I\u2019m fine with. However, I ask that they only come to stay when I\u2019m not working the next day, as I struggle to sleep on the sofa. \n\nMy sister was originally supposed to be coming to stay Friday and Saturday night this week, which is fine, as it\u2019s my weekend off. However, I was informed this morning, they they are now coming tonight too (Thursday).\n\nI have work tomorrow, and was never asked if this was okay. It was just announced. \nSo now, I have to sleep on the sofa tonight too. \n\nI mentioned to my parents how it would have been nice to be asked at least and now I don\u2019t really feel it\u2019s fair that I\u2019m expected to sleep on the sofa and get a shitty nights sleep when I have work the next day. \n\nParents tell me I am selfish and I hardly ever have to give up my bed, it\u2019s only one day at work etc. \n\nSo... AITA?? \nMaybe I am selfish. I don\u2019t know. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 38, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 38, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}351{"id": "dy83B3d14QC8nTsLksJMAlhZhghmipIR", "post_id": "aedbx4", "action": {"description": "moving across country for and then breaking up with my bf", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for moving across country for and then breaking up with my bf?", "text": "So the whole situation was unusual. I lived on the west coast and I was dating a guy online that I had met on Wow. I was in a bad situation where myself and my two cats were about to become homeless. \nSo me and my boyfriend (we can call him bob) were only really dating for about a month. We got along fairly well but obviously there's only so much you can do with someone long distance. Anyways, when I told him about my situation, he offered to fly me to him, with my cats and I could stay in his second bedroom (or with him in his bed if I decided). He was going to pay for plane ticket, pet deposit fees, etc. Until I could get back on my feet financially and such. He even said he'd fly me back home if so desired. \nI didn't really want to accept such a big offer like that, especially since I hadn't been with him for very long.. but I was put in a position where it really was my best option. So I accepted.\nMy first week there, things were weird. He would not have sex with me, or anything intimate. I tried to sleep in his bed but every day he'd say that it felt like I was pushing him away. So much so, he felt I was doing it in my sleep. (Creating physical barriers between us using a blanket?) \nA few more weeks go by, I still haven't been able to find a job in the small town I moved to. Therefore I haven't been able to help pay for anything, but he did know this beforehand. After 2 months, I finally get a part time serving job. I make enough to pay half the bills but not reimburse him for what he's already paid.. and he reassured me he doesn't want me to pay him back. He also had put me on the lease, too.\n After starting my new job and spending time away from him, I realized how much we didn't get along. We could not communicate in a productive way at all. When I started to show a lack of interest, he immediately assumed I was cheating. He began to go through messages of mine if I left them open on my computer. \nI finally decided I wanted it to be over because nothing about this was healthy or normal for a relationship, but I didn't have anywhere else to go so I thought maybe I could stay. I wanted to be friends with him since he did so much for me but i also didnt want to be pressured to stay in a relationship. I wanted to stay in the second bedroom, continue to pay half rent. At least until I could save and afford my own place. He told me that if I didn't want to date him, then I had to move out. I was disappointed but obliged. Started to look for a new place, staying in the second bedroom (Where I had nothing but a twinsize blow up mattress and about 80% of the room filled with Bob's boxes). Since I was single and so ready for this relationship to be over, especially after 3 months of no sex, I was flirting with a guy at work via texts. Bob found a friend to help him hack into all of my accounts and cell phone number so that he could read all of my messages. He showed up to my work multiple times to yell at me in front of customers to \"get my shit and get out\". I had to have my manager escort him out because he would not leave. He simultaneously changed the locks on the front door so I couldn't get in. He would call his mom over to babysit me whenever I was home alone so I didn't \"steal anything\". When I finally moved out (onto a work friends couch) he refuses to give me the rent money I paid for THIS month, and is telling me to repay him for everything he spent before...\n\ntldr; long distance boyfriend pays for my plane ticket to live with him while I'm broke and homeless, when relationship doesn't work out, he hacks into my accounts and messages, changes locks on door, and accuses me of lying and cheating and kicks me out even though I am on lease and pay half the bills. AITA for breaking up with him? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}352{"id": "fhnKpa2IWY0ENbUnIbPBSq2UWL2pqVdD", "post_id": "axbiab", "action": {"description": "making a joke about my friend researching parking fees", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for making a joke about my friend researching parking fees?", "text": "Two ex-coworkers and me were meeting up for dinner. I left that job, but they were still working together. Before that we all had the same income level, but that changed after I got a new job with a higher income. We had a good connextion and met up for dinner frequently. As I'm the only one with a car and one of them was pregnant (let's call her M) I suggested to come pick them up and drive them to the city where we would have dinner. And so I did. \n\nAs M did have a way of previously not offering to split parking fees when I drove us home (or any other costs) so I asked her the night before if she was willing to contribute if the parking fee was higher than the cost of public transport would have been. Which seemed fair to me and she agreed. Little backstory, I'm the only one with a part-time job now and need my weekend days also to run arrends and clean my house. From 13:00 on she was texting me about different parking lots, their costs per hour and the number of cars they could hold. I didn't really look into her suggestions because I was busy and just went to pick them up. They got into my car and at that point we didn't make a decision on the parking lot and I didn't really acknowledge all of her research on parking lots. I did ask what parking lot she would like me to go to and she came up with a whole cons and pro's list. I told her that I'd prefer the closest as I liked the convienence. She continues to discuss options and at that point I'm a bit done with it and try to shut it down with a joke along the lines of ''I would almost think you have never parked a car before, I've never seen so much research go into costs and places of parking lots!'' And she loses it. Screaming that I should shut up and that I'm ridiculing her and that not everyone earns as much money as I do. \n\nI immediatly apoligized for my comment (hardly could get a word in) and drove to the parking lot closest to the restaurant. We did sort of talk it out later that night and she blamed it on pregancy hormones. I drove her home later that night and that was the last time we really spoke. After that she texted me that she realized that it wasn't her hormones and that I put her down with that joke and made her feel small by saying something like that. \n\nSo the friendship has ended but it made me kind of insecure about it. Was I out of line not to acknowledge her research or worries on something so trivial to me? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}353{"id": "LASm6yzO5d5Tbmk6iHg3v6vVN6toHXB2", "post_id": "ag85tk", "action": {"description": "supposedly making a bully attempt suicide by standing up for myself", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for supposedly making a bully attempt suicide by standing up for myself?", "text": "In year 8, I was friends with a kid that was known to be a bit of an ass (let's call him Jacob), but I put up with him nonetheless.\nAnyway, after awhile he started punching and kicking my female friend and called me a retard (I am in a wheelchair but not mentally disabled), after that I stopped being friends with him but he said to me shortly after that he tried to kill himself 19 times because of me.\n\nI didn't believe him but you can believe what you will.\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}354{"id": "qcD2zjWqMGmYsjGgsnxOfwUa6JRsIcLb", "post_id": "avm0eh", "action": {"description": "ghosting a former co-worker", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ghosting a former co-worker?", "text": "Backstory for context, I unexpectedly lost my job last year and had to take a temp job while I looked for permanent work, I found that I actually loved my temp job and worked really hard at it to the point where they offered me a permanent job.\n\nNow comes the tricky bit, I was one of about 10 temps and only 3 of us were given perm contracts. One of the people who was let go I\u2019d become quite good work friends with. Now when I was told that I\u2019d got the contract, they said I had to keep it to myself until the end of the temp contract, which I did, I didn\u2019t speak to anyone about it and basically acted like I was leaving too.\n\nAfter she left, I found out that she had been talking to another co-worker saying that she couldn\u2019t understand why I hadn\u2019t told her I\u2019d got the job because we were apparently super close friends, then she started texting me, like A LOT (she\u2019s got my number off the work WhatsApp group), and if I didn\u2019t reply to her within an hour or so, she\u2019d Facebook message me and WhatsApp message me saying she didn\u2019t understand why her messages weren\u2019t getting through to me, it was bordering on harassment to be honest. At one point, I didn\u2019t get back to her for a whole day because a string of family emergencies (a family friend passed away, my parents house almost burned down and my sister went into labour all in the space of about 24 hours), and when I finally checked my phone, I found a really ragey text saying she didn\u2019t understand what she had done wrong and that she would delete my number and never text me again. I told her what had happened and she said she obviously hasn\u2019t deleted my number,  then took this as an invitation to repeatedly text me again.\n\nI know her husband died a few years ago and she\u2019s in her 60\u2019s so she\u2019s probably super lonely but I\u2019ve not text her since, aita?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}355{"id": "6LXKBYgQqjCOxMFB5KtxB5SP9BJpf2Yt", "post_id": "9waay5", "action": {"description": "keeping twenty dollars for myself", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for keeping twenty dollars for myself?", "text": "I will keep this short. I live in America, two British guys came into my work. They gave me $50 for something that cost $9. They said, \u201ckeep twenty, give me back the rest\u201d. So I gave them back $21. Then they started arguing with me, saying to give them back thirty? I pulled out my calculator, repeated what they told me, and showed them the math, and his friend was like, \u201cyeah that is correct\u201d. But the main British dude got really upset with me and got huffy and walked away. So I ended up keeping the twenty anyway. Then my coworker was like, \u201cyou PERCEIVED them wrong\u201d. I said.... \u201cwhen someone says \u2018keep twenty\u2019, that hardly ever includes the total and if so, he should\u2019ve clarified... but instead he got upset and walked away\u201d. But my coworker was adamant and tried arguing with me. She kept saying I perceived him wrong? I said, \u201cthere wasn\u2019t anything to perceive? It was a language miscommunication and all it took was two seconds longer to find a middle ground???\u201d And she\u2019s still angry with me. So, am I the asshole? Honestly ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}356{"id": "VIBGeR9XL2caF5Uo0MDhnaOfXOoyfzPH", "post_id": "ash83w", "action": {"description": "not paying not alerting a clerk that I think she rung up an item wrong", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not paying not alerting a clerk that I think she rung up an item wrong?", "text": "My friends and I were debating the ethics behind what happened the other night when buying beer. I got a usually pretty expensive 4 pack of local craft beer. As the lady was ringing it up, I told my friend that I'd get his water as well, and when I went to pay I realised the total price was 6 bucks and change (for the beer and water). That was way less then it usually is, but I didn't really think about it until my way home, paid, then left.\n\nWhen telling my other friend about the price he said I was a scumbag for not pointing out the error, and that she probably rang the beer up as 1 can. My defense was it's not my job to point out store pricing errors and I didn't do anything shady to get try and pull the wool over their eyes. We both agree that you should always tell a clerk if they forgot to ring something up or that's straight up stealing. We defer about if a wrong price gets rung up if we should notify the cashier.\n\nWhat do you guys think? AITA and should have said something, or did the beer gods shine a ray of sunshine on someone who has spent a ton of money on great beer?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}357{"id": "3DKVg8EGMXEXqgfMQaTjFhDslnS4EgRf", "post_id": "b1z24w", "action": {"description": "banning someone from my discord server who made people uncomfortable", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for banning someone from my discord server who made people uncomfortable?", "text": "Sorry if this formatting looks weird, I\u2019m in mobile.\n\nSomeone joined and I was about to let them in (we have a vetting process) and 4 people, the co-owner and 3 other people DMed me saying that that person was bad. Apparently he had picked fights and caused a lot of drama. I don\u2019t want that on my discord server, for obvious reasons. I ask other people about him and that said something along the lines of that he liked to pick fights and would encourage others to get involved (keep in mind their experiences were a few years ago) and they also said that they were very uncomfortable with him there. The discord server in question has like, 20ish people in it and there was only 4 that were uncomfortable with him. So me and the co-owner decided to ban him. There\u2019s been a lot of backlash from other servers for banning him. I do want to give people a chance but at the same time, he was making people uncomfortable and I don\u2019t want that to be the environment in my discord server. He might have changed from a few years ago, but he also makes people uncomfortable. So AITA for banning him.\nSide note: the discord server I run is for people with PTSD and other related disorders mainly to get support and tips and stuff. So, him being there as not only uncomfortable, but triggering to them as well.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}358{"id": "y8Gx6we3WOwr2fcQLsMiHfT415KDBQpf", "post_id": "ao11m3", "action": {"description": "not feeling wanted after my girlfriemd doesnt reply or want to have sex after 4 years", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not feeling wanted after my girlfriemd doesnt reply or want to have sex after 4 years", "text": "So without getting to specific, im in my early 20's and have been dating my SO for almost 4 years now. We've had our good times and bad times and in the beginning we both just got out of bad relationships and both made mistakes of misloyalty, i wont go further into detail, but this comes in later..\n\nIn the beginning we lived in different towns, i lived at home, we would see eachother as much as possible, this died down a little after highschool and when we got jobs. But we still hung out whenever we were free. No problems with no replies on texts. Then more recently in the past couple months, ive been noticing when i tell her good night and i love you, which i just thought was a nice thing to say and help someones night go well.\n\nHowever, my texts seemed to be maybe 3 to 4 lines, and hers would be 2 to 1 lines. But now she hasnt really texted me back more than once since i last saw her a couple days ago. I wont see her for about a week now,\n\n and ive had past relationships and earlier issues with cheating and whatnot years ago. I try to shrug it off and believe her excuses of 'oh i was just talking to my dad and then took a shower and forgot.' and i cant help but think  the only reason she wouldnt reply even in the morning is because when she looks at my text she opens it and just says 'fuck it, not worth my time' she is a couple years older than me, so idk if she just doesnt like texting or what, but when shes over, she'll reply to people right away. \n\nI guess this turned into a rant but whatever. If anyones reading this long, let me ask you this,  Am i also the asshole for wanting to have sex? Its been a good amount of time now and she never seems to be in the mood around me or to me. We'll mess around a little with foreplay and stuff rarely but it hasnt gone farther than that for a while. She says she just doesnt like sex, but idk what im supposed to do when i do. Also im going to be moving out of state toward the end of the year and dont know if i should try to keep this going or what. Thoughts, advice? Thank you.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}359{"id": "eJ6JqUu2drbmz4J65WTHOerlzjT3V41m", "post_id": "apylcy", "action": {"description": "going to an Audition instead of going to my best friends dads funeral", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 37}, "title": "AITA for going to an Audition instead of going to my best friends dads funeral", "text": "My friends dad died the other day and his funeral is next week. I grew up with their family and I\u2019m very upset by his death, however I have an important audition the day of his funeral. I\u2019m an actress and this could be a really amazing job for me if I get it. I told my friend I wouldn\u2019t be able to come and she seems really off with me. I know she\u2019s going through a lot right now and I wanna be there for her but this audition is really important. \n\nAITA for going to the audition instead of his funeral? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 37, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 37}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}360{"id": "qOKRtoPrZLKZ4U61cyDQ4YDh4hUhYnOS", "post_id": "a9uzxh", "action": {"description": "being upset at my older sister and her boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being upset at my older sister and her boyfriend?", "text": "High school senior here. A little background, I have been a hockey player my whole life, and I broke on to my school's varsity hockey team as a freshman, and have started every game since day 1. Through hockey I gained popularity, made friends with both peers in and out of school. This season, I was sure to break the school record for career goals of 111, as I was at 89 through 3 years. I also had a real chance to break the county record of 122, considering I scored 37 goals my sophomore year. It became a running thing with my buddies, and I gained a lot of notoriety for it around the smaller town. Well, a week before the season starts, my older sister (22) and her boyfriend were home on Thanksgiving break. This guy, a big guy mind you, wanted to play football with me and some of my buddies in the yard. I said sure. However, in an effort to impress my sister, this guy tackled me as hard as he could in a simple game of touch football. He ended up breaking my wrist, and we had to go to the hospital for it. Doctor tells me I can't play for minimum 8 weeks, considering the physicality of hockey. This takes me to the near end of my senior season. Now, I won't be able to break either record, and I feel like what I loved has been ripped from me. My sister told me to \"man up and how its not a big deal (missing the hockey season). She knows this has been a big part of my life my whole life, and doesn't seem to care. This was in late November, and I still haven't spoken to her more than saying hello over the phone. Am I in the wrong? Thanks. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}361{"id": "tD5J2FRGjb77gKk0Hoyum8lSyFmHLrM3", "post_id": "aqakt6", "action": {"description": "inviting fiance's friend to the wedding without inviting friend's wife", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "WIBTA if I invite fiance's friend to the wedding without inviting friend's wife?", "text": "My fianc\u00e9 has been friends with this guy Paul for twenty five years. \n\nAcross our relationship I've gotten to know Paul and I like him. He's a great guy. He's funny and personable, if a little quiet. \n\nBut Paul's wife Sharon is... something else.\n\nThe few times I've gone to their house, Sharon has been nothing short of frigid. She is silent aside from \"hello\" or \"goodbye\". She will stare daggers at you the whole time you are in her presence, like you are completely inconvenient to her existence. Basically from the minute you walk in their house, even if you've been invited over, it feels like she is counting down the seconds until you leave. She's not verbally rude, but she gives off a definite negative energy and body language.\n\nI asked my fianc\u00e9 if maybe I did something to piss her off or offend her, but apparently she's been like that towards him for the last twenty years so... that's just her personality I guess.\n\nOriginally I was going to invite her to the wedding anyway. But then it came to my attention that she has made multiple posts on her social media denigrating us and our relationship (usually alongside denigrating Paul). Comments about her loser husband's loser friends. Comments about me being an idiot for dating my fianc\u00e9. Just snide little posts that are vague enough someone on the outside might not know who she was talking about, but specific enough that it's pretty obvious to anyone who knows my fianc\u00e9 or I.\n\nBetween her obvious disdain for her husband (repeatedly calling him names, questioning his masculinity, disparaging his income even though he's the one supporting both of them) and her obvious disdain for my fianc\u00e9 and I, I don't want her at the wedding. I would LOVE for Paul to attend, but to be frank I feel like Sharon can go fck herself. I don't want that energy anywhere near my celebration.\n\nFianc\u00e9 thinks it would be an asshole move to invite Paul without inviting Sharon, and is worried Paul wouldn't show up if his wife is excluded. His feeling is we should take the \"kill them with kindness\" route. \n\nSo what say ye, Reddit? Would I be the asshole to send Paul an invite with no +1 attached?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}362{"id": "TQdmCjfIJIoPsSU5vm6kMyY7LBXdpWZx", "post_id": "ao8f9a", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my friends when they say that I put myself in a position to be sexually assaulted", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my friends when they say that I put myself in a position to be sexually assaulted?", "text": "I was with a friend in an AIRBNB last weekend and got very very drunk on alcohol that he supplied to me and fed me after I was already too drunk to move, I quickly sent my address to everyone I knew once he started holding me and feeling me up after constantly telling him no. I punched him multiple times but I was too weak he tried to put his hand down my pants. The cops came I was still very drunk and I sent them away, in this time he passed out and another friend was able to come and get me. I was safe that night, I got my refund and that was that. \n\nI'm pretty shaken up about it considering I've been sexually assaulted countless times in my life and I get flashbacks and nightmares and I can't even look at my own body sometimes. My brain is a constant mess around men and I find it hard to trust anyone at all. And on top of this I'm staying with a friend for a week, and last night he said something about how he didn't want to parent me but I had chose to drink the alcohol and to be there and it almost sent me into a panic attack. Another friend keeps telling me that because of how I dress and because I was there with him I had to have known why would have happened and another who I trusted a lot told me that he wants to know where I am when I go out because I put myself in these situations. This is why I turned the cops away.\n\nI know its my fault already I know I'm stupid and I fucked myself over and I get they have good intentions but all I want to do is scream at them and cry and my head starts spinning and ringing so much I can't hear or see them. I went off at the last guy and he told me I was being crazy and he was only trying to help. I just really REALLY need to know, AITA here? Are they really just trying to help? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}363{"id": "lvH6CJxpsMFknjoFnrkVvTErYtOueeeU", "post_id": "ash2f0", "action": {"description": "not lending my drug addict friend money, even when he says it's not for drugs", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not lending my drug addict friend money, even when he says it's not for drugs?", "text": "I have a childhood friend who is currently addicted to adderall. He's prescribed it, but he also gets it on the side when he runs out after a refill. \n\nHe asked me at 3 am last night if I would give him $5 because he needed it to buy something from a video game, and he said he would get it back to me by the end of the day. \n\nOf course I said no. I've never had to ask anyone for $5 ever, but to have to ask someone else must make him feel super desperate and vulnerable. It made me sad for him, to see him get to this point. He swears it was for the game and not anything else, but of course how can I trust that?\n\nAm I never going to be able to lend him money ever, even if/after he gets clean?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}364{"id": "UuE8qOhnf6W3bCi99tBcmujEQyecezql", "post_id": "apcv00", "action": {"description": "being pissed at how my mother is treating me", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being pissed at how my mother is treating me?", "text": "TL;DR. My mother mistreats me and my little brother but I don't know if I am making it worse. I feel like my lack of contribution around the house is not helping, and while I'm trying to fix it, I'm busy with school and constantly tired. I just want to be able to be a normal teenager--make mistakes and slack off sometimes--but I don't get the chance. \n\n​\n\n​\n\nMy mom has had abusive tendencies since I was young. Her first response to my negative behaviors as a child was to beat me, and when I got too big to beat, to yell and scream, knowing quite well I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. She treats my younger brother similarly. He's 8, I'm 16.\n\nHere's an example of her behavior.\n\nA few weeks ago, she sent me in an Uber to pick up some food for her from Popeyes'. She demanded a particular deal that involved a leg, wing, and thigh, as well as a biscuit and drink, for 3.99. I knew damn well they didn't have that, especially in the pricy neighborhood I was in, but I asked anyway. I'm cripplingly shy, so I didn't want to press the issue, and bought her and my brother tenders by mistake.\n\nWhen I brought them home, she FLIPPED OUT. An honest-to-god screaming fit, tears, voice-breaking, the entire 9 yards, hollering she didn't like tenders, she wanted (insert dead bird parts here). To me, they're the same fucking bird, but okay, I guess. The part that pissed me off was when she insisted I didn't care about her because I didn't know she didn't like tenders. To this, I asked her which condiment I preferred--barbecue sauce or ketchup. She said ketchup. I like barbecue sauce. She insisted that it wasn't the same thing, and said I was inattentive.\n\nLater, she \"apologized\". Well, not really. She forgave me for bringing her tenders and said she appreciated my efforts. She did not say sorry for calling me, in so many words, an awful daughter. Over fried chicken.\n\nTo me, it was a completely childish response to a relatively simple problem. Howling your lungs out like a four year old because you got a piece of a bird and you wanted another piece of a bird is not how adults should behave. If I, a hormonal teenager, who has panic attacks about makeup sponges, can understand that, a woman in her forties certainly should. \n\nHere's another example.\n\nToday she screamed at and physically threatened my 8 year old brother for emailing the teacher about a missing assignment--to clarify, she asked him check Google Classroom, and he misunderstood . I was too afraid to go look, but based on the changes in her voice, she hit or pinched him at least once. In the same paragraph of speech, she insisted that TV/computer use is making him stupid and then said that he wasn't stupid and could listen to her. \n\nNow, from what it you've just read, she seems like an asshole. Granted. \n\nBut today, after more screaming when I told her she's always angry at us, she brought up two things: one, that I am ungrateful, and two, that me and my father aren't doing enough in the home to help my little brother.\n\nWith the first, I can kind of understand where she's coming from. In her mind, she's never wrong, and for me to be upset with her to the point of crying for throwing a skirt at me seems like a ridiculous and unfair thing to do. I disagree, of course, but I see her logic. \n\nWith the second, she's right. Completely. For a lot of my life, my dad has been just \"there\". He provides, and sometimes talks to me, but he doesn't try to do things with me or take me anywhere. He doesn't really give me advice unless I ask for it, or tell me to do anything if it doesn't directly pertain to him (i.e. I don't want to do this, so do it). He's the same way towards my younger brother (with some improvements). But my mother has made my brother into a little tyrant: he doesn't listen to or respect anyone but her. He fusses at me and is short with his father. We can't really tell him to do anything, and I can't really make him.\n\nAnd I admit, I am a lazy piece of shit. My room is a disaster, and other than taking care of our three dogs and making sure they're fed, clean, and toileted, I don't do much. I try to help with the sink--make sure stuff doesn't build up in there, and that kind of thing. I'm a senior in high school--I skipped a couple grades--and just generally going through some tough stuff right now, so it's kind of difficult. Studying for tests, keeping my grades up, making sure I graduate by getting my service hours--it's a lot on my plate. My workload has increased 1000x since last year.\n\nI'm also super irresponsible. Just in general. I'm working on it, but I feel like I lost a good chunk of my development to depression in the 8th, 9th, and 10th grades. I feel stunted.\n\nAnd I'd just like to share that until very recently, my mother didn't do anything around the house. She has walked the dogs maybe 6 times in the two years we have lived here (she forces them to be in a little room near the garage because \"she doesn't like animals up under her\"\\[our dogs are cuddly\\], and complains that my room isn't clean enough to have them live permanently with us). She does not wash dishes, nor clean up after the rarity that she cooks--she recently started baking bread, and leaves the sink piled high with dishes every time. She then proceeds to complain that the sink is full of dishes and no one is doing anything about it. \n\nBut she works a lot. She just graduated school and is running three businesses. I feel like she resents me a little because I was born at a time that wasn't opportune for her and disrupted her life. I do feel like she's in the wrong a lot, but I want to extend sympathy to her. I can't imagine the amount of stress she's put herself through for us, and I am grateful for what she has done. I just wish she wouldn't treat us like shit and say it's fine because she provides for us. I didn't choose to be here. \n\nShe is not open to communication, and no amount of discussion will fix this, so I just want to know: is this entirely her fault, or are me (and my father) partially to blame? If so, how much?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}365{"id": "btKVQr3wD022t0k8NdF6K2XCA5kO4JE8", "post_id": "b7p0t6", "action": {"description": "getting an interview at the same place my friend got an offer from", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting an interview at the same place my friend got an offer from?", "text": "So I currently work, but I've been searching for another job since October due to job dissatisfaction, only getting part time hours when I'm considered full time, and looking for better pay.  It's a tough market.  Anyway, I digress.  My friend interviewed at this place and \\*has an offer\\* from them.  I asked her if she had an e-mail or knew who I could contact, and she provided that information.  So I e-mailed them and got a call a couple of days later to schedule an interview.\n\nShe asked if I told this person that I got his e-mail from her.  I didn't.  He said it was his personal e-mail and he wasn't sure how I got it, \\*but\\* he didn't ask AND I didn't tell.  He just proceeded to tell me about the position, and how they are hiring for all positions (FT/PT/PRN) at the moment.  He told my friend (when she interviewed over a week ago) that they weren't hiring anyone else.  Well, my friend spoke to this contact person today because apparently, she has not yet given them their decision on whether or not she accepts.  She is still waiting to hear back from another place that is basically her dream job, and asked if she could have until Monday or Tuesday.  Well, I guess this person sounded a little irritated and wants her decision by today.  Personally, I don't think this has anything to do with me, because she \\*has an offer\\*, and I don't.  I still need to interview.  \n\nShe said I should have waited, blah blah blah, I thought you were my friend, and didn't think I would have e-mailed them so quickly.  But see...she could have told me to wait, or not give me the e-mail at all, and I would have respected that!  I also saw this position on Indeed some time ago, but when I found out she applied and was in the process of scheduling an interview, I held off, out of respect to her as a friend because I knew she was desperately looking for a job and I have one.  I told her I would wait to contact them until after she got an offer.  Well, she got an offer, so I thought it was okay for me to go ahead and proceed.\n\nIt's not like I'm stealing this position away from her.  She already has the damn offer, and they need her decision.  I have no offer, just an interview scheduled in about a week.  Am I the asshole in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}366{"id": "bngIemtfl6IhSmvYSGH4cpH2vvLcOPzp", "post_id": "awj9xl", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my mom for getting me sick", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my mom for getting me sick?", "text": "My mom started feeling sick something like 10-15 days ago, and since my dad was away at the time, it was my job to take care of her (I am a student living at home). I wasn\u2019t super happy about it, but I put up with it because I know that she has been there for me when I was sick.\n\nNow, whenever my dad or me gets sick, we take a range of different medicine regularly to try to fight it off ranging from DayQuill/NyQuill, to zinc tablets (which have been clinically shown to shorten colds), to Dimetapp at night. Apart from that, we drink lots of liquids.\n\nSo as I\u2019ve been taking care of her, I suggest that she takes some medicine, but she rarely would take anything except for Advil, which lowers her fever I guess. To top that, she would drink barely any fluids (like maybe 10-12 oz per day). All of this made me mad, but I didn\u2019t try to push it too hard on her.\n\nToday however (basically a couple of weeks since she first started feeling symptoms), I woke up and felt really sick. I went to my mom (still sick btw) and told her that I was a bit mad at her for getting me sick because she didn\u2019t try to take any medicine to shorten her cold. She told me that she\u2019s sorry I got sick and that, yes, it\u2019s probably from her, but that she doesn\u2019t think the medicine has any correlation.\n\nObviously there are no guarantees with something like this, and I could have gotten sick from her even if she had been taking medicine, but I still feel like she\u2019s to blame for not really attempting to fight the sickness at all. But maybe I\u2019m wrong - am I the asshole for blaming her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}367{"id": "M1fuOirxH1wcaz60mAaaOsCAn81rahEC", "post_id": "b2smqj", "action": {"description": "hiding that I speak another language from my so", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA for hiding that I speak another language from my SO?", "text": "I speak a few languages. One of them is Spanish. I speak it fluently (natively), but nobody guesses it because I'm white. I've always thought it's a great practical joke when I'm with someone who I've known for a little while and I've only spoken to them in English so far, and I pick up my phone and start speaking Spanish fluently, or start speaking to a cashier in Spanish. The look on their face is priceless! Usually they are really surprised and then I explain how I know Spanish.\n\nMy question is, would it be different if I did this to an SO? I thought it would be pretty funny to play the long con on them, and then maybe in a few months bust out the Spanish on some random occasion and see how they react. However, I saw on another post that someone lied about their middle name for a few months and people were saying YTA to her.\n\nSo, WIBTA if I did this? Is this essentially an enormous breach of trust?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}368{"id": "5AGoh8tkY2U8qhGG98dPMxevhjZQkujy", "post_id": "auqezw", "action": null, "title": "AITA for the way I've been handling my close friend having a crush on me?", "text": "Me and my friend (lets call him Ian) have been pretty close for the past two semesters at college. We talked almost everyday and hung out with mutual friends together all the time. A month ago Ian met my boyfriend for the first time, and the day after sent me a series of really weird texts, one of which insulted my boyfriend by comparing him to a really unattractive character in a movie. I asked him why he was acting so weird and he wouldn't tell me. \n\nEventually a couple of mutual friends told me that Ian has had a big crush on me for awhile and that I was the only one in the dorm hall that didn't know. It's been a week and Ian and I haven't really spoken to each other because its been so awkward, but I've been hearing weird things that he's done or said. For example, last Wednesday he refused to talk to anyone and was only using sign language. I've also been told that he said \"Well MooseLand's boyfriend is a senior so they're not going to last long. I'm not giving up\".\n\nToday he texted me and asked if I was upset because he insulted my boyfriend. I said \"I mean it definitely wasn\u2019t cool, but I\u2019m upset about other things as well\". He apologized for the lack of communication and then followed the apology up with \"on the flip side though, you probably could have done a better job communicating what was going on with (boyfriend)  months ago. I think you were a little naive/unrealistic about what was happening\". I explained to him that my boyfriend and I only started dating in January and that I told him about my boyfriend multiple times. I also said that I had zero idea that he was attracted to me. The final text he sent me was \"Oh wow. Literally everyone in (Dorm Hall) knew I had feelings for you, I assumed you did too. My bad. I guess I took things wayyy too slow. It\u2019s too bad because we have damn good chemistry\".\n\nAm I the asshole? Because I'm starting to feel really guilty.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 30, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 31, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}369{"id": "04qtdHBi2fG4Eu6u8QpZAaQoRENHv3qb", "post_id": "a9vsas", "action": {"description": "telling and shoving someone bc they touched the back of my chair", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA: for telling and shoving someone bc they touched the back of my chair.", "text": "So this was early December and thinking back I don't think I handled this well. I went to do this walk through of a fancy hotel's decorations close to my town with a group of people and the place was really big so I brought my mobility aid. And I was sat down and someone I kind of know started leaning on the back of my chair. I knew her well enough that I wasn't gonna be a horrible ass about it so I just told her to stop in kind of some not nkce words but I just said some not nice words(\"let's not touch my wheelchair.\") \n\nPerson: You have a chair so I'm gonna take advantage. \n\nShe continued to do this anytime we were stopped and I continued to tell her to stop it. \n\nAnd then one of the people that came with us that is just met tried to do it. And I was fed up with people in generally leaning on the back of my fucking wheelchair so I grabbed his arm and logically shoved him off and told him loudly not to touch my chair. And screamed \"that is so rude! Do not touch my wheelchair.\" \n\n\nSo I feel like I was maybe in the rght br also might've handled it poorly so am j the asshole? Are we all asshole? Thanks, Reddit ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}370{"id": "6JdYzFrpOkxl6llxHggQTHOkUY0CKYQC", "post_id": "apocap", "action": {"description": "yelling at my wife's pregnant sister", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for yelling at my wife\u2019s pregnant sister.", "text": "Okay so my wife\u2019s sister is always complaining that my kids are not taking out the trash from her restroom and they have stopped using that restroom all together after I told them. She keeps telling my kids either way to do it. She was telling my daughter to tell me what she told my kids when I was in the exact same room. Then she told told me that I need to tell my kids to stop using the restroom when I know they haven\u2019t gone in there for the past week and a half. I told her when you have your kid boss him around but not mine. Then she kept repeating that she hates how my kids make a mess and don\u2019t like cleaning it up. I told her that no one likes that she is living here. And I just left not wanting to say anymore. Keep in mind that she only has been living here for about a year and a half. I\u2019m tired of her bossing my kids around for the smallest stupidest things. And she keeps it going and doesn\u2019t let it go at all. She will constantly be reminding my kids to do this and that. And it pisses me off since her boyfriend who practically lives here doesn\u2019t do shit in the house he just lays his ass on the couch while she makes him lunch. I\u2019ve been wanting to say something for the past few months but this was the last straw. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}371{"id": "5h3bwJw9uXdTeuteao8fDaZlX9iE9Zc2", "post_id": "b2xgng", "action": {"description": "not using my girlfriend's condom", "pronormative_score": 166, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for not using my girlfriend\u2019s condom?", "text": "Posting from an alt because I\u2019m here for advice not karma\n\nSo basically about 3 days ago, i went over to a girl i\u2019ve been talking to for maybe 3-4 weeks, and we were going to do the deed. Of course I came prepared with a Trojan fresh out the box popped into my pocket. I get there and you know blah blah happens and eventually I pull the condom out before insertion. She says \u201cno no, there\u2019s no need, I have some\u201d but I say I already have it and start unwrapping it. Here\u2019s where she gets persistent. She hops up and says \u201cNo we\u2019re using mine,\u201d and says she won\u2019t let me until we use one she had. Now she had mentioned wanting kids soon, like in 2 months soon, but thought we\u2019d just maybe mess around for a week or two and that\u2019d be it. I thought nothing of it originally and honestly now I was scared. I said \u201cno, why\u2019re you so persistent.\u201d She then states that if I wasn\u2019t to use hers, I might as well leave. So I put on my clothes, did the ol\u2019 reliable waistband tuck, though there wasn\u2019t much to tuck at this point. I now was texted by her friend calling me an asshole and making a big deal out of nothing. I am starting to get second thoughts and thought I should\u2019ve went along\n\nTL;DR: girl wouldn\u2019t let me use my own condom, said i couldn\u2019t smash until I used hers", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 149, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 17, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 166, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}372{"id": "MEf7ftGOqdZU8WGWP9C2ry63WwAaC2fc", "post_id": "axwew2", "action": {"description": "being frustrated and resentful about how my mother's health issues have impacted my life", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Being frustrated and resentful about how my mother\u2019s health issues have impacted my life", "text": "My mom has pretty extensive cardiac/other health issues. Ever since I graduated from undergrad six years ago and moved back home to help out, I\u2019ve been wrapped up in the world of her health issues. This means that I have sacrificed travel and job opportunities in order to accommodate her needs. I would estimate that she\u2019s been in the hospital for more than a year (if I were to add up the length of all her stays in the past six years). \n\nAs time has gone on, I have found myself unable to emotionally respond to her health issues anymore. I can logically respond and ask her questions about whatever her current issue is, but there isn\u2019t an emotional switch that goes on. This is odd to me because I work with patients in other capacities and I often overly feel concerned for them and their wellbeing. But with my mom, it\u2019s like my feelings have been overstimulated so much that they have fizzled out. As a result of this, I find myself getting irritated or exasperated whenever she tells me about what feels like yet another issue and I end up being very short with her. \n\nMy post today was prompted by her telling me about chest pain (which she always has to some degree, but tonight it\u2019s been worse) after I spent literally 13 hours outside of the house. I was visibly irritated which I know hurt her feelings since she views me as her main confidante in the house, but I honestly couldn\u2019t even pretend tonight. I love my mom dearly and she has done so much for me and advocated for me while I was growing up so I feel terrible about my inability to connect to her issues emotionally/feel empathy. \n\n\nPlease tell me if AITA! If any of you have been through a similar feelings progression, I would appreciate your thoughts!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}373{"id": "XWCRAvaXDvRRUz7CYxqj3OcM8HGOXOrv", "post_id": "ahqbg9", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend for going Clubbing", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "WIBTA If I Broke Up With My Girlfriend For Going Clubbing?", "text": "Throwaway because knowing my luck people will see this.\n\nSo i've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year now, and I've made it pretty clear with her that i don't like clubbing in the slightest, and made it crystal clear that I wasn't gonna stay with her if she decided to do go clubbing as that's out of my comfort zone and wouldn't feel good about it at all. At first she moaned and said she'd only go \"to have fun with her friends\" and that she isn't \"like that\" though i know that her friends are a little promiscuous, but then changed her mind a couple months down the line saying that she doesn't want to, and that it's not worth \"losing me\" over it. Now today we were facetiming as she was pretty busy and so was i so we didn't get a chance to meet up, and she mentions that her friend invited her this week to go but she was busy with work that night, but her mate invited her to go this weekend or something and that she wanted to go, now her exact words were \"would you break up with me if I did though?\" and i started to get a bit heated but tried to keep my cool and was like \"do whatever you want i don't care\" i then found an excuse to get off the call and i got upset since she knows how i feel about it and it's not the first time she's tried to swing me round to agree with her. \n\n​\n\nif you wonder why i'm not a fan of it, you should see the type of girls that club here in the UK, and the usual \"it was a drunken mistake\"", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}374{"id": "A10vr4ig4pGZN8DP43ke9qCQ9vyUI4o1", "post_id": "b066cm", "action": {"description": "trying to get a \"promotion\"", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trying to get a \u201cpromotion\u201d?", "text": "I work at a factory and we had someone transfer somewhere else. They were the backup to the backup supervisor. I asked the supervisor for the position. Basically I would act as supervisor on weekends if the backup didn\u2019t show up. Really all the job entails is showing up early, meeting with the previous shift supervisor, assign jobs, do extra paperwork at the end of the shift and stay late to meet with the next supervisor. All of that responsibility and no raise in pay (it looks good on a resume if I decide to move up). But apparently everyone on my shift now hates me for trying to get the superficial title. The other people that could get it either have too much work already, are brand new, have no interest in the job, or were supposed to retire years ago.  But all of a sudden everyone thinks I\u2019m doing something wrong by trying to move up. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}375{"id": "v2uMsqJpNswvHxy7Ld94EPA4p3SK9uTZ", "post_id": "b1ztzy", "action": {"description": "wanting to move out", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For wanting to move out?", "text": "I'm a 21y/o guy, and I've struggled with mental illness my entire life, but now I'm in a really good place mentally, the only thing really pulling me down is my current living situation. I live with my mom and my brother, he has severe autism and needs constant care, so i help take care of him. When I'm out, I feel like a normal person, but when I'm home I just want to scream. Everything triggers me, the energy is so negative that I spend most of the time locked in my room. My mom and I don't have the best relationship in the world, and when I told her that I was planning on moving out she got super upset. Since them she's been trying to reconnect with me, and I appreciate that, but I just can't be there anymore. I feel like an awful person leaving my mom to take care of my brother by herself, but I just don't see another option. AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}376{"id": "Dq7OEETlSgQWMOj8KkPVTh3YD4un11ou", "post_id": "azwhvr", "action": {"description": "not wanting to visit my Great Grandpa now that I know he doesn't like me as much because of my weight", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to visit my Great Grandpa now that I know he doesn't like me as much because of my weight?", "text": "This may be scattered and all over the place, I have been thinking on this for a while and finally decided to get some advice maybe. On mobile while the kids are having naptime, forgive any errors please. TL;DR at bottom. \n\nMy Great Grandpa(GG) recently turned 89. I am 29, turning 30 very soon. All my life I was the \"favorite\" grandchild of his, but I am pretty sure its just because my Grandma, (who raised me, and whose Father GG is), took me to hang out with him so often. But even if that was the reason, GG and I always had a good relationship. \n\nI have always been bigger then other kids and people my age, but it wasnt until maybe the past four years that I have slipped into the probably obese category. (I am not really wanting any advice regarding that, I know my issues there.) Between heavy depression, lack of care for myself, being content in a happy relationship, and PCOS, I have quite a bit of extra weight that is a struggle to lose. (But I am trying one pant size down this year! :3) Before this bit of weight gain, even though big, I was \"fat in the right places\" big. My GG used to creepily call me \"Hot Momma\" whenever I hugged him in public... Which was often as he always invited me out for lunch and dinner. I also spent a significant amount of time just hanging out with him at his house too. \n\nBut once I got properly fat, he stopped inviting me out as much, and whenever I would stay at his house he didnt really talk to me and just sorta acted awkward for lack of a better word. He would quickly finish dinner and be off to his \"man cave\" rather than socializing like he used to. We always go over to his house for Christmas, and for 2018 Christmas he decided to not give any of my family presents. (Husband and 15 year old daughter, as well as me.) I didn't say anything at the time, but all three of us sorta had our feelings hurt as he had made sure to give lots of other people presents, but somehow forgot us. \n\nThis was relayed to me by my Grandma later:\nMy Grandma asked GG if he had given me a present, and he grumpily said \"No, and I didn't give daughter or husband any either.\" He then told her that he didnt like me being around as much \"since I got fat\" because I make him, my 89 year old Great Grandpa, \"look bad\" and I am not \"hot\" anymore. \n\nOnce my Grandma told me about this I was livid and my feelings were so hurt I almost felt nauseous. I haven't said anything to GG as he's mostly deaf and really doesn't listen to me anyways. But since then... I have had no desire to go see him. I feel guilty about not doing it, I know he's old and doesn't have long but I just can't stand him at the moment. \n\nTL;DR \nAITA for not wanting to visit my Great Grandpa anymore after he said he didn't like having me around since I got fat and am no longer attractive in his mind, making him \"look bad\" in public? \n\n\nThanks in advance for any advice. I need it for sure. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}377{"id": "cQblQYPoeMAiTDPRhcGAxuxfeyB82DBM", "post_id": "b047xk", "action": {"description": "messaging someone on FB Marketplace at 11.30pm", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for messaging someone on FB Marketplace at 11.30PM?", "text": "My partner and I were night owls this evening. I was browsing FB Marketplace, like I usually do. I saw a couple of plant stands that I quite liked, and decided to ask the seller about them. I rarely ever do this, as I don\u2019t have a vehicle, and it can be a pain to pick stuff up. \n\nMe: Hi (redacted), do you happen to know what the top portion of these are made from?\n\nHer: excuseme... huh?\n\nMe: what is the clear portion of these plant stands made of?\n\nHer: plastic\n\nMe: great, thank you :)\n\n(At this point I was still undecided if I would purchase them, as I was hoping to use them as bird baths outside, and wasn\u2019t sure if a plastic would hold up.)\n\nHer: what else would they be. It\u2019s a no brainer... are you on glue??\n\n(I\u2019m not going to bother even asking for a viewing now)\n\nMe: best of luck selling these /s\n\nHer: it\u2019s 1130 at night retard!\n\n(I then promptly blocked her and reported the convo to FaceBook.)\n\nAITA for sending a message that late at night? I have my phone set up on \u201cDo Not Disturb\u201d after a set time. It\u2019s not like my feelings would have been hurt if they responded in the AM. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}378{"id": "LdhlDO8Al7YlxuhpofNmV3r88X7qQl4e", "post_id": "a616di", "action": {"description": "suggesting to my wife that we both curtail our drinking", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA To Suggest To My Wife That We Both Curtail Our Drinking", "text": "I'm an alcohol abuser. I binge drink sometimes, self-medicating sedative for sure, but pot's more my deal and I love how it helps me create and be up, optimistic and engaged, whereas drinking numbs my issues and just shuts me down. Socially, I drink more, part of the flock, but, when I'm home, I largely avoid it to remain productive and would love to quit entirely, no judgement on anyone who relies upon the drink to get them through. I understand.  I'd just like to stop, altogether. \n\nMy wife drinks too, but not really socially, more like constantly.  It's been every night for years.  Happy times, sad times, all times, a bottle of wine a night.  I know of issues she has, and I understand how self-medicating works. But she has always shown such a lack of interest in trying to rein it in. I don't push - I get it.  But it started to attack her health, and she gained weight, her health deteriorating over many years of nightly pounding the wine down, along with questionable dietary habits. I ride mountain bikes, walk a lot, work out, and she just doesn't want to be active, for whatever reason, I still don't know what that block might be.  \n\nFortunately, our doctor confronted her with a diabetic prognosis, as a result of her weight gain from both food and alcohol abuse as well as physical inactivity and she had a woke moment and decided she needed help.  So, she got gastric bypass surgery as a way of forcing her to pay closer attention to her health.  She would have to follow a dutiful regimen because of the surgery.\n\nIn a year, she lost 125 pounds, and I've been so proud of her.  She's been ecstatic, glowing, excited and empowered.  I've loved watching her rediscover life and have shared in all of her victories day by day.  Our marriage has strengthened as we've affirmed that we were in this together.\n\nIt's well-documented that there are some psychological side-effects that come from this kind of surgery and that also, many still revert to their old ways in time.  My wife has been a model patient, defying all of the standard results for this procedure.  No complications, a tremendous boost of energy and dedication to remaining fit and the realization that she'd committed to a life-long lifestyle.  I told her from the start that I'd be there with her, side by side and step by step as she redefined her approach to physical and mental well-being.\n\n9 months after the surgery, she stopped working out so much, very much pleased with her progress, and then she dropped right back into drinking heavily again.  But, her smaller stomach couldn't process the booze as well, so she began getting drunker quicker and more severely.  This progressed to full-on drunk-every-night sessions that would leave her on the couch, head hanging forward, dead to the world, full-on passed out.  I'd never seen her like this before.\n\nWe'd go out somewhere and we'd both be ordering drinks, but she'd end up wrecked in half the time, and we'd often have to bail on our plans in order to get her home.  She was stumbling drunk every time, and she had to lean on me extensively as we aborted date nights to get her back home where she could pass out in private.\n\nI thought I was getting my wife back when she got the surgery, but there are issues that continue to press her towards the booze.  I recognize my own issues with the drink and have decreased my usage over the past few years, especially at home, where we could support each other.   I've told her many times that I would stop drinking completely if she would do the same.  Because the two of us are stronger together than each of us alone.  If both of us are of like mind on something, there's no stopping us.  We're like Arnold Schwarzenegger and Jamie Lee Curtis at the end of \"True Lies\"; working the room together and owning it.\n\nI told her again, tonight, that I would cut back on drinking if she would.  Together, we'd get a handle on this thing.  We didn't have to stop drinking forever, just maybe not as much. I'm ready.  She said that she wasn't quite ready, yet.  The same thing that she's been telling me for years.  I went alcohol-free for a year, for myself and to serve as a witness.  She didn't change her intake one bit.  I got something out of it, some lucidity, some better habits, a sense of control that I didn't think I possessed.  But she didn't share that depth of attempt. And it was hard to quit cold turkey in a house full of booze.\n\nI'm willing to dial it down to zero and she's not willing to dial it down at all.  I know she's dealing with a lot of baggage, from childhood to some of the mindfucks that come with the surgery that she endured a year ago.  I don't blame her for drinking.  I just don't know what to do in the face of her saying, \"I can't stop right now.\"\n\nShe was very sweet when I told her all of this.  We're not arguing.  I asked her if she's happy and she said, exuberantly, \"yes!\"  I'm happy too; she's a wonderful woman. We have fun, we have a great relationship, we enjoy each other's company, it'll be 15 years of marriage next year and 17 years of being together. But something is compelling her to drink in excess seven days a week, and I just don't know what to do.  \n\nAnd because I DO drink, and know WHY I do and tell her so, but refrain from the intense levels at which she imbibes, I just wonder if I'm being an asshole.  Do I even have room to speak?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}379{"id": "lliBDfPyJf2EjZruCi0rFo161ArNqvDr", "post_id": "ayp1g5", "action": {"description": "ruining the joke/doing what a stranger's boyfriend wouldn't", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ruining the joke/doing what a stranger's boyfriend wouldn't?", "text": "Disclaimer: Long but light hearted situation for ya!  \n\nI'm cramped into an airport van with 10 strangers who are being transported to our various hotels in a town that is a 6 hour drive away. We have all come off the same flight which was delayed by 2 hours, so are 2 hours behind our individual schedules on top of the impending 6 hour roadie.   \n\nWe're having toilet breaks along the way but are all keeping it as brief as possible. We're driving away from a lunch break when a girl yells out to the driver to stop- she's lost her phone. A bit of communal panic ensues and we of course turn around and head back.\n\nThe girl is travelling with her bf who is obnoxious in a few ways: yawning ridiculously loudly in a small space without covering his mouth, falling asleep numerous times and essentially resting himself on my shoulder (I would politely inch forward until his gf would pull him back over), ball space to suit 3 men, etc etc. \n\nSo, she loses her phone and is STRESSED. We pull up, she jumps out, the driver jumps out as well and helps her look (we're on a small touristy island - in my home country - I can confidently say that if someone finds the phone, they're not handing it in). The bf doesn't get out to help her (???) but kind of looks around the seat half heartedly and ends up finding it under the seat. \n\nHe announces with zero sense of urgency: \"Yeah it's here ha ha, she's unbelievable.\"  We're all relieved. Maybe 15 seconds goes past and everyone's like uhh are you going to tell her? And he says, \"no she deserves to panic, she's always losing her shit, this happens all the time. Let her panic\". He says that she has to learn her lesson one day or another. I say half-jokingly, (enough for him to hear but not making a statement to the whole van) \"maybe right now isn't when she needs to learn the lesson though?\" He ignores me.\n\nWe're a van full of strangers watching her and the driver frantically run around this dodgy restaurant and he's laughing, and someone comments \"it's funny but the driver is out there stressing too sooo...\" Bf responds with: \"classic. She's so ridiculous. She would be so pissed.\"   By now we've awkwardly watched this shitshow for about 5 minutes. \n\nMe: \"surely tell her now?\"\nHim: \"no, it's funny?\" (Smug at this point). \n\nSo I lean over him, open the door and yell \"WE FOUND IT!\" She gets back in totally relieved and apologetic, we're all kinda laughing (with her) to make light of the situation. I say, \"he found it the moment you got out of the van\" and again others laugh, she laughs too but also looks at him like seriously?! \n\nHe then gives me absolute you-asshole daggers, mutters something under his breath and, to let her into her seat makes a point of completely shoving me out of the way (he's a 6 foot 3 male, I'm a 5 foot 3 female). Tbh this wouldn't sit well with me any other day but I've gotta sit next to the bloke for another 3 hours.\n\nSooo AITA for \"ruining the joke\"?   ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}380{"id": "O4dwo8HgDb4ifIOi2gMX4uoNJBHsUXRK", "post_id": "aobnte", "action": {"description": "going to my house after a planned date with my girlfriend didn't go as planned", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for going to my house after a planned date with my girlfriend didn't go as planned?", "text": "a bit of backstory, i had just gotten off of work and i left to my friends high school to help him practice some wrestling, since his tournament is tomorrow. I got there a bit late but no one was ready and about 30 minutes of being there my girlfriend texted me if i was going to pick her up from her cosmetology school so we could go hiking. I had completely forgotten but i told her i'd leave and would still leave to pick her up. A bit of fuss comes from her side as shes mad that i forgot, which is understandable. its about a 40 minutes drive and i get there and i'm as happy as possible because i don't like seeing her mad at me, i try cheering her up and i end up fixing things with good attitude. We get to the mountain to go hiking after we eat and turns out its closed. We head back to hers and stay there for a good 40 minutes, 10 of which were us sleeping. At this point i'm tired and have been out since about 9a.m and its 8. I decide i want to go home, she gets mad and gives me attitude as i leave. \n\nI understand this because we planned to go hiking since the beginning of the week, i was as excited as she was, granted I forgot, i am always excited to see her. Before I even leave her neighborhood shes texting me about how excited she was about seeing me and how shes mad i left early. I'm thinking to myself, \" just because our plans didn't go like we thought, doesn't mean i'm obligated to spend more time with you\". Call it selfish but i like home and just felt tired. When i'm home she calls me and demands an apology for not wanting to spend time with her, how i don't want to see her, and because i left early. In my mind, I am in control of my life, if i wanted to go home, i have that right. I mean i don't want to be extremely biased but is that not natural? Extra: we have been dating for three years and she will constantly tell me she doesn't feel appreciated and that i don't show that i love her. \n\n​\n\nAITA for wanting to spend some time alone after a failed date?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}381{"id": "z458OSsxlFspuorJYA77nUkvBRF9w7Yk", "post_id": "ao7fsu", "action": {"description": "calling out a friend for being a terrible friend? she hasn't spoken to me for 9 months", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for calling out a friend for being a terrible friend? She hasn't spoken to me for 9 months", "text": "We met in college about 10 years ago and hit it off immediately. She is the loud, sometimes obnoxious, attention loving performer-type and I, the goofy, introverted hermit, emotional artist-type. \n\nThe dynamic of our relationship has always been that I'm there for her whenever she needed me and if she was struggling with something, I was happy to spend however long talking her through it. I'm assuming with as much as I've done for her and helped her out in the past, she felt like she could rely on me. But, it wasn't so much the same for me. See, most of our conversations would always somehow end up focusing on her, even if it was something \\*I\\* wanted to talk about. Still, I considered her as my best friend and even an extended family member for all the events/family dinners she's been at.\n\n​\n\nSo, fast forward...I leave our hometown, move across country a few times, get married. She stays back home, pretty much doing/living the same life before I left. We halfassedly keep in touch while I'm away, and we even organize double dates/hangouts when I'm back home. But, over time, keeping in touch becomes more and more difficult and there's resentment compounding on my end for ridiculously stupid things like \"she never likes my pictures on instagram\", \"she didn't message to ask if I was ok when she saw I was in the hospital\", \"I'm always the one saying hello and she takes forever to respond to texts, yet she hits me up when she needs help with something\", etc...\n\n​\n\nSo eventually, I got sick and tired of her shit and sent her this text;\n\n \n\nHey dude,\n\nJust wanted to reach out to apologize for being in town for over a week and not getting in touch. To be honest, I\u2019ve been kind of upset over the past few weeks and I got to a point where I thought it would be best not to reach out. It hit me some time later that letting anger get in the way of honest expression is the reason why most friendships wither and die over time. So my idea in being completely honest with you here is so that I have a chance to get it off my chest, give the situation an opportunity to unveil all of the hundreds of other possibilities my one perspective might be missing, and most importantly give this friendship another chance to survive. \n\nI want to be super clear that while this message may seem one sided - it\u2019s just me expressing everything I feel. And, what I feel is all I know. I fully open the possibility of being completely wrong and having misunderstood things. Ultimately, I\u2019m reaching out because I\u2019m not comfortable in making my own assumptions of the truth to a two sided story. How could I possibly?\n\nAnyway, for as long as I\u2019ve been capable, I\u2019ve always done my best to help you. I answered your call when I was on vacation to walk you through Instagram marketing, set up your YouTube ad campaign over the holidays, and have never hesitated to share with you anything and everything I\u2019m doing that has helped me - in order to help you. I never expected anything in return because that\u2019s not why I chose to help. I helped because I thought we had a mutual respect and care for one another as friends and as independent artists. But every time I reached out to say hello, I\u2019d never get a response, and when I did it was super delayed and the excuse was always the same. I became extremely ill right around your birthday but I messaged to wish you a happy birthday but you didn\u2019t respond until a week later, after you saw that I was in the hospital. By the end of all that - you reached out to ask me what happened, I was so tired of not being responded to, that I answered in a way to cut the conversation to avoid waiting for a response that would never come. That made me so sad. And made me wonder if you really cared. \n\nSo, ultimately it was time to go back home for a visit and I was extremely resentful towards you. To me, it feels like I\u2019ve inserted many coins in this friendship vending machine only to feel like I\u2019ve just come up short. You may have noticed that I didn\u2019t mention being busy as an excuse I\u2019m interested in talking about. I know how busy I am and I\u2019m assuming your schedule is no different. \n\nIn all honesty, I wasn\u2019t going to send this at until I played this 30 min exercise / game and it opened my eyes to why I should. [http://ncase.me/trust/](http://ncase.me/trust/) (do it on desktop browser to fully understand what I\u2019m talking about). \n\nWhatever happens I feel good about being honest with you. Life\u2019s too short to be angry and I don\u2019t want to keep thinking about it. I will always love you.\n\n\\----------\n\nShe responded by saying she needed time to think things through and that she loved me and respected me...but then turned around to unfriend/unfollow me and she hasn't bothered to reach out like she lead me to believe she would. I feel hurt and used obviously, but the question that wracks my brain constantly is this...Am I an asshole for calling her out? Did I make it impossible for her to want to remedy the friendship? Was I too aggressive? I want to know what I did wrong to warrant her wanting nothing to do with me. It's so f\\*\\*\\*ing confusing. \n\nThx for reading.\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}382{"id": "NzytgNQxzTrMGl9Nfy6D1bdHKqe4TEoX", "post_id": "avklx2", "action": {"description": "\"breaking\" bro code by dating a friend's ex love interest", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for \u201cbreaking\u201d bro code by dating a friend\u2019s ex love interest?", "text": "\nContext:\n\nMy now current girlfriend and my \u201cfriend\u201d used to have a thing but they were never officially dating for a couple of months.\n\nI was never in the picture because I did my own thing and my focus was finishing my last year of college.\n\nThey stop talking and end things because she goes back home to her home state for the summer before the semester starts.\n\nShe comes back home from the summer and we start hanging out on campus and the gym, which in turn resulting us to date.\n\nMy \u201cfriend\u201d now calls me a snake to our friend circle and everyone else no longer invites me to social events when he\u2019s attending.\n\nHe claims I broke brocode.\n\nAm I the asshole?\n\n\nIMPORTANT NOTE:\nWe weren\u2019t really close of friends, as we only hang out at parties. (Which I rarely attend because I\u2019m an introvert).\n\nAlso I\u2019d like to mention this happened months ago so it\u2019s not a serious problem and it\u2019s not affecting my flourishing relationship with my girlfriend :)\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}383{"id": "rA6EQakxvQP80yMy3frovm7chCa7xsoC", "post_id": "b2sv55", "action": {"description": "moving out from my roommmate", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For moving out from my roommmate?", "text": "This past fall I started college and decided to room with a high school friend of mine who we\u2019ll call Dan. I had been good friends with Dan throughout high school. We had many similar interests and he had actually gone on vacation with my family the year before. \n\nAnyway, a bit into the first semester everything is ok, sometimes he\u2019d ignore me if I tried to talk or would just walk in and out without acknowledging me, but overall it wasn\u2019t too bad. Eventually pledge week at college rolled around and he pledged and I didn\u2019t. Everyone that I knew pledged, and it was really hard for me to be the only one that wasn\u2019t. I had the option to but long story short it really wasn\u2019t for me. Anyway I spent most of the week depressed and lonely because everyone I knew was so busy and couldn\u2019t even talk to me due to pledge week. I had a panic attack one day and my parents came down to make sure I was ok even. By the end of the week I was doing a better and was more stable. One of my other friends informed Dan that I was having a rough week at the beginning of pledge week and needed a good friend. Dan ignored me all week. That Saturday Dan was sick from pledge week, and I went to lunch with a friend. While at lunch Dan messaged me and went off about me needing to change my attitude before I came back to the room. And continued to go off at me. I asked why he was acting like that because I hadn\u2019t done anything and he just kept on. I eventually ended up breaking down in my friends car due to this. The next day I decided to confront Dan on what he\u2019d done. He claimed that he never sent those messages (they were on Snapchat) and began to scream at me and told me to go to hell. That night he ended up in the hospital, so the whole argument had no effect.\n\nOnto before Thanksgiving break, everything is perfectly fine between us. Then once break happens he invites our old friend group from home to hang out multiple times and excludes me. He ignored me in person one day on break. Upon returning to campus he continued giving me the silent treatment. Rarely replying to me and looking away when I walked in. He would blare music in the room when I was trying to work or sleep, and would slam the door when he left the room. All of this caused a substantial amount of stress on me. Near the end of the semester I told him that I was moving out. I started to explain that it was just a stressful situation and I didn\u2019t want any hard feelings (it\u2019s not you it\u2019s me), and he interrupted and said if I didn\u2019t want to be there then I didn\u2019t want to be there and that\u2019s all there is to it. We didn\u2019t talk again until winter break. I moved out and headed home and he sent me a text message saying \u201cSince you left without saying bye, bye have a good break\u201d he hasn\u2019t talked to me since and I\u2019ve since found out that he\u2019s gone to his and my friends telling them I stopped talking to him and was an asshole to him this whole time, and some of them take his side. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}384{"id": "btVB6N4HTiuOfkXdB3NZLBDBPVqU4F0R", "post_id": "axtsqk", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be seen w/ my gamer friends in public", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be seen w/ my gamer friends in public?", "text": "I love my gaming group. We get rowdy, make inappropriate jokes and have fun. My issue is that when we go out to the bars in our small town, one of the  guys, lets call him Josh, gets really weird around girls.Now Josh is in decent shape and smart but when he opens his mouth to talk to women they get this look on their face like they are about to vomit. This has happened 6+ times. In his defense one of our other friends told  me a story about how the first girl he took home made fun of his micro-penis and he hasn't been with one since.\n\nLet's call the next one Emily. She's a bigger girl, whose Bi.Whatever.Tons of fun. When she talks to new people it goes \"HiMyNameIsEmily.I'm bi. I like boys and girls. I have a bf hes cool with it can I get your number,\" all in one breath. In her defense shes better than Josh. \n\nSo  Josh, Emily and I are at the bar. We just getting drunk keeping ourselves until the third bar and I run into this Hottie I have been talking to for a bit. I go over to say Hi how are ya, shes laughing everything's kosher. Emily and Josh slide over. Josh says \"You know this guy he's fucking asshole, total a piece of shit.\" \n\nHotties like \"uhh what?!!\"\n\nMe- \"This is Josh hes my friend hes just joking.\"\n\nEmily-\"Hi my name is Emily.I'm bi.That means I like boys and girls. I have a bf hes cool with it.Do you want to play pool with us?\" Hottie-\"Sure that sounds fun.\" Emily -\"We should hang out more whats your number..Did you hear me, whats your number.\"\n\nShe gives her number like okay lets get this over with. And its almost okay until Josh starts making jokes about raping dead babies that fall flat. He doesn't know what to do, so he doubles down. Doesn't work. So I just lean over and  I'm whisper \"dude chill just try to be normal,\" so only he can hear. And he shouts \"Fuckman, I'm just being the scumbag so you look better by comparison and  can fuck this girl, you'll see, it will work.\" She and her friends hear, total cringefest. She turns around and just completely ignores us, to talk to random dudes that swaggered up, like sharks that smell blood. Then Emily says to me \"Well, you really mess that up, I'll talk to her tomorrow see if she wants to hang out with us.\" At this point I  am in awe. If I didn't know these people I'd say they were fucking with me.\n\nI go to  the bathroom Emily and Josh pull an Irish exit. Hottie instantly walks away from sharkies back over to me says I don't know how I am getting home, I have to move my car do you want to come with? Sure love too. She backs to happy and giddy. We get to her car and  shes says \"I texted my friend to come pick me up. (Cucked.) but I had  fun.\" No worries\n\nNow  it's not the first time that Josh and Emily have made me feel awkward around women. So reddit AITA for not wanting to go out in public with my gamer friends and suggest we keep our relationship at the gaming table?\n\n2 many words. Lesser cringe stuff cut.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}385{"id": "OtA2AgyemDtm6mJCVU5CDBco2IBU6WLw", "post_id": "az00ha", "action": {"description": "not loving my parents anymore", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not loving my parents anymore?", "text": "As I've grown older I cant help but notice how bad my parents have been at parenting. (keep in mind both of my siblings have autism). Am I the Asshole for not loving them even though they are my family?\n\n​\n\nDad: \n\n\\-He is a christian with pretty radical beleifs like obama=antichrist, women are directly inferior to men, driving on highway for miles without gas to test gods protection, etc (will be important later). \n\n\\-He would often threaten me and my brothers to do what he wanted or else we wouldparents get hit. Whether it was to do the dishes for him, or if it was unsuspecting childsplay (this was from the age range of 5-10).\n\n\\-Got divorced and lives in his siblings basement at the time.\n\n\\-He decides to leave us (over 1000 miles away) because he likes this church dude online. this leads to my younger brother feeling lonely \\[8yo\\]. \n\n\\-has been a dick just to feel powerful(intentionally fucked up my hair and refused to fix it until i started to cry \\[9yo\\])(hit my older brother for doing his basic autistic behavior\\[10yo\\])(refuses to let my brothers and i to get passports and gives no solid reason (not even an exaggeration he can't give us a reason)\n\n​\n\nMom: \n\n\\-been yelled at for simply saying \"I miss our old house, it was fun\" \\[9yo\\]\n\n\\-has always told me that i have no reason to be sad whenever i was feeling down\n\n\\-Whenever i transferred from parent to parent, it reminded me of the divorce which made me sad. My mom saw me sad, called me manipulative without letting me explain, and i got beat. I didnt even say anything, i just looked sad.\\[8yo\\]\n\n\\-When i asked for a ds for 2 years straight, parents said no everytime. When i make enough money to buy one \\[7yo\\], my brother just asks for one in the store and he gets one too.\n\n\\-younger brother got a $50 wii game every week for being good, while I didnt get anything even if I worked hard in school academically. My brother got 15 games by the end of it all. Then my moms excuse was \"i cant afford that sweetie\"\n\n\\-When I was 10, I had no close friends, and nintendo video games were the one thing that made me happiest. I wanted a wii u for the next smash bros, cause I knew i would enjoy myself and my mom hit and yelled at me for being excited for christmas. (I ended up paying for 2/3rds of my own present, the only thing i wanted)\n\n\\-younger brother is academically behind because nobody ever pushed him hard enough to succeed, now both parents are just giving up on my younger brother going to a college (he has autism but he also has more potential than anyone has given him credit for and it makes me really sad)\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}386{"id": "ni4Hv2RLAij6krbKXMJ21ECBBKNAtKK7", "post_id": "b28561", "action": {"description": "telling my so I don't want to equally divide the household chores anymore", "pronormative_score": 32, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA For telling my SO I don't want to equally divide the household chores anymore?", "text": "I am 29M, my SO is 27F. We have been dating for about 1 year and two months. I have social anxiety, and this is the first girl I have even kissed. Things escalated quickly and we decided to start a live in relationship about 4 months ago. \nIt was decided that we would split the household chores equally. I was completely fine with it, because we both worked an equal amount of hours. Even though I earned a fair bit more, I was home for roughly the same time as her and all was good. \nIt was going great till 2 months ago, I got an opportunity to become a key member of an emerging company. I was a bit reluctant because of the work hours but my SO convinced me to go for it since there was a massive salary hike too. \n\n It required a lot more extra effort from my part and I often work 12-16 hours a day now. I ended you liking what I did, and my salary almost doubled. The ratio was now about 5:1 in terms of how much we contributed. Not saying I don't let her treat herself with our money, I obviously did... but I expected to at least come home with less dishes in the sink and vacuuming done.\n\nApparently not, I often end up staying up till 12 am and wake up at 4am. I confronted her about this yesterday. She goes out to watch movies and binge watches Netflix, something we used to do together, everyday. I honestly couldn't handle it anymore.\n\nYesterday,I didn't shout or anything, I just told her that we should honestly consider changing the agreement and she should ideallydoing a little more work. When she said that I had promised on the 50/50. \nI told her straightaway that I couldn't handle it.\nI told her that I would be fine with doing a good amount of things, just not an equal amount or the majority of the work load. \n\nShe suddenly just broke down and slammed the door shut. Saying I was supposed to be a good guy but I had somehow made it all worst. \nMostly because of the door muffing my voice, I shouted and told her I did my fucking best being a good guy for the people around me.( but I do confess that there was a trace of anger and aggression.) She told me to fuck off and I ended up sleeping in the other bedroom.\n\n\nToday at work I was getting bombarded with messages from her friend's on how I am being a complete moron and should better bring a box of her favorite chocolates by the time I reach home.\n\n\nI am at a local library now, honestly a bit stressed out....I genuinely need some help and even constructive criticism is welcome.\n\nI honestly might be the asshole, this is probably more of a confirmation. I am ready to listen to criticism and improve myself in any way possible.\nI am just stressed out.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 30, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 32, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}387{"id": "hzMOIbVwhKAOz9OyJNsBspFWHVTjfOAy", "post_id": "b8flk1", "action": {"description": "roasting my friend way too hard", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for roasting my friend way too hard?", "text": "So my friends and I are all in a discord server together where we talk, play games, and generally have a good time together. A few weeks ago I had this idea to basically create starter pack memes of each of my friends poking fun at all the quirky and small things they do or have done. This went really well for the first few of my friends as I quickly slopped together some Google images and pasted them in mspaint. \n\nHowever, we have this one friend, we'll call him T, who is generally kind of recognized as the pretentious friend of the group. As I worked my way through each of my friend's memes, T takes notice and asks for a starter pack of himself. I tell him that he'll have to wait until I get through some of the other people's before I started working on his. He obliges initially for a little while, but then he begins to become a little more persistent while also requesting that I pull no punches on his, making sure to really \"push his shit in.\" His words, not mine. Anyway, I finish up and begin working on his  starter pack when he says that anything relating to him \"acting smarter than he actually is\" is low effort and unoriginal.\n\nHere's the thing about T. I mentioned that he was the \"pretentious\" friend, but in general he's a pretty good guy. However, sometimes, he gets too big for his britches and I feel like I need to knock him down a few pegs, so hearing that I should pull no punches on his starter pack, I went all out on him. Over the next couple of days, I made a giant collage of all the weird and strange things he tends to do, but also went after all of his deepest insecurities in making his starter pack as he had requested.\n\nAfter it was all done, I immediately thought that perhaps I had gone a little too far. However, persistent as he is, T demanded that I post it. I really hesitated posting it, even going so far as to make him sign a \"consent form\" for what he was about to see. I upload the image and immediately T shits on it, calling it unoriginal, low effort, disappointing, and 0/10. I felt a little bad as I had worked on this for a few days only for it to be put down, but whatever.\n\nHowever, things got weird from here. Following this, T completely and suddenly disappears off discord and cuts all communications with the friend group for the next two weeks, deleting his discord account one week in. Rightfully so, the whole group starts to get increasing worried about his whereabouts as we try to contact him to no avail. A few hours ago, though, one of my other friends broke through to him to ask what happened to him, only to learn that he left because of the image that I had posted.\n\nAm I the asshole? Did I go too far in trying to roast him?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}388{"id": "s2G8iGDaSU6oopoUAFjHjeuf5M4CHLJ4", "post_id": "aufevx", "action": {"description": "getting pissed that GF shared netflix account with family who keep logging on in another country", "pronormative_score": 41, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting pissed that GF shared netflix account with family who keep logging on in another country?", "text": "I've had a couple of issues with accounts getting hacked, before being with current GF but she is aware that for me this has been issue, and that I reticent about sharing accounts because of this.\n\nI originally started sharing a Netflix account with her. A few months later I suddenly get a warning that someone logged in on Netflix on another country. Worried about it, but seeing as it was from my GF's homecountry, I asked her about it and yes, she had given account access to her mother. I told her I didn't appreciate it the fact that she didn't ask me about it first, honestly if she had done so I wouldn't have had an issue with it. \n\nAbout a week later, I get another notification, same country. Took me longer to find out, but apparently her mother had given her brother the account as well. Now I was pissed, because at this point I felt like I had no control over who was using my account. She was telling me her mother didn't think anything of it, which fine, I think it's rude but let's give her the benefit of the doubt. I told my GF that if there were going to be more new login or access requests to please tell me first and I would be fine with it. It costs me nothing per month, and it's a major plus for them. \n\nBut then this dude started to log in on different devices, and I got in about 2 weeks repeated log in notifications from Netflix (about one every 2-3 days), and every time I would ask my GF to please check with her family. Every time it was. The tipping point came when my subscription got changed, supposedly I guess because the maximum number of simultaneous devices had been reached, and her bro (according to her not knowing English) just saw some pop-up  and clicked \"OK\" to continue and watch whatever. \n\nI was mad at this, I felt that at the very best case scenario her brother did not give a shit about using someone else's service, not understanding that this was lent as a favor, and should be letting me or my GF know before hand when logging in or asking if he didn't know what he was doing. At the worst, I now had a bunch of unknowns using my account. \n\nMy GF ended up getting her own Netflix account, which to me is a relief. But she still says I am a mayor asshole for making a big deal out of nothing and still gets incredibly upset when the topic comes up.\n\nI honestly fail to see how sharing something of mine with people I have never met, but asking the to notify me on Whatsapp/FB/Skype/whatever before logging in on different devices is asking for THAT much. Especially having told my GF time and again that sharing accounts and passwords is difficult for me in general. \n\n​\n\nAm I a paranoid asshole here? Or is she being unfairly critical of what she sees as distrust in her family? I honestly would be just as mad if it were my siblings or best friends doing this.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 39, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 41, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}389{"id": "FUuEtAidU6Ihj23RaYm0ilhgtFTU3gNi", "post_id": "ayiww9", "action": {"description": "refusing to move up is at a fast food restaurant when asked", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA, For refusing to move up is at a fast food restaurant when asked?", "text": "Whenever they ask me to u say no, no matter what.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}390{"id": "Px7cVU0QP06TwoWq8a7Te5QqSf1HvXo5", "post_id": "b9uu23", "action": {"description": "not attending my brother's wedding, across country, because I feel he is selfish", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I don't attend my brother's wedding, across country, because I feel he is selfish?", "text": "\nSo I have not spoken to my brother in almost a year. I live in Virginia and he lives in Las Vegas. My mother told me months ago he was engaged to be married, but I never received an invitation. I have not spoken to him in over a year because he decided to spout off a bunch of anti military 'your husband is just a killer' B.S. two days after my husband left on deployment. (Myself, or my husband do not expect people to kiss his ass, if that's my brother's opinion then whatever, but going off about it two days after my husband left was inappropriate and poor timing IMO. He was extremely rude and explosive about his opinion and said my husband would deserve whatever happened to him on deployment, if he was hurt or killed, because the U.S. was responsible for the deaths of innocent people)\n\nAnyway, yesterday out of the blue, he sends me a messenge on facebook asking me if I would fly to Vegas to be at his wedding in October. I said I would see what I could do because I would flying with two young children across country because my husband would be deployed again. Also, a cross country ticket and hotel in Vegas is pretty pricey. He seemed happy with this answer and said he would let me know definite dates soon. And that was it. \n\nI was a little upset after this exchange for a few reasons:\n\n1) He never acknowledged we haven't spoken for a year, or that he said some messed up stuff to me, about my husband. \n\n2) My son is two and half and he has never acknowledged that his nephew exsists. He never congratulated me on this pregnancy or his birth. Never asks me about him or acknowledges him in anyway.\n\n3) He knows I'm pregnant again, due in four weeks and have been extremely ill throughout with HG and liver problems and never asked if I was ok, how I was doing or about the baby. I've been hospitalized a few times, all of which he knows about because my mother tells him about it. \n\n4) He's always crying that family should support family no matter what when he has something going on,  but is never supportive of any family when they have something going. I.E. he was still living in the same town as my older brother when his daughter was born, but never went to the hospital to see her and didnt bother to meet her until a family event months later. \n\nAfter thinking about all of this, I didn't see why I even should spend the money and go through the headache of long flight with two small children. However my parents and some family members have told me I am being petty and should just be a good sister and go. To the point where I'm starting to question if they're being ridiculous or if I'm really just being petty.\n\nSo, WIBTA if I just say fuck it, like he has for so long?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}391{"id": "1o61eMSO2pvlP8gCT8ofx3rk5GtGg17c", "post_id": "a17ora", "action": {"description": "not letting my kid's daycare post pics of her to social media", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting my kid's daycare post pics of her to social media?", "text": "My baby goes to a daycare that, on the whole, I like. Just started going a couple of months ago. Anyway, I followed them on Facebook and found an album of an event where there were a couple of photos that had my baby in them. When I enrolled her, I never signed a photo release or permission to post photos on social media/their website. \n\nAITA here, or am I justified in asking the director not to publicly post pictures of my child?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}392{"id": "EQCPcTDQIyhl8peZsIpfImGOFF1HbD57", "post_id": "ai8yfp", "action": {"description": "not giving a stranger my calculatore", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not giving a stranger my calculatore.", "text": " I am conflicted in my self about this matter, please help resolve.\n\nHappened on the last Friday, I am an engineering student and had an exam on Friday on physics 2.\n\nBringing a calculator was a bliss because there were very difficult calculations with integrals, so I finish the exams 2 hours after it started, I pack up and a student from a different faculty comes to me and asks for my calculator(he forgot his), I say no because I don't know him and I am going north so I won't stay in the city, he keeps asking until I say firmly no, afterwards he looks defeated and walks away...\n\nNow I go home and ask my wife about this, she says I did the correct thing, but let me point couple of thing.\n\nI love to help, I rarely deny my help if someone asks.\n\nThe exams indeed required a calculator because there was a specific question that asked a question in this format 0.234 and not 1/2(the exam was hard af too)\n\nI felt kinda bad for not helping him for the reason that in Israel after the army you are a part of the country brotherhood in a sense, most of the people act very friendly to each other...(except the elderly who still show racism toward Russians).\n\nI had a spare one at home.\n\nAfter couple days of reviewing my actions and the situation I kinda wanna go for the not an asshole, but something prevents me from doing it.\n\nSide not: after reading my post it appears it is very difficult portraying this situation properly, but still AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}393{"id": "Qyeg0akWF0zgLbJUH6UhBVlZUxnbp9sf", "post_id": "a34e2r", "action": null, "title": "AITA for been less than impolite to an unwanted door sales person?", "text": "Not once or twice but three times in the past two weeks the same sales person has knocked loudly on my door trying to sell me new windows and doors. I said to her the first time. 'No thankyou i'm really not interested, have a nice day.'  I told her the second time, 'I am not interested, please don't bother me again' before closing the door. Then today, the third time, I ignored her for the first few minutes before finally answering the door as she persistently knocked as she could see me through the window.\n 'Can I help you? i'm very busy, as you can see'\n 'Hello, i'm from **** and we want to know if you are interested in new windows and doors been installed?'\n'No I am not, just like I told you the last time. I would also ask you to read this giant fuck off no cold-callers sign right in front of your face.'\n'I have a badge'\n'And?'\n'We can offer you a discount, and we dont have to oblige by those signs as company policy'\n'What is your name I would like to speak to your manager?'\n'Im not telling you my name'\n'Listen, Ive asked you not to come on my property and I am now telling you again. Get off my property and close the gate on your way out'\n\nAnd off she huffs with her little clipboard and closes the gate passive aggressively.\n\nNow normally I make an exception. I try to be friendly and normally they will just try once at my house. I understand working on commission is hard. Door to door sales is gruelling work. I work from home and she interrupted me on not 1 but 3 occasions now and I had enough. I feel I may have been harsh but I also have a living to make. \n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}394{"id": "SQgEy82k57i9infzevCKGInJGbtvOAej", "post_id": "amyogr", "action": {"description": "not buying Boy Scout popcorn because of their position on membership", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not buying Boy Scout popcorn because of their position on membership", "text": "Note: this happened in ~2013\n\nA member of my work group brought in a form for her son's boy scouts popcorn drive. She let everyone in the group know it was at her desk but when she came to me I politely declined.\n\n\nLater that evening - after she had left- a coworker mentioned the popcorn form and I told him I was not purchasing any popcorn because the BSA did not allow LGBTQ members or atheists.\n\n\nThe next day, someone else in the cube-farm told my coworker what I had said and she came to my desk to lambast me for not purchasing her son's popcorn just because of their stance on LGBTQ ppl at the time and \"won't you have a heart.\"\n\nI feel like I'm not an asshole because I did not tell her to her face my reasoning for declining to buy and had no intention of telling her. I think a member(s) of the cube-farm was a shit-stirrer.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}395{"id": "pUPn8WVCkMS9X694NlF2pZoThXLTuLOC", "post_id": "b2wus4", "action": {"description": "keeping my friend's birthday present for myself after she stood me up again", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I kept my friend's birthday present for myself after she stood me up again?", "text": "I have a close friend who has a habit of flaking out on plans last minute. She has cancelled on me for shaky reasons and then made plans with other people the same night more than once before. Last night, I reached breaking point.\n\nMy friend and I had plans to go to pub quiz yesterday, plans which which we had for a few weeks and I was really looking forward to. In the afternoon, she text me to say she was off work sick (which is definitely true if it makes a difference) and therefore wouldn't be coming out at night. This isn't the problem, at the time I sent her back an understanding text and said it was no problem, just focus on getting better.\n\nWe were supposed to go to the pub quiz for 9pm. At 10pm, she posts an Instagram story of her at another bar having a drink with another friend.\n\nHonestly I was angry. I'm not sure whether it's personal to me or she's just generally flakey but I was hurt since this is a developing pattern.\n\nHere's the kicker: it's her birthday on Friday and I just bought her a ticket to see a performer I know she really likes. It was expensive relative to my budget.\n\nI'm considering keeping it for myself. I don't really feel like giving a thoughtful birthday gift to someone who has repeatedly treated me thoughtlessly. If I kept it, I'd just get her a generic gift like a box of chocolates or a small gift card.\n\nWIBTA? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}396{"id": "JlyI7pSme924ulEM6J5cW4mLxk7msJxy", "post_id": "b661hj", "action": {"description": "expecting my food deliverer to Knock on my Door", "pronormative_score": 71, "contranormative_score": 450}, "title": "AITA For Expecting My Food Deliverer to Knock on my Door?", "text": "I'm a new mom and get loads of packages delivered. I had handwritten signs that said \"Do not Knock\" for packages in various iterations that were ignored. I always wrote \"Do not knock\" in every checkout cart that offered \"delivery options\" notes. It never worked. So, I found a sign that had pictures of the corporate courier logos for attention. And it worked! Too well... We ordered dinner last night and it was 45 minutes late! UGH. Well... The food delivery person saw the sign and silently left it at the front door. It was ice cold when we realized what happened. Am I the asshole? My husband said we were asking for it. I think common sense should have prevailed.\n\n[The Sign](https://imgur.com/gallery/rIFIXCr)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 444, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 48, "INFO": 6}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 71, "WRONG": 450}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}397{"id": "vC0VI8fRkke4AoYxxmnifnXMtp7GWMQT", "post_id": "azz46l", "action": {"description": "not teaching future kids my mother tongue to speak with my mom", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn't teach future kids my mother tongue to speak with my mom?", "text": "I'm not sure this belongs here but I couldn't think of a better subreddit.\n\nLittle background. I'm from an unspecified Slavic country and I'm determined to move to an English speaking country in not-extremely-far future, because I just don't like my country and my language for various reasons. I avoid online communities speaking my language and reside on the English part of the internet except when talking with irl friends online. The only emotional ties I have to here are to my parents (no extended family at all). I have a very good relationship with my mother with whom I live (I'm a student and plan to leave to move from her shortly I find a job after finishing studies). She only speaks our mother language. I consider my English to be very good and same goes for my dad.\n\nWith my mom I've been discussing my plans about moving abroad with which she doesn't have a problem. In fact both my parents were always pushing me into moving abroad in future/working abroad in future, even though they were always looking more at non-English speaking European countries. I told her that if I had kids abroad, she'd have to learn English to communicate with them since I'll rarely come back and so I feel they'd literally be learning my language just because of her. She told me that I'd basically cut her off from them and that I should not be selfish and shouldn't only think of myself. I understand she'd like to be able to talk with her grandchildren if she had any (I'm the only child), but I personally feel that it would be more selfish to teach kids a language they would barely have any use for while I could spend time teaching them something actually useful like French or German.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}398{"id": "ZFYaABpHibyl0Pti0gZDIvoTQetvcFlK", "post_id": "asfwvr", "action": {"description": "feeling like a toy in a relationship my GF wants to break off yet still insists that we stay together", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for feeling like a toy in a relationship my GF wants to break off yet still insists that we stay together", "text": "Had a Mutual friend tell me my GF wants to break up with me after she moves, the following is a text convo we had an hour ago\n\nMe: I can't believe this, I put so much commitment in this, I had to reject someone else for you, and because I couldn't tell them why I made up an excuse which made me seem like a dickhead\n\nHer: Excuse me for wanting to make it last, I can't handle long distance relationships\n\nMe: Excuse me for not wanting to be dragged along with a false sense of security\n\nHer: It's not a false sense of security, I want it to last too, and if your mad I'm trying to make the best of it too\n\nMe: Do you realise how fucked up it is to drag me along like this?\n\nHer: well then maybe you shouldn't have asked me out in the first place, listen I'm not dragging you along and I'm trying to make the best of what's here now,\n\nMe: Neither of us knew you were moving!\n \nHer: I Told you, I FUCKING told you!\n\nMe: Not when I asked you out\n\nHer: I FUCKING told you I was moving AND YOU KNEW THAT\n\nMe: you told me you were moving a week into the relationship\n\nHer: I didn't know till afterwards\n\nMe: Well excuse me for trying to give long-distance a chance, if I had known you were moving beforehand I wouldn't have said anything\n\nHer: I want to try to get long distance to work but I can't\n\nMe: why?\n\nHer: Because it never works out for me and I don't feel comfortable with it, I was happy spending time with you untill I had to leave you and my friends\n\nMe: that's fine, I can respect that, but at least inform me of your intentions so we could establish a friends-with-benifits kind of thing, and I like spending time with you too, but it's gonna be hard knowing it is gonna end in a few weeks, you never told me you would break up,\n\nHer: Because I didn't want to hurt you, I just wanted you to be happy for a while\n\nThis happened about 30 mins ago, and as a side not we both suffer from depression, I'm really just looking to see if I fucked up and need to apologise", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}399{"id": "9tKk7wtRWezw22MTZckiwvdsdfpkiwH7", "post_id": "adyp5f", "action": {"description": "kicking a guy out of my hobby group because of his concealed gun", "pronormative_score": 75, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for kicking a guy out of my hobby group because of his concealed gun?", "text": "I am in a little board game group that has been meeting regularly for the past six months. We used to have our game nights at a local hobby shop, but since we've gotten closer and the shop is in not the best part of town, have recently decided to start doing it at my house instead.\n\nThere's five of us total and one guy, \"Jim\" has a concealed carry permit and carries a gun with him. I know this because he's mentioned that he's always armed. I am very anti-gun but it had never come up before. Before our first game night at my place I told Jim privately that I don't want any guns in my house and that he would have to leave his in his truck if he brang it. He gave kind of an acknowledging but not exactly affirming response.\n\nThen after our first game session at my house, one of the other group members told me on her way out that Jim had told her he still had his gun with him while I was in the kitchen out of earshot. I texted Jim and told me he had been extremely disrespectful and that this wasn't a game, and he could not come to my house again if he was going to have a gun on him. His response was \"Fine, guess I won't be coming then,\" and he effectively quit the group.\n\nThe reaction with the rest of the group is split. One person doesn't care whether Jim participates or not, one person says it was \"harsh but fair\" and that Jim wasn't really kicked out per se, and one person thinks I am being a shrew and shouldn't have been so uptight about the gun after just one session, since he's never had to leave it behind before.\n\nMy point of view is that it's my house and my rules, and I don't think it's an unreasonable rule to not want a gun in my home. I put my foot down the first time it happened because it was a serious matter and not like he brought the wrong snacks or something. Jim keeps texting me going back and forth between saying \"lose my number\" and sending me links to propaganda supporting his viewpoint.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 74, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 75, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}400{"id": "XaHI8hyJ78GiQbsuGnRGLh8dQ9fT2Xep", "post_id": "ahbt25", "action": {"description": "blowing up on my cousin for lecturing my sister", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: Blowing up on my cousin for lecturing my sister", "text": "I have a half sister who is 11 years old. My mom is a single mother. I've grown up taking care of my sister and almost serving as a parent figure in her life. My cousin found her twitter I guess and saw that she had quoted something with the word \"bitch\" in it (it was like don't be a bitch, be happy or something along the lines of that), she screenshot it and let my mom know. My mom and I talked about it in private since she doesn't really understand Twitter and how it works. I told my mom that, yeah we should talk to her about being careful about what she says, especially on the internet but to not worry because when you're in middle school you think cussing makes you \"cool\". I reminded her that I did it as well on my \"fan account\" on twitter and that was she said wasn't even bad. My sister's account didn't have her picture or name on it, if that's an important factor. It wasn't an urgent matter so we didn't address it right away although we obviously planned to. Literally 2 hours after she texted my mom, my cousin decided it was her place to call my sister and lecture her over the phone. I was sitting next to her and could hear my cousin lecturing her and it made me absolutely furious. I told my sister to hand me the phone and I blew up. I started by saying \"That's really not your place\" and she started saying that we weren't dealing with it (IT'S NOT HER JOB TO HANDLE THE SITUATION ANYWAY). That made me even more angry and I told her that she wasn't her mom or her sister and that she needed to mind her own business. Notifying us was enough but it is absolutely NOT HER JOB to lecture my sister. She texted me a half-assed apology. Basically one of those \"I'm sorry IF YOU FEEL blah blah blah\" basically not taking responsibility or seeing anything wrong with her actions. I responded saying that it wasn't her place and that my mom and I had talked about it and she just went ahead and assumed that we weren't dealing with it and had the audacity to call my sister and lecture her. She responded saying that she was calm about lecturing my sister and that I had no reason to be mad (I beg to differ) and I responded with \"It doesn't matter how you delivered it, it was wrong. Period. You were out of place. We talked to her about it and it felt like you were undermining not only me but my mom by calling her. You're not her parent. Like I said, I understand the concern but it's not your job to call her and lecture her.\" My cousin is neither a mom nor a big sister and knows nothing about handling middle school children anway. Even if she did it's not her job to call someone else's child and lecture them. Am I the asshole for blowing up?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}401{"id": "Zbv8t1zo7YxBUGw63F5TwYpJMJJovGlu", "post_id": "apove9", "action": {"description": "keeping pictures of ex-hookups on my phone", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for keeping pictures of ex-hookups on my phone", "text": "Throwaway account because this behavior is too admittedly slutty to post on my regular account. \n\nBasically, I have a folder on my iPhone full of pictures of guys I\u2019ve had sex with. There aren\u2019t any nudes, all of them are just selfies or pictures from their facebooks. The reason I did this is because I honestly have an awful memory and idk if this is perverted or weird or what but I would just like to remember majority of my sexual experiences? And keeping pictures of the guys is sort of like a visual diary or something anyway. \n\nAnyway, fast forward to now, I\u2019m in a relationship, we\u2019ve been dating for about 7 months now and it\u2019s gotten to the point where I\u2019m totally comfortable sharing everything with him, even the passcode to my iPhone. \n\nThis is where the trouble started. \n\nI hadn\u2019t actually hooked up with anyone in almost a year before I met my current boyfriend, so because I didn\u2019t make any updates to the folder of past hookups, I completely forgot I even had it (terrible memory). \n\nSo last night, BF is on my phone when he shows me the folder full of guys faces and asks me what it is. I didn\u2019t think it was a big deal and I thought we were comfortable enough with each other that I actually laughed when he showed me. But when I told him what it was he completely lost his shit, saying it\u2019s \u201csuper fucked up\u201d and threw the phone at me and left and now he isn\u2019t replying to my calls or messages. \n\nI managed to explain that they were all hookups from long before we even met and that I forgot I even had the folder in the first place but he just accused me of lying and asked when I would be putting his picture in there (yikes).\n\nSo AITA for having this folder in the first place?\n\n... and AITA for not wanting to get rid of it now?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}402{"id": "nLMdI8lGROH4YfrBJ4dux800mOnOQEOg", "post_id": "a4huiv", "action": {"description": "calling out a couple who are displaying EXPLICIT PDA? I'm trying to study for finals this week at my College Library, and this couple is obviously having oral. I fucking called them out from across the table. I noticed the head bobbing up and down from the corner of my eye", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling out a couple who are displaying EXPLICIT PDA? I\u2019m trying to study for finals this week at my College Library, and this couple is obviously having oral. I fucking called them out from across the table. I noticed the head bobbing up and down from the corner of my eye.", "text": "This table has multiple desktops, and the dude next to them says they weren\u2019t doing shit, but when I called the couple out for BS, the retard had nothing to say. The dude was acting like a fucking POS, saying that I\u2019m offended and other BS, when clearly they were having explicit PDA in a PUBLIC AREA. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}403{"id": "jA2RkPi0dmR4j5UyCICBy2nNsszRLD5s", "post_id": "b0v157", "action": {"description": "asking my roommate to remove his mattress from the living room floor and return it to his bedroom", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my roommate to remove his mattress from the living room floor and return it to his bedroom?", "text": "One of my roommates from freshman year of college brought not only HIS mattress, but an additional mattress from one of our apartments empty rooms, and slept on them in our living room.\n\nThe living room and kitchen were all a part of the same room, so when myself or my other roommates would wake up in the morning and start making food and coffee and shit, our roommate would ask us to be more quiet and to turn the lights off.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}404{"id": "c4reK3XPfMdCfta4N4yEGZwex0S4m1DV", "post_id": "aus74l", "action": {"description": "making an itemized list of all the problems I've been having in my relationship", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA IF I made an itemized list of all the problems I\u2019ve been having in my relationship?", "text": "Obligatory apology for being a mobile user and for using a throw away account!\n\nFor some context, I\u2019ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 4 years, living together for almost three years.\n\nPreviously, we had a very happy relationship. This was someone I could envision myself spending the rest of my life with. However, the last year or so I\u2019ve been growing more and more discontent. I\u2019ve noticed a decline in his personal hygiene and the amount of effort he puts into our relationship.\n\nI feel completely unappreciated. I do most of the cleaning, purchase most of our food, give him as many rides as I can, and initiate sex more often than not. Lately he\u2019ll just fall asleep on me if I try to get us to do anything of that nature.\n\nI\u2019ve brought these issues up multiple times. I\u2019ve tried to be as compassionate as possible. I KNOW that some are the issues are because he is depressed. We\u2019ve talked about it at length. I also suffer from depression and anxiety, but I have been to therapy and he has not. I have given him links to several different programs for \u201caffordable\u201d mental healthcare, but I know he hasn\u2019t followed up with any of it. \n\nAny time I try to talk about ANY of our issues, he either gets irrationally angry with me or completely shuts down and refuses to talk at all. He\u2019ll tell me what I want to hear or go into self destruction mode, saying that he\u2019s the shittiest person in the world (which I do not agree with, obviously).\n\nI just feel at this point that I CAN\u2019T talk to him about how I\u2019m feeling at all. I don\u2019t want to keep harping on the same issues. I don\u2019t want to pressure him into having sex with me. I don\u2019t want him to tell me what I want to hear. This is why I had the thought of just writing a letter or something, completely detailing everything that I\u2019ve been having issues with. I\u2019m just afraid of that blowing up in my face as well.\n\nI\u2019m not sure exactly what my next move should be. I want to work through these issues, not just immediately give up on our relationship. This is the only thing I can think of that would allow me to get all of my thoughts out in a cohesive manner, but I\u2019m afraid of him taking it the wrong way.\n\nSo, Reddit, would writing this letter make me the asshole? Is there a better way to handle this that I can\u2019t see? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}405{"id": "Qam9VV3XF3FFyvdTTtpXdzxI4hCigFn1", "post_id": "awzq9e", "action": {"description": "sending this email", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I sent this email?", "text": "So context: I recently complained to DoorDash that I didn't receive all the items I'd paid for. I've had to do this a few times lately, so they put it under review. I just received this email:\n\n​\n\n\" Thank you for reaching out and providing feedback on your recent delivery. \n\nUnfortunately, we are unable to provide any compensation based on the information you provided and the details of your order. \n\nYour reference number for this request is \\[redacted\\]\"\n\n​\n\nI also have a friend who works as a dasher for them and is paid about 3 bucks an hour on a good day because she's forced to waste her time and gas to find orders (I know orders are limited, but InstaCart requires you to sign up for a certain time in advance so they don't have too many people, so there are obviously better ways to handle the situation)\n\nNow, I desperately want to send the following email. WIBTA?\n\n​\n\n\"Whoever reads this, if anyone does, my anger is not directed at you, it\u2019s directed at the institution. I know these complaints will go nowhere but I\u2019m getting fed up and would like to at least pretend that I can make my voice heard. I apologize for any cruelty that may come across in the following message:\n\n   \n I bought a pizza. I was not given a pizza. I bought a dessert that came with ice cream. I did not receive ice cream. I don\u2019t understand why that\u2019s not enough information. I really liked your service when I first discovered it a couple years ago. Now, it seems as though the service quality has totally dropped, you pay your dashers slave wages without even compensation for gas, you even seem to take their tips from what I\u2019ve heard from my friends who are drivers, and you increase the prices of dishes to get more money, while still taking advantage of the dashers who actually do the work and provide the service. I\u2019ve recommended the service over competitors and used it despite obscenely high delivery fees but you can be assured that won\u2019t be happening any longer. I am extremely disappointed in your management. If you could send this to anyone who might actually care and be able to do something to rectify this repugnant behavior, I would appreciate it.  \n \n\nSincerely,\n\nA dissatisfied customer\"", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}406{"id": "s4vbczcSVcCItqZ6XIeSNCArlUtsZeLo", "post_id": "anbctu", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my son's stepmom's punishment for him bullying a student", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 25}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my son's stepmom's punishment for him bullying a student", "text": "So this happened last week.\nMy 13 year old son lives with his dad who has primary custody and I get him every other weekend. His dad has remarried and has been with his wife for 5 years. I found out my son has been bullying a special needs kid at school with a speech impediment. He got in school suspension for 3 days and when he came home from school, his stepmother spanked him. It was with her hand and there's no bruising but he told me it hurt a lot and I'm fucking pissed. She also made him write an apology letter to the student and grounded him for 2 weeks with no electronics. His father works long hours so his stepmom feels entitled because she's a stay at home wife and she's with him more but it's not okay.\nI'm very upset at what my son did and he absolutely deserved to be punished but this woman had no right to touch my kid. His father supports what she did and gave her permission and I'm ready to raise hell. I need her to learn her place as a stepparent NOT a parent.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 21, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 25}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}407{"id": "VSgwriHjXO515WtCeRGeFqkNqAbNlgZC", "post_id": "b2bux2", "action": {"description": "flipping on my roommate about the cat box", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for flipping on my roommate about the cat box?", "text": "I'm pretty mad right now, and of course I wouldn't \"flip\" but I'm really tired of being nice about this. \n\nThe cat box has become an issue between us. We live in a small apartment and it's in a closet off of our living room, so the smell can creep into our living room when not taken care of.  She cleans it once every four days (scoops just the clumps and never replacing the litter entirely or scrubbing the box at all) and honestly our apartment just smells like cat litter and poop. I've had to become complacent because every time I explain to her nicely that I pay the rent just like her and would appreciate if she cleaned it every 1-2 days instead, especially since he's a big cat and lays huge turds. Every time I asked her, she would get kind of defensive and would tell me that I jump all over her every time she makes a mistake, and that she's only human. I get that she is only human, but this happens a lot.\n\nI just got back from a week of spring break. She left the day after me, and is coming home in about two hours. I come inside and it REEKS. I check the cat box room, and lo and behold, it's full of shit. She let shit fester in our house for a week. Took the cat with her, but left the litter.\n\nI don't know how to approach her about this. If anything, I am moving out in May. But I am just so, so livid. Especially after talking to her multiple times and it being known that the cat box is a source of serious contention between us. \n\n\nWIBTA if I said something, expressing how angry I am about this? Or do I have to say it calmly, again, that her cat box cleaning habits are fucking disgusting? Or not say anything because I am moving soon?\n\nP.S. Love the cat tho. He's a good boy. \n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}408{"id": "bugkCj5C8BfeUXUVVjwBCzZSNjTgduUV", "post_id": "a7dpk1", "action": {"description": "telling my mom to unfriend me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom to unfriend me", "text": "So my whole life my mom has had this old time concept of being a lady and classy.\"don't say that in mixed company\" and hits me or what have you. I dealt with it as a minor cuz she's my mom blah blah but I am 23 and I can't even post a obviously joking photo with it mildly hinting to sex like dude and his wife were next to each other on the beach and the way they were sitting looked like some sex stuff was going on but it wasn't and my mom for like the third time in two weeks comments about how i need to be a lady and classy and she's going to hit me next time she sees me cuz of it so I posted a pic on my page basically saying it's my profile it is rated R not for for minors or adults with large sticks up there ass and she literally told me to kiss her ass via my older brother who agrees with me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}409{"id": "QfS1kwCCVfw3QSOC2Xx5JPAeqFsDsWhp", "post_id": "ae8fey", "action": {"description": "saying no to my nephew", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for saying no to my nephew?", "text": "My nephew asked me when he can play with my computer and I looked him in the eye and said (not shouted) \u201cNever\u201d. My mom who was sitting next to him asked me why I replied like that (implying it was an asshole thing to do) and I explained to her (and also for my nephew to know) that he had asked me a few minutes ago and I told him I\u2019d let him know when he could play (my computer is updating, takes a while) and I\u2019m not going to let him ask me every 5 minutes just because his mom lets him do that to her. \n\nI did say \u201che\u2019s got to learn, so I\u2019m not going to put up with that. I told him I\u2019d let him know, but now I decided I\u2019m not going to let him play on my computer, so if he asks me again the answer will continue to be Never\u201d which I think sounds a bit asshole-ish but he\u2019s 9 years old and his mother made the big mistake to make him think he can argue with adults over everything so whenever he wants something or doesn\u2019t want to do something he thinks he can argue to get his way, and when it comes to his mom he pretty much always succeeds, which I find frustrating not only because it makes the child increasingly annoying but because I know that he will suffer a lot more in the long run when his little tantrums don\u2019t get him what he wants in the real world. \n\nAlso, I can\u2019t explain any of this to him cause he\u2019s friggin 9, that\u2019s self-explanatory, and his mom because she has a very fragile ego and she takes any parenting tips as a direct criticism of her abilities and immediately shuts down any conversation about the topic by talking louder and louder until it becomes a shouting match (she is also very immature so when she \u201cargues\u201d with her son she goes down to his level and says the most cringeworthy things you can\u2019t believe it\u2019s an actual adult speaking)...\n\nAnyway, so AITA for trying to educate my nephew through some \u201ctough love\u201d? (Or in other words, AITA for denying him something he wants because he whines to get his way and I repeatedly told him that it doesn\u2019t work like that with me?)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}410{"id": "LpUrCYxff17pMdpl80SYDfHaUfReBKaE", "post_id": "b2oii7", "action": {"description": "wanting to break up with my bf because he likes Sea World", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for wanting to break up with my bf because he likes Sea World?", "text": "Important to note that I\u2019m a huge animal lover. I\u2019ve rescued a handful of stray dogs and two stray cats from the streets, however I am not a vegan or vegetarian.\n\nI\u2019ve been dating this guy for close to six months now. Everything\u2019s been going really well except he recently surprised me with tickets to Sea World. Although I appreciated the gesture, I explained that I don\u2019t think I would want to visit a place that is so cruel to its animals and was surprised he didn\u2019t know the living conditions of the animals there. He got defensive and said that Sea World rescues animals from the ocean and that it\u2019s hypocritical of me to say all this when I eat meat (he\u2019s sort of a pescatarian\u2014only eats sushi a couple times a year). He said he had already spent the money and the ticket isn\u2019t refundable, so either way, Sea World has already benefited from the money whether we like it or not and we might as well go if that\u2019s the case (he said we won\u2019t have to eat any of the food there and won\u2019t buy any souvenirs\u2014essentially we won\u2019t be giving them any more money than he\u2019s already spent).\n\nStill, I don\u2019t feel right going to Sea World because I don\u2019t support the establishment. I understand that the money has been spent and it\u2019ll go to waste if we don\u2019t go, but I told him I just didn\u2019t want to go. He doesn\u2019t seem to understand this and keeps saying that Sea World isn\u2019t all that bad and that they help animals too. I\u2019m frustrated that he doesn\u2019t see the cruelty behind their actions and because I love animals, I\u2019m really considering breaking up over this. I can\u2019t tell if I\u2019m overreacting or not but all I know is I\u2019ve always wanted an SO who, at the very least, cares about animals.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}411{"id": "rG21FusWnzCcavAbWqZ4QaPulAyOj202", "post_id": "ayzogs", "action": {"description": "distancing myself from my friend with depression/drug issues", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for distancing myself from my friend with depression/drug issues?", "text": "The tile probably does make me sound like the a**hole, but let me just explain it all. \n\n          My friend (14F), I\u2019ll call her Ashley, went through a state of depression during the end of the last school year. I (14F) was very close with her up through that but then when I started 8th grade I realized that I actually didn\u2019t like being around her. The bad things hadn\u2019t started yet though. \n\n       A couple months ago Ashley came over to my house and told me that she had started doing drugs. Not cocaine or anything, but weed and experimental things like cough syrup. Also, weed is legal where I live, but certainly not for minors. It\u2019s not for medicinal purposes or anything, either, she just does it for fun. And okay, yes, if I\u2019m being honest, I don\u2019t know that much about drugs and how safe they are, but I just don\u2019t want to associate myself with anything that could end up hurting me or my future. \n\n        So I didn\u2019t do weed with her when she invited me and now I\u2019m beginning to subtly push her away. At least I thought it was subtle. Ashley  said before that she didn\u2019t expect me to pick up the phone when she called. I think she knows I\u2019m pushing her away. She was already very clingy and used to call me every day to ask to hang out, so she still called a lot, just without an answer. \n\nI\u2019m worried that if I directly tell her that I don\u2019t want to be her friend that she would go back into a state of depression, because she got close to hurting herself last time. She missed about a month of school because of it. I\u2019ve begun going to therapy too because all she is is a negative energy in my life. \n\n\nTo sum it up: I feel awful about trying to leave my friend who went through intense depression  recently but she started experimenting with drugs and I don\u2019t want to put me or my future at risk. She\u2019s also manipulative naturally and I still wouldn\u2019t want to be her friend even without the drugs. AITA??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}412{"id": "OzqppqonAfZz1wAh3UnS0YwSyOS0FQyS", "post_id": "au0681", "action": {"description": "telling the truth about my friend and getting her thrown out of the bridal party", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I tell the truth about my friend and may get her thrown out of the bridal party", "text": "Throwaway for obvious reasons\n\nOkay so I'll give some necessary background information, I'll put an TL;DR at the bottom.\n\nOne of my friends is really rich, and the first of us to get married. We'll call her Mia from now on. In our friend group we have 'karen', now Karen has always been a bit defensive and hostile towards Mia. Not enough to have Mia notice this but enough for me to notice.\n\nMia never made a big deal about being rich, whenever we planned a girls night we would have dinner as places all of us could afford, but she would always cover us if needed. Her gifts for us were always personal, and it took Karen at least a year being in our friend group to discover Mia is rich.\n\nNow upon hearing about Mia's engagement it came to no ones surprise that we would be her bridesmaids. Now I have to say I've known Mia the since high-school so I know that she has been low-key planning her wedding for years. So Mia is going all out, it will be a themed destination wedding. Now before anyone says anything about it being a destination wedding she will pay for anyone's travel expenses, she will also pay for all our custom made dresses.\n\nNow here is the issue were I could the potential a-hole. Karen is one of the bridesmaids and I've heard through some other friends, that aren't invited to the ceremony, they are for the reception that takes place at a later date in our country so more people are able to attend. That Karen is badmouthing Mia to a lot of other friends, saying how she is unreasonable, spoiled and a b-word for wanting her dream wedding apparently. Now Mia has no idea yet, and might throw Karen out of the bridal party if she knows, Mia may be sweet but has a low tolerance for people who are nasty behind her back.\n\nNow of course I don't want Karen to act like this to Mia, I'm not even sure why she is in our close friend group. Although I am not sure if it is my place to tell Mia about this.\n\nSo WIBTA if I tell Mia about Karen's behaviour and might get her kicked out of the bridal party.\n\nTL;DR my friend is getting married and generous enough to pay for everything, another bridesmaid is being nasty behind her back and now I want to reveal the truth about her and might get her kicked out of the bridal party. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}413{"id": "EiH1HHIYIxrYHcSMLydwizOSBQn6qKHf", "post_id": "acneg4", "action": {"description": "not giving my mom my phone", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not giving my Mom my phone?", "text": "Bit of a backstory, a few months ago during the summer I moved in with my Dad, since my Mom was moving across country with my siblings. I didn\u2019t want to move because I am currently doing my GCSEs in school and moving would\u2019ve meant moving schools and restarting my ongoing coursework for my exams.\n\nFor Christmas 2017 (when I was living with my Mom) my Mom bought me a new Phone as my main present with some clothes and chocolate. It was all nice and I was very thankful, and showed my appreciation by helping with preparing the Christmas food and helping clean up. It was a great Christmas altogether.\n\nWhen I moved into to my Dad\u2019s house 6months later my Mom didn\u2019t say anything about returning the phone to her, since she did pay for it. But this Christmas, my dad bought me the newest iPhone. When I went up to my Mom\u2019s house to spend Christmas with her side of the family, my Mom asked if my Dad bought me the phone, I said yes. My Mom got weird and said something under her breath to my Aunt and I got a bit pissed and asked \u2018what was that?\u2019, since she\u2019s always badmouthing my Dad to my other siblings. She replied in an offended tone, \u2018Glad to see where his priorities lie\u2019. I asked her what she meant by this. And she went off saying about how he never buys by siblings stuff (which was a lie, he bought my siblings a lot of clothes and toys) and buys be a brand new \u00a31000 iPhone. \n\nI told her I needed a new one since my old one was running very slow. So she asked if she can have it back. I said \u2018Why? You bought it for me for Christmas.\u2019 And she said that it\u2019s hers since she bought it for me, regardless of whether she gave it to me as a present, I need to give it back to her.\n\nSo I refused since it was a Christmas present for me, I shouldn\u2019t have to return it just because my dad bought me one.\n\nDoes this make me the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}414{"id": "Mf9RKEmnGZ59N8vJPag6r3BuI1HkrdCb", "post_id": "b97d2d", "action": {"description": "uninviting my friend to a party after she did the same", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 20}, "title": "AITA for uninviting my friend to a party after she did the same.", "text": "My friend invited me to a party with some of her random friends. I was looking forward to going to this party. So I obviously made plans around that day, however she then texts me the day before saying,\u201dSowwy u wanted me to be straight up with u so I don\u2019t want to bring u to that thing on Saturday.\u201d Initially I was cool with it, but then i was a little offended because I already thought I was going. When I asked for a reason y (and I wasn\u2019t rude about it) she said \u201cno\u201d followed by \u201csorry lol.\u201d Well, I talked to her the day after the party and told her how I felt about it. She never acted like this before so you could understand my surprise. Well I decided to get back at her so she could understand how I felt.\nI had my birthday coming up and I wanted to celebrate by inviting some friends. I told her a week in advance, however the day before I told her I didn\u2019t want her to go. \nNow she\u2019s calling me an asshole. My other friends say otherwise. AITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 19, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 20}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}415{"id": "UHqtPuyP3ppxfCSgexvllUD9o0KiqAMh", "post_id": "ake8sz", "action": {"description": "expecting equality in my marriage", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for expecting equality in my marriage???", "text": "Need some insight here. My wife has a very \u201cold school\u201d or traditional way of viewing how a marriage/relationship works. It all started when we met about 9 years ago. She would expect me to pay on our dates etc. (This is normal, I get courtship, and continued doing this for some time) until things got more serious. 2 years or so into our relationship we began splitting tabs when going out etc. we made roughly the same income and were students at the time... little did I know that she resented me for this.. she hated splitting the tab and bills after we moved into together. She always believed the man should be the breadwinner. Despite us both graduating from college and getting good jobs, I still feel the tension is there. We now combine all of our finances. I make roughly double her income now... but I know that if I made less than her, we would probably argue a lot more. Her mindset is even applied outside of finances. She simply believes that the man should take the burden of everything. She believes her gender allows her a free pass to bend the rules. We fight about this constantly. I feel that she has a double standard when it comes to our relationship. She can spend money on things because she needs them, but I\u2019m rarely ever allowed to spend money without her complaining. Funny thing is that when it comes to chores, she wants 50/50 in that area.. seems pretty convenient... She\u2019s like a \u201cselective\u201d traditional gal. Fall back on her gender roles when it\u2019s convenient for her, but become a feminist when it\u2019s not. \n\nI\u2019m at my wits end about this. \n\nSo AITA for believing this?? Counseling is certainly an option, but I don\u2019t know how much it will help. It appears we have fundamental differences in values. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}416{"id": "3rq6M4wjsSqs9JEa7xKhWsBuhVUMAZjA", "post_id": "b7e7to", "action": {"description": "refusing to eat Chick-fil-a", "pronormative_score": 124, "contranormative_score": 41}, "title": "AITA for refusing to eat Chick-fil-A", "text": "My in-laws are both semi-religious, moderate conservatives. They are visiting from a small town about an hour an a half from where I live. My MiL has been excited all week because she would be able to eat from Chick-fil-A that is 2 blocks from my house when she came to visit.\n\nThis would not be a big deal except she wanted to treat everyone to lunch. I explained that I am unwilling to eat from there because I do not support the organizations they send large donations to.\n\nShe was taken aback and respectfully asked what those donations were. I explaned about Chick-fil-A support of anti-LGBTQ groups which led me to having to explain what LGBTQ meant. She continued to press and asked me to just ignore my conventions and eat with the family.\n\nAfter they left to get the food my wife told me they thought it was odd I wouldn\u2019t eat there and made minor jokes about my liberal ideologies while I was in the other room.\n\nWhen they came back,I did begrudgingly let my son eat the food the bought but I respectfully refused.\n\nSo am I the asshole for making the lunch that my MiL waited all week for somewhat awkward? Conversely I am an asshole for partially giving in to my convictions and letting my son eat the hate meal?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 38, "OTHER": 81, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 43, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 124, "WRONG": 41}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}417{"id": "eltKiipGvE6ZQJjs9vdOsseHJHILusPy", "post_id": "asnyy8", "action": {"description": "refusing to help and to stop talking to my friend", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to help and to stop talking to my friend?", "text": "I'm an university student and I always want to work well and have good grades. Therefore, I ways do all the homework and study a lot.\n\nLast semester, my friends and I had some group project to do and there were 4 (small) papers we had to submit, one per month. The professor gave us a grade for each and it counted for 20% of the yearly grade for this class. I was really motivated to get good grades and so I organised the group work. I told my friends to review all the stuff we had to so we could talk about it the next week and do what we have to do. One of the friends (R) did nothing though, and since he was not informed, he did not participate in the first group project. \n\nIt was the same for the 3 other papers. R did not do anything, all he did was text us to ask if we want to do it or if we already did it. He never took action and did his part as he was supposed to. When I once asked him to do something, he just asked another group for their solutions instead of actually doing it. It would have taken 10-15min! \n\nThe problem for me is that I really hate people who profit off of other people's work. It's not about grades or time spent but it's a matter of principle. Furthermore, R is overall a very negative person who makes derogative comments about people/friends and talks behind their back. Every time I see him, he's also complaining about everything and anything. As I am a very positive and happy person, I don't like this attitude at all.\n\nRecently, R asked me for some help for a homework. I told him no and that he should please just ignore me. AITA for not wanting this person in my life because I do not like his attitude and behaviour? I should add that we were good friends before, but we didn't meet outisde of university a lot.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}418{"id": "LCbtAKmjigXMFwG1RmNwfNQQtvsDA4Kd", "post_id": "b707l7", "action": {"description": "not wanting my bf to wear briefs", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 26}, "title": "AITA For not wanting my BF to wear Briefs?", "text": " \n\nI'm 23f, he's 22M and he wears briefs. We've been together for about 8 months he wears Like tightey whiteys but I guess never actually in white. I feel like its just so boyish and not sexy at all seeing him in briefs and asked him a lot to try boxer briefs or boxers. I even bought him pairs of calvin klein boxer briefs because he wears the brief version but he said he didn't like them. Everytime I see him in briefs I just know he'd look way better in boxer briefs because he's really fit and works out a lot. He said he likes briefs because he gets the most support from them (his balls are pretty big I guess). Also he's been having slight pain in his nuts and he said his doc said to wear briefs. AITA for trying to get him to change?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 26, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 26}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}419{"id": "3Oob2Pn52rOeSMsZfZYLOizkpARYrAVe", "post_id": "a7rcak", "action": {"description": "hard ghosting my (twice) ex out of what probably seemed like nowhere", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for hard ghosting my (twice) ex out of what probably seemed like nowhere?", "text": "This is gonna be a long one - TL;DR at the bottom but I\u2019d appreciate it if you stuck around for the whole story because this has been bothering me for months.\n\nBackground information: I\u2019m (M18) transgender, but my ex (M19) knew me before I came out. I\u2019m going to call him Jeff for this post. We met in middle school and ended up going to the same high school too, but we had an extremely rocky friendship (even longer story so I\u2019m skipping it) until the end of my sophomore year when he convinced me to join a club at our school. We started hanging out a lot during my junior year, and I developed a crush on both him and my now-girlfriend about that October. I had come out to him two weeks previous and he was chill about it, but I knew he was straight so I figured if I asked him out, he\u2019d just reject me and I could move on with my life since that avenue was entirely closed and ask out my current girlfriend instead.\n\nTo my surprise, he said yes anyway. The way he said yes should have been my first red flag. He said, \u201cWell, you\u2019re a dude, so I won\u2019t date you, but we can be friends with benefits.\u201d Now, I was stupid and felt validated and was shocked so I said sure and we made out in his car. When he took me home after that, I felt weird, like I wasn\u2019t really myself? It\u2019s hard to describe, but I found myself staring at my reflection in the mirror and feeling off for a while that night. I brushed it off at the time, but it\u2019ll come back up later.\n\nOver the next two weeks, he slowly warmed up to the idea of us dating. These are the next red flags. He asked me if he could call me his girlfriend, which I was so...weirded out that I was left speechless. We also did a lot of semi-public making out and third base which made me sort of uncomfortable but I wanted the relationship (one that I felt I barely could even have in the first place considering the circumstances) to work so I didn\u2019t say anything and just went along with it when he\u2019d ask to make out for an hour in his car or for me to give him a handjob.\n\nEventually my own anxiety caught up with me and I impulsively broke it off that December. He seemed crushed, as he was finally developing romantic feelings for me, but the addition of romantic pressure to what I recognized was mounting discomfort with physical stuff (particularly because the dynamic of the physical stuff made me feel like \u201cthe girl\u201d of the relationship) was too much for me so I nipped it in the bud to save myself.\n\nIf only I had listened to my gut and my raging dysphoria.\n\nHe ended up dating a girl pretty soon after and I started dating my current girlfriend for the first time (our first relationship was pretty dry because we were both pretty awkward so we broke it off after a few months, but we\u2019re extremely happy and almost at 6 months going strong this time around!). However, after we had both broken up with/been broken up with our SOs, he asked me if I wanted to try a relationship again in June. We had been best friends the whole time we were broken up, so it wasn\u2019t hard for feelings to be rekindled there and I agreed.\n\nThis time he upped the ante sexually and every single time we hung out he\u2019d ask for some sort of sexual act, usually a blowjob but sometimes more. He\u2019d also ask me if he could do things to me that made me extremely dysphoric (touching certain parts of my body for extended periods of time and using certain language) and I\u2019d tell him no repeatedly but he\u2019d still ask almost every time we hung out. Our relationship continued into my senior year, which worked because he was in college but living at home. We only saw one another on weekends, time that became unspoken \u201chis time\u201d with me.\n\nI barely hung out with my friends outside of school functions that year because all of my weekends were taken up with Jeff. He didn\u2019t have any friends at college (this probably will come off as biased but everyone I\u2019ve known from high school agrees that he has a weird superiority-inferiority complex that leads him to not give people the time of day if they\u2019re not \u201csmart enough\u201d for him) and his high school friends largely went elsewhere except for two of them.\n\nMost of our time in person and over text was taken up with him talking about his interests and his financial problems with me just having to go along with the conversation and him asking for sexual favors (either sexting, which I was uncomfortable with, or actual sex, which I increasingly turned down out of the crippling anxiety/dysphoria it gave me and actual physical pain it caused me in some circumstances). Because I was in senior year, more and more of my time was taken up with college applications and big projects, so I started saying no to more and more invitations to hang out.\n\nI will admit that that\u2019s not always the only reason I said no, as he was becoming clingy and demanding to the point where just thinking about the weekend made me uncomfortable. I tried my best to communicate my discomfort to him, to the point where I broke down crying on his bed trying to explain my discomfort when he kept asking me for a blowjob when we were watching a movie. After I finished crying, he asked me again and coerced me into putting his dick in my mouth, after which I broke down crying again and asked if he could drive me home. He did, and that was the last time we hung out, as after that I would both deflect for OBVIOUS REASONS! and also because AP exams were approaching and I needed to study.\n\nThe night before one of my exams, he texted me asking if I could come over. I said no, I was studying and had an exam the next day, but he then launched into a long message about how I was avoiding him and \u201che never had this much work in senior year and he had taken much harder classes than I did\u201d (which may be true on some level as he was taking engineering classes, but I was still taking 4 AP classes, a dual enrollment math class, and an intensive film seminar where I had to make my own short film that was due in a few weeks, so the comparison wasn\u2019t fair in my opinion). He threw out a few different arguments all with the intent to keep me from studying for an exam (including but not\nlimited to making fun of the college I committed to when it\u2019s literally the same college he goes to!) I paid $93 dollars for just so I could give him a blowjob and cuddle him for two hours maximum. I had had enough at that point and told him as such and ended the conversation.\n\nWe didn\u2019t talk much from there and two weeks later he broke up with me, citing how distant I was for the previous few months. As he was breaking up with me, he asked if we could \u201cstill cuddle sometimes\u201d to which I said yes, mostly because I didn\u2019t want to burn the bridge at that point, didn\u2019t want him to be upset with me (as he had fallen into a depression in the past over ended relationships), and was riding the relief high of no longer being trapped in the relationship.\n\nFor clarity, I didn\u2019t break up with him myself because I was too scared of disappointing him or at worst sending him spiraling into depression. He was still my best friend, and I cared about him, but I know my choice to sour our romantic relationship without talking to him properly was a very very bad one. I apologized to him for it the day we broke up and he seemed to understand and forgave me.\n\nWe broke up a week before prom, so I ended up going with a group of friends (he didn\u2019t even want to go to prom so this was the plan anyway). It was a great night that I still remember well, except for what happened afterwards. My best friend who we\u2019ll call Nina planned on having a get-together afterwards. We usually had holiday parties or afterparties at her house so this was normal, with the only difference being the very small number of people coming to her house this time around (only like 7, two of whom left before the sleepover portion and one of whom being her boyfriend who was on break from college). Jeff asked her a few days before prom if she was having a party, to which she said yes. No other words were exchanged - he didn\u2019t ask what kind of party, how many people, times, and not if he was invited.\n\nAt midnight, we hear the doorbell ring. I\u2019m upstairs in the spare bedroom (which is on the third floor, for reference) with my current-girlfriend and her then-best friend while Nina, her boyfriend, and our other friend are in the kitchen downstairs. I don\u2019t hear who it is or know what\u2019s going on until a few minutes later. Jeff and his friend are standing in the doorway of the spare bedroom. Nina is standing behind him looking EXTREMELY uncomfortable as he just stands there, smiling awkwardly and not saying anything.\n\nMy CGF asks him what he\u2019s doing here, to which he responds that they were coming back from a metal show and decided to stop by since they were in the area. Keep in mind this is a private party, it was literally the middle of the night, Nina\u2019s parents and sister were sleeping on the second floor, and he had shown up unannounced and with an additional person most of us weren\u2019t really friends with. And he thought this was okay.\n\nHe doesn\u2019t leave until every single person there expresses to him that they\u2019re not going to speak with him until he leaves (apparently he had specifically asked Nina where I was so he could come talk to me, which he should have realized was weird because we hadn\u2019t spoken sense the breakup). When asked about it repeatedly after the fact by me and other people, he refuses to see that he did anything weird, wrong, or otherwise.\n\nAfter that, talking was a bit awkward so I asked him if we could take a bit of a break from our friendship too, as I knew he wasn\u2019t totally over me and I wasn\u2019t totally over my own discomfort being around him (multiplied by that weird encounter after prom).\n\nThe longer we didn\u2019t have contact, though, the more I realized that - not to be dramatic - I m", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}420{"id": "sqOEW5FBMmPOxxc04ke2mrLY4CpfJ4in", "post_id": "b49y8k", "action": {"description": "continuing to sleep with a fwb despite her admitting that she has feelings for me even though I told her that I wasn't interested in a relationship and offered to stop", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for continuing to sleep with a fwb despite her admitting that she has feelings for me even though I told her that I wasn't interested in a relationship and offered to stop?", "text": "So I've been sleeping with this girl off and on for the last 6 months. We have friends since middle school (we're in college now) and we often hang out and not have sex like going to the movies or getting dinner and stuff.\n\nAnyway lately she says she has been catching feels as it's called. I told her that I still am not looking for a relationship and I offered to stop the sex if that would make things easier for her. She was against that saying she will get over it. \n\nOver the last 2 weeks we have continued to have sex. She seems fine but some of her friends give me dirty looks. I've tried to be accommodating to her but people seem to be mad at me. Am I being an asshole?\n\nTl;dr: AITA for continuing to sleep with a fwb despite her admitting that she has feelings for me even though I told her that I wasn't interested in a relationship and offered to stop?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}421{"id": "6z5HSs0HXaU0XJApvNptVmTYN8ehkeXd", "post_id": "az1uqq", "action": {"description": "shit talking over dm privately", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for shit talking over dm privately", "text": "i was talking shit about people over dm, one on one. a few girls got my password and decided to post my private conversations on their public accounts. the things i said was very messed but not for people to see besides the people i was texting. AITA for talking shit in the first place.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}422{"id": "3YoruRRyMjEjVJu9XYdIawMKmmfvDAjg", "post_id": "9vb3lr", "action": {"description": "telling a girl I wasn't interested in a relationship", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA - telling a girl I wasn't interested in a relationship", "text": "So this happened a couple of night ago. I met up a girl from tinder 2 weeks ago, went out on a nice date a few drinks etc nothing crazy left on good terms and agreed to meet again.\n\nLast weekend we meet up and do the same, a few drinks have a good time get to know each other. Towards the end of the night I suggest we go back to hers. She agrees and we grab a drink for the road. While at hers we get intimacy but she doesn't want to have sex, admitally I'm a little thrown off by this but we chat about it and it's fine, there are other alternatives. \n\nAnyway so here's my slip up, I run to the bathroom and when I come back I tell her I'm not looking to get involved in a relationship, I thought she felt the same way but wanted to make sure. I was wrong apparently and we had a chat about what she did want, she decided she wanted someone commited to her 100%..\n\nI understand my timing was probably the worst it could have been but I wanted to do right by her and not lead her on - I'd rather make it clear earlier than wait until feelings might have time to develop..\nWe talk a bit more and decide it's best if I go home - I get a cab home.. \n\nA few days later I message to apologise and for upsetting her. She says she's not upset just thrown off and feel like I'd thrown her efforts & advances back in her face.. She's since deleted me off all social media etc.\n\nI know the ship has sailed, clearly we're not meant to be and that's fine - I just can't help feeling like a bit of a twat for how it all went down, am I a complete asshole in this situation or just a bit? \n\n\nP.S sorry for the rant", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}423{"id": "3vtILixJ1WQxm4DEhF47ISi92TzdLqEy", "post_id": "aqfzm1", "action": {"description": "using my roommate's command hook to hang up my towel in the bathroom", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for using my roommate's command hook to hang up my towel in the bathroom?", "text": "Throwaway because my roommate knows my Reddit account.\n\nI live in a shared house with five other roommates off-campus at my university. I lived with one of these roommates last year and we got along well, but the other four are completely new.\n\nLast year, I lived in this house and we had a command hook in the bathroom that I would use to hang up my towel when I showered. While I was out of the country last summer, one my roommates (J) basically redecorated and refurbished the place. When I got back, the command hook was still there, so I hung my towel up there for the shower. Throughout the entirety of the fall semester, no one complained about this whatsoever. I assumed it was the same command hook that was there from last year, but in reality, J bought a new one and hung it up.\n\nAt the beginning of this month, I came home drunk from a bar and for some reason, J decided that 1:00am on a Saturday would be the best time to tell me that I could no longer use this command hook because he bought it and would like to use it to hang up his clothes while he showered. Drunk aitathrowaway1321 slurred \"yeah okay, whatever\" and went to bed. \n\nThe next morning, having absolutely zero memory of this conversation, I showered and then went to the gym to sweat out the hangover. After coming back, I jumped in the shower and noticed that my towel was missing! There was a little blue sticky note next to the hook that said \"missing something? Follow the sticky notes!\" I followed the sticky notes downstairs naked (because no towel) and was greeted with my towel hanging downstairs next to a sticky note that said \"bet you must've missed me after you came back from the gym! Next time, buy your own fucking command hook!\"\n\nI hung the towel on the bannister outside the bathroom to avoid a fight, but I chewed my roommate out for being passive aggressive and not talking to me beforehand. We still sometimes have arguments over this when I forgetfully hang the towel on this command hook, which he really only uses to hang his clothes on while he showers. I feel like his passive aggressive response and him getting angry at me is way overblown for this kind of situation; furthermore, it's kind of unreasonable for him to expect me to change my routine which bothered no one for five whole months! Furthermore, command hooks are literally like $2, so I feel like the response is disproportionate to the overall crime. This situation has also caused my other housemates to gang up on me too, so needless to say, I'm not too happy about it.\n\nAm I being an asshole for thinking that my roommate is being unreasonable? I'm trying to avoid a fight, but it's kinda hard to when all of my roommates are now ganging up on me about this. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}424{"id": "TejQOxzDbyjRRw4rkOpSX2fFBpHUWl4W", "post_id": "a7aniw", "action": {"description": "yelling at an old person", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA For yelling at an old person", "text": "Basically i cycle to school everyday its not a long cyle only a mile and a half but the cycle path stops about a mile in which means i need to go along the road for a bit,this road is really bussy amd so its very dangerous to cycle on, its the 2cnd bussiest road in our city in the morning going to school its fine as most people take the bus but on the way back the pavements have alot of people.\n\nOne day i was preparing to leave  when some students attempted to put sticks in my wheels which if they put them in the right place can seriously damage my bike. I reported them but they ran of school grounds. A bit on my bike slipped on black ice and nearly crashed into someone who promptly screamed at my for nearly hitting her.\n\nFinally a bunch of old people were moving very slowly along the pavement so i rang my bell nothing, rang again nothing this continued 5 more times i thought they were death when one turned round and shouted \"STOP RINGING THAT FUCKING BELL!\" I was not expecting that and so i said \"Could you please move im in a hurry ( I was not).\" They said i either get on the road or i could sit behind them all the way to my destination i was really fed up at thos point BTW i was facing the oncoming traffic so i couldn't possibly get on the road i told them this and they just yelled \"well thats your bloody problem isnt it!\" At this point I was completely sick of them and threatened to run them over and that did the trick. \n\nSo AITA Im kind of thinking im not the a-hole but threatening to run them over is a bit harsh.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}425{"id": "jLw5Ajno6WEdDD1wC9jjzlfwn11gb27p", "post_id": "9zmvmt", "action": {"description": "thinking my life is harder", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for thinking my life is harder?", "text": "Okay so I (M22) am in the hospital and my wife (F21) has visited for many hours each day. On 11/18 I had a bowel perforation. This led to a surgery that removed 25cm of my bowels and I now have an ostemy bag for 3 months. While staying here in the hospital we have had many of her friends visit, and stay for many hours. She's received a ton of love, and her mom and sister drove 12 hours to be with her while I'm in the hospital. Dude that's awesome.\n\nSo I was getting better here until Thanksgiving when I threw up twice within 2 hours, and my diet was shot down from soft food to liquids. I had horrible acid reflux, my head was pounding, and my chest was on fire. We are laying in the hospital bed together when she goes to bite my shoulder. I pull away because a playful bite doesn't sound enjoyable right now. \n\nShe says \"you don't let me do that anymore\". I say \"well I don't really want it right now considering I've thrown up twice now\". She says \"you say that like this is so much harder for you than it is for me\". I don't respond other than apologize for being short with her. \n\nBut you know what. No. It is harder for me. Your life as a whole might feel hard, but two people you deeply love and say you miss came to spend thanksgiving with you! I am the one a few days out of surgery and am now having complications. Your situation in this is tough sure, but I would argue this is harder for me. You had a thanksgiving meal, and I ate nothing. You set foot outside the hospital with your family. I laid in bed all day and walked as the doctor would allow. You know what, my life in this situation is harder. I get this one", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}426{"id": "b6RmTAaxpLHtjujf7LfTsVA2wrOYXPR0", "post_id": "azilye", "action": null, "title": "AITA Disgruntled Domestic College Student", "text": "Now, I just want to know if my feelings are valid. And, if I am the asshole, I'd also like to know how to change my outlook on the situation. Help would be much appreciated!\n\nMy parents got divorced when I was fairly young, and I've divided my time between both houses since then. I get along famously with my mom (even though she's a helicopter, I love her dearly). But, my Dad and his family is another story. Since I started highschool (about 7 years ago now) he and his second wife decided to work constantly. They own a small business, and want it to succeed. But, they also do a lot of volunteer work (I'm so proud of them for it!) However, this has left the task of running our household on my siblings and my shoulders.\n\nFor a few years, this was fine. In highschool I was always on top of my work, and didn't mind coming home at \\~5 pm to cook dinner, clean the house, do the dishes, study a bit, and go to bed. Between my three siblings and I, we've kept a fairly well functioning house! However, as I've gotten older the demands have further increased.\n\nI'm in my junior year of college now, and commute to a nice school \\~40 minutes away from my household. After I spend 4 hours in classes, I go to therapy for an hour (to help with anxiety), and then work a part time shift for 3 hours. After that, I make the \\~40 minute commute home by train. It's around 5 at night when I finally get back.\n\nImmediately after arriving home, I have to put away the dishes I did the previous night. Then I do whatever chores need to be done that day. Often times I walk to the nearby grocery store to buy groceries for the week. I come home, cook dinner, and by that point it's 8 at night. I quickly eat, and then go to finish up whatever else needs to be done (laundry, vacuuming, cleaning the bathroom/kitchen, etc). Overall, I finally start on my homework at around 9 pm, and typically go to bed at 1 am... Only to get up early and start the process over again.\n\nI don't have a problem helping out around the house. In fact, I think it makes me more prepared for when I want my own home! But, I've come to resent my Dad and Step-Mom who decided to offload everything onto us. The tipping point for me was Friday, when they asked me to cover the cost of groceries this month. I'm barely making enough to cover my textbooks each semester, so it's a huge ask. I didn't say anything to them about it, just decided to grin and bare it.\n\nThey snap at me whenever something isn't done. Often times the yelling takes longer than it would take to actually do the chore.\n\nI hate that I'm in charge of so much. My days are long, and they're about to get longer (2 of my siblings leave for college in the summer). I get that they pay the bills, but we're a family and I feel like everyone should pitch in. Am I the asshole for being so mad at them?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}427{"id": "aSLamXHO2UprXmXO6uZHmSq2JyGlGvxG", "post_id": "akaxci", "action": {"description": "telling my son it's ok to play football while my wife is protesting", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for telling my son it's ok to play football while my wife is protesting?", "text": "My son loves sports, actually he was a kid who seemed to keep to himself. He went through a stage in life when he really wasn't social. He's come out of his shell you can say. He's going to try out for the baseball team but he really wants to play football. I played football, it was some of the best times of my life. Made life long friends and loved playing.\n\nHe's going to be a sophomore in high school next year and wants to try out for the football team. They also train in the summer from what he's telling me at the school. A few of his friends are doing it and were on the team this year. \n\nI said yeah, I of course have no problem with it. My wife is pretty livid though, she's telling me that he isn't going to play and get seriously hurt. I basically told her he's going to play because he wants too, I don't see the big fucking deal. He's growing up, he's tall for his age, his friends are doing it, he loves sports. She told him she is going to refuse to sign whatever waiver they give, and if he goes to the practice she will show up and bring him home in front of everyone because she isn't joking. I did NOT expect her to be this livid about it. Of course it's me she's pissed at the most. Telling me I'm encouraging him while she is upset over this. It's going to be hard to convince me that he should not play. \n\nTo be fair, the game is safer right now than it's ever been, especially more than when I played. I told him he can play, she's basically saying no and that she WILL stop him and won't sign the waivers (even though you only need 1 signature I believe). I really don't plan on changing my mind about him playing. It's what he WANTS to do.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}428{"id": "oxdNbvVAMUcLjVpUTtxH95CznPjpDbdO", "post_id": "a5rm5u", "action": {"description": "telling my three best friends that they completely suck as friends, and being super mad at them for abandoning me after my cancer diagnosis", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my three best friends that they completely suck as friends, and being super mad at them for abandoning me after my cancer diagnosis?", "text": "Throwaway because I\u2019m honestly a little ashamed to be telling this story/asking this question. It\u2019s long, I\u2019m sorry. I\u2019m trying to be thorough. \n\nA little backstory: shit\u2019s been rough lately. I used to be very outgoing, very spunky, had many friends. I ran a small local business and was very involved in the community. I\u2019ve never had many problems with friends before, at least not on my end (that anyone has told me about at least). I made friends relatively easily\u2014though I was still picky and cautious about who I let get super close to me\u2014and have never been the kind of girl who\u2019s a gossip or has big falling outs with friends or lots of drama. For the most part, my friendships (definitely the close ones) last a long time...like years, decades long. \n\nBut almost three years ago I was in an accident and it fucked everything up. I broke my spine and got a brain injury. I\u2019ve already had one surgery and we\u2019re waiting on number two. I had to move back in with my parents and temporarily close my business. I cannot do a lot of basic things for myself...including bathing. It\u2019s been extremely hard on me, not just physically, but also mentally. To add to the craziness, I was recently diagnosed with cancer, and then almost immediately after, sexually assaulted by my ex-boyfriend. It\u2019s been a ride, y\u2019all. \n\nBut over the last few months I\u2019ve lost **everyone,** and I don\u2019t know why. \n\nThree of my very best and closest girlfriends have straight up ghosted me. These girls helped me through my first surgery two years ago no problem. These were the girls who were my cheerleaders and helpers for my business, who threw me surprise birthday parties and called me when shit was going down in their lives. I thought we were ride or die. But when I asked girlfriend 1 (we\u2019ll call her Micha) if she still had pictures of her wedding cake that I made for her a few years back, her answer was oddly distant and cold. When I tried to reply, I was blocked. No hints, no conversation, just blocked. \n\nI asked girlfriend 2 (let\u2019s call her Kelly) about it to see if she knew what was wrong, and she brushed it off. \u201cI think Micha was scared because you mentioned committing suicide (over a year ago).\u201d This didn\u2019t make any sense. Micha was the girlfriend I\u2019d had the longest of the three, and she saw me through a horrible breakup in college where depression and suicide was mentioned. I did the same for her about a year later. That had never been a spooky topic before. And besides, that comment had happened over a year ago. I figured she just must need space and dropped it. \n\nThen maybe a month later, Kelly says life is too busy to continue talking to me, and she wants a break. She sends that message to me and at least one other mutual friend. I didn\u2019t take it personally at the time because she was pulling away from everyone, not just me. I was concerned for her, but I wanted to respect her wishes so I told her that I loved her and whenever she was ready to chat and hangout again I would be here. \n\nBuuuut a month-ish after that is when my doctor first said \u201cyou might have cancer, I\u2019m sending you to an oncologist.\u201d I was freaked the fuck out. I felt so alone and scared and I didn\u2019t want to tell my parents because it wasn\u2019t a definite yet and I didn\u2019t want to worry them. I needed my best friend so badly. So I called Kelly. She didn\u2019t answer (which I expected), so I left her a tearful voicemail apologizing for calling and saying that I wasn\u2019t trying to be disrespectful and invade her space, but the doc says I might have cancer and I was very scared. I just wanted a hug, honestly. She never returned my call. \n\nGirlfriend 3 (Nancy) moved to another state about a year ago, but we still stayed very close. Sending big birthday packages, long chats, lots of pictures back and forth and keeping each other very involved. She was supposed to be coming home soon and promised to visit, as my place is right down the road from her parents. But suddenly she stopped messaging too, around the same time as Kelly. I finally sent her a text that just said \u201cNancy, I have something important to tell you.\u201d after the diagnosis was confirmed. She said \u201cSo do I. You go first.\u201d I asked her if she could FaceTime, but she said she was still at work, so I said that was fine we can chat when she gets off or tomorrow, whatever works best for her. I never heard back. \n\nI sent all three girls a \u201cwtf is going on\u201d message one tearful night not too long ago. It was long, and probably overwhelming (in fact I sent an apology for the length the next day) but honestly, for a \u201cbest friend\u201d it shouldn\u2019t have been some crazy message. I told each of them my diagnosis and that I\u2019m truly at the lowest of the low right now. I feel like I\u2019m trapped in this shell of my body and there\u2019s nothing I can do. I begged them to please tell me what I did wrong to make them ghost so I can fix it. I pleaded with each of them not to leave. But I also told them that they really hurt me, and I felt like I have been abandoned by those that I trusted the most during my deepest tome of need. I sent this individually over Facebook messenger because I naively thought that maybe I wasn\u2019t getting replies because their phones were dead or something. I have been left on read for all three of them, and Micha deleted me as a friend immediately after reading my message. \n\nI don\u2019t know what to do guys. All I can think of is that saying \u201cif you keep smelling dog shit everywhere you go, maybe you should check your shoes.\u201d Please tell me, AMITA? I\u2019m so fucking mad at them. I would never straight up ghost a normal friend, never mind a best friend. *Especially* after they tell me that they have cancer, godfuckingdamn. It feels so shitty and I\u2019m honestly more torn up about it than I am about the cancer.   \nI can provide more details if you want, I just didn\u2019t want to make this longer than it already is. Thank you for reading. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}429{"id": "A3WdZ2ekMTDhXI5sPYrlOWxjrhxiEgjd", "post_id": "ah09e7", "action": {"description": "snapping at my roommate for leaving a bowl in the sink every morning", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for snapping at my roommate for leaving a bowl in the sink every morning?", "text": "Every morning after breakfast my roommate leaves his bowl, spoon, and cup in the sink when the dishwasher is available. Every time I ask him about it (at least 10 times) he put the dishes away. \n\nThis morning I'd had enough so I texted him this:\nMe: I'm tired of you leaving ur fucking bowl in the sink\nMe: I do literally all the housework and I ask you for one simple thing\nHim: Ill be home in 2 hrs dont get ur vagina in a knot\n- End of conversation -\n\nThe thing that gets me is that he always cleans up after himself if I or another roommate is in the kitchen, so I feel like he is clearly deciding not to clean up when nobody is watching.\n\nObviously it only takes me 10 seconds to put his dishes away but it's not about that. It also only takes him ten seconds and it's his mess.\n\nWas I out of line texting him that?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}430{"id": "0NMNkjQtY5LljTBtrmNQBTVDYzZj7gme", "post_id": "att167", "action": {"description": "not wanting to attend my grandmothers funeral", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to attend my grandmothers funeral?", "text": "My grandmother passed away yesterday. I do not have a relationship with her. When my brother, sister and I were young, she always treated us as second class to my uncle\u2019s kids. I think this is because she didn\u2019t like my mother. My grandfather died when I was around 8 and he was a lovely man but he didn\u2019t prevent her behaving the way she did. \n\nMy parents separated when I was 11 and she didn\u2019t bother to stay in contact with me, my brother who was 16 and my sister who was 18. I don\u2019t believe she should take any blame for this lack of contact as we were the kids in the situation and she was the adult. \n\nMy dad basically disappeared from our lives for about 5 years or so as well and I later found she was abusive to him when he was growing up although I\u2019m not sure what form that abuse took. \n\nMy brother\u2019s eldest son was her great grandchild. He is now 15 and she has never met him. My brother has since had another child and my sister has two kids who again she has never met. I am now pregnant with my first child and I know she would not have them this baby either. However she has met and had a relationship with my cousins kids. \n\nI saw her for the first time in years at my Dad\u2019s 60th which I helped to organise, but I didn\u2019t know she would be there. My  Dad\u2019s girlfriend must have invited her. She didn\u2019t acknowledge me or my brother. My sister did not attend as she doesn\u2019t want a relationship with my father. \n\nI have somewhat repaired my relationship with my Dad but I keep it up for his sake mostly. I don\u2019t really get anything out of it. I just feel guilty if I don\u2019t have some sort of relationship with him. \n\nI\u2019m really uncomfortable with the thought of going to the funeral. I barely speak to my cousins and I know they will be fully involved in the funeral. I\u2019m worried they will judge us for coming and blame us for not having a relationship with her. I also don\u2019t want to listen to a eulogy about how great she is when she treated me, my siblings, our kids and my Dad terribly. I also had to take time off sick from work lately due to pregnancy related issues and they were so understanding. I\u2019m entitled to bereavement leave but I hate asking for more time off. I also don\u2019t want people at work hearing my grandmother died and being all pitying and I\u2019ll just come across heartless because I\u2019m upset about it. I mean I feel really weird and anxious about it but I\u2019m not sad that she died. \n\nDoes that make me a terrible person? My brother thinks we should go to be there for my Dad, that it\u2019s the right thing to do.  And to be honest if my brother has to go back home to face all the small town gossipers, I don\u2019t want him to face it alone and I feel like we should be able to walk in there with our heads held high as we did nothing wrong. I just don\u2019t feel like honoring this woman. \n\nTL:DR: Didn\u2019t have relationship with grandmother. Not a nice woman. AITA for not wanting to go to her funeral? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}431{"id": "gdVEmQk7ElSpONW0Os7D0hbSloQmzimS", "post_id": "a8ckx9", "action": {"description": "putting my chair all the way back in on a flight", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for putting my chair all the way back in on a flight?", "text": "I cant help but feeling like an asshole when I put my chair back, I usually dont but for long flights I'll put it back when I want to get some shut eye.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}432{"id": "FXnnCae4gDr5I84axwlntZqnqGyFZCnS", "post_id": "ag5izq", "action": {"description": "wanting to ruin my ex boyfriend's relationship", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to ruin my ex boyfriend\u2019s relationship? (TW: mentions of sexual assault, TDLR at bottom)", "text": "Okay, for some context, we are both in High school. A few years ago, when we were 13, we were \u201cdating\u201d aka hanging out together after school and during weekends. After three months of our relationship, we shared our first kiss and it all went downhill from there. \n\nAfter our first kiss, he started wanting things from me, specifically sexual favors. He would constantly ask me for a blowjob and I would always refuse. Eventually, he would start pulling his dick out and making me touch it and pleading me to suck it. I was VERY uncomfortable with this, and he managed to convince me that I was a bad girlfriend for refusing to blow him.\n\nHe would also constantly try to touch me, but most of the time, I gave the excuse that I hadn\u2019t shaved down there and he would leave it be. Once though, I did shave before hand, because for some reason, I thought I would be ready. When he came over that day, I realized I wasn\u2019t and told him not to. He shoved his hand down my pants anyway. As. I. Told. Him. No.\nI remember pulling his hand out of my jeans and him brushing it off and smelling his fingers to tell me that I smelt good. I don\u2019t remember what any of the other encounters were that day, just that specific memory.\n\nI was really starting to get into feminism at this point, and joined my junior high\u2019s gay straight alliance. We had this event called the GLSEN Day of Silence where students were supposed to wear black and pledge an oath of silence for the day to protest against bullying and harassment of lgbt+ students. People would ask why I was joining and I wrote down a cute pie chart of how much I felt I was attracted to boys vs. girls and a title that said \u201cI\u2019m Bisexual! :)\u201d.\n\nThis was my first time coming out to any of my friends, and it was the first time I told my Ex. He read the note, looked up at me, read the note again, and then with the face of Joseph when Mary first told him she was pregnant, he said \u201cYou\u2019re bi?\u201d.\n\nWe had an argument over FB messenger on the way home from school. He told me he couldn\u2019t date a bi girl because I was more likely to cheat on him. That\u2019s when we broke up.\n\nOver the summer, I met someone new and started a long distance relationship with said person. I was happy with him... then the flashbacks came. I don\u2019t know why, but that memory of my ex shoving his hand down my pants started to constantly play, and I would panic attacks over it. Luckily, my new bf was supportive when I told him what happened and would even call when I\u2019d have panic attacks so I could calm down. \n\n I didn\u2019t tell my parents that it even happened until a year after my ex and I broke up. At the end of 8th grade, I told all of my friends what happened and many took my side (but some still hung out with him afterwards)\n\nRight before Freshman year, I contacted him on social media and we had a nice conversation. He apologized for what he did to me and promised that he would never do that to another girl again.\n\nAnyway, here we are present day.\nLast night, a girl contacted me (Let\u2019s call her A) and told me that her BFF (B) is dating my ex, and she wanted to know if that was the same Ex that had sexually assaulted me. I told her yes, then proceeded to answer any questions she had, as well as tell her my full story.  \nA tells me that B has admitted that my ex does sexual things to her without her consent but she is \u201cokay with it\u201d (A thinks she\u2019s lying). A said that she gets a really bad vibe from my ex, and that she thinks that he may be doing similar things to B.\n\nThat makes my blood boil and want to confront this girl and tell her to break up with him as soon as she can because I don\u2019t want another girl to go through the same trauma that I did!\nBut at the same time, what happened to me happened when we were technically kids, and I don\u2019t feel like it\u2019s my lane to sabotage his relationships. I fear that it will make me seem jealous and I\u2019ll be known as his \u201ccrazy ex\u201d\nIdk, should I talk to B? Should I let her know of the monster that her boyfriend was when we were together? Have I slandered his name enough just by telling our friends about what he did to me? Am I an asshole for not putting the whole thing aside  and moving on with my life? \n\n\nTDRL: My \u201cex boyfriend\u201d sexually assaulted me when we were 13 and now we\u2019re in HS and I suspect that he\u2019s doing the same to another girl even though he told me he wouldn\u2019t. I told our friends about him and part of me feels like I slandered his name enough but the other part of me wants to protect other girls from him.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}433{"id": "odkhYwOO4331YucxQPRTrgDLsXylHYoe", "post_id": "b2252g", "action": {"description": "having DCF called on my parents", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for having DCF called on my parents?", "text": "To be straight up, I'm not the best kid. I don't really clean all that much. I clean more than everyone else, but I already know that it's not enough considering the state that my room is in.\n\nI'm supposed to be in therapy, but my parents aren't taking me. Which isn't an excuse to be an ass, but I'm kind of a cuck to my parents, probably because I hate them. But recently I did something pretty extreme. I had 2 people call DCF on my parents for child neglect. They don't take me to the doctor/dentist, and I've got a pretty bad tooth (infected- used to swell to the size of a gumball and I couldn't close my mouth) that was supposed to be pulled over a year ago. My bed is broken and I have scars all over from where the springs broke through and tore me up. I keep begging my parents to fix it, but they won't. My room has a draft (windows really thin, trailer house so there isn't good insulation so it gets COLD).   \nThey keep saying that it'll all get fixed over the summer when we move to a new house, but they've been putting off getting a new mattress for almost a couple years, so I don't know if I can trust that it'll get done.  \nThere's a lot more I could be doing to help myself (Call in my own appointments, which I'm too scared to do because my parents keep telling me not to) etc.\n\nThey do a lot more bad shit other than that (they're pretty emotionally distant and they smoke $400 worth of cigs a month and then complain we don't have enough to pay bills) but I do some more bad stuff to (whenever I make money, I don't try to help out)\n\nThey also keep trying to kick my mentally disabled brother out for being a \"freeloader\", which would force him to be homeless. They threatened to kick him out because he asked my stepdads daughter if he could have a ride to his friends. (honestly, my brother isn't the best either. He's refused to shower for almost a year, he doesn't clean anything, and he just sits on the internet all day)\n\nAITA for having people call DCF on my parents? Should I have called it in myself instead of asking others to do it for me? or should I have just left things as they were since I only have a year until I can move out?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}434{"id": "ngywJCnvJzScy3HHKEh5zaByDbaFw415", "post_id": "b8suy0", "action": {"description": "wearing sunglasses indoors", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For wearing sunglasses indoors?", "text": "Sometimes I wear my sunglasses indoors. I do it for a few reasons- 1) sometimes I feel really hideous and putting on my sunglasses makes me think I look the tiniest bit better, and so people see a little less of me; 2) I get really anxious around people(even my family), so wearing my sunglasses sometimes helps with that, like it\u2019s a little protective layer I can hide behind; and 3) I\u2019m not good at making eye contact, so wearing sunglasses helps me not to panic too much about trying to make eye contact since other people can\u2019t even tell if I\u2019m looking them in the eyes or not. The main reason is number 2. \nSo, does wearing sunglasses indoors make me an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}435{"id": "JGkgCsF6RCyNtSzl2pT8GfWc48lhWA2W", "post_id": "amv6gk", "action": {"description": "calling my ex a slut", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for calling my ex a slut?", "text": "I have been dating a girl for roughly four years. She told me when we were first dating that she has never been faithful to a man in her life. She's 34 and I'm 35.\n\nI continued to date her knowing it was risky. I really loved her. So much in common. All that good stuff you hear about good relationships. Yet, she was constantly being shady. Always talking to men behind my back. Would invite them over without my knowledge and hide it from me. She would break up with me temporarily and then claim anything she did was fine because we were broken up.\n\nEventually I couldn't handle it and we went our separate ways. So about 4 months ago we decided we would try to make it work again. I setup counselling. We set boundaries and it was rocky at first but I could see it working. She wanted to stay in contact with men she had been dating and or sleeping with.\n\nI wasn't overly comfortable with this because of how she can be unfaithful but I eventually agreed as long as she didn't talk about our relationship with them in great detail. Didn't flirt with them or have them over and get black out drunk. Well of course you guessed it. She couldn't stick to the plan. We would argue about that and then she would have them sleep over. Claiming she wasn't sleeping with them but they just slept in her bed. She consistently said they were just friends and it was okay even if we were dating for them to sleep in her bed because friends.\n\nAnyways. I got laid off from work yesterday. I came to her place and I can't remember exactly what we argued about but she was drunk and it was about a guy I told her to stop flirting with and inviting him over because she tried to sleep with him last time he was there. She kicked me out. She said she was sorry a few hours later but I wasn't having just a simple little I'm sorry. I told her I wanted her to be nicer to me and stop doing this thing with other men.\n\nWell she got drunk that night and had a man come over and she fucked him. I was really upset. Less than 12 hours and she was already fucking someone else. So I called her a slut to her face. She slapped me and told me she wasn't and claims what she did was not slutty.\n\nAITA in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}436{"id": "xpcgXkZlGYGOiAxjmobmdjP1qbt6dY3b", "post_id": "ah23uj", "action": {"description": "shunning my older brother", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for shunning my older brother.", "text": "Some context about me and my older brother: \n\nWe are both grown adult men living with our parents. I\u2019m 24 and he is 30. He works as a head cashier at a retail store. I\u2019m an accountant with plans to move out and go for my masters after saving enough money.\n\n \n\nMy brother has a bit of a rough past so I\u2019ll try to keep it short. About a decade ago, he attended a UC pursuing a major in Chemistry. He lied to our mother about his grades and he ended up dropping out due to his inability to keep them up. This left him with a big ass loan that needed to be paid off and no degree to show for it. At that point, he was forced to work retail. There, he developed a meth addiction and was diagnosed with depression. With years of AA meetings and constant support from our mother, he was able to stay sober for years and was able to find another retail job with better conditions. Fast forward a few years later, he\u2019s traded his addiction to meth with an addiction to junk food. He's a head cashier now, but has no plans of either moving up in the position, or backing down to go back to school.  \n \n\nMy brother and I used to be pretty close. During my college years, we would often bond, watch movies, and go out to eat. During the time however, I would notice things about him that would bother me. I was aware of his situation, so I tried to keep quiet in order to not upset him. One of them being that our mother would always do his laundry. He would also never clean up after himself. He\u2019d never do the dishes. In fact, sometimes he\u2019d just leave his dishes on the counter. He never did any chores either because he would always be too tired. He's extremely pessimistic and aloof about every single thing. He's also very prideful. Whenever my mother would try to offer some advice, he would straight up yell at her. He constantly complains about how tiring his job is and claims that one day he\u2019ll quit or step down so he can go back to school despite showing absolutely zero signs of doing so. Whenever he\u2019s home, 90% of the time he\u2019s asleep. This kept up for about 4 years.\n\n​\n\nLast year, I eventually snapped at him about his behavior. It became this full blown argument which ultimately ended with him calling me a condescending asshole. Since then, I\u2019ve stopped communicating with him. This caused me to stop eating junk food with him. After a few weeks, I lost like 10 lbs alone just from not spending time with him. This motivated me to lose even more weight. It's been a year since I've stopped all communication with him. I\u2019ve lost around 100 lbs. and I\u2019m no longer obese or pre-diabetic. Our mother has always been worried about me and brother\u2019s health so she's delighted with this change. Not only that, but ever since I\u2019ve called him out for it, my brother has been doing his own laundry and has started to wash his dishes. \n\n​\n\nAm I a childish asshole for not wanting to speak with my older brother anymore? I feel like we're both better off just not associating with one another. \n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}437{"id": "DsR3Ne2bxDMP2cYxpPIJEWzdSfBbdY8J", "post_id": "aoqt27", "action": {"description": "not letting someone into my dorm", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting someone into my dorm.", "text": "Hello, never posted before, but thought this would be a good situation to ask you guys what you think. \n\n​\n\nA little background context before the story is that I go to a private college in the Midwestern states of the US. During my four years at this college there have been a number of reports of random people in the dorms. Some of these people would do things like: Steal, peak in on the girls bathroom, walk into peoples rooms, and sleep in the lounges. One of the big rules they tell us every year is to NOT let people you do not know into the dorms. I take this rule seriously because I would never know who I was letting in.\n\n​\n\nNow to what happened this night. While waiting in the entrance to the dorm for my friend so we could go out to get something to eat. A guy (we will call him David) walks up to the front door and tried to open it. Now the doors are electronically locked and you need a fob to get in. David then starts pounding on the glass of the door to get my attention. I look up at him, but turn around and walk the other direction. David then starts pounding even harder on the glass. At this point his (I'm guessing) girlfriend lets him into the dorm. David then walks up to me, and starts yelling about letting him into the dorm. I look at him saying that I do not know him, why would I let him in? David then shows me a Tupperware container saying \"Yeah I look like threat.\" He then says that I should let him in because he was \"freezing his ass off\" outside. For some context it is about 5 degrees out right now, but he was not out there for more than a couple of minutes. David then turns around and walks off with his girlfriend into the stairwell. During that time he was calling me an asshole and a \"inconsiderate jerk.\"\n\n​\n\nSo AITA for not letting him into my dorm?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}438{"id": "M1gP3QFq0poUhMKZy1fZl6dmuNQ2vHzU", "post_id": "aa150i", "action": {"description": "disobeying house rules", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for disobeying house rules?", "text": ".. so I am renting a room from someone who rents her whole house out to cover her living expenses. I pay 500 a month, everything included. Shared bathroom, kitchen, etc. with two other roommates not including the homeowner.\n\nI understand house rules, I understand common sense and courtesy. Especially since they are posted as a list on the refrigerator. One of those rules is there to be no eating in the rooms. \n\nOkay, so I am designated a shelf in the refrigerator. The first moment I put food in the fridge, I notice someone eating off of my shit. My family brought me home made Oreos dipped in chocolate and they were disappearing way faster than I was eating them. What the fuck?\n\nSo I brought all my food back into my room, except for a few \"looks good, decoys(bullshit I don't eat) I left in the fridge\" so I figure, hey, I have a bag of chips or whatever, I'm not going to walk outside and eat than go back in after I'm done when I have it right here? I make no mess and anything I do is cleaned beyond recognition. \n\nWhat gets me busted is the carrying of dishes and cups back and forth to my room. What's fucking crazy is that the homeowner complained about another roommate making noise cooking food in the kitchen at 2am which apperantly woke her up??\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}439{"id": "zFwrxdNiNZX5DDojmfDzxPgFeqEU7VKA", "post_id": "acdpj8", "action": {"description": "being annoyed about Santa Claus", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed about Santa Claus.", "text": "My daughter is 4 years old, and this Christmas was the first one that Santa was a BIG deal.  Pre-kids, my husband and I had decided that we weren't going to do the whole Santa tradition.  What we didn't plan for was how hard Santa would be pushed in school (small town in an area that's 99.999% culturally Christian). Lots of Facebook posts from classmates' parents about not letting kids who stopped believing in Santa spoiling the magic for those who still believed.  The thing is, my daughter has absolutely no chill and can't keep a secret.  So when my daughter started talking about Santa and believing in him, we reluctantly decided to play along just enough to keep her from being the a-hole that \"ruins\" Christmas for her preschool class. \n\nFast forward to a few days before Christmas.  We go to a family function and within minutes of arriving my 5 year old niece tells my daughter that Santa isn't real.  Daughter asks me if it's true,  so I ask her what she thinks.  Daughter replies that she thinks he's real and crisis averted.  But later at the gathering, my brother-in-law (that niece's dad) boasts about how they don't do myths at their house.  It seems that when niece learned the truth, she wasn't taught that some people prefer to be kept in the dark.  I say nothing to niece or brother-in-law about it. After all, if I don't expect my daughter to be able to keep a secret, I can't expect her cousin who only a few months older to keep one either. And everyone has the right the raise their kids as they see fit.\n\nBut I'm feeling annoyed about the whole thing.   Both at being peer pressured into a tradition that we  didn't really care to do and for not getting the same consideration from our brother-in-law that we were trying to give to others.  So I'm sure I'm an asshole for being a hypocrite.  But I'm also wondering if parents who want you to lie and pretend to keep up a tradition that you don't follow are the assholes. Or are you the asshole if you ruin another family's tradition by being honest?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}440{"id": "hN35xCg3L1YebePc10A2gBYHOOtBuiHO", "post_id": "af8iza", "action": {"description": "not letting my partner come and see me at college", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not letting my partner come and see me at college?", "text": "Hi!\n\nMy boyfriend and I have a great relationship and go to college about 3 hours apart. A return ticket costs between $40 and $70.\n\n​\n\nI am seeing my boyfriend from Wednesday- Saturday in 2 weeks time. However, he wants to come and see me from Friday-Monday (i.e. going back to his college literally a day before I come down).\n\n​\n\nI (gently) have told him not to come as there is no point in him spending all that time and money if I am seeing him the day after. I saw him this week already. \n\n​\n\nI **haven't** told him the other reason, which is that I also have work to do and am usually working weekends (I work 5 days a week) so this time to myself is a little rare and I would like to use it to relax before I see him.  I also am careful to maintain friendships here, as if I see him I wont be able to spend any time with my roommate and college buddies as I work so much. Meanwhile, he hasn't settled in so I think he's lonely. He seems quite upset. \n\n​\n\nI really love spending time with him, but I don't think this is a good use of time or money. He is lonely though which I'm very sad about! So I don't think he's being an asshole at all, he's just lonely and doesn't know that I need space (but if I told him this, he would maybe feel even lonelier). But that's so much money to spend and so much time away from other commitments like college and friends etc. Bc we are no longer in highschool, we can't see eachother as much anymore, but I don't know if he gets that. \n\n​\n\n***TLDR;*** BF wants to spend $60\\~ to see me on my free weekend even though I am coming to see him within a day. \n\n​\n\nAm I the Asshole here? Brutal honesty only pls reddit. <3", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}441{"id": "cKBpjjSuQCk79jvd5SeYDVLsY1MKKqCj", "post_id": "b2c2h4", "action": null, "title": "AITA: Sister continually asks for help", "text": "I\u2019m new to reddit so I\u2019m not really sure how most things work. I live in a house with a lot of little sisters. One of my sisters really loves to play video games. Her favorite game to play is Mario Odyssey. Recently she has been playing it a lot. What annoys me is that it\u2019s the console I\u2019ve paid for, and she always plays on it. She\u2019s only like 5 years old, so I don\u2019t really bother her unless I ha", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}442{"id": "hAvGqxrR4HLTPbxQCGqPEYm5FhLHESk5", "post_id": "b8m29d", "action": {"description": "telling the bride she should take back her request? she wants the bridesmaids to buy matching shoes", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for telling the bride she should take back her request? She wants the bridesmaids to buy matching shoes.", "text": "Just attended her bachelorette party last weekend and realized how much the other girls are struggling financially. Should I say something to the bride?? \n\n\nMost of the bridesmaids couldn't pay up front for the $150 dress and had to set up layaway plans. Half haven't booked accommodation for her summer destination wedding (I found a cabin for $700 back in January). At the bachelorette party, one girl was upset by $6 club sodas, and splitting the check after dinner was an entire ordeal.\n\n\nNow she's asking us to buy matching heels. Is it my place to say something? Is it worth speaking up? The shoes will be ~$50, which is miniscule compared to the other expenses.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}443{"id": "zUiWBwGBc1B31kFBzGiCuUz6zBQcihg4", "post_id": "b0vdu1", "action": {"description": "disowning my mom", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for disowning my mom?", "text": "So a little back story. My dad is the best person I know. I have three sisters. When he met my mom he adopted my two other sisters, they were 8 and 12 at the time.  None of us were very easy teenagers but he always handled and dealt with with love and support.\nHe never hesitated to come help Fix the house house or babysit My mom would almost never help us and if she did she made it very clear she was doing us this huge favour.\nHe has always took care of us working 10 hours away for two weeks at a time.\nHe did this so mom didn\u2019t have to work.\nDropped everything when my mom seriously injured herself which took a year of recovery.\n\n11 months ago my dad had a massive stroke. We thought he wasn\u2019t going to make it. My sisters and I spent every night alternating who stayed the night in the hospital with him. My mom refused and would just get a hotel. Plus it helped mom knowing he wasn\u2019t alone while she processed what was happening.  \nAfter 5 weeks in the icu he was able to be moved to a rehab facility about two hours away. My sisters and I still stayed with him.\nHe is paralyzed on his right side and had lost the ability to speak. We\u2019d bring the kids up several times a week.My mom in the mean time would go up about once a week for a few hours then go home. \nAbout three months after the stroke he was able to turn his voice on and say two or three words. Since he was making so much progress he applied and was accepted to the only brain rehabilitation centre in the province. About four hours from where we live. Which then my mom would go up once a month.\n\nFrom my dads work they continued to pay him full salary till his 65th Birthday which was 4 1/2 months away.(he was going to retire)  and they wrote a cheque for $75,000.00\nHe was able to start walking again and saying more words, my sisters and I would each visit once a week.\nWhile we were helping and stressing ourselves out financially to be there to help our parents. My mom decided now was the perfect time to go to Belize and buy new furniture and a new horse, among a million other things. ( the money was suppose to be for my dad and his rehab, making the house handicap accessible.\n\nOur husbands came into their house and made it handicap accessible on their own time and money. We took control of everything we could to make things easier on my mom. I drove the 8 hours every Friday and picked him up, My sisters would always be there to help.\nHe has severe aphasia but does ok with us.He is getting ready to be discharge him home with the help of home care and us but my mom absolutely refuses. She wants him in long term care.My mom has almost blown through all the money she received for dads care and now needs to sell their acreage. She still won\u2019t look for a job.She plans on buying a holiday trailer so dad can never come and parking it where ever. Any time we bring anything up she cries and says we are ganging up on her.\nWould I be the asshole to give up on her and focus solely on my dad?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}444{"id": "4YuHMKCjyYtH86ValfJ20dTbHVBSFNCI", "post_id": "b168do", "action": null, "title": "AITA jealous of my gf's roommate proposal", "text": "My girlfriend and I have been going strong for over a year now and we are in a really good spot right now. GF gets a train to uni everyday and she is normally accompanied by one of my friends (let's call him Frank). Frank is someone that can be quite narcissistic at times and says whatever is on his mind before thinking. Today I found out he offered to share rooms with my GF as they both attend nearby unis. I feel quite jealous about it and I can't stop thinking why it would be okay for him to just casually ask my GF to move in with him. Frank has never been particularly successful in relationships and he has tried to get together with my exes on a couple of occasions. AITA? Or is there cause for concern? \n\nTL:DR Old friend of mine asks my girlfriend to move in with him, am I right to be jealous about it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}445{"id": "jClL9vKZv3gPQQC2BfynluvO3mxL7ohW", "post_id": "ade1o9", "action": null, "title": "AITA for my boyfriend of 2.25 yrs's mother still keeps a pic of his ex gf's son on display in her living room??", "text": "Theres a little background here.  I met & started dating/becoming sexual w my current boyfriend in Nov of 2016. He said he loved me within a month. I loved him too.  Several months prior to that his ex gf of 9 yrs lost her house due to not paying mortgage because she had a friend living there who signed for the postal delivered foreclosure papers but never gave them to the exgf. She lost the house & desperately needed to live somewhere w her 15 yr old son(not his) & was broke, although very highly educated. \n\nAlthough they were broken up for a year then & he even had another relationship, he let her move in not charging rent. He even loaned her $12k+ for remedial mortgage fees.He pretty much knew he never would get it back.\n\nSo he meets me & we're in love but wont even drive me past his house for fear she'd see us. Wimp. We dated & had our trysts in his van for 8 months. But I loved him & mostly accepted it with occasional all out screaming matches about why he was too wimpy to ask her to leave. She had a few excuses of people who promised her a place but then these fell thru last minute. \n\nJune 2018 shes gone & I finally move in. I had to beg him practically bc I had to sell my home & couldnt afford 2000+ rental fees while disabled. He charges me $700 rent monthly. Its been very ugly & I have deep resentment over how he made me feel like \"first runner up\" while she kicked back in his million dollar home. \n\nHis mom still friendly w her & I think gives her handouts. I heard mom & ex had a christmas lunch. I went to Moms today & saw displayed a pic of the kid in the living room & I silently abandoned my half eaten breakfast & quietly left. He knew it was bc if the kid pic displayed. Mom doesnt know ex gf owes him $12k & he told me NOT to tell her. Mom would be very pissed. AITA for being pissed at this scenario? Thanks guys. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}446{"id": "MI219N8NJS5CxtsIgZL7NJ5zAS4DXwiY", "post_id": "aika1j", "action": {"description": "making am girl cry because she wouldn't take no for an answer", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for making am girl cry because she wouldn't take no for an answer?", "text": "This happened a while back, but recently talked to my gf about it (She thinks i'm NTA). Basically, there's this girl at work who's kinda ont he heavy side. While i was with my current gf, she kept trying to flirt with me. I kept telling her to back off and that i had a girlfriend, but she just kept trying harder and harder. Even trying to get physical despite me pushing her off many times and telling her, in no unceryian terms, to fuck off.\n\nOne day me and a friend were talking about this. He told me that he thought the only way to get someone like this to back off was to hurt thier feelings. So the next time she tried something, i told her 'I hope they make whaling legal again so somebody harpoons you'. Of course, she went off crying to her friends. It worked though.\n\nDid i go too far? She did straight up try to molest me on multiple occasians, and i work at a maccies so nothing official was ever gonna be done about it (trust me on this)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}447{"id": "pfyH9G4Romjl5cmE7XSod05Vacfwk2BE", "post_id": "aud12r", "action": {"description": "being scared", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being scared?", "text": "AITA: not that long ago I got in a fight with one of my friends (ef). I had posted a picture on Instagram and it was a picture of my best friend (bf) and I on his birthday. Ef texted me later that day. A little background bf had just come out to his family as gay and I am also gay and my family is very homophobic and thinks it a phase (yes this is important later on). Ef text me and says she hates bf, I didn\u2019t know why so I asked her. She said he had screwed her over, now bf and I have been best friends for 5 years while ef and I only really got close this year, by not doing a favor. I didn\u2019t know what this \u201cfavor\u201d was and ef wouldn\u2019t tell me. I show up to school the next day and ef instantly start to mention the text, ef goes on to say I\u2019m not really gay, that bf is really gay and that I am just sucking his d***. It doesn\u2019t sound that bad but with bf past and mine it\u2019s just really offensive. I have told ef to stop numerous times by this point and just want her to cut it out. I finally decided to ignore the situation by trying to change the subject but ef didn\u2019t like that idea and said that she would kick my a** if I did anything and now I\u2019m scared to be alone in a room with her do to her past history of violence. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}448{"id": "Tre53qF3SBxDgj9tIrwpktGdwj6M2stU", "post_id": "afbwhs", "action": {"description": "being mad at my the person who raised me", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my the person who raised me?", "text": "So to start off my parents are out of the question havnt been apart of my life since I was very young. I'm 18 years old graduated high school in June and working 40hrs a week to buy a new car. Mines broken down so many times I'm not putting another $1000 into it. My aunt raised me since I was 3 and we lived with her now ex husband till a few years ago when they divorced. She has epilepsy and has seizures pretty commonly. She hasn't worked in 2 years and has no income other then alamony which runs out in March. It's been 2 years and she still isn't working but she is constantly flipping from dating 9ne guy to dating her ex husband and others for a few years and goes out pretty regularly with them. Now time is pretty close and she still isn't putting effort in to find work but rather waits for me to get home with her car from work and goes out and returns the next morning most times. Now most days she spends sitting on my couch scrolling on her phone and watching TV that's it never any cleaning or job searching. She makes very poor financial decisions like leavin lights on 24/7 I'm not kidding all day lights and the TV will be on all the time . The days she has a seizure she will sleep and in and I will take care of her and the dog and cats. Yesterday she slept all day and because of that I had to stay home on my day off to take care of things. Now today I get home and shes all dressed up and getting ready to go out with her ex husband. Nothing has been done around the house even remotely in fact she just left her dirty dishes on the coffee table. Now I've lost my shit before and she always just cuts me off and stops arguing with me stopping all talks and will just ignore me when I try to bring it up to her. AITA for getting upset with her when she does this ?\n\nLong story short:\nMy aunt is unemployed living off alamony and not putting effort in to find a job. She has seizures which makes it hard for her to find work I understand that. But she doesnt clean around the house and just sits on her phone until I get home from work and goes out with her a husband. AITA for being upset and not wanting to  be around when alamony runs out and she has no where to turn.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}449{"id": "cWVFJnTbvlZlBMnDDj5Ex2thamHdNcNJ", "post_id": "axnv1i", "action": {"description": "telling off an old man for making a comment about my parenting", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling off an old man for making a comment about my parenting?", "text": "This past weekend I was driving with my wife and my 6 month old daughter to have dim sum with my parents. Unfortunately, it started raining and we didn\u2019t have her blanket. She pooped in the car while leaving the house, so we rushed back in to change her and inadvertently left her blanket there.\n\nWe parked a block away from the restaurant, I held her close to my chest and covered her with half of my jacket . As my wife and I were walking to the restaurant an older Chinese man looked in shock, pointed at my daughter and then at me. He told me \u201cThat baby needs more clothes!\u201d I responded that she\u2019s fine. She was actually in 3 layers: a body suit, a cardigan and a fleece onesie. I live in the Bay Area, so it was maybe mid 50\u2019s. I stood near the doorway trying to look to see where my parents were sitting, when the old guy came up to me and said, \u201cShe is not fine, she\u2019s too cold. She will get sick\u201d I told him I didn\u2019t ask for his opinion and to mind his own business. My wife found my parents and started to walk towards them and I followed, the old guy then gasped and essentially said \u201cABC (American born Chinese) kid doesn\u2019t know anything.\u201d\n\nAfter finishing dim sum with my folks, I told them what happened. They were shocked and told me that\u2019s not how I treat elder folk. My wife came to my defense and said people shouldn\u2019t butt into other people\u2019s business. This was actually like the 5th time a random Asian elder made a comment about our parenting. 4 of the times they commented that my daughter \u201clooked too cold\u201d and the other time one woman commented that \u201cshe looks hungry, mom needs to feed her.\u201d\n\nMy Dad said that \u201cwell if you saw a child in danger you would speak up too.\u201d I told him, yeah but my daughter wasn\u2019t even close to being \u201cin danger\u201d and he said maybe you need to bundle her up cause it\u2019s cold outside. I just told him he was wrong and I told him many times already she\u2019s getting over a really bad heat rash. (Long story, but essentially her room was too hot and needed to wear less layers at night).\n\nMy parents just told me to be more considerate and not be rude to older people. I just shrugged and that was that.\n\nAITA for telling off an old man that made a comment on my parenting?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}450{"id": "Yj6PbTyNrQ1KY3n7oHspdqbwlJOT004w", "post_id": "aglogu", "action": {"description": "kicking my pregnant girlfriend out of my house when I found out the child wasn't mine", "pronormative_score": 1063, "contranormative_score": 33}, "title": "AITA for kicking my pregnant girlfriend out of my house when I found out the child wasn't mine?", "text": "My ex and I had been together for 2 years.  It was rocky for the last couple months when she lost her job and just seemed to refuse to look for work just living for free in my house causing me to have to financially support us both.  I also suspected she was cheating on me, and eventually I broke up with her and she left to live with her parents.\n\nA few weeks later she comes knocking on my door to let me know she's pregnant with my child.  She was practically beaming with glee.  I agreed to let her stay with me again as my home would be a healthier place to stay as her mom smokes like a chimney and refused to stop smoking inside when she found out her daughter was pregnant.  Didn't want my child subjected to that.\n\nThe one caveat to this arrangement being we would go in a couple weeks and get a paternity test done.  She very happily agreed.  Her reaction actually washed away some of the fears I had about her possibly cheating on me.  So she lives with me for a couple weeks and we go to get the test done.  We find out that the child isn't mine and like a switch is flipped I honestly no longer care about that kid anymore and tell her to pack up her shit and get out of my house.\n\nThis was a week ago.  She moved her stuff back to her parents house, but is staying with a friend to avoid the cigarette smoke and other problems there.  She, her friends, and even a few of our mutual friends are texting and messaging me about how I'm a terrible person for doing this to that innocent child.  That I have plenty of room in my home and I should just help her out.  I feel like I've been through the emotional ringer these past months and I've been though every emotion I am capable of feeling.  From realizing I was possibly a father to the betrayal when her cheating was confirmed...honestly I feel so emotionally raw and sometimes I agree with them.  That maybe I should take her back and just care for the kid.\n\nWas I unfair to this unborn child?  Am I a total piece of shit for not wanting them in my home in this vulnerable time for them?  She cheated on me, but is this a situation that I should suck it up and take care of them anyway?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 23, "OTHER": 1052, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1063, "WRONG": 33}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}451{"id": "8EA7abUGdzWSh6XXk005BjBc5wXpHaLD", "post_id": "asyg7r", "action": {"description": "not contributing to a friend's plane ticket cost", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not contributing to a friend's plane ticket cost?", "text": "Just a brief backstory. \n\nMy dad is an alcoholic and my grandma is homeless with my dad. I go to college across the nation in an attempt to forge my future so I can take care of myself and my family and later my community. I send them money frequently and don't really have money to spare. (Full time college student with no job). A close friend of mines mother has recently gotten a bacterial infection that might kill her before the night ends or over the course of the next week. Naturally, he bought a ticket to leave tomorrow morning but a bunch of my friends bought him a ticket to go home tonight (it was over 500$). They created a group chat acknowledging what had happened and I instantly sent him my condolences and wished him well. The guy collecting money came to me and told me that I was a selfish prick if I don't give him money to help pay for his ticket. Mind you, the guy who's mother is sick has money to pay for a ticket and has a family that is rather wealthy. They are saying that I an abomination if I don't contribute and that they will never talk to me again. I l feel extremely sorry for his family and him and hope that everything works out for him but I'm feeling attacked and upset. It's not like they came to me and told me about the situation, the first thing they did was tell me that if I didn't, I'm an asshole. Meanwhile, I have my own world of problems. Am I the asshole for not helping pay for his plane ticket? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}452{"id": "SACGhptFPe7X43sa3qJV4G1ATk5rY1mq", "post_id": "ancwdc", "action": {"description": "not telling a friend about my recent suicide attempt, but telling a different close friend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA I didn\u2019t tell a friend about my recent suicide attempt, but told a different close friend", "text": "I have quite severe depression and suicidal tendencies, and so to keep track of my mood, I note it all down in a planner. I had another attempt recently, which I told my best friend, M, about. A friend of mine was flicking through my planner and found out that I recently had another attempt. \n\nFor some context, she and I have bonded about our mental health issues before, so she might want to be updated about these things. She also comes to me often when she\u2019s not doing so well, and trusts me enough to tell me about her attempts and episodes. The only issue is I\u2019m not close enough to her to tell her about all my numerous suicide attempts and etc, and also didn\u2019t think it was a big deal. I also didn\u2019t really want it to be spread around, and she has a tendency of telling our other friends want happened, because she thinks \u201cthey deserve to know.\u201d\n\nWhen she confronted me, she texted me: \u201cI saw your planner. Why don\u2019t you ever tell us [she and our other friends] about this shit? Why don\u2019t you talk to us? We just want to help you\u201d\n\nMe: \u201cI\u2019m okay now, don\u2019t worry! I just didn\u2019t want to tell lots of people. I did tell M, though, because I just wanted to get it off my chest\u201d \n\nF: \u201cYou\u2019re not reading my tone right, why wouldn\u2019t you tell me\u201d \n\nMe: \u201cit\u2019s not a big deal, I\u2019m feeling loads better right now\u201d \n\nF: \u201cNo, it is a Big Deal. If it wasn\u2019t, then why\u2019d you tell M instead of me\u201d \n\nAt that point, I stopped responding because I didn\u2019t know what to say. I saw her yesterday, and said hi, and was ignored. She\u2019s been sending me death glares, and blatantly ignoring me. \n\nTL;DR - a friend, who shares a lot of her experiences and depressive episodes with me, and who I have bonded with about our terrible mental health, is mad at me for not telling her about my recent suicide attempt, and talking to my best friend M about it instead of her. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}453{"id": "9c1mVnzCmxBhONtJetRTU1h8ZXigRVUY", "post_id": "b9toz9", "action": {"description": "not wanting to talk to my wife when I come home from work", "pronormative_score": 48, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if i dont wanna talk to my wife when i come home from work", "text": "It's not as harsh as it sounds(I hope). I work construction in NYC so I'm up at 430 am to go to work and don't come home til 4 or 5 pm. During that time I'm exposed to all kinds of construction dirt and debris, sheetrock dust, fiberglass insulation, silica from drilling concrete, etc. \n\nSo when I come home after being on my feet all day, I just want to get out my dirty clothes and take a shower so I can sit and relax for a little bit before we do whatever it is we have planned for the evening, if anything. I don't want to track anything into the house that I brought home with/on me. It's not that I don't want to hear what my wife is saying, I just don't want to have to stand there in dirty clothes to do it.\nBefore you ask, yes...I have told her this. But if I tell her regularly (which I sometimes do), she says \" ok, well let me just tell you this first\", or just tells me I'm always crabby when I come home.\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 38, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 48, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}454{"id": "N4CMNpQNVT9TyQAyU7PobWQ7rakZyktm", "post_id": "arqm10", "action": {"description": "bringing people who weren't on the guestlist to a birthday party", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for bringing people who weren't on the guestlist to a birthday party?", "text": "I know at first glance of the title it seems obvious that, yeah, this is an asshole move. Even I was convinced that I was, in fact, The Asshole at first, but as the night went on I began to have my doubts.  So here's what happened.\n\nLast week a big group went out for a coworker's birthday.  We have a pretty tightknit crew at my job, and there's a big group of us that goes out almost every Friday rain or shine.  The birthday boy is a regular part of that crew.  The person who planned his birthday outing is not, but she works closely with Birthday Boy and wanted to do something nice.  She's old enough to be most of Regular Crew's mom, and is friendly enough, (or so I thought?), though can be a bit sassy.  I've never had an issue before. I like her! I still do, I think, this incident nonwithstanding.  Anyway. She plans an outing into the city to go to dinner.  She asked if I wanted to come a couple weeks before, because she wants to get a number for a reservation.  I say of course, I'll be there with bells on.  Sounds cute.  She does follow up several times, to make sure she has the right number for the reservation.\n\nFast forward to the day of the event. As I'm getting ready to leave work, a couple buddies in Regular Crew ask if I'm going to this party.  I say yeah and ask if they want to ride together.  They do. It's me and three others in my car.  \n\nWhen we arrive, Party Planner gives me side eye so hard I'm afraid they'll get stuck that way.  As the evening goes on, she continues to make a show of acting visibly annoyed.  One of the people I ride with ask me what her name is.  That's when I put two and two together and realize that the three Regular Crew buddies I brought don't know Party Planner.  They were not on her guestlist.  Considering they were already aware of the party, and that they are friends with Birthday Boy, it didn't even occur to me that they wouldn't be part of the official count.  I pull someone closer to Party Planner aside and ask if she's angry with me.  Party Planner's friend says that while she personally thinks \"the more the merrier,\" yes, it's me Party Planner is upset with and maybe I should say something. \n\nI should mention that there are probably about thirty of us here, and while we do have a private room, it's very cramped.  The waitstaff doesn't bat an eye and whips out a couple more chairs, and we all scoot in and get cozy.  But at my first opportunity, as people shuffle around and a chair opens up next to Party Planner, I sit next to her and say, \"Hey, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to throw off your plan or anything,\" and without looking up at me, all she says is, \"I'm annoyed.\"  Yes, I'm thinking, you've made that very clear. I'm kind of at a loss for words that she wouldn't just brush it off and say \"no big deal,\" and I awkwardly retreat back to my friends.  She continues acting bothered down at her end of the table, and apparently not being shy about rude she thinks I am to her friends at that end.  \n\nThe night goes on and people are starting to get rowdy.  I'm not one of the people on a mission to get absolutely twisted, but I have had a few.  I see Party Planner not talking to anyone, and I ask if she's having a good time.  She responds \"Not as good as I could have.\"  Reddit, I am shook at this point! I thought a few drinks in and it would all just be smooth sailing. Everyone seems to be having a good time but her, and do feel bad about that, since she planned this and was really excited to hang out with everyone.  But again, I don't know what to say to her response.  I'm regretting going out of my way to talk to her again, feeling like maybe I rubbed salt in a wound. I confide in Birthday Boy that I am feeling like The Asshole, and he says don't be ridiculous, he's glad the people I brought are there, and that there are a bunch of random coworkers he never even talks to there, and it would be weird if those people were invited but the Regular Crew homies that just happen to not know Party Planner weren't.  \n\nAfter a few hours, Party Planner and the other older coworkers start filtering out, I suppose because they have lives and kids and stuff.  The rest of us young jawns go to a bar down the street that has a lot more standing room, and enjoy each other's company well into the night.  I do hear from someone at some point that Party Planner left in tears.  The person who informed me of this was of the perspective that Party Planner felt neglected and unappreciated when she left.  But at this point I'm kind of over it, and think that if you're going to go out of your way to act miserable, you shouldn't be surprised when people don't want to sit next to you at a party.  \n\nSo thanks for reading my long-winded ass story, y'all.  I await your judgement and will gladly accept whatever outcome I get.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}455{"id": "aYRKzkOmsoTi7U11HRe5WzxS6GwXdFIQ", "post_id": "ao3mjv", "action": {"description": "aggressively confronting someone in front of their best friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for aggressively confronting someone in front of their best friend?", "text": "So. A lot of context is necessary to understand why I was so upset to begin with. I don\u2019t tell many people that I have a disability that basically makes everything I feel extremely intense, sadness, happiness, everything. I get upset a lot because of it and I don\u2019t want people feeling bad because they didn\u2019t technically do anything so I normally never say anything. I also hate using my disability as an excuse but it is important to mention in this story.\n\nWhat\u2019s also important to mention is that I spent three months in an extremely abusive relationship prior to moving to university. I never did anything about the relationship because I was convinced that I was over reacting due to my disability and my manipulative partner told me the same.\n\nA friend of mine, let\u2019s call him weeb, knee all of the above. He was someone I trusted a lot and he knew and the insides and out. \n\nWe were at the bar and I was alone at the table while everyone else was playing pool. I didn\u2019t know how to play pool so I didn\u2019t want to humiliate myself by going up there. Another friend of mine (let\u2019s call this one memes) came up to me and asked why I was sitting alone and I explained. They said that I should come up anyway so I did. I went up and joined in on a great conversation. It was a blast.\n\nBut that\u2019s when Weeb told me to move out of the way of the pool stick thing. So I did. Then he asked me to move more when I was clearly out of range of it (unless home runs are a thing in pool?). So he says \u201cgo away, you\u2019re not wanted\u201d and he pushed me so hard that I still have a bruise from where he touched me.\n\nI got really upset by this. He knew everything that I had been through. He knew how many times I had been pushed down a set of stairs. He knew how much I was hit, and kicked and everything. He knew. I went to the ladies and I cried. I didn\u2019t want to make a thing out of it because I often over react to everything and it\u2019s just easier to hide. That way the only feelings that are hurt are mine.\n\nThen another friend came in, let\u2019s call him cloud. I was really surprised that he came into the ladies as he was transitioning. Coming back into the ladies must have been really upsetting for him but he wanted to console me. I was very thankful for that. I told him what happened and the context in which it happens (as vaguely as possible - I didn\u2019t want to name names and I didn\u2019t want to go into the exact depths of my abuse). \n\nCloud told me that I should go and speak to whoever upset me and talk to them about it. So I did... just not the way that Cloud recommended.\n\nI walked up to Weeb who was at the bar ordering more drinks with memes and I aggressively ask him \u201cwas there really a need to push me that hard\u201d and Weeb says \u201cI didn\u2019t even touch you\u201d. I responded with \u201cbut you did\u201d and he rolls his eyes and turned away from me. I got so offended, Memes and I made contact and he had \u201coh teas gonna spill eyes\u201d. \n\nI turned away and just sat by myself for the rest of the evening. When we were saying goodbyes I hugged everyone but Weeb and I said to Weeb \u201cwe need to talk when we\u2019re sober\u201d and he gave me major stink eye as he said \u201cdo we\u201d. I said \u201cyes we do.\u201d And I walked home alone at 2am.\n\nAITA for aggressively confronting someone about something personal in front of their best friend?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}456{"id": "3mGNw83AMRTZhyCui7ghecdq0sAYlJ8Q", "post_id": "a8kv19", "action": {"description": "not wanting to spend Christmas with my girlfriends, sister-in-law's mothers house", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to spend Christmas with my girlfriends, sister-in-law\u2019s mothers house?", "text": "Juggling the holidays with my girlfriend is difficult but we\u2019ve made it work for years. I usually spend Christmas Eve with her family and Christmas with mine. \n\nThis year, my girlfriends mom announced the family would be going to her daughter in laws mom house for a joint Christmas. However, this requires me to fly to another state and as a result miss Christmas with my family. Upending the arrangement we\u2019ve had in place.\n\nI barely know this woman and what little I do, I don\u2019t like. She\u2019s a bigot and extremely religious and I\u2019ve managed to keep our relation civil due in large part to our limited interactions over the years. Now I have to spend the holidays with her family, people I don\u2019t know, instead of my own or my girlfriend\u2019s. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}457{"id": "bmKP188rnyVuQutRkQvQFuvfCKAMK345", "post_id": "axavr6", "action": {"description": "breaking off contact for constant complaining", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for breaking off contact for constant complaining?", "text": "So basically my Sennheiser headset broke down (again) so I decided to buy a new one (piece of shit needed repair every 3 months, never going back to that company). I got a new one, and it sounds good so far and feels comfortable. \n\nWhen I record my voice over the windows voice recorder, everything sounds ok. In TS3 however quite a few friends have complained that it was \"shit\" and when I asked what was bad they never replied. I played with various settings, but always got the \"shit\" response. As said, in voice recorder or even if I log onto discord with a second device and listen from that it sounds ok. In the end I just got so pissed that I blocked them (I only see them online, we live in different towns). If they can't even answer a simple fucking question, they aren't worth my time. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}458{"id": "Mc9Sf9FVPebx3TRzCJ9b6H06r3mCan4o", "post_id": "ade4zo", "action": {"description": "being upset that a girl I was seeing has shown my friends her \"nipple piercings\"", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for being upset that a girl I was seeing has shown my friends her \u201cnipple piercings\u201d?", "text": "Context: I\u2019m a backpacker in Australia who\u2019s living at a working hostel with a lot of other backpackers. I was seeing this girl for a solid few months (in this environment, people tend to build relationships very quickly). \n\nAnyway, we called it off shortly before Christmas because she wanted to carry the relationship on once we left this particular hostel and I was a little more realistic, as we obviously have different plans to travel round Australia. \n\nOnce we both arrive back in the hostel after the festive period, we both missed each other and realised we want to carry things on together, even if it means changing our individual travel plans. It turns out she got both her nipples pierced whilst she was away. She asked my friends (one of them including one of my best friends who I came out here with) if they wanted to see her new nipple piercings, and he (amongst others) said yes. \n\nSo she showed them this entirely topless photo showing her complete upper torso. When she told me she asked if they all wanted to see it, and they all said yes, I felt angry/upset that all my friends have seen a potential girlfriend\u2019s tits. \n\nAITA for being upset/angry at this? It\u2019s making me question if I want to carry on seeing this girl and I\u2019m also annoyed at my friends for saying yes they wanted to see her nipple piercings? (In my opinion, just an excuse to see her tits). She says it wasn\u2019t a sexual thing, but I can\u2019t help but feel my male friends just wanted to see her topless (cynical?)\n\nI feel I may be the arsehole here, but I just want confirmation as I don\u2019t really know if I have justification to be pissed off with her and my friends. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}459{"id": "Xy1cAtBtDEGVKTFm2JCczTTVlXJcTf79", "post_id": "b5hslb", "action": {"description": "not wanting to buy an expensive wedding ring", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to buy an expensive wedding ring?", "text": "I love my SO and see myself marrying her one day. We are both young and in post-secondary school so that is a long way off. We get along very well for the most part. We often talk about marriage and kids and our future. \n\nWhen it comes to wedding rings, I hate the idea and the tradition. The absurdity and immorality of the diamond industry and how it became a tradition from tricky marketing makes me sick. I feel that many men feel that they HAVE to buy an expensive rock to show their love but that is absurd. IMO buying an expensive diamond ring means I'm buying into everything about the industry that disgusts me. \n\nMy SO desires a nice wedding ring, and it has been a dream of hers for a long time. Bringing up my distaste for the tradition always leads to an awkward fight, and now we cant talk about it at all without her saying she doesn't want to talk about it. She knows very shallowly from my rantings about the industry, but she doesn't care enough to not want one. \n\nI have talked about the idea of synthetic diamonds, but she is not interested and wants the real deal. She has came back and said she would be fine with synthetic for the band, but she wants a decent sized real diamond in the middle, something around the 2k to 4k range. This boggles my mind as that money could be a downpayment on a house, kids college money, exploring the world, etc. Why waste it on a little rock that I morally do not agree with? \n\nI'm not asking anyone to put down my GFs beliefs as I know a lot of people has distaste with diamonds. I get where she is coming from, a lot of girls dream of the real deal fancy ring their man will get them one day. I just choke up thinking about actually putting that cash on a single ring. \n\nAITA for not wanting to ever waste money on an expensive diamond wedding ring? I would do anything for this girl, but just giving up and doing the deed only confirms my thoughts that men are trapped into buying into a shitty industry. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}460{"id": "Jb8gL4xpPjR8NGTrcxvVLl5iLB5Kf8xV", "post_id": "a8n0n5", "action": {"description": "replying maybe for my best friends upcoming baby shower", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for replying Maybe for my best friends upcoming baby shower?", "text": "RSVP had 3 options: Yes, Maybe, No. I replied Maybe. We\u2019re both in our mid-20s. I own a small business. Everyone thinks since I\u2019m my own boss I can just close up shop whenever I want. I can\u2019t, I have customers who come in every day. If I close on a business day with no future notice I get bad reviews online and complaints the following day. She just sent me a angry text saying \u201cwhat do you mean it\u2019s a Maybe??\u201d I replied with saying I\u2019m gonna try my hardest to go but it\u2019s a mid day event on a Saturday. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}461{"id": "W8E92nCjl3HFJ8aJmq7jvxEKwbN9npFk", "post_id": "am7q8f", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA for breakimg up with my gf of 7 years because I have trust issues over a recent crush?", "text": "Long post, tl;dr at the bottom. Don't know if this is the correct subreddit, please let me know. Sorry for ambiguous title, let me know a better one so I can improve my posts.\n\nContext: my gf (25f) and me (27m) have been together since her first year of university. I was her first sexual partner, she was my second. She had a bf before me in highschool, but they never had sex.\n\nLet me first sketch the context and then I'll get to my dilemma.\n\nThrough the years, a few things happened that pushed my gf in some kind of depression. She went out a lot, drank a lot, slept a lot. Eventually, her mom and me convinced her to go see a therapist, which helped a lot. She got through it a few years ago.\n\nHowever, during this period of depression, she got drunk once and kissed another guy. She confessed the next day, we got into a fight but I found it in myself to forgive her. She told me that part of her was sad that she never had a truly wild period because she met me so early on and this also influenced her action.\n\nAnother thing about my gf is that she can be either really passionate about friends or not at all, and that she easily becomes friends with guys. She always kept me in the loop and told me if she was feeling attracted to other guys. I also sometimes feel attracted to other girls, but we don't act upon it so that's fine. These tight friendships usually only last a couple of months after which they sizzle down, either to regular friendships or to just acquaintances. A few guys are also friends with me who I trust so I am 99% sure nothing happened.\n\nCue to last year. During the summer, she met a guy while she was on holiday while I had to work. She became tight friends, and when she got home she told me about him. During the next month, she is texting him a lot, which isn't that unusual but every time I glanced at her phone when she was near me, she would turn away or close her phone. I mentioned this to her and she claimed that she doesn't like being checked and that she always does that. I admit that I only noticed it because I was already feeling a bit suspicious, so maybe that part was true.\n\nA week or so, my suspicions had grown a lot and I took the low road: I checked her phone (I know, asshole move). In their texts, he talked about how he loves her and she talked about missing him. She said that she liked him more than she wanted, but that they could never be a couple because she is together with me and she didn't want to give up a 7 year relationship for a fling. I only read a bit since my emotions were acting up, but I am 100% sure they didn't have sex since she told him she doesn't want to. I don't actually know if they kissed, she said no but I don't know if I can trust her. We got into a huge fight, but in the end I decided to let things cool of. The fight came up again and I said that I don't trust her completely anymore, she admitted that she still regrets never having a fling or sex with another man. In the end we decided to split up for 2 months and see where we stand afterwards. Since this is such a big issue for her I don't think we'll get through it if I don't at least let her experience what single life as an adult is like. She told me I am also free to do what I want, it doesn't bother her according to her. I don't have any interest but she sounded sincere at least. I told her I don't know how I'll react and that's a risk she is going to have to take.\n\nWe are currently 1 month into the break (insert Ross gif). I am still not trusting her again completely, and I am not sure I ever will. The thing is, I still love her very much and find it hard to imagine life without her. The reason for my trust issues is that I am an insecure person and I am afraid she will either fall really in love with the guy from holiday or find someone else that she loves more than me. I know that can happen with anyone, regardless of context and history, but I can't get over this feeling it seems. I'm trying to, maybe I can someday, but maybe not.\n\nI know I have only told my side of the story. I know I am a quiet person and not very passionate about anything (just who I am, maybe autistic traits but never tested). I do try to show her I love her but she does accuse me of never coming up with or organizing something exciting. I'm not an entrepreneur while she comes from a family of self employed, I just work my job and that's enough for me. I don't really make big plans for the appartment, she usually does. I know this makes me a bit boring while  she is usually in charge of the fun stuff unless it's meeting up with friends, we organize easily in that matter. On the other hand I'm reliable and there for her when she needs me or my help. I mostly put her first when deciding on my schedule or drop plans if she needs me. Bottom line is that we both have our merits and flaws, I don't want to break her down.\n\nWIBTA for waiting for another month hoping I can trust her again or is that unfair to her or to myself? Should I talk to her about this?\n\nExtra: WIBTA for asking her to let me go through their texts again as this could be an easy way to confirm I can trust her?\n\nSorry for rambling, I'm too close to the situation to think clearly.\n\nTl;dr gf of 7 years has history of emotional attachment with close guy friends, she developed a crush on the last one. Currently on a break because she hid it and I don't know what happened between them (100% no sex though) which is making it hard to start trusting her again. Might be an asshole for the way I am handling it.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}462{"id": "flcErmn7lsZiybTYEhsqMTY7a5MkJ4Us", "post_id": "ax0ik6", "action": {"description": "not giving my sister in law a ride when she claims she doesn't need to have a license or car to drive her and her two year old son around", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA Because I won't give my sister in law a ride when she claims she doesn't need to have a license or car to drive her and her two year old son around?", "text": "She  says doesn't need to get a license or drive because she won't ever need  it. Constantly asks my wife for rides, or asks my wife to ask me for  rides from place to place. Claims she can't afford a taxi/uber/lyft, and  refuses to take a bus. She lives with her mother and her son's father  has a warrant out and is on the run.\n\nShe  gets her tax refund back ($2k+) about a week ago and only has about  $600 left. What did she buy? Chinese and pizza delivery, coach bags, Air  Jordans for her toddler.. etc... My mother in law did the same thing.  She also claims poverty about gas and not being able to drive her  daughter (my sister in law) anywhere.\n\nAm  I the asshole because I know what her tendencies are and I refuse to  drive her anywhere? They try to make me feel like an asshole asking me  to. It feels unfair even being asked - I just got home from a 12 hour  shift and I want to relax. I've already stated my case to them. If you  claim you don't need a car, then get used the bus or paying for a  taxi/uber/lyft.\n\nOr walking.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}463{"id": "hhzhlrjVy9LPXnY70blaq0IwcBc1ZjkC", "post_id": "ad8rbj", "action": {"description": "being salty about family visiting & having sex", "pronormative_score": 39, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for being salty about family visiting & having sex?", "text": "To preface this, I'm currently crashing at my mother's 1 bedroom apt while I'm looking to get a new job & move out. So my sister (20's) & her boyfriend(50's) drove in from 5 hours away to visit us for the weekend. My mom offered them her bedroom so they wouldn't spend $$ on a hotel, & her & I would sleep on the couch, no biggie. Meanwhile bad timing, mom ended up sick with bronchitis & not feeling well, I'm taking care of her the whole night. \n\nThey went out all evening & came in after midnight. I was exhausted as last few nights i didn't get much sleep & I also have been feeling ill, so I was tossing & turning, didn't end up falling asleep til after 4 am. While at 3am I hear moaning, & sure enough I had to hear them having sex... in mom's bed... While we're just on the other side of the wall on the couch. \n\nI'm thinking WTF? They're adults & couldn't wait 1 day to fuck back at home, but instead decided a family audience Next to them was no obstacle? Next morning they shower & eat breakfast with us like nothing happened. After they finally leave, we change the sheets & clean up the place. I brought it up as I was grossed out & apparently mom didn't hear them (she was passed out). She's not as bothered about this as I am, probably bc she didn't have to hear it. \n\nAm I wrong for feeling they betrayed home boundaries & were just disrespectful for that choice? Am I just being cranky while I'm exhausted & sick? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 31, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 39, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}464{"id": "JoBvY6MsMIu5xyHgcvQumpkvhTsQ9yi9", "post_id": "acwicb", "action": {"description": "not wanting my girlfriend's best friend to come on holiday with us", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my girlfriend's best friend to come on holiday with us?", "text": "A bit of background...\n\nMy girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. She's in Asia I'm in UK.\n\nShe was with me and my fault over the Christmas period and we talked about going away in April to Taiwan.\n\nShe mentioned to her best friend (female) who asked if she could come with us. I'm not particularly close to this friend. I don't dislike her but I just don't know her.\n\nMy girlfriend was keen on the idea and gave me some reasons why it would be nice for her friend to come. These were she hardly ever gets to travel (a lie, she's always travelling) and she can't really afford to travel alone.\n\nI don't really want her friend to come but this flagged up when me that maybe my girlfriend doesn't actually want to holiday with me. \n\nI think i would not be the asshole to say no to this. I'm wondering if this points to a bigger problem in our relationship. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}465{"id": "Fxaj6ik3xJLqxAQRCp0qAc0FoQwDYQCv", "post_id": "a8qfbt", "action": {"description": "shouting at neighbores for being loud", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for shouting at neighbores for being loud?", "text": "It has been weeks since i am asking my neighbores on daily basis to be quiet a bit so i can sleep (and they never bother to care or even lower thier voice) to they are very loud from morning to 4am so 2 days ago at 2:30 am i went to tell them that i cant sleep at all , they started telling me stuff like \"oh , so are you going to say that everyday ?\" And \"we study at night too , you are not the only one that studiest at night\" and complete bs so i just found myself yelling and i remember insulting them by saying to one of them \"idiot , stupid\" and then when i went back to my room i heard them from my window still talking loudly so i shouted and said \" you are a bunch of disabled retards\" then 5 minutes later they told my mum that i  insulted thier religion and i am pretty sure i didnt say one single swear word neither insult anyone's religion  and my mum didnt believe it anyway (they are still kind of loud anyway)\n\n\nTL;DR neighbores being loud till 3am everyday , i ask them to be quiet everyday and they just never lower thier voice , got sick of it and shouted at them then they told my mum that i insulted thier religion and mum didnt believe it anyway + they are still kind of loud anyway\n\n\nAlso i want to know if i should apologise or not? and yes i tried white noise closing the windows.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}466{"id": "Gte2RQULfmTSFqgiJWUH6DHwFGcztfHr", "post_id": "as52ly", "action": {"description": "looking at porn", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For looking at porn", "text": "Now I know what the title looks like but it's not really how it happened.\n\n​\n\nEarlier in the day my (ex) girlfriend and I had gotten frisky. So we decided to take a few photos together, it was a first for us. We'd both really enjoyed it. Now around midnight we both get into bed and I'm browsing Reddit as usual and I make a joke we should post our photos on Gonewild or something of the sorts. She is straight away defensive and accuses me of being a bad boyfriend for wanting people to get off to a photo of us.\n\n​\n\nI agree (kinda) It was just a joke.\n\n​\n\nSo here's where the porn watching comes into it. She's seen Gonewild before from my previous history and she's stated she wasn't comfortable with me watching it. So i stopped. \n\nShe got curious, and asked to me to show her what these type of subs looked like, So I complied and showed her. \n\n​\n\nWe were both looking through it together. Naturally as a red-blooded male my pp got hard and she was very upset. She asked me if i'd found a certain post attractive (It was a male and female) and I didn't want to lie of course. So i said yes. \n\n​\n\nShe's now kicked me out of the house, and broken up with me. She claims I am a monster who doesn't take her feelings into consideration. I disagree, and I am quite frustrated this has happened. \n\n​\n\nReddit, I need to know.. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}467{"id": "rbWoloQZubWtJYFaPoTHw4KMu3d72Wx4", "post_id": "b3x29b", "action": {"description": "getting upset at my friend because she bullied my other friend last year", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting upset at my friend because she bullied my other friend last year?", "text": "Hi all. The title sounds a bit confusing, so here\u2019s the full thing. (Fake names are used)\n\nI met this girl named Maya this year in my 9th grade class (I\u2019m 15 years old). I didn\u2019t think I\u2019d ever talk with Maya, but we were put in a group project together, and soon started to talk with each other. We didn\u2019t exactly become best friends, but did hang out with each other some lunches.\n\nFast forward a bit to Monday, my other friend, Helen decided to hang out with us. Helen is quite shy, and does have anxiety, but she is a really good person to be friends with. While talking in a our group about people we didn\u2019t particularly like, Helen brought up that she actually used to be in Maya\u2019s friend group last year in middle school. She told us that Maya would constantly harass her, by showing/sending her nudes/gross pictures, reading out sexual stuff to her, making remarks about her body (She\u2019s around 5\u20190, while I\u2019m 5\u20196) and calling her a \u2018vampire\u2019 because she\u2019s quite pale. Helen would even go as far as to skip school just to get away from her. When I asked if she and Maya were on good terms now, Helen said that she never apologized for what she did to her, which made me angry.\n\nI haven\u2019t talked to Maya since Monday, and when she asked what was wrong, I told her that she should be ashamed of herself for what she did to Helen. She told me that she doesn\u2019t care, and that it shouldn\u2019t matter because it was a year ago. I said back to her that it doesn\u2019t matter, and that it still made Helen uncomfortable while she was around her. Maya said that I was just over reacting, and I didn\u2019t have to be such a bitch to her the past couple of days.\n\nSo, AITA?\n\n(Sorry for any spelling errors)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}468{"id": "pqTt3Xv1X9BFeomtL3tptYKu7gmLausp", "post_id": "aiih3v", "action": {"description": "wanting for brother to give me his monitor", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for wanting for brother to give me his monitor?", "text": "So me and my brother live in my parents house (don't worry though it's not like I'm 45) and he has a monitor he never uses. I love to play video games but I have a crappy monitor. My grandma gave it to him for no reason. She just didn't have a use for it. His is WAY better than mine. And I'm kinda broke and can't afford a good monitor. I asked him a few days ago about the monitor and got into an argument with him. He says he can hook it up with his devices which o guess is fair, but he doesn't even have a computer for it!\nNot to mention he has a laptop. If I save for a couple weeks I could buy a monitor, but the way I see it I could have one way faster. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}469{"id": "NwHAcNgtlfukSOheI0cAbu3acJkjYzLt", "post_id": "abfu3e", "action": {"description": "allegedly being a douchebag to Dad", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for allegedly being a douchebag to Dad", "text": "(This is my first post here, tell me if I do something wrong)\n\nSome context: \n\nMy birthday is right around christmas, and so usually my family combines both of those celebrations to get me one gift per year (I'm only 17, turning 18 soon, and so I live with both my parents). I know, it already sucks enough.\n\nI also have grown up with a huge respect for money, because I've not been allowed to have a job, so I spend the money that I get very wisely. That's why, I usually look to any opportunities to minimize family spending, meaning that I usually only ask for one expensive thing a year during that one period. That being said, if something is too expensive, if one of my parents tell me that buying that thing is impossible for financial reasons, then I've never argued with them about it.\n\nFor reasons that will become clear in a bit, I'm a decently athletic person, with a decently healthy lifestyle, and I go the the gym very regularly, though I don't enjoy exercising.\n\nNow to get into the story:\n\nI ask my dad for a set of those trendy new true wireless earbuds. The ones I request cost around $140. Pretty expensive, I know, but not out of this world costly. My dad says no, because he's ordered me an exercise bike/desk combo (yeah, seriously) that costs around $170.\n\nAs I said before, I'm a pretty healthy guy, so believe me when I say I do not need this bike. This is not a passive-aggressive push towards a better lifestyle because I'm not unhealthy to start with. Naturally, I politely tell my dad that I'd rather not get that, because for my yearly gift, I would rather have something that I actually want. I ask him to cancel the order. \n\nI'm fairly adamant about this, and my mom is on my side, and so one day my dad tells me that he ordered the earbuds. However, the ones he ordered are of much lower quality ($50) than the ones that I asked for. He orders them prior to telling me though, so I can't protest. However, he says that if the earbuds are not of good quality, he will return them.\n\nI'm somewhat peeved, but decide to give them a try. They arrive, I test them, and they're what I expected: okay but not great. I'm probably somewhat biased, but after reading reviews, it's clear that there is a significant drop in audio quality.\n\nSo, I text my dad if he can return them. Here's where the problems begin. He accuses me of taking him for granted and caring about simply the price of things instead of the feelings behind them. He claims that neither I, nor my brother (he's eight years old!) have any gratitude for him. \n\nI then explain excessively politely that I'm simply annoyed at how he always buys things first and then tells me after the fact (this has happened several times where he buys something different from what I ask, and I am too timid to speak out). \n\nThis receives no reply.\n\nI then say \"Also, about (brother). He is far too young for you to have the expectation of him showing gratitude. You can have it for me, but not for him. Please dont extend any of this onto him because he definitely doesnt deserve it.\"\n\nHe blows up and accuses me of teaching him how to parent, and refuses to speak to me afterwards, not replying to any explanations that I have.\n\nAITA for thinking that instead of buying a $170 chair and $50 earbuds, he could've simply bought the $140 earbuds and called it a day? \nAITA for expecting him to speak to me before buying stuff for me?\nAITA for trying to protect my brother from my dad's toxicity? \n\nFor the cherry on top:\n\nThe chair and the earbuds have not been returned. The earbuds are being charged and the bike has been assembled. I'm fairly sure that he's using both of them, or at least planning to. So I'm left with no present whatsoever. I'm suspicious that he bought the bike knowing he would be the one using it anyway. I'm not sure because we haven't spoken in three days.\n\nFor years now, my dad has emotionally blackmailed me in ways like this, and it always results in days of not speaking to eachother before my mom (an angel btw) convinces me to go and apologize several times to maintain the relationship. I'm beginning to think that silence is better than continuously sacrificing my dignity.\n\nHere's to the new year. \n\nP.S. The reason this is even a post is because of how convinced my dad is that he is right. Maybe there is something I'm missing.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}470{"id": "wJGYIIJY2vCPsefFbw8wdpayAvR42fAH", "post_id": "b2jai2", "action": {"description": "cutting off people from my life for triggering my ptsd", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for cutting off people from my life for triggering my PTSD", "text": "some background: So the people in this story are as follows: K - A long time friend. S - K's Girlfriend \n\nI'm on mobile so sorry for format\n\nA few days ago I was getting ready for a dnd session as planned, when I got messages from half the people that they wouldn't be able to make it. That's no big deal. I have a one shot prepared, and all I need is another player. \n\nI had messaged K assuming she would want to play, and when she failed to respond for 15 minutes I hoped in the voice chat she, and S were talking in and asked her. S blew her top and muted me and started screaming that I was worthless and a piece of shit, not giving me a chance to defend myself. S knows fully well that this triggers my PTSD and I go non-verbal. Nobody can get a peep out of me once my flashbacks start. \n\nfast forward a few minutes after she stops yelling, and I manage to quell my flashbacks enough to pass off ownership of the server, and I leave. I promptly blocked the two of them, both K, and S, after K tried to guilt trip me that S was only joking around and that I need to grow up.\n\nI then created a new server for everyone from my dnd game without K or S.\n\nSo reddit, am I the asshole? Or are these two fuck nuts the assholes.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}471{"id": "SUHkIbfmBDBbEZgJNI6D53GmY7Eh33kZ", "post_id": "ak3liu", "action": {"description": "not disclosing I get cold sores", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA I didn\u2019t disclose I get cold sores", "text": "Facts:\n\nWe are both female. \n\nRight now we live 2000 miles apart. \n\nWe are coming up on one year together. \n\nThis marks the 4th cold sore I\u2019ve ever gotten in my life. \n\nThis morning I sent a pic of my lip to my gf. She flipped out. \n\nI thought she was messing with me when she said \u201cI asked you in the beginning if you were clean\u201d \n\nI was floored and then my chest started to burn. \n\nShe kept reiterating that I have herpes. \n\nI did not disclose that I get cold sores because while I do know they are a strain of herpes it is not the same as hsv2 AND I have had so few in my life it doesn\u2019t even ping my radar until I get one. \n\n I would never kiss her or perform oral if I had an active cold sore. \n\nI feel completely humiliated. \n\nAm I the asshole here? Are cold sores something I need to add to my statement when we discuss STD\u2019s? \n\ntldr: I get cold sores. I didn\u2019t disclose before today and my gf freaked out on me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}472{"id": "Jcg2ALjeY45F0PCka2CgQMVT49phZ9Di", "post_id": "b6oki3", "action": {"description": "telling my wife to check her sugar", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Telling My Wife to Check Her Sugar?", "text": " I've been with my wife for almost 4 years. We have one child together, and she's pregnant with our second. She's a great mother and partner, and I love her to death. She is currently about 8 months pregnant. She has gestational diabetes, so she is forced to eat a diabetic diet and check her blood sugars.\n\nThroughout the pregnancy, she has been on and off about eating healthy and checking her sugars. She was very busy with work and school during the first trimester, so she primarily ate fast food between classes, etc and didn't check her sugar. I didn't really find out about her diet until later on when she said she was too busy/stressed to eat healthy.\n\nI try to do everything I can to help and be supportive. I almost always have a diabetic-friendly dinner made for when she gets home and lunches packed for her. If she is out running errands and hungry, I tell her to text me before she gets home and I'll make sure there's healthy food ready for her. I also do the majority of our cleaning to keep her from being stressed. In my mind, we're in the pregnancy together, and I want to do everything I can to help keep her and our baby healthy.\n\nFor awhile, she was rarely taking her blood sugar. She was busy, stressed, and I think the pregnancy emotions were making things very difficult. After eating fast food (5 months pregnant), she came back home and I told her she really needs to take her blood sugar. She was annoyed, but took it to basically appease me. It was almost 300. For those unaware, those are dangerous levels. She took that as a reality check and started to manage her gestational diabetes better.\n\nShe finished school around 6 months. For the next couple months, AFAIK, she was doing better. The other day (8 months pregnant), she came home with fast food. I asked her why she didn't message me to make her food\u2014she said she didn't think about it. I don't expect her to be perfect, so I just asked her to please take her blood sugar in an hour so we can manage it through exercise or whatever if necessary.\n\nAn hour passes by, I remind her, ask her if she wants me to get her supplies for her, etc. She said no she'll get it. Another 20 minutes passes, she said she is busy scheduling appointments. I told her I would literally bring it right to her since blood sugar is time-sensitive, and that her health is more important, but she needs to take it. She throws her papers in the air, yells that I'm annoying and nagging, and storms out of the house.\n\nI can see how it can be perceived as nagging, but it's not only her health, it's also our daughter's. It's frustrating because I'm completely reliant on her actions\u2014all I can do is try to make sure we have healthy food available and ready. We had a rough last pregnancy (ended up fine and healthy). So far through her appointments, everything has looked okay, but I'm still nervous about the birth.\n\nAm I nagging? Should I just let her do her thing and not worry so much? Or is she out of line getting pissed at me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}473{"id": "uULphOaheiqFAFlxHVJdryZif9LOoN6o", "post_id": "aodhik", "action": {"description": "cutting off my teenage son", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for cutting off my teenage son?", "text": "My son is currently 5'6 and 230 pounds, at the age of 17. Not a healthy weight at all! We have tried everything to help him lose weight and live a healthier lifestyle. I cook as many healthy dishes as I can, we measure and weigh all of his portions at home, and we've even dished out hundreds on personal trainers for him to try and help him get more active, but our efforts have not helped him at all. \n\n\n\nAll that being said, we give all of our children a $25 a week allowance for helping out around the house. While it may not be much, it usually covers anything they may want to do with friends, and of course they are free to save up if they choose. Recently however, it just dawned on us just how much of that money is going to my son's fast food habit: every single cent. We found a bunch of receipts he left lying around after cleaning out his backpack that showed us he eats out almost every single day!\n\n\n\nAfter confirming with him that this was all true, my husband and I decided to cut him off. He wouldn't have to help out if he didn't want to around the house anymore, but we aren't giving him an allowance anymore. We told him that at his age, if he wants to ruin his body then he can do it on his own dime by finding a job. \n\n\n\nThat said, obviously until he does so we aren't actually going to cut him off. If his friends are going out, we'll give him a few bucks, we just don't want him to have the means of eating out as often as he does.\n\n\n\nAnyways, this has been a cause of a whole bunch of arguing in the house. He's saying he's too busy  with school, and that it's unfair that he gets nirbinfi while his siblings  still get an allowance, so if you have any opinions on this, please let me know! \n\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}474{"id": "on5q7TmcQfGyofUT3l9iUS4tvYPYhvHr", "post_id": "avskrw", "action": {"description": "not keeping in touch with my friend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not keeping in touch with my friend?", "text": "Hello! English is not my native language, I apologize for any mistakes. \nI stayed in touch with 4 girls from my friend group in high school (we're 23 now). We'll call the friend in question Amy.\n\nThe problem between us started when we would meet (the 4 of us) and I noticed she would take very minimal part of the conversation. She is very easily distracted, and usually about 50% of the time we hang out she will be on her phone chatting to other friends, or she falls asleep and asks to wake her when we're leaving, which we gave her shit about constantly but she would see it as a joke and part of her personality and wouldn't really stop. \n\nI think it's rude and after a while I kind of stopped putting effort in keeping in touch, and she in turn didn't do much on her side. \nThe 2 other girls from the original group and I all live nearby so I see them quite often, though rarely as a group. \nOnly 1 friend remained in semi-regular contact with her (Kate). \n\nAmy is going on a trip that will possibly last a few months and she sent a text in our group chat that if we want to see her before this we should do something about it. \nI thought it was bizarre that she sent that text in a chat that's been dead for the last year, and couldn't meet her in the time frame anyway so I didn't respond. \n\nKate met with her yesterday and she mentioned that Amy was hurt that me and the other friend didn't reach out. I felt quite bad about it honestly, but after I thought about it a little I'm not so sure she's in the right. \n\nI think that it's weird that she got offended with how distant we've obviously become, but maybe she felt that we were still close? AITA? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}475{"id": "9KKWens750D9sk0qXSoUaGkMkJBPmOTy", "post_id": "ag2ex8", "action": {"description": "discriminating on when/where I choose to tip", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for discriminating on when/where I choose to tip?", "text": "I get takeout a few times each wk from a cpl local restaurants I've frequented for years and never tip. I don't don't think much of it. The exception is if I am ordering takeout from a new or different restaurant that does not know me and the food is not ready by the time I arrive. I tip bc I don't want the person or people in charge of my order putting my food together like shit. I feel like this is more of an issue at foreign restaurants as well. Esp if/when they're speaking a different language. What's the consensus on this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}476{"id": "kgMcLcf1FUY2y0L6eUdXmZ8D8AN6X1GW", "post_id": "b109no", "action": {"description": "not wanting to reply to my uncle's message because of his racist Facebook posts", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to reply to my uncle's message because of his racist Facebook posts?", "text": "I only met this uncle once in my life and he doesn't live in the same country as me. \n\nMy dad has told me lots of weird things about my uncle, like how he married a girl he met whilst she was under age and 30 years younger than him. He lies a lot and pretends to get married to different women and divorced again, all without the rest of the family ever seeing these people. \n\nMy dad is communicating with my uncle again but my dad complains that my uncle is asking him for money, for favours etc. \n\nI feel no connection to this uncle and I saw on Facebook he posts ignorant thing about 'muslims taking away our pork'...Which is ridiculous. Loud, outspoken but ignorant people really annoy me and I don't really want a relationship with my uncle. He posts angry rants on Facebook and it makes me uncomfortable so I 'unfollowed' him. \n\nBut AITA for not replying to his message to me which just asks how I've been etc? I'm 24 years old and we haven't seen each other since I was 4 and I don't plan on seeing him either. Does being family mean I should reply to him? To be honest I don't really like messaging anyone on Facebook and prefer talking face to face. I don't want to get into a back and fourth conversation with him. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}477{"id": "i5GYplRSsiv2XLJZfunUvglrNq9U7S8I", "post_id": "ay68ry", "action": {"description": "kicking a guest out of my party for not socializing", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 55}, "title": "AITA For kicking a guest out of my party for not socializing?", "text": "This past Friday, I had a party at my house. I invited a few friends and coworkers over for some drinks, games and food. One particular guest was sort of a plus one, but not really. He was the friend of a coworker that had invited him along, but they came to the party separately. I thought it was no big deal, we had plenty of food and drinks to go around.\n\nIt was about 20 minutes in when I noticed this guy standing around awkwardly. So I asked if everything was alright, and he said yes. He said that no one was talking to him. So I talked with him for a moment, learned more about him. Then, I introduced him to a friend of mine who had similar interests. They chatted for a bit, but 5 minutes later, I saw him standing alone again. I asked what\u2019s up, and he said no one was talking to him.\n\nI asked where my friend was, and he just shrugged. I suggested that he join a game of uno going on, but he refused. I suggested he mingle, and he also refused.\n\nNow this is where I started to get annoyed. He says no one is talking to him, despite the fact that he was being talked to earlier. And he says no one is talking to him, when he can go up to someone and say \u201cHi\u201d. At this point, I\u2019m starting to see what\u2019s going on; he just wants to feel sorry for himself, or he wants everyone else to drop what they\u2019re doing and make him feel less awkward. So I told him that if he\u2019s just going to stand around, he can leave. He did, and I let his friend (my coworker) know.  She said it was shitty to tell him to leave, but I explained that he wasn\u2019t making the effort to socialize with others, and I didn\u2019t have time to drag him around to make him talk to people. AITA for this?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 54, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 55}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}478{"id": "FTKA5xSSet4sZYdngDZalsfcVhql2C27", "post_id": "af8un7", "action": {"description": "not sharing food with my best friend", "pronormative_score": 29, "contranormative_score": 94}, "title": "AITA for not sharing food with my best friend", "text": "My best friend and I live together. He doesn't pay any bills, he lives here for free. He doesn't pay for groceries. He doesn't have a car, I take us everywhere. \n\nSometimes he's loud, sometimes he's dirty and he smells, but I put up with it all because he's my best friend. \n\nNow, on to the question, everytime I eat he wants a portion of my meal. It's not like he doesn't have food either, I always make sure there's enough food for both of us - albeit not always the same type of food. He doesn't outrightly say anything, he usually just stares at me until either I give in or don't. Usually I do. \n\n[Pic for context.](https://i.imgur.com/8QJkJle.jpg)\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 91, "OTHER": 26, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 29, "WRONG": 94}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}479{"id": "rM3961vGXfseVosOWeGeTyEpGhQKLEl6", "post_id": "al78kc", "action": {"description": "getting upset when my girlfriend told me about rumors about a party", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For getting upset when my girlfriend told me about rumors about a party", "text": "My girlfriend went to this party saturday and i didnt want to go because i hate parties, Every party i went to there were fights or someone getting cheated on or something not good. So she went and everything was good.\n        Then today she calls me and says rumors are going around the school about her cheating on me. We talk and i know her history with achohal and guys she has never cheated but she tried a few times when drunk. So with her saying its not true and i have super fucking bad anxitey about getting cheated on so im upset and i dont fully trust her so i talk to my friends about the party and 1 of them is 100% convinced that she cheated. I meet with my girlfriend (at mcdonalds) and i text the guy that she (might of) cheated on me with. He denies it and says people are trying to get us to fight. Then after my girlfriend leaves and calls me 20 min later saying how i should leave her and shes not good for me. Am i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}480{"id": "TPG9rNpZybbkm93jWFdEhuuZXZfS36QA", "post_id": "a2ajcd", "action": {"description": "blocking a friend who I knew had anger management issues because I was tired of their aggressive behavior towards me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for blocking a friend who I knew had anger management issues because I was tired of their aggressive behavior towards me?", "text": "Here's why I'm wondering if I'm the asshole- I knew going into the friendship that she had anger management issues, PTSD & other issues.\n\nWe got along well most of the times, but sometimes I'd just say something and she'd flip her shit. It's gotten worse lately.\n\n* I asked her not to vent about Discord too me, because I'd left discord, and because it was a trigger I was working though at the time. She exploded saying I was \"the only fucking person I could talk to about it\" and an hour later, after I didn't talk to her, she said fine and she would treat it like a trigger. I said thank you. She refused to talk to me for 3 days after that. \n\n* She said she was happy she attacked her mother & put her in the hospital, and that she would attack one of my friends and put him in the hospital if she could (luckily, she's in a different country than she is)\n\n* She has gotten banned from several places because she told someone she hoped they would die, and that she would kill her. \n\n* She accused me of not replying to her fast enough then refused to talk to me the next morning (this is why I blocked her, finally; and it's why I feel bad. It's not a huge issue, I was just so tired of the bullshit).\n\nShe was often sweet... \n\nI feel really bad for blocking her and still do, because I know she struggles with anger issues... but I just can't deal anymore.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}481{"id": "wr6IMzXw0CKYK3hHaMRW0CVM3OFWGxtH", "post_id": "ap9bzq", "action": {"description": "talking about my housemate behind their back", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for talking about my housemate behind their back?", "text": "I am a university student and I live with three other people, all students. Overall, we are relatively clean. We have weekly chores that we are all assigned, and the general rule is to wash your dishes within the day you use them. \n\nOn Tuesday, we noticed one housemate (let's call them Housemate A) had not done their dishes in a while. They were starting to pile up and they hadn't been washed out (there was food stuck to them). I had seen an ant in the apartment earlier so I sent a message to the group chat, asking everyone to remember to do their dishes within 1-2 days to avoid bugs. Housemate A responded, saying they could probably not do the stack of dishes until the weekend. They said they were busy since they had 4 midterms, and had no time. I was a little peeved but I told them that I understood they were busy.   \nFast forward to Thursday night, and the dishes were still not done. There was a dead fly in one of the cups, the plates and bowls were not rinsed out, and they were starting to smell. It was so gross. One of the housemates and I started complaining to each other in the kitchen, just saying that we were grossed out, and it was incredibly annoying that Housemate A had left them this long, *especially when we have a dishwasher*. Said nothing bad about them as a person, but we expressed our general annoyance and exasperation with the situation. \n\nThe next morning, we wake up to see that the housemate has posted a long rant on their Snapchat about people they trusted talking behind her back, talking shit, etc. We realized that they probably heard us discussing the dish situation the previous night before. They posted all these quotes about how people are quick to criticize but never congratulate them on their accomplishments -- just generally really passive-aggressive stuff. I feel bad for complaining to my other housemate, but I also don't think they should have left their dishes that long when we have a dishwasher. It's been three days and they have yet to say a word to me or the other housemate; it's pretty obvious they are ignoring us and giving us the cold shoulder. Were we assholes for talking behind their back? I don't want to lose our friendship over this, but I also think they are slightly overreacting. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}482{"id": "HZouk8VntubLCcWWT48TNIXZj7soJ7H6", "post_id": "b74z64", "action": {"description": "not forgiving my mom for being transphobic after somebody influenced her", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not forgiving my mom for being transphobic after somebody influenced her?", "text": "So, I'm trans, if that wasn't obvious.\n\nMy mom and I have a complicated relationship, and she isn't exactly the greatest mom in the world, but she had always been supportive of me being trans. Until last month.\n\nSeemingly out of nowhere, she started questioning how I \"knew\" I was trans and if there could be some \"underlying cause\" that was just making me think I was. I kept telling her that uh, no, I'm actually trans, and that isn't how it works. She didn't believe me, and started insisting I see a different therapist to get a \"second opinion\" on my own gender identity. She also tried to keep me from seeing my current therapist, who specializes in working with LGBT people and who I've seen for 3+ years, because she wasn't asking these questions and was just \"encouraging it\". At one point she even considered talking to my doctor to try and take me off my hormone replacements, which I've been taking for over two years.\n\nI was a complete wreck. I had never felt so betrayed in my life. Dramatic as it sounds, it felt like I didn't even know my mom anymore. Every time I tried to talk to her about this it ended with me leaving the room in tears. This wouldn't have been such a big deal if I was independent, but because of debilitating anxiety issues I have to rely on my mom for a lot, and she was basically trying to cut me off from the things that had been helping me the most for years. I was terrified.\n\nThis goes on for a few weeks, and then as soon as it started, it stopped. I was relieved but extremely confused, because at first my mom refused to tell me anything. After I kept pushing for answers she finally told me that a friend of hers had been influencing her and putting harmful transphobic ideas in her head, and my mom believed them. She finally snapped out of it because she saw how it was affecting me and didn't want our relationship to be ruined because of something like this.\n\nAnd, well, I'm having trouble forgiving her. I was really hurt by all of this and I felt like a huge amount of trust had been broken. I'm constantly questioning how much she actually accepts me and I'm afraid to be as open with her as I used to. Plus, she trusted the words of somebody who doesn't even support trans people over mine. She understands why I'm not over it, but she's also kind of pushing me to \"move on, it's over\". Should I just forgive and forget? I want to believe nothing like this would happen again, but I was led to believe that nothing like this would have happened in the first place, so I don't know.\n\nI suppose on the bright side, my mom's looking into family therapists for the two of us to talk to, so hopefully that'll do some good.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}483{"id": "mwOJFJjCcBVpCOI80kvjZSIGABASsSN4", "post_id": "b6uqiy", "action": {"description": "not being able to be in a relationship with someone that can't be intimate", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not being able to be in a relationship with someone that can\u2019t be intimate?", "text": "I\u2019ve been with this amazing girl for about a year now. She\u2019s funny, smart, kind and my friends and family all love her. But I get the feeling that I\u2019ve only been with her for so long because I feel sorry for her. \n\nHere\u2019s a bit of background on us. We met on an online dating app last year and have both come out of abusive long term relationships and kinda bonded over some shared experiences and the fact that we\u2019re both decent, caring people. The trouble is that, although we\u2019ve been together for so long and have tried to be intimate a few times, it just doesn\u2019t seem to happen. \n\nShe gets aroused and everything and even initiates the sexy time escapades but I can\u2019t penetrate her. I do know she\u2019s a virgin (not sure if that matters) but as an adult in a relationship, it\u2019s hard not being intimate after being together for over a year. \n\nWe\u2019ve been together through some tough times and we know that we\u2019re always there to support each other, but without that physical part of the relationship, I just don\u2019t know if I feel like I\u2019m in love with her or whether I just love her as a person? \n\nWe\u2019ve had conversations about this before and she says that she\u2019d understand if I left, but I can\u2019t do it because she doesn\u2019t have any friends or family to care for her. And I just want her to be safe (she has a crazy ex husband that has threatened her many times before) and most of all I want her to be happy.\n\nAny advice would appreciated guys ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}484{"id": "AEp3warXzUxHokfgBt2fMW8kXVKJ36DR", "post_id": "am0har", "action": {"description": "asking my neighbor to keep it down in this way", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my neighbor to keep it down in this way?", "text": "I'm in my bed awake at 3:37 AM as we speak because my next door neighbor has woken me up, again. He does this, on both week days and weekends, by coming home (seemingly wasted) with friends and shouting in the hallway until they get to his place. Even once they're there, he's so loud that I can hear him through the concrete walls of our building. Every time, I can kiss a productive workday the next day goodbye. \n\nThe work thing is not the worst part. I also have Juvenile Myoclonic Epilepsy, with which I get seizures only if I am sleep deprived. Awakening startled from sleep is the #1 trigger for a seizure. But, he doesn't know this. I've actually never even spoken to this person, I just pass him in the hallway, at which point he avoids my gaze. Tried to be friendly but feel like he doesn't give me the opportunity. \n\nApparently I'm a wuss and afraid of confrontation, so I left him a note on his door that said exactly the following: \"Please be considerate of your neighbors when coming home after 12am. Have a lot of early mornings. No hate, just would appreciate it. Thank you :)\" \n\nAnd yes, I did draw a smiley face lol. I really didn't want this to get ugly with someone I have to live next to. \n\nThen I popped some meditation music into some headphones. But THEN, I hear him THROUGH the music I'm playing (again, in headphones) and take them off, and hear him saying \"....and she tells ME to keep it down?!\"...among other undetectable things. He was pissed, and I was shocked. If I received a note like that, I think my reaction would have been \"omg, I had no idea I was being loud, I'm so sorry, I'm mortified.\" Instead, he's angry. At ME. \n\nI'm also not sure what he's talking about when he says that, I'm an extremely boring neighbor and don't even have people over because I live in a tiny studio apartment, lol. I try so hard to be undetectable. \n\nI actually thought I had left him the note after people had left as to not embarrass him, but it turns out there was still one person still left over. As they left, he made a point of shouting even louder in the hallway. \"BYE!.....BYE AGAIN!....TEXT ME WHEN YOU GET HOME!.....GOOODNIGHT!....\"\n\n?? This is a child, right? I mean, we all make mistakes, but if I found out I was waking people up, I would apologize. Instead, looks like I just made it worse for myself. Am I the asshole for leaving him this note?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}485{"id": "IGUtg9MpaPVawjmiRKpjaaLlFtjbgKHU", "post_id": "ao4454", "action": null, "title": "AITA? HVAC man charged 300 for work and I think I want my money back($300)?", "text": "My heater went out in my house. Entire line was dead. I tracked it down the fusebox and called a HVAC guy to come change the fuse box.\n\nI should also mention there is fusebox disconnect that I had assumed was my furnace but I am not an AC guy. \n\nThe HVAC guy comes in and tests the disconnect (believes it goes to my electric furnace) and there is power from the disconnect but there is no power to the furnace. He claims the fusebox is fine and that I shouldnt fix what isnt broken.\n\nHe cuts the wire from the aforementioned disconnect and runs to the furnace with a new wire directly to it.\n\nHe leaves after I pay him 300 dollars for this.\n\nWell come to find out that disconnect was my fucking stove. I no longer have an oven working.\n\nMy friend comes by the next day and starts finding all sorts of things wrong with his installation. \n\nI end up paying someone else to install a breaker box in place of the old fuse box and now everything works again like it should.\n\nAITA for wanting my money back?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}486{"id": "oMTSsHNOEfXgGqkrxo0WuzDPNpHGgjT9", "post_id": "b77lhe", "action": null, "title": "AITA if my boss is trying to steal my day off?", "text": "Me and 3 friends have planned a weekend getaway for a BSB concert in August. The concert is on Saturday, and 6 hours drive time away. I work M-F and am off weekends, so I requested Thurs, Fri, and Mon off of work so that I can pack Thursday, drive Friday, concert Saturday, drive home Sunday. I took Monday off to relax at home before work again. I put in this request at the end of November and my Supervisor approved it. Now, my department is made up of just me and my supervisor at the moment, as work is slow and corporate has recently deemed we didn't need to hire a replacement for a co-worker that left in October. We are the only 2 people that can do what we do, but have been able to manage with just one of us for recent vacations.\nThis past Monday, my supervisor says to me:\n\nSupervisor: I forgot to tell you! I hate BSB but I'm going to one of their concerts.\n\nMe: Oh, nice. Where?\n\nS: Hershey Park.\n\nM: How funny, that's the day after my BSB concert. Do you plan on going to the park?\n\nS: maybe saturday. My friend really loves BSB and was sad tickets were so expensive nearby so this weekend her and some friends decided to buy tickets to Hershey because they were way cheaper. And I decided why the hell not, and have a girls trip. My friends got floor seats for around $300 which i didn't want to pay so I got seats in the 300 level for around $50, but I'll walk around to visit them. I told the manager that I'll be needing that Monday off.\n\nM: Oh, well I already requested that Monday off and you approved it, so...\n\nS: I'll be 4 hours away so I don't know how I'll be back in time for work Monday\n\nM: I'll be 6 hours away, so... *blink, blink*\n\nS: I'm sure we can figure something out by then. It's 4 months away. \n\nSo after that little exchange, I made sure to go to our manager and explain that the day my Supervisor told her she needed off, I had already requested and was approved for. Just in case things couldn't be \"worked out.\"\n\nAITA if I refuse to give up my Monday off because my supervisor decided to schedule a trip and buy tickets before making sure the day was available?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}487{"id": "PubdI30aiv7M1tYCs5IaxZrIgqOUB0Bb", "post_id": "b20r0j", "action": {"description": "not wanting to watch my brother", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to watch my brother?", "text": "so a little bit of background, my parents adopted a boy from China back in 2015 and I was super exited to have a little bro since my older one never lived with us. I'm 19 and still living in my parents house until I finish hs\n\n​\n\nnow onto the tea. My mom is a flight attendant and is constantly away on trips, even more so now that my parents are getting a divorce and she wants to be away from the constant yelling and save up for a new place. My dad on the other hand is former military and a MMA teacher. When my mom is away on trips, my dad is always at his girlfriends house or the bar drinking or playing his music. I've been asking to see my boyfriend for weeks now but every time I try to leave the house I get told that I need to stay home and babysit. When I confront my parents about wanting to have a normal life and go out they just tell me I live in their house so I gotta live by their rules. I don't want to move out yet since I know if I do, the poor kid will be left in the house all alone.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}488{"id": "Rf55F6mtif51OvPCdAh0QmvAusAlotF0", "post_id": "axnu24", "action": {"description": "calling out my friend/co-worker for calling in sick", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA because I called out my friend/co-worker for calling in sick?", "text": "I\u2019ll keep this as short as possible.\nI got him this job 5 years ago about 3 months after I started. He knows how to do about 5 tasks here while I know 40+ different tasks.\n\nHe isn\u2019t a very motivated person and lives with his parents without many bills to pay (he is in his 30s), but still never has money. \n\nWe get along fine at work for the most part, but he calls in sick. A LOT.\nThis is last year\u2019s list: Jan 16th - Tuesday\nFeb 5th - Monday\nFeb 26th - Monday\nMarch 12th - Monday\nMarch 26th - Monday\nApril 16th - Monday \nApril 17th - Tuesday \nJune 4th - Monday\nJune 26th - Tuesday\nJuly 16th - Monday\nAugust 13th - Monday\nAugust 14th - Tuesday\nSeptember 18th -Tuesday\nSeptember 19th - Wednesday \nOctober 23rd - Tuesday\nNovember 6th - Tuesday\nNovember 14th - Wednesday\nNovember 15th - Thursday \nNovember 16th - Friday \n\u2014\nHe claims he is sick every one of these times. \nI got him this job so it kind of makes me look like an asshole having someone call out so much.\n\nI\u2019ve tried to give him the benefit of the doubt and ask him to see a doctor if he is truly sick this often. He gets moody and claims that the doctors just tell him to vitamins.\n\nThis has been going on for 5 years now without any slowing down. Other co workers are upset that he calls out so much because we are a small company (less than 10 people) so we struggle a bit when someone isn\u2019t here.\n\n\nAITA for calling him out on his bullshit? This is a very demanding job in the summer where we work 60 hours a week.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}489{"id": "KBZqkEhQQtbJ05A2DU2ixy8twaiGIHbN", "post_id": "aiiech", "action": {"description": "not talking to my brother", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not talking to my brother?", "text": "Excuse me for my grammer/spelling mistakes(english is not my first language.)\nBackround so me and my brother called brian are step brothers and he is the younger one(this is important for later on.) It started when he was around 9 i was about 11 at that point. He was starting to be mean to evreyone around him including our parents. I was very awkward and shy at that moment i had no self esteem so i was an easy target. I would be mean he would hit me and i wouldn't say anything(they didn't hurt.) But when i was 13 he became more aggressive he would hit me with objects. I actually hit him with my hand (not very hard) but he made into a whole scene and told my parents so i thought it was a fitting time to tell my parents. They were mad at me because he was younger this got me very angry because he was free to do whatever he wants. I am now 16 and he is 14 i only speak to him when it is neccary. But i feel horrible because this has caused a massive gap in our family. So tell me am i the asshole?\nP.s this is my first post so if i sound like a dumb 9 year old with my sentence structure it's because my sentences are exactly that", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}490{"id": "yFwBN98bbVOBw1m2es0scDKUcyZWQ7t7", "post_id": "an0vuc", "action": {"description": "being pissed of that dad gave a present to my sister that I wanted myself", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being pissed of that dad gave a present to my sister that I wanted myself?", "text": " For context; my sister (I'll call her Rachel) just turned 18 and I just turned 20. I emigrated at 16 years old with my mother and Rachel stayed with our father in her country. Our mom got diagnosed with cancer after 6 months and 2 years later she died. I still live alone in the other country.\n\nHer illness had different effects on the both of us. I had a lot of time with my mother and it allowed me to make peace with our limited time, but my life became really hard since I had to do a lot on my own and don't have a family near me that can support me, I am over stressed and am in the process of dropping out of (high?) school.\n\nI imagine that our moms death came fast for Rachel, but her life seems stable enough. I do know that she has a lot of emotional trouble, not a lot of friends and has problems with my father (he has the tendency to always complain about our mother, hurray) but she is economically supported and is encouraged to discover the world. She has one more year to go before she finishes college.\n\nPeople always had the tendency to compare us (as any other siblings) but it was terrible last summer. Rachel seemed reasonable happy, was having fun and just generally in a good mood, while I didn\u2019t know who I was anymore, felt like a complete and utter failure and I thought daily about commiting suicide. People saw that I wasn\u2019t happy and wanted to cheer me up by pointing out how Rachel and I are the same. It only made me feel worse since the things they said weren\u2019t correct.\n\nFast forward 2-3 months, I made it a point to concentrate on myself and find my own passions / hobbies (Rachel and I shared a lot of hobbies when we were younger) and do something that made me feel like my own person and not just a worse version of Rachel. I became interested in cooking and started to experiment more. November comes and I finally find something that I really like, cocktails.\n\nI got excited since it was almost my birthday and I would finally be allowed to buy alcohol at the liquor store (drinking age here is 18 but you can\u2019t buy anything above 3,5% until 20). I am looking up ingredients, shakers, types of alcohol etc. and deciding how to collect my own bar. I spoke about this new interest / hobby / passion with my dad and he seemed happy that I found something that really sparked joy for me.\n\nSo I finally found a shaker that I liked this week but I have to wait until end of this month or next month to make sure that I can afford to order it, I inform my dad that I found \u2018the one\u2019 and show him the picture. His reaction?\n\n\u2018Nice, I gave one to Rachel for her birthday.\u2019\n\nI have the tendency to be jealous of Rachel, since dad had the habit to treat her better than me in general when we were younger. These kind of actions don't help.\n\nAm I the asshole for being pissed of that he gave my sister a present for her birthday that I wanted to buy myself for my birthday and?  \nNote: I am disappointed that my present feels ruined, but I am not angry at Rachel.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}491{"id": "f0GgJgIE4JsyruW080KmOIlSFhahbOY9", "post_id": "awy8rh", "action": {"description": "not giving my ex her Christmas Present", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for not giving my ex her Christmas Present?", "text": "For Christmas I got my girlfriend two tickets to see one of her favorite artists in May. I never printed the tickets, only the digital receipt, so I still have the actual tickets in my possession. We long distance dated for three months and I broke up with her roughly a week ago because I didn\u2019t see the relationship going anywhere. It honestly should\u2019ve never started in the first place. She also has a horrible princess complex and has never been told \u201cno\u201d in her life. I actually found out I was the first guy to ever dump her. She hasn\u2019t been taking it well, and for the past few days she\u2019s been sending a LOT of derogatory texts.  She also keeps demanding that I \u201cowe her\u201d the concert tickets. I understand she\u2019s going through a bit of an emotional roller coaster right now, but with all the nasty things she\u2019s said to me I don\u2019t feel inclined to give her the tickets. So Reddit, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}492{"id": "KrMdxnFNbWK9ybsHqmWElQnJqYkjtVMZ", "post_id": "a0eg65", "action": {"description": "hoping sex workers get audited", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for hoping sex workers get audited?", "text": "The whole #thotaudit fiasco has me hoping that sex workers who don't pay taxes on their earnings deserve punishments. According to Twitter that makes me an asshole incel virgin woman hater. (seriously). I definitely don't like tax but that doesn't mean that they don't have to pay it because they are female. (Obviously there are some male ones and they should pay too but ultimately everyone defends them as their \"fellow women\") So AITA? (optional WIBTA: for reporting them to the IRS?)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}493{"id": "TAsizxOKdgGSmYTjPSQLe2AWRqshiFGG", "post_id": "9x10ik", "action": {"description": "not wanting to hangout with sick girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to hangout with sick girlfriend?", "text": "Some background:\n\nA couple of months ago I was sick. My girlfriend asked if I wanted anything and I said I was okay and could take care of myself. She had soup delivered to my apartment regardless. This was obviously a really sweet thing to do and I was very thankful. I expressed this to her. She also came over while I was sick to hangout despite my warnings that she would also get sick, which she did. \n\nFast forward to now, she is sick. When she told me, I asked if there is anything at all I could do. I told her I would get her soup and all that and she said she was okay and had no appetite. She said if I came over it would help. I have a pretty bad nose infection right now that has been effecting my lungs and I really don\u2019t want to get sick on top of that, especially because I leave soon for military training and any doctor visits need to get reported and come with a ton of paperwork (and in bad cases even a disqualification). I told her this and she got upset and we had a whole fight over it a couple of days ago. It was resolved mostly, and now today she again asked if I would have dinner with her tonight. Obviously, my answer was the same thing. She told me things like \u201cit says a lot about a person how they act when you\u2019re sick\u201d and that I\u2019m choosing a \u201c5% chance of a cough over hanging out with her before i leave for training\u201d and when I challenged that, she said she won\u2019t argue about it and will see me in a few days. \n\nI get that she was really attentive when I was sick and I appreciate that, but it feels like she\u2019s assuming I should act the same way regardless of circumstance. Am I the asshole for not hanging out with my sick girlfriend?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}494{"id": "ekm6QuZoJOg0xfNyq99zwRE79dPtT6du", "post_id": "azk5ts", "action": {"description": "removing the protective plastic off my friend's tv I was borrowing", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for removing the protective plastic off my friend's TV I was borrowing?", "text": "I didn't have a TV and my friend hasn't been able to use his due to work, school, and family so he let me borrow it for a while until I got my own which I did recently.\n\nI noticed that he left the protective plastic on the corners of the TV so I peeled it off. It wasn't blocking the view of the TV, just was around the trim. Still wasn't pleasant to look at. I didn't have anyone coming over but it was irritating to see it while I watched TV.\n\nHe got upset when he came to pick up the TV saying he's had it for years and didn't want the plastic removed. He didn't yell or curse or anything like that, just seemed irritated by it. I feel like he should have taken it off anyway and there's nothing wrong with what I did. That plastic isn't supposed to be there and is only meant for when it's being transported.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}495{"id": "Gqr0G6DMKznVwBndUgnNolWzJ5RyhpQJ", "post_id": "b7iyx3", "action": {"description": "wanting to accomplish my dad's goal of starting a dynasty", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting to accomplish my dad's goal of starting a dynasty?", "text": "Weird title, weirder story. But best with me here. \n\nMy dad is essentially a wannabe politician. He's pretty rich but also pretty obscure, and wanted to be a politician but lost the only election he ever contested because he's introverted, a bad speaker, and gets easily rattled in debates.\n\nSo, he's kind of projecting his dreams onto his three kids [25F, 23M, and me, 20M]. He has pretty clear roles for each of us:\n\n25F, let's call her Carla: Carla's a former D1.athlete, and currently in the Navy. My dad's train of thought here is that she's extroverted, charismatic, good-looking, and a veteran, so a natural for elected positions. \n\n23M, let's call him Max: Max is in law school and really into debate/public speaking, and is a national-level debater and mock trial attorney. Therefore, my dad wants him in high-profile legal stuff, eventually maybe becoming a judge on an important circuit.\n\nMe: The most like our dad: introverted, not super charismatic, but also assertive and a good organizer/leader. Have been interning on campaigns since I was 16, and am fascinated by the topic of campaigns and marketing in general. Also, I'm studying economics and international relations, and planning to pursue a phd. So, my role's supposed to be basically strategist/manager/policy advisor. \n\nRecently, Carla has been expressing that she doesn't like our plan anymore because she's now apparently a libertarian. One time, this devolved into an argument. I pointed out that both parties had libertarian wings, so it's ridiculous to break with our plan. Don't get me wrong, if she doesn't want to go into politics, that's one thing. But if she's backing out because she's a libertarian, I think that's just stupid, considering that both parties have libertarian wings. \n\nEveryone agreed with my point, except for Carla, who called me an asshole and left. On some level, I'm glad she just considers me an asshole, as opposed to the whole family, since she might listen to them. But I've been wondering, am I?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}496{"id": "ahwOyBXqiZ92EseFFLhD0YwaXVkl6fLq", "post_id": "aqq88z", "action": null, "title": "AITA", "text": "So I had two friends who I got along with really well and we were hanging out everyday. I noticed the two of them started to hang out together more without me and when I brought it up they blatantly lied to me. Lets call them sally and red \n\nSally can drive, and we were all going to hang out with her after school. I asked her if we could still hang out at lunch and she said she was busy. When i start to go home i see both sally and red getting in the car. I texted red about it and she said something like \"oh sallys just taking me home because i peed myself we're not really hanging out\" I know she was lying but i tried to take her word. Then a couple hours later I check her sc story and they're hanging out together. \n\nThey only came over if i had weed and we would hang out for 15 mins, smoke, then they would hang out together without me. Even when i hinted i wanted to go i was ignored. Since I'm a dramatic 16 year old girl i posted an indirect on my story that said \"i hate confrontation but this is hurting me\" (I now know that was immature but i was upset at the time) sally proceeds to text me and say \" if you dont want to be friends just say so lmao\" i lied and said it was for someone else because i have bad anxiety and attachment problems and losing people makes it worse (they knew this, i warned them before we where friends that i cant get too close because i will get extremely unstable when i lose people) \n\nCut forward to now and they just completely dropped me, and say passive agressive things on their story and at school. I just want to know if its my fault because what i posted, I'm not sure if i deserve this or not. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}497{"id": "wL1WX54ENW8XQg6NppbijK1MVSvoQTkO", "post_id": "9xtxzg", "action": {"description": "being happy classes were cancelled", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being happy classes were cancelled?", "text": "I\u2019m a college student in California and my college had some classes cancelled this past week and will have the remainder of classes cancelled next week as well due to extremely hazardous air conditions from the Camp Fire. \n\nMy friends and I are all happy that school is closed and we get an early break + postponed midterms. At the same time though, I am well aware that my break is the result of 56 people dying, and some of my close friends live in areas heavily affected by the fire. \n\nAITA for being happy about cancelled classes?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}498{"id": "5omxBXIcJnvv9ds25J1uxjC3N58xTRV9", "post_id": "aqqo8l", "action": {"description": "letting my boss know I was sick", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for letting my boss know I was sick?", "text": "This has really been bothering me so I decided I needed to ask some unbiased people.\n\nI(20F) was starting a new job as a Barista in a small chain cafe. After my second shift(Tuesday) I fell ill with an intense cold that's been plaguing my household for about 2 weeks. My throat hurt, I was nauseated and snotty constantly. My next shift was scheduled for Friday(also my third shift) , I knew I would probably be better by then but regardless on Thursday morning I decided to let my boss know what was going on.\n\nWe talked on the phone, he said it may just be hay-fever and I said it definitely wasn't. I said I was still happy to come in the next day but just wanted to let him know what was going on. He said that calling in sick on my third shift was a bad impression, I said I wasn't calling in sick, I was just telling him I was sick. He said he was starting to reconsider employment and told me he would let me know that night(the night before I had to start early the next day).\n\nI shoot him a text to tell him that I was 90% sure I would be well enough on Friday to come in but after reading all the informational packets he sent me I thought it would be better to let him know.\n\nAt around 6pm he sends me a message saying hes terminating my employment.\n\nNow, I can see where he was coming from if I was actually calling in sick and wasn't sick. We talked on the phone so he should've been able to hear my strained voice.\nHe said it was a bad impression to call in sick (again wasn't actually calling in sick, just letting him know) but I feel it would've been worse if I showed up to work snotty and gross without telling him, especially because I work with food.\n\nTl;Dr. Wanted to let my new boss know I was sick. He fired me for leaving a bad impression.\n\nAnyway, I came here to ask your opinions so let me have it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}499{"id": "JTdpoiCYOPpmhGC0LufZ5pdfVzz5rLiV", "post_id": "ay409k", "action": {"description": "staying in my apartment till the end of the contract", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I stayed in my apartment till the end of the contract?", "text": "So I am studying abroad and share an apartment with a friend. We signed a combined lease for the year, which officially ends on the 31st of May. My mum is flying over here around the 26th of May to help pack up, end the contract and take a short holiday before flying home. \n\nHowever, my roommate came to me today to say that she was planning on leaving on May 19th, which is the day after our university officially ends. She was hoping to pay a reduced rent for leaving early, but because im going to be staying longer she has to pay the full rent for the month of May. The landlord has said we can only pay a reduced rent if we get new tenants in straight away after we leave.\n\nShe is now saying I should leave and go somewhere else so that we can save the money, i.e. put my things in the basement and sleep somewhere else. She said that I am forcing her pay more because of my plans. I just think its ridiculous go to all that trouble to save her 100 bucks, when the apartment is still equally mine until the 31st and I should be able to stay until I\u2019m ready to leave.\n\nWIBTA if I told her that Im not leaving early and that she is going to have to pay her rent in full?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}500{"id": "FwHnzrGvhPbgCO2vGfgK2UB7VY1cy6RS", "post_id": "anjg5p", "action": {"description": "going for a guy who has a \"thing\" with another girl", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I went for a guy who has a \u201cthing\u201d with another girl?", "text": "So I\u2019m (20F) pretty newly out of a long term relationship (2 years) which ended pretty terribly. I had been wanting to be out of the relationship for over a year, but was always somehow reeled back in, gaslighted and manipulated. About 1 year into dating my ex (21M), I met an amazing guy. We really hit it off and became amazing friends- or at least that was my take on it. All my friends and even sometimes myself did have an idea that he was into me, but obviously nothing could have been said or done because of my relationship. \n\nSo I keep getting to know this guy, and started to develop some feelings for him. Things were not going well in my relationship, but I still felt really guilty to be having feelings for someone else, so I just ignored it and pushed all of that aside. \n\nFast forward to now. About one year after meeting this guy i\u2019ve been getting close with. I finally ended my relationship and have been feeling amazing. Haven\u2019t really been looking for anything. Me and the \u201cfriend\u201d guy are still close and one night he started sending me flirty texts. We ended up talking about how we felt and he admitted to having feelings for me ever since we met, about a year ago. I told him that I felt something for him too. \n\nSo here\u2019s the problem: he\u2019s been in a \u201csituation\u201d with another girl for going on 5 months now. He\u2019s talked to me about it a lot since we have been so close. Basically he doesn\u2019t want to get super serious with her, even though it\u2019s clear that she wants a defined relationship. So it seems they want different things, but they still hang out a lot. This guy seems to be pursuing me, and honestly I\u2019m super into it. But he did mention to me one day that if that girl knew me and him were talking about this kind of stuff she would be pissed. So he\u2019s being dishonest with her about what he\u2019s been thinking about with me. Not sure how I feel about that either. \n\nBut WIBTA if I went along with his advances? I don\u2019t want to step on anyone\u2019s toes here but also could really see me and this guy going well together, and maybe even just having fun right now, who knows. \n\nTLDR: WIBTA if I went along with the pursuits of my good friend who is talking to/ has a situation with another girl? Me and him\nare into each other and she isn\u2019t aware of any talks me and him have had about our feelings. But the guy is being super forward with me about wanting to hang out and see where things go. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}501{"id": "pF8aBCXD10mdmr3KwxLHYy8qYtTBR7UP", "post_id": "b2dfqj", "action": {"description": "wanting to leave my boyfriend and reinvent my life without him", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for wanting to leave my boyfriend and reinvent my life without him?", "text": "I love my boyfriend but it's recently been brought to my attention that he doesn't always treat me the best.\n\nDon't get me wrong, he's nice. Doesn't insult me, occasionally pays for dinner (he's a student), says he loves me, etc. But he doesn't always take no for an answer. For example, on Friday he was over at my place. We were spooning in my bed watching tv and he tried to put his hand up my shirt to rest on my stomach. I said no and pushed his hand. He fought me back and clearly didn't care that I didn't want his hand there. Once it was settled on my stomach where I didn't want it he asked why, and I said \"I don't like when your hand is under my shirt like that.\" Instead of pulling back and saying \"oh sorry\" he left it there and was like \"I think it feels nice\". He also puts my hand under his shirt the same way. I don't like that either.\n\nAnyway, lately I've been dreaming of paying off all my debt, saving a bunch of money, and moving to Toronto (big city in Canada; basically our version of NYC). I also want to get hot AF, dye my hair, get a tattoo, and get my belly button pierced.\n\nBut, I want to do it alone.\n\nI want to do it alone because I'm polyamorous so I would like to hold out for a relationship that better suits my needs once I move. I also would like to change the name I go by, and my boyfriend has already said that he would not call me by any name other than my first name, even if it was still a legal name (ie my middle name).\n\nPlease don't tell me that I can reinvent myself with him around, or that I don't need to move, or whatever. I'm aware that I don't *need* to be single and I don't *need* to move, but I also feel as though due to familial abuse and my boyfriend's lifestyle (very sedentary with lots of junk food, and 100% happy working a mediocre job with crappy hours, driving a shitty vehicle that only has insurance because of bandaid fixes that have now worn off, with toxic friends who don't have anything in common with him and who can't treat his girlfriend with respect), I wouldn't really accomplish the level of \"reinventment\", if you will, if I don't.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}502{"id": "4WTZZXpmV1lV5Xi96zEEi6KaMfNIjgLb", "post_id": "b32c19", "action": {"description": "lying to someone to make them feel better", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for lying to someone to make them feel better?", "text": "(Ik this isn\u2019t nearly as bad as some other stuff going on here and this is just middle school drama but I really don\u2019t know what to think here)\nSo just a little backstory, back in October I helped one of my friends (opposite sex, who we\u2019ll call B) start dating one of my friends, K, just because I knew B really wanted to date him and it wasn\u2019t that much to ask of myself, so I did help her and they started dating. When I was helping her with this we both kind of talked about our problems and got to know eachother better. (Remember this for later). \n\nWell they started dating and we didn\u2019t really talk as often until around their 3 month \u201canniversary\u201d of starting dating, when B started having some problems involving him not paying enough attention to her, kind of just not being the best boyfriend to her. Yet again I helped her out with that and we would FaceTime a lot and ended up getting closer than before, so now we both know a lot about eachother that other people don\u2019t really know about (like funny stories that she\u2019s never told and what not).\n\nAround this time, I developed a bit of a crush on B and this other girl, who we\u2019ll call J. J also had a crush on me, so we started dating, and I stopped having a crush on B, for a few reasons (for one I was dating someone else and two I just wanted to be friends). \n\nSo yesterday B said that she has had a crush on me for a while and still does (she\u2019s still dating K), and just said that she is really jealous of me and J, because B has had a lot of problems with K, and I\u2019ve always been there for her. But she said that she knows J and I are happy together and that it would never work out if B tried to date me.\n\nWell I am a very empathetic person, and it always makes me feel bad to see someone else crying so I always try to help. She started crying about telling me and she felt really bad for having a crush on me, so out of empathy I said that I kind of have a thing for her too, but I don\u2019t, because I\u2019m dating J and I just don\u2019t really like B in that way. I just felt super bad and knew it would make her happy, but it just feels weird, even though I don\u2019t like her and haven\u2019t liked for for like 2 months, even though I did like her before, and talk to her all the time still. \n\nTL:DR A girl who is taken told me, who is also taken, that she likes me, and started crying, so I told her I liked her too because I knew it would make her happier, even though I don\u2019t like her, and we\u2019re both taken. \n\nSo AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}503{"id": "kht4a2UyA4LOyh5SlpACh7UAVVhg1OGZ", "post_id": "b9tn2j", "action": {"description": "installing sprinklers in my yard for the purpose of spraying people who walk through it", "pronormative_score": 72, "contranormative_score": 20}, "title": "WIBTA if I installed sprinklers in my yard for the purpose of spraying people who walk through it?", "text": "I live on a corner lot, and people walk through my yard all the time.  I don't think I'm your typical cranky old man, but a lot of people really push my boundaries. I don't get upset when people step into the yard when a car is coming or something, but some people are walking 10+ feet into my yard like it's a sidewalk, they get close enough that they can easily see into the windows.  I occasionally find dog poop in my yard as well. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 17, "OTHER": 71, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 72, "WRONG": 20}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}504{"id": "mfiIfMaV2eFOkEQ6lpx9Mhc0QBul1ZxN", "post_id": "9toirc", "action": {"description": "wanting my boyfriend to spend time with me", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting my boyfriend to spend time with me?", "text": "He works 12 hours a day with a total 2 hour commute. More often than not its 7 days a week. As soon as he comes home, he fixes his plate and goes to the bedroom where he stays for the rest of the night. He doesn't speak to me. \n\nWe don't go anywhere or DO anything. Ever. If he has free time, or MAKES free time, it's spent with his friends. \n\nWhen I ask him to spend time with me he tells me that I'm \"needy\" and contolling\". It always causes an argument and he tells me I'm an asshole because he works hard and should ve able to do things with his friends. My thing is, if he can spend free time with friends, why not me? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}505{"id": "MZMl7jttGwolGdhsPdWKlxNhKrImfL74", "post_id": "b8doc4", "action": {"description": "reporting someone that hasn't tipped me multiple times for smoking weed", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 48}, "title": "WIBTA If I report someone that hasn't tipped me multiple times for smoking weed?", "text": "I am a delivery driver for a pizza place. Title kinda says it all. He's not tipped me about 4 times now and each time he's stoned and just smells like straight weed. Whenever I do deliver pizza is always on time and the order is always correct. \n\nNow I have no problem with smoking weed personally. Their body their choice, but it is illegal where I live. \n\nAlso he's one of my farthest deliveries so I actually lose money each time I deliver to him. I was wondering if I'd be an asshole if I reported him to the police. Also it's not that he forgets to tip bc he's high, he writes $0.00 in the tip section. And I make $5 an hour and rely on tips to make money.\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 38, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 48}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}506{"id": "P6XkvQhrNL14es1EiSWQhqrm9Mgl7Ijn", "post_id": "aqgfbw", "action": {"description": "accidentally giving a roommate's cookie to a different roommate", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for accidentally giving a roommate's cookie to a different roommate?", "text": "Yup, it's another roommate story from me. My house is dramatic. Throwaway because my roommates know my Reddit account.\n\nI live in a shared house with five other roommates off-campus at my university. I lived with one of these roommates last year and we got along well, but the other four are completely new.\n\nA few nights ago, I came home from the library and two of my roommates were sitting on the couch. I had earbuds in, but I took them off and she asked me to hand her a box of girl scout cookies sitting on the table. I gave her the box of cookies and she ate one cookie. She asked me if she could have another and my response was \"yeah sure, they're not mine though.\"\n\nUnbeknownst to all of us, those cookies were actually my roommate's Girl Scout cookies. In our roommate group chat, she then called me out for telling her the cookies were mine even though they weren't. I legitimately have no recollection of being asked if the cookies were mine or not until after she ate one (maybe the question was asked while I had earbuds in when I initially walked in the door and I went \"huh?\"), but they her and the other roommate that was there both got mad at me for saying the cookies were mine.\n\nI responded in the roommate group chat with \"literally fake news\" and huffed upstairs after they continued to accuse me of letting her steal my roommate's cookies. Am I the asshole for not stopping her from eating a cookie and for calling her \"fake news\" in the group chat? Or is she just overreacting and am I in the clear?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}507{"id": "rLfjWcTrDjS2M5BVI8FTTD5sjQsbgrWt", "post_id": "b2hyws", "action": {"description": "asking my roommate not to cook fish in microwave", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA to ask my roommate not to cook fish in microwave?", "text": "My roommate reheated fish in the microwave about 2 weeks ago. It still smells really bad and makes me gag whenever I cook food in it (not sure if she left the fish in there for too long, but it really does still smell bad, and 2 weeks is a generous time period, probably closer to 3). \n\nOn the day this happened, I said to her that it smells insanely bad and to try not do it if she can avoid, but she said she doesn't mind the smell of fish, which lead to me thinking it was just me being anal (as I don't like fish, esp the smell), so I didn't really talk about it much more. She also said she's trying to eat healthier so will be eating fish more, she was apologetic but isn't going to stop reheating fish in the microwave.\n\nWe both pay equal rent and the microwave is mine (but we share things like that, I use her pots, etc). We're both female and we aren't dating (in case not obvious).\n\nI was scrolling down a reddit thread today and read a joke about reheating fish in the microwave at work, which lead me to search am I the asshole threads for this topic. I stumbled upon [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/aicbvp/aita_for_heating_fish_in_the_microwave_at_work/) and the general consensus was that the guy reheating the fish in the office microwave was the asshole. This made me realize I probably wasn't being pedantic and maybe it wouldn't be unreasonable for me to ask my roommate not to reheat fish in the microwave - but I understand that reheating at home is different to at work.\n\nSo, WIBTA for asking my roommate not to reheat fish in the microwave?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}508{"id": "2fkD7FyRhHVTlaEP08ujY1C3C55YRbmu", "post_id": "args74", "action": {"description": "not cleaning up my whole house", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not Cleaning Up My Whole House?", "text": "I've posted a few times on here but this was my biggest fight with my Dad yet.\n\nI've had a serious ear infection (Taking meds that can kill me if I take more then 2 in a day, not even joking) and I've been really weak. Yesterday I decided to clean the messiest room in my house; The Laundry. This room was disgusting, not even gonna lie. It was filled to the brim with clothing that had just been messily thrown into the room and I cleaned all of it, including putting on all the washing. This is while I'm in constant pain and I can't stop sneezing/wheezing. It was so bad that I actually lost my voice from how many times I sneezed. Our lounge room is the next messiest room, though it's not that messy. Just a few bits and pieces out of place. I, by myself keep in mind, cleaned every other room in our massive house besides the lounge room. My Dad had the audacity to say I wasn't doing enough around the house and I needed to also clean the lounge room. I refused and said he was being emotionally manipulative (trying to pray on my sympathy saying things like \"I have a full time job to support us so the least you can do is clean this room\" type of thing as well as \"I'm so exhausted because I come home and I see this mess after a full days work\") and I didn't want to be in the house with him right now, so I went outside and tried to calm down.\n\n​\n\nI would also like to point out I have homework I need to be doing and I get really bad asthma attacks when dust starts to rise. Like wheezing and otherwise.\n\n​\n\nMy Dad is fully aware of this but his 12 hours of sleep isn't enough and it makes him too tired to pick up 10 things, but not tired enough to not complain about it.\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole for not doing chores while living under my dads roof?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}509{"id": "m24YFw3MnnjsjsM7nh6jsWjq0zX8DBZy", "post_id": "b3l8o4", "action": {"description": "stepping in and training another persons trainee", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for stepping in and training another persons trainee?", "text": "Obligatory formatting apology due to mobile. \n\nI work at a popular fast food pizza company and I have been a trainer there since last December. One of the employees, we\u2019ll call them Stan, has recently been promoted to trainer as well and has been working with two new hires since the beginning of the week. \n\nI typically work morning and they work nights, so I haven\u2019t really interacted with these new hires. During the shift change today the shift lead had asked me to train the new guy (NG) how to evaluate what\u2019s under the make line and decide what we will need for the upcoming shift. While I\u2019m teaching the NG how to make the list Stan comes up and watches us. I had told Stan that I will finish up with NG while he goes and sets up for the upcoming shift since I was about to leave. \n\nI finish the list and bid all my coworkers goodbye and head out, until I see Stan walking out the back door with me. He started off saying that I was out of line for training HIS NG and that I should\u2019ve asked him first to do so. \n\nAt this point I was really confused because when we first opened the store together we had learned that training was a group effort and that it\u2019s not one sole persons responsibility. So I asked him about it and he said that he understand that, but that\u2019s not his way. I told him that I\u2019m not trying to personally attack him or his new position because it\u2019s honestly not that big of a deal. \n\nHe then said, \u201cWell I take it personally and want you to back off. I can understand how you feel but that\u2019s not how I work.\u201d \n\nTo which I responded that he might need to re-evaluate his position then because that\u2019s not what it\u2019s about and left because I really didn\u2019t want to talk about it anymore. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}510{"id": "7z6kvvySRQ4HSisXPIqnyvOTGtHBApoQ", "post_id": "ahezsn", "action": {"description": "not visiting my dad every weekend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not visiting my dad every weekend?", "text": "My parents have been divorced since I was a little kid, and I have always been used to their shared custody agreement. I would spend about half the time with my dad and have the time with my mom.\n\nNot every other week either, the weeks were so brokenly split in half at one point that I was switching houses every other day. Needless to say, that was a nightmare.\n\nSince I am an adult now I am trying to put a stop to it. The thing is my dad feels that he deserves to spend time with me every weekend. I don't want to go over there every weekend anymore. It's too much of a hassle for me to pack a bag and go to his house to sleep in a room that isn't even mine (It's basically a second living room that happens to have a bed in it. There isn't even a door and him and my grandparents just like to come back there sometimes.) I don't like being there over night for this reason. Here is the conversation we had about this today:\n\n​\n\n \n\nMe: What if you pick me up tomorrow and we do something then?\n\nHim:  What are you doing tonight\n\nMe:   don't know, it's just stressful to pack a bag every weekend. \n\nHim:  You don't have to work you don't have to pay bills we buy your clothes in your food if that's the only stress you have in your life then you're doing pretty good\n\nMe:  Um... Not the point? I really don't want to stay over this weekend. We can do something tomorrow during the day\n\nHim: All right fine I probably won't see you for a couple months I will be moving down to \\[Redacted\\] and I know you will never come down there.\n\nHim:  Stay home this weekend I don't want to add to your stress\n\nMe: Don't throw a fit about it\n\nHim:  I'm not throwing a fit about it but you're acting like it's so stressful that you can't move.\n\nHim:  There are millions of kids who would love to be in your situation at this point in your life.\n\nMe:   I don't like packing bags every weekend Dad, that's not a wild concept.\n\nMe:  I'm 20 and I enjoy living in one place, that really has nothing to do with either parent. My word I've been doing this since I was 7.\n\nHim:  Okay \\[OP\\] it isn't like you're busting the door down to see me anyway I know tomorrow's going to be a bad storm so I'll be staying home.\n\nHim:  I just offered to do things for you and to get you things but you know because I think it'd be something to do something fun you wouldn't be any less dress tomorrow about seeing me so I don't want to stress you out I'll be gone next weekend \n\nIt was at this point that I just stopped replying to him. We have this fight every so often and it usually ends in me caving first, because I really am still financially dependant on my parents and I feel bad for that. For context, I'm a student and while I don't have a job I am trying to find other ways to make money. So usually I do feel like an asshole bringing this up but I'm pretty sure he's an asshole too. AITA?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}511{"id": "Om0DNnjeU02L0NS3UYIAk90oVrZsDaAI", "post_id": "atni7r", "action": {"description": "reporting my bully to the police for smoking weed", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA If I reported my bully to the police for smoking weed?", "text": "There is this one guy in my class, who is cocky and a total asshole and likes to bully and generally piss me off for no reason. He came to school stoned a few times and he has traded weed in the classroom (Everybody noticed because he dropped his weed behind the radiator, lol). I have been thinking about reporting him to the police because of his smoking. Now, this is Germany and he is only 16 years old. If he got punished, it would'nt be particularly hard. He could probably expect a fine of 100-300\u20ac and a couple hours of social service. He may not be prosecuted at all, because I would file an anonymous report.\n\nI guess this would be some r/ProRevenge, but I am still not sure if I should do something like this. I think it would pretty much be the only way to get revenge on him, I could of course try to anonymously contact his parents....", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}512{"id": "hYdcLaNUPg0Q0wDCRSDLdWRqKAMjsrtu", "post_id": "aqeoem", "action": {"description": "cutting my hair", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for cutting my hair?", "text": "AITA for wanting to cut my hair after growing it out for almost three years? I (22 F) used to have a faux-hawk and it was a look that really worked for me and looked cute. My SO has cried for an hour tonight about the thought of me cutting off my hair and having it short again. I feel bad because SO will not like my new hair but I live in Florida and I\u2019m sick of the long hair. AITA for following through with my new hairstyle? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}513{"id": "W168n0V4RqRwGUI9VXyb5arBrmowEly5", "post_id": "b8xd1e", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go private", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to go private", "text": "To cut a long story short, after Christmas my mum got diagnosed with depression and anxiety. The majority of her anxiety is unfortunately aimed towards me (F18) as she thinks I\u2019m losing hair on one part of my head. I personally have not seen/ noticed a change in my hair but I hate seeing my mum worry so I went to the doctors. That wasn\u2019t the end of it unfortunately, I\u2019ve been to around 10 doctors appointments with all of them saying I don\u2019t have an issue and that she shouldn\u2019t worry about it. My most recent visit to the doctors proved helpful as the GP said he was going to send me to a dermatologist to help calm my mum as they specialise with skin. \n\nAll was good until I had to book an appointment online and the earliest date they had was the 18th of April. My mum was upset with this for a while as she felt it was too far away but she came to terms with it and was feeling a lot better knowing that soon if she a specialist. Cut to today, I\u2019ve had a letter come through the post saying the appointment has been cancelled and rescheduled for July. My mum is mortified and so am I. I thought this appointment was finally going to help my mum and try to make things go back to normal, but now I have more months of what feels like hell. \n\nBecause of this cancellation my mum wants to take my privately as we\u2019d be able to see a dermatologist a lot quicker. I don\u2019t want to do this. I feel there is no issue with my hair and that going privately would just be a waste of money that we don\u2019t easily have. So AITA for telling my mum I don\u2019t want to go privately even though she\u2019d be paying for it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}514{"id": "QzBH0Wfn4AeQLNKEIgpjECv0gc983eHY", "post_id": "an4b4l", "action": {"description": "telling my husband I won't be emotionally supporting him about his awful job if he won't make an effort to find a new one", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my husband I won't be emotionally supporting him about his awful job if he won't make an effort to find a new one?", "text": "My husband hates his job. HATES it. There are no pros to this job. They don't pay well, the bosses are terrible managers (overbooking appointment when they only have so many workers to cover so many customers), he's on a wacky 6 day a week 12 hour night schedule so I don't see him and his friends don't see him. It has thrown him into a rut. \n\n\nI've told him to look for a new job, or just flat out quit and I will support him/keep us afloat until something else comes along. I told him to apply for things he's passionate about even if it means a page cut. Anything to get my husband back to his old self. \n\n\nHe's asked me for help and says he doesn't even know where to start, doesn't have the time to do anything etc. so I've done the following (at his request for assistance):\n\n\n* Updated his resume (I do this for my job so I know it's good quality)\n\n* Drafted a cover letter\n\n* Found a list of jobs he qualifies for and put them into an easy to read Word Doc\n\n* Made him an Indeed account\n\n* Started covering all the chores so that he can focus on applying for jobs when he is home (did this without him asking but made it clear \"I am doing this so you can focus on applying for new jobs\")\n\n\nHe has done nothing. He said he \"tried to quit but they wouldn't let them.\" He hasn't turned in a single application, or even opened the document I've made with a list of jobs. And of course he isn't doing any chores at home. \n\n\nThis has been going on for months. He's clearly depressed so I also suggested he talk to a therapist about all this, he says he doesn't have time because he's so burnt out. All he talks about anymore is how he hates his job, and feels like it's eating away at his social life, mental health and everything. \n\n\nAt this point the CLEAR common denominator is just this job. If he quits he can see friends again and will have time to see a therapist if that is still an issue, but I highly suspect a change of scenery will greatly improve his mood. He is a good worker and I know if he turned in an application he'd get a response. But I can't force him to submit applications and he JUST WON'T DO IT.\n\n\nHe comes home every day and talks about how much he hates his job and wants to do something new, and I'm getting tired of it. I stay up late listening to him complain about his job, and I've done everything I can think of to help, but he won't meet me half way. \n\n\nWould I be the asshole if I flat out tell him I'm becoming unsympathetic to his complaints when he has done nothing to fix his situation? It'd be one thing if he was applying for jobs and still stuck in his current one, but he won't look, won't quit, won't go to therapy and he can't give me a reason why.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}515{"id": "0L4oHeSYu5Tc0Pmw9PwAYeLh81E5Iiht", "post_id": "abd606", "action": {"description": "asking to find out who my secret santa is", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA for asking to find out who my secret santa is?", "text": "Last month I joined a secret santa for artists, and everyone had multiple weeks to complete a piece for the person they were assigned to give art to. I was one of the many who published their gift on time, and the person I drew art for was very happy with their gift.\n\nIt's now past the deadline for gifts, and I'm rather annoyed that the person who was supposed to give me my gift never did their part. The host has decided to give everyone an extension but-- it's  only 10 days, and now I feel like I'm going to get a rushed gift (as it usually is with extensions) with no effort put into it. Obviously they dont care to put effort into my gift if they didn't do it yet, when they had a month to do so. I spent 3+ weeks on my drawing.\n\nI'll most likely accept whatever I get for the sake of civility, but since it is past the deadline, I'd like to know who I'm actually waiting on so instead of having to go and check the group folder in the hopes my gift is finally uploaded I can just subscribe to them and see their uploads in my feed once/if it finally is posted.\n\nWIBTA for wanting to find out who my SS is?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}516{"id": "WRh9CcdsUIsqFEWq8Fydt6kprPpGjT2T", "post_id": "9w84ep", "action": {"description": "making someone come to me to get their watch back", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for making someone come to me to get their watch back?", "text": "I went on a couple dates with a guy almost a year ago. After the second date, he accidentally left his apple watch behind at my house. I texted him to hang out a couple more times, but he kept avoiding me, and eventually he just ghosted. I texted him several times over the course of a few months asking if he wanted the watch back, and he just never responded.\n\n​\n\nLast week he texts me out of the blue asking if I have his watch, and I say I do. Then he asks if we can meet for coffee in the city or if I can mail it to him. Frankly, I'm irritated that I should have to travel 45+ minutes or go on a whole errand to the post office after this guy ghosted me; he clearly didn't even want the apple watch that much, since he didn't bother getting it back for almost a year. \n\n​\n\nI've ignored his last text so far and I'm thinking of replying \"If you want to come by my place some time when I'm home, you can pick it up.\"  WIBTA? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}517{"id": "kSQYlxVe6DbdjGKtVHvBMRsPkFumr8Oy", "post_id": "am72ao", "action": {"description": "trying to pay my roommate in coins", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trying to pay my roommate in coins?", "text": "I'm currently living in a college dorm with a roommate. Recently, I ran out of water bottles (although I have since swapped to just using a Brita) and I asked him to pick me up a case while he was at the store, saying I'd pay him back. He agreed and when he arrived, I told him I didn't have cash and if quarters would be okay. It was $4.50 in quarters, which admittedly isn't fun to have on you but I personally find it useful for vending machines or making exact change at stores, I figured if he was the same way he'd be okay with it.\n\n​\n\nHe wasn't a fan of this. I put them on his desk in a neat stack and said if he wanted to keep them he could, but that I could just owe him one instead if he wanted. I also didn't know he had Venmo, and he failed to ask if I could use it instead. So his reaction to this was not to give them back and tell me to just owe him, pay with Venmo, or hold onto it and just use it for vending machines or change, but to take them and throw it in the trash. I figured it wouldn't be a good idea to escalate his nonsense so I figured that meant the debt was settled and left it at that. Nothing else to add really, that's about it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}518{"id": "siNN1Bqebb8B1DEYBCrWV1cckGd1hW3y", "post_id": "b4p7cv", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my friend?", "text": "Hey y'all this Isa more mild one but I still feel bad. Also I'm on mobile so yadda yadda formating\n\n\nBasically I have this friend who we'll call S. We are in high school together and we are both in theater. S can be difficult sometimes but overall she is a good friend. She often asks me to drive her home from rehearsal which I do cause I have my own car. \nAbout a week or two ago she asked me to take her to :store name: to buy herself a water bottle because I work at :store name: so she could use my 10% discount. I didn't really want to drive to the store but I did anyway. Fine.\nFast forward to a couple days ago and I accidentally break this glass bottle. I immediately apologise and offer to buy a new one. The following is what she texted me today.\n(I hope my response provides enough context that I don't have to write it all out)\n\n\nOh also she really wanted the bottle because it has 'healing rocks' in the bottom or something.\n\n\nS: (1/2) if you think i'm overreacting, i don't care. i explained to you why getting a water bottle was very important for me and the way you acted today was the \n\n\nYes she actually broke it into two texts. Idk\n\n\nS: 2/2 most disrespectful thing in the whole fucking world and i'm pissed because you were a serious fucking asshole \n\n\nMe (tired of her attitude): So I went out of my way to buy you that water bottle, letting you use my employee discount. \n\nYou leave your very special bottle on the floor and I accidentally lean backwards, cracking it.\nYou are immediately furious that made this mistake.\n\nI immediately promise to buy you a new bottle (on my expense) when I have the chance, noting that I am busy the next couple of days because I have my own life, responsibilities, and plans. I even offer you my water bottle which you refuse. \nYou then spend the next 24 hours acting coldly towards me and tearing me like I purposefully broke your very special bottle. You more than once get angry that I haven't bought you a new one yet, even though I told you I wouldn't be able to till next week. You then, after giving me no respect, walk up to me, and rudely demand that I give you some of the food that I paid for. If refusing you a slice of pizza because you were being annoying and rude is the 'most disrespectful' thing to you, then you have some harsh realities to face. I'm not discussing this with you any further. \n\nMe: This is all ignoring the fact that I constantly give you rides home\n\n\nDid I go too far? She hasn't texted back.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}519{"id": "WJDDC4Ep6KaEtKaxKsDjc86ncDc02Atf", "post_id": "a0hhx7", "action": {"description": "not choosing side in an argument between friends", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not choosing side in an argument between friends...", "text": "TLDR at the bottom.\n\n​\n\nThis did happen a few years ago but to this day it still haunts me. I met a girl at work (lets call her T), and she was perfect. We went out a few times and everything was good. Unfortunately T had to move away for school, not super far but far enough that we couldn't hang out to much. \n\nNow T and her sister (we can call the sister K) both worked with me. I was not the biggest fan of K but she was the sister of T, and i was determined to be in good graces with her, as Those two were very close.  So, maybe a week after T went back to school, I was working a shift with K and another friend (we can call him Q) the first half of the shift was fine, people pouring in and we barely had time to talk. Things took a turn when we all went on break together. I was craving a burrito and there was a Starbucks near by where I was going, so I offered K a ride since she was going there. We get back and Q is sitting there in the break room. \n\nWe sit down and Q looks at me and asks if I want to see this YouTube video of \"The Ultimate Vape\". I'm bored and have nothing better to do so I agree. We get to the point where its time to choose the flavor for the vape, and its churro flavor. This is what sets off the argument, because the man in the video didn't roll the R in churro (this is important to K because her and T are both half Black half Mexican women).  this is the conversation that followed.\n\nQ: Some people just can't roll their R's.\n\nK: That's why i hate White people,\n\nQ: ... that's kind of racist...\n\nThat's all i can fully remember was said but the events that followed were K saying you can't be racist towards White people and that's what THEIR argument was about. I considered both K and Q to be my friends but they were not necessarily friends with each other. So I sit aside let them have at it because if I choose a side I'm definitely loosing one of them as a friend.\n\nAt some point K turns to me, and she says,\n\nK: hey LexeL... I forgot my phone in my car, can you use yours to look up the definition of Racism?\n\nMe: I'm sorry K but this is between you two and id rather not get in the middle.\n\nAnd then she goes back to Q. i should mention that arguing over the Dictionary definition of racism had gone on for 3 minutes prior to this conversation. and Q had correctly said, Word for Word, what the definition of Racism was but K would not accept it.\n\nWe can skip to the end of break. I'm getting ready to go downstairs and K stops me.\n\nK: Have you talked to T lately?\n\nMe: Well I messaged her on Friday, but I know shes busy so I don't expect to talk to her until we Skype tomorrow. Why?\n\nK: Oh... well i just would expect to hear from her at all.\n\nThis interaction led me to believe that K had talked to T way before her argument with Q, and that she knew something I didn't, I spent the rest of my shift, nerves on end hoping I'd get to the bottom of this. \n\nK got off work before I did, terrible start to the rest of my night TBH. So as soon as I get off work this is the following conversation that I know by heart.\n\nText messages -\n\nT: what are you playing at??\n\nMe: Listen, idk what you've heard, who you've talked to, or what you're thinking, but I think we should talk.\n\nT: I agree.\n\nMe: Are you able to Skype tonight?\n\nT: We should just call on the phone...\n\nMe: okay.\n\nI have quite the drive home and I call her as soon as its over, we have a long talk about the situation that happened and she says that my story lines up with K's story. But... sadly I was in the wrong. Because I took no side in the situation, I actually took Q's side. \"a bystander is just taking the oppressors side without vocalizing it\" T said that she didn't think we should continue talking. We said goodbye for the last time and I never really got over it. so Am i the Asshole for not choosing her sisters side when her sister was wrong?\n\nTLDR; The sister of the girl I was seeing and another friend got into an argument about the definition of racism during break and i didn't choose a side, thus making me the bad guy in the eyes of the girl i was seeing.\n\nI wanna thank anyone for reading, even the TLDR, and I appreciate any comments. I'm just looking to learn from a past experience.\n\nThanks again!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}520{"id": "WZHEi5O9pi7WytCywZDyKF6tQSTijJkd", "post_id": "9u870r", "action": {"description": "having \"hypocritical\" standards", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for having \"hypocritical\" standards?", "text": "Hey guys. So long story short, I'm a 6'0\", 245lb chonker. However, the women I tend to be attracted to are much thinner. A-cup thin, even. IRL, I get about a 50/50 from people I talk to about if they are gonna call me a hypocrit asshole or not.\n\nIve had bigger girls come on to me, and even tried dating a girl in the past who was NOT my type and I just could not get physically attracted to her. \n\nI want to emphasise that I've never blamed a skinny girl for not wanting to date me because I'm fat. Im not some kind of incel asshole about it. I also want to say that my other standards are considered \"low.\" I don't really care much about appearance, job, education, career, race, age (I've been into girls ten years younger and ten years older)... Ive even somehow gotten the reputation among some of my friends as being into \"ugly\"girls. But for me to be physically interested, she has to be thin!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}521{"id": "NUKPxWMgk1teVFR5V3ObyjIu4E4zNtk9", "post_id": "asiege", "action": {"description": "reading my sister's diary", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for reading my sister's diary?", "text": "This refers to something that happened quite a long time ago. My younger sister used to be harshly bullied during highschool. She went from quite a jumpy person to a quiet one. A friend of mine just had a brush with suicide so I was a bit on my nerves and took the maybe not so appropriate choice of reading her diary. There wasn't any direct mention of suicide in there but she definitely wasn't \"all right\". \n\n\nI convinced my parents to talk to her about getting medical help. She went to a psychologist for a while, took medications for another and in the end she went through.\n\nAt face value I would like to think I did the right thing by worrying, but then I think how I might have felt If someone had read my diary back then (my sister never found out). What do you think, Reddit?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}522{"id": "HsE1mChtw2W40kPjxu6rJjclqqZ2nY2K", "post_id": "a22ucf", "action": {"description": "not taking a man who was supposedly in a car accident to the hospital", "pronormative_score": 25, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not taking a man who was supposedly in a car accident to the hospital?", "text": "So, it\u2019s 5:00am and I\u2019m driving to work.  I stop at a stop light and I wait as this man comes up to my car asking me to roll my window down.  I roll it down, he starts begging me to give him a ride to the hospital and that he\u2019s been in an accident.  I couldn\u2019t really tell whether he had been or not because of how dark it was.  I say no I\u2019m sorry but I have to go to work.\n\nNow, it is true that I had to go to work but that\u2019s not why I didn\u2019t oblige him.  It was because it was dark out, there wasn\u2019t anyone else around and I didn\u2019t want to let a strange man into my car.  Maybe I should have called an ambulance for him but tbh, all that was on my mind was \u201cam I about to get robbed?\u201d", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 25, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 25, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}523{"id": "WSDNIvWVY63TMOW6mQUDkRl9oNRXCTdc", "post_id": "awq1el", "action": {"description": "dipping on my friends after someone invited my ex girlfriend a week prior", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for dipping on my friends after someone invited my ex girlfriend a week prior?", "text": "So tonight my friends and I were having a big smash tourney/party, good 25 people showed up, including my ex girlfriend. Obviously in order to have that amount of people there, it takes a considerable amount of planning. One of my friends, let\u2019s call him John, tells me that my ex is coming on Tuesday and he has no clue who invited her. He was saying that just to let me know and I figure, whatever, I\u2019m not gonna let it ruin my night. \n\nFast forward to tonight. My ex tried hitting on me while I was drawing the bracket and took away my pen because she wanted info on John and a girl who I had hooked up with in the past, who is now friends with benefits with him. Mind you my ex was very insecure about said girl throughout our relationship, but she had nothing to worry since at that point i wouldn\u2019t touch the girl in question with a 10 foot pole. I told her to give the pen back and she\u2019s refusing so I just go and get another pen which she takes as well, so I just say fuck it and let her take them because I don\u2019t want to get involved in her drama. \n\nI go upstairs to get another pen and continue drawing the bracket, and I see her hitting on a mutual friend of mine who is really into it, and people were speculating they were gonna hook up. I\u2019m fuming. I\u2019m not over this girl in the slightest despite me breaking off an extremely toxic relationship. I play my first round match and I lose because I\u2019m so damn tilted because A, my friend was cheesing bowsers up throw, and B, my ex and the other dude were being really flirty literally 20 feet away from me. \n\nI just dipped immediateIy tell everyone some family thing came up and just dipped and didn\u2019t look back. I was extremely uncomfortable, but I felt bad dipping on my friends like that. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}524{"id": "GFy7rEsVKms749fuDM7uRuWllCJTUGXB", "post_id": "aqlr8f", "action": {"description": "being bummed my boyfriend rather spend Valentine's with his daughter", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for being bummed my boyfriend rather spend Valentine's with his daughter?", "text": "Hello there, well here goes.\n\nIve been in a relationship with my boyfriend going on 3 years now . He has 2 kids from a previous relationship which in itself has been a huge adjustment. He is 27(m) and I am 25(f). When we initially got together he didn't mention the kids and so it was a surprise to me . Kind of a turnoff but I liked the guy so I stuck around. His kids mom is as crazy and obsessed as they come . Everything the first year was an issue because I was in the picture. She wouldn't let him see his kids ,and she'd pick and choose when and where and for how long. He would go without seeing them for months due to this. His kids are small 5 and 3 both girls, sad thing is due to all of the drama his 5 year old has the mentality of a 15 year old and carries out insults and conversations her mother talks to her about to try and cause friction. Now ironically his 5 year olds birthday is on Valentine's day . For some time his mom or sister would be the ones to contact his babymama for visits . Just recently tho his babymama said that wasn't good enough and needed to have direct contact with him or no go on the visits. It's really bothersome to me because of how toxic she is . So my boyfriend is trying his best and has begun messaging her and calling her to see his kids which he hadnt seen in 3 months. The other day I asked if he was gonna ask to have her for Valentine's to which he said yes . I gotta admit I was bummed .. things have been Rocky lately and Idk what I expected but that wasnt it. I got a little quiet with him and he got really upset and said I was being dramatic and that he sees me all the time. He also told me that he needs to be a dad and to stop thinking the way I do because its stupid.\n\n I can't put myself in his shoes as I don't have kids and I wouldn't know how to deal with this but I also feel so much pressure. I really tried the first year we were together by doing birthdays and holidays with them but I always was talked negatively about from both his family and his babymama. I got tired of trying and I stopped coming around especially because his oldest daughter would say things like \"daddy my mommy was showing me pictures of you two kissing , you love my mommy huh\" he would just tell her not to talk about those things and that,that was a long time ago ... Honestly it would get me really upset because I know she doesn't come up with those things on her own.. as I mentioned before I've been around going on 3 years now ,the other day i seen his kids and his oldest said \"hi  ohh what's your name again , ummm ,umm hey you what's your name?\" He told her stop playing you know her name and she got serious and said oh yeah I remember now .. idk why but that really got me going... Anyway , am I the asshole for wanting the Valentine's experience even though I know I'll always have to share him? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}525{"id": "bP2lqHQRunNY0rF6sXeYr0ziaVb9Zf3m", "post_id": "b2f5ke", "action": {"description": "being somewhat rude to the receptionist at the barbershop because she changed my appointment time", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being somewhat rude to the receptionist at the barbershop because she changed my appointment time?", "text": "Just a little back story, my son, (almost 3 years old) and my husband have both been going to the same barber for about a year now. We are always on time and always tip over 20%. Anyways, yesterday my husband calls and makes an appointment as soon as the shop opens for 1:30pm. So we packed our two little kids into the car and drive to the mall to find parking, lug out the double stroller and set off to the shop to make it for our appointment time (and we were on time)  only to be told \u201coh she took a cut and a shave so you\u2019ll have to wait 1.5-2 hours, is that okay?\u201d I responded \u201cwhat the eff, that\u2019s not what we agreed too?! we have a set appointment time!\u201d Receptionist responds \u201cyeah we don\u2019t have any control over that.\u201d I just roll my eyes and walk away. My husband calls and asks if they can guarantee a time for tomorrow and they just tell him \u201cno, it\u2019s a free for all\u201d I just don\u2019t get it. If you hate working with people, don\u2019t work with people! I get that it\u2019s somewhat out of her control but don\u2019t you think she should have called and told us the appointment time had changed? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}526{"id": "vwV1hRCQ9x8UJ9vuZq4VTjsdgQiSIrff", "post_id": "b1ixqb", "action": {"description": "reporting an Independent Film Company for wage theft", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for Reporting an Independent Film Company for Wage Theft?", "text": " So a few weeks ago I had this argument with an independent film maker on the Book of Faces. I'm in a medieval reenactment group, so we make our own garb to wear to events. This filmmaker posts an ad for extras for his viking movie, and he posted it to our Facebook group. The compensation was snacks, and you had to bring your own garb and submit pics of you in it for consideration. He was also stupidly having men in Viking garb, and women in French high middle ages garb for \\*reasons\\*.\n\nI have worked in payroll for 10 years, and I'm very familiar with the FLSA (US law that regulates minimum wage, contractor/exempt/non-exempt employee status, and overtime pay). I even looked at the SAG requirements to make sure that movies were not an exception to FLSA (they aren't). I then spend the entire fucking day arguing that what he was doing was illegal. Somehow, I was \"killing his art\" and \"ruining his chances to make it in films\" and \"shitting on independent filmmaker who don't have the money of big studios\".\n\nI replied that he should fund raise to get the capital to keep up with his legal requirements. That the film company (because yes, it was a company that received pay for work) could get a loan from a bank. Or they could do a GoFundMe, or something other than wage theft. But of course, I'm the asshole for caring about the artists getting fair compensation for their art, but not about his art.  He was incredibly rude to me in front of my community.  When I reached out to his film company to inform them that what they were doing was illegal, I was rudely mocked and then blocked.\n\nSo, what he is doing is illegal.  The film company is being hypocritical, because they charge for doing film work like advertising and commercials, but they aren't compensating their extras.  I am a huge fan of the arts, and actively support my local arts scene.  But I'm also very much a fan of workers rights, and I happen to think that if your art relies on fucking over other artists than you don't deserve to \"make it\" in the business.  So Reddit:  WIBTA for reporting him to the state Department of Labor?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}527{"id": "rXWJK4wfl6zathAnWdGKXQAdNfgoBIUp", "post_id": "aenlm1", "action": {"description": "leaving a job unexpectedly to the employer", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA For leaving a job unexpectedly to the employer?", "text": "So, I am currently in a job (faith-based organization solely for background information) where I am extremely unhappy. Mental health, spiritual health, and happiness wise I am at a low point. I don't have a good relationship with my supervisor, there are lots of expectations on me that I didn't expect, and I don't feel I am treated fairly for several reasons. I am currently in the process of applying to jobs and have an interview tomorrow for a job I believe I have a good opportunity to receive. The job is in the same small town I currently work and many people who are part of my current job (members of the faith-based org) are connected to the new place I could be working (local college).\n\nMy current employers have no clue I am even looking to leave and it will be a blindside when I do it. Am I going to be the asshole when possibly come Monday I will be turning in a two-week notice and leave them down a staff member on a small staff? This new job will allow me more flexibility to be with loved ones during some currently hard times and gives me an opportunity to have help with school being paid for (grad degree), but now there's going to be different programs without someone supervising them, the different technology needs will not have someone to maintain them, etc. \n\nThanks for any input given in this very stressful situation.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}528{"id": "Pt4jtkD0oLymdDSQuLF8WmcFowRzz7cm", "post_id": "9yn1tf", "action": {"description": "not wanting to listen to my mom complaining about my older brother", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA - For not wanting to listen to my mom complaining about my older brother", "text": "Hey everyone. So basically, I\u2019m 22 and live alone for a few years now. I basically had to move out because my relationship with mom was terrible. Dad left us and I\u2019m an exact copy of him, I have the same hobbies, listen to same music and even look like him. I was reminded about this daily, and I remember a day when I was just standing around in kitchen and got told to \"stop looking like my father\". I knew I had to get out. Fast forward to today, I\u2019m a nurse, I live a happy life and my relationship with mom is a lot better. \n\nSo to the reason I think I\u2019m an asshole. She keeps calling me about my older brother. This dude got everything handed to him. Mom payed for his school while I had to get in debt, she decided he needs to start living alone so she gave him a house. And well, he doesn\u2019t give a sh*t about all of that. He loves partying, drinks a lot and never even had a real job. He often throws tantrums when he can\u2019t get more money and that\u2019s when I come into this. Mom keeps calling me about these tantrums and issues with him, and I just feel like I don\u2019t care. I moved on, sure it\u2019s my family but I have my own life now and I don\u2019t see why should I solve their problems. I remember that I was lost when I moved out, and whenever I called she would never even let me start talking about stuff that was bothering me. And if I finally after 30 minutes got to start, she\u2019d just quickly had to go, always. Now that I live a happy life I don\u2019t see a reason why I should bother myself with problems that are between them. I feel a bit like an asshole when I hung up quickly on these calls but I don\u2019t want to listen to those things. So what\u2019s your opinion AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}529{"id": "5PNeKOJP102p21NC6mBiZYOWZImZMxgD", "post_id": "a33fav", "action": {"description": "telling my son we would talk about him taking his piano home even though my wife and I had already decided he wouldn't", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA For telling my son we would talk about him taking his piano home even though my wife and I had already decided he wouldn't?", "text": "My wife and I talked about giving my son an electric piano that he would keep at our house for when he visits. I thought I had made it clear to him that it would stay at our house, but when I was getting ready to take him home he asked me how we were taking the piano. I reiterated that we weren't, that it was staying there for when he visits. He was very disappointed and I told him we would talk about it next week since he was coming on back to back weekends. After getting back from dropping him off, I told my wife about my son wanting to take the piano home. She thinks I am an asshole for telling him we would talk about it since we had already decided. She feels that I don't respect our relationship and I don't put enough effort to making our family. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}530{"id": "Hn1pjDzjkTbs2lyXRwNm84eR6LDlFDfv", "post_id": "aqck7v", "action": {"description": "shoving my friend", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for shoving my friend?", "text": "\n\nSo for context I have touch aversion issues and anxiety\n\nToday I was starting to have a panic attack, and while I was trying to calm down my friend cane over, trying to give me a hug. I told him to stop multiple times, I said no multiple times but he didn\u2019t stop and I shoved him away. He\u2019s mad at me now. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}531{"id": "kLEyxinNIDCxQSWXN8IElEg4kMO5s3db", "post_id": "b6un4q", "action": {"description": "being upset my GF could not join me because she was on her period", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For being upset my GF could not join me because she was on her period?", "text": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months now. We were good friends for 3 years before this, so we do have some history together.\nI am a science student and so getting to know that my research work would be shown in what's the most popular science magazine in my country meant a lot.\nThe head of the state would present it to me in front of some journalists and dozens of other important people in a 5 star hotel. So this was a huge thing for me, probably one of the highlights of my life.\n\nI told my girlfriend this, she wasn't too excited but she told me she would join me for sure.\nI had even gifted a dress she loved but couldn't afford. I told her even if she came for a few minutes it would mean a lot. My parents are no more too, so I didn't really have anyone else to come.\n\nPhones were to be switched off during the main event so I did just that. The whole event passed and my girlfriend was nowhere.\nWhen I called her later she just told me she was on her period and I was overreacting. She was apparently group studying with her friends. I obviously trust her on this since we have that kind of relationship.\nI told her I was upset and she told me I didn't get her pain and I needed to be more sensitive of her issues and she didn't expect this from me.\n\nI honestly just hung up on her at that point. I need some time to introspect.\n\nShe thinks she didn't do anything wrong, I think I am in the right.\nIt's confusing...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}532{"id": "qR7PoNy2B1POVVGG6sD5X5P0HXyDFV6Y", "post_id": "9tgraa", "action": {"description": "hitting my husband", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 47}, "title": "AITA for hitting my husband?", "text": "So a few days ago me and my husband got into an argument about politics, he is Republican and I'm a democrat so we differ on opinions about abortion, we usually just ignore our political differences but this time the argument was big, eventually he started yelling and mocking me, and in my fit of rage I hit him. It was a closed fist hit to the face, then he ran off and I didn't see him for a few hours, when I did see him he had a small bruise, he called me a bitch and then took his car keys and drove off. I haven't seen him sense, am I the asshole for punching him or is he just being a baby?\n\nEdit: so someone has made a troll account pretending to be my husband, this is NOT me and I have NO idea who they are.\n\nEdit 2: I realise that what I did was wrong, and I'll definitely apologize to him, this was the first time this type of thing ever happened, and I do think we can make up.\n\nEdit: GAMERS RISE UP. YEET niggga", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 47, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 47}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}533{"id": "2qzgBMXzcSa4RIu61ZcevShoG7bfNZtU", "post_id": "axexvx", "action": {"description": "bailing on my best friend's birthday plans", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for bailing on my best friend\u2019s birthday plans?", "text": "Hi everyone. My BF planned to go skydiving on his birthday, which was a few days ago. He thought of this idea ever since January and invited me to go with him. I said yes.\n\nIt is now a few days before his birthday. Unfortunately for me, my exam dates for all my classes have been pushed back into the same week of his birthday. I had one exam on his birthday and two exams the next day. Because of this, I wasn\u2019t able to go. And I told him that 2 days before his birthday. He\u2019s now aware that I am not going and how busy I am in school.\n\nIt is now his birthday. Before I sent him a happy birthday text and an apology for not going, I find out that he stopped sharing his location with me, which seemed odd to me. I didn\u2019t bring this up though. An hour after I texted him, I see him posting on instagram and I now know he\u2019s ignoring me since he didn\u2019t reply. Another 20 minutes or so goes by and I get a text from him. \u201cK\u201d was his response. \n\nAt this point I was mad because I apologized and I greeted him, while he forgot my birthday last year. I decided not to say anything. We haven\u2019t contacted each other since then and I don\u2019t plan on being the first one to say something. AITA?\n\nTL;DR - Back in January, I agreed to go skydiving with my best friend on his birthday, which was a few days ago. However, I didn\u2019t go because I was busy with exams. Now he\u2019s ignoring me even though I told him 2 days in advance that I had exams and that I couldn\u2019t go.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}534{"id": "InyqfQWOWifBlF2zqmgUAwwj4bsmIvmn", "post_id": "b4hh2h", "action": {"description": "posting an angry rant about my work on Facebook after I had a really bad day", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for posting an angry rant about my work on Facebook after I had a really bad day?", "text": "TL;DR: I work at a place where the \"established\" staff ignore new people or cause them problems instead of being helpful or considerate. Last Friday I had a really rough day in spite of my efforts not to let the negativity get to me and ended up crying in my car at the end of my shift. I then posted a thing on Facebook detailing all of my issues which I deleted shortly after. A girl I work with took it to my bosses and I am waiting to be told about it. \n\nI have to be quick because I have to get ready for work. \n\nBasically I work in a place where the long time staffers bully the new people. I don't know any other way to put it. New people are oftentimes ignored if they need help. We are barked at for not doing things while we're in the middle of doing those things. More than once I have cried on my way home from work because of how cruel these other girls could be.\n\nI thought maybe it was me so I changed my attitude from dreading going there and taking everything really hard to a positive attitude. That worked for a few days. Then, the Friday before last, I got yelled at for literally everything. \"You need to go to the dining room!\" When I was going there. They didn't need to say that. \n\nI made a very dumb mistake and I owned it but one of my co-workers threw paperwork at me and yelled at me that she wasn't doing her job because I screwed up my job and that i would have to do both. A nurse was nearby, heard this 40 something woman yelling at me, and did nothing. \n\nAfter a long day of one thing after another I got told that I \"never listen\" because I wasn't paying attention to a woman who I didn't realize was talking to me while I tried to do some paperwork on a resident. She was trying to give me more work to do when I was supposed to be going home shortly. I told her that it sounded like another shift should do that, as I was going home very soon, and she said \"well then it'll never get done!\" Which I guess is a compliment but by then my feelings were in the gutter and I burst into tears. \n\nI clocked out early against the rules and went and cried in my car because I had really tried that day not to let the bullying get to me but it didn't matter how hard I tried, they wouldn't stop and eventually I broke. \n\nSo when i got home I posted this thing talking about my experience there. All of the new people who started with me also have similar experiences.  I deleted the post very quickly but a girl still took it to one of my bosses and I only found out about it last night. It really explains why different people in different departments really ramped up the bullying in the past week. The post must have been passed around. \n\nAITA for posting that on Facebook after my bad day ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}535{"id": "ITla98XF5BF2mf7JcyTVJ2BhQ8R95AtU", "post_id": "a6rn55", "action": {"description": "blocking a follower on social media who is depressed", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for blocking a follower on social media who is depressed?", "text": "(I apologize if I lack a little clarity at time, non-native speaker here!)\n\nI (F27) recently began a new Youtube channel that has been accumulating a steady amount of followers, most of whom are just perfect and civil, and I try to engage them whenever possible. But there is one account owner that has been particularly clingy, messaging me a lot initially and with growing frequency. His messages were a bit TMI at times but it was friendly enough. \n\nHowever, at some point he started to express feeling of attraction toward me very explicitly. I told him that I did not feel the same way and to please stop saying these things. He began messaging me many times daily on YT and instagram, saying he wanted to be in a relationship with me. I tried to continue to be polite but he seemed frankly obsessed. After a few more firm messages, I decided I had to block his account. \n\nNow he is messaging me from an alternate account saying he is very depressed and has thoughts of suicide. He says that if he hurts himself it's my fault. The whole thing has gotten very dark and is making me feel horrible about myself. I'm not sure what my duty is here. Like maybe I should unblock him and continue to be civil, and I'm just avoiding it because I feel he's difficult to talk to.\n\nWould you say IATA in this situation, or maybe being insensitive?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}536{"id": "B3tru7AhqNIP7dcjzKp3XWPVgyzDBbsL", "post_id": "aq5rhc", "action": {"description": "telling my father to shut the fuck up", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For telling my father to shut the fuck up?", "text": "Hey guys, I know this title already seems crazy but let me explain in detail.\n\nI\u2019m a 17 year old girl who lives with my grandma and father (although he never comes home and doesn\u2019t spend any time with me) in Toronto and I have lots of mental health issues. These issues have been diagnosed by many psychiatrists and I\u2019ve even been hospitalized for months on end because of them.  This may seem irrelevant to the story I\u2019m about to tell you but bare with me it comes into play. BIG TIME. \n\nSo my father, we will call him Joe, he has a girlfriend whom we will call Mary. Joe and Mary have been together for around 8 months now and Mary even has a daughter who is fairly close to my age (her age being 20) and we share the same interests and mental health problems. We both have anxiety and clinical depression, her having anxiety more intense than mine and I also suffer from something called borderline personality disorder. (This causes you to have extreme mood swings and fear of abandonment issues) We shall call the daughter Mei. \n\nSo here\u2019s where the actual story takes place. A few days ago on Saturday, Joe and I went to his girlfriends house to spend time. Me and Mei were telling Mary about how once we ordered Uber eats and both had anxiety attacks that the delivery guy was going to kill us and I had pulled a knife and hid behind the door. Joe chimes in even though he\u2019s not included in the conversation and starts downplaying our mental illnesses. He starts saying things like \n\n\u201cOh, how can you guys have anxiety! Just done give a fuck about what\u2019s going on!\u201d \n \n\u201cOh come on really? BPD isn\u2019t even that bad hahah you could\u2019ve had cancer or something just shattttupppp\u201d \n\nGee, thanks, my anxiety is now cured. Anyways he kept saying stuff like that and it was clearly angering everyone in the room. Me especially because he kept mentioning my disorder (BPD) even though he knows it causes me to cut myself and that\u2019s what got me hospitalized. \nSo I accidentally slipped up and said\n\n \u201cshut the fuck up\u201d \n\nAt that point I knew I done goofed and instantly lowered my head. I apologized profusely and said I didn\u2019t mean to say that and that I was out of line and he laughed it off and went upstairs. The next day when we were leaving he started screaming at me in the car. He told me he should\u2019ve slapped me in my face and embarrassed me. I was super tired and the words went right through one ear and out the other.  \n\nFast forward to Monday. Me and my father joe didn\u2019t speak all Monday with exception of him sending me texts saying what he told me in the car but now with a twist. \n\n\u201cIt\u2019s February 11th and you have until the end of the week to get another job or else I\u2019m selling everything you own, because I bought it. Welcome to reality.\u201d \n\nThis caused me to have an anxiety attack at school and I went home early. I did apply to some places and thank goodness got a call back and I have an interview on Thursday. Anyways, on Tuesday I had to stay home because schools were cancelled due to an snow storm and he didn\u2019t go to work for the same reason. He took this as his chance to burst into my room and scream at me. He called me every name in the book, he threatened to yank my piercings out my face, he even took it upon himself to yank the hood of my sweater basically choking me just so I would look at him. Mind you by that time he had already screamed at me to clean my room so I was folding clothes, that\u2019s why I wasn\u2019t looking at him.  I started screaming because I thought he was going to hit me in my face like he said he would and I had a major breakdown. Now my grandma says that if I try to leave and stay anywhere else he and the rest of my family will cut me off. \n\nAITA for telling him to shut the fuck up? \n\nEdit: guys how I put screenshots ?? I have text conversation with my aunt and mom, I don\u2019t know if that\u2019ll add any proof but I don\u2019t know how to use reddit .. \n\nEdit 2: hey guys I had deleted the app shortly after posting this, I honestly just needed to vent. But all that aside, me and my father made up, we talked about it. I\u2019m fine for those who are asking, no need to worry! ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}537{"id": "dbUYB7tzvcWcqhCjUnOtzHteEGc3Gnrc", "post_id": "a59dvl", "action": {"description": "leaving spoiled food for a food thief to steal", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "WIBTA if I left spoiled food for a food thief to steal?", "text": "Ok, so I'm coming here before acting on this, but here is the situation: I live in San Diego with my wife and son at her parents house currently. We live with roommates as it's a 6 bedroom house. We rent the rooms with all utilities included, access to the pool, laundry room, and both patio areas are open for them to have late night guests. We offer them cheaper for students, as that's who we mainly attract being close to the university. In doing so we share common areas. The kitchen being one of them. I cook, A LOT, and whenever I cook, I always tell the other three people living here that there is plenty of food for them to share, and most nights they will come and join us for dinner, or at least eat leftovers. This is done out of generosity because I see how hard a lot of them work, and two of who are here from out of state and away from family. This is where the problem started, and I thought should have ended. \n\nAbout three weeks ago, I took my wife and son out to a Japanese restaurant. My wife loves sushi, and that is our treat usually once a month. My son loves teriyaki so it's a win for everyone. After eating, my wife ordered two sushi roll to take home and eat with the movie we picked for that night. So we grab the to go sushi and head home. A few hours after arriving home, we start popping corn for the movie and my wife noticed her sushi is gone. We asked around, and sure enough the only make tenant we have ate them. Actually went into the bag, opened it up, and ate her two sushi rolls. About 16 pieces. I was flabbergasted. I asked him very angrily why he would do that, and he says, \"You always offer us lunch or dinner, so I thought leftovers would be the same way.\"\n\nThat to me screams entitlement, and I am not excited that my wife's food was just taken within just a few hours of even being purchased. He obviously saw that it was not leftovers either, but an entirely separate purchase. \n\nI discussed with him that it was not acceptable to go into our possessions, whether it be food or otherwise, and to use common sense before eating anything that is not his, as I have NEVER ordered takeout or from a restaurant for these tenants before.\n\nThis brought up a discussion with the other tenants, and we discovered that one had actually purchased a mini fridge because her food would turn up missing also. When confronted with this information, the food thief admitted to drinking her iced coffees, her cheesecake, etc. Overall, not fucking cool. We told him he had 30 days from the first of this month to be out, because he violated the tenant agreement by stealing others belongings. We have to look out for those renting our rooms, so the eviction was a mutual agreement. \n\nHe argues of course, but ultimately knows he can do nothing. Yet, he now knows he has nothing to worry about with stealing food. So yes, food has been disappearing ALL week from everyone.\n\nHere is where I need an opinion. I want to buy a nice steak and leave it in my car for a couple days, then prepare it with some veggies and potatoes and leave it on the refrigerator, obviously for the food thief to eat and get sick. Is this illegal? Is there any other suggestions for me to get my petty ass revenge on a food thief in my home?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}538{"id": "4lHWqoCGbHNN6Ko5l9SAQ7oUxbF4eREa", "post_id": "b44f3x", "action": {"description": "wanting to leave my family with my mentally ill mother", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to leave my family with my mentally ill mother", "text": "My mother has a mental illness that debilitates her from doing the things that she used to do. She used to love working, spending time with my siblings and I, and going outside, but because of her mental illness, she no longer enjoys her previous lifestyle. She refuses medication and believes that everyone is constantly out to get her and sees herself as a Godly figure and the things that she does because of her illness are SEVERE. We fight frequently to say the less.\n\nThis has obviously put a great strain on my family. My father has to work 3 jobs to keep us stable and is constantly tired because of this. I\u2019ve never had a close relationship with either of my parents and I\u2019ve grown up mostly independent (other than financially). \n\nNow for the AITA part, I want to move to another country FAR away from here (mainly to get away from my mother) for college but my father doesn\u2019t want me to leave the country for college. Financially, the cost would be the same and I have been accepted. I know he loves me and I love him, but I can\u2019t bear living in the same household any longer. So WIBTA if I left?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}539{"id": "1f35bwyuH1EJHQsMJlYz7bYeAbyhNgEn", "post_id": "b83kcu", "action": {"description": "saying my friends boobs are just ''alright''", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for saying my friends boobs are just ''alright''?", "text": "i (18M) was hanging out with a friend (18F) at her place and we were watching a movie. So she was not really paying attention to the movie that much but i liked it a lot, while i was watching she was asking me questions like ''what do you think of this person'' and ''what do you think of this teacher'' and I just said ''they're alright''. that's usually my go to answer for everything.\n\nthen she said what do i think of going off to college, i said the same, it'll be alright. Then she asked me ''what do you think of my tits?'', i thought that a strange question and didn't answer it, then she said ''look at me'' and while i looked her, she literally got her boobs out of her bra. i said ''they're alright'' because i didn't know what else to say, and was shocked.\n\nThen she went to the toilet and didn't come out, she didn't come out for ages so i go to check on her and she says that her parents are coming home and that i should leave. I say okay, now her friends texted me calling me asshole because i destroyed her confidence AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}540{"id": "R5PreEkCcbr3xKyW5mkZYcuHUzxHvnWo", "post_id": "b8ez1v", "action": {"description": "strongly recommending my roommate and hiring a cleaning service for our shared bathroom", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I strongly recommended my roommate and I hire a cleaning service for our shared bathroom?", "text": "So Reddit, last year, I graduated from college and moved to a new city. My roommate (F, 23) and I (M, 24) were acquaintances in college and decided to room together as she had also gotten a job in the same city. Soon after arriving, I started dating my girlfriend, who I met through my roommate (friend of a friend).\n\n​\n\nThe issue is, our shared bathroom has gotten so filthy I try my best to avoid showering at home \u2013 I shower literally anywhere else: my girlfriend\u2019s place, the gym, my friends\u2019 places. After my roommate showers, there\u2019s just a thick layer of slippery soap scum and long hair. I slipped and slided around in the tub for months before giving in and buying a shower scrubber. I\u2019ve bought every cleaning product in an attempt to reduce the slipping risk in the bathtub. If I have to shower at home, I spend a good 5 mintues before each shower trying to get rid of the soap scum so I don't have to step in it. \n\nI\u2019ve mentioned it to her a few times, pretty passively (\u201cHey, I\u2019ve had some good success with X product for the tub, give it a shot!\u201d) trying not to actively blame her for the scum, but there\u2019s really only scum after she showers \u2013 it might be the coconut oil or something. I've gotten neutral/negative response, no change in behavior.\n\n​\n\nWould I be an asshole for suggesting we hire a professional cleaner? My girlfriend thinks that would be really passive aggressive, but there are some other areas that could use some cleaning (kitchen, living room) and I wouldn\u2019t mind footing half the bill in order to have a clean home to return to. Part of me hopes she'll get the message and start cleaning up after herself instead. I\u2019d like to reiterate that I don\u2019t expect her to clean because she\u2019s a girl \u2013 I clean up after myself in communal areas and just expect her to do the same (even though she makes more of a mess).\n\n​\n\nI don\u2019t want to piss her off/directly confront her since she\u2019s in the same social circles as my girlfriend, and they seem kind of gossipy/cliquey and I don't want to do that to my girlfriend. And I don\u2019t want to be an asshole, but I\u2019d also like to shower in my house without having to clean up her mess. For the past 2 months, I\u2019ve basically been in between staying at my girlfriend\u2019s house or crashing with my friends 70% of the time in order to avoid my place.\n\n​", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}541{"id": "Rdjp1Ok12BWektWw5oZ0URJtb4pO42Jz", "post_id": "b7ezmv", "action": {"description": "unfollowing my friends because of their online PDA", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA If I unfollowed my friends because of their online PDA??", "text": "For context, I dated the girl for a very short while a few months back. I'm not very close with either of them now and don't have any feelings for her anymore they are really starting to annoy me. Me and the boy were quite good mates at college but as soon as they started dating a few weeks ago, he completely shut me out (ignoring my messages etc.) \n\nEveryday they post a picture together, or add \"Great day with @theirname :)\" to their stories. Maybe I'm being a lonely grump but I have never been able to stand PDA and with the added bonus of him acting like I don't exist as soon as he gets a girlfriend, it really pisses me off.\n\nI really want to unfollow them or say something but, being gen Zs, that seems to be a big deal and it's not like I hate them or anything, they're just in that annoying honeymoon phase that I'd much rather not see?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}542{"id": "45puwX1DxeZpUTCAoONsNXKAXVK2hi4K", "post_id": "b2rnqn", "action": {"description": "refusing to pull through a parking spot into the one in front so another customer could park behind me", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to pull through a parking spot into the one in front so another customer could park behind me?", "text": "So this happened today at Costco. It was busy, cars were prowling all around the parking lot. I spotted an open isle with a car backing out just as the car in front of it was also leaving. The cars park in strips of two so these cars had been parked nose to nose. So technically now this opened up two spots that were directly connected and I could have pulled through my intended spot and gone right into the spot in front of it so another car which had come up behind me could take my original spot. The problem with this however, is that I planned to make some large purchases, buying an appliance and small piece of furniture. If I had pulled through, this guy would have snugged right up behind me and when I came back out I wouldn\u2019t be able to open my back hatch/gate and load my items. So I stopped in my intended spot and parked. This guy was furious, laid on his horn and rolled his window down to berate me. I simply replied that I needed to be able to load large items in my car and this was going to be a big shop. I couldn\u2019t have my back end blocked. He was so mad. His wife flipped me the bird and they sped off like crazy people in a parking lot with pedestrians everywhere. \n\nI guess I could have pulled right through and out into the next aisle, done like a 5 point turn and reparked in my required direction, but the lot was so crowded and I probably would have just confused another car in the next aisle while doing an Austin powers technique getting my car turned around. I felt bad, the guy was so upset and I guess it looked like a douche bag move. AITA, what should I have done?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}543{"id": "mM1vEW9tr0TOxMDTISV5GyVw2KyDQL5b", "post_id": "agvkov", "action": {"description": "not being thankful", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not being thankful", "text": "Am I the asshole? I lived in a crappy apartment with my disabled Mom, who I take care of. We had a crazy neighbor who decided to threaten to kill us so we packed up and moved to my Mom's sister's house. Now my Aunt is messy, like filthy, rotting food on the counters, toilet unflushed, garbage everywhere, never washes her hands. She isn't a hoarder she just doesn't seem to notice or care. Her granddaughter has lived with her most if her life since my cousin died and the girl's mom is a deadbeat. My little cousin is a brat with a capital B, and as messy as her grandmother. She will spill ice cream and when asked to clean it say no S (me) will clean it up, it drives me nuts. Both sides of my family have mental health issues which are prone to blossom in women in their early twenties and I have been going through hell with it. I almost did myself in last October and my Mom and my Aunt were there for me to keep me going and now my work has cut my hours in half . So my Aunt came up with the idea that instead of paying rent to live in her half finished basement, I can just keep the house clean for her. It's making me so resentful and angry. My Mom can't really clean up after herself but at least she tries, my Aunt and cousin have no excuse they are just gross. I will clean the place just about spotless but still there will always be something she finds fault with. The pillows on the couch aren't arranged properly, I load the dishwasher incorrectly, anything of mine or my mother's being visible is not acceptable. Yet when I moved in you couldn't sit on the couch and the sink was always full and smelled like death. I know I should be thankful, I have a free roof over my head even if it is an unfinished basement room. She didn't have to help us, she did it out of the kindness of her heart, she could have insisted I still pay rent but she didn't. I used to clean the place like it was my job but I just care less and less. It's starting to look bad and I'm hurting no one but myself and my mom. I can just hardly stand to be out of my room most of the time anymore. The complaints hurt as I'm doing my best and I am starting to feel more like a maid than a member of the family. I feel awful that I am so ungrateful, I feel like I should be happy for what I have been given but I'm just mad and not sure if I have a right to be.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}544{"id": "0COjEFF3n4ghZqpau5k4L4JtqBlLVDjK", "post_id": "b42p2p", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go down on my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go down on my girlfriend?", "text": "Well, I just started dating this girl and we're great together. We get along extremely well. And the sex is great as well. But well to be honest I'm not really the type that wants to go down on a girl. I just find it rather disturbing. Well at the same time she loves going down for me and she expects the same from me. I've forced myself a bunch of times and I've come to the conclusion that I just don't enjoy going down on her. I brought this up recently and it lead to a huge fight. Am I an asshole for not wanting to go down on her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 18, "INFO": 3}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}545{"id": "R2qPBxREGtfH02UJOpQW2zb4FeT7Hh3G", "post_id": "ay62cn", "action": {"description": "\"bullying\" a kid at my school with autism", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for \u201cbullying\u201d a kid at my school with autism?", "text": "Hear me out, if the title was 100% true I wouldn\u2019t be posting here.\n\nContext: I was a hs freshman at the time  and the kid was a senior. I\u2019m now a college freshman.\n\nThis all happened in my freshman year in concert band. There happened to be a kid with autism in my class. The first day when I met him, we chatted about random stuff like football and other sport-related things. I can definitely tell without anyone telling me that he has autism, as I worked as a ilc tutor for most of middle school. I am totally fine talking and hanging out with pretty much anyone as I don\u2019t care what a person looks like as long as their actions aren\u2019t bad. Things are going smoothly, until 1 day about a quarter way through the semester he asks me a very inappropriate question relating to my genitals. I tell him \u201cthat\u2019s not an ok thing to say\u201d and everything is fine. Or so I thought. Throughout the next month the frequency of these sorts of comments increase, as do my response intensities. It got to the point where I felt sexually harassed, and I started telling him to \u201cshut the fuck up and leave me alone, asshole.\u201d He went away after that.\n\nNow it\u2019s at this point in the story where some of you are gonna say \u201cjust tell a teacher,\u201d and yes, I agree, that would be a great thing to do except since he has autism, unless he physically does something to me, the teachers won\u2019t do jack shit.\n\nAfter I said that to him, the next day, he started saying that he was going to get me expelled from my school because I was a discgrase (bad spelling sorry). I had enough at this point so I started messing with him a little bit. I went along with his game, and every time he would say something about me being a bad kid, I would go along with it and make up stories about being a criminal. (My favorite was telling him I was a time traveling bank robber.) other than this, I didn\u2019t say anything insulting to him. \n\nOne night, after a concert, his twin brother who doesn\u2019t have any mental handicaps told me to stop messing with his brother or he would beat me up. I stopped after that and just avoided the kid entirely. \n\nI know it\u2019s been like 4 years, but this still sticks in my mind. I really don\u2019t know if I was the asshole in this situation so I\u2019d like Reddit\u2019s opinion.\n\nThanks for reading. Let me know if I should put a TL:DR", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}546{"id": "tjSVtZGRI63YKZpP0B46xU49BdPpbmTn", "post_id": "aac4q1", "action": {"description": "saying that women can't gain muscles like men can", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for saying that women can't gain muscles like men can?", "text": "So, I was having a minor discussion with someone on tumblr about a series we both follow. For context, the series is a manga about kids training to become superheros. Anyway, the OP was complaining about how the girls in the series don't seem to be as muscular as the boys, and I chimed in by saying that its harder for women to become visibly muscular like men, but that a lack of muscle doesn't mean that a woman isn't physically fit. Another person chimed in and said that I was sexists and that this line of thinking was a lie.\n\n​\n\nNow I initially wrote off the other person as being overly sensitive, but I later realized that I could've been mistaken because I don't have a lot of knowledge in this field. I found some articles that supported my statement, but I wasn't sure if they were reliable or not. Even if my statement about women and muscle gain was correct, is it still sexists to say something like that?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}547{"id": "xgKgA5gH7ECBWbN3swodjRTzg9DjFdLw", "post_id": "an38hn", "action": {"description": "not hearing my SO's calls", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not hearing my SO's calls", "text": "Happened a few hours ago and I feel terrible about it. We watched the Superbowl, ate and then watched a movie, had a very good time actually. It was pretty late by the time I realized we had to go to bed, but he didn't want to: he had to be at work at 5 am and thought that if he went to bed, he wouldn't be able to wake up early. \n\nI insisted a bit because we had a very busy day: took the dog to the vet and helped a friend of mine move an elliptical bike she bought, and SO basically dismantled it and rearranged it. However, he was firm and I let him be, went to bed. \n\nI remember that I left the lights on and the door slightly open so I could see movement, but I don't remember what side did I fall asleep at. This is important because I have a slight deafness in my left ear and I'm a very heavy sleeper so I usually try to not sleep on my good ear, or else I won't hear a thing. \n\nI woke up at 6 and found him gone, the doors wide open, his gear on the bed (he's a physician)  and his keys on the lock. I was freaking out about what the heck had happened when the phone rang: he had run out of the house to grab his glasses and got locked out. Called me 20 million times, both to the landline and my mobile. Honked the car. Had his Uber call me. Nothing. I woke up an hour later. He went to work with nothing and had to come back home for his things.\n\nI feel awful, but I can't help being a heavy sleeper. I want to know if IATA because it sure feels like I am :(", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}548{"id": "vwMjfkRZOO3PgAOp7fRo7bFimzecb6R7", "post_id": "azcrku", "action": {"description": "not standing up during the pledge", "pronormative_score": 30, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not standing up during the pledge?", "text": "If you don\u2019t know what the pledge is, it\u2019s when you say your pledge of allegiance to the US.\n\n\nI\u2019m in middle school and I don\u2019t stand up for the pledge.Other kids also didn\u2019t stand up for the pledge either.My teacher is fine with this but when a sub came in she was pissed when we didn\u2019t stand up for the pledge.She had another teacher come and talk to us about \u201cgiving her a hard time.\u201d\n\nAITA for not standing up for the pledge", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 30, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 30, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}549{"id": "Aft6UOJ97jiMDB5zC70ixQomexD4Mvwb", "post_id": "aunn01", "action": {"description": "being upset at my friend for not notifying me when he cancelled our sleepover", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being upset at my friend for not notifying me when he cancelled our sleepover", "text": "      My group of friends use discord for all of our communication and in this server a certain friend (L) wanted to have a sleepover to record some games with us. \n\n     Me and another friend (C) we\u2019re at a gaming tournament and C didn\u2019t have a phone that could use discord. \n     \n     Earlier in the day L had said that C and I should \u201cjust come over ASAP.\u201d I told him that we would be late since the tournament ended at 7PM. At 6:30 L sent a message notifying us: \u201c@everyone sleepover my place\u201d this message popped up on my phones home screen so I could see it easily\n\n     \n     At 6:37 another friend said that he couldn\u2019t go. At 6:42 L said \u201csick no sleepover actually\u201d\nHe sent this message without @\u2018ing anyone and I didn\u2019t see it.\n\n     C and I left the tournament at about 7:15 PM, dropped a friend off at home and went to L\u2019s house. His sister opened the door and let us in. She said that \u201cL is upstairs in his room.\u201d On our way upstairs, L\u2019s mom said that he had just left and that he would be home probably in an hour. So C and I spent an hour in L\u2019s room playing games while he was out. \n\n     At 8:40 L\u2019s mom said we might just want to leave and that L told her to kick us out. He said to me \u201cI told y\u2019all not to come ya know.\u201d\n\n     I believe that he should\u2019ve @\u2018ed us to notify me that it was cancelled and that it was reasonable to expect that I wouldn\u2019t see a message I wasn\u2019t notified for. \n\n    He and others think that I should\u2019ve seen the message and not just arrived at his house. He says that he did notify us but I just didn\u2019t look\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}550{"id": "n3YoikdnDOcUz19zVAqZLfMBfEeYQ2h8", "post_id": "aj05mi", "action": {"description": "not crying over my grandmothers death", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not crying over my grandmothers death?", "text": "This is kind of an off my chest, genuine concern, and somewhat of a guilt trip all in one. Sorry if this cuts too deep for some;  a NSFW tag is recommended or requested, I\u2019ll add one, no questions asked.\n\n(Excessive backstory - skip to end if you want to save yourself a few minutes)\nAt the beginning of last spring break, my grandmother on my fathers side passed away due to medical complications resulting from old age and a history of rather heavy tobacco usage from her early teen years to shortly before her first pregnancy in her early thirties, let\u2019s say twenty years. No condolences needed; it is a fact of life and I\u2019ve since moved on completely.\n\nThis warrior of a lady\u2019s death was expected but MASSIVELY sudden in a way. She had, over the course of nearly half a decade, brushed death, dodged death, experienced it for several seconds, and everything in between. If death were a person, she gave them a taste of their own medicine before giving up. This absolute unit of a human was pronounced legally dead a dozen times before she succumbed to a peaceful, endless sleep in her warm living room surrounded by her dog, my mother and father, and me.\n\nI\u2019ll spare you the novel that I could easily write right now, but when she finally left us for good, I was overcome with... nothing.\n\nMy father and mother both were silent for a few painful moments before shedding any tears. I had seen my mom cry plenty of times, but my dad went from the most humble and masculine stereotype to a sobbing mess. However, it wasn\u2019t just sadness. It was anger.\n\nI decided to excuse myself, as it was very late and I had school in a matter of hours. Before I could finish my sentence, my dad turned me to and said, completely un ironically, \u201cWhy did you even come down here in the fucking first place, Waynard_Ferguson?\u201d \n\nThis was a bit jarring to me. My father didn\u2019t particularly like his mother, and she wasn\u2019t exactly what you would call a sweet old lady, so his attack towards me specifically was not expected.\n\nI explained to him in a stammering sentence that I wanted to be there for support and since I had been the only person there besides my mom (brothers moved out), that I would at least stay and offer my very real sympathy. This didn\u2019t sit well with him, either.\n\n\u201cYou could\u2019ve just told me the truth, and stay locked in your room like always. Had you not come down, I wouldn\u2019t even know you were home!\u201d this was delivered in not much less than a choked up, grieving whisper, but was deafening nonetheless. I looked to my mother, who didn\u2019t speak, which was the right move in retrospect.\n\nAfter this, I didn\u2019t really know what to say, or if I should even say anything. at all. He broke an uncomfortable eye contact with me after a few seconds, and told me in a hushed tone to go to bed, along with an assumption that I only wanted to leave because of my selfishness.\n\nLong story short, my father wasn\u2019t mad at my predetermined lack of care for the situation, as he explained after his irrational state of grief passed. He was upset by my outwardly emotionless reaction to not just his mother\u2019s death, but really anything related to the situation. It\u2019s not that I didn\u2019t care about my father and what he was going through. It\u2019s just that I didn\u2019t have the strong emotional connection that my father had, or anything close to it, to display that I was in fact emotionally moved by a VERY raw display of reality in front of me. I will admit, I didn\u2019t cry or have a very strong reaction, if at all, to her death. I\u2019m not sure why, I just couldn\u2019t find it in me to be upset.\n\nTo be fair, she was quite the grandmother. She would insist on taking me to and from school regardless if my mom was or wasn\u2019t going to, she would take me shopping for anything I needed with a seemingly endless supply of money, and wouldn\u2019t show the slightest bit of irritation whenever I broke something of hers or said something stupid out of child ignorance. Not to mention, she would fix me meals fit for an entire family. She did this for not only me, but my two older brothers, and only stopped when she couldn\u2019t breath on her own anymore.\n\nMy father, at the time, seemed to only think that I was leaving the room because I was uncomfortable being around him, and not really thinking about the fact that I just watched someone die for the first time.\n\nSo, am I the asshole for not being upset from her death, and more specifically not feeling obligated to address her condition in a way that wasn\u2019t dismissive? And this isn\u2019t really asking if my dad was the offender, because he wasn\u2019t. Is there something going on with me that would justify my lack of guilt or sorrow? Or am I just an unfeeling person? I left the room because I was uncomfortable, sure. But I was 17, exhausted, and just witnessed something not many people can easily forget about. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}551{"id": "0JqorSGHPQnUHKS4L8qaqcC8CMdHqHls", "post_id": "axikvl", "action": {"description": "calling my mother a bitch during her birthday party", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for calling my mother a bitch during her birthday party?", "text": "I know that sounds pretty bad from the get-go but hear me out first. My mother had recently turned 50, and wanted a party to celebrate this lifetime achievement. In her mind it would be a small house party like we have every year but just slightly better or over the top. \n\nI decided to go all out, getting reservations for a small club. Inviting her group of close friends, there\u2019s about 10 people, I specifically planned for no kids because this was supposed to be special. I made sure I had drinks covered, music she liked and all the decor set up.\n\nWhen she got here she was shocked, we had a blast at first. Eating food, drinking, it all went wrong on the dance floor. My moms friends were pretty drunk and began doing some scandalous dances, such as twerking and grinding on friends in a joking manner. \n\nThat\u2019s when it got more serious and my mom joined in and began twerking furiously, being the supportive daughter I am (and very drunk) said \u201cYeah, fuck it up bitch!\u201d Like in a friend way, not like being derogatory.\n\nShe immediately froze, and began tearing up, I was so confused. She ran out of the venue and I went after her, she explained that she felt massively disrespected and ashamed on her birthday. She went back in later to finish the party, but everyone was acting awkward afterwards. I dropped her off in silence, we haven\u2019t spoken since.\n\nAm I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}552{"id": "gU54kXzVCYxHi5vBbjRA6WaLw58MUeBz", "post_id": "afz5je", "action": null, "title": "AITA in my relationship with my parents", "text": "​\n\nMy relationship with my parents has always been strained. This is for a number of reasons. To start off in the 4th grade they left a cult, a cult I still believed in, I didn't really have anyone to talk to at the time, so I resorted to the internet to help me work through what I believed. At this point I didn't really see my parent's as a role model. They also had me during college, a decision I am certain they now both regret, so I feel partially responsible for them being stuck with a kid they don't want. In the 6th grade I was being an ass, making fun of my dads friend, thinking that neither him or I was taking it seriously, unfortunately  I didn't know I was being an dick until I heard my dad call me an ass after I left the room. This type of scenario happened again with my mom. She was complaining about me and my siblings not helping out as much as we should. I got mad and said that it was her job to clean  up after us, I know I was the asshole in the scenario, unfortunately I didn't know how much of a dick I was being until my dad came home. I heard her crying to my dad in their room, and I started feeling really bad about it. A few minutes later my dad came into my room and asked me \"why are you being such an ass to your mom\".  It is because of these events, and many little ones, that I am very reserved around my parents, I think they are going to talk about me behind my back. I also feel like I can't rely on my parents emotionally, so I have been resorting to the internet and myself for advice/emotional support since the 6th grade. This has matured me, greatly, and I would argue that I am capable of making thought out and mature decisions, as I couldn't rely on them to make these decisions for me. (as in setting rules, giving advice on what I should do, ect.)\n\n​\n\nOkay, so jumping too present day. On Christmas we go to a friends house, a couple hours into the event my mom and her friend go outside to, I later figure out, smoke a cigarette.  Now I am fine with that, I have no right to judge what she does, and as long as its not a repeating thing I don't really think its a health issue. However, I am not allowed outside during this time, as she probably doesn't want to set a bad example for me. (keep in mind I don't consider them role models anymore). Later on New Years they say that we are going to the Rose parade, as they found a way to get in easily. However, we would have to go early. and I thought that after staying up late New Years eve I wouldn't have enough energy to enjoy the parade. Long story short, they forced my to go, and I ended up napping the entire time. After winter break I started independent study, and they are now worried that I will stop seeing friends, and  instead stay inside all day. Independent study has allowed me to complete other work that I would normally do all weekend, feeling guilty if I didn't dedicate every moment of my free time to this work (I am a bit of a workaholic). This weekend, now that I didn't fill an extreme amount of guilt for hanging out, I decided to take a long break, watching Netflix and playing video games with friends all weekend. Meanwhile I put off chores until Monday, last night my parents shut off my internet, telling me they wouldn't turn it on until I got my chores done. I did my chores, and, rudely, told them to turn the internet back on. They told me that I was being disrespectful and entitled, I told them to stop parenting me, and that if I could get a job and leave I would. (Though I do have experience to get a job in programming, I am also 14... so I cant get a job).\n\n​\n\nAITA for getting mad when my parents try to... parent me? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}553{"id": "rTah1UgPvSPCQGj6QUlaHQfl4jEzmDFh", "post_id": "afmkjs", "action": {"description": "cheating in Monopoly", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for cheating in Monopoly", "text": "I played Monopoly with my mom, stepdad, and my cool brother Nathan a few hours ago and I feel really guilty for what I did. \n\nWe were playing Monopoly, and I cheated and it made Nathan go bankrupt real fast. I cut him short a dollar when I had to pay him a few times because he doesn\u2019t always pay attention.\n\nAnd then Nathan went bankrupt and he flipped the board and yelled the F word. I think he flipped the board as a joke because he never ever gets mad enough to do that stuff and he does that as a joke all the time but I think he accidentally said the F word\n\nMy stepdad thought it was real funny but my mom didn\u2019t like that he cussed so she got him in trouble and now he has to do all the dishes at dinner tonight and I have seven brothers and two parents so that\u2019s ten people\u2019s worth of dishes to wash and that\u2019s not really fair\n\nAITA for cheating or is it Monopoly\u2019s fault for being stupid", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}554{"id": "fJ9Q5P6Z3qULHATjq5W7QDHO7t7OQpyO", "post_id": "a6bniv", "action": {"description": "towing my neighbor's car", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for towing my neighbor\u2019s car?", "text": "So in my apartment complex, you get one assigned parking space, and you have the option of paying for an additional \u201creserved\u201d space with a number and a permit to park there. Three nights this week, some guy parks in my space. On the second night he did it, I wrote him a note warning him that he was in a reserved spot and that I\u2019d have him towed if he didn\u2019t move. Meanwhile I\u2019m stuck parking on the street quite a walk away and I pay for this spot just to avoid that. His car left both days, so I know it wasn\u2019t just left there. Two nights later, he\u2019s in my spot again. The note was gone, so I assume he got the message. At this point I\u2019m thinking that I\u2019m just gonna keep getting jerked around, so I had him towed. \n\nOn a somewhat unrelated note, I got rear-ended less than twenty minutes later on my way to dinner. I was waiting to enter a roundabout and the kid behind us either wasn\u2019t paying attention or wasn\u2019t experienced on wet roads. Poor kid skidded in the rain and just blasted into us. Everyone was okay, and my car is still drivable. I harbor no ill will against him. Nice kid. But it felt like some rotten karma. Friday is turning pretty sour. I\u2019m gonna need a new bumper. \nAnyway. We exchanged info and I went to dinner. \n\nDinner was great. When we returned home, the owner of the vehicle I had towed was waiting for me at the spot. In the rain. He was understandably upset. I offered a pretty meager apology, but he wasn\u2019t having it. Fair. I just gave him the number to get his car back. \n\nSo am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 22, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}555{"id": "7nwpPEq6N3VPgwwiEping19lvYBZkkFY", "post_id": "9td018", "action": null, "title": "AITA for not wanted my girlfriend's parents to leave a car with us in the city?", "text": "My girlfriend and I live in Denver with another roommate in a duplex, outside of downtown and in a residential area with a lot of street parking. Her parents don't live in the continental US, but are currently here vacationing. They want to leave their Jeep with us from now until April/May, and just leave it parked on our street. \n\n​\n\nI don't want to have the Jeep just parked in front of our place for 4-5 months, and would rather have them rent a place to store it until they come back in the spring. Admittedly, on our block there is always parking space, so we wouldn't be fucking our neighbors over and taking up a valuable parking space...but her dad does this all the time. He has two motorcycles in the states--one in a friend's garage and another here in Denver in storage that we periodically check on, plus an RV here as well that we do the same for.\n\n​\n\nI'd be OK with this if it was for a few weeks or a month, but I don't want it here for half the year. That is half a year that we have to move it for street cleaning, snow plowing, etc. Additionally, we are going to be moving to a new place in January...we don't know where it will be because we are still looking, it will likely be in the same neighborhood with the same parking situation but some of the row homes we are looking at have limits on the number of vehicles per household. He just has shit spread out all over the US with friends and family taking care of all of it, and I feel like he takes advantage of all of us.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}556{"id": "Ob6eO9o3qlvgBSe7Mwr5JIih2IBPHuiH", "post_id": "ajftzi", "action": {"description": "dumping my girlfriend because she made Fun of my Sport", "pronormative_score": 52, "contranormative_score": 24}, "title": "AITA For Dumping my Girlfriend Because she Made Fun of my Sport?", "text": "I have dedicated the last 12 years of my life to gymnastics. Specifically trampolining. I have am was a high level national athlete. I have competed at tons of national level competitions and have even competed at quite a few international competitions representing Team Canada. At my peak I was trainning at the trampoline gym 6 times a week, and all my training added up to nearly 30 hours a week on top of high school. Near the end of my career I was even getting funding to continue my sport. Eventually I had to quit because of a head injury, but this was still a huge part of my life and I was immensely proud of it. \n\nMy girlfriend and I met a few months after I stopped competing, and she's heard quite a bit about my sport and always thought it was quite cool. She played volleyball in high school and had played on something rep volleyball teams. Nothing too crazy but I still thought it was pretty cool.\n\nThe other day we were discussing sports, and she was telling me how she had wished she played more volleyball and pursued it further. I told her that it was a great feeling to be really good at something and really enjoy it. I told her that it was a lot of work but it felt great to be a top level athlete at a sport. Queue the following conversation:\n\nHer: Yeah, well it's a little different isn't it?\n\nMe: What do you mean?\n\nHer: I mean you were good, but trampolining isn't a real sport.\n\nMe: How do you figure that? I was literally training as much as I went to school and Canada has arguably the most competitive trampolining scene in the world.\n\nHer: Well there's pretty much no one that does that sport. It's not hard to get to a high level, if you played a real sport like soccer you never would've been that good.\n\nI dumped her on the spot. That sport had such a huge impact on who I am today. I dedicated thousands of hours and even ended up getting paid some money to continue training. I was probably within the top 500 athletes worldwide. It felt like she was attacking who I am.\n\nHer friends all said that I'm an asshole for breaking up over something so small. This truly hurt, and it's a sentiment I received from people my whole life. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 49, "EVERYBODY": 11, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 52, "WRONG": 24}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}557{"id": "Y2JbOHX1nbhZRaCLH1H1085hbX64pdFM", "post_id": "alvk9g", "action": {"description": "getting annoyed that my boyfriend lost weight and I gained some", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting annoyed that my boyfriend lost weight and I gained some?", "text": "Myself and my boyfriend are both slim people, but he's medically speaking underweight. I've been trying to get him to eat more food in order to gain weight, as he tends to get sick easily and runs out of energy a lot.\nHe has gone and got bloods done to test if there was an underlying condition, but the doctor also confirmed he's just not eating enough.\n\nSince living together I've done my best to cook food that is healthy and tasty, bought breakfast cereal, given him larger portions, tried to make more meals a day, basically tried to find a way that worked for him to eat more.\n\nHe is a very slow eater, and so ends up feeling full well before dinner is over, and frequently doesnt finish. I dont like throwing food away so put it in the fridge or just finish it myself.\n\nHe also tends to eat lots of low nutrition food. Like eating toast, and drinking tea and coffee all day so he doesn't feel like he's hungry. \n\nAfter over a month of this I have ended up gaining weight, which isnt the end of the world, but he has actually lost weight.\n\nI got frustrated with him and now I want to just prepare my own meals from now on and let him do what he wants, because this method isnt working for either of us. \n\nHe got upset at this and said he was trying, and that I wasn't being fair, but I dont think its my responsibility to be monitoring his food intake and constantly trying to find meals that I think he'd want to eat, while putting my own desire to eat a differing diet in the background \n\nAITA for deciding that its on him to care for himself and not on my shoulders and wanting to just do seoerate meal prep? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}558{"id": "D4eWHlzxao1OsUwCdpCmQLMVHJn1dDrX", "post_id": "auh7mc", "action": {"description": "shutting a friend down and ignoring her", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for shutting a friend down and ignoring her?", "text": "I have this friend (N) who I am honestly quite close to. We met through work and it grew outside of that. We have two mutual friends through work L who is at work with us now and M who moved about 6 hours away from us in December 2018. \n\nThe original plan is that N and M would go on Tuesday to visit Ns new house a few hours away and then go to big city dress shopping to go to bridal shower on Thursday and then Friday stay at Ns house just hanging out. \nThe new plan was M wanted to have lunch with her Nan on Tuesday, meaning N can\u2019t go to her new house to see her boyfriend, and Friday M wants to go out with a guy. \n\nThis is a huge problem for N. She went on an absolute rant yesterday about how M is ruining her plans just to spread her legs. That she just wants to get laid. She said a lot of this kind of slut shaming stuff. I was in shock so I didn\u2019t say anything other than I think she is being unfair. \n\nThen we were on lunch, we were sitting with L and L was explaining how she has a stomach infection and I felt really bad for her. When L left, N started saying that she has no sympathy since in the past L had a major sexual history and left guys stuck it in her butt and that\u2019s probably why she is sick. \nAgain I was in shock and didn\u2019t know what to do. \n\nOvernight I had a big think about it. Realised how much it bothered me and so this morning when we had our morning phone call I confronted her about it. I said it was inappropriate and I didn\u2019t like that she was so willing to dish out abusive comments and if she was going to continue to not do it around me. \n\nShe fought me on it. I said that it wasn\u2019t the kind of thing I want said about me so I would appreciate her keeping the comments to herself. \n\nToday she came up to me and asked if we could get lunch together and I initially said yes and then regretted it. So when lunch came and she was already talking to another co-worker I left and ate elsewhere. \n\nShe is now complaining to anyone who will listen about it all, including our manager. \n\nAm I being the asshole for standing up for my own beliefs? Because she sure as shit is making me feel like it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}559{"id": "hT9JTtLVzMLucNiym5Q72ZFj18Kv2BTz", "post_id": "b1y7j6", "action": {"description": "wanting to start turning his game room into a baby room even though I'm not pregnant", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA for wanting to start turning his game room into a baby room even though I\u2019m not pregnant?", "text": "My husband and I are trying for our first.  It\u2019s only a matter of time at the rate we are going at it.   I\u2019m a be prepared kind of person and would like to start converting his game room into a nursery now.  It\u2019s a lot of work and would be nice not to have to rush it.  He doesn\u2019t want to start, it\u2019s his game room and is reluctant to give it up.  \n\nWe\u2019ve discussed it a few times, but actually argued about it during the last.   I don\u2019t love how attached he is to it.  It\u2019s going to happen eventually whether he wants to give up his game room or not, why not get an early start and have that free time for other stuff when I\u2019m pregnant.   Things will be hectic then.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 19, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}560{"id": "W6Yr0QafkRbL35pR9ENu7U2BiqTEm2FR", "post_id": "alauc0", "action": {"description": "getting annoyed at my girlfriends fidgeting over the phone", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting annoyed at my girlfriends fidgeting over the phone?", "text": "Lately I've been finding myself getting really annoyed over my girlfriends fidgeting and I feel like an ass for bringing it up with her all the time. For a little background info, she's very active and can't really sit still for a long time without fidgeting or doing something, this in of itself isn't a problem. The problem arises when we chat over the phone, she will usually starting tapping the phone and often do this without realising, it doesn't help that her phones microphone sucks. Anyone speaking from more than a hands length away from the phone becomes basically inaudible while anything closer is alarmingly loud. So when the tapping inevitably begins we are unable to hear each other. I've kindly asked her to not tap the phone a few times but she'll often do it without realising. Am I the asshole for bringing it up with her all the time? I feel like Im nagging her but If I dont say anything then we wont be able to hear each other over the phone. Thoughts?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}561{"id": "wwoDlwn9vmUbNxfxCkvvSXg5DbJPEhh0", "post_id": "akpimr", "action": {"description": "indirectly telling my teacher to grade a cheating student", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for indirectly telling my teacher to grade a cheating student?", "text": "For the backstory, I am in the 11th Grade. A dude cheated in a test and the teacher had her own doubts. She wanted to orally grade him (in front of everyone) and I told my classmate \"how about she grades him (written) again.\"\n\nShe heard me and did just that, saying that \"Ms. Cryoniko came up with a great idea, get out a piece of paper.\" She didn't pay attention to him during the test, so he could have easily done it again, while in front of the class he would've made a buffoon out of himself. \n\nFor whatever reason, he didn't cheat (and he failed), and at the end of school I almost got beaten by the guy. I did not apologize yet and I'm still receiving vague threats from him through a popular messaging app. \n\nNote: he perfectly wrote the commentary our teacher sent us, word by word, while completely failing every single class including the one he cheated at. It was supposed to be shady from the beginning.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}562{"id": "tSKI65uuj2zYEkXZesEzQHUP9jEBCgq6", "post_id": "b1bb46", "action": {"description": "drawing in class", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Drawing in Class", "text": "I'm not very used to posting on reddit, so I'm sorry if this comes off as rambly. I just really need a neutral perspective on this. \n\n  I have ADHD, which makes it pretty difficult to sit and focus in class without doing something with my hands. In highschool I'd find myself constantly doodling to help me listen to teachers. Through both highschool and college I've never really had any problems with it, until today. \n  \nCurrently I'm taking a communications class that's required of my major. Everyone gives a speech in class every two weeks or so. This class goes for 3 hours, so going in I knew I'd be fidgety. I got my speech out of the way and started drawing in my sketchbook. \n  \n It must have taken her sometime to notice me, because in the middle of class after a student gave their speech she called across the room for me to close my book and pay attention. She then announced to the whole class about how doing anything besides listening quietly was unacceptable and horribly disrespectful. Everyone went on break for a few minutes and I had time to put away my things.\n \n This is the part that probably puts me in asshole territory. If I was smart I would have not done anything and just sat quietly. But this is the 3rd time this professor has passive aggressively lectured me in front of the whole class, so I was feeling pretty grumpy. I didn't want to risk disassosiating and getting anxiety because of this teacher. So I took out my smaller sketchbook and turned more towards the speakers to show that I was paying attention. She was not happy about this.\n\n  After class was finished she told me to stay when everyone left. She then berated me about how horribly disrespectful and distracting I was to everyone. Because of this I'd be losing 10 percent of my grade on my own speech- and she was going to bring it up to the chairman because me drawing was that problematic to the rest of the class. She went on to aggressively tell me how horrible I was for a good few minutes. Even after explaining why I was doodling she said she didn't care. because I didn't have an accommodation letter, she couldn't(wouldn't) accept the excuse; and that other kids in class have problems and don't bother anyone in class. \n  \n I think she handled the whole situation rather horribly, but she has a point- I should of gotten some resources from my school's student disability services awhile ago. No matter what I end up doing I'm definitely going to talk to them about accommodations in the future so situations like this don't happen again. \n\nI grew up being a good student, so I'm honestly not used to handling teachers that don't like me. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}563{"id": "BJ00NkfKbEiWG8MywQJ0nUhFBME4neSB", "post_id": "akiduc", "action": {"description": "accidentally telling a kid her dad was in a relationship", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for accidentally telling a kid her dad was in a relationship?", "text": "Over the holidays, I was at a party with some friends. One friend (f) was there, and we talked for a while. I later saw her go to the door and greet her boyfriend. I'd met him before at various parties, they'd been dating around 6 months. He'd brought his kids with him, who we'd never met. His girlfriend met him at the door (not her house) I jokingly made a comment about their lame side hug. Apparently he hadn't told his kids he was dating anyone. At dinner the other night, they brought it up and told me I'd single handedly spilled the beans to his kids, and the tone of the conversation wasn't jovial. I do feel bad, and I did apologize, but the more I think about it, the more I'm annoyed (on the verge of being pissed) that I was put in that situation.\n\nIf it was that big a deal, why couldn't she subtly mention it before he arrived? There was probably an hour at least and it wasn't that large a group. And why would you bring your kids to a party hosted by your girlfriend's friends (he knew everyone through her) and expect no one to mention it? This wasn't a new relationship, I think it's reasonable to presume after 6 months he's told his family. \n\nSo AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}564{"id": "8tO7jTheVfdhvWcFQR1bilSCZ1zofRWF", "post_id": "b40rps", "action": {"description": "taking off my wedding ring 2 years after my wife died", "pronormative_score": 64, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for taking off my wedding ring 2 years after my wife died?", "text": " My wife died 2 years ago however we both decided if one of us died the other would wear the ring for a year, and then after a year passed we could choose to wear the ring for another year. Anyways I wore the ring for a year after her death and then another year. A few days ago was the date and after some reflection I decided to take it off. \n\n It gets complicated because I have a great relationship with my in laws. When they saw me without a ring I could sense a lot of discomfort and awkwardness but they didn't say anything and now I feel bad. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 22, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 42, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 64, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}565{"id": "M5uMW7gAIALH4ofNwmNkAygyuhWz61td", "post_id": "afgaj3", "action": {"description": "not going to my Mom's Third Wedding", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not Going To My Mom\u2019s Third Wedding?", "text": "So some context here, I was a Senior and it was  my last semester of HS. I was ready to graduate and only had to pass 1 more final to walk. This final happened to be for my theatre class. We were to perform 3 showings of a play over 3 days. I was a major character and had NO understudy so if I didn\u2019t show up the show could not go on and I wouldn\u2019t be able to graduate with the rest of my class. \n\nAt the beginning of the semester our teacher gave us the 3 days the play was  going to be on so that we could make sure that we had ample time to plan our schedules around it (May 1st, 2nd, and 3rd) My mom tells me she\u2019s thinking about having her wedding (her 3rd marriage) during either the first or second week of May and I told her that if it was on the 1st, 2nd, or 3rd that I wouldn\u2019t be able to be there for it because of the play.\n\nFast forward and it\u2019s May and we\u2019ve already done our first 2 performances. A month earlier my mom told me that she and her husband were having the wedding on the 3rd at 2pm. I said alright and left at that thinking that she remembered that my final was that day. I should have followed up with her to make sure she remembered and that was my mistake.\n\nSo it\u2019s the 3rd and we\u2019re all at the theatre rehearsing our lines and putting on make-up etc. But then I get the phone call.My mom wants to know when I am going to be there for the wedding to help set up. I tell my mom that I\u2019m not going to the wedding and that I had told her I couldn\u2019t go because of the show like I had told her months ago. \n\nShe flipped her shit and immediately began screaming at me. Telling her I never told her that I couldn\u2019t come (bullshit) and that she never heard that I would be busy ( she went to this play and had a play bill IN HER HAND with the dates and times of the showings) and that this is important to her so I should just come anyway.\n\nWhen I told her no I could not just come because of my role and the fact that my entire graduation depended on me doing this performance (like I had told her) she called me a liar and asked how stupid I thought she was that a play would be my final. She then threw at me that \u201cWell this is my third wedding so I bet you don\u2019t think it\u2019s important anyway you\u2019ll just make it to the next one,\u201d and I got angry and said \u201cyeah that\u2019s exactly it.\u201d \n\nI know it was petty and childish but she had pissed me off. She didn\u2019t talk to me for a while after that and to this day refuses to believe that I A) told her about the play B) it was my final C) I wouldn\u2019t have graduated if I bailed. So am I an Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}566{"id": "cj0hEfGXcunGQHHB96X3xftdVuQAPrkh", "post_id": "b1y9le", "action": {"description": "not wanting my ex at my niece's wedding", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my ex at my niece's wedding", "text": "My wife and I separated almost 10 years ago. She dropped the news that she was leaving right after my estranged mother died. I try to keep a good relationship with her for our now adult children, but obviously I have some resentment.\n\nOne of my nieces reached out to me and told me that she was giving me a head's up that she would like my ex to come to her wedding. I wrote back and politely told her I'd rather she didn't come. My niece's father (my brother) called me and chewed me out for saying no and told me that I was doing a disservice to my whole extended family for trying to cut out his kid's aunt. I pointed out that she's technically not her aunt anymore and I'm a member of the family and she isn't, especially since she chose to leave, and now my kids will have to spend the wedding between both parents, rather than with me, since it is my side. He told my I could either get over it or not come. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 18, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}567{"id": "HpninbA2QmZ9aLfU4FjkQtPonwmvpQP8", "post_id": "am4d2l", "action": {"description": "not wanting to use half my yearly vacation time to go with my wife and her side of the family on vacation", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to use half my yearly vacation time to go with my wife and her side of the family on vacation?", "text": "Her parents rent a big enough space at a beach that they, their Moms, and my family (Wife, toddlers, and myself) each have a place to sleep if my wife and I share a bed. It's extremely generous of them to do this, they let us stay there for free and we're free to do whatever we want from there, but 90% of the time all of us stay together. It's essentially a half paid for vacation yearly.\n\n\nThe problem for me is two fold. The first thing is that my side of the family lives far away, and I have to use vacation time to see them. Family is extremely important to my side of the family, so this is a huge problem for me when I don't get time with them. We live close to her family, and it uses half of my vacation allocation yearly which severely limits the time I get to see my own family. Regardless, we've done this twice, once each for the last two years, and I find myself missing my family often and it's getting to where it's really effecting me.\n\n\n\nThe second issue is that last year my wife and I had a huge fight while we were there, and she tried to use her family against me while I was there. It didn't work, because thankfully they were all reasonable and told her what she was doing was wrong, but it was a HUGE embarrassment to me. She apologized profusely but this is a reoccurring issue with her that she knows I get sick missing my family, she knows how I feel isolated, and then she tries to involve them and have them gang up on me. It used to work but lately they've stopped listening to her. She has promised me it won't happen again and we've been great since then. Regardless, it has completely ruined the idea of being there for me. \n\n\n\nWhen I think about going this year there is zero joy in the thought. I would honestly rather stay home alone then go. I dread the thought of having to go again. AITA for rather wanting to spend that time at to visit my own family and let her go with the kids with her family? \n\n\nShe's a stay at home mom so she doesn't have to use any vacation time.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}568{"id": "YBBEgh204UcepPcDSLaPAHj0XVDQaqLA", "post_id": "9vpizp", "action": {"description": "not wanting to pay for someone's gas", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to pay for someone's gas?", "text": "Now according to the title, you may obviously immediately think I'm NTA, but read the whole thing first.\n\nLet's get to it. So I was hanging out with a group of friends (maybe 5 other people) and we were all in this public parking lot. Then suddenly this random guy walks up to us and says if we could give him some money for some gas. Keep in mind that he didn't look like a guy who had no money ( I think he also drove a Nissan). All of us didn't know what to say since we all don't really like denying giving people money. It creates the most awkward situation for us. So after a while of back and forth, I say that all I have is my card, and he says to me that if we could drive to the nearest gas station with him to pay for his gas. Now, I already said no to having any money, and I didn't want to say no again. So I offer to drive to the gas station with him. But I still had my suspicions that he was just trying to get free gas. So with no evidence on whether he needed gas or not, I just decided to tell him to meet me at the gas station, but I never went there. My friends said that I shouldn't have done that, and that I just wasted what little amount of gas he had, for no reason. AITA for doing this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}569{"id": "AXYsgMFttr1IEMR6AXWAWEQofqumlYOH", "post_id": "9x0225", "action": null, "title": "AITA - Roommate [40s M] got mad at me [22 F] for vaping in the apartment", "text": "I have epilepsy and use CBD to manage it (don't take any other epilepsy medication + discussed this with my neurologist), but it also makes me sleepy so I usually just vape a little before bed in my room. Haven't had any complaints about smell or anything until now.\n\nSo last night, my other roommate [21 F] had a headache, and I offered her CBD to help (it worked!) but my older roommate saw us using it in the living room and got super upset\n\nHe claimed that he's been \"feeling something\" because of the vape... he's also been sober/straight edge for 13 years-- not because he was an addict or an alcoholic before, but because he became a Buddhist. He really frowns on drugs/people who use any kind of substance. My other roommate and I talked about it afterward and we both felt like we were being scolded by our dad or something.\n\nI tried to explain that I used the vape to manage epilepsy and that I thought he was being unreasonable (the apartment has a high ceiling and lots of open air, and I'm taking like a couple puffs a day), but he wouldn't budge. He claimed that he also had a \"medical condition\" (an allergy that I'm 90% sure he made up on the spot)...\n\nAlso worth noting, we live in a large city and he definitely passes dudes smoking weed on the sidewalk every day if he goes outside...\n\nI don't want to have to take my epilepsy meds outside in the winter at night, but I also don't want to be a douchebag if this is really a big deal for him... but I also kind of feel like he's just trying to be controlling? Is this really the same thing as smoking weed in the house? Am I the asshole??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}570{"id": "iFcd6T2HySfDEBU0PinlH7Sev9Mn2Fxt", "post_id": "b2jcez", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA If in the future I told my girlfriend that I wouldn\u2019t want to get married?", "text": "For context to the question, I have a girlfriend but close to when we met, it was obvious she was keen on marriage and me not so much. Don\u2019t get me wrong, marriage seems great. The eternal love bond and all but it\u2019s because of how the system works. If we were to divorce then she would still have rights to my house and wouldn\u2019t have to pay bills or rent even if I moved out. Now, we have no relationship complications and have only had minor arguments. So WIBTA if I told her?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}571{"id": "RjvIfjrEAVhQQftP0DLMRljSpfjWt2ec", "post_id": "ag7c0p", "action": {"description": "not always texting in our family whatsapp group", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not always texting in our family whatsapp group?", "text": "My family has a group chat consisting of me, my wife, her sister and my in-laws.\n\nI get up every morning and drive to work until 4pm or so. When I'm at home all I do is relax and enjoying the time with my wife.\n\nHowever my in-laws texted in the group chat that I don't care about them anymore because I don't write daily in this chat. They believe that I think that I'm superior to them, so I don't have to mind them anymore. \n\nAll they do in this group is texting things like \"good morning\" and my sister in law keeps sending pictures of her cat. \n\nAm I the asshole for not writing daily \"good morning\"  to them?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}572{"id": "bLSquHdTMrdVAMIssV2sDBhGtdVQoXaN", "post_id": "b1zn2k", "action": {"description": "quitting my job so suddenly", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for quitting my job so suddenly?", "text": "Okay so a bit of background info, i started my job about a year ago and my old manager was so lovely. She never had a bad word to say about anyone, sure she was a little relaxed but it was an absolutely amazing job. \nCut to October, she finds a better job and we all sadly said goodbye. This is when my new manager started. From that moment on, she has ridiculed me about everything. From my hairstyles to my shoes, my clothes and even so far as to blame my mental health. So this week i decided enough was enough, after they cut my contracted hours from 16 to 11.5, that\u2019s it. I handed in my notice. \nBasically, i\u2019m now getting a huge load of grief from her because i\u2019ve \u2018let her down\u2019 and \u2018let the company down\u2019 because i work in a small franchise with only 2 other people who will now have to share the 9-5:30 hours 5 days a week between them. \nAm i an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}573{"id": "H7xIrPDVNlKUTridmfcAnpXuGUv8nViY", "post_id": "9vwq77", "action": {"description": "speaking to someone in a native language", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for speaking to someone in a native language", "text": "Today I saw a guy online that I wanted to approach of Middle Eastern heritage. I can't write in Arabic, but I can in Turkish. It is my understanding (from my time living in Istanbul) that the languages share several words and are generally understood regionally... So, I say hi and ask how his day is going. He tore into me after that and told me that I was committing microaggression. I apologized for the misunderstanding and he kept tearing into my 'whiteboy bullshit' \nAMA. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}574{"id": "pQsDNJu67XcOKiqVSV1XFGvajvBPQkFW", "post_id": "az4iw0", "action": {"description": "asking when two people are going to leave their booth at a cafe", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for asking when two people are going to leave their booth at a cafe?", "text": "hear me out on this one \n\nMy SO and I had planned to attend a jazz performance at a small cafe, and we paid for our tickets in advance. You were supposed to have bought a ticket to be in the cafe during the performance. We get there before it starts and order our food. The place is pretty packed, and there were no open tables. But we figured that if we waited a little for the music to start then people who weren't planning to stay for it would be clearing out.\n\nUnfortunately this never happened. We had our food brought to us and we were basically awkwardly standing in the corner, holding our plates and hoping that a table would clear soon. I think eventually somebody brought us some plastic stools or something but it still really sucked given that we had paid for the opportunity to be here.\n\nOne of the waitresses alerted me that there was two ladies in a booth that were supposed to be leaving, as they didnt pay to stay for the music, so they should be gone soon. Guess what, they never left either. They had finished their food 30-45 minutes ago and were still here. The waitress kept apologizing to me. I was pretty pissed at both the cafe for prioritizing people who didnt buy a ticket over us, and also the women for not having self awareness. After about 45m to an hour from when the performance started, and my SO was already visibly upset by how everything was turning out, I went over and tried to politely ask the women if they'd be leaving soon. I get that this would be rude under normal circumstances but I didnt really give a shit. They give some BS answer like \"oh yes we were JUST about to leave\" (sure) and I go back to my SO hoping they'll just go. But nope, first they call over the waitress to tattle on the big bad man who just dared to ask them when they were leaving, who then comes to me and sternly tells me \"please dont ask our customers when they'll be leaving.\" and on top of this the women stayed another half hour or something, clearly just to piss me off.\n\nSo reddit, am I the asshole? What exactly was I supposed to do in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}575{"id": "7d7o2RtStDOpQhU7dju922dBZZM7ph7L", "post_id": "aq52jm", "action": {"description": "not being willing to forgive the person who essentially ruined my life just under 2 years ago", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not being willing to forgive the person who essentially ruined my life just under 2 years ago?", "text": "so. I had a rough childhood. social isolation. semi neglectful parents. intense bullying etc. this doesn't matter much now. but it provides some context. \n\nso just over two years ago things had started going good for me. \n\nI finally had started treatment for my depression. I started a job that had decent enough pay and hours that I could live well. \n\nand I had even started to get into dating for the first time in my life at 24. \n\nI had been living in a nice house with a few good friends. (jake, Phil and a couple others) \n\nthen a once close friend and longtime roommate jake. started spreading lies and using me as a scapegoat for his being a slob. \n\nall because jake didn't want his new girlfriend to find out he was a pig. \n\nnow. I tried to be diplomatic. I didn't want to point fingers. and I tried to take responsibility. I know that my depression tends to make it hard to keep up with household chores. \n\nthat wasn't good enough. I was made out to be responsible for the mess of three people. jake, his girlfriend, and myself.\n\nand I was given an ultimatum. \n\nmove out or we (jake, Phil and other mutual friends) will all hate you. (this is where my issues with ostracism and social isolation come into play) \n\nso I tried to appease them. I agreed to leave. but I had just started my new job. money was tight. \n\nthen I got Into a car accident. I was fine. my car was totaled. and insurance takes a while. \n\nI was spending $50 a day just to get to work and back. because public transit didn't reach my new workplace. \n\neventually the stress of it got to me. I couldn't sleep more than two hours a night. \n\nI lost my job. I had to move back in with my parents to my hometown. my own personal hell. \n\n\nI had to spend a miserable, lonely year of my life there. \n\ntook me working 14 hour days for nearly three months straight just to get the money to move out again. there was no other work there. \n\nthen it took me breaking down in tears for my parents to actually help move. there are no moving companies in the town either. \n\nsince then I've been putting back my life piece by piece. it's been rough. \n\nand I REFUSE to associate with jake. the scumbag who's lies did that to me. \n\nbut according to Phil.\n\nmy being unwilling to forgive him is \"selfish\" and \"ignorant\" and I just need to let it go. \n\nthey, along with a few other friends have directly told me \"they wish things could go back to the \"good ol days\" \n\nand I have made it clear. that even though that would be nice. it's not going to happen. \n\nAm I the asshole? \n\nTL:DR a one time friend majorly screwed me over. other mutual friends say that I'm being selfish for not forgiving him.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}576{"id": "6yAkEAozqndZYA3fNGOBpelYlOXmKjSR", "post_id": "ao7lmm", "action": {"description": "not wanting my so to be 100% honest with me", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my SO to be 100% honest with me?", "text": "My SO has a thing about keeping his slate clean. He wants to tell me absolutely everything, even if it isn't necessary. Here's my list:\n\n1. He told me he told his best friends about my mental health issues and some of my insecurities. On several occasions he also told me what they advised him to do. I understand his need for an outlet but it hurts so much to know my privacy isn't protected and I'm constantly wondering what they're thinking when they see me.\n\n2. He tells me what he honestly thinks about me, like, he can't respect certain things about me because I make poor life choices because of my mental health issues. Let's just say he has no filter. Sometimes the things he says absolutely shatters me. It has come to the extent of me not telling him things sometimes for fear of his response.\n\nI'm not blaming him for saying these things because I get where he's coming from and he's just being honest but I feel like his need to keep his slate clean is at the expense of my mental and emotional well-being. The cumulation of everything he has said is exacerbating my depression and anxiety and sometimes I can't even function because I get so preoccupied with every little word.\n\nI told him I need what I define as a gentleman. Someone who will understand what to say and what not to say to me by prioritising my feelings. E.g. telling me what he tells his best friends is unnecessary. I would honestly be completely fine assuming he doesn't tell them my deep dark secrets. But now I can't unknow it. Every time I know he meets them without me, it ruins my entire day because I obsess over what they're saying about me. I have gone through a lot that I don't want the world to know - 3 suicide attempts, self-harming to the extent of endangering my life. P.S. - I'm not even forbidding him from telling them. I just feel like there's a combination of him prioritising himself and his friendships over me. But he says I carry too much shame over my mental health issues and it's a vicious cycle.\n\nHe says he needs to be able to tell me everything because that is what strengthens emotional connection for him and also he's lived a very fulfilling life adhering to this philosophy. No lies, no secrets, no omissions. A complete open book.\n\nBut it's also killing me. AITA for not wanting him to practice this philosophy with me? Or is it a deeper compatibility issue that cannot be solved?\n\nFor context if it matters, I'm 31F, he's 40M and we've been together over a year.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}577{"id": "JvCCJwwEeW83HmZi0aI1pumodm5gGGdq", "post_id": "arec39", "action": {"description": "not offering to pay for the repair of my friend's phone which I bumped out of her hand accidentally", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not offering to pay for the repair of my friend\u2019s phone which I bumped out of her hand accidentally", "text": "My friend got a new phone recently. She and I were chatting on the way to the bus stop when we saw the bus coming and we started running because missing the bus could mean waiting another 30 mins... as I ran I bumped her accidentally and she dropped her phone. \n\nShe kept saying \u2018nice one\u2019 to me angrily after that and told others that the scuff marks on her phone were because \u2018(me) dropped it\u2019. Which pissed me off and I said \u2018I didn\u2019t drop it, it was in your hands and you let go of it!\u2019 \n\nA week later she tells me she has to send it off for repairs which is costing \u00a3100 and she said \u2018it\u2019s probably because you dropped it\u2019. I told her again that I didn\u2019t drop her damn phone as I wasn\u2019t holding it. She didn\u2019t ask me to pay for it. \n\nI feel maybe I\u2019m responsible but I\u2019m sick of her telling me that I dropped the phone- no I didn\u2019t and if you were holding your phone tightly while we were running it wouldn\u2019t have fallen out of your grip from a little bump from me. \n\nI don\u2019t want to fall out over it but the way she is acting is making me think it\u2019s not worth offering to pay for it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}578{"id": "OhHjGWC3w5wXBiVqC0XtRIKY8rLzBnUj", "post_id": "aspjit", "action": {"description": "writing and sending a letter to estranged family member", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for writing and sending a letter to estranged family member?", "text": "I have not spoken to my mother in 2.5 years. Other members of the family have approached me stating she wants to have a relationship with me but this is not possible because she has not ever apologized to me for her wrongdoings. She treats me like I'm her therapist, always venting about things that have happened in the past. When I disagree with her, she claims I'm incorrect or invalidates my feelings.\n\n​\n\nBackstory:\n\nMother is doing drugs\n\nMother leaves me in the hospital to continue drugs\n\nI don't know at which point she tried to regain custody but according to my grandmother, she didn't know where I was until I was 8. \n\nMother does not know who father is and lied to me about this. \n\nMother belittles me, calls me names\n\nMother consistently complained to me about childhood. These are legitimate complaints but I am not equipped to address them because I am not a licensed mental health counselor. \n\n​\n\nI'm not convinced she's ignorant of what she's doing but rather is doing so out of malice. She has been this way ever since I met her (\\~age 12?). If I write and send this letter, it would point out all of the above in great detail and informing her never to speak to me again. She has not contacted me since July 2016. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}579{"id": "PLPilcf646c3qmB0cNGA5M8DzrdaN35e", "post_id": "aq467l", "action": {"description": "not placing a disabled kid on a pedestal because he has cerebral palsy", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not placing a disabled kid on a pedestal because he has cerebral palsy?", "text": "The context: a guy a went to school with (and now college) has cerebral palsy. He\u2019s confined to a power chair and cannot do very much by himself. He seems like a nice guy on first impression, but once you get to know him he\u2019s really not as nice as he seems. He talks rudely about people behind their backs, will be rude to your face sometimes, and acts as if the rules don\u2019t apply to him in most situations. \n\nAm I the asshole for not glorifying him or putting him on a pedestal like everyone else does? He gets elected for things like homecoming king and other things like that because (I think) people feel sorry for him. He also likes to play the disabled card when he wants something to go his way. \n\nIt\u2019s not that I dislike him because he\u2019s disabled, but I genuinely don\u2019t care for his attitude. I\u2019ve asked a few friends if they have a similar opinion and they basically said I\u2019m the asshole for not supporting him unconditionally.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}580{"id": "d5DEUP6ZrO4iDo5BX7qYr7YPDvnDYEG7", "post_id": "aqdx3l", "action": {"description": "threatening to leave my girlfriend of 6 years over her cats", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for threatening to leave my girlfriend of 6 years over her cats?", "text": "Let me start by saying I didnt exactly impose an ultimatum or anything like that. Those are automatically YTA material. \n\nNow she has always loved animals, which I get and I love them to, but not to the extent which she does. Animals are a lot of work and a lot of money to take care of between the food, the litter, (for cats which is what we have) replacing the litter boxes every so often, etc... Well when we first got together she had 2 cats. Fine and dandy, 2 is manageable and I like cats so no big deal. Well after picking up a few strays along the way, and not having the money to get them fixed when we should have (don't start about that, I get it, bad cat owners. Remember what I said about them being expensive?) we eventually topped off at 6 permanent cats with litters of kittens that we got rid of along the way. It hasn't been easy and its caused a lot of stress between us and to us personally but we made it through. Last year we lost two of our cats due to health complications (we got them to the vet, they were sick with feline leukemia and we had to have them euthanized for different reasons between the two of them). It was very hard on both of us but we were back down to a manageable, albeit not ideal, 4 cats. Well guess what? The only female kitten we have got pregnant again and had a litter of 5 kitten, we still have all 5 6 months later with no end in sight. Oh, and guess what? She's pregnant again and about to burst. Our last male cat has an appointment to be fixed this month and I told her outright that if he doesnt get fixed, and the kittens that are 6 months old aren't gone by the end of the month, I'm leaving. \n\nNow let me explain why, besides the ridiculous amount of stress it puts on me since I'm currently staying home and have to clean up after 9 cats, and stay up all night to make sure the kittens don't end up pregnant. When our pregnant cat has kittens again, I can see her current kittens causing issues for the new litter. The current litter likes to try to be around mom, obviously, but the mom doesnt like it, I guess because she's pregnant again. So I can see that being a problem when mom is with her new litter. I also am fearful for the health of not only our cats, but the 6-month old litter. Feline leukemia is contagious and we aren't yet sure which of our cats, if any more, have it. The longer this litter is around our cats, the more susceptible they are to the disease. Also the 6-month old litter is causing a lot of stress to our current cats, cause we simply dont have room for 9 cats plus ANOTHER litter right now. \n\nI'm at the end of my rope. She won't meet me halfway when it comes to getting rid of them. The animal shelter is very expensive to surrender them to ($100 per kitten) amd she doesnt want to post them online because she wants to make sure they go to a good home, which I understand but look what that's costing us. I left home almost a week ago to get a break from all the cats and if it were up to me I wouldnt go back, but I wanted to make it clear to her that I absolutely would be leaving again for good if the kittens weren't gone by the end of the month and our last male cat wasn't fixed. AITA here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}581{"id": "k8sFMGPjb5s2ZpD1tkxhBa3Ex4mZBPRb", "post_id": "arvmwn", "action": {"description": "refusing to help", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA - For refusing to help?", "text": "In a summary, I had a couple friends I would game and hang out with on a weekly basis. This crew would grow naturally as we all found peps we digged and would hang with.\n\nBut once those numbers grew, relations kinda stretched, even peps I met were not around as much. The original couple of peeps would ask me to help them, ask ideas, but would neglect any efforts and belittle any efforts I had in their endeavors. Then once done with the convo, go and hang out with the new peps for fun and games and yadda yadda. Stopped kinda being interested until they needed help.\n\nFew weeks later of this type of behavior, asked them about it. And they would get defensive, stating that my view of the situation was flawed, that I had no understanding and that I should be more humble. Despite the treatment during said endeavors.\n\nA few months later, the situation hasn't improved. And it evolved to feeling like a crutch rather then a friend, and when mentioned, the response to this from them was that. It was invalid, manipulative and psychopathic to tell them my feelings on the subject.\n\nRecently said to hell with it, and cut them from my life. Am I the asshole for saying fuck it and moving on?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}582{"id": "bMmA4Idedh83BfRPIY7PDG07SicIiCjV", "post_id": "9y295a", "action": {"description": "feeling hurt after gf went by herself on a hike that we were planning to go together", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for feeling hurt after gf went by herself on a hike that we were planning to go together?", "text": "Let me try to keep it short. \n\nOne Saturday morning, gf says let\u2019s go on this hike. Unfortunately I did leg workout the day before and I was literally limping. Was not able to walk as I was super sore. I promised her I\u2019ll skip leg day next Friday or do it earlier in the week and will go next Saturday. \n\nSaturday after, it rained all day. So I said no worries we will do next Saturday. \n\nSaturday after I found out she went with her dog by herself. I said what the hell, we had been planning for two weekends. She said well I went for some thought and reflection. And you were not too enthusiastic. \n\nAITA?\n\nTL;DR: gf went hiking when we were making plans to go together. \n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}583{"id": "opoUwsUe8bRo86F1VcPvVBc3usPvTI7i", "post_id": "ay7g9i", "action": {"description": "not forgiving my friend", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not forgiving my friend?", "text": "Using a throwaway because a couple friends follow my main.\n\n\nSo awhile back I started to like this girl. A friend of mine liked her at the same time. I knew that he liked her, he might\u2019ve known that I liked her. We never really talked about it. My friend ended up dating her for a little while. She was his first real girlfriend and they dated for about two months or so. It was in tenth grade so it didn\u2019t get super serious or anything, but it got serious to him.\n\nWhen they broke up he was really torn up for a while. I never really talked to him much about it because he never opened up to me too much, but everyone could see how upset he was. I stopped talking to the girl for a few months. The two of us weren\u2019t super close and I figured I needed to stand by my friend.\n\nAfter a little while passed I started to talk to her again. Feelings started to re emerge. As some more time passed we actually became pretty good friends and it became clear we both had feelings for her. I didn\u2019t make a move though because even though it was almost half a year later he was clearly still hung up on her.\n\nAbout a years passed since there relationship happened. My friend started to get upset with me a lot. He had a tendency to get pretty mad at people, and around this time it was especially me. He caught on that I like the girl, but rather than talking it out he started to get mad at me constantly. To be fair though, I didn\u2019t talk to him either.\n\nAfter a little while of this, this girl tells me that she likes me. I tell her I like her too, but I say before we do anything I have to talk to my friend. I talk to my friend and ask if it\u2019s ok to ask her out. He says it is so I ask her out. \n\nWe start dating and it\u2019s all ok for a little bit, but then my friend starts getting extremely mad at me constantly. He explodes and then all together stops talking to me. \n\nUltimately the relationship ends, and my friend still won\u2019t talk to me. According to the rest of my friends, he wants to be friends again and has forgiven me. But I don\u2019t want to be friends with a person that stopped talking to me after he said it would be ok to date this girl. My friends have told me to be the bigger person and apologize. So am I the asshole here for not wanting to be friends again and for ignoring him from here on out?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}584{"id": "bTXgQhVD6L3f3GUhBgWwHnZvtDqd0U5e", "post_id": "aak8hs", "action": {"description": "leaving work early because my Dad was picking on me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for leaving work early because my Dad was picking on me?", "text": "This is a long story and it's a bit hard for me to describe the situation since there are lots if details  and I'm not going to omit info since details matter \nTL:DR at the bottom\n\nSo a little background. My work consists of me helping my dad on our own construction site. It's a pretty large construction site for the fact that there are few workers. Usually it's my Dad and an unskilled labourer. When I have a holiday I go to help him because I understand that he is working for me and my brother's future. Usually I go from 7 am-11 am (4 hours since I'm underage). In these Christmas holidays I've been going everyday except Sunday and Christmas. I didn't go for the last 2 days since I had to go do voluntary work for a school project. \n\nAnyway, yesterday I told my Dad that I didn't need to voluntary work tomorrow (which is today) so I can come to work he said he'll find me something to do. My dad pays me since he thinks that motivates me to come to work and I'm grateful. This morning I woke at 6:30 had breakfast and changed  my clothes to the concrete caked ones and rode my bike to the construction site it takes me about 5 minutes to get there at normal speed on my bike. On arrival I left my bike near the door and closed it and went inside the kitchen put on safety shoes and drank a glass of water.\n\n I went up stairs to the part if the building still being built and I found my dad and the unskilled labourer (Who was pretty new about 3 weeks) building the roof of a room. I asked my dad what I should do and he told me to take the scattered stones around the room near the buzzsaw. After, I helped the labourer take up a stone on his shoulder (about 30 by 8 inches of limestone) and he climbed onto the ladder to pass it to my dad. My dad told him not to lift it like that (from his back) and when I helped him lift it onto his shoulder again, my dad told me (in our language, the labourer was foreign) \"Has this guy never seen anyone lift a stone?\" I wasn't sure how to respond since I forgot the proper way to lift it too. Then he showed him how. \n\nAbout 10 minutes later he got a call from the guy we borrowed the material lift from that they were outside and came to get it. My dad said to me \"Already? We just have to lift these last few things and we will give it to them, go open the door for them.\" So I went downstairs and opened the door for them I couldn't see them clearly due to my -7 eyesight and me not wanting to break my glasses at work so I waved to them but when they didn't respond I taught they were the neighbours and got slightly embarrassed/awkward.  \"Come in\" I said but they must have heard \"Coming\" instead and said don't worry. I was confused so I went back upstairs and saw my dad and the labourer carrying the lift and then tying it up so we would lift it with the crane (Which was in the courtyard) onto the ramp were the truck with stones usually comes for deliveries. \"Go open the gate\" my dad said. The gate was locked from the outside so I had to go open. I opened the gate for the truck to go onto the ramp. \n\nMy dad then asked me from the 1st floor where the lift and room with roof they were working on where \"Did the truck come in?\" Why did he ask me this? Sound travels badly here so If I could hear him asking me this question he should be able to see the truck. I respond with a loud \"yes\" so that he can hear me. I went back upstairs and drove the tower crane with the lift onto their truck and proceeded to go back downstairs and close the gate. When I went back upstairs my dad asked me why I was shouting I told him so that he could hear me. He told me the I embarrassed him in front of the truck drivers by yelling and getting angry. What? He didn't even talk to them! I've been told I always sound angry which is probably true but what was I supposed to do! He asked me a question! \n\nWell whatever I brushed it off and went back to work. I started sweeping the floor off debris and stone dust into a wheelbarrow. While doing that I talked to my dad about something that popped into my head, \"I thought Noel (my brother) was coming with you guys tonight to the dinner of your friends? Is he coming with me to sleep at our grandparents? Did he change his mind?\" He then said \"Let him do whatever he wants.\" My dad then went to cut some stones in the other room with the buzzsaw. \n\nI continued sweeping the floor. Labourer comes in the room with a stone carrier and a stone on it and lays the stone on the floor.  He then stares at the ladder breathing heavily. Then after staring for about a minute at the ladder proceeds to move it to the side and also move the concrete bricks underneath to make the ladder higher. He then goes back out of the room. He then comes in with a new stone on the carrier and dies the same thing again. What? Why does he keep doing that? He didn't even use the ladder before. And instead of going round the pile of stone dust he proceeds to trample over it with the carrier and his himself. He did this last week too. This fucker. He can spend a minute staring at a fucking ladder but he can't waste a second to go round the pile I was sweeping. Ok I wasn't that angry since it happened before but I was annoyed. Whatever. He then comes back into the room with a new stone and proceeds to do the same thing minus the trample thing.\n\nWhat even is going on? I go to the other room. \"Dad, what was is it you told him to do? He keeps moving the ladder around.\"\n\"I told him to move the ladder so he can put stones instead of the ladder\"\n\"Why is he moving it each time he comes into the room?\"\n\"Every time you do this! Mind your own business, I'm in charge of him! This isn't school! Going to report people to the teacher.\"\nWhat the hell! Last time I did this was 5 months ago when a different labourer kept staring about and doing nothing when he could be doing something! \n\nI got the wheelbarrow I was filling with stone dust and debris took it to its room. I put my broom and shovel in the storage room and went downstairs. I checked my phone it should be 9 at least by now right? 8:20 and a missed call. It was mom, I called her back\n\"Honey, ask dad if he opened the garage so that the maid can come in and call me back with his answer\"\n\nSo I went and asked him.\n\"He said yes mom, also in coming home early\"\n\"Isn't there anything to do?\"\n\"Not really, bye\"\n\nMy dad always told me if you don't want to be here you can leave I'm not forcing you. I never did leave early since when I started in June since I felt guilty, even in days where it was 35\u00b0C and I was stuck driving the crane. \n\"Dad,I'm leaving\"\n\"Bored already?\"\n\"Yes\"\nIn my mind I rationalized there was no crucial work to be done and I would end up wasting time.\nI already felt terrible for leaving work early because i felt entitled and thought it would be awkward later today when he comes home.\n\nWhen I arrived home I heard Mom in her new office talking in the phone. Then I realised it was dad.\n\"What's going on?\"\n\"DAHunter go get your laptop down here you're not allow to use it\"\n\"What? Why!\"\n\"Dad has been telling me how you yelled at him in front if the construction workers, reporting your brother and reporting the labourer!\"\nI couldn't help it, I yelled at her\n\"WHAT THE HELL HE IS MAKING STUFF UP I DIDN'T DO ANY OF THAT\"\nShe then got off the phone, my mom has a problem with stress and I felt bad for shouting.\nI then proceeded to explain my side if the story.\n\"DAHunter, you're racist! You always go report anything the labourers do wrong just because they are black!\" \nWhat has that got to do with anything?\n\"I don't hate black people mom! I hate idiots!\"\n\"That doesn't excuse you embarrassing your father!\"\nShe then shouted from across the house \n\"Noel! Get off your computer and come do your homework!\" (Noel is 12 and that's not his real name). \n\nI then went to take a shower for about 20 minutes. I still can't see what I did wrong. Maybe from their point if view I did something wrong because I'm easily angered. My shout sounds angry, My dad thinks I always pick on my brother even when he is not there and apparently I'm a racist and can't stand people. Sorry this was so long but I wanted as much if the story here since I'm not sure during which moment I was an asshole in.\n\nTL:DR My dad got mad at me at work for yelling and apparently embarrassing him and asking him what the hell the labourer was doing. I went home and he called my mom with a version that was to me, twisted.\n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}585{"id": "7NHj3kZedH395cxmeFc7xgKud40wtI6q", "post_id": "ayj2hg", "action": {"description": "venting about why I hate weddings to my so/friends", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA - Venting about why I hate weddings to my SO/friends", "text": "I'm an introvert, my SO knows this. I also happen to despise weddings, but go and try to have a good time when I'm there. We have 5 weddings every weekend for the next 5 weeks that I am attending. Leading up to this, I dread it. I usually want to vent about why I dread it to sort of communicate that it's not easy for me to have fun at these things but I really don't want to have a bad attitude while I'm there, so venting helps me with that. Sorta gets it all out of the way early.\n\nThese weddings are all SO's friends/family and she feels self-conscious when they all pry as to why I'm not there, so I attend to ensure she isn't in the spotlight.\n\nMy SO views my ranting as pessimism and that it isn't going to help anything, so why have a bad attitude? She also happens to love weddings and be very extroverted.\n\nI really don't want to be a drain on her though, so lately I've taken to venting to my siblings/friends, when she joined a conversation with me and my sister who relates well with me on this subject, my SO was somewhat offended I was venting about it to family.\n\naita? Is venting about or dreading the receptions a jerk move that I need to correct in myself?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}586{"id": "lhl03mi6uO5ZF1bENxTdmwLkDvfnZ71W", "post_id": "b8dhzp", "action": {"description": "not wanting to pay for my in-law's phones", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to pay for my in-law's phones?", "text": "The first month of marriage my husband and I created a brand new budget where we merged all of our accounts. This included $50 that was being sent to my sister monthly toward her ministry (she's a missionary/ my husband is an agnostic,) and a $300 phone bill that included my husband, his parents, his sister, and her boyfriend (including, phones.) \n\nWhen I met my husband he was living with his parents but wasn't paying rent so it made sense that he contributed to expenses by paying the phone bills. At the time his mom wasn't working, and his sister was in college and had never worked before.\n\nI'm close with his family, we get together a couple times a month and for the most part get along well. However, there is certainly a cultural divide. The family is from the middle east, it's not unusual at big family gatherings for my FIL to call out my husband, in front of his extended family, for being cheap. Which I know bothers my husband, though it doesn't push him to change our spending habits. His father can be a generous person, it is not unusual for him to decide in the moment to drop $100  for everyone's dinner. \n\nSix months into the marriage, my SIL had her birthday and her dad surprised her with a brand new I-Phone. During the party my husband looked troubled, I kept asking what was up and he would just shake his head, \"Not now.\" On the drive home he took out his phone and checked our phone bill. My FIL had purchased the phone through our account, adding a payment plan. We were both furious, we turned the car around, my husband and he argued, and I completely lost my temper. When his sister found out, she was embarrassed and offered to return the phone (which my FIL refused to pay for,) neither my husband nor I felt right about that, so we dropped it. \n\nWe have now been paying for everyone's phones for two years. We have lived on our own the entirety of that time (I've had my own place since I met my husband.) My MIL has been working for a year. My SIL graduated and now is working a fairly decent job. Her boyfriend is also working but in retail. All of them live together with my FIL. \n\nMy husband suggested they begin to pay for their own phones in a month's time and the shtf. My SIL said straight out, \"No,\" like it was her decision. It was the most uncomfortable week ever. Their arguments were that it was family obligation, and that because individually they make less than us (everyone but my FIL,) that we should continue to pay.\n\nWe were holding firm in our decision, then my FIL got injured at work and went on unpaid leave. So we backed off, because that would have been messed up, and helped out with their electric bill. But, now he's working again, and I want to move forward with our plan. My husband has lost the desire to though, seeing his father in a weakened state has left him unsure of what to do here. I can get waiting but will this ever happen, should this ever happen? Reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}587{"id": "xKuA5pTjnB1nHb4RiUXkRu1Ijncrjv0w", "post_id": "avs4rb", "action": {"description": "trash-talking during Basketball games", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for trash-talking during Basketball games", "text": "Im a 16 y/o dude and Im better than the guys I play basketball with. AITA for trash talking about their \"SKILLZ\"", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}588{"id": "kgQTn9ySSfPTTozzNPHu03dvHPWxXE1a", "post_id": "av5i7p", "action": {"description": "cutting off my best friend because I am unable to support his new relationship", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for cutting off my best friend because I am unable to support his new relationship?", "text": "So I joined a club at my university and became fast, close friends with Michael, the president of the club. Our relationship started off a bit strange and we did things that people who aren\u2019t just friends should do, but both of us knew it wasn\u2019t serious and it was never like super over the top or anything. I joined pretty late in the semester though and didn\u2019t realize that Michael was close friends with a girl named Amy.\n\nAmy was dating Ben, but I quickly found out that Michael was desperately in love with her. They were best friends and always talking and he fell HARD for her. She would tell him that even though she was dating Ben, she and Michael were meant to be together, that she was in love with him too, that they would get married right after college. Michael, meanwhile, kept attempting to convince her to breakup with her boyfriend so they could be together finally. It was a shitshow and Amy\u2019s boyfriend was aware this was happening the whole time and would mock Michael about it constantly. There was also a lot of evidence that Amy had two boyfriends (not Michael, it was another random guy outside of our university), but Michael was blind to it and supported her 100%. Anyways, eventually it became obvious that Amy was just stringing Michael along to get a higher position of power within the club. I convinced Michael that Amy was toxic for him and that he needed to cut her off and he agreed, although he didn\u2019t really want to and Amy ended up leaving the club. \n\nA couple of months later, he called me and told me that Ben and Amy had broken up and I told him I was really concerned because I knew they still talked sometimes and he told me that he just wanted to be there for her because he had experienced a similar breakup in the past, but that there was no romantic feelings between them still.\n\nSure enough, a couple of weeks later I find out that they\u2019ve started dating. I know she\u2019s no good for him whatsoever and frankly, I\u2019m tired of having to deal with all of the drama she brings to Michael\u2019s life. There\u2019s a lot more details about why I just don\u2019t support this relationship or really want to be friends with him while he\u2019s dating her, but these are the most major reasons. I sat him down and told him that I was going to quit the club for a while because I\u2019ve become more busy with schoolwork and that I think he and I should stop hanging out or talking. I never specifically told him it was because of Amy, but I think we both know it is. I feel like shit because he seemed so crushed and even started crying, but I absolutely refuse to clean up after his relationship with her anymore and watch him suffer while he\u2019s with her. She might also still have that second boyfriend. So, AITA for cutting him off like this?\n\ntl;dr: Best friend is now dating a girl who we both know is super manipulative and borderline emotionally abusive. She might also have a second boyfriend. Don't want to deal with it, cut him off.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}589{"id": "EZwmSdXNGht02zTuO1Rtct4UMWexzD4z", "post_id": "aaqu7m", "action": {"description": "not helping a student", "pronormative_score": 83, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not helping a student?", "text": "I teach first grade in a very rural, low-economic area.  The average household is right at or below the poverty line; the only exceptions are the professionals in our community.  \n\nEvery year I offer to tutor my students who are below level in reading and/or math.  I do this free of charge (in my district, charging money for tutoring your own students is a conflict of interest.).  The tutoring sessions last forty five minutes and start immediately after school.  School lets out at 2:40, we start our lesson @ 2:50.  I provide a snack for the students since lunch time was at 11:00 and kids don\u2019t focus well when they are hungry.  I pay for the snacks myself.  \n\nAnyway, I had a parent from another school contact me out of the blue.  I was tutoring her best friend\u2019s daughter (one of my kiddos, remember) and she wanted to know if I\u2019d also tutor her son.  She told me his reading level, which was abysmal, and I have a really hard time saying no to a child in need.  I told her the tutoring times and said that if she could get the child there in time I would help.  \n\nTurns out, the child attends school in a different county approximately an hour\u2019s drive away.  The school also dismisses thirty minutes later than we do.  Obviously Mom can\u2019t get the student to me in time.  So she asks if I would wait and tutor her son separately.\n\nThis means the child would arrive around 4:15.  I get to work at 6:30 and by 4:15 I am simply out of energy.  Besides, I have to help my own son with his school work and that\u2019s always a hassle.  It takes me 40 minutes to drive home, which would mean I\u2019d get home about 5:45, depending on traffic.  \n\nThe going rate for reading tutors in this area is $30 bucks per hour.  I wanted compensation for my time, so I told her the cost would be $25 per session.  \n\nShe completely flipped out.  Called me all sorts of horrible names and made some very uncouth remarks about my teaching ability.  The one that hurt the most was that I didn\u2019t care about the kids, I\u2019m just in it for the money, etc.  She told me I was a disgrace to teaching and incredibly selfish, and that this kind of shit was why everyone hates public school teachers.\n\nHer words are constantly replaying in my head.  I don\u2019t think I am an asshole for asking for compensation, but am I the asshole for not tutoring her student?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 83, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 83, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}590{"id": "pK2t2LUUpwCtrsGWPGuS6mQ0t442d4aC", "post_id": "a5dhu2", "action": {"description": "telling my gf I don't need help at the gym", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my gf I don't need help at the gym?", "text": "So me and my girlfriend were at the gym just doing our workouts as we do every week, I was doing an excerise which required balance on a bench. She came behind me and started to hold my legs for me cause she thought I was unbalanced. I told her it tickled and I didn't need help, should be fine on my own and she stormed off in a grumpy mood.\n\nI just wanna know if I did anything wrong lmao ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}591{"id": "5cfNreRdw87IgjwG5ps6MrhqjamRYzBM", "post_id": "av87pa", "action": {"description": "refusing to kick my dog out of bed when my girlfriend sleeps over", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for refusing to kick my dog out of bed when my girlfriend sleeps over?", "text": "         I (20f) started dating my girlfriend (24f) recently, though we have been close friends for over a year now. I'm a full time undergraduate student and I'll admit that my apartment is... not great, to say the least. It's incredibly small, my bed is only a double bed, and I live with my large Rhodesian Ridgeback dog. I adopted him 2 years ago and he has honestly saved me in more ways than one, and i love him more than anyone else in the whole world. \n          My girlfriend slept over a few days ago, and was upset that my dog slept on my bed with us. In her defense, my dog is 90 lbs, and takes up a large chunk of the bed, making sleeping a bit uncomfortable. However, he always sleeps with me, and frankly I don't think it's fair to randomly kick him off one night and expect him to sleep on the floor. \n         She says I'm overreacting and its not a big deal to make him sleep on the floor once in a while. We've known each other for so long, and she definitely knew he slept in my bed before she came over. I think its unreasonable for her to expect me to change things just for her. Which one of us is right here? Am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}592{"id": "awjPqXRb9w7fw64xFJYbpIAlWlO5dJ6A", "post_id": "b1f0sj", "action": {"description": "wanting to try for a baby after 4 miscarriages", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting to try for a baby after 4 miscarriages.", "text": "My husband and I have been together for going on 13 years. I've had 4 miscarriages and really want a baby. None were planned pregnancies, they just kind of happened. As far as we know the main reason the miscarriages happen is because I had an undiagnosed depression coupled with stress from my family crowding me with unwanted attention.\n\nNow I'm on medication which has helped for the last 2 years with my depression and stress. My doctor believes if we try again we'd have a strong chance of making it through the pregnancy. \n\nHere is where the AITA part comes in; since my last miscarriage 2 years ago my father in law has been talking hard to my husband about how kids are awful and that it'll ruin out relationship and our way of life. NOW my husband doesn't want to try anymore unless I go with a sperm donor and make sure that when the child is born he doesn't have any chance of having to pay child support if he decides it's way too hard or our life isn't the same and decides to divorce me.\n\nWe got into a huge fight because he knew when he married me I wanted to someday have kids and now I'm 33 and time is flying by. We might have a fix for the miscarriages and even though the last one was the most horrible experience of my life, I really want to try again.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}593{"id": "qRnJbCdxYGzrlPwATzkOsOJG3LGP5X1M", "post_id": "aqiwwk", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my pregnant girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 34, "contranormative_score": 187}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my pregnant girlfriend?", "text": "5 years ago in high school I ended a 3 year long relationship with a girl (called C). C had a rather rough upbringing. Her father abandoned her as a child and her mother committed suicide by jumping in front of a train (only a few years before our relationship began). C was left to be cared by her grandparents who were devout Catholics. As a result C became highly religious herself. However, C has bipolar disorder. This wasn't obvious and manifested as erratic moods. \n\nAnyway, C had it in her head that she wanted to get married and have a family. At first she was patient because she thought I'd propose. When it became clear that I wasn't interested in doing so, C started to panic. C became more aggressive about it and we started to argue. Eventually C seemed to give up. But we were still sexually active. C had been taking oral contraceptives and we never used condoms (my bad) and I never thought anything of it. Then one day C was diagnosed with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome. She was told by a doctor that she'd be much less likely to conceive. This affected C deeply as she was more or less obsessed with the idea of starting a family. \n\nFast forward about 5 months (I don't remember exactly how long but it was a significant amount of time). It became clear that C was pregnant (with my child!). She succeeded in hiding it up until this point. When confronted she vehemently denied knowing she was pregnant and acted as surprised as anyone. Shocked and at a loss, I pleaded with her to get an abortion and pretty much gave her an ultimatum-me or the baby! It was all very emotional but finally I convinced C to get an abortion. Most doctors refused to perform the abortion this late into the pregnancy but were doctors in Melbourne who would do it. \n\nSo I booked plane tickets. It was all good to go. The morning of the flight, C was packed and literally getting into the car with her grandparents to be taken to the airport. Now get this, as they rolled out of the driveway, C's cat happened to be sitting behind the car. The cat was run over and died. C and her grandparents were shocked and saw no other option than to take this event as the occurrence a miracle (imagine that!) In their eyes it was confirmed-God wanted C to keep her child.\n\nSo she did. And I broke up with her shortly after. A few months later C gave birth to our son named N but I refused to take part. I haven't really talked to C since. I have been paying child support. To this day I have not so much as talked to N, although I have seen him a couple of times, despite that my parents see him and take care of him often. \n\nBasically everyone I know has judged me for abandoning my child and nobody hesitates to tell me I'm in the wrong. A lot of people have lost respect for me and see my continued lack of contact with my child as immoral. I've got into many fights with my parents over this and no longer live with them due to the discord. \n\nN is 5 years old now and stating to talk and go to school. Recently I was told by my mother that when N was playing with other children he was asked about his 'daddy' to which he replied: 'my daddy doesn't play with me'. This is concerning for me to hear and I can't help but feel guilty to some degree. However, I still feel that I've been wronged and at this stage it would be very difficult for me to reverse my decision. I have been firm about my decision all along and have no intention of validating C's disrespect for me by changing my mind now. I never wanted to have a child and she knew all along. She was being incredibly selfish, no matter how selfish I'm being now. \n\nBefore judging me I implore you to consider my perspective. I had no say in the matter and C deceived me (and everyone else) in order to fulfil her fantasy. This was extremely disrespectful and hurtful to me, I wasn't ready to have a child and I'm still not. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 155, "OTHER": 32, "EVERYBODY": 32, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 34, "WRONG": 187}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}594{"id": "WIX8jVx4wBH2iygyD1n5KYur1bDhIFaU", "post_id": "9zicky", "action": {"description": "having a sleepover with my friend and not asking my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 63}, "title": "AITA For having a sleepover with my (21M) friend (22F) and not asking my girlfriend (20F)?", "text": "Title is pretty self explanatory but here goes.\n\nOne of my closest friends at uni, Annie (who is in a long term relationship) came over one night to have a couple of drinks before heading to a party. One of our friends bailed and we didn\u2019t want to go to the party alone so we watched TV and smoked a couple of Js. The TV is in my room and we fell asleep together. \n\nMy girlfriend of 2 years was at a concert with a girl friend at the time and since we had decided not to go to the party anymore went back to her place instead of coming over.\n\nI told her the next morning that Annie fell asleep in my bed and thought nothing of it for the next few days.\n\nThe next time I saw her she sat me down and very seriously explained why she thought what had happened was super inappropriate, she also brought up a bunch of stuff that I hadn\u2019t noticed. Like how she thought Annie would overstep boundaries by playing with my hair and holding my hand at a festival while my girlfriend was walking alone behind. This stuff did happen but I meant nothing by it and love my girlfriend to death. \n\nMy girlfriend did say that I hadn\u2019t done anything wrong because I had never initiated this, but I also hadn\u2019t noticed that it had bothered her.\n\nShe said that the whole situation probably wouldn\u2019t have bothered her if it weren\u2019t for one conversation.\n\nWe have often talked about having threesomes and which of our friends we would sleep with. Obviously not seriously but we just find it interesting to explore each other\u2019s tastes-and I said Annie. \n\nAfter her pointing this out I feel like I\u2019m hyper aware of how I am acting around Annie and I fear it will change our friendship.\n\nAITA for feeling that my GF blowed this out of proportion and letting this affect my friendship with Annie? \n\nTL;DR : My girlfriend got angry with me because my friend slept over in my bed and she thinks this friend crosses the line too much.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 63, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 63}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}595{"id": "Dh0fONlwrqXGfQ8ZPiK8f3GfFH8n2bzE", "post_id": "af33bh", "action": {"description": "not buying friend's genderfluidity", "pronormative_score": 55, "contranormative_score": 30}, "title": "AITA for not buying friend\u2019s genderfluidity?", "text": "Hi Reddit. Posting this on my main for humility\u2019s sake. I\u2019m about as left as they come; and I am an atheist. I don\u2019t oppose equal rights for anybody, even if I disagree. After all, a wise man knows he knows nothing.\n\nI was introduced to a group of friends over a year ago. Two of the people are in a long-distance relationship. One is MTF, and the other is - as of late - genderfluid. I don\u2019t really believe in the concept, but I generally keep it to myself unless I am having a discussion on it.\n\nOne such time occurred, when I was stoned. His GF sent out a group-wide message imploring us all to be supportive and not to be assholes, with my name directly in parentheses. In private, his GF speculated he is trying out being trans.\n\nHe regularly slips up on his own name and identity, having not changed appearance or habits. Also, since then he has changed his name four times, regularly calling himself a male, or by his birth name.\n\nI think my friend is being histrionic, and I have actively avoided the group due to the hostility I feel ever since. They follow the over-sensitivity and coddling ethos of Tumblr. Before rendering a verdict, I need to remind you all that I only once said I don\u2019t believe in genderfluidity, This was in-context appropriate, and I was under the influence. I apologized for hurt feelings, and affirmed that I respect my friends regardless of personal belief.\n\nBut I have been the butt of comparative jokes between me and those oh-so-mean anti SJW types. \n\nAm I the asshole?\n\nNeed more details? Ask away.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 29, "OTHER": 43, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 12, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 55, "WRONG": 30}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}596{"id": "9BRXyksnd6aec8jYSS4H4RNuxb72pnjr", "post_id": "azuwkh", "action": {"description": "telling my husband we really need to consider getting rid of his new car", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my husband we REALLY need to consider getting rid of his new car?", "text": "My husband bought a brand new car last year. He was working at a company that offered monthly bonuses. His bonus per month, at minimum, would cover the monthly car payment. At the time I thought this was an OK idea, he'd get a car that would last us the next 10+ years, and even if he had a rough month, the bonus would cover most of the payment without really affecting our remaining budget.\n\nFast-forward to now, my husband left that job. It was a toxic workplace, I fully supported him leaving. However, his job prospects would make him significantly less than what he made before.\n\nBasically I crunched the budget, and even if he lands a job on the optimistic side, I'd still be taking a majority of the costs over in order to afford this car. We would also have zero money for savings. He's made it very clear that he wants to buy a house together in the next couple years (his big dream, I don't mind renting), with this car that simply isn't going to happen.\n\nHusband keeps saying he can \"make it work\" but I'm looking at a budget where I'm covering 75% of the household needs and it leaves us with maybe $70 extra per month if we are strict as hell. There's just no way we could save enough for a house at this rate.\n\n\nTL;DR: WIBTA for telling my husband if he wants a house in the next couple years, we need to ditch his new car?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}597{"id": "bwVGs4n76zyGkYKavSsWqiZtP9utC17K", "post_id": "b6p9k4", "action": {"description": "contacting my little brother who doesn't know I exist", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I contact my little brother who doesn't know I exist?", "text": "It's a long story (I can try to bulletpoint if anyone wants to know) but I took a DNA test months ago. Found out my dead father isn't my father, it's my godfather who is estranged to us. My mother actually made him my godfather *because* she knew I was biologically his. I suspected for a decade but didn't know till I got the test\n\nBefore my bio father became estranged to us he had a son with his girlfriend. I met the son when he was a newborn. The girlfriend left with the son to another state and my bio father left us to be with her a while later. Didn't talk to him for over a decade. We still don't really talk and I found out the girlfriend became his wife and they're now completely separated. They had two more kids and he's not allowed to see them, so I can't even speak to them through him.\n\nOut of curiosity I decided to look the son up since I remembered his name and realized he'd be a teenager. At one point my bio father, who lived with us at the time, was going to seek custody of him. So for a few months I anticipated this kid being my little brother.\n\nShockingly, the kid looks *exactly* like me. His childhood photos look exactly like my nephew. My sister is also my godfather's, we knew that for sure 100% for years. She took her own test and it says we're full siblings. I showed my friends and therapist his photos from his Facebook and they thought they were old photos of me with long hair. We're almost twins.\n\nSo, yeah, the kid is 16 now. He has his own Facebook and Instagram. \n\nI messaged his mother on Facebook to ask her permission to speak to him months ago. I wrote the letter with my therapist and was cordial and delicate considering the circumstances. She never responded. I was heartbroken but understood. \n\nMy mother brought the kid up the other day and said she knows I'm probably sad that I can't have a relationship with my two little brothers and sister. I told her I was going to wait till the youngest is in their 20s before reaching out (that'll be in 10 - 12 years). She said the oldest is 16 and she thinks he's old enough for me to at least PM him to introduce myself.\n\nI'm super conflicted. I don't know this kid and I don't know if he can handle something like this. On the other hand, 16 is old enough to understand. At the end of the day I want him to decide whether he wants me in his life or not, not his mother. Obviously, she can decide that for right now, but when he's an adult he can choose on his own.\n\nMy mother disagrees and thinks 16 is fine. She's under the impression that he probably wouldn't tell his mother and just talk to me. I wouldn't want to do that, however. I don't want to burn bridges or cause unnecessary issues with his mother. \n\nFamily is super important to me, especially siblings. My sisters and their kids are my best friends. Would I be the asshole if I PM'd him despite his mother indirectly telling me no? Should I wait till he's 18 or in his 20s?\n\nAdvice? Has anyone been in this situation before?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}598{"id": "6sQNSXoB5dQfZePJs2Jek0iooVcOq7ac", "post_id": "axl8fj", "action": {"description": "kissing the one girl while texting the other and overall not intending to get in a relationship", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for Kissing the one girl while texting the other and overall not intending to get in a relationship?", "text": "Actually i dont know where to start from. But i happened that my first gf and broke up peacefully about 3 months ago and i feel quite good about it. From time to time i think about the good times we had and get melancholic but its not like i am sad or something.\n\nNow i happened, that a girl i know from when we sometimes meet at a friends, approached me while going out. We chatted and started to text a lot quickly afterwards. I felt great to have someone to talk to again and was happy about how well we get along. The thing that bothers me is that she is turning 17 next month and me 20. Its not like i would be a huge gap but sometimes i feel like she isnt mentally on my age and i would like to rather have her as a friend instead of as a gf. But i kinda sense she feels not that way.\n\nNow two weeks later we still are chatting a lot and i still feel like there is not much room for feelings on my side even though shes quite cute. But yesterday when we went out partying i meet old friends of mine that i havent seen in a long time. (long story short) One of their friends that was there with them started to dance closer, then back to back and then we kissed and made out. \n\nI actually dont know how and why that happened but i kind of feel guilty. Guilty for actually not intending to have a relationship right now because i dont feel able to have romantic feelings to anyone, guilty for the girl i kissed because she could be thinking i feel something for her, guilty for the girl i am texting with and the old friends of mine that think there is potential for us two\nI keep thinking what shall i do, did i fuck up or was that ok, Am i a dick or just to concerned? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}599{"id": "zxtrGmGAmTlyczn5gMk4rUVkbdYeCENI", "post_id": "ba3g1o", "action": {"description": "asking my boyfriend to stop calling me \"hot\"", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my boyfriend to stop calling me \"hot\"?", "text": " Ok so I've (19f) been dating this guy (19m) for around two months now and everything has been going pretty good:) I got out of an emotionally, and semi-physical abusive relationship in August of last year, and my current boyfriend is the opposite to my ex, which is great. I only have one issue with my bf, and it's that everytime he compliments me, he calls me \"hot\".\n\nI know that this is a really stupid thing to bother me but I got 2 reasons why I dislike it. The first being that I think it is a sort-of objectifying term, and it makes me think that my body is the most important thing to him. I would much rather him call me \"pretty\", \"beautiful\", or \"cute\" because I think those compliments take my personality into consideration. I feel kind of uncomfortable if he sees my sex appeal as my defining trait. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate the thought behind the compliment and I find him really attractive too so I try to compliment his looks aswell. But the term \"hot\" seems to only focus on my body and sex appeal, and not to sound like a stereotype but I want our relationship to be deeper than that. (Another important note here is that me and my bf haven't had sex yet)\n\nThe other reason I don't like him calling me hot is because my ex used to use that term constantly to describe me. My ex coerced me into sex on two occasions before I found out he actually had a girlfriend who he was cheating on her with me. He used to get me incredibly drunk and then take advantage of me in some way, thankfully we only dated for a month. I never really realized it was an abusive relationship because he seemed so loving towards me, he constantly called me \"hot\". I remember specifically he would say \"you're so hot you're making me so hard right now\" to hint that I should give him a bj. I was 18 at the time and really wanted to save having my first time with a guy I knew really well and I wanted the relationship to be deeper than sex. Anyway the word \"hot\" was his go-to compliment and that's why it triggers me a little lmao.\n\nAnyway so I've been planning the next time my bf calls me \"hot\" to explain my reasons to him and ask him to use another word. I'm afraid it's gonna sound like I'm picky or ungrateful? I'm sorry if this is too small of an issue for this subreddit btw", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 17, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}600{"id": "4GQvIO4vyIvOFO6vuL9ipNl2opb2gUHJ", "post_id": "ayy8ys", "action": {"description": "not telling my sisters bf what I do for a living", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not telling my sisters bf what i do for a living?", "text": "idk why i'm a private person and i've never been close with my family. they don't know much about me and I see them once every couple years. it had been 3 years since I saw my sister and we had dinner with her boyfriend and my parents. I guess I gave off the impression that I had \"money\" (I don't) because i had veneers and was \"well groomed' (bfs words). So anyway he asked what I do for a living and I just joked I sell cocaine and he said no seriously and kept prying then I joked some more and said I do occult seminars $5k for 6 weeks idk i was trying to be funny and he got pretty angry and said why am I being such an ass. It's not really a secret I work in finance lol but I just didn't want to get into it", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}601{"id": "TvRb2fugRMKxB7fuObBtdTdMCdpYCyEx", "post_id": "b2rhne", "action": {"description": "wanting a new bed", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for wanting a new bed?", "text": "I am currently unemployed, finished Uni, still living with my parents, but wanting to move in with my bf soon and strongly allergic to furry animals, which resulted in me getting 4 or 5 years ago asthma since I live with cats. The overall allergy doesn't manifest as an usual cat allergy - I can be around cats, what really triggers asthma and allergy for me is dusty environment.\n\nSince I want to move in with my bf, who is from a neighbouring country with a totally different language (its Hungarian, with I understand only a few words), I have problems to find a job suitable for me - no work experience except a part time job and translation/ language related Uni aren't helping me much. At my bf apartment, I get less of allergy symptoms even if he owns 2 cats partly thanks to having a normal bed. At my parents' apartment, I sleep on a pull out futon sofa, which wasn't really build for every night sleeping on - the pull out part is wood with thin foam on top, which got worn out quickly and isn't comfortable anymore + the whole sofa is covered in cat hair collecting textile, it doesn't matter how much you try cleaning it you can't get rid of all the dust and cat hair.\n\n​\n\nI wasn't happy with the futon for a long time, hinted to my parents for at least 2 years that I would need a better and proper bed and they tried to compromise by buying a thin mattress to put on top and an air filter for my asthma that I have constantly running next to the sofa. Both helped somewhat, but my asthma always got back a month or so after. When I sneeze, have a runny nose and cough for several nights in a row and have to take meds and inhaler to just be able to fall asleep and feel terrible in the morning,I manage to get a big grumpy when parents don't seem to care enough, bring in more saved stray cats (have 5 in total now, but we have a big apartment so cats are doing well, no overcrowding) and tell you to just do sports outside, while the allergy doctors are alarmed my lung capacity dropped so low.\n\n​\n\nLast month I caught a cold that concentrated on flooding my lungs with slime I was coughing constantly and not getting any air when trying to sleep. The only place I could sleep was closing myself in the bathroom and sleeping on the floor with a yoga mat under me. Parents bought me a sleeping air mat, which didn't survive longer than a week, even if I tried to not let the cats near it. After the worst part of the cold went away I evacuated to my bfs appartment since my asthma still was extremly strong but I still need to get back to my parents place once in a while sice all my doctors (allergy, dentist...) are there.\n\nI still can't sleep on the futon since that cold, even with meds and parents refuse to buy me a new bed stating I can buy me one from my first salary (my parents are well off if they wanted to buy a bed its not a problem).\n\n​\n\nEven my bf can't sleep on that bed well (back problems) and started to have his own first signs of allergy there.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}602{"id": "RkwDs3dCSfgywGGoWGcUzmAhovDby3ak", "post_id": "b18oj3", "action": {"description": "breaking up a flat of 6 people", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for breaking up a flat of 6 people?", "text": "In December I booked my student flat for the next academic year. It was the same flat I had lived in before and due to its benefits over other flats (extra fridge, oven, and location) I booked early to secure it. \n\nToday I received an email from the flat managers asking if I would be happy to swap rooms, as a group of 6 people wanted to book together and there were no empty flats available, and as I\u2019m the only person in this flat booked at the moment I would be easiest to swap.  It wouldn\u2019t be too big an issue for me to swap, but I know this flat is the best for me, so I refused a swap. I\u2019m feeling slightly guilty now though, and have had people say I should have and swapped and people saying I was right to refuse. \n\nSo am I the asshole or not? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}603{"id": "agACTLsrwFi9mdkdBmedd0zbiSLwZwyd", "post_id": "b0tpac", "action": {"description": "snapping getting angry over a friend folding my underwear", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for snapping getting angry over a friend folding my underwear", "text": "Last week I got into a pretty severe car accident. A friend and I hydroplaned while entering the freeway on a roundabout, which caused the little Yaris we were in to slide into oncoming traffic. We got broadsided by a semi-truck. Amazingly, we both walked away unscathed, with the exception of some back pain on my part.\n\nIn the days following the accident I had an amazing outpouring of love and affection from my friends. People brought me food, family from out of state called to check in on me, and one of my college TAs was even cool enough to drop by with some edibles to help with my back pain.\n\nTwo days after the accident I got a message from my friend Eliza asking if I wanted some company. I said yes, and asked her if she could do me a huge favor when she got here and take my trash to the dumpster. I live in a second story apartment and getting down the stairs with a bag of garbage and a bad back just seemed like a monster of a mission at the time. Eliza says of course, and everything is set.\n\nCue to a few hours later and I'm lying on my couch being stoned and pathetic. I hear a rattling at my door and in walks Eliza, who I fully expected, but she also had our friend Wren with her, who I did not expect. Wren can be a bit much in a lot of ways.\n\nAfter greetings Eliza jumps into cleaning my kitchen, which I appreciated, but I kept trying to tell her that all I needed was the trash taken out. Eliza didn't listen.\n\nI had a basket of unfolded laundry sitting in my living room. Wren jumped right into folding that. Again, I kept insisting that she did not have to do that, and again, I was ignored. At one point, she pulled a pair of my underwear out and I immediately was like, \"hey, I don't like other people touching my underwear. Please stop.\" Wren took this as an opportunity to just chuckle, then proceeded to tell me a story about the first time she went to our friend Willowe's house and how she started cleaning and Willowe was uncomfortable and visibly angry, but Wren just kept going and how she could see that same discomfort in me and how she thinks it's funny.\n\nThis didn't sit well with me. Who the hell gets off on making their friends uncomfortable?\n\nSo I told Wren straight up that she needed to stop. I said I get that she's trying to help, but honestly, I'm sore and high and feeling really violated, which is mixing with my high and giving me this weird anxiety that I really don't like. I kind of snapped. Both Eliza and Wren felt the mood change, so they both left after that and said they were going to let me rest.\n\nI've spoken to Eliza since, but not Wren, and honestly, I don't want to talk to Wren. I don't think it's out of line for me to set boundaries and I don't think it's okay to intentionally cross someone's boundaries, even if it's in the name of \"just trying to help.\"", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}604{"id": "jXY7m4sOPXCcOXzOynEarGvip0KdMZUO", "post_id": "ab3tbm", "action": {"description": "reimbursing my friend with a Game key instead of actual money", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for reimbursing my friend with a Game key instead of actual money?", "text": "TL:DR- I allowed a friend to play on my steam account so that he can test out/ have fun on some games he's been wanting to play. I warned said friend about not buying games on my steam so that I would not have to worry about paying him back. He goes on to buy two games that add up to nearly $80. I bought him the key for one game and I still need to reimburse for the game that went on sale.   \n\n\n  \nLong version- Sorry if my  TL:DR didn't make a lot of sense. I am not really good with them.  \n\n\nI have a friend that wanted to play more PC games and try out certain games that I had in my steam library. Trying to be nice, I allowed him onto my steam so that he can play those games that he was interested in. I warned my friend that if he wanted to buy games then he would need to make his own account, so I wouldn't have to worry about reimbursing him for anything. Lo and behold he bought two games; one worth $20, and another worth $60. Of course, I was pretty livid, but I said I'll try to reimburse him for the games to the best of my abilities. My friend has not touched it since then, but recently asked me to reimburse him for the $60 game since I just paid him back for the $20 game. I literally had a mental breakdown because I barely have the money right now to pay back for those games since rent/utilities/etc has been kicking my ass. I confided in my boyfriend and he told me I don't need to pay him back in full; I just need to pay him back with a key.   \n\n\nI felt super guilty about it since I feel like I'm scamming him, but my boyfriend had reminded me that I had warned him about buying games on my account, and that it's not fair to me for reimbursing games that I'm not going to touch unless I'm actually interested.   \n\n\nI had asked for the receipt for the game, but he had sent me a screenshot of the first time he had bought the code. I asked where he had bought the CD code and he said amazon, and then someone else bought him another CD code for the same exact game through amazon again. And right now, there's a sale on it for $35.99 on steam. So I told him I could have just gifted me a new key for cheaper, but now he's giving me excuses about how someone else had bought the code for him and amazon doesn't do refunds as well as not providing me with the more recent receipt. I haven't replied since then as I'm still really upset about it.   \n\n\nSo AITA if I want to reimburse my friend with a new key code for a game he's interested in, instead of paying him back in full?  \n\n\n  \n\n\nP.S.-I'm sorry if my story is all over the place. I am not that great with grammar.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}605{"id": "Hiy3mW26x7ODKl2STEpAn8FCvOHgWjuI", "post_id": "am93a0", "action": {"description": "wanting to kick out a pregnant couple", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to kick out a pregnant couple?", "text": "Throwaway because I'm curious and don't know if the couple uses reddit.\n\n​\n\nHere's the backstory: I own my home and in order to help with costs and savings I rent out the rooms in my home. I won't get too into details about this but recently I have been struggling financially for external reasons so having room mates has become a must. I have a three bedroom home, and typically only ever rent out one other room which is across the house. I live in a fairly nice upper-middle home in a quiet and safe neighborhood. I keep the place clean (I clean thoroughly once a week, I dislike messes) and all I really ask for in return is that payments are made on time and that you are kind to me and my fiancee. The rental agreement I provide is just a month-to-month agreement and it is fairly generous and lenient for the person renting the room. I do my best for background checks, personality checks, financial reviews, and etc. prior to accepting people in. The room costs typically $600 a month with a $350.00 security deposit which I return after inspection. This amount includes the monthly rent, internet, utilities, and pretty much everything minus their personal expenses. I do ask that they not let my two kittens outside (they're indoor cats) and that if they're going to use something (like plates or laundry detergent) that they just ask in advance - I'll likely say yes. For reference, the typical rent in my neighborhood for a room is about $1200, or $1800 for a one bedroom apartment.\n\n​\n\nSo due to recent financial struggles I had agreed to let a couple live with me. I figured I would give them one room with a discounted rate (Instead of $1200 for two people, it's just $800) and I would agree not to rent the second room while they are here (which means I'm earning less per month since not both rooms are rented). They did advise me they would have March as their last month as the girlfriend is pregnant and the baby would be due in late March. This was in November. I felt for them and wanted to help, and additionally I really needed the money at the time as my previous tenant had to leave on short notice (He was really nice though and we worked it out amicably, although at my financial burden).\n\n​\n\nInitially everything was fine but we started noticing many issues. They would drink and eat our food without asking. They would use stuff without asking. At one point early on we found one of my favorite cups was being used as a cup-holder for their toothbrushes under the sink in the guest bathroom. The girl (who is pregnant) is leaving cigarette butts outside my home and she also spends her time drinking on my patio and leaving her mess behind. They tamper with my thermostat and cause my electric bill to increase by about 60% (when I typically account for about a 40% increase with new tenants). Additionally, they started using my garage and extra room as storage despite being advised not to. I had to confront them on each issue and they pushed back either saying it wasn't them or they wouldn't do it anymore. \n\n​\n\nNow normally I'd be furious but I wanted to best assist them so I let them have these extra luxuries at no expense because it would be easier than arguing - and I also couldn't find new tenants to replace them despite my many efforts.\n\n  \nFast forward to today, the rent is due and they advise me they are leaving in two weeks and they only want to pay for half the month. Now our agreement in no uncertain terms says they need to give me a 30 days notice and they owe for the remaining thirty days. I attempt to be nice but before I can text a reply the boyfriend sends me a huge insulting text message saying \"We are leaving because you neglect your cats and they have fleas. We should've gotten a thirty day notice on the fleas and we can't live like this so we deserve to not pay you the full rent.\" Later on he agreed to pay the full amount and \"we will discuss prorating it later\".\n\n​\n\nNow, my kittens are everything to me. They're indoor cats. Me and my fiancee spoil them. Recently (as of about 15 days ago) we discovered a flea problem. Immediately we notified them, bug-bombed the house, brushed them, shampooed them, gave them anti-flea treatment and they came back again as of yesterday; so I intend to get in contact with an exterminator to see what options are available (as they may be in places I can't get to with conventional means).\n\n​\n\nThis ended up being a longer post than I intended so I'll include a TL;DR at the bottom, but am I an asshole for demanding they pay the full rental amount as agreed by on our contract - and even more - I provided them official thirty day notice as of today to vacate?\n\n​\n\nTL;DR: I accepted a pregnant couple into my home with a month-to-month agreement. They're trashy people and I've been nothing but kind while they drink and smoke on my patio together. Today they asked me to only pay a part of their rent and leave early, violating our monthly agreement which puts me in a rough financial spot.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}606{"id": "dooGXC7C6HfKwFO8TfvIi6a9KRtdeiHp", "post_id": "altlw7", "action": {"description": "not letting my mom's boyfriend stay", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting my mom's boyfriend stay?", "text": "My mom is between places to stay right now and waiting to get into an apartment. So she says.\n\nShe has cleaned out my garage, which has been storing her stuff along with mine and my husband's. She cleaned it out really nice and vacuumed and got all the spidies out. She put a bed in there and wants to stay here until she gets a place of her own. I said that's fine if she wants to but she doesn't have to sleep in the garage she can sleep on the couch or wherever.\n\nNow, she has told her boyfriend that he can stay here in the garage with her. I said no. That's fucking ridiculous and I don't want some dude at my house all the time. She said he will stay in the garage.\n\nI said no but then she said just for one night because she already told him he could. I said one night, fine.\n\nThey stayed and got drunk and made enchiladas and had a good old time.\n\nNow she has asked me again. And said it's only 3 nights a week. Blah blah. Guilt guilt.\n\nAITA if I say no to that?\n\nI don't know him, he is loud as fuck and the two times I have met him I have got caught in a one sided conversation where he just complains loudly about something and cusses and it feels like he is yelling at me. I know he isn't yelling at me it just feels that way.\n\nHe isn't s bad guy, from what I can tell. He doesn't have anywhere to stay and my mom really wants to be with him all the time and it IS just my garage. And she said it will only be 3 nights a week until they get a place. \n\nShe has been saying she is going to get a place for a while now.\n\nI don't know, I feel like an asshole because I guess I always thought of myself as a good person who would share what I have with someone who needed it. But I have a baby daughter and I breastfeed and I want my space to feel safe. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}607{"id": "kYdH42g3YYVUxd9L1YRxAIqXvg5cQpvS", "post_id": "ajhm89", "action": {"description": "calling out a person who called me out for being bad at math to tons of people", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA If I called out a person who called me out for being bad at math to tons of people?", "text": "To preface this, I\u2019m in math class doing one of those group projects where everyone in the group gets the same sheet and works together to answer the problems. Then the teacher picks a random sheet from that group to grade and bases the entire group grade on that paper.\nSo obviously it makes the most sense to all get the same answers.\n\nThe groups were assigned.\n\nI am definitely not an A+ math student. By far. But I really do try and in this project I was trying to pull my weight. This group was 3 kids besides me who all knew what they were doing far more then me. I eventually get far behind them and start asking for help and then because our time to work on it is almost over, answers. I was genuinely trying really hard to keep up and was not trying to freeload. I just got behind and didn\u2019t want to sacrifice the groups grades and I don\u2019t think they would want to either. I felt bad and repeatedly apologized. \n\nThat should be the end of it right? Apparently not. I don\u2019t follow this person (one of my group members) on Instagram and at this point am glad I don\u2019t. I luckily have a brother who does. He tells me that her story has picture of a black background and some text reading something like \u201cThis fucking Grego-o kid, comes into our group and bullshits his way to get a good grade\u201d. \n\nThis kid is semi-popular so their follower count is at about 2k (probably almost all kids from my school) and I\u2019m pretty sure that means a lot of people are going to see it and at this point I\u2019m pissed because I tried as hard as I could to keep up and wouldn\u2019t have copied if I didn\u2019t need to but got called out anyway even after apologizing. AITA if I confront them about this (in person) also knowing I\u2019m not friends with them? Thanks in advance!", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}608{"id": "oI4P49XljW6Hcohc16MzY5FcpRF94gMN", "post_id": "aikdfj", "action": {"description": "not wanting to visit a parent", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to visit a parent?", "text": " \n\nI\u2019m posting this on a throw away account for obvious reasons. \n\nSo, I\u2019m 19 and I moved across the country with one of my parents (parent #1) and my step-parent. I had an ok relationship with my parent who I don\u2019t live near, lets call them parent #2 but it was a very stressful. My parents split was very messy and parent #2 alway tried to make it a pick parent #1 or me and was always pushing to spend every moment with them. I understand that they just have me and my sibling, but I also had to deal with the burden of constantly making me feel like I was guilty for any decision I made regarding time spent with parent #1 or parent #2. Parent #2 also argued that they didn\u2019t have to support me if I didn\u2019t see them enough and since the day I turned 18 even when I still saw #2 on an almost daily basis they did not support me financially. \n\nAfter moving I was basically pressured into visiting once after only 3 months even when I had a visit planned for about six months out. Well not parent #2 wants me to keep up a 3 month routine and honestly I don\u2019t want to see #2 that often. #2 just always makes me feel like crap and pressures me into things I don\u2019t want to do. Now don\u2019t get me wrong I still like #2 but its just shitty to be pressured to do everything. They act like they give me options, but I know that the options aren\u2019t really options. I\u2019d be more than fine if #2 wanted to come visit me, but I\u2019m tired of flying across country and taking off time (over a week each time) from work every 3 months. When I split my time almost 50/50 between my parents life was hell because I had to constantly listen to the bickering. It wasn't everyday, but it would got to the point of me having to leave the house a couple of times out of fear or anger. There were many good times during those years, but many taxing days as well.\n\nTo understand my situation a little better I\u2019m a full time student and work 40 hours a week so I\u2019m busy, but I like it and still want time to do my own things. I guess I might be selfish, but at this point I don\u2019t know. I also don\u2019t want to disagree with parent #2 because there parents have a college fund for me that will pay for a half of year, which is a lot of money for me. It almost feels like I just have that pressure of money looming over me. Plus I still love a lot of my family on that side, but its just tough because I don\u2019t want to upset them by making parent #2 upset and they won\u2019t see it my way, they never have but they don\u2019t hold it over me.\n\nSo I ask, am I the asshole for not wanting to see #2 every 3 months? Also should I good see #2 or should I stand my ground?  \n\n​\n\nI could go way further in depth with the stories, but I don't want to be too specific.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}609{"id": "cNGMdjoWhfSmwFxI6CRE7ghv1p5PbxUI", "post_id": "b30mvx", "action": null, "title": "AITA for this phony-friendly snapback?", "text": "So, my husband has long been irritated by the sounds I make while I eat.  To be clear, I am not smacking or talking through food in my mouth or chewing with my mouth open -- your face just naturally makes some noises when you eat.  I get that it can sometimes grate in a quiet situation because his chewing noises sometimes annoy me too, but since he can't help it, I chalk it up to I'm being irritable and I keep it to myself.\n\nUsually, if my chewing sounds are annoying him, he will say something like, \"I'm really sorry, but that is annoying me so much!\" and then he'll take his food and go in another room.  This has always mildly hurt my feelings, but I also can understand the irritation factor, so I have mostly just dealt with my feelings about it and moved on.\n\nLast night, we were sitting on the couch.  He was reading, and I was watching a show with headphones.  I was eating a snack while I watched, and he tapped me so I would pause the show, so that he could tell me, \"You are making the most disgusting noises ever while you eat that.\"\n\nI got so annoyed, and I slapped on a phony smile and a syrup voice and said, \"You make the most disgusting noises every time you eat too; you just don't know that because your wife doesn't feel the need to humiliate you each time.  It's called graciousness.\" Then I put my headphones back on and went back to my show, but I was too self-conscious to continue eating my snack, so it just sat there.\n\nHis whole mood changed into a sulk, and he thinks I am the one who is an asshole.  But I think he's the asshole for needing to be told that it is rude to make someone self-conscious about something they literally cannot control.\n\nSo, AITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}610{"id": "fIKjo9afk8FxCYlTBD59JXX061FUsknz", "post_id": "a9xx53", "action": {"description": "calling out a \"friend\" who used me as a last resort/funds pot", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling out a \"friend\" who used me as a last resort/funds pot?", "text": "Please help me out with formatting or if you need more information please let me know. \n\nSo I (21M) have been friends with a (21F) whom I did not have any intentions of being romantically involved with at any point in this story. \n\nSo, let's call her Jane, had been in a rough relationship for a few years prior to myself meeting her, upon meeting her we really hit it off, I was there to support her through her breakup and her moving back home, we spent a lot of time together and grew close (so I thought). \n\nJane was very passionate about achieving her dream and I was more than happy to help out financially for her to achieve this (probably my first mistake right?) And promised I would help her to achieve this, I care about her after all, we spoke briefly and she referred to me as her best friend so yeah. \n\nIn the previous week's I didn't really get any contact from her and we stopped hanging out, I get that sure you need your space, but when Jane didn't have any one else to hang out with, or wanted something bought for her, she'd suddenly be there to hang out again? No effort outside of that. I spoke to her about this in a calm way to try and explain how it made me feel but it continued on regardless. \n\nJust before Christmas she messaged me regarding some stuff she wanted so i ordered Jane around $600 of PC hardware that she wanted, we shopped for this together and hung out for an hour or so for this, however once it was ordered and shipping date confirmed, I heard nothing again for around 3 days, just completely ghosted me. \n\nSo they were due to be delivered tomorrow and I cancelled them, I let Jane know that she wouldn't need to wait for the delivery and all of a sudden I was worth the time again for a message regarding me being in the wrong and to blame for her not speaking to me. \n\nAm I the asshole for feeling used and cancelling the parts? I care about her and said I'd help her out after all..", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}611{"id": "agRlO4W5uvTRaZBsFFvjIzqKjMEySvVg", "post_id": "9wcjdm", "action": {"description": "refusing to punch my friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to punch my friend?", "text": "Not a long one, but here goes.\n\nFriend is kind of crazy, gets into fights often and other things of the sort.  One day we got on the topic of fighting and he insists I punch him as hard as I can in the face to see how hard a punch I can throw.\n\nI say no, because I don\u2019t want to punch my friend.\n\nHe asks again, and I say no again.\n\nIt\u2019s been a few days, now, but he hasn\u2019t asked me since or responded to any of my messages. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}612{"id": "ICvHubziqqmPdIpFTJEF3w2QQExHgDTF", "post_id": "b8jlts", "action": {"description": "not inviting a friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not inviting a friend", "text": "Had a birthday party and decided to not invite a friend  who im not necessarily close to or comfortable with, he asked why he wasn't invited and i made a BS excuse, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}613{"id": "ydJn5t69OENV4ZjYWmx7FP49xCT4wrQc", "post_id": "at4kp2", "action": {"description": "not keeping contact", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not keeping contact?", "text": "AITA? \n\nMy mother died 4months ago, and now, every one in my family are trying to stay \"close\" to me. \nBut only when they need something from me. Before, they would never call or text, only for christmas and such. Now my grand-pa needs something, he texted me \"thanks for caring about me, ill need the phone i asked you a month or two ago\" \n\nIm sorry, but you live 1:30h away and i dont have a car. So what the fuck am i supposed to do? I know its family but its only making me more mad then anything else... ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}614{"id": "EJtLAcLjNnxj2ZkUXt7ZfNsyqNY1JuJS", "post_id": "aos43a", "action": {"description": "trying to prove my point to my friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA if I'm trying to prove my point to my friend?", "text": "Sorry for posting this again. I accidentally clicked the \"Post\" button instead of the rules.\n\nSo, basically. I was having a discussion with my friend. It was about what if my friend is not a weeb and is a stan, a fan, or whatever. Then, I gave my point that it would be the same as if he is a weeb.\n\nMy point is that somebody might be interested in some topic if they actually deeply understand that topic. Like my friend, I think he might be (and he is) a weeb because he knows a lot about anime, like the characters, the series, etc. It is the same if someone is a fan of something. They must have knowledge of someone that they fan of, like their birthday, their real name, their songs, etc. It's because if someone has the interest of a topic, they will have the curiosity to learn the topic further because of how interesting it is. It is simple logic, I suppose.\n\nUnfortunately, my friend is having anger because of it, calling that if I were having a debate with that type of reasoning, then I will be boo'ed. Basically, he calls my point is utterly stupid. I tried to explain as clear as possible, but I think he doesn't understand what am I saying. He got to the point where he left a group chat that we and somebody joined.\n\nI feel bad for this because I seemed forced my point to him. A friendly argument suddenly going nuts because of me. But, I wanted to know if I am actually an asshole or not.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}615{"id": "iQi12eeBXYU72H44PoycwZW0hXeXp3LH", "post_id": "aqu2jl", "action": {"description": "wanting my boyfriend to post about us online", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting my boyfriend to post about us online?", "text": "So today is Valentine\u2019s Day so naturally everyone is posting about their SO. Not gonna lie, I felt kind of sad that my boyfriend didn\u2019t post about us. I know it\u2019s superficial, but it\u2019s nice to be bragged on, ya know? In addition to this, I feel like our relationship is almost secret. He never really talks about us to anyone. I feel like I\u2019m being childish for wanting something like that but it feels good when someone lets the world know they love you with no hesitation. I explained how I felt about it to him and now it seems like he\u2019s sad. Please tell me if I\u2019m being the asshole/childish/stupid. I\u2019m open to it all. Thanks in advance. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}616{"id": "b5Y9yXpRQK0FsSgdlWcsAMBwpQ15y0MP", "post_id": "a7adsm", "action": {"description": "saying I dont like my sisters new Choreography", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for saying I dont like my(13M) sisters(15F) new Choreography.", "text": "So okay let me start this off by saying all of my siblings and I are dancers we go to a charter school for the arts and we dance there we live and breath dancing last night I spent 2 house trying to perfect a string of dance moves NOT the whole set just a small portion of the set. So when we got home from school my sister showed me a new Choreography she was working on as when she graduates she wants to become a choreographer and I told her upfront I said \"not going to lie to it's pretty all over the place and it doesn't seem to flow right\" then she flipped out on calling me a little shit and stormed out of the room and my other sister (17F) just looked at me and said \"really you had to do that\" and walked to go talk to my sister. Now I'm stuck here this morning thinking I'm a total asshole for saying it's bad but at the same time it was bad I know I couldn't do any better but I guess I was just comparing it to the Choreography our choreographers do at our school. Am I the asshole.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}617{"id": "zCXmqKw4Hd48I2VFvSkTXpP58MqGxzOT", "post_id": "b84144", "action": {"description": "telling a friend he is being creepy and pathetic following a breakup", "pronormative_score": 174, "contranormative_score": 24}, "title": "AITA for telling a friend he is being creepy and pathetic following a breakup?", "text": "My friend was with this girl for about eight months. He is 22.\n\nWhile he was with her, he would go on and on about how she was \"the one\" and how they were going to get married, etc. \n\nShe recently broke up with him because he was moving way too fast in the relationship and he needs time to work on himself and deal with his anxiety.\n\nHe completely lost it after this. We ended up having to call 911 and have him taken to the hospital because he was calling her and us threatening harm on himself. \n\nHe constantly calls her asking why she can't take him back, and he told us that if she's in the city, he might go to her place and \"ask her in person\". \n\nWell, me and my friends all took turns spending time with him after the hospital visit and on my turn I just lost it after hearing for the fifth time how he was going to \"get her back.\"\n\nI told him he was being creepy and pathetic and that she has made it abundantly clear that she doesn't want to get back together with him and he needs to stop all this behavior. \n\nHe got really pissed and kicked me out of his apartment.\n\nMy friends told me that I probably could have done it in a nicer way but that they agree with me.\n\nSo AITA for telling him all that?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 163, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 174, "WRONG": 24}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}618{"id": "I8833PZWIx8T2tlvVk5lROXdusRIA0EL", "post_id": "b0pcwo", "action": {"description": "arguing with my husband over the hypothetical fate of my dog if she were to defend herself against his parents hateful chihuahua", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA: I argued with my husband over the hypothetical fate of my dog if she were to defend herself against his parents hateful chihuahua", "text": "So we have a big lovable Dane mix who has been in our family about six months since rescuing her, shes a complete pansy when it comes to other dogs being aggressive, including my in-laws Chihuahua. In the mind of their upcoming visit, almost as a joke I asked my husband what he would do if the Chihuahua attacked our dog again like he did the last time they were here- and if Charlie defended herself, she acidentally ended up killing the tiny attacker- He said she would be immediately put down. He went on to say that any dog that could kill a smaller dog he wouldn't trust around our kids... And I was surprised how upset this made me. This is ridiculous as Charlie adores our children and has shown multiple times that all she does is run away or lay on her belly when dogs attack her, but it made me realize that I would completely defend her if she did bite someone or injure/kill their dog. Am I being completely irrational in favor of my dog, or is my husband completely overreacting?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}619{"id": "AOleIaZJyEOvtReiydyNAv4S4mKhuJk4", "post_id": "a6iw1l", "action": null, "title": "AITA for cheating?", "text": "Ok so just to clarify, I hate cheating, and how it has become part of our culture.\n\nYesterday I lost my virginity to a girl, whom I think I have feelings for. While we both knew that she has a boyfriend, with whom she is about to break up. \n\nShe was going to break up with him last Sunday but I'm not sure what happened, she has said something about him using his sadness to guilt trip her into staying, when she ignores him or tries to bring up the subject with him.\n\nSo I feel like I'm the asshole or having sexual intercourse with her while knowing that she has a boyfriend, yet I feel like he's a dick for being so manipulative.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}620{"id": "pWfYbW3j1jx5yBsuNvF1SoWnTjrnOq8x", "post_id": "afk7qh", "action": {"description": "not letting best friends share the same desk in class", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting best friends share the same desk in class ?", "text": "So, a little backstory: \n\n   I'm in the last year of highschool and i had  a \"desk mate\" since 9th grade ( here we are 2 people at a desk ) but mine changed classes at the beginning of this year so i was alone at my desk.  \nI have two classmates with whom i'm good friends with. They used to stay together since 5th grade but last year of HS decided to switch mates. Now after the first semester they asked me if i could stay with one of their mates cuz they want to sit together again. I do not want to do that since i actually like sitting alone and it won't be the same especially cuz my mate is like a brother to me and it will be different if i sit with anyone else. Plus i don't really have anything in common with this girl and I don't want to sit with her, but I won't sit with anyone else either. It's not really personal, I just like sitting alone, but not having things in common is a minus.  \nSo am I the asshole for not letting them sit together ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}621{"id": "pfHD8b0gx0yeDqRB4JwFCUCKECUqsKOh", "post_id": "b6p9af", "action": {"description": "cutting my Ex out of my life after she sent me gore", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for cutting my Ex out of my life after she sent me gore?", "text": "So a few months ago me and my ex broke up on neutral terms after a year. We were still friends afterwards though. So were talking one night and I say some shit about how ouija boards are bullshit, and then she sends me a link to something that almost made me throw up. I then say jokingly to \"never talk to me again\" and then she sends 3 more links. I never opened them but they were from the same website. Then I wake up and there's 10 more links. I block her on all social media and don't talk to her the next day. I 'm talking to one of our mutual friends and he says she's upset lately. I would feel bad but like, That shit makes me mad. It's bad enough she sent it to me, but it's disturbing she knows were to find it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}622{"id": "kaHXmPPx141TPp4LRdPOwZEO7QX3jvPM", "post_id": "b15o78", "action": {"description": "not inviting my roommates to my re-enlistment", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not inviting my roommates to my re-enlistment?", "text": "A while back I reenlisted for a second tour in the military. When it came time for the ceremony, though, I really didn't care for it to be a big thing. It was just another contract, some more time serving the big red white and blue. I didn't really invite anyone, just had a few people out there to facilitate the proceedings. I've never been the kind to like big gatherings.\n\nWell, I come back after the ceremony and find my coworker has told my roommate, who I consider a pretty close friend. I hadn't invited him or his wife because I didn't think about it, and because again, I didn't consider it to be a big thing. Nonetheless, my roommate was pretty peeved- he felt excluded, and he told me as much. Apparently his wife was similarly upset. I kind of didn't talk to her about it, we all just kind of let it slide as if nothing took place. I really didn't mean for it to be taken that way.\n\nSo... am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}623{"id": "bm0sZdr45pFzzNVoYsufq2DyzhSq2DBR", "post_id": "b25l7c", "action": {"description": "telling a cleaner that I hired to clean more space than I listed", "pronormative_score": 62, "contranormative_score": 171}, "title": "AITA for telling a cleaner that I hired to clean more space than I listed", "text": "tldr: I hired a cleaner for a certain number of hours, i lied about the size of the house because i only wanted him to clean the bottom floor, he cleaned it so quickly so there is time to work on the upstairs but he is angry that there are more bedrooms and bathrooms than listed, even tho ive told him he doesnt have to finish people's all only wjat he has time for.\n\nSo, I used an app to pay for a cleaner to come today, Its something me and my siblings do when we use our parents house when they travel (we are between the ages of 17 - 22 so we can pull together enough money for it) and when they are away, we have more freinds over than usual, might have a house party. They are extremely strict about having a pristinely clean house, like more than most people, so we respect that and we clean as much as we can, but its really helpful to have a proffesional come in with more tools and cleaning solutions then we have in the house.\n\nIts really important that they clean the downstairs floor extremely well, like the living room, kitchen, bathroom etc. I didnt want to hire them for the bedrooms or upstairs bathrooms we can do that ourselves. But this is the first time using this app for hiring and instead of choosing the hours that you want, you have to input the number of bedrooms and bathrooms that you have and the app decides the amount of hours it will send the cleaner for.\n\nI played around with it so that it gave me a 4 hour option, so i diddnt input the amount of bathrooms and bedrooms that we actually have or ot wouldbjave hired the cleaner for much longer.\n\nSo it comes to this morning and I realise, that the house is really clean, this time my parents went away, we diddnt really have anyone over as usual, the downstairs bathroom was barely touched, we diddnt use the kitchen much, but i wasnt going to cancel obviously. The cleaner arrives, I explain to him how important that the downstairs area is prristine, all the mirrors floor etc. So IF he has time, he can move onto the areas but no pressure on the upstairs just go through the downstairs.\n\nHes done downstairs in less than 90 minutes, thats another 2 and a half hours left, so i take him upstairs and show him the bathrooms and bedrooms and he gets really angry, he says \"THIS IS NOT FINE, ITS NOT WHAT YOU LISTED\" I explained like i did when he arrived earlier, that the only important area was downstairs, and to do as much of the upstairs as he has time for.\n\nHes still huffing and getring annoyed saying that what I did was wrong but ive explained that he only needs to clean for the time I hored him for and then leave. Even of its not finished upstairs but hes still not happy.\n\nI dont know was I wrong for not listing the full size of the house, is it a strict rule when you hire a cleaner online that they do only the rooms listed, im thinking of complaining becaise i really diddnt like the attitude.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 166, "OTHER": 50, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 12, "INFO": 7}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 62, "WRONG": 171}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}624{"id": "2lllODblSiL6RGhsTTrXREIZWxu1t946", "post_id": "apnkj2", "action": {"description": "not wanting to cook for my brother", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to cook for my brother.", "text": "So my brother and I both go to the same college, and we live in the same two room apartment. We are both pretty busy doing school work, so I don't always have the time to cook. I meal prep 10 means every week for lunch and dinner. At the start of living together he would occasionally eat one or two of my meals which I was fine with. Now all he eats are the meals I make AITA for getting frustrated about him never cooking for himself. All I can think about is how my mom would always cook for the family almost everyday and she loved doing it.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}625{"id": "j0LeXfTAQXuqH3008rwULhzD8EhK5ItW", "post_id": "avunc7", "action": {"description": "telling my friend his gf is controlling", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if i told my friend his gf is controlling", "text": "Yeah so my friend of a couple of years and a week ago he got a girlfriend he hasnt been talking to me in a while and today he called me saying hes sorry he hasnt talked to me but his girlfriend has said that she doesnt want him playing with other people unless its friday like to me that ridiculous also aita for getting frustrated and ignoring him for being so naive?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}626{"id": "TArobME17MIzyKjZcWoiSDf8Y7JE8atw", "post_id": "atk5an", "action": {"description": "not eating breakfast with my gf", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA (M22) for not eating breakfast with my gf (F21)", "text": "I normally go to work with my gf at 10Am and we usually eat breakfast together. Today I ate a little bit before picking her up for work and when she said what I wanted to eat I said I\u2019m not hungry I already ate a little bit she said that\u2019s okay she just won\u2019t eat. She\u2019s now giving me the cold shoulder despite saying it\u2019s okay she refuses to eat without me but now that I\u2019m telling her we can eat together she refuses. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}627{"id": "NfKVQOh2modVdwNpVxGAA86hFu7xeocT", "post_id": "b3twgd", "action": {"description": "changing the subject after a long pause", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For changing the subject after a long pause?", "text": "Me and my high school team are playing a tennis match over at another school. While going over to the school we start a conversation about college basketball, and how everyone filled out their brackets. After about a 20 second pause I thought the conversation was over, and I talk about the last tennis match I had, idk why, but I was stuttering non stop. And although I got the words out of my mouth, they weren\u2019t pretty. Once I did, one of my teammates said \u201cWe were just talking about basketball, why are you talking about tennis?\u201d And my response was. \u201cI-I thought we were done, it was a long pause.\u201d And he replied back. \u201cWell you just started a whole different conversation when we were just talking about basketball.\u201d I know I probably am taking this way out of proportion, but I feel so embarrassed, and I haven\u2019t talked sense, idk if it was my awful stuttering, or if I was an idiot starting another conversation that shouldn\u2019t be talked about yet. So please tell me, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}628{"id": "4JWkf9QTl517P3oxcfQlHXaczq69U27d", "post_id": "9z92uz", "action": {"description": "not paying it forward", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not paying it forward?", "text": "Today I went to a very-well known fast food drive through and ordered my meal. At the paying window I was told that the car in front of me had paid the six dollars for my meal. Accepting this kind gesture, I asked how much the order was for the car behind me. It was over $30.00. Being a broke student I had to pass on paying it forward but I still feel a little guilty for not having continued the kindness. AITA for this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}629{"id": "7sfcupWIjICLHBaEtEOlCOzPIfznj8E8", "post_id": "b5vypu", "action": {"description": "intervening in two of my friends fighting", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for intervening in two of my friends fighting?", "text": "Okay so backstory time, I\u2019ve been friends with Person A for a long time, we go way back. But, he was a bit of a dick back in highschool, it wasn\u2019t really his fault, I blame more the people he was hanging out with. After high school he moved out of the town and we lost touch. Recently he move backed and is a completely changed person.\n\n\n\nSo here\u2019s where Person B comes in, we\u2019ve only started being friends after high school, he\u2019s usually pretty chill, but can get really impulsive and irrational when he\u2019s mad. Here\u2019s the kicker, I found out recently back in highschool, Person A played a real nasty prank on Person B. Now Person B was still legitimately upset about it, but had no clue that Person A was part of the prank.\n\n\n\nFast forward to last Saturday, I invited both of them to go drinking and the nights going fine, albeit a little awkward at first. Here\u2019s where the problem happened, we ran into one of Person A\u2019s old highschool friend, and he ends up spilling the beans about the prank done on Person B. Person B just gets furious and starts insulting Person A.\n\n\n\nI jump in to try and cool him off, since Person A has changed quite a lot since high school, but Person B isn\u2019t having and of it, and tries to cold-clock right Person A in the face. I end up just tackling Person B to hold him down to try and cool him off. After he calmed down, I let him go and he curses us off, then leaves. He still hasn\u2019t returned my texts, and he made it apparent that our friendship is over.\n\n\n\n\nSo who was the Asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}630{"id": "Uq8Y4twhrhht1A9MRFkCmIs2U3PVfYZW", "post_id": "b5qxz3", "action": {"description": "not liking my wife's friend", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not liking my wife's friend?", "text": "My wife and I are mid 40s and have been married over a year.  She has this friend (J) that about 3 years ago, down in Mexico, got drunk and started talking bad about my wife (then my GF) in front of strangers the entire day and then at the end of the night, got into a physical altercation with my wife.  My wife called me at like 2:00am from Mexico, crying, told me what happened and said she was driving off in the rental car to get to the airport (she left J in the hotel room) and was coming home.  The entire way back to the States she kept calling me upset, etc.  J was also going through a divorce at the time because she got busted cheating on her husband with a coworker, who she also gave herpes to.  My wife has known J for 20 years.  J is also in her 40s.  \n\nAfter the Mexico thing happened, my wife told me she was going to cut J out of her life because she didn't need toxic people like that around her.  I thought this was a wise move.  My wife hasn't heard much from J over the past 3 years but has received the occasional reach out, \"I'm sorry\" type of text to which she replied politely to but never more than that.  My wife has said, when she chooses to shut a door, it stays shut.\n\nSo, a couple of days ago, my wife runs into J at a store and J starts crying and saying how sorry she was, etc.  My wife tell me this and I can only say that I don't like J but ultimately it was not really my thing, it was between her and J.\n\nMy wife got very defensive and said I wasn't supportive and that I only know bad stuff about J (which is true) and that we have all done stupid things like J did in Mexico.  I said yeah, maybe when I was like 21 or something, sure I may have gotten drunk and gotten rowdy but even then I don't remember cutting my friends down to make me look better and then fighting with them and I sure as hell don't remember doing anything like that in my 40s.\n\nI said from what I know of J she is unstable, selfish, toxic, mean, etc and I don't think she has a place in my life but if you want to give her a chance, that is up to you, just don't expect me to like her because I don't.\n\nThis turned into a major fight with my wife about how I should be supportive and how I don't really know J.  I told my wife, \"up until a few days ago, you thought the same way I did and only changed once you ran into J\".  \n\nI'm not sure what my wife wants from me.  I don't think many mid 40s women act like J did.  I don't want any drama or crazy around my wife or kids.  I can understand how J has good qualities as well but I just don't have a good vibe about her, even less so now that J is single and doing God knows what.\n\nNow, my wife thinks I'm an asshole and all I was really trying to do was be honest about how I felt.  I haven't changed my mind, I still don't like J and I think she is trouble but I will try and be supportive of my wife for my wife's sake.\n\nAITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}631{"id": "84BfWnB9rWav5VlToKR0mi1MaYjY0RmS", "post_id": "agpplg", "action": {"description": "ghosting her after she wouldn't put out", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 107}, "title": "AITA for ghosting her after she wouldn't put out?", "text": "So, I've known this girl Casey for about 8 months now. We've been sort of flirting for about 2, and there have been rumors that she has feelings for me for about 5-6 months now. Last saturday we went on our first date, and did all the normal date shit, we watched a movie, got some dinner and whatever. I'm always big on being honest, so I asked her bluntly if she wanted to go back to my place and fool around. Basically put all my cards on the table. I thought I had a done deal, since she's apparently had a crush on me for months now, but she said \"no, not tonight\", and things got awkward.\n\nShe said \"she wasn't like that\", and said that we'd see on the second date, and that she liked me and shit, and wanted to let things develop.\n\nThis was halfway thru dinner, and I don't think I responded to her after that. She would ask me stuff, and talk about whatever, but all I kept thinking about was that I struck out. That shit happens to everyone, but I thought it was an easy sell, and I actually picked nice places for once. I sort of zoned out, and when the date ended all I could think about is all the money I wasted that day. \n\nWe said goodbye, she gave me a kiss on the cheek, and I gave her a limp air hug, and sort of went away. I went home, and I haven't spoken to her that much since then. She's texted me from time to time, asking if I'm feeling okay, and if I want to go out again, but tbh I don't feel like replying with anything more than a thumbs up or a \"k\". \n\nAm I the asshole for ghosting her because she wouldn't put out on the first date. I'm not doing this to hurt her, it's just that I honestly lost all interest in her, and don't feel like talking to her anymore, or going out again. I just don't see the point, since i spent a fair bit of change on that first date, and don't want to do it again when there's risk of not getting any that time either.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 107, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 107}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}632{"id": "a22anR9zHEmXlHXtEnEyFH7VYVVMyksY", "post_id": "aer0nt", "action": {"description": "letting my parents buy me a nice first car", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for letting my parents buy me a nice first car?", "text": "Sorry in advance for formatting, I\u2019m on mobile. TL;DR at bottom.\n\nI have a friend who lives down the street. I met him when I was 13 and he was 15. We were extremely close and most of the things I enjoyed were because of him, (Basketball, Volleyball, Card Games, Some Online Games), but thats besides the point. A little before he turned 16 he got his first car (\u201899 Honda Civic $1000) that was perfect except for how it looked. We often went places and I never \u201cmocked\u201d him for having a bad / old looking car because in my eyes it was perfectly fine for a car. \n\nFast forward by about 2yrs he\u2019s 17 and I\u2019m around \n1 1/2 months from my birthday. He worked hard and got his parents to agree to price match a new car for him. He put $1800 in for a \u201807 Mustang ($3100) and his parent matched him with the extra going towards the small bit of needed fixes. I was extremely happy for him and even joined him when he drove to go to repair places to get the standard new car fixes like oil changes. The only real problem with the car was a slightly bent hood, something you couldn\u2019t notice from more than 10ft away. \n\nFast forward a month and now its 2 weeks before my 15th birthday and since I know my family didn\u2019t want to pay much for my car I was expecting something basic similar to my friends first car. Since I have to drive 40 miles to and from school everyday when I get my license we has to get something with low miles and high mpg. While I was sitting in my room doing nothing my mom knocked on my door and told me to come outside. What was waiting there for me? A red \u201802 Camaro! ($3200, small paint problems and a few things needed replacing but no major problems). I was so happy and excited for my permit so I could drive but the first thing I did was text my friend saying I got my new car and to come over.\n\nI heard/saw his car coming up to my house but instead of stopping, he just drove right pass. It confused me a small bit so I asked my dad if he could drive me to his house with my new car to ask his opinion but when we go in front of his house we saw him get out of his car (with his brother and friend, both I know semi-well) and walk right past us into his house. I was kinda bummed knowing that he was mad but normally he gets over things after a little while so I let it be and texted him 1 week later about going to a volleyball open gym that we normally go to. These are the texts.\n\nMe: You going to volley?\nHim: Maybe why?\nMe: Bc I\u2019m going and wanted to know if you\u2019re driving\nHim: Well why don\u2019t you drive? You\u2019ve got a nice new car.\n\nThis was before I got my permit. \nThe rest of the conversation went similarly with him kinda saying things that made it sound like I\u2019m a huge asshole and was getting mad about how my car was a little more expensive and that I didn\u2019t work for it. Eventually I told him that when he got his car I was happy for him so now he should just grow up and be happy for me.\n\nThere was another point when he said that my parent\u2019s buy everything for me which other the my first good pc (Christmas 2015 ~$1000) I have bought anything over $50 by myself. Ex. Oculus Rift, Xbox One, PS4, PS4 1TB, my current computer specs (~$1300), my shoes (totaling ~$260), my 3ds xl ($120) and pretty much anything over $50. The only times I get something is during my birthday/christmas which even then never go above $200. He get things given to him worth the same to more than I do. Ex 2 pairs of nice shoes after getting honor role on a report card.\n\nIf you couldn\u2019t tell by that rant this is what really got\nme annoyed and stop texting him. I haven\u2019t talked to him at all since (4 months) but whenever I think about it I get really annoyed. I understand where he\u2019s coming from, he had to work but I didn\u2019t, but he doesn\u2019t have to treat me like everything is my fault. \n\nThis is the story but the question is, AITA?\n\nTL;DR: My parents payed for my first car that was around the same price as my friend\u2019s 2nd car that he price matched with his parents to get. ($3200 against $3100 split 2-ways). Now he\u2019s mad at me.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}633{"id": "t0Vp7msU9Kb8mC3KPw4fUfr19EsDau6o", "post_id": "aiamp6", "action": {"description": "enacting 'revenge' on my mother by treating her the same way she treated me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for enacting 'revenge' on my mother by treating her the same way she treated me?", "text": "I'm usually just a lurker in this sub, but this has been weighing on me for days. I know stories involving abuse are touchy here because it usually falls under the 'validation seeking' post category, but I swear I've thought this over. I'm never this divided when it comes to my mother.\n\n​\n\ntl;dr: My mother was abusive so I stopped reacting to anything she did, but recently I've caught myself becoming more and more cruel towards her, to the point that when she said she just wanted to die, I asked her why she hadn't. AITA?\n\n​\n\nA little background: my mother has been abusive as far back as I can remember (so, since I was 7 years old.) It went from degrading my physical appearance to attempting to kill me a few times. I'm not blind - I know what she did was horrible. I'll never forgive her for it. \n\nHowever, I've been acting like a real piece of shit the past couple days, or maybe even weeks. She's been trying to be nice ever since I ran away a month or so ago, I can tell, but apparently that just makes me more angry. She hasn't been too abusive in a few months. \n\n​\n\nHere's the actual story. Two days ago, I was in my room, getting nothing done as usual. My mother comes in, obviously wanting to talk about the meeting she'd had the day before with my maths teacher (about me missing way too many classes and my grades dropping.) She asked - in a sweet voice that made me want to punch her in the face (goes to show how weirdly I've been reacting these days) - why I'd been missing those classes, listing off potential reasons. I'd had a less than ideal day, so I just wanted to be left alone, and I got annoyed really easily. I snapped. \n\nUnfortunately she just cranked up the whiny tone. Started talking about how hard this was for her (which I get, honestly, but in that moment I wasn't hearing it), and eventually she said the magic words \"I want to die from how tired I am because of you.\" \n\nI was too mad at that point to watch my mouth so I just asked her \"why not do it, then\" in a complete deadpan. I wasn't looking at her so I'm not sure what her immediate reaction was, but when she next spoke I'm pretty sure I heard choking up. \n\nI felt nothing in that moment. That's what makes me so conflicted. I didn't even think in that moment, I let myself go and stooped to her level. Said the words she used to say to me. Afterwards, thinking it over, I felt bad - not for her, not really, but for having been that much of a shithead to anybody. \n\n​\n\nI have two entirely different parts of me that are at odds right now. Half of me just wants to dismiss it - I want to tell myself that I'm not the asshole, that I'm justified because of what she did to me before. But the other half is reminding me that no matter what, it doesn't change the fact that I practically told someone to kill themselves. And she's been trying to do better, I'm just actively making it hard for her. That's definitely asshole material. \n\n​\n\nI don't know. I need help in figuring this out. I don't care about the verdict, I just need to know so that I can try to change whatever I may need to change. Thank you :)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}634{"id": "JlJHxNGNCpjbaFSbMSkyEzmdr9s38OT3", "post_id": "b32shl", "action": {"description": "poking fun at my disabled friend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for poking fun at my disabled friend?", "text": "My friend cannot walk. He has lost control of his legs, and will be in a wheelchair for the rest of his life. I have a stutter. I\u2019ll probably never be able to talk normally for the rest of my life. These disabilities brought us together, and now we\u2019re best friends.\n\nWe constantly joke about our disabilities, and make fun of each other\u2019s (yes, it\u2019s bizarre, but it\u2019s created a friendship).\n\nOne day, he and I were playing video games with some other friends. After he died, he threw his controller down in anger and started to leave the room, to which I commented, \u201cOh, go walk it off.\u201d Me and the other guys laughed, but my friend seemed genuinely hurt. This comment is one I\u2019ve used before, and it\u2019s never made him angry.\n\nHe hasn\u2019t talked or looked at me in a while. Did I do something wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}635{"id": "9xSsphiOU8mwVy8FgJJJcOHFRNQv0LLP", "post_id": "avxj9m", "action": {"description": "not wanting my wife to pursue a career that would allow her to make more than me", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 58}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my wife to pursue a career that would allow her to make more than me?", "text": "I know the title sounds really bad, but it's not that clear-cut. \n\nMy wife and I are fairly young (late 20's). I make more than enough for us to live very comfortably on my salary alone. My wife works but makes less than half of what I do. We don't plan on having kids so there's no reason why we need to increase our earning potential. \nWhile I was getting my master's degree, my wife (then-girlfriend) decided to put her graduate school plans on the back burner so that she could work full-time and support us as a couple. She ended up finding a job that she loved and eventually she stopped talking about going to grad school. I thought she would end up staying in this job (or a similar one) until retirement.\n\nHer parents are very wealthy and they recently offered to pay all of her tuition and educational expenses if she goes to graduate school. Honestly, I think they're a little embarrassed that their daughter only has a bachelor's degree since they both have graduate degrees. The program that she was, and apparently still is, interested in would put her on a path to make a higher salary than I currently do.\n\nI thought she wasn't interested in graduate school anymore so I was a little taken aback when she told me how excited she was at the prospect of going back to school. She asked me what my thoughts were and I told her I wasn't sure if it was a good idea. I talked to her about how much she loves her current job and how this other career path is drastically different. She told me that while she loves her current job she'd rather pursue her dream. I backed off but I think she could tell that I was wasn't happy.\n\nThe real reason why I don't want her to pursue this option is because I've grown to like the fact that I'm the breadwinner. It makes me feel good that I support both of us financially. Honestly, I would feel emasculated if I made less than her. I know that's an unpopular opinion but I don't think any guy can honestly say that he feels \"good enough\" for a woman that he makes less than. It would be different if we weren't living comfortably but we have all the money we need. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 58, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 58}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}636{"id": "YHc6OqNgCTEERnSpwGmDa4sTwifCibCo", "post_id": "b8ip1v", "action": {"description": "refusing to re-home my dog", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for refusing to re-home my dog", "text": "My partner and I got a puppy  7 years ago when we purchased a house with a suitable garden.\n\nI love dogs. This was my partners first ever pet and she adored it. Ever social media picture was of her and this puppy (you know the type of girl).\n\n7 years on, things have changed in our life. Children, pressured jobs, financial commitments etc. the dog doesn\u2019t get as much attention as it used to.\n\nIt\u2019s still a well looked after animal. Well fed, well groomed, in and out a suitable garden all day. But dog-walking has reduced in the last 5 months (with my new job) from 1 hour per day, to maybe 30mins every other day, and occasionally we return to poo in the house.\n\nMy partner has lost interest in him the most since having children, which is understandable. But the final straw came when it turns out that one of my child\u2019s skin conditions is possibly linked to an allergy to dogs (pet hair dander I think it said on the test).\n\nMy partner says the dog has to go. I refused. My child\u2019s skin complaint is currently under control and she shows no other symptoms of an allergy.\n\nI\u2019m willing to rehome him for a short period to be 100% certain there will be an improvement on my daughters skin, I also want to pay for another thorough allergy test as I\u2019m highly sceptical about the one provided (it was done two years ago when my child\u2019s skin was severe - and we were told to ignore the allergies and focus on combatting the flare ups. But now the dermatologist is focussing on potential causes).\n\nI wasn\u2019t at the latest consultation where pet allergies were discussed and I feel that this is just an excuse to re-home the dog. \n\nMy partner says that it\u2019s a hard decision but the best thing for the dog and our children. She says I\u2019m being selfish.\n\nI feel we made long term commitments when purchasing a puppy and we need to re-evaluate our lifestyle to ensure the dog gets his usual 1 hour walk per day, and limit his roaming of the house so that he doesn\u2019t frequent the same areas as my allergic child (bedrooms etc.)\n\nAITA?\n\nEdit: Our ensuing argument blew out of control, and we were both most definitely said some \u2018assholish\u2019 things. I\u2019ve since apologised but I\u2019m still being branded as selfish and putting the dog before our children.\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}637{"id": "ydalqPDe5PfkFm8PBAtPxXGaqfu3nDmU", "post_id": "ajvulr", "action": {"description": "wanting my boyfriend to speak in a quieter voice", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting my boyfriend to speak in a quieter voice?", "text": "Welcome to the pettiest story you will read all day. \n\nSo my boyfriend (22M) and I (22F) live together and have been dating for almost 3 years. I\u2019m just having a hard time seeing his side in an argument and was hoping I could get some input if I\u2019m actually the asshole here. \n\nSo he ce home from class this afternoon while I was preparing slides for a class I teach in the evening. We say down together to catch up before I had to leave, and he started telling me an animated venting story. Part way through the story, he was getting really loud and animated, so I quietly made a \u201cshh\u201d sound to indicate that he should lower his volume (without disrupting the story). \n\nHe lost his shit. Long story short, he got angry wth me for shushing him. He said that he hates when I do this and that me wanting him to be quieter in the middle of the day (instead of at night) is really me wanting him to change the core of his personality. \n\nFor clarification, I love when he tells stories and gets animated! My issue is the volume. We live in a tiny studio apartment for one, and he\u2019s a generally loud person. I have issues with loud sounds. When he talks loudly it makes it hard for me to engage in the conversation and it stresses me out (I\u2019ve tried to explain this to him). I also had to leave almost immediately to go teach a class, another reason why I was stressed and wasn\u2019t into him talking so loudly. \n\nAt the core of it, I feel like it wasn\u2019t worth him getting so pissed about!! Am I the asshole for wanting him to talk in a quieter voice? If you think I\u2019m the asshole here please candidly explain, I\u2019m so lost as to why this is a big deal. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}638{"id": "omaA3EB9wvyyifd2sePK9UMPzQ7bCNmg", "post_id": "b7u8sy", "action": {"description": "snitching about a friend doing drugs", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for snitching about a friend doing drugs?", "text": "My gf's roommate (let's call him Tom) is currently going through a rough moment. Unemployed, he smokes a lot of weed and does occasionally hard drugs. Tom's becoming pretty mean to my gf too, asks for money and basically decided to move out in like two months without telling her, putting her in the situation to find a new roommate with a pretty short notice. Even tho he is my friend too I'm kinda of fed up with that and yesterday, at a party, after a few drinks I started to hang out with his best friend. He's the classic dad-friend, always concerned about everything. We were chatting, he asked me how Tom was, and I couldn't contain myself. He's such an asshole to my gf, plus what he's doing to himself is crazy stupid and dangerous. I told his bf everything about the DRUGS and he was pretty shocked. He says he will talk to him, maybe even talk about something like rehab.\nThe day after, I feel like it wasn't my battle nor it wasn't my place to snitch on a friend with somebody that I know can only offer a very \"aggressive\" help, yet the idea that somebody will make him face his assholeness makes me crazy happy. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}639{"id": "IV6HBeTshHlEpZSXY6eo0EWKUaYXJbXq", "post_id": "a0p34d", "action": {"description": "making a joke and almost getting my friend in trouble", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for making a joke and almost getting my friend in trouble?", "text": "Alright so in class today my friend needed Advil, but the nurses office only has Tylenol. So she asks our friends, and my other friend (let\u2019s call him Rob) starts joking that he can hook her up for 5 dollars. My friend offers 2 dollars and some candy, playing along, and rob is all like \u201cnah you don\u2019t get a whole bottle for that\u201d and they keep going on this whole drug dealing thing over some advil. I walk up to throw something out, then when I\u2019m walking over to my seat I say, \u201crob is definitely selling drugs.\u201d And for some damn reason, right before I say it, everyone stops talking. So everyone heard it. It wasn\u2019t even that loud. Anyways, another one of my friends at our table thinks it\u2019s the funniest thing and said it was a bitchy move (that part I don\u2019t mind) but Rob is extremely pissed off. Then the teacher says not to joke about it because she\u2019s obligated to take it seriously and write rob up about it (she never does because she\u2019s chill) but this gets rob even more pissed off at me.\n\nI\u2019m willing to admit it wasn\u2019t the most tasteful joke. But honestly I don\u2019t think it\u2019s something to get so bent out of shape over. Everyone knew I was joking, because we\u2019re friends. The teacher wasn\u2019t going to write anything up because she likes him. I\u2019m just not sure what the issue is here , but then the friend who originally wanted the advil said it was rude? and I had no idea teachers were supposed to take this kind of thing seriously. \n\nTl;dr rob jokes about selling advil, I joke that he\u2019s \u201cdefinitely selling drugs,\u201d everyone hears dumb joke and it almost gets my friend in trouble, he is totally pissed off at me\n\nThis is so dumb that I refuse to ask anyone irl lol. he keeps giving me angry looks and I\u2019m dying to know if I\u2019m actually the asshole in this one ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}640{"id": "eqKJSJ35lkPbEeNZtfjjlf36jHeX1ezJ", "post_id": "ahlchi", "action": {"description": "telling my friend I think it's wrong they are cheating", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend I think it's wrong they are cheating?", "text": "I have a friend I play video games with. She seemed like a really nice person. I found out she was hanging out a lot with one of the people that was in our group (in game). So I asked if they were dating but she said they were just talking. Then I found out she has a boyfriend and shes being sending this other guy nude photos and stuff and I confronted her about how I felt it was wrong. She claimed that sending pics wasn't cheating. She was trying to justify what she was doing. After a long conversation she got angry and proceeded to delete me off the game and may not talk to me again. I know it wasn't my business but am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}641{"id": "70PYtnVEmmulzdnixWgqLKXCAq85k7wf", "post_id": "aemph7", "action": {"description": "snitching on my so", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for snitching on my SO?", "text": "My gf (24f) and I (30m) have been together for about seven months. Coming down to the end of 2018 we started having really big arguments and we both agreed to go to therapy, We have both been to therapy before the relationship began. She started seeing a new therapist cause her last one is too far from where she now lives. I am still seeing my old therapist. Therapy has been good for both of us and communication is better, Both therapists recommended couples sessions and we booked an appointment for a third therapist who has seen neither of us before ( for impartiality) We had the first couples session today and it was very productive. For ease let's call her therapist Bea, my therapist Tina, and the couples therapist is Sally.\n\n​\n\nLast night my gf confessed to me that she looked through Bea's files during a previous session. She said she arrived early, but Bea was late and the office was unlocked so she went in to wait. She said she was surprised to find Bea's file cabinet open and unlocked and procedded to go thru Bea's patient files. She then shared the private info on some of the more messed up patients.\n\n​\n\nReddit I was MORTIFIED and made it known to her. She is not at all remorseful and blamed Bea for the poor security. I did not bring it up in the couples session today, but after talking about it with a friend (who was also mortified and really thinks i should say something) I am feeling more and more compelled to act. I also feel very guilty for thinking of betraying hertrust and kind of think i should just leave it be.\n\n​\n\nSo Reddit, WIBTA? Who should I tell? I've never met Bea but she and Sally (couples therapist) work at the same practice. Is it enough to just talk to TIna about it in my next session or should i talk to Bea directly? I'm supposed to have a one on one session with Sally and have thought about mentioning it there as well.\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}642{"id": "OXA7yszl17RTjE29ae0eLLRk6IS9YkjF", "post_id": "aihcdp", "action": {"description": "getting jealous my friend is in a relationship even though I'm already dating", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for getting jealous my friend is in a relationship even though I\u2019m already dating.", "text": "So I\u2019ve been dating my current girlfriend for about a year now and everything is going fine, we argue every now and again but that\u2019s it. A few months ago I met this girl (who we\u2019ll call Minty since that\u2019s her nickname and I don\u2019t want to use her real name) and we became good friends, she was very nice. Slowly I found myself becoming more and more interested in her romantically which made me feel extremely guilty since I was already in a relationship and still very attracted to my girlfriend. Minty is very affectionate both physically and verbally with her friends (by physically I mean she\u2019s always keen for a hug and things like that). She\u2019d always compliment people on little things and make sure they know they are important to her. Due to my feelings her little comments drove me crazy and weren\u2019t helping at all and eventually I started matching her spirit and being very verbally affectionate back. She\u2019s currently struggling with bipolar disorder so her feelings are easily played with and to top that off she\u2019s just recently gotten out of a two year abusive relationship (mainly extreme verbal abuse) so I\u2019m a little protective to say the least. \n\nAbout a week ago she got herself a girlfriend, I didn\u2019t know the girl personally but some friends of mine told me she\u2019s nice. I had this horrible feeling in my gut all day, at first I thought I was just being cautiously protective but after talking to my sister I\u2019ve realised I\u2019m very jealous. I feel absolutely terrible since it\u2019s kinda like I\u2019m cheating on my girlfriend in my head but mostly because my brain basically wants to keep this poor girl to myself without ever cutting ties with my gf. Am I a complete asshole for having these feelings?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}643{"id": "GTtGETogXrLxioEXrSc8rxlB2jDeTGAf", "post_id": "a1vtu7", "action": {"description": "not paying back a friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA - For not paying back a friend", "text": "I'll keep this very short because it's not all that complex.\n\nA couple of years ago a friend didn't pay me back for a food order, I had asked for it a couple of times, but then I didn't see them for a couple of months and I felt it was perhaps too late (the sum wasn't ridiculous). Anyway, recently I owe them a similar amount for food, they haven't brought it up, but I am obviously aware I didn't pay for mine. \nAITA for not paying them back, consciously. Because I know them pretty well and I think they honestly forgot to pay me back initially.\n\nSorry it's not as interesting as most the posts, just curious for everyone's opinion.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}644{"id": "U3CgFlC7RhfzyxkAkNJdTwYZj1qyRcuA", "post_id": "aqb2s3", "action": {"description": "\"training\" my roommate", "pronormative_score": 29, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for \"Training\" my roommate?", "text": "A year ago when I moved in, my roommate, who is also one of my best friends, was an absolute complete disgusting slob. Never cleaned up after himself, whole house smelled like mold and cigarettes, walls FILTHY with grime and nicotine. He looked and dressed in a way that made him look as though he did not live inside. He acted like a fool in public, yelling obscenities even on public transportation. At first, it was a minor inconvenience, but after time it started to wear on me. A month or so in, I started letting him know that I didn't want our friendship to be impacted by our roommate situation, and I could use help maintaining the apartment's cleanliness, which he essentially ignored until I had a breakdown about the communal areas being absolutely filthy to the point I couldn't bring anyone over without cleaning for several hours.  \n\n\nI have since been rewarding his good behavior with dab oil (we're in WA state, totally legal) and hot fresh meals, since I know he hates cooking. When he trashes a room and leaves it that way, I just ignore his mess and keep cleaning my own, while making food simply for myself. Once he's cleaned, I make a nice big communal meal for the both of us, almost always complete with fresh baked desserts. While he's in the shower, I drive to the dispensary for oil and dab out when he's done. I even slip his bus fare back into his change from food stores when he's not paying attention, if he hasn't been cursing and obnoxious on the bus. This has changed him immensely, and I have not once mentioned this sort of conditioning to him. He's never asked me about it either.  \n\n\nAm I an asshole for subtly using psychological tactics and essentially training my roommate to act and BE better? He's noted a vast improvement in his psychiatric health since I moved in, and I am loathe to tell him I've been training him to be a better roommate as it may come off as harsh.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 29, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}645{"id": "R3fqUTMXBvqqDsuJistIRFLbVPBZLKwr", "post_id": "b3njfu", "action": {"description": "making my Sister cry", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For making my Sister cry", "text": "Due to my dog\u2019s old age, she had many problems health-wise, but nothing life-threatening. However, this morning, she unexpectedally passed away in her sleep at 18. \nBoth me and my sister owned the dog and cared for her, we most certainly loved her and were not happy about her passing.\nMy sister was devestated and was, frankly, extremely upset, however, I didn\u2019t have an outward reaction to her death due to me not outwardly showing emotion and generally being in control of them. My apparent lack of emotional response deeply upset her and she proceeded to shout at me for clearly not caring about our dog nor her and that I never cared, and so on. My sister also complained that I should\u2019ve at least faked emotion to make her feel more comfortable. She then began to cry and blamed me for that part.\n\nI think she was just being irrational due to being upset and it\u2019s a NAH situation, but, I\u2019m not sure. Reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}646{"id": "hoHOrrAHIRpZMUqwsGqGGoJlwsJdeiIc", "post_id": "an00sk", "action": {"description": "not changing my life for my dad's anxiety", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not changing my life for my dad's anxiety?", "text": "So, some backstory first. This will be long, very long, I apologize. TL;DR at bottom. \n\nMy dad has always had terrible anxiety that he never bothered to treat for a variety of reasons. He is terrified of public transit, high winds, pit bulls, crowded spaces, so many things, and it's a very legitimate fear to him. Sometimes he seems to know his fears are irrational, but that doesn't stop them. This has shaped my childhood in many ways, for example I wasn't allowed to get my driver's license until I was 20 but also not allowed to ride my bike anywhere farther then a mile away, take the bus, or ride with any but a few friends of mine he trusted. Growing up with these restrictions and fears turned me into a bit of a nervous shut-in. At 22 I started to get very sick, we later found out I have multiple sclerosis. This ramped his anxiety up to a new level and also ensured I would be living at home with him for much longer. During this time my parents took care of everything I needed, even though I could barely move. Medical care cost them more then I can ever pay back and they don't even want me to pay them back. I am very grateful. \n\nMy boyfriend of the time understood I needed extensive care but was also going crazy living at my parents' home, so he invited me to live with him. My dad didn't allow it but I left anyway. After a few months he understood and accepted it. It helps that my then-boyfriend now husband is a wonderful person and my dad loves him.\n\nA few years later he had his first heart attack. This ramped his anxiety up again but also prompted him to finally accept treatment. Sadly, he stuck with the first medication he was given and it only works a little bit and he left his first counseling session in the middle and refuses to return. Still, his anxiety went down for a while and our relationship started to flourish. I even managed to have a few conversations with him about his overzealous restrictions. \n\nWhen I was 29 four major things happened: I got unexpectedly pregnant (surprise! You're not infertile!), something horrible that is a different story left my fiance and I effectively homeless, my dad had a second and much worse heart attack, followed by open heart surgery, and my MS went into remission. All of these things sent my dad's anxiety spiraling out of control. He can't sleep, he has lost way too much weight, he doesn't eat much, and he is well on his way to a third heart attack from anxiety alone! But he will not have the doctor look at his anxiety medication or return to counseling. \n\nMy husband and I frantically searched for a place we could afford to rent that we could move into right now and would allow our pets and actually found the perfect place... directly across the street from my parents' house. It won't be so bad, right? Plus, it's not like we could find another place like that on such short notice. We knew we were wrong when my parents cornered our new landlord and managed to convince him to give them our keys. Naturally, they made copies of every single one. We very excitedly prepared for our baby, and I started moving around and getting out more, realizing how hard life can be when you are unable to get out at all. We learned that I was capable of caring for a child with a few accommodations in our home but still not able to hold a regular job and I became a stay at home mom. It didn't take long before it was glaringly obvious I could not raise a healthy child shut in the house, so I learned how to use public transit. \n\nNow, I am 33 and married with a healthy, very active, and not remotely anxious four year old son and another son due in March. I am mostly blind and my MS has returned, but it's not as bad as it was. I am very familiar with the public transit system in our city, and it's not a bad one. My dad is retired and spends most of his time watching our house from his kitchen window. He calls me to ask where I am going and ask me not to go there every single time he sees me heading anywhere, even the grocery store he wants to come with. Everywhere non-essential he tells me not go. If he had his way, his grandson would never go to the park or public pool. He regularly goes through my mail and even more regularly lets himself in my house, where he proceeds to fiddle with my thermostat and simultaneously lecture me over a mess that usually doesn't even exist and also lecture me for \"pushing myself too far.\" My son thinks his grandfather is the best thing since ice cream and I don't want to separate him but he is starting to avoid some of his favorite activities, such as digging in the dirt, because his grandfather told him it is too dangerous and this is infuriating me and potentially harming my boy. \n\nFor a while I would compromise by staying home about half the time he asked me or asking him to drive us instead if it bothered him, but this only made my dad more upset and he started to do things such as hide my stroller or \"borrow\" my cane to make sure it was very hard for me to get anywhere. Keep in mind that I may now be a grown and married adult who takes care of myself and my own with an involved and loving husband, but the idea of telling my parents \"no\" terrifies me and I just can't bring myself to do things that will probably burn bridges with them, such as changing our locks or reporting my dad for tinkering with our mail. So now I just take the longer path out of our neighborhood, trying to stay in the blind spot I know my parents' kitchen window has, pretend my phone is broken and sometimes doesn't ring when he calls, and go wherever. I guarantee my son has benefited from seeing more places and getting out to play more often, and I have benefited as well. My dad however, gets nearly apoplectic. I have tried to talk about it, but he asks me to \"compromise\" each time for his sake, but there is never anything for me in his supposed compromise. I know this is making him nervous and paranoid and putting his heart at risk, but frankly he would be nervous and paranoid anyway. \n\nTL;DR: Life makes my dad nervous and he wants me to never do anything ever, he watches me to make sure I never do anything. I recently realized I am an adult and can ignore him so I do stuff anyway. Turns out I like doing stuff.\n\nSo, Am I The Asshole for ignoring my dad's anxiety and not staying home with a rambunctious preschooler, even though it could possibly help him avoid a third heart attack?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}647{"id": "nxAadmSjC1fHoxT92O8tGMy02T0dGkh5", "post_id": "b0gbg3", "action": {"description": "going and getting my ex girlfriends gold necklace traded for cash", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "WIBTA if I went and got my ex girlfriends gold necklace traded for cash?", "text": "Basically, she cheated on me for over a month, probably more towards two months before I found out.  She has a tendency to lose everything,  is highly unreliable and used to make me pay for absolutely everything. \n\nHowever. \n\nOut of all of the things of hers that I have cleared the house of,  I found a gold necklace worth (give or take) $250. It was a gift from our mutual friend who managed to tear apart the relationship in the first place.\n\nI don't want to see my ex's face again, but if I do trade it for cash to make up for at least some of the hundreds I wasted on this memory,  I do have a backup story and that's simply \"you probably lost it in your room, at work or on a walk\"\n\n\nI get the feeling IATA here,  but I want the Internets opinion. \n\nWIBTA? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}648{"id": "jyfdCeNxX1nmA7UYuDzj6S90qa3xskUm", "post_id": "b7cct2", "action": {"description": "making copies of professional photos that I don't own the rights to", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for making copies of professional photos that I don\u2019t own the rights to?", "text": "(Obligatory disclosure of mobile status)\n\nWhen I graduated high school a few years ago I had senior pictures done, they\u2019re very nice and my mom paid a lot for them, including some 8x10s for $60 a piece. One of the photographers conditions is that we don\u2019t own the photos, and what we bought is what we get. My parents are getting divorced and my mom started crying thinking about both her and my dad not getting copies of my senior photos. I went to CVS and just... printed some 4x6s of the ones we had already bought for 36 cents each, and put them in cheap frames. My mom was overjoyed, but I\u2019m thinking I might be an asshole for making copies of the photos (I didn\u2019t remove the watermark or anything, it\u2019s still clear who the photographer is). \n\nIs this a ridiculous moral dilemma? Am I actually the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}649{"id": "DnKsfV45MXS39Hu5Bk5Rc0EovF3RATdW", "post_id": "ag50b0", "action": {"description": "getting up to throw away my coffee cup while my teacher was teaching", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting up to throw away my coffee cup while my teacher was teaching?", "text": "First off I am in 11th grade, and I come into this class with coffee like 80% of the classes. This particular day I guess he was really mad and got extremely mad at me for getting up and throwing away a cup (which I have done many times before) while he was talking about Chinese vocabulary. He made me stay after class and talk about respect with him. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}650{"id": "lqRQjyC1WIBarjVbdCNLi8NLm0Y3FHco", "post_id": "ap4x4p", "action": {"description": "getting food for me and my friend and not my little brother", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for getting food for me and my friend and not my little brother", "text": "So to put this into words me and my friend went to go get food at McDonald's and he had money and I had my own money and my little brother wanted me to buy something for him with my own money. Am I the asshole for not buying him anything?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}651{"id": "LJUkMveQO3iOIl1g9uzo9A09TAeGdnA9", "post_id": "afcjju", "action": {"description": "being extremely asocial, causing people to dislike me", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being extremely asocial, causing people to dislike me?", "text": "So, I have social anxiety, as you may have inferred from the title. It can get pretty bad sometimes. Recently, I joined a partial hospitalization program (PHP) for my depression, suicidal thoughts, self esteem issues, and anxiety.\n\nIt's been a rough start. I constantly feel like everyone hates me and no one wants to see my ugly face, so I don't talk a lot of the time. I think that people won't like me because I'm gross and overweight. When people do approach me, I can't seem to hold the conversation. I'm awful at keeping up a chat because I usually give one-word answers, and that's because I'm either not interested in the topic or am deathly afraid of saying the wrong thing. I have a huge fear of screwing up when saying or doing something around others.\n\nAll of this makes me quiet, reserved, and atrocious at talking, thus making me not appealing to everyone else in the program. I see people giving me weird looks sometimes when I sit in the academics room while everyone else socializes. And by everyone else, I mean literally everyone else. They all know each other well, but I just can't make the effort to try and talk to them because I hate butting into conversations. That's because I'm terrified of people thinking that I'm annoying.\n\nBasically, I'm not social. I don't talk, I don't participate in discussions, and I definitely don't approach people on my own to try and make friends. It's all due to my overwhelming fear of others disliking me. And I know that people think lowly of me because I overheard two girls whispering about how 'weird' I was. That really got to me, and it still gets to me. But, since I'm too scared to try and change my image, I'm stuck being the weird quiet kid. I honestly feel like a coward, and like I'm putting others down and annoying them by not making any efforts to socialize.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}652{"id": "FzEn2tTdsCwMtnECY6sirpgMUFbWYVpO", "post_id": "agosf7", "action": {"description": "threatening someone who was harassing me at the poker table", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA For threatening someone who was harassing me at the poker table?", "text": "So I dont usually play live poker that much. I was just in a casino meeting someone for something business related, and was simply trying to have a few drinks and kill some time.\n\nWell as I start winning hands theres a guy sitting next to me who starts insulting me, at first kinda passive agrgressive then just blatant insults like im a mark for calling that hand or that im an idiot who has never played before. I banter back a bit but in general i just want to relax and not play the insult game. If i am bad why isnt he winning?\n\nMy date was also sitting next to me and was seeing him insult me which pissed me off more. Finally when stakes are getting raised the dealer asks everyone to chip in a higher denomination, but i accidentally throw in the wrong chip.\n\nThe guy turns to me, with the correct chip in his hand, and says \"You see this? Thats 50 dollars. Do you know how much 50 dollars is\"? And starts chuckling.\n\nPissed off, I leave the table as my date tells me hes not worth it. He says \"Oh look at this, another one bites the dust.\"\n\nLater on into the night I see him in the casino playing slots. I approach him while hes alone and say, \"If you ever speak to me like that again I'm gonna scoop your eye out of your head with that fucking poker chip\". He is taken aback and then apologizes and says he was just playing. \n\nI tell him \"You better learn how to fucking speak to people or you're going to get hurt.\" It never escalates to violence. He says he is sorry. I probably should have accepted the apology but I was still mad, the guy was disrespecting me all night.\n\nI told my date and she says I should have left it alone but I feel like people need to be respectful even if its a game. AITA.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}653{"id": "UU8bgKXCM6ZbFMDtTHZeCXg0Zn0Mu3hF", "post_id": "b3jz1p", "action": {"description": "damaging the career of my boyfriend\u00b4s mom", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I damage the career of my boyfriend\u00b4s mom?", "text": "I\u00b4m 14 and a freshman at my school. I\u00b4m currently dating a junior named Alberto and his parents are both teachers at my school. Her mother, who I am going to call X, overprotects him a lot and is really immature. She always treat me as inferior and tells Alberto I am a bad influence for him, when I am actually a good and calmed student. She scolds me in almost every class, when I am not doing anything wrong and once made me leave last so I would be late for lunch. Alberto tells me she was like that too with his brother\u00b4s girlfriend, and treats the situation as funny. I was a little bothered but I could stand it. But today, she was telling the grades of all the class, and told that she wouldn\u00b4t tell it to you if you were behaving badly, although it is her obligation to do so. Well, she didn\u00b4t tell it to me (when I did nothing wrong) and implied that I got a bad grade. I was thinking about telling the headteacher how unfair she was behaving with me, and I know that if I did that, she would be punished and could even lose her job (my school is kinda weird). I really think X is being immature and that her behaviour is unprofessional, but I know that Alberto would be mad at me if I did that and I would ruin a job in which she have been for years. So Reddit, WIBTA if I told the headteacher about her behaviour?\n\n(Sorry for my bad English, it is not my first language)", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}654{"id": "xANWDbc0EKJ84eZO8Kj8SkWrN00Kbhhv", "post_id": "9tjxzj", "action": {"description": "getting upset with customer service", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting upset with customer service?", "text": "So, here I am at a store, trying to buy something. Unfortunately, since the store seemingly is renovating, things are all over the place. Out of the corner of my eye I spot a customer service table, and decide, \"hey, let's ask where \\***\\ is\". I walk over and see the lady working there. She seems to be on her phone. \"Ahem, excuse me, but do you happen to know where \\***\\ is?\". She doesn't even look up. \n\nI thought she might not have heard me, so I tap the desk. She looks up and asks \"sorry, what?\". I repeat the question, and she hands me what looks to be a brochure and tells me to read it. \n\nNow keep in mind, this brochure was of the mall, not the store itself. The mall contained many different stores and even a dining area, so obviously this map and list wasn't going to help me. So I ask again, \"would you happen to know where \\***\\ is?\".\n\nShe looks up, visibility annoyed, and says, read the brochure. I tell her this is for the mall, she says \"just read it, you'll see what you want\".\n\nAt this point, I'm quite annoyed, and frankly, really not happy with her \"service\". I immediately call her out on it, and asked to see her manager. She immediately told me that I've been rude to her, which is utterly ridiculous. \n\nAt this point I just decide to leave, arguing with her doesn't get me anywhere, her manager doesn't show up, and we've caused a small scene. \n\nMy question is, did I act out of line? Was I just supposed to behave/respond in a better way?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}655{"id": "blUti27bK0KexJkrHAusGxsKW0f4DXtR", "post_id": "a11ta6", "action": {"description": "switching to part time", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for switching to part time?", "text": "This doesn\u2019t really have much to do with my job and more to do with my live in \u201cboyfriend\u201d \n\nSo I just started nursing school a few weeks ago and thought I could handle working a full time job and take night school classes. It\u2019s an accelerated program and I\u2019ve quickly realized that I need more time to study than I have in a day. I decided to take out a loan to cover some of my portion of our mortgage/bills and switch to part time to make the rest. \n\nAfter I got home from class earlier my \u201cboyfriend\u201d flipped out when I told him I\u2019d decided to go down to part time. He says I should have listened to him that he knew I couldn\u2019t handle it. \n\nI got mad at him for being unsupportive and I feel like I\u2019m in the right. He doesn\u2019t have to pay any more toward the bills and I don\u2019t understand why he lost his shit. AITA? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}656{"id": "5sCWoEhbDlHDa4CgTwq1cD2p0VZPTwaw", "post_id": "alekh1", "action": {"description": "reminding my coworker who crashed into my car to pay to get it repaired", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For reminding my coworker who crashed into my car to pay to get it repaired.", "text": "Incident happened a week ago when coworker crashed into my car in the car park of my job. I was still upstairs in work at the time. \n\nShe knew she hit my car but did not come back up to let me know that she did. Instead she thought about it for a full day before telling me over text. \n\nI didn't see the damage to the car because it was on the passenger side of the car and it was dark leaving work. \n\nShe said she'd pay for it and not go through insurance because her premium would go up. I took a bit of time from work and went and got an estimate. Received the estimate the next day and sent it to her over WhatsApp. She saw the message and did not reply for 7 hours and she replied saying she didn't expect it to be that much (\u20ac500) and she'll have to think about how she wants to proceed. \n\nForward on to today and each time I try to bring it up she gets pissed and deflects. Now I'm getting pissed off and while the damage is only cosmetic, it's my car that was perfect last week and now looks like I'm a shitty driver. Am I the asshole and should I lay off her and give her more time?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}657{"id": "K9iFXaB1vW8dpZ9WcYOYEI8NZQye9iYp", "post_id": "b2pzhd", "action": {"description": "being hurt that my friend had an abortion", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being hurt that my(F29) friend(F27) had an abortion?", "text": "First of all, I am 100% pro-choice. My best friend and I have been best friends since we were teens. A couple years ago, she found out she was pregnant, with a guy who was an abusive scumbag. She was excited and wanted the baby, but when she told him, he told her to get an abortion. She decided yeah, she should get an abortion. I tried to make sure it was HER decision and not his, since she'd been into it before she talked to him. She said stuff about not wanting to raise a child as a single parent (I'm a single mom, so that stung, but it's not my life) and planned on going through with it. Sadly, she ended up miscarrying. She was upset but, I think, somewhat relieved. Life went on. About a year later, she met another guy who was also Bad News, in and out of drug rehab and halfway houses, definitely not relationship material, but she jumped right in with him and quickly got pregnant. This time, she admitted she wanted to get pregnant, planned it, and wanted to keep the baby. She was even more excited, we were talking baby showers, she wanted me at the birth, we talked names, she was ordering personalized onesies to break the news to her parents. I was still in another state, but I was there for her every way I could be during those weeks. She went to the doctor and sent me an ultrasound photo, and I cried and fell even more in love with this little blob. But then... her Bad News guy had to go back to rehab. He was having a lot of mental health issues, including dissociative identity disorder, bipolar, and others. It became clear that he was not fully able to be in a relationship with her because of his issues with drugs and mental health. Once he went back to rehab and my friend realized she was alone, she decided she wanted to get an abortion. This time, I was shocked. She was excited, she loved the baby, she wanted the baby, she planned for this. She got me involved, excited, and in love with this baby then so suddenly changed her mind. We didn't talk much about it. She told me after she had the procedure, and I checked in to make sure she was okay. It's been about a year and we are still close friends but we don't talk about it. I know it's 100% the woman's choice, no matter what, but sometimes I still think about it and get unbearably sad. I never tell her I'm feeling this way but sometimes I'm just angry and sad and feel this is sense of loss, even though I really had no claim to this fetus. I would never shame her or say anything to her about it, and I am fully pro-choice, but this situation just makes me so sad. Am I the asshole for feeling like this?\n\nTL;DR my best friend got pregnant on purpose, got me involved with planning for the baby with her, sent ultrasound pics, then changed her mind once the baby daddy ghosted, and got an abortion. Am I the asshole for feeling sad and feeling a loss?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}658{"id": "yYNvh4P5r7El2UOr3Rr15FwQWLNPZZUs", "post_id": "ayxzr9", "action": {"description": "yelling at a Guy for taking my parking space", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA For Yelling At A Guy For Taking My Parking Space?", "text": "*For the sake of any commentators reading, I have censored curses*\n\nJust to clarify; technicaly it was my father who this happened to and I was just a bystander, so from now on I will be asking; IMDTA (Is My Dad The Asshole). \n\nKey: Dad, Me, PT (Parking Theif), Cop (Police Officer), FB (Fat Bystander)\n\n\nMe and Dad see a parking spot and we want to take it, we accidently go a little too far. We want to back up, but we can't as someone is behind us. The guy behind us then quickly pulls in front of us and takes the spot. The following debate ensued.\n\n\nDad: Hey, hey buddy! You can't do that!\n\nPt: You were sitting there for 5 minutes.\n\nDad: Dosn't matter, you saw me wanting to go into that space!\n\nPt: Go f*ck yoursel-\n\nDad: Hey! Hey, I've got my son in the car! \n\n(Keep in mind I'm a teenager who has heard my fair share of swearing)\n\nPt: Sorry man but this is my space.\n\nDad: You need to move your fricking car! You saw me want to pull into that space! I had my break lights on!\n\n(Pt gets out of car, keep in mind we are in the middle of a narrow lane people need to get in to park)\n\nDad also gets out of car. Im now alone in the car in a small lane that people need to get through.\n\nHundreds of curses and inault insue. To spare you the trouble I'll skip to the end.\n\nDad: You're a real a*shole\n\nPt: And your a great role model for your son!\n\nDad gets back in car and we go to a close parking spot. He gets out of the car again, this time so do I, thinking we are going into the store.\n\nPt and Dad argue again about who should get the spot, what happened, and who said the F word in front of me. \n\nFb: YOU SAID THE F WORD IN FRONT OF YOUR KID YOU HYPOCRITICAL B*TCH!!!\n\nDad: No, I said frick an-\n\nPt: You called me an a*shole\n\nDad: That was outside the car, away from my son!\n\nFb: That dosn't matter, he could still here it!!\n\nPt and Dad get in a third argument. This time my Dad says he will call the cops for harassment. Guys says he will just move the car, but my dad refuses saying he's only afraid of the cops because he has a warrent. My dad goes on his phone and pretends to call the cops.\n\nPt does call the cops.\n\nPt tells them my dad threatened him and how he was scared my dad would damage his property.\n\nMy dad is refuting all his points saying how he never threatened him (he didn't) and how because  he has a son, he won't damage property.\n\nNow my dad looks like a retired old man, almost like Michael De Santa from GTA 5 and he almost looks threatening.\n\nCop pulls up.\n\nCop: what seems to be the problem here?\n\nMy dad goes on and on about how he should have taken the spot and how he cursed in front of me. Then Pt tells his story and my dad is now denying saying that Pt had a warrent.\n\nCop: are you serious?! You called the cops because of a parking space?! We have things to do!\n\nCops leave and my dad mutters how Pt is a prick.\n\nTL;DR: Guy steels my dads parking spot, they curse at each other, Pt calls cops.\n\nSo I ask, IMDTA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}659{"id": "h76ges1FFiTXkJsEA1hg5uxM8TjH3fVU", "post_id": "b30wav", "action": {"description": "telling my mom not to pursue a legal matter", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA: If I told my mom not to pursue a legal matter?", "text": "Okay important background information: My grandmother died in 2012. The executor of the will said that there was no money after final expenses. My mother, aunt and uncle hired a lawyer to force him to do accounting to prove that there was no more money. And surprise the executor cannot account for over $300,000 USD.  \n\n​\n\nHere's the rub, my parents asked for their share of the trust before my grandmother died to buy a house. So my mother won't be entitled any of the money anyways. My parents have already paid $3000 to get the accounting of the trust and now she wants to do a civil lawsuit to get the money back. However the best she could get is her lawyer fees taken of. \n\n​\n\nMy mother wants justice to be done but I feel like she just sinking her money into something and she never get it back. The executor has made it clear that he spent all the money and he has no major assets. \n\n​\n\nWould I be an asshole if I told my mom to cut her loses and let the people who have something to gain take it court?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}660{"id": "1HBheitSTVgj0iv0IGZxoGVa3ZeRMoPz", "post_id": "axtqjr", "action": {"description": "sending this text", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "WIBTA If I sent this text?", "text": "Background:  \nI (13M) have a really supportive best friend (14F), and my brother is 17M  \n\n\nSo, I am talking to my friend on the phone, and my brother, who has not left his room the entire day and is in a crappy mood, comes to fetch some clothes.  \n\n\nMe: \"Hey (brother), is this the first time you've left your room today?\"\n\nBrother: \"What, do you have your girl on the phone? I guess you're trying to impress her\"\n\n  \nThis pissed me off for 3 reasons: 1. She's. Not. My. Girlfriend. and 2. \"Your girl\" just sounds mildly sexist in this case, and 3. I don't need to impress my incredibly supportive best friend, and again, it sounds mildly sexist.\n\n​\n\nSo to get him off my back, I lie and say \"(brother), I'm watching The Office\"  \nBrother: \"OP don't lie to me\"\n\nMe: \"(brother), I'm talking to (different Male Friend), what do you want from me\"\n\nBrother: \"Sure.\"\n\nATP, I keep looking at him, wanting him to leave so I can continue my conversation, but he's not going to leave, so I turn around, continue the conversation trying to say as little as possible until he finally leaves.\n\n​\n\nI have a reputation for being a huge nerd and my brother knows this, so I sent him this text:\n\nme: I'm legitimately curious as to what makes you think I would ever possibly have a girlfriend\n\nme: I'm the guy nobody likes, remember\n\nbrother: Idk if ur trying to make me feel bad for u, or if ur trying to be funny but I don\u2019t think I could care less\n\nme: I don't need your pity, and I definitely don't need your humor approval\n\nbrother: Aaron stop texting me omg\n\nme (Directly after, didn't have time to read the above message): And if you couldn't care less, don't be a snotty a-hole\n\nbrother: Stop being a fucking drama queen Aaron\n\nbrother: Only text people if you have something important to say\n\n​\n\nWIBTA if I sent the following text:\n\n\"Oh goody, a life lesson. I'm so sorry to interrupt your beauty sleep, I'm sure it's very important. And I don't know if you know this, but \"fucking drama queen\" 's usually like making a scene, ergo calling someone a \"fucking drama queen\" after storming into their room and deciding that the exact best thing to do is croakily stereotype and insult. \"", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}661{"id": "fVW3bLb3bPpIqW52z3w0JjDeJzWUSVNU", "post_id": "b181c8", "action": {"description": "being persistent", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being persistent?", "text": "Looking for a nee place to rent. Family needs more room. Found a bunch of places, but wife and I really like place A.\n\nHustled to meet the landlord for place A and got the credit app. Wife and I filled everything out same day and met the landlord next day to drop it off.\n\nI let the weekend go by, but have been texting/ calling the landlord everyday to see if we are good to go. We dont want to lose place A to another tenant as it's our favorite. We also dont need a place by April 1.\n\nLandlord has been pretty tolerant of my persistent communication, yesterday he suggest I reached out landlord B as he is the one who runs the credit app. Called landlord B and was kinda brushed off and he said he would try to do it. Immediately after the call I texted landlord A to get him to reach out. \n\nI know I'm being annoying, but I want to make sure we get this place. Should I wait a bit or continue to press hard? I feel like I am the asshole, but I also feel like they are the asshole. Are we all assholes?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}662{"id": "palNf9YS9m457Hgf5W5Y6KIh48i0ttNS", "post_id": "asdnqq", "action": {"description": "completely going off on my roommate", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I completely go off on my roommate?", "text": "My roommate who is a 27 year old guy has gotten on my very last nerve in regards to hygiene.\n\nLet's call him Fred. Fred will shave and leave a ton of hairs all around the sink. He will use my bathroom stuff and I'm a woman. He refuses to clean. He's never once cleaned the bathroom, living room, or any other place. He smells like BO and leaves weed and ash and roaches everywhere. Instead of taking the garbage out, he will stack trash and leave us to take care of it. \n\nThe last straw was when he got sick from what I'm pretty sure was norovirus (aka stomach flu). I was in the living room yesterday morning and he was on the couch.  He gets up, stumbles through the hallway and throws up all over the floor. I immediately think \"uhoh\". \n\nI tell him to try and stay away from the living room so we don't get sick. He doesn't listen and hangs out in the living room. He cleans his mess but left his trash outside near the front door in a plastic bag. I told him to leave my dog alone and not pet him. He didn't listen, so now I can't cuddle my dog. He's also not washing his hands. \n\nSo I'm in the bathroom with bleach, gloves and a mask desanitizing everything (which I get, because he wasn't in a condition to clean). I've done EVERYTHING I can to stay away from him. I am not eating in the house, not anything. I threw away my toothbrush just in case particles got on there while he was puking his guts out. \n\nI came back from class today and put on my mask. He irritatingly says I don't need it as if I am overreacting. He says it was \"food poisoning\" and to not worry. If he knew anything, norovirus can be food poisoning and that's incredibly contagious. He's getting irritated with me and tells me I act like his mom because I tell him to clean. If I get sick I am not going to let him live this down.  \n\nAnd I'll probably move out. I know norovirus is really contagious and even the most clean of people get it, but if I get sick from HIM I think I'll be too disgusted with him to look at him. Just imagining him stumbling into the hallway with heavy feet and puking all over the floor like a child makes me sick. If I get sick I know I'm going to really go off on him. \n\nAnd I mean yell. I won't be able to control it and I'm going to blow up. I need to know if this makes me an asshole. I can't take it anymore. I honestly want to just land a big fat punch right on his face because he is always trying to get in fights (he got into a fight with my friends once and broke his nose). \n\nTL;DR my disgusting roommate (probably) got norovirus, isn't sanitizing anything and is heightening the chances of get me sick and I want to go off on him so badly after this last straw. \n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}663{"id": "OQDF9omaOyTkCO0BatrNRfiJXQObyKIc", "post_id": "b3lion", "action": {"description": "harassing my ex to pay back my portion of the rent money since I no longer live there", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for harassing my ex to pay back my portion of the rent money since I no longer live there?", "text": "So, gonna try and keep this short and concise. \n\nMy ex and I were together for two years. I truly believed we were deeply in love. It was by no means always harmonious, but we always thought our relationship was worth fighting for. I\u2019m not a greedy bitch when it comes to money. I stayed with my parents and the first time I truly lived on my own was when I moved in with him a month ago.\n\nMy ex is absolutely awful with money. He spends it frivolously on eating out, alcohol, and before I encouraged him to get clean, drugs. But he is also a hard worker. When we got more serious, I started being a bit controlling and speaking up about his spending habits because he was always broke. Before we lived together, I helped him with rent on multiple occasions. I would have done anything for him, and if I had it, he had it. I admit towards the end I started being resentful because I felt like I was almost at time taking care of HIM when I wanted him, the guy, to take care of me...\n\nFast forward, our relationship ended abruptly and it got nasty. So much pent up anger and feelings reLeased. The only month I lived with him (first week of March), I paid my entire check from a new job I started. $900 (not a lot) of our $1200 rent. Unfortunately I was fired the very next day (no regrets, was being sexually harassed at work every day.) He paid the rest, but he didn\u2019t have enough to pay half because he started working a new job after me. I moved out after we broke up and now I\u2019m demanding he pay half of what I paid for the rent, $450, considering I\u2019m in a shitty situation (No savings, but I did manage to get a job I haven\u2019t started). At first, he said he would help, but he of course spent money on partying for ST. P. I asked him yesterday when he was going to pay me, he said he couldn\u2019t give it to me in full because he has court. \n\nWhen I tell y\u2019all I\u2019m fucking livid!! I feel absolutely used. He has a great job now and I feel like he truly won\u2019t pay me back because he has no self-awareness and truly doesn\u2019t care. Part of me wants karma to play out and just leave it, the other part of me wants to hit that bitch up every day until he pays me back.\n\nSo AITA for demanding the rent money back? Or do I just look foolish and should let it go?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}664{"id": "eaPPejvxWWPAoz91h5LTRDhNt8HQ6Q0g", "post_id": "at064i", "action": null, "title": "AITA because of a freaking cat?!", "text": "AITA for keeping the 16 year old cat downstairs because she pees on everything and doesn\u2019t even like people.\n\nMy husband has taken care of a feral cat since she was five. She is sweet, but she is a little off. Overall, she doesn\u2019t like people. She will come out and snuggle with you when It is very quiet and you are typically laying on the couch relaxing. The problem is that when you are not home, she comes out and lays on all of the furniture and pees on it. We have taken her to the vet several times and spent thousands of dollars on her. There isn\u2019t a  medical solution, she is incontinent. \n\nFor the most part, she likes to be alone. My husband feels guilty that she is alone downstairs. But I contend that she has food and a safe space to live in a controlled setting where if she pees on something, that it isn\u2019t a big deal. He is upset that I don\u2019t go and spend more time with her downstairs to interact. I admit that I don\u2019t do what I should,  but my husband doesn\u2019t either, and his reasoning for not going down there is that \u201cthere isn\u2019t anything to do down there\u201d.   I told my husband that she is fine to come upstairs and be allowed to Rome around, if I can replace anything she ruins that she pees on. He then argues that I don\u2019t have a realistic sense of smell. I feel really discounted by this given that I am miserable in areas the cat has been around.\n\nMy husband is seriously the love of my life but this freaking cat seems to come between us. Do I need to just accept the smell of cat pee? Am I being a total jerk keeping her In the basement? I love animals and want to make sure she is taken care of, but I am needing help from you guys in establishing what the line is. My husband discounts my experience in smelling all of the cat piss. I feel this is an out for him replacing things she ruins. \n\nBahh! What do I do?! Am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}665{"id": "quBSHzbi4ZThJjLZg94kkDdhalie9y9v", "post_id": "avtkak", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my ex over gossip", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my ex over gossip?", "text": "So, first time posting here. I 31F am in the midst of this argument with my ex, 32M. We dated for 2 years and his drinking became too much for me to handle so i moved out in May. We stayed friends. A few weeks ago we had sex because I missed hanging out with him and he had mentioned he wasnt drinking so much anymore, gave me some hope that we could try again.  But afterwards he told a girl we work with that we were having sex again. She in turn told at least 5 other people that I know of and suddenly everyone is asking me if we are dating. So, normally this wouldnt be a big deal, it's just gossip. But when we had sex the condom slipped off and I had to go get Plan B to ensure no preggers would happen. I also think he posted something publically about us having sex, in snapchat or something similar, because the day after i went to PP some rando on the internet posted an ad for prostitution services on my page. It's very catholic in my area, lots of prolifers who think women should be punished for having control over their reproductive organs. I assumed the prolifers found out and were trying to shame me for going to PP. After this happened i became deeply concerned that the local PP had shared my personal info, violating a HIPAA, and was going to report them. But when I started hearing people from work talking about me and my ex, my next assumption was that  it was my ex who had told. I confronted him and he admitted he had drunkenly told our mutual coworker. That was 2 days ago. Then yesterday he sends me a text saying it wasnt her, supposedly he was so drunk he doesnt remember. Obviously starting this relationship again before knowing more about his sobriety status is my fuckup. I accept that. But would i be the asshole for breaking things off with him specifically because he talks about our private lives openly? He says I'm the one who has broken his trust but I dont see how. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}666{"id": "jm6MUG6nZCiJnj2DtMD4TfiJD5VLtUxA", "post_id": "al2mse", "action": {"description": "wanting my girlfriend to stop telling me how she feels", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my girlfriend to stop telling me how she feels?", "text": "Hear me out\n\nSo every time me and my girlfriend argue about something she does something that I think is very manipulative and it\u2019s starting to make me not want to ever communicate \n\nFor example, any time we get into an argument she almost immediately and without fail becomes very emotional (crying) and telling me she hates herself and wants to die and that I would be better off without her. \n\nNow I love my girlfriend very much and this is completely unfounded since most of time they are pretty minor arguments, but without fail she just talks about how much she hates herself and wishes she had never said something.\n\nWhen I try and bring this up to her she tells me that I\u2019m not letting her communicate and she\u2019s just trying to tell me how she feels. I try to explain to her that I also feel upset sometimes and mad at myself but I certainly don\u2019t vocalize that because it wouldn\u2019t help anything. So I\u2019ve been asking her to refrain from saying she hates herself and listing off negative aspects.\n\nI genuinely have no clue if I\u2019m in the wrong here because I have high functioning autism and can\u2019t read people super well. But on the other end she has borderline personality disorder and I think it may be possible she\u2019s manipulating me possibly without even knowing it? \n\nHopefully that made since because I\u2019m terrible at writing, but AITA??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}667{"id": "gYtLevPSrjbQ3EfJu2uMinHFh3TEMZ1p", "post_id": "b0pj8h", "action": {"description": "being upset that my girlfriend went to Vegas with a girlfriend and some shady things went down", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being upset that my girlfriend went to Vegas with a girlfriend and some shady things went down?", "text": "My girlfriend went to Vegas this week, a trip that had been long planned for her and a girlfriend. Once there, she informs me a guy she has known for years is there too. He coincidentally sent her flowers for Valentine\u2019s Day this year as well, and lives in Montana or something.\nTHEN she informed me last night that she is going to a chippendales show. All of this was just no big deal to her. I\u2019m pretty upset and hurt mainly because I know I\u2019m not okay with it, she did it anyways, and I know she wouldn\u2019t want me doing the same. I haven\u2019t talked to her since last night. I\u2019m pretty pissed and am considering breaking it off. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}668{"id": "O3JbmY1DnoHpA4VNUfFWQ5U5tZCm3sLE", "post_id": "ay44gm", "action": {"description": "kicking an old man out of my house", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for kicking an old man out of my house?", "text": "Several years ago around 7pm (dusk), an old man arrives at my house. I am shirtless and in the middle of a TV show. He asks for my wife. He is somewhat familiar looking but I don\u2019t know why. My wife comes to the door and immediately knows the old man, who is evidently a family friend who shes known going back to when she was a baby.  We welcome him in despite it being fairly late and unexpected. For a very brief time we are all friendly with each other until he notices a tattoo on my wife\u2019s foot. He said that he didn\u2019t know she had done that and that it\u2019s a shame. \n\nI asked, \u201cwhy is it a shame?\u201d\nHe said, \u201cbecause her foot was fine before, and that tattoos can be offensive to some people.\u201d\nI asked, \u201cokay who is this harmless tattoo offensive to exactly?\u201d \nHe said, \u201cwell for starters it\u2019s offensive to me.\u201d \nI said, \u201cokay it\u2019s been a lovely visit but you\u2019ve come after dark, I\u2019m in the middle of a show (and shirtless), and you\u2019ve said your offended by wife. Time to go, I\u2019m sorry I\u2019m asking you to leave.\u201d\n   I awkwardly walk him out of the house.\n\nThree years pass. He is older and sick. My wife\u2019s family connects with him at the hospital and come back and he mentioned ME of all people because apparently he has not been in communication with them because of the \u201cfalling out\u201d and the episode at my house. I get the feeling that he is making me out to be an A-hole and the reason for him breaking it off with the whole family! AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}669{"id": "ghr7RHlFx1kRemBzenfrGgaFRODxtpfs", "post_id": "b4jfj0", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my partner after he has done so much for me", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my partner after he has done so much for me", "text": "We have been together for 4 years and he has barely worked in any paid jobs but he has done a lot of work on my house and investment properties and I have supported him in this.\nWe have argued a lot in the past year regarding the work being done and I have not been happy with some of the decisions made but he has a way of making me feel I\u2019m unreasonable and he knows what\u2019s best in the decision making process. He is also a drinker which has been an issue during most of our relationship but as he is such a \u2018hard worker\u2019 I feel I can\u2019t begrudge him a few to several drinks (every day).\nMy stress levels have gone through the roof after having continued arguments regarding renovations and I think he is the cause but he says I\u2019m ungrateful and everything he is doing is for me and gets nothing in return.\n\nI decided for my mental health it would be better to break up but now he\u2019s making me feel like the AH because he has wasted all this time doing stuff for me with nothing to show for it.\nHe says he loves me very much but now he is hurt and angry and saying hurtful things because he thinks I\u2019ve used him.\n\nAITA for putting my mental health above his feelings.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}670{"id": "p5tkBn2eguOzhoB9iPM2CncUtaJfJPWh", "post_id": "ajek8b", "action": {"description": "telling my friend she needs to help herself, too", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend she needs to help herself, too?", "text": "My friend has two kiddos, and a third on the way. She is texting and/or calling me on an almost daily basis to tell me how awful her boyfriend is. He says terrible things, screams in her face, storms out over the slightest thing, has threatened to just take custody of their unborn kiddo, the list goes on. She has called me, crying, more than once, to tell me she\u2019s afraid to have this baby with him, and that the stress is causing her a lot of issues. She has essentially communicated to me that he sucks, and has sucked since long before she got pregnant (the entirety of their 2 year relationship, for the most part). \n\nI am *really* trying to support her. I always answer her calls, pick her up if I am at all able, watch her kiddos when she needs a break, offer space in my place for her to breathe, etc. I \u201clent\u201d (I don\u2019t expect it back, but she insisted on making it a loan) her $600 to get her car fixed, so she didn\u2019t have to depend on this crappy guy to make sure she can get to work. \n\nI\u2019ve kind of hit my breaking point. I have an infant myself, I\u2019m a grad student, and I work. Every time she tells me about something else her boyfriend has done, I get AMPED, like I just want to storm the castle and get her out of there. This response is physically and emotionally exhausting. This morning, after another round of \u201cHe slept on the couch after screaming at me\u201d, and my repeated suggestion for couples counselling and/or individual therapy, offers for her to come stay here with her kids, and just general sympathy, I told her I couldn\u2019t keep doing this. I let her know I truly appreciate that she trusts me enough to come to me, that I love her, and want to do all I can to help her, but I need her to want the help. \n\nAITA for kind of shutting her down? I feel terrible about it. \n\nTl; dr: my friend has been in (what I believe to be) an emotionally abusive relationship for 2 years, denies my help consistently, and I finally told her I can\u2019t handle just hearing how awful he is anymore. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}671{"id": "ApM2bBI54tI8YeLjkzxJhoQuP30Wnqyc", "post_id": "apioxw", "action": {"description": "buying myself flowers to guilt my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA if I buy myself flowers to guilt my boyfriend?", "text": "So, first let's lay down some backstory. We've dated for 2 years, in the first 6 months I'd say I got 2-3 bouquets or flowery gifts. It's not like I got used to it or anything, I just fuckin love flowers and think it's a relatively cheap way to show your appreciation. I dont want 18 premium Rose's. I simply want anything, and I work at a store with a floral station, so I see every arrangement from $3-150(financially, he shifts from really well off to scraping by like bi weekly, so obviously I'm not expecting flowers on a bad week.. but if you go on a $400 tool spree and cant find it in you to buy flowers for ur gf...). I also see guys buying beautiful flowers for their girlfriends all the time. \n    I've kind of mentioned it before, I've told him what my favorite flowers are, and when the flyer comes out I'll say something along the lines of \"oh look alsros are on sale this week!\"its been almost 2 years and still no flowers. Not for birthdays and not for the last valentines day we spent together. Also, my birthday just passed, and I HATE to sound ungrateful, but he just went to a store nearby that, admittedly we both liked, and the gifts are beautiful, but I can tell by the proximity and how random they are that it was an afterthought and he had NO plan to get me anything. He also bought me a bottle of gin that, not only had he showed distaine for in the past, but I'm super sensitive to alcohol and he knows that I only drink 1 thing, and it definitely isnt gin. With that, there was no card or nothing, just a pile of gifts in a grocery bag. \nSo here's the real question... I was gonna wait till the day after valentines day,, and if still no flowers, I'm going to buy myself a bouquet,  a nice one, that I like. AITA? it's not so much to guilt him as it is to remind him that i like flowers, and valentines day is a time when people buy their gf flowers. I just feel forgotten about,, meanwhile I'm waiting a month in advance for any gift giving holiday cause i cant wait to show him how much i appreciate him. We both come from relatively poor backgrounds, and its ingrained in me cost shouldnt be the drawing feature in a gift, it should show that you truely know and appreciate that person. I'm not doing this because I think I deserve flowers, I just think he forgets that romance is an important aspect of our relationship to me. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}672{"id": "hPFFC2JdDYCfE9Uq8zqc0MP9ggnF54On", "post_id": "ba7own", "action": {"description": "starting a fight over pizza", "pronormative_score": 91, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for starting a fight over pizza?", "text": "I\u2019ve been craving pizza from this specific place all day.  It\u2019s a little more expensive than other places around here, but totally worth it.  I asked my girlfriend I was starving and going to order it and asked her if she wanted anything.  She said no she would just have some of whatever pizza I get.  \n\nSo I order it and it gets here.  I grab two pieces and go back to the living room to watch tv.  My girlfriend was in the kitchen for a long while, but I didn\u2019t really think anything of it.  She came back to the living room without any and I asked her why she wasn\u2019t eating.  She said she did, she didn\u2019t want a whole piece, just some of the toppings.  I thought that meant she took the toppings off of one or two pieces.  When I went out to the kitchen for some more she had taken toppings and chunks of cheese off of every fucking piece.  \n\nI asked her what the fuck and she was genuinely confused why I was angry.  She just said that I had already gotten my pieces and what\u2019s the big deal, she didn\u2019t take ALL the cheese off them.  It\u2019s still fine to eat.  I called her selfish and inconsiderate.  She actually got annoying with me when I did telling me I was acting like a child  blowing shit out of proportion.  We ended up in a big argument, bringing up other. \n\nI know it\u2019s just pizza and not the end of the world, but I feel like getting angry over such a display of selfishness isn\u2019t all that out of proportion.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 90, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 91, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}673{"id": "1UYFUrbBbCcsPXNoeJgQJyHPAR0qU7tU", "post_id": "b2kmo2", "action": {"description": "calling two Coworkers Shitty people", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For Calling Two Coworkers Shitty People?", "text": "Two nights ago at work, I was sitting the breakroom about 20 minutes before the start of my shift. Two of my coworkers came into the room and started looking at the newspaper. I just ignored them until I heard what they were saying when they started reading the obituaries. They started loudly laughing at people's deaths, calling those people stupid for the ways they died. I was very upset by this. I stood from my seat and told them they were shitty people for laughing about people's deaths. Then, I left the room. A couple hours into my shift, I was taken to the office and reprimanded for this, but I don't think I deserved it. I was truly upset that a couple people could just laugh at others for dying.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}674{"id": "4x43gedT70liSN7Eit2Cef22nRjFCrpl", "post_id": "b0ojg6", "action": {"description": "quitting without giving 2 weeks notice", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I quit without giving 2 weeks notice?", "text": "I thought I'd found my dream job (office manager at a floral company), but its been really shitty all around and I'm miserable. I'm micromanaged, underpaid, overworked and exhausted.\n\nThe GM is an insane micromanager. She's stolen things off my desk, sticks her nose into EVERYTHING, and is not polite about anything. She has made us terrified to make mistakes and has pitted us (office team) against each other.\n\nAny time I try to share my frustrations with the owner (who is BFF with the GM)  I'm told I need to \"be more positive\". I know if I continue to work where I do RN I'm gonna have a full on mental breakdown. I'm in the industry I want to be in and have learned a LOT, but I'm feeling more and more depressed being here and I don't deserve to be treated the way I am. I'm a hard worker, I'm punctual and I'm a team player.\n\nSo I contacted my old boss and asked if they'd have me back. It was an emphatic yes. The pay is the same, but I was treated so much better and had a lot more flexibility. If I go back I know I'll feel like a valuable asset to the company. \n\nIm still just trying to help myself be okay with leaving my \"dream job\". And I'm terrified to tell management at my current job that I'm going to be leaving. I'm scared that if I tell them I'm leaving they'll just fire me. (Which is a problem because I'm buying product from them to do a wedding for a client at the end of the month) \n\nAm I an asshole if I don't give them 2 weeks notice? (I live in a right to work state so I'm not required by law to give them any notice) \n\nMy hopefull projected timeline would be to give them 1-2 days notice. I dont want any drama or hubbub around my leaving. There is someone who can cover my position when i leave. My biggest concern around leaving is that they'll try and fire me or it will turn into a nasty confrontation and I wont be able to fill that wedding order. \n\nTLDR: I hate my current job so much and I'm going back to my old one but I'm afraid if I give 2 weeks notice my current job will fire me or treat me worse and won't let me buy the flowers I pre-booked for a client wedding.  AITA if I only give 1-2 days notice for me leaving?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}675{"id": "lnA1gDbtH1hnMCkoHoLGVa8hzewo9zbE", "post_id": "azu690", "action": {"description": "sending my children to school rather than to their Grandfather's burial", "pronormative_score": 82, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for sending my children to school rather than to their Grandfather\u2019s burial?", "text": "My kids (6 & 9) grandfather on their father\u2019s side passed away March 1st. Their father and I are divorced and not on the greatest terms but I loved my ex-FIL like my own Father. We were very close and at one point he and my ex-MIL even lived with us. He passed away after a long, hard battle with a relatively rare disorder.\n\nHis funeral home viewings were this past Friday, March 8th. The service and wake held for them was March 9th, Saturday. Because he was a Veteran the whole process was much slower as the veterans cemetery he wanted to be laid to rest has been extremely busy the last few weeks and the earliest he could be buried was today, Monday, March 11th.\n\nMy children missed school on Friday to be at both of the two viewings held. Being so young...they really had a hard time seeing their grandfather in his casket.  The weekend was difficult for them; he\u2019s the first family member that they know very well to have passed away. They did a bit better at the wake but were still pretty emotional. Crying. It broke my heart.\n\nToday he is being laid in his final resting place. A small handful of my ex\u2019s family members will be there. It\u2019s also a Monday and both my son and daughter have tests at school today. I asked them if they wanted to go to the burial; both shook their heads no. My son said that he had \u201calready said goodbye to Pappy\u201d. \n\nI sent them to school. I just received a phone call from my ex-MIL asking what time I would have the kids at the cemetery. I felt absolutely horrible telling her that the kids were in school and would not be attending the burial. She was *very* upset by this even after I explained that the kids themselves felt that they had already said goodbye. \n\nAm I the Asshole for not forcing my children to attend their Pappy\u2019s burial? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 44, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 38, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 82, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}676{"id": "qgvPrFxNhhODrXHFwU7vtZCmb9PPsA96", "post_id": "au9f8w", "action": {"description": "wanting my bf to spend 2.50 bucks on coffee", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for wanting my bf (20M) to spend 2.50 bucks on coffee?", "text": "This is for my friend (18F).\n\nContext:\nThe bf was supposed to meet my friend's family for a meal (the parents are trying to see if the boy is good for her) but he overslept and ended up missing the entire thing. He still came anyway and met them when they were on the way out. The parents then \"jokingly\" told him to treat the family to a meal 3 months later to make up for it (they meant it). It didn't have to be anything fancy, it could be dirt cheap, but he has to treat it. All he responded in that moment was that he didn't want to make false promises and that he was afraid that he'll oversleep again. It was a bad response.\n\nThe problem:\nHe was peeved that my friend didn't stand up for him in that moment of time as he felt that it was rude for the parents to do that in the first meeting, and that he didn't want to spend his mother's money for that. My friend explained to him that it wasn't about the meal, the parents just wanted to know him better and that they could share the cost together (her siblings can also help with the burden by not coming). Heck, just coffee for 2.50 in total for the parents as they talk over coffee will do.\n\nHe reply was that, HE DIDN'T WANT TO SPEND HIS MOTHER'S MONEY, EMPHASIS ON THE MOTHER. And by that, he meant his allowance. Yet he doesn't mind spending extra money on fast food daily when there are cheaper and healthier food options.\n\nPersonally I think the guy's a total loser but 1 person ain't much, what do y'all think?\u00af\\_(\u30c4)_/\u00af", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}677{"id": "2d3LJyndJ2S25lKvitRAsJvEysWRasI3", "post_id": "arh7ka", "action": {"description": "telling my gf that her mom gets on my nerves", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for telling my GF that her mom gets on my nerves?", "text": "TL;DR at bottom\n\nI\u2019ve (17M) known my GF (17) for about a year and a half and ever since we first started hanging out her mom\u2019s been pretty controlling about how late she\u2019s out with me, frequently complaining about this. Ever since we started dating about 4 months ago, it\u2019s only gotten worse. We frequently have movie marathons at my house but they almost always get cut short by her mom sending her a text like \u201cBe home by 9\u201d on Friday and Saturday nights, saying things like how my GF needs sleep, among other reasons that don\u2019t really add up. My girlfriend obeys her mom without any argument, and I get her home at the specified time, no questions asked, but this has happened for so many dates in a row that I\u2019ve started believing her mom just doesn\u2019t want her spending time with me. \n\nI didn\u2019t say anything until today after my girlfriend texts me saying she needs to cancel our next movie marathon that we planned days ago because her mom decided today that it\u2019s going to be a family day, which was kinda the straw that broke the camel\u2019s back, per say. I asked her if her mom didn\u2019t like me, I got a kinda flakey answer, which make me go into a bit of a rant about how I felt that her mom didn\u2019t trust me, was making up random things to cut our plans short or interfere with them entirely, and how I felt rather insulted by it. My girlfriend didn\u2019t really say a whole lot other than her mom wouldn\u2019t change so I would have to learn to deal with it and that I can\u2019t take is so personally, at which point I apologized because I realized I was bothering her.\n\nThroughout some more conversation I apologized repeatedly, and my girlfriend said it was fine about 4 times until she finally said that she didn\u2019t like me talking shit about her mother like that, that it really bothered her, and that her ranting about her mom is different because it\u2019s her mom.\n\nWe\u2019ve resolved the fight and it led to some very healthy discussion, but I\u2019m still wondering AITA? On one hand I feel like the asshole for basically making my girlfriend choose between what she saw as shitting on her mom or arguing with me, but I don\u2019t feel like I insulted her mom, only that I felt insulted that her mom doesn\u2019t seem to trust or like me. So tell me reddit, AITA?\n\nTL;DR - GF\u2019s mom consistently interferes with my plans with my GF. Today was the straw that broke the camels back, so I told GF I felt insulted by her mom\u2019s lack of trust in me, GF saw this as shitting on her mom. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}678{"id": "Df0fqB50ZtK67ZyiGHWi9afzqEw3MZBj", "post_id": "asmgpk", "action": {"description": "ignoring two acquaintances at a bar", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ignoring two acquaintances at a bar.", "text": "I'm going to try to be as honest as possible about the situation.\n\n​\n\nOn Valentines night my fiance was away at a funeral for his best friend in Scotland (a good way away from where we currently live). I took myself to a local bar for a drink to cheer myself up (the guy who died was going to be his best man next year at our wedding, I couldn't go due to work commitments and was feeling shitty for all these reasons combined). It's a bar a close friend owns, and a wine tasting was happening. I went straight to sit at the bar with a couple of other regulars who know the situation with my fiance  and were sympathetic and didn't demand I talk about it too much.\n\n​\n\nA guy I used to know quite well, but haven't seen for a number of months was apparently at the wine tasting (I didn't notice him and his boyfriend as I came in). On the way to the toilet he said hello, I said hello back and assumed he went to the toilet, he claims he stood behind me waiting for a conversation. I didn't see this, I wasn't really focused on him. I was quite grateful he'd left me to it (or so I assumed) as conversation with him can be quite intense. \n\n​\n\nHe's since sent me messages saying how rude and awful I was to him on this night, and complaining that I didn't congratulate him on him being coupled up on Valentines day. I've held my ground saying I wasn't in a good place, and wasn't in a mood to talk. He's told me how selfish and disrespectful I was being because he wanted to talk to me, and that i had humiliated him by not speaking to him more over the course of the evening. I lost my patience and told him I didn't owe anyone my time and conversation, and that it was telling that he hadn't even bothered to consider if I was ok, ask where my fiance was or find out if something had happened. I asked him why everything had to be made about him and his pride,  \n\n​\n\nI know i could have been more enthusiastic to see them both, but I wasn't in the mood and these two really do make it all about themselves whenever I'm around them. Given the situation I feel like I was justified to not really want to spend Time around them. Anyway - the texts since have called me an arsehole, a bitch etc - how correct is this guy?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}679{"id": "L9MtmchoLyr15KGv78D63YHIH65pEr6Y", "post_id": "9yh8xy", "action": null, "title": "AITA - Left my fianc\u00e9e at home because we were going to be late.", "text": "Hi everyone! Let me start with my fianc\u00e9e is an amazing woman and we get along really well. She\u2019s typically very thoughtful and kind, but this event has us at complete opposites. \n\nA little background. My fianc\u00e9e, for sake of the convo will be called Jill, isn\u2019t very good at budgeting her time. We tend to be late or I get stressed when we cut it close to meeting times. I find it rude or disrespectful to tell people you\u2019ll be somewhere at a certain time and show up late. Anyway, we had a wedding to attend about 30 min from our house that started at 4:30. At around 1:30 our convo went like this:\n\nMe: I\u2019m going to throw in some laundry, do you need anything thrown in?\nJill: I\u2019ll throw my clothes for the wedding in, Will they be dry by then?\nMe: Probably but up to you. Also as a heads up, we have to leave at 3:45 at the absolute latest to make it on time. If you need two hours, start now. \nJill: I\u2019ll be fine. \n\nWe have this convo a lot. Anyway, 3:45 hits, she\u2019s still naked, her clothes are slightly damp, and she\u2019s not ready. I get a little upset because this always happens and I don\u2019t want to walk in as they are walking down the aisle. To my wrongdoing, I did raise my voice in frustration. I waited until 4:00 and said, \u201cI can\u2019t wait any longer. I\u2019ll meet you there.\u201d And I left. \n\nShe\u2019s mad because I am \u201cimpatient\u201d, told her the clothes would be dry, and was mean by yelling at her. I think she\u2019s being defensive because she knows she\u2019s in the wrong. \n\nWhat do you all think? AITA for leaving my fianc\u00e9e?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 58, "OTHER": 277, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 280, "WRONG": 58}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}680{"id": "hobJmuSPmrOxBoe2GGqlXzHNsbaWoSgt", "post_id": "akshdc", "action": {"description": "turning down a gift from my dad and getting upset it can't be returned", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for turning down a gift from my dad and getting upset it can\u2019t be returned?", "text": "So this past summer I (M 22) was looking to  buy a new car and upgrade from my first car I\u2019ve had for about 7 years. To not go too far into detail about it, my dad got involved in my new car purchase and coerced me to go against my better judgement and buy this 2006 bmw that he found online for about the same price instead of the one I had picked out and was going to buy (2007 Volvo S60 R) which, might I add, was in perfect condition. When I looked at the bmw it seemed to be in decent condition apart from some obvious problem areas that I knew would need to be addressed (new wheels, appeared to be an oil leak, needed new driver side headlight) which also gave me a bad feeling in my gut. long story short I end up buying the bmw cause my dad went ahead and out some of my money in as a down payment for it (he likes to eat involved with things). \n\nOk so fast forward about 6 months and I have so far sunk about 2000$ into this car on necessary fixes that turned out to be big repairs (I\u2019m still kicking myself in the ass for buying this money pit). One thing in particular that still hadn\u2019t been fixed was the driver side headlight. The problem with it was that water had been able to leak into the headlight over years and years causing the clear plastic to be permanently cloudy and also messed up some electrical components which caused the adaptive headlight not to work (turns the lights left and right when going around corners and is a very intricate assembly so can\u2019t be fixed with a simple bulb replacement). Since I don\u2019t have a lot of money being a recent grad and am only working an entry level job, I can only make the repairs once I save enough money and the whole replacement OEM headlight assembly would cost about 5-600$. \n\nAlso for a side note I\u2019m big on doing things correctly the first time and of course I\u2019ll try to save money when I can but I will opt to spent the extra buck when something really counts and needs to be done right. \n\nSo a couple of weeks ago my dad gifted me a replacement headlight assembly so I could save the 500$ for something else. The other day I took the old one out and tried putting the new one in. First I hooked up all the plugs to make sure it worked but there was one plug that didn\u2019t have a spot to connect to. I looked closer and realized that these were not the same kind of headlight. The main difference being that the replacement did not have the adaptive headlight assembly inside it and was just a regular bulb (the light from the replacement was yellow and much dimmer than the original passenger side light that was white light) On top of that, the holes for the screws didn\u2019t line up right with the frame and required a little persuasion to fit. Also on the original there\u2019s a separate arm piece that clips into one corner of the headlight and then is screwed into the frame. The replacement had the spot where the piece sits in but not the part where it clips into the headlight itself so it sits in the opening loosely. Without this arm attached, the headlight wiggled around. So now I\u2019m thinking that the replacement is just a cheap knockoff. I told my dad about the light and that as much as I really appreciated his gift I can\u2019t use it cause I\u2019m worried about it coming loose or breaking (being as that it wouldn\u2019t be completely mounted and the material felt very fragile) and he acknowledged. So I figured I\u2019d just take it out and put the old one back in the next day as I was running out of daylight and didn\u2019t feel like fiddling with it anymore (kind of a pain in the ass to get it in/out) \n\nThe next day I get up around 10 cause it\u2019s a Saturday and It\u2019s the only day I get to sleep in. When I go downstairs my dad tells me that he was able to get the headlight mounted correctly and that he fixed it. When I go out I see that the arm is attached to the frame on the spot on the light where\u2019s it\u2019s supposed to be. I look closer and I see a big crack in the side of the opening where the arm sits and super glue all around it (looked like he forced it in and it snapped). Then I see a big smear of superglue that dripped off the arm area onto the front of the headlight onto the clear plastic that had been partially wiped but looked like it was wiped off a bit too late and managed to dry. So now not only can I not return the replacement headlight because it\u2019s damaged but I\u2019m pretty much stuck with it. I told him that I appreciate him trying to help but as much as I tried to not get mad I got pretty upset at him doing things to my car without my knowledge. \n\nAITA for trying to give my dad back the gift and getting upset with him about him \u201cfixing\u201d the replacement and rendering it nonreturnable?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}681{"id": "rrd6DQvxGgpbmY5AN4PV6wkHFWUBmBwx", "post_id": "b8pn83", "action": {"description": "hurting my girlfriend's feelings", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 57}, "title": "AITA for hurting my girlfriend\u2019s feelings?", "text": "So my girlfriend and I were talking about something psychology related, and she told me about an experiment she learned about in one of her psych classes (she\u2019s a psych major). The conclusion of the experiment seemed pretty obvious to me, so I told her that it was obvious. Not in a snarky way or anything, I just said something like \u201cthat\u2019s obviously the case, what other outcome would it have been\u201d\n\nWe continued the discussion, but a couple minutes later, she told me that she didn\u2019t like that I\u2019d used the word \u201cobviously\u201d because it was offensive and made her feel dumb. She said she thought it was really cool when she learned about it and didn\u2019t know it was obvious. \n\nThe conclusion we were talking about is a well-known concept. It really is obvious, and I told her that as a psych major, I assumed it would have been obvious to her too. \n\nShe said again that she didn\u2019t know it was that obvious, and it hadn\u2019t been obvious to her when she first learned about it, so me saying it was obvious made her feel stupid and hurt her feelings. I know that using the word \u201cobviously\u201d can be offensive, but I don\u2019t think it was this time. It was pretty safe to assume it was obvious to her too. \n\nShe kept trying to explain to me why using the word \u201cobviously\u201d was offensive and that many people would be offended too. I just said \u201cI don\u2019t care.\u201d She accused me of not caring about her feelings, which I do, and I am sorry I hurt her feelings, but I just don\u2019t think her feelings should have been hurt to begin with.\n\nShe\u2019s waiting for me to apologize, but I don\u2019t think I should have to. I just don\u2019t think this had to be a big thing. I wouldn\u2019t be offended if she said something similar to me. She said that she only started getting worked up when I \u201ctried to invalidate her feelings,\u201d which I guess is true, but she should have just gotten over it anyway. \n\nI told her I need her to not get offended about such little things. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 56, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 57}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}682{"id": "7Tu6YQnscxb3iZZsJUUa3m2kj5eiD9Tk", "post_id": "a4vr7k", "action": {"description": "refusing to go to church with my mother and then overreacting when she punished me", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for refusing to go to church with my mother and then overreacting when she punished me?", "text": "For context, I'm 17 years old and still live with my mom and dad. Around a week ago by mom asked me what my shift schedule was for the week, I replied that I didn't know yet (because I had not checked, not because it wasn't out). She told me she wanted all of us (my entire family) to attend church with her that Sunday because it was a Christmas event, and they were providing dinner after. I never clearly told her no, I didn't see harm in going once because I stopped going to church with her regularly a couple months ago, it was fine as long as I wasn't working.\n\nSkip ahead a few days, and I did turn out to be working Sunday, but I was scheduled an hour after lunch. At this point, I decided I wasn't going because getting from the church to work would be too rushed, and I didn't want to be late for my shift. I told my mom what time I was working, but never told her no when she said \"you'll still be able to go\" because I knew that would ultimately end in an argument. \n\nWhen Sunday rolled around, my dad woke me up and I said I wasn't going because I'm working. He said okay and walked away. About a half hour later my mom knocked on my door telling me to get up because I'm going to church. I said no I'm working, it's going to be too rushed getting from the church and eating (there are assigned tables + line ups), and she yelled about it being \"family time\" and there was no reason for me to not go, and then said if I didn't go she would take the internet for two days. I said whatever and went back to bed.\n\nLater when I woke up and got ready for work, a couple minutes before I had to leave I was looking for the keys to drive and couldn't find them anywhere. I started to panic, and texted my sister because my mom and dad were not answering their phones. She said \"sounds like mom took the keys.\" And she did, and I had no way to get to work. I had to reluctantly call my manager explaining that I couldn't come into work because my mom took the keys, which he replied \"thanks for telling me\" and then said it's law (here) to call in at least two and a half hours before if you can't come in. I said I didn't know what to do, and then hung up. \n\nSo I ended up staying home, absolutely pissed off and upset that my mom took away my ability to go to work (I had already called in twice that week because I was sick). I decided to play games because if I'm not working why not, and when my mom came home she immediately took the internet. This wouldn't have bothered me so much if a) she hadn't already taken the car keys, and b) it takes away my ability to talk to my LDR boyfriend, as we can only talk via social media app (I don't have data), which she knows.\n\nI went up to her and said we needed to talk, in which turned into a screaming match between my parents and I. They said there was no reason I couldn't of went, and they only asked me for two hours of my time, in which I told them (also yelling) what I had said earlier about being rushed, and how it was unacceptable how my mom reacted. My mom told me to shut up and go to my room. I did, to calm down, and then about an hour later went back and apologized to her that I didn't go, and asked if we could talk again but like civil people. I then explained how I felt and why what she did upset me so much. When I finished she said \"I already told you everything I needed to\" and then got up and left. \n\nAITA for not going to church with her when it meant so much to her, and then getting so upset when she punished me? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}683{"id": "VMMSV4BwPltHfh6pCnYbx0ea2eIIKBzy", "post_id": "b2yyll", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my boyfriend for just suggesting we cancel our vacation", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my boyfriend for just suggesting we cancel our vacation?", "text": "So my boyfriend and I are both college students but at different colleges. We had planned a short road trip over spring break. I was really excited for this and was sending him pictures of the thing we were going to go do/see. We were also going to pick something up in a city. (this is relevant later, I hope.) \nLast night he messaged me asking if it would be okay if we dont do the trip and he does a very similar trip with a friend of ours. His reasoning is that our friend does not have a ride to get home from his college (different from the one that I or my boyfriend goes to) and if they do the trip together my boyfriend would be able to give him a ride home and pick up the thing he needed all in one fell swoop. The three of us cannot go together because we have a two person car.\nI am pissed off that he even thought it would be okay to ask. I have expressed to him many times before that I have when people are flaky or when plans change in general. So like IN WHAT WORLD would I be okay if he takes a vacation that I suggested without me and with our friend. His argument is that he was just asking and he is fine if we stick to the original plan. I feel like the fact that he even considered ditching me is a dick move. However, he seems to not really get that me made me feel like I'm less of a priority to him than his friend. It might be relevant that the friend apparently has no other way home for spring break than catching a ride with my boyfriend, though I think he could take the train or get a rideshare. Is he the asshole for asking or am I the asshole/overreacting to his suggestion?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}684{"id": "sJMOy5eGNpyQ2yJAYnWMkxxXo9jbGdQ9", "post_id": "awphf2", "action": {"description": "not letting roommate out of lease a month early", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not letting roommate out of lease a month early?", "text": "My SO and I live with a roommate (RM) who I've been friends with for 10+ years. For the most part we all get along well and respect each others privacy and space.\n\nAugust of last year we informed RM we are planning on buying a house no later than end of this lease (August 2019).I've been keeping RM in the loop with our home buying process on any potential homes. I asked if 60 days (notice we have to give apartment leasing company and term of rent that needs to be paid) was enough time for her to get a new place? She said yes- I also offered to put in the 60 day notice later, effectively buying her more time to search for a place as well.\n\nOn Tuesday, I told my RM I think we are about to go under contract on a potential home and that SO and I would pay for any termination fees and of course our portion of rent/utilities during the 60 days. Asked RM if she needed more than 60 days to find a place, she said no, she was planning on moving into a 1bd/1bth in the same apt. \n\nOn Thursday the home deal fell through and we are back on the market so I informed our RM that we were back on the search. She said that she was planning on going to the leasing office tomorrow to sign a contract for mid April for her own place. She asked to be let out of the lease and obligations here as she wants to just get the move over with. I discussed with SO and we agreed that we could cover her portion of rent starting May. I inform roommate we would cover her portion of rent beginning May, but that she would still be responsible for her portion of March & April rent/utilities, to which she agreed.\n\nYesterday RM goes to the leasing office to sign her lease. I get back home from work and calculate out how much her April rent/utilities are and inform her for the power bill I would let her know once I got the bill. She responded back 'ok'. 15 min later, I get a text from RM who said she doesn't think its fair that she should have to pay rent for a month that she wont be here. She gets home & she informed me that she signed a lease for mid March for her own place, because the leasing office offered her a \"better deal\". I asked her wasn't she planning on moving mid April, why did she sign for mid March? Her response was because of the better deal and she wanted to just get it over with. I told her I would need to discuss with SO and see if we could let cover her portion of rent for April. I point out to her that even if SO and I closed on the house, everyone would have had to pay the apt for the 60 days of rent (March & April) for the apartment.\n\nAfter much discussion, SO & I agree that it's unfair for us to become burdened with her portion of rent for April just because she wanted to move out earlier and signed a contract without informing us. I also point out that she had no intent of signing for March, it was April. I let RM know our decision and the conversation did not go over well.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}685{"id": "0P2RQXw0HuuGCoMdytcH4njGGvTUOxic", "post_id": "asyyob", "action": {"description": "wanting to move out from my house", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to move out from my house?", "text": "I am a child of immigrants. I recently moved back home from college 7 months ago and I can't wait to be out. I've been on my own for 4 years; therefore, being back in their control is suffocating me. I just want to do my own thing and honestly, I don't have a good reason to why I want to move out, besides just because I want to. My sister recently rented a house 5 mins away from my parents and she has an extra room for me, so I figured that it would be good to move in with her. I get my freedom and my parents won't have to worry about me living by myself. I told them about it, and they were not happy. Here are their reasons: \n\n1. They've sacrificed their lives, everything for me to have my future here in the US. Now, that I've made something for myself (a job), the first thing I want is to abandon them. (The house is literally down the street)\n2. I've only gotten a part time job, I'm not stable enough to be on my own. (I can afford to move out though) \n3. My parents are only getting older, if I don't stay with them now, I won't have much time left once I have my own family \n4. Instead of paying rents for a stranger (the owner of my sister's house), I could've used that money to help them with their current house. \n5. Since they can't speak or read or write in English, I'm the one that's been helping them with all of their documents, letters, mails. They believe that if I move out, I won't be there to help them anymore. \n\nSo, the people of reddit, please tell me am I the asshole for wanting to move out? I understand that they gave me the opportunity to have a higher education, but do I owe them for the rest of my life? Should I just live with them until I get married (they believe that it's the legitimate way to move out) and then move out? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}686{"id": "wx7TU9QzXujgkQkyaHUV807AVGrL9scf", "post_id": "b3y03m", "action": {"description": "being upset that my MIL's boyfriend/new husband took pictures at my wedding", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset that my MIL\u2019s boyfriend/new husband took pictures at my wedding?", "text": "So my MIL got a new boyfriend who she married soon after and this guy sort of sucks. He made an antisemitic joke on the day I met him and when H told his mom that those things can\u2019t happen again the guy  ignored me from that point on and he never apologized. He also has this hobby of taking pictures of people and sending the pictures out with ridiculous photoshopped effects and fake backgrounds. \n\nSo fast forward to my wedding, H and I told them beforehand that we would prefer them not taking pics. So what happens on my wedding day? The guy competes with the photographer, shadows what she is doing, and remarks that they should compare pics to see who was better.  He then sends out the pics he took to everyone before the professional photo did and he photoshops the backgrounds and it looked like we got married at glamour shots in the mall. My dad gets pissed because he isn\u2019t in the pics and said I look like an orphan. I tell them to please stop sending those pics because I would prefer the ones that I paid a professional to do. MIL gets offended.\n\nLater on MIL tells H and me that her now husband thinks we don\u2019t like him. We are honest and say we\u2019ll he made a Jew joke and then he takes pics when we said not to. She said everyone else was taking pics, which was true, but they were not intrusive, didn\u2019t follow around the photog and didn\u2019t send out pics like they were the real photographer.  \n\nMIL ended up crying.  AITA? Should I just inspect people to go around taking their own pics during a wedding? Is that just something that people do now a days?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}687{"id": "GMWfITRBMRTxiBTKtLzqrJE9CFe3BFxr", "post_id": "an77yj", "action": {"description": "threatening someone if I didn't mean it", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For threatening someone if I didn't mean it?", "text": "So just for some background, I live in a house on a college campus with 6 people, 2 of whom are females. Late at night over the weekend i woke up to yelling downstairs and a text on my phone saying \"we need help downstairs\". So I woke up a little drunk from a couple hours ago and went down. In the living room there was an open door and a guy I had never seen yelling at my female roomate. Three of my other roomate were around yelling at him to leave.\n\nSo I didnt really know what to do but my beer corage told me to run up to him with a shove and go forehead to forehead and scream some things that have gotten me in trouble. Essentially I yelled something along the lines of \"Leave or take a shot because the second you do you will wake up at the [local] hospital. Look around, you know nobody can pull me off.\"\n\nNow people are just upset that I could lash out like that, and maybe I like the girl and was being irresponsible, or that some of the slurs I used were inappropriate. But for all I know the dude was abusing here, or followed her from a bar, or worse. I just wanted him out the door. All the yelling was just to get him out, I had no intention to hurt anyone.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}688{"id": "tUHTdTsL9aUCYs0DpSc7F6zZC1Vu0oZJ", "post_id": "arqabo", "action": {"description": "telling someone to leave the handicapped parking", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for telling someone to leave the handicapped parking?", "text": "Some context: I am not handicapped. However, the location (a gas station) is somewhere I go daily (and, that I used to work at a couple years ago), so I know that, despite it being a college town, there are quite a few regulars who are... quite old, and might need the spot. Also all conversations are as best as I can remember it. There was more interactions than just this, but for the most part it was repeating the same beats. Capitalized words are raised voices.  \n\n\nI am pulling into the gas station behind another car. The car ahead of me was turning, as the only spot left open by the doors was the handicapped parking space (he would go on to park at a pump, as did I. There were still 3 open when I walked inside). However, he was forced to slam on his brakes as a car zipped in front of him and into the handicapped parking space. It wasn't an illegal move, nor was she speeding through the parking lot... but it was definitely rude.  \n\n\nWhatever. Not a big deal.  \n\n\nI park at a pump and head inside. While I go in, I notice that the rude car didn't have a handicapped plate. I double checked that she had indeed pulled into the handicapped parking space before peeking into the car to see if there was a hanging handicapped sign on the rear-view mirror (my late grandma would use one when she went places with my mom) and also notice that the girl in the car seems to be a peppy young thing couldn't be older than 30, but was probably in her 20s (I'm a 28 yo man, and she looked young to me). I shake my head at this point, disappointed that someone was taking a spot at a semi-busy gas station for a handicapped person, when it seemed there was nothing wrong with her.   \n\n\nI figure it's none of my business and head inside. As I reach for the door, I see \"Deb\" the manager, heading out. I hold the door open for her. We exchanged pleasantries and she went on her way, stating that she was out for the night.  \n\n\nSo, once inside, while I was checking my pockets (I forget my card a lot, so I was making sure I actually had it before I got my purchases). At that point, I felt a pair of spindly arms wrap around me from behind, with painted fingers laced around my chest. The hugger (lets call her Kate, for simplicity) is holding their head against my back. I tense up and state loud enough for the entire store to hear:  \n\n\nME: \"I don't know who you are. Get the fuck off of me.\"  \n\n\nShe complies, stating something about how I should smile more. Because I look like I'm always pissed. (more context: I'm generally seen as a pretty happy guy. I talk jovially with the employees and customers alike. I also have a penchant for having full on conversations with people that I meet at this station). I respond:  \n\n\nME: \"Yeah, normally I get pretty pissed when morons steal handicapped parking spaces.\"  \nKATE: \"Are you a cop?\"  \nME: \"No. I'm just not an asshole.\"  \nKATE: \"So, do you see anyone who needs it, huh?\"  \nME: \"Nope. But that doesn't mean there wont-\"  \nKATE: \"Then whats the problem? There was nowhere else to park!\"  \nME: \"I can see THREE PARKINGS PLACES out ther-!\"  \nKATE: \"THERE'S NOWHERE TO PARK!\" \n\nME: \"THERE ARE PARKING SPACES, if you aren't a BITCH!\"  \n\n\nAt this point, the cashier (let's call her Meg) informs me that if I keep this up, I would be asked to leave. At this point, Kate has a shit-eating grin on her face.  \n\n\nObviously, I decide it's not worth being kicked out of a place where I'm known by a first name basis... so I shut my mouth. I get my items, but in the meantime, I hear Kate talking to Meg. She's clearly talking loud enough so I can hear it from where I'm at.  \n\n\nKATE: \"What do you think about all this?\"  \nMEG: \\*incomprehensible from where I was\\*  \nKATE: \"That guy's such a fucking ASSHOLE.\"  \n\n\nShe brushes past me, with a smug look on her face, after she pays (there was one person in line between us, at this time).  \n\n\nI figure this is all over. Fine. Whatever.  \n\n\nBut then, as I'm paying, I hear something from the doorway, turning to see that Kate was standing in the open door, letting in all the cold air as she berated me:  \n\n\nKATE: \"You fucking asshole!\"  \nKATE: \"I bet you got a tiny dick!\"  \nKATE: \"You fucking dickless asshole!\"  \n\n\nEtc...  \n\n\nI pay for my 52 oz soda and start towards the door. I start to walk towards my car, when I have an idea:  \n\n\nI can either go around the passenger side of her car, or the driver's side. I decide... Driver's side.  \n\n\nME: \"Excuse me, I need to get to my car.\"  \nKATE: \"What?\"  \nME: \"I'm want to get to my car. And there's no other path to get there.\"  \nKATE: \"What's your problem, asshole?\"  \nME: \"Nothing, just that I have to talk to a stupid cunt.\"  \nKATE: \"Oh, yeah, I'm a  cunt. A great big cunt.\"  \nKATE: \"I have a great big vagina that just spills out of my pants  \n*(at this point, Kate is making hand gestures, showing how big her vagina is, and how it flows from her jeans)*  \nME: \"It shows. It REALLY does!\"  \n\n\nI continue to brush past her to get to my car and she leans into me, spilling my soda over both of us, leaving about only half of the soda in the cup, with a crack down one side. At this point, Kate is stunned. She has no words. I continue walking to my car when I hear the guttural yelp of someone desperately throwing something. When the smell of carmel, cream and gas station coffee hits me, I realize that the entire back of my coat is covered in her disgusting half-coffee.  \n\n\nI turn on my heel, half of a soda still in my hands. I consider myself an expert on aiming drinks, mainly due to the fact that I end up with a lot of half-finished drinks, which I tend to toss in an arc, as opposed to making a big puddle. So, I took aim and returned fire, covering the front of her shirt in even more soda than had been spilled before.  \n\n\nSoaking wet (and wanting to prove to her that I'm a better person than her) I threw my empty cup away, got in my car, and tried to leave. She was already on my bumper, fumbling with her phone, trying to record me. I yell for her to get out of my way, as I'm trying to leave. I rev my engine, which makes her back off a little, then use the gap to zip past her and around the other side of the pumps and out the exit of the gas station.  \n\n\nI later learned that she had called the cops on me. That the cops had watched video of the altercation, but nothing else. It's been a week and I have yet to hear from the cops (my plate would have DEFINITELY been on camera, assuming they hadn't moved them since I worked there.), and I was informed by Deb, the manager from before, that none of the cops were told my name. And when I relayed the full story, Deb was trying hard to hold back a laugh.  \n\n\nI later learned that I had distressed Meg with the confrontation in the store, as she wasn't sure how to handle the situation. She was alone at the store, at the time, and both of us (apparently) were regulars. It had apparently caused her to break down a bit, as I was informed that after the incident, Meg was in tears.  \n\n\nSo, I ask: Am I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}689{"id": "zyjZkLqk2d9CHOb8lhOvTDb6QTCBjBB1", "post_id": "as40ra", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA with the use of my vehicle?", "text": "My friend and two of my friend's friends are going camping.  They usually rent an RV but can't afford one this year so they're driving and bringing tents.  They have invited me.\n\nI'm totally down to go, but I really want to rent an RV (which I can afford, but it would be a splurge) because there's no way I'll be able to comfortably sleep in a tent and I hate sharing public showers. I have a bad back and difficulty adjusting to unfamiliar sounds at night so a white noise machine in an RV is a must. I also can't fall asleep in the same room as anyone I'm not close to, and I'm not close to this group but they are truly lovely people.\n\nAITA if I don't offer to share the RV with them, even if it's big enough to?  They are lovely people but they are slobs about their living environment and I don't want them making the RV gross (tracking mud/sand/whatever in etc) or costing me a deposit.  Should I just skip this trip?  I'm imagining possibly being hit up for refrigerator space, showers, and sleeping spots (especially if it's a bigger/nicer RV and/or if the weather goes south) and I'm just super uncomfortable with the idea.  ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}690{"id": "LuvbJtUexcRuAqeTnvpHOtNBhXf7GXY5", "post_id": "aytm0x", "action": {"description": "wanting to divorce my husband for being controlling and other sketchy things", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to divorce my husband for being controlling and other sketchy things?", "text": "I'm on mobile, I'll try to make it easy to read.\n\nA bit of background. Since my kid was born 3 years and a few months ago I have felt nothing but dread every time my husband tries to make a move on me. I went 2 of those years without being diagnosed with PPD, making taking care of my child a nightmare, let alone the little time I had for myself well...also a nightmare. i started getting treatment after a huge meltdown in November 2016. This resulted in me being diagnosed bipolar 2 and most recently borderline personality disorder. \n\nI'm extremely difficult to deal with and I will be forever grateful to my husband for being there for me. However, back when we were dating there was a period when we were living in different countries and signs of an unhealthy relationship started showing. I tried to break it off because I didn't believe in LDR, he would say he couldn't live without me, so he would guilt me into staying with him. I'm talking 2011. Sorry, I digress, but I feel it's meaningful. (We got married in 2012 btw).\n\n\nBack to the present. We had my parents over for a few months (this is not uncommon where I'm from) and them helping with the kid (great since I'm not that motherly even though I love the kid) made me feel great and gave me an awesome excuse not to have sex with my husband (not to mention our baby still sleeps with us), but when they left he started expecting us to get intimate again. I don't want him anymore. I love him as the father of my kid but I just...it doesn't work. He's controlling, expects to control my bank account. If I have any friends he expects me to see them home so he can see them (even if he does disappear a couple of days a week for hours and I don't inquire). If I'm on my phone he expects me to tell him who I'm talking to. I recently removed his fingerprint from my phone and he got all suspicious.\n\n\nI feel awful. I'm not working at the moment so he has all this power over me, which he enjoys. I don't know what to do. AITA for wanting to file for divorce ASAP and taking my kid to another country? There are other causes for my wanting to divorce him I can't mention here, per subreddit rules. Real shitty ones.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}691{"id": "xlfkLBgkj1OfCCiB6jGwgalFXxoiVOsj", "post_id": "a7ryw6", "action": {"description": "not letting my friends sleep at my place", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for not letting my friends sleep at my place", "text": "Ok so I know the title makes me sound like the asshole but hear me out.\n\nSorry for any formating (I'm on mobile)\n\nOk so my best friend (let's call him Bob) he is kind of a fuckboy, but that's not the problem, the problem is that he has made it his goal to have sex with this girl (let's call her Susan) for a new years party, that us and a lot of other friends are going to be attending. The thing is they are both sleeping at my place, because they both live far away from where the party is, and I have specifically told Bob that nothing is going to happen at my place, but he won't take me seriously and he just says \"what happens happens\". I told him over and over again that it wouldn't be happening (were both 17 and my parents would be home). But he just won't accept no for an answer.\n\nWIBTAH if I said that they wouldn't be allowed to sleep at my place if anything was going to happen, between them.\n\nIt also needs to be said that he normally doesn't understand when he has stepped over the line (especially if it's over the phone, he has done that a couple of times)", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}692{"id": "FNruCOHGyDDoPGe4iIAR7BPXVCdbj0YK", "post_id": "ab8f2j", "action": {"description": "wanting a friend to stop talking about how much she works?and how shes better than me", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For wanting a friend to stop talking about how much she works?and how shes better than me?", "text": "     I have a friend that's been kind of a shitty friend at times but I still love her. She's 20 f and is in college and has two jobs. Up until this point I've been trying to be supportive because I know she works a lot and I don't wanna upset her.\n\n    Recently though, I was told I might become a manager at the shitty fast food place I work at. She was livid and told me she was promised that due to previous manager experience. I really don't see the big deal in me becoming a manager before her since I have been here almost a year longer than her and I only work this job (currently trying g to get back into college, dropped out to go to hair school and hated it lol). I think she would be a good manager and she is a hard worker, but I believe I am too. \n\n    Since all that happened she has been making snide remarks to me about how much she works, or that she's happy to help people instead of telling them what to do, like I do (trying to improve on leadership skills) .I really considered not taking the position even though it would really help me financially because she made me believe it was wrong to go before her. And on her birthday night when I was taking her to bars she said \"I'm over it. You should take the manager position. You don't have anything else going for you. Honestly since they aren't gonna make me a manager I'll probably just quit. I just wouldn't be able to respect you. \"\n\n    Just today I said I'm tired and her response was \"oh my God you do know I go to work at like 3 and work until 9 right? And I opened how are you tired?\" Im to my breaking point with her. I try my best to not be a one upper and she clearly works more than me but I really enjoy my free time and just want a raise and a promotion so I can be more financially stable. \n\n  Am I the asshole for not wanting to be friend with her anymore? I know I don't work as much but I still put in 40+ hours a week and volunteer so I'm really tired. Or am I just a whiny bitch? \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}693{"id": "Feu7DVmHeGkzfsPjJegFnZ6sNRpF4klO", "post_id": "aiqn6r", "action": {"description": "not defending my wife's honor by hurting someone who insulted her", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not defending my wife's honor by hurting someone who insulted her?", "text": "My wife got into a dispute with a client over unpaid services, the guy was a day late in payment. I called him to sort it out, he said he would pay the next day. I relayed this to my wife, and left the house to go to a dinner with some of my close friends.\n\nAs I'm out, she texts him that he's messing with the wrong woman. They get to a heated exchange via text. He calls her a prostitute, she calls him a muslim terrorist - nasty exchanges all around. My phone is blowing up about how pissed she, and the guy (who's likely drunk) is texting me how he doesn't want to pay because she's being rude, also calling her and me names as well. I'm out and trying to balance this situation while having a good time with my friends - I take the high road and ask him to be civil, that nobody works for free, and that he should do right by us. He responds he won't pay out of principle and that he would fuck me up in a fight. I ignore him.\n\nThe next morning, he pays me half of what is owned. My wife threatens to press charges and he pays the remaining amount. Afterwards, she attacks me saying I didn't do enough - that I'm a pussy because I didn't send him death threats and didn't go to his place to beat the fuck out of him, that I'm not risking jail time to defend her honor. I'm a big guy, I don't believe in resorting to violence and death threats unless I or someone I love is in real danger. I'm not starting wars over petty insults. The dude is a piece of shit but he's not worth it.\n\nAnyways, I've been getting the cold shoulder since, she's telling me her old fuckbuddies and friends are willing to come to this man's address and tear him apart - and that I'm not a man and she's going to leave me soon and that she'll never let this go.\n\nIt might be worth mentioning that she suffers from PMDD (think PMS on steroids x 10000), so for about 2 weeks of every month she'll get set off by anything and have a massive fucking outburst or fight (she once physically pushed and wanted to fist-fight a bouncer because he didn't like Mariah Carey).  Once it's over she ends up being her sweet self. \n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}694{"id": "wY1QnGhWUWNKygRdUh2mD9Vn1oHyrmKd", "post_id": "aruqmu", "action": {"description": "refusing to buy any of my family members a christmas gift", "pronormative_score": 87, "contranormative_score": 27}, "title": "AITA For refusing to buy any of my family members a christmas gift?", "text": "Now, based off of the title, you probably already think \u201cDamn, this kid\u2019s an asshole.\u201d But here\u2019s some context.\n\nThe week before Christmas, I received a $400 target gift card I won in a drawing.  I bragged about it on Instagram, where my sister follows me on, and of course, she saw it. She gave me a phone call and asked me who gave it to me, and I explain the situation, and tell her specifically NOT TO TELL MOM, as I knew it was bad enough that my sister knew already. She hangs up, and a few minutes later, my mother comes bursting into my room. She asks to see the gift card, and I hand it to her. She gives it back, then she says, obnoxiously, \u201cYou have to get something for me and (Sister\u2019s name), That frustrated me enough, but I agreed, (I am VERY conservative, especially with my money.) \n\nThen when I was at target, getting my stuff plus what I WAS gonna get for my mom and sister, I get a phone call from my mom. \n\nMom: \u201cOh, also, you have to get something for (Cousin 1\u2019s name) and (Cousin 2\u2019s name,) as well. Be thoughtful, don\u2019t just get something cheap.\u201d She said, even more obnoxiously \n\n(We were visiting my Uncle and Aunt for christmas, and my cousins are 6 and 2, so why the hell would I need to spend that much money on two more people I don\u2019t and won\u2019t see often?)\n\nMe: \u201cNo thanks.\u201d I then hung up the phone and ignored the rest of my mom\u2019s texts and phone calls.\n\nI spoiled myself, changing my mind about getting anyone else anything, because of how obnoxious everyone was being towards me after finding out what I had, so I spoiled myself. Bought myself a pair of airpods, GTA V, PlayStation Plus,a cheap laptop to do work on, and some new wrestling gear. Also bought a buddy of mine a bluetooth speaker, and spent the rest on candy and whatnot. \n\nWalked home and my mother was expecting that I got everyone a gift. Boy, was she shocked (despite our last phone call.) I got an ass chewing and she tried to guilt trip me, (unsuccessfully.) \n\nWe were arguing then I just said \u201cMaybe if you weren\u2019t being so greedy about the situation, and kept your paws off of my money, I wouldn\u2019t have changed my mind about getting you guys something!\u201d (My exact words with some stuttering in it,) \n\nShe then yelled at me a final time, marched to her room, and slammed her door. \n\nTyping that first paragraph made my blood boil, and reminded me of why I\u2019m gonna keep all future assets private to me and me only. \n\nI\u2019m 15 years old, if that will affect your criticism at all. \n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 86, "EVERYBODY": 16, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 6}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 87, "WRONG": 27}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}695{"id": "Mnj0ag486RG2dvMaMtaWLsqLl63ASwm0", "post_id": "b6m61t", "action": null, "title": "AITA My overweight friend gets upset when I call myself fat", "text": "I have a good friend who is overweight. I\u2019m not sure of her size but she needs to shop in plus size stores etc. Being 125 lbs, I realize I\u2019m not overweight, but I have insecurities like so many others. By the way, I think my friend looks great! She\u2019s a big girl and she\u2019s absolutely beautiful. The other day we were shopping and I tried on this pair of yoga pants. I complained how my thighs looked large and I needed to lose weight and go to the gym more. She became noticeably upset and confessed that she thinks it\u2019s rude whenever I talk about my body in front of her. She said that because she needs to lose 70 plus pounds it makes her wonder what I think of her and just makes her uncomfortable. I told her she looks great and this wasn\u2019t about her. This was about myself. She asked me not to talk about how I need to lose weight in front of her anymore. Initially I agreed, but now I feel this was an unfair request. And yes, I know, I shouldn\u2019t talk like that anyways. But was I being rude to her when I spoke ill of my own body? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 50, "OTHER": 43, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 23, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 66, "WRONG": 52}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}696{"id": "Z6sq7qhJu0zpa1IU87Frgfw10YwqlyVC", "post_id": "a3heym", "action": {"description": "giving someone something they don't want for secret Santa", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA if I give someone something they don\u2019t want for secret Santa?", "text": "I have a secret Santa party coming up, and the person I got paired with posted a link to exactly the things they wanted. I thought this was supposed to be a holiday where you surprise them based on the interests they present you or the type of item they tell you, not the exact item. \n\nSo I don\u2019t plan on getting this person what they asked for. I\u2019ll get them the same type of item, but not the color or brand they specifically requested. Am I the asshole for doing this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}697{"id": "oRn0FXiExqfJw1ramUK2fXXwLIHfxzoH", "post_id": "aol9ar", "action": {"description": "being mad at my girlfriend for not going to the bar", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my girlfriend for not going to the bar?", "text": "Let me preface this by saying me trying to get my girlfriend to hang out with my friends is a long standing battle, and a losing one at that. We\u2019ve been dating almost 6 years and I can legitimately count on two hands, maybe one, the amount of times she has hung out with them. It\u2019s to the point that my friends ask me why they haven\u2019t really seen her since high school and I\u2019m at an absolute loss for words about what to respond to them. \n\nShe also doesn\u2019t really like going to the bar, which is fine and I don\u2019t care too much. I like to, but I can go with my friends and it\u2019s not a huge deal. My good friend invited me out for his birthday, and invited my gf. She said maybe (which I knew meant no already) and after much delaying she just said she\u2019s too tired and doesn\u2019t want to go. \n\nWell I got really upset about this. I\u2019m at a point where it\u2019s like, why do I go out of my way to spend time with your friends if you happen to go to a pregame with them, why do I go out of my way to walk around and do things that you ask if you don\u2019t reciprocate the few times I want to do something? I told her that it\u2019s unfair and she doesn\u2019t have to drink but we are 22 years old and we can afford a night out on a weekend day without going to sleep at 10 because we\u2019re tired. She said I\u2019m a dick for making her feel guilty about it, but I was just sharing how I really felt. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}698{"id": "hyptkji8fPJxdVF8o1EzvUa8HcZ6lVij", "post_id": "9wvizn", "action": {"description": "bullying my best friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for bullying my best friend", "text": "Back in 8th grade my best friend and I would pick our schedules so we'd have the same classes together. One month into the school year he starts asking me for stuff. At the start it was nothing big asking if he could borrow some of my games I didn't mind this but he then started asking me to buy him brand new games and gift cards. I was always hesitant but him being my best friend I would usually get him the game or gift card he wanted. Two months into the school year he started talking to all of our other friends about how annoying I am and selfish. Even in the classes we had together he'd talk shit about me while I'm in ear shot, all the while still expecting me to buy him a gift card and games. Finally I had enough and said no and his response was, \"bro are you fucking serious? I thought we were friends\" and he stopped talking to me, later that week he told me he was only my friend because I bought him stuff. And after that me being 5 ft 9 and him being 5 ft 3, I'd pick on him during classes throw his stuff out of our locker and beat him up all the way up until 12th grade", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}699{"id": "doegitsQX0XcOCXvkdTEh7CzYH6Anydu", "post_id": "ap545x", "action": {"description": "being annoyed with mum and her boyfriend for drinking my graduation whiskey", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed with mum and her boyfriend for drinking my graduation whiskey.", "text": "Short context, bought the bottle years ago (not partially expensive but nice for what I could afford), kept it in its box back at parents house for the last 5 years. \nWas going to save it until I finished PhD, came back home for a visit, bottle opened and half empty. \nAITA for being annoyed with them for opening it and drinking it without asking. As it was for a special occasion. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}700{"id": "LPNyhczaFPwOaDlxInYJFK0Q2bMqCUBb", "post_id": "b7jcxr", "action": {"description": "refusing to rent out our place to this guy", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to rent out our place to this guy?", "text": "Context: we have an extension to the house which is separate from the main building with 3 rooms 1 bathroom etc that our family uses to rent out to other people.\n\nLast Monday, a person (let's name him Ted) who has rented rooms before wanted to come back and rent them out again because he didn't feel safe in his previous area due to an ex stalking him (but never went to the police about it). I made it very clear to him that if Ted wanted to stay, he would have to pay the Bond + rent upfront before he could stay for even 1 night to which he happily agreed to but said he'd pay on Friday.\n\nThe next morning (Tuesday), I woke up to see something strange, which was Ted's car in the driveway, and to my surprise, he had already crashed a night in the area which disappointed me because I thought he wouldn't do anything like that. When I woke Ted up, his voice was muddled and unintelligible, he wasn't able to give a proper reason as to why he stayed the night, only saying \"i won't do this again, and I will make sure I'll pay by Friday\". He then asks when I head out to university on Friday which I said 11AM, and he replied with \"That'll be easy, I'll come by before then and pay up\". \n\nCome Friday morning, Ted never showed up, so I tried contacting him a few times before leaving for university, he got back to me around 12PM saying \"I was packing my stuff, and on a phone call with a possible employer, sorry about that, you have my word that I'll come by tomorrow before 12PM.\" \nIt was already at this point I was doubting my decision to let him stay if he can't uphold his word, so I decided to give him one more chance to see if he changed.\n\nSaturday morning, he didn't show up again, no signs of contacting me via call or text and at this point I really felt like I can't let him stay if he doesn't hold his word to do something as simple as showing up in the morning and pay the Bond + rent. So I tried calling him once in the afternoon, no response, and around 10 times in the evening to get a text saying \"I am in another call, will call you back\" and so I waited. Till around 1:30AM I waited for his call back to see why he didn't show up, only to not get a phone call.\n\nSunday morning (today), Ted still hasn't shown up and I have tried ringing him a few times to get a text saying \"Can't speak right now, will call you back later\". It was at this point I decided to make the decision to reply with \"I'll make this easier for you, leave. This has been unacceptable and you know that\". The reason why it's unacceptable is because this isn't the only time he's done something like this, he's done it before when he stayed before (like 9 months ago). He told me on Monday that he was a changed man and out of the few interactions over the week, I could tell he hasn't at all. \n\nAll he needed to do was to show up and pay the bond + rent, or inform me that something was going on but he never said anything other than \"call you later\".\n\nAm I the Asshole for doing what I did?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}701{"id": "YWNgiIU3D9OHsVItF4ndvPxYLGIL0j9W", "post_id": "b8xld1", "action": {"description": "getting upset when someone sat next to me in an empty diner", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting upset when someone sat next to me in an empty diner?", "text": "This is the type of diner where you seat yourself. This older woman and her friend picked the seat right behind me and my fiance. They were so loud, I couldn't enjoy our conversation anymore and her perfume was overbearing. It felt a bit rude when the rest of the diner was empty. Like lady sit somewhere else. They seemed nice enough but totally clueless.... Idk AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}702{"id": "JJrU616ZYUf40UsWK3uoefff6bNihenO", "post_id": "asv1oy", "action": {"description": "not forgiving shitheads", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not forgiving shitheads?", "text": "A while back, I got into some major shit with some \u201cfriends\u201d I had. These \u201cfriends\u201d were complete assholes, and they were sucky af. All they did was try to start drama which was super annoying and immature, and then they\u2019d blame it on other people. \n\nThey\u2019d also managed to slowly get me to start dropping my relationships with other friends, family, etc. Until I realized what was really going on.\n\nThey made me feel guilty for the shit they started, and acted like every single little thing I did was horribly wrong or offensive, and the things they\u2019d stuck in my mind are still affecting me now.\n\nNot to mention, they were like 13 year old girls when it came to gossiping. They would do it CONSTANTLY, about their own friends. It was a hobby for them.\n\nWe had this huge fight and both sides were being total shitheads TBH. We were both in the wrong. Both sides insulted each other and were rude. \n\nHowever, I refuse to forgive them. To me, that would be like excusing all the shit they\u2019d pulled on me in the past, and I don\u2019t think they deserve my forgiveness, or even my respect. Forgiving people who act like that will just take advantage of that and keep doing it, knowing that you\u2019ll forgive them every time.\n\nMy parents, however, say that you should love, respect, and forgive EVERYONE, even the people who\u2019ve torn apart your life and hurt you intentionally, because that\u2019s what Jesus tells us to do. They tell me that forgiving those assholes would be showing that I\u2019m moving on, but that\u2019s not the way I see forgiveness at all, and I\u2019m sure as hell thats not how those shitheads see it either. \n\nSo AITA for refusing to forgive people who\u2019ve really hurt me and mentally scarred me? I\u2019m curious.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}703{"id": "2fdkbUUaFBKTX8VdeV88MxvyLxCpDYZ6", "post_id": "ai0suo", "action": {"description": "falling asleep and got breaking up with for it", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA when I fell asleep and got broken up with for it?", "text": "Dated her for 4 months, back and forth, she has a lot of trust issues. Shes done alot to me, flaked on me, left me standing outside her door, lied to me, disrepected me by telling me about other guys she fell in love with whilst dating me, and Ive never said much. She often makes plans and then pretends as though there was no plans when she completely flakes, I never really get mad.\n\nWas going through bad withdrawls from an alcohol addiction, diffiult to sleep. First 2 nights she kept waking me up at 3am. 2nd night I said I desperately need sleep but was shaken awake. 3rd night I came home and literally passed out asleep, knowing she finished at 10pm and it was only 5.30 and thinking I would wake up in a few hours and see her.\n\nAwoke at 1.30am to a flurry of textings starting from nice, to mean, to being broken up. Ending with \"i wont listen to any more excuses this time\".\n\nAm I the Asshole here?\n\nFurther to this I told her I had fallen asleep and stopped contacting her, then went to hers to grab my stuff, expecting some kind of apology for that madness, but instead was made to listen to how I shouldve text her if I was feeling sick just to warn her that I may fall asleep? and then proceeded to bring up other times I have flaked, which was only once and I made her aware.\n\nMore recently she tried saying she never did anything wrong in the relationship. I tried to ask how its reasonable to break up with someone before even hearing why they didnt answer. I tried to say what If i was hit by a car I was going to wake up to those texts? and she just said thats ridiculous and laughed at me. I know its unlikely but you never know.\n\nMy best friend (or so I thought) always supported me by saying she was crazy and everyone hated her, then on a big night out I asked him to come back with me after and relax, was told he wasnt leaving till later. So i text and said when your on  way back come chill for a bit, no reply. I said if you go back to another one of my mates I can meet you guys there, these people that are supposed friends.\n\nNext day he tried to tell me how he and another guy went back to his and a few people went back with my EX. I asked who and he said he doesnt know. He then started telling me stories about the night and named people specifically who were at her house, him being one of them. About 7 people. I proceeded to say didnt you just tell me you didnt go there and didnt know who did, and then he changed the story and said he only went there for 10 minutes with the guy then left. I asked the EX the next day and she said he stayed all night.\n\nI text him and said hes an asshole for going back to my ex girlfriends and lying to me about it. I said even if you were sparing my feelings, in reality you shouldve come back with me if you are telling the truth when you constantly say what a horrible person she is and what shes done to me. I told him I cant really trust him.\n\nSo yeah this woman now has all of my friends, and I have no one really, and im pretty sure I didnt really do anything wrong.?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}704{"id": "CmtkhkxXLgBPFZvCbPhFhyIcvKADojXC", "post_id": "afadmc", "action": {"description": "causing an argument for complaining about unannounced mother in law visits", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for causing an argument for complaining about unannounced mother in law visits?", "text": "Mother in law always randomly turns up without calling ahead, waltzes in and doesn't take her shoes off and stomps around (I live in a top floor flat and try to respect the woman that lives below us)\n\nToday I kicked up a stink because my wife had gone out and I thought I'd use my free time to play an online multiplayer game which off course can't be paused. Then I get a knock at the door and it's the mother in law unannounced again. I'm really short with her and for once manage to turn her away. I ask my wife if she can have a word with her mum and she gets annoyed (maybe I should of just told the in-law myself?)\n\nBut anyways long story short I say we gotta do something about this and the wife gets really annoyed and says 'well it's only a game you were playing so you should speak to her'.\n\nWhether I was playing a game or not isn't really the point. Am I an ass for moaning about random visits? I don't think I am but I have a slightl nagging doubt in my head that's saying what if I'm wrong, hence this post. Thanks", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}705{"id": "13gruLJWx950KMC20iJU9QN2mwEgX6s0", "post_id": "b35o1i", "action": {"description": "wanting to cut my friend off for being an irresponsible petowner", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to cut my friend off for being an irresponsible petowner?", "text": "I've know my friend, ill call F, since middle school\n\n​\n\nWe have had falling outs for different reasons and recently got in touch after about 4 years.\n\n​\n\nF has always had cats . I've always encouraged her to get her cats fixed so they dont reproduce. I am heavily into animal rescue and currently have two foster cats. They drive me %100 crazy but at least their not at risk for euthanasia at the moment . My family friend literally has about 30 cats in her home stacked on cages that she fosters so they dont get euthanized. It's the city I live in , cats get euthanized pretty frequently due to lack of homes\n\n​\n\nAnyways \n\n​\n\nF had confessed that her cat had a litter of kittens from another cat she has. I was pretty upset but I didnt say anything , assuming it was a one time thing.\n\nNope.\n\n​\n\nHer cat is pregnant. Again. I  come to find this is her 4th time  . One of her litters had 3 kittens. 2 of them died and one was neurologically disabled. The cat was given to a friend who then took the cat to a kill shelter. She claims the cat was pulled but who knows.  \n\nI was pretty upset at this and told her that it was irresponsible and that cats are euthanized all the time due to lack of homes and to please spay her. She said she didnt want to lose her cat in surgery... You see\n\nYears ago I encouraged her to get one of her cat neutered. She did and the cat passed away 9 days later.  She claims he also got mange from the neutering truck they went to . She said she doesnt want her cat to die so she lets the cat get knocked up repeatedly ???  She said the cat is now 7 and would need blood work to get spayed as well??\n\n​\n\nWe kinda got into it for a while. She said she may neuter her male cat but she still lets her female cat go outside. She claims the female doesnt go far so she wont mate (uh...)  Anyways she lets her un-neutered males roam outside (in a city) and do who knows what. \n\nWe went at it for a while and things got really tense . We then changed the subject but honestly I dont even feel like I can be friends with her. I do so much rescue work and fostering but it all goes to shit when people do things like this . Whats the point of even fostering if she does things like this ? Her cat is going to give birth...AGAIN and she rather the cat keep breeding rather then get her spayed.\n\nShe even yelled saying people breed their cats and I wouldnt be bashing them and I told them I would.\n\n​\n\nShes really excited to be friends with me again and keeps trying to make more plans to hang out.\n\nAm I the asshole If I just......dont?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}706{"id": "lhsbrD3OIjZrzN9DXdndOGfeVnzkPIN7", "post_id": "ahswu7", "action": {"description": "not wanting to work out at the same gym as my girlfriend because I think it's sexist", "pronormative_score": 59, "contranormative_score": 32}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to work out at the same gym as my girlfriend because I think it's sexist?", "text": "My girlfriend and I both enjoy working out, and have gone to different gyms since before we met. Recently my girlfriend suggested that I change over to her gym so we could carpool, workout together etc. Normally I would agree with this and be happy to go to the same gym as her, the problem is that her gym has a large \"**women only**\" section. The gym charges the same entrance fee for both men and women, but this section only allows women to use it and contains about 1/4 of the area of the gym and about 1/4 of the total workout equipment.\n\n I told my girlfriend that I didn't want to go to a gym that would charge someone 100% of the fee but only allow them to use 75% of the equipment because of their sex. When she said that I was being stupid about this I asked her if she would go to a gym that charged her the same as men, but forbid her from using a large portion of the equipment and area? She got upset at this, and said that \"*I just don't understand*\", and that \"*it's different for women*\".\n\n​\n\nAm I being the asshole here and just not understanding?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 31, "OTHER": 40, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 19, "INFO": 6}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 59, "WRONG": 32}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}707{"id": "VcjWcOqv960CvWQr451e1kqQdYu4uL2S", "post_id": "b7o3y2", "action": {"description": "being sharp with my colleague", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being sharp with my colleague", "text": "A bit of back story first. So I joined a my current team just over 6 months ago. Before joining the team I was warned by three staff members (one more senior to me) about a colleage I would be working with (call her Jane). They both told me, in separate conversations, that Jane is extremely lazy and does not do any work. And just escalates all the work she gets. I did not know them that well so I took their warning about Jane with a grain of salt.\n\nOver the last 6 months Jane has not been doing her work which means a lot of it falls to me to complete and I was so stressed from it that I took 2 weeks of stress leave. Management is horrible so no point in approaching them (that is why the three staff members who warned me left the team).\n\nAfter coming back from leave I am settling into work this conversation happens:\n\n- Jane: I noticed that this job is under your name but hasn't been followed up\n- Me: ok (I go have a look and see that I am expecting information back before I can finish it)\n- Jane: well, these people are very busy and cannot get to everything, but with the information provided it can be completed\n- Me: that is not the normal process, we need the information to proceed\n- Jane: it can be completed though\n\nAnd this is where I lose it. I turn to face her and look her directly in the eye and say 'I don't care'. I turn around and continue my work. Aita for saying that?\n\nAfter doing that though she actually does more work. I get called in to talk to my manager though. I so end up apologising, but after that she has gone back to her old ways.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}708{"id": "s8mXUAzgrx3WwbolyTTT2EF2Q5bewPaE", "post_id": "9y6uhm", "action": {"description": "not letting my gf blow my secrets", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not letting my gf blow my secrets?", "text": "Hi so as the title suggests my (18m) gf (18f) routinely neglects my needs. Specifically when it comes to weed. \n\nI'm in college but still very much dependent on my parents and they have a 100% no cannabis rule which I just never have followed and for the most part things have worked out.\n\nThen came my gf, she comes from a much less strict family than I so these things are a lot easier for her, but she never takes any form of precaution around my family. Which has manifested into many close calls and near misses with them and their rule.\n\nLast night she left a bag sitting in the passenger seat in my car that she completely did not tell me about.  It's all fine until I go to take my sister somewhere this morning and opened my door to see that bag staring me in the face.\n\nI kind of lost it on her to which she says I'm being rude about this and she didn't mean to so I shouldn't be mad at her.\n\nSo, AITA for thinking she needs to respect my rules concerning my family more or does that responsibility fall entirely on me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}709{"id": "6674WYvmDLGEiX31l4SdVwefcSYuNfyM", "post_id": "atd7ld", "action": {"description": "refusing to let my family attend my college graduation", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I refuse to let my family attend my college graduation?", "text": " I'm a senior in college. It's been rocky for me, because my parents kicked me out after I'd turned 18 and finished high school-- to explain more in detail, I'd originally been planning on joining the military immediately after HS and had been recruited and training for nearly a year for boot, but things fell through once it was realized that I have serious issues with depression, ADHD, & PTSD (these things can disqualify you from being able to serve). A few weeks after I graduated HS, things began to explode at my home. I was equal parts frustrated with myself for not having any idea what to do now/how to get my life on track, while also juggling what I now knew for a fact to be mental disorders, and also being upset with the psychologically&physically abusive treatment my parents forced on me and my siblings. So I got literally kicked to the curb.\n\nA friend's parents took me in and got me started heading in the right direction. I applied to stuff, got accepted, and thanks to the FASFA my parents had filled out at a high school thing earlier in the year, I was able to afford to go through loans, scholarships, and jobs. My parents have re-done the FASFA for me yearly, but other than that we are not on speaking terms and they give me no financial support, period. I'm homeless outside of the school year and generally spend time with my long-time partner's family in summer/on holidays, helping to pay bills.\n\nMy parents ain't great. I have PTSD thanks to them, and my depression has been exacerbated, if not directly caused by their actions towards me and my siblings when I was young. It's also all but confirmed I have DID because of the long-term abuse too. But recently, my parents have began to make attempts to reach out to me, inquiring about my graduation so that they can come and telling me how upset all my siblings are that they haven't seen me in almost four years.\n\nI think they want to reconnect with me. But, I hate them since they abused me so badly for 18 years and fucked me up on such an unfixable level. I'm going to have to live with my issues for **the rest of my life** and I resent them for that. But we're related even if I wish we weren't and I'd be a lying if I said that people can't change. I don't know if I could ever forgive&forget, but I don't know if it'd even be fair to deny them the opportunity to come to my college graduation, especially since I *couldn't* have done it without the FASFA loans I took out. \n\nWith all this said, I kinda want to give them a hard no and ban them from attending my graduation, even despite their requests. Instead, I really want to give my graduation tickets to my partner's family who has taken me in all those summers and holidays. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}710{"id": "RQJyeWnQvDqrSETcnC15oi7MWfuVTwuP", "post_id": "b7p8ct", "action": {"description": "not wanting to help my family out anymore", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA because I don\u2019t want to help my family out anymore", "text": "AITA? And what should I do? I\u2019m 29 and I currently live with my husband in a house be just bought a little over a year ago. My husband had a major surgery last summer and our lives have revolved around working full time and keeping up with his PT and rehab \n\nTowards the end of last summer my mother up and left my dad for some other guy and moved a few states over. My brother (28 yo) also lived with my parents. My mom had been telling them she was paying rent but was actually pocketing the money so my dad and brother were evicted and have been staying in a temporary apartment while supposedly searching for a more permanent set up. \n\nThey\u2019ve been slacking on finding a place to live and haven\u2019t found anything as of yet and today my brother asked if they could come stay with me... moving in today. The house where they\u2019ve been living has been sold and he thought he would have somewhere to go, but he doesn\u2019t. I asked him if he could postpone because it\u2019s my husband\u2019s birthday today (which is extra special because we\u2019re celebrating the fact he gets to even celebrate another birthday) and I need to talk to him about my dad and brother taking residence up with us. \n\nI don\u2019t even want them here because my dad is an alcoholic and hardly works, he also tends to be a miserable prick since my mom left him - he needs to do a lot of shit to get his life together and I tend to be a hardass so I know we\u2019re going to bump heads. My brother and I are pretty close but he has a terrible GF who I don\u2019t want in my house, she also doesn\u2019t work and I don\u2019t want her here during business hours. \n\nThey\u2019re both terrible with money which is part of the reason they\u2019re in this situation so I want to ask them to give me a reasonable portion of money every pay period and half will cover living expenses and the other half will go into savings towards their new living situations. \n\nSorry this is rambling but I\u2019m desperate for advice (and on mobile). Thank you ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}711{"id": "Z5Q9w0NLKWnlJoSIKIyDGYXsSP7sTaDL", "post_id": "as2bx6", "action": {"description": "telling my heavily pregnant, former co-worker she is \"massive\"", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for telling my heavily pregnant, former co-worker she is \"massive\"?", "text": "FC = former co-worker\n\nManager = manager\n\n​\n\nFriday afternoon a former co-worker stopped by to say hello. She is speaking with my manager and as I'm walking up to them I hear FC say, she is two days past her due date. I say my hellos, look at her belly and say, enthusiastically, \"wow, you're massive!\" Manager who is an outspoken bitch, says in a sarcastic way, \"wow, underwatercarpet, that was really rude!\" FC makes a face and says \"thanks...\" while laughing a bit. I stammer out, \"I didn't mean it like that!\", to which there was only uncomfortable laughter, so I laugh it off and walk away. FC does not say goodbye when she leaves. Manager comes up to me later and says \"remember that time you called FC fat?\" I honestly asked if that wasn't what you're supposed to say? I mean she does have a human inside her. Manager doesn't say much else and leaves me to ponder. I don't feel like a dick for saying it as I'm sure they understood what I meant, but I do think if my manager hadn't said anything I wouldn't be wondering.\n\n​\n\nBackground context:\n\n​\n\nFC and I weren't super close, but seeing as we worked in close proximity, we had a friendly acquaintanceship. She was already 6 months along when she started at the company and was very vocal about being quite visibly and heavily pregnant at 6 months. Now, I'm not the type to play into people fishing for compliments, so I wouldn't say anything when she'd say things like \"can't wait to get skinny again\" or \"none of my clothes fit me anymore\" or \"I feel like a blimp\". Her personality was very lax and nothing bothered her, so her reaction was a bit odd from what I'd seen of her previously.\n\n​\n\nSo, I'm wondering, am I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}712{"id": "dKl8B7JtDD4jTerj0ytsqvyRPIu90xug", "post_id": "b13q0f", "action": {"description": "visiting my sick dog at my stepdad's house after telling him I had an issue with his fiancee", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for visiting my sick dog at my stepdad's house after telling him I had an issue with his fiancee?", "text": "I was raised by my stepdad and mom, they had two more kids together. I caught my stepdad cheating when I was 17 with dozens of people, told my mom, they tried to work it out for about 5 years but then split up.  \n\nDespite the fact that he cheated on my mom and has never paid child support, I still have a relationship with him. Until recently I was his power of attorney, I'm treated just like I was his firstborn child. He can be very manipulative and it's gotten worse in recent years, this has put a strain on our relationship but nothing like the strain created when he started dating his now fiancee.  \n\nLet me say that if she were pleasant, I would welcome this new person in my life. But she is not. She is constantly hostile and rude. She seems to not understand why I'm still in my stepdad's life (despite the fact that he started dating my mom when I was 2) and has looked for every possible opportunity to make me out to be the bad guy. She's a jerk to my younger siblings (his kids), but doesn't seem to try to drive them out like she does me. I'm 30 and only visit occasionally, it's not like I'm dependent on them by any means.  \n\nThis all came to a head recently because of yet another situation where I was totally alienated. I basically decided I was done trying.  \n\nHe reached out and said he felt I'd been distant. I kind of just told him everything I'd been thinking. I didn't name call or say anything unforgivable, but basically just said that the way she treats my brothers is terrible but that the way she treats me is substantially worse. He asked if we could discuss it in person and I said that was fine. We haven't spoken since then but I figured we would when he was ready.  \n\nToday I find out from my sibling that our dog is not doing well and might need to be put down. I'm absolutely crushed. They got him when I was in college but outside of my dogs he is my favorite dog on earth. If they have to put him down, they'll do it at their home (her house) and I'd really love to be there to say goodbye and to support my siblings. However I don't know if I'd be a huge asshole for showing up or asking if I can. I feel like I might be an equally big asshole for not showing up (\"you couldn't put that aside even for the dog?!\") so if I have to risk one I'd rather pick the one that lets me say goodbye to my best little buddy.  \n\nDo I wait and see if I\u2019m invited? If I am, which is the the asshole move, attending or not attending? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}713{"id": "eY7LcPQhhbZOtKcpvxs1LpHDhSSscZwL", "post_id": "b5jqru", "action": {"description": "wanting to move out when my mom pays my bills, even though she treats me like shit", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to move out when my mom pays my bills, even though she treats me like shit?", "text": "I\u2019m 19, work three minimum wage jobs and attend college full time while maintaining good grades. My mom and I have never fully gotten along but lately it\u2019s gotten so much worse. She\u2019s one of those people who always has to have it worse than you and is always right. My dad just puts up with it to keep the peace and I did for a long time too until recently. I started going to therapy for my depression and my therapist said that when she starts to cause problems I should not be afraid to stick up for myself. I have a problem with letting people walk all over me and my therapist knows this.\n\nDespite all that I know my mom loves me but sometimes I think she does things just to keep me on a leash. I pay my own car bill but that\u2019s it. My parents handle the insurance and my phone bill. I\u2019ve offered to at least pick up my phone bill since it\u2019s only about $30 a month and I\u2019m trying to get my credit score up either way but she always says no and turns it into a fight about how I\u2019m ungrateful and such.\n\n\nI\u2019m not exactly a neat person. When I\u2019m in a better mental state my bedroom tends to be neat but when I\u2019m feeling depressed it kinda goes to shit. I\u2019ve tried to keep it clean but my motivation to do so always just kinda vanishes after awhile. My parents HATE this. They will undermine everything I\u2019ve ever accomplished if my room isn\u2019t clean. For example, I just got a part time job teaching private voice and piano, something that is very difficult to do without a degree of some kind. I told my parents and they didn\u2019t care at all because my laundry wasn\u2019t done. They\u2019ll also take any fight my mom and I have and spin it back on me because my room isn\u2019t clean, even if it has nothing to do with that. For example, my mom one time saw me wearing a bikini, poked my stomach and said \n\n\u201cMmmm Pasta?\u201d\n\nMind you I\u2019m very self conscious about my weight and struggled with bulimia for awhile. I stormed out of the house and went crying to the beach only to get a text ten minutes later \u201cWell maybe if your room was clean...\u201d\n\nWell the other day I was fighting with my mom (again) because I said I was looking into apartments. I had told her I want to move in with a friend because I think not living together would help our relationship more and give me the space I need. She started crying and screaming about how I was \u201cso ungrateful\u201d and \u201cnot ready for the real world.\u201d \n\nI\u2019d had enough and that point and told her I wanted out because she has no idea how to treat anyone with any sort of respect, let alone her own daughter. I essentially just went off and she went to work crying. \n\nI feel bad, I do love her and all, but I\u2019m so sick and tired of all the bs. I know I should keep my room clean but when I tried to explain why I don\u2019t with all my mental health problems I was just called a \u201csnowflake millennial\u201d and told my disorders were fake. Meanwhile my mom sits there and preaches that she has BPD when she\u2019s yet to be diagnosed.\n\nAm I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}714{"id": "eXzXSxtJDTwCfYQIBljlBXgdujSxV8mb", "post_id": "b94398", "action": {"description": "sending a rude text", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for sending a rude text?", "text": "I\u2019ve been getting multiple calls from an unknown number over the last few days. I\u2019ve tried answering and just gotten scilence, when I speak they hang up. \nToday I had 3 miss calls, two within 5 minutes and another 30 minutes after that. I was in the middle of a university class and couldn\u2019t answer. \nAfter leaving class I see I have FIVE voicemails total, so I spend money topping up my phone to listen to them. \n\nThey\u2019re all blank. Just silence for 40ish seconds. All five. \n\nSo I text the number a simple \u201cfuck off scammer\u201d I mean, what else could it be? I thought it would just be some automated thing anyway (due to the silent voicemails). But then I got a message back. \n\nTurns out it was a manager probably looking for someone to cover shifts (as a side note I live far away from this store and wouldn\u2019t work there anyway so ruining the relationship isn\u2019t the end of the world). They weren\u2019t happy and threatened to speak to my manager. I explained that I thought they were a scam caller. \n\n\nMy question is am I the asshole for reacting that way? My sister says it\u2019s my own fault for acting that way towards phone scammers. I think the manager should\u2019ve sent a text or left a message saying who they were, or even just taken the hint after missing so many calls. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}715{"id": "DgkXQctEwsy9greJpVljfknRjGNzdxBE", "post_id": "ap7wft", "action": {"description": "snapping at my gf for shaking a glass filled blanket over the couch and she thinks I'm the asshole", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA I snapped at my gf for shaking a glass filled blanket over the couch and she thinks I'm the asshole.", "text": "So context is a bit important here. My toddler accidently knocked over a glass mug in the living room with his blanket and it shattered with tiny bits of glass everywhere. I quickly grabbed my toddler and started removing small bits of glass from his foot and comforting him as my gf started cleaning the mess. She picks up the blanket that was sitting in the glass and starts shaking it over the couch. I immediately said, \"What are you doing? You're going to get glass all over the couch!\" I didn't scream or yell, but I probably didn't say it very kindly due to the urgency of the situation. She believes she was doing nothing wrong and that I'm being an asshole. She thinks I should apologize. I told her that she was creating a dangerous situation by shaking glass on the couch and I'm not going to apologize for my reaction. Am I the asshole? I think my reaction was justified.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}716{"id": "tRjnZxEM1dMWChOkbojZu95PS83Oiwvn", "post_id": "b8u10f", "action": {"description": "being willing to delete a former colleague off social media over a game app", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being willing to delete a former colleague off social media over a game app?", "text": "Pretty low stakes question but tbh, I'm asking because I'm well aware that my decision making skills are being coloured right now over some heart-break I'm going through.\n\nIn dealing with said heartbreak I've been using games in my down-time as time fillers to keep me from thinking etc. I've recently gotten into a game called \"Coin Master\" with mostly current and former colleagues. It is an interactive game where you spon a roulette to win 'money' to win money to build items to complete a village before you can move on to a next one. More integral to my issue is that you can roll for options to either steal money from friends or attack their villages. You in counterpoint can spin for shields to protect your village but if your shields are all broken your items' levels are lowered resetting progress.\n\nNow recently it seems like a former coworker is using this feature to target me. Twice now she's attacked me 5+ times consecutively basically resetting me to zero for the level. I was amused but perturbed the first time, really annoyed the second but I'm pissed off now because I just logged on and for the day she has attacked me over 20 times. Now yes for every successful attack she lands she earns quadruple plus money which is probably why she's using this strategy but it's so annoying and actually making me angry, probably irrationally so because my personal life is in the shits right now and I'm just trying to use this game as mindless entertainment/a distraction. \n\nI just sent her a message (it is 2 am here and my insomnia is in full swing so I had logged on to kill some time only to notice my village absolutely destroyed) and I sent her a message basically telling her to stop or I will delete her off Facebook because that is the only way to unlink her from my game.\n\nWe havent talked in years but I remember liking her enough that i enjoy getting the occasional life update from her on my feed the few times I actually log in but right now I just want to delete/block/the whole shebang but AITA for messaging her out of the blue with that and WIBTA to follow through?\n\nTl;dr: Former coworker I dont talk to anymore is ruining a game for me that I'm using as a distraction from personal life issues. AITA for giving her a one strike warning to stop or else I'll delete her off social media entirely to unlink her from my game?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}717{"id": "Y7FIL6pDd7dIUgtdZGACFAsU42OTiH47", "post_id": "aahdjx", "action": {"description": "wanting to leave my mentally ill spouse", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for wanting to leave my mentally ill spouse?", "text": "We got married about 15 years ago. She we diagnosed with schizophrenia and bipolar disorder about 10 years ago, after the birth of our child.\n\nShe hears voices and has mood disorders that prevent functioning beyond occasionally doing some light housework. There has been a decrease in mental function over time that makes any kind of enjoyable conversation basically impossible. Her memory and decision making abilities are suspect at best. She is not aware of the severity of this problem.  \n\nShe has not worked since her pregnancy and I have worked very hard to make enough money, raise our child, and help her have a good relationship with our child despite her issues.  \n\nShe is compliant with her medication and says she wants to help and do more but usually is too depressed to do much. When she is manic it is almost always counterproductive.  She has been in therapy and has been on many medications. It's hard for me to separate her patterns of actions and behavior from what her illnesses inflict.\n\nThis is not easy and has taken a toll on me emotionally over a long time. I am perpetually exhausted and lonely. I'm trying to figure out a way to not be married to her and not destroy her life in the process. I don't feel like I can do it forever.\n\nHer parents think this is her (our) problem and are not helpful. We have friends but over the years have become more isolated due to her condition. I'm kind of all she's got. \n\nThanks for any thoughts or ideas.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}718{"id": "m9VmYTtmu5Ixv5I6NHXrNyafJUV8s0iX", "post_id": "b943wo", "action": {"description": "telling my friend we wouldn't like to go to a concert with us", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA for telling my friend we wouldn\u2019t like to go to a concert with us", "text": "So my friend (FA) recently put on his snapchat story if anyone would like to go see this really obscure band in a couple of weeks. I said I\u2019d love to go cos it\u2019s my favourite band and FA gave me the details and I\u2019m pretty much set on going. My other friend (FB) asked if he could go too. Now I have absolutely nothing against FB and I would consider him one of my closest friends and FA feels the same way, we just don\u2019t think he\u2019d really enjoy it as he\u2019s never listened to any of the bands songs, doesn\u2019t like their music, and would hate the overall experience. I\u2019m talking crowded places and mosh pits. I\u2019ve known FB for years and he\u2019s told me before how he doesn\u2019t like that stuff. He would feel really awkward, we\u2019d feel really awkward and probably miss out on doing mosh pits and stuff cos we can\u2019t abandon him. We haven\u2019t said a thing to him and don\u2019t know how to go about letting him down. We see him real often and FA sees him for 3 hours every day at college. WIBTA if we told him he probably couldn\u2019t come?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}719{"id": "SfwaOXngYOopnSIsAGqm4lFDgcMRj5JE", "post_id": "afbaln", "action": {"description": "not wanting to get back with my ex-girlfriend and raise the baby together because she is pregnant", "pronormative_score": 28, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to get back with my ex-girlfriend and raise the baby together because she is pregnant?", "text": " I (26/M) broke up with my girlfriend (24/F) in mid-November after 18 months of dating. \n\nIn mid-December she calls me to tell me she is pregnant and deciding to keep the child, even though we were both using birth control (she was on the pill and I was using condoms) and I told her I never want kids because it is not compatible with the career I want (I am a second year lawyer and eventually want to become a diplomat). \n\nI am not in the mood for it but I make the 6 hour (each way) drive out to her hometown to talk to her. \n\nShe tells me that she just can\u2019t get an abortion and tells me that now we are going to be a family and that we need to get back together, that I need to cancel my trip to Colombia/Ecuador/Peru in May with my brother, and I need to move out here and raise the baby with her and her brother can get me a job selling cars at the dealership where he works.\n\nNo fucking way. \n\nI told her she can expect to receive whatever the legal required amount of child support is, but I am not getting back together with her. There is a reason I broke up with her \u2013 because I realised I was with her out of \u201chabit\u201d instead of love, that she was a little too into the money I was making as a lawyer, and I simply did not want to be in a relationship with her anymore. A baby doesn\u2019t change that.  \n\nI tell her I am not moving out there. My family and friends live here in the capital and I don\u2019t want to move from them, and her home town is in our country\u2019s version of the Deep South and somewhere I don\u2019t want to live, and there is no possibility for any kind of career and advancement there. I told her I am not going to be the father who gives her every Wednesday and every second weekend and school vacation periods \u201coff\u201d. I don\u2019t want to play Daddy and Mommy with her.   \n\nI told her I am still going to South America because the trip is already paid for and I am not going to get anything back from cancelling it, except maybe half the airfares. And I *WANT* to fucking go. Why do I have to give that up because of her decision to have a baby? And child support is going to be a big financial burden to my life now that will affect my ability to travel in the future.  She is angry about that because \u201cI will never travel\u201d, and I said \u201cthat is on you for choosing to keep the baby\u201d. \n\nReddit, I broke up with her for a reason. I made it clear I never wanted to play Mommy and Daddy with anyone. I will reluctantly meet my legal obligations in terms of child support but nothing more. \n\nFor the last month she has been telling anyone who will listen what an asshole and a deadbeat I am and it is really starting to annoy me. I am not a deadbeat because I don\u2019t want to play house with you. Deadbeats are people who don\u2019t pay child support. \n\nAMITA?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 27, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 28, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}720{"id": "d4ej8J5qItLKEMcCM3vlesyApe1SkzzQ", "post_id": "a2xmpv", "action": {"description": "not wanting my vents covered", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my vents covered?", "text": "Some background info:\n\nMy house has a couple of bedrooms with one vent. Mine has two. It means I get extra/too-much heat and A/C at times. \n\nThe situation:\n\nMy dad walked in a few days ago and told me that I should cover one of my vents, because I had the window open for an hour to air out my room (nasty smell, probably from a shower and humidity) and he thought I was doing it because I was hot. I explicitly told him no, I won't do that. It's a bad idea (even if you don't include the fire risk) to cover it with cardboard, because it causes a reverse flow and damages the system in the long run by forcing it to work harder, and it would still result in the same amount of heat being redirected to one vent (best case scenario two-three of other rooms, but not with the way our house is laid out). I've called numerous AC/Heater repairmen, and asked them about this, because I wanted to do it way back. Almost every single one of them told me it was a bad idea. That, added with the bonus of me looking it up myself, dissuaded me from that idea. \n\nI came home the other day, and saw that, in fact, my dad had ignored my wishes, which was normal at this point in time, and did it anyway. I do live with him, and I am aware that he owns the house. That being said, I would assume that any rational human being would want to avoid being roasted alive by their own A/C system, so I took it down and reverted to my previous solution: just wearing more or less clothes based on how hot/cold I am when I go to sleep. Walking around in shorts and a T-shirt isn't bad at all, either. \n\nHe walked in today and exploded at me, for defying his authority and taking down a piece of cardboard held up by masking tape. I told him I slept in that room and I should have some opinion, but he said it was his house. I told him I would just sleep on the couch and he told me I could sleep on the street for all he cares. He then went and got a ladder and put it back up, telling me that I would see what would happen if I took it down again.\n\nEveryone on his side of the family (grandparents) agree with him, think that I shouldn't \"defy my father\" and call me a problem child for even arguing with him at all. They basically told me that if I didn't like what my dad was doing, I could move out with no support from anyone. My sisters think the man is crazy. I personally want to move out soon, but not before actually being able to.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}721{"id": "XtRs1IStVZKWom7lVTJk5plx3x8myM9k", "post_id": "b5zij9", "action": {"description": "asking someone to turn their music down", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking someone to turn their music down?", "text": "This occurred on the fourth floor of my campus library. For reference, the first floor is classrooms, second floor is a talk friendly study place, third floor is a quiet study place, and fourth floor is the computer lab.\n\nIt is my understanding that there is an unspoken rule that unless you are working on a group project and need to talk with others to get your work done, the computer lab is also meant to be a quiet floor.\n\nI had been at my computer for a while doing some required reading when another student walks in playing music on his headphones loud enough that I could hear him from across the room (maybe 50 feet away). He sits down and proceeds to look at his phone, not logging in to the computer and not turning the volume down for maybe 5 minutes. At that point I got up, walked over to him, tapped him on the shoulder, and said \u201chey man, can you turn your music down? It\u2019s hard for me to focus\u201d. He looks at me without saying anything, and after a moment he turns his music down and I go back to my seat.\n\nFast forward 30 minutes or so he walks up to me and asks if I worked at the library. I told him I didn\u2019t, and he responded \u201cwhy did you ask me to turn my music down\u201d. Being socially anxious, I nervously said something along the lines of I\u2019m sorry if I offended you but it was really distracting. He kinda shook his head in disbelief and then walked out of the lab. AITA?\n\nSome more information that I didn\u2019t know where to put in. \n - There were maybe four other people in the lab at the time including one campus employed student who was there to help with IT problems. Non of them said anything or seemed to notice any of this take place (as in it didn\u2019t distract them).\n - The headphones he was using looked like the old generic apple headphones, which if anyone has used them knows that they become miniature speakers past half volume. His music wasn\u2019t loud, but it was noticeable enough that I could hear the baseline and a bit of the melody.\n - I had headphones visibly on me (phone in pocket, headphones going through the shirt out of the neck) but I was not wearing them because my own music was distracting me from the reading.\n - There are some computers on the second floor, but they can\u2019t be used to access canvas, a site many teachers use to post assignments and grades.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}722{"id": "5zqBfgpGDj0jz3otacsumvmWiXE6rrJS", "post_id": "airqun", "action": {"description": "going cold turkey on my ex", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for going cold turkey on my ex?", "text": "Not sure if this goes here or /r/relationshipadvice but here goes. I was dating a girl for a year before she got into grad school abroad. The terms of our relationship were left open ended but we agreed that we were not officially together anymore. \n\nOne semester goes by and communication is tough because we're in different time zones, but ae plan on meeting up during winter break. Being together during her time back here was great until she reveals that she's \"kinda sorta\" seeing someone at her new uni. Technically she didn't do anything wrong because we weren't together but I still feel a bit betrayed she kept this from me. \n\nNYE passes and she goes back to school. Her thing with her new boy grows more serious and my feelings of jealousy and resentment grow. I realize maintaining any relationship with her is causing me more pain than happiness and tell her that I need a clean break.\n\nShe doesn't take the news very well and says she loves me and needs me in her life as her best friend. In turn, I reply that I don't know how to be \"just friends\" with her and she's only been causing me pain lately. The fight escalates until I decide to go cold turkey and stop responding. \n\nIt's been a week and since then she's sent me messages about how she loves me and values me as one of her best friends, and also messages about how I'm being selfish and can't make this decision for both of us. I haven't responded, but I feel like crap.\n\nNote: according to another friend of mine, she's using me for validation and attention although I don't think she's malicious like that.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}723{"id": "EeJ4zQLrI0os37dwpgfAACr127197YGs", "post_id": "avbqur", "action": {"description": "keeping my baby", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for keeping my baby?", "text": "I'm now 37 weeks and close to labor. I'm 24, 23 when I got pregnant. I'm very conflicted at the moment but the choice has already been made, and we will be raising this child. I just want to know if I did the right thing. Here's the back story: \n\n\n\nSome months before I got pregnant I got a call from the hospital after a routine PAP smear test. They found cancer cells and I was to visit them ASAP. This is all after a year of remission from my breast cancer. They told me I had to quit the birth control pill because the hormones could be influencing my cervix. I quit that day and had planned to get a coil in after my second period. \n\n\nA week later I got my first period. But the second period never came. I went to my GP and said \"doctor, I'm now 1 month over time for my period and I'm worried\". He said \"don't worry, it can take up to 6 months for your period to regulate again\". So I had no worries. He didn't recommend a pregnancy test. \n\n\nTwo months after this my SO tells me I'm getting fat and to get a test. Test comes back positive. I immediately call my GP. He tells me to come in for an ultrasound. He puts the apparatus on my belly and starts laughing, like full on laugh. He turns the screen my way and there on the screen I see my daughter for the first time. Her head, back, rib cage, legs, all are formed. This is no just conceived embryo. He tells me I'm at least 3 to 4 months in. So abortion is still possible but I must make the decision very quickly. I decide to keep it after discussing with SO.\n\n\nI'm very pro-choice, and if I was maybe 1 month a long instead of 3 the possibility of me aborting it would be 90%. But it was a person in my mind. \n\n\nOur situation is also not great for raising a child. Here's a list: \n\n\n- My SO is 21 years old (20 when I got pregnant), and still in college. He won't be done with school for another 4 years. \n\n- My SO is in huge debt because of parking/insurance tickets and all his finances go towards that (which is good, I want him to be debt free, but it needs to be considered).\n\n- We do not own a house or rent a place, we live with my father (who now also has to deal with this new born, he's 65 and recently retired). My father agreed to give us the upper floor of the house (3 large bed rooms) to create a nursery, a bedroom and a study room. \n\n- My income solely goes towards renovation of these rooms, the baby things we need and whatever is left is for our food and other expenses. I also save 10% and another 5% for little one when she's 18. My net income a month is between \u20ac2200 and \u20ac3000. \n\n- I'm currently on maternity leave but before this I was working as a consultant. I lost the project I was on because of maternity leave. My boss is looking for a new project for me to start after maternity leave. But it could mean we have to live on 70% of my income if he can't find anything in time. \n\n\n\n\nSo with all these points in mind am I the asshole for keeping her and wanting to raise her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}724{"id": "wrXV2dEHkS0RyHgcENAgPryjRENoJUp2", "post_id": "a72fmx", "action": {"description": "not participating in the \"Christ\" part of Christmas", "pronormative_score": 30, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not participating in the \"Christ\" part of Christmas?", "text": "I was raised Catholic, but am not religious at all. I truly can't think of a time when I associated with the church. I basically went through the motions until I moved out of the parents place at 18. I am 25 now and coming up on what will be my 3rd year of skipping the Christmas Mass. The first year was uneventful since I used an excuse. Last year though, it sparked all kinds of family drama including my sister calling me to tell me my mother was crying about me missing Christmas mass. I've heard rumblings of them talking about me saying it's just a phase, which I think is a bit condescending. I understand their POV, since they have been taught if you don't beleive in the \"One true God\" that you burn for eternity, which can be rough to think about for a loved one. All that said, Catholic mass bothers the hell out of me and I would only sit quietly stewing disdainful thoughts for an hour. When I'm there I feel like I'm lying to myself and everyone around me.\n\nAITA for not just going through the motions to make my family happier?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 27, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 30, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}725{"id": "oinpXPwimyZxI6U0JwDGQSIwTlBQsY3P", "post_id": "b5fu1a", "action": {"description": "exposing a \"friend\" for catfishing me", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for exposing a \"friend\" for catfishing me?", "text": "This friend is a pathological liar but i really didnt care because up until a few days ago her lies were attention seeking. To make a long story short, she told me there was a guy that found me cute and wanted to talk to me on snapchat. After a couple of days i came to the realization it was just her as she had tried to create fake texts as evidence (the name was the same but the bitmoji was very different and so was the snapchat username), the guy was always too busy to meet, they had the exact same voice and me and the guy shared many many similarities that are highly unlikely (both do ballet, both watch exactly the same shows, both have diabetes type 1, etc) the evidence kept stacking up but the nail in the coffin was her going onto the account and accidently messaging a friend saying \"hey. oops im logged in on the wrong account\" from the account that was talking to me. I tried to confront her but she would leave for hours at a time and come up with excuses like \"my phone fell into the toilet (she was texting me on snapchat???)\" and would come up with another lie. I told all my friends about this out of fustration at a. betrayal of trust (I didnt share anything especially sensitive but if it had kept going i dont know how much i would've said), b. raising my hopes unnecessarily and c. lying to me. One of my friends asked her why she did it and she messaged me a long tirade telling me i didnt need to take vengeance for it, etc. In general she's now trying to victimize herself and telling me that it's only between me and her and that I had no right to tell other peopke . Am i the asshole for telling my friends that she catfished me (i also told them because they'd seen my texts with the \"guy\" before i realised it was a catfish so I also kinda felt the need to clear that up) ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}726{"id": "yoOC05EylwqAQybA5QPFt1MkiS1cN4pE", "post_id": "9wfdpa", "action": {"description": "expecting an explanation from my ex while she wants to be left alone", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for expecting an explanation from my ex while she wants to be left alone?", "text": "Me and my GF broke things of in June. It was a pretty toxic break-up. I acted like an idiot because I had a hard time moving on, she said some pretty awful shit. \n\n​\n\nFlash-forward two weeks ago: we start talking again. To my surprise she\u2019s being nice. She said that she regrets the things she said (hoping that I\u2019d die, not caring about me, regretting our time together). She wants to work things out together this time. She says that she still cares and has a soft-spot for me. For around 1.5 week we talked like nothing happened and to my surprise, we really had a good time catching up. I wasn\u2019t expecting us to become friends again, but I did expect us to end things in a normal way this time. \n\n​\n\nLast thursday, out of nowhere, she texts me that \u201cafter tomorrow, I want to break contact and never speak to eachother again.\u201d and she immediately deleted me on all social media. I really didn\u2019t see that one coming and  didn't understand any of it. When I asked for an explanation, she wouldn\u2019t give me one. She expected me to promise to never speak to her again, I said I couldn\u2019t make such a promise so she called me \u2018a fucking weak person\u2019, we ended up having a discussion about how things were going and we haven\u2019t talked since last saturday. \n\n​\n\nAITA for expecting an explanation, for not making such a promise and for not directly listening to her when she said that she wants to break all contact again? I honestly really can't tell. I understand that she wants to move on, but imo this isn't the way to do so. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}727{"id": "ymMZtHwpi9e6ASBrvoGRiRjfNQ01SuXc", "post_id": "9zimu9", "action": {"description": "not spending Thanksgiving with my family", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not Spending Thanksgiving With My Family", "text": "I'm 16, my parents are divorced, and I have a license and a car. How our holidays work is we switch off every year, but my dad doesn't celebrate Thanksgiving (on the grounds that he hates most of the food, but we still sorta get together with my grandmother) so I spend every Thanksgiving with my mother.\n\nI've been a vegetarian for a majority of my life, mainly because I hate meat and so I cut it out of my diet completely. It's been about 10 years since I've eaten anything with meat in it on purpose. This is relevant to the story because I don't feel like my dietary preferences are respected during Thanksgiving. Almost everything has meat in it. I'm left with mashed potatoes and bread, and I really don't like the texture of mashed potatoes either so I'm stuck with bread. I've tried to discuss with my mother, but she doesn't really respect my diet either, and her family thinks it's just a phase. On top of that, her family is extremely Catholic. That alone doesn't bother me, but I'm gay, and they're very homophobic. They don't know I'm gay yet, but it still gets really uncomfortable.\n\nMy friend Logan, who is vegan invited me to his house for Thanksgiving. His family likes me and they are respectful of his veganism, so there's a lot of vegen food there. There's fake meat (which I don't like either) but they also just have normal food that happens not to contain meat or meat substitutes. Naturally, this was appealing and I told my mom that I'd prefer to go to Logan's house for Thanksgiving because I feel my diet is better respected there.\n\nShe told me the usual, that I was a kid and not supposed to make those kinds of choices, that there is still food I can eat (but as mentioned before, she means mashed potatos and bread), and that I should cherish and spend time with my family. I want to enjoy Thanksgiving, but I just don't feel like I'm respected or being listened to at all. She wanted to make me go with, but I just drove to Logan's house anyways. The food was great, and I felt genuinely welcomed. His family didn't really mind that I was there.\n\nIm currently typing this from my dad's house, as I ended up feeling guilty and didn't want to face my mother again. I know I shouldn't have just left, but I just felt really frustrated.\n\nI just want to know if I'm the asshole. Should I have just listened to my mother and dealt with it for another year? Or were my actions reasonable?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}728{"id": "8VsKk2AVQ3fFp4r4o9Eho97zRVcMHiUV", "post_id": "a4zqxk", "action": {"description": "cutting off my friend for seemingly minor reasons", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I cut off my friend for seemingly minor reasons?", "text": "So I just discovered this subreddit and thought I would ask this question because its one that I have been wondering about and my family isn't really objective because they will simply take my side. I had this friend in high school that I would constantly go to parties with and play video games with and we had a similar sense of humour but I really didn't like him for a number of reasons:\n\n​\n\n\\- He would always need money. He would want me to buy him food, he would need me to buy him cigarettes (I hate smoking so this really pissed me off) and he would also want me to give him money so he could buy weed. It got to the point where he owed me at least 200 dollars. Remember, this is high school, money is scarce and every amount of it I had, my parents are asking what I did with it. It pissed me off that I would be decent enough to give him some of the money my parents would allow me to have to spend on things I wanted and he would never pay me back and joke about how he never would like it wasn't a serious issue for me.\n\n​\n\n\\- He would take advantages of privileges my parents would afford me and ruin them. An example is that my dad would let me use his car every so often but it cam under the condition that I treat the car with respect and this friend would constantly insist on smoking cigarettes in the car and would light up without asking first. I got in trouble multiple times because of this and had car privileges revoked. He would also say we should just smoke weed in the car and then drive back to one of our places like driving under the influence wasn't a big deal. What if a bunch of intoxicated 16-17 year olds get pulled over by the police while high out of our minds. My license would get taken away and he didn't seem to care. Just do it! Whats the big deal??? And he would act like I was being a bitch about these things.\n\n​\n\n\\- He wanted to smoke weed every day. I am someone who has a bit of an addiction problem with weed. If I smoke it every day, my grades tank, I start putting on serious amounts of fat, and generally become a less functioning person but he insists on smoking it. \n\n​\n\nSo basically what I did was continue the friendship until graduation and then when I didn't need to see him again, I cut all contact and never spoke to him again. He would continue texting me for a few weeks after that wondering what was going on but I didn't respond. I just ghosted him hard and I feel bad about it sometimes. But I've barely smoked week since and lost 40 pounds and put on a bit of muscle. My grades in University were actually similar to those in high school which is unheard of. I'm just a better person and many of the goals in my life couldn't be achieved while catering to the type of lifestyle he insisted on if we were to continue hanging out. I don't really have any friends from high school though because they decided to stick with him rather than me. My relationships with my parents has improved drastically though and I've made better friends since. Maybe I should have handled breaking off the friendship differently. I don't know. I do know that he was not good for me. Am I the ass hole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}729{"id": "KRE6Gwfhx1JDfQo9f56C7gWDMDD9qqmB", "post_id": "awj880", "action": {"description": "not tipping the pizza guy when they constantly forget my extra sauce", "pronormative_score": 33, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA if I don't tip the pizza guy when they constantly forget my extra sauce?", "text": "TLDR at bottom. I used to work at both Pizza Hut and Papa John's and can barely stomach their food anymore, so whenever I get pizza delivery it's Domino's 99% of the time. When I order, I always order several of the extra cups or sauce. I don't expect it for free, I'll gladly pay for it if I can get the dinner i want. I use a lot of sauce on my food and also keep extras in the cabinet for home cooking and when they forget my sauce. I'm not gonna be an asshole and make them drive back to the store and back to me all for 1 garlic sauce for no extra tip, but after a while I get tired or having my order wrong.\n\nThe problem is, over 50% of the time they miss one or more of the extra sauces I paid for. Even after I ask the delivery person if they got all the sauces, they will still be missing or wrong. It got the point to where I've called the store and talked to the manager, he assures me it won't happen again and it does. So I started telling the drivers the next time they forget my sauce they won't be getting a tip. Now I used to be a driver too, so I know sometimes you forget things or the person on cut table didn't put the sauce in the box like they said they did. So I started putting in the driver instructions that I won't tip them if they forget my sauce. Nothing else I say or do seems to help. So last night, it happened. I ordered 11 extra sauces. I ask the driver when he gets there if he got all my sauce, he hands me a bag. Normally that's where I tip them but after getting it wrong so many times, I have to check. So I open it and check them, not only is the total count short by 2, missing 1 of the marinara cups and the only cup of icing for the dessert, all 4 cups that were supposed to be mango habanero were instead ranch that I ordered zero of. So out of 11 sauces I ordered and paid for, I only got 5 of them correct. \n\nBeing an ex driver myself, I didn't want it to come to this. But it had gone too far. I handed him back the ranch that I didn't order and told him I won't be tipping because the sauces were wrong yet again and that next time if they wanted a tip, my order should be correct.\n\nTLDR. I always order and pay for extra sauce with pizza, they have gotten my order wrong so many times I won't tip anymore if even 1 item is wrong or missing. Am I The Asshole?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 33, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 33, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}730{"id": "dodY9nakSYv6i4QS5CmiGQYUZdaAHGLr", "post_id": "acuwxw", "action": {"description": "not giving my son his x-box giftcard", "pronormative_score": 51, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not giving my son his x-box giftcard?", "text": "I'm holding the x-box giftcard my 14 year old got for christmas because he is failing math. He's failing math because he spends all his spare time on fortnight instead of doing his online homework. Grades in his other classes have been dropping as well, for the same reason; zeros for homework assignments. \n\nI would really like to know the opinions if other students.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 50, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 51, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}731{"id": "1UUdePBDmmxQGQbOiIfebnpvPmB9GSi9", "post_id": "b85mrl", "action": {"description": "not wanting to give my friend my number", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to give my friend my number?", "text": "Okay, I know that this isn\u2019t on the more extreme side of this subreddit, but I still need to know if I\u2019m the A-hole here.\n\nFor some context, for many years it\u2019s just been me and my best friend. We have tons of things in common and we\u2019re inseparable. I was never opposed to having more friends but that never really happened. Her and I message each other after school (not constantly) but we don\u2019t really bring it up in real life.\n\nOnto the rest of it. Recently someone else just kind of forced their way into our friendship. It\u2019s not that I dislike them for that, but their overall vibe and personality is what makes me dislike them. Sometimes it\u2019s fine, the day goes on nicely, no problem. Other times not so much. We don\u2019t argue or fight but I still get put off by everything.\n\nI\u2019ve dealt with it so far and I won\u2019t have to see her again at the end of the year, so it\u2019s cool, I\u2019ll just put up with it and then it\u2019ll all be over.\n\nUntil recently she started bugging me for a phone number to message me when we\u2019re not together in real life. I usually joke about it a bit and it naturally moves into another topic, but I know I can\u2019t avoid it forever. I honestly can\u2019t tell if I\u2019m the A-hole here or not. So, tell me, Reddit. AITA for not wanting to give a \u201cfriend\u201d my phone number? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}732{"id": "msFOZm7suGvfqadt9Pz20LftZtyIAdjQ", "post_id": "atsgj0", "action": {"description": "not wanting to visit my parents anymore", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to visit my parents anymore?", "text": "Growing up, my parents always took care of me, materially. I had a safe home, well fed, toys I wanted, etc. But they have always been emotionally distant, my dad especially. I know he had a tough childhood and his father was abusive. He worked a well paying but extremely physically demanding job, and even as a kid I understood that and realized that was why he didn\u2019t really spend ~~much~~ any of his time off with me. I\u2019ve always been a little closer with my mom. I could at least confide in her some and and we spent some time together doing things here and there. But we never could talk about anything too deep. She gets offended so easily. I always felt they have never really been all that interested in what I\u2019m doing or what I\u2019m in to. They were always like, do whatever you want, just don\u2019t get into trouble. \n\nI always longed for some kind of approval from them. I excelled in school, won awards for my art, I now own my own business, nothing seems to interest or impress them. They are super religious and I am not, btw. Their religion is the most important thing in their lives.\n\nAfter I moved out, and for many years, I would always go visit them about weekly, but for the past couple years, I have just stopped. Except for birthdays and holidays, I don\u2019t visit anymore. I just don\u2019t want to. It feels like work. We have nothing in common. Talk is so superficial, and short, and they just turn back to the tv after a few minutes of visiting. I just feel like a lonely kid again and I always leave kinda bummed. I don\u2019t even call anymore. They never call or visit me either. (They never did, it was always expected that I would call/visit them.)\n\nI honestly feel happier now, with this distance.\n\nStill, I feel a little guilty. Do I expect too much from them? Am I an entitled snowflake? My mom has asked a few times why I don\u2019t come by anymore, and I just say I\u2019m too busy. I don\u2019t know how to tell her how I really feel. She has said I need to visit, to show respect, for they raised me, and they love me and want to see me, but I just don\u2019t feel it. So, am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}733{"id": "kSfRyPV43O3n5xRxe5rV5u1PuFPvZHNL", "post_id": "a267jf", "action": null, "title": "AITA Michael Rappaport vs Instagram reminds me of this...I got banned from a BBS because an asshole thought a medical term was a racial slur.", "text": "So a long time ago, I made a joke on a bulletin board than an Asian actor looked \"mongoloid.\" Mongoloid is a medical term for \"a person with Down's Syndrome.\" I was reported and my post deleted for \"being racist and insulting to people from Mongolia.\" Long story short, I fought, I gave a list of medical journals and articles, and I got banned.\n\nThen, what pissed me off more is the actor in question is not Mongolian. \n\nPs. My comment was along the lines of \"The little girl from Modern Family distracts me because she looks mongoloid.\"", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}734{"id": "jm7oDISyixrUmFKr0qt0KF8pSJa7UfKH", "post_id": "9y42ul", "action": {"description": "not wanting kids", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting kids? (M21)", "text": "Idk I'm 21 and I've never really wanted kids. Its a huge responsibility lul", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}735{"id": "if233BAB8AgrzgOMNMnDUxUPEzQWIwv9", "post_id": "b2dkiq", "action": {"description": "being upset with my internet friend for visiting me", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset with my internet friend for visiting me?", "text": "So I\u2019ve had this friend for many years but we\u2019ve never met in person. Earlier this year, my boyfriend and I decided to move out of state (finally gonna have our own place!). Although we talked theoretically about visiting, my friend and I never actually made any plans. Then, out of the blue, she sent me screenshots of tickets out to my city! \nTurns out, she was planning on staying for a whole entire week. However, she didn\u2019t consult me on this at all and already told her parents that she\u2019d be staying with me (I live with my big family, it\u2019s really difficult to accommodate somebody since there\u2019s already so many of us). So here I am, already trying to plan an out of state move, and now I have to entertain her. She insists on certain experiences that I just CAN\u2019T afford right now (and I told her that). On top of that, after going out and spending money on one of those said experiences (in which my new meds fucked me up and I felt sick but she wanted to keep adventuring), I was absolutely exhausted and wanted nothing more that to relax in my own bed and play my own games. But when I said this, she flat out told me that I COULDN\u2019T play because she was going to play instead. Also, I went out for a bit to gather some stuff from storage and she went through all the stuff in my room and decided what of my stuff to keep and what to toss/give away (I did not ask her to do this). She even tossed some of my tax documents. Don\u2019t get me wrong, I\u2019m happy I got to meet her and we did have fun times, but this is also seriously stressing me out because I really wanted to spend this time organizing, packing, and spending time with my family. I had no idea she\u2019d be coming until it was too late. So here I am, trying to decompress so I can talk to her about it. But AITA for being a bit frustrated about all this? \nTLDR; an internet friend came to visit without consulting me but I\u2019m short on money and in the middle of trying to move. She insists on expensive, time consuming tourist experiences while I just want to spend time saying goodbye to my family and friends. She doesn\u2019t respect my personal space. AITA for being frustrated?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}736{"id": "w1jWxsbS05k7TZedKTyqwq7tbJMVN0m5", "post_id": "9vqd6o", "action": {"description": "thinking that someone who is a trans-female should not be able to participate in female sports", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for thinking that someone who is a trans-female should not be able to participate in female sports", "text": "Sorry for triggering anyone with this, I just truly want to know if this makes me an asshole. So why I ask this is because I believe that no matter how many surgeries or hormones you take, it is in there biology that they are men/boys and if they participate in female sports they will surpass all other women because they aren't women. Any long story short AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}737{"id": "ydMMSLTWazVhI2wxVXYoUfW8SVFpbhZA", "post_id": "ax3f9a", "action": {"description": "not giving my mom my ssn", "pronormative_score": 34, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not giving my mom my SSN#?", "text": "I\u2019m currently 26 and live on my own in CA. I was born and raised in MA until a couple of years ago when I decided to move out. Anyways, my father passed away since I was 17 and since then, my mother signed me off as independent and took me off her health insurance. She told me everything last minute. \nShe hasn\u2019t exactly been there for me growing up either. When I turned 18, she told me to live on my own and she will find a place for just her and my brother. Growing up since then, I\u2019ve been on my own financially. She\u2019s barely helped me grow up into the person I am, asked me for money all the time and she\u2019s never helped me get my license. I used to ask her to help me practice to get my license and she\u2019d say no. I also asked for help financially on driving classes but she refused to help. Since then, I accomplished everything else on my own. I used to be jealous of people my age back then who would graduate earlier than I did. Couldn\u2019t really afford school because I couldn\u2019t afford to be in debt. \n\nBefore moving into a different house, she asked me for my SSN so I can become head of the household and take care of the bills. Mind you, I was 18 at the time and wouldn\u2019t be able to afford anything, and I\u2019m sure my credit score will be ruined. But she would cover it up saying that it won\u2019t affect me if the house is under my name. Later I found out she asked me for my SSN because she filed for bankruptcy. Of course at the time I said no because I did my research on what could happen if the house was put under my name. \n\nA couple of days ago, she texted me for my SSN. I asked her for what reason. She said \u201cI don\u2019t need a reason just need your SSN\u201d and I said \u201cNope, I need a reason for this. \u201c we haven\u2019t talked since. Am I the asshole? \n\nSince I moved, we also barely talked. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 34, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 34, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}738{"id": "55drW1sWduOavLkBs7fhOKjkthtOsSjh", "post_id": "a7f94c", "action": null, "title": "AITA for how I reacted to my in laws following my son's death", "text": "Not sure if this is the right sub but I needed to tell my story and get an unbiased opinion. Using a throwaway account as I am not interested in Karma and the details are very private so I wish to remain anonymous. Warning this is long, as I am a very detailed person. This is just one issue in a very hard year, as there is much more.\n\n​\n\nTo start off I guess, my son is dead. My little boy was 13 months old. A pillar of health. We cherished and looked after that boy with all we had. His perfect on Tuesday and Dying on Wednesday, and passed 7 days later. This is a whole other story unto itself.  I got along well enough with my in-laws. my mother-in-law acts very immature and erratic. My wife told her mom used to an alcoholic. As I got more confident in my relationship with my wife I told her \"I think your mom might have alcoholic brain damage\"\n\nWhere I need help is this...\n\nMy son needed emergency surgery as his brain, for unexplained reasons, was swelling. They had to remove part of his skull to allow for the expansion. My parents arrived within an hour of my call. My in-laws (whom this post is about) arrived much later even though they live 30 mins closer.\n\nMy in-laws left as quickly as they arrived. My parents however stayed.  They slept on waiting room coffee tables waiting to hear if our little boy would live. He made it through that first surgery, only to pass away the day after mother's day.\n\nMy parents never left our side. Even though they had brought no clothes or supplies. My in laws on the other hand did not reappear until it was time to say goodbye. My mother-in-law arrived in Pajama shorts and a t shirt that was too small to hid her girth. She began to ask the nurse if they ever treated any murders.\n\nAs we took our time saying our goodbyes, she noisily played games on her iPad.\n\nThe nurses arranged it so we could take him outside one last time even though he was on life support. You see our son rarely cried but whenever he did we simply took him outside. It cheered him up instantly. Being outdoors was his favorite place in the world.\n\nMy wife went first, and held him one last time beneath the stars to say goodbye before I even had my turn my mother in law asked us to hurry up. I was furious. I told her in he calmest voice I could muster \"leave\". I meant for her to go home. She took it as permission to go inside. She stopped to clarify and I just said \"Go!\"\n\nWe brought my son back inside and they disconnected him from the machines that kept him alive. It was the hardest thing ever. (I have been diagnosed with depression, severe anxiety and PTSD and I am on anti-depressants as a result.)\n\nWhile we were waiting for him to pass on he slowly was turning grey my mother in law decided to clean up his hospital room. Problem with that is as you know she wasn't there, so the stuff she was throwing out was our paperwork from the social worker for grief support etc.  My mom stopped her from throwing it out. While I yelled at her to stop. All the while my father-in-law and sister-in-law sat there doing nothing with annoyed looks.\n\nWhen he was finally gone, my wife had to wait for the nurses to remove him from her arms, which is quite difficult as he was limp. My mother-in-law left immediately. When my wife got up she asked crying \"where is my mom? I need a hug\".\n\nWe did not see or speak to my in laws for 2 days. We couldn't bear the hurt on top of the grief. I decided to clear the air and invited just my father-in law for lunch. He arrived and made idle chit chat and then got up to leave. I said what about lunch? He said he needed to get home. We told him to wait; we needed to discussed somethings.\n\nWe described how hurt we were by my mother in laws behavior and he said she just didn't cope well. We said we would do our best to understand, but while we are sorting out our feelings please ask her not to disturb us, and also if she is struggling that she has the option not to come to our son's visitation, we would understand. His response was \"well I guess I'll go home and kill myself\".\n\n​\n\nI have no clue what he said to my mother-in-law. Next thing we know she phones and says \"I hear you are upset with me. TOO. FUCKING.BAD. I won't be at the visitation.\" 'Click'\n\nI was furious. I feel like I had just failed as a father, I was not going to fail as a husband. I immediately called her back and tore her a new one. Her response was \"I am not going to talk to you if you are going to use that language\".\n\nI said \"Fuck you! you don't get to swear at my grieving wife and then claim some kind of moral high ground!\" She hung up on me. She immediately phone my wife who has said and done nothing at this point. She calls my wife a fucking bitch and hangs up. She begins to phone us every 2 seconds. The she starts sending threatening texts that she will harm us.\n\nI call my father-in-law and told him to get things under control or I am calling the police. He begged me not to call the cops and took away her phone.\n\nThe calls stopped.\n\nWe did not receive any support from my wife's family. They did not attend any events prior to his Visitation. My father in-law showed up late to my sons visitation in cargo shirt and an old golf shirt.\n\n​\n\nA few days pass. I call my wife's aunt who I have gotten to know a little as they are not a close family.\n\nI asked her for some perspective on the my mother-in law. She said they had a falling out over 20 years ago. The aunt had apparently cancelled a sleep over between my wife and her cousin. The cousin didn't want to go anymore.\n\nMy mother-in-law told the aunt \"I hope you die\". She then drove over to their home knocked on the aunt's door and told her again face to face \"I hope you die\". Apparently My wife's family disappeared for 3 years. the extended family had no idea where they were.\n\nThen we spoke to my Wife's grandmother. She told us that my mother in law was diagnosed as bi-polar years ago and has a history of violent behavior, including smashing the grandmother in a car door, repeatedly.\n\nThe grandmother says re-iterates that they lost track of my wife and in-laws whereabouts for 3 years. She feared that she would be violent towards my wife. My wife broke into tears saying that her mother had beaten her repeatedly in her drunken stupors.\n\n​\n\nNow we have a clearer picture. my Mother in-law is mentally ill.\n\nMy father-in-law knew this and hid it from his children. He knew how unstable his wife was and still brought her to the hospital. He completely mismanaged the situation by keeping everyone in the dark. My wife asked him very respectfully for a break in communication(advice from her therapist) as she needed to heal and her family was hurting more than helping.\n\nIts been a few months and we finally heard from him again. I have copy and pasted his email below\n\n \"I hope you are doing well, you are always in my thoughts. I'm   \nwriting this email because we really need your help with mom.  \nShe has been in the psych. ward in the Brantford hospitable twice, once   \nfor 6 days and then for over 2 weeks.  \nThe root of this problem was her reaction to Luca's passing and how her   \nreaction to this was treated. As her therapist says, everybody reacts to   \ndeath differently and no two people grieve the same. I think it would be   \nhealthier if you two could\u00a0 get past this and start a healing process.  \nAt the present your mother is sliding back into her very depressed   \nstate, brought on by two things: the absence of Lucas and the absence of   \nher eldest daughter. She said this to her therapist at her latest session.  \nI'm sure mum miss's you and thinks of you often but is nervous to reach   \nout to you as you may not be ready for this.  \nMoms therapist is very concerned with your moms mental state so........I   \nthink a phone call or set up a visit ( just you ) to see if you two can   \nreconnect at some level, even if it's meeting at a coffee shop or at   \nmom's therapist's office. Whatever you are both comfortable with.  \nIt may or may not work but I see this as a good viable option to whats   \ngoing on now.  \nSo, mull this over and please let me know if us getting together is a   \npossibility. We would really like it to be.  \nLove Dad. \"\n\nIn her response my wife told him everything we had learned and pointed out how he had failed as a father, including this email which was void of fatherly concern for her well being. She did offer to meet with mother in laws therapist, if it would help.\n\nHis response was \"Sorry to have disappointed you. Have a nice life!\"\n\nI was furious with this email. Not only did he not care about my wife's mental state, he did not try to reestablish communications first before making an ask.\n\n​\n\nMy wife has made the decision she is done with her parents. I have supported her decision as they have been toxic to both our recovery.\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 69, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 70, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}739{"id": "3XxANHRRhatuk5dyAuTiXco3BXNT26Co", "post_id": "a1daq8", "action": {"description": "calling someone a \"degenerate\"", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for calling someone a \"degenerate\"", "text": "Ok so this happened several months ago. To preface, I was not having a good day. A bunch of things had gone wrong that day and I was running fairly late for an appointment with my therapist. I was not in a good mood. \n\nI was riding on the  subway when two guys walk into my train car. One of them seemed fine but the other was holding a bottle of vodka and couldn't stand up straight. It was pretty obvious this guy was very drunk. He became annoying very quickly as he started ranting about nonsense to his friend. Although he hasn't harassing anyone he was just generally being rude and annoying and combined with all the other shit that had gone down that day, I was pissed off. I took my phone out and I wrote a message in one of my discord groups complaining about my situation. \n\nI then somewhat jokingly wrote in reference to the drunk guy \"what a degenerate\". Now I know that the word degenerate can have some rough connotations, so I just wanted to clarify that I didn't mean it in the way a nazi would use it, more of like the live in your mom's basement, NEET, piss in jars, sort of degeneracy. Anyways my friend in the discord chat basically called me out and said I was being unnecessarily cruel and an asshole. I was more surprised than anything because this is a guy is someone who usually doesn't care about what you say; you could spout every racial slur and swear word in the book and he wouldn't care. I pointed this out and said he was being hypocritical, because he had made fun of me for getting offended by language in the past. He argued that this was different because I was specifically targeting an individual. \n\nIn the end I apologized and he expressed sympathy as well. The drunk guy got off the train a few stops later, and everything was put behind us. However I keep remembering this incident for some reason and I just wanted to see if others agreed with my friend?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}740{"id": "Qzp3JRiwBjVRKeEq7lWVRrAcajPGpSZx", "post_id": "awi60z", "action": {"description": "playing the door trick on younger siblings leading to them to choosing to walk", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA Playing the door trick on younger siblings leading to them to choosing to walk", "text": "I had to pick them up, I forgot where my car was so I walked in the opposite direction. They laughed and told me where the car was ( they could see it from the door). I, still in the playful mindset, did the door lock thing ( lock the door when they touch the handle) so the older one (11) of them decided they'll walk. I thought they were joking but watched them walk. I drove up to them and let them play the handle again, they walked away laughing. I drove again and got out the car, I was kind of done by then because I start feeling sick. I asked if they were going to get in and they said no and walked off again. They had cross a busy street to get to the other side to the neighborhood, I doubted the younger one(8) could do it but couldn't do much about it. I tried parking near the light but couldn't so parked at the elementary school further away. My mom drove pass and I told her they were walking and she blew up on me saying that I wanted people to go to jail.  Let me note that even kindergartners walk home because are neighborhood has two elementary schools and a middle school. She drove to pick them and I drove behind her, she got them and did the whole pointy angry finger thing. When I got home she acted like nothing happen but later I heard she plans to take the car away so I have to find a way to get to uni after spring break.\n\nThe story the kids are telling everyone is that I refused to drive them and they were forced to walk home which isnt possible considering they were laughing and joking the whole time. My mom doesn't want to hear my side and now i'm stuck. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}741{"id": "oZZPzsNe1IUmniK157fTViOemE9zkwJf", "post_id": "ahv9f3", "action": null, "title": "AITA Anxious friend being overly needy or am I a bad friend?", "text": "I have a friend who lives about 30 minutes away from me. He doesn't drive due to his anxiety, but he has a car. \n\nWe go to school together, and the school is pretty nearly right between our houses. Say 15 minutes away from me, 15 away from him. \n\nI know he has a lot of friends who live closer to him, who he normally got rides from before he met me. I've always been service-minded, so when he asked me (2 days in advance, which I found reasonable) to give him a ride to school one morning at 8am for an event, I agreed even though I had work in the opposite direction from the school at 9am. I did this to help him out, especially because I didn't think he would be able to find anyone to help him out that early in the morning. This trip for me was a total of 70 minutes (work is 10 minutes away from my house, had to get him there early so that I could make it on time).\n\nEver since, he has been asking me for rides everywhere. We only have class at the same time once a week, but every week he asks me to drive him home (30 minutes out of my way because 15min there and 15min back, plus regular commute time). Once he even asked if we could both leave class early to get food, which I declined.\n\nHe doesn't have a job due to his anxiety, so he can't buy his own lunch and often asks me to take him to get food and then to pay for him. He also can't offer to contribute to gas for this reason. \n\nTLDR Anxious friend who lives in opposite direction of school from me asks me for rides and food but can never pay me back. \n\nI'm trying to be understanding, but I'm losing patience with him. Is he acting entitled or am I not patient enough with his mental illness?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}742{"id": "AttJyhv4VE7osX4eHBlmiNaJT4QveWu8", "post_id": "b0xjx2", "action": {"description": "getting angry with my parents for using the money I got from selling my games", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for getting angry with my parents for using the money I got from selling my games", "text": "So my tablet broke for absolutely no reason. Just stopped turning on. I only got it in 2017. It doesn't charge anymore. It's essentially one big brick. My parents said it was my fault and they won't get me a new one until my birthday in October. Like hell I'm waiting till then just to get a replacement. I told them to bring over half of my PS4 games to CeX (it's a place where you can sell games). I couldn't go myself because you have to be 18 to sell stuff there. Anyways I wanted to get an iPad Mini 2. It's not that great but I just needed a tablet replacement. My tablet was the key thing I used to study and had all my notes. The iPad Mini 2 was about 150 on eBay. Anyways my parents sold the games and I got more than 150. Happy days. They told me they would put the money in my account and I bought the iPad in the morning. The iPad has been shipped and I should he getting it tomorrow\n\nBut the thing is when I got home for school they told me they used the money for insurance and they would put the money in my account next month. I was shocked. I don't even know how I was able to buy the iPad without the money in my account but I just checked my account and know it says direct debit unpaid of 150. I think I have debt in my account now and I told them and they said it was my fault for buying it. How is it my fault? I sold my games to replace it and they used the money for it and now there is a debt on my account", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}743{"id": "KHLbgjXxd7swCeJ9nUJbcCc1y8INmKlt", "post_id": "9x8b2u", "action": {"description": "telling a girl I want to fuck her while I was fucked up", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for telling a girl I want to fuck her while I was fucked up?", "text": "this girl let\u2019s call her lila she\u2019s been one of my best friends since I was 14 and we\u2019ve been through a considerable amount of bullshit together. fast forward to now, me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year and a half now and I love her more than anything. I also have a xanax problem. the other day I took a particularly large amount of xanax and texted lila saying we should fuck, now, even in my barnyard mode this was semi-ironic because she lives on the other side of the country as me now. however my gf is really really mad and that\u2019s understandable but she thinks I have to choose between her and one of my closest friends and I need to block her and completely cut her off, and I won\u2019t. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}744{"id": "LYOVaJwUSRdrVxoxXUAnm6qZjSGQeKNJ", "post_id": "9x35py", "action": {"description": "not wanting to lose money", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to lose money", "text": "My ex and I are still good friends after having broken up over a year ago, we are both weed smokers although I do smoke a bit more than her. I usually buy a larger quantity to get a better overall price and split it up to last accordingly. She asked me to sell her some, which I'll only do because she is a good friend. I told her that I'll give it to her at the same price I paid for it. She said she wanted a friend's rate to which I said that's the friend's rate is, no profit no loss. She argued that I should give her a better price and be willing to lose a little because we are good friends. I refused and said that's not how it works, it's not about the money(debating about 5$/10$) but the principal of the matter. Am I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}745{"id": "uwdWr3ALEebtUq3eMxC2w6FV5nqSq07F", "post_id": "b7fozm", "action": {"description": "creating a private Instagram Account to post my college results as well as life updates", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For creating a PRIVATE Instagram Account to post my college results as well as life updates?", "text": "Hi everyone,\n\n​\n\nI recently got called out on my private instagram account for trying to harm other seniors at my school by posting my college results. I created the account around late February as a way of helping me remember the last few months of my high school career. I intended to post only my life updates, and it just so happens that college decisions happen to be a part of my high school career.  \n\n\nEarlier this week, I was accepted to my dream school, like the one I was longing to go to ever since I was 5. I shared my excitement in a post. Most of my friends were super happy for me, which is what a normal person would expect. However, there's one person who basically says that my posts serve only berate other students and essentially pour salt on people's wounds. I explained to them that what I'm doing isn't any different than sharing with your friends in person where you got in / where you're going to go. I also told them that if I wanted to cause damage to others, I would have just posted in on my main account. I just want to know, AITA for posting my college decisions on my private account, an account where people that are close to me choose to follow?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 22, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}746{"id": "GJ0zZi9eg34nH2DZNxjFLezqFtEFcxzf", "post_id": "ahtp2a", "action": {"description": "not being thankful that my husband has shortened his trip to Canada so he can travel around the US with me", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not being thankful that my husband has shortened his trip to Canada so he can travel around the US with me?", "text": "I\u2019m genuinely unsure if ITA in this situation. Hubby and I have been planning a trip to the US and Canada. The plan we had been talking about for the past year is that we would travel in the US for 5 weeks and then I would go home while he travels Canada for 3 weeks alone.\n\nWell he\u2019s been doing so itinerary work and showed it to me yesterday and asked for my expectations of how many days we would be in LA. I said \u2018my understanding from what we discussed previously was that you wanted a relaxed holiday, but what you have here is really full on\u2019. That upset him a lot, he yelled at me and said I was just criticising all his hard work without letting him take me through it, and that i have no empathy for him.\n\nToday we were talking about it again and he said \u2018I\u2019ve compromised so much on this trip for you. If it were up to me we wouldn\u2019t even bother doing the US. Because of this, I now can only be in Canada for a week.\u2019 Well this was news to me because he had never said that, I had no idea! I told him he never mentioned that and that he really should go to Canada because he\u2019s been wanting to go since he was 15 and it was important to him so important to me, I don\u2019t want him doing the trip to the US for me if it means he misses out on something. And he blew up at me, he said \u2018no I want to do this, I just want you to recognise how I\u2019m giving up and compromising so much to do this with you.\u2019 \n\nI feel like I\u2019m being a wretched person for not being more thankful my husband wants to spend time with me, as I would have thought that\u2019s a given if he\u2019s choosing to do it? If not he can absolutely go to Canada if he feels like he\u2019s giving up so much. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}747{"id": "m1ujXAaR2aMNRWcG3tjMSqz6jC5e0f18", "post_id": "akc8yq", "action": {"description": "losing it with a depressed friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for losing it with a depressed friend?", "text": "Well, \"losing it\" might be a bit harsh on myself, but I'm feeling a bit torn on this.\n\nI have a friend who has been involved with a cult that has been stalking him in the US. He fled to Mexico to pick himself up and I've been sending long messages of encouragement, suggesting books and ways to get him back on recovery for about 2 months now, since he's been saying he's felt suicidal. He's broke, so I sent him \u00a3150 to look after himself, even though I've been out of work for over 6 months and not exactly in a great place myself.\n\nHe was doing well until the cult started sending him messages again, and he said he's feeling suicidal again and hasn't tried cutting off contact with people hard enough so they don't reach him. He said he's going to cut contact off with me as well as a result, and if I want my money back, I just have to let him know. \n\nTo me this felt like a dick move, as I felt he's putting the decision on me to take the money back and leave him worse off, and to cut off contact with me just seemed ridiculous, as he's saying I'm the only person to pull through for him. I just can't grasp how that, and the loaning money (which I'd never see back again anyway, I knew) means cutting me off would be good for either of us.\n\nI get he's in a dark and paranoid place, but still. \n\nI sent him a reply saying he's going to sleep on it and feel like a dumbass for that message. He read it and didn't reply, so I asked him if he'd given up on the amateur dramatics. \n\nHe's now blocked me and kept the money. I never expected it back, and either way I want him to have it because he clearly needs it... But I don't know if I'm a dick for the messages I sent and not being a bit more understanding (I kind of exhausted myself on listening to him complain up until he decided to cut me off) or if he's just being really dishonorable here?\n\nI was suicidal 2 years ago and nobody was there for me, so I decided I'd try and be there for somebody else, but I never foresaw someone making it so hard.\n\nAm I the dickhead here? I even feel bad for thinking if someone is going to do something like that, they shouldn't put the pressure on the other person to decide what to do with the money, and if you're going to block and cut someone off like that, you shouldn't run off with their cash?\n\nI'm really confused whether I'm the asshole here? I think I am because of my expectations I might be projecting on him? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}748{"id": "vwSy1ar8DJSRZZbonsXiI0gmGXGrlQNI", "post_id": "avajut", "action": {"description": "being annoyed with my room mate and her girlfriend and their constant PDA", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed with my room mate and her girlfriend and their constant PDA?", "text": "So I'm in college and live in an apt. I live with my best friend bf and a few other people. My best friend has been dating a girl for like 4-5 months. From day one her girlfriend basically moved in. They are always here and most of her stuff is here. Usually I don't mind bc I love her and her girlfriend. But, they constantly spend time with each other. She is here when my bf friends up, they drive to class together, eat every meal together. The only time they aren't in each other's company is when they're sleeping, showering, or in class. They do this weird little baby voice to each other constantly and it drives me up a wall. They are always kissing and touching and being cute but its ALL THE TIME. I know its not technically PDA bc its in our apt. but I feel like I'm third wheeling where I live. They only spend time with each other and the people they live with including me. They are so sucked into each other constantly that sometimes I'll be saying something but they ignore it bc they're whispering in their baby voices to each other. Maybe I'm just a cynical lonely person who need to let other people be happy. Am I an Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}749{"id": "rg4TQZE091GGSi25kVG4nmED46ImxXzf", "post_id": "9yab77", "action": {"description": "kinda threatening to expose a plagiarizing \"artist\" on FB and now I'm considering doing it", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA: I kinda threatened to expose a plagiarizing \u201cartist\u201d on FB and now I\u2019m considering doing it...", "text": "This girl from my high school (we\u2019ll call her N) has been consistently posting pictures of art she says is hers for several years now. N also frequently posts about her \u201canimation internship with Disney\u201d and how awesome it is, We have a lot of mutual contacts, including old mentors, teachers, friends... and they all post supportive comments quite frequently. \n\nA couple years ago, I did a little digging and reverse image searched her stuff and found that almost all of it was not original. She just blatantly ripped it off the web.  When I discovered this, I made a burner account and messaged her my proof and told her to stop lying to everyone. I stopped short of threatening her but I told her the truth may come out eventually if she keeps this up. \n\nN proceeded to block the account and post that someone has been stealing HER work and she is looking into legal options. After this, I just dropped it and left it alone. \n\nFast-forward to now, N\u2019s online following has grown and her followers really eat up her success, her art, and her (obviously) fake stories that tug on people\u2019s emotions. She still continues to post plagiarized work but she\u2019s gotten better at hiding it but I just found more proof on recent stuff she has shared. \n\nI am tempted to message the respected people in our circle and \u201cexpose\u201d her because it\u2019s not right that they are being manipulated and lied to. I work in the creative industry and it really grinds my gears to see people blatantly do this. \n\nAt the same time, she is clearly obsessed and/or delusional and I\u2019m wondering if I should just leave her be considering there is a mental issue at play. \n\nAm I the asshole?\n\nAny feedback is appreciated!\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}750{"id": "O8bDMlx2vaWsxqgqmJLyobxjB74GSkvy", "post_id": "ba62aw", "action": {"description": "defending myself", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for defending myself? (Long)", "text": "so just a little background: i had a \"friend\" (L) who would constantly talk about me and how i shouldn't voice my opinions.\n\nwhenever i post things, it is suddenly always \"about her\" and she thinks i've said nasty things about her when i never did. well the other night a fb page posted about gordon ramsay and his son and this woman commented about how she was so pleased and happy for them. she also mentioned her son who had the exact same name that passed away. multiple people commented saying she was \"pissing on their parade.\" i responded with \"she's not, y'all are just insensitive and rude as hell.\" \n\nand of course someone (A) on my fb feed saw it and screenshotted it and decided he HAD to make a post about it. he deleted the post but said that sometimes people shouldnt voice their opinion and that im \"hearing this, but obviously not listening.\" i ended up complaining to my boyfriend about the post. i never mentioned L or A hating on me for my opinions but apparently L thinks i did. she texted during 8th period yesterday and this is how the convo went: \n\nL: \"So. I hate on you for your opinions now? Okay. I\u2019m sorry A said that. I had nothing to do with it. But you could\u2019ve kept my name out of it. Please don\u2019t ask me for a ride anymore.\"\n\nMe: \"i didnt say that?? where did you get that\"\n\nL: \"Someone told me exactly what you said this morning. Thanks for that.\"\n\nMe: \"what are you talking about\"\n\nL: \"You said something about people hating on your opinions, cough cough L and A.\"\n\nMe: \"who told you that?? i never mentioned your name.\"\n\nL: \"Ok.\"\n\nMe: \"oh but course you're gonna believe them. because you think im out to get you right?\"\n\nL: \"Yeah I believe them. Sorry. I\u2019m done. I can\u2019t handle this anymore.\"\n\nMe: \"i never fucking mentioned your name. but ok. we've known each other for years. i dont know why you would believe someone else over me. literally all i mentioned to alex (my boyfriend) was that A made a post and i was upset (which i have every right to be) and i never said anything about you or him hating on me for my opinions.\"\n\nshe looked at the messages, but never answered. someone is lying to her about me because they either hate me or are trying to get her fired up. AITA for defending myself to her? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}751{"id": "euNN7pV6MvFNXuLlbosKjXdw7ZsUFcbd", "post_id": "9zrzlo", "action": {"description": "cancelling my trip home for the holidays", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I cancelled my trip home for the holidays?", "text": " \n\nTL;DR at bottom.\n\nProbably one of many similar posts - I know it's never possible to give full details, but I'll try. My family suffers from a range of mental challenges/conditions/illnesses: ADHD, Aspergers, depression, substance abuse, gender identity, anxiety. Although miraculously none of the uglier symptoms present themselves around friends or guests, they all come out in the wash during family holidays. This year, the parents rented a cottage in the middle of nowhere, so we will all be stuck together with no place to go.\n\nThis Thanksgiving has been a foretaste of what I fear will happen come Christmas. In just the last two days, I've been through enough mental illness crap to make me not want to come for Christmas. One sister had a two-hour violent meltdown over playing MineCraft (she's 11) that resulted in my father having to restrain her about six times. The other has ignored the houseguest from Japan she brought home from college (who, unfortunately, has had to witness all this going on), and freaked out during a board game: there was some confusion over a move that did not involve her: my family tends to get loud and talk over each other and that triggered her anxiety which resulted in her throwing a fit and her game pieces and storming out of the house. Just today I was yelled at for 'always looking for an argument': my mother announced her intention to shut off the internet for several hours to install a new router and I observed that I (and the Japanese exchange student) were working on online classwork. I'm typing this expecting the internet to shut off at any moment - I retreated to a closed room to avoid further conflict over the issue.\n\nI have tried to adopt the perspective that my role is to be a peacemaker as much as possible (e.g, acquiescing to simple demands, being a kind host to this poor Japanese girl and just talking to her). However, this Thanksgiving has made me feel that I am horrible in that role. I will admit that their behavior does not always bring out the best in me - I do not take well to my sister hitting and kicking my parents or the dog, for example. I am fully aware that some of this behavior is beyond my family's control; however, it is frustrating to see it under control around friends/guests, but receive the full brunt of it over political discussions, or even stupid things like games. Part of the reason I'm considering cancelling my Christmas ticket is so I won't end up becoming one of several assholes over Christmas.\n\nI fully anticipate that between the various diagnoses and differences on politics and religion that there will be several shitshows come Christmas. However, this holiday is the one time of year my entire family gets together. We will also have a bit of extended family joining us, too. If I don't show, it will be noticed and talked about, and break my parents' and grandparents' hearts. I've also had to pay nearly $1000 for Christmas travel, which I will only get about $600 back in the form of travel vouchers if I cancel. I have no idea what the alternative would be, as I don't have another family to 'adopt' me for the holidays (e.g., SO).\n\nTL;DR: WIBTA for skipping family Christmas to avoid conflict aggravated by mental illness, knowing that it will hurt my family deeply if I don't come?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}752{"id": "poqF3UqBM3kkxx7xZT7hG6w9s2ZjNh2f", "post_id": "b016zw", "action": {"description": "throwing away my bathroom stuff after my parents left it with my plunger", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA because I'm throwing away my bathroom stuff after my parents left it with my plunger?", "text": "I just moved with my parents to a new state for medical reasons, and I'm still unpacking stuff for my bathroom. A box that I thought was just cleaning supplies turned out to contain my water floss machine, other dental supplies...and my plunger. Not wrapped in a seperate bag, not new and unused...my plunger, that was in my previous bathroom for years. Now I have to throw all the stuff away because of course, that's disgusting. \n\nSo should I feel bad that I'm going to throw away expensive bathroom stuff that's clearly plagued with germs?\n\nTLDR; Parents packed bathroom supplies with my not-at-all-new plunger.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}753{"id": "56rouM70FyWNNEyNLD2TX7vu9qO0pwv5", "post_id": "b6crhh", "action": {"description": "demanding my friend to apologize for making a joke about a project I've spent a lot of time on", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for demanding my friend to apologize for making a joke about a project I've spent a lot of time on?", "text": "I was assigned a project in one of my classes, where we get a board and make something out of it. I decided to make a shield. After a few hours of work, I was really happy with the way it turned out and decided to talk to my friend about it at lunch the next day. So lunch rolls around, and I bring it up in our conversation. He jokes and says \"You should've made it a Hylian shield. I thought for a second and got upset, since I was proud of it and put a lot of effort into making it look nice. Now he is mad at me for being upset at the joke, and I really don't know who is being the asshole here, me or him?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}754{"id": "F7MgBzKIPKsUlaHWnSbXXkal144PxNsv", "post_id": "avn1jv", "action": {"description": "being disappointed that my new friend is gay", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA for being disappointed that my new friend is gay?", "text": "I am a str8 guy in my early 30's, and let me just start by saying that I support the LGBT community and believe in equality. That's why the following situation kind of surprised me. Using a throwaway account because I'm not super proud of myself.\n\nSo before I continue, I need to tell you that I've always felt insecure about my looks, and my average height and average build - or even below average growing up. I've always had interest in sports and all things considered \"masculine\" but I've often been left out of matches, sporting events, bachelor parties etc because I've always tried fitting in with the more masculine tough guys, and although they've always been formally nice to me, I don't think anyone has ever seen me as their peer. I've learnt to accept it, but it's always been a mild frustration for me.\n\nSo about two and a half months ago I joined a new firm, and everyone has been pretty welcoming, inviting me over for a drink after work etc, but I've started noticing the same pattern. Guys playing sports over the weekend don't invite me, or don't take my comments about sports, or relationships etc seriously... Again the big guys have their own circle where I don't feel like I fit in. But there is this one guy who's been very friendly, helpful and overall did everything he could to help me adjust to the new environment. Now, this guy is about my age, maybe a few years older, everyone at the office likes him, he's a great worker, and physically he's very imposing, tall, good looking, well built... everything I've always wanted to be, and more than anyone I've known he's shown interest in my opinions about sports, politics, relationships etc, and he's invited me to matches, sporting events and such. I know it's childish, but this really made me feel like I was finally accepted into the \"boys club\" after feeling left out for most of my life, because I didn't look right, or wasn't tall enough, confident enough, or whatever it is that someone did or did not see in me.\n\nSo a few days ago we went for a beer after work, a couple of us colleagues, and after everyone else went home, my new friend and I talked about women and relationships for a while, and it turns out he's gay. I've never had a close gay friend, only a few good acquaintances I share with my girlfriend, and like I said earlier, I've always supported and respected the LGBT community. But I have to admit that I was kind of disappointed that this guy is gay, because I've always wanted to have at least one friend like him, who would share my interests and who would accept me as I am, but I always assumed it would be a str8 guy. Am I the asshole for being disappointed here, or am I just overthinking this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 19, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}755{"id": "VK4oCqZrFxicHPBGvdfrI6U0m4gI6XCr", "post_id": "amo24t", "action": {"description": "encouraging my 4y/o to push away another kid who keeps violently hugging her", "pronormative_score": 554, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA for encouraging my 4y/o to push away another kid who keeps violently hugging her?", "text": "Just had a fight with my SO because of what I told our daughter about \"legit violence\". Going to roll the story out as short as possible.\n\nSo there's this kid in my daughters day care. He's the same age but often shows some strange behaviour. Overall he's a cool little brat and I actually like him for being somewhat rebellious, mostly because I think his parents are crazy helicopter parents. Anyway. My daughter told me that this kids greets her every day way \"too hard\" e.g. hugging her uncomfortably long and forceful. Sometimes he kisses her in this situation. She says that sometimes she laughs it off and thinks it's funny but sometimes she really doesn't want it and he won't stop even if she yells at him. I saw those \"greetings\" some times and know what she means. \n\nShe already told the teachers but they barely see it happen and the other kid won't stop it even after being told by the adults. \n\nSo basically I told my daughter that it's totally okay to push someone away in such a situation. I said if someone hurts her and won't stop even when she screams at him to do so, when the other kid forces kisses upon her and so on, it's absolutely fine to push him away. \n\nI watched her thinking for a few seconds, then she replied \"but he might push back or beat me if I do this\". I simply told her \"then you push him back again and/or run away and tell an adult\".\n\nMy SO overhears our conversation and told me I'd be wrong here. That it's always better to tell the teachers and not use violence at all. I said I didn't tell our daughter to beat random kids up (and we are very straight in raising our daughter concerning violence to other kids) but to use legit force in a situation where someone violently forces himself on her. I think our daughter is old and clever enough to recognize the difference.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 512, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 42, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 554, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}756{"id": "vqB5wJ9dtjPbOoeLyFKGUmvoZBNMvClz", "post_id": "aje5fw", "action": {"description": "asking a manager to intervene", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for asking a manager to intervene?", "text": "I have a coworker who I only work with occasionally, she's fine I like her, but we're both working on a big project and part of it is editing which she's supposed to do. (I did the  bulk of the writing so this is a second set of eyes thing) I sent her the document last month with a scheduled January 15 date for return to me so I have time to make any changes. Last week she scheduled a call to talk about the edits on Tuesday of this week. I build in a few week buffer for myself so a week delay isn't a big deal. Then she rescheduled to Thursday (today) because she's got a minor surgical procedure and doesn't want to have to come into the office that soon. Again this is fine. Today she sends me a \"Hey I still can't come in, I have to reschedule for tomorrow afternoon.\" She has a quirk about sending the edits without a meeting and I usually just let her do her thing because the meetings are short. But now I'm getting irritated because this is turning into two weeks of delay and I'll be squeezed for time because of other projects. I know she has a medical issue, but I'm ready to ask her boss to intervene and just send me the document so I get started. Is that an asshole move?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}757{"id": "igIIBRxOtxgYcPi9cFM5EUrLTzhLY7NK", "post_id": "asgevt", "action": {"description": "rejecting my drug-addicted mother", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for rejecting my drug-addicted mother?", "text": "Long story short, my mom (I don't even remember her age at this point) has been an addict for as long as I (32M) can remember. \n\nThere has been plenty of times where she would strand my brother and I on the weekends when she was supposed to pick us up, leave us at school, sneak out of the house with her addict friends in the middle of the night, steal from the family, etc. The list is long. \n\nShe went to Florida for rehab probably a little over a year ago, and I was totally fine with her being far away and starting a new life. At least that was the hope. She would call me every now and then and I would answer, even though I had plenty of resentment. I'd let her see my daughter around Christmas time, as well. \n\nWell, she's back around my parts and running the streets again, stealing, the whole shabang. Since then, she has made several attempts to wedge herself back in our lives as if nothing has happened. \n\nI've completely had it. I won't answer calls, won't go to a family function if she might be there, and will not let her see my daughter. I don't see her being any better of a mother now than she has ever been. \n\nI feel in my heart I'm removing a piece of cancer from my family life, but a small part of me still feels a bit sad about it. Am I the asshole? \n\nTL;DR: My mother is a life long addict who has tried to come back into my life, but I've shut her out completely. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}758{"id": "ThMx5MKFeTE44lLN5belyPN3ZJoteO15", "post_id": "b1wq51", "action": {"description": "not wanting to have sex with my wife", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA because i dont want to have sex with my wife?", "text": "I love her to the moon and back, and I don't want to live my life with anyone else, but I have an extremely low libido and I just don't like having sex. It's gross to me and it's just not fun. But I know she wants it and drops a lot of hints...apparently keeping a tally of how many times in the last year we've had sex. Even drops the \"i just take care of it myself\" line frequently. \nI hate that I'm this way...AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}759{"id": "YPTFiu6GwldEJ6qeSzOTn0GuPBAMwQUe", "post_id": "ahm4b4", "action": {"description": "wanting to leave my parents", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting to leave my parents?", "text": "Note: I am genuinely not seeking validation here, and I understand my perspective is inherently biased. I just want to see what some people think of my situation and views\n\nI come from a family of what I believe to be toxic and abusive parents. There are too many details to wrap up in this one post, but basically they are very religious people, and do not approve of most of my choices. At home when I am around them, I have to become a different person and essentially lead a double life, which I find to be very taxing.\n\nAfter I graduate college and find a stable job I plan to cut them off, disconnecting any and every means of contact, essentially ghosting myself from them.\n\nI\u2019ve talked to both my brother and a few of my close friends about this and they all tell me that I\u2019m wrong for wanting to do so. They say that I\u2019m selfish for leaving because my parents have provided for me my entire life (financially, food, housing, etc.) and are now financing my entire college degree so that I don\u2019t have to take out loans. On top of that, my brother told me I would be tearing the family apart by leaving.\n\nIt\u2019s just that I hate my parents so much for being so abusive all throughout my life. Being around them just fills me with rage and makes my skin crawl. I don\u2019t know if maybe I\u2019m right, or maybe I\u2019m just fucked up.\n\nDo you guys think I\u2019m the asshole for wanting to leave? If there is not enough information, I will gladly answer any questions to the best of my ability.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}760{"id": "3tUUGbnewnYi0kQjBMSbqCi5fUEcPFD8", "post_id": "ay75ki", "action": {"description": "going after a girl that rear-ended me and destroyed my car", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for going after a girl that rear-ended me and destroyed my car?", "text": "Posting from a throwaway. \n\nRight now I'm in college at a large western university. I have to park in a lot that is notorious for accidents. The stop to exit is at the bottom of a big hill coming around a blind corner and there is at least one rear end accident a month because people go too fast down hill and can't see that there's a car stopped there. \nThis is exactly what happened to me yesterday. I was waiting to exit onto the road and was absolutely slammed into which pretty much totaled my car. Thank god there's no injuries, I got very very lucky. \n\nSo here's where it gets weird and where I may very much be an asshole. When I got out there was this absolutely stunningly gorgeous girl looking over the damage and crying her eyes out and saying how incredibly sorry she was. I THOUGHT she was saying that she was distracted and had made a huge mistake and therefore assumed she was the driver. I told her that it was ok and that we'd let insurance cover it and maybe it wasn't that bad and that she really had nothing to be sorry for since accidents happen to all of us. We talked for maybe 2 minutes and I was in such shock that I had no idea what I said, she is now claiming that I said that I wouldn't call the police or even turn it into my insurance. I MAY have said that, but I don't think that I did...but honestly I was shaking so bad that I don't know what exactly I said. \n\nAfter I got done chatting with her another girl started to get out of the drivers seat. I was completely confused because like I said I assumed the girl I'd been talking to had been the driver but it turns out I was wrong. To put it mildly, the actual driver was not nearly as \"cute\" as the other driver was the first thing that I noticed. She was so obese that she was essentially stuck in the car and her friend went around to help her. And instead of crying or being sorry like the girl I thought was driving had been, the actual driver got out of the car and started screaming bloody murder at me about what an asshole I was to have been stopped there, how it was totally my fault, etc. I was so pissed I instantly called the campus police to have them come do a police report. \nBut because I had allegedly \"forgiven\" the girl I thought was driving, both of them started calling me everything from asshole to nice guy because they assumed I was willing to let the \"pretty\" girl slide on the accident. I honestly don't think I ever said that but I do admit I was much nicer to her which was partly based on her looks in total honesty, but so much more based on her attitude and not blaming me. the police found the driver at fault but even the officer gave me a dirty look when she found out what I allegedly said to the \"pretty\" girl.\n\nAm I the asshole for treating these girls differently and being much more congenial to the pretty girl than the way I'm going after the girl who actually caused the accident?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}761{"id": "XvQPAVgWg50rhOH0yWeVYP6iMmMZowUe", "post_id": "b59hf0", "action": {"description": "telling a girl I know to stop posting so much about sex", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "WIBTA if I told a girl I know to stop posting so much about sex?", "text": "I know this girl from my school called Stacey. She and I are both 15. About 98% of the girls at my school are feminists and they believe in sexual liberty including myself, and her. She has an Instagram account, and I'd always see her post of wanting to have sex or jokes/pictures lifted off Tumblr about sex. Recently, she even posted a picture of her friend, Adi, and captioned each picture with shit like 'dickilious' and 'don't worry, I have those in my mouth all the time'. Another time, she posted a selfie and captioned it with 'I need a dick in me, right now!' \n\nShe once posted a picture of a girl wearing panties that read 'dinner's on me'. Another time she started making those bottom text memes, and all of them were hella provocative, with one saying 'get into bed and remove your clothes, now!'\n\nI'm all about being free with your sexuality, and talking about sex, but keep in mind she's 15. It feels inappropriate watching her post this stuff. But I also don't know whether me telling her not to would come off as wrong, because it is her profile and her posts, not mine. If I really am uncomfortable, I should just unfollow her, right? \n\nBut at the same time, I feel like it is wrong for someone her age to post stuff that says she needs a dick in her.\n\nI don't want to take any stupid actions that would make her angry and me seem overbearing.\n\nSo, WIBTA?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}762{"id": "wrqKjEDFoqfcuRaMr3cdGmmdlqr9cfVZ", "post_id": "b608jh", "action": {"description": "wanting to spray my ex's clothes with my perfume", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for wanting to spray my ex\u2019s clothes with my perfume?", "text": "So backstory, my ex broke up with me a few days ago. It was not mutual at all and I am devastated.  Personally I was really blind sighted by this, as I thought our relationship was going great and then he just out of nowhere said he had been praying about it and realized that God thought we should break up. I also prayed about our relationship (we\u2019re both fairly religious) and I felt like God was happy with our relationship. Anyway, he told me he\u2019s willing to talk about it in a few days, but he needs time. So I\u2019m thankful for that. \n\nHe\u2019s asked for his stuff back: his hoodie, some pairs of socks, this necklace he gave me for Valentine\u2019s Day, a stuffed animal he gave me for Valentine\u2019s Day, and his apartment keys. And he\u2019s asked that I grab my stuff: my acoustic guitar, a Phantom of the Opera mug, and some clothes I left at his place. I\u2019m going there tomorrow while he\u2019s in class because I can\u2019t really bear to see him yet. \n\nBut for some reason I feel compelled to spray his hoodie with my perfume. Right now it smells like him (and my tears but that\u2019s because I\u2019ve been a mess and I miss him a lot). I don\u2019t know why I want to do it. It feels manipulative. What do you guys think? Is it an asshole thing to do? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}763{"id": "yWRYksihXeyz9LNQWV7waBh4FHVnUETJ", "post_id": "aztfnd", "action": {"description": "apologizing to my ex", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I apologize to my ex", "text": "Okay, right off the bat; I'm the asshole in the context of this, but I'm looking for forgiveness from her and I'm wondering if *that* would be an asshole move.\n\nSo about a year ago I broke up with my first serious girlfriend (we were together a year and a half). It was most definitely not a clean breakup, and it all went down in flames. In one of our last arguments (over text), she told me that while we were talking about getting back together she had already hooked up with this one other guy. After that, she gave my number to him and he started trolling my social media and insulting me, my family, and my friends while alluding that my ex told him a bunch of secrets I told her when we were together, and started rattling off on some sensitive things.\n\nThis pissed me off, and in retaliation I told him he should stop wasting his time talking to me and go fuck my ex, because she's \"easy\" and immediately sent him a bunch of explicit images of her she had sent me. They weren't nudes, as she was fully clothed, but they were provocative pictures of her in her underwear and making semi-sexual poses. This is something I know would immensely embarrass her and they both blocked me after that.\n\nMonths later, I have a new SO and my ex tries to get in touch with her. She says that she's been going to therapy and her therapist supposedly told her to get in touch with me or someone close to me in order to get closure, but she then does this by bad-mouthing me. My current SO tells her to fuck off and then tells me about it. I felt pissed for a while, but then I started feeling sorry for her and that I genuinely do want to give closure, not just for her but for myself too.\n\n​\n\nWIBTA if I tried to? I feel as though I was the asshole already, but would it be wrong to try and fulfill her wish of getting closure? \n\n​", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}764{"id": "Cd1FACTYLKSYJZhOQcH3G21amLCphD10", "post_id": "b5lkhn", "action": {"description": "calling my ex's friends because he needs help and won't ask", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if i called my ex's friends because he needs help and won't ask?", "text": "My recent ex and I have a complicated history. We have known each other for approximately 25 years. We started dating a year and a half ago. We were both abused, and we have a lot in common, including PTSD. We both hate asking for help because if an abuser helps you it means you owe them something. So, I made a lot of excuses for him.\n\nAbout 6 months ago he got fired and went into a deep depression. I have been drowning financially but supported him and he was unemployed the entire 6 months. I asked him to get help and he refused. It got to the point where I would be homeless if I didn't kick him out and start over in a new, smaller/cheaper place. \n\nSo I did. But we continued to see each other. He's been resentful and emotionally abusive on and off. He stayed the night and then started moving stuff in and we got in a fight because he doesn't respect my boundaries and I said he can't live here until he starts helping and gets his shit together.\n\nI am at the end of my rope. I broke it off.\n\nThis happened yesterday. Tonight he came here begging me to stay the night because he \"has nowhere else to go,\" and would be fucked without his storage key. None of this is true. He lost the key a few days ago. It isn't here. Also he yelled at me and called me names earlier today and OH HE DOES HAVE PLACES TO GO. Now I'm not saying it's ideal, but he has plenty of loving friends who would help him. But he's a stubborn ass and I promise he's going to sleep in the street tonight out of spite and obstinance, and try to get me to let him in tomorrow.\n\nHe's got a really sweet friend who offered for him to stay with her and her fiance and I know he hasn't told them what's going on out of shame. Should I call her and let her know? \n\nPlease keep this in mind: I love this man. He's a jackass, but the both of us have survived trauma worse than most people and poverty. If we weren't stubborn, we'd be dead already. And frankly I'm not mad. I feel awful. I am sad. \n\nAm I the asshole, or would I be if I called his friend and asked her to try and get through to him? \n\nSorry for jumbled explanation. I'm a little emotional still. He just left. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}765{"id": "XUrzERvfjtPmsvlxXGI4UtjLJAfTEavO", "post_id": "azdnh6", "action": {"description": "forgetting upset with my mom", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "Aita forgetting upset with my mom", "text": "Sorry is this is kinda confusing , I am new to this\n\nSo I am a very introverted person (m16) and I have started running everyday because I want to work on my health and fitness.\n\nSo I have been running for about 50  days and I am quite enjoying it but I made my Mum promise not to make it a big deal cause I don\u2019t like attention and that kind of stuff. Another important part is that my brother also does running and he has been doing it for years and my parents are really proud of him and when he reaches major milestones like day 50 , 100 , 1000 etc but as I am a more introverted person I don\u2019t really like it when they do the same,\n\nSo the main part\nI have just reached 50 days and I found out my Mum had made. A Facebook group involving close family and friends about my running and it made me very uncomfortable, I had to talk to my mum about it \n\nSo am I the asshole for not happy about it", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}766{"id": "u3Tpx7ba0jgDHjsQLzup69Ptiwbx20at", "post_id": "a7zexx", "action": {"description": "not okaying weird fetish", "pronormative_score": 23, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not okaying weird fetish?", "text": "Today my girlfriend who I'm in an LDR with (I'm in another country for work) admitted she had a weird fetish. Upon asking about it she said she liked to think of me and her as the people in porn she watched. No big deal there, they're actors or anonymous couples. She then continued to explain she also likes to visit sites like Omegle or ChatRoulette and pretend to be other people and talk to other people. Word for word she said \"it gets me horny, idk\". She explained that it's basically like porn, she's just using it to get off and since she's just having sexual talks with strangers and pretending to be someone else it's not bad. She also explained it's only at times I'm unavailable and that she \"thinks of me when she's talking to them\". I told her no, she shouldn't continue to do that, and that the difference is that she is interacting with another person, and whether she's pretending to be a different person or not she's still sexting someone else to get off. \n\nMy issue is that if she needs someone to sext or whatever she can just wait for me to get home from work and message or call me, and I explained this and how it amounts to emotional cheating, but she seemed kind of dejected by the whole thing. I also explained that I'm not super hurt or mad over it because I can see how she came to the conclusion that it's okay, but it's too weird and seems to easily escalatable for me to be comfortable with.\n\nSo my question is, am I the asshole for not approving of my GF's weird fetish when it's online, distanced from her actual self, and is with people she is incredibly unlikely to meet, with no video or other real info exchange. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 23, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}767{"id": "ilTnyRzOQQjnAiIPxVE473GKQSlI7EZN", "post_id": "ai60ge", "action": {"description": "wanting my mom to break up with her boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting my mom to break up with her boyfriend?", "text": "I know that this may seem like some angsty teen (f15) thing but this is actually really bothering me. My parents are divorced and I live with my mom and her boyfriend of about 6 years. Him and I used to be pretty close until he started becoming really manipulative towards my mom, then towards my sister and I. Let\u2019s just say my sister and I aren\u2019t drinking his shitty grape flavored bootleg kool-aid. That causes quite a bit of friction between us all. For example, this weekend I was at my dads house (only me, my sister (f19) is still out of town), which is usually a hard time for my mom and her boyfriend because they are not on good terms with my father, so generally when I get home from my fathers house my moms boyfriend is pretty irritable at times, other times he\u2019s pretty cool. Today I came home and I was wearing a cropped shirt (which I am not allowed to wear, but my mom will allow it if I am wearing pants that are high waisted or a shirt under - basically if my stomach isn\u2019t showing). I had just gotten out of the car and my stomach was showing a little bit because my pants had fallen down a little; before I could pull my pants back up or even say hi to him the first thing he says to me is him getting on to me about my shirt, and I mean he\u2019s pretty aggravated about my shirt. I might be a brat for this but it upset me a little, so I said \u201cwell it\u2019s nice to see you too.\u201d with a bit of an attitude. He got pretty mad. He proceeded to tell me how I don\u2019t respect myself because I dress like a whore and that he didn\u2019t care if everyone else in the world does it, I can\u2019t. I get where he\u2019s coming from and all, but he couldn\u2019t have said hi to me first or at least approached it better? He\u2019s never been a father before he met my mom and doesn\u2019t really understand how fragile a teen girls self confidence is, my mom said something to him about it, but then he told her that she\u2019s making him out to be the bad guy because she doesn\u2019t want to parent me. This happens quite often, but only when he is feeling stressed/insecure, which he just got bad news on Friday at a doctors appointment (he has type two diabetes and is in denial about it). I know he\u2019s just trying deflect some embarrassment onto me, but Im getting pretty tired of it and beg my mom to leave him all the time. She says that he is her soulmate and that she would be miserable without him, but by staying with him she\u2019s slowly losing her daughters. I persistently tell her that but it just angers her even more, ever since she\u2019s met him she\u2019s completely changed as a person. She\u2019s I love with him and I know that she hasn\u2019t had that in a very long time, so I feel like a bad person for resenting someone she views so highly. Im probably just going to move out after my senior year and only visit them once a year or so. I feel happier when I\u2019m not around them and I think they\u2019re happier without me. Am I in the wrong for resenting my mother and her boyfriend so much or do I actually have a good point?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}768{"id": "0eRu5kFpKQbRb2Z6so1NQi5dnhBImXzE", "post_id": "aee2om", "action": null, "title": "AITA in this conflict with my abusive dad?", "text": "My father was heavily abusive growing up. Mental, physical, and sexual, controlling, and manipulative as hell. Despite this I have tried for years to make a relationship work between us to no avail. About 3 years ago it was feeling incredibly one sided so I just stopped contacting him to see if he actually had any interest in speaking with me of his own volition and in maintaining the relationship. Communication dried up for those years.\n\nMy sister doesn't know about the sexual abuse and as her older brother I took the physical abuse for her because I saw it as my duty to protect her, but she lived through the mental abuse maybe even worse than I had it. For a while this rightfully (in my mind) turned her against him. But then her husband threw her out in the streets on another continent and my father was the one she called and the one who came and got her through it. Good on him doing the right thing.\n\nWhere this gets more complicated is now in her eyes my dad can do no wrong. I was having a conversation with her about how much I wished I could have a normal relationship with him and her new view of him on the pedestal colored her words highly, but I didn't realize that at the time. After a long conversation between us I had the ridiculous idea that maybe it was all a misunderstanding and we just needed to communicate through it. That did not go well as I'm sure you can imagine.\n\n2 years ago I broke no contact with him and sent him a text. He is a multimillionaire and I live in poverty and have no insurance. I got test results that pointed to a high likelihood of cancer. I had no way to pay for any treatments I might have needed, was scared, and needed a father. I asked if he could loan me some money to help pay medical bills. He refused to help me at all if I did not move back into his house with him and claimed I was entitled for rejecting his \"help\" and asking for a loan, in many colorful words.\n\n(With no money to pursue further treatment or testing I still have no idea if I have cancer so maybe I'm dying? I don't even know. I've lost over 100 lbs in that time, albeit coming from obesity, but still it doesn't exactly seem like a good sign that I'm now underweight without trying to be.)\n\nWhen I spoke to him again after talking with my sister, I tried to explain how that previous conversation impacted me and that I wanted to find some common ground and try to move past this. At this point he throws my mental illness in my face and says I am not capable of knowing what I need and he knows better than me (despite knowing absolutely nothing about my life). This is where I snapped.\n\nMy entire life he promised to pay for my college education and he didn't even though he could have easily. No big deal under normal circumstance, whatever, it's his money. But I was pissed. I threw it in his face, hard. I chewed him out for every major and minor slight I could think of. I said I wish I didn't love him. I told him he was an awful parent and maybe if he had been successful in his suicide attempt when I was 4 I wouldn't be so fucked up with all the mental problems I have from his abuse.\n\nMy sister won't speak to me and I can't really blame her. She definitely sees me as the asshole. And even if she wasn't wrapped around my dad's finger, after saying something like that to him I don't know that there is ever a scenario where she wouldn't. But I'm sitting here thinking if she really knew the extent of the sexual abuse I suffered (or maybe even just knew it had happened at all) she might understand why I snapped and why the thought of just being around him gives me nightmares. But I want her to get a chance to have the kind of relationship I know I will never have with him and I don't want to ruin that chance for her by telling her.\n\nI know I shouldn't have said what I said. That's not even in question. It was a horrible thing to tell anyone. But given the context of our relationship and everything he has done to me I don't know if it makes me an asshole or just a guy pushed one step too far.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}769{"id": "wgmHh4K7nGOfkaU0Wru3ir5uSdbtoFFo", "post_id": "a41iti", "action": {"description": "never signing any birth certificate or paying pregnancy-related medical costs without a paternity test", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA if I would never sign any birth certificate or pay pregnancy-related medical costs without a paternity test?", "text": "This is inspired by [this fairly popular post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/a3q3r1/aita_for_being_angry_with_my_fianc%C3%A9_for_wanting_a/). I do find it unfortunate that, in that post, the fianc\u00e9 only mentioned this after the pregnancy. Regardless, a couple of years ago, an ex-girlfriend of mine told me she was pregnant (two days after our breakup, ostensibly by me). I told her that whether to keep the child was her choice, but that if she wanted me to support this child and/or any of the medical costs of the pregnancy that there would have to be a paternity test, and that if she wanted to do it after birth I would pay her back half the medical costs then. She got furious at this, and it turned out later that the whole thing was a fabricated attempt (literally using a pregnant friend's urine) to manipulate me into getting back together. (She had BPD, long and fairly hellish story there, hence breaking up with her to begin with, though I hope she's doing better now.)\n\nSince then, though, I've been pretty conscientious about being up front about this. Any time things have gotten serious with a girl, when we have that conversation about wanting kids or not (I very much want kids), I make sure to mention that I would never, regardless of any amount of \"trust,\" put my name on a birth certificate without knowing for a fact the kid is mine. Even for a second, third, etc. kid with the same partner. Pretty much no ladies have had a problem with this.\n\nThe responses to that post, however, seem to be full of people asserting that the fianc\u00e9 should just trust her and not take into account the massive financial, legal and time sink that can go into raising a child that isn't yours. People said he acted out of, for instance \"irrational fear.\" Given the average $233k cost (not including time and energy) to raise a child, and the $500 (max) cost of a paternity test, simple math tells us that if there's a 0.2% (500/233,000) chance of infidelity, it makes sense to get a test. And I mean, while everyone should trust their partner... why would you not make such a *tiny* investment to be safe?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}770{"id": "Ic9CqZES7tkUYAicFFi0Si0fahznximz", "post_id": "b91kj2", "action": {"description": "dating a racist girl", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 85}, "title": "AITA for dating a racist girl?", "text": "So i've been dating this Ukrainian girl named Diana  for a week now and i really really really like her. She's one of the most beautiful girls i've ever seen, she's smart, she's funny, sweet and just fun to be around. I've never been more happy in my life. However there is one problem, she's kind of racist. I live in Europe so its not much of a problem but she's kind of racist against black people. I think most people in eastern europe. My dad told me of stories of his work trips to russia and all the russians made threatening gestures to the black people in his group. Im guessing its kind of a cultural thing and curing racism isn't really simple cuz I've done it before. It's a long and erduos task to cure somebody of racism. I've been trying to get my girlfriend to not be racist or at least not say or do anything racist against black people in front of my friends and family. Some of my friends (one of whom is black and one of my best friends for the past 3 years) has been complaining i've been dating a racist. He says I'm betraying by dating her but I don't feel like i am. I don't want to make a choice between but he's making an ultimatum. I stop dating her or I stop being friends with him. He literally said \"bros before hoes\" and he says i have a few days to make my choice. I don't like getting this ultimatum and I'm trying calm him down and also get my gf to not be racist. As far as i know the only racist thing she did was say she doesn't like black people that much or would ever want to go to africa (he's kenyan btw). WIBTA if i stuck with my girlfriend on this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 74, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 11, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 85}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}771{"id": "1Mxrxs9qUrQJKM2WGmxs2GP38i2XXfP9", "post_id": "atxtzk", "action": null, "title": "AITA for how I've handled my roommate?", "text": "For context, my roommate is a 32 year old man I found on craigslist\\\\ and I'm a 22 year old trans man (not sure if he knows; not super relevant imo). He moved in a few weeks after I did, last June. We started out okay; we'd go out for drinks or game together or just talk and it was fine. \n\nNot long after he moved in, he started drinking my alcohol without asking. The first few times, I told him I didn't appreciate him drinking my stuff without asking and to knock it off, and mentioned money. After that, I told him to knock it off and that I wanted him to pay me back for taking my stuff. He said he was an alcoholic, I apologized and said I didn't know and said I'd keep my stuff in my room, only to catch him sneaking into my room to take my stuff. I don't drink anymore because of new meds, but he's never paid me back for any of this.\n\nHe also has an issue of not being able to aim when he pees. I've tried to bring it up in a polite way, but nearly every night half the bathroom is covered in piss and it's really gross. I get that he's an alcoholic, but that doesn't make his pee everywhere any less gross. \n\nOn top of that, he blasts his TV every day. I figured asking him to use headphones at night would be a good compromise, so I asked him to be quiet after 11 PM. It's too loud for me to knock and ask him to turn it down so I try and text and ask him to turn it down, and if he doesn't I assume he's passed out and unplug the router in my room until it stops. If he's not asleep, this usually pisses him off more and he'll start screaming. This has all gone on since the beginning.\n\nI've made a point to not swear at him or raise my voice until I had it last night. I had a migraine all day, so at 9 I texted him and asked him to turn his TV down since I had a migraine and he said ok. He ended up going out a few minutes later and turning his TV off, and I fell asleep. He woke me up at 11 with his TV blasting, and I asked him to turn it down again. He didn't, so I unplugged the router until he started screaming and then went out for a smoke. I texted him again to keep it down, plugged the router back in, and when he came back he blasted his TV again. I finally knocked on his door until he heard, told him to shut up and called him an asshole. I don't necessarily regret it - I don't think I'm wrong - but it feels childish to have to unplug the router or whatnot so I can sleep. Am I being an asshole here?  If so, is there anything else I can do or a better way to handle this? I feel like I'm ready to tear my hair out living with him.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}772{"id": "TxakhSveokqXPfNHy6ZDbfVsPdK1XGHO", "post_id": "a14i1m", "action": {"description": "telling my wife to sit down", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for telling my wife to sit down?", "text": "So earlier tonight my wife was making dinner, she is very pregnant ATM and she was in pain, I offered to cook dinner earlier but she refused and said I could do it some other night (that's her go to almost every time I want to do something involving household chores.) so she started to get more and more overwhelmed with everything(primarily pain I believe). She then went to sit down and out son (3 y/o) was in the way and she raised her voice at him, I told her \"He's a 3 year old boy, Jane\" and she didn't respond but dropped the attitude towards him.\n\n​\n\nAfter a few minutes she started to get frustrated again(at no one) and started growling and that's when I kind of went a little aggressive and told her that she should just like me cook and she responded with \"You'd probably fuck it up\", I responded with \"It's fucking Quesadilla, Jane; Not exactly rocket science\" she then said \"I want to do this, John\" I replied with a frustrated tone \"Seriously, you're 6 months pregnant, stressed out and clearly need a fucking break. It's tortillas, all I have to do is throw what you have already made on a tortilla, sprinkle some cheese on it, throw another tortilla on top and put it in the over for like 5-10 minutes, PLEASE sit the fuck down.\" at this point she was crying and I felt like an asshole and just shut up and let her make the Quesadillas while she was crying.\n\n​\n\nPS: I'm probably not going to do a follow up because this isn't a big deal as far as our relationship goes and I just feel guilty and want to know if I did do something wrong or not.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}773{"id": "E9JIo9vIDTJpHwLPQeCukTWX9uH6CnAj", "post_id": "a9cmf2", "action": {"description": "not wanting any communication with my 13 year old sister", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for not wanting any communication with my 13 year old sister?", "text": "My brother and I were raised by our grandparents and turned out very normal I guess. My parents raised my sister and they had very different conflicting parenting styles (they are now divorced which seemed to stem from my sister's problems) which essentially resulted in her never getting diciplined for anything ever. The results have been a 7th grader who has about 2 full blown temper tantrums per day, bullies her peers, ignores (literially pretends she doesn't hear) anything she disagrees with, is completely self centered and doesn't try to hide it, and is very materialistic. No one in my family wants to be around her, even my parents. \n\nSome examples of her behavior: she tried to stab me twice growing up, my brother once, and my mom once. She kicks my cat to get to me. She will ask my mom to buy her things everywhere she goes and when my mom says no she will have full blown tempertantrums in the middle of the store. She says that she hates everyone behind their back (my dad's girlfriend, my mom, my boyfriend, my brother) just for attention. She looks under the tree at christmas and sees that she has one less present than the rest of us and then throws a fit because of it, etc. My mom started drinking heavily at least in part because of her, and my dad was borderline emotionally abusive to me to take out his frustration for over three years. \n\nToday we celebrated christmas at my mom's house, and a large chunk was tainted because of her behavior. My boyfriend, brother, and I are all back home from school for the break and wanted to spend time with my mom but she turned it very negative. It's my mom's first christmas after a divorce and she has no one to spend it with, and my sister didn't even care about how selfish she was being. Once we got home I was sitting on the couch with my boyfriend being sad because of how it turned out, and my dad saw me and wanted to get me to talk about it. We talked for a second, just mentioned that my sister was rough today and it kinda sucked. What he said boiled down to \"she just wants to be included and I know it's hard to include her but it's important to understand\" which is true, (I'm not trying to call my dad out for this) that is the reason for her outbursts, but at the same time when she has such bad behavioral issues it feels impossible to be around her at all. This is an assholeish thing to say but honestly I wish I wasn't related to her at all. \n\nI guess the core \"am I the asshole\" is I am away at college all year, and I have the option to spend breaks with my boyfriend's family. I love my family (excluding my sister), but every time I come back I feel awful because I truly can't stand to be around her. I don't want to talk to her. I don't want to text her back when she texts (and I haven't been), I don't want to try to be friendly, I don't want to be the \"good big sister\" anymore. I tried that for years and all it got me was anxiety, abuse, and loss of friendships from people not wanting to be around her. I don't want to be her sister at all. Don't want her to visit me, don't want her to come to my graduation, don't want her to be in my wedding if I get married, don't want her to be around my kids if I have them. I want to tell my parents that I am distancing myself because of her, but my dad has always said that family has to come first, and he stopped talking to his own mother for a while because she didn't invite my sister to a family dinner. My plan is a bit more serious. I would only visit for short periods of time and stay where she isn't. I would also not communicate in answers more than \"yes and no\" with her unless it would disrupt someone else in my family. AITA for trying to get away?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}774{"id": "n6EjaRkwNXVIDj44w4Db3Su0Sj7gsAex", "post_id": "a0a6vw", "action": {"description": "ruining my coworker's fun", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for ruining my coworker's fun?", "text": "Earlier this year, I was the 'new guy' at my job. It's a working man's job and could easily be considered a prime example of the place where you would find \"locker room talk\". The guys tend to give each other nicknames and call each other different things, often light-hearted, without any bad intention. We all really seem to appreciate each other there and if there's a problem for some reason, it's public.\n\nWhen I was pretty new to the job, my co-workers found out pretty early on I was largely an introverted person. I think this has changed a bit, but this make me stand out a lot in the group. \n\nAt one point, my co-workers were calling me the \"school shooter\" for reasons I could only discern as me being introverted. I'm well past high school age and I didn't even stay in college, and I'd never had the intentions to be a shooter. It was certainly a weird nickname for them to give me, but I never did find the reason behind it.\n\nOne day, we were outside in front of customers, and my co-workers were ragging on me as they sometimes do. They were calling me the \"school shooter\" in front of complete strangers. I really didn't like that, and I already didn't like the nickname at all.\n\nAfter we got back inside to our 'office' I began telling the guys how I felt about the nickname and I told them, not asked, to stop calling me that. A couple were a bit taken back, with one of them just leaving the room entirely. In my mind, I think I was justifiably mad about the nickname and the incident. After all, who wants to be called a school shooter?! It just seems so horrible in my mind.\n\nAm I the asshole for ruining my co-workers fun? Or am I justified for trying to defend myself and make sure I wasn't associated with something horrible?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}775{"id": "xDFc69i1EFXN9at5appukakCi7tiTHI0", "post_id": "aw05fe", "action": {"description": "walking away", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For walking away?", "text": "I 22M have opted to just walk away from 20F after a month of \u201ctalking\u201d to see how things would go and to see if dating would be an option. \n\nFor context I have depression, insomnia and despise everything about myself and am in my final year of uni, she has a lot of stress due to getting a new job and medical issues currently which she may need surgery for later in the year.\n\nYesterday we were talking as usual and then she sent me a paragraph which when paraphrased said this \u201cwe both have a lot of our own issues to deal with currently, as much as she has tried she can\u2019t seem to like me to make things work and she can\u2019t ignore that it won\u2019t work and she\u2019s been trying to and doesn\u2019t seem to be getting there. It\u2019s also just happening at the wrong time too as with everything going on with her is zapping everything up so she doesn\u2019t feel ready for dating or anything like that right now so she doesn\u2019t feel she can cope and that she\u2019s sure that somewhere down the line that if she\u2019s past her issues and that we\u2019re both single then she\u2019d love to try again\u201d am I the asshole for just walking away as I wanted a relationship and wouldn\u2019t be happy as just friends?\n\nTLDR: Got friendzoned am I the asshole for just walking away despite her saying she might try again in future when things are better?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}776{"id": "JY2KFZ4J0V74WvSn30lZOogMkoYSkmy1", "post_id": "asku59", "action": {"description": "not wanting to hang out with a suicidal friend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to hang out with a suicidal friend?", "text": "OKAY so obligatory yes I'm on mobile and yes the title sounds bad. \n\nContext is I met a new friend online less than a week ago, and she lives near my town and said she wanted to meet IRL and she was going to come to my town with a friend, if I wanted to meet up (this was I think the day after we first connected). I don't usually do stuff like that cause it makes me nervous but she seemed cool and like someone I'd get along with, and the conversations we had while messaging were interesting and I'm trying to make new friends so! I said sure.\n\nWe got coffee the next day and basically she kind of just talked AT me for two hours, it was a little overwhelming cause I'd ask about her art and she would end up telling me about something really personal from her childhood, etc. She's a good story teller so it was interesting but she didn't really ask me questions or engage in stuff I said except to start talking more. It ended, it was fine, we went our own ways and she left town that night. \n\nThen the next day, today, she said some cryptic stuff about wanting to see me again if she 'was still around'. I thought she was a cool person, but wasn't realllyyyy planning on trying to hang again, but I felt like I needed to make sure she was okay. Basically she told me she was planning on committing suicide, I talked her out of it for awhile, now she's going to go maybe check herself in to some inpatient situation cause she's really in a bad spot, so that's cool! Crisis averted.\n\nSo now, she is saying 'if she makes it' she wants to hang out with me again and that I seem like I'm 'really worth knowing' (red flag! /s) and I don't want to like, lead her on by saying that I want that too, and then disappoint her later when I don't follow up or anything, but also she's in a fragile brain space so I don't think I should just say no thanks, I feel like either way I'm kind of the asshole? I just feel like she's really intense already for how little we know each other, and I don't think it would be a sustainable or healthy friendship for me to pursue. I think she feels more of a connection than I do, probably cause she told me her whole life story over coffee yesterday. I think I'm going to just try to be as supportive as I can but not really make myself that available to hang and kinda let it fizzle away..\n\nSorry for the novel, but AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}777{"id": "FsMZ6xOXkdocJFjZDo0OMiq8K4qiLaEc", "post_id": "ba2edw", "action": {"description": "not buying s homeless man a cup of coffee", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not buying s homeless man a cup of coffee?", "text": "Let the fun and hate mail begin. Just left the jack in the box drive thru. As I pulled into the covered drive thu there was a man in an overcoat with an umbrella leaning against the wall.  He promptly came up to my window and asked for a cup of coffee. I explained I was all plastic no cash and apologized. He dug a handful of coins out and said he had it. I folks him I m", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}778{"id": "mCfm7cQRuNuTxF95tX0kilCYTOLvG6b1", "post_id": "a61603", "action": {"description": "ignoring and blocking a christian boy for saying he believes homosexuality is wrong", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For ignoring and blocking a Christian boy for saying he believes homosexuality is wrong?", "text": "Backstory on my times dealing with Christians (actual Christians, not regular theists): Last school year tried dating a Christian, it didn't work and he didn't like me being atheist and we broke up. We were way better and connected more as friends, however he didn't \"agree\" with homosexuality and we got in a couple arguments about it, but it was one if the straw that broke the back to that friendship. \n\nMy best friend/cousin is a Christian and never expressed any type of disinterested in me being bi or any type of disliking towards gay people\n\nNow here we go: I met this Christian boy through my high school band program. He's homeschooled, a grade higher than me, and I only see him in band and after school Thursday rehearsals first period in the morning. I had no problems with him and we've even had peaceful biblical discussions and talked about his grandma being a Jehovah's Witness, and it was kinda nice being around him. \n\nSo two days ago (8 periods at my school so A and B days) in the morning were waiting in the band teacher to come open the doors. While outside I start joking around, and he doesn't really get my sarcasm/jokes so I tell him not to take it seriously and throw it back at me. After he said OK the conversation went like this:\n\nMe: OK. Now let's agree you're a racist, sexist, homophobe.\nHim: *laughs* You know, I was almost jumped last year for saying I don't agree with homosexuality.\nMe: *laughs in case it's a joke* You're just kidding, right?\nHim: No I don't actually agree with it.\nMe: What? Why?\nHim: I believe it's wrong because the Bible says it's wrong. (exact words, no this isn't a movie script)\nMe: *walks away without a word*\n\nI -kinda shamefully- immediately blocked and deleted his number, along with blocking him on Instagram and making him unfollow me. So today I refuse to do our usual talking in the morning, and after school as we were finishing putting up stands and chairs he walks up to me (don't remember exact words except the last thing he said so he's a close version of what happened):\n\nHim: Are you OK?\nMe: *slightly aggravated tone that pretty much carried out throughout the conversation* I'm fine\nHim: *concerned* illiteratetrash if there's a problem you can tell me\nMe: so you're really gonna pretend like you didn't say that homophobic thing earlier?\nHim: Listen, I'm not homophobic, OK? I just don't necessarily agree with it. \nM: I'm not doing this again. I've dealt with Christians that thought like that, no, I just can't do this again.\nH: But I'm not homophobic. I have gay friends, and I love my gay friends, I just don't agree with it. \nM: That's the thing you don't like it\nH: It's not like I hate people but I'm not gonna pretend like what they're doing is alright. (exact words, I swear this isn't a soap opera)\nM: I'm not doing this to myself. I'm bisexual I'm not gonna deal with someone who thinks like that. No. \n\nI leave for my bus a few minutes after that. Now that I'm reflecting on it about a few hours later I feel bad. I told my sister and she laughed at it saying \"Sounds familiar. You reeeaaalllyyy know how to pick them, huh?\" referring to my last bf\n\nAm I the asshole for not forgiving?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}779{"id": "EpAtwpO9pFeOzt3iv6CxkyV3jJxQoQPy", "post_id": "aq1t3a", "action": {"description": "not wanting to see my dying father", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to see my dying father?", "text": "Okay, this sounds bad, but there\u2019s context, years of it.\n\nBasically, we recently found out my father has a disease and it\u2019s slowly killing him and his brain to the point where he can barely recognize me. He\u2019s been rude and mean to me and my mother for years, ever since I was young. \n\nAll I remember from my younger years are fights between my parents, my father usually the instigator. He\u2019s always been a dick and an asshole to my mother and myself, as he was mentally abusive and fucked with my head and verbally abusive for years. Now, I\u2019m away from him, but my mother is pushing me to see him.\n\nIt\u2019s almost as if just because he\u2019s physically sick she\u2019s using that as an excuse to force something between us. Now, I\u2019m trying to be clear, she cannot force anything, if I want to I can just walk away and leave this situation behind, but I don\u2019t feel that it\u2019s a good thing. For years he\u2019s been such a detriment to us and suddenly, he\u2019s dying and I\u2019m supposed to feel bad and empathetic.\n\nI want to feel bad, and I DO have sympathy. But my problem is that I\u2019d be letting someone who did nothing but hurt me in life back into it, for what good? I\u2019ve struggled a lot with my mental health throughout life and have been suicidal because of the stress I used to be under. \n\nAITA for just really not wanting him back in my life now only to have him die and hurt me (in the case that I do feel bad and get \u2018attached\u2019), or him hurt me more (in the case that he really just gets worse)?\n\nTLDR; My father is dying right now, and after years of him being a shitty abusive person towards me and my mother, we find out he\u2019s dying. Mother wants to force a relationship that I don\u2019t have it in me to contribute to. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}780{"id": "LmAQjlhtoHz91VOOYKi96o3OjWSiBH0E", "post_id": "b91ek9", "action": {"description": "not feeling comfortable teaching my girlfriend how to drive", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if I don't feel comfortable teaching my girlfriend how to drive?", "text": "Hey guys, sorry for formatting on mobile. \n\nAnyways, here's the deal. My girlfriend doesn't have her license yet. She's had her trainers permit before but it's expired so she's trying again. The majority of her family doesn't drive so only her dad can help, but he's kinda unreliable with teaching/doesn't have the time to outside of work.  Previously I've helped her try and learn to drive with my older car, but I recently leased a brand new car.\n\nShe kinda struggles with the basics and still needs a lot of practice. I want to help but I don't feel comfortable with her driving my new car. She's not forcing me or anything though, I just feel guilty. So AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}781{"id": "kX3QALoHWqWd0PYt1mAXIgRUnRHFQqL2", "post_id": "b4gsae", "action": {"description": "very RARELY tipping when I eat out at restaurants", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 21}, "title": "AITA for very RARELY tipping when I eat out at restaurants?", "text": "When I\u2019m with my girlfriend it\u2019s one thing. She isn\u2019t a tipper either so we never have issues. However, when I\u2019m with people I don\u2019t eat out with often or strangers for whatever reason, I just don\u2019t understand why everyone is so passionate about leaving a tip when no one even came to our table once after taking our order. \n\nDon\u2019t get me wrong, I spill some water, and the waitress cleans it up, I\u2019ll tip because she went above and beyond her job. There\u2019s many scenarios where someone should \u201cdeserve\u201d a tip in my eyes. I just think it\u2019s ridiculous that every single time you eat out you\u2019re supposed to tip. Like it\u2019s indoctrinated into our minds. \n\nI just don\u2019t understand why someone who is doing there job, deserves more of my money that I work hard for. I\u2019m already paying for the meal and don\u2019t understand why you should get a couple extra bucks just because you filled my water once and never came back. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 19, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 21}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}782{"id": "C39k2GUVLjSQFrUcsvag1dGCsm7DkYvo", "post_id": "b4cxlb", "action": null, "title": "AITA? My friend told me she does this and im not sure if she is an asshole, a genius asshole or not an asshole. She acts in a certain way to create a certain impression and that\u2019s scary honestly and i dont know if I might be an asshole for freaking out or not", "text": "She told me that whenever she meets someone new she makes sure she looks like a bad liar. She\u2019d \u201cprank\u201d them while holding a laugh or having a weird face till they go all like \u201cYou\u2019re lying!! It is so obvious ur such a bad liar!\u201d And she would go all \u201chaha ur right\u201d \n\nShe\u2019d do this 2-3  separate times and few months apart so they remember it. \n\nShe would be brutally honest about something  if someone asks about her opinion and go all like \u201cthis is hard to hear but i know you appreciate honesty i just dont want to lie to you\u201d \n\nShe says she is honest in general she is not honest for a secret future plan but she does know brutal honesty is viewed as a good thing in general and people would go all \u201cgosh they\u2019re honest even if it is painful to hear!!\u201d \n\nShe claims she never lies but she does this \u201cjust in case\u201d she needs it one day  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}783{"id": "Hti0mhDmxwI0uKW2kcFQ0KcoCHb44lFK", "post_id": "asio3t", "action": {"description": "not letting my roommate get a cat", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not letting my roommate get a cat?", "text": "I\u2019m a fourth year college student, male, I have two roommates, both male. I have been living with my first roommate, whole I\u2019ll call Bill, for about two years. The third roommate is new and doesn\u2019t factor into the story too much. One of my roommates has been talking about wanting to get a cat. \n\nAbout a year or so Bill wanted to foster cats. I did not want to. I love animals, but I\u2019m a fairy busy college student and I did not really want to responsibility of taking care of pets at the moment, and I also didn\u2019t really want cat hair all over the apartment. (The furniture in the living room is all mine.) \nHe said he would take the full responsibility of taking care of them, I eventually relented. \nI ended up almost always cleaning litter box and feeding them, which he promised I would never have to do. Our house and furniture were covered in hair from the cats, which to some people may not be a big deal, but I am not used to having pet hair everywhere and it really bothers me. My mother gave me a very nice, expensive couch for the apartment, and the cats would scratch the shit out of it. His dumbass friend would always come over, they\u2019d get high, and they\u2019d hike the cats between their legs like footballs. It terrified them but they were convinced \u201cthe cats like it, dude.\u201d He also had a hamster, which he would forget to feed for literally weeks on end, and never paid any attention to, that ended up dying. \n\nEspecially over the past year, I\u2019ve been having a lot of issues with him and his behavior. I\u2019m not sure if elaboration is necessary but I can edit and add if people want more context to our relationship. Every month or so it seems, he\u2019ll do something that puts me off and makes me really question my friendship with him, but I just end up letting things slide. \n\nHe told me maybe a month or so ago he wanted to get a cat. I said no. He was insistent, but I put my foot down, and explained to him why I don\u2019t want a cat and why he isn\u2019t fit to own one. He said he\u2019d just get one behind my back, but he was laughing so I assumed he was joking. \n\nYesterday he texts me a picture of the cat he had gotten. I was angry, I considered a huge backstab. He told me \n\u201cI never said I wouldn\u2019t get a cat.\u201d\n\u201cI can just keep it locked in my room, you\u2019ll never have to see it.\u201d (Which I don\u2019t believe, but if I did, I feel like it\u2019s not right to keep a cat locked in a single room.) \n\nI tried to explain how getting a pet is a group decision everyone in the house needs to agree on, but he does not get it. He never ended up coming home from the shelter with the cat, but he\u2019s been sulking like a child and giving me the cold shoulder. Which is his normal behavior when he\u2019s mad. \nDoes he have any right to be angry with me? And did I overstep boundaries by forbidding he get the cat? \n\n\nSorry for this long ass post. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}784{"id": "SIPHmPMIAnfBYXqxxo7B1l2z6H0PbZA0", "post_id": "b96zh2", "action": {"description": "securing a spot with my favorite barber", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Securing A Spot With My Favorite Barber?", "text": "Okay so this is pretty mundane compared to some things I've seen on here, but here goes:\n\nI like to get my hair cut at a barber shop in town that has gotten super popular and is ALWAYS busy. It has a sort of punk/rockabilly theme and atmosphere to it that I really enjoy. Their haircuts are also great and relatively quick.\n\nThe one problem is the insane wait times because they're walk-in only. Whenever I've gone, besides my last three visits, I've had to wait for about 40min to even get into a chair. Not wanting to give up a barber that I really like, I resolved that I would just show up immediately when they opened. The past two times I've gone this has worked perfectly. This time around, it seemed that I might not be guaranteed a chair right upon arriving. I got there like five minutes before open and there were at least four other parked cars with dudes just waiting and watching the door for when they flipped the \"Closed\" sign to \"Open.\" I see a guy get out of his car and begin waiting by the door, so I immediately get out and do the same. They open the doors and the guy ahead of me is hanging up his coat and I see that my favorite barber is working today, so I bolt for her chair while the other guy is still hanging up his coat. I don't think much of it, because there's still another chair open for him, and the two of us--the first two in line--will get to have our hair cut first.\n\nBut then I sit down and get situated and from my mirror I can see that guy that had been ahead of me sitting in the waiting area, looking PISSED. Someone else must have done exactly what I did and bolted past him and secured a chair while he hung up his coat. So I have to wonder, AITA for zooming to my barber's chair and not waiting for him to get situated, possibly giving someone else the idea to do the same thing?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}785{"id": "ZRe4OtJ4g0EFPFKFK38mg0RjOMGRuNnk", "post_id": "9zrjpi", "action": {"description": "not partially cleaning my table at a fast-casual restaurant where there are no trash cans around and bussers are walking around cleaning tables", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not partially cleaning my table at a fast-casual restaurant where there are no trash cans around and bussers are walking around cleaning tables?", "text": "Fast-casual restaurant where food to you is served in trays. There are no trash cans in the dining area and bussers walk around cleaning tables. Some customers will quickly wipe down their tables and neatly stack all their trash and plates on the tray but I don't bother. I don't make a huge mess, but sometimes I'll leave a stray napkin or two lying around.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}786{"id": "4z50BssetbP5YNPh0YR09wotcAcjuPHE", "post_id": "avl1jr", "action": {"description": "telling a family member to quiet down", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling a family member to quiet down?", "text": "Context, this was about a week ago I'm an overweight woman and aware of it, I'm also on the mild side of the autism spectrum and I try my hardest to be appropriate at times but usually with loud noises it would be harder for me to keep composure as the father side of the family like to harrass me about it\n\nI was eating chicken on the weekends with my cousin in the dining room as eating anywhere else was not allowed, I was already having a bad day with my order being wrong and some friend issues back in shool, until my uncle thoughf it would be funny to make chicken noises, I paid no mind at first but he got louder and I asked him to stop but he got even louder to the point where it was unbearable and painful for me to handle and a slightly raised my voice to tell him to please be quiet.\n\nThe everyone in the room laughed as my uncle kept on making me feel super uncomfortable and became louder in volume and I covered my ears as it was too much for me to handle, my cousin and grandma laughed at me being in pain and my grandma gave me a hug a moved away for a bit because I didn't want to be touched as I was now a bit sensitive and didn't want to be touched and I was biting my tongue as I tried my hardest to keep my cool, my grandmother was yelling at me in spanish that I didn't even understand and I tried to calm her down and apologize.\n\nAs soon as I tried to apologize my Cousin turned to me to and I quote to \"shut the fuck up, stay quiet and eat my damn food\", by then my brother comes in as his room was next to the dining room and he started scolding me on how I should be more respectful and whenever I tried to talk and explain he yells at me that I should \"shut the fuck up\" and he kept on explaining how I shouldn't argue becaude my grandmother has a heart problem and how my uncle was very old and also had a poor heart and I should stay quiet and respect them, by then I tried to hold in my tears because I didn't like being yelled at and how all I did was tell my uncle to quiet down as the calmest I can be.\n\nI was texting my friend on twitter once I finished eating and he was equally upset but took my side and tried to calm me down because at that point I was sobbing.\n\nA day passed and I was on my way with packing to go to new york and see my mom when my dad decided to call me and started yelling at me that I was being disrespectful and how I shouldn't argue and yell at them to \"shut up\" (even though I never yell at them to shut up at all suring the falling out) because of the same ol \"they're your family and they have poor health because theyre old\" sentence over and over and I was having none of it as I hung up on him, this would be the end of it but not really.\n\nI've been feeling emotionally exhausted since then and always wondered if I was ever in the wrong or not\n\nAITA??\n\nTLDR: My uncle mocked me loudly and I told him to quiet down because I was in pain but all hell breaks loose.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}787{"id": "zAjBCgeJqTNbhSi0xW46EBjUsXbU1MCU", "post_id": "aaui3u", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend when I am upset, when doing so jeopardises her happiness", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my girlfriend when I am upset, when doing so jeopardises her happiness", "text": "My girlfriend and I met at university, and have been dating for two months, and have been having a hard time over the Christmas Holiday. We live about 7 hours away from one another, and will not see each other for about a month, which is okay; she adores her family and I don't want to intrude on her Christmas holiday. The issue here is that I do not adore my family, and I find living with them burdensome and stressful.\n\nFor context, my Mother has dementia, but has always been stubborn and narcissistic, and whilst my Father adores her he has no clue how to handle her, and she emotionally abuses him to tears. My Father himself does not know how to handle my Mother, and often gets angry and starts to shout at her. I haven't seen them in about 3 months and they've both gotten worse, meaning that living here over Christmas was a massive shock to me.\n\nAs a result of this, I have spent the majority of my holiday either in my room all day, or ouside the house. My girlfriend knows this. If she asks me how my day has been, I answer honestly, and say that today has been boring / tough / upsetting, and of she asks I elaborate on whatever arguement happened that day. \n\nI think because of this we end up texting way more than we should be, we run out of things to talk about. Furthermore, as we are texting than talking face to face, we can't convey exactly what we feel when we say something, meaning I think she is under the impression that I am constantly upset while i'm here, then that is only really confined to when I'm having to deal with my parents.\n\nLast night, my thoughts are verified. She is upset that I've spent my day in my room, saying \"Just so you know, in this house spending time just in your room isnt something people do much\". I reply with \"Yeah, and in this house, enjoying time with other people isnt something you do much\". From here, we both take a moment and then say that we have stuff to think about. We no we're both upset, I feel I was rude and thoughtless in what I said. I reply later on, apologising for the comment, that it were unnecessary.\n\nShe replies afterwards- she says that that's not why she is upset. She is upset that she hasn't enjoyed this holiday like she normally would, and its because she knows that I'm not enjoying my holiday. She hates the thought that she dislikes me telling her about my problems, and she says that what she feels is callous, and mean, and she says she is sorry for it. I understand, since coming home the amount of times I needed to talk to her because I was upset was almost daily.\n\nShe goes quiet for about half an hour before returning. She's argued with her mum, which is rare. She is extremely upset, and feels she can't talk it to me because she feels she has let me down. She says that she's thought about it, and she needs some time to think, and that she would not message me for a while.\nI want to be there for her, if she has argued with her mum. Their arguement eclipses ours in importance. Yet, she obviously doesn't want to talk to me right now, she needs someone else, like her best friend.\n\nI'm conflicted on what to do regarding the rest of this holiday and the relationship as a whole. I feel like I have been a completely different person over the holiday, and she's been made fully aware of that fact because we message for hours on end. I know that this current issue will be swiftly resolved when I go back to university on January 5th, and meet her (and her family, for the first time) on January 12th. Nevertheless, I know what we have both handled this horribly, and I don't know how to approach the subject of my family with her from now on.\n\nShould I have to tread carefully about the topics I talk about when I'm in a relationship, when we've already agreed to speak our mind and say when we're upset? Am I the asshole for putting this pressure on her over her holiday, when I know what she is with her family? Are there any red flags here things I need to think about or watch out for? How could we approach talking about things we're struggling with without putting pressure on one another?\n\n(Sorry for any mistakes, I'm on mobile)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}788{"id": "EjzWdklYflwBT8Nfn8hkhvdB97pznMgg", "post_id": "an7bsi", "action": {"description": "telling an elderly lady to shut up in front of her grandkids", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling an elderly lady to shut up in front of her grandkids?", "text": "So a little backstory... I am half-Taiwanese and so I am in China often. I was there a month ago for Christmas, visiting family, and I decide to go watch a movie by myself. Hollywood movies there are in English, but subtitled in Chinese, and I take seat in the movie theater.\n\nTwo seats down from me is this Chinese grandmother, at least 65 years old (possibly older) and next to her away from me are what I believe to be her two teenage grandchildren. The movie starts and this woman STARTS NARRATING EVERY SINGLE THING THAT HAPPENS IN THE MOVIE... I'm fluent in Mandarin Chinese so I understand everything she said, although I'm sure it's just as irritating otherwise. So for the whole time, it was like this...\n\n(In Mandarin Chinese)\n\n\"Oh, she's climbing the cliff\"\n\n*2 second pause*\n\n\"Oh, she's singing\"\n\n*2 second pause*\n\n\"Oh, she's splashing the water\"\n\n.... and on and on and on, and it did NOT stop at all. Because it's an old lady, I tried to ignore it. But after an hour of this nonstop, I reached my breaking point, turned to face her, and said somewhat angrily (in Mandarin Chinese)\n\n\"Excuse me, I'm trying to watch the movie, could you please shut your mouth?!\"\n\nImmediately she goes silent and no longer talks and I start feeling mortified. I could've worded it so much better and gentler but it just slipped out the way it did. I just finished watching the movie and left.\n\nDon't kill me, but from my experience as a half-White and half-Asian person, being quiet in a movie theater is more of an etiquette in the West compared to China, so maybe I'm mad at someone for cultural differences they can't really control? Also, I wondered if maybe her grandkids needed the narration (out of perhaps, blindness maybe), but they seemed completely able bodied so it might just have been a personality quirk. \n\nI dont know, I've been wondering about that since. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}789{"id": "lE9tdilB9bzv871fXuC500iAcrgfPION", "post_id": "a03dni", "action": {"description": "blowing off a girl who was being flirty with me while I was working", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for blowing off a girl who was being flirty with me while I was working?", "text": "I (24M) work as a bread merchandiser and visit various stores in my area, it's not odd to have a random customer ask me where things are, only to have them see my vendor logo followed by an eye roll or a general sigh. What doesn't normally happen is a cute female make a conversation with me... which is what happened today. As I was stocking my area on a Saturday (very busy day) she clearly saw me an walked up an started making conversation about how busy the store was, and as I went to move my bread cart, she got super nervous grabbed my cart near where my hand was an told me I didnt need to move it for her. I gave a quick smile, an told her I need to stock over in another part of the isle. She let go very quickly, and got very visibly red in the face. I then (in an attempt to calm her down) told her that I'm typically in everyone's way, I appreciated her being thoughtful an went back to working. She then said something to me, which I didnt hear because I have one headphone in at all times listening to music. An then she turned left an walked out the isle. About 30 seconds later, she came from the opposite end of the isle and told me to have a great day/weekend. I smiled whilst not even looking at her, and said \"uh huh or sure\", she stood there for a couple seconds and then left. Two things before I ask if I'm the asshole in this situation.... \n\nFirst, she didnt buy any buns or bread and just left the isle.\n\nSecond, I was listening to \"baby shark\" because my friend texted me before I went into my shift saying \"DODODODODDO\" An thats what I was listening to for most of the interaction. Pretty sure at one point I sang it out loud.... \n\nSo am I the Asshole for not noticing she was trying to be forward/flirting with me? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}790{"id": "PCwaHi9Kvw1EPHkAlv7q4EIsYA7iAEtn", "post_id": "b6pbx1", "action": {"description": "not wanting my girlfriend to get Lice", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For Not Wanting My Girlfriend to Get Lice?", "text": "So today while I was at work my girlfriend texted me that she was going to try out yoga at our college\u2019s gym with her friends. She then said, \u201cAlso when I get home you should check me for lice apparently there\u2019s an outbreak at the gym.\u201d\n\n​\n\nI reminded her that we have a special event coming up this weekend and we\u2019re also flying out for a wedding in about 2 weeks. It would really suck to have those be canceled because we got lice.\n\n​\n\nShe responded that it\u2019s not her fault that the ONE day she decided to go to the gym there happens to be lice there. Apparently the lice are only in the upstairs part of the gym, and that her two friends are still going. She said they\u2019d leave if it looked shady.\n\n​\n\nMy response was, \u201cI know you want to start doing yoga and being active, but lice can take over a house and it can take weeks to get rid of them. Does it really hurt for the three of you to go another day or to a different place?\u201d\n\n​\n\nShe replied that she thinks it\u2019s just being hyped up as a joke around campus, and that they wouldn\u2019t have the gym open if it wasn\u2019t cleaned.\n\n​\n\nWe started to go back and forth. I was asking why it was important to do yoga today, and why not just go any other time in the week. I reminded her that if she brought lice back to the house it could spread to everyone else, and that we can\u2019t exactly fly across the country with lice on our heads.\n\n​\n\nShe argued that she wants to go today. That if there\u2019s a warning on the door or anything then she won\u2019t go and since they didn\u2019t close the gym it can\u2019t be that serious.\n\n​\n\nAt this point I\u2019m starting to wonder why this is even an argument. How can I possibly be the bad guy for saying don\u2019t go into a building that has a lice outbreak?\n\n​\n\nAnyways, she says that I\u2019m essentially calling her stupid, that, \u201cobviously I\u2019m not going to go there if there\u2019s like a tent over it and warning signs.\u201d She feels that I don\u2019t trust her and must think she\u2019s stupid if I think she\u2019d risk infecting her family with lice just to go to yoga. She called me dramatic and said that I\u2019m being controlling.\n\n​\n\nNow the last thing I ever want to be in our relationship is controlling - she should never worry about me telling her where she can go or what she can do. But I think we should be able to disagree with each other\u2019s decisions without being classified as \u201ccontrolling.\u201d\n\n​\n\nI think with the information I was given I was not out of line to question her decisions.\n\n​\n\nSo reddit, please let me know if I\u2019m a controlling asshole.\n\n​\n\nTLDR: Girlfriend wants to go to a gym with an outbreak of lice to try yoga with her friends. We have big events planned for the next two weeks and told her it wasn\u2019t a good idea. She called me controlling.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}791{"id": "ePf3gxwi37IUPTHccodWQPDzbedmpcT4", "post_id": "ap0oon", "action": {"description": "bringing an escaped cat back to my neighbors", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For bringing an escaped cat back to my neighbors?", "text": "Sorry for formatting and a hard read, its my first post. Trying to stay as unbiased as possible.\n\nA few nights ago, my wife and I heard a cat meowing at the back of our house. We opened the door and a super friendly stray cat came up to us and wanted to be pet. We were cautious but gave it attention. It was declawed and extremely skinny so we figured it had been a house cat in the past. The next day it was still outside our house, so I went and bought some cat food and we posted the cat on our neighborhood facebook page. No luck finding the owner. Then I decided to ask my neighbors if it was their cat, and they said that he had been missing for 2 weeks but they didn't want to bring him in the house yet because they didn't want to give fleas to their other pets. This sounded okay at first but now it sounds weird, especially since the cat was declawed and malnourished. It has no way to fend for itself outside, and it is cold here at night, around 30 degrees F. They also have a responsibilty to care for that cat since they are the owners, right? Anyways, I didn't see the cat for a day so I thought they took him back in. But he turned back up today, meowing at my back door. I went and tried to tell my neighbor but they wouldn't answer the door. I tried again an hour later and the cat followed me to their door, so I picked the cat up to give it to them. They finally answer the door after I wait for a few minutes, and the cat starts freaking out when he  sees the owner and clawing me up. The owner grabs the cats back skin, not even the scruff, and kinda tosses him in the house saying he doesnt know what hes going to do. It was a really weird experience, and it made me think that the owners were abusive. AITA for bringing a possibly abused cat back to the owners? AITA for rushing the owners to take in their obviously indoor cat?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}792{"id": "tZ6zwpU1dLGjvPllV5o2FLC3cSUrBBn7", "post_id": "ai20t8", "action": {"description": "being upset with my boyfriend for telling our guy friends about our sexual life", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset with my boyfriend for telling our guy friends about our sexual life?", "text": "I met my boyfriend through a gaming group and we\u2019re a close circle of friends. We eventually fell for each other and we\u2019ve been dating for 6 months, things going super smooth. Theres one issue I really have, and thats him passing along \u201ctips\u201d to our friend group about getting laid or getting nudes. All these tips by the way are things he does with me. I don\u2019t want our friend group putting two and two together since its kind of a double standard. Guys typically get praised for receiving that stuff, while girls are usually frowned upon. I told him my concerns and he brushed them off as we\u2019re all friends and the tips he gives is general knowledge. AITA for being upset?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}793{"id": "IuWp7NM7NUK8pTLJeqvhrvXkY2OeKVuw", "post_id": "a90o62", "action": {"description": "not escorting my sister home", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not escorting my sister home?", "text": "Hey all, not a storyteller so apologies if the post is a dry read. I'm on a family trip for a week. Was out drinking with the family, and when we got the bill I said I wanted to stay out a bit later and try and make friends. Sister decided to stay out as well, and I let her know that I was completely comfortable at a bar on my own. I ended up making friends, and when she left I told her to find a way back on her own because I wanted to stay out a while. Mom and sister are pissed that I didn't escort her back. I figured since she is an adult (20 years old) she'd be more than capable of getting home safely without my help. Am I an asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}794{"id": "r1mLroaOPcHXLqP7H9cXotfMUVHRjrkg", "post_id": "a7dg7n", "action": {"description": "refusing to push my neighbor's car", "pronormative_score": 31, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to push my neighbor's car?", "text": "My neighbor came by right after a snow storm and asked that I come out and push her car with my car. I guess it rutted out and they weren't having any luck pushing it by hand.  I politely refused and made sure she understood that I drive a new 2017 WRX STi and my bumpers are more than likely made out of plastic and I'd rather not bend, scratch, or otherwise damage it. She sees me out there washing it every couple weeks she knows I take good care of it. She came back with she just needs a nudge and I just refused, but I did offer to come out and help push by hand no problem. She declined that and just said okaaay in a condescending way and walked off and hasn't quite been on the same friendly level since. \n\nIt's probably worth noting that this happened about a year ago and I haven't stopped thinking about it since. I'm in Virginia where it rarely snows and there's no reason her damn camry with summer tires should have left the driveway in a foot of snow and ice in the first place.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 31, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 31, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}795{"id": "QI3qKFuVb9sInXRo9JgQCukpJqV5C2jO", "post_id": "9yibqj", "action": {"description": "giving my Uber driver an one star", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for giving my Uber driver an one star?", "text": "Some context, I requested my Uber driver at 4 in the morning at my university department building. So I was a bit tired and yawning a lot throughout the ride. However when I entered the car I always be respective, nice and say \u201chi, how\u2019s your (day/night going)?\u201d. We didn\u2019t talk at all throughout the entire trip. Then when we arrived at my place I said \u201cthanks and take care\u201d , then he proceed to give me an one star to my face, without even saying why I was rude at all, ( the only reason I could think of, is I yawned a lot), so out of frustration I in returned gave him an one star.  Another thing I always remember to try to close the car door as soft as possible while still able to the close the door, as I got complain before for shutting the door too hard. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}796{"id": "n4BjoSNA7FIvkL1lnqVRLjkPoZ2XCtIy", "post_id": "auoxnt", "action": {"description": "not wanting to hang out with someone who just got herpes", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to hang out with someone who just got herpes?", "text": "I met a girl on Tinder who was cool but a red flag was that she had a sugar daddy who gave her expensive things.\n\nI wasn\u2019t super into her but I asked to hang out with her one night, and she declined. Apparently she went out with another guy, because she messaged me a few days later stating that she had obtained several STDs after having sex with a guy the night she rejected me. One of them being a nasty out break of herpies. \n\nShe messaged the other night and I rejected specially because of STDs. I didn\u2019t tell her that was the reason. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}797{"id": "8wxEw1xd3xDw27H53gSDU5SqhDvkXK5c", "post_id": "b2r28o", "action": {"description": "talking to my ex behind my wife's back", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA for talking to my ex behind my wife\u2019s back?", "text": "I\u2019ve brought this up with some friends and I have gotten some conflicting answers so I\u2019m wondering if IATA. \n\nA little background information, I am 26(f) and have been married for just about a year to a fantastic woman named, Haley. I love my partner more than anything in the entire world and I could not picture my life without her. Haley and I have been together for about 4 years. When I was much younger I dated a woman named, Marie. Marie and I met and instantly clicked and what I thought was us getting on like a house on fire quickly became one of the most intense and darkest relationships of my life. It was abusive on both sides and not healthy at all. I believe it\u2019s safe to say it was highly toxic and codependent but the draw was magnetic to say the least. Once Marie and I ended things we didn\u2019t talk for several years, up until about 2 years ago, when she reached out seemingly out of the blue. I had been to therapy and worked out a lot of my issues (many of which revolved around my sexuality) and she had to. While catching up we both made amends for what had happened and seemed to move on with our lives. \n\nHaley knows all of this and was supportive in me getting closure on what was a terrible time in my life. I even showed Haley every message as it came in. At the end of the conversation with Marie Haley said she felt that it was great I got closure but asked me to sever the relationship permanently. I agreed. \n\nOnto the present: Marie has reached out again maybe about 3 months ago and we have talked every day since. Sometimes it\u2019s about small trivial things and other times it\u2019s about tougher emotional things. Marie was recently there for me about a death in the family- this was a family member she was particularly close to when we were together. At first I told Haley about the conversation and she brushed it off as sort of a do what you want but don\u2019t tell me thing but I could tell it made her uncomfortable. I don\u2019t want to stop talking to Marie and I really consider her to be one of my closest friends at this point, at the same time I don\u2019t want to hurt the trusting and loving relationship I have with my wife. I know it\u2019s somewhat selfish but am I completely in the wrong for wanting to talk to someone who I care about in a completely platonic way?\n\nSo Reddit, AITA for continuing to talk to my ex? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 19, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}798{"id": "iTa3PfsaDc7c5DoYURyYp3c8XngGmHSO", "post_id": "a70wr2", "action": {"description": "not wanting to pay for a gift for a teacher", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to pay for a gift for a teacher?", "text": "Some backstory. I am 14 years old and live in Central Europe. A month ago our main teacher (I dont know if this exists in America, basically a Teacher that coordinates all class Events, handles problems etc.) announced that she is pregnant and will leave in January. She said that she wont come back until 2022 at the very least, so we will get a new main teacher.\n\n\nLets get to business. The girls from my class want to throw a goodbye party and buy her supplies for her future baby. They asked me for money that would equate to 20 cents. I was skeptic due to reasons I will list later, so I didnt give them the money.\n\n\nI went home after the school and told my parents. They were angry that I didnt give the money, so we got into an argument.\n\n\nI didnt want to give them money because the teacher ignored death threats towards me. A problematic guy in our class (Probably ADHD) took  a knife and a lighter to school. When we were alone, he pulled out the knife and the lighter and started waving them in front of my head. He was telling me that he will slit my throat, rape my dead body and ignite it after that.\n\n\nSo I told the teacher, because that didnt sound like a joke, and we werent friends either. She told me that she will handle it. But she didnt. She swept it under a rug and didnt tell anyone.\n\n\nSo I told this to my parents and they didnt believe me and told me that I am an Evil scrooge for not wanting to give her money.\n\n\nAm I the asshole for not wanting to give money to a person that ignored death threats addressed towards me? AITA For getting into an, argument with my parents? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}799{"id": "dXshQgLWfrf6cHAUfMkjKKpmFj79FZhq", "post_id": "a184wz", "action": {"description": "telling a semi-desperate friend to pay me", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For telling a semi-desperate friend to pay me", "text": " Tl;Dr Long story short, I'm in the tech field and one of my friends asked for my technical help on a project. I asked is it for you personally, students at our school or the department. Had it been the first two I would have helped no problem but if I'm helping a not open source/personal project ...aka if my work is benefiting an organization, uh pay me. He is over worked and underqualified and needs my help since he gets no support from our school (the employer).  \n\n\nOne of my close friends got a job at our University building systems for our department to facilitate learning/classes. He has been working on one project for a year now and has been struggling, mainly due to the department changing the goal, his underqualification for the massive task, lack of support, and being overworked.  \n\n\nThe other day I was talking with him and he brought up something he wanted try to get the project done. I talked with him for a little bit (30 mins) about what he was trying to do and if it would work.  \n\n\nHe asked if I could help him implement the solution to the problem, and/or talk with me further.  \n\n\nI asked is this for the department, or was this a personal project? He knows I don't like our department and said \"uh it's mostly a personal project\". I'm not super dumb, this was for the department and I said, \"I'll help guide you in the right direction but if this is benefiting someone else, pay me, not to be mean but my time is worth something.\" This was to a friend. One that is struggling.  \n\n\nPart of this is that he thinks I'm only asking to be paid because I don't like the head of the department (which guilty as charged). Am I right in asking to be paid if this project will help the school? He said that this project will provide a platform for learning to all the students, which he is right about, the results of the project would help a lot of students, so I am unsure if I'm being selfish.  \n\n\nAnd as soon as I dropped the bomb of \"pay me for this\" he said \"if you ever needed help at your job I'd help you.\" Which, yeah, that's true. I did say if I asked you for help I'd pay you in some way.  \n\n\nThere was someone else in the room and they said \"just pay for lunch\" which I said \"sure!\"   \n\n\nAm I an ass?  \n\n\nIn the end I said that I would help guide him in the right direction, and that I was was tired and a bit grumpy. But never said that I would fully \"hands on keyboard\" help him. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}800{"id": "Lol7Ks5TOSnbv2O8MyFBS1zIJgSlRRZp", "post_id": "adoqvk", "action": {"description": "wanting to leave my wife after agreeing to make it work", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 20}, "title": "AITA for wanting to leave my wife after agreeing to make it work?", "text": "First off, I cheated on my wife. For that, I am the asshole.  The marriage was good (6 years), nothing major beyond normal quibbles. Just me being stupid and wanting to have some fun.  \n\nImmediate aftermath was looking alright. We were doing counseling (I have my own, and we have a separate couples counselor). My counselor gave me some tools, like a time out system, that really helped us get through the initial arguments and actually come to some peaceful resolutions. Things were looking great.  \n\nBut now, after about two months, things seem to be unraveling. Our fights are getting worse, and the timeout system doesn't seem to be helping. Before, our arguments were on concrete topics and easy to solve. Now, they feel like whack-a-mole: a bunch of rapid succession complaints that I can barely keep up with without wanting to storm out. I actually pushed her aside one time and I'm worried I might do worse. Not that I have anger issues, she's the only one I get mad at. \n\nMost of the fights evolve into me getting frustrated, because I'm weird and don't know how to express my feelings, or don't feel like they are being understood. This leads to her getting angry because \"[i] have no reason to be frustrated\". Then it's on the downward spiral to a shouting match. \n\nAgain, I know I'm the asshole for cheating. I know she's pained from my actions. And I still want to support her for the immediate future. But am I a jerk for wanting to end it?  And it's not because I want to end it to be with the other woman, because she's in another country anyway. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 20, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 20}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}801{"id": "twndg0FBV9bIfibVcATX0xVDYtRS5yKa", "post_id": "arh1bw", "action": {"description": "thinking my partner should do most of the chores", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for thinking my partner should do most of the chores?", "text": "My partner of 7 years feels that I don't do enough cooking/washing. I feel the opposite. I work fulltime and cover 100% of our bills as well as providing a small amount of pocket money for them (personally I consider all our assets/income to belong to us equally but they didn't feel comfortable pooling all our money into a joint account). Dates and such things are split. During school terms they work two six hour shifts a week. On those nights I get home about an hour before them and will usually cook. Cooking and dishes on the weekend are split or done by me. They do most of the laundry and vacuuming (I still do some but maybe 1/5th as much). I do the 'heavy' cleaning jobs they don't want to do (wiping down the bathroom, cleaning the toilet, clearing drains etc).\n\nSince it is easier for me to carry, grocery shopping is either done by me on my way home or together on the weekends. If we need one or two ingredients on a night my partner works they will sometimes grab it but never any full shopping loads because it becomes too much to carry.\n\nAnything technical or clerical is done by me. Household repairs, organising our rent, banking, doctors appointments, government documents, taxes, computers etc. I have a phobia of sorts to talking on the phone but I do most of our phone calls because my partner will put it off indefinitely. In their defence, English is their second language so they are nervous to talk in English (their English is absolutely fine though, they have lived in an English speaking country since their last year of High School and completed Uni in English).\n\nA year and a half ago when I was still looking for full-time work I used to do more of the chores so it was closer to a 50-50 split. I can sympathise with them but since I am working fulltime and cover all of our bills I feel that it is reasonable that I would now be doing less chores during the week. Does this make me a misogynist arsehole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}802{"id": "9uIACxiRh4zP0jzBkBwurflHGWQkW0GM", "post_id": "aq2dzt", "action": {"description": "not wanting my dad to have anything to do with my sporting events", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my dad to have anything to do with my sporting events?", "text": "My relationship with my dad has never been that great. He\u2019s always kind of made my life miserable by demeaning me and making me feel as if I\u2019ve never made him proud. He only seems to notice my mistakes and always brutally points them out but he never notices my accomplishments. In the 18 years I\u2019ve spent living with him he\u2019s never congratulated me on anything or told me he\u2019s proud of me and he\u2019s always telling me he may die before I ever impress him. My dad has been putting me through a very tough conditioning regimen for soccer before the season starts. He expects me to go to the gym 7 days a week. Now I understand that this not asking too much but he wants me to go for at least two hours regardless of if I have homework or something I need to do. I usually have to end up staying up late to finish my homework because of this. While the training is annoying the main reason I don\u2019t want him involved is because he\u2019ll take credit if I end up doing well just because he forced me to go to the gym. I told him that soccer is something very dear to me and that since he\u2019s never shown me love I don\u2019t want him to be involved in anyway. I don\u2019t want him helping me train and I don\u2019t want him at the games. I think he probably thinks that I\u2019m too much of a fuck up to do well without his help but my mom says he only wants me to succeed and that he wants me to do well so I should just give him a chance. Am I an asshole for denying him this chance?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}803{"id": "dun7KCqb4EjEcBIBkzRG3P5jhmKGWUA8", "post_id": "ao0ekf", "action": {"description": "working through my break", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for working through my break?", "text": "I usually work 5 hours part time at a warehouse job but last Friday I decided to work 7 hours. I didn't tell my manager because he was on the other side of the building and I figured that I could get more work done if I just stayed at my location instead of wasting time to walk over and let him know.\n\nToday I got called in by my manager today and he said that I should have let him know that I would be working extra hours. We have a labor card and on it I basically put down that I worked 5 straight hours without a break. I found out that there is a labor law that requires companies to give a 15 minute break and a 30 minute break for employees that work 7+ hours. I did not take the 30 minute break because I had lost track of time and opted not to take it. I remember him mentioning something like this but it slipped my mind. It was my mistake and I didn't think that it would blow up like it has. He let me know that there is a company wide process of trying to correct my mistake and that they could be potentially sued in labor court. He told me that he could potentially lose his job because people are going to think that he didn't give me the 30 minute break. The whole day, I've been feeling terrible I really feel like I messed up.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}804{"id": "JFkIvgKV1JyKvEyDbNgz8Q8f8wRUQAY4", "post_id": "a0kt9e", "action": {"description": "telling my gf I could see her later while I was at a bbq with friends, after she spent a week out of town", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my gf I could see her later while I was at a bbq with friends, after she spent a week out of town?", "text": "This happened this weekend. My gf works at an accounting firm aa an accountant and sometimes has to work out of town for varied periods of time. This past week was one of those times, she has worked out of town for 2 weeks although she did pop in the previous weekend so we could attend a friend's wedding and have dinner/beers with the rest of my friends group who are usually out of town (they live all over now).\n\nFast forward to this weekend, I was invited Thursday night to this bbq that was happening at a new friend's house on Saturday afternoon. A little bit of backstory here, I was one for the few friends that stuck around in my hometown after high school (I'm 27) and I haven't gotten around to making new friends to hang out with so I appreciate any opportunity to make more. While this is happening, my gf let's me know she's coming in on Saturday, I tell her I can't pick her up since I was working that Saturday and she says it's fine, her dad can get her home and immediately after that, I invite her to said bbq because I was sensing this was gonna cause me issues and she just said she would consider but didn't think so.\n\nThen, on Saturday, my friend was getting ready for the cookout and told me to be there by around 3 PM. I go and then my gf texts me, asking what am I doing and around what time are we gonna see each other, I tell her I am at the bbq and if we could meet at 8 PM. No answer after my texts and I call her, she says she thinks she always loses to my friends (like I said, I don't have any) and that she was really excited to see me after being a whole week away, going off about how we barely got to see each other the previous weekend because we had to attend the wedding and  then go to dinner with my friends and how she feels if it came between her and my friends, I would've gone with then and if she hadn't gone to the dinner get together she wouldn't have seen me at all as I would've gone to dinner anyway (which is true, I never get to see this friend group so I take advantage of any opportunity).\n\nSo, while on the call (this took place around 5 pm), I try and defend myself, \"it's not true\", \"we can see each other in a bit, like I said, 8 pm\" but she was having none of it and repeating how she always loses to my friends, then says she has to go and we hang up. For what it's worth, we don't see each other for the rest of the day and after texting her a bit to angry responses and her telling me the day was off and we could see each other some other time, so I decide to salvage the day, stay and get wasted l, though that didn't stop me texting her.\n\nThe next day, I try and talk to her and she's making one word responses, so I notice she's punishing me, I insist and we meet up at the time she said. I get there, we go to the mall, get a coffee, I walk with her as she pays her bills, she's still mad but it's a start.\n\nAfter that, we get to her house, I say hi to her family and we talk. In short, she thinks I could do so much more, that she's not a priority to me, that my friends, or my recent acquaintances at that party, would obviously blow it off for their respective wives and gfs. I try to tell her that they're not in the same position and not desperate to get new friends like I am but I recognize it's a flimsy defense and I drop it, only telling her that I was super sorry. A little bit later, I go gone and she tells me again over WhatsApp, then blocks me. This has worried me a great deal so I feel forced to ask about another POV.\n\nSo, in short, AITA? Could I have done better? Is it just a TIFU? I feel I'm not completely in the wrong but I have no idea.\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}805{"id": "yGihAH3l6hhldLy6H7hYxLWLAMiE4qcm", "post_id": "9y39dy", "action": {"description": "leaving my daughter's friend at the park", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 57}, "title": "AITA for leaving my daughter's friend at the park?", "text": "A few days ago I was coming home from work. My daughter wanted to be picked up so I drove over to the park (where she was at). \n\nWhen I got there, there was this other who was my daughter's friend. She apparently needed a ride home. I declined her. \n\nAfter that, I drove my daughter home. Another important detail is that it was around six a clock at the time I picked my daughter up.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 57, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 57}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}806{"id": "Zvnm8ouNp17njO6T5GDfXPnQwcDrhq9T", "post_id": "artp02", "action": {"description": "falling in love with my best friend and breaking up our friendship when she got a boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA: for falling in love with my best friend and breaking up our friendship when she got a boyfriend?", "text": "Well I just want to know.. she told me she gots a boyfriend now. which she kept from me for a few months now, and I told her I couldn\u2019t see her anymore because since I had feelings for her other than friends... Obviously, and she told me she loved me as a friend well hurt that I am I told her we couldn\u2019t be friends... that was fucked up right?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}807{"id": "MpMsAnvGlErlAOVMXrlw5UdDnJDhjU8n", "post_id": "ai0ulg", "action": null, "title": "AITA, wont let my boyfriend visit his grandma.", "text": "Background info: \n\nMy boyfriend and I of three years live together he sold his car when he went back to university 2 years ago. I have a small car I just finished paying off but that I still pay for the maintenance and insurance on and he refuses to pay anything towards it because \"it's not his car\". \n\nHis grandmother lives 3.5 hours away and he has been to visit her a few times. Each time he borrows the car he takes it with a full tank of gas and brings it back empty (it can make a full trip there on a tank of gas and a tank cost me 60$). This has happened three times now and after each time I have been somewhat irate because I don't feel it's fair for me to pay for the car and the gas for him to drive it. He brushes it off and says hes sorry he forgot  and he'll remember next time but he never does nor does he offer to go fill up the tank. He has also taken it for a few other things and never put gas in it as a thank you). I've given him multiple warnings that if this behaviour continues I won't let him borrow my car anymore... \n\nLast night he informs me that when I'm at work on the weekend he wants to take the car for a day trip to see his grandmother. I tell him he isn't allowed to take my car anymore because he never brings it back full and doesn't pay for it and that through his disrespect he has lost that privledge. He loses his mind. Says I'm being juvenile, vindictive, that I'm holding onto old grudges and bringing up stuff from the past.\n\nSo tell me Reddit AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 93, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 95, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}808{"id": "JLvXdPfuvgm2hQxwzWVAyK6UW2kWb4Vw", "post_id": "9txbe6", "action": {"description": "cutting this person out of my life", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting this person out of my life?", "text": "I\u2019ve been friends with a girl, let\u2019s call her Kate, for three years now. We\u2019re in high school, and have been considered Best Friends\u2122\ufe0f for the entire time we\u2019ve known each other. This year, however, was different. \n\nNot only did she begin to literally ignore my existence, she would get mad at me when I was in a bad mood. I\u2019ll admit, I get snappy when I\u2019m angry or sad, but from knowing me all this time she knew that none of it was directed at her. Regardless, when I\u2019d snap at her and immediately apologise, she didn\u2019t care and would storm off. She started doing drugs and fucking around with her boyfriend constantly,  and it got to the point where she didn\u2019t care about anything else. Kate\u2019s life was entirely drugs and sex and rock n\u2019 roll. Once she said \u201cif I don\u2019t have my Juul I\u2019m gonna have a sucky day,\u201d and snapped at me that she \u201cNEEDS her Juul to be happy,\u201d to which I replied \u201cthat\u2019s not good, Kate that means you\u2019re getting addicted to nicotine. Fucking stop\u201d and then ALL OF HER NEW FRIENDS ganged up on me, saying it was obvious I\u2019d never Juuled before and making me feel terrible about myself. \n\nThrough those _Extracurricular Activities_ she became friends with a bunch of people I didn\u2019t have anything in common with. I\u2019d still go sit with her and made an effort, even though I felt uncomfortable the entire time. It came to the point where she began to ignore me completely, like I said earlier. I\u2019d say \u201chey Kate I\u2019m going to class now,\u201d and she wouldn\u2019t even acknowledge I was there. So I left. Then I stopped saying anything at all. \n\nI started hanging out with my other friends, and I stopped talking to Kate all the time. People would always ask me why I was friends with her if she made me feel so awful. I never knew how to answer. \n\nHer boyfriend, another friend, and I all planned for months a surprise birthday party for Kate, which\u2014minus a few minor bumps in plans\u2014 went well. There was cake, presents, and all the typical bday things. We did it because her mom is a bitch and never let her have a birthday party before. However, when we were out doing the thing we planned, she did nothing but complain and snap at people and sit in the corner whispering with her boyfriend. \n\nWe were also in a club together. It was Debate Club, and you had to pay dues to be in it. We were presenting a bill to be debated\u2014one that I did literally all the work for\u2014 and her only job was to do the opening speech. That was it, a minute long synopsis of our bill. So I\u2019m walking to the room Debate Club is in, I can see the door a few feet ahead of me, and I get a phone call from Kate saying she doesn\u2019t have her club dues. \u201cShould I go? I don\u2019t think I should go.\u201d Finally, even though I was going to do horribly without her, I said she shouldn\u2019t come. I was just so done with how unreliable she was. She said thanks and hung up while I was mid-sentence. So I went in, tried to give the opening speech completely unprepared, and I did horribly (as expected). It was the worst public speech I\u2019d ever given, which sucked because I\u2019m normally extremely good at that. I burst into tears on stage and ran off. I literally couldn\u2019t do it anymore. Two days later, I hear she\u2019s talking shit about me behind my back, telling people (MY FRIENDS) that I told her to \u201cget the hell out of Debate\u201d and calling her an \u201cunreliable bitch\u201d and all that jazz. \n\nSo I texted her. \u201cHow dare you. How fucking dare you do all this shit  to me. You\u2019ve been so mean and made me feel so mad about myself when all I\u2019ve done is care about you.\u201d And in the texts, I did say things that I don\u2019t regret but we\u2019re pretty damn mean\u2014 \u201call you do is smoke, fuck, and feel bad for yourself\u201d \u201cyou step on other people\u2019s balls to make yours feel bigger\u201d \u201cmanipulative\u201d \u201cunreliable\u201d etc. Then I blocked her number and that was that. \n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}809{"id": "zp2LJBtO3jI6Cw5QhMCcCV7FfVglHXQX", "post_id": "az0uyr", "action": {"description": "not inviting my friend to my birthday party because she takes too many pictures", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if i don\u2019t invite my friend to my birthday party because she takes too many pictures?", "text": "my birthday is coming up in a couple of weeks and i decided it\u2019d be fun if some of my friends and me to go to an amusement park. \n\ni already decided i want three of my friends to go but i\u2019m not certain about my fourth friend. she just takes too make pictures sometimes that it annoys me. pictures are great for memories but going anywhere takes double the time and i don\u2019t really want to be waiting around for her to do a \u201cphoto shoot\u201d in front of a tree just so she can put it on instagram. also she insists we \u201cvlog\u201d stuff when we hang out and it\u2019s awkward for me...sometimes i just want to enjoy the moment, you know? also it\u2019s my birthday...\n\ni feel a bit guilty over it and am thinking maybe i should backtrack and invite her now but at the same time i feel like a jerk because i know she\u2019ll feel bad if she isn\u2019t invited. am i being selfish over something petty? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}810{"id": "ckphAmNFkwJazhW6wOVTbqi3tLQiuoH2", "post_id": "auhvoc", "action": {"description": "cutting a girl out of my life", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting a girl out of my life?", "text": "Hi, first time poster here. So for context I\u2019m in high school. The girl and myself are both 17. \n\nTL:DR at the bottom \n\n\nFor starters, we\u2019ve know each other since we got to High School. It was always a chill thing, never super close. \nTwo years ago, she had a on/off thing with my best friend in a grade up. They were always never certain on anything. That changed when he moved across country. I was closer to her then, but still just acquainted. \n\nLast year however, her and I started to talk a lot more. She was always super spotty with texting back, but she said she was really busy and I went along. Summer break hit and as I tried to make plans, she\u2019d leave me on read/opened constantly. I began to think of it personally. \n\nWe stopped contact until the start of 1st semester this year. We had a class together, right after lunch. I like to get to my classes a bit early on the first day, scope out who\u2019s sitting where and make sure I can sit near someone I know. Where I ended up sitting, there was an open space right beside me. She walks in right before class started, sits down beside me and just starts talking to me like nothing at all. \n\nOver the course of the semester, we were close again. She again was still super spotty with responding to me. When my best friend came back for a week, she changed completely however. She was immediately responding to me, asking to hangout, etc. I took it with good graces, thinking she was trying harder. It was like that for a couple weeks, then she dropped off again.\nRight before winter break, we went on a trial-date of sorts and it went really well. I mentioned how I have a discount at a high-end restaurant because of some connections, so we went there. \nWinter Break hit, and she said she was travelling. I didn\u2019t bother trying to talk to her as she said she\u2019d have very little Wifi and such.\n\nShe comes back and we hangout a few times. She was always glued to her phone, never really paying any attention. I felt really bad about myself, thinking I did something wrong. \nWith 1st semester exams coming up, we didn\u2019t talk as much due to studying. I was ok with that, still thinking I had done something wrong. Exams came and passed. We have no semester 2 classes together and she stopped responding to me completely. \n\nFinally a couple days ago she texted me asking if we go back to the restaurant for another date. I responded, with no reply for hours. Finally I texted my best friend to message her and see if she was just ignoring me. She replied to him immediately. I had had enough at that point and snapped at her, saying she only talked to me if she needed something. She swore me off, saying that I should know she rarely checks her phone and told me to never even look at her again. \n\nAITA or did I over-react?\n\nTL:DR, girl I know from school was very spotty with me. We had a kinda thing but she\u2019d only respond consistently every so often. I called her out and cut her out of my life. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}811{"id": "5nbXCREUtwgtyZbIAuHph5pcN8fnDQZs", "post_id": "b91lpt", "action": {"description": "telling my friend his friend wanted to go out with him", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "WIBTA if i told my friend his friend wanted to go out with him", "text": "Cast:\nB: my personal friend\nM: B's friend, I just had an argument with her\n\nBasically me and M occasionally talk, and one of those times she asked me if B was single. I questioned further and she admitted she wanted to date him. Just after we had an argument (not about her dating B IDC about that) which resulted in her blocking me directly after I told her I was depressed and I needed support (and she saw those messages). WIBTA if I told B that M wanted to date him", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}812{"id": "VcjNZDIMhA5GBbprVx4FHyJhZYVH7t8O", "post_id": "an6e4m", "action": {"description": "leaving my ex stranded hours from home", "pronormative_score": 27, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for leaving my ex stranded hours from home?", "text": "To give a bit of backstory, my ex and I had been dating since freshman year. We are both 18 now and about to graduate. A few months back she got a job at a department store and met a guy who would text her nonstop at all hours. I never gave it much thought until she got angry and defensive after I asked for her phone password while she was driving to change the song on Spotify. I asked her if it had anything to do with this guy from work, and got the \"you shouldn't worry about him\" talk in return. \n\n\n\n\nFast forward to this past weekend, I drove us down to San Diego just to hang out, which is give or take 2 hours away from our area. Everything had been going great all day, and we were waiting to order in a Denny's when she got all serious and dropped the absolute shocker of a lifetime. That guy wasn't just a friend, but she was *going to* cut him off after feeling super duper guilty, poor her. Iwas obviously still hurt, but mostly I was just pissed, so I stormed off, got in my car, and left her there.\n\n\n\n\nI pulled over a few miles away and she was blowing up my phone, apologizing, cussing me out, etc. In the middle of it all she did manage to tell me I had to come back and get her. I started to feel really guilty. She had her phone and wallet and all, but at this point with traffic, it would be around 3 hours before anyone would make it out to her. I didn't even know if her mom or sister were at work or not and able to go get her.  I gave thought to turning back, but eventually angrily texted her back to make her co-worker come get her.\n\n\n\n\nAnyways I still feel pretty shitty about the whole thing, in the moment I just couldn't fathom being in a car with her for hours listening to excuses. I've asked a few friends about this and have gotten really mixed responses about if I was in the wrong here. So Reddit, I trust you all more than any doctor or news site already, what's the verdict here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 27, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 27, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}813{"id": "jxJuxAivDEmDzlkxVInM8r7Wh5U4zBt5", "post_id": "b7lsfc", "action": {"description": "criticising my supervisor when misusing company time", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for criticising my supervisor when misusing company time?", "text": "Okay genuine question that requires some context: \n\nMy supervisor and I are quite good friends. However there are reoccurring instances where I find myself disagreeing with what has occurred. \n\nFor example, my supervisor has been leaving work during busy days to deal with personal issues that occurs. This was fine as a one-time thing, even a second-time thing,  however this began to occur repeatedly. It meant I had to cover their work and mine. I addressed this eventually after bottling my frustrations for so long and the situation somewhat resolved.\n\nI have now noticed that each time I work with my supervisor, his mates come over and strike up a conversation with him. Now I\u2019m normally pretty chill about all that, I don\u2019t mind a good yarn. However these can last for a long time...I\u2019m talking like 30-45 minutes. This occurs one or twice during the day. \n\nToday his mates approached him and talked with him for about two hours - with him doing a task here and there if he needs to (e.g. me being out back and a client appears).  This obviously frustrated me as I\u2019m picking up that workload again while they chat.\n\nI disclosed this with my supervisor who immediately began defending himself, stating that he wouldn\u2019t apologise for that and argued that it doesn\u2019t occur regularly...which it does. This led to a shutdown in the conversation as I didn\u2019t want to engage with someone who was on the defensive, and therefore not willing to take on opposing perspectives.\n\nI later engaged with him and said I didn\u2019t like the conversation and we talked briefly...but he still stood by his point and said he wouldn\u2019t apologise for it. \n\nWe\u2019re doing okay now but AITA for criticising him? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}814{"id": "mzF5KHhgVQrR87IxwVhJ782Ovlvf4s2R", "post_id": "aa4szl", "action": {"description": "telling my brother that I am transgender", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my brother that I am transgender?", "text": "I'm 20 and a transwoman (pre-everything) and I came out to my brother, 13, on the 25th (automod's an arsehole), which my parents are very angry with me for. \n\nI discovered I was trans about 5 months ago, and have been open with my parents the majority of that time (I live at home still), but have still been living as male because I have no idea how to begin to approach that with them and ask for them to call me Kira and refer to me as a girl (as much as I really want to).\n\nOn the 25th we had my grandparents over, they are super homophobic, racist, sexist, the whole nine yards, so they don't know that I'm bisexual. I was in the kitchen with my brother (I'd had a few drinks so I was more loose lipped than normal), and it came up in a chat that they didn't know I was bi. I jokingly said \"There's much worse things that they could find out about me\", he replied that he thought he knew what it was. I asked him if it began with a T and he nodded. I told him everything and he seemed very okay with it (there was the whole \"you'll still always be my brother not my sister\" but I can work on that one), and we had a very nice chat about it. \n\nI later told my parents that I told him and later that day my dad told me that I shouldn't talk to him about it again. He says it's far too much for a 13 year old to understand and that I'm putting a lot of stress on him by telling him. My brother is absolutely fine and doesn't seem phased at all by any of it.\n\nIs what I did wrong? Is that too much for a 13 year old?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}815{"id": "hK1hRCUgvmOiqaQq5uvY6egjFiZh5iqa", "post_id": "aw020k", "action": {"description": "prioritizing a promotion over my spouse", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for prioritizing a promotion over my spouse", "text": "Husband and I have gotten into a rough patch, so we started doing relationship counseling. Since we have a young child and no family here, we have to attend counseling during work hours and take time off. It\u2019s normally not a big deal, but I\u2019ve been working super hard to try to get a promotion. As a result, I\u2019ve recently been offered a four month trial, where I will get the promotion permanently if things go well. Due to this, I asked husband if we could take a break from counseling for a few weeks so I\u2019m not seen as a slacker for immediately taking time off. He is extremely upset and told me that I wasn\u2019t prioritizing him or the marriage. In the end, to avoid another big fight, I caved and agreed to take time off. My fingers are crossed that it will not affect anything.\n\nFrom my perspective, i just wanted to have a better first impression to help my chances of making it permanent. The promotion will help our financial situation (I am more of the breadwinner due to a much higher salary) and relieve some of the stress. What do you think, Reddit? Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}816{"id": "TZhNaNPmg4AaEJafgnFpBiaPScpNttwS", "post_id": "aepoij", "action": {"description": "not wanting more kids after my first", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting more kids after my first?", "text": "My husband (31M) and I (29F) have been married 4yrs, together 11yrs and have a 3 y.o. child. Bit of background with both of us, he's an only child with a pretty stable upbringing (loving parents, no traumas etc) whereas I grew up with screaming parents that hated each other, being beaten all the time by my mother because it reminded her of my dad and pretty much no inkling of stability. I have promised myself then when I do become a mother I will never raise my child like how I was raised.\n\nFast forward to having the 3rd member of our family...my pregnancy was smooth, no complications and I didnt really hate being pregnant. What traumatized me was post birth, recovery and basically the next 2.5yrs of the child's upbringing. Probably TMI but I had significant tearing, hemorrhoids, couldnt breastfeed, sleep deprived for 2yrs, my husband could not tolerate the sleep deptivation so he took it out on me and basically no support from either family which made me feel really lonely. This along with my childhood I guess had led me to being diagnosed with clinical severe depression and anxiety which I have been battling by the scrape of my teeth (some days I just dont want to live on this Earth).\n\nAll of that has led me deciding to not having any more children as I dont want to deal with all that trauma again, whereas my husband wants otherwise. Essentially I will be the main caregiver (unless he grows a vagina and a pair of boobs to keep it alive). I told him what I've mentioned here but he's adamant it'll be different the next round because that's what everyone's been telling him and it'll be good for our 3 y.o. to have a sibling.\n\nAITA here or should I compromise????", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}817{"id": "mGR6fEMaLsA5ATd3HfTaZg6S9GUjrG6l", "post_id": "b17v3c", "action": {"description": "wanting to end my relationship because of girlfriends mom", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to end my relationship because of girlfriends mom?", "text": "Throwaway account for obvious reasons. This is a long story so I will have to give a lot of background...\n\nI (M21) have been with my girlfriend (F20) for over 2 years now and we have been long distance (LDR) for 1.5 years in college. It was a great relationship at first but things have really gone downhill since then. I believe it's been her mom.\n\nHer mom has always been suuuuper involved in our relationship. Like, she knew right away when we had sex for the first time, knows every single date we go on, and knows every argument we've been in. That last one is the main point of this post.\n\nMy girlfriend tells her mom everything. I find the \"my mom is my best friend\" thing a bit much but I can live with that. But it's gotten to the point of telling her to not give me attention, ignore me, not ask me what's wrong, and saying stuff like schools first and things of that sort. I know that's her mom telling her to say that stuff because she wasn't like this before.\n\nWe haven't had sex in a long time because she thinks that's all I want, when it never used to be like that. Her mom also says she \"just wants her to be happy\" but that's a way for her to want to know everything and tell her what to do. Her mom thinks she's right about everything and I hate that attitude. \n\nIt has gotten to the point where I can't express my emotions because then it comes out as me \"not being confident\" or \"having trust issues\" when all I want is more communication in our LDR and more affection. Her mom is completely controlling her emotions and her life and it's taking a huge toll on me. I don't feel like I can keep this relationship going. \n\n**My girlfriend has specifically said she SENDS her mom texts before she sends them to me for APPROVAL. Is it just me or is this weird?! I'm close with my parents but would never ever do that.\n\nFor the record, I am not needy or clingy. All I ask her for is a 15 minute phone call every 2-3 days when we're away and that's apparently too much even though we barely communicate over text. I know her mom is telling her to say \"schools first\" because she's used that BS line on me before. So manipulative and controlling.\n\nShould a mom have that big of an influence on her daughter's relationship, even though she's in her twenties? I think this is a case of extreme helicopter parenting but I want to hear everyone's opinion.\n\n*I'm missing a lot of details but this is the rough summary*\n\nAITA for wanting to break up with my girlfriend because her mom is making me feel like I'm suffocating in this relationship?? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}818{"id": "egKvejGXQOcDhqHYHG5BvK4iizmh7D0u", "post_id": "a5p54d", "action": {"description": "giving an Ultimatum and then leaving", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Giving an Ultimatum and then Leaving?", "text": "Alright, let me put some context to this. This is a long distance relationship. I\u2019ve known this girl for awhile, 3 years, and about 6 months ago, we became romantically interested in one another.\nBut she recently got out of a bad relationship, and said she wasn\u2019t ready to jump into another one. Which I respected. She said she wanted to explore her options a little first as well. Which I also respected.\nAbout 3 months in, things were going great. She told me she was interested in this other girl who was nearby and it was the reason we technically weren\u2019t dating. She also promised that\u2019d she\u2019d be all mine and soon. \nWell she started getting a little distant, talked to me less, which granted she\u2019s busy with school and I am with work. But it became less and less and she seemed disinterested in even talking to me.\nI asked her if she still wanted me and she finally said that things were going really well for her and that girl and that she wanted to see where it went.\nIt\u2019s been 6 months. And this was getting frustrated, so I finally told her she needs to choose between the two of us, because I\u2019ve had my heart played with for too long. I want a relationship, not these games.\nShe replied that she already gave me her answer about seeing where things went and to take it or leave it.\nSo I left, and told her I\u2019m done with it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}819{"id": "ZgHTLTfX3sVlARVuMfZ5n0jmYDSke3C6", "post_id": "apqyya", "action": {"description": "canceling on a dinner date because the person ate a late lunch", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA if I canceled on a dinner date because the person ate a late lunch?", "text": "So this has happened more than once already. The first couple of times I didn't think anything of it because she had lunch with her co-workers and it's really not that big a deal. We had desserts and hung out. But today is her birthday and I felt like bringing her out to somewhere nice when she drops this on me again.\n\n​\n\nI'm just thinking why even plan for a dinner date if you're just going to eat a late lunch and be too full for dinner?\n\n​\n\nAm I overreacting here?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}820{"id": "97uiiOVfxC64cAQYvx81yv2P1sSMx5dx", "post_id": "am3kuv", "action": {"description": "losing interest in my Ex Fiance after she cheated", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Losing Interest In My Ex Fiance After She Cheated?", "text": "I'll try to make this as quick as possible. Me and my ex fiance had a good relationship going for about three years before she decided to pop the question. I was excited and I said yes immediately and was looking forward to our future together. \n\nAbout 2 months later I notice that she's becoming increasingly stressed for seemingly no reason. I worry a lot about her because she has been diagnosed bipolar in the past and though she was pretty much fine in the last 2 years I was worried it was resurfacing. She was also having a lot of trouble with some of the people I considered my friends at the time who were pushing her away and trying to create space between me and her which was driving her crazy (as they were supposed to be her friends as well). \n\nI was obviously sympathetic to her as I cared about her a lot and wanted to make sure my girlfriend now-fiance was doing okay. So I tried to help her out, encouraged her to meet people and make friends as I figured that would be healthy for her. I suggested therapy and possibly medication as it appeared the Bipolar symptoms were re-surfacing but she refused that for a time as she didn't want to go back on meds.\n\nA little more time goes on, it's now apparent that bi-polar is really kicking in and she began telling me things like \"I don't know if I can even feel love right now\". During this time she has become increasingly close to one our co-workers (we all worked in the same place.) At first to me it's fine, I think it's good for her to have her own friends. As time goes on they spend increasing amounts of time together while spending a less than average amount of time with me. After a bit I outright ask if there is any feelings or anything I should be worried about there and she denies it completely insisting that it's nothing.\n\nPass a little more time, he comes into work with a hickey on his neck and I pretty much knew something was up. My friends (unknowingly to me) invite this guy to a party, get him drunk and ask about the hickey horrified to figure out that it was from my Fiance at the time. They let me know, I let her know I know, and then interestingly she breaks it off with both me and the other guy (though they are still friends) and comes to me to apologize.\n\nThis is where it gets complicated. She came to me apologizing and crying about what had happened. How it was the worst mistake in her life and she regrets everything that she did. She tells me she doesn't know what to do without me in her life and she doesn't want to lose me. And honestly, I think she was sincere, and I don't think she would do this again.\n\nHowever that was about 6 months ago. Since then me and her have been in a sort limbo. After about a month I began telling her that I do care about her and want whats best for her and things could be worked out with a lot of talking and time. She was telling me she doesn't know what she wants  or whats healthy for her, or if she was even in the right mental state to make a decision like that. She told me that I might have to be okay with just being friends with her and not necessarily expect a relationship. Over time being told this over and over again, though I offered her support and advised her to see professional help I began drifting away from her slowly.\n\nTwo weeks ago, after not having seen much of any progress at all being made, I told her I was ready to move on. It was hard because we both still cared about each other but it seemed apparent that  nothing was about to change. I left that day, and then she turned around the next morning now confident that she wanted to try to patch things up with me.\n\nTo me it's just feels like it's been a little too long and too late.\n\nTLDR: Fiance cheated, she apologized, I told her we could patch things up then 6 months later when she was ready I had moved on.\n\nAm I the asshole for saying we could patch things up then switching when she was ready? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}821{"id": "UByuoo0Wb7pcEYziO1gjx46Ow59dTqak", "post_id": "b96iyq", "action": null, "title": "AITA Mom (33) for going to a party that my son (11) was excluded from ?", "text": "Before you get your emotions riled up , let me clear it up now. Its the BIRTHDAY kid that made the invite list. Had this been done by any of the parents this wouldnt be an issue.\n\n\nBasically one my best friends daughters Genevieve (10)  is having a 11th birthday party at their house  then go out to eat and a Movies afterwards next week. My friends daughter and SOME kids from the neighborhood are going.\n\n\nThe problem is is that my friends daughters reason for not inviting my son are not malicious. Its simply because they dont ever speak to each other on a regular basis anyway unless I happen to bring my son when visiting my friend in which she IS cordial to him. She just wants kids that she knows there.\n\n\nNow my friends daughter likes me and she asked me to be with the other parents for pics and etc.  My husband is staying home this year.\n\n\nAnd I dont think my son is aware of her feelings because like I said she rarely ever see him as their in different friend groups but she does say \"hi\" when she sees him.\n\n\nBut he does know about the upcoming party from the other kids and would like to go especially since his friend (who lives closer to her) was invited. But my son dosent know that he ( just like the few others kids that she ALSO dosent know that well ) wont be making the invite list. \n\n\nShe asked her mother a month ago to let her choose who gets to go this time and she agreed. (Its her party I guess)\n\n\nI talked to my friend and she said that she feels bad for my son too but at the same time ,hes NOT the only one (Thank God).\n\nWould I be wrong for going ??\n\n\nIts nothing personal against my son she just dosent know him too much.\n\nWe all know that in the adult world the kids reasonings would make perfect sense.\n\nAITA or no ??\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}822{"id": "LCUOCf1n1HxattucMOTZWll8a5Nb9HgO", "post_id": "aqp76o", "action": {"description": "telling a friend to stop walking in my room whenever he wants", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling a friend to stop walking in my room whenever he wants?", "text": "This is a pretty petty thing but I just wanna prove my point since he won't listen , albeit i could be wrong.\n\n​\n\nI live in a one room dorm and my roommate's best friend always just walks into the room whenever he wants. He's my friend too, but this last time he walked in when I was doing something that one never wants to be walked in on while doing. I know,  I could and should just have locked the door, but sometimes I forget or just don't like to, and my friend walks in. I try to be polite but he starts talking to me and I'm really not in the mood, so I tell him to f\\*\\*\\* off so I can go back to sleep. There have been other times where I just want peace and quiet to study and he'll walk in and scare me (I use noise cancelling headphones when I study) or try to talk me up, or even sit in the room and chill and I'm just fed up about it. So I text him and ask him if he'd not do it again, in a kind manner. No reply but I know he read it so I ask if he understands. He replies he thought my roommate was there, and that I should chill. I tell him not to tell me to chill when he pissed me off, and he tells me I don't have to act all tough and shit. He later apologized to me but it was totally half ass and I had to fight him on not just walking in to MY ROOM anymore. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}823{"id": "DwX2rjgrHdrQrfWn6JxH1duHvd1pr3x5", "post_id": "aw1pdj", "action": {"description": "cutting someone out of my life for outing me to a couple friends", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting someone out of my life for outing me to a couple friends?", "text": " A couple years ago, I came out to a friend of mine (we'll call her A). At the time I came out to her we weren't super close, but she kind of forced me to come out and she ended up being super supportive. Flash forward a year I come out to a mutual friend of ours (we'll call him B), and he confessed to me that A had told him a while ago, about a week after I'd come out to her. Now, I'm not super confrontational, but I was upset so I called A to talk to her about what B told me and immediately denied it, saying she would never hurt me or betray my trust like that, then she states he must have figured it out himself because I don't look very straight. She was adamant that B was lying, but when I pointed out B didn't have any reason to lie and she started crying, \"how can you not believe me?\" I got really uncomfortable so I offered to talk to her about this a different time when she'd calmed down but she seemed even more offended by this saying she didn't need me to coddle her feelings. Okay, that's fine, but as the conversation progressed she got so emotional I ended up hanging up. I called her the day after to talk about it, and she was determined that B had lied, and that she was upset that I didn't believe her. She said it so forcefully I started to believe her but after pondering it for a bit I decided I wasn't entirely sure if I did believe her and that's where the tables turned. She started screaming about how we were \"basically best friends\" and \"how can you believe him over me?\" In the end I backed down and said I believed her even though I didn't. Flash forward a couple months and a classmate of mine tells me that A had outed me to them about a week after A outed me to B. At this point I'm flabbergasted, A wasn't even friends with this person, I barely knew this person, why the fuck did they know that I was gay before I was even out? That's when I decided to cut A out of my life. There were other really shitty things she'd done to me but that was my breaking point. I told her I had no interest in being friends anymore, this did not end well and she basically told me to fuck off. Now about a year and a half later I'd been at an event with a couple friends and my girlfriend. A ended up being there. I avoided her for the entire the night, but I wasn't obvious about it. A on the other hand, make a big scene when talking to my friends, hoping to catch me at some point. At one point she talked to my girlfriend for over 30 minutes and I just avoided them both for that period. The day after, a couple friends told me that A was really upset that she didn't get to see me and that I didn't say hi. My girlfriend said that I was being rude and immature by going so out of my way to avoid A, but I genuinely had no interest in ever talking to her again once I found out what kind of person she was, but a couple of other people seem to agree what I did was petty. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}824{"id": "95hUb3IjQhKWG0pLPjFZHCqabwoCKrJD", "post_id": "a0tvuh", "action": {"description": "wanting my money back before June 2019", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my money back before June 2019?", "text": "So last year I was living with 4 roommates. We all got on fairly well until they started being complete bitches and I decided I didn\u2019t want to live with them the next school year. I had already paid the deposit on the new house before I decided I didn\u2019t want to live there. So another girl took my place and said she would pay me my deposit back (\u00a3400). This was 6 months ago and now they are telling me they\u2019re not going to pay me back until June 2019. I basically paid for her first 2 months of rent and she works & has student loans yet won\u2019t pay me back. Christmas is coming up and I need the money yet I\u2019m being made to feel like I\u2019m rude for asking for my money back!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}825{"id": "zt4cAaD17Mzzoox7LiAZB9f8nbXLMe0I", "post_id": "a6ry03", "action": {"description": "making my dad pay tip", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for making my dad pay tip?", "text": "Title is pretty self explanatory. \nDad wanted to take his girlfriend and I out to eat. Went to a really nice family run Cantonese restaurant, the staff were friendly, the food was great and they even gave us a complimentary dessert.\nAt the end my dad paid and I noticed he didn\u2019t leave a tip and I called him out on it, I would\u2019ve left a tip but he said he was paying for the meal so I didn\u2019t bring my wallet and I would assume that paying would include the tip? \nAnyway after calling him out he left a tip but was mad at me for the rest of the night, am I the asshole here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}826{"id": "ttctNBrrthYEQz3mOXEovgg3sZ8GTwZl", "post_id": "a8ladz", "action": {"description": "not wanting to sit with my grandpa when he eats", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to sit with my grandpa when he eats?", "text": "My aunt passed away roughly a year ago and my grandpa has nowhere to live, so my family let him move into our house. He\u2019s a nice person, he\u2019s really talkative and social, but he has horrible table manners.\n\nHe makes disgusting noises when he chews. He licks his fingers, burps out loud, and talks with a mouthful. I discovered this on the first night since he moved in and I\u2019ve forced myself to sit in a completely different room every time we eat dinner. It\u2019s so painfully hard for me to be around people who eat without any basic manners.\n\nMy parents have both tried to confront him about it and he becomes all defensive. I\u2019d rather just continue to eat alone, but am I the asshole here?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}827{"id": "oXHLdHTxO9G5ClTVABukqWFC7O4K2823", "post_id": "aozwzq", "action": {"description": "not wanting my sister to apply for the same position as me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my sister to apply for the same position as me", "text": "There's this fantastic job opportunity for me, and I absolutely hate my current job.\n\nI was excitedly telling my jobless sister about it, and she asked where it was and said she needed a job like this one.\n\nI'm hesitating to tell her where, even though I know she could use it. She's disabled, and is collecting disability, but she's able to work sedentary jobs like this one.\nI know I will be absolutely destroyed if she applies and gets it over me.\nI've had a really shitty year, and I feel like it's been leading up to this one good thing.\n\nI can't help but think that if she had been spending all of her free time job searching, then she would have found it first.\n\nI know I wouldn't apply if the roles were reversed, but I also already have a job (even though pay is way worse, hours are crap, and I'm livid more than half the time), so it's different.\n\nShould I tell her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}828{"id": "NOMIVCrc0x0qIlOarZw5WUBkCPCk8Lmx", "post_id": "aobt7w", "action": {"description": "limiting my roommate's time with his partner in our apartment when I'm home", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for limiting my roommate's time with his partner in our apartment when I'm home?", "text": "I apologize that this is *extremely* long.\n\nSo he's not my roommate any more. He moved out last week.\n\nHe was and is a great friend, and we'd known each other for years. We were pretty tight and he knows probably more scarring secrets about me than any other person on the planet. He came from an abusive home life where was homeschooled, had information like his SS card and birth certificate hidden and withheld, his dad held him emotionally captive, and his step mom was verbally and physically abusive. Prior to moving in with me, he stayed in the adjacent house belonging to his dead grandmother, with no plumbing or electric. He's from way up north.\n\nA few years into our friendship we resolved that when I got my own apartment in my current town, the stars aligned; it wasn't instant, but I moved him down here, much further south. I helped him get his paperwork in order to get the documents necessary for job hunting.\n\nDisclaimer: I've never lived with a roommate outside of family and one year of college. It does not suit me, I do not like it, and I appreciate my privacy. I've not been in a relationship for more than a decade. I'm 27 now. He knows all of this.\n\nI moved him in anyway, out of a brotherhood and deep friendship. We'd never actually met face to face, so I cautiously added him as an additional occupant rather than another party to the lease. This protected me, but it also gave him the benefit of ignoring rent aside from just paying it to me.\n\nWhen he moved he didn't have a job; it took four months. I paid for those first four months, rent and food and utilities for the both of us. I also helped him get his job, just a mere ten minute walk away (he can't drive). I'm not trying to get points. I'd never ask for repayment, but I feel it's important for the ensuing events.\n\nWe agreed he would simply pay half rent, no utilities, and could help with the groceries later. In exchange he did the lion's share of the chores and cooked (something no one wants me to do). Rent went up $25 and I just didn't bother making adjustments. Utilities only amounted to about $150 all told, so I ate the costs.\n\nChores: He washed the dishes because without him there wouldn't be a mess to wash, and he was paying less for exactly this purpose. When he moved in there was a flea problem as well as a roach problem, so he was also vacuuming every day. As the fleas got under control, he vacuumed once or twice a week, and then stopped entirely. The roaches also got under control, and then he got lax about doing the dishes and leaving trash in his room (both things I explicitly discussed with him long before he moved in). We did the laundry as needed, and I take care of all cat related chores and costs (I have two).\n\nAll was fine until he started seeing this girl. He'd started getting lax already, but when they started talking it really went downhill. He grew increasingly distant and would chat with me briefly and then lock himself in his room for hours talking to her every night. Before I said something about the volume he never even shut his door.\n\nFirst she constantly wanted me to text her as well, and chat, and we'd all be friends. That's just not my personality, nothing against her. Then I'd be going out the door to work and she'd be meeting me at the door to come in. Then she'd be there when I got home. This happened a couple of times before I set some boundaries. I said some stuff about not wanting her to be here all the time. I have a tone problem I've been told. One day they weren't here so I texted to see if they were coming home with a lighthearted joke about being able to strip down and do whatever if they weren't, which apparently made her uncomfortable (even though I didn't text her) because I'd been so cold leading up to all of this. Then they got here and my roommate made her stand outside in 30 degree weather under the assumption I didn't want her inside at all, which I clarified was not the case. He came to get her things, but when I told him they could come the fuck inside because of course, it's freezing, they went into his room, shut the door, and stayed there for 4 or 5 hours until about 1AM. I worked the next day, and it's a small apartment.\n\nSo I clarified my rules.\n\nThey were simple rules, maybe a bit strict. Basically it was just \"be mindful of my schedule, don't have her here for ages if I'm going to be home, and don't have sex on the cats (a real rule I added to express what I thought was the levity of the situation...and also I didn't want to clean splooge off of my cats)\". These were never respected to any real degree. She just ended up being here one specific day a week (a work day for me, so I got to come home to it) until about 1AM each time. I never said anything about it directly, but my frustration probably showed.\n\n*Then* things got a little more tense, about a month later. I was sick one day, and he made dinner shortly after I woke up in the evening. The evening before was her usual evening, and they were together the whole time locked in his room until the usual time. While I was preparing to eat, unshowered and looking a mess, he lightly and happily added that she was also on her way over because she wanted some of his tortellini. Well I lost my cool, snapped, and told him that it was inconsiderate and I was going to go take a shower. He didn't understand *why* I thought it was inconsiderate, and neither did I. He told me I didn't have to get ready or anything just because she was coming over. I disagreed. I later realized the reason I was upset was because he never even thought to ask; he just invited her. He doesn't need my permission, but that had just been our relationship up to that point. The jury was still out on whether I thought any of that was fair.\n\nAnyway I sulked in my room, and didn't speak to anyone (pretty much no different than any other time they were here except I wasn't sulking). Finally he opens the door and tells me she wants to talk. I don't want to talk, and tell him as much. He repeats his statement, I say \"[Roommate], I don't want to talk to [GF] right now\". I need time to think through my emotions, or I say things I don't mean or haven't processed fully. A few seconds later she barges into my hallway adjacent to his room and starts going off about how I have a problem and we're going to discuss it. I just continued sitting at the computer, looking away from her and doing my thing while she rambled on, getting frustrated. Occasionally I'd reiterate that I didn't want to talk right now. Didn't matter.\n\nEventually she gets me to crack and I spout off a laundry list of problems I have, largest of them being the slacking off of chores (in private I also explained to my roommate that when I'm here I'd rather they be playing Smash Bros. together in the living room than locked in his room fucking, or taking showers together). As I listed off my problems she'd give me a sassy \"mhm?\" and repeated this about 7 or 8 times. Finally I stopped complaining and simply said that \"her sassy 'mhm's?' weren't doing her any favors and the longer she went on the less I wanted her here at all\". That ended the conversation, and later she apparently cried. I was fully prepared to not speak to my roommate until after my pre-planned vacation, but he was amenable the next night, and we talked it out. He also talked it out with her, and it didn't go as smoothly behind closed doors. Full disclosure, I 100% eavesdropped on the conversation against my better judgement.\n\nAll I asked him to do was watch my cats while I was gone for the week. They were free to stay here and do whatever. I also found this an appropriate time to raise his rent from $400 to $500. I didn't do this solely as a punishment, though; I did it in exchange for doing *all* the chores. I would clean, wash dishes, and deal with the miscellany on top of what I already did. He told me he thought he should *only* pay half. So I calculated it for him.\n\nThings went on pretty much the same after I got back, except I never saw his GF again. Period. It went back to talking on the phone, except this time much earlier, and for much longer. He pretty much stopped cooking or doing anything outside of his room. Then he told me he was moving out, last week. He had applied for a job and had an interview; if he got it he was going to move out. I didn't realize the urgency in all this when he said it. I literally did not see him again after he told me he had the job. He stayed over at her place for several days, did a few more interviews...and then I got an email from my property manager saying he'd removed himself from the lease. An hour later he texted me and told me he wanted to give a proper goodbye but \"needed to get early rates on the apartment\" as if he couldn't move his stuff after signing the lease, and had moved all of his stuff out; he can't drive, so he just wasn't going to go to his last few shifts for his old job. The only job he's ever had. He had to pay the security deposit so he had to split his payments. He'd already paid me half earlier in the month before he mentioned anything, and then paid $150 with the breakup text he sent me. Conveniently he only paid $400 the one month he'd been asked to pay more. And like that he was gone. He asked me to hold his mail.\n\nWe exchanged some words after this all settled in, and, well, frankly ESH for the texts. Basically I just wanted more time; he'd needed a month if he was on the lease! That's after the fact, though. It hurts having to suddenly make up for $400 a month I didn't have to worry about, and it hurts that he basically did all of this behind my back. Mostly I just feel betrayed, but I'm not sure how at fault I am for the way this has all played out. My parents, friends, and coworkers are of course biased and they don't want to read 10,000 character", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}829{"id": "idWARCeBROYEZhOiZTxlgsrWWpMKkmQC", "post_id": "9yj28t", "action": {"description": "telling chatty coworkers to be quiet", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling chatty coworkers to be quiet?", "text": "TL;DR: Told two coworkers to stop chatting within earshot of their team members, got told off for \u201cpublic shaming.\u201d AITA?\n\nFor context, my work environment is VERY busy and fast-paced. People work towards very stressful deadlines, and if you\u2019re contributing as you should, there is almost zero downtime. This day, I had a very intense workload, as did the 5-person team I supervise. We were all stressed.\n\nEnter two coworkers, I\u2019ll call them Rima and Lucy. Both are women in their mid-20s. I am not their supervisor, but was well-within earshot of them, as we have one of those terrible open office spaces. Their supervisor was leaving in two weeks and very much checked-out. \n\nRima (who has put in her notice) and Lucy, are  junior, hourly employees who have been chatting nonstop for about an hour. I know it\u2019s not work related based on some words I pick up. For several minutes, I wait for their supervisor or another senior employee on their team to intervene, but none of them do. Most of the managers at my company are young, and many of them are very non-confrontational. I\u2019m getting increasingly frustrated.\n\nI use the internal chat system to message a senior staff member in their row who ignores me. At one point, I go to the kitchen to get a snack, and another junior employee on their team complains to me that he can\u2019t do his work because of the talking. \n\nAt that point, I go up to them in their row and say: \u201cguys, the chatting has to stop. This is a common working environment.\u201d They have guilty looks on their faces and stop talking, and I go back to my work. I told them off within earshot of their row, but with a normal speaking voice. Ie. Not excessively loudly. \n\nThe next day, I find out that Rima complained to the department manager, feeling like she was disrespected because she was \u201cpublicly shamed.\u201d The manager tells me off about it, and tells me I should have brought them into another room and talked to them privately. I apologize for creating a situation my manager had to deal with, but told her I was on fundamental disagreement with her point of view.  \n\nMy opinion is that the burden of expectations should be on staff to act professionally, not for managers to disrupt their work flow to walk on eggshells around disrespectful employees. Besides, pulling them into a separate room would have been just as conspicuous given the office layout. \n\nI was certain I was in the right but when I vented about it privately to a friend of mine in the office also told me I was in the wrong. His opinion also bothers me, as he told me that I should have \u201cused the opportunity to act as a female mentor to young women instead of berate them.\u201d I find this attitude to be paternalistic (shouldn\u2019t women my age be expected to be as professional as everyone else?), and puts an extra expectation of emotional labor on me, who already has a team to manage. I also have an odd sense that there is a gender dimension to this as I frequently tell the male members of the tech team to lower their voices when they\u2019re talking about memes, but nobody has ever taken issue with that. \n\nAITA? \n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}830{"id": "xFH4RD8CQnz9a2zQ5MnizG2zmj7u3xQY", "post_id": "b7xzu9", "action": {"description": "thinking my Boss should ask a regular customer not to return", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for thinking My Boss should ask a regular customer not to return?", "text": "I  am a night-shift employee at a fairly small gas station and convenience  store in a VERY small town (Less than 500 people small.) This gas station usually plays host to a group of older men in the mornings who like to come play cribbage and drink coffee that the management gives them for free.\n\nOne  particular man, who for the rest of the post will be referred to as M,  has never worked for our location, nor any other location in our chain. However, He constantly speaks to myself and the other younger  members of our staff as though he is our supervisor. When he isn't doing  this, he is simply making rude or snide comments about us either  directly to us or to the others in his group.\n\nSimply put, M comes in every day, and after he's done with cribbage, fills our coolers if something is low. He has to go back into what would normally be employee only areas to do this most of the time, and is very nasty to the rest of the staff about it.\n\nWith  all the context out of the way, I go in to work one day to find that the general manager had  to come in to cover the morning shift.  We switch tills, and while the GM is  going back to take midday count of her till and our slot machine payout  funds, M comes up to me and tells me, word for word, \"Now I went around  and filled up all those coolers, and they'd BETTER look like that when I  come in in the morning.\"\n\nFrustrated, I  go to the GM and essentially  said that I'm sick of M speaking to me like he's my boss, and that he  shouldn't really be doing anything that he does around here in the first  place, even if it can be helpful sometimes. My boss, likely frustrated  already considering she shouldn't have had to be there that day, told me  that she was thrust into that shift, and that they were swamped in the  morning, so he was just helping her out. I told him what he had said to  me and she told me, quote, \"It's not always about you. And sometimes  people on the night shift, not you, but people on the night shift leave  the coolers empty. Ron's just being helpful so you'll just have to learn  to ignore him.\" I decided not to press further after that, frustrated.\n\nWithin this statement,  there's the implication that I, as practically the only night shift  worker we have, do not fill the coolers properly at night. I fill the  coolers to the point where they look full every night before I leave,  but if there are three or more bottle in a row, or the cans/bottles are  large and bulky like Arizona tea cans or tall 38 oz cans, I typically  leave them. I also don't fill the rows completely, because as stated  above, pushing the bottles/cans all the way to the back results in them  falling behind the shelves entirely, or makes the more top heavy bottles  fall over and out of the coolers when they're meant to slide down.\n\nSo  Long Story short, I think M should be asked not to return to the store. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}831{"id": "N9fNLaI68QYjpbRthGR3paS3XHh6ASwK", "post_id": "auflxx", "action": {"description": "getting upset at a friend's underage drinking", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for getting upset at a friend's underage drinking?", "text": "Hey all, little backstory. I'm in my 3rd semester of college, and my friend is a senior in high school. A few months or so ago, I'm scrolling through social media when I see they post that they're at a party. They're being very loud, and they're jumping up and down to music, something that is totally out of character for them. They were always the quiet type, especially when I saw them at school around other people.\n\nI send them a text saying \"Looks like fun haha\", a couple hours later they reply with gibberish. I ask what they said and they just reply \"I'm so drunk\", and a picture of alcohol on a table. All I reply is \"that's probably not the smartest thing you could have done.\" \n\nThe next morning they ask what I meant. I just said that them getting drunk, especially at their age (16), isn't the smartest thing you could do. Automatically they got defensive, saying they had a good time and that they were with friends. They said that the alcohol let them unwind and have a good time.\n\nI reply saying that it's good they had a good time, but alcohol shouldn't be the reason you had fun, and that they did something that they wouldn't do normally while sober. We basically went back and forth for an hour or so, them justifying it because they had fun, and me just saying it wasn't a smart thing.\n\nMultiple times throughout the argument, they'd say \"can we just ignore this\", but then they would try to get the last word in, usually along the lines of \"I'm still going to drink I don't care what you say,\" to which I'd respond to and start the argument again. It then evolved to them telling me that I was taking the easy way through life by going to college. Eventually, I had enough, and said that we should apologize to each other, and they said they had nothing to apologize for. I left it at that, and it's been months since we last spoke.\n\nI never, throughout that entire conversation, say \"you should not, or can not drink.\" All I said was \"it wasn't a smart thing to do\". It was simply just advice. I don't care if people drink, but it was just a mixture of their age as well as how they acted that worried me. They were with friends and they didn't drive home, and they assured me that they'd only drink around people they knew.\n\nWas I out of line? I felt it wasn't really my business, and I sort of knew this person was stubborn, so telling them anything would probably not be effective anyways. I knew they weren't going to say \"You know, you're right\", but I figured it wouldn't hurt to just say something. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}832{"id": "tIJuCRgGzoXil0HCMLtmz7znmbmuhiCM", "post_id": "b73t9i", "action": {"description": "not wanting to call in twice for work", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to call in twice for work?", "text": "I am feeling sick today.I don\u2019t know what is wrong with me I\u2019m really emotional and my back is in pain and all I can really do is lay in bed and even that\u2019s uncomfortable.I called and told my manager that I needed to take the day off and she said okay.Anyways I get a call from my coworker saying there wondering where I am at and I told them I already called in.He told me I should call in agian because the manager earlier didn\u2019t tell them I called in.I don\u2019t want to do this because the manager right now is in a bad mood and he doesn\u2019t like me at all and I feel like if I call in agian with him he will fire me over the phone.I rather just tell him next time in person that I already called in.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}833{"id": "BWXwdVsKDgp1ynUCT5tNuFIz470I3ta1", "post_id": "a5gqt7", "action": null, "title": "AITA when an unknown number calls my phone and I answer, I don't say anything waiting until the other person says hello.", "text": "So they obviously hear the call connect but they don't say anything. It takes people around 10 seconds on average before they say something and it's always \"Hellooo?\"\n\nIf you met someone irl and went up to them and just stared at them you'd be considered the asshole so why don't people properly greet people on the phone?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}834{"id": "XnNaK4pcHhlr6NK0e3kRN6ALn3tIAI06", "post_id": "anhtal", "action": {"description": "not wanting my boyfriend's friends to join us on Valentine's day", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my boyfriend's friends to join us on Valentine's day?", "text": "So me and my boyfriend plan on just getting an airbnb for a couple nights and keeping it low key for Valentine's day. His friend and his girlfriend want to come with us and stay in the same place those nights too and I'm against it.\n\nI don't want them to mostly because I don't like his friend and he's always trying to start petty arguments with me and I just want to enjoy my time. I also feel like Valentine's day should be just for us. \n\nThe thing is that this is has been brought up and asked about 3 times now and everytime I've said I'd rather them not come. So today, my boyfriend brought it up again and I got mad about it. I got mad because I've said no twice already. He then got mad back and was like \"whatever I guess we'll do whatever YOU WANT.\" So after that I was kinda like \"you know what? I really don't care if they come at this point. Let them, I. Do. Not. Care.\" Which didn't help of course but I really didn't even care. He kept asking and even after he know how I felt, he just kept asking so I felt worn down and just gave in.\n\nI wanna add that I've been asking him for ideas on anything he would want to do but I just really didn't wanna be around his friend during Valentine's day. So is it still me making it all about what I want to do and being an asshole about it?\n\nSo AITA? Is this something I should have just said yes to in the beginning? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}835{"id": "KHDtN56m4K6DZZmB5YyeCowyw36wN2Uz", "post_id": "b3aeeq", "action": {"description": "not wanting my friend to drink", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 21}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my friend to drink?", "text": "This is a just throwaway account to ask this question.\n\nFor some context, both myself and my friend are 17 turning 18 later this year. I'm heavily against any form of alcohol consumption and drugs as I am am well  aware of the risks and consequences associated with the two, I don't think I ever intend to drink. Most of my grade, as well as my friend don't share the same concerns as I do, many of them have been drinking for years. I have a couple friend's  who also don't drink, but this one friend in particular has been influenced by those in my grade (and out of curiosity) to try drinking, and intends to at an upcoming party (she's never been to one, nor have I). Since i'm not going to the party, I've told her to not drink and voiced my concerns (technically it's illegal since the drinking age here is 18) but she's already invested in it. Today I was more persistent and again pressured her not to do it, I admit I may have come off as a bit pushy since I was irritated due to some other people mocking me for not drinking. Anyway we started arguing about it and a couple of my other friend joined the conversation and took her side, which was even more frustrating. We ended the argument both pissed and upset with each other. I'm at the point where I don't think I should care anymore. I am genuinely worried about her but I don't think theres anything I can do. AITA for not wanting her to drink?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 21, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 21}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}836{"id": "LoFohH9k0WIMjrJ9yUo1TDRGBeTpp239", "post_id": "b2jes8", "action": {"description": "yelling at the person my boyfriend cheated with", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for yelling at the person my boyfriend cheated with?", "text": "So, two years ago my boyfriend ''cheated'' on me with his friend. She sent him nude photos and he was flirting with her.   \nHe blocked her and haven't talked to her since that day.   \nBut this weekend I went to a party, and there she was. First I thought that I should leave, but I decided to be a better person and forget about her.  We were in the same room for 7 hours, and I didn't care about her at all! I had such a good time. Until she asks where my boyfriend is. I told her that he was home. Then she asks why we blocked her. And I said that I didn't want to talk to her, and that she knew why.   \nI turned around and was about to talk to my friend. But she kept on saying that she had no idea what she did, and that she hadn't done anything...  \nI told her that I knew because I've seen their messages and I've seen what she wrote to him. Then she goes on saying that she would never do that because she had a boyfriend.   \nSo I got mad.. Because she lied and because she was saying all of this infront of all the people. So I said that she was a ''fucking cunt''. And stormed out of the party and went home. \n\nThen today I get a message from her on facebook. Where she wrote that I was childish and an asshole. I just texted back and said that it was two years ago and how I couldn't understand why she would bring it up infront of everyone.   \n\n\nI am anxious about the situation because I am a really shy person.. But I got mad, and it feels like everyone agrees with her that I am the asshole.... So AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}837{"id": "Ye5soqes2IAQzRUkEXGWQpmY4WeK1kwi", "post_id": "akzarj", "action": {"description": "breaking with my mother", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for breaking with my mother?", "text": "I struggle with my mental health since I am ~10. About 2 weeks ago I was in a very bad place and had a fight with my mother. She told me to finaly go and kill myself. If it hadn't been for my best friend who picked me up last second it would have ended bad. Now I move to a new apartment and want to stop all communication with her.\n\nMore info: I struggle with depression for a very long time, I am 25 now an have spend ~2,5 years in institutsions and ~2 years in state financed rehab to help me find work (I am from Germany and glad we have so advanced help here). I had some really bad episodes and 2 (thank god) failed suicide attempts. But i try my best to not dwell in my sickness and become a usefull member of society and repay all the help. I was beaten by my mother and dad I  have forgiven them what had happened, knowing they didn't knew better and I don't want live in anger the rest of my life. In recent years I was not an easy son. I began occasionally smoking weed, and taking some other drugs (I stopped everything except sometimes weed). Sometimes I am moody and get annoyed quick. \nI have gotten in fights with my mother before and she told me multiple times I should finaly go and end it, and that I was her biggest mistake and I am an disappointment. She had a horrible father and really bad childhood (she is also struggling mentally and I think she is on her way to becoming an alcoholic) \n\nI would have no problem seizing all communication with her if it wasn't for my dad. We had our problems too but in the last few years he tried hard to turn things around, he accepted his guild for beating me and apologized (my mom never did this). He supports when ever necessary and sets things in motion with his excellent connections in our community. He is a family man and family is the most important thing to him. I know it will break his heart seeing his core family break apart.\n\nSo will I be the ashole? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}838{"id": "kp6l7sZV3d8O3gExJGkQqAnlAil1N7ib", "post_id": "aydut7", "action": {"description": "being annoyed at my gf's stress/sadness", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed at my gf's stress/sadness?", "text": "Sounds bad, but hear me out. I (19M) am in an LDR with a girl (17f) from India. I have yet to notice any problems with our relationship, and she has never once even mildly irritated me until now. She's currently taking her year end exams, I won't pretend I'm entirely clear on how the education system works where she is but it's somewhat equivalent to American high school finals. She's relying on these scores to get into med school, which she considers the only option as far as her future goes. She has been studying day and night for these exams for months, and while she's rightfully nervous, some of the stuff she's been saying is just rubbing me the wrong way. She took the first test yesterday, her math exam, and has been crying ever since she got home from it, saying she's going to feel guilty for the rest of her life. Due to her own calculations, she got a 95% on this test, giving herself some room for error she's settling with a 91%. she hasn't received any results and I'm not sure how she determined this on her own just from taking it and analyzing how hard it was but she says shes positive shes in the lower A range and its tearing her apart. Now I know cultural differences are a factor in this, as I'm from the US and probably the laziest/most laid back part of it at that, beachside in Florida. Also, probably more prominent is family differences, a lot of pressure is put on her from her parents, and her mom projects on her, telling her how much she still regrets the scores she got on those tests. I know it's probably coming from my own insecurity as I was a teenage runaway and never finished high school, dropping out at age 17 and doing random odd jobs/freelancing for a living, which I am still doing. It just gets under my skin a bit when she got an A on her math final and is hysterical about it not being an A+, saying her entire life could possibly be ruined. Now, I've not said a word about this bothering me, and I dont intend to, ive been giving her the greatest support I can, but I feel a little guilty for mentally undermining her struggles. AITA for feeling like she's being kind of dramatic? It's not like she scored poorly, or even knows what she truly scored yet.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}839{"id": "aft3aNzAHhg1yR9tsRHVoHToIxwcoMwX", "post_id": "a6u5tw", "action": {"description": "accidentally manipulating my friend into telling me things she's unsure to tell me about", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for accidentally manipulating my friend into telling me things she's unsure to tell me about (please read text portion)", "text": "So on one hand I don't think it's the best thing but at the same time it's led her to talking about how she cut(s) herself and a kid who told her to shoot herself which she wouldn't have talked about otherwise.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}840{"id": "tqAjtF9WmLp3A6gEGZtUrjKDib5Hy1lR", "post_id": "ay1vo8", "action": {"description": "feeling uncomfortable around a friend who confessed their feelings to me", "pronormative_score": 30, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for feeling uncomfortable around a friend who confessed their feelings to me?", "text": "(GMT+4) \n\nI\u2019m actually a 15 y.o girl who\u2019s really haven\u2019t experienced this kind of stuff before and it\u2019s an o o f\n\nA friend of mine kept telling this guy who just so happens to also be a friend to confess to his crush and I didn\u2019t know any better about who it was back then, so I encouraged him to do it and he seemed awkward with that. He was really secretive and wouldn\u2019t tell me who it was.\n\nThat same friend who told the guy to confess told me it was really obvious who his crush was and was surprised I didn\u2019t get it. \n\nEventually though from all the teasing from me and the way everyone acted around me and him, I got the message. And I was nervous because I didn\u2019t reciprocate those feelings.\n\nBut then time came and he wanted to talk to me by the school halls during lunch and he wanted to talk with me by the window. I become confused but do it anyways, only to find him confessing to me.\n\nPanicking because I, again, didn\u2019t like him that way, I go ahead and say \u201cI\u2019m flattered, thanks\u201d and smiled. It was really awkward and I broke the silence and asked \u201cSo what do you want me to say\u201d and he just says it\u2019s fine and offers me an Oreo but I say I\u2019m on a diet because he confessed a day before prom.\n\nI got reprimanded by another friend for not giving him a chance and not liking him back. I argued that I can\u2019t force feelings that aren\u2019t there and that at least I didn\u2019t lead him on or anything. We both agreed to disagree and ended it at that.\n\nDays later of everyone forcing me to dance with him during half my prom night even if I was unhappy, people teasing me with him and flirting with me for him, I thought it was repulsive but I did nothing. \n\nNow I can\u2019t even talk normally to him as a friend because he either tries to flirt with me or guilt trips me for what I said and repeats it in our conversations and it\u2019s annoying. \n\nI no longer feel like wanting to hang around with him because of that but I can\u2019t help but forget we had a good friendship before this and I feel bad wanting to ignore it over this.\n\nHonestly, the guilt tripping is kind of working and I keep wondering lately if I should have just toughened up and pretended to like him back. And my actual crush told me that he overheard I rejected the guy who confessed to me. I didn\u2019t think it\u2019d spread like wildfire that way. \n\nSo far only two people who I have talked about how I felt agreed with me and the rest have pretty much subtly or downright described me as an asshole for this. I\u2019m really unsure at this point, but nearly everyone thinks I\u2019m an asshole so :/\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 29, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 30, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}841{"id": "wQJmz5LyUhkd5MXRkbMyGKwwvLqYRqPQ", "post_id": "b6xhzm", "action": {"description": "not choosing the cheapest possible officiant when others are helping pay for my wedding", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not choosing the cheapest possible officiant when others are helping pay for my wedding?", "text": "When searching for an officiant for our wedding, I skipped over the cheapest one because he said that due to religious beliefs, he doesn\u2019t perform same sex marriages. My fianc\u00e9 and I are not the same sex. We are man and woman, but I am strongly pro-equality. I couldn\u2019t see someone handling the most important day of my life knowing they don\u2019t feel the same way about marriage as I do. So I went with a more expensive option and the officiant I hired has the same beliefs as my fianc\u00e9 and I.\n\nMy sister says it was rude of me to skip the cheapest option since other people are footing most of our wedding bill and that it was more important to be considerate of them. She says, I\u2019m not gay so why does it matter?\n\nI feel strongly about this but my sister made me wonder if I should have swallowed my pride and just taken the cheaper route for the sake of those who are helping pay.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}842{"id": "F9VG0V9Lr1WukKKKFJrtGTJetD1WmuUC", "post_id": "b10hdp", "action": {"description": "asking my ex wife to contribute to kids health insurance", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For asking my ex wife to contribute to kids health insurance?", "text": "My ex wife and I, both 45yo, have been divorced now for 7 years. During this time, our child has been on my health insurance. Our kid has braces, I pay for that also. The child is also with me at least 75% of the time. I obviously pay for clothes, food and the like. I work full time 8-5pm m-f. Ex wife is in restaurant industry, works evenings, schedule varies. I recently asked to start contributing to her health and orthodontics. She told me to fuck myself. She uses the \"reasons\" for our divorce is why she feels she doesn't have to pay. I do not pay child support. AITA for asking/insisting she start paying something towards these expenses? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}843{"id": "TKhpyWSpNh1tB1Jzv1JepN3dTN3zdeZl", "post_id": "aneojg", "action": {"description": "not wanting to play a game with a friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to play a game with a friend?", "text": "Hello, I don't wanna type out the whole conversation so i'm just gonna copy and paste it all, Here's some backstory. So me and my friend are in a rocky friendship we always have been, but hes one of my only friends and he is the only friend that plays the types of games that I play with him. Here are the screen shots of our discord chat. *also they arent a furry* *And I am RWBY*\n\n\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nhey\nwanna play\ncsgo\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\ntomorrow  yes\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nbruh\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nBruh shut up im going to sleep\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nim ginna be alone ps is being\nrude and left ne\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nCool\nYou have left me\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nare you kidding me\nare you actually kidding me\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nYes\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nok theres not gonna be a tommarow for me and you so go to sleep child\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nIm tired im going to sleep I don't feel good\nWhat?\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nhere is it in the simple version\nim blocking you\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nWhy\nWhat did I do\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nand ps because you both leave me\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nI don't feel good\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nyou just said like im gone bye\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nIm sorry\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nand shes like ima go play this bye\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nYou legit have done that before\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nso now im alon the only people i could play with is zasuke\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nIm sorry there's plenty of times that the only person I can play with is no one\nryan0151547901/26/2019\ni hope i wake up in the morning and alll my electronics that i could text you or ps on is gone\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nWhy\nIm sorry I will get on\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nbecause im irretated its so early and i cant play tommarow and you both getting off\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nBut you shouldn't blackmail me\nThis is a toxic friendship rn\nryan0151547901/26/2019\nits not im not giving a choice\nRwby BibleThump01/26/2019\nIm getting on to play Cs go just one sec\n\n\nAITA ???? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}844{"id": "pyucoxv61F4w1uL3ZN0erDivR4J5ssNz", "post_id": "amyp1m", "action": {"description": "wanting to cut ties with a old time friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to cut ties with a old time friend?", "text": "First time poster here and on mobile, so sorry for wording and grammar.\n\nOk, I am sixth grade and I have a friend whom I've been friends with for three years. We have been good friends since 3rd grade. So I have some respect for her since she is a long time friend. But recently I have a change of mind. The reason for this is because she is very violent.\n\nI was shipping two of my friends for no reason and I told both of them. One of them was chill about it but the other really wasn't and was kinda mad. I don't know why but I started to poke fun at the friend like occasionally saying the ship (I know dick move.)  That when in digital art my long time friend heard about the ship and was not happy. She was also mad that I was on hacker typer and singing Africa by toto. She said if I didn't stop she would choke me I thought of it as an empty threat and continued.\n\n She then proceeded to put her hand around my neck and choke me it hurt slightly not really that hard. But I was just astonished at this that she would do that. I didn't tell the teacher I don't know why but I was mad. I didn't tell her anything but I am still mad this happened a week ago. \n\nAm I the asshole for wanting to cut ties with her.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}845{"id": "xrRtDxjO1DG6Y9p514RueJuIeDOJAnqU", "post_id": "9y9niz", "action": {"description": "getting upset with my dad when he texts and drives", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting upset with my dad when he texts and drives?", "text": "My dad's a good man but he has very unsafe habits. When he's not texting he usually holds his phone in the center of his steering wheel and watches some political podcast. \n\nI can't control what he does when I'm not with him but when I'm riding with him and he does either of those things I'm not afraid to remind him how unsafe that is for him and everyone around him. \n\nI usually get brushed off with the \"I've been driving longer than i can remember\" line. But I try to persist with the fact that you can't control what happens when you're not paying attention to the road. Sometimes he gets upset and I feel like I'm being a controlling asshole. \n\nHe is a good driver when he's paying attention. But when he isn't we've had some close calls. \nSo am I the asshole for constantly reminding him his habits are unsafe?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}846{"id": "cjjpGWhXPcfAan65h54tCXHDQrMpDOdR", "post_id": "aobtu4", "action": {"description": "being short with my prying friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being short with my prying friend?", "text": "So some backstory here. A few days ago, my BIL got arrested for some involvement with drugs. I'm not going to get into all the details, but it's been especially hard on our family given that my MIL is a police officer in the same municipality and our nephew was present. We had heard some rumors, but it's his first time around with this kind of thing, and it was still a shock to us. Everyone is on an emotional rollercoaster right now, myself included. \n\nWord spread pretty fast about what happened. Most people have either avoided the subject completely unless I bring it up, or offered their support and that was the end of it. Then comes this friend, we'll call her Sam for the sake of the story. Sam and I have only known each other for maybe 6 months.\n\nSam starts out by texting me, asking how I'm doing. I tell her I'm doing alright, thank her for the concern. She starts pushing the subject further, asking for more details. I tell her that I'm not really in the mood to discuss the situation. She didn't take the hint. She kept pushing further and further, so I was just very short with her. I didn't say anything rude. She starts asking if she upset me. I told her no, I just don't want to talk. However, I'm starting to get pretty upset. She keeps apologizing for possibly upsetting me, and then starts turning the conversation to her own family problems, and trying to compare them to my situation. By this point, I've had it, so I just quit answering her before I got to the point that I did say something rude. She's texted me several times over the last day or so now, but I still haven't answered her. This kind of behavior freaks me out a bit, especially since I've only known her for a few months. I'm also not a very open and social person. Everyone that's ever been around me knows this.\n\nPart of me feels like an asshole for ignoring her. However, I feel like I gave her enough indication that I didn't want to talk about it. AITA?\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}847{"id": "7vgXbTYSEaieq3DD4uuubIP9BEtBZzhD", "post_id": "azn787", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my friend for cleaning the bong in the washroom", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my friend for cleaning the bong in the washroom?", "text": "Whenever the bong  gets dirty it needs to be cleaned - I get that. But this bong smells like absolute dog shit, and I cannot stand the smell when he cleans it on the MAIN floor washroom. We all brush our teeth in there, shower in there, etc. We have a basement with one of those industrial sinks, and I always suggest for him to clean it down there but he's only done it a couple of times. He gets mad whenever I ask him to go clean it downstairs in the sink we don't use at all. I feel like its common courtesy to clean *his* bong somewhere that's not the washroom. It's just nasty. \n\nAm I really the asshole in this situation? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}848{"id": "hFO4X66ouXgHgRHdzkp26pvv7HowwRqs", "post_id": "anjmnh", "action": {"description": "telling the cashier I saw someone shoplifting multiple packs of bacon", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling the cashier I saw someone shoplifting multiple packs of bacon?", "text": "I caught someone  stuffing multiple packs of center cut hickory smoked  bacon down his pants while I was picking up breakfast sausage. (He wasn't trying to be very inconspicuous, just stepped behind a cardboard box of paper towels and appeared with no bacon. \n\nSo as I checked out I told the cashier about it nonchalantly and told her what the guy looked like. They called security and I left the store. \nI got home and told a couple friends about it. And they said \"you didn't snitch did you?\"\n\n And apparently now I'm a \"cunt\", \"snitch\" and \"should mind my own business\" \n\nHere I thought I was being civilized and I'm being chastised. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}849{"id": "Q6g4hkhfNBkh1F5UvedneFsZezKH9yyg", "post_id": "b2w02b", "action": {"description": "leaving my fiance of 7 years", "pronormative_score": 100, "contranormative_score": 67}, "title": "WIBTA, for leaving my fiance of 7 years.", "text": "My fiance and I have been together for 7 years now and have an almost 6 year old son together.\n\nAlmost 3 years ago now we had broken up for about a month. During this time he began to talk to a girl that he's known for most of his life. We got back together, and I expected him to break off all contact with her. Which I thought was understandable.\n\n2 weeks in and he still has her on all social media including snapchat. We fought and fought over it and he eventually deleted her. Or so I thought.\n\nLast October, we had been growing rather distant and I took it upon myself to snoop through his phone.\n\nAnd there she is. She had blocked me on social media so that I couldn't see them following each other. He had literally liked every single one of her pictures, not any of mine during the same time period to be clear, and she liked his as well. Including a picture of his Snapchat code asking people to add him.\n\nI confront him. He becomes angry and defensive but swears hell get rid of her.\n\nAbout a month later I decide to check again. And she's still there. So I told him I was leaving him.\n\nHe left for about 3 days. And we eventually talked things through and he again swore to delete her and block her for good.\n\n3 weeks ago, I saw that he had liked pictures of the girl's sister on Instagram. He says he had remembered liking them from a long time ago and had been trying to unlike them so I would never find them and in doing so accidentally re liked the pictures, and I believed him.\n\nLast night. He has both the girl AND her sister unblocked AGAIN on social media. Meaning he went out of his way to go through his settings, get to privacy, open his list of blocked users and unblocked those two in particular.\n\nWIBTA for ending a 7 year relationship with the father of my son because he can't seem to let go of some other girl? Even though the only thing I really have evidence of is them staying in contact, not actually cheating?\n\nI'm at a complete loss.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 99, "EVERYBODY": 52, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 100, "WRONG": 67}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}850{"id": "82Q5jzjh3pyQNheVJkEBVm4xaOjPefsJ", "post_id": "b1oji7", "action": {"description": "letting my son exclude four people from his birthday party", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I let my son exclude four people from his birthday party?", "text": "My son\u2019s birthday is next week.  I was willing to host a party for his entire class (17).  He is adamant that he doesn\u2019t want to invite four of his classmates.  That they are mean to him and will ruin the entire party. \n\nI\u2019m conflicted.  I want him to have a great birthday party, but inviting everyone except four kids feels pretty shitty.  ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}851{"id": "8uCXmhfGHgIXHzPGZ03b1B5wJncPISqx", "post_id": "aswvfx", "action": {"description": "not giving my younger cousin Pokemon cards", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not giving my younger cousin Pokemon cards?", "text": "Throwaway because people know my username. Also Im on mobile so sorry for any errors. \n\nFor starters, Im a girl in highschool so Im still living with my parents. We have an attic which we keep a bunch of random stuff in. \n\nOccasionally Ill need something from the attic, and I end finding a bunch of other old stuff. About a year ago I found an old tin with my pokemon cards in it.  They were all curled and dusty from age so they were all worthless. After finding them though, I started to get back into collecting them. \n\nI dont have that huge of a collection now but I do have a few nice cards that Ive pulled that I keep in binders in my attic. (My parents didnt really know I was collecting again before the incidents)\n\nSome days of the week my elementary school aged cousin comes to our house after school to wait for his mom to get off work (shes a nurse). My parents went through the attic to find any of my old art supplies they could find for him to keep himself busy.\n\nThen though, they started pulling out my binders of cards to show and probably give him. I got kind of lucky and walked downstairs immediately after he opened the first binder to look and I just said something along the lines of \u201cJust remember, please only look at them and don\u2019t take any\u201d. And he said okay and that was that. It was just me and him in the room. \n\nAbout a week later my mom knocked on my door and asked if my cousin could have my cards. I said he can look at them but I really dont want to give them to him. We bickered so we just made a deal that I would give him a couple of them. We went through them together and I gave him some cards that I had duplicates of that he wanted, and I actually probably gave him about 60 different cards. So you know, a decent amount to an elementary schooler. Again, all was fine. This happened in the early summer of 2018. \n\nAlso, I told my mom later why I didnt want to give them away. \n\nLast week, my cousin came and knocked on my door and asked if he could have my cards or if \u201cI still liked them\u201d. I apologized and said that I did still like them, and he said okay. I learned later that he came down the stairs dissapointed. Ever since then my family seem to be annoyed with me.  I asked my mom about it and she said that nobody could understand why I wouldnt just give the cards to him, and I explained to her that I had spent money I earned at my job on many of the cards and I actually use (trade / sell / play) them, and they probably would just sit on his shelf. \n\n\nTLDR; my elementary age cousin wants Pok\u00e9mon cards that I bought and my family is annoyed at me because I dont want to give them to him. \n\n\nSo AITA? I understand he is only a kid and also part of my family, and I honestly do feel kind of guilty by not giving them to him.  But I bought them with my own money. I was never mean about it to him or anyone. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}852{"id": "hHdTgbekY2PnKGvXDeEDI46OqPf1ymvH", "post_id": "amu9l2", "action": {"description": "teaching my 5 year old cousins how to fight", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for teaching my 5 year old cousins how to fight?", "text": "My little cousins keep telling me someone bothers them at school and I taught them how to fight. They got in a fight recently and the mom is trying to press charges, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}853{"id": "byCfTUWMu1Sptb3twh60n84W8waflHGT", "post_id": "afhm4d", "action": {"description": "picturing myself playing piano at my mom's funeral to make myself play better", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for picturing myself playing piano at my mom\u2019s funeral to make myself play better?", "text": "Sometimes when I play piano I want to get in a very emotional headspace that is hard to achieve. To do so, I will sometimes pretend as if i\u2019d be playing at my mom\u2019s funeral and it just tears me up inside to the point where the music becomes so much more dynamic. I picture my childhood and our memories and the happiness and joy and the incredible sorrow I\u2019ll feel when she\u2019s gone. \n\nI know there\u2019s no real harm done but it just feels so morally wrong. It feels as if I\u2019m playing with these emotions and down playing death...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}854{"id": "DDl336ekNK3w9oIWmAs27hWreTL7lj8e", "post_id": "abn4tx", "action": {"description": "feeling hurt and annoyed when my so chooses someone else over me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for feeling hurt and annoyed when my SO chooses someone else over me (non romantically btw lol)", "text": "So my SO in our heading towards 5 month relationship has recently kind of bugged me. A week or two ago I was at hers hanging out and she got a call from her friend who asked if she was doing anything today, to which she said no, and if she wanted to come out, which she said she\u2019d ask. Taking in mind no mention of me to her friend and no offer of invitation so I felt like wtf and asked her if she wanted to go see them (when I had travelled over 2 hours to see her and we had a fun thing planned (at her house)). And she said \u2018yeah kinda\u2019 so I was like wtf and got my stuff and left with trying to act okay and not mad because I felt so shocked.\nAnyway that still kind of bugged me and then just now I messaged her this long sad message which I wanted emotional support on and then sent her a message a few minutes later because on this group chat she got added to with my friends who she\u2019s just met and spoken to once she was @tted I made a joking comment about it. Anyway I check back and no reply to me but there was an instant reply to my friend who she barely knows and she never uses discord, that\u2019s the only chat she has on it so not like she clicked on it for convenience so idk why she chose to reply some person she barely knows over me first, especially when I was wanting support but I\u2019m just hurt and got annoyed at her. Is that wrong of me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}855{"id": "cYtwS8dEx1tWlWHWDkVtqmNQziFirrSs", "post_id": "b4nhcf", "action": {"description": "trying to get my mom to stop drinking", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trying to get my mom to stop drinking?", "text": "so i\u2019m 15. my mom has drank for as long as i can remember. for the past couple years, it\u2019s really gotten out of hand. she would drink and try to hide it, because i really didn\u2019t like talking to her when she was drunk. she was mean, would cause problems, would argue with my dad in the middle of the night. but worst of all she would go to work drunk, drink and drive and would try to drive me places while pretending she wasn\u2019t drunk. i\u2019ve found bottles all over the house.\ni need to add that i think i have a lot of mental issues and i recently had to get hospitalized because i had a panic attack and i thought i was dying. after the doctor told me i had anxiety i went to talk to the social worker and i told him everything: how my mom drinks and drives, how i get anxious about everything, etc. he got this social worker to talk to my mom and now she\u2019s going to meetings about her drinking, and they also told me they would get me help. no help has come at all. my mom stopped drinking for a couple weeks, at home at least. but yesterday she was drunk again and it was a horrible night. she started yelling at me about random shit like if i have problems at school and how school is making me act up. i kept telling her no and trying to remove myself from the situation because she was yelling and drunk and when people yell at me, i can\u2019t really help it but break down and start crying. i gasp for air and stuff and idk how to stop it but it\u2019s hard to communicate when someone is yelling at me. she kept blaming me for putting her in the system and that now she has to go to meetings. and when i started crying and asking her to stop she started mocking me saying, \u201coh you\u2019re gonna have another anxiety attack?\u201d and saying i was a bad actor and that she could see right through my act. i kept trying to walk away to calm down but she wouldn\u2019t leave me alone. i asked my dad to help me but he just ignored me and walked away. i tried to call my sister but she was yelling at me to do it in front of her. this morning was bad too. she told me she wasn\u2019t drunk last night, even though she obviously was. she told me to mind my own business and to fuck off, which was the first time she has ever swore at me. she said it had nothing to do with me and that gods the only person who can judge her and not me. i told her she needed to stop lying to my face and that i could smell it on her. she blew in my face and started yelling at me. i really don\u2019t know what to do right now reddit. am i really the asshole for trying to get my mom to stop drinking and telling someone? she told me i wasn\u2019t her daughter anymore and i\u2019m really broken inside now. i really don\u2019t know what to do", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}856{"id": "gWfk3J3q7VKrURVEaxhaZy6EmOJLnTEc", "post_id": "aec6bi", "action": {"description": "seeming to cause friction in my friend's relationship", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for seeming to cause friction in my friend's relationship?", "text": "I have just started college this past year, and I have made some great friends (I am a girl, and my best friends here are all guys). All of us get along very well and I am very grateful to have made such great friends so quickly. \n\nOne of my new friends has a girlfriend back home. I do not know much about her, and our group of friends does not often talk about our lives/friends back home. \n\nA few days after returning from winter break, my friend recieved some long paragraph text messages from his girlfriend. I did not mean to read his messages, but they came up on his computer as we were all looking at a game he was playing. I quickly looked away from the messages, but I saw that a few of them contained my name. My name is spelled in a unique way, and I am pretty positive that it was referring to me. As soon as the messages came up, my friend left and went home to call her. \n\nI believe that I seem to be causing tension in the relationship as a new friend - who just happens to be a girl - in my friend's life. \n\nI do not want to lose him as a friend - he is one of the best friends I have made, but I feel like my presence is causing friction in his relationship. AITA for being his friend?   ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}857{"id": "VJR9NLJX7s7uKtd0PzyJoloIQeBGsYKr", "post_id": "aanthn", "action": {"description": "not driving three hours to pick up my sister", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not driving three hours to pick up my sister", "text": "My sister who just moved back to the city I live in and hasnt made any effort to come see me (which I have. Invited her to my place multiple times and she refused) called me just now and asked me to come pick her up three hours away. She left last night from my moms which is near my place, and when she did my mom told her she is not going to pick her up, so make sure she can get a ride back because it seems like her friends didn't seem to want to pick her up anyway, so she probably wont have a ride back, and my sister said they definitely would give her one. Well they didn't and she called my mom, who of course said no, so she then called me, asked me, which I told her I didnt want to drive that far because my u joint in my truck is bad, and I really dont want to risk it.  I told her I'd think about it and she said angrily fine, I called her back and said if she can get them to give her a ride half way back I would come get her, she got mad and said that her friend wouldn't do that then hung up, I feel like a dick because my inner big brother says go get her, but my adult says dont risk your vehicle and she was the one who decide to go three hours away instead of spending time with family who has actively tried to spend time with her", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}858{"id": "Cyj047D8lxhNoPEx0z4ggqGSpEBH6BDr", "post_id": "ar5n88", "action": {"description": "taking my son's PS4 he bought himself", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for taking my son's PS4 he bought himself?", "text": "Hi all! New here! This situation has been bothering me because I do not know if it was the right decision or not. TL;DR at the end\n\nFirst, my son, who is 16, got a part time job over this last summer. He raised enough so he can get the family gifts for Christmas and a ps4 for himself. I couldn't buy him one since all my money goes to my parents for personal and financial reasons. We both live with my parents and it's not out of being super poor, but it's comfortable and my parents are very chill.\n\nI work basically a 9 to 5 job, but backwards. 9 to 5... Night shift. So it's hard not to be very not aligned with my family in terms of being awake.\n\nRecently, my son has been doing... Below average in school. I, being a single father, worry about this. My parents spoil my son a bit too much to not care about his grades. They usually throw the \"you should focus more\" line to my son which just goes right by him.\n\nOne day, before work, I see what my son is up to and... It's his PS4. He is on it. I haven't noticed much of him playing it until I saw his report card right after mid terms and Christmas break happened. When I saw him I told him that he needs to study more and that the ps4 is making him do less work in school. He tells me not to worry. Me, being stressed a bit before work, snap a little. His grades haven't been doing too well and that I wanted to see his grades on the spot (they have the grades online and I trust him to show me when I ask). But, he hesitated a bit. He said he may have low grades because he still needs to turn some stuff in.\n\nI'm a bit angry at this point. I know I shouldn't have but it didn't change the fact he had low grades. He finally showed me and there was an F! A big ol F in Chemistry. It's a hard class I know but, an F! A lot went through my head. Why haven't I been notified by the teacher he's doing this bad?? How come he hasn't asked for help? I always tell him to ask me for anything. Then I asked myself. Is it because he's playing games all the time???\n\nI told him that he needed to give me that PS4 on e spot. We argued a bit. He paid for the ps4 but I paid for his school. I had to head off to work and didn't finish the argument, but the next day while he was at school I took the ps4.\n\nHe was angry at me for the first time in his life. Saying that he worked hard for that ps4. I told him about his grades and he said he needed to turn stuff in still. I told him he shouldn't be late in the first place. \n\nThis was only about a week ago. And he still has an F in Chemistry\n\nI told my parents I did this and they said I needed to go easier on him but I disagree.\n\nI told my son I'd give it back once he gets his grades up. But he DID pay for this ps4. It's his. And I took it.\n\nAITA?\n\nTL;DR my son had a summer job, paid for his own PS4, but I took it away recently because his grades haven't been doing well at all (Failing a class).", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}859{"id": "16iUbtUVNjeNAs6aRuibFM3R4bhfLU5d", "post_id": "a3inc6", "action": {"description": "wanting my uncle to get the fuck out of my house", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For wanting my uncle to get the fuck out of my house?", "text": "AITA: Soooo, this is going to be long, but worth it.\nMy uncle came to Italy (where I live with my parents, both are from Morocco) two months ago, and he has been living with us ever since.\nHe came here with a sketchy employment contract (which states that he is working on a farm in Veneto), while he really has been living in another region with us. Since he moved in, i haven\u2019t talked to my dad and i have been arguing with my mom every.single.day. It has been a nightmare.\nThe problem is that this big, fat, 34 year old, thinks (just like every other north african migrant, except for people from Lybia and Egypt) that Italy is the place to be, when it is NOT; my parents paid for his tuition in Morocco, and he did not finish studying for his college degree. Then they bought him a scooter to help him get a job, (again, he was still in Morocco) and he didn\u2019t find one and had to sell it; they paid for his marriage (he also had a daughter), while he lived in our house in Marrakech for all of his adult life without paying us a single euro for the rent, or the bills.\nHe has always been completely dependent on my parents, and this thing always drove me insane, because i cannot forget what my dad went through when he came to Italy as an immigrant 30 years ago... he slept in the woods, on trains, he didn\u2019t eat for days on end, he was robbed, he was discriminated, he had to go through some Tough shit, and here is this shrek-looking giant baby that comes to italy with an easy jet flight (paid by my parents), and thinks he can conquer the world by watching the tv and eating all day long.\nAnd what bugs me the most is that both of my parents dont think there is something wrong with them spending money on his future (and not mine, wtf, we are not rich), or with him not helping with the chores (even though he doesnt work and is at home doing nothing all day long).\nWell, do you guys think i am the asshole for not talking to my uncle and my dad (we had a terrible fight about this situation) and for deciding to eat alone in my room until he leaves our home?\n(I am an 18 year old girl, next year i will be studying either medicine or biology, university life is expensive, and my parents wont be able to afford sustaining my studies, our family and his family forever)\nFun fact: since he has moved in, i\u2019ve never even saw him. I shower when he is sleeping or outside, and i cook when he is another room or out, lol. I have no idea how i am managing all of this shit, but it is driving me insane, INSANE\nSorry for the text block, i just enjoyed reddit and i don\u2019t know how to edit.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}860{"id": "0iXPAnJVKxCYrCbusKEXkEYIhHsOD4nE", "post_id": "aswsuu", "action": {"description": "telling my best friend that he's whipped", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA If I told my best friend that he's whipped?", "text": "[Link for the term \"Whipped\" I'm using.](https://www.italki.com/question/180678) TL;DR at the bottom.\n\n​\n\nSo my best friend, let's call him Sam (18m) and his girlfriend, who we'll call Ashley (17m) have been dating for over a year and a half now. It's clear as day that no one likes Ashley. She is very rude, to not only Sam, but to me, our other friends we all hang out with, and just everyone around her. She is a total bitch IMO. \n\n​\n\nWhere Sam goes, she's there. When we decide to have a \"Guys\" night, she tags along. When she does, she's nothing but selfish, rude and talking constant shit while always touching and totally showing PDA. The PDA is the worst part. Sam is always paying for her food, meals, giving her rides to school then work. For context, Sam isn't the most...Fortunate man in the world. He's not poor, but nowhere near rich. He's about almost at low class citizen area. SHE comes from a very rich family. Has a million dollar house, lives in the best city, has cars from a Tesla Model X, to a Mercedes S-Class. \n\n​\n\nLike I said, he's totally submissive to her and does whatever she wants. Sam is giving it his all for Ashley and she is literally just saying, \"Meh. Pay for my food.\" Sam is currently balancing 2 jobs and high school while Ashley doesn't even have one. The relationship is totally lopsided and it's clear as day that Sam is whipped. There was a time where Ashley slept in the same bed as one of her cousin's friends at her house. And she claimed nothing happened. And of course, Sam believed her and laughed it off. He's even bought her a $200 necklace she has never worn before. Which was about 2 paychecks for him. She bought him a hat. He wears the shit out of it.\n\n​\n\nShe didn't even tell her parents until there 1 year anniversary, which was sketchy as hell in my opinion. He will go out literally every weekend to her house at 1am to go spend the night at her house to avoid her parents. Keep in mind they live about 30 minutes away. And he is always going over to her house. She's been to his house once and that was a few months ago. Sam moved about a month later and she hasn't even seen it yet. She is a terrible girlfriend and it's clear as day she is whipped, so WIBTA if I tell him he's whipped? Providing all the information and proof that says so. Or should I just keep my mouth shut and let him find out the hard way.\n\n​\n\nTL;DR, Best friend is clearly whipped due to the influx of things he does for his girl, pays for every meal, drives out to her house every weekend which is a 30 min drive away, buys her expensive jewelry, she's a freeloader and yet she's extremely rich. He is pretty low class. She has been suspected of even cheating (which she probably has.) Our whole group hates her and thinks the same of her. Should I tell him he's whipped or just let him find out the hard way?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}861{"id": "QmidoasVzuzFWY2FiUPKNpbWGIFUYTHq", "post_id": "af4qxn", "action": {"description": "going to a movie with a female coworker", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for going to a movie with a female coworker?", "text": "We are both in committed relationships, she's been with her bf for 7 years. Gf of 6 years doesn't want me to go but coworker has no one else to go with (her friends are all busy and bf doesnt like the movie). Gf complains that she isnt comfortable with me being alone with a female coworker despite the fact that we arent really alone. I've reassured her that the coworker is in a committed relationship and wouldn't try anything. If she did try anything I would turn her down. What do you guys think?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}862{"id": "mbzllkiMxLno3FMSvEdRtDQqvAEFTZgl", "post_id": "b2ghrc", "action": {"description": "supporting the cheated on husband", "pronormative_score": 150, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA - Supporting the cheated on husband", "text": "Story is roughly a year old. It revolves around two people we'll call Frank and Annie! I've known Annie since we were babies lying next to each other at the hospital and our parents bonded. While I have a sister Annie has always been more of a sister to me.\n\n​\n\nNow some years down the road Annie married Frank and we hit it off straight away. Frank works in the oil industry so he's typically 14 days on the platform and 14 days off. During the 3 years of their marriage Annie never said directly that she was seeing someone on the side, it was more of a feeling I had but living close to 1000 km's away there wasn't really much I could do. Last year they announced that there was a baby on the way - All joy and glory but I had a feeling I couldn't shake so during my next visit I asked if Frank was thinking about a paternity test. You know just to be sure? This was after more than a couple of beers. Turns out my comment stuck and he later on insisted they get one. (He caught her emotional cheating) As anyone can guess it turned out the kid wasn't his. He also let it slip that it was my suggestion which kinda blew up in my face.\n\n​\n\nNow Annie who only works part time is suddenly without the six figure income of Frank and without a home, she's looking at moving back in with her parents. I'm somewhat removed from the situation as I live far away but getting shit from my parents and siblings as they think I should have keept my mouth shut and \"Not ruined a good marriage\". People keep telling me I should think of the child involved and that Frank is being immature.\n\nI'm so far sticking to my guns that Annie was the person who created the situation and that pulling the child card is unfair. It's been a year now and both me and Frank is heavily isolated from what used to be our friends and family. He's relocating to my city to get away from it all.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 149, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 150, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}863{"id": "ctvflokVjZ2xRiBEGmJDBK4W2bNkMaza", "post_id": "a71don", "action": {"description": "lying to my friend's wife", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for lying to my friend's wife?", "text": "I've known this guy about fifteen years. Great guy, generally speaking, and lives in my neighborhood, so I see his wife and daughter around at local stores or wherever. She's always nice, but I wouldn't consider her a friend. I'll call them Dave and Dianne.\n\nDave has had a side girl for months. I've never met her, but he's shown me some pictures. Last Friday I got a call from his number, but when I picked up it was actually Dianne on his phone. She was very upset. She asked me if Dave was seeing someone, and I told her I didn't think so. I really just panicked, it was sudden and confrontational and weird. Now I feel bad about lying. She's always been nice to me, but I really don't want to be involved in their marriage mess. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}864{"id": "RcLqJVpsbeLkkBfBmjldvACLlXsOj35Z", "post_id": "b4guv7", "action": {"description": "not wanting to hang out with a friend when she fights with her boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to hang out with a friend when she fights with her boyfriend?", "text": " \n\nI can't help but feel like a bad friend for this, but here is the story.\n\nMy friend argues with her boyfriend quite often, and it is like a pattern: whenever they fight she asks me if i want to hang out, to have a drink at her place, e.t.c.\n\nMost times i come over to comfort her and to listen to her, but lately i don't really wanna do this, i just don't really feel good after these intercations. It is not like we talk ONLY about her relationship problems, but she tells me a lot about it, and i get worried about her. Then they make up and she says oh it's all good and fine and dandy, then they argue and it starts all over again. It's like a rollercoaster.\n\nToday she asked me and our other friend if we want to come over at her place, and i just don't know what to do. I know that she isn't at best mental state now, and i feel like i need to be with her, but at the same time i don't want to do this because it is draining and i planned on studying today. So AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}865{"id": "5zS03MhrUAbCN36MeDH2aTHJUm9wzDdi", "post_id": "b8nmpj", "action": null, "title": "AITA -- Refuse to agree that SO's parents are not child abusers", "text": "Throwaway, randomly generated username. \n\nI've known this guy since we were in middle school. We met online, and it wasn't until college that we started phone/videocalling, and started dating. \n\nWe've had a myriad of issues and been on again/off again for the past two years, but a big conflict has been his parents. Partially, this was due to how they talked about me -- it was super long distance, so I never talked to them, but his mom literally sat him down and told him she was afraid I was going to be his \"foreign wife\" (apparently a bible reference, saying that I was going to ruin his faith, as I am in fact very white and American). But the biggest part of it was that in the beginning of the relationship, I was extremely blunt about my thoughts on how he was raised. Specifically, I stated that I believed that any parents who were complicit in the abuse of their child were themselves child abusers. (His sister was mentally and physically abusive, and taking up too many parental resources, so they sent him to a private school, which was admittedly expensive and amazing EXCEPT for the person who started mentally and physically abusing the boys. He told me himself that they had proof, and their concerns were brushed off/they were not believed. He was eventually believed and pulled out.)\n\n\nAs you can imagine, this did not go over well. Most people do not want to hear that their SO thinks their parents are child abusers, especially if they are still in denial about having PTSD (he has now accepted that and went to therapy for several months). \n\nAfter being in therapy myself (this was my seventh attempt at therapy, after a run of bizarre bad luck where I had many who gave me a) AA prayer b) advice to be a Wiccan and have lots of BDSM sex with strangers and c) a single breathing technique before throwing up their hands and giving up), my therapist and I decided that my approval of his parents shouldn't really matter. My new mantra was going to be that as long as *he* thought they did their best, that was what mattered. However, we didn't see any obligation on my part to actively agree with the idea that people in close contact to children -- e.g. parents or faculty at a boarding school --, have no obligation to protect those children from abuse. \n\nWe are 20/21. He still lives with his parents, and I live with mine on my school breaks. He does not have an order of protection against his sister because his parents guilted him against extending the temporary one he was granted. \n\nTLDR: By my definition, his parents are child abusers. Telling him that is obviously not the best course of action, but I refuse to outright voice approval that I don't mean. AITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}866{"id": "7BNcwKSkMEzjDyV5Ucjq0vKsWEgscd2u", "post_id": "b0y3pf", "action": {"description": "telling me sister's bf that she is cheating on him", "pronormative_score": 129, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for telling me sister's bf that she is cheating on him?", "text": "My sister is kind of a slut and has cheated on at least 3 of her BFs that i know of. Her most recent bf is actually an old buddy of mine who i used to hang out with in the film society club (that i had to quit due to work). he's a chill dude so when i found out she was cheating on him i texted him and told him everything because it sucked to see a friend of mine get hurt like that. he was thankful but i could see he was massively hurt. \n\nthey have since broken up and both my sis AND my mom have been screaming at me and saying that i'm a piece of shit and my mom threatened to kick me out but thankfully my dad put a stop to that nonsense lol. still, my sis and mom are furious at me and it feels like im walking on eggshells at home. \n\nit sucks bad because they keep calling me all sorts of names and my sis in particular has been vicious making fun of my weight and my gynecomastia but i still don't regret telling him.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 128, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 129, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}867{"id": "OqnYYyk5nHZmIFXVG8TEv5i86erpnC2e", "post_id": "aez4dk", "action": {"description": "telling my friend his grandmother was snooping for money", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend his grandmother was snooping for money?", "text": "For context, I've known my friend for 8+ years, and stay at his grandmother's place when we both have to work, to make it easier on all of us. Recently, while my friend was at work and I was hanging out in his room, his grandmother came in and started going through his drawers. She kept muttering to herself and whispering, \"This is where he usually hides it.\" When I asked her what she needed, she said, \"I just need some money for a while.\" \n\nNow, she never actually told me what that money was for and had stolen money from my friend in past occasions, so once she left the room I messaged him to tell him. He was understandably pissed, and called out his grandmother. She tried to play innocent and act like she did nothing wrong, as she tries to do. She started acting extremely passive aggressive towards me, to the point where she came in when my friend was gone and told me that he would be \"In big trouble\" because I was here without him. Only found out today she needed the money for bills, but had she not been acting the way she did it wouldn't have been an issue.\n\nSo reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}868{"id": "rphHrOO4PhLdl9deIOHDWNARVrSJlBKN", "post_id": "arir07", "action": {"description": "blocking my friend of 4 years on FB for a transphobic meme", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA: I blocked my friend of 4 years on FB for a transphobic meme", "text": "I apologize in advance for formatting. I\u2019m on Mobile so I can\u2019t imagine it\u2019s going to be great. \n\nSo I had a friend in college, he seemed pretty nice and we did a couple theatre shows together, we were in the LGBTQIA club on campus together (I am bi and he\u2019s gay), and we swam in a lot of the same circles.\n\nHe posted a meme on Facebook that insinuated that bisexuality\u2019s mere existence confirms the gender binary. I gently explained to him (rather politely, to be fair) that pansexuality falls under the bi umbrella so the point doesn\u2019t really stand. He let his straight friends troll me for hours. I shouldn\u2019t have let it get under my skin, but it did and I told them to fuck off and eat my ass.\n\nNow, normally I\u2019m pretty good at civil discussion, but it was clear they were trying to troll me and I didn\u2019t want to take the bait and debate some people who weren\u2019t trying to listen or care. They just wanted me to get more upset and they called into question my sexuality, and my dignity, amongst other things.\n\nI PM\u2019d him, a little miffed and told him that his stupid meme was causing a lot of harm and asked him why he kept it up. He told me \u201cI found it entertaining\u201d and ignored me after that. \n\nAfter hours of harassment and threats from his straight friends, and a non-response from him, I decided to throw this long-time friendship out the window and block him on all socials.\n\nFriends, AITA here? Should I have tried harder to talk it out with him and educate these douchebags, or was it not worth my energy to fight for someone who doesn\u2019t care.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}869{"id": "MDvfdE5gHE0yZRuUAsJTVFaQ12s21jPw", "post_id": "a4s0zq", "action": {"description": "wanting my question answered", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for wanting my question answered?", "text": "I went to an Italian restaurant with my partner awhile ago.\n\nWe wanted to immerse ourselves so my partner ordered Italian wine and I wanted an Italian beer.\n\nWhen they took our drink orders my partner ordered the wine and I asked where one of the beer was from.\n\n\"I'm not sure. I'll go and ask.\"\n\nWaitress returned and says \"It's made by [company].\"\n\n\"No no sorry I mean where is it from. Is it made here or in Italy?\"\n\n\"I'm not sure. I'll go and ask.\"\n\nWaitress returns soon and says \"We're not sure where it's from sorry.\"\n\nI was getting a bit annoyed and sternly asked \"Well, can someone look at the bottle?!\"\n\nThey came back soon and said \"I can't read the language on the bottle but it says import from Italy.\"\n\n\"There we go. I'll have that one thank you.\"\n\nThe bottle was all written in Italian which I found amusing after all that.\n\nMy partner said I didn't need to snap at the waitress but I expect them to either know or find out what I believe is an easy question.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}870{"id": "m90Z5Flhjn3MQyZnoJnJZXZqSfol9cKb", "post_id": "ak4bif", "action": {"description": "asking a dude if he went to school around here while at a party", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For asking a dude if he went to school around here while at a party?", "text": "This happened months ago but I still think about this interaction and I would really appreciate honest feedback.\n\nI was at a small halloween house costume party (maybe 12 other people total). I had just a few drinks + was a bit high when I struck up a conversation with this guy. It is important to note that I am a white female and he was black.\n\nWe introduce ourselves and explain our costumes then i ask him where he's from and all that.\n\nMe: so what's your story, man?\n\nHim: story?\n\nMe: yeah like where are you from, how many siblings do you have and that whole thing?\n\nHim: I'm from _town an hour from here_\n\nMe: cool, so do you go to school around here?\n\nHim: what, do you think i dont go to school?\n\nMe, a bit tipsy, literally just repeated myself\n\nHim: why dont you think I go to school here??\n\nNow he's starting to get a bit worked up and i'm self aware enough to know that im too drunk to continue this conversation gracefully so I literally just nod my head and walk back to my friends.\n\nI immediately wondered if he thought that _I_ thought that he was uneducated and that maybe it was race related. I grew up in a pretty conservative area and sometimes I still learn the hard way that some of the things i say without thinking are insensitive. But asking if a young adult is going to school, is that really politically incorrect, even if he is a minority? \n\nTurns out we go to the same college btw. My friend who was there had seen him around. \n\nSorry i know this post is a bit political. Just let me know your thoughts, reddit.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}871{"id": "Efjm6YyyK1nCnK9oRNUm7WjDEGOthRnr", "post_id": "aapn1o", "action": null, "title": "AITA Wife Says I Am, Do You?", "text": "My wife and I are at odds and can't seem to get on the same page. \nSmall backstory, in effort to be a better communicator, I share last night with her that I'm struggling. I feel that I'm at capacity currently (with life's current events/adulting) and am on edge.\nI feel at times that many things I do are not right in her opinion or just irritate her. Today has been no exception.\n\nStarting at 5:30am, our 1yo wakes and is crying. I get up to help and wife asks that I just try to soothe rather than bring to her for early feeding. I do this, but baby begins to scream again. I thought wife says to bring baby to her and she will feed, but I guess I misheard her. She gets mad and says that I'm messing up the sleep training. I'm hurt by her frustration, but just lay back down.\n\nAnother moment from today: \nFamily is getting dressed and ready to go out for the day. I put on t-shirt I received for Christmas and an old baseball hat. Wife looks at me funny in disapproving way. While in another room, I hear her say in a gameshow voice, \"the whole family gets dressed nice and you decided to wear stupid shirt that says boats & hoes and that awful baseball hat\". I ask if she was planning on taking family pics while out, she says no. I tell her I'll change since she disapproves, and she says don't... I tell her she's being passive aggressive and she says she's just joking and where the hell has my sense of humor gone?\n\nAnother instance: \nI'm speaking with her quietly in bathroom. She says, shhhh! The baby is sleeping. Ok, fine, but I was already taking quietly for that reason.\nA few moments later she shuts a cabinet and it makes a loud squeak and slam. I say shhhh to her as well. She then calls me passive aggressive and says I obviously had an issue with her telling me to be quite earlier, but that she didn't want the baby to wake.\nI agree and say that nobody likes to be shhh'd, but also agree that nobody like to wake the baby even more.\nFrom there the situation spirals and the specific details are blurry, but I'm told that I'm miserable, unhappy, need to figure out what my deal is, to get a life and find my happiness. I have been accused by her multiple times that I must really hate her and the life we have created.\nShe then decides that we need to split for the day, taking the kids out on our planned outings and for \"me to do me\" and figure my shit out.\n\nShe is out with the kids now and I am confused. I know that I am not innocent, as it takes two. And yes, I'm in kind of a funk right now. But it also feels like she is taking shots at me, perhaps out of irritation that I'm not 100% my chipper self. \nFunny thing is, I really believe that the things she accuses me of are some of the shortcomings and character defects that she possesses herself. If I try to communicate that to her, the whole conversation usually gets turned around to how I am guilty of all the things I tried to discuss with her. It feels like a vicious cycle of just going tit for tat over trivial points and arguing for the sake of arguing. And I hate it. It really makes me sad...\n\nNot sure if this is the right forum for this, but the feedback here seems to be good, offering great perspective.\n\nSo am I the asshole here, do I need to pull my head out of my own ass, or is there something else perhaps?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 22, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 36, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}872{"id": "WdXdFXtYnzpTiN6m40dQx8xqwwvt1no5", "post_id": "9yhlda", "action": {"description": "yelling at my grandmother", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For yelling at my grandmother?", "text": "Im on mobile so apologiez for formatting etc.\n\nTo start off this was a little while ago and my grandmother asked for help finding something, i helped her look as best i could for a few hours and over the course of that all i was receiving was yelling and insults. \n\nAfter awhile i eventually got mad and yelled at her to stop acting like such a bitch that i was doing the best i could. Obviously this did not help but were on a non talking stalemate\n\nOther family members have said i was in the wrong and i feel i am in some regards.\n\nAITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}873{"id": "uAMeT23HmxRvFd8wrDWJgyddcLFIQd9K", "post_id": "aybkum", "action": {"description": "not getting a birthday present for my friend because he didn't get me one for mine", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn't get a birthday present for my friend because he didn't get me one for mine", "text": "A little bit of backstory on this. A few months ago I was asked to edit a video for a project my friend was doing. It had been assigned for almost a month at that point, and the due date was literally a day away. Normally I'd love to help, but at that time I was busy with homework of my own, and I generally didn't want to replan my schedule. Now I told him that I really didn't want to, and to ask others if they could do it. \n\n​\n\nAfter a while of him asking, I agreed to do it, but on the condition that his group would pay me for the editing work, much like if they had hired an editor. I receive the files later that day, and I begin to work. Now keep in mind, this project was due the next day, I had a physical limitation of 14 hours to finish IF I stayed up all night. After a lot of complications, I finally get it done with the help of another friend, and I call this guy's group to give it to them. I ask my co editor if he wanted anything, but he just said he was fine and went to bed. \n\n​\n\nAt this point it was almost 3 in the morning, and I had been working on the edit for a total of 5 hours or so. I tell them the thing's finished and ask for $50. They refuse and argue about why the price is so high. I didn't really think this was that high of a price, as I had spend many hours on it, and delayed my own homework to rush it out on time. After some more arguing, I just wanted everything to be over. I had school the next day and the most I was gonna get then was 5 hours of sleep. In the end I just told them to take the video, but if they could pay me that'd be really nice.\n\n​\n\nFast forward a few months to my birthday. This was still a while ago, and I hadn't gotten any of the money from any of the people. I didn't want to make a big deal out of my birthday, I just changed my mood message and mentioned it if anyone asked. Generally for other people's birthdays, if I didn't know them well enough for a personal gift, I'd just give them $10 worth of gift cards in something like steam or amazon. Some of my friends knew I played this game alot, and gifted me some skins and premium currency. I was pretty content with how things turned out. The friend I edited for didn't get my anything but I wasn't really caught up on it. \n\n​\n\nThe next day at school, I see him at one of my classes. He sort of pulls me to the side and hands me a $10 bill. When I asked him what it was for he replied that he was paying back the money he owed me for the editing (there were 5 people in that group, they split the cost evenly, I still hadn't gotten the other $40). I feel like it would've almost been better if he didn't get me anything at all. Paying me for a job I did as a birthday gift just kind of feels wrong, and I don't really want to get him a gift again this year for his birthday. \n\n​\n\nAm I being an asshole for thinking this way?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}874{"id": "kWNjF5tiE5RCVMnojUmFzdIF8KAONEoj", "post_id": "apk3av", "action": {"description": "moving on too quick", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for moving on too quick?", "text": "My ex girlfriend was a narcissistic control freak who manipulated me for four years, I spent almost all of high school with her and I blame myself enough for how weak I was, I asked to break up with her dozens of times, she made me feel terrible and guilty and I'd always end up going back to her. After moving house I met a girl who is the only girl I've ever had feelings for, after knowing her for a month I had a huge crush on her and asked my friends for advice. At the end of school I broke up with her this time for good, i wouldn't have to see her at all anymore, she being her took the breakup as us being \"on a break\"\nAfter two weeks I confessed to the girl I had a crush on who I'd become friends with in the last month and knew all about my ex girlfriends manipulation and abuse and she told me she felt the same way. I've been so happy with her since for the first time in years, we've been together for almost a year now. After a few weeks of dating when my ex found out she went ballistic, she told all our old friends and sent me a lengthy message about how heartbroken she was, all our friends but three sided with her and couldn't believe I'd moved on after four years in just a few weeks. She treat me terribly but I can't help feeling guilty for how fast I moved on it made me feel like such an ass especially after all my old friends had said their piece, one said how she treated me doesn't justify getting into a new relationship that fast after four whole years. My girlfriend has assured me it's just more of her manipulation but if so I have to admit its worked. AITA??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}875{"id": "mdzEGizAJUfo1VSWBAUowI2JYqpo5uhz", "post_id": "a4fhn5", "action": {"description": "not exchanging someone's free gift because they have one already", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not exchanging someone\u2019s free gift because they have one already", "text": "Basic background, I work in a high end furniture store. One customer ordered a custom made sofa, it took a little longer than expected, so he demanded a free coffee table. I felt bad because the customer spent a decent sum so I obliged. Everything is delivered and all is well. \nFast forward a month later, the customer calls and says his father passed suddenly shortly after they got the furniture, and that they didn\u2019t think to tell us that they have a coffee table similar to the free one we gave them. He asks that we take back the one we gave him and deliver a different one. Problem is, we usually don\u2019t give away free furniture in the first place, and having to go wrap it up, bring it back, and deliver a new one is expensive, not to mention that we cannot sell his table as a new item. If it were any other circumstance I would tell the customer to kindly fack off, but I feel bad about the passing of his father. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}876{"id": "fWiyy31a7uP5y31z7wKuPihcBBQXvTHg", "post_id": "ahgge7", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend that she's not my best friend", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my girlfriend that she's not my best friend?", "text": "A few days ago, my girlfriend and I were talking about the whole \"your life partner should be your best friend thing\", which is a statement I disagree on. For me, a best friend a girlfriend/significant other are 2 very different things. I can fully believe and trust both my best friend and my girlfriend, but there are some things I would talk to my best friend about, but not my SO, and the other way around.\n\nThe last few days she's really been in a bad mood because she considered me her best friend, but I don't consider her mine, because as said above, I consider the two to be very different things. I consider my girlfriend the person in my life I'm closest to, by far, closer than my best friend, but again, they are two different things in my opinion. And by principle, I don't lie when asked a question, even if it's a stereotypical leading question.\n\nAITA the asshole for telling my girlfriend she's not my best friend?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}877{"id": "7GCpK9riVM2akMQs7CjRbS6yk2z1g5CN", "post_id": "9ume4p", "action": null, "title": "AITA argued with new employee,boss gives them overtime.", "text": "Hey guys\n\nFirst time posting so might not be the best !\n\nSo basically i\u2018am in a leadership role and lead 6-7 employees.I report to a manager let\u2019s call her Dee.\n\nI started this position and after 3-4 days of training Dee takes 6 weeks off for holidays.I\u2018am left to run the warehouse by myself and look after about 10-12 employees.\n\nDuring this time a guy (let\u2019s call him Adam) starts.He is our new Storeman.He lied on his application about his experience to get the job.First day arrived and he is clearly inept.We find out about him having no license and he is basically put on floor duty (picking packing etc)\n\nFrom day 2 he is argumentative with myself and makes a load of mistakes and blames others.Disappears for an hour with no explanation,arguing with me in front of people etc.\n\nThe upper management agree to fire him and so have me keep records of his mistakes.When Dee returns she agrees to fire him.Adam and I get into a heated argument (he had lied to my boss about me) So I leave the work place before it escalates.He is separated and taken out of my team and left in another area sweeping floors.\n\n\n\nManagement tell me it is a slow process to fire him even though under 3 months you can be fired for anything on the spot.\n\nAfter all this Dee passes myself and another good worker for overtime and gives it to this guy,who then doesn\u2018t come to work that day.Next day same thing she passes myself and other co-workers up for overtime and gives it to this guy.\n\nAm I the asshole in this for arguing back ? I have told management I don\u2019t want him in my team but my manager coddles him when he is so clearly inept.\n\nThanks in advance for reading !\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}878{"id": "xJuB7NLJ5KyM45vH70Dx2o3rziHUpj4G", "post_id": "b4rxe3", "action": null, "title": "AITA? My BF says he\u2019ll pick me up at the airport and instead comes home drunk.", "text": "Throwaway account because my boyfriend knows my regular user account.\n\nIt seems inconsequential but he\u2019s coming home in about an hour and I\u2019m a little pissed, but before he comes home I want to make sure that I have a right to be annoyed or if I\u2019m just being selfish.\n\nBackstory:  I was out of town for work this week and during the same week,  my BF\u2019s friend  was in town.   He tells me that he wants to pick me up so I can hang out with him, his friend  and a couple other people.  He texts me while I\u2019m in the air and tells me he is stuck far away and can\u2019t make it in time.  I say, \u201cit\u2019s cool no worries\u201d - shit happens sometimes, I get it.\n\nHe can\u2019t pick me up but tells me that she will be back in our neighborhood very shortly and to be ready so they can pick me up so we can go out.  \n\n5 hours go by  and I haven\u2019t heard from him.  I\u2019m getting annoyed, but I don\u2019t blow his phone up because he\u2019s out with friends and there\u2019s nothing more annoying than having to handle a domestic issue while in public.\n\nHe finally text me and says can you be ready in 20 minutes.   I told him no,  I came home, I got high,  ordered some Instacart and not really up to going out.   And now he\u2019s now he\u2019s being pissy.  He\u2019s gonna come home and ask why I didn\u2019t wanna hang out and quite frankly, the whole situation has been annoying and I didn\u2019t want to have to sit with his friends and pretend to be cheerful.  \n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}879{"id": "d2fmrFWNwBoOG92Qr9XKIMeqU0tOTcNr", "post_id": "ba8pz0", "action": {"description": "leaving the cleaning to my so who is a cleaner", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 46}, "title": "AITA for leaving the cleaning to my SO who is a cleaner?", "text": "TL;DR: partner stopped doing laundry and cleaning despite being a cleaner and I am debating bringing it up to her to start doing it again or move on my own\n\nPlease read the context of this before saying I\u2019m an asshole. I\u2019m not sexist, I just want her to do it because she\u2019s good at it, that\u2019s all. No point me doing it when I can\u2019t do it as well as her!\nThis is a throwaway because my partner knows my reddit username after I showed them an r/aww post.\nAnyway, this is kind of an ongoing issue I (21M) have with my (23F) girlfriend. \n\n\nThe issue is this, we both work full-time (I work more though with 40+ whilst SO only has 35) so the house I moved in with her 7 months ago (A cozy flat we rent) can sometimes get reaaaally messy. I work as a shift manager whilst my SO works as a cleaner for a small business. Since she works as a cleaner, I mainly assumed that SHE would do most, if not all of the cleaning. Don\u2019t get me wrong, I\u2019m not sexist! It\u2019s just because she\u2019s good at it, not because she\u2019s a woman.\n\n\nAnyway, a couple of weeks ago, the house starts getting worse, as though she has stopped cleaning. Normally, my partner will put my work clothes through the wash and dry, iron and fold them on my dresser so that I can just get up at 8am to leave for work easily. The first time it happened, my clothes were left on the floor, unwashed and not ironed. I was pissed, but I put them on and went to work (th whole time I felt self conscious and embarrassed). I felt humiliated so I came home and waited for her to finish work. We argued and she said she was sick of having to do all of the cleaning and washing. I tell her it\u2019s been like this since we moved in and that she was being an asshole about it, especially by randomly not washing my clothes, making me feel shitty the whole day. It ended with her crying and bolting the bathroom door shut. I had to stay up for a few hours to calm her down.\n\n\nEver since, I\u2019ve had to start cleaning shit up and im beginning to get mad that she won\u2019t tidy shit up anymore. She\u2019s GOOD at it, and even earned a raise for how well clients were rating her service. It pissed me off that she expected me to now do all my own laundry and wash my plate after she cooked. I\u2019ve never been good at it, and my mom always scolded the fact I could never clean up as well as her.\n\n\nI posted this finally because I\u2019m debating bringing this up with her. It\u2019s inconsiderate of her to leave everything to me after I\u2019ve been at work all day. I may even mention that if she carries on, I will move back to my moms house so that I can be relaxed after a really long day at work.i don\u2019t think that I\u2019m an asshole and my mom agreed she should be doing more than she is right now.\n\nAITA??\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 43, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 46}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}880{"id": "RZp9rM7I5Fnqjz23EdPTgomXxNNcBS0n", "post_id": "ainng3", "action": {"description": "not helping my mom and moving in with my dad", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For not helping my mom and moving in with my dad?", "text": "Hi,this is my second post on Reddit so don't be amused if i make some kind of error.\n\nThe story here is,my mom who for me and my dad is crazy,she is trying to get to the United States for a boyfriend she met on Xbox (FUCKING XBOX) and i hitted her 2 or 3 times because she was constantly abusing me,like hitting,threatening me and being a massive cunt.\nShe called me 4 days ago asking for money to buy food,because me and my brother are with his dad and i am with mine (My mom had another boyfriend through the years and made my brother,he's cool.) and when i said no to my mom to send money,she said i'm a piece of shit,an asshole,\"just like my father\".\n\nBut for some reason i feel guilty for not helping her,am i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}881{"id": "brXsAS1ZUQR6elmzfmdQNGSz9bRoVoVj", "post_id": "agom34", "action": null, "title": "AITA How Much Did I Mess Up", "text": "I reached out to my professor over winter break, 2 weeks before spring semester about being a TA for his class. I was planning to only work 1hr a week, and  I was also going to be working in another department for 4 hours a week. \n\nAll the arrangements were set, and I was going start in week 4. \n\nOn the first 2 days of the 1st week of the semester, I realized I was going to be too busy with school and outside commitments to handle the new TA position. \n\nSo I emailed my professor and told him I won't be able to TA for the class any longer. And I apologised for wasting his time and his classes time. \n\nI feel so awful for doing this. I'm afraid of running into him. \n\nAhhuugh\n\nHow big was my mess up? \nIs there anything I can do to redeem myself? \n\nI guess I lost out on the letter of rec he said I could get if I needed. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}882{"id": "2PJu5qW0jtrkBG5LCWtKYPDAqT1dln8N", "post_id": "b0bzay", "action": {"description": "correcting my dad", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Correcting My Dad?", "text": "Some context:\n\nMy dad and I have always gotten along pretty well. But there are times when he'll just start spreading misinformation to members of my family, or he'll be completely wrong about things that are easily googled when talking to his coworkers.\n\nFor example, if my sister is working on stuff for school like math homework for example, he'll start doing the problem with her and halfway through he'll make an error or explain something to her that's not correct and then blame the textbook and say things like \"well if that's what the textbook says then the textbook is wrong,\" or \"well if they're teaching you that in school then your teachers are not doing their jobs.\" It's really frustrating to me because even when I'm polite about it and I tell him \"hey, that's what the teachers are teaching her in school, the textbooks aren't wrong and you're starting to confuse her\" and I go to help my sister he gets upset with me and starts saying things like \"well you're always right\" or \"forgive me for being so damn stupid.\" \n\nHe also tends to make up statistics to make him sound like he knows what he's talking about and it makes me worry about him hanging out with his coworkers (whom are half his age) and just being dead wrong about some things. I love my father to death and the last thing that I want to happen to him is to be made fun of or thought stupid by his coworkers.\n\n Part of me things that I might be coming off as condescending when I correct him, but I never do it in public or in front of people (apart from my sister or my mother) because I don't want to embarrass him or make him feel like he's dumb. Keep in mind that my dad is a genius when it comes to extrusion and factory work, he' been with the same company for years and he's really good at his job.\n\nI'd like to point out that I am by no means a superbly intelligent person myself, and my goal isn't to demean or belittle my dad.\n\nIf it turns out that I have been an asshole I definitely want to apologize to him, and probably will anyway.\n\nAm I the asshole?\n\nTLDR: My dad corrects my sister on her homework and is misinforming her so I correct him and he gets upset with me and says that he's always wrong and that he must be such an idiot (in a condescending tone). Am I the asshole for correcting my dad?\n\nThanks.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}883{"id": "fyrWfOIGttp0yExNorCD8OpwOEpEwQ53", "post_id": "9zqn7d", "action": {"description": "calling out my roommate on their cleanliness", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for calling out my roommate on their cleanliness", "text": "So my roommate has been pretty lazy in terms of doing her dishes, cleaning up scraps she leaves around the kitchen, and leaving laundry in the machine for days allowing the machine to get a funky smell with wet clothes sitting in there. She seems to have a problem with following through with these things. \n\nI was frustrated at her, talked to my other roommate about it. Then my other roommate, who agreed with me wanting to set house rules to not let this continue, told her that I had been talking about her to him. AITA for \u201ctalking behind her back\u201d? I think it is fair for me to ask my other roommate if any of the dishes were his before telling her or wanting to set up a meeting. I think I was a bit more frustrated and showed that to him, since I did let it build up a little bit instead of telling her right away. Except I didn\u2019t want to have the conversation over text and she always seemed to be busy and running to hang out with her bf or ex or whatever. I think it\u2019s okay to except someone who works from home to be able to do their dishes before they pile up to double the sinks depth! \n\nAnyway, she ended up texting me asking why I am mad at her and unfortunately the conversation happened over text. Lots of drama later, Ended with her saying she understands but then that she is upset with me because I don\u2019t reciprocate things she does for me around the house. We are friends, and she has been making my dinner some nights a week\u2014 just for me since she has already eaten and I didn\u2019t necessarily need her to prep any food for me. I don\u2019t have much else to reciprocate and it felt kind of weird that she was doing that and expecting something out of me. \n\nShe also thinks I\u2019m rude for asking her this straight up instead of just hinting at it or making a joke about it like \u201cclean up the dishes would ya?\u201d To keep it light hearted or whatever. I love joking around but not when it comes to house rules, I\u2019m not your mom and I don\u2019t want to have to fill that role. \n\nAITA for not offering to make her food after working all day and just wanting to relax and have some peace and quiet? I don\u2019t want this to end bad between us, honestly. And just want to live in peace in a clean home. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}884{"id": "p8WLVzLca7CALcsLI5QbJVCE8JehE9WO", "post_id": "aw4s3g", "action": {"description": "refusing to go to a surprise vacation paid for by my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 162, "contranormative_score": 451}, "title": "AITA for refusing to go to a surprise vacation paid for by my girlfriend?", "text": "\nThrowaway as I don\u2019t want my girlfriend to see this post.\n\nJust a bit of background info: my girlfriend works in HR and I work in IT for the same company, however because we work in two different branches we only really get to see each other before/after our shift as our lunch breaks are scheduled at different times. Important to note that we report to the same big boss even though we\u2019re in different departments. Anyways, my birthday was two days ago. My girlfriend and I celebrated by going to a fancy restaurant and having a glass of wine after. Then she starts babbling about a \u201csurprise\u201d she has for me, and gives me an envelope. In the envelope are return flights to Switzerland, for a two-week holiday! Immediately I began to wonder how this holiday would work considering I hadn\u2019t applied for leave, but before I could even ask, she said she talked to our boss months in advance and told him to keep it a secret. I didn\u2019t say anything but I was really annoyed. Asking our boss for couples\u2019 leave is just unprofessional and could jeopardize my career. Not only that, but she never asked me if I was okay with using my leave for an overseas holiday. I would much prefer using that time to relax and sleep. I was going to suggest her returning the tickets but she has already paid for everything, including ski resorts, and I figure she would incur various cancellation fees. I just believe that she should have asked me, because I do not want to travel overseas while on leave. I guess I didn\u2019t act as enthused as she wanted me to because she asked me why I was unhappy, and I told her that I would refuse to go as she should have asked me first. She\u2019s annoyed at me. My close friends are telling me that I\u2019m being ungrateful and that I should just go. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 415, "OTHER": 107, "EVERYBODY": 36, "NOBODY": 55, "INFO": 17}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 162, "WRONG": 451}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}885{"id": "Fv8Ezuq2IxgtXhSRARHmpKNTwRohsbmD", "post_id": "ac5kyt", "action": {"description": "showing no sympathy to my gf after she eats something she shouldn't on purpose", "pronormative_score": 37, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for showing no sympathy to my GF after she eats something she shouldn't on purpose?", "text": "It's happened a few times in the past and again tonight.  \n\n\nShe has a very selective diet due to certain conditions, but on the odd occasion orders food that obviously contains ingredients that places her in a lot of pain, bloating and cramps. She claims she forgot but I find it hard to believe considering the effects are severe and it's something she has had to deal with for years.  \n\n\nShe gets upset with me as I don't show her any sympathy because I consider it self-inflicted.   \n\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 34, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 37, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}886{"id": "w8ryDpwXGikMIk0ekRz1Aa5HGtDj9ndI", "post_id": "a7z9y9", "action": {"description": "trying to kick him out after sex when he expressed he had no where else to go", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for trying to kick him out after Sex when he expressed he had no where else to go ?", "text": "I made an account to specifically ask this because I am unsure if I was an asshole last night .\n\nOkay, so yesterday while I was at work , the first guy I ever had sex with texted me that he was in my city . I had messaged him earlier this year saying that he could visit me the week of the the 24th , but it seems like he came to Nyc early . This is my finals week and my job has lots of intense days so I\u2019ve been putting in lots of work both inside and outside of the classroom. When I got his text I responded that we could meet up for a few hours as I have work to do. He agreed and met me at my apt at 7:30pm.\n\nThe context was clear : we both were interested in having sex with each other . It had been 4+ years since we\u2019ve seen each other but we\u2019ve been in contact every now and then we would be in contact hence why I told him he could visit me the week of the 24th.\n\nSo we hang out a bit , have sex and cuddle for a little. I start putting my clothes on so that I could get some work done . I ask him what his next move was and he told me he was just going to stay with me. I was shocked because I had not planned for him to stay over and very much wanted my space to study in peace for my finals and just be in my own space alone. The Sex was great but I love alone time and I was very much craving that after he fucked the shit out of me. I expressed this to him and he responded, \u201cI won\u2019t get in your way, I\u2019m just going to be chillin here \u201c\nMe: \u201cno, but that is in my way. I wasn\u2019t expecting you to sleep over because you didn\u2019t tell me you were\u201d\n\nHim : \u201cwell, I don\u2019t have anywhere else to go\u201d\n\nMe: \u201cI thought your frat brothers were in the city ? If you needed to sleep over why didn\u2019t you tell me in advance ? I would have arranged for us to meet at another time when I didn\u2019t have so much work to do. I was about to cook for myself , take a shower, study and do my own thing\u201d\n\nHim: \u201cI didn\u2019t expect to be here this late , and now that I am , I was just going to stay here. I won\u2019t be in your way \u201c\n\nMe: \u201cyes, but I was not expecting you to stay here ...I\u2019m waking up early and am working late ...\u201d\n  \nHim: \u201cI can also wake up early , have no where else to go\u201d\n\nSo I let him stay over but I was very annoyed . I stayed up extra late and left all the lights on in my room in hopes that he would eventually figure it out and leave. I listened to class recordings and tried so hard to be a nuance because I very much wanted to be alone. I cooked for myself and did not offer him any food , as I had not gone shopping because, again, I was not expecting him . It\u2019s bad enough that I have roommates that I feel crowd my space , but now this guy was literally all up in my space . \n\nI was finally ready to go to bed. He\u2019s 6\u20192\u201d ex football player so he\u2019s taking up most of my full size bed . When I get in, he tries to cuddle with me but I actually don\u2019t like cuddling . I had my alarm go off at 5am to get him out early so I could at least enjoy some sleep alone in my bed . When the alarm went off I told him it was time for him to go. He responded , \u201cI\u2019ll leave when you leave \u201c  but that\u2019s not what I wanted ! I wanted him out of my bed . I tell him I have yoga at 6 and want to get ready. He says ok , gets ready and head out.\n\nAm I the asshole for wanting to be by myself after coitus? For trying to put him out even when he expressed he had no where else to go? What do you all think ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}887{"id": "jCNDofqkxZUXS0gLrxRrcVGIp3HmPLgR", "post_id": "a2btes", "action": {"description": "denying my father \u20ac14", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for denying my father \u20ac14?", "text": "This happened about half an hour ago.\n\n  Me, my father, brother and sister would go to a movie together. Now, I haven't been doing that great in school (to put it mildly) and told my father I had changed my priorities to try and catch up where I've been lacking.\n\n  My father had already bought the tickets and he, understandably, gets pissed and started acting passive aggressively towards me. He ended up just casually stating that he expects the tickets payed back by me if he can't refund them.\n\n  Am I the asshole for telling him I won't do that?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}888{"id": "7UzsNeknFr8NhvOSK74qdM7MOumni7Tq", "post_id": "akfz3z", "action": {"description": "losing interest in a person after seeing their living situation", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for losing interest in a person after seeing their living situation?", "text": "Ok! So I have been struggling with feeling like the asshole here. I (27F) have been in a loving polyamorous relationship with my partner (30M) for a couple years. Recently I met a new person (30M), let's call him Wallace, and quickly became quite infatuated with him. We went on several fun dates and chatted daily about our interests, kinks, life goals, the whole shebang. I was feeling really comfortable and safe with Wallace and after some negotiating we agreed to a sleepover at his place and to have our first sexy times (woohoo!). \n\nHowever, that's where my excitement ended.. When I got to his place I found it to be dark, dirty, empty walls and gross furniture, mattress on the floor, etc. It looked like a college apartment. Then, he introduced me to his dog, a rescue dog who is extremely nervous. I'm not blaming the dog at all, but from the second I walked in the door she wouldn't stop barking at me, and she is a big dog, also acting like she was nipping at my hands. I couldn't even go to the bathroom without her barking continuously outside the door. I was getting uncomfortable at this point, but we retired to his room and I thought, \"Ok! Rough start, but let's have a good fun sexy time!\" I wanted to be in the moment and enjoy getting to explore this person's body for the first time, but that dog barked literally every second we were having sex. The whole time non-stop. We make dinner, to dog barking at me. We went on a walk, the dog barked at me, we came back and started to wind down to go to bed but the dog wouldn't sleep unless it was in the room with us and she kept coming up to me in the night and just staring at me and if I moved she'd start barking and growling. I felt paralyzed. I realized at about 4 am that I was having a panic attack because I felt trapped, I couldn't move or leave without the dog barking more and I was exhausted and stressed. I stayed just frozen in panic for hours. eventually Wallace moved, looked over and realizing I was awake asked if I was ok. I felt like the interaction unfroze me suddenly and I just stammered I had to leave, that I had a nice time with him but that I had to go immediately and I quickly got up and gathered my things and left. \n\nSince that incident, I just don't find Wallace attractive to me. It was like a lightswitch and I've never had that happen before. Am I the asshole for just flat out losing interest in him because of this? I feel like I built of so much hope and interest in our future and now that is all just gone on my end. I communicated with him that I was no longer interested, and he's really hurt and blindsided but honestly so am I? I really liked him and the feeling is just.... gone suddenly. \n\nTLDR; I was happy and excited about a new relationship with someone, but I lost interest after seeing how he lived and after his dog wouldn't stop barking at me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}889{"id": "ouCFrDeAE1PJCcf32l8PW9fcBEDOxQ6d", "post_id": "b9mn2g", "action": {"description": "getting upset my mother wants to sell her house right after I move in", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for getting upset my mother wants to sell her house right after I move in?", "text": "Two months ago I had to move home to finish my PhD. I had been studying in Germany and my funding ran out, which meant I lost my residence permit, so I moved home to write my thesis and find a job.  I had a number of postdoc application in the system at that time so hopes were high I would have something lined up for when I\u2019m done and staying at my mums would be a temporary thing. I had been (and still am) battling with my mental health and I hoped being at home would be a positive step in that battle, too.  \n\nThe postdocs fell through and my mental health is only a little better, so my thesis is taking longer than I\u2019d hoped too. On top of all that my partner breaks up with me a month ago because he can no longer see a future with me. So I\u2019ve lost my independence, my career future, and my romantic future in the last two months. \n\nToday my mother tells me she\u2019s thinking of selling her house and moving to a semi-rural city approx. 2 hours from the university I\u2019m affiliated with and the major city where most of my job opportunities are.  I don\u2019t drive, and continuing living with her will mean spending ~$600 a month on transit.  Remember, I\u2019m broke and unemployed.  \n\nI got upset and as we talked was clear in saying I wasn\u2019t mad at her and she should do what is best for her and her husband (and I believe that).  But when she pushed me to explain why I was so emotional about the idea I admitted it felt like the final reliable thing in my life was being taken away.  Now she\u2019s upset and angry and says she won\u2019t move.  I feel like the asshole, but I also feel like it\u2019s an asshole thing to do to decide to move two months after taking your daughter in, no?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}890{"id": "VID5IKgq2U6dfvW3S197LyJzhLCZXbpH", "post_id": "akeaf8", "action": {"description": "refusing to eat my mother's cooking", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to eat my mother's cooking?", "text": "Okay, I wouldn't normally do this sort of thing, but it had ground up devil's rectum aka cilantro. She demanded that I eat it, but I can't stand that shit. I also spit up the first bite I had before I knew there was cilantro (in the sink.) I never do this kind of shit, but it is just disgusting.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}891{"id": "E1Y3sCqZe980HcbGmtzaxkC0cwMN3wyu", "post_id": "age8tp", "action": {"description": "being upset my parents gave my wedding fund to my sister after I told them I would probably elope", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for being upset my parents gave my wedding fund to my sister after I told them I would probably elope?", "text": "So me and my BF started dated around the same time as my sister and her BF fast forward a year and a half, and my sister gets engaged. I think 1.5 years is too soon to get married, but her BF is military and my sister hangs out with a more church-y crowd, so that's normal, I guess. \n\nMy sister's entire life seems to have evolved around her wedding. Since we were kids she's been picking out colors, venues, themes, watching God knows how many episodes of Say Yes to the Dress and Four Weddings etc.. It's a super big deal for her. She wants to have the Pinterest Perfect wedding of her dreams. Not my cup of tea, but I can see how it would be important for other people.\n\nWhile I've always had fun with the idea of a wedding, in the end I'm very anti-social, I'd rather use the money for an awesome honeymoon or a down payment, and I don't think it's worth the hassle. Since my sister's engagement my mom has teasingly asked me about a wedding in my future. I expressed to her that I didn't expect it in the near future, and that me and BF have agreed that eloping is probably the way to go, as the money, for us, is better spent elsewhere.\n\nA few days later my sister excitedly texts me to tell me the amount my parents had pledged toward the wedding. She was excited because in person they told her it would only be a few thousand, but that day sat down with her and gave her a new number... twice the amount they initially told her. \n\nI was suspicious so I asked my mom about it to which she merely shrugged her shoulders and made some grunting noises. Obviously this left me somewhat upset. Throughout my childhood my parents have implied that they had money set aside for weddings for both of us. And I don't want to imply that I need or deserve that money, but it's only fair that my sister and I get a fair amount. \n\nJust because my sister wants a blow-out wedding and I don't doesn't mean that all their resources should now go towards her. In a way, I guess this is an extension of feeling neglected as a child because my sister would always demand attention and gifts from my parents while I was content to be left alone most of the time. I didn't need or want attention, but that they never thought to give it upset me.\n\nNow, to clarify - and this might muddy the waters a bit - my BF and his family are what you'd politely call 'VERY comfortable' in terms of financial situation. My BF has a substantial trust fund, but I myself make a very modest income (as in, if I wasn't living rent-free with my BF I would probably be on the streets). But that shouldn't matter because who knows? What if I don't end up marrying him? Would I still have no wedding fund because they assumed I would be set for life financially?\n\nMy sister meanwhile, is pushing six figures of income (and we don't live in a high COL area) and her fiance's income isn't anything to sneeze at either considering the military pays for most of his expenses. They both spend pretty frivolously (like 1k a month on beauty kind of frivolous and multiple international trips a year), but with some belt tightening they could easily save up enough for a great wedding. My sister alone currently makes more than my parents ever made combined, which is a point of frustration they have both expressed in having to fund this wedding. But weddings are a pretty big deal in my mom's culture, and really it will serve as a family reunion/way to show off for her as many of our relatives from out of the country will be flying in for it. So I can see why in her mind it made sense to 'redirect' the funds set aside for me.\n\nStill, AITA for thinking I deserve 'my cut' of wedding money even if I don't plan to have a 'wedding' per se?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}892{"id": "7iLJmTVjdkyzUkKGivpnOnKsTcnvj9c6", "post_id": "asrakb", "action": {"description": "sending a screenshot of my \"friend\" making fun of my girlfriend who has chemo to his mom", "pronormative_score": 78, "contranormative_score": 41}, "title": "WIBTA if I sent a screenshot of my \u201cfriend\u201d making fun of my girlfriend who has chemo to his mom?", "text": "(M 18) I was in a group chat with a bunch of friends and we were talking about the upcoming lacrosse season. All of a sudden out of nowhere my friend goes, \u201cWhy do you sound like such a bitch?\u201d. I thought he was just messing around and I said \u201cWhy don\u2019t you hit up the gym and get your weight up?\u201d Because he\u2019s short and skinny. He responded with, \u201cThat\u2019s why I\u2019m gonna fuck your 400 pound fatass girlfriend\u201d. \n\nMy jaw hit the floor, my girlfriend has been going through chemo since December and is currently swollen and bloated because her kidneys aren\u2019t working properly. Her lupus was so bad that she was a day away from dying. (Her swelling made her go from 108-170 btw)\n\nI told him that he went way too far and he just said, \u201cDon\u2019t talk shit then\u201d. He\u2019s obviously has no remorse for what he says and I don\u2019t know what to do or say. \n\nI know it might be a shitty thing to do but I\u2019m not trying to escalate things in front of my other friends, they dont really know what to do and they haven\u2019t taken any side yet. \n\nWe all help this kid hide shit from his parents all the time. I know it might not be the most moral thing to do but he\u2019s making my blood boil and it\u2019s either that or I say something about his real dad leaving him. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 78, "EVERYBODY": 30, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 78, "WRONG": 41}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}893{"id": "1X2M8uFdYa4vvh1sZjYAPXe3r5hwSjpK", "post_id": "ak44d9", "action": {"description": "not wanting to pay someone", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to pay someone", "text": "First. I am very good at repaying debts and usually repay debts in less than 10 mins \n\nThis guy on my dorm hall asked if I wanted to hit his weed pen. I said sure and took a couple hits. He then asked me to Venmo him $2. I thought it was kinda wack but was going to do it. \n\nThen my roommate got drunk and I needed to babysit him until 5 am. Then I wake up to a Venmo request notification. \n\nSo much of this irks me, first that he asked me after, then he made it such a meaningless number to both parties, and that he requested me while he knew I was busy. And also i think a request is shitty in that short of a time frame anyway. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}894{"id": "1yisH0OpPrptRCb4csJYV0Yoh0ALq2z4", "post_id": "asnnbh", "action": {"description": "not wanting to talk anymore to a girl that doesn't want to hang out with me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to talk anymore to a girl that doesn\u2019t want to hang out with me?", "text": "She is on my course, and I know that she is single.\nShe doesn\u2019t come to the lectures that often so we haven\u2019t really established a solid connection.\n\nOn occasions she told me that she liked pool and climbing, and when I asked, she gave me her phone number if I want to do any of those things.\n\nThree different times I texted her for that, but all three of them she was tired/had something else scheduled. \n\nNone of the times she mentioned rescheduling like \u201chey, let\u2019s do it another day, how about this date\u201d.\n\nTherefore it was established to me that not only she isn\u2019t attracted to me (which is understandable and something I can deal with), but she doesn\u2019t really want to even hang out with me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}895{"id": "YHF3xPu1mg7cvdqd661kH2slmXZt7wZ7", "post_id": "b6d0t8", "action": {"description": "thinking my bf left me alone when I really needed him because of a stupid stupid error", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for thinking my bf left me alone when I really needed him because of a stupid stupid error", "text": "Hello friendly Redditers,\n\nI really need your help. So the following is Happening and my brain is still not working enough to figure this out by myself.\n\nSo I am on a journey in Thailand right now with my still-bf. Yesterday I got really really sick (maybe food poisoning) and I felt terrible. The whole World was spinning, my stomach fighting itself, my legs were cramping and there was not enough air for my desperate lungs. At first my boyfriend tried his best to help me. Did hold my hair while I kissed the toilet and gave me something to Drink. He is really afraid of me getting pregnant and insisted on me taking my birth control pill while still vomiting. So I of course threw asap up end sent it on a journey through the toilet System. At this Moment I was just shaking and was almost not able to get back to bed. Two hours later (I finally Was able to sleep and escape my pain!), he woke me up and told me to take my pill again, because He read, tagt this is the thing to do. And here is the Part where I really fucked up: I forgot to take an extra blister! So there is no way I can take another one, it is 1 am and we are in the middle of nowhere without a pharmacy. And He got mad, so so mad at me. And I can totally understand that but I am still shaking in agony and throwing up again (so I really doubt that I would be able to even keep the second pill). And He is screaming at me and insulting me and taking away the pillow He gave me, so I can sit up a little (way better for my stupid still Wrestling tummy) and pushing me out of the way (not so great for my stupid stomach). I tried to calm him down (I am at the end of my zyclus and we did not have Sex very often and the only time where something could have happened is two days ago and He did not even Come into me - I know that that is not a safe method, that's why I am taking birth control pills, but just to calm him down a little and I am still feeling sooooooo Bad). I started crying cause it was all to much and begged him to just be a little nicer to me and help me and maybe hug me, because I really could not bare it any longer. He did nothing of that. I spend the whole night shaking and wishing to Die, while He ignored me and sometimes even pushed me, when I came too close to him.\n\nAnd here we are, the day after sitting in front of the only pharmacy and waiting for it too open. The pharmacist told us Over the phone that there is no reason to be concerned, that I just can take the pill after, but she will not open till 11 am (we are sitting here since 7:30). I can totally (totally totally) understand why He is so angry but I feel like He left me alone when I really needed him and I do not know at that moment, how I will ever be able to forgive him. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 24, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}896{"id": "BqsEFuRZjaMjIvTLwXvpEkPQVDbz2JRl", "post_id": "a3oj7v", "action": {"description": "not liking cheese", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not liking cheese?", "text": "This afternoon I visited my friend's house to have some snacks and play some Call of Duty. After we finished a match, he brought a cheese platter down (like wtf) to snack on and I said I didn't like cheese. For some reason he got kinda mad about it and asked what I meant. I just explained that I didn't like cheese, the taste of it I guess.  \n\n\nThis developed into a full-on argument where he was accusing me of lying just to embarrass him and disrespecting him by not eating the snacks he made (it was a cheese platter wtf who does that?) and after an intense screaming match I left his house and texted him later in the afternoon saying I never want to go to his house again and that we're not friends anymore. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}897{"id": "2SQa8L3toW5Qb8l6waHmObqTYVheEqh8", "post_id": "b9dhks", "action": {"description": "wanting seperate hotel rooms", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting seperate hotel rooms?", "text": "Throwaway, because both people involved know my reddit name.\n\n​\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together 8 years this past Christmas, and have been living together for the past six. Of those six years, my boyfriend's best friend (FR) has also been living in the same house, for almost four years. We have gone on 2-3 weekend trips a year for the past four years with FR, sharing a hotel room. While its kinda awkward because its just two beds and a bathroom, we've done it to save money so we can do other entertainment things on our weekend trip.\n\nThis year, my boyfriend (i think to believe) is planning on proposing to me later in the year, towards winter I'd assume to save money. BF and i were wanting to on a trip alone just the two of us this year, and after a day of searching fun things to do on a weekend trip, i just asked if we can go to the beach for a couple days for a long weekend, just to relax together. He mentioned bringing FR to the beach since he works long hours and deserves a break, this way it would be cheaper and we can go the whole week to the beach instead of three nights. I agreed, under the circumstance that we get a hotel room with two seperate bedrooms. We found a decently priced condo on the beach, two levels. One bedroom had two queen beds and the other had one kind bed. Because we are dating and FR doesnt date anyone, naturally we took the king bedroom (also its the master bedroom and has beach views and its on the second level loft of the condo and I'M SO EXCITED, as a side note).\n\nI told FR we found a condo, he'd have his own balconly overlooking the bay, his own bathroom and his own bedroom. He seemed annoyed that there were two beds.I should also mention that whenever we DO share a condo room with FR, he snores. Not little snores, but its extremely loud to the point where BF and i cant get sleep.\n\nOur two friends are also getting married in august. BF, FR, and i were invited...wedding is five hours away on a saturday, so I figured we can drive down together on friday and leave on sunday so we dont have to worry about rushing the day of\n\nI mentioned to BF that the hotel that is blocked off has cheaper rates, so we can get our own room so FR has his own. I told FR that yes, it would be more expensive than just sharing a room with us, but this way he has his own bathroom and i can do my makeup and hair. He seemed ok with it, but still sligthtly annoyed that i didnt want to get a hotel room with him. At a romantic rustic cabin hotel. On the night of the wedding...while with my boyfriend of 8 years and while we include him on everything else, even if we are going out to supper as a date night andi see FR is alone at home, i'll see if he wants to go).\n\nFR seemed kinda salty that we were getting our own hotel room, but also I do want sleep the night before and night of the wedding.\n\nAITA for wanting seperate hotel rooms during the weekend of our friend's wedding?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}898{"id": "v8ck2aHugxs0NJZnESM9D838ttJ7LUrz", "post_id": "am7bnf", "action": {"description": "being mad and not really wanting to talk to my father after what happened", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being mad and not really wanting to talk to my father after what happened.", "text": "So this is how this story goes.\n\nMy father and mother had broken up from each other when I was 9. (Not the point of the story) Tho one of the times my father was bringing his girlfriend and me to hang out with his parents my fathers girlfriend was talking trash about one of my aunts on facebook while shes right infront of them. My aunt decides to get and say if you want to talk trash about someone at least do it to there face. This was during Easter. So they begin to fight on facebook. My father decides to go to my grandmother and tell her to stop my aunt. She said she didnt want to get involved. Now to the reason why I am so angry at him. You see my father decides to cut all ties to my grandmother and father and the whole family on his side my mother was the one that kept me in contact with them. So my grandmother was hit with a bad case of cancer and I my mom and everyone that could that wasnt his current friends were asking him to go talk to her. Or at least go to her funeral. He did neither. He then was taken out of the will of my grandfather who died not to long after and he didnt even get invited to the funeral....Its been a two months now from that event...and I just cant stop wondering.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}899{"id": "VyQGgNFY6s7bjacwNoOeB83ZOU8oKCuB", "post_id": "auw1h0", "action": {"description": "not wanting to share my food with GF's uncle", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to share my food with GF's uncle", "text": "Need some context before actual question. So 2 years ago my girlfriend (both 18 at the time) grand father passed away. Her mother called her step brother to tell him, who lives in Mexico about how he has passed away. Since it was rough for my gf I stayed over for a week to help her grief and support, but her uncle that she only saw once when she was around 5 years old kinda imposes himself to sleep at my girlfriends moms house for a week (lived in small 2 bedroom appartement). Me and gf are both students and broke  and had to buy own groceries since her mom did not buy us food and we had to cook for ourselves. This guy arrives and is so cheap he is ready to sleep a thin blanket in the living room floor instead of renting out cheap motel. No one including step mom really wanted this guy over but she felt obliged since he insisted on helping to organize the funural. Hes been here for at least 2 days if my memory is correct and hasnt bought himself any food, mother in law does not buy us and just buys herself frozen micro wave meals since shes to lazy to cook herself. One day after we did the groceries, he was out. Im making shepards pie. When he arrived he doesnt even ask us but expects us to give him some shepards pie but the leftovers was for our lunch the next day while we were at school and we paid for it. Later on he bought himself bananas (he finally bought himself a few things to eat at like day 4 of the week) and states they are his bananas. And he still ate some of our food which we made clear to him he could not have since hes a grown 50 year old man who should be able to buy himself some food and not need 2 18 year olds buy it for him but he made me feel kinda like an asshole so AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}900{"id": "h4dNH1Mk6qq6sSYdxh5hFTtQMblmQw5i", "post_id": "apyiww", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go on vacation with a girl after she brought the fact she's going to hang out with her ex 2 weeks before", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go on vacation with a girl after she brought the fact she\u2019s going to hang out with her ex 2 weeks before", "text": "Been talking to a girl for a while, and it\u2019s been going smooth no hiccups or fights. But today as we were going to plan our trip she mentions her ex and how she wants to hang out with him. This is pulled from our texts.\n\n\n\nMe: Wanna plan the trip when you get home?\n\nHer: Sure\n\nHer: So Um\n\nHer: My ex wants to hangout this weekend\n\nMe: ew\n\nHer: An I think we\u2019re going to \n\nHer: Because of Bears birthday  (her pet rabbit)\n\nHer: And also I just kinda miss him \n\nHer: But we\u2019re not getting back together or anything \n\nHer: He was like literally my best friend \n\nHer: I feel like I can actually be myself with him\n\nMe: ew\n\nHer: okay\n\nMe: So I respect that, but do you see how that would make me not want to go on the trip\n\nHer: then don\u2019t\n\nMe: I\u2019m sorry if I came off as mean \n\nHer: we don\u2019t have to\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}901{"id": "xypQ4VrDbLMcZJWVZh3aldvgCvqa4FJh", "post_id": "ac5mbx", "action": {"description": "not feeling sorry after ending a relationship when I've tried everything", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not feeling sorry after ending a relationship when I've tried everything?", "text": "Just ended a relationship with my gf because I felt undervalued and she didn't give me any attention at all. She was only there for the good things but the moment I had any problems she disappeared. I tried to work things out and talk to her but she refused multiple times telling me that she didn't change at all. So I just gave her an ultimatum and she still wasn't improving so I told her that our relationship had to become to an end. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}902{"id": "3VIbb0SPZ1JuivmftQym2AGklbPYwoID", "post_id": "av8hma", "action": {"description": "refusing my baby sister and moving out", "pronormative_score": 298, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA if I refused my baby sister and moved out?", "text": "(Posting this for a good friend whose family knows his Reddit name. I copied & pasted his text and haven't edited it in any way.) This is his post in his own words:\n\nMy mom and I aren't that close. My dad walked out when I was 3. I make more than my mom, but together we make just enough to keep our heads above the water.\n\nI\u2019m not doing great in school right now. I have a 2.5 GPA which isn't bad, but isn't great either. I go to work right after school but when I get home, I'm too tired to study for long. However, I'm improving my grades and saving for college.\n\nOur rent increased so I had to find a better job. That's when my mom called her unemployed boyfriend & me & announced her pregnancy. She also told us that she\u2019s quitting her job because it's \"not good for the baby.\u201d We were both visibly angry. I yelled at her since we can barely care for ourselves. Her boyfriend threatened to leave unless she aborted, but my mom INSISTED that he'll \"learn to love his daughter\" when she's born, but he'll need to work to support the baby. But her boyfriend wasn't having any of it; he just tried to convince her into doing basically ANYTHING but keeping it, but as soon as he realized he was beating a dead horse, he disappeared. My mom still can't get into contact with him.\n\nI apologized to her for being so harsh, but reasoned with her why keeping it isn't wise. I reminded her how we can barely get by now, so we can't afford for her to quit & support a baby. I told her she doesn't HAVE to abort, but if she won't be able to work while pregnant, she should consider since we can't and won't survive on just my income. She then decided to abort. Luckily it was still early enough to get the abortion pill. It costed $800. I had $675, but I told to get $400 out of my account to help pay for it. She DRAINED my account & spent it all on baby items. I came home to a fucking mountain of diapers & baby clothes. I asked her about it, & she casually said, \"oh yeah I changed my mind. I'm keeping it.\"\n\nShe\u2019s taken from my account without my okay before. I\u2019ve confronted her, but since it was usually only 5-10$, I never made a HUGE deal about it.  I was a minor at the time too so for me to even HAVE a bank account, a legal adult had to be a joint account holder. \n\nAs soon as I turned 18, I withdrew all the money from the joint account & put it in an account that my mom doesn\u2019t have access to.\n\nWhen I got back home, she screamed at me saying \u201cIT'S MY CHOICE TO HAVE A BABY SO IT'S YOUR RESPONSIBILITY AS A BIG BROTHER TO HELP RAISE HER!\" When I told her why I no longer trust her with my money, she yelled, \"I CAN'T BELIEVE HOW SELFISH YOU'RE BEING RIGHT NOW!\" \n\nNow I feel like my mom will just dump being a parent on me & I just can't handle that. As of now I have enough to move out. I feel like I'll be able to focus on my education & not have to spend so much time at work if I'm just supporting myself.\n\nSo WIBTA if I just walked out?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 295, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 298, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}903{"id": "ImsnZWXiEjtM8AkoDI31V6e0xnT62Rou", "post_id": "amhie4", "action": {"description": "being rude to a girl after she has been doing the same thing for a year", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being rude to a girl after she has been doing the same thing for a year", "text": "Ok ive never posted here before so bare with me\n\nIve been in an english class for over a year and this one girl continued to piss me off day after day  by saying \"HAAHAHA you drop the weights  you're so weak\". Ive told her that this annoys me because i have some self image issues from being younger and not liking how skinny and weak i was so i started to workout. As i said this continued for over a year and one day i had a particularly bad day and snapped she had said\" HAHA I bet you drop weights that are only an 1/8th of a kilogram\" she actually says this so i said back \" i might fo that but at least i dont weigh 80\". She stops annoying me and i think this is done. Later on she gets her friend to message me calling me an asshole for what i said and that i should apologize i say no and explain why she then says\" well she has self image issues too\" but the girls i called fat isnt even fat i just said it because it made sense with what she said. I am still aparrently the asshole to these two and probably their friends and i dont see why i am. Seriously am i the ass\n\nTLDR: Girl picks on me for a year and when i retort suddenly i am the ass for one little thing", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}904{"id": "5wrPwMXDtjcvkVEv40R7Qc55njUBgOxE", "post_id": "b5tf8p", "action": {"description": "telling a friend his gf can't come to a party he wanted to throw at my house", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling a friend his gf can\u2019t come to a party he wanted to throw at my house?", "text": "Some back story, were both 20 an have recently started being friends again. We used to be best friends but he started dating this terrible girl with a ton of issues who caused nothing but drama so I decided I didn\u2019t want to be around then any more. But I\u2019m the only one in our friend group who ever gets anyone together, so since I didn\u2019t hang out with him anymore he started to say that I was exiling him and making him depressed. I simply just didn\u2019t want to be around him, he could have hung out with our friend without me right?\n\nAnyways, around February friend and his girlfriend break up, she messages me that I\u2019m a fat piece of shit and I\u2019m at fault for my friends depression, she then messages my girlfriend that she wanted to curb stomp her head in. \n\nAround last month said friend and I start hanging out again, I figured since his girlfriend was out of the picture things would be different, or back to the way they were, before he was with her, and they were. He soon asked if he could have a birthday party at my house later in the month, which was a little weird but not a huge deal because my mom is the only one who\u2019s cool with that stuff. Things were going well, he even got a job at the same place as me. \n\nDay of party, I wake up, not really into the mood to party, on top of that my 3 year old niece was over which added to me not wanting to party, but I made a commitment to my friend and I was going to keep it. So I start cleaning up and going to pick up some friends. The friend who the party is for calls me and says he\u2019s getting some snacks and says \u201coh by the way it\u2019s cool if your girlfriend comes\u201d and I was like ya I know it\u2019s cool it\u2019s my house, then he says \u201c also my girlfriend (the one who he was supposedly broken up with) might show up\u201d and I told him I wasn\u2019t ok with that because of the things she said and the threats she made, he then starts telling me I\u2019m a bitch and immature for not wanting her there. Then he says \u201cfuck you I\u2019ll have it at her house\u201d I said good you probably should have had there in the first place. BUT everyone was already on the way to my house, they arrived and I explained the situations and even said I\u2019d drive them to her house if they wanted, but no one did. Friend then says I\u2019m a piece of shit for splitting up the party and taking his friends away. Everyone else in our friend group just dosent want to be a part of it, am I in the wrong? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}905{"id": "p6qRCfufzo8eFSBZDC1LtfTN0WRhGAyc", "post_id": "b87tf1", "action": {"description": "not telling a one-night stand that I have a girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA if I don't tell a one-night stand that I have a girlfriend?", "text": "I'm on mobile so I can't be arsed to type a long message. I'll keep it short and add details later if you guys need it.\n\n I'm 25 years old male and my gf is 26 years old and we have an open relationship, so there is no cheating involved in this case. Here's the the situation: I have a one-night stand with someone and I make it clear that this is purely a one-night stand with no purpose of seeing each other ever again and they want the same thing. Everybody just wants sex and everyone is on the same page here. BUT I'm not telling the other person that I'm in a relationship. Since it's just a one-time thing and everybody is getting what they want, I don't see the problem here. If I wanted a FWB thing or something more or if I led someone on then they obviously would have the right to know about my gf.\n\nBut some friends told me that in their opinion the other person \"always has the right to know\" about my girlfriend, even if it's a ONS. And it's assholish to not inform them. My GF always informs others about her open relationship even with a ONS, and that's perfectly fine. She also thinks it would be polite if I did the same, although she doesn't think I'm an asshole like her friends say. But AITA if I don't do the same?\n\nI swear this isn't a validation post if someone thinks that, I'm seriously curious since I didn't see the problem and others called me an asshole.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 19, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}906{"id": "MYAJgWldtb9Ai8KuEkJrd0Mjx4CB3SOf", "post_id": "ajfi7n", "action": {"description": "losing a friend over a celebrity", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA- Losing a friend over a celebrity", "text": "       About a year ago, I was friends with this girl who really liked this celebrity. She eventually got me into him, so for a while, we would both share our mutual infatuation together, and it really built our friendship.         \n\n        Overtime however, we both became a bit competitive on who was the bigger fan (stupid, I know), and she started saying really bad things about me, which really pissed me off. It started by \u201cOP is copying me\u201d  or \u201cShe can go suck my dick\u201d to things like making fun of me on her social media like telling me to screw off or conveniently crossing my name off of a post so you could still see that it was me she was talking about. \n     It really hurt me, because of how much I admired her and that I always though it was just friendly competition. I began to talk bad about her to my friends and force myself to be the bigger fan. It was one whole mess. \n    So am I the asshole for taking the celebrity she liked and then fighting fire with fire or is she for introducing me and then ruining my whole year? (Also I didn\u2019t make fun of her online like she did with me) ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}907{"id": "3OPxac8W6yGfDW5yGzAuxbfp60tJpPFQ", "post_id": "al1jyu", "action": {"description": "telling my mom to stop complaining about the Hospice lady who lives with us", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom to stop complaining about the Hospice lady who lives with us?", "text": "So a little backstory, my grandma (mom\u2019s mom) has always lived with my parents and myself since I could remember. She\u2019s now gotten to the age of needing additional help in her life. My parents were hesitant at first but decided it was best for for all of us to hire a lady through hospice care. This lady stays with my grandma 24/7. Lastly I want to mention this hospice care is costing my grandma and family A LOT of money. Final piece of background info this is our second care lady because my mom and grandma did not like the first one. \n\nSo my mom has been complaining A LOT lately about not having \u201cfamily time\u201d anymore. She feels that part of her privacy is gone because there\u2019s always a \u201cstranger\u201d living with us. Yesterday she told her the care lady who smokes cigarettes that she has to smoke off her property. She told the lady that my dad is \u201callergic to smoke\u201d, he isn\u2019t. \n\nThe day before she told the lady she can no longer eat dinner with us when my mom originally invited her to eat at the table with us the first day she arrived. My mom complains that the lady talks too much at the table and it doesn\u2019t allow every to speak about their day. \n\nSo today my mom was just going on to me about how she doesn\u2019t like someone living with us blah blah blah and I told her to stop. I told her I was sick of hearing her complaining about someone who is trying to make her life easier and my grandma\u2019s final years painless. I ended with telling her, it is what it is and I\u2019m done with any conversation that has to do with my mom complaining about this women. My dad was there when I said it and agreed with me that my mom has been complaining a lot. \n\nSince then, my mom just shut down and hasn\u2019t said anything since. I think what I said was a little too much but I feel like it needed to be said. \n\nTL;DR: Mom has been complaining a lot about a hospice lady who lives with us and I told her to stop complaining and I didn\u2019t want to hear anymore of it. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}908{"id": "52uqZ4kXl9ZdXitrokBNIuzFMOcpG5Xc", "post_id": "ahr9ow", "action": {"description": "telling my manger that a colleague was going to hand in their notice", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA For telling my manger that a colleague was going to hand in their notice?", "text": "Okay, so me and my colleague, let's call her X, are pretty close. One late shift, shes driving me home and tells me in confidence she had plans to leave. Cool.\n\nCut forward a week, and my manger calls me into her office and asks me \"I know you and X are pretty close, and we've been monitoring her behaviour for a while. Is she planning on leaving?\"\n\nFeeling flustered, I said \"yeah, she told me she had intention to leave soon.\" I was dismissed from the office and felt bad for possibly snaking her out. \n\nCut forward to today (it's X's final shift), I haven't seen X since the day of the meeting and she mentions the meeting. \"I know you told the manager about me leaving\". She proceeded to call me a snake for about an hour. \n\n(Me and X are still close, she assures me she doesn't care and is only messing around, and I believe her. We hugged it out before she left, and she offered to help me write my own notice. So we're definitely still cool) \n\nIt got me thinking though, should I have lied to my manager? AITA? \n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}909{"id": "QlJ2ooDDqybvgBuhzNKgYtuq3ChpSRIz", "post_id": "aibevc", "action": {"description": "not wanting a surprise trip", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting a surprise trip?", "text": "My partner(F45) and I (40)have been together for 9 years. My birthday is on the 26 of January. I started working for myself last year and because of that we of course had to adjust finances. As of right now we have delinquent Bill's. As a Surprise for my birthday my partner thought a trip  Philadelphia 5 days and  a trip to a museum I had been wanting to visit in Washington would be a great surpriseand she also wanted to attend her sister 40th and the city is where her family lives.  She told me about the surprise a week before we had to leave. When she told me I made sure to be clear that I loved her idea of the trip and to be fair i never outright said that i didn't want to go. I instead before the trip dropped hints like,should we cancel, can we come back early,etc. She told me the tickets were nonrefundable \n Before we left she found out the museum was closed due to government shutdown. So the purpose of the trip is a no go. I really didn't want to come on the trip because I was on point to take care of some due Bill's and I feel like it wasn't a great time to come on a trip regardless if it was for my birthday. I feel like we could've celebrated my birthday at a different time or way.Like dinner or something that I need for the business. I suggested that tho I appreciate the thought, I loved the gesture that it would have been better to ask me if I wanted a trip out of state,because its tax season for the business and I need to work. In response my partner stated that she's hurt because everytime she trys to surprise me it's never right and then preceded to make it about how she thinks I am never satisfied. I told her how I really feel not to hurt her or make her feel bad. I just don't know why she thought it was a great idea now. I really feel like this trip was more about her sisters birthday and I feel trapped in a situation that I didn't ask for and made to feel bad because I feel it wasn't the right time for a trip anywhere. AITA for wanting to be told before she purchased nonrefundable tickets?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}910{"id": "M23W1RArS4kHgfFWIHMKKkh1jqBZ8xJq", "post_id": "ac6oxe", "action": {"description": "getting upset at a friend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for getting upset at a friend?", "text": "Yesterday I entered a contest where the winner gets a nice cash price for getting the most likes on a comment on an Instagram post. I really wanted to win so I messaged a couple of friends asking to like my comment so I could win. I messaged one of my close friends, and instead of liking my comment, she posted her own comment on the post and started messaging her friends and asking to like her comment. She went as far as creating fake accounts to like her own comment. She even admitted so to me when I confronted her. \n\nShe did not follow this blogger before, and would not have heard of this contest had it not been for me. I spoke to her and told her it made me upset that she did this to me since I specifically asked for her support. She\u2019s currently winning the contest. She says she doesn\u2019t see the issue whatsoever. I blocked her on all social media and don\u2019t see myself being friends with someone like this. AITA for acting this way?\n\n\nTLDR; I entered a contest, asked my friend for support, and she entered the contest herself without even voting for me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}911{"id": "MkwDbI32SKXBNw8fE0LfKZMq781isw25", "post_id": "9xrhe9", "action": {"description": "being upset about an unexpected long term house guest", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being upset about an unexpected long term house guest?", "text": "My boyfriend lives with me. His mom, step dad, and brother(25) lived together near us but this week they moved to a new town. \n\nI spent the whole week helping them pack, move, and paying for meals and incidentals even though I'm very broke myself. But it's okay- they're broke too and they're family. I'll do a lot for family without mentioning it. \n\nHalfway though all of this I'm *told* (not asked) that the adult brother is staying at our house for the next 2 weeks (laughable- it'll be a month or more, I'm sure) because he's yet to apply for a job transfer, search for new work in the new town, or even put in his two weeks notice here. He's the only one in that household who works so they can't afford him not working for a few weeks. The parents didn't tell him to transfer or job search either. Neither of these three adults thought about a job ahead of time. They all dropped the ball. \n\nSo I suddenly find out that my heavy daily drinking (none of them will admit he's an alcoholic), chain smoking, non-driving future BIL is living with us. \n\nI already have two small children. I don't have a ton of money for groceries. His parents take all of his money for the household so he doesn't have money for his cigarettes and booze, so he steals ours or we end up buying him some (he's a monster without it). It all falls on my boyfriend and I but I can't say no because they're family and he has \"nowhere else to go\". My boyfriend is used to this because he's taken care of his brother in some way his whole life. Plus they have opposite work schedules so they aren't seeing each other much. \n\nI have a variety of personal physical and mental health issues, including PTSD, so having my own private area is essential to me. \n\nI explained my feelings to my boyfriend and he understands where I'm coming from, but thinks I'm being an asshole for expressing my discomfort with the whole situation instead of powering through it. \n\nI WILL power through the situation, but I feel like a stranger in my and my children's own home because of this all. And my kids don't need to be around heavy drinking. I've kept them and myself confined to my room other than meal times. One of my kids is sleeping on the floor so BIL can have his own room. \n\nThere are other friends he could stay with but then he couldn't wake us up still hammered at 5am for a ride to work (which is within walking distance from my house). \n\nI should mention I previously stopped letting this brother stay over because he always brought drugs into the house, trashed everything, and kept us up all night. But he's not doing that anymore. \n\nAm I the asshole for wishing he could stay somewhere else and trying to express the mental and financial burden this is causing me? I know he's family but I'm so busy and tired.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}912{"id": "aP1UQkatrpbEQs92KnJmFCHZ8HCwCMNe", "post_id": "9uf5of", "action": {"description": "not putting my floor level on my delivery address", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not putting my floor level on my delivery address?", "text": "I'm living in an apartment complex with multiple floors for at least 10 years by now. Since then I have received numerous packages from all kind of online shops. Usually I have to enter the following information for my package to be delivered correctly (living in Germany):   \n\n\nName  \nStreet Name & Number  \nZip Code  & City / Town Name  \n\n\nYou can determine on which floor anyone lives from the outside by the bell system, so when deliveries arrive at this address they can basically see the floor level where they need to bring the package to when you ring the bell.   \nThis never was an issue and I always have received my packages until today, where the delivery guy told me I must (!) enter my floor level with my address as well somewhere, else he is unable to deliver my package. He was very rude about it and treated it like I made a major mistake while ordering my stuff. He left with threatening me that he would just \"throw out my stuff\" the next time if I don't add my floor level to my address.   \n\n\nMy perspective on this is as follows:  If a floor level is an absolute requirement for delivery, this should be a mandatory data field when using this delivery service. But it isn't: If you order from smaller online shops, there sometimes isn't even an entry field for that, or at least you would need to \"abuse\" one of the other fields like \"company name\".   \nIf this is a problem during delivery because it takes them too much time to read off the recipients floor level off the doorbell, then that is an issue that they should tackle internally within the delivery company, but not by blaming the customer for not making an additional non-mandatory entry in the address.  \nAITA?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}913{"id": "DxIf227gwop6hh4PoSi4s6efmfXWBZVY", "post_id": "b00e84", "action": {"description": "making public a 2 year old video of a man screaming vile slurs & threats at my family and I", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 22}, "title": "WIBTA for making public a 2 year old video of a man screaming vile slurs & threats at my family and I?", "text": "Some background: 2 years ago, while running late and in a bad mood, I made some regrettable decisions on the road. I tailgated a car for some time, honked at it, and blew past it, inadvertently cutting him off and forcing him to brake. I admit I made very poor choices; I\u2019ve learned from them and matured as a driver since. \n\nThe man (a very big, early 40\u2019s guy) at the next red light, got out of his car, stormed up to my window, and went ballistic. He spat on me, screamed a series of **extremely** vile racial slurs, death threats (including graphic references to lynching/hanging) and obscenities at me and **my two small daughters** for a full 2 minutes (impeding traffic for some of this time). He screamed **so** unbelievably loud, got freakishly red, the veins started popping out of his head; I was honestly expecting him to have a stroke or burst a vessel. But worst of all, my kids and I feared he might hurt or even kill us.\n\nThe incident terrified me, but scarred my daughters. They cried and cried, had nightmares about the encounter for a long time afterwards, and I had to have some very long discussions with them that I really wished I would not have to have until they were much, much older. The incident sickened and enraged me like nothing I have ever experienced. I just so happened to catch it all on my dashcam; I turned the cam towards him the moment he started in (as evidence if he were to assault me), and saved the footage on my computer just in case I ever had another run in and needed evidence.\n\nCut to two years later. I\u2019m at an upscale brewery/restaurant with some buddies, look over at the bar area, and who do I see behind the counter, dressed in a nice suit and managing the bar? **The raging driver.** Still bitter, I made eye contact with him, and he froze like a statue and went white with shock when he saw & recognized me. Throughout that dinner, I continued to torment him with a series of sly little grins. When I left to take a bathroom break, he approached me.\n\nHe apologized to me profusely. He claimed he\u2019s severely bipolar and that that was one of his manic outbreaks; he assured me he is not in any way racist or violent, and that if he could do anything to take back his words, he would. He claims to have since gotten his life together; having gone to therapy, gotten medicated, ended his drug abuse habits, etc, and promises me that he is a very changed man. I responded by telling him I still have that video of him raging, can destroy his life and career with a single click, and promptly walked away.\n\nI\u2019m very seriously considering sending the video to his manager, AND even posting the video publicly on social media. Now I know the guy\u2019s name and more info about him, and that he works (and might live) in my close vicinity, I realize it could really make a splash. AITA for wanting to take some revenge on this guy who viciously terrorized my children and I?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 18, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 22}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}914{"id": "2FWCoQWMdw8yduZnFGwNzQBXU5800kRb", "post_id": "b4oe5w", "action": {"description": "confronting my gf about her Instagram dms", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA for confronting my gf about her Instagram DMs", "text": " \n\nFirstly, my (20m) girlfriend (19f) and I have been very very happily dating for just over 5 months now. We are each other's emotional support through everything and we do everything together. Very recently, my phone broke down and I do not have the financial means to obtain a new one at the moment, so she being the saint that she is let me borrow her old phone that she kept around. When it has WiFi I can use things like snapchat and instagram just so I can contact her.\n\nIn using her old phone, all of her old apps and pictures (including her tinder) are available to me. She did not explicitly state anything about me not going through all of it when we weren't together, so I figure she just assumed I would, but I honestly have not whatsoever. I respect her boundaries and privacy, and figure most of the stuff I would find in there happened before we ever even met and I would not be happy with what I saw, so why even bother.\n\nThe problem here arrives when I received a notification about a day after I received her phone to use. I got a notification from instagram, but as her account. At this point I had not used the app yet, so her account was still signed in. However, when I opened the app to see what was up, it prompted me to log in - I could not use her account, yet I was still getting notifications from it. It was at this point that I was going to sign in with my own credentials so as to not get her notifications, but what I actually did I am slightly ashamed of. I read the notification and saw that it was not from anybody she normally talks to, or anybody that I know. It was from a man our age that goes to our university, and the contents of the messages made me not want to sign out. I became extremely anxious because his messages went something like this:\n\n\\- \"Hey\" (11pm the night before I saw)\n\n\\- \"Good morning Beautiful\" (the first notification I saw in the morning)\n\n\\- \"Were you at so-and-so's concert last night? I think I saw you\" (I took her to a nearby musician's concert for a celebration, I bought her tickets and just the two of us went)\n\n\\- \"What are you doing later?\"\n\nNow I cannot see her messages that she is responding to him because since I am receiving her notifications, I am only getting his messages. I do know that she was responding though based on the fact that he liked one of her messages that she sent to him. I also know that after the last message he sent there was no other contact. She does not have him on any other form of social media, so instagram notifications would let me know if anything else happened. I do not know what she said, if anything, to the last message.\n\nSo I suppose this is the question - AITA for not signing out of her account upon seeing those types of messages? Should I confront her about this, or let it slide for now as he seems to have stopped talking to her?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}915{"id": "E2vrSj50O1HRYJhMKckIF6aqrqhUnXLb", "post_id": "aushjs", "action": null, "title": "AITA All I Care About Is Money", "text": "(obligatory throwaway account).\n\nI come from a lower-middle class family. I pay for all my everything. Jim comes from a wealthy family. His parents consider me a son (I've been known them for well over ten years). Kara comes from a wealthy family. Four years ago, I met Kara at a hospital internship and introduced her to my friend group. Kara and Jim started dating last summer and she moved into Jim's room within the month they started dating (Jim is working on his second bachelor's, so he lives in his parents basement).\n\nThis semester I moved in with my SO (dating 5.5 years now) to her dorm at school. My home life isn't the best, domestic abuse and all that, so I was ecstatic for this change. Each person in the suite has their own room and bathroom.\n\nSo the semester goes on. Kara's parents don't know she is living with Jim, so they are still paying for her dorm room (about $14K a year). She uses it as a glorified supply closet, Kara slept there maybe once or twice. At Jim's house, Kara does not do her own laundry, do chores, or pick up after herself. As Jim and Kara have been together, Kara has distanced herself more and more from the group.\n\nOverall, Jim and Kara's relationship is so-so. She says she has anxiety driving, so Jim drives her to school even on the days he doesn't have school. Keep in mind, it's a 30 minute commute. The last time Jim told her he can't drive her anymore, she gave him the cold shoulder for days until he started driving her to school again. I think Jim just stays with her because she likes video games.\n\nDuring the semester I am taking a full course load and working three jobs. Christmas rolls around and we throw a party. Before everyone gets there, Kara makes a comment about how surprised she was that I am at the party instead of working because \"all I care about is money.\"\n\nI make a sarcastic comment agreeing with her, that all I care about is money. Kara says I \"am mooching off someone else's money\" (referring to me staying with my SO in her dorm which my SO's parents pay for). I point out that maybe she should care a little more about money because of her dad paying for her dorm she doesn't use while she mooches off her boyfriend by living in his parent's basement. She leaves and doesn't speak to me for 2 months.\n\nToday I asked Kara, nice as you please, if she has a problem with me. She says yes, she hates me, and she doesn't want me in her life anymore. She already told Jim I can't go to their wedding (they aren't engaged?) She goes on ad nauseum about how much she hates me and how I am the worst person alive. I implore her to tell me what I did wrong, or what features about me are so awful. That way, I can work on them, and maybe become a better person. She refuses to tell me a single thing off her \"huge list of awful features\" she has of me and ends up slamming the door in my face.\n\nTLDR: I was friends with a girl, now she says \"I am the worst person alive.\"", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}916{"id": "02L9Aa5USeALoEq4IzJNKXvOjyh6KSi6", "post_id": "9zifaf", "action": {"description": "leaving my family's thanksgiving", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for leaving my family's Thanksgiving?", "text": "So my parents. 2 brothers and 2 uncles decided to go out to eat at a localish buffet for Thanksgiving. Only my parents really wanted to go, everyone else was against it but went along with it because we normally do Thanksgiving at my parents house. We got to the buffet, it was an hour away, and the place had an hour wait. My parents decided that a 15 minute wait was long enough and decided everyone would go to the Whataburger next door. Niether me not my youngest brother wanted to eat, so we didnt order anything my mother got really offended and basically yelled at us in the restuarant. My dad told us that \"since whataburger wasnt good enough. We can just leave\" so we did.\n\nMy brother who stayed called me and told me my parents are upset and that they think we ruined Thanksgiving for everyone.\n\nTl;dr AITA for listening to my Dad and leaving Thanksgiving?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}917{"id": "mevcTaabobgxxB5oi9C9rQiOIePU183I", "post_id": "alweta", "action": {"description": "being upset about Netflix password share", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for being upset about Netflix password share?", "text": "I just found out my partner\u2019s 17 year old son has a profile on my Netflix account. This means that my partner shared my password with him. To be clear I have no problem with him being on our Netflix but this password is something that I use on multiple different sites. If he had told me beforehand then I would have just changed the password to something unique only for Netflix before he shared it.\n\nHis response was (I texted him while he was at work) that he hopes I know that his son would not do anything with my password except watch Netflix. That\u2019s only half of the point, I feel as though he betrayed my confidence and secondly I\u2019m not confident in that. His son\u2019s mom has even called my partner before about accusations that his son stole from his own sister! So not exactly the most trustworthy of people as I pointed out to him. And what if he shares my info with more people?\n\nI\u2019m mad, frustrated and tired. It feels as though every time we\u2019re coming together as a team he does something to show that he doesn\u2019t respect me. A couple of years ago I had lent him my credit card temporarily and he paid his mothers dentist bill with it. I only found out when I was looking at the statement, he explained he hadn\u2019t told me because he know I wouldn\u2019t agree to it as his mother and I are not on speaking terms (long story).\n\nI\u2019m not sure if I\u2019m overreacting because to be honest his son isn\u2019t my most favorite person right now and I\u2019m not really sure what damage he could do with it. But it just feels as though my trust in my partner has been violated, I trusted him with a password that he knows I use in multiple different places. Now I feel like I\u2019m going to have to change them all. \n\nThe more time that passes I\u2019m starting to think I\u2019m overreacting and I know that\u2019s what I\u2019m going to be told by my partner. So someone tell me am I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}918{"id": "m89DQjyW1e8VXbu008Hqr4LA0vrKfZkq", "post_id": "ah3mhp", "action": {"description": "getting angry with my friends", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For getting angry with my friends", "text": "This happened some days ago, little background:  \nProbably our school in the future is going to move our class, into another building of another school, and this is upsetting my friends, they say that if we would go in that school, we wouldn't do nothing and the general environment of that school is really bad.  \n\n\nSo it started when they talked in a group about it, and proposed to change school and go in another town, and I was really skeptical about this, like questioning everything of what they said and poiting every flaw about it, and possibly bad things.  \nThen I exposed my fears and feeling about it (I had really bad years changing schools, which I encountered many bullies before), so I told them that I was afraid to encounter another bad classroom full of bullies, or maybe that school was even worse than our actual one.  \n\n\nThey started to laugh and questioning about my life in general with this fears and how i'm going to face life with this thoughts, so I got really angry, mostly because they were exaggerating, and I said to them that they are really shitty friends and left from the group.  \n\n\nNow they are really angry and want apologies.  \nAITA for saying that they are shitty friends?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}919{"id": "Vwgu9Y8iir0kUZVMzoJ8kEszfRswuir0", "post_id": "aps4nd", "action": {"description": "getting frustrated at my boyfriend for not giving me attention", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting frustrated at my boyfriend for not giving me attention?", "text": "Listen, I know this sounds a bit exaggerated or whatever you'd call an entitled bitches attitude but please hear me out. \n\nThis kind of behaviour on his side caused us to not see each other for 4 months and atm I feel like that was supposed to stay like that because nothing really changed besides the first weeks (after long fight). \nSo, I got a boyfriend and he can be a sweetheart but he can stay weeks without calling me or writing me. He never asks how my day is or bs that partners should ask each other. Our message conversations is me writing like 5 messages and him answering every few days. \n\nThis annoys me. Like said, this lack of interest has been a huge problem in the past because I raged so much at one point from being so sad and frustrated because of him, that he completely \"shut down\" and ignored me for months. \n \nI'm really trying to write as neutral as possible but I'm fuming right now and I'm on the verge of tears. \n\nHe criticizes every step I take and every sentence I say, every opinion I got etc. He doesn't like my makeup and always says \"I don't need to use that much \" (just for the record, it's not much but I like Smokey eyes when i feel like it, not every day), he doesnt like some pieces of my clothing (he feels so entitled that he actually ACTUALLY ripped some leggings he didnt like, tbh they were ugly but so freaking comfortable) and is just overall frustrating. Even when it comes to sex and I dare to ask for more he says I'm only interested in sex and I use it as a thing to prove myself and my worth ( which is somehow true but everyone uses it on some emotional level to feel worthy, right? Tell me if I'm wrong !) .\n\nHe can be kinder and nicer to me but he just has better stuff to do and I'm really mad but I know I'm not entitled to anyone's time. I just feel like it would be nice if he would try just a little more to be here for me. \n\nI don't expect from him to write me non stop but a text maybe once a day would be nice and just enough. And go out with me from time to time. \nEverytime I wanna go out I have to ask because he never does.\n\nAny way, right now I'm just a sad, frustrated mess and I don't know if I can think straight anymore, I'm tearing up and if I'm overreacting, if I am the asshole and I'm just crazy please let me know but I don't think I can do this Any more and I'm on the verge of exploding and going reee on him. \nI really love him and I don't want our relationship to fall apart but I feel like I'm falling apart. I dont know what to do. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}920{"id": "UJCLf0MYWJBTtY3JfkPMU0SPeXm1R0c2", "post_id": "9z0j6f", "action": {"description": "not visiting my girlfriend in the hospital even though she expressly told me not to", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not visiting my girlfriend in the hospital even though she expressly told me not to?", "text": "\nLong tldr at the end\n\nMy girlfriend of over 3 years has had many health problems while we've been dating and about a month or two ago she was hospitalized for them. I have always took care of her, probably a little too much, but her health was just getting worse and worse. It has been putting a large strain on our relationship. We are both university students and on the day in question we had made plans to hang out after class. That day goes by and I dont hear from her and so I keep trying to get in touch with her to see if she's ok and if we are still hanging out. She later calls me and says \"so I'm in the hospital...\" turns out her mom had picked her up as it was too much for her and takes her to the hospital. Immediately I want to drop everything and go see her and I tell her as such. She then proceeds to say no and that she hopefully wont be there more than a day and is just staying overnight and not to come. I really wasn't comfortable with this but she asked me to give her some space so I did. She leaves the hospital and I visit her at home as soon as she tells me she's home. A few days later she's back in the hospital this time for a few days. Again I ask if I should come down to her and she tells me no. Again I stay up at school and as soon as she is out of the hospital and back home I drive down to see her and make sure she's ok. Flashforward to the other day when all of a sudden she asks me, why didn't you visit me at the hospital? I was honestly shocked and pretty offended that she asked me that and I told her as much. She was the one who adamantly told me not to go to the hospital and now she is saying that this is a red flag in our relationship that I didnt visit. I'm pretty hurt as i wanted to drop everything to go to the hospital but she was the one who said not to. Now she is mad at me for listening to her.\n\nI'm actually pretty hurt by this as I do a lot for her and put her needs before mine a lot of the time. Hurt so much so I'm considering ending the relationship as I feel her illness has pushed our relationship too far and this is just the last straw. I just feel so insulted and hurt.\n\nTldr: girlfriend was in the hospital for a few days a month ago and told me not to visit her there and now she is upset I listened to her and didn't go. She is calling it a red flag in our relationship.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}921{"id": "hp6UJWQHUdU9x5FXgt23DwbLKj6ck9wO", "post_id": "azndkc", "action": {"description": "cutting off my dad", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting off my dad?", "text": "Mom had me as a teen and I was adopted by dad at 1 year old, didn't find out he was not my bio dad until after their divorce at 12. My dad sort of exited my life. He is a \"nice\" guy and when I see him hes hugs all over me and talks kindly, then I wont hear from him again for months. That is the manipulation. Its hard to recognize because of how nice he is. He never raised a hand or his voice to me growing up. Very mild tempered. He has held a grudge against me from when I was 11 years old. The day I told him I wanted to live with my grandma because he was depressed and would not give me any attention. Ever since I have heard from him very rarely. His balls are basically in his wife's pocket. Its his third wife and he wont risk losing another one, he does whatever she says. Im a single mom of two kids, 3 and 5. They rarely see him, he doesn't call them. When they used to visit my grandma he would drive by there and see them for 10 minutes. He would act like hes grandpa of the year. He didnt want them at his house...which was fine I knew they were babies and difficult to handle. After years of never asking for a favor, I told him I was invited on an amazing trip and it would be something for me to do on my own, and have a break. I am trying to plan for my kids to be taken care of for 8 days and giving everyone 2 months notice. I live 6 hours from family so I thought everyone would be looking forward to seeing the kids.  I asked my dad if he would like to have them for 2 nights over the weekend. He lives on a farm and I know they would love seeing the animals. He says he has to ask his wife and comes back with \"I want to see them but I cant spend my 2 nights off watching kids. It isn't fair to me or wife. They should be your priority and you cant just leave them for this amount of time. Watching them for a couple hours is one thing but the whole weekend is another. This isn't a break, its extreme\". I never ask him for anything. Its not the trip, I can take or leave the trip, its him making it seem like its such an annoying request. He said that he cant maintain a relationship with them because I live too far away. I said people live a distance from their grand kids all the time and make it a priority to talk to them. I am driving the kids there and picking them up. I ask for childcare maybe twice a year from my mom for 2 nights. AITA for cutting him off for good from our lives? Maybe I am being entitled and dont realize it. I know they are my responsibility and no one elses. I never thought asking for family help would feel so much like begging. You would think they would want to.\n\n​\n\nWant to mention he is holding a mini grudge against me for leaving my husband. I was emotionally and mentally abused and cheated on, but he blames me for tearing apart the kids family. He is projecting his past pain from my mom leaving him and the divorce hurting my brother and I onto me, and thinks I could have stayed for the kids sake.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}922{"id": "Vkf6AYjP8jcQrHoJF5nKXoAnTq4n6SPY", "post_id": "avgxga", "action": {"description": "telling my neighbors to mind their own business and just do not give a shit about me", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my neighbors to mind their own business and just do not give a shit about me?", "text": "I have never got along with this woman. \n\nSo yeah. In my city they put some of the soccer player card in Doritos package. Me as a soccer fan love it. And I decided to buy ~40 package of Doritos today, for collecting purpose. \n\nWhen I brought them home, one of my neighbor saw it, stared at it, fleering looked at me, and the unwanted conversation started.\n\nNeighbor : \"You bought all of this? What a waste of money\"\nMe : \"I guess. But I spent my money for this, I did not spend yours so I guess you do not have the rights to judge me\"\nNeighbor : \"Hah, eat all of them and you will become an obese crap. I cannot imagine that anyone could swallow that much chips\"\nMe : \"Mind your own business and please do not give a shit about me. Me buying Doritos aint your business. It never was\"\n\nAnd some shit broke out. She told me that I was insolent (she is 15 years older than me) and I was disrespectful for saying so. \n\nAITA now? I guess I have the rights to decide where to spend my money and no one out of my family have the rights to judge it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}923{"id": "R1SyPOk7pmhT7TP2ZMksuA0f9KSFIcje", "post_id": "afyknk", "action": {"description": "trying to keep a super close eye on depressed suicidal step-daughter", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for trying to keep a super close eye on depressed suicidal step-daughter?", "text": "So I'm married with a couple of step-kids that live with their mom and I. The older kid is doing great, but the younger (14) has gotten involved in some pretty bad things in the past year, including some illegal activity, as well as self-harm including cutting. Additionally, on two different occasions last year, including as recently as November, she purposely overdosed on medication but (thank heavens) regretted it afterwards and let us know so we could get her to the hospital. We now keep all blades and medications locked up and out of reach. We have of course been getting her the best help we can afford for her, including solid counseling and psychiatry evaluation. Her psychiatrist believe that she is likely bi-polar.\n\nAfter the second attempt, I noticed the patterns that start to emerge from her when she's likely to cause harm to herself. She exhibits heavy depression, wears extra layers of makeup (and much darker makeup as well), refuses to talk about what's bothering her when asked, usually denying that anything's wrong, pushes everyone away, and attempts to withdraw into the bathroom or her bedroom for a long period of time. This also seems to occur more often around times that should be celebrated, like holidays and family birthdays. So, twice since November I've noticed things getting dark and heavy with her, and decided to go on suicide watch. I'm probably not the most skilled at this, I've never had previous exposure with suicidal people or had any training or anything of the sort. Also, there seem to be a lack of information online of what to do in these situations (other than the stuff we're already doing). So as far as I can tell, I should make sure that I or someone else should be able to see her at all times, including if she's in her room, the bathroom, etc. I know we've done our best to limit her access to self-harm tools, but I believe she's also smart enough to hide some stashes of things throughout our (unfortunately) cluttered house so she can self-harm if she wants. So when I've gone on suicide watch these two times, I allow her to still go anywhere she wants. I do make sure that I or some other family member (especially if she's going to the bathroom) has an eye on her at all times. This makes my step-daughter angry to no end, yelling, screaming about how she has no privacy.\n\nLast night was the second time and was particularly bad. She was trying very hard to lock herself off in her room. I started by trying to encourage her to come out and be with the family, letting her know we really wanted her company. She insisted that she was going to do laundry in her room. I told her that's fine, but I would need to be in there with her. She freaked out and kept trying to argue with me about it. She asked if her aunt (who was over at the time) could watch her instead, and I told her that's fine, but I would need to speak with the aunt first to give her some instructions (such as make sure you keep an eye on her even if she's in the bathroom, etc). Step-daughter would not go for this, freaked out more.\n\nWife came downstairs and tried to help. She tried to negotiate with step-daughter, saying she could just leave the door halfway open and that would be good enough and we would be down the hall and come check on her from time to time. Step-daughter would not budge insisting that she had every right to have her door fully closed and be all alone. I didn't agree with my wife on this because I feel like she only needs a few moments to find a tool and do self harm, but I kept quiet and let her try. Step-daughter wouldn't agree to any of wife's terms anyways.\n\nEventually I stepped in front of her bedroom door so she couldn't attempt to shut it on me and lock us out, and then she ran out of her room bawling and up the stairs. I tried following behind her and my wife grabbed my hand and told me \"don't\". I yanked my hand away and I followed step-daughter up the stairs. Step-daughter got to the top of the stairs, turned around and bolted back downstairs to her room, with me following all the way. She slammed the bedroom door shut but I got it open before she could lock it and held it open. She then started hitting me with her fists while bawling. At this point my wife grabbed her and held her and her aunt stepped in to help provide some comfort, and I left.\n\nI'm trying to do the right thing here. I want to be safe and am not interested in violating her privacy or restricting her in any way other than when she's most vulnerable to self-harm. But my other step-daughter, mother-in-law, and wife all had some negative feedback for me. Mother-in-law and other step-daughter say I was scary chasing after step-daughter the way I did. Wife believes step-daughter should have been allowed to run up the stairs alone and been given some room to grieve in complete privacy. I disagree because I believe she would have locked herself in the upstairs bathroom or another room and potentially found a way to hurt or kill herself in there. I suspect wife thinks that my suicide watch is overly controlling and is in fact having the wrong effect, in other words that I'm driving her to more likely self-harm. I don't know if she's right or not.\n\nI feel like I'm in crazy town. I feel like I'm the only one on board with doing what's necessary to keep her safe when she's at the low end of her cycle. If I'm the asshole, or even if I'm not, I want to know what I can do better because I very much do want my step-daughter to be safe. Would definitely love to hear from some professionals or other people experienced with these sort of situations.\n\nSo tell me, Reddit. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}924{"id": "3KM4hG37KitPtxaBCXIVJ2yO7WQVhNs7", "post_id": "ak4ot9", "action": {"description": "throwing a girl out when she rejected me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 43}, "title": "AITA for throwing a girl out when she rejected me?", "text": "So last night was gonna be a big night, I (M18) was gonna confess my feeling to my crush, and 1-year friend (f18), I had invited me over and... it went completely to shit, like unsalvageable, really. We had planned to hang out at my apartment since monday, and I was super hyped. Anyway, things went great, and I thought i had a the moment to confess my feelings... that's when the bad shit happened. \n\nShe said no, and went on about how I'm \"just not her type\", and that she's been crushing on another guy, and I just told her flat out to get out. She was abit confused, and seemed hurt that I told her so blatantly to get out, so I raised my voice and told her even more blatantly to get the *fuck* out of my apartment. The moment she left I completely blocked her on everythinng, and I just feel like shit, and that i've wasted so much fucking time on her, and don't want to talk to her anymore... But, I get the feeling that me throwing her out is gonna look bad, so what is it people, am I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 43, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 43}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}925{"id": "SbT6riD5hnvB40nogsrQKOj3UO0RZBKr", "post_id": "akvkx3", "action": {"description": "\"untipping\" my hotel cleaning person", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for \"untipping\" my hotel cleaning person?", "text": "Okay, so I know this sounds bad but hear me out as I'm really uncomfortable about what just happened a few minutes ago.\n\nCurrently I live an extended stay hotel (between housing situations for a job). The hotel is very nice and has house cleaning every day. Laundry is  on the Tennants, so they provide quarter operated laundry downstairs.\n\nSince I'm still here for another two weeks, I got about $5-$10 (not sure of the exact amount, started with $10) worth of quarters and put them on my dresser.\n\nAfter work today, I returned home to a clean room. However, I also needed to do laundry. I went to the dresser to find that the quarters were no longer there. There was however a note saying \"thank you for the tip! I'm very greatful!\". I was a little shook as those quarters weren't intended as tip...\n\nI took the note and went downstairs because I wasn't sure what to do. The following conversation took place:\n\nMe: \"hey, so this is a little awkward because this person was so nice about it, but I had some quarters on my dresser for laundry and they aren't there anymore...\"\n\nFront desk (FD): \"oh, we're so sorry about that! (They really are nice people) how much was there?\"\n\nMe: \"I'm not sure of the exact amount, but it was between $5-$10\"\n\nFD: \"oh, well here's $10 of quarters to make up for it\"\n\nMe: \"... Oh, uh, thank you?\"\n\nThese people were too nice that I didn't really know how to respond except to accept the quarters. As I did, I realized that I might be an asshole by accepting it. Until...\n\nFD: \"Is that the note they left?\"\n\nMe: \"uhhh... Yeah, but I don't want to give you this if it'll get someone in trouble... Now that I think about it, it isn't that big of a deal...\" (The cleaning person signed their name on the note)\n\nFD: \"oh, it's fine, they won't be in trouble\"\n\nSo I just handed it over. The end.\n\nAs I walked back to my room, I kept thinking 'what the fuck was even the point of that? That person is definitely gonna get in trouble... Fuck, am I an asshole?'\n\nI bounced it off my friends and they said I should've just let them have it. But it was honestly like I was on autopilot because I had money taken from me without consent. My gf looked it up and said that tipping is customary. However, you usually leave a note saying that it was intended as tip.\n\nI know that cleaning services people get paid shit (worked in the industry, so I'm pretty aware) and they need those tips... I'm at a loss. So Reddit. Judge me. AITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}926{"id": "JNz5d3dBPaRHRt14fO6jBgdTM9D5O2Q3", "post_id": "aq9m6p", "action": {"description": "yelling at my best friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for yelling at my best friend", "text": "So a little back story. I moved. And in my past place I had this best friend. Let\u2019s call him Bean. So I used to have a little crush on Bean. But I got over it and we eventually bonded over memes and jokes. Bean was super nice and cool and chill. We were best friends for AB two years until I moved. He promised we would definetly keep in touch! And I was like cool! Well we did keep in touch for a while. Like ab a couple months. And we would FaceTime. Well I would keep factiming him weekly like we were doing. But he wasn\u2019t answering. I thought nothing at first bc he was Busy and school was starting up again. But then weeks of no answer turned into months. Come to the present now and it\u2019s ab 4 months after Bean stopped talking with me. Well yesterday I texted him the following message:\nNOTE: I took some things out since it\u2019s personal\n\nWhy don\u2019t we talk anymore?\nIt\u2019s suppppeerrr weird hitting u up out of the blue. But like I was looking at my yearbook from last year and I was like. Omg we used to be good friends and whatever. And then I thought ab how we lost connection and that made me really sad. But I feel like it\u2019s my fault bc I never try to talk anymore. But no offense it\u2019s kinda your fault too. You never respond. And I know that sounds creepy. But like. You gotta understand that sometimes I feel like nobody cares . Only two people do. BLANK and BLANK It\u2019s like kinda weird since we were such good friends. And sometimes I\u2019ll think what ever happened. We used to hang out during school a lot. Now you won\u2019t even answer my calls or anything. When I look back I feel really sad. But then I feel angry. And it\u2019s weird to feel angry at my friends. I\u2019m used to being angry at my siblings but it\u2019s different. I\u2019m angry because it\u2019s heartbreaking that my best friend won\u2019t even talk with me anymore. And I\u2019m sad because I know I lost a friendship that meant a lot to me. If you know me you know I\u2019m dramatic and weird. But i don\u2019t think you know that no matter what i try and put so much effort into my friendships. If you don\u2019t want to talk to me anymore that\u2019s fine. Because I get that long distance friendships don\u2019t work out because nobody ever really talks anymore. But I ik that ur a cool dude. So bye lol sorry if this is random or whatever. Bye. \n\nHe didn\u2019t respond. But he read it\n\nSo my question is. AITA for getting mad like this. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}927{"id": "KeVbFf3mVh7lepnpJSq3bV8EDjGPObCJ", "post_id": "b0f966", "action": {"description": "breakupping with my bf over someone else", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "WIBTA if I breakup with my bf over someone else.", "text": "My bf (23m) and I (21f) have been together for 2.5 yrs and love each other very much. We could have a viable future together, but lately, I have not been feeling it. I have met a new friend at work, lets call him Jim. Jim just seems to be better in every way compared to my bf. He is smarter, nicer, more fun, and really more attractive. Would I be an asshole to pursue Jim because he is better? My friends think that Jim would be a good catch. We seem to have a lot in common, and almost made out too. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}928{"id": "fN9jha6YJ0rcYVYJ5BWce5QCn5SILxqp", "post_id": "9yugy5", "action": {"description": "not visiting my grandmother with Alzheimer's", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not visiting my grandmother with Alzheimer's", "text": "My 70 year old grandmother has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease over ten years ago. She has been in a nursing home for seven years now (my parents and I live abroad and couldn't take her in). My mom (her daughter) visits her anytime she can but my brother and I have stopped visiting her five years ago.\n\nThe reason being that the last couple of times we saw her she didn't recognise either of us, had no recollection of having grandkids, and (it's part of the disease) she was quite aggressive/weird with us. I stopped seeing her at the age of 17 because I felt like it wasn't the grandmother I knew anymore. She had forgotten who I was but I didn't want to *strain* the memory I have of her.\n\nOur parents always said they understood and respected our choice, especially since her condition has only gotten worse with time. She can't get of bed and only recognises my mom now. \n\nHowever, today my dad was looking through photos on his phone and showed me a picture of my grandmother in her nursing home bed and said *\"you guys are really not nice for not wanting to see her anymore.\"*\n\nIt might be considered unethical reasoning but I feel like our grandmother has been gone for a while but her body is still here... And I don't want my last memory of her to be of someone who doesn't recognise me and that I don't either. \n\nAre my brother and I the assholes for not going anymore?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}929{"id": "Xlx5cS5T6XDNnmvk3VbSADH6Kif6MIH5", "post_id": "as928e", "action": {"description": "not wanting to put my child in preschool right now", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: I don\u2019t want to put my child in preschool right now.", "text": "So, I need to give some background. \nI have a 4 year old son. \nHis dad and I were married until he was 3. His dad left me suddenly for another woman. They now live together and have a baby of their own. While we were together, his dad worked nights and I worked days as neither of us wanted to put our son in daycare and wanted to be around him as much as possible. It worked out well for us. \nNow we split custody 50/50. For one, because I still think he\u2019s a good dad and want him involved with our son, obviously. \nAnd for two, because I have to work a lot more now to be able to afford living on my own and supporting myself and my son while paying rent/car/bills. My ex and I have similar incomes so neither of us pay child support, though he recently got a new job and makes significantly more than I do, I believe. \n\nAnyway, him and his girlfriend are pushing for our son to be in preschool, which I agree would be good for him. \nHowever, I\u2019m doing this by myself while working full time and going to school full time. Not only do I not have the time to work with preschool schedules (middle of the day Tues&Thurs) which are the same days I have class, but I also don\u2019t want to sacrifice the time I have with my son right now. (Not to say preschool isn\u2019t important I just already miss him due to the 50/50 schedule, work, and college)\nI completely acknowledge those might be selfish reasons, but I seriously don\u2019t know how I would bring/pick him up to preschool while I\u2019m working... I work an hour away. My family helps watch him while I work but I bring him to them, as my parents don\u2019t drive. So they couldn\u2019t help me with this. \n\nMy thoughts are he will be in kindergarten this fall already. I will be done with school then. My schedule will be a lot more open, I should be able to work less as I\u2019ll be making more, and can better work with the school schedule. \nI\u2019ve spoken to his dad about my concerns/issues, and he says I\u2019m being a bad parent and how could I not want our son in preschool? I just don\u2019t know how I would do it...\n\nSo AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}930{"id": "w4D3FuN5PICuPmfYjoS7BuYlTfVeRHlK", "post_id": "b1fjl0", "action": {"description": "telling her she should respect me more", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA if I tell her she should respect me more?", "text": "I have done so much for this friend of mine. I\u2019ve supported her in every way I can think of. I confessed to her a while ago that I had derp feelings for her, but she said she wasn\u2019t ready for a relationship. Even after that I still wanted to be friends.\n\nBut I can\u2019t help but feel like she takes advantage of me. She never really shows me any kindness. And she generally speaks pretty disrespectfully to me. Last night after what she said I just don\u2019t think I can take any more. (She was telling me all about a guy she was with and I couldn\u2019t stop thinking \u201cI don\u2019t want to hear this!\u201d)\n\nI just want to point out to her all of the things I do for her, and let her know if she doesn\u2019t show me she values our relationship that maybe we shouldn\u2019t be friends anymore, But I don\u2019t know if I can actually do it because I\u2019m afraid I\u2019d BTA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}931{"id": "QGvDHmh87slPGQa0u3zjpf8q75pB7FWl", "post_id": "aq3rz2", "action": null, "title": "AITA to my noisy neighbors?", "text": "My roommate and I moved into an apartment complex around Thanksgiving of last year. I had stressed the importance of getting a 2nd story unit as I had heard reviews saying that the insulation between floors was awful. Unfortunately due to improper communication on the managements front we were stuck into a first floor unit. And it is as every bit bad as the reviews stated.\n\nThe first few nights of being there our upstairs neighbors would have their young child up and running around the unit until around 2-3am in the morning. Every footfall sounded like a hammer on our ceiling. I tried using my fan on a higher setting and putting in ear-plugs to dampen the noise. And unfortunately, it didn't do anything. I would just have to wait out the noise to go to sleep. \n\nI wanted to give our neighbors the benefit of a doubt, in that they probably had no idea how poorly insulated the units were. At this point, it was nearing the holidays so I had bought some cards and candy and thought to write them a friendly note. I delivered it to their door with some candies before work. It read like this:\n\"Dear upstairs neighbors,\n\nI don't know if you're aware of this, but unfortunately, our building's floors and ceilings are not well sound-proofed. For the most part, everything has been okay. However, there have been quite a few times where we have been disturbed and interupted while sleeping from the little tyke running and playing into the wee hours of the morning. We would appreciate if you would please take this into account.\nIf you have any questions or concerns we wouldn't mind meeting, We'd also like the chance to get to know you better\ud83d\ude0a!\"\n\nThe next few nights had been hit or miss, but enough that I thought they were trying. A week or so passes and I step outside and see someone had left their stroller next to the stairs of our connected units. It was pretty cold and wet out, and thought it would be frustrating for the owner to come out to a frozen or at the very least, soaked stroller. I felt incredibly nervous to but I walked up the stairs to see if it was theirs. I knocked on the door a couple of times to no answer. As I was headed back out to the parking lot I heard someone open a door. It was one of the neighbors. I stopped to say hello and mentioned why I had knocked on the door.  Once she figured out I was the neighbor underneath her unit she admitted that things could get loud since her husband came home late from work and that her child was up and down all night. I exclaimed that I really appreciated what they were doing and understood that young children could be up and down all night and that it was probably more the poor sound-proofing than anything. \nNot even two days later, I'm ringing customers out at work and lo and behold my neighbors come through my line. I didn't even realize it until the woman recognized me. She made a point to emphasize that they had left their daughter at home, which I thought was odd. Once she had been cashed out her husband walks over and asks if I was the one who wrote the note. I said I was. to which he asked me again a couple more times, slightly more aggressively each time. The Woman asked me if I had children in a way that made me unsure if she meant\n\"We heard strange noises from your apartment that sounded like cihldren.\"\n\t\t\t\tor\n\"How dare you judge us and tell us what to do since we have children and you don't\"\nAt the time I read it as the first and told them that I had a cat that occasionally knocked things over to get attention during the day and had a high pitched meow.\nBut to the second more likely interpretation, I have no intent on judging them for having children. I just wanted to let them know what could be heard from downstairs, in as polite a way as possible.\nThey had a pretty loud argument that night and its taken a couple more talks since then to get the noise settled down by midnight.\nTL;DR:  AITA for asking our neighbors to quiet down?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}932{"id": "hOrwpSjbwe9Hz0rk1dleg8f2bRPJ6aPW", "post_id": "ay62eb", "action": {"description": "learning german with my girlfriend and", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA - I was learning German with my girlfriend and...", "text": "So, recently I was learning german with my girlfriend through an app ( we both speak portuguese natively ).\nAt some point, she started to make some strange pitches with her voice to pronounce some words.\nI thought she was joking to me and asked why she was doing that, because it was funny.\nShe said nothing, and become quiet. \nAfter sometime, I was practicing alone and asked her if she was angry with me, and she said \"I'm just disappointed\" and made an imitation of me saying \"why are you doing that\".\nI tried to explain that it was an innocent joke and have no intent in making fun on her, but she continued upset.\nThan I said to her that learning a new language involves making mistakes, and she knows that I won't never do anything to make her ashamed by her errors.\nI said that I am nothing better than her in german, and if she doesn't want to study with me anymore, that's OK then.\nI thought that attitude a bit childish, because I don't know how she will learn a new language acting like this.\nSo, Am I The Asshole ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}933{"id": "wkL76NsS919rf7zWYcGpZErxie0nBtMe", "post_id": "ajthyk", "action": {"description": "not switching movie night", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not switching movie night?", "text": "I have joint custody of my kids and every other Friday night we all watch a movie together. We don't watch TV during the week so to them it's a big deal and its usually just me and my kids. We invited my partner this time. She often has severe exhaustion due to an illness and is unable to leave the house for a day or two. Today she's exhausted and it's in her best interest not to come tonight so she asked if I could switch it to tomorrow night instead. I said no, it's movie night and they've been looking forward to it for a while. She said I was being \"...exclusionary and stubborn.\" I said \"this isn't as big as that, just say you can't make it and I'll say that sucks we'll miss you.\" I feel like I'm the asshole for not changing it. Nobody misses out if I change it.\n\nI honestly done care what day we do this. I haven't talked to my kids yet. If they're cool with changing it then we have something else to do.\n\nDammit I'm the asshole.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}934{"id": "ISvE6gkxGIwrQo4GQD1nFQ6It1V2kvc1", "post_id": "axo66h", "action": {"description": "not wanting to ask for permission to visit my Father", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not Wanting To Ask For Permission To Visit My Father?", "text": "I am 18 years old, and I still live with my mother and her husband. Ever since I was 2, I've only been able to visit my father during the weekends. And when I was 15, my father made a rule that I had to let him know whether or not I'd visit him instead of my mother doing so (this is because she has a bad habit of making last minute plan changes).\n\nEver since this rule came about, I've had to ask my mother for permission to visit my father. I understand being required to let her know where I am and for how long, but that's not the same as permission.\n\nThe way my mother views permission is her having the ability to control my life however she wants. I know this because she's tried to manipulate me my entire life (ranging from siding with her to getting information out of people who wouldn't normally give said info to her).\n\nBecause of this, and because I'm 18 and my father is 'freed' from my mother's curse of child support, I feel as though I shouldn't be required to ask for permission to visit my father.\n\nAm I wrong? Or just an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}935{"id": "53PwzK38bsTaDmSZZPbQkEvD3hvOXITD", "post_id": "9v0msf", "action": {"description": "not tipping when I pick up a take out order", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not tipping when I pick up a take out order?", "text": "When I call in a take out order and go pick it up myself, I don't tip.  I have gotten a few scoffs and dirty looks from the person working the register.  I feel as though I am doing the work.  You did not serve me, you did not deliver it to me, why would I tip you?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}936{"id": "tEpqSfQUSCT7NC6fIEUoetPLLHKr3u1c", "post_id": "a0eipb", "action": {"description": "not wanting to stay at my mother-in-laws", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to stay at my mother-in-laws", "text": "My wife, my son (1yr), and I are going home for Christmas for three nights. One night at her mothers one at my fathers then at my own mothers. Now her mother was fairly abusive and manipulative to her, she would hit her every so often and they had a very aggressive relationship with a lot of screaming at each other and her mother making her cry. She was even kicked out and had to live with my dad after the baby was born. They (wife\u2019s family) do drugs at her house, the house is smelly and often times has animal feces or urine on the floor. I don\u2019t feel comfortable staying the night their especially not with our son, she insist that we have to stay there for a night and she does love her mother since it\u2019s all she has back home. I get it but I get anxiety just thinking about it. How can I convince her to at least let me and the baby not stay the night, I\u2019m fine with just visiting. I am in the military and don\u2019t want to be around drugs, or the type of people her mother has around. My family is clean and they drink but that\u2019s about it we all have a good relationship with them so that\u2019s not an issue staying their for either of us, but she still wants to stay one night at her mothers. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}937{"id": "wNFBLJIJbaDkOfPCqJdQvCPwfOBOdL1M", "post_id": "9yirew", "action": {"description": "being pissed at my boyfriend's lack of effort", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being pissed at my boyfriend's lack of effort", "text": "Okay, so let's set the scene a bit. I have been with my boyfriend since March 13th, 2015. That means this will be the 5th year we've celebrated our birthdays as couples. He's October 28th, I'm November 26th. I always plan the fun stuff for his birthday, and my birthday... Always falls flat. \n\nLike this most recent birthday, he turned 19. I planned a nice day together, we went to one of his favorite restaurants, I paid, all that jazz. It was a low-key day, but it was nice. \n\nThis year, I'm turning 20. My birthday is on a school day so I'm busy all day, and a month ago I told him to pick the day before or the day after. I'd spend the other day with my family.\n\nIt's a week before and he hasn't even chosen a day. I asked him this morning and he said he hadn't asked for either day off, which he has had plenty of time to do. \n\nThis lets me know he has no plans for the day. He'll do what he always does, and tell me \"it's your day, we'll do whatever you want\" so he won't have to plan anything or make any actual decisions. \n\nAn I am asshole for expensing something more? I'm not asking for a trip to France, but him just planning dinner and a movie or something would be more than enough. I don't need presents, I don't need anything fancy. Just a plan, that he's thought out, something to show me he's put some thought into my birthday. McDonald's and a nice note written on the back of a receipt and I'm happy really. \n\nI just want him to try.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}938{"id": "xUqkgR5LOsDO2J56NL2OjM03qAAKWgAL", "post_id": "agy95w", "action": {"description": "telling my best friend that she shouldn't be friends with an ex friend of ours again", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my best friend that she shouldn't be friends with an ex friend of ours again?", "text": "First off I know she can be friends with anyone she wants. Now onto this long story.\n\nSo my best friend and I were close friends with this other girl. In the summer of 2017 she got a new neighbor a grade ahead of us. Let's call him C. We all met C and he joined our friend group and at the end of the summer he and our close friend started dating. I never really liked C he gave me a bad vibe but I hung out with him because all my other friends did. \n\nA couple months later they broke up. And hated eachother and couldnt be around eachother.\n\n During the break up we weren't friends with C's now ex. Around December we became friends with her again. \n\nIn January it was revealed that I didnt trust C and he said we couldnt be friends which I was okay with. He was still friends with my best friend. A couple weeks later he decided he couldn't be friends with my best friend because she was friends with his ex. He told her this over text in a dramatic \"I just cant...\" shit and it broke her heart.  A couple weeks later he texted us and begged for our forgiveness which I immediately declined due to him hurting my best friend so badly. She gladly exepted even though I suggested he shouldn't. A month later him and his ex threw allegations at eachother and both of them made her choose a side.\n A couple days later he pulled the same shit as last time and ended it over text with the same dramatic shit pretending he was the victim. Again my best friend was heartbroken. Now to this day it still affects her because she never got closure. We are thinking of seeking closer from him to help her out because she misses him. \n\nNow she does confront him I would be there with her for emotional support and try to keep herself from forgiving him. Even though she asked me to I know her and she is gonna get extremely mad at me for trying and no matter what I will be there for her. But if I do prevent her from becoming friends with her would I be an asshole because she loves and misses him?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}939{"id": "WhOBCmJPMNxayEoE5HQitf4sD67MSBBi", "post_id": "ad7yqo", "action": {"description": "not wanting to fully support my pregnant friend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to fully support my pregnant friend?", "text": "This hasn\u2019t been discussed with my best friend just yet (if someone could suggest a \u201cWill I Be An Asshole If\u201d that would be great) but here it goes. And I guess it\u2019s possible IATA if I\u2019m already thinking it.\n\nTL;DR- Constantly clingy friend has been smothering me. Contemplated telling her to stop it. While brainstorming points and considering factors on how to break this news in the most frank but sensitive way, clingy friend calls immediately to tell me she\u2019s pregnant. Keeps saying things over and over again how I need to be there, guide her, and without context.\n\nFull version:\n\nMy best friend has been awfully clingy lately. So much I\u2019ve gone out of my way to do favors for her, do whatever she wants, etc. She is grateful for the time spent and sometimes makes up for it by buying a gift as a token of appreciation but I\u2019m usually wiped out before she asks for favors the next day. She\u2019ll often point out how much I do for her too or tell others how I\u2019d practically die for her. It\u2019s strange..\n\nMy best friend will call me sometimes in the middle of the work week and ask if I have plans over the weekend. I love the advanced notice instead of springing news on me within 30 min. Before something\u2019s happening; but because I feel smothered as it is I\u2019m either trying to find an excuse to get out of a pre-invite, be stupidly honest and say nothing to where then she excitedly makes a schedule for US, or I tell her we actually do have plans with family or friends.\nBut it never fails.. the weekend rolls around and my phone will ding me at least three times a day \u201cWhat are you up to now?\u201d \u201cIs your family gone?\u201d \u201cAre you home now from the movies?\u201d \u201cCan I come over and show my husband your new guest room?\u201d \u201cOkay then but can you come over instead perhaps, like, immediately?\u201d\nMy husband is starting to find this behavior annoying and he shakes his head in disappointment at me if I can\u2019t bare to firmly say, \u2018No\u2019 because I\u2019m nervous to hurt her feelings or have a big blow up over it as we have had before 6 years ago.... calling me a bad friend because I never go out of my way to invite her over or do stuff. I just hope things are different now.\n\nAfter some Reddit advice and consideration, I start to brainstorm how to tell my friend I need space. That I love her, and will always be, but I feel sick. And sometimes my feelings are important and I need time alone to recharge, including the stressful texts. I try to ease my mind and settle down by doing some laundry when my phone blows up again. She\u2019s calling.\n\nI answer it and think she\u2019s hurt because she\u2019s frantic and crying. Instead, she\u2019s just announced she is pregnant. I\u2019m honestly a little floored but still congratulate her and tell her it\u2019s okay to cry and have mixed emotions as it\u2019s a big thing. Before she can hang up to go tell her husband as he\u2019s walking in the door, she cuts me off, \u201cPROMISE ME YOULL BE THERE.\u201d I answer \u201cSure.\u201d Not really know what the heck that means. She says it again, \u201cNo, I\u2019m serious. I need to know if you\u2019re fully invested in this because I can\u2019t do this alone. Promise me you\u2019ll be there and stick through this, on my side\u2014gotta go!\u201d And hangs up.\n\nWhat does that even mean?...\n\nShe texts me five minutes later, \u201cCome over right now?\u201d\n\nI say no. I can\u2019t. (A lie, although I am doing my bedding and it\u2019s 7pm, I haven\u2019t had dinner yet)\n\nShe texts me back, \u201cWhat can I eat?\u201d\n\nI respond, \u201cY\u2019know... Considering your pregnant now you\u2019re really going to have to do some research on x , y , z and know for yourself what you may like, the baby won\u2019t. Stay away from the most commonly known bad food for pregnancies (caffeine, liquor, fish with high mercury, etc).\u201d\n\nShe\u2019s texted me back an hour later, \u201cYou swear you\u2019ll help me right? Im panicking. I need you.\u201d\n\nBut help with what?!? I\u2019m not a professional, a doctor, an OBGYN, a nutritionist, a trainer, I\u2019m not her husband, her mom, her doula, nor will I pay money to buy things as I have my own finances to worry about and I have to save up. (She\u2019s seen things at stores and randomly asks me to buy them for her, even before pregnancy).  It\u2019s not like I don\u2019t have a choice as I\u2019m not the one who\u2019s pregnant and it\u2019s not my kid/responsibility.\n\nSo reddit, before this goes down possibly horribly because I don\u2019t know how she\u2019ll react, AITA for not wanting to be there 100% of the time she\u2019s pregnant or needs my help\u2014or whatever it is she means? I have a life too.\n(I\u2019m sure in our discussion I will ask her to specify her needs and what I can and cannot do for her.)\nI can assure you I will tell her I still love her.. and remain good friends.. but I can\u2019t hold her hand the whole way. I don\u2019t have kids and don\u2019t want any still for a few more years. I am the last of my girl friends to ever conceive and I\u2019ve been useful and helpful in ways but not there all the time.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}940{"id": "oDOpvpO9pQewZ4Y8RlndY92KnEBHiSYS", "post_id": "a8mbdd", "action": {"description": "my siblings missing our mother's funeral", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for my siblings missing our mother's funeral?", "text": "Two days ago was my mother's funeral. My (28M) sister (27F) and brother (23M) did not go.\n\nMy sister and her husband are 350lb each. They make more money in benefits per month than I do at my career job. Something to the tune of $4,000 a month they receive and they squander it every month. They live only 30 minutes away and asked me to bring them. I told them I couldn't, there's not enough room with my wife, myself, my daughter, and two people who would take up the backseat on their own in my dinky sedan. I told them they have more than enough money (provided they didn't blow this month's benefits) to get transport. They refused and said they would not go if I didn't bring them. I didn't.\n\nMy brother lives 3 hours a way. He's pretty destitute going from couch to couch with his girlfriend. He has never held a job but is too \"prideful\" for benefits. He relies on the generosity of others for the most part, although his girlfriend works part-time in fast food. He originally asked me to come get him but instead I offered to front him the $120 train ticket. This was last week, and a day before the funeral he said he needed it for his cellphone bill and to send him another $120. I didn't.\n\nSo neither went. I was the only child who went, alongside cousins, aunts and uncles, etc. At the end of it, a group of my aunts pulled me aside and said I was a complete jerk for not ensuring my siblings were there, as if I'm fully responsible for them being here.\n\nAITA in this scenario? Technically I could have dropped my wife and kid off and then picked up my sister and her husband, and technically I could have sent my brother more money to come. I didn't, though.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}941{"id": "TI5qkSsPvr0dOeOGNQ4EdtRNBv0OxTRY", "post_id": "a1q1gm", "action": {"description": "ignoring this person", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for ignoring this person?", "text": "I usually hate being ignored (who doesn't) and always politely tell people the truth. \n\nA while ago I saw a post, more of a rant someone made. I agreed with them and we had a nice discussion. I later asked them for their game username so we can play together. I didn't go on reddit for maybe 2 or more days and when I checked it, I had about 4 or 5 messages from the same person. One of them was a really long one, giving me advice based on my post history.\n\nI always found it creepy when people go through my post history. A summary of what subreddits I'm active in seems fine but I got a bit weirded out how many posts they read.\n\nI actually intended to add them so we can play and talk but this seems too much. I can't help but feel like an asshole for ignoring someone.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}942{"id": "nvmEjARbrGbfAI2abXqqfIqEqbi15o7k", "post_id": "astdc5", "action": {"description": "wanting to be protected by my friends", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For wanting to be protected by my friends", "text": "My group of friends have a member of it who has a grudge against me, Every time I talk just getting dirty looks and online telling me to fuck off after every thing I say. He's told mutual friends that he beat me up and various other stupid lies to try and turn others against me. I've begun to push my friends away because I don't want to be with this person and personally I think that due to the fact it's just him being a dick the least they could do is tell him to knock it off but they're apathetic and just say he's like this with everyone or other dumb excuses like it's just to you so they don't want to do anything. Am I correct in desiring he gets some comeback or AITA for pushing away my friends due to this.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}943{"id": "BVOLrBRVSi8W6WKDibAH4t3TF3aAnPdQ", "post_id": "al52g6", "action": {"description": "slapping someone on my phone", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for slapping someone on my phone?", "text": "Okay so I was having a really tough day at school. Nothing wrong in particular, but just really bad. It was almost the end of school and this girl I will call her b because I don\u2019t want to use her real name, was on my phone taking pictures. B never asked and I don\u2019t like people being on my phone, it\u2019s rude and intruding. I see her, run and slap the back of her head hard (I know I shouldn\u2019t have, but I didn\u2019t think before i after and it was my fault for making her mad I will admit). She gets mad and starts yelling at me \u201cyou\u2019re lucky I like you\u201d and then proceeds to push me into the ground. This was all in front of the teacher and she was going to write a report on it. I don\u2019t know which one did worse, but I\u2019m currently crying while reading this just because I don\u2019t wanna bottle up emotions and I always tell myself to never let people get to me, but it is and I don\u2019t know if I should feel sorry or feel bad. Help please. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}944{"id": "TwgJa2IXdS2wPjoHXKTTaJJIOAITDxnI", "post_id": "b7k7za", "action": {"description": "not going go friends Hen party", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For not going go friends Hen party?", "text": "Backstory is that I\u2019ve known friend (we\u2019ll call her \u201cJANE\u201d) for 2 years. During the second year of friendship Jane met \u201cJOHN\u201d whom she got pregnant to, got engaged too and now they are getting married next week. We ended up having babies about a month apart which brought us back to chatting and being friends.\n\nThe old Jane (1+ yrs ago) used to ask me to do things for her CONSTANTLY. Basically at the time the friendship was her using me to look after he animals all the time at her home she was \u201crenovating\u201d, while she was off in another town with John, going to parties etc. I stopped all contact with her and basically ended the friendship. She reached out to me 3 months ago after seeing I had given birth to my son just a month after she had given birth to her own. I was happy to give it another go, thinking things might be different since shes become a mother.\n\nOk so...\n\nJane about three days before her Hens party invited me when to tag along. She had organized go karting, drinks and dinner. I said I might be able to go depending on my 3 month old son. \n\nJane said she was just going to drink and still breastfeed her 4 month old and that \u201cif you\u2019re ok to drive then you\u2019re ok to feed\u201d. \n\nThe day before said Hens, she asked me if I was coming and I said no. I truthfully said my son was cluster feeding and that I was unable to pump enough milk to go out and drink/to be away from him for hours.\n\nJane bombarded me with messages saying the following;\n\n- come out but don\u2019t drink\n- i\u2019ll give you some of my breastmilk\n- just bring him along\n- just at least call in then (venue is an hour away from me)\n\nI was so overwhelmed that I said I would pump and see how I got on and MIGHT call in but that I also might not. \n\nNeedless to say I didn\u2019t get on very well with pumping and decided to stay home. I didn\u2019t feel safe taking my baby out to a pub/club and being around heavily intoxicated people, so I didn\u2019t want to \u201cjust call in\u201d either. Secondly I just feel that my partying days have passed and I\u2019m not into getting wasted anymore. \n\nSo day of hens party I got sidetracked when family came to visit, house work, grocery shopping, baby stuff etc that when she messaged me the place they were going to for drinks and dinner, I didn\u2019t end up messaging her back. \n\nToday was the day after the hens party and I woke up, saw the message again and thought oh i will ask her out to lunch at this nice place to make up for me not going and that it would be more suitable as i can bring baby and she can bring her baby too.\n\nJane asked me to call and then she rang and she proceeded to say she doesn\u2019t think the friendships working out, why didn\u2019t I respond or turn up, doesn\u2019t think we should be friends anymore etc etc. I explained that my baby\u2019s needs come first and I couldn\u2019t go and that I had said that to her and she still insisted I turn up, etc but she ended up just hanging up mid phone call and blocking me on all social media (her partner also blocked me too).", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}945{"id": "3qh8NHyQjWTX1kts4RYEtA45M8QG5wKG", "post_id": "axgmi2", "action": {"description": "dumping my gf because she couldn't decide between me or her friend", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For dumping my GF because she couldn't decide between me or her friend?", "text": "Throwaway because, well... you know.\n\nTL;DR Below\n\nI typed this out a couple of times because I felt the context was really important, but it gets way too big... so feel free to INFO if you feel like this isn't detailed enough.\n\nMe(T)22 and my Ex(D)20 were together for about 4 years.\n\nBefore D and I got together she was in a very emotionally, and physically abusive, and sexually coercive relationship with a Guy we'll call M. It took about a year's worth of love and therapy, at the end of which we got together, to get her out of the deep depression she was in after he dumped her.\n\nWhen started Dating, M suddenly took interest in D again, he continuously pestered her to be friends with him (which I was adamantly against. Might sound controlling of me, but after learning the kinds of things he did to D and other girls I just couldn't allow him to be near her). After 2 years of this D agreed to be friends with him - D's therapist WHO KNEW THE THINGS HE DID advised that D befriend him as a means of \"letting go\" of the past and forgiving him.\n\nI voiced my objections to this the moment I found out, but eventually accepted it because it was what D felt she wanted. \n\nOver the course of the next 2 years, D would get increasingly flirty vibes from M(late night Texts, long hugs, surprise kisses on the cheek, etc), and even though I wanted and should have told him off (or beat the shit out of him) - D would tell me not to, and that I should trust her transparency about it and just ignore him - so I went along with it. That was until I found out M was getting way too flirty with D and was driving her down and away from her life goals that she had been working so hard towards - after and incident where M confessed he still loved D and kissed her when she was in no position to resist (I was not there at the time, but her friends were and did nothing to help her), we talked about how D needed to stop interacting with M - She surprisingly agreed to that, and was realizing how toxic M was to her and her future. \n\nA month or so later I found out that they were still hanging out and doing things that might not have been cheating, but were definitely not good for our relationship and her mental health.\n\nI confronted D about lying to me, and told her that she needs to stop seeing him or its over between us - to which, and I quote, she said \"I can't decide which one of you I love more\"... I told her things were over between us the moment I heard that.\n\nSince then I've been getting texts from her friends calling me an asshole and saying how much they always hated me. I also learned that D has been hanging out with M to cope with apparently the worst thing to ever happen to her, which was me... I honestly feel like I made the right choice, but I'm starting to question myself.... so AITA?\n\nTL;DR - I dumped my now ex because she continued hanging out with her friend who was her extremely abusive Ex, even after she promised she wouldn't.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}946{"id": "FmWypyPziCd4AXNmO2YjRPhNXv8jYY40", "post_id": "a8vhng", "action": {"description": "wanting to leave my girlfriend and telling her she's acting like a child", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for wanting to leave my girlfriend and telling her she\u2019s acting like a child?", "text": "My girlfriend (she\u2019s 20) and I (M 22) have been together for 5 years and just recently moved in together about 6 months ago. Lately her attitude with everything has just been awful. We both work and go to school, everyday she complains about how her life is bullshit and everything sucks in her life and will cry. I get it though, life is hard at our age but I tell her all the time \u201cit\u2019ll get better, we are just young, we have to finish school first, it\u2019s just a stupid part time retail job it\u2019s gonna suck\u201d. Usually I\u2019m ok with it even though it happens 90% she comes home from work or school and talks about how her life is bullshit. Last night though i feel like is the last straw. We live in a lower level of my GFs moms house ( we have a kitchen, living room, two bedroom and we can also block off the upstairs with door if we really wanted too. It\u2019s exactly like an apartment). My GF, her brother, and I wanted to get drunk and have a good time, but I bought us vodka and she got upset that I didn\u2019t buy wine. She went on her rant about how her life is \u201cbullshit, life sucks, why did it have to happen to me\u201d. She went upstairs and complained to her mother and her mother went out and got wine for her. After a bit of drinking she went in the showered and cried. When I went in to talk to her she just told me to get out. I don\u2019t think I said anything to her. Last I remember we were all drinking and watching tv, but I could be wrong and made her cry I don\u2019t remember. I want to tell her that I don\u2019t want to be with someone who has such a negative attitude and acts like s child when something doesn\u2019t go her way. WAITA if I said that to her?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}947{"id": "xXYb0zMPrrbb4lmzRbZ8FEM6GMk4SXnO", "post_id": "anwgit", "action": {"description": "not letting my friend donate a kidney to me", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA For not letting my friend donate a kidney to me", "text": " I have a rare autoimmune kidney disease that recently progressed to the point of end stage renal failure. I'm in the process of getting evaluated for a transplant, and my first appointment with the transplant centre is next week. After this, any potential donors can come forward and offer to be tested for a living donor transplant. The plan right now is for just my parents to be tested.\n\n  One of my friends is adamant that she wants to be tested to see if she's a match, and if she is a match she wants to be the one to give me a kidney. She's an extremely stubborn and driven individual and has very firmly made her mind up on this. We also know already that we're a blood type match, so there is a solid chance that she would be a potential donor. \n\n  The thing is, I don't like the idea of her donating for a couple of reasons. First off, the condition I have has a high rate of reoccurrance in transplants, so theres a strong chance (between 30 and 50%) that my body will wreck a new kidney and I'll be back in renal failure in a couple of years at best, so she could just be wasting her kidney on me. Secondly, it's a really invasive procedure with a long recovery time, and I know she wants to go travelling and explore the world, and I don't want to be the thing that holds her back from that. \n\n  A couple of my friends and family don't see things from my side and think I'm either being too stubborn to accept help, or too pessimistic about my outlook if I do get a transplant, and think I should let my friend get tested. We've also argued a couple of times over the situation and she thinks I'm being unreasonable. \n\nI get final say over who is allowed get tested, so WIBTA if I refused to allow my friend to get tested? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}948{"id": "jRZuqOc7rqpHDytHWkSAViZbF1ZZ7RNE", "post_id": "ao7996", "action": {"description": "doubting my girlfriend's \"intolerances\"", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 61}, "title": "AITA for doubting my girlfriend\u2019s \u201cintolerances\u201d?", "text": "So my gf of 7 months has gluten intolerance, lactose intolerance and sugar intolerance. As far as I know, this is incredibly rare. Ever since I found out, I\u2019ve been skeptical. I\u2019ve heard stories about mothers who deliberately decide that their daughter is \u201cintolerant\u201d of gluten, lactose etc when in reality, they\u2019re completely fine.\n\nRecently, I\u2019ve been probing it a bit more. Trying to urge her to try gluten again or try some milk and see if she can digest it again. (She used to have gluten and lactose as a child and has somehow \u201cdeveloped\u201d these conditions) I think it would be fantastic if she could eat these things again because it really restricts her diet.\n\nSome friends have suggested giving her food with gluten or lactose and seeing how she reacts to it but I think that is crossing a line of trust that I don\u2019t want to try. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 61, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 61}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}949{"id": "bMaa8A4NAdaGNiXCk6wzlFHmKjKzjVFN", "post_id": "aipso3", "action": {"description": "flipping out at my roommate for paying rent late consistently, among other things", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for flipping out at my roommate for paying rent late consistently, among other things.", "text": "The apartment I rent takes checks still (weird right). The manager usually takes the money out of the bank 1.5-2 weeks after it is due on the first of the month. This was always a nice buffer, in the beginning. We've had our difficulties and struggles to make enough money through changing jobs. I was unemployed for eight months while studying for a new career path and needed a lot of help from my parents. My roommate helped me here and there by buying food, and holding enough money on two occasions until the money was about to come out since my parents weren't always ready to give me rent money (I felt awful asking for money, so I waited usually).\n\n​\n\nAfter this rough time, I scored a very high paying job and spent the next few months catching up as fast as I could. Everything I owed to anyone was paid back. My roommate hated the job he had, and I offered to help out as he switched jobs. That's when the shit started.\n\n​\n\nHe became very quiet about money in general, and made it extremely weird asking for money for bills, saying shit like \"just because you make more money doesn't mean I'm ready to pay for things\". I helped him with rent month after month, and added up everything I helped with on a spreadsheet. I knew he was struggling and I wanted to be helpful, but also wanted accountability on his part. Each month, the first would come and go and he wouldn't say a word, no rent money, nothing. I'd have to keep an extra $500 of my money sitting in my account so the checks would go through, and some months I'd have to ask where rent was and he would suddenly come up with excuses why he could only pay a portion. Up and up the money he owed me stacked. Utilities? He didn't bother asking what it was, and didn't pay until I asked. \n\n​\n\nOne morning when I woke up to $10 in my bank account, I lost it. He was working, so I texted him a long message about how I expected rent NOW, and how I didn't understand how he never has money even though I'm fully aware of how much money he makes. He pulled the \"but I helped you when you needed it\" card, like I owed him for it. I shot back with how I paid everything back, and I didn't use help more than a handful of times. Overall I felt justified because month after month I was covering his rent, and not always getting it back in full, or at all. \n\n​\n\nSince this happened, he showed me all his bills and income, and I turned the tables by making him use his account. I subtract utilities from the rent I pay him and it's working well so far. But sometimes I wonder if I was making an ass of myself bitching him out when he was still struggling.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}950{"id": "oi0FF7aRO3jJKjF5KrPtqC9ZTriP8u8R", "post_id": "avhr4c", "action": {"description": "wanting my ex to pay his half of rent but move in with his parents", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for wanting my ex to pay his half of rent but move in with his parents?", "text": "  \n\nI (26F) have been with my now ex-bf (22M) for 2 years. Everything was fine until 3 weeks ago when I got a FB message from a girl that was screenshots of their conversation. He created a fake Insta account messaging her telling her how gorgeous she is, etc. Note, this is not the first time this happened. So I confront him, he denies it, I have proof, he lies, I tell him he has to leave, he does. A few days pass and we talk about what happened; he said he had been suppressing stuff that made him unhappy. Well, this is the SAME reason he reached out to a girl the first time. At this point, I am SO mad that he would throw away our relationship over simply not coming to me and communicating \u201cHey, my feelings are hurt over X, Y and Z.\u201d and then we can talk, fix it and be happy again. I am willing to work through this and make us work again. He says he needs his time.\n\nWe met up after a 1.5 weeks, he says the same thing; he needs more time to figure himself out. So I ask him upfront, are there any other girls in the picture? He tells me straight up, no. He isn\u2019t interested, doesn\u2019t want anything to do with girls, just wants to be alone and figure himself out. He asks me for another week of time and asks me to wait for him. I oblige. Monday rolls around, he texts me wanting to get back together. He makes plans to pack up his stuff (he\u2019s been staying at a friend\u2019s who\u2019s lease is up March 1st) and come home today.\n\nDuring our time apart, through mutual friends, I saw him drunk at a club. So I tell him I need to know if anything happened. He said yes, he had a one night stand. I am devastated. We had been apart for less than 2 weeks when he hooked up with a girl during the extra week that HE requested while asking me to wait for him. At this point, I am broken and furious. I tell him he can\u2019t come back and I don\u2019t want to work things out. He tells me he\u2019s moving back in anyway. I ask him to move in with his parents which would be free and he refuses. He says he can\u2019t afford two rents for his own place and he refuses to pay for a place that he can\u2019t live in. I am crushed; all I want is to move forward with my life and be able to get over him but I can\u2019t do that when I have to see him every day for the next 6 months. I\u2019m on student loans so I can\u2019t afford the rent alone. So here he is, he cheats on me, asks me to wait for him, goes and has a one night stand, and then still gets to come back home? He gets to have his cake and eat it too. I feel like I\u2019m being manipulated and controlled in his forcing me to live with him after all of this. So tonight I want to revisit the idea of him moving back in with his parents. Maybe I can talk to the complex about moving into a smaller apartment so the rent is less for us both. So AITA for asking him to move back in with his parents and still pay his half of the rent because this is his fuck up and he is legally obligated to pay?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}951{"id": "uMNRs2CChNWQvypclwvzGxUhMatl3qzK", "post_id": "avuid5", "action": null, "title": "AITA in this big, full of things and never ended separation?", "text": " \n\nMy girlfriend and i had been together for 5 years. My girlfriend had a music band for last 2 years and they have gone to other cities, schools, concerts together for 2 years... I was so badly to her in this 2 years for her careless and disrespectful moves. At the last event they have gone, i changed my whatsapp profile picture and she pushed me to end this relationship. After that break up; she was so close to guy who is in her music band. I tried to talk with her about that intimacy between of them and she said ''there is nothing, he is just a friend''. 2 months later, we talked and have been together again. We were happier, more respectful and more close. But after 4 months, she just started to being close to that guy in the band and everything was crap again. Then she wanted to breaking up with me and we just break up again. After that second separation; she was closer to that guy and that was so disturbing for me. I felt cheated and that is so humiliating. Her friends and his friends was thinking like me, they seemed lovers to everyone. And then i just found that guy and beated him badly. He was in hospital for 2 days. Then she just started to swear to me and humiliate me. And after 3 months of that event; she started to write to me. She started to say ''There was nothing between of us, just friends.''. But she was saying ''Yes, i have a feelings for him.'' to me all the time she was together with him. My psychology is fucked. I still love her but that was officially cheating for me. Should i return to her? Who is the asshole in this story?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}952{"id": "O4ExQVlIFwdsyvGeTmHAOoKNvUDofE7o", "post_id": "a2fket", "action": {"description": "making a comment towards my ex and the girl he cheated on me with", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for making a comment towards my ex and the girl he cheated on me with?", "text": "\nMy ex-friend (H) had fuck buddy who used to be her boyfriend (about 1 month of being together). She introduced me to the fuck buddy (K). K and I eventually start dating, after I check with her multiple times if she\u2019s okay with us dating (e.g. are you okay with me dating K? Are you sure you\u2019re okay with this) etc etc.  I end up dating K for more than a year. \n\nWhile I\u2019m dating K, she makes a couple of blog posts and Instagram posts talking about how upset she is that K did not treat her the way he treated me (which tbh behind closed doors was pretty shitty). I eventually drop her as a friend after she makes crappy comments about me on her instagram (I\u2019m blocked but my sister is not and my sister shows me the posts). \n\nI found out that K has been cheating on me with her for 2 months, even offering to meet her on Valentine\u2019s Day over me. I, being a gullible stupid girl with rose tinted lenses, decide I want to work on the relationship. This lasts 3 months. 3 months of me doing the pick me dance and doing whatever he wants just so that he would want to stay with me. Eventually I talk to my parents about it and build up the courage to leave him. (Key point to note: he was basically living in my house with my family (Asian country) but still had his own family home to return to). I break up with him over a call and pack his stuff and deliver it to his parents house. \n\n6 months later, I\u2019m out on a date with my new boyfriend at a restaurant and spot him with the girl he cheated on me with pointing at me and laughing. I go up to them as my boyfriend and I are leaving and comment that \u201cI hope you\u2019re happy with each other\u201d. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}953{"id": "uzhx4pJtbI5yXlsMdpgSdmr5qghvUYQo", "post_id": "a69kqa", "action": {"description": "a traffic misunderstanding", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For a traffic misunderstanding?", "text": "Short version - There is a little known crosswalk near an extremely busy street where I live. I don't believe I have ever seen a soul use it and I've lived here a long time. There are four total lanes of traffic and I am in the right lane. \n\nTo my left, extending about 10' behind me is empty space, with high speed traffic barreling down to pass me if we continue moving down the road. All of a sudden out of nowhere, a pedestrian dressed in all black frantically throws their hand out in front of my car. \n\nThey are approximately 10' in front of me and I am moving about 40 mph. My first thought is FUCK... if I slow down for this dude and he jogs across the road he is going to get hit by the truck behind me.\n\nGuy in black by this time has stepped into the road, frantically waving his hand at me in exaggerated gestures. I am slowed to about 20 and was going to try to drive by him, but he is already in the road, so I short stop it. \n\nThe guy locks eyes with me and waves his hand about 15 more times just in front of my car. He doesn't notice truck zoom by at about 50 or the line of traffic now flowing around me because they think I am in an accident. \n\nHe looks at the traffic stream, back at me. Flips me off and walks away. \n\nYes. Totally, always obey traffic... but I wish I had video of this because he would have been smoked for sure.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}954{"id": "NJsGdcazJghWIE5dhU4NJbP74muN6QY2", "post_id": "axr9be", "action": {"description": "being angry with my boyfriend for scheduling a work interview on the same day of my surgery", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being angry with my boyfriend for scheduling a work interview on the same day of my surgery?", "text": "Hi there. I\u2019m on mobile so sorry if the formatting is weird. \n\nI\u2019ll start with some backstory. Five months ago, I was dealing with constant jaw pain and numbness in parts of my face. After seeing doctors and dentists, I finally landed at an oral surgeon\u2019s office who took an X-ray and found my wisdom teeth were technically impacted but actively growing at the wrong angle. The reason I was experiencing numbness is because the my teeth are pressing down on a nerve, and surgery will be necessary to prevent possible permanent damage. I scheduled my surgery to land specifically on spring break for my school. Pretty much all of my professors this semester take off points for missing class, so missing an entire week was entirely out of the question for something I\u2019m paying $21K for. This was in December.\n\nI asked my boyfriend immediately afterwards if he would be able to watch me for my surgery. He\u2019s ending trade school so we planned ahead to make sure he would be free during the time I went for my surgery. Everything fit perfectly and we confirmed this was the plan. \n\nThis all changed about three weeks ago, when he got a call from a possible employer who was demanding that he start training on the same day of my surgery. My boyfriend asked if he could delay until the day after and explained the situation, but the employer basically brushed him off and said \u201cshe knows it\u2019s a job right?\u201d \n\nThat annoyed me immensely, seeing as this surgery is necessary and I\u2019m not allowed to be by myself, but whatever. We had a heated discussion about it and I told him that if he can\u2019t do it to let me know NOW so I can arrange a \u201cbaby sitter\u201d as soon as possible. He kinda went back and forth on it and then decided that he doesn\u2019t want to work with this specific company and that he\u2019ll bring me for my surgery. Okay, cool, I can relax. \n\nToday(less than a week before my surgery), he tells me he can\u2019t take me to my surgery. We get into a huge argument and he says he wants to go to the interview so that it can be on his resume for future employers to look at it. I\u2019m pissed because I can\u2019t find anybody to take me, everyone I know is busy. The paperwork specifically says I\u2019m not allowed to leave the center by myself because I\u2019ll be under the influence; someone has to check me out, so I can\u2019t even get an Uber. He says I should consider his employment, but I don\u2019t think any future employer is going to care that he got a job interview and trained for one day then quit. In fact, I think this shows a lack of commitment. \n\nI feel super guilty because I don\u2019t want to say he can\u2019t go to his interview but now I have to ask a friend to take the day off last minute. AITA for being angry? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}955{"id": "uwLFsRHvA6YT5p1brLSYHXqp6aZK8bIH", "post_id": "awkom9", "action": {"description": "telling to neighbors kids to not play in my backyard", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling to neighbors kids to not play in my backyard?", "text": "We rented a place that is placed behind a front house. The kids came to play behind my house and started to scare my cat. Also I am studying for finals, and they were telling a lot. I asked them to not come to play behind my house please because that's the space we rented. The mom was there and she looked to me angry. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}956{"id": "HF6Uqnjx0jhQ3fYE7PhV8LywXk6JTAv9", "post_id": "aw04qb", "action": {"description": "being realistic about how much my gf knows how to code", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for being realistic about how much my gf knows how to code", "text": "In reality I'm just here to have more people tell me I'm an asshole because I know I already am.\n\nAnyway... I was working on an assignment and my gf was sitting on the bed calling her mom. I admit I get cranky when I'm tired and I was really on edge already so anyway she's talking to her mom and says something like I know how to code now. So I overhear and say without thinking \"I wouldn't say that yet\" and she got really sad about it and I didn't intend to hurt her like that, especially with something I'm really passionate about and was enjoying teaching her and now I feel like the biggest asshole on here. I already really hate people who are gatekeepers for things like programming and so now I hate myself. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}957{"id": "jHq9uLYklMets2DDNtHkGfzeP0zmnALN", "post_id": "b3y6kn", "action": {"description": "being with a married man who has told me he will leave his anorexic wife soon", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 52}, "title": "AITA for being with a married man who has told me he will leave his anorexic wife soon?", "text": "I\u2019m dating a man I work with, we\u2019ve been secretly seeing each other for about 4 months now. He\u2019s married but he\u2019s really unhappy in his relationship and is trying to find the right time to leave her. His wife has anorexia so it\u2019s really hard for him. She doesn\u2019t have much of a sex drive, they can\u2019t go out to eat much, and she\u2019s also depressed (probably linked to the anorexia). He\u2019s tried getting her help, he\u2019s tried being patient but nothing is working. He\u2019s scared to leave her alone because he doesn\u2019t want her to get worse especially cause they have a young child together. But he has needs and he\u2019s very unhappy. I\u2019ve told him that I want him to leave her soon but that I understand his situation and am not gonna rush him. \n\nAITA for being with him when he hasn\u2019t left her yet? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 40, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 12, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 52}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}958{"id": "c1BW7HTAG2jVEHk4ap9oN4BIEg9slQev", "post_id": "a1an48", "action": {"description": "wanting my gf to explore her sexual desires", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For wanting my GF to explore her sexual desires?", "text": "Reference and history: We're both 18. M and F. She has had a past relationship that lasted about 8 months with a guy who forced her to do sexual things she didn't want to do, like showing her breasts, etc. \n\nSo me and my GF have had a serious relationship now for about a year and a half. We haven't had sex yet, we're both virgins. I really want to but she says she's not ready yet and I tell her that's ok and we will of course wait for both to get ready, it's our first time after all. She generally isn't interested in all things sex at all. She very rarely gets horny, but it happens, it used to happen a lot more at the start of the relationahip though. But she does really enjoy our moments when they are happening, but tells me she feels kind lf bad oe ashamed afterwards and she doesn't know why. The farthest we have gone sexually is dry grinding on each other while making out. We have never seen each other completely naked or touched each others private parts.\n\nI've begun feeling a little frustrated sometimes when we go weeks without doing anything, meanwhile I see everyone else our age having sex daily and doing all kinds of things. I have asked her if she has thought about trying to masturbate, maybe the feeling will awake her sexual desires. But she said she just isn't interested in it. I've said to her that a good relationship needs a good sexual relationship aswell, but I don't think shes taking me seriously.\n\nI'm thinking of asking her again to please try it sometime, that it might work and make our relationship get a healthy sexual side to it for once. AITA for wanting this?\n\nI'm thinking some of this has to do with her terrible experiences with her past boyfriend, and her parents telling her she can't have sex until she's \"grown up\". But she's 18, she has grown up all right.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}959{"id": "VJKXlJX8THO9p0R0R7FNxPdSW3VZezcn", "post_id": "a5jr71", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to my companies holiday party that is in office", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to my companies holiday party that is in office?", "text": "Ok, so as the title describes, we have a yearly holiday party that is in the office. I do want to mention that I love my job and enjoy my coworkers company. Am i the only one that feels office holiday parties are a drag and feel like more of an obligation, then a party? or am i just being an asshole", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}960{"id": "OmFT1QMb58Be7ypbYv9lo06DznXqyIFK", "post_id": "a0xz79", "action": {"description": "mentioning my sick dog to my friend the day after her abortion", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for mentioning my sick dog to my friend the day after her abortion?", "text": "This friend + I had talked just a few weeks before how her coping mechanism is to pull away from people and isolate herself. She doesn't reply to me for months when she's going through hard times and completely closes herself off. I don't want to pry or invade her space but I always kind of bop my head in.\n\n​\n\nSo she had an abortion. She told me she spent 2 whole days at her dads house after and was feeling good, many friends were checking up on her. Conversation was super short after that, one word replies. So later in the day I told her something like \"My dogs been sick for 4 months it's freaking me out :/\"\n\n​\n\nShe was so pissed about that. Thinking I was comparing my dog to her abortion. Honest to god I was just trying to change the subject and keep up conversation. (And my dog has cost me over $2k the past 4 months because of his health so it has just been on my mind). Was my comment in poor taste? It feels like a grey area?\n\n​\n\nI DID apologize a ton to her and basically told her all that I wrote here. Am I in the wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}961{"id": "RrPl7h8MIoY05AW4Gtno28dnUl7PyLLz", "post_id": "a9fvma", "action": {"description": "keeping a log of \"rent\" payments to my parents and asking them to sign", "pronormative_score": 61, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA if I keep a log of \u201crent\" payments to my parents and ask them to sign?", "text": "First and foremost, Happy holidays and Merry Christmas ya filthy animals. \n\nNow, I'm 21 and times have gotten a little rough for my family financially. I have agreed to pay them $700 for rent and money I owe each month. They have offered the entire upstairs apartment to me but I'd rather the room I have on our lower floor. \n\nMy parents are great, honest people but I have this gut feeling that I should be recording my payments to them for some reason. I would like to whip up a little log that has the date, the amount paid, and both of our signatures. \n\nI feel like it is a responsible thing to do but things like this  could seriously offend them (especially my mother). In a way I feel as if it chips at the trust and honesty that we are trying to maintain. How should I go about this without being an asshole?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 56, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 61, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}962{"id": "ojQdV3WDkTEuwnJRDpOGpgLqaKJorc5t", "post_id": "ancdqo", "action": {"description": "asking random women to join me at a bar, then asking them to buy the second round", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA Asking random women to join me at a bar, then asking them to buy the second round", "text": "Okay, so this was a while back. I was out with a pal for a night on the town in a city in Central Europe and we were having a beer in sort of a bar/lounge/restaurant type space. We saw and approached two attractive women in their late 20's, one it turns out was an actress on a TV show (not famous, but whatever) and the other an artist. \n\nWe all had a flirty, fun convo with them for maybe 10-15 minutes. After everyone finished their respective drinks I asked them if they wanted to continue on together and join us for a cocktail at a place a few minutes away. They happily agreed. \n\n​\n\nThe new place was quite crowded and it was hard to find a table to sit at. Once we find one, I have to head back to the bar to get drinks as there is no table service. I take everyone's order and pay for a round of cocktails, since its a pay as you guy type of system, and walk the tray of libations back to the table.\n\nAfter a few minutes of chatting,  both ladies casually mention that they have boyfriends that they live with. As any person knows, this sort of info is disappointing to hear after you've invested time into someone you are interested in, but life goes on. We continue conversing about this and that and the mood is generally pretty good, although the convo is losing a bit of luster as time goes on.\n\nI was just finishing my drink and they were about 3/4 through theirs, and they announce that they are going to go for a cigarette in a minute. I suggest that they order the next round on their way out from the bar to the street so the bartender can make the drinks while they smoke, and save everyone a few minutes of waiting. They look at each other and think it's a joke for some reason, and give a sassy, tongue in cheek answer of \"if you want a drink, you know how to do it.\"\n\nI smile, and ask again, \"yeah, but seriously, I'd love to get another one of these. It's your round, after all, and you are going right by the bartender.\" They seem dumbfounded by this and again look at each other like I'm crazy for asking.\n\n\"No, that's not how it works,\" they say again sort of devilishly smiling. \"Nice try though!\" They head out for their cigarette. My buddy also announces he has to pee, and heads off. \n\n​\n\nAt this point I feel a bit like I've been taken advantage of. Call me crazy, but when I'm with friends, we will all take turns buying rounds. I'm happy to buy a gal a drink as part of the little ritual, but these two always had boyfriends. So they weren't going into it as part of the ritual, it was always a platonic type of situation for them in their minds. So why would they be exempt from buying a round after having one bought for them?  \n  \n\nThis is the AITA moment of truth. When they are outside I grab both their drinks and finish them. It's a rash decision, and one that obviously flaunts all norms of social courtesy, but in my mind it's acceptable and fitting. They broke the social code of offering to reciprocate, and in a fairly rude and dismissive manner. They seemed to have a level of entitlement that I didn't appreciate. And I had no interest in seeing them again. So fuck it, I'm going to drink the drinks I paid for.\n\nWhen they come back in and see that their glasses are only comprised of ice and a straw, the reaction is one of anger and disgust. They ask why I would do that and I tell them that I bought the drinks and they had no interest in buying the next round, so take it for what it is. A few choice words are thrown my way and they grab their stuff and hastily leave. \n\nMy buddy, just back from the toilet, watches all this unfold and has no idea what has happened. When I explain to him he thinks it's all crazy, but laughs, and we continue on.   \n\n\nSo yeah, I think there is some asshole behavior on my part, but it only came out as a response to what I saw as assholish behavior. AI*T*A?   \n\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}963{"id": "flTOOKXIPwdQzW9wedUqEOm80ySZXjsS", "post_id": "az0mzp", "action": {"description": "not letting my BILs dog sleep in my bed", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting my BILs dog sleep in my bed?", "text": "TW for animal injury and mentions of death.\n\nFor context: my sister and her husband (BIL) live with my parents. I moved out before they moved in, and right now I'm back home from college for spring break.\n\nMy BIL brought his dog with him when he moved in with my sister two years ago. Both he and the dog came from an abusive household and she was definitely the worse for wear. She had open wounds from other animals and was extremely anxious about just about everything. She seemed to be recovering for awhile, but her cuts got infected despite treatment, and earlier this year she started on several rounds of intense antibiotics. We've spent thousands of dollars on tests and treatments at this point. Nothing has worked so far, and at present she is stuck in a Cone of Shame with the injuries from two years ago still open and she's lost so much weight she's basically a skeleton. None of the vets have really given a prognosis, but at this point it's hard to imagine her recovering.\n\nI adore this dog. She's incredibly sweet and loving despite everything she's been through, and she's always happy for someone to snuggle her. I'm an animal lover and would be typically happy to oblige, but... I'm also incredibly squeamish and can't handle gore of any type, ESPECIALLY on animals. Looking at her back makes me gag. Like I said, these are two-year-old infected injuries. They're not pretty. We've tried covering them up with doggy t-shirts, but that just ended with blood- and pus-soaked shirts and a minor rash from the friction of the cloth.\n\nLike most dogs, BILs is always on the hunt for soft places to sit, and my bed has become one of her favorites. I sleep with my door closed so I typically move all of the animals out before going to bed, so as to avoid accidents and whatnot. By now I've resorted to having my mom move her away to one of the sofas, sister and BILs room, or anywhere else soft before I go to sleep. I feel like such a jerk for taking her away from where she wants to be when she probably doesn't have long left and should just be petted for hours on end and let sleep wherever the hell she wants. But at the same time, I don't want to worry about kicking her or rolling on top of her in my sleep, or to wake up to find that her cuts are bleeding or oozing again, that she's had a bathroom accident, or worst case scenario, that she's died. I personally didn't sign on for the responsibility of having any dog, much less one this sick, and I don't really think it's fair to myself to force myself to deal with it head-on. But I still feel like the worst person in the world because she deserves any small pleasure she can get at this point and I'm taking that away just so I can starfish when I sleep.\n\nNo one has called me an asshole for this, but man, I feel like one.\n\nSo, AITA for kicking a sick animal out of a soft place?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}964{"id": "75dM7ronsyx7UflsXiNlouYRRzcF4sJT", "post_id": "9uir9b", "action": {"description": "writing a bad review", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for writing a bad review?", "text": "So, we've been to this sub shop several times. Every time I go, the meat is just sitting on the counter waiting to be sliced. Normally that's fine, but the last time I went I got violently ill for nearly 24 hours. I wrote a review online and the owner told me I'm a liar. Then the other owner got online and proceeded to tell me I did not get sick and I was wrong. The just flat out called me a liar online. \n\n​\n\nFull disclosure-  My mother owns a paper company and I set up a meeting for the two to talk. They became a customer and at some point, things went south. I had nothing to do with this and only had knowledge about it when I called my mom about something totally unrelated. I couldn't care less if they buy from my family or not. I've written fantastic reviews for my mother's past customers, even if they ended on bad terms. \n\n​\n\nAITA for posting that review online? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}965{"id": "GweVtqN8uR1ywMjpKcJtGObnq2jqvj5k", "post_id": "avv4fu", "action": {"description": "trying to get the guy I am seeing to try new foods", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for trying to get the guy I am seeing to try new foods?", "text": "I started seeing this guy and already we have a major source of contention: food\n\nLet me just get this out of the way, this 25 year old American man is the pickiest eater I have ever met. He refuses to eat anything outside of American staples like: steak, eggs, pancakes, bacon, burgers, fries, basic sandwiches, etc... And I get everyone has preferences, I really do. EXCEPT this grown ass man refuses to try anything else. He has never had pizza, he has never had any sort of pasta dish, let alone any \"eccentric cuisines\" as he likes to call them. Not even bland boxed macaroni. I thought maybe it was a weird family thing, but apparently his parents are as dumbfounded as I am. He has never even tried anything you can't find at a local Dennys. And no, he is not lying. Apparently it just doesn't appeal to him.\n\nAs you can imagine, this has made choosing restaurants for dates hard. I can't even get him into Mediterranean food, let alone anything \"exotic\" like Indian food, or authentic Chinese food. We live in a city too, so we have so many options but we keep going to steak restaurants are burger joints and it is getting old very fast and I keep getting annoyed that I have to compromise with him - just because we both like steak doesn't mean I want to eat it every week.\n\nI've really started to push, beg, bribe him into trying new foods with me, to going to restaurants I like, but he keeps getting mad that I am trying to \"change\" him, and that I keep making him do things he doesn't want to do. Its pretty early in the relationship, and we have a great time outside of this one sticky issue. So am I being the asshole here with trying to push him out of his comfort zone? Or is he the one for not being willing to try anything new?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}966{"id": "yWcsamt5w4k1BY82GZYFe89U4QCZ8I0q", "post_id": "arck1z", "action": {"description": "not wanting to collaborate with my lazy friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to collaborate with my lazy friend?", "text": "Throwaway. Second try.\n\nBackground: Friend and I met in highschool and were drinking buddies in our early 20's. In the ten years since then we've kept in regular contact, but out lives have gone in drastically different directions. I have always been interested in music and songwriting and have been writing songs as a hobby since I was very young. I went to college and then obtained an advanced degree in musicology. I currently work in the music industry, although not as a musician or songwriter.\n\nMy friend is just kind of doing the same stuff he did when we were young. Can't hold down a job and sits around drinking and watching sports all day. We don't see each other often, but we do talk and I don't really feel like we have much in common anymore. I am not into sports and that's really all he ever wants to talk about. The friendship at this point is based more on our history than any shared interests. A few years ago, I had a death in the family that was very traumatic and this friend completely supported me and talked me through a very dark time.\n\nNow that I am finally settled into my career, I have more time to devote to my personal passions and am ready to channel my energy into some creative projects of my own. I mentioned this in conversation with my friend. In a later conversation, my friend announces he has a great idea and thinks we should collaborate and write music together and try to get it published. I felt really uncomfortable with the idea and just tried to change the subject, but he's brought it up in subsequent conversations and seems to be really excited about the prospect. He's already dreamed up our success as a songwriting duo and has thought about how good I would be it. This friend is not even into music and I feel kind of insulted. I tried to escape the conversation by saying that it's something I would like to pursue on my own, but that was a lie.\n\nI do want to collaborate with someone else I know and have even started a tentative project. This person also has a degree in music and although I've never worked with him in a professional capacity, I know from our personal dealings that he is reliable, hard working, and very creative.\n\nI feel my old friend will feel betrayed if he finds out I am working with someone else, and may even feel like I stole HIS idea. He was there for me when I really needed it, but I don't think it's a good idea to try to mix \"business\" with friends in this particular case. I still feel torn though like I should humor him and maybe try to collaborate on something with him just for fun, but I am honestly not interested in diverting any time or effort into something my heart is not in. I am also afraid it might kill our friendship completely due to our very different habits and work ethic. Am I an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}967{"id": "3rs0mPjAG33Z0JHTOf1BRJlaukA2qmPo", "post_id": "a1n6rn", "action": {"description": "not wanting to accept gifts from my mom", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to accept gifts from my mom?", "text": "So over a year ago I got into a fight with my mom that lead to us not talking. What happened was my husband and I used the free trial from Hulu for Live TV without telling her and then Hulu tried to charge her early for it. She called me screaming about it. I was supposed to tell her and that was my fault for not doing so and I apologized and told her we would pay her back the money for it because it was my fault. She said not to worry about it because the charge was reversed (because the trial wasn\u2019t over, Hulu messed up).\n\nThe bigger fight started when she brought up getting an oil change for my car. Backstory on the car: I got an old car for my birthday from my grandparents that ran fine with my grandparents but basically as soon as I had it in my possession started to die. I could no longer afford to fix it so I started to think about getting a different car, because I was pregnant and would need it. I had no credit so I didn\u2019t know where to start looking. My mom convinced me to sell my car and use that money to put towards a brand new car. My husband (boyfriend at the time) told me this was a bad idea, I should get a used car. My mom said, \u201cyou can\u2019t finance used cars.\u201d I believed her for some dumb reason. At the dealership I was told I can\u2019t get the car in my name with no credit and I was ready to walk away but the sales guy and my mom convinced me to co sign. The conditions from my mom was that I let her see my daughter whenever she asked (which turned into every single day). So I let it happen.\n\nMy mom proceeded to threaten to take this car away a lot, but the hard truth was if she took it away, it would be harder for her to see my daughter (cause I would have to go north with my husband where he worked). She backed off every time. This time with the oil change, she demanded that we take it to the dealership to get it changed. It costs like $40, but I didn\u2019t have to pay this the first oil change cause it was free. My husband (who I pushed my mom into because I was just done talking to her) told her we couldn\u2019t  afford it and we would take it anywhere else for the oil change (we were in the process of moving as this was happening). She didn\u2019t like that answer and proceeded to insult my husband and call him a bad father. His response was \u201cyour behavior makes it pretty hard for us to want you around our daughter.\u201d I agreed with this response because she was being over the top. Her next message to me was \u201cto lawyer up\u201d because my husband just threatened to take my daughter away from her. She then called me and said CPS was on the way and the whole time at our apartment as she is taking the car and a dining table (she gave it as a gift cause she was throwing it away) she is screaming that CPS was coming and they would definitely take my daughter away from me because \u201cjust look at how you are dressed, you think you look like a fit mom?\u201d\n\nI told this whole long story to give you guys an idea of how my mom is. She holds gifts over my head and will gladly take them away if I don\u2019t give her what she feels I owe her.\n\nAITA for not wanting her to give Christmas gifts to my daughter?\n\nTL;DR my mom is highly manipulative and holds gifts over my head and takes them away when she isn\u2019t happy. AITA for refusing any future gifts?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}968{"id": "thuehQ95oaD6QdiT1pIHZOh1eTGHktuL", "post_id": "b8jtgj", "action": {"description": "telling my coworker that my boyfriend cheated on me", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling my coworker that my boyfriend cheated on me?", "text": "Before you start pointing fingers because of the title, I need to clarify some things first.\n\nI\u2019ve been dating my boyfriend for almost two years now. From the start of our relationship, we agreed that either of us can have sex with someone else as long as we\u2019re informed about it beforehand. We both agree that there is a distinct difference between a romantic relationship and a sexual one, and so long as we together are the only ones in a romantic relationship, we don\u2019t care what the opposite person does with their body.\n\nFast forward to a couple days ago where my boyfriend tells me \u201cI think I cheated on you\u201d, and when I asked why he thought that, he said \u201cYou know Jake? Yeah, so he and I had sex last week\u201d (not his real name, obviously).\n\nI honestly thought how he worded that was really funny, and I told him I wasn\u2019t mad as long as he told me beforehand next time. He agreed, and we\u2019re completely fine.\n\nToday, I went to my coworker \u2018Nikki\u2019 to tell her about the funny encounter (we tell each other a lot of things like this, so it\u2019s not exactly weird). She was confused until I reminded her that we\u2019re in an open relationship, and then agreed that it was pretty amusing.\n\nMy assistant manager, who we\u2019ll call \u2018Anna\u2019, was not so amused after overhearing this conversation. She told me to break up with my boyfriend, and when I said that it was okay and explained the open relationship, she told me that he was an asshole for cheating and that I was an asshole for thinking that it was funny.\n\nObviously, I know I\u2019m not an asshole for finding the encounter humorous, but I\u2019m starting to feel like an asshole for bringing it up in the first place. I feel so bad for making anyone think that my boyfriend was a bad person.\n\n\nTl;dr Am I the asshole for painting my boyfriend out as a cheater to my coworker, and should I have kept it to myself?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}969{"id": "Ebc98dws3jSX4IPxxn4ULtRWLX9Zawou", "post_id": "b9t8kd", "action": null, "title": "AITA re - upload for telling my family to be quiet in the evenings", "text": "So I\u2019m re- uploading this since I realised my last post didn\u2019t have enough info needed, and I can\u2019t answer to all of you individually. \n\nI live in apartment with my mother and grandmother. We do not own it, and we pay rent. \n\nMy grandmother has really small income, my mom nas none, and I\u2019m the main money source in the family.\n\nNow with that being said, I work night shifts in order to get bigger paycheck, so I need to sleep in the afternoons.\n\nDoesn\u2019t seem like a big thing, does it. I have a severe insomnia which was treated over the years and I\u2019m currently not so \u2018severe\u2019, if i may phrase it that way, but even a tiny little squeak can cause insomnia to me and that is a big problem.\n\nOur apartment\u2019s walls are thin as a paper and we only have 2 rooms in it. \n\nWhenever I go to sleep my grandma does\u2019t want to lower the TV sound (she can\u2019t hear well) and I can hear it too. It makes me uncomfortable.\n\nMy mother starts washing the dishes and since she has nerves disorder she can easily drop something and make a loud noice, it can wake me up in a second, and boom no sleep afterwards. \n\nI tried noice cancellig headphones but I can\u2019t fall asleep wearing them, and I can\u2019t take any pills since they have counter effect with other things I\u2019m experiencing.\n\nI can\u2019t move out since they won\u2019t have enough money to live with.\nAITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}970{"id": "vd9XkOrFOMQYoQwYECsB9uxjEPwe5MZf", "post_id": "axioyv", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my Mum", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For getting mad at my Mum", "text": "Ok, so let me explain. I'm (20M) working as an apprentice in what I think is a high pressure environment and am able to take annual leave etc. Recently I've been working more than my 37+ hour week (not forced) and have just been feeling very burnt out. It happens. The past couple days I have been messaging my boss asking to take leave that day, apologising for the short notice. My boss has been fine with it.\n\nHere's the problem; I'm still living at home with my mum and brothers, and my mum comes in and asks \"are you not going to work again?\" to which I reply \"no, I didn't sleep properly and just feel burnt out\". She then proceeds to mention how she doesn't sleep but she still goes to work because \"she has to\". I turn around and fire back \" I'm not calling in sick, I'm taking my permitted leave. Are you saying I'm not allowed to take leave?\". She then leaves the room.\n\nHere's where the problem gets more complicated. Things at home mean that my dad's out of the picture and my mum works and looks after my younger brothers. I pay rent and help out when I'm around, and it's safe to say she is busy. I then feel like because I am off that I can't relax because she \"is\" working and doing stuff. It seems stupid I know but ultimately I don't want my mum to struggle and will help if she needs it. We've had these arguments before where she says that she still works when she doesn't feel like it etc. and she gets very annoyed when I take leave. But my leave is for me to do what I want with right? Just because I'm using my leave to sit around and relax my brain and body, doesn't mean I then need to help out more?\n\nShort story: Im taking leave (holiday) from work because I'm burnt out. My mum has a poke at me taking leave because I want to relax when she continues to do her work. I feel like this almost guilt trips me into not being able to relax so I get mad at her. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}971{"id": "jbOMReGteBFFFYk8JY2py7Q4igEDC7d0", "post_id": "awlxs1", "action": {"description": "not appreciating my husband enough", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not appreciating my husband enough?", "text": "I am 30, my husband is 34. We have our first baby. I've been now on maternity leave for more than six months (which is standard in my country) and I work 10 hours/week from home, my husband works full-time.\n\nOur baby is not sleeping through the night yet - he is waking up every 60-90 minutes for feeding. We are bottle-feeding him.\n\nI am quite frustrated by the fact that it's always me bottle-feeding him at night & I'm always the one who gets up with him in the morning. \n\nI understand that I'm the one getting less sleep when my husband goes to work. We have a guest room and my husband occasionally sleeps there to get enough sleep. We both work in IT and he has always needed more sleep to be able to work than I did.  But it's the same during the weekends and it was the same even when we went for 2-week holidays - my husband refused to feed our baby at night at all & he only got up with him once and bragged the whole day about how tired he is.\n\nI'm also a bit frustrated by the fact that during the weekends or evening when we are both at home, I'm still the one who is doing most work with the baby and around the house - it seems to me that it never happens that I relax, while my husband is taking care of the house or of the baby. The opposite (I'm doing stuff and he is relaxing) is happening all the time. \n\nWe talked about that I feel he is not thanking me enough for being sleep-deprived and letting him relax. E.g. he almost never thanks me in the morning when he sleeps in the guest room. We also talked about the fact that he feels I'm not appreciating him enough for working full-time and providing for the family & I don't thank him enough when he helps me with the kid. He complained that I often say that his help is not much compared with what I'm doing. I must say that he has a point in this, but it comes from my frustrations described above.\n\nAbout 3 weeks ago, I was sick and had a bad cough. Everytime I coughed, our baby woke up and started to cry. My husband agreed that I can sleep in the guest room. First time since our baby was at home, I slept for 9 hours straight.\n\nI thanked my husband in the morning. He told me it was very difficult for him. In the evening I approached and I told him \"Thank you so much for taking care of our boy during the night.\" He seemed very happy that I thanked him. After that I told \"Now you can appreciate more what I do every night\". He looked at me as if I hurt him badly. He told me he though I'm finally thanking him and appreciating him, but I just talked about the fact how good I am.\n\nHe said it will be difficult for him to overcome how I hurt him.\n\n3 weeks later, and yesterday he told me he still can't believe me I'm being honest when I thank him for something, and that what I said 3 weeks ago hurt him very much.\n\nTL;DR: Husband never takes care of the baby during the night or in the morning. When he did for the first time when I was sick, I thanked him and said \"Now you can appreciate more what I do every night\".", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}972{"id": "dbetUbO0NeZnjQgWGN9f9gX8uGTnwtQn", "post_id": "b5unfi", "action": {"description": "calling my gf out on what I consider a threat", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling my gf out on what I consider a threat?", "text": "howdy folks \n\nso ive been planning on visiting my gf(long distance) for awhile. it was mostly talking about it- nothing was really planned yet. however as i began to dig into my schedule i realized i have summer classes at the time. i am 3 classes behind so i really need to do them(can only do 2 semesters, allowed 1 class at a time). i told her i don\u2019t think im able to come and she got very upset- rightfully so! however, she gave me an ultimatum/threat in my opinion, and im paraphrasing;\n\n\u201ccome down here or our relationship will fall apart and will not last\u201d \n\ni told her that was not okay, that i have no choice now, despite really needing to catch up on studies.\n\n she says im being inconsiderate and a major asshole because i can take the classes during my school year on the weekends and don\u2019t seem to care about the trip.\n\ni never said point blank, no. i said i would see my options and go from there(i really want to see her)\n\nso lads, aita?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}973{"id": "3EtcWBsXJFv1WHMQsZmGcxyTKJrWFB3L", "post_id": "apbqro", "action": {"description": "wanting some alone time from my relationship to play video games", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting some alone time from my relationship to play video games?", "text": "I've been with my girlfriend for three years, living together with her for two. We're currently maintaining a great relationship and I am probably going to marry this woman. But there's one thing that bothers me, and that's the fact that she really doesn't like it (gets upset) when I play video games. \n\nWe have alternating and crazy schedules so she usually opens and I work in the afternoon or close if I'm not at class. I generally try to schedule my game time around her schedule while she is either at work or asleep so that it doesn't bother her, and so I also get to hang out with her while she is awake. And when I say game time, it's not like 40 hours a week of gaming. I average 3-4 hours on nights that I get to play, which is generally every other night and excluding weekends. I explicitly reserve weekends for us to be together. So like, 10-12 hours a week. Some crazy nights I will pull a 7 hour night from 8pm-3am, but that is very rare. \n\nPersonally, I need my space to wind down. I work pretty much full time and I'm also a full time college student. I also try to go to the gym 4-5 times a week. I don't feel like in a serious relationship living together that you need to spend every second of down time with your SO, but that is just my opinion. \n\nI think what upsets her is that she really doesnt have any friends to hang out with or hobbies, so when I'm not home she's generally just watching Netflix, tidying up, or napping. I've invited her to learn how to play video games with me and even slapped together my old build so that she could try it out, but she hasn't even given it a shot.\n\nBut even though I try to not do my gaming when she is at home/awake, she still gets upset. She feels like I am just waiting for her to go to bed now so that I can play video games, which isn't the case. If I were to be gaming when she came home from work and something trivial wasn't done (a few dishes in the sink, laundry not put away, etc.) she would get upset that I chose to play video games instead of completing those tasks. That's fair, but on the flipside of that, I regularly come home to tasks not being completed while she is watching Netflix. I sort of feel like there are double standards that only really come out when it has to do with me gaming.\n\nSo the golden question, am I the asshole for wanting some alone time to play video games with friends? I don't feel like my gaming is getting in the way of our relationship. Personally I think that right now she is upset that we don't get to see each other as much as she wants to because of our wacky schedules, and is using video games as the reason for it. But if I am in the wrong here, I would definitely like to know about it so I can change.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}974{"id": "QcYEoca6nfdj28WGxqDWeKaLKaG4KbRc", "post_id": "aw8r1a", "action": {"description": "wanting/planning to hang out at a location where my ex works", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting/planning to hang out at a location where my ex works?", "text": "So first off, I'm using the word ex, but we never defined a relationship. It started out as friend with benefits and then the lines kind of blurred but we never took the next step. We had an amazing run in the beginning, but in the end there was a lot friction, hurt feelings, I noticed my personality changing in a way I didn't like at all (e.g. I started snapping at minor things while compromising on things that I shouldn't have) and when I couldn't take it anymore I told him we shouldn't see eachother anymore. I later reached out again to tell him that once our emotions have cooled down, I was open to try and work things out, to see if we could get our friendship back at least (I'm aware of how naive that sounds, but we honestly used to be great together and I wasn't ready to completely give up on that at that point in time). \nThat was about ten months ago. A couple weeks back he messaged me and we caught up on eachother's lives a bit. I gave him about a week of just chit chat to get accustomed to eachother again and things actually went pretty good until I told him that I'd like to actually talk about what went wrong last time, because I don't see this going anywhere unless we learn from our mistakes back then. He pretty much immediately shot me down, telling me that he's happy that I'm doing well but messaging me was a mistake and we shouldn't continue.\nTo get to the point of this AITA: he works at a really cool place that I never went to during the past ten months, out  of respect for his 'territory'. However during the time after he contacted me again, when we were exchanging pleasant chit chat, I made plans to got to an event there with some friends and last night we went there and had a great time. I didn't expect to actually see much of him, he doesn't work in the service area but more behind the scenes, but we did come across eachother a couple of time during which he either ignored me or honestly didn't notice me (I doubt that though, not noticing four people that you know just a couple of feet away from you seems a bit implausible to me). So if I judge the situation correctly, my presence did make him uncomfortable. And even after all that happened between us, part of me really wouldn't like him to come into work every day dreading to be confronted with memories and feelings he'd rather not deal with (by seeing me, I'm not planning any kind of active confrontations). Another part of me thinks that he needs to get his head out of his ass and actually deal with his issues. Regardless, I would really like to go to more events at that location, simply because it's honestly that amazing and unique.\n\nAITA if I decide to hang out at my ex's workplace more often?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}975{"id": "aAWX95A7tEtK7026i4fr3Cfqf8TQ5Xz9", "post_id": "b5og82", "action": {"description": "charging my parents more for looking after my foster sisterhood", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for charging my parents more for looking after my foster sisterhood", "text": "Obligatory apologies for formatting, I am on mobile. \n\nSo this decision happened only minutes ago, but first a little back story. When I decided to switch universities last year and move back in with my parents I was giving up a very well paying, stable job as an au pair/tutor. I hadn\u2019t lived at home for about 4 years and in that time my mother and father made the decision to start fostering a 13 year old I will call Alice. I love Alice, I never had a girly kinda sister around since I had a very manly lesbian sister and my twin brother. She\u2019s hard working, sweet and caring, and none of this is directed towards her. \nTo make up for me not having a stable income anymore my parents decided to hire me as an au pair to Alice. \nMy hours are essentially 07:00-07:30 Monday till Friday, 14:00-16:00 Monday till Thursday and 14:00-20:00 on a Friday (She has choir in a town 40 minutes away and we get home late every Friday). This in between studying full time, and working another side job. \nThey pay me R3400 a month (about $244) which is supposed to include my fuel. I drive about 22km (about 14 miles) every day dropping and fetching her from school. Au Pairs in my country generally charge R50-75 an hour ($3.50-7.50) and R3/km ($0.20). \n\nNow that all of that is over let me start from about 15 minutes ago when I told my parents that I wanted to stay at my boyfriends house this weekend, starting on Thursday as I currently have off from school and he is house sitting this entire weekend, so he has no way of visiting me. My mother freaked saying that who would look after Alice on Friday, as she is also on break and therefor doesn\u2019t have school on Friday either. I stood there flabbergasted as my mom berated me about how if I was her client back in the old town I would not treat her like this and that I should look after Alice this Friday. I walked out of the room absolutely furious that she would speak to me like that. If she wanted me to look after Alice she could have asked nicely and I would have said yes and gone through to my boyfriend Friday afternoon instead. \n\nShe brought in business a o I decided to handle this as cleanly and business-like as possible. After some serious calculations I figured out that my parents were not only underpaying me (R35 an hour/$2.50) but also grossly misusing me. So I\u2019ve decided to propose I charge them what they should be paying me, including overtime for looking after my sister this entire week. Since I only work from 14:00, that would include an extra 6 hours of work everyday that they need to pay me for, and I would discuss a new monthly rate that I should be rightfully paid. I am separating business from family and if they want to look for a cheaper option they can try but they will not find it, as I would be charging them the bottom rate for an au pair here. \n\nSo my question is, AITA for doing this to my parents? \n\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}976{"id": "lpDxijkDG5FiM5wAPXJeacu60dlXIRRY", "post_id": "apabt2", "action": {"description": "having sex with this girls boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for having sex with this girls boyfriend?", "text": "So a long time ago this girl, Haley, slid into my Instagram DMs and told me we should hang out. I saw some red flags when I met her, but decided to ignore them. (She was constantly making up extravagant stories of her past and was really rude to her parents that she still lived with.) I was at a really vulnerable part in my life and decided to stay her friend because she was an escape from my shitty life. \n\nAnyways, I introduce her to my friends since she was new to the area. After Haley got close to them she turned them all on me. She constantly fed them lies until they didn\u2019t like me anymore.\n\nI cut Haley out of my life immediately and figured it was good that she helped me figure out who my fake friends were. She showed up at my house unannounced a couple times begging me to be her friend again but I always had my sister answer the door because I thought I\u2019d punch her if I answered. \n\nI was a lonely mess after all of this, convinced that everyone hated me. Haley really hurt me. I did some soul searching that year while I was alone. I realized I was so full of hate towards her that it was only bringing me down and I needed to forgive her for my own mental health. \n\nI messaged her saying that there was no hard feelings and I hoped she was doing okay. She insisted that we hang out and told me she did some soul searching too and she changed. Me being lonely, I said yes. \n\nWhen I met Haley\u2019s boyfriend, Zack,  I realized I already knew him from middle school. Zack and I got along really well, better than Haley and I did and we became closer friends. He constantly confided in me that he wanted to break up with Haley every day. And Haley told me the same thing about Zack. They had a seriously fucked up relationship where they were constantly screaming at each other. \n\nAnyways they had an extra ticket to this music festival and begged me to go. Haley told me that she didn\u2019t wanna go alone with Zack cause she\u2019d be annoyed the whole time and Zack told me the same thing about Haley.  I figured a free ticket is a free ticket and I went. \n\nAfter the concert we were all really drunk. We went back to the hotel room and Haley insisted that we have a threesome. We were all down and went for it. Although Zack was really hot, I wasn\u2019t that into Haley so I was really uncomfortable then Haley got uncomfortable too because her boyfriend was kinda just fucking me in front of her. She told him to stop, they starting having sex again, I felt weird and left the hotel room. \n\nZack came and found me after about 30 minutes and we walked to the parking garage. Anyways we had sex. \n\nI feel like Haley deserved what she got and I wouldn\u2019t have had sex with Zack if they didn\u2019t insist on having a threesome in the first place. I never planned on having sex with Zack before that moment. \n\nZack and I decided to keep that night a secret. After a week I felt guilty and told Haley. She didn\u2019t believe me, stole my vape I left at her house and a bunch of my clothes. \n\nIt\u2019s a year later and I still get texts from people telling me that Haley said I had sex with their boyfriend even though I didn\u2019t. People from my home town think I have sex with anyone I meet and that I have STDs because of the rumors she\u2019s made up about me. \n\nSo am I the asshole for having sex with Zack? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}977{"id": "1BwOW571lOE9ruoqO7wj3aTAhpM19UEc", "post_id": "9zbek2", "action": {"description": "taking back the tv I gave to my sister", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA for taking back the tv I gave to my sister?", "text": "Just over a year ago my sister broke up with her boyfriend and moved her and her son to an apartment. During the move, her only tv got some damage to it so I offered to give her mine because I was planning on getting a bigger one soon anyway. We swapped so I could put her broken one (crack in the screen but still works) in my basement for yoga videos. \n\nThen about 6 months ago she got back together with her boyfriend and thus uses his large screen tv in their living room and they have other TVs in each bedroom (I think mine is in my nephews room). \n\nNow my husband would like our tv back simply because it\u2019s ours and she doesn\u2019t need it anymore being she has multiple TVs in her home. Also I\u2019m pregnant and kind of would like to put my tv in my bedroom to watch while I\u2019m resting with baby, etc. \n\nWill I be an asshole to take back something given to a person when they were in need, but are not really in need now? Either my nephew or them will have to have the broken tv in their bedroom instead of the one I gave them. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}978{"id": "v1zHvxpLL8xeRGCwMCc5unS0ez84xDQA", "post_id": "agz2ft", "action": {"description": "not accommodating a liar who just said they started AA", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for not accommodating a liar who just said they started AA?", "text": "**The backstory.**\n\nI am dealing with an ex-wife of 10 years who has a history of mental illness/issues. I have also proven on several occasions that she has lied on a variety of things. She will say that her car has broken down so she can't take our child to school, only for it to work so she can go to a job interview later that day (with my child). She has told me that one of our friends was in a car accident and that I needed to watch our child so that she could visit her; only to see that friend post on Facebook 30 minutes later. She has told the government that I left both her and my child (it was a mutual separation) so that she would be bumped up on the list to get government assistance. She has also admitted to lying about some serious allegations about other ex-husbands because she was mad at them. So overall, everything she says I have to take with a grain of salt.\n\nNow, roughly a few weeks ago, I suggested keeping him on some of her days until she gets her life a bit more adjusted. This would have reduced her from 14 days to 6 days a month (every other weekend). Her response was to threaten to take me to court. She wasn't going to let me boss her around anymore and she will ensure that she has a relationship with her kid (which implied I was trying to prevent that). I actually 100% want them to have a relationship, which is why I follow the visitation schedule rigorously.\n\nOn top of that, I am engaged to someone who really doesn't like her continuous involvement in our lives. We are completely independent from my ex and almost never rely on her for any assistance; yet every month or so we are approached to accommodate her for whatever reason that I'm never sure is true. In a lot of cases, we end up accommodating; but I am trying to stop that because it's very fair to say that my ex shouldn't have so much direct involvement in our lives - especially if she is lying to us.\n\nOur visitation setup is that while I actually have primary custody, we personally have a 50/50 setup right now. When I consulted a divorce lawyer roughly two years ago, he told me that because this 50/50 setup has been the norm for years, she could take me to court, accuse me of being unfair and the judge could side with her. I have since started capturing documentation incase I ever do go back to court.\n\n​\n\n**The situation**.\n\nToday I got a text from my ex saying her drinking problem is getting out of hand and she wants me to take him for a week while she attends AA to get her problem handled. He is supposed to visit her tonight and has made no reference to her drinking problems until this morning.\n\nHer text implied she has not started it yet, despite having all week to do so. She has had the past three days and will have the next three days free to attend. I also believe AA is not a one-week-and-done situation and is an ongoing process, meaning she will need to schedule her meetings on nights where she does not have our child, anyways.\n\nHer family has expressed to me that they do think she has a drinking problem, but because of her history of lying, I'm not convinced that today's claim is legit and is actually being used as a reason to get out of parenting tonight.\n\nTo add to this, my fiance's father is an alcoholic. So if this turns out to be a false claim, that is *really* going to rub her the wrong way. All things considered, I've found it best to err on the side of being skeptical.\n\nSo, hopefully I've been able to articulate that this is a complex situation. I don't want to dismiss a potential serious claim; but I also don't want to enable more lying using serious claims like this.\n\n​\n\n**Will I be the asshole?**\n\nI am planning on telling her that this is a serious issue that will take longer than a week. Therefore, I suggest she keep seeing him and maintaining their relationship while visiting AA on her off-nights and keeping her drinking in-check on her nights with my child. Otherwise, I will be willing to go back to my proposed visitation schedule from a few weeks ago from here on out and not just for a few weeks. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}979{"id": "IzYY60bjd5nubYvTxKXx1i2XrWLgWW3C", "post_id": "ba641c", "action": {"description": "being angry at my flatmate's girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being angry at my flatmate's girlfriend?", "text": "I'm a student and I live with 5 others in my flat, one of which being the guy in question. He is seeing a girl and she often comes down to stay with him. No problem with that in itself.\n\nMy flatmate is a great friend of mine - we spend a lot of time together, cook together, share shopping, etc, and I love this arrangement and I know he does either. \n\nThe issue is that this girl has been staying for an increasingly ridiculous amount of time. The first couple of times she has stayed for reasonable amounts of time that I have no issue with, such as long weekends. However, the last couple of times she came down she stayed for 5 days, which though I wasn't too happy about I let slide as it wasn't too different to her usual 3 or 4, but the next time she stayed for a total of 10 days/9 nights. \n\nI was livid, and ended up feeling forced out of my own flat for the majority of that time. Most of the reason I was pissed off was that she was eating my food, drinking my drink etc, without offering a penny towards me, or even a simple thanks! Personally I would offer money or at least bring a bottle of wine as a thank you, at the very least say thanks, if I was even staying at someones for the night let alone the next 10 days.\n\nIt doesn't help that we don't really get on either; she is jealous of the relationship that my flatmate and I have, and even though there is nothing romantic about it at all, she seems to try her best to keep us apart the whole time she is at our flat. I wouldn't say I was jealous of her but her presence does irk me; I'm a creature of habit and her being there fully disrupts my meal routine as my flatmate and I can't cook for each other as normal. However, I stress that this last point wouldn't bother me if she wasn't so rude to me in my own home. \n\nAnyway, he didn't tell me about her coming until the day before she did, when I told him that she wasn't welcome for that long in our flat, especially not without asking me or any of my other flatmates about it. An extra person in our already small flat was a lot to handle, and it meant that we had to have predrinks in our bedrooms/eat in our bedrooms as we didn't feel comfortable being a 3rd party to them. He basically told me it was none of my business.\n\nProblem is, I couldn't just let it go - I'm a student so I'm not exactly wealthy, I certainly didn't want to fund somebody else. My flatmate promised me we'd work out something regarding money for the food she'd eaten. \n\nAfter the 10 days elapsed, it transpired neither of them were planning on giving me any money. He said they'd done the groceries, but they had only bought at most around 10 pounds worth of veg, most of which they'd eaten. He told me this was fair and couldn't do any more as he was low on cash. My argument is if neither of them could afford the extra money, she shouldn't have come for 10 days.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}980{"id": "YqEBXdJOG0rWVAnzEAc0K12DkC2CcpqU", "post_id": "b47jad", "action": {"description": "throwing away some kids footballs", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for throwing away some kids footballs?", "text": "OK, so my partner and I moved to a nice little street last Summer and we have decent enough neighbours. However, our tiny little back garden has become a dumping ground for the kids footballs and toys (as well as rubbish). Initially it was one football that would get blown into the back and it'd sit there until the kids came back to get it. This wasn't an issue for us at first.\n\nOver time though, we have ended up with a collection of 6 footballs in our back. I've spoken to the parents about it because I've walked out of my back door a few times and fell over a ball. Right in front of my back door is a 5 foot brick wall and I almost cracked my head against it one night from tripping on a ball. Again, this has been brought up with the parents and the response is generally the same: \"kids, eh?\". \n\nOn top of the kids toys, I'm also removing other peoples rubbish from our back each day, as well as cigarette ends too. We can't do much out the back because our neighbours like to hang stuff over our fence and I've seen my neighbour shoving our property away from the fence so she can hang things on it (brushes, mops, mop buckets, towels etc).\n\nOur garden has become a dumping ground and I'm wondering if I would be an asshole for throwing the balls away. Every time I've thrown them out of the garden, they end up right where they were. \n\nSo, would I be an asshole for throwing the balls away? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}981{"id": "muH8upL970jQh4PLhMbe23vAp2pqfANP", "post_id": "avhkio", "action": {"description": "confiding in my ex instead of my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for confiding in my ex instead of my boyfriend?", "text": "Throwaway account btw. \n\nI'm in university where I met my current bf who I've been with for 5 months who I'll refer to as Ben. Before uni I dated another guy for about 7 months who I'll call Jay, we broke up because he was always travelling and it was hard to maintain long distance so it was better to be friends. \n\nLately I've been going through a lot of personal stuff; I've battled with anxiety since I was young and its been really kicking into high gear lately, my family is planning a big move that will either result in an excruciating commute to school or me having to live on campus or find a roommate, I just lost a friend of 7 years due to a major falling out and I don't really have anyone else besides my current bf and my ex. \n\nMy bf Ben has a really intense major and works on the weekends. He's usually the first person that I go to when I need to vent or talk things through, but he's super busy with work and studying so I don't want to bother him. Especially right now because we have midterm exams. My ex Jay is really busy as well, he works in music and is constantly travelling. We don't even see each other as exes, we really just see each other as long time friends. I usually only confide in him if Ben is busy and can't reply for a while.  \n\nLately Ben has been more distant than usual, because of exams and studying or whatnot. He cancelled our scheduled datenight to study and doesn't text as much except to hear about my day and say goodnight (which I'm not angry about, I understand he has to study and he still makes sure to talk to me at least a little every night). I needed to talk about some stuff, just a mini rant to get things off my chest. I didn't want to bother Ben while he was studying, so I texted Jay instead. I ranted to him and I felt better. Later during our usual \"how was your day\" convo, I told Ben that I was having a rough day but I felt better after talking to Jay. This made him upset, and he said I could've come to him if I was upset, and I should've before talking to Jay. I said I didn't want to interrupt his studying and said I would go to him first next time. We didn't get into a huge argument about it, he's a really chill guy and we just carried on with our convo for a little bit before he went to bed. \n\nThe way I see it is both of them are super busy, but Ben doesn't reply until the evening and Jay replies almost instantly, and I don't want to be stewing over something all day when I can get it off my chest that moment. They're also different in how they react: Jay asks questions and gives advice, while Ben just says \"that sucks, just go relax.\" I usually always text Ben first and only text Jay if I don't get a reply, but this time I just skipped the middleman. The only reason was really because I didn't want to bother Ben and I knew I would get actual responses from Jay instead of \"sleep it off.\" \n\nAITA for confiding in my ex before my boyfriend?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}982{"id": "I56ia8ifhXwXh3OrkKx8xPDxL0mxZJ9e", "post_id": "ao5nlt", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to Mexico", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to Mexico?", "text": "My partner has invited me to go to Mexico for a week+ to celebrate a great grandmothers birthday. I\u2019ve never been out of the country, I don\u2019t have a passport, and I don\u2019t know this side of his family. \n\n\nI have expressed apprehension since the first day he asked a few months ago. Now, when tickets are being bought, he asked for a for sure answer, and I said no. \n\n\nHe was very disappointed, apparently having a bad day already, and I feel very guilty. Am I being a dick? \n\n\nTLDR; my partner wanted me to come to Mexico with them and I said no. They didn\u2019t take it well. \n\nUPDATE:  a miscommunication = I got another opportunity to go, so I\u2019m going. Bf is so happy \ud83d\udc95", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}983{"id": "71yueAvjC80YuQdp5vMliFwTRGKZVgnG", "post_id": "aqhqt2", "action": {"description": "not telling the waiter if there's an error on the bill", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not telling the waiter if there's an error on the bill?", "text": "If I'm at a restaurant and the bill comes with an item missing, am I then obligated to tell the restaurant or is that their loss? Would you even go as far as to consider this stealing?\n\n\nI think the issue here is, that the social contract at a restaurant is very different from a store. For example, you consume the product before paying.\n\n\nAs a bonus question, are your opinion the same if I was part of a group (who didn't want to tell) and so would also be the snitch? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}984{"id": "XCYZNfZqZfu0ucoQbULwSPKuKeZolLDI", "post_id": "b4d9kr", "action": {"description": "not offering to repay my mom every time she does something for me", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not offering to repay my mom every time she does something for me?", "text": "\nI\u2019m 33, married with two kids. My mom is in a good place, about to retire. Sometimes she likes to invite us out to eat and always says \u201cif you\u2019re invited, you\u2019re not paying.\u201d My family doesn\u2019t really go out, except maybe ordering pizzas once a week. So eating out isn\u2019t really in our budget. Other things, like special crafts or classes that my mom wants to do, she will pay for. My husband and I combined have a decent income; enough to keep ahead of the bills, but we have no savings, student loan debt, and well, kids. My mom struggled financially when she was a young mom and has told me and my husband that as we were in the same place for the first few years of parenthood.\nSo this is why Im asking... I have a younger sister who has a very lucrative career and a husband in the same field, no kids. She insists on saying aloud every tome we all get together that my mom shouldn\u2019t be paying for anything. They will grab the ticket from the table and pay their meals. This puts us in an awkward position. Sometimes it\u2019s literally the question of: do we look like an asshole and be the only offspring to not pay our meal, do we charge it to the credit card, or do we overdraft our banking account?\nor like just today, my mom texted us asking if we wanted to do some candy making craft. I would never go make candy on any occasion except that it\u2019s my moms birthday and she wants us to al be together and make candy. But this sister already texted and said she will only go if my mom agrees to not pay for anyone else.\nAITA for not freaking out about reimbursing my mom for special things she does for me that she has expressed she does not expect payment for? Until just recently my husband and I were over drafting every month just to keep our kids fed and bills paid. We sold our first house and have created a bit of a buffer for the first time in ten years. So we do try to surprise my mom and her husband by bringing them little gifts or cooking for them or whatever. But I can\u2019t afford to keep up with my mom and my sisters. What do you guys think?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}985{"id": "KJa1lN2SHU4MHSXWTROkdLjVfZcX6M06", "post_id": "a06a2d", "action": {"description": "wanting nothing to do with my mother anymore", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting nothing to do with my mother anymore?", "text": "Let me start this off by explaining why I am the way I am, and why my mother is the way she is. My entire family is very dysfunctional, essentially we're \"triple traumatized\".  My mother was raised by a Holocaust survivor, was verbally/emotionally abused by one of her husbands, and had to deal with my abused. I myself was verbally/emotionally abused as well, and sexually abused at school. That screwed my mom up as well as myself. Given the constant fighting and screaming I had to deal with growing up, I just detached myself. I do not have the same attachments to family that most people do. My primary focus in life is academic/career success: nothing comes before that, including family. I understand why she is the way she is, but I just don't care anymore.\n\nMy mother is neurotically overprotective. I'm a senior in college, and she has shown she doesn't see me as anything more than a child. Every winter, she has a mental breakdown. She thinks I'm going to die when it gets remotely cold out. I shit you not, she invoked the memory of the *holocaust* when I didn't wear a hat going out one time. \n\nAnother thing she does is send me little \"reminders\" over text very frequently. She reminds me of basic stuff that a senior in college, or anyone of my age, should know how to do. Sleeping, washing your face, etc. *I know to do all of these things*. I am not inept. I'm finishing undergrad early entirely out of my own drive.  I've told her time and time again that when she does this, it's belittling and demeaning. She fakes an apology, but then she turns right around and does it again the second she gets worried. These are just two examples.\n\nI've lost my temper at her before. I don't like it when I do that, and I'm working on it in therapy. But I feel like she just never listens to me. No matter what I say, or the manner I say it in, anything I say to her just goes in one ear and out the other. I love my mother, and I'm grateful for everything she's done for me. But I'm just so tired of it. I'm tired of being belittled. If it takes cutting her out of my life to get her to stop, I have no problems with doing so the moment I'm financially able to. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}986{"id": "RMNVoDcPdSon8eXOYMZONU4lBAjWS2lh", "post_id": "b8blp6", "action": {"description": "being mad at my friend for being insecure", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my friend for being insecure", "text": "So, title sounds a bit odd but hear me out on this one.\n\nMe and my friend, lets call him Tim. Tim is very shy and timid, but he seems to be super open around me and my other friend, lets call him Alex. Which is super awesome because he's hilarious and a genuinely great dude. \n\nWell Tim also happens to really like this one girl. Tim's had a crush on this one girl since about freshman year (we're seniors). So this girl that Tim really liked sat at a table that's right next to ours today during lunch. I saw this and told Tim about it. He simply responded \"oh that's cool\" I told him how he should ask her out and he completely refused, saying how they could never get together. I tried telling him how he needs to be brave to get over his fear of asking this girl out. But he wouldn't have any of it and told me to please stop talking about it. I did but he didn't talk to me for the rest of the period. \n\nAm I in the wrong here? I really want to see Tim get over his fears and go for this girl. But I understand this thing can be really tough to get over. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}987{"id": "EoKgWignWBcYzw4BDfpJNWWtj2BawzrV", "post_id": "asykuu", "action": {"description": "refusing to compromise with my girlfriend about my eating habits", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA: For refusing to compromise with my girlfriend about my eating habits.", "text": "A bit of background on me: I\u2019m a competitive powerlifter. I total 1300+ @ 163 lbs (only mentioned for credibility; if you know much about powerlifting, it\u2019s a pretty solid total, 420+ wilks. I\u2019m not just some fat dude who calls himself a \u201cpowerlifter\u201d to justify my eating habits). \n\nI have to eat. A lot. Right now I\u2019m bulking and with my daily activity, I need a total of 3800+ calories a day. That\u2019s a fuck ton of food. \n\nAs such, I admittedly eat unhealthy. Desserts many times a day, soda (easy 200 palatable calories), a bunch of snacks. Unhealthy foods are much more easy to eat a lot of versus healthier foods. I do get in 200+ grams of protein, but to gain muscle and to gain strength, the only thing that matters is your protein and calories. \n\nMy girlfriend comes from a good place, but she consistently nags me about my diet. Don\u2019t get me wrong; I\u2019m not afraid of a vegetable and fruit are delicious; she\u2019s just concerned with the amount of sugar/fat I\u2019m eating. But as mentioned earlier, 3800 is a LOT of food. I can barely tolerate eating that much with my current diet; I physically can not scarf down 3800 of \u201chealthy\u201d calories. I can eat much better when I\u2019m cutting/losing weight, but that\u2019s probably 1/3-1/4 of the time. She wants me to me to limit my sugar intake to 1 sweet a day, max. Which, again, sounds reasonable. But it is completely counterintuitive to my current fitness goals. \n\nAnd it\u2019s not about weight. My body is great; when I tell people I compete, people assume i compete in bodybuilding. It\u2019s genuinely about the fact that she doesn\u2019t like me eating unhealthy. Keep in mind; I\u2019ve been dating her for a year and I\u2019ve competed for around 1.5. So this isn\u2019t anything new. When we first started dating, she thought my \u201ccheat days\u201d were always just planned on dates because I look fit, so she assumed I had a much healthier diet than I did. \n\nAITA for telling her I refuse to compromise?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}988{"id": "xgl6jxKsZBhZcy22qTrnTSGODmmp2C6X", "post_id": "alt78l", "action": {"description": "quitting earlier than I said I would", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if I quit earlier than I said I would?", "text": "Work at this job that I absolutely hate but I want to leave on good terms as I do need a reference. Originally I told them I\u2019d leave at the end of the April but I honestly just want to hand in my two weeks now. AITA for wanting to do this? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}989{"id": "oPtAjEnWubn67WEEzXJZUHTr1X53FyyQ", "post_id": "avtvnb", "action": null, "title": "AITA - My boyfriend wants to go on a holiday with another woman. I don't want this?", "text": "My boyfriend and I are together for 3 years and both in our mid 20's.\n\nTwo years into the relationship he met this girl from work and they quickly became friends. I never really liked her, she gave me nasty faces and all. Clingy behavior. My boyfriend said this was all in my head.\n\nNow they are quite close friends. This girl has won a 3day trip holiday to another country. Since she calls my boyfriend \"her best friend\" she asked my boyfriend to join. I do not want this. Although he says he can fix different hotel rooms, the anxiety that this gives me is insane. \n\nIf he would go, it would be an almost free holiday for him. He is angry at me because I don't want him to go. He is still doubting.\n\nI cannot join, since I have to work and I don't even have money for my own tickets and all that.\n\nAm I an asshole for refusing this to happen?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 37, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 41, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}990{"id": "PEa3TGH2PPRS1XoAc7dVObiBi0BloCI8", "post_id": "apr0iu", "action": {"description": "telling my housemate she'll need to pay more for electricity, water and gas", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my housemate she\u2019ll need to pay more for electricity, water and gas?", "text": "It\u2019s mainly the electricity, but I\u2019ve asked about this housemate before because I\u2019ve been struggling with mobility and she\u2019s been getting on my nerves; but I had a chat with my friends and partner to see if I was overreacting.\n\nSo my partner and I are strapped for cash for different reasons, I can\u2019t work at the moment because I\u2019ve broken my ankle extensively and can\u2019t walk for 3 months and my partner makes child support payments every week.\n\nSince this housemate moved in (about a month ago) she\u2019ll leave lights, fans and appliances on for hours on end while she leaves the house. Or if she goes to bed she\u2019ll leave the TV on, lights on and fans on. And this isn\u2019t just a one off, I\u2019ve had to have this conversation with her on 6 occasions and those are the occasions where half the houses lights have been left on and she\u2019s been gone for 6 or 7 hours.\n\nI know it hasn\u2019t been my partner because he works a lot of the time, and this only started when she moved in. \n\nIt\u2019s gotten to the point that if I know she\u2019s going out I\u2019ll ask her to make sure she turns everything off that needs to be turned off, or if we\u2019re leaving to go to the same place I\u2019ll check it. I don\u2019t feel like I should need to check this.\n\nBut since we\u2019re so strapped for money at the moment and we have been trying to conserve our electricity, water and gas I told her that if this continues her rent will need to increase to cover these costs. \n\nIt\u2019s also stuff like putting a pair of socks in the washing machine and turning it on, or a shirt and turning it on, and those items are the only load. This has happened on a number of occasions, and she only uses the dryer never the clothes line which takes a lot of power. And we have beautiful sunny (sometimes a little hot) days.\n\nOr the dishwasher will have a plate and cutlery in it and she\u2019ll turn it on. \n\nTl;dr my housemate uses excessive amounts of electricity and water even though I\u2019ve asked her to conserve it and remember if she\u2019s going out to turn things off, so I told her her rent will need to increase to cover this if it continues. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}991{"id": "uDWYhkrYA7clWNoznJ3qVeIwPMJwUBec", "post_id": "ao8eus", "action": {"description": "setting a coworker up to fail", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for setting a coworker up to fail?", "text": "One of my coworkers (F27) (I'll call her Sina) is quite shy or at least quiet and never complains, but she does her work well. Unfortunately another coworker (Monika) (F34) took advantage of that and often gives her part of his workload to do as well (and tells her to give it back to her to commit), which causes Sina to fall behind with her own work. Also, Sina does her work better, so Monika benefits from that as well, and when Monika does a shit job, she'll drop the task on Sina last minute and then lets her commit the faulty task. \n\nNow, I'd usually try to stay out of this (or at least wait until I have a good way to prove it to the boss, since I can't just record it in office), but here is the thing: From the looks of it, Monika is bound to get promoted once my boss retires (partly because of the work that Sina did for her). Unfortunately for me (or for her in the end), she's a very bigoted person that always talks shit about men in the company workforce, saying we are lazy and do a shit job, and that there should be more women anyways (I don't disagree with the last part though). At the same time she is the one who steals someone elses work and time... If she were to become boss, it could be quite problematic since I'm trying to get promoted to a different position where I need the votes of at least 3 company bosses (position my current boss holds). And of course I don't want a stupid lazy bitch to become my boss. Meanwhile I'm on good terms with Sina and I expect her to be more professional in said position.\n\nWhen Sina went on holiday for a week, Monika fell behind in her work, but intentionally didn't commit anything, probably wanting to let Sina do it to avoid negative feedback again... When she came back from holiday I talked to Sina and changed a setting so that work sent to Monika from her account would still be flagged as hers after committing. I also logged into Monikas account (I have a habit of watching people enter passwords, I think I know those of all coworkers by now), and commited all the work Monika had marked as completed but not yet commited (the stuff she usually lets Sina commit). \n\nThis didn't go unnoticed by the boss, and he angrily came asking why so much of Monika's tasks where flagged as Sinas and if that was the reason why Sina was always late with hers. It didn't end well for Monika (partly because of me and another coworker who said that we often saw Monika carry documents over to Sina) and she got a warning from the boss that she could forget a promotion and might lose her job if she does it again. Sina on the other hand got a raise.\n\nTL;DR: A coworker was being a bitch and pushing her mistakes on someone else. I exposed her in a sneaky way and made sure she'll not become my boss to avoid future trouble with her.\n\nAITA for doing this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}992{"id": "J3TnAUyitOGVfoKLal0l0k8f7PGIyoJ9", "post_id": "b8ql6d", "action": {"description": "suggesting to my freind to stop being friends with his ex", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA For Suggesting To My Freind To Stop Being Friends With His EX?", "text": " \n\nHey Reddit first time poster! But this is something that has been on my recently.. So Reddit.. Would I be the asshole for suggesting to my friend to stop being friends with his ex? So here are the key players, (Not their real names!)\n\nDerrick = My friend\n\nKaren = My friends ex\n\nHellen= Me and Derrick's friend (Very bad at supporting, or comforting people IMPORTANT LATER)\n\nMaddie = Karen's friend\n\nMe = ~~A magical wizard from the future~~ Me!\n\n**The relationship:**\n\nNow it started off great! They really both cared for each other. Then, she started to ignore him in every other class but lunch. Okay weird but... Then the event happened, It was a normal Friday I gotten home and started playing video games, then Derrick called the group chat crying, Karen had messaged him that she wanted to break up, since she liked Maddie (Maddie was a jerk too Derrick mind you,) My friend Hellen, couldn't handle this so she left the call, leaving me to comfort him. Derrick is a nice kid, he kept saying it wasn't Karen's fault for breaking up with him, that it was his!\n\nNow present day Derrick still kinda of has a crush on her. She caused him problems. But, funny thing is, this wasn't caused by the breakup. This happened months after it. But he continued to be friends with her, which, I am guessing may have caused this. Why? Because relationships with your ex can be terrible! He still has a crush on her, since he has every class with her and sits right next to her. Imagine seeing someone you were so close to having a relationship with dating someone else, or just being stuck in a friend zone with someone you love..\n\nSo Reddit WIBTA for suggesting my friend that it might be better for him to stop being friends with his ex? I might just be acting over protective, but I just want him to be happy!", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}993{"id": "3CgHHD7KmqK5bYgZGiZgmxiEnkTjptnd", "post_id": "ale7tj", "action": {"description": "having a girl stay over with me in a room I rented from a friend", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for having a girl stay over with me in a room I rented from a friend?", "text": "Sorry for the long post; it's complicated. \n\nI've been friend's with C for many years. I ran into some difficult times in a housing situation, and C and his girlfriend K offered to rent me a room. C had been dating K for about a year, and I was good friends with K as well. I was weary about cohabitating with friends, but they practically begged me to do it. We set some ground rules, rent cost etc, and one rule being that they were 100% ok with me having  girls over or whatever, (tenant/landlord law in the state forbids landlords from preventing a tenant from having guests anyway.) \n\nFast forward a few months, I had to have knee surgery which put me off of work for 14 weeks. In this time I needed an incredible amount of help getting around ( I couldn't drive either) and the girl I was seeing was amazing at helping me. She would stay over on days when I had early morning doctor of PT appointments and help me whenever she could.\n The problem was, K did not like this girl. K is the kind of friend who thinks she knows what's best for you, so even though she had no discernable reason to hate her, she just did. One week this girl had to stay over about 4 nights in a row, to help me getting to appointments and we were also working on a large charity project for a children's hospital ( this was around the holidays)\nI should note that this girl didn't shower here, we didn't cook or eat their food, drink their drinks or hang out in common areas. I/We literally stayed in the room I rented the entire time. \nAbout a week later I get this text from K:\n\n\"Hey, I don't have a lot of friends, but the ones I do have, I value a lot in my life. Part of the reason I probably don t have a lot of friends is because I don't like to bullshit or be fake. If there's something bothering me, I like to talk about it and resolve it. I know you've told me you've had bad experiences with roommates and I have too, trust me, but I really did mean it when I said that we will never have an issue, because we are all good friends. \nI'm going to be upfront because I don't expect anything less from you. Get your dick wet...i love sex and I don't feel like you should be deprived. But can (girl) just come less? She's there every single day, and we didn't really sign up for 2 roommates. My sisters will be here from dec 23rd till January 11th, and unfortunately we only have two bathrooms, so could she also please not come when they are here? \"\n\nI responded \"ok\" but I was actually hurt a lot by this. \nLike.. being accused of trying to move this girl in, when she had no property here and didn't cost them anything was insulting. Also they know I can't walk or drive around due to my surgery, yet assume she's just staying over for sex. Not to mention I felt like if I rent a room somewhere, I should be able to sleep with whoever I want in that room. \nI couldn't argue the point because they're the ones helping me out with housing, and I didn't want to put my friend C in the middle of this, but I felt like this was only said because K hated this girl. I started looking for a new place to stay immediately but it took 6 weeks. In this 6 weeks neither K nor C, or her visiting sisters would even acknowledge my existence. No one would talk to me or even make eye contact with me. Not to mention my birthday was during the time her sisters were over which made it incredibly lonely sitting in my room like a ghost in the attic. \nI moved out and haven't spoken to K at all since. C contacted me later asking me to apologize to K for \"getting weird and ignoring her\" after she sent that text. The thing is, I couldn't do it. I didn't want to be her friend anymore. Unfortunately it also cost me my friendship with C. \nTLDR: I rented a room with my friend and his girlfriend. They agreed before hand they're cool with me having girls over. Had a girl over too often due to needing help with injury/Charity work. Friend's girlfriend hated this girl asked me to not have her come over so often/ anymore. I felt like if I rent a room, I should be able to sleep with whoever I want in that room. Both friendships with friend and his girlfriend are destroyed. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}994{"id": "acYOkL9nFJoVlMKA7M7hbpOdX43akCdp", "post_id": "aub5w5", "action": {"description": "losing interest in this girl over too much affection", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for losing interest in this girl over too much affection?", "text": "Wondering if I'm being an asshole right now, even though I don't mean to be. \n\nI have been seeing this girl for a few weeks. She is amazing - intelligent, hilarious, and she's a great listener and conversationalist. For the first week, I was head over heels. \n\nWe've been spending a lot of time together. I'm an introvert and prefer one-on-one hangouts, but she texts me all day, every day, saying misses me or asking to hang out. Another problem is our budding relationship is almost.. overly physically intimate. I  know that that sounds like an absolutely crazy thing to complain about, but I can't get her to sit still for 5 minutes without kissing my neck or trying to get me to making out with her. That is not an exaggeration. Sometimes I just want to chill and enjoy her company and conversation. It's overwhelming.\n\nI'm not some hot model someone should be falling head over heels for. I'm not even a *super* sexual person... I enjoy sex, but have had abusive relationships in the past that make a lot of physical contact a bit stressful. It takes me time to feel comfortable with someone.\n\nThe most confusing part is that I've tried to tell her this. She told me she wanted me to always tell her whenever I was uncomfortable or needed space. Each time I've said so, she looks extremely hurt. If I told her every time I was uncomfortable/needed space, I'd be hurting her feelings all the time. Every other sentence she says is something about how much she likes me, or how handsome I am, or how obsessed she is with me. (She is a successful adult person, haha. She isn't sitting at home staring at a picture of me.)\n\nI don't want to hurt her feelings. Who asks someone else to kiss them and compliment them less? I'd be crushed if someone said that to me, but I really can't explain just how much of it is happening, and how uncomfortable it makes me. I'm not good at attention.\n\nThe last part makes me feel especially asshole-ish. She has an adorable dog, who is allowed into her bed. I don't automatically have a problem with that - the issue is that her bed is always *coated* in dog hair. I don't like being naked and coated in dog fur while trying to have sexytimes. On top of that, the dog (who is very big) whines if not allowed on the bed, which results in us trying to do the deed around it. I just feel weird fucking her with my thigh pressed up against her dog's ass. How am I supposed to say that without sounding like an asshole? She loves her dog more than life itself. How do I ask her to wash her sheets without sounding like a dick? Do I buy her a lint-roller? (Kidding.)\n\nTLDR: Amazing girl is super, *super* into me. Like, intensely so. Can't go five minutes without trying to make out with me. How do I ask her to back off without hurting her feelings? She asked me to be open but gets really sad whenever I do so. I was super into her but am getting overwhelmed. I don't want to sleep in dog hair. Might be shallow.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}995{"id": "aSQI7JotfYCkzKkKixncv9C7xA4C56DI", "post_id": "ai8ghd", "action": {"description": "destroying my friend's base", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for destroying my friend's base?", "text": "So I made a server on ark just for me and friends. My friends said that they wanted PvP to be turned on so we can have an all out war. I turned it on and waited for everyone to get on. Everyone got on and we started having a war. I also started to destroy bases and kill things. But apparently they said i'm an asshole for killing them and destroying their stuff. So I felt bad and let them destroy my base. But they still are calling me an asshole for destroying stuff. So am I one?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}996{"id": "bd4uke36XAFiQ6aG1LOFE62S0QCmKmkI", "post_id": "amx6un", "action": {"description": "telling my mom to look for the remote herself", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom to look for the remote herself?", "text": "My mom always asks me where the TV remote is. Every fucking day. So one day, I was fed up with her telling me that and told her to look for it herself. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}997{"id": "YcdEB86gPH8Tbsjf5uayR1wdrBHvdGWF", "post_id": "9upzof", "action": null, "title": "AITA?", "text": "Okay this been bothering me I don't know if\n I'm a ass hole for do it but my son real father I cut him out of his life beacuse of choices he made. Here the long story when I was pregnant my ex was happy about it when we were together but times went on about 2 months his demeanor/attitude change he started being more rude about things. Didn't want go to the doctor appointment he only went maybe 3times. I was okay with that. Then he started make comments how I'm not the same anymore to how immature I Have Become ect. He try to feel the bady move but said he thought it was weird. He started called the baby a fetus. As time when on we to find if we have boy or girl he just look at the screen with my parents. We found out it was a boy and my dad was so excited but when he ask my ex how he feels it all he said im happy and that was it. When I was 7 months things turn for the wrost he broke up with me and told me I could stay but made it sound like I was unwelcome and started hang with anther girl. So I couldn't handle it so I moved back with my parents and he was okay with it. We made agree in talking that we keep how my son name would be after him to he how to make effort no matter what to be in my son his life like call to visit ect. Well after I move out he change again and start not doing what he said he would do. Call maybe ever now then ask about how my son is. There times I had to beg him. Then he got into relationship with that girl after 2 weeks with this girl was my friend too and I warn her about him. Same thing kept happen and he told me that when he see my son every other weekend when he born. Well that didn't sit right with me but at the same time didn't register (note this whole time I was depressed and upset about the whole thing) but I went with it. I still have beg him to ask how the baby is. He would tell me he love the baby and be the there for him but his actions was telling me different.  He told me to call or text when the baby with going to come. Well my dad told me if he not going to full effort now then he won't when my son is born that he shouldn't have right to baby at all. As my son about came  he was there band the girl was too which I told him I didn't want to her because I felt she betrayed me as her friend tell me she got my back so on. The tell I was have contractions more more he told me that why i call him even though the baby wasn't here yet. He brother was there all excited about it. him on the other hand act all emotionless. Few hours past I had my son. He held him smile my mom ask you thinking. His exact response i feel like im staring at myself. That was it. Minutes past and he told me I have to accept his girlfriend into my son's life even if I don't like it. I just look at him didn't say words my heart broke even more (note I was tired and exhausted after give birth) then he went back home for work. Later texting my mom that he will take care of the maternity test so he can be on the birth certificate( note he wasn't there when I did all the paperwork for the birth certificate) when my son was a week old hey I've been text me saying I want to see my son but he's bringing his girl I told him no I feel uncomfortable about her comeing but he can come see him. He said no I want her to be there so I just take him to the Park. I said no it to cold outside. He still insisted take him to the park so his girlfriend could see him. I was upset I thought I deal with it because my hormones were going all wacky. So my mom told him to stop act like she his mom that this shouldn't be about her but my son. He said okay then I didn't hear very much from him ever now and how the baby. Then he text mom mom that he got the maternity test ready and me and my mom should go there now. My mom got a little bit aggravated and told him we're not going to always jump every time you say jump. ( note I kind of stopped talking to him because he kept guilt-tripping me and making me sound like I was a horrible person the only time I talk him if it's about my son) He didn't respond the day then saying he comeing over I said okay I waited 6 hour he didn't show then text to me saying something came up. This happen 3 more time less he ask how my son was he kept making up excuses I begged him over and over to come see his son. Nothing work it was always a excuse. I finally got tired of it and getting more more depressed so blocked him on Facebook been changed my number he send my mom ask why i block him when he should have already knew. Now it's been almost 2 years and he still has not made any effort. I Heard it Through the Grapevine he doesn't even talk about me or my son anymore. Him and the girl broke up he move back with his parents that what I heard and now he talk about my son again even though he hasn't made any effort to come see him after he has a girlfriend again. Did I make the right choice? I was trying save son from heart brake because I seen so my many of my friends go through the same situation with their parents and I didn't want that for him I wanted him to have a father to come see him all the time and be there for him not just wait when ever his father feels like it. I begged him to come see his son in past I did everything but it felt like it was never enough for him. It felt like was always bad person to him it seemed. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}998{"id": "pEiuOUdtvN6aQ7bDnXAD3BfCiBPXcgDu", "post_id": "b1dikz", "action": {"description": "not taking the lunch my dad packed for me to school", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not taking the lunch my dad packed for me to school?", "text": "It sounds stupid and mean, but bear with me here. My dad is an extremely controlling person, whether it\u2019s something big or something super little and pointless. This is something the entirety of my family agrees on, with the exception of my dad of course. One of those little pointless things he\u2019s decided to control in my life is packing my lunch for school. The main reasons I have a problem with this are because:\na) The food in his house is often far past its expiration date and I don\u2019t feel comfortable eating stuff from there unless I\u2019ve checked the date. I have been packed moldy food several times before\nb) The food he does pack just doesn\u2019t taste good. I\u2019ll force myself to eat a bite or two, but almost all of it gets thrown away. I don\u2019t want to waste food. I\u2019ve asked him to pack different foods, but he never does.\nc) I literally don\u2019t have room to carry it.\n\nI\u2019ve asked him several times to just let me pack the lunch if he wants me to take a lunch that badly, to which he always vehemently refuses and yells at me about. I\u2019ve asked him several times to, if he wants to pack a lunch, to just ask me first so that I can make a little more room in my bag and get a word in about what food he\u2019s having me take. He always says he\u2019ll ask, but I always walk downstairs to him with a fully packed lunch ready for me, and I\u2019ll ask him again to just let me know before hand. It\u2019s a never ending cycle.\nSo this morning, I walked downstairs to see a fully packed lunch on the table. I told my dad I wouldn\u2019t take it and explained how I had asked him time and time again to just let me know first. He got angry and started yelling about how unappreciative I am and starting dissing how my mom never packs me lunch (divorced parents) and went on about how it\u2019s his house, so he\u2019ll pack me lunch if he so pleases. I didn\u2019t yell back, I just went upstairs and quietly left afterwards. Honestly, had he just asked beforehand, I would\u2019ve taken it, but he didn\u2019t. He\u2019s still mad at me for not taking the lunch.\n\nSo, Reddit, am I the asshole for refusing to take the lunch my dad packed for me to school?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}999{"id": "X7WZhxF9vxJPFmSqAWMgBrYr6F2hL1Lt", "post_id": "ay44og", "action": {"description": "being angry about significant other buying a brand new motorcycle", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For being angry about significant other buying a brand new motorcycle?", "text": "A little background here. My S/O and I have just moved in together he moved from Florida to be with me in New England. \n\nMy S/O has not been paying his half of the 1300 dollar rent bill for 3 months stating he is unable to afford it. I\u2019m the primary lease holder so if I\u2019m late on rent or something I\u2019ll get screwed over. He texted me the other day that be bought a brand new motorcycle and is having it customized. \n\nHe left some paperwork on the table and I saw the final bill is 27k and monthly payments of 300+. When he got home that day from work I completely flipped out on him. \n\nHe called me some choice names because I raised the matter that I haven\u2019t been able to eat a proper meal in 3 months because of him not being able to rent. \n\nHe is on the lease as a roommate so it won\u2019t affect him like it would affect me if I\u2019m late on rent. \n\nAm I the asshole for raising hell about him buying a new bike and not paying rent while I\u2019m going without? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1000{"id": "1VxdlKRSw8chISd3xYCDzvESNWfXxbwX", "post_id": "avbc92", "action": {"description": "detailing the more graphic scenes in GTAV to persuade parents not to buy GTAV for kids under 16-18", "pronormative_score": 112, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for detailing the more graphic scenes in GTAV to persuade parents not to buy GTAV for kids under 16-18?", "text": "I've worked for Target for about a year now, and I just transferred to a new store. I work in electronics. Today, my co-worker was with me while I was helping a guest buy a videogame for her son. She said her son was 9 years old, and wanted GTAV. I explained the M rating on the game, and asked her if it was okay, and she asked for more information. I explained that the game has a graphic torture scene as well as a plethora of sexual themes and moments, intense swearing/language, as well as the online aspect of GTAV. After my explanation, the mother was concerned and decided NOT to buy her son GTA V, and instead bought a different game.\n\nAfter the sale, my co-worker asked me why I was \"videogame  cockblocking\" her son. He said it was kind of a dick move, but 'you do you' he said. He made a big deal about it in the break room with a few fellow coworkers, and they gave a pretty mixed response.\n\nI just don't know if I was the asshole for convincing that mother not to buy GTA V for her son, but to rather go with a different game.\n\nthe way I see it, if I went in to buy a game for my kids (which I don't have), and it was a game I knew literally NOTHING about, I'd want to be informed of the game's content to help me determine if my kids should or shouldn't be playing that game. I was doing what I'd want done for me.\n\nTL;DR- I convinced a naive mother *not* to buy GTAV for her 9 year old.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 108, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 112, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1001{"id": "eWD9rjEwVpbbLoDo6O7yBgwpD4u3OtJb", "post_id": "b14jai", "action": {"description": "forgetting to forward a mourning card to the precious owners of my house", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for forgetting to forward a mourning card to the precious owners of my house?", "text": "OK, first of all, thanks for reading. This happened two years ago and is still on my mind sometimes. Also, English is not my first language so my apologies if I mess up.\n\nSome background info: I'm a bit of a recluse. I work from home and love love love it. But, there are times that I don't have to leave the house for a few days. Not that I don't want to, I just don't have to. As I live in an apartment building and the mailboxes are all downstairs, I don't check my mail every day. I rarely get mail anyway, everything is digital these days. I only get spam and some local newspaper. And mail addressed to the previous owners.\n\nI bought this house a few years ago, in August, and moved in in November 2012. The previous owners were somewhere in their 80s and moved to an assisted living facility about a mile away. It's on the way to the cinema and my parents.\n\nAfter I moved in I received a considerable amount of mail for them. I would collect it and when I went to the movies about twice a month I would drop it off in their mailbox at the front desk.\n\nEvery once in a while I would receive a mourning card for them. I didn't open them, I don't even think I'm allowed to, but I would jump in my car and drop it off, because I wasn't sure when the card had arrived. This happened a few times in the first few years. Sometimes it was late and I would wait until the next morning to drop it off.\n\nSo two years ago. I had been living there for 4,5 years. I received two mourning cards within a few weeks. I dropped the first one off immediately. The second one... well crap. Something went wrong. I put it in my bag to drop it off but I wasn't feeling well and got distracted. I suck. I spent the weekend on the couch like a coughing corpse and totally forgot about it. It took me three days to drop it off. And I didn't even know when the card had arrived in the first place. Shit.\n\nI dropped it off in the morning and the next day I received a letter. From the former owners of this house. They were mad as hell, because they had missed the funeral. Apparently the funeral was on the morning that I had dropped off the card. Oh shit. They asked me why I hadn't given them a call so they could have picked up the card (I don't even have their number. Luckily they didn't have my number either otherwise they would have called me. Dodged a bullet there). They were upset and condescending and calling me irresponsible and selfish.\n\nI didn't do it on purpose and it had been over 4,5 years since I moved in, why in the name of fuck do I still get your mail? What if I was on vacation or in the hospital or god knows what? But I still feel guilty, although my friends and family tell me not to, especially after their shitty letter. There was some more correspondence after this in which they acted like five year olds, but it doesn't change the fact that I was late delivering the card.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1002{"id": "8X9WVkkI7keaQwZy9KQHZhowmPOqVOs3", "post_id": "ab8ybv", "action": {"description": "leaving a cart of groceries in an aisle and walking out of the store", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if I leave a cart of groceries in an aisle and walk out of the store?", "text": "So I feel like an asshole, but I also feel like I didn\u2019t have a choice. I have some anxiety and am a hypochondriac, not sure if that makes a difference in your judgement, but that\u2019s my reasoning. \n\nI was in a grocery store shopping with my infant son. A young girl walks by with her dad and she is puking everywhere. I took my son, left my cart and just walked out of the store. I just assumed it was a stomach bug (or something worse) and I didn\u2019t want myself or my son to get sick so in a split second decision I just grabbed him, turned around, and left. I only had a few items, but one of the items was bagels that I put in a bag that could not be returned to the bin.  \n\nI feel like I am an asshole for leaving my shit there, but I panicked, and maybe wasn\u2019t thinking rationally. I feel like I essentially stole the bagels because I didn\u2019t pay for them and they are un-sellable, and some store employee will have to return my 3 other items - probably after mopping up puke. I guess I\u2019m wondering if I was in any way justified, or just a straight up asshole.  It is 30 minutes later and I am sweating and feel nauseous.  Stupid brain...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1003{"id": "wvMvB3nXH8HkLwo8irjl762087dzsIgF", "post_id": "are78b", "action": {"description": "dropping my friend because I feel Im being used", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For dropping my friend because i feel im being used?", "text": "So her and i have been friends for about 2.5 years when she was single she always spent time with me and our friend group but anyway in these 2.5 years she has had 3 relationships and when she gets in them she would ignore us all day every day but when she would have a problem she would call us crying and vent about her problems for usualy no less then 3-6hrs then complain she was tired and sleep and then i asked her \"how about we just have like a 5 minute call a day? thats enough for me\" and then she said \"well i dont have that kind of time for you im always with my boyfriend and other friends\" and that was the final straw because we had conversations about this atleast 3 other times so i dropped her out of my life am i the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1004{"id": "dvsthRR2d8LMQWbxgjKbsZ3HlgCkoH1t", "post_id": "b0hs01", "action": {"description": "making my roommate pay to eat our food", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for making my roommate pay to eat our food?", "text": "I'll make this one short and sweet. I live with two of my close friends. Let's just call them 1 & 2. So 1 & I decided to order our groceries through an app that'll have them delivered to us & split the total. We asked 2 if he wanted to add anything to the cart and 2 said \"Nah I'll go to Walmart and get food I'm good.\" So 1 & I left it at that. 1 & I ran through the food and decided to place another order a few weeks later. Same thing happened. 1& I filled up the cart with essentials, and then asked 2 if he wanted to add anything and split the total with us. 2 said \"Bro nah that place your food shopping at sucks. I'm good\" then 2 got up and walked out lol. So I get home one day and see a little bit of smeared jelly, crumbs, and an opened loaf of bread on the counter. Turns out 2 made a PB&J sandwich with 1 & I's bread. So I text 2 letting him know I would never turn down food from someone, ever, but if 2's going to be eating anything 1 & I paid for than 2 has to pay part of the grocery bill. 2 was exclaiming \"it's only bread peanut butter and jelly why are you taking it so serious?\" & I was tryna explain to 2 that it's about the principal of boundaries. You don't shit on food in any way, especially two guys food shopping who are asking you if you want to split a bill and save money and say \"Nah that place sucks\" then turn around and eat food that came from that same establishment you said sucks a day ago. I had to tell him all this plus, please don't touch the food unless you've put money towards the bill or AT LEAST ASK one of us to make a sandwich. Now he just orders dominos every night while we cook and eat the craziest meals every day. I feel like an asshole cause he won't eat meals with us anymore but he did it to himself though.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1005{"id": "65vY6eF3Wtng9E36clMSo7iGibyZrdxI", "post_id": "ar4rie", "action": {"description": "excluding a girl from our lunch table", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for excluding a girl from our lunch table", "text": "I go to a vocational school and I\u2019m in a close-knit group with friends in all different classes. \u2018Katie\u2019 is in hospitality, they are trained to be servers/bartenders etc. I think it\u2019s valuable work even if it\u2019s not glamorous, but it has the reputation of being the class you sign up for when you can\u2019t get into anything else.\n\nFrom the moment I started here Katie glommed onto me. I\u2019ve tried to be nice but Katie is racist/homophobic. I have heard her use the n-word and call people fxg and dxke among others. Each time I hear it I correct her nicely but she always does it again. One of the guys at our lunch table is gay, too.\n\nShe lies all the time and talks about really inappropriate stuff; we\u2019ll be talking about music or something and she\u2019ll say her uncle went to jail for molesting her cousin (yes that happened and it was as awkward as it sounds).\n\nA few days ago at lunch one of our other friends was showing everyone the photo book her boyfriend made her, and while no one was looking, Katie drew mustaches/glasses/crazy hair on their faces in a couple photos and thought it was hilarious. If that isn\u2019t bad enough she refused to apologize and our other friend was so upset.\n\nAfter the picture incident I told her we needed to take a break while she figured out how to be a good friend. She laughed and said I sounded like an episode of Daniel Tiger (idk what that even means) and walked away, and then yesterday she tried to sit at our table at lunch. Everyone stopped talking and looked at me, so I said \u2018can we help you, Katie?\u2019 and she said \u2018no, why?\u2019 to which I replied \u2018I told you that we need to take a break, so you need to find someplace else to sit at lunch\u2019.\n\nShe went and TOLD THE VICE PRINCIPAL that we were excluding her because she\u2019s in hospitality. VP then told me I needed to be nice to Katie because she doesn\u2019t have many friends. I told VP everything I just wrote and she said \u2018I know she\u2019s socially awkward but you still have to be nice to her\u2019.\n\nToday she was sitting at a different table where no one was talking to her, and one of the guys at my table asked if we were maybe being a little harsh since none of us really talk to her outside school either. But then everyone mostly agreed it was nice to have a normal lunch for a change.\n\nSo.... AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 26, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1006{"id": "9t5Hri8EhZgwWdLGne0xqI20jj1TBq7Q", "post_id": "aehmba", "action": {"description": "wanting my husband to show me his bank account transactions because I think he was lying and losing my temper when he wouldn't", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting my husband to show me his bank account transactions because I think he was lying and losing my temper when he wouldn't?", "text": "So this is not my usual account, as I don't want people to know that my marriage is on the rocks.  I'd like to start by giving you a rundown of our history so far, so you can get a general idea of what each of us are dealing with. This will be long. TL;DR at bottom.\n\nMy husband and I have been married just over 5 years. What I didn't know when we got married was that my husband had a gambling issue. He hid it very well when we were dating and for a good few months after we got married, but then as we started living together there were aspects that didn't add up. Less than a year into the marriage he admitted that he had a gambling issue.\n\nMy husband is paid weekly, and his pay is fairly high compared to my own. He earns about 75k per year, whereas I earn about 60k now. To compound on the pay gap, I was a student when we first met (husband is a lot older), and worked restaurant jobs during the first two years of marriage. Then I moved onto an admin job, and now I am working in my field of choice. It is entirely fair to say that my husband has consistently earned more than me. I estimate that if I had brought in about 110k over the last 5 years, my husband had earned around 200k or a little more.\n\nMy issue is that my husband had never, not once, missed a week of gambling. Each payday he is in a pub or at the casino, gambling. The smallest amount from memory is about $200.00 per week. When he is feeling especially addicted, he will literally blow his entire week's wage on pokie machines, and then ask me for part of my wages too. This has happened more times than I can count. \n\nDuring our marriage, I have managed to compile approximately $30k in personal loan debts and $42k for a car loan. He has asked money from every member of his family, to the point they will no longer lend him money. He gambles every tax return away. He has gambled about $8k of personal loan debts. We have since sold the car, so I have about 30k in debts owing in my name.\n\nI interpret this to mean that my husband is not bringing in enough money into the relationship, regardless of how much he is earning, as he is spending a significant chunk on gambling. \n\nMeanwhile, I generally try to scrimp. I cut my hair once a year, I never do my nails, I don't buy clothes unless I absolutely need it. I feel that even if I have earned less, I have brought into the relationship as much, or arguably even more, than my husband. \n\nMy husband does not agree. He is adamant that he could not have spent as much as I say he has. We fight over money every payday. I was patient and kind the first year or so, until my personality started getting ugly, and frankly abusive, towards my husband. In my defense, I genuinely have never shouted at another person in my life. My husband is the only person I lose my temper with. We are now at the point where I will be screaming all sorts of abuses at him at the top of my lungs. I feel like if I don't, I will die or implode from stress.\n\nI am now at a point where I inform him on almost a weekly basis that I will be leaving him. He is now immune to my threats, understandably, but it's like an addiction I cannot stop. My husband now informs me that I am not 'loyal' for saying such things. That we should be sticking it out through thick and thin, and he is hurt that I would say such things.\n\nLast week we agreed that each of us would bring in an equal amount into the relationship, and the rest of our money we would spend as we please, whether we are gambling or doing our hair. He was good last week. However, this week, he claims not to have received his wage, that their system had been down, and he would give me the money when he received it. He was supposed to have been paid on Wednesday. It is now Thursday night, and he says he will receive it tomorrow. He asked to lend me $50, he just wanted a drink at the pub, he will pay me back tomorrow along with our fixed amount. I agreed. An hour later he called me and asked me to lend him another 100. He will pay me back tomorrow, he says. Through 5 years of his working at this company, his pay has been delayed once. I therefore informed him that I find this hard to believe, and if he showed me his bank account and confirmed that he had not received his wage, I will give him the 100. He flat out refuses and asks me why I cannot wait until tomorrow, if I just wait, I will know. I once again blew my top and screamed at him. \n\nI now know that because I screamed at him, he will be upset, and feel justified in spending everything he has and blame me because I could not wait one day.\n\nAITA for 1. asking my husband to show me his bank account in the first place and 2. losing my temper when he didn't?\n\n(I think people will want to know this - why do I keep giving him money? He will not stop asking until I give it to him. If I lock myself in a room at midnight so I can sleep for work the next day, he will bang on the door until I open it and give him money. He has hacked into my bank account a few times to take my money without my consent.)\n\nTL;DR: husband has been gambling significant amounts of money since early on in our 5 year marriage. I became suspicious that he was lying to me today and asked him to show me his bank account as proof, and screamed at him when he wouldn't.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1007{"id": "E12nByvmKoMcnLLaOdSpJ27a9Ev6S3xh", "post_id": "anoblh", "action": {"description": "telling my sister to stop holidaying with us", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA For telling my sister to stop holidaying with us?", "text": "Hi Reddit,\n\nMy Partner and I have found a beautiful spot to go on our holidays, opposite the beach, not very expensive, calm waters, good water temp, great walks, etc... but then my sister came along and started holidaying with us. normally this is fine, like a whatever we don't really care situation. She is a bit self centered and is a massive FOMO (Fear of missing out) most of the time she will try to do everything with you or try to get everyone to do the same thing. I have one kid and he tends to get a bit annoyed about this because he likes to be polite but he also likes to do his own thing so he doesn't really enjoy when my sister tries to do everything we do. My sister also has two kids, which means whenever her kids want to do something my sister tries to get everyone to do the same thing. My son recently confessed to me that his starting to reach his breaking point, and wants to have to have the next 1-2 years of our holidays to ourselves and his and our friends.  \n\nThis has been going on for about 3-2 years and is starting to seep into other holidays we do as well. She also tends to stay for almost the entire time where down there so that just adds fuel to the fire. We really just want to  holiday without her for a year or two. This whole situation also stops us from inviting my son's and our friends, due to lack of space and everything we mentioned. It's really hard for us to say stop, since she is family but this hole situation is getting really hard and annoying. So will we be the assholes for telling her to stop.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1008{"id": "N55cV4DMfeZC0KfP9y8OO9Zrf6KucKoW", "post_id": "ammcj9", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Hobby Addict", "text": "I am married to a middle aged man who does nude photography as a \"hobby\". You've guessed it, it is mostly young women. He has done this before I knew him. It really wasn't a problem for me until last year. \n\nMind you, he just posts these pictures on social media. There is no profit involved. He works full time and makes good money. We spend thousands a year on this hobby (he has several other expensive and time consuming hobbies as well). \n\nHe was always very professional with these women and I didn't mind it. Last year, I was at a shoot (clothed), he started making comments about how sexy one of the women is (she is 20 he is mid 50's). That pissed me off. He had never made comments like that in front of me before.\n\nI told him about it and he flipped out. I asked him to not shoot with her for awhile and he said I was trying to control him. He continued to shoot with this woman who never did nude work but now does for him. We fought a whole lot about it last year. \n\nHe is starting his new season next month and told me he has 6 shoots with her and her friends over the course of the year. I protested.  \n\nLater I peeked (never did this before) at his messenger and he was complaining about me to one of her friends. I am mortified.  I feel betrayed.  He was telling her that I hate the other woman etc. I don't hate the woman.  I have a problem with his actions. \n\nHe spends hours and hours of his spare time working on pictures of these women. I go to bed alone almost every night.. See the problem?\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1009{"id": "7B4qgO7MxBLf5FZguCGERNBNZL3q0lSX", "post_id": "b4b1d7", "action": {"description": "stealing someone's neglected cat", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for stealing someone\u2019s neglected cat.", "text": "So I\u2019ll try to make a long story short. I\u2019m bullshitting with a friend at a house that he is watching when a cat comes walking out of the yard next-door. This cat looks jacked up. He has three legs, clumps of matted hair all over him and gooey stuff coming out of his eyes. I say \u201cmeow\u201d to him then he is all over me. Loving up on me. Rubbing on my legs. He even let me pick him up. Then that neighbor comes out and says to me \u201cI know he looks rough but I don\u2019t want you to think he\u2019s neglected. He\u2019s been missing his leg since he was a kitten.\u201d And I said \u201cwell he needs a good shaving to get rid of these clumps of matted hair\u201d then she laughs and says \u201cwell he is a really mean cat and there\u2019s no way to get him shaved. I can\u2019t even let him inside the house because he will attack my kids and dogs. Plus he\u2019s old and doesn\u2019t have much time left\u201d Meanwhile this cat is still loving up on me and being a sweetheart. Then she leaves. So then I steal the cat. I take him to the vet where I get the clumps of hair shaved off him, get him some medication for his eyes and ears, and get flee medication. He\u2019s now at my house and seems a lot happier and healthier. He\u2019s still an outside cat but he comes in and chills on the couch with me and my dogs. So tell me AITA? Did is steal this cat or did I rescue him? Should I drop him back off at that house? I feel like if I take him back that they will just neglect him some more. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1010{"id": "ATBurrxdpMRJQaaA79DIk3II2V5sajWU", "post_id": "abjpbu", "action": {"description": "not wanting to poop in front of my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to poop in front of my boyfriend", "text": "A little bit of backstory before we get into it, my boyfriend and have been together for a year and a half. We moved in together in November. \n\nSo here is what happened; I woke up at nine so I could get ready for work, and I am a morning pooper. I always have to poop as soon as I wake up in the morning. So get up and walk into our one and only bathroom and he\u2019s already in there running a bath. Of course since I just woke up I needed to poop, I see he is still clothed and I asked him to leave the bathroom while I poop and he flat out declines. \nAt this point we have lived together long enough for him to know that not only am I a morning pooper, I poop fast. I\u2019m talking start to finish, including washing my hands, no longer then 3 minutes and that\u2019s if it\u2019s taking me a while. \nI tell him he knows it\u2019s only going to take me maybe two minutes and I\u2019ll be done. He still refuses and tells me I can either poop in front of him while he\u2019s taking a bath or I can hold it until he\u2019s done. He said I needed to get used to pooping around him since we live together now even if I\u2019m uncomfortable with it. \nI cannot poop in front of people, let alone my boyfriend, so I get obviously upset and passive aggressive and held it until he was done with his 40 MINUTE bath. \nI\u2019ve been wondering since; am I the asshole for getting pissed off he wouldn\u2019t let me poop, even though he was already using the bathroom? Or is he the asshole for not giving me three minutes to poop? \nObviously he didn\u2019t care if he smelled it either way. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1011{"id": "9ter9ZSRvgyfrdFpGLhYs4nxAZFB7Rws", "post_id": "a9wfpd", "action": {"description": "not making my boyfriend my snapchat best friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not making my boyfriend my Snapchat best friend", "text": "I have a (female) best friend and shes currently my snap best friend. She has been for a month now, and my boyfriend became jealous. He says he would like to be my #1 because it shows that I send him the most pics. He says that I am picking someone over him and that it makes him very sad and depressed that he isn\u2019t #1. I don\u2019t want him to base our relationship over an app, and I don\u2019t think it\u2019s that important for him to be the number one receiver of snaps that I send. He is constantly asking and says I don\u2019t care about his feeling because I won\u2019t snap him the most. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1012{"id": "7qEpqe9khv1jQWxxoKrEVCMkHmDhVV1o", "post_id": "afptvy", "action": {"description": "not wanting to meet my girlfriend's family and go out to dinner with them", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to meet my girlfriend's family and go out to dinner with them?", "text": "So me and my girlfriend have been dating for not even a month and she is constantly pestering me to meet her parents and I am just not ready and now after not wanting to meet her parents she gets mad at me for not wanting to go out for dinner with them that she told me at the last minute. I feel like she shouldn't force me into trying to meet her parents, I should meet them when I feel comfortable to do so. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1013{"id": "Bq3U2BJWYsBrcZe3xPD3d5EQ0Ke4hres", "post_id": "a5e5ma", "action": {"description": "stealing dog from neighbour because they didn't take good care of it", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA I stole dog from neighbour because they didn't take good care of it", "text": "I had given my dog to a neighbour 2 years ago because I was moving out and they didn't allow dogs where I was moving to. I hated to see him go. Well one year later I moved back close to my old neighborhood. Someone I know lives next to him and told me they never take the dog out and he's always just kept chained in the small backyard. I decided to steal the dog back one night. He recognized me and everything. He was so happy to see me. I took him to my new place. He was covered in fleas. The reason I never even asked for the dog back was because I knew the answer would be no. The reason they took him in the first place was because of their 6 year old. Also they didn't allow the dog inside the house at all which is weird since Chihuahuas are indoor pets.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1014{"id": "mI1iJDhmiZnPss0zMj9kN6ud1n83YXVT", "post_id": "b45ief", "action": {"description": "hedging my bets with girls", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for hedging my bets with girls?", "text": "I'm 16M, the other guy in question, let's call him Sean, is also 16m.\n\nSo when it comes to dating and girls, what I do is basically hedge my bets: until I'm actually dating a girl, we're not exclusive. So until we actually start dating, flirting with other girls is fair game. And I like to to be talking to multiple girls at a time, so if one potential relationship falls through I have other options. \n\nCurrently I'm talking/texting with 4 different girls, let's call them Emma, Ava, Julie, and Sophie. And to be clear, I never told any of them I was their boyfriend/we were exclusive. Basically, I'm trying to hang out with all 4, see who I like most, and proceed from there. \n\nAnd Sean, a guy I know, although we're not super good friends, seems very pissed at me for this. Whenever we're in conversation, he always makes statements here and there about me 'being a fuckboy' or 'hanging out with a bunch of girls'. I don't know if a) he just has a problem with me in general and is using this one issue to make it clear b) he actually has a problem with me talking to multiple girls c) he's just jealous or d) he likes one of the girls I'm talking to.\n\nEither way, I didn't think I was doing anything wrong, until yesterday, Sean sits at the same table as me during lunch. He was doing his usual passive-aggressive roasting, and usually I just ignore it, but I was pretty annoyed, so I just looked at him and asked if he had a problem. He then proceeded to call me out for 'being a fuckboy'. \n\nI think he was out of line here. Aita?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1015{"id": "XB1qv2m4SHu2265pAxH5wZVTOUXwWBIf", "post_id": "arfsr9", "action": {"description": "being mad my so ate my valentine's present", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being mad my SO ate my valentine\u2019s present?", "text": "Throwaway account because he knows my account name. \n\nAnyway, we weren\u2019t doing anything big for Valentine\u2019s Day. I bought him a box of chocolates and handmade him a paper lantern with scenes from one of his favorite movies.  He bought me a personal size cake made to look like a rose. \n\nWhen he opened his chocolates, he offered me some and I ate one piece. When I walked past him an hour later, all of the chocolates were gone. Like 30 chocolates. He has a serious sweet tooth and will literally eat an entire package of sweets in an hour or so if he doesn\u2019t stop himself. Anyway, I ate a little bit of the cake and put the rest away to be eaten later. I like to savor things. \n\nThe next day, I went to make some breakfast and the rest of my cake was gone completely. He even licked the frickin frosting off the container. I wouldn\u2019t have minded if he\u2019d just had a piece but he ate ALL of it. And, this kind of thing happens a lot and he gives me a hard time for \u201chiding\u201d junk food from him. I don\u2019t hide it, I just try to keep him from eating all of it or I will get none. He thinks I should eat all of my portion right away to make sure I get it. I\u2019m sorry, but a huge package of cookies should last a few days - not be gone in an hour and only eaten by one person. \n\nIt\u2019s unhealthy, rude, and disgusting imo. He shows no remorse for doing it and laughs about it like a little kid. He doesn\u2019t think he\u2019s wrong or that there\u2019s nothing wrong with what he\u2019s doing. \n\nAnd, no, he\u2019s not a stoner. He just eats constantly and he\u2019s gained quite a bit in the 3 years we\u2019ve been together. I know this is stupid and trivial but he\u2019s seriously ruining his health. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 26, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1016{"id": "l30yP1e1DHxZbCQhuVJ11hRV0nzaVG92", "post_id": "arwvcn", "action": {"description": "cutting my dad's family out of my life", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting my dad\u2019s family out of my life?", "text": "This is going to be a long one.\n\nA bit of background, my mother abandoned my family when I was a kid so I don\u2019t have any contact with her side of the family anymore. This left me with abandonment issues, especially as her parents had always shown blatant favouritism towards my sister and she had been planning to take my sister with her when she left.\n\nAfter my mother left my dad reached out to his sister (aunt), her husband (uncle) and their kids (cousin 1 and 2), and we started to see them more regularly. We hadn\u2019t spent much time with them before, which aunt told my dad was because they never liked my mother.\n\nWe never had much in common and it always felt a bit forced spending time with them now. Uncle is very controlling and always made me feel a bit uncomfortable. I refused to hug him once and he followed my around trying to force me to, and told me I was being disrespectful. He\u2019s also intimidated me before when my dad wasn\u2019t around, telling me I won\u2019t get on in life if I\u2019m not more likeable.\n\nCousins have got worse over the years, and last time they visited us they wanted to spend the whole time with my sister, and tried to leave me and my boyfriend on a shopping trip when we driven them into town, so they could just hang out with my sister. They even tricked her into going on a walk with them without me. After they left my sister told me that they had been badmouthing me and my dad, saying that I would be a bad mother and that I was too affectionate with my boyfriend.\n\nAunt doesn\u2019t say much and likes to pretend her family is perfect, but is really judgemental of us.\n\nA few weeks ago my aunt called my dad (they talk every week) and during the conversation mentioned that he should come and visit sometime, and that my sister (who\u2019s just finished university) would be welcome to move in with them and look for a job there. She didn\u2019t mention me once.\n\nAfter my dad told me that I got really upset and ended up unfriending them all on facebook. I haven\u2019t spoken to any of them since. I feel like I\u2019m being really petty and they haven\u2019t actually done anything wrong, but they\u2019ve still really hurt me with their actions. I also don\u2019t want to cause any issues with them for my dad, and I just know that they\u2019re going to use my behaviour against him.\n\nSo reddit, should I keep ignoring them and cut them out of my life completely or am I being an asshole and should just suck it up for the sake of my family?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1017{"id": "krJCCaU9ZNxwjtzVWL2co2gukjTGcPGM", "post_id": "aaoi8l", "action": null, "title": "AITA for your Omission of truth.", "text": "Long time lurker, first time poster. Sorry about formatting, on mobile. \nI wanted to get something off my chest. I get straight to the skinny of it. I pay the bills my spouse does not and has never been involved in it. That being said i saw a reoccurring number on the statement being that it was right around my number i was genuinely curious. Cause it's as if my calls were being cut short to call this number. I jot it in my phone and do a deep dive search. Its a bunch of text and calls spanning back various months. I don't know this number. Its not in my phone.. fine i dont have to have all the numbers my spouse has. My problem is when i look for this number on the other spouse's phone it has no history just a name.  I confront and get that this a friend of the opposition sex and i wasn't told because of how I'd react.  I'm not a jealous person nor have i ever exhibited such behaviors. This number and my spouse always talk when Im not around. I was told by my spouse that this is an old friend, that is just for talking like for mental health and such. Aita for omission of truth on their behalf. Am i aita for reacting. I can clarify anything in the comments", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1018{"id": "e0as8emVDMiJQx5PbUQyyZjl4QZ4EYnM", "post_id": "b6sbu7", "action": {"description": "telling my friend the guy she's messaging sparks a red flag", "pronormative_score": 23, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend the guy she\u2019s messaging sparks a red flag?", "text": "So my friend (15F) has been messaging an older guy (20M) that she knows from her youth group. \n\n\nI did not know how old this guy was until recently when she sent me screenshots of her messages with him on Instagram and he blatantly asked her out because he \u201cliked her for awhile\u201d and \u201cthinks she\u2019s pretty.\u201d She said she only ever thought of him as a friend but could see a possibility of being with him if he were closer to her age. He said that maybe she\u2019d be lucky enough to get a kiss from him. I found it quite disturbing and since the age gap was mentioned in the messages, I asked her exactly how much older he was compared to her. \n\nLooking out for her, I told her that it seems a little immature of him to hit on someone five years younger than him and that it sparks a red flag, especially since they\u2019re both at completely different stages in life. She told me to not ruin this high for her and that he\u2019s \u201cpretty\u201d and that I should stay out of her business. \n\nI don\u2019t want anything bad to happen to her cause I care for her as a friend and I\u2019d feel awful if I didn\u2019t take this seriously. \n\nAITA in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 23, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1019{"id": "OXAkvk1UBSICmaXD2J5R1iZVU3g4D8X8", "post_id": "b2r9p0", "action": {"description": "not really caring about my brother", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not really caring about my brother?", "text": "So our mom died when I was 8, my brother was 12. I went and lived with my dad and step-mom who are Pentecostal and super great parents. My brother went with our grandma. By the age of 15 he was smoking weed, at 18 that turned into meth. He got caught up with a possession charge, then a child endangerment charge because his friends kid was in the house while they were cooking it and now at the age of 26 he\u2019s been in and out of jail probably a total of at least 1.5-2 years. While he was out I have tried to get him to places to help with his addiction and he has went to rehab and came out \u201ca better man\u201d only to fall right back in the same rut. I\u2019ve prayed for him. I\u2019ve put his ass in the dirt and screamed at him. I\u2019ve cried with him. I\u2019ve tried to just spend quality time with him and keep him accountable and nothing works. You can\u2019t change someone who doesn\u2019t want to change. Long story short he is back in jail I just heard and I frankly don\u2019t give a shit. I still hope that he turns his life around but I could care less about what happens. He\u2019s a fu**ing adult with 2 kids and can\u2019t get his life together. No longer my problem is how I see it. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1020{"id": "cDFrJuNSsPp3TcDDc3yWm6uBvI7Ejli2", "post_id": "b1a6um", "action": {"description": "refusing to see my aging grandma, even though she's never done anything horrible to me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to see my aging grandma, even though she\u2019s never done anything horrible to me?", "text": "My grandma has never been anything but kind to me. Her first instinct whenever she sees me is to feed me or give me gift money. Her face lights up and she can\u2019t stop smiling and holding my hand whenever I\u2019m around.\n\nHowever, I know that I\u2019m the favorite and she treats the rest of her grandchildren less favorably. I\u2019m the oldest daughter of her oldest son, so I get the best treatment (it would have been even more extreme if I was born male). My sister sort of counts since she\u2019s also from my dad. My older male cousins don\u2019t count since they\u2019re from my aunt and my younger female cousin doesn\u2019t count because my uncle adopted her. She\u2019s never come out and say it, but everybody can tell because she never gives the same attention to my sister and cousins. At one point she was even increasing the gift money (I\u2019d get $20 while my sister would get $10, my cousin would get even less, etc).\n\nIn addition, she\u2019s horribly verbally abusive to my dad, mom, aunts, and uncles. My grandpa died when my dad was very young and left my grandma with young children in a foreign country with no education or English-speaking skills. She used verbal and physical abuse to corral my dad and his siblings into order, and she\u2019d manipulate them against each other. She constantly unfavorably compared the siblings to my dad, and would punish my dad for their infractions. They still resent my dad for how my grandma treated them, while my dad still gets the brunt of her anger.\n\nShe\u2019s very old at this point (100+) and really should have assisted living, but refuses a caretaker or retirement home. My parents took her in at one point, but she cried to my aunts and uncles about how my parents were abusing her, and there was a huge family fight. She\u2019s never apologized about it. The last time I saw her at a family event, she was ranting about my dad so horribly that my uncle and I literally wheeled her out to the car mid-tirade. \n\nI\u2019m extremely close to my parents and sister and hate the way she treats them. I mentioned to someone that I never want to see her again. They were shocked that someone who is so close to her family wouldn\u2019t feel the same way about her grandma. They also thought I was being a little harsh when my grandma\u2019s never been anything but nice to me, and said I should give her the comfort of her favorite grandchild before she dies. AITA for not wanting or caring to see her ever again?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1021{"id": "31kmjZPcK6GCZNC1GojekQGpISQ9s2N1", "post_id": "as3c6d", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA if my boyfriend looks at porn during foreplay? (Posted for my sister.)", "text": "My sister was making out/fooling around with her bf and he kinda pulled the blankets over her head, but then she heard his popsocket open. She came out from under the blankets and he had his phone out. She wanted to know what he was looking at, he wouldn't tell her (at first) and the mood was killed. She rolled over to go to bed. He asked what was wrong and she asked again and he was looking at. He's cheated on an ex before, (kind of on a technicality, but that's another story.) So she was worried it was something to do with an ex. He finally shows her and it's girl on girl porn. \n\nIt's one thing to check your phone in that situation but to look at porn is another. My sister is young and can't figure out if this is something to be upset about or not. (I think she's upset but she's kind of naive and wants to see the best in people.)\n\nWIBTA if my sister was upset? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1022{"id": "U8SIx41TnD9V8XdgZkwk5WVlANwY7SNg", "post_id": "ahfr87", "action": {"description": "not wanting to see my best friend because she's depressed", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to see my best friend because she's depressed?", "text": "My friend has not been diagnosed with depression ... She might just have the kind of Debbie Downer personality that's a bit overboard at the moment. \n\nWe meet 3 years ago at work. She would often complian about everything.. Work, the country we live in, other people etc. \n\nThen, her best friend left our work place, and after a few weeks of her trying to catch up with her, the friend sends her a text saying that she didn't want to have anything to do with the old work place because she had had such bad experiences there, and just cuts ties with her. She was devastated.\n\nWe become closer..best friends, tell everything to each other kind of thing. \n\n2 years ago she started having doubts about her relationship and complaints that she does everything her boyfriend wants and never gets what she wants. Every time we go out, day or night , he calls , insisting for her to come home.. \n\n1 year and 1/2 ago she meets this guy at work and ends up having a crush.. they see each other twice for coffee.. but nothing happens from there on. Then 1 year ago she meets another guy.. this was worse.. for the first couple of months they declare love for each other... But she ends up saying she will never leave her boyfriend, so ended it with the guy.. she never physical cheated because they live in different countries..but emotional cheating in my POV.\n\n it gets complicated. This guy is super depressed, is in therapy, had has a history of attempting suicide in the past. He's also the type that uses that to guilt people in to things. He's super in love with her, and she just wants to be friends, says they have an amazing connecting, and he's family.. so they still talk everyday.. she hides a lot of the communication from her boyfriend, because she knows it's too much to be acceptable. But since he's so depressed she seems even more  Depressed from being connected to him and enabling this friendship. \n\nI can't help but judge... I've told her she shouldn't keep contact with him after their involvement and because he's still In love and won't be able to get over her if they still have contact. I've only said something over hours and hours of her complaining that he cries a lot because they're not together. \n\nHer boyfriend might not be great.. but I don't think he deserves this.. even if they re just friends now. \n \nWe used to have lunch everyday.. but I've avoided seeing her as much.. I schedule meetings at lunch time. When I do have lunch with her I'm always thinking \"this time will be better, this time she will be in a good mood\".. and then regret it later.\n\nShe used to have other friends, but I'm her only friend now. We used to go to breakfast Saturday morning when I was single. She's told  me she used to be happier because we would go for breakfast and have some laughs, and that now she has nothing in her life to cheer her up. She kind of made my feel guilty for her misery.. which I feel was unfair, and it's too much responsibility to be her only friend.\n\nI can't keep scheduling meetings and giving excuses... I don't like lying.. not even white lies.. but I also can't tell her I can't deal with her, I think it would devastate her.\n\nSo I've blew her off several times by saying I want to have lunch alone, because I need some time - this is true and has happened in the past, she knows I'm introverted and need less social time and has always respected that... But I think with time she will start to feel suspicious because I'm consecutively doing it... She's already asked me if anything is wrong and said I no. Not seeing her everyday has made me so much happier... But as a friend shouldn't I be there for her? Instead of just cutting her out because she's been having a bad time? AITA?\n\n \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1023{"id": "54eoCx1NIOo4ZrLQogEH5R8xENu7NVxl", "post_id": "ap5isa", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be a persons friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to be a persons friend?", "text": "A couple years back, i was walking home from work when i ran into a homeless kid about my age. It was clear from the jump that he was a drug addict. He offered to sell me his headphones for some money, but eventually the conversation roped me into asking him for details about his situation. He stated he was currently in rehab, and was going thru a difficult time. Towards the end he stated that for this specific step of the rehab program he was on, he needed to make friends  because he needed a positive influence in his life. He asked if he could have my number, but i declined. He was visibly disappointed, and hurt. But tbh i said no out of the fact that i had no idea who this person was, and of i gave them my number, i had a fear that maybe he would resort to relying on me for money. I couldn't take that risk, but i can't help but feel like morally i made the wrong choice in that decision. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1024{"id": "fCw7dBVNgQibSpfil4QtF1WRXK2IJ7Rt", "post_id": "aw9t4z", "action": {"description": "hooking up with someone I didn't know being in a relationship and I don't say anything to the GF", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if I hooked up with someone I didn\u2019t know was in a relationship and I don\u2019t say anything to the GF?", "text": "(Throwaway account since friends know my Reddit username, names changed.) I was taking a trip to Canada this weekend with my school, which had my best friend Helen, her best friend Kate, and this guy named Jake. Just to preface, I\u2019m a single gay guy. One night, Jake asked to sleep in my room because his roommate was really sick and they slept in one bed, so I agreed.  So he came into the room and we slept opposite sides of the bed. But he then initiated touch and soon enough, we hooked up (like making out and cuddling, not anything further). \n\nLater that week, Helen told me that he and Kate have been dating for about half a year, which I didn\u2019t know about at all. I also thought he was straight until we hooked up and now I don\u2019t know what to think. I later saw them cuddling while watching a movie during the trip. I talked to Jake afterward and we said that everything was cool, never to talk about again. But now thinking about it, I\u2019m unsure. Am I the asshole if I don\u2019t say anything about him cheating to Kate?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1025{"id": "q4WzYjZUCi7kTTDpTLS2NNP0qzHOUzTG", "post_id": "b2fzi5", "action": null, "title": "AITA in this situation if I took my landlord to the tenet bored for a year (12 months) of rent abatement?", "text": "AITA: Last May my bedroom ceiling flooded right onto my mattress. Inches on the floor, completely soaked my mattress, water stains on my feather duvet and ruined a bunch of things I had stored under my bed. This happened about 2-3 times a week until mid-september (when the tenant above me moved out) and then would happen about twice a month until December (new tenants moved in).\n\nEach time it happened I'd call my landlord who would 'promise' to fix it. I honestly thought he was working as hard as he could to solve this problem. He would go into great detail about all the work he was doing to fix it. One week it was the tenant's sink above me, the next week it was his toilet, for a whole month it was raccoons eating away on the roof. In December I finally went up to the tenet above me and found out it was the shower. Instead of paying for me to stay in a hotel he had me and the new tenants above wait 2 weeks to fix the pipes. This means they had to go somewhere else to shower during that time.\n\nAnyway, I went home and he fixed the ceiling. This stopped the flooding and I was happy...until the next morning. I was woken up at 7am to insane amounts of noise. We're talking vibrations moving down my wall in my bedroom amounts of noise. I could hear everything they did and said: conversations, footsteps, doing their dishes, closing cupboards, shower running through the ceiling.\n\nAnyway, I'm guessing you can guess what happened. When he fixed the ceiling he put absolutely no soundproofing between their floor and my ceiling. It's their hardwood floor, a few feet of dead space and a 10x10 piece of drywall he nailed directly into the wood ceiling frames. Basically, he created a drum that amplifies everything they do throughout my apartment and causes the dishes in my kitchen cupboard to rattle when they walk in the right place.\n\nCue 2 months of my emailing the landlord and him promising to fix the ceiling. We'd set dates and nothing would happen. It took about 2 months for me to stop being an idiot and realize that he had no intention of ever fixing the ceiling so I gave my notice. During this time I've documented EVERYTHING.\n\nFinally, this weekend he nailed acoustic tiles to the ceiling after I told him that they had been keeping me up. When he fixed it, I came home to plaster dust completely covering my bed, duvet cover, floor, pillows. HE had been walking on my mattress while he did it because my duvet was messed up and there was plaster under it on the sheets. He had pushed my bed out of the way and destroyed my hamper and boxes that I use for shipping things I had kept at the end of my bed. I had to spend an hour dusting, sweeping and throwing out the insane mess he made. I was so upset and angry.\n\nSo, redditors, do you think I'd be the asshole? I'm absolutely seething in anger so I can't judge if this is irrational or not", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1026{"id": "uzhyaC9KzvclsMICj4aIJPPDEY4Six9Y", "post_id": "9y4mu7", "action": {"description": "ignoring a customer", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for ignoring a customer?", "text": "I work as maintenance for a theater. I have the training to work anywhere there, however I fix all of the stuff that goes wrong. I was fixing a butter warmer in the middle of the concession stand because the butter warmer was not heating the butter. My coworkers where off talking to each other and a man came up to me and said excuse me. I didnt pay attention to it because I was halfway underneath the counter. He yelled \"Excuse me!\" That got my attention. I pulled myself out looked at him and went to the next employee and said \"HEY! You want to help this gentleman!\" And climbed back under.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1027{"id": "gfOokvXaK5YuHP6voXuoQAYTYOYNya0n", "post_id": "avxq1n", "action": {"description": "questioning whether or not I should stay with my girlfriend due to her secretly not taking her birth control", "pronormative_score": 42, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for questioning whether or not I should stay with my girlfriend due to her secretly not taking her birth control?", "text": "She told me about 5 days ago. She's about 1 month pregnant now and yes, I will be an active father in the child's life just like I am with my current 9-year-old daughter. So that's not the issue here. What is the issue is me telling her that I don't know if I can stay with her or not.  \n\n\nWe had unprotected sex and she had not taken her birth control in about 2 weeks. She never told me this. In fact, according to her, she purposely just tell me. Since we've been together she has been on birth control and I've seen her take it on a usual basis in the morning. So I tended never to question her about it. We had talked about her wanting a child and I said I didn't want one until after marriage. She seemed to at least understand why I wanted that and then added, \"well I definitely don't want one until after college.\"  \n\n\nFast forward to present day, everything has seemed to erupt. She's mad at me now. She said that I took my own risks by not using protection and she's right, I knew that and understand that well. I told her that I understood that. It's just that I can't help but feel like I've basically been lied to. She knows that I know that she's been taking birth control. She would always tell me when she was about to run out or when she had to go get more. Not this time though. It had been about 2 weeks since we had sex and then we had it about two weeks after she had stopped with the birth control. She *chose* that. Chose not to tell me.\n\n​\n\nNow I really feel like I'll never come back from an action of that magnitude. How do I trust her now? She told me she's sorry but at the same time, she's happy about it even though she understands that I was not ready. She thinks I'm abandoning her even though I've voiced that I will absolutely be a father to the child. It's honestly alarming to me that she takes the whole situation lightly. Like her feelings out weigh mine. Now I'm pretty hurt about the whole situation.  \n\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 42, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 42, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1028{"id": "uoGBfIEMngm1hduSvodJJuMafL6qjQvm", "post_id": "ask0si", "action": {"description": "wanting my fiance to return the ring", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting my fiance to return the ring", "text": "Fiance (M26) and I (F27) have been together for 3 years. He is the love of my life and I am so excited to spend the rest of my life with him. We started discussing marriage and made a mutual decision that it was what we both wanted. He asked me about the ring, and I told him I would prefer not to have an engagement ring and would rather we both pick out inexpensive bands together that we both put on at the wedding. He agreed with this and also said he doesn't need an expensive band for himself. I also told him that I don't need a proposal, but he told me he really wanted to surprise me with one and that he had been looking forward to it for a long time. I told him that I'm excited to see what he comes up with and that I'm looking forward to saying yes\n\nMy reasons for not wanting an engagement ring are 1. I don't like the sexist nature of the tradition that the woman wears an engagement ring, but not the man and 2. I would feel really nervous wearing something that expensive on my hand all the time. I would much rather have a simple symbol of our bond that we both share equally and put on together at our wedding.\n\nFast forward to the end of January. Fiance and I both take some time off work for a nice vacation in the mountains. On a hike he gets down on one knee and proposes. It was really magical and he did a great job. The only problem is the proposal also included a really nice looking ring. Of course I put it on in the moment and said I love it but I was really miffed my fiance didn't respect my request.\n\nWe talked about it later and I found out that he spent over 1000 dollars on it. I feel terrible that he dropped so much money on this and I'm constantly worried about losing it. I have not been wearing it and kept it in a box in the drawer so that it doesn't get lost and he seemed really hurt by this. I told him that I never even wanted a ring in the first place and he thought I was just saying that because I didn't want him to be out so much money. I also told him my reason about thinking the tradition is sexist and he said he wasn't trying to be sexist and thought it would be meaningful to me.\n\nI want to tell him to take it back but I don't want to hurt him even more. On the other hand I really don't want to wear it on my finger for the rest of my life, knowing it's so expensive and that he is not doing the same thing and gets to wear just the band like I wanted to. It would make me feel like we are not equal partners.\n\nTLDR: I said I didn't want a ring and fiance got me one anyway. Now I want to ask him to sell it/take it back. Would I be the asshole if I did that", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1029{"id": "AY9Ax5mUVx7mqN1jNcKE9rH8ZPRoqgFv", "post_id": "aransz", "action": {"description": "hanging out with female friend soon after breakup", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: Hanging out with female friend soon after breakup", "text": "Recently broken up with a long term girlfriend, ended things on fairly good terms. \nA couple of days after I go to visit a female friend of mine (I\u2019m a straight guy if it matters) and we spend 3 or so hours walking her dog around the town where she lives. \nLater that day ex-girlfriend gets wind of it and all hell breaks loose, claiming I\u2019ve moved on too quickly even though it is a friendship with this girl and nothing more. Ex girlfriend ensures everyone at our workplace finds out by crying in front of them, making me look like the asshole.\nAm I?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1030{"id": "dfnEb1Mii1GssfAw404xKhvvYWqZnTcO", "post_id": "a6x752", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend he's shallow", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my boyfriend he\u2019s shallow?", "text": "So my boyfriend and I were discussing why we\u2019re friends with certain people. At one point we were on the subject of female friends and he mentioned that all of his female friends are attracted to him (he is VERY good looking, though). He then said a few minutes later that he only wants to be friends with attractive people for aesthetic reasons. \n\nI got bullied a lot as a kid for being ugly...ostracized by other girls in middle school, rumors spread about me in high school, the whole nine yards. So I was hurt by that. I told him I can\u2019t understand the way he thinks and that his philosophy on friendships is really sad and shallow. \n\nThe conversation went from casual to disastrous in an instant. He got very mad at me, called me a judgmental bitch, and said he doesn\u2019t want to see me on his birthday.  \n\nThoughts? I feel I overreacted and shouldn\u2019t have been so judge but I do think it\u2019s shallow to choose only attractive people to be friends with..", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1031{"id": "49RiOXwy95mCovV8fa52UnWLtLugynTQ", "post_id": "azd874", "action": {"description": "being upset after he didn't want a relationship", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being upset after he didn\u2019t want a relationship?", "text": "We talked for a little less than a month. Planned on going on a date to the drive in. Date went well, it was a double feature and the first movie we actually watched and the second one... well we didn\u2019t really watch. we talked for a long time and ended up making out after. Ended up going to eat after and he mentioned that he didn\u2019t want to \u201cwife someone up\u201d or be committed because he wasn\u2019t ready and said \u201cif you have been as single as me for this long you wouldn\u2019t want to either\u201d and it made me sad but i didn\u2019t say anything.  and then a day later he texted me saying i seemed over it during our \u201cdate\u201d. I explained why. the whole reason being is because, HE said it was a DATE. but then he got mad at me for getting upset that he didn\u2019t wanna be with me?? but he also didn\u2019t want me to give my number out to a few guys who asked for it at work during all this ... AITA?? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1032{"id": "sGSoFqhSnVkqNYalJc1Zb4HYSy3xwd4F", "post_id": "aarn3j", "action": {"description": "telling my neighbor to shut the fuck up at night", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "WIBTA If I told my neighbor to shut the fuck up at night?", "text": "I live in a rural area so the houses are about 10-20 meters from each other but every single night for the past years my neighbor starts coughing like crazy with 20-30 minutes intervals, sometimes going for 5 minutes straight.\n\n​\n\nThe cough is horrible to hear, almost sounds like he's about to throw up at any time, even worse is that he does this from 1am to 3am, sometimes even 4 times in a day and I'm not joking when I say that he has been doing it everynight for years.\n\n​\n\nSome other neighbors say that he uses drugs and smokes everyday but I have never paid attention.\n\nI wanted to record him but I've had no real reason to do so as I don't know what to do with it and I'm afraid of the consequences if I showed it to authorities because many people stupidly think you can't record one's voice without permission in the country I live in.\n\n​\n\nSometimes I'd love to just yell at him to shut the fuck up and let me sleep but I'd be waking up everyone in my family by doing so and there's no guarantee he would stop, we also want to be in good terms with neighbors because we want to do some restructuring and we need all of them to agree or something.\n\n​\n\nI live in Italy if anyone wants to give legal advice.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1033{"id": "boXi0BEIaSC5WHCvFk9xxmdJvzSZLXGE", "post_id": "ald5zi", "action": {"description": "not thinking of my stepmom as my mom", "pronormative_score": 31, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA If I dont think of my stepmom as my mom?", "text": "I\u2019m gonna make this nice and quick. Bit pf background: My parents are divorced and my dad has started dating someone a while back. They live together and actually also have a child (who I think of as a stepsister). And the situation is that whenever I talk to my stepmom I can\u2019t call her mom because it just feels really weird. I call her her name. I don\u2019t know if it bothers her but I just want to know, is it okay if I don\u2019t call her mom because it feels weird to me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 15, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 31, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1034{"id": "xwfT75dmWxgYbOWF6IcVNBNZCPX2d5LZ", "post_id": "amgj70", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend I don't like his clothes", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for telling my boyfriend I don't like his clothes?", "text": "So for some background me [19F] and my boyfriend [24M] have been dating 2 and a half years and we live together. We're both kinda nerdy and like comic books and stuff like that and he likes anime. I used to wear a lot of graphic tees (think hot topic) when I was younger but I kind of grew out of that after high school and now I wear \"normal\" clothes. \n\nWell, he never really grew out of that. He wears those types of shirts (and some of them are a little stained/don't fit him/have little holes) on the regular. \n\nNow, he works in manufacturing so I get that he doesn't really want/need to dress up for work (vs me dressing up for work a bit because I'm a software engineer). And obviously, no one wants to change into nice clothes when they get home from work. But even on the weekends he'll wear his graphic tees. When we go out to eat or something he'll usually wear like a plainer grey v neck or the like though which is nice.\n\nBut I just feel like it's not super sexy to be wearing graphic tees that often as an adult. He says that he'd rather me be direct about me liking/disliking something about him instead of telling white lies. This morning he was wearing a completely red flash seatbelt belt and I told him I didn't like it (maybe not so diplomatically/too direct). And now I feel bad because I feel like I hurt his feelings. \n\nAm I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1035{"id": "NZEYP0C0HRHrIB5aTzPqBbByNICri8oS", "post_id": "a32694", "action": {"description": "being miffed my friend didn't offer to pay her share of a vacation", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being miffed my friend didn't offer to pay her share of a vacation?", "text": "Friend's milestone bday coming up.  6 months ago, I told a group of friends I need a firm commitment by 12/1.  People told me they were in either a week prior or on 12/1.  Life is good.  We have a headcount.\n\n12/2, we book the vacation house.  I haven't emailed the group yet about us doing it and finding it. I was going to do it the next day.\n\n12/3, a friend backs out due to work travel during that time.  I tell her, we already booked the house and was counting her in when we booked it.  She said sorry, she would rather be on the trip than work.  That was it.\n\nAITA for at least expecting an offer to cover her share of the cost?  I probably wouldn't have accepted it, but the gesture would have been the right thing to do. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1036{"id": "ZA23We1qgh6zNQyAjgMopQ7FPbLi5W4Z", "post_id": "b7344i", "action": {"description": "wanting to keep my plans with a friend, when my boyfriend is upset because he isn't invited but really wants to go", "pronormative_score": 23, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting to keep my plans with a friend, when my boyfriend is upset because he isn't invited but really wants to go?", "text": "Preface: my boyfriend (32) and I(28) have been together for 9 months or so. He is very concerned when I want to do things without him. We have come to an agreement to run plans by each other before we make them to be considerate about the other. \n\nIssue: A lifelong friend of mine asked me if I wanted to go to go to the big city near by on 420 to celebrate back in january. I told her yes I'd love to. This was before my boyfriend and I came to the agreement.\n\nI remembered the plans a few weeks ago and told him about them. He said he'd really really like to go to, because he's never done anything on 420 and would like to experience it. He said he wouldn't mind just sitting near us an playing on his phone or switch. I said of course I would ask her, but since she invited me I can't promise anything. He seemed fine with that.\n\nYesterday she texted me to confirm, and I asked if he could come. She said she would really prefer it be just girl time, that she was looking forward to that. When I told my boyfriend, he said that me going without him was a deal breaker for him, and that I either needed to insist that he come along too, or cancel the plans with her instead. I said I would ask one more time, mentioning that he would sit nearby and not bother us, but that I wouldn't absolutely insist he go (I find that incredibly rude, she invited me) or cancel. That was not good enough for him, he said it was a still a deal breaker if I go.\n\nAITA for thinking I should go anyway, and that he is being out of line? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 23, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1037{"id": "q9zNDqrA87d7BZ9yebNnQdxhe2hFIfHD", "post_id": "b2bdr6", "action": {"description": "telling my guy friend to stop having a crush on me", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for telling my guy friend to stop having a crush on me?", "text": "So there's this guy, let's call him David, who I've gotten really close to the past few months. Eventually he asked me out, but I had to reject him because I wasn't (and I'm still not) ready for a relationship.\n\nThe thing is, I think David still has a crush on me. I can feel him staring at me in class sometimes, he walks with me between classes, and so forth. I don't particularly appreciate this, obviously.\n\nToday I had a talk with him and I told him to knock it off because he didn't have a chance with me anyways and it was going to hurt our friendship. He got mad, told me that he *didn't* have a crush on me anymore and it really hurt to see how suspicious I was of him and how I kept bringing up his asking me out even after we agreed to pretend it had never happened, and now he isn't replying to any texts I send.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1038{"id": "ZnqbYeTRFfLmjE7tWWF8mar7OQtEdKsv", "post_id": "arbr37", "action": {"description": "getting my girlfriend of 12 years age wrong", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting my girlfriend of 12 years age wrong", "text": "Me and my girlfriend were talking about birthdays because her birthday is next month and she asked me how old she was I responded 28 and she then stated she was 27 and got extremely mad at me. I realized I should\u2019ve known how old she was since we\u2019ve been together for so long, but I was only off by one year! AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1039{"id": "GPFy0AFCf6jEkxU5GqPeF9651IEhAXyT", "post_id": "b3sfbi", "action": {"description": "laughing at inexplicably horrible resumes", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA by laughing at inexplicably horrible resumes?", "text": "I am a manager at a small retail establishment and am working on hiring a part time sales associate. The position has been online over a month and we have received 0 qualified candidates. The other day a middle aged woman \u201cKaren\u201d who works across a couple locations came in while I was reviewing resumes. \n\nI was reading two resumes with another employee and they were just awful. Resume 1 listed their birth date while subsequently leaving off their education. In my country it\u2019s illegal to ask the applicants age, only if they are over 18. They were 22. The resume did not list any skills they had picked up at their previous two part time jobs nor the dates that they worked there. It was half a page in normal size font that they increased to take up a whole page. They did not have a drivers license which is a requirement for the position and did not have any cover letter. \n\nResume 2 was 3 pages. They had one part time job, again not listing any acquired skills. They had their education as the last segment on their resume. They filled 2.5 pages with volunteer experience leaving off any dates or skills acquired though these experiences. Most volunteering was 2 hour projects. Their contact information was only located on the second page of their resume and they only had their name on the first page. Their font and size were not consistent across the document. Again, no cover letter. \n\nAnyway, Karen comes in while I\u2019m lamenting on how bad these resumes are and how I dread we\u2019ll never find someone qualified enough to fill our basic entry level sales associate position. Karen has marital issues that the staff is well aware of because she literally never shuts up about them. I can tell you about her financial troubles, her kids, her husband and her *gag* sex life (which I NEVER asked about. Super funny though because she tells everyone about her husbands ED and how he can\u2019t hold a job because of it??). \n\nKaren starts tearing me a new one in that mom way for \u201charassing strong young men for their *likely* (obviously unknown because we can\u2019t ask) mental disability\u201d. I interviewed both of these candidates anyway because were so desperate for a hire. I understand not all mental deficits present but they both seemed normal, just lazy. I explained to Karen that it takes nothing for someone to google \u201chow to write a resume\u201d and even just follow the first google example, but she still says I was being mean and abusing my power. \n\nCome to find out she has been telling the other locations she works at how I\u2019m a horrible manager and no wonder no one will work for me. She has taken each of my employees to the side and asked them how they feel about me. They told me that Karen made them feel very uncomfortable by doing this and that they have no issues with me. \n\nTLDR: older female coworker says I\u2019m being unfair by criticizing resumes. I interviewed the candidates and they were not a good fit as their resume suggested. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1040{"id": "sO3sacqvn0mqrUPWAxvATeJO7fMJQy4w", "post_id": "at6vk7", "action": {"description": "trying to warm myself up by cuddling with my wife", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for trying to warm myself up by cuddling with my wife", "text": "We live in a 150 year old house that is heated with two wood stoves. the stoves must be stocked every eight hours or so. I typically am the one to stock the stoves at bedtime, me and the wife head to bed at the same time, on this particular night it was very cold and windy, this caused both stoves to use up their wood somewhat early so a new fire had to be lit in each stove, after I could verify that both fires had started successfully I headed off to bed. When I got to bed my wife had already been there for 25 minutes and she was nice and warm, I tried to slide up next to her to warm myself back up after hanging around the cold stoves to ensure they lit. She did not like this, started complaining that I was to cold and shoving blankets in between us. I was offended, said \"oh, i see how it is\" and rolled back over to my side of the bed. and fell asleep warming myself up. In the morning she's all bent and obviously upset and she says its because \"you rolled over to your side of the bed angry last night\". so my question is, AITA for expecting my wife to warm me up after coming to bed cold because I stayed up a little later to make sure our wood stoves were burning?   ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1041{"id": "JnQb3pwzCj0kEQV7tTICbF989lHgeBWQ", "post_id": "avz65c", "action": null, "title": "AITA. Posted info about some throwing cigarette butts out thier window", "text": "Was driving the other day, and this individual in the car in front of me tosses a cigarette butt out there window. I post the car and license plate on local page saying ' we don't need your trash' when explaining what happened.\n\nI got immediate hate from almost every poster. \n\nI thought people have a shit about civic pride. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1042{"id": "wSt2H3SkFJwJVfIZFffnPjnlmgF9b4oT", "post_id": "b0lbt6", "action": {"description": "expecting my girlfriend to pay the debt she has accumulated with payday loans immidiately instead of their \"usual monthly payments\"", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for expecting my girlfriend to pay the debt she has accumulated with payday loans Immidiately instead of their \"usual Monthly payments\"?", "text": "To be blunt, she screwed up. She had an... Episode due to mental health, took 5000e in payday loans from different companies, and spent around half on games, jewerly, god damn microtransactions on a Phone game, etc.\n\nNow, to Her Credit, she Came clean about it pretty quickly, and admitted she needed help. We Immidiately used the rest of the money to pay Off few of them (they had a first time customer offer, no interest if paid back inside a month of taking the loan, thankfully), leaving about 2300e left to pay from Her own income, which, due to the Fact that we don't have money, Will start to grow interest soon. Nothing we can do to stop that now. Anyway, onto the AITA part.\n\nShe has a large sum of money (2000e give or take 300e) coming as backpay for Her disability, and she has expressed hesitance at paying the loans back with it. As in, she keeps asking why she can't just pay the Monthly payments, over and over, and me explaning how 260% yearly interest rates are insane, over and over. Ofcourse, rent and bills need to be paid first, but after that, I told Her, the rest should go towards paying  the debt, due to the huge interest rates payday loans have. It won't be enough for all of it, but still a significant step towards getting the Hell out of This hole she dug.\n\nI also told Her that she doesn't need to worry about anything Else, moneywise. I'll feed and clothe Her, get food for Her cats, buy gas for Her car, take care of everything Else Until the debt is paid, as long as she devotes all Her money to it apart from rent and bills. Even thou I don't have any more money than she has, I can improvise the rest we need. Surviving with basically no money isn't exactly new to me... \n\nTo give some more insight into This:\n\nwe both are on the same kind of disability, usually get the same amount of money per month, around 900e. \n\nWe live separately, have separate money, everything. She doesn't live at my place technically, but she does spend most of Her time with me, and stays at my place almost every free night we have. \n\nWe are both students (the disability we get paid is tied to our studies, so if we don't get courses done, we don't get money. It is thing Where I live). \n\nwhile we have separate finances, we do live a quite symbiotic life what Comes to spending money on food and such, so while Her debt isn't my debt, it does affect me, and how much money I have to spend on other things. \n\nSo, AITA for expecting Her to use the money she is getting to pay most of the debt Immidiately, instead of the Monthly payments?\n\nPs. Before I start getting monetary advice, thank you, but no need. We have contacted multiple organizations that provide free professional consultation for situations just like This one. I'm sure that if there is a better way to do This than what I Came up, they'll tell me about it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1043{"id": "aAI2yajOu0QOn8j3mdqdnZRXvS9gELiL", "post_id": "9wwcwi", "action": {"description": "registering my dog as an emotional support dog", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for registering my dog as an emotional support dog?", "text": "For starters, this is all hypothetical; nothing's happened yet.\n\nSo come summer time I'm hoping to join the r/vandwellers life.  Hopefully by Summer I'll be living in the van, traveling the country.  The reason for doing this is, to put it simply, I kind of hate myself.  I'm 23 and I still live with my (widowed) mom.  I've been slowly acquiring credits at my community college, but I have no idea why.  I don't have a major and I'm out of basics to take.  I don't feel like my life has any direction.  I feel like a total loser and like I've got no interesting or exciting stories to tell.\n\nSob story aside though, I'd say I'm depressed but I know it's not that bad.  I've got friends and family who love me.  I've got my dog who is just the best part of my life and makes me smile just thinking about her.  I just feel bad because I feel like I'm gaming the system. The therapy dog system is put in place for people who need it a lot more than me.  Would I be a part in de-legitimizing it for the people who really need it.\n\nLife would be a lot easier if she was registered.  I could go a lot more places without having to worry about leaving her in the van or checking her into a boarding place.  Both her and I would be a lot happier.  One way or another she'll be coming on this adventure with me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1044{"id": "zON5qcNXZ28ML5LsR0rT4JTSBhTYCMr2", "post_id": "azqyy9", "action": {"description": "cutting ties with OF", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting ties with OF?", "text": "For context, OF is old friend, and Callum is a good friend of mine. I've been having issues with him OF since mid year 7, and it's hit me really hard atm. I'm currently in year 9. Be warned, it's a long post. So, I've recently cut ties with OF because I'm so sick of his bullshit. It started in year 7 with little things. OF would constantly take up the majority of the table in class, leaving me with about 2 A4 sheets of room, barely enough to work. When I would complain to him about this he would get really childish and say things like \"Is this better?\" while proceeding to take up more space. This got too much for me, as I'm very dedicated with my work, so I moved. Problem solved? NO. He'd move next to me and do the same thing. That was just the start of it. OF would constantly seem to be seeking attention, as much as I hate that term. He would do all he can to be the center of everything. It started with little digs at us, using words like fagget loosely without knowing the meaning or history of the words. He would then get to headlocking us and trying to yank our hair out because it was 'fun'. It got to the point where he would steal our phones and run around the school so that we could chase him. This annoyed me and Callum a lot, and in OF's defense we could have kept our cool a bit more than we did. Either way, we got to the end of the year, things died down, and we went into year 8. This was when things got worse. OF had gotten over the desk control, but had somehow gotten worse. He started insulting us and making fun of us for things like our body shape, really petty and immature things. Then when we would have a go at him back(again, should've kept our cool), he would resort to violence again. This went on and on. He could insult us but we couldn't even joke about him. He would also get very angry if he lost in games of downfall, and sometimes again, resort to violence. Things went on until 4th term. The boys invited me to be their goalkeeper for a futsal team. This worried me, and I'd be here forever if I explained it all. Basically I have on and off mental health issues and possibly social anxiety, not sure though. It sounds stupid, but the position of goalkeeper is a lot of pressure on me. I told OF all this and more, and explained that I didn't think it would be good for my mental health (I was right). Not to my surprise, OF wasn't sympathetic in the slightest, despite 'weawwy tweasuwing my fwendship'. He went on for weeks saying shit like 'OoOoHhH nOoO I can't be goalie cus I have depression! Get over it fagget.'. This really got me down, and I still don't understand why he said that. The same kind of thing happened this year. I felt quite down during a futsal match and he picked up on it. Same kind of thing 'if you feel like shit then don't come. You played like shit.\" This was the turning point for me, as I beat myself up about it anyway. I was sick of it. Am I the asshole for cutting ties with OF?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1045{"id": "h2VdHbwtKOK1bCFmCAXNPzxo88oAJMWl", "post_id": "b60ckr", "action": {"description": "wanting to confront my pet sitter who made a mess of my home months later", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to confront my pet sitter who made a mess of my home months later?", "text": "In October of 2018 I went to visit family in Europe and needed someone to stay over and watch my cats. I found a local girl (late 20's early 30's) who posted a pet sitter ad on a community website. We met, I checked references, agreed on a price, and everything seemed fine. I left payment on my counter before I left with detailed instructions. One thing I stressed was not to have anyone else in the house. I have rescue cats who don't like strangers, especially males, and she said it wouldn't be a problem. The day before I was to return home she sent me a message asking where the broom and mop was because \"I want you to return home to a clean house\". I told her not to worry about the floors because I do them a certain way and we left it at that. She was set to leave at 7:30 that morning for work and I got home around 9am.\n\nWell, when I got in the house reeked of feces. She left a big #2 in the main bathroom, the cats had peed multiple times in both the showers, there were food scraps in the bathroom garbage, and she didn't even bother to make the bed. She left wet towels in the dryer, and the kitchen was a disaster. It looked like she cooked a Thanksgiving feast. Food remnants in the sink, on the counters, drips down to the floors. My big crock pot and rice maker were left out and the dishwasher was full including casserole dishes, mixing bowls, measuring cups, herb scissors, turkey baster, etc. I could tell my dining room table was used because every chair was put back askew and the drop leaf was used. She used all my flour, left grease in multiple baking pans, left her own food/leftovers in the fridge, and multiple Tupperware containers were missing. This to me seemed like she had a dinner party when I specifically instructed her not to have people over. I was pissed, so I never contacted her again.\n\nShe messaged me yesterday asking if I would be needing someone to watch the cats in the next few months because she is trying to fill her calendar with house, pet, and baby sitting jobs. She posts in a local Facebook group so I know she is looking for work outside of her school district job. I wouldn't have brought any of these issues up with her, but since she messaged me again i'm debating telling her why I wouldn't use her services again detailing what I already outlined. Would I be the asshole to call her out after almost 6 months of silence?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1046{"id": "IpdRarTw0SqB2UAKXREpdT9exszLIfrS", "post_id": "9z87ot", "action": {"description": "not feeling family love for my brother", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not feeling family love for my brother", "text": "(slight follow-up to an earlier post)\n\nI have a half-brother who is 16 years younger than me. Growing up, I did not have any siblings. We share the same father, but different mothers. \n\nMy stepmom (his mother) came into my life at about age 10, and although we generally get along, I tended to have a lot of clashes with her over the fact that I felt like she was trying to replace my biological mom. I am very close with my biological mom, but she lives very far away and I rarely got to see her as a child, something which really bothered me. Although I don\u2019t really feel like I resent my stepmom, I to this day just don\u2019t really feel that attached or close to her.\n\nI do not feel attached to my brother at all. I have a hard time seeing him as anything more than just another toddler. This isn\u2019t to say I dislike him: he\u2019s a cute, funny child, but I just don\u2019t feel the bonds with him I feel with others in my family. I feel like I try to be a good sister: I play with him, I talk to him, I\u2019ll help with the tasks related to a baby when needed, but I just don\u2019t feel anything. I want to feel like he\u2019s my family, but I can\u2019t.\n\nAITA for not being able to love my own brother? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1047{"id": "kbHimGxOjVP6BtkQXiG99O625D8fzvb2", "post_id": "atrk06", "action": {"description": "getting annoyed with my friends", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting annoyed with my friends", "text": "The thing is I was going through a very stressful time as I was preparing for masters in favour of college placements. So Back to college everyone had gone to their job , while I am back at college for Last semester after taking an exam. Not a single one of the friends who I consider close intiated conversation with me and its already been about 3 to 4 weeks. Some People say that I should serve as icebreaker since they all might be busy in Jobs. What do you think ? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1048{"id": "yOS2rWEvdhEKupuFsII0T6X1IaHjxHC9", "post_id": "amfhyw", "action": {"description": "asking my neighbor to turn down their music", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my neighbor to turn down their music?", "text": "Their music is *blaring*. I can clearly hear- and feel- the bass shaking whatever surface the stereo is on, the melody of the songs, the instrumentals, and almost fully make out the words. I'm half jealous of their sound system tbh. \n\nIt's almost 11am on a Saturday. They've been playing it since about 10 am. I work nights and I need to get to sleep. My schedule is completely flipped by this point, and I'd usually be in deep sleep right now (I think), but I actually had business to take care of. I generally cut my neighbors slack when their kids make noise because... well, they're kids. I doubt the kids are home now, and this might be the parents' \"downtime.\" But this is a lot right now. My thing is, it's 11 am on a Saturday. If anytime would be okay to play music, it'd be about this time- right? Would I be an asshole for asking them to turn it to like, half what it is now?\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1049{"id": "RpA1vwOF8yQpjq7GtJE23F59uxnaQR3L", "post_id": "b2n9ti", "action": {"description": "not talking enough with my mom", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not talking enough with my mom?", "text": "Probably not your average \"AITA\" but oh well\n\nI'm 18 and live 2-3h away from from my mother  because of school. I visit her like once a week or two. Lately our relationship has gotten weird because i'm fucking socially disfunctional for some reason. Everytime i go to her, I try to start a conversation with whatever topic comes to mind. Examples: school, news, my little brothers. But every time i try to mention something she just doesn't care and answeres \"huh\" or stays quiet and doesn't even change the subject. So with time, i've just become more quiet.\n\nRecently, she's been mentioning that i'm quiet and that i need to start talking and stuff, also saying stuff like i don't respect her or that i'm a life-less robot.\n\nYesterday she went full breakdown, started cussing me telling me that i'm an idiot, retarded, respectless etc. She straight up bullied me. I never thought my own mother would make me this sad and low. So i went home and she called me twice but i was kinda scared to answer since she cusses at me pretty often over the phone and telling me that i play on the ps4 too much (i don't play that much) and that i'm a fat lazy nerd/looser (i'm quite healthy).\n She then messaged me asking why i won't answer and i replied \"because you're always mad at me. \n\nMom: \"i'm mad at you because you never say a word\" \n\nMe: \"i'm scared to because you'll just get mad at me\"\n\nMom: \"have you ever sat down and talked like a normal human being?\"", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1050{"id": "ezMcZcpTZBpkukIxoHP9ftsS8SGpeHy2", "post_id": "ay58lq", "action": {"description": "looking annoyed when my mom sneezed loudly", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for looking annoyed when my mom sneezed loudly?", "text": "Background: My mom screams when she sneezes. It is very loud. One time she sneezed three times in a row and she was scream-sneezing and I clenched my fist. My mom noticed and got very mad at me. I didn't say anything to her. But am I the a\\*\\*hole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1051{"id": "yGz1N8mxfZYeyIhlWAvsziTPnncju7ka", "post_id": "b95ukx", "action": {"description": "not wanting to meet other autistic people/watch shows about them", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to meet other autistic people/watch shows about them", "text": "Okay I know that title sounds bad but it's much better with context so please read the whole post or a least skim it before casting judgment (TLDR at bottom).\n\nKay so I am a 17 year old high functioning autistic male, and ever since I turned 13 my grandmother has always been taking me to meet other autistic people, always having me watch shows about autistic people, showing me which celebrities have autism, basically showing me anything and everything she sees that has to do with autism. Earlier today I asked if she \"please could stop\" doing that, as I find it annoying, strange, and a little bit offensive, she got mad a me and basically says that she won't stop doing that because she believes I have been brainwashed into believing that I can't do anything or am incapable of integrating into society, and she's simply trying to make me not be a mine controlled sheep. so basically was wondering If you could help me figure this out, Am I The Asshole for trying to tell her not to drag me to meet other autistic people\n\n\nTLDR: I am autistic, asked my grandmother not to drag me to meet other autistic people, or show me them in the media AITA for asking that.\n\n(P.S sorry for bad formatting, I am on my phone.)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1052{"id": "kLwpz6tL4br1aIwiP3Qq6oCYilI83OEC", "post_id": "agtaez", "action": {"description": "telling my roommate she needs to pay me $7.50", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my roommate she needs to pay me $7.50?", "text": "Last semester, two of my roommates and I agreed to share a Chegg Study subscription. Chegg Study is useful for accessing textbook solutions, posting problems to be answered by \"experts\", and searching solutions previously worked by \"experts.\" For college students, it costs $15.00/month. Split among three people, that is $5.00 each per month. We will call my roommates Sally and Betsy.\n\nBetsy is the one who suggested we share a Chegg account. We were all studying one night, and Betsy had a chemistry test the next day. She kept saying how useful Chegg would be for chemistry. I thought it could be useful to me also, since I'm a science student. Betsy suggested the three of us share a Chegg account and pay $5.00 each per month. I knew that by owning the account, I was accepting the risk that my roommates might not hold up their agreement. Nevertheless, I created the account, shared the login information with Betsy and Sally, paid the $15.00 for that month, and sent Venmo requests to Betsy and Sally for $5.00 each. They each paid and we continued to study happily.\n\nThe second month rolled around, and I billed them both for $5.00 after Chegg charged me the $15.00. Sally texted me saying she didn't find it useful but knew it would be useful to me and Betsy. This annoyed me, but I had seen it coming. I decided I would retain the service if Betsy still wanted to share. I didn't bother asking Sally for my $5.00 back because I suspected she would refuse to pay it and throw a fit. Betsy agreed that she and I would retain the Chegg service and pay $7.50 each.\n\nThis month, like every other, I billed Betsy for my $7.50 after Chegg charged my account. She didn't ever pay it. I texted her and asked about it today. She said she wouldn't be using it anymore. I said that was fine, but I still needed the $7.50 because I had already been charged for the month. She was flabbergasted that I had the nerve to ask for my $7.50 that she had effectively spent by not notifying me that she wished to cancel the service. She says she will not pay for something that she isn't using. I explained that this would be like me refusing to pay rent because I decided to move out without giving her notice to find someone else to take over the lease, although the money is not that much. She became irate and insisted repeatedly that she said she \"only needed it for chemistry\" and that she had told me \"MONTHS ago\" that she would not need it after that. In my memory, this is false; she said she would use it for chemistry, not that she wanted to cancel it after the semester ended. And even if she did say that, I think she should have had the courtesy to remind me that she would no longer need the service. We both agreed that we should have had a conversation about whether we intended to continue using it after the semester ended. I told her I wasn't going to fight her over $7.50, but I was frustrated that she had asked me to create the account, then not held up her agreement. She raised the point that I didn't charge Sally for $5.00 when she decided to no longer pay, and I said that it was beside the point because she owed me $7.50 regardless of the $5.00 Sally owes me. I said that at some point, it's my money they're spending by refusing to pay. I feel that if the roles were flipped, she would demand I pay her $7.50.\n\nAITA for asking her to pay me $7.50?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1053{"id": "aKIWECOMoxdkx7tXd0aoIyNj4Dz0tNvA", "post_id": "ba5dap", "action": {"description": "making my phone wallpaper a disgusting GIF", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For making my phone wallpaper a disgusting GIF", "text": "I have a gif of somebody taking there finger and stabbing it threw a nail I also hate when people look over my shoulder while I'm playing games so I made it my home screen If I notice somebody breathing down my neck I just switch to my home screen and they go away \n\nAITA here?\n\n(And note if you think I'm scaring small children I'm in middle school so it's only my fellow 6-7-8th graders seeing it)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1054{"id": "dGWej9qQvk54YdVFgqfaAW5QeBRJNI8Y", "post_id": "avvfhj", "action": {"description": "reacting the way I did to my Dad the way I did after he was shouting at me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for reacting the way I did to my Dad the way I did after he was shouting at me?", "text": "For context I\u2019m a 16 year old boy, and my dad is 51. \n\nI\u2019m in my room revising science. Mum comes in, she asks for me wipe down all the surfaces in my room, I say no, because I\u2019m revising and that I\u2019ll do it eventually. She leaves without saying a word, and leaves the door open. \n\nI ask her to shut the door, but there was no response so I shouted it. I knew she was ignoring me. I go to her, and ask her to leave the door open, especially when I\u2019m trying to revise. She tells me to stop telling her off\n\nMy Dad comes over and starts telling me off for \u2018harassing\u2019 Mum, I said that I\u2019m just telling her to shut my door behind her. He starts getting angry, and threatens to turn the power off (his usual response), he goes towards the door and I tell him to stop. He backs off, I start saying that he shouldn\u2019t have even got involved. This annoyed\nhim, he towards my room and began to raise his voice. \n\nHe gets close to my computer, so I get in the way. At this point he\u2019s shouting, so I\u2019m shouting. I\u2019m saying that I\u2019m just trying to revise, that he should leave me alone. He then unplugged my PC & picked it up, but then he threw it on the sofa in my room to engage me. At this point he\u2019s closing in on me. Cursing at me at me and all, I\u2019m swearing back in response.\n\nHe begins to put his right arm back, as though he were about to punch me. He starts saying something along the lines of, \u201cdo you wanna go?\u201d I back up but he just gets closer, at this point mum is in the room witness to it all. She\u2019s not interfering, just watching. I end up on my bed, and he grabs my leg. I shake him off. I shout at him and tell him to stop getting violent, he carries on.\n\nAt this point I\u2019m on the other side of the bed, he goes towards my Xbox and begins to unplug that. He picks up my Xbox and the computer and walks out, saying that he\u2019s not done.\n\nNow I turn to my mum and say I hope she\u2019s happy that she\u2019s caused this, she says it\u2019s my fault. I say I hope she\u2019s happy that she married someone who would threaten their son like that, and try to get violent (this isn\u2019t the first time he\u2019s gotten violent) \n\nEventually, he comes back. There\u2019s more swearing and shouting going on, my mum is stood between us this time. I was saying he\u2019s horrible, and he insisted he doesn\u2019t care. He starts telling me off for still living here, saying that I am leeching off of him. He begins walking off and I tell him I don\u2019t love him and I never have (dramatic, ikr) He shouts back saying that he doesn\u2019t care; that I apparently hate everyone in the family. I say that\u2019s not true as it wasn\u2019t.\n\nI say that I only hate people who are horrible, and he is the worst one. He said he doesn\u2019t care.\n\nOnce he\u2019s gone into the kitchen my mum says \u201cstop! You\u2019re upsetting your little brother\u201d, I reply saying \u201chow is that the person you\u2019re worried about being upset?\u201d (Bro wasn\u2019t near) \n\nMy voice cracked in my response and I ran upstairs and cried my eyes out.\n \nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1055{"id": "rke5npTFYch6yop72Ag4aALaUjYGiK2m", "post_id": "adyy8h", "action": {"description": "moving out of my apartment with out telling my friends", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For moving out of my apartment with out telling my friends", "text": "Well this happened a couple years ago but it still eats at me. \nIt was 2017 and things were not going so great for me. I was laid off from a job and then denied my dream job. My best friend was always hanging out with his gf and her friends/family. He even got the gf\u2019s friend a job with him while I\u2019m struggling to find a decent job. My other roommate is hanging out with the rest of our friends and I\u2019m stuck at home. \nWell an opportunity to move and help a family member came up and I took it immediately. I packed my things, said goodbye and left. I moved 1,000 miles away. I still paid rent every month till the end of our lease cause I couldn\u2019t find anyone to fill my spot. I wasn\u2019t that I hated my friends but I wasn\u2019t happy and felt stuck. \nSkip ahead a couple years and I\u2019m talking to my best friend and he\u2019s still really fucking pissed at me. Said I put it on myself by not talking to him about it and just leaving.\nTL;DR Moved out without telling roommates to get out of a rut. Still paid rent. Pissed my best friend off in doing so. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1056{"id": "wgYjaUBPcS6SjdT4hdZAzem3NGNj9hxa", "post_id": "aoq6ew", "action": {"description": "having sex, and leaving very quickly afterwards", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for having sex, and leaving very quickly afterwards?", "text": "Quick bit of context: I (30M) am an INTP/very blue/introverted deep thinker. And I have known performance issues, I can achieve an erection but cannot maintain it.\n\n​\n\nI was hanging out with a previous coworker(45F), that I hadn't seen in about 2 years at her place. We had fooled around in the past and sext recently, in the past few months. We were drinking and chatting, small talk mostly catching up. Talked about the last time we saw each other and relatively quickly started making out. \n\n​\n\nWe went to her bedroom where naturally one thing led to another. I was hard and we started having sex, lasted a few minutes before I felt myself getting soft inside her. Horrible feeling for me, probably terrible feeling for her. I rolled onto the bed and lie there, she was pretty calm about it as I have found most girls are in the moment. We talk a bit and things start heating up again, we decided to try more oral stuff this round, similar to the last time we hooked up. Hard, close, but couldn't finish and again found myself losing my erection. \n\n​\n\nAt this point I am pretty defeated mentally, this girl seems eager to please and I obviously want to finish. We laid there cuddling talking, and she tried to heat things up again. But I was already so far into my own head at that point thinking about so many different things I don't know if anything could have gotten me hard at that point. \n\n​\n\nWe laid there for about 15-20mins with me holding her talking, some things sexy somethings neutral. I decided I needed to figure out a way to get myself out of the situation and wanted to leave. I did not know how she felt or what exactly she wanted, but I was extremely uncomfortable being unable to perform. I said I needed to use the bathroom, so I got up from the bed and went. \n\n​\n\nI finished doing my thing and when I came back I just immediately grabbed my pants that were on the ground and said \"I think I am going to go.\" She responded with \"Seriously? Right after?\" I retorted with \"I didn't cum, so I think I should go.\" I never hesitated putting my clothes back on, I remembered where every article was and quickly made sure I retrieved everything. I asked if she was going to walk me to the door or stay in bed. She said she would walk me out, she grabbed a robe and walked me to the door. We exchanged an awkward hug kiss thing and I said bye and left.\n\n​\n\nSo am I the asshole for getting myself out of a situation I no longer felt comfortable in?\n\n​\n\ntl;dr I had sex with a previous coworker, could not finish which made me uncomfortable. Because I was uncomfortable I left shortly after without much reason as to why.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1057{"id": "AwVdq0ZcQyt0PL8KHi2MwWv9lQ6Uzbo5", "post_id": "avmetr", "action": {"description": "contacting my secret Santa to let them know the gift they sent was broken", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I contact my secret Santa to let them know the gift they sent was broken?", "text": "As the title says, I received a part of my gift from the Movie exchange that\u2019s going on. I collect VHS so one of the gifts was a VHS movie I\u2019ve had on my list to get. \n\nThe movie is 2 separate tapes and was shipped directly from Amazon. The sticker on the movie states that it\u2019s new, although the seal is broken. The first tape has a crack down the front of it, but I\u2019m still able to play it. \n\nWould I be the asshole if I told them what happened so they could just get a refund? The movie still works, so I have no issue. The sticker indicating it being new pisses me off. The Amazon seller clearly was being shady and sold something opened and cracked. \n\nI just don\u2019t know if it would make them feel bad or if it\u2019s worth it. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1058{"id": "NxrbImTNxP6SRQhNasQQJs6nkAGnenL8", "post_id": "9w8988", "action": {"description": "not going to my mom's second wedding", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not going to my mom\u2019s second wedding?", "text": "Some backstory. My mom has been dating this guy for about four years. Her and my dad have been divorced for over ten years so no issues with that. However, she told me she was engaged three days ago and was having her wedding today. I live three hours away with my fianc\u00e9 and did not want to drive all the way there for a half an hour \u201cceremony\u201d which was going to take place in her living room just to turn around and drive three hours back. The wedding is taking place at night and all my family was busy before hand so there was no one to even visit with before the wedding. \n\nShe is upset at me but she needed to tell me more time in advance to possibly get off work on Monday. All my other siblings live within five minutes of her so she just never considered my distance and just assumed I\u2019d make the trip. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1059{"id": "6ngkYKaYBv8qgF5iuOfgg5i8dAYQbDef", "post_id": "b9tq66", "action": {"description": "\"not including\" my family in my wedding dress appointment", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for \"not including\" my family in my wedding dress appointment?", "text": "I recently got engaged, and started to look into wedding dresses. On Wednesday I decided I wanted to start looking around for dresses I like, and I made an appointment at a wedding dress shop for the following day at 11am.\n     Now, the reason I wanted to go do this initially without a large family presence is because I have a somewhat difficult relationship with my family. My mom and gma specifically can be extremely opinionated, to the point where I feel like all they do is criticize me or talk about me behind my back. They have the attitude that you should always agree with their opinion, and dont really accept your opinion. My Fiance is often frustrated with them because he feels they are \"narcissitic\" and they cause me to feel very sad or negative about things that should be exciting. Because of this growing up, I struggle a lot with depression and anxiety. I felt that if I went with them and found a dress, they wouldn't like it or they would be very negative about it. This is what led to me wanting to try on different styles of dresses without them. I wanted to figure out what I like, not what THEY like. \n     I did ask my sister (my maid of honor) to come with me to the dress appointment, and I also let my mom know I was going. My sister said she wanted to go, but she had to work. However, she did not feel like going to work, so she asked me to type a message to her boss to get her out of work, which I refused to do. Since no one else was available, I just asked one of my future sisters-in-law to go because I knew she would be supportive. \n     I tried on 6 dresses of all different styles at this fitting, but I just fell in love with the second dress. I was not expecting to actually find \"the\" dress at this appointment, but it just kind of happened. My gma had previously offered to pay for my dress, so I called her to the store to see it. I also called my sister, who was supposed to be at work. Turns out she only went to work for 2 hours, and got home around the time my appointment started. It was minutes from our house, she knew I was there and had the option to come. I told her I found something and wanted her to look. She was visibly annoyed, but she came.  I tried on 2 more dresses with my gma and sister there that I let them pick out. After those, they did say they liked the dress I found, and my mother, whom I facetimed, said she loved the dress and thought I should get it.\n     My gma got the dress for me. She seemed a little sad, but was happy I was happy. My sister mentioned that she was kind of hurt that I chose to go with my fiance's sister instead of her because she would have liked to see me try on dresses. I feel like she had the choice to be there, but decided not to come. \n     Now I am feeling incredibly guilty and selfish for how everything played out. My fiance believes that I gave the opportunity to come and look at other dresses and its their own actions that made it so they were not there. So, Reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1060{"id": "M4hbJFKWUrh3B991T6Y0CoAZ6FEgg0p1", "post_id": "b2k0ru", "action": {"description": "not coping with everything someone does to me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for not coping with everything someone does to me", "text": "For reference, my parents always thaught me to be the one to be above something, for example when a conflict requires someone to step back and just let it go, or admit to be wrong or even apologize for something I did not do, to do it, just to avoid unnecessary conflict.\n\nBut that lead to the situation I am in at the moment, pretty much everyone just tramples on my opinion or similar, its like strangers kind of feel it that they can do that to me, cause i am expected to be the one to give in.\n\nBut after keeping shut about everything i felt was rude and not supporting my own opinions, i got soooo angry the last time something happenend and it all came out in a single burst of wrath.\n\nNow to that what happened: My Grandpa had birthday and invited me and my parents to a really good restaurant in range of their home. We drove to the restaurant, got our table and ordered drinks. Then the disaster happened: Our table was kind of small, and we are a large family (all of my uncles, aunts and so on were invited too) so we had to sit a bit wider to fit everyone of us to the table (note, the restaurant is a bit small too). Then some entitled bitch, lets call her Karen, came in with her younger sugarboy and her goddamn noisy rathound( or chihuaha or how you call them) to sit on the other table, back to back with me. (Note, she was fat, not chubby but fat) She sat down on the seat back to me, and needed more space to sit there, but she didn't ask me to make room for her, she just shoved the seat against my back till i made room myself (which i thought was rude) but i didn't react to that yet. When she finally got to sit in her seat, she shoved her seat against mine again, even though i had no place to make room anymore, but i even endured that one. But when she shived her arms violently against mine on MY! Armrest so she could reach her ratdog in her bag, i flipped.\n\nI stood up and asked her what the fuck she thinks she is doing, pushing me away without asking first and then just pushing back more for no reason whatsoever. Entitled Karen looked at me like:\" why is someone like you even talking to me\" which made me even angrier so i told her to back the hell away or something happens. With a big grunt of hers she moved her seat more to her table( she had more than enough room for her, even after that move) so i could sit comfortably again.\n\nMy parents looked at me like I just did the unthinkable. Why the hell am I supposed to make room for Karen even though I was there first(!!!), she was rude as hell and she didn't even need so much place to begin with!\n\n\nSo my question is, AITA?\n\n\nTl;Dr: Entitled Karen wanted more room than necessary on her table, even though I was there first and had no more room to make, so i flipped on her rude behavior (she didn't ask me to make room, she just physically pushed me to do it)\n\nSorry for my english, not a native speaker.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1061{"id": "R2YdmrNgZg0CWjEWPIWevyN4WC8zYO9n", "post_id": "agjh60", "action": {"description": "telling my mom she should have asked", "pronormative_score": 23, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for telling my Mom she should have asked?", "text": "So this happened a few days ago and I'm trying to grapple with left over feelings. \n\nBackground: My partner and I had a few weeks break in the new year and had planned a semi-local two week trip. At the same time we planned for my parents to come for one of the weeks and are visiting from my home country. We planned to stay together and do activities in that time. My Mom generously said my Dad and her would cover things while we were together. Awesome. I'm super thankful for them doing this. So one of the days we finish a small fishing trip and some wine tasting and my partner and I had discussed maybe doing dinner just the two of us. I ask/let my Mom know that we wanted to have a dinner out, just the two of us and they are all sweet with it and say they're planning on eating in. Side note, my Dad still cooks like 6 people still live in a house so already on our holiday we have too much food. So we eventually find a place, order, eat and have some leftovers of a half n' half pizza. We end up going back to the AirBnb and I go to chill in the our room. My Mom comes in chewing on a piece of my partner's pizza and sits down on the bed staring at me. I kinda gave her this look to which she says something along the lines of \"What..why are you looking at me like that/what's the matter??\" I think I said something like \"Well, that's Dan's pizza... you should have asked.\" Immediately she gets angry/hurt/defensive, says something (can't remember), I respond then she leaves. Suddenly outside the room on the balcony I hear her talking quite upset to my partner about what I said.   \n\n\nDan didn't know at all what was going on. He had come out of the toilet and was having a smoke when she came up. (D for Dan, M for Mom)\n\nM: \"Sorry Dan I ate a piece of pizza, I hope thats fine\"\n\nD: \"Absolutely, not a problem, but I would liked to be asked in the future.\"\n\nM: \"Why?\"\n\nD: \"Its just common courtesy.\"\n\nM: \"But we've paid for everything. We've paid for the trip, accomodation, activities. I don't have to ask for a bit of pizza.\"\n\nD: \"Its still common courtesy to ask regardless of what has been done.\"\n\nM: \"Well I've given you all this and I expect the same in return.\"\n\nAt this point we were just trying to get across that common courtesy should be used no matter the case. We paid for the pizza and still may have wanted it, but were happy to share. We tried giving other examples but it boiled down to her believing/expectation that if she gives then she expects to receive no questions in return. We tried to explain that she made it seem like listing what they've paid for was more a gift with strings attached rather than an unconditional gift. We also said that while those might be her expectations, other people (like us) don't necessarily expect the same of others.\n\nIt ended with silence, in the morning it was the same and is still technically unresolved but I was left feeling like I wasn't wrong but guilty because she/my Dad had paid for everything. Reddit, am AITA somewhere in this?\n\n​\n\nTLDR; Mom and Dad paid for part of a two week trip we (including my partner) spent together. Mom got upset when I said she should have asked before taking a slice of pizza from our dinner out. My partner and I were just bringing up common courtesy while she felt that paying for accommodation, activities and groceries entitled her to a simple slice of pizza/not needing to ask. AITA for saying she should have just asked first.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 23, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1062{"id": "hvdbSmlqQFEsxDlfFTCBSkbwrtaU7rU6", "post_id": "a65l3q", "action": {"description": "not letting my little brother use my controller", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not letting my little brother use my controller?", "text": "Okay so for context:  \nI'm a freshman in HS, and I have a little brother who we're gonna call \"Zam\" for this interaction because I don't want to put his name out on the internet, despite it being a very common one.\n\nSimply put, Zam is the kind of person to rage at video games. A lot. A few years ago when we used our PS3 a lot, he broke about 4 controllers in separate fits of rage, and during his fortnite addiction, I heard some loud banging from across the hallway. The next day, he started asking for my controller.\n\nThis controller is simply a wired Xbox controller made for people who want to play PC games using a controller but don't want to spend the 60 bucks on a wireless controller that I got for my birthday. I use this controller a lot for the sort of couch co-op or games that have very simple controls (Think GBA emulation, The Binding of Isaac, Super Treasure Arena, etc.).\n\nSo I say okay at first, but tell Zam he needs to save money up for a controller of his own. He says he will, and I'm alright with this deal.\n\nThat was three months ago, and he has yet to get a new controller, and I've heard him abuse mine more than once.\n\nEventually, I wanted to play some Isaac with my computer connected to the TV so I could sit on my bed while playing, and asked if I could use the controller once he was done with his round of fortnite. He muttered sure and continued playing. The round ends, and he doesn't give it back. Instead, he just queues up again. I tell him to give it back, and he says \"I just started this round, let me finish R\\*tard\". I'm livid at this point, so I unplug the controller, turn off the xbox, take the controller, and walk out of the room. (This was probably an overreaction, but he used R\\*tard specifically against me because I have Asperger's Syndrome). He calls me an asshole for doing that and he attempts to grab me and shove me against a wall. I shove him away, he stumbles, then he runs down to mom, crying, and tells her that I beat him up (He's 12, and he wasn't crying when he got stabbed by a fucking fish hook from his own stupidity). I got grounded for a week on account of \"Treating my brother like crap\", and he taunted me by using my controller the entire time I was grounded.\n\nI had enough, and I've taken it; every time he asks for it I say no.\n\nHe still insists I'm an ass for doing so, and that's the question: Am I The Asshole? I know this is really petty and all, but it would be nice to know.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1063{"id": "gcPO326i6trHB1CNflxmVzF2sxpuHM30", "post_id": "ay348h", "action": {"description": "asking my husband to post a pic of me", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my husband to post a pic of me?", "text": "My (35F) husband (37M) have been together for 10 years, married for 8. We have two kids. I'm pretty active on SM (mostly FB and IG), he posts on FB maybe once a year tops and on IG maybe once a month or so. Neither of us use Twitter or Snapchat. \n\nI have no issue with his SM usage except for one thing - he has never posted a picture of me. On FB he says he's married to me, but doesn't have a single post or picture of me on either account. It's about 50% our kids, 30% travels (either trips he's taken alone or with friends or us together), and 20% his work/friends. About 1/4 of all those pictures include him. Even his profile picture is from our wedding but it's just of him!\n\nWIBTA if I asked him to include a picture of me somewhere? I don't think I'm ugly or embarrassing to look at, and I don't need it to be a sappy post or anything like that. But like, if he's posting a picture of the kids at the zoo, why can't I be in that picture too? Or if we go on a trip somewhere, why not post a picture of all of us instead of just a landscape/the kids/him and the kids?\n\nIs that a weird request? Also, I post pictures of him maybe a few times a year and he has no issue with it. \n\nTLDR: Husband has never posted a pic of me on social media, WIBTA if I asked him to include me sometime?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1064{"id": "wRbYjOsZLluQGIqeK8NenJpeHnZDStZv", "post_id": "asn8at", "action": {"description": "not wanting to hang out with someone that was a bitch", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "aita for not wanting to hang out with someone that was a bitch?", "text": "I could not think of a good title for this. \n\n\nso a few years ago I was being abused by someone, I decided to take it to the counselor and get help and so me and the counselor could get some evidence so we could take my abuser down. \n\nI decided to ask my friends if they had ever seen this guy be abusive and one friend suddenly came out and said that he groped her a few weeks back and was scared to tell someone, I automatically started helping her and me and my friends helped her through this. we would go to counseling together and we worked a good case against him and presented it to the dean. \n\nall was ok until a few days later it comes out that she lied for attention and all the evidence we had could not be used. even my stuff was thrown out as they thought I also lied. \n\nI refused to talk to her after that because she made it easier for my abuser to hurt me and I suffered for her attention seeking. \n\nit's been a few years and some people in the friend group want to invite her out, I explained why I'm against it and they used the \"she changed\" line. \na few friends are calling me a asshole for not giving her a second chance. \nI now feel like garbage and now feel I should?\n\naita?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1065{"id": "k9dSr7KEVyIODoUQxlFgRjaaKopUD2OX", "post_id": "am9ywa", "action": {"description": "ruining a vacation", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ruining a vacation", "text": "So I recently start hanging out with these two guys who are brothers, Levi and Ian. the same age as me (21) at the time. We become amazing friends and spend so much time together and literally can find any way to have a good time.\n\nBut then there is their best friend, (they have the same best friend) Adam. Adam is 24.\n\nAt first Adam came across as friendly and interested in getting to know me. But then one day when I'm in the car with Adam and Levi, I start going through what I like to refer as a \"lull\" where I don't initiate any conversation and just become quiet but it's kinda like I'm socially spent and I just feel \"low\" and at the time I assumed I was depressed but never went to get it checked out.\n\nWell ever since that time Adam started treating me different. If we were all in a car he would talk and interact with every single person except me, even if I said some kind of comment directed at him. The only time he would seldom \"talk\" to me was indirectly when someone brought up something about me that i did that was funny or silly in a joking way and he would take it more serious and thrown in a passige aggressive remark. \n\nIt was like Levi and Ian didn't see it. And at first I thought I was going crazy and just paranoid and I remember literally telling Ian \"I don't think Adam likes me\" and his response was \"I think he just doesn't know you\". \n\nI never experienced this with Levi and Ian. It was like day and night. It was so fun to be around them that I put up with Adam's behavior, even when it meant he would \"control\" the group and be the person deciding what we would do. \n\nLevi and Ian eventually notice my \"lulls\". It was first brought up with Levi asking me what I wanted the most in the world and I said to be on vacation for a weekend. I hadn't gone on vacation in two years due to financial circumstances with my family, my dad having lost his job of 20 years a couple years back.\n\nThen Levi mentions that his family (middle class like mine but on leaning toward upper middle class) had a cabin in the state just north of hours and says would I be down for going on a vacation and I said yeah that was so nice of him. He says we can plan for the end of the summer (it was late June at this point)\n\nIf becomes evident Adam is going on this trip as Levi sends me details of dates and what to bring. I wondered if this was something I really wanted to do as it's been like going to the dentists office Everytime I'm around Adam no matter how hard I try to be his friend, and I want to be his friend.\n\nSo the day comes and it's like I should have turned back and ran but I didn't the moment I found out we were traveling all in Adam's car and suddenly 20 minutes in the driving of a 4 hour drive I'm regretting coming. It's like they don't see that I'm being excluded from the conversation or that anytime i mention something Adam brings up something that he, Levi and Ian exclusively do (they always hang out together and Adam keeps mentioning how next Saturday they should do this or that and Levi tries to act dumb and says \"Saturday\"? And Adam says we always hang out on Saturday. (Adam is making it obvious he wants me to know that they hang out every Saturday without me and it bothers me not that they do but that he's trying to antagonize me with it) \n\nAnd then we get to the trip. It's hell. \nThree days of doing things I've never done before but Adam wants to do and it's like Ian and Levi don't see it and remain who they are usually but at the same different people in terms of acting oblivious to Adam's behavior and to me it's like I'm the only one who sees a fire but everyone around me doesn't even smell the smoke.\n\nI try to hide my \"lulls\" because I know it will upset Adam. I get quiet and try to collect myself during this hellish time and try to be positive but it's too much. A couple times I put on my sunglasses and wipe tears as I pretend to be readjusting them.\n\nThen the day before the last day of the trip I'm in the room I sleep in in the cabin and Adam comes down stairs and says \"whats wrong /jillerski?\" And I say \"what do you mean?\" And he sits down and motions me to sit down (on the bed in front of him because there are two beds in the room) \n\nHis exact words \"you're like a roller, coaster. You're fun to be around and then ten minutes later you're bringing everyone down.\" And I'm like \"....I'm sorry.\" I feel bad because in general I hate bothering people. He says \"this trip wasn't cheap, and you won't be invited again unless you start getting your act together.\" And I tell him I'm sorry that I've been feeling down because of my family's economic problems and that sometimes I don't feel good and he said \"well just pretend to be happy.\" \"You're starting to bring everyone down and it's ruining the trip for Levi and Ian.\" And I said ok and I smiled and went outside and saw Levi and Ian sitting in the boat (we were gonna go out for the day) and they are acting like two people who are trying too hard to not act like they knew what went down. And we go out and I pretend to be happy the whole trip and smiles smiles smiles. \n\nWhen I get home eventually and I get signal back in my phone (couldn't talk to anyone outside of the 4 of us because I had no signal) I get a text from Ian saying \"I hope Adam didn't say anything that bothered you\" and I just stopped hanging out with them and maybe I am the asshole for ruining the trip they generously provided. And maybe I'm even a bigger asshole for not hanging out with them ever again.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1066{"id": "2XvHN3FSl4gEsuCbxAh8YMaFpn83Fsdn", "post_id": "avhah5", "action": {"description": "not letting my old job know my name is still on the website", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting my old job know my name is still on the website?", "text": "A couple of months ago I was fired for no reason from a job I actually enjoyed. I feel like I contributed a lot to the job, but ultimately they didn\u2019t care about me or anything I did. In the end, they turned my position into an unpaid one, and decided to fire me out of the blue. A big problem at this job was management. Things that were supposed to be done by someone else, often ended up being my job and often times ended up being done outside of work hours that I was never paid for. A lot of the people at this job were older than me, and had a lot of problems with technology. Which led to me offering a lot of tech advice, which while appreciated was always met with a snide comment or two about millennials. Like I said, I liked the job a lot though, and so I put up with it. \n\nIt\u2019s been two months and no one has removed my name (misspelled btw because that\u2019s how much they cared about me) from the company website. It still says that I work there and at which position. And even though my name isn\u2019t exactly right online, it\u2019s really unique for the area, and a simple google search brings up my Facebook/social media accounts. I\u2019ve had people contact me asking about details about the workplace/etc. and every time I write back something like, \u201cActually, I don\u2019t work there anymore. The company is just super behind on updating things and its social media.\u201d Am I the asshole for not contacting the company and letting them know their mistake? I feel like I\u2019m only going to get more and more people contacting me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1067{"id": "0pSUtt8qVZERVqaRqKBOOyde2FZy25Bj", "post_id": "azqis6", "action": {"description": "texting a female friend infront of my ex-gf 3 days after we broke up", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for texting a female friend infront of my ex-gf 3 days after we broke up", "text": "Three days ago my (now ex) girlfriend of 4 years and I broke up. I broke up with her.  Tonight we where laying in bed (she doesnt have anywhere else to go rn) and I was texting a female friend whom she had known about for months.  We werent flirting or anything like that, just talking like friends do.  When she saw her name on my screen she immediately got mad and starting throwing a fit. She starts Mumbling things under her breath and turning her back to me.  We got in a small argument about how I'm talking to my friend and not her right now and how it makes her feel bad.  I'm now sleeping in my couch tonight while she is in my bed. \n\n Am I the asshole for texting my friend?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1068{"id": "EeCF3rxMOqUeQks9umbZzANvft8vk4C6", "post_id": "apfdqa", "action": null, "title": "AITA For my why my girlfriend broke up with me?", "text": "So basically I'm sorry if my writing sucks, and this is my first time posting on here so sorry again. Anyways I was dating my last girlfriend for around a month before she broke up with me. We had been flirting and texting with a some real dates, but since her parents were strict and I'm reserved we never really hung out for too long. This is all going great the usual I love yous, then we were hanging out with her friends she had to leave to go home. She texted me after she left, but I didnt even realise she had gone. So while talking to her friends I jokingly sent \"lol are you too embarrassed of me?\" Long story short she dumped me right after that. AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1069{"id": "j66cjkJFFyHS5NxRIrY7tqoB8qG5utBt", "post_id": "au6vma", "action": {"description": "asking for my own possessions back", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking for my own possessions back?", "text": "A sibling borrows a lot of my stuff. I'm 17 and this sibling is a little older than me. I have a job but I'm trying to save right now because I want to go on holiday at the end of this year.\n\nThis sibling borrows my car (which I paid for) and leaves it without refuelling and leaves it in a mess every time. Dirty tissues, rubbish and it always smells of fucking perfume after. My girlfriend got a little worried because of that!\n\nAnyway, she borrowed my laptop case ages ago, saying she'd give it back that day. She didn't. I asked her for it and she literally said \"Bye!!\" and got in a taxi to the train station and went back to uni. \n\nToday, with all the family about, I simply said, \"Hey, can I have that back now please?\" pointing at the case. Holy shit. She started screaming at me saying I'm selfish and blah blah blah. She said \"You've got loads of money, buy it yourself!\" to which I responded, \"I did. It's mine... That's why it fits my laptop perfectly but is loose to yours...\". \n\nThen my mum started on me saying I should share. How the fuck am I supposed to share a laptop case when we live cities apart?\n\nI just want my stuff back. I don't complain about the mess she leaves my car in. The one time I asked for my phone charger back, she flipped out and cried to my parents (I got it back and refused to apologise). \n\nAm I an asshole here? Cus everyone in my family seems to think I'm 'selfish' for wanting my own stuff back. They don't seem to see how much I put up with when I do lend stuff. Fuck, I even 'lent' her money to pay for her friends phone (sister 'jokingly' slapped it out of her friends hand). I think I'm more than reasonable here!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 24, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1070{"id": "tBiquBae8OVbeDPTbfSNQi8LQ1Pcn14R", "post_id": "af6ogh", "action": {"description": "not telling my gf some other girl I know recommend me for my furure job", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not telling my gf some other girl i know recommend me for my furure job?", "text": "So last year in december a girl i know recommend me for my future Job. My gf has a history to get mad everytime anyone whos not male messages me for any reason (study w/e). ive not cheated, we are close to one year relationship and i am annoyed by the fact she gets mad so easy for no reason. So i decided not to tell her directly. When she asked me how i know my future boss and how i got in contact with him i told her. she got mad at me for not telling her \"because i dont talk with her about the important things\".\n\nNo history with the other Girl beside casual friendship.\n\nIm not a native speaker sorry.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1071{"id": "LjJJT9zVjZHBt6PLqMsCroMtTlqCkVp0", "post_id": "b0hrbx", "action": null, "title": "AITA because I won\u2019t wear the shirt mom got me?", "text": "So last September I got hit by a truck when riding my bike. I was okay but I now have a huge scar and my elbow hurts every so often because it dislocated and relocated during the accident and I was in physical therapy until November. \nMy mom jokes that it will happen to every other kid because my older brother also got hit by a truck. My older sister jokes that we are part of the \u201cbumper humper club\u201d. \n\nSo last Christmas eve my family all (except my older sister who lives far away) decided to do the tradition where we all get to open one present before Christmas of my mom\u2019s choosing. My mom hands me this package that suspiciously feels like a shirt along with giving another gift to my brother and has her camera out saying \u201cyour older sister needs to see this\u201d. I immediately knew what it was but just to give my mother the benefit of the doubt I open mine but say \u201cif it is those shirts I\u2019m never wearing it\u201d. I can clearly see a truck on the shirt and threw it away in disgust and did it again when my youngest sister brought it back to me. While I admit this was rude I was emotional and started bawling my eyes out. \n\nMy brother loves his shirt but I never touched mine even now. My mom keeps trying to guilt trip me into wearing it even though I would like not to be reminded that I was hit unless I bring it up and would like to not make people think that I get freaky with cars. She even set it folded outside my door on the cd shelf saying I will appreciate it one day. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1072{"id": "8HTwHarkRpfPhmhTSyMGKtf8uE7D2Ys6", "post_id": "b2bw1g", "action": {"description": "snitching on my mom for putting herself in a bad spot", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA if I snitched on my mom for putting herself in a bad spot?", "text": "throwaway, too personal for main.\n\n​\n\nBackstory: My brother and I play in handball teams, from the same club, but since he's only 16 he plays in a younger category than I do (I'm 18), called U18 for \"under 18\" (which means, I was playing in that category last year).\n\n​\n\nThis afternoon, as per usual, I came to see him and his team play against another team, that I've played last year. My brother's team starts to behind in goals, and the opponents and their coach seem to think this is a great opportunity to be crazily disrespectful, making dirty fouls, clapping loudly whenever our team misses a pass, insulting the crowd and making fun of my little brother's team (\"hey let's try and get that 10 goal lead\"). Things are clearly heating up, and I'm slowly getting mad and excited, even though I still remain quiet.\n\n​\n\nThe game ends, my mom and I are heading out, while my father waits inside gymnasium for my brother. The enemy team's players come out: they're loud, obnoxious, and complaining about a lack of fair-play from our team. I'm out of the car, while my mom's sitting in it. I overhear them trashtalk my club one too many times, and it makes my blood boil. I open the car's door and tell my mom I'm going to see them. I call the other team's coach, and tell him that I reckon he's being pretty arrogant for a coach that didn't see his team win a single game the year prior, and lose every week-end by 40 to 10. By the time I end my sentence, my mom has jumped out of the car, stepped in and is insulting the coach. I know she's short-tempered and really hot-headed, so I'm considering holding her back ; but the coach is already getting inside his car. I turn around and start walking towards our car, certain my mom is right behind me, but after a few steps I hear them both still arguing. When I look back, my mom has opened the coach's car, and she's almost stepped in yelling at his face. I'm pretty paralysed at this point, still very stirred up. I don't move until a few seconds later, when my mom finally comes back to the car, sits in and lets out a sigh.\n\n​\n\nI know what I did probably wasn't the right nor best thing to do, but I just felt like this time I wouldn't let it go ; but I also realise that was she did was very wrong, and that the guy could've hit her. She then asks me that I don't tell my father, as he'd be really angry at her for what she did, because it could've turned out real bad for her. But I also don't want her to do that again, when noone else will be by her side to help her if it turns bitter. This has been getting on my nerves, and I cant get it out of my mind\n\n​\n\nTLDR; my mom and I got into an argument with some guy, but she crossed the line and kept going at him when him and I had backed down; she doesn't want me to tell my dad. WIBTA if I did tell my dad what happened?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1073{"id": "8jGkSreX33MPt8M9KiJAecgKHLSTl2cT", "post_id": "a46l8s", "action": {"description": "not wanting my wife to post sexy pictures on Instagram", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my wife to post sexy pictures on Instagram", "text": "The other day at work my wife sent me a sexy picture of her in some lacey underwear and a bra / bustier type thing.   She sent me the same picture a bunch of times each with a different xmas boarder. She asked which one i liked.  I responded \"goddamn, all of them\".\n\nThen she asked which one she should post to her instastory.  I responded \"none of them, wtf?\"  since then she hasn't spoken to me. Today is day four of the silent treatment\n\nI pointed out that her followers are not only friends and family, but also some of my coworkers, and some of her employees.  She made the argument that it's s the same as a bikini, which i disagree with because one doesn't wear lacey bikinis.\n\nI'm not sure that it matters but my wife is a very attractive woman and the mother of my 7 year old child.  I often get the \"what is she doing with you\" kind of jokes. \n\nI feel uncomfortable having friends, family, co-workers and other parents from my sons hockey team seeing my wife in her underwear.\n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1074{"id": "ttNmdAKdkAzUB0NiypB5cViBligW57Ot", "post_id": "9xr2xq", "action": {"description": "just wanting my cleaner to shut up and clean", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for just wanting my cleaner to shut up and clean?", "text": "She cleans for me 3 times a week, 4 hours each time. She:\n\n1) constantly is talking to me. About her life, her child, in very broken English. I do not mind some small conversation but I feel I need to leave my house to avoid these interactions because it\u2019s constant. It\u2019s hard for me to leave the house because I\u2019m very sick with this pregnancy. Really annoying. \n\n2) talks in this ridiculous baby voice to my pets and keeps cuddling them and kissing them. I just want her to clean their cages and leave them alone (rabbits and guinea pigs). They don\u2019t like being held upside down/dangling mid air and she keeps doing it. Briefly, not torturing them or anything but wtf...\n\n3) is always giving me advice. \u201cYou\u2019re going out in those high heels?\u201d Or says things like \u201cI can\u2019t wait to see how HUGE you get in your third trimester (I\u2019m pregnant). Touching my pregnant stomach (just small taps one or two fingers). \n\n4) comments on our things being expensive. We don\u2019t have a lot, but the things we do have are very nice quality. Towels, shirts, appliances. She just keeps mentioning it over and over. \n\nI don\u2019t want to seem like I\u2019m being snobbish but I really just want her to come, clean and leave. Or perhaps it\u2019s me and I\u2019m being unfriendly. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1075{"id": "ihZigFvFinTqn66oK3CiKY87DhhjXSrd", "post_id": "9v09z6", "action": {"description": "purposefully ignoring my Mom's I love you texts for 4 years", "pronormative_score": 51, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For Purposefully Ignoring My Mom's I Love You Texts for 4 Years?", "text": "AITA For never returning my mom's love? My mother lives in Nevada. I'm out here on the West Coast so of course messaging is the only way she can contact me. She tells me she loves me and she misses me, she tells me happy birthday and Merry Christmas. She gives me encouragement and tells me to stay strong, and I never say a word back.\n\nSome backstory:\n\n When I was 6, my mother was arrested for child neglect, drug abuse, and most likely other charges I'm too scared to ask about. She's been married once and has had 5 children with all different men. All but one of us never met our fathers. I was put in a foster home, and eventually adopted by a Native-American Ex-Marine father and African American mother of whom I love dearly.\n\nI grew up alright. I struggled with learning disabilities such as ADHD, mild medical issues, and did alright socially. Due to the legality of the arrest, my mom had been forced to leave the state and was not permitted to contact me until I was 18. Until then, the only thing I had to remember her by was two photos of us taken in a DHS office that I had nailed to my bedroom wall. \n\nA couple months after my 18 birthday she finally contacted me via Facebook. It was an extremely emotional experience. I wanted to know so much about myself: who my father was, what my nationality is, why did she have to leave, and small things like who's personality did I get? Hers or dad's? Do I have her eyes or my dad's nose? The more I asked the more I my heart sank. She didn't know my father. It was between multiple men. She didn't know my nationality either. She then told me how sorry she was, and how much she missed me. And told me she was abusing crack cocaine for years, even for 4 months during her pregnancy with me.\n\nI haven't spoken to her since. She's sweet I guess. She's clean, found her faith in the Christian Church. She tells me how much she regrets what she's done and how she wishes she could take it back, that she just wants to be part of my life. But I can't find it in me to love her back. She's a stranger to me. She calls herself my mom but I have no idea who she is. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 50, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 51, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1076{"id": "wPT6iFDD7ZP54s6wCH30As18MGf4s2SO", "post_id": "apoqnn", "action": {"description": "being annoyed after being ignored by my (ex)-\"friends\"", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed after being ignored by my (ex)-\u201cfriends\u201d?", "text": "First of all I wanna say that I\u2019m german so my English might have wuite some mistakes but hopefully is atleast understandable. I also just remembered this sub while being confused andhope this is the right place. I don\u2019t really am a frequent reddit user and made a new account just for this. So I don\u2019t really know how all of this works but here I go.\n\nSo I am currently having quite a hard time with one group of friends from high school. It\u2019s been around half a year now where from my perspective they started becoming more and more distant. Or rather me and my best friend at that time. The last time we did anything together was a week before Christmas and since then it especially went down the drain.\nI should probably add that both of us are kinda broken on the mental side which lead to us not really being able to react properly at that time making us grow apart quite a bit.\nIt ended with me becoming distant or excluded from the rest of this group of friends. They ignored me, wouldn\u2019t talk to me and did stuff without me. \n\nThen in the beginning of this year my mind cleared up a bit. But they kept ignoring me. One day then I was told I was too negative und that that only dragged them down so they started to avoid me. And I can at that point only agree that I was still pretty negative and all.\nBut them ignoring me didn\u2019t really make that better at all und made me grow more annoyed and confused which in tirn would make us grow even further apart.\n\nSo I decided to offer a full turn. I wouldn\u2019t be negative and just stop doing so and they in turn wouldn\u2019t ignore me. And then we did that.\nOr so I thought. I took extra notice on my behavior and all and didn\u2019t really do anything they complained about (yes I\u2019m certain about that. I even kept track and wrote that down for a bit).\nBut even though they agreed they didn\u2019t do anything of the agreement. They stayed distant and kept treating me like air.\n\nAnd now a few days ago after I tried to initiate talking and all, which failedin both ways. When I talked about stuff I was interested in and that happened to me or just asked general questions I was really just talking to a wall. Now I tried going with something they ((ex)best friend) was interested in.\n\nAgain I need to say how I made these friends rather recently when one of them transferred to my school 1.5 years ago. And they also were the first proper friends (or so I would say) in highschool (we are close to finishing but my mind stopped me from being able to properly interact with others before them).\nAnd through my (ex)best friend. I opened up quite a bit and was able to start doing things I always wanted to do (join a theatre group, considering going to a dance school) but also stuff irrelevant to them (eg. school chorus).\n\nGoing back to the other thing I tried. After I tried talking about that topic and before that aswell in a way I now realize. \nThey accused me of copying them and that being the only reason I do those things (subjective interpretation of what they said). They also wrote that they would still be avoiding me because I would be so negative and annoyed which I have to admit, I started tobe again after they did nothing of their part while I kept pretending that it didn\u2019t bother me to not be negative.\n\nSo AITA for reacting negatively and annoyed (I would be ... I don\u2019t really know ... unfriendly I guess) after they ignored me for so long me being sad about it, reconciling afterwards but them not doing what they said they would. \nAnd especially now after they simply told me that they will avoid me even more after I didn\u2019t just remain cold after all of that and also accusing me of just copying them and being to only reason I do the things I like.\n\nAm I in the wrong for reacting negative to this.\n\nI don\u2019t remember what I am supposed to write at the end and I just hope I didn\u2019t come to the wrong place cause I don\u2019t know if this is appropriate for this sub nor if it violates the rules but I really don\u2019t know.\n\nI also apologize for the outdrawn sentences I know they are/were annoying if you read this far. And I already want to thank you for that.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1077{"id": "4gxlmR6q0DjkmunWK3WwBiAr6ca1ytDC", "post_id": "apmqlo", "action": {"description": "telling a kid to have better hygiene", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA for telling a kid to have better hygiene?", "text": "I'm currently in high school. I sit next to this Indian kid every single day. We are sorta neutral, just classmates. His scent is VERY strong.  On top of that he is extremely annoying and always touches my shit. I always tell him to stop messing with my stuff. Today he took my $200 headphones I worked all summer for, and dropped them on the floor for no reason. If he touches my stuff again I'm gonna tell him that he smells bad,needs to take a shower,and if he touches my stuff again I'd rock his shit. Would I be the asshole here even though I've told him to stop touching my shit? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1078{"id": "ZheRIsS3c76nbsPFllePOPgKjUfr8k0h", "post_id": "atazz5", "action": {"description": "telling a homeless man to back the fuck off", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: For telling a homeless man to back the fuck off", "text": "So recently I was eating lunch at a fast food restaurant and doing my homework at the same time. I had my earbuds in and felt a tap on my shoulder. When I looked back to see who it was a big guy wearing an old torn jacket asking me if I had money to help buy his lunch. I said no and put my earbuds back in he tapped me again and made up a sob story about how is mom was in the hospital. I just said no again and put my earbuds back in. The third time he happed me I got really pissed because I had already told him no twice and after the second time he had gotten close to me and closed off the exit from the booth (I think he was trying to intimidate me). So I angrily took my earbuds off stood up and aggressively told him to back the fuck off. Once I said it he backed off and left me alone. But a few of the people in the restaurant gave me a dirty look and i felt bad. So reddit AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1079{"id": "S2QyVxl9QJNs3wTXyLtUHSf4XHeTIu2P", "post_id": "abt6wg", "action": {"description": "thinking people ask easy, misleading questions on this sub, where they deliberately paint themselves innocently, only to seek reassurance", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for thinking people ask easy, misleading questions on this sub, where they deliberately paint themselves innocently, only to seek reassurance?", "text": "This'll probably be branded as a sanctimonious shitpost, and if that's what you take away from it, I apologize, but that's really not the intent. I just felt like this was something no one talked about, so I'm attempting to now. I've only recently actively looked into this sub, but I've fleetingly seen posts for quite some time now that have really grabbed my attention. People seem to write in often where the scenario they depict is almost too outrageous and ridiculous to believe, or they seem very obvious that OP would is NTA. It really looks like people take the catharsis to a little too close heart, and forgot that honesty and transparency is needed in order for any of the resolution to be genuine.\n\n​\n\nThe only outlook I have in these evident posts being genuine is kind of a cynical one. It's sad to say, but I think it's really possible there are plenty of people who really don't know or know how to expect someone close to them to be a decent human being with fairness and compassion. They often land themselves with people who aren't worth a damn because they don't know they deserve better or the right to fight for improving their quality of life with family if they've truly been wronging you. I really hope that's not the case, but, either way, it boils down to the conditioned inability to stomp out the bullshit, or you being the one creating it.\n\n​\n\nI don't doubt that many of you have candidly presented yourselves as unbiased as you could, but, what's funny is that no one has pointed out how absolutely absurd it is to expect someone to \"depict both sides of the story\", like the sub states. You will always be speaking for the other person. No matter how bipartisan you are about the ordeal, phrasing is everything, and anyone can tell a story differently without changing the events to make themselves the victor and the other the villain. These nameless people the OP has conflict would almost always have a better chance at gaining favor or defending themselves if they were able phrase things the way they wanted to, or at all for that matter.\n\n​\n\nBy the other extreme, there's nothing stopping anyone from making up a dishonest, slanderous story to reap the affirmation they might desperately desire to quell their unchanging, narrowed outlook on any given situation. I don't blame them to be honest, because it seems like something we all do to some extent. Reddit, and social media in general is a great place to escape to and experience a rare and odd form of gratification, especially in the way you present yourself to other people. You get to control how much or how little you want someone to know, and since verification of these types of \"text only\" stories doesn't really exist, there's nothing stopping you from completely inflating your ego and confirming how \"right\" you are, even at the expense of the truth.\n\n​\n\nThis is in no way a novel concept, but I feel I really need to say that some things are better left unsaid if they can't be told sincerely. If you need some kind of break from reality or can't face the decisions you make, that is entirely your choice and freedom to do so. I just don't think it serves any kind of long-term benefit to pose as these relatively innocent, guiltless people if that's not how you exist in the real world.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1080{"id": "Nwo2TKA0x3dQFXTCG7OVIheSQiFsb0la", "post_id": "at0v9p", "action": {"description": "falling asleep on the couch", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA For falling asleep on the couch?", "text": "20yr old male living at home, fell asleep sitting on the couch after/during family devotions. 20-30min later my Dad tries to wake me up and somehow manages to massively piss-off 90% asleep me, causing me to jump\\\\lashout\\\\violently wakeup resulting in him being kicked in the leg(something I would never do intentionally and most certainly not while awake) by my boots. He the proceeds to Shout, Scream, yell, and otherwise make known(waking the whole house in the process, that I'm no longer allowed on the couch,He will throw me out next time/just throw water on me, and that i am some sort of ungrateful wretch because he was only trying to help me \"so i wouldn't sleep weird and mess up my back\"  . All the while poor 1\\\\2 awake me is still trying to figure what happened and trying to apologize. \n\nNow, I pay my parents rent, am generally responsible, and feel like this is completely unacceptable behavior on his part. Especially seeing as I am well known to be a violent and unpredictable sleeper on my best days(I have no idea why. If you do LMK, id like to change that)\n\n​\n\nThats the story. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1081{"id": "xkcQ3OTSdSdnYlURfkIEDhSM5By3Q10m", "post_id": "9tcxbo", "action": {"description": "pestering my friend for money they owe me", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for pestering my friend for money they owe me?", "text": "So a few months ago, I let my friend borrow a ten-dollar bill when she needed five to buy lunch, and then later another ten to get me something from Taco Bell. She said she'd pay me back the first time, and then didn't get me anything the second time and said she'd pay me back. I trust her, so I didn't say anything for a week or so. Then she started buying things like a new phone case and a new vape pen, and even though it's not a lot, I was still annoyed. I started asking her when she's pay me back, and she was kind of snotty about it and said that it was my problem. I was upset and started asking her everyday, and she one day waved a 20 in front of my face at work and then said that if I stopped mentioning it, I'd get paid. I did, and still nothing. I've started making snappy remarks back and leaving notes for her about it, and my friends have asked her about it too. She complains that we're too annoying and she should take more money because I'm stressing her out whenever I mention it, but she's still annoying herself about it. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1082{"id": "3lx5RFriegTH7duKGMROh3mzkv58KzqS", "post_id": "9ywje1", "action": {"description": "not wanting my girlfriend to hangout with her former lover", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my girlfriend to hangout with her former lover?", "text": "So I started dating this girl about 5 months ago, when I met her she had told me about her past relations which I did not judge her about. One of the guys she had relations with was her best friend from her home town whom she said she was in love with but he broke her heart. I've always told her that she is and adult and she can do what shes wants, I would never tell her what to do. Shes been keeping a friendship with him through texting ever since we started dating. She told me yesterday that on Friday  they are going to hang out (she didn't tell me what they were going to do). Am I the asshole for not wanting her to hang out with this guy, ever. Really love this girl but I dont want to be hurt because of this. He is single, and about 2 months ago his girlfriend broke up with him.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1083{"id": "6JwL86RQSn5sElurvl9cTWUP6vpY1Yrl", "post_id": "a5uqrs", "action": {"description": "not helping my friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for Not Helping My Friend?", "text": "I have this friend who is like a sister to me. She's been my best friend since we were very young (like 5-6). We'll call her Brittany.\n\nSo recently Britney has been severely depressed and has been suffering from panic attacks. We do not live near each other, so we only get to see each other about once a month, but we talk every day. Brittany has been having panic attacks during which she is unable to breathe and cannot talk. I receive a snapchat from her every day early in the morning or between 6-8 PM of her crying with captions along the lines of \"I hate myself\", \"I want to die\", \"I'm having a panic attack and I want to kill myself\", and even \"I want to shoot myself\". Every single day I reply with \"I'm so sorry\", \"what can I do to help?\" \"I wish I could be there with you and help you through this\", etc. Every day I receive a reply with sometime similar to \"you can't understand\" or \"you don't really care about me.\" She also flips out if I leave her on read/open for more than five minutes.\n\nI feel like it is worth noting that I also suffer from depression and anxiety, and I have been seeing a therapist about it for years. I have also encouraged Brittany to seek help, and to go to therapy or see a doctor, but she ignores this advice and instead chooses to deal with her panic attacks and depression by vaping and occasionally abusing drugs.\n\nLast night, I was very upset about a personal situation. I was not in a place to give advice, and frankly, I wanted to die. I was in a bad place. Brittany sent me one of the usual snapchats- \"I want to kill myself\"- to which I sent back, \"me f\\*\\*king too.\". Minutes later I get one saying \"wow thanks, you're such a great friend\" (obvious sarcasm), to which I replied \"I'm sorry, but I'm going through some shit right now and I honestly just want to die.\" I was pretty upset, so I turned my phone off.I woke up to a message saying \"well, that doesn't give you the right to treat me like shit.\" I left her on read.\n\nAITA?! I love her (she's family to me) and I want to help her, I really do, but I don't know how anymore.\n\n​\n\nTL;DR: Friend is suicidal and when I told her I was too she flipped out on me for \"treating her like shit\".", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1084{"id": "v8nx21D5w4LoXb6q8klT9VKgnBkIUgOB", "post_id": "b3ciwd", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my boyfriend for saying \"n-word is a normal word like chair and table, but idiot is offensive\"", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my boyfriend for saying \"N-word is a normal word like chair and table, but idiot is offensive\"", "text": " Last night I was going out to dinner with my friends because one of them is moving to the USA for a year. My friend (F24) told us \"I will be having a hard time not saying nigger\". My friend is not the brightest and I never heard her say that word before in my company. Before I could realize what she said another topic has brought up.\n\n​\n\nLater in the car I told my boyfriend (M28) that I was shocked by her saying that. My boyfriend said he thinks \"the N-word is a normal word like table and chair\". I asked him what he thought about the word \"idiot\", he said that was NOT a normal word but offensive. He went to the movies earlier that day and saw Green Book, which is about separation from white and black people in public spaces that happend a few decades ago.  \n\n\nI tried to talk sense to him but he was only offended of words if it offended HIM?!\n\nThis all just blows my mind. I just don't understand how they are so ignorant.\n\nAm I overly sensitive and should not be offended by this, is this not my place to feel offended about?  \n\n\nTL;DR: Found out my friend and boyfriend have no issue saying the N-word and I had no idea my 'friends' are so ignorant.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1085{"id": "yIqS9i2x5VHYJwPNDeZjtffaOH9ztmAU", "post_id": "b0b7zd", "action": {"description": "telling my disabled classmate to be quiet", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my disabled classmate to be quiet?", "text": "I know, this sounds really bad but theres context needed. \n\nIm in a band class with a disabled kid. He constantly shakes his hand and disrupts the class with loud yelling/growling (i don\u2019t really know how to describe it). He also doesn\u2019t listen even though he can. I don\u2019t say anything to him as I know somethings he just cant control, but I know he can control his growling (?). During competitions he has put us in risk of being disqualified for playing when we aren\u2019t supposed to. I do not want to come off as rude or disrespectful in anyway but I want the band to be able to focus and play without any distractions and it\u2019s difficult. A lot of people dislike him for this reason and I try to keep it down but its though, I want to talk to him and ask him if he can keep it down but, WIBTA if I did that? I don\u2019t want to be rude in anyway as I do not know what he is going through and I don\u2019t want assume. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1086{"id": "EQgPOUBQ5YMw1rtbwdsjxoB92QRW6ECh", "post_id": "av09ft", "action": null, "title": "AITA: \"Breaches of trust\" With my Girlfriend", "text": "Me and my girlfriend recently broke up after around 2 years. Before she ended it she took a shit at me breaching trust within our relationship \"too many times\" so here we go. \n\nBreach of trust number one; about 2 months into our relationship, she took a summer school course, and she was very close with guy, like extremely close, i had people asking me if they were dating because that's how close she was. Super hands on and touchy. I had access to her snapchat to send her streaks and curiosity got the best of me and i read a convo between them to find she cheated.\n\nAnd the final one. We decided to have sex, one of the times, ended in a pregnancy scare(we did use a condom), being 17, we were terrified of it. It was late at night i was calming her down she went to bed i was still terrified, naturally i talked to a friend who was 21 and could provide some help in how i could handle it. The issue she saw with it was early in our relationship, we agreed that what happened in our sex life stayed between us and she was pissed, and i mean pissed i spoke to somebody about the fact that she may be pregnant. \n\nSo all in all we broke up, she put emphasis on how those 2 breaches of trust were too much so she cant continue on.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1087{"id": "VJ6pAcaKLjWlnPYcNWAvZyeo8DbIuydD", "post_id": "aiszb7", "action": null, "title": "AITA", "text": "So over spring break I am going on a trip to DC with my school. We got to choose rooms though one of my best friend and I were rather late to sign up so we didn't have much choice in rooms. There were 2 rooms left and each room only fit 4 people, one room had 2 people already in it and they were 2 super hyper and annoying 7th graders and the other room only had one slot left and had 3 general calm and lated back kids in it. We decided that we would just bite the bullet and go with the room with the 7th graders though to day I thought about how better my trip would be if I went with the other room so I decided to switch without discussing with my friend. He's rather annoyed that I didn't even tell him I was switching I just would like to know what Reddit thinks, was this just an asshole move to change or did I make a good choice.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1088{"id": "qQr9O0gmc3XXy9ps8iTjqB88E2UMOeIL", "post_id": "9tet1z", "action": {"description": "choosing my friends over my gf", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for choosing my friends over my GF?", "text": "So I'm just after an argue with my GF and I certainly feel like one. But I let the people of reddit decide what is what.\n\nThe background: I have a very close group of friends, some of them I know since I was too little to walk. They are very close to me and I really like time with them. My GF has a little bit rough relation with them, but she doesn't mind me meeting with them.\nUnfortunatly there were situations, when I prefered spending time with them, rather with her (usually she and I had plans, my friends had plans and I wanted to fit into their plans). \nAfter a situation, when I was at the party on the other side of the city and she had a 30min nausea and nosebleed problem (I would get to her in about 20-30 min, and I thought that she would feel better soon) I promised her that I will make sure that she will be my top priority.\nI also made a mistake of being unprepared for her birthday at the start of this year, what was a big FU for me.\n\nThe situation: my close friend will have his birthday this month. I was invited today, and I told my GF that I want to come. This lead to the argue I mentioned before. We wanted to come back to our homes for the weekend that the birthday would take place, and we would probably spend time together. It was clear, that I would have to stay in order to attend this party. She got mad at me, because I promised her that she will be the most important to me.\nShe asked me why I want to make his (my friend) birthday good, when I ruined her birthday, why I broke my promise so soon, and why is she the \"second one important\".\nI told her, that he is very important to me, and It's his birthday in comparison to just coming back home to spend some time together.\nI promised her that it will be the Last situation that they (i.e. my friends) will be more important than her.\n\nNote: she has to go back as she has some students she must teach to on that day.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1089{"id": "EthG2QJ4B5LnC9YkdpWmqyrdeDdxtDZ7", "post_id": "au0xul", "action": {"description": "yelling at my friend's girlfriend at a gaming bar", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for yelling at my friend's girlfriend at a gaming bar?", "text": "My friend Kevin and I were going to a local gaming bar/LAN to hang out (yesterday) and he mentioned wanting to play Magic the Gathering with paper cards since he started playing the online MTGA game. I told him I had some cards in my attic somewhere and that I can bring a few decks to play yesterday. I knew that his gf is a little controlling about what he does sometimes so I even asked him if he's sure that he wants me to bring my cards. So I spent like 2 hours rummaging through my attic for my cards and brought them to the event. \n\nAfter we play a few rounds of another game, I ask him if my friend wants to play Magic now. Before my friend can answer, his girlfriend just interjects that he's not going to be playing anything but the game we're currently playing. So I told her we already made plans to say and asked her \"what do you mean he's not playing?\". She ignored what I asked and just repeated that he's not playing and \" I don't care if we already made plans\". At that point I was a little more than pissed and I started yelling that she can't just tell me that my friend's not playing in his place and that she's really disrespecting me. She just ignored everything I said and started telling the people around us that I have anger issues and that everyone else should be careful of this guy(referring to me). \n\nI got really pissed at that moment so I started packing my things up and got ready to leave but I was stopped by Kevin. He was nice enough to ask me if I still wanted to play but I just said \"I'm pretty upset and it's probably better if we don't play\". Then I just left with another group of friends. \n\nBy the way, I'm a straight guy, so it was purely platonic intentions.\n\nAnyways, Kevin's gf apologized to me today about telling everyone else that I have anger issues, but I'm pretty sure that it's only because some other people I knew from the bar told me that Kevin told her to apologize to me. I apologized also and just pretended that when she said he couldn't play it was only a joke and I completely misinterpreted. But at the time I was 100% sure she was serious about what she said, or did I really misinterpret at the time?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1090{"id": "2cW4cbyZUmfg2voH0zwORm54aW4Bjmab", "post_id": "b2ngr8", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my boyfriend over a Christmas's gift", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my [25F] boyfriend [25M] over a Christmas\u2019s gift?", "text": "I know the title makes me sounds like an asshole but let me explain the whole thing.\n\nMy bf and I were together for 2.5 years before I broke up. Since the beginning there were several things he used to do that\u2019d make me feel uncomfortable. i.e. we different taste in music and if I posted a song on some social media he\u2019d comment \u201cthat\u2019s garbage\u201d or \u201ctrash\u201d just to let me down. \nThere\u2019s also a huge festival in my city every year that\u2019s basically a whole month (June, for Saint John\u2019s) with lots of concerts and dancing and stuff. All my friends go to this place for this festival every year and I really wanted to go when we were together but he told me he didn\u2019t wanna come and that he\u2019d be mad at me and stop talking to me if I went there with my friends. \nHe was also selfish when it comes to do things I wanted do and would only go to places that only he wanted to go and I had to come with. But he\u2019d make a total of 0 effort to be with me when I wanted to go somewhere, and I couldn\u2019t go by myself either. Plus, he was cheap and if I bought anything with MY OWN MONEY he\u2019d tell me I\u2019m spending too much money and that I didn\u2019t need whatever I was buying even though it was MY MONEY. \nLong story short, around Christmas I had enough when he told me he was going to buy a brand new and special edition of the War and Peace collection, by Tolstoy and he knew I wanted to read this collection for a while now and he already had a collection himself. When Christmas came I was really excited and he came to my place with my Christmas gift: his old collection of War and Peace he\u2019d no longer need because he bought himself the new special edition. I mean, HE BOUGHT HIMSELF THE NEW COLLECTION AND GAVE ME THE OLD ONE HE ALREADY HAD FOR CHRISTMAS.\nBy that time I had enough. For everything that was wrong with the relationship that made me uncomfortable and now this. It wasn\u2019t the gift itself that made me upset, but the fact that he put 0 effort on my gift. He just needed someone to get rid of his old collection to and thought I\u2019d be the perfect person to get this.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1091{"id": "sg1zwNtoorLfCodRT7lqJAMjAm7WiPeN", "post_id": "b9zfh0", "action": {"description": "doing this", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA Would I be an asshole for doing this?", "text": " I quit my job last May due to a lot of personal issues caused by the place and several issues with management. I mean this manager drove off every good employee including myself. Now the owner was a nice lady most of the time I was there. Toward the end of my 3 yrs there she started going through a mid life crisis and became a bit of an entitled twat. Boss's mom worked there as well and I LOVED this little old woman like she was my 2nd grandma. She is literally the only reason I would still visit the store.\n\n​\n\nRecently the little old lady had a heart attack. She's had her surgery and is in recovery. I am super relieved by this. The manager asked for several days if I would come back because the boss and her mom were both out due to this. I always said I had other plans. Not lying I legit have tests for autism coming up and am trying to get an appointment for possible skin cancer tests.\n\n​\n\nToday she sounded extremely desperate. Said she would let me come in whenever I wanted, that it was only temporary, that things were royally fucked and they NEEDED some serious help. I agreed to come in and talk about it tomorrow. I have to admit I REALLY don't want to do this, but I do still like the other owner and I know he would greatly appreciate it. I also know it would make little old lady's recovery less stressful.\n\n​\n\nTwo things are very concerning to me. One is that she would not discuss why things were so fucked beyond reason and Two is she would not discuss how I would be paid or how much. If they are I am going to insist it's in writing or I walk. I know that's probably an asshole move, but not why I'm writing this.\n\n​\n\nOnto the thing that I feel like makes me an asshole. I want to limit this temporary work if anything. I can't decided between 2 weeks or 1 month. I know that the recovery time for a triple bypass is 3 months and it's getting close to summer meaning they'll be SUPER BUSY. I know I should do the full 3 months to help out. I just cannot explain how much I do not want to return to a place where I felt so unappreciated, stressed, depressed and angry...I literally woke up everyday and my first thought was \"ya know if you just break your hand they can't yell at you.\"\n\n​\n\nSide note: They totally would have yelled at me for breaking my hand. The old manager made fun of me for having a kitten funeral and balling to the point of vomiting which is a whole other thing, so yes this place is pretty fucking shitty to work at and they would totally make it about them.\n\n​\n\nWould I be an asshole for limiting the time I'm willing to return?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1092{"id": "bhQsVtc8UBmWnEDt8R91hdxYEHMbsJYv", "post_id": "at9yvl", "action": {"description": "kicking my mom out", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for kicking my mom out", "text": "So there\u2019s a bit of backstory. My mom is 48 and I\u2019m 26. She hasn\u2019t worked in 5 years. We lived together in TN until I moved out to ATL at 17 because of her domestically abusive boyfriend. She had a child with him and my half-brother is now 5. She ultimately moved to Seattle to get away from him. She was in Seattle for less than a year before her twin sister, and later her mom, kicked her out for allegedly being too difficult to live with. I offered her to move in with me so she can start fresh, get a job, save for a car and ultimately get her own place for her and my brother. Since she\u2019s been here for the last 5 months I\u2019ve: built a resume for her, my sister has applied to numerous jobs for her, she has applied herself for 0 jobs herself. She despises my GF and was mad at me, at the time, so she destroyed my relationship by FB messaging her that I was cheating on her. My lifestyle has changed significantly as I don\u2019t care to have people over now that I\u2019m essentially living my mom again. She is as my family put it \u201cdifficult to live with.\u201d My new stress has factored in to me drinking more which she profusely points out, as if this is the stem of the problem (I\u2019m a mellow quiet drunk just so there aren\u2019t any ideas).  I\u2019ve been through so much stress since she has been here. She has once locked me out of my own apartment when she was angry with me. My utilities have literally tripled as she is nonchalant with energy usage. She offers nothing towards rent or bills and I\u2019ve been fiscally struggling since she\u2019s been here.  I told her that I would be ok through all of this if she would just get a job and advance her situation. She says she was depressed and that\u2019s why she hasn\u2019t looked for a job. I suffer from depression too but if had a kid I wouldn\u2019t let anything stop me from providing for my child. I don\u2019t want to end up hating my mom by prolonging this situation. I told her she needs to make plans to leave. AITA for kicking my mom, and therein my brother, out?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1093{"id": "06IWNNNR9IJWZaeKt18zRW0wxqqL8QY8", "post_id": "auf8nq", "action": null, "title": "AITA Lady's food was falling on me almost the entire buss ride", "text": "I go to school to another town (30/35 km away, 1 hour and 15 minutes) and i need to switch between 2/3 busses (2 if im lucky) and this incident was happening on the 45 minute buss ride to my hometown.\n\nI was frustrated enough because of the school (FYI im 16) and i even missed one buss to the station so i needed to walk there.\nI wait on the station while it's snowing for 10 minutes and get on a bus. \n\nI find my seat and sit next to the window (becouse i could make my hood and a hat into a \"pillow\" and sleep in the corner) and i immediately look who is getting into the buss.\n\nThere was alot of old people who were sitting in the front and there is 4 rows on each side empty so i was relived hopping that I was gonna sit alone and have more leg space.\n\nAfter 5 minutes one lady rushes in the buss at the last minute with 4 hamburgers (I live in the Slavic country so hamburgers are usually enormous) and runs through 4 empty rows and sits next to me.\n\nThe strong smell of onions quickly filled the entire buss and she just started maniacally bitting into them so food started falling on me. I am usually pretty calm guy so i just brushed it off and scooped over to my side more and she moved herself to my side to fill empty space.\n\nI was ignoring it until a flipping bug jumped if her shoulder 5 cm away from my face. I just flipped at her and started yelling at her for 5 minutes. (FYI i have a pretty deap voice so it was scary for her)\n\nShe picked up her stuff and moved to the next seat, red in the face, not eating anymore just sitting quietly.\nAm I the asshole in this situation? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1094{"id": "QLMdaEZUigKL5J75v5CCfpZbxI5qVjia", "post_id": "avrr1k", "action": {"description": "not paying for the damage after accidentally spilling beer on a stranger's phone", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not paying for the damage after accidentally spilling beer on a stranger's phone.", "text": "So couple of weeks ago, a flatmate of mine invited handful of his friends to hangout and have some beer. There was a guy sitting on the floor right in front of the TV. He called me over because he wanted me to open his bottle of beer (I did that for a couple of people using my teeth). I went close to him and opened his bottle. As I was planning to hand the bottle back to him , it slipped outta my hand and fell on the floor. Some of the beer fizzed out on the floor and I noticed his phone lying on the floor, in the puddle of beer. I quickly grabbed his phone and handed it to him to avoid any damage to the phone. After a few minutes, he shows me that there's a black line on his screen but we didn't talk much about it. \n\nA week ago he starts calling me and my flatmate, asking for the money to replace his phone screen. He calls me multiple times a day and I've stopped accepting his calls. My flatmates told me that I should not pay for the screen and I think the same since his phone was on the floor and I had no intention to damage it. Also, I'm really annoyed by the amount of calls and texts this guy has been sending my way and any sense of guilt is gone because of this behavior of his. AITA for not paying him for the damage? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1095{"id": "gXmPKAaDLiB3X59r612s4MewgxHEJYhT", "post_id": "am4dhg", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend she had to wait for me to mature", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for telling my girlfriend she had to wait for me to mature?", "text": "My (20m) girlfriend (19f) an I have been dating for 9 months and all has been going well until a recent argument. \n\nI still live with my parents and until very recently I\u2019ve been very dependant on them for multiple things including money, food and car rides. On top of that they have always dealt with things such as planing for family vacations and applying for my Canadian citizenship without keeping me in the loop. I know,, I was, quit spoiled. \n\nThat being said, last summer I got a job and a drivers license and apart from still relying them for a place to live until I finish collage I do everything on my own. \n\nMy girlfriend on the other hand was not spoon fed like I was and had to work from a young age to afford anything and often had to cook her own meals. She moved out of her parents house at 17 and apart from occasional asking her parents for money she has been entirely independent for the last two and half years. \n\nThe problem arises when she brought up the fact that I was very immature when it came to a lot f things. From forgetting to turn off the stove when I finished cooking and leaving stuff out of the fridge (I have never cooked before) to not lowering the toilet seat ( I always had my own bathroom).  Little things, but there are many more.\n\nShe was clearly frustrated and I let her know that I intended to do everything I could to fix all the issues she had brought up but it wouldn\u2019t happen overnight and she\u2019ll have to wait. This only added fuel to the fire, telling me she doesn\u2019t deserve to wait. And that was extremely rude of me to imply she had to put up with it. We end on the fact that if I don\u2019t manage to mature the relationship will end.\n\nI feel like she doesn\u2019t understand that it\u2019s not something that happens overnight and I\u2019m doing everything I can to fix it. So, AITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1096{"id": "W8hgaDWBbRRQXUmmVPbfJ1tcubinEmha", "post_id": "aymehn", "action": {"description": "dropping out of a group project competition the day before the competition", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for dropping out of a group project competition the day before the competition?", "text": "Little bit of background, it\u2019s an academic competition that I am competing in with a group of people (namely my sister and another set of sisters). (Yes this is a high school thing, I am a senior in high school). My sister and I were cut off from competing through our own region because our original partners told us we couldn\u2019t work with them the day the project was due (so we couldn\u2019t have time to even put something together). So we joined forces with these other two girls we met through this competition who live in a different region to compete through their region. However, this meant that my sister and I would have to pay for everything on our own- registration fees as well as travel expenses. Our parents were not willing to help as they felt it was unimportant.\n\nInitially, we thought the finances would be an issue. We even told them we couldn\u2019t do the project because we couldn\u2019t afford to pay the fees out of pocket, but we convinced ourselves and each other that we could make it work through getting jobs and making the money ourselves. At this point, we didn\u2019t know exactly how much this competition would end up costing. We were just determined to make it happen. \n\nLater on, after we had registered for the competition, our partners told us that the registration fee would be $60. At this point it was too late to back out, so we decided we needed to find a way to raise that money ourselves. \n\nFast forward to tonight, one day before the competition, the girls tell us we have to bring 60$ checks to the competition tomorrow. My sister and I can\u2019t write checks (I mean we know how to we just don\u2019t have checkbooks) so we had to ask our parents, who freaked out when they realized they\u2019d be having to cut checks for 120$ for both of us... and eventually if we moved on, it would be even more. They basically told us that we couldn\u2019t afford to go on with this competition even if my sister and I raised that money ourselves, as we need that money for college. \n\nSo I told the girls the situation and they got pretty upset. For now, I\u2019ve told them we would do whatever we could to make sure we could pay that 60$ each and show up to the competition tomorrow, but we told them we might have to drop out for further levels of competition. Long story short- they\u2019re pissed. AITA here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1097{"id": "QYeGJ0Ow7kRGp64u7qpbGYEBjeHxnjaT", "post_id": "a1ou5h", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be friends with my best friend's immature social circle", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to be friends with my best friend\u2019s immature social circle?", "text": "Everyone in my situation is in their early to mid-twenties. \n\nA little background info:\n\nSo I am 21 years old and in college working on my teaching degree.  From the ages of 14-18ish my life was chaotic because of situations I put myself in. I was constantly gossiping about people, spreading other people\u2019s secrets, getting way too drunk, victimizing myself when things would go wrong, talking about vulgar things a work to get attention (like going into extreme detail about my sex life to coworkers I barely spoke to), etc. \n\nWhen I was 18 and had dropped out of college after graduating 2nd in my class in high school, I realized I didn\u2019t like the person I was becoming and was embarrassed by my actions. So from there it took a lot of mindfulness and practice to be a better person, and although I still sometimes catch myself starting to do my past behaviors, I do genuinely feel like I\u2019m a good person that makes a positive impact on other people\u2019s lives. \n\nNow to the current situation:\n\nI have a best friend, D, who I\u2019ve been close with since middle school.  She loves having big groups of friends rather than close, individual friends so she always wants me to hang out with her friends.  The problem is, most of her friends act the way I did when I was 18. It was so so hard for me to break those habits so I don\u2019t want those behaviors around me. \n\nFor example, D\u2019s other best friend, H, is constantly flirting with married coworkers and slept with her ex\u2019s brother to make him jealous.  I don\u2019t want to be around H because it frustrates me to hear these stories and I don\u2019t want that kind of toxic energy around me anymore. I figured since I haven\u2019t known her very long (only a few months) it wouldn\u2019t be very damaging to stop the friendship.   D told me I was being very judgmental about situations that don\u2019t affect me at all and can just be funny stories to hear about. \n\nAnother example is with D\u2019s friend A. Long story short, A had a one night stand with a guy, the guy didn\u2019t want a relationship, so she\u2019s been harassing him for the past YEAR, lied about aborting his kid (she was never pregnant), stalks his current girlfriend, creates fake profiles and phone numbers to contact him since he blocks her every time, etc. When he rejects her, she cuts her arm and sends him pictures. I don\u2019t want all that in my life. D says I shouldn\u2019t take it too seriously since A isn\u2019t hurting me directly. \n\nSo, AITA for judging these people and not wanting to be friends with them?\n\nTl;dr My best friend has very chaotic (imo) people in her life that I don\u2019t want in mine. Am I too judgmental?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1098{"id": "8UdxNt8uz0jlung9kZpvJfqfrRj2EpUR", "post_id": "atwvb1", "action": {"description": "flaking on my teacher", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for flaking on my teacher", "text": "So, I contacted my former high school teacher a few weeks back asking for private classes, he didn\u2019t have time, but would ask around.\n\nA week later, we had a phone call, where he introduced the teachers and their time schedules. He told me he needed a definitive answer within a week.\n\nIn 4 days time, I asked him to make some adjustments (changing a certain part I wanted to learn, removing some teachers, cutting some of my hours)\n\nWhen I asked him what the total price would be, he wrote a paragraph saying that he spent a lot of precious time in search for teachers and that because I made too many adjustments in such a short timeframe, he asked me to transfer the money within 4 days, to a bank account in another country (belonging to his father), so he could avoid taxes.\n\nBecause I\u2019m still abroad and he asked me to transfer the money within 4 days, my parents did not approve of it and told me I should first meet again, before transferring the money. \n\nSo when I told him that and apologised for wasting his time, I got a message saying that he wasted 3 years teaching me, that I wasted not only his, but also other teachers their time, that I apparently didn\u2019t trust him and that I really needed to work on my way of doing things and that he was really disappointed in me and that the connection (as in networking) has basically vanished now.\n\nI mean, I felt sorry, but I also think it was a bit of an overreaction on his part and that it\u2019s actually very unprofessional and that he could have simply said \u2018alright, unfortunate\u2019. I haven\u2019t replied and I probably won\u2019t.\n\nSo, am I the asshole for essentially flaking, although it were my parents that did not agree, or is he for overreacting and talking me into a guilt feeling.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1099{"id": "kIkmBVanldkHFOdirViOXAUpV5LUhOly", "post_id": "a92z7k", "action": {"description": "wanting my sister to acknowledge my apology", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for wanting my sister to acknowledge my apology?", "text": "  \n\nFor context: I am currently in Africa doing an internship and my sister is in our home country and has been mentally unstable for about three years now. All of our contact has been through messages sent back and forth. We both handle our problems very differently. I am a person who will apologize quickly, so I lash out once I truly lost my patience and she is more the person who will wait until something blows over.\n\nSo we have had a small argument about something insignificant a few days ago. I decided to swallow my pride and apologize to her. I thought I did so in a very carefully constructed way, telling I should not have done the things I did and that I was sorry. She did not respond. It might have been her way of handling the argument we had. Cooling down before sending a message, so that it would not be written out of anger. I decided to text my mom asking if I had done anything wrong.\n\nAs time went by, I was getting more annoyed, since I was the one reaching out and swallowing my pride. I did not want to show any of this anger to my sister though, since we have always been very close and me hurting her might sent her back into mental instability. I ended up venting a lot of my anger towards my mother and saying that I want my sister to apologize to me. She managed to calm me down and I went to sleep. \n\nThis morning, I saw that my sister had sent some messages and I was secretly hoping they were apologies. However, These messages were just to show her side of the story and telling me she does not want to include our mother in our arguments. Then there were some casual messages afterwards to try and end this entire situation. This almost broke my patience, since I felt the only reason I included our mother was to protect her from myself. Additionally, she still ignored the apology message I had sent the night before. I sent one message saying that I did not like it that she ignored my apology, because I had to use a lot of self-control to type it. I think it might have been her way of putting this entire situation behind her and moving on. I feel that I need her to at least say that she appreciates that I apologized.\n\nNow I feel like I might sent some hurtful messages if I contact her again, since my patience is almost spent, but I still want the opinion of others. She was right that I should have not included our mother, but the situation gnawed at me and I had to get a second opinion. \n\nSo now I would like to ask you guys: Am I the asshole by saying I want her to acknowledge my apology?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1100{"id": "qjOLDnr1cmYMSJbpHBkbLoFaHGWFsHFG", "post_id": "aon7j3", "action": {"description": "being mad at my ex girlfriend for something that happened after we broke up", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my ex girlfriend for something that happened after we broke up?", "text": "We've been friends for about 10 years and after about 6 years of friendship we started sleeping together while we both had traveling jobs. Eventually we did decide to start dating and see where it would go. It was a strain on both of us as we had difficulty communicating and finding time with each other. We broke up for about 2 months. \n\nDuring that break she was on tinder and starting sleeping with a guy. Things happen, she was single and I completely understand. We ended up starting to be friendly again and fell right back into dating. She had only been seeing this guy for a couple of weeks and only knew him from Tinder. \n\nAfter we got back together I noticed that she kept chatting with him. What really got to me was on New Years Eve he texted her  and she was chatting with him briefly. I had a very frank discussion with her that it seemed strange to me and it felt like she wasn't cheating but basically keeping him in reserve if it didn't work out between us. She said she would stop talking to him. After that, we still both had our traveling jobs and would only see each other monthly and really didn't learn anything from the previous times so eventually we wound up breaking up again. It's been about 6 months and we're doing our best to renew our friendship as much as possible but she admitted he was the first person she slept with after we broke up. \n\nIn our time, I was never insecure about being on the road, I feel very secure we wouldn't cheat on each other but that was the one thing I was insecure about and it ended up manifesting itself to be true. She says it's not wrong, which is true, but I still feel disrespected. \n\nThoughts? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1101{"id": "9F5317oNH6TD0oZbKPXcIOB7NhfLa3vB", "post_id": "ayp37v", "action": {"description": "not telling my boyfriend I pissed the bed", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for not telling my boyfriend I pissed the bed?", "text": "Throwaway for obvious reasons. For some context, I have a bladder issue and while I'm medicated for it and have a plan, tonight before bed I just couldn't pee. I figured I didn't drink enough in the past hour or so before bed and I'd just go in the morning. Bad decision, because about 4 hours later I'm awake in a warm puddle. \n\nI did as much damage control as possible at the moment, I removed all blankets and am soaking it up with a towel. After I get home from work, I plan on changing the sheets. I'm just absolutely mortified and while I know he wouldn't be mad, I'd just die if I told him. But he doesn't have to work, so if I tell him he can change the sheets earlier and run them through the wash before bed. \n\nWIBTA if I just... Didn't mention it?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 14, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1102{"id": "ENOOoVKbKpkmPVwOPaRvgVocjbg0nvuS", "post_id": "b8qtmu", "action": {"description": "hating my best friend's crush for leaving him when he revealed to her that he's been depressed almost his whole life", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for hating my best friend\u2019s crush for leaving him when he revealed to her that he\u2019s been depressed almost his whole life?", "text": "I\u2019m biased, I know. And I know sometimes people can\u2019t take it when they find out other people are depressed, I get it. \n\nBut I can\u2019t help but be angry. I\u2019ve met her once, she seemed like your average peppy and happy-go-lucky girl. I didn\u2019t have an issue with her, nor did I think anything about it at the time. What I know is that he really liked her for a long time; I suppose to the point that you could say he was in love with her. He spent all of his time around her and they hung out a whole lot for a while.\n\nBut a month ago that changed. Although we\u2019re close, we never really hung out too much, and now all of a sudden he\u2019s always asking me if I want to hang out. I\u2019m with my friends, but we invite him along as he knows them.\n\nOne day, when we were together alone, he broke the news to me. I always knew he was depressed, and I\u2019ve always done what I could to help talk to him if he needed it. He\u2019s a very private person, so he never told me too much though. When I found out that she just left him right after he told her, without any hesitation and without saying anything, I was beyond angry. I was confused how someone could be so... heartless.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1103{"id": "judsWeGHNzv1kAiWadtyc2VobcIaNmQ7", "post_id": "as6nbw", "action": {"description": "giving an in-game punishment (D&D) for a (sort of) out of game disagreement", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for giving an in-game punishment (D&D) for a (sort of) out of game disagreement?", "text": "Hi, I made a reddit account just to post this because it's been weighing on my mind all day.\n\n​\n\nSo I've been playing Dungeons and Dragons with this group for about 2 years; I'm the dungeon master, meaning I control the story arc, world, and overall flow of the game for anyone not familiar with it. One player in the group who has been a friend for years (henceforth referred to as R) constantly interrupts the game by talking loudly, arguing with my rules, and generally trying to get everything to go his way. Others in the group have complained about his disruptions as well, and I have had many conversations with him on how to improve.\n\n​\n\nNow, to the current story. The session was already going awry because the group kept splitting off and fighting amongst themselves. I honestly don't care what their characters do, but I do care when the players yell and fight as it causes a disruptive environment. So R had been goofing off with another player, Z, all night. They sat in the corner and talked and didn't pay attention which slowed play down for others since I had to keep repeating myself for them. Z has really never been a problem so I simply told her to quiet down and she apologized (even though the behavior continued). R, however, refused to acknowledge what he was doing was wrong.\n\n​\n\nBy the end of the night, I was fed up. About 10 minuted before the session was due to end, I tossed a marker onto the table which R then picked up and hurled at my face (probably trying to be funny). I was pissed. So I waited until it was his turn in combat again and told him to either pick up the marker or have disadvantage on the rest of his rolls (roll twice and take the lowest). He refused and another friend picked up the marker to avoid confrontation. So I then told R to either apologize for his behavior or have the same punishment. He refused and said he would continue playing without listening. I skipped his turn and continued playing with the others. He proceeded to quit the game and then sulk around for the last ten minutes (because his car was trapped between others and he couldn't storm out like he wanted to).\n\n​\n\nI was ready to go to bed after dropping off another friend, but I instead came home to 15 messages from R. He began by pouring out his heart about how much he was looking forward to the evening and I ruined it, and how he spent his own money to pay for snacks (we paid to feed him dinner), and generally being manipulative. He called me an ass/asshole exactly 7 times. He complained that I singled him out instead of dealing even punishments. I was reading these messages and crying (I cry when I get frustrated) so my mom snatched the phone from my hand and read the messages. He is no longer allowed at our house.\n\n​\n\nI know I will eventually forgive him, but I was tired for taking to high road for once. So was he right? Was I being the asshole by punishing him over others?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1104{"id": "Kdkl9TsuMDW99ydp0ObX94zFIy2X98Bb", "post_id": "arcc0p", "action": {"description": "cutting off contact with a friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for cutting off contact with a friend?", "text": "Sorry for the wall of text.\n\nSo a bit of backstory. I was friends with this person for a few years, and at the start of this schoolyear we went to different schools. At the end of last schoolyear, I noticed that I was always the one iniating contact, whether that be just texting or asking to go do something. Now, they weren't ever hostile towards me or gave any indication that they didn't want to be friends, but they just didn't seem to have any interest in doing anything with me outside of school. I noticed this with all of my other friends there as well, so when I switched schools I just decided to stop contacting them. I stopped texting them, didn't ask them to do anything, etc. Just to see if anything happened. And nothing did. No one tried getting in touch. So I just decided, fuck it, if you dont want anything to do with me then I'll stop trying. Now my friend texted me out of the blue, for the first time in months. Im not sure what to do. AITA for cutting of contact?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1105{"id": "mjkrINdNnD2fMQP6hY3xyMu11ZI7NYwI", "post_id": "aqyyo6", "action": {"description": "weaving past people on a bus to get the best seat", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for weaving past people on a bus to get the best seat?", "text": "So bit of background. I get the bus to work which takes approximately 50 minutes. I am 6ft5 and get a little bit anxious when I feel like I'm in a confined space, not panic attack bad but I find it difficult to relax and my stomach goes a bit mad. My stop is the first stop so the bus is empty, and most of the seats are difficult to fit my legs behind. As a result I have a really uncomfortable journey. That is unless I get one of the seats on the top deck of the bus at the front, where there is legroom a plenty. It's the only seat I can comfortably sit in. \n\nThe bus stop is pretty busy and most people want this seat, however the vast majority of people are significantly shorter than me, and I am always the tallest person there. So when the bus pulls up I will weave between people to get round them and get that seat. My reasoning is that they will suffer little to no discomfort from sitting in the seats with less legroom. To clarify this isn't a queue where you are rewarded for being early, it's a bit of a free for all and you're rewarded for guessing where the doors stop. The unwritten rule is that if you guess right you are rewarded by getting to go on the bus first, generally people don't push past each other once on the bus has stopped. I however flout this rule believing my need for the leg room seat to be greater. \n\nI mentioned this to a friend and she said 'ahh tall white male assumes he's entitled to the best seat on the bus, typical'. She was joking but it got me thinking, should I actually be doing this or am I being a selfish asshole. \n\nA few clarifications: \n\nI do not use my size to physically push past people, for a tall lad I'm quite nimble it's more of a weave. \n\nThe queue system is respected generally once the bus has stopped\n\nIf it was a traditional queuing system I would go early, let a bus go by and make sure I was first in line for the next bus. \n\n**TL;DR: Am I (a tall man) the asshole for weaving past people to get a better leg room seat?**", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1106{"id": "q8DUiAxK1PgxBYOZKHuLFw3Uu7LKOU5N", "post_id": "b2rzbm", "action": {"description": "turning down someone I accidentally led on", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for turning down someone I accidentally led on?", "text": " \n\nThis is all high school bullshit, so if you\u2019re not up for melodrama then avert your gaze.\n\nI met this girl at a party and we both had a good time reconnecting good memories from our time in middle school. We haven\u2019t talked since 7th grade and now we are seniors in high school.\n\nWell we texted on and off for around 3 months now and we tried scheduling dates but both of us couldn\u2019t fine time to get together for coffee. I liked her for a few weeks but after a few cancelled dates (mostly from my schedule) I gradually lost interest\n\nToday she texted me and asked if I wanted to go to prom with her, and I told her I am already going with friends (which is true).\n\nA few minutes later she posted on social media that she was \u201cembarrassed\u201d and now I feel like total shit.\n\nI feel like I ruined her prom plans and since I consider her a friend, I feel I\u2019m a total cunt for not saying yes even though I don\u2019t have any feelings for her.\n\nAm I the asshole?\n\nTLDR: I met an old friend from middle school at a party. I accidentally led her on and turned her down, leading to her having her feelings hurt. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1107{"id": "VG1IccrFyOYthRyOzf8ug0FANrD4Pqnp", "post_id": "b0uzjy", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Boy with Aspergers asked me to prom in a big class where I said yes, but talked to him later and explained why I didn\u2019t want to", "text": "To preface this post I\u2019d like to say I have known this guy for a long time, we will call him Saul. Saul has Aspergers, and although mild, I\u2019m assuming it is still hard for him to read social cues.\n\nAlso, because of this, Saul is loved by everyone in my grade. Everyone loves to praise him and he is truly a great guy to be around!\n\nOn multiple occasions, Saul has asked me on dates where I declined kindly, but never rudely. This has happened about three times, and I\u2019m assuming he should have caught on by now.\n\nWell, today, Saul asked me to prom in a class full of about 25 students, and really put me on the spot in front of everyone and made it so I didn\u2019t feel comfortable. I said yes to avoid the scrutiny of my fellow classmates, all eyes were on me and I truly didn\u2019t know what to do and didn\u2019t want to be viewed as \u201cthat bitch\u201d.\n\nAbout a day later, I talked to Saul in person about how I didn\u2019t really want to go with him and how I felt he pressured me into it, even though he may not have realized that. He seemed understanding, and never acted like he was hurt, but I\u2019m not sure what to feel...\n\nAm I the asshole for going back on my word?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1108{"id": "NtSrprqLX9uh6XflIM40kyfQjyC2g9AR", "post_id": "b6zm6n", "action": {"description": "telling my parents that my son can not stay with them", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my parents that my son can not stay with them?", "text": "Growing up my parents have always been hoarders and they have always had animals that shit and pissed all over their house. When I was a kid, I didn\u2019t think much of it, but I left and joined the military as soon as I could to escape the trend that my family was trying to get me to follow as well. I love my parents and even though we were very poor, I never wanted for anything growing up. Now that I am older (29m) and have a son (3 months) they want him to come stay with them and I can\u2019t stomach letting him be in a place like that. We will come over to visit, but their house is toxic and very unkempt. I told them while my wife was pregnant that they needed to get the carpets and subfloors replaced in the house if they ever wanted our son to come over. I guess they assumed that that was an empty threat and now that he is here they are realizing that it wasn\u2019t. I don\u2019t want my son to miss out on time with his grandparents, but I also don\u2019t want him in their house. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1109{"id": "tHDHHBWeM7kNH0kH5LYvkVAUpITvfyNi", "post_id": "akfvki", "action": {"description": "jokingly calling my gf a stalker when she told me she made a playlist in regards to me", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for jokingly calling my gf a stalker when she told me she made a playlist in regards to me", "text": "Hear me out before the instant judgement \n\nMe (23) and my gf(20) have been together 10 months and love each other a lot, but lately we\u2019ve been arguing a lot over minor stuff, the other times she admitted she was at fault and apologised. \n\nThis time however I am seeking reddits judgement. \n\nWe were having a normal chill conversation and just talking over text, she tells me she made a playlist that makes her think of me, I replied \u201cu stalker\u201d and then sent \u201cwhat songs init doe?\u201d And she replied saying I upset her and she\u2019s not sharing now. \n\nI said \u201cwait did I actually upset you?\u201d And I said \u201cI\u2019m sorry if I did, I didn\u2019t think it was a big deal, I was just joking, you don\u2019t really think I\u2019m gonna actually accuse my gf of being a stalker lol\u201d\n\nShe said I don\u2019t mean my apology and \u201cit\u2019s fine\u201d\n\nAnd then guilt tripped me a bit, which I bought up, and she said \u201cI\u2019m not trying to guilt trip you in any way, I\u2019m sorry that your joke which is really funny to you made me feel crap when I was trying to express myself\u201d\n\n...I really didn\u2019t intend any harm and we talk to each other like that loads and joke together, but for some reason she\u2019s changed about it.\n\nAnd now I\u2019m getting paragraphs of text about it and I just really don\u2019t understand how something like that can get blown up so much? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1110{"id": "19nfgH7J1UI4RpzfjnzGnrL4PyerMuKI", "post_id": "ba0uy7", "action": {"description": "yelling at a kid over sauce packets", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for yelling at a kid over sauce packets?", "text": "I work at McDonald\u2019s and we have those new Kiosk thing where you Can order your food and pay at the counter or whatever.\n\nA couple of kids, about 14/15 walked in today and went up to one of the kiosks and I saw one just start repeatedly tapping over and over again. I gave him a look and I hoped that would be enough to stop him from continuing, but he went on with his business, after a while of this, he and his friend come to the counter with this order\n\n2 fountain drinks\n1 Large fries\n420 Creamy Ranch Sauces\n69 Special Sauces\n\nI gave him a very upset face and I can hear from the back \u201cWhat prick put a 69 on my screen?\u201d And I point at the kid and say \u201cAnd a 420 too\u201d. Half the staff is looking up at him with very upset faces. His face turns bright red and he rushes out, his friend trailing behind him. I void the order and go on with business.\n\nMy friend say that it was an over reaction and I should\u2019ve just given him a warning and told him not the do that again, but I feel the look was already the warning. So am I the ass here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1111{"id": "G72mOCPFGNyPklJMs6KW0qAkwmvk6l44", "post_id": "a5kil5", "action": {"description": "not wanting to spend Christmas day with my family", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to spend Christmas day with my family?", "text": "Last week I had an early Christmas dinner with my family so my grandparents could celebrate with us too, as they don't live locally.\n\nI arrived at the family home early, played some board games with my grandparents and helped my mum and sister with their hair and makeup.\n\nMy stepdad sat upstairs playing PlayStation. Nothing wrong with that, he likes to chill after work. But he was yelling/swearing at a game nonstop for 2+ hours. \n\nLater, when he was downstairs, I overhead him saying to my 15 year old brother, 'you really are a waste of space, aren't you.' Not in a joking way, in a I genuinely dislike you way.\n\nWe go out for dinner and at the table my mum brought up how 'awful' my sister's eyebrows/makeup used to be. My sister is visibly uncomfortable/upset with everyone chiming in about her sense of style and asks my mum to stop talking about it. She doesn't.\n\nI said that as a general rule, criticism of someone's appearance should be asked for and not just blurted out. I could sense an argument brewing so I said, very pointedly, 'we're not talking about this now'.\n\nThe rest of the meal was fine besides a few obnoxious comments from my stepdad calling my brother a 'boring loser' and we head home to play games.\n\nWe're sat round a table getting ready to play games and pouring drinks and I ask if someone can pass me a cracker joke so I can send a photo of it to a friend who has a love/hate relationship with corny jokes.\n\nMy stepdad tells me to, 'get off your phone, you freak.' and keeps saying it. I childishly respond like, 'gEt OfF tHe PhOnE' \n\nHe reaches over and smacks me in the head and I just lose it. I yelled at him, calling him a 'fucking idiot' and a 'miserable old cunt' who ruins every occasion with his bullshit.\n\nI leave the table and he's trying to bait me, like 'aw, are you going to run away'. I decide it's best to call a taxi and dip as I'm so angry.\n\nAs I'm waiting my brother asks if he should go upstairs to see if I'm okay and my mum just says, 'No!' \n\nMy grandma messages me the next day asking if I was okay. My mum messaged me two days later asking if I wanted a baking tray dropped round, completely ignoring anything that happened. \n\nEvery year it's the same old drama. I cannot deal with such negative people for extended amounts of time.\n\nI decided I wasn't going to bother going over on Christmas day and now everyone is up in arms.\n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1112{"id": "bIPe6tejgmblIVGKdMyCLTORvfBOaLVv", "post_id": "almcsc", "action": {"description": "spending time with my friends and not giving that much attention to my gf", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for spending time with my friends and not giving that much attention to my gf?", "text": "Context: Lunch period is the only time which I can see my friends, but I see my girlfriend at nearly every passing period and have multiple classes with her.\n\nAlso, this just happened earlier today, just FYI.\n\n​\n\nI'm at lunch with my small clique in the school cafeteria. My friend and I were about to play some Smash Ultimate on my Switch, which I had brought at the request of said friend. After one or two 3-stock games, my girlfriend, who shares a lunch period with us, begins to get up close to me and says, \"I want attention.\"\n\nMy girlfriend is quite obsessive. Any chance she gets to see me, she'll take it, and God forbid anyone gets between her and me, even her/my own friends. If she wants attention, she'll get it, one way or another.\n\nI take notice, but keep playing. I do, however, put my arm around her, as well as offer her my controller so she could play. She denied the offer.\n\nThe bell rang and I gathered my things. My gf was visibly pissed. I asked her what was wrong, knowing full well what was wrong. At first, she said, \"Nothing. I'm fine.\" However, it was clear, even from the way she said \"fine\" that there was a problem.\n\nAnd then she blew up on me (I'm not gonna transcribe the whole convo, it's late and I'm tired). I apologized so that she would calm down, especially since we had history together next period, and I did not need that awkward tension.\n\nSo, should I have paid more attention to her and turned aside my friend, or was I in the right?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1113{"id": "ffJ5yTWJvSvuQXSS2LeNuHYyzbqpJl97", "post_id": "b76vgg", "action": {"description": "suggesting my SO's parents are stupid for giving us a $1,000 graduation gift yet they constantly complain about money", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for suggesting my SO's parents are stupid for giving us a $1,000 graduation gift yet they constantly complain about money?", "text": "My girlfriend tells me fairly often that her parents tell her that money is tight in the time since her parents have been retired. I know it bothers my girlfriend because it makes her feel bad. \n\n​\n\nWell, she's about to graduate college and we're about to move into our first apartment together. As a graduation gift, my girlfriend's parents are planning on giving her (us) up to $1,000 to spend on a bedroom furniture set for our apartment. \n\n​\n\nLast week I mentioned to my girlfriend I think it's ridiculous they want to give us $1K when they complain about money all the time. She brushed it off.\n\n​\n\nBut she brought it up again tonight, saying that I ruined the gift for her by making her feel like shit about her and her parents. She says I always condescendingly critique her parents and their financial decisions/behaviors and belittle them. (It is true that I take problems with a lot of their actions and don't hesitate to voice what's wrong with them to my girlfriend.)\n\n​\n\nI told her that I told my own mom about it and that my mom agreed that SO's parents are whack. I told my gf this and told her that's why I decided to voice my opinion about it. She was very upset.\n\n​\n\nSo, am I the asshole for simply pointing out the very contradictory words and actions of my SO's parents?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 17, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1114{"id": "50uLemdrXgCVO1ELs4De1NroIYs9Ba65", "post_id": "ay1jne", "action": {"description": "sleeping with my friend's ex", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for sleeping with my (21M) friend\u2019s (20M) ex(21F)?", "text": "About 8 months ago, my friend and roommate (let\u2019s call him Tom) hooked up with our neighbor (we\u2019ll call her Sally) (idk if this is important but before and after this we were all friends and still are). Now, keep in mind, although my roommate is a pretty attractive dude, he hasn\u2019t really been with very many people (to my knowledge only one before her and one after her). \n\nAnyway,  after they hooked up, Tom started telling people they were dating. When Sally found out about this, she didn\u2019t want to embarrass him so she went along with it and then broke up with him a few weeks later. In the wake of it, he was devastated and very angry. Right after this, summer quarter at our school began and it happened that Sally and I were both staying and taking classes. We never did anything over summer but we did become very close friends and hung out almost every day. During that time, I became attracted to her and unbeknownst to me until recently, the same thing happened to with her.  \n\nAfter summer, Tom studied abroad and was gone for a few more months. When he got back, it was obvious that he still had feelings for her by how he acted around her (super nice, a little nervous, etc.)\n\nAbout 2 months later, we were all at a party and all very drunk. A few hours before the party ended, a group of us left early to go hang out at Sally\u2019s apartment (Tom stayed at the party). \n\nSally and I both blacked out and ended up having sex. Anyway, I told Tom because I felt bad and after we talked for a little, he forgave me.\n\nFast forward another month and Sally turns 21. Now at this point Sally and I are the only ones who are 21 in our friend group so we go out to a bar to celebrate. Now Tom won\u2019t talk to me and I feel really bad but I\u2019m not sure I did anything wrong. Am I the asshole in this situation? (Also suggestions on where to go from here would be very appreciated). ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1115{"id": "Hm5aHUsWA73nyn0C8Atvp9lcIB1z31wB", "post_id": "a1qvsc", "action": {"description": "abandoning my fwb at detox", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for abandoning my FWB at detox?", "text": "This story has a little bit of character setup before getting to \u201cthe incident\u201d. A fwb of mine had moderate to severe alcoholism coupled with depression and anxiety. She had to have a drink first thing in the AM and first thing when she came back from the university and nursed a buzz almost all day. She knew she had a problem and in her words was \u201cwaiting for some incident to give her a wake up call.\u201d \n\nHer main job was a bar tending gig back in her home town 2 hours away on the weekends. 3 weeks straight I got snaps every night of the weekend of her driving drunk. Since she was mixing her anxiety and depression meds with alcohol, she blacked out pretty much after 2 drinks. She doesn\u2019t remember our first 5 dates because of this and we both are speculating the only reason she blacked out so easily for a period of a few months when she went on new meds.\n\nOn top of all this, she was a \u201crunner.\u201d She\u2019d be in a group of friends and just decide to take off. Not in a sprint, but casually say, \u201cI have to go to the bathroom\u201d and then leave the bar for us to try and track her down. This happened 3 times when I was with her.\n\nHer mentioning she needed a wake up call wasn\u2019t too alarming to me. Loads of college students drink and I didn\u2019t take her seriously about being an alcoholic. After the month of drunk driving snaps is when I realized this could end poorly.\n\nThe incident. \n\nOn one of the weekends she wasn\u2019t scheduled to work, we went out for a late dinner with a mutual friend. She had been drinking all day and had 2 drinks at the restaurant when she became unresponsive and passed out in her seat in the restaurant around 9:30 or so. She had never passed out before. Blacked out-many times, but she didn\u2019t sound inebriated or display any sign of drunkenness whatsoever in any of those situations. We were both pretty fucking embarrassed and I was a smidge angry to have to drag a passed out women from restaurant. The mutual friend that I had dinner with also was aware of my fwb\u2019s drinking problems and that she was in a downward spiral. In jest, one of us had mentioned,\n\n\u201cWe should just drop her ass off in detox for alcohol poisoning so she can finally have her god damn wake up call. She wont remember the last 8 hours of today anyways. She will probably think a stranger dropped her off and would be none the wiser.\u201d \n\nSo thats exactly what we did. I left and went home. She came to and sobered up there, and had no idea how she got there, or any recollections of the evening. I lied to her and said we got dinner and a few drinks, and then she ran off as she was prone to and we couldn\u2019t find her. A week later or so, she got her hospital bill which was a few grand she couldn\u2019t afford. I stopped seeing around this time, so I\u2019m not sure if \u201cshe had her wake up call or not.\u201d \n\nTLDR: dropped an alcoholic off at detox to give them a wake up call when I could have easily just taken care of them at home myself.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1116{"id": "lvByv5eQ3HAvlK9C9PBMKavx1TU7czus", "post_id": "aryuhs", "action": {"description": "talking to high school athletes about stuff that's not sports related", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for talking to high school athletes about stuff that's not sports related?", "text": "I have a second job as a coach for a high school girls lacrosse.  We currently have pre-season training going on and I see the kids a few times a week to run around the indoor track or do weightlifting. It's always run by the head coach and myself (assistant coach) but because I work closer to the school, sometimes I get to the school first and get practice underway until the head coach arrives. \n\n​\n\nThe athletes had practice on Valentine's Day, and I decided to change things up a bit. The head coach was still en route so I gathered the troops and talked to them about Galentine's Day while we waited. In my monologue, I suggested they recognize all the strong women that came before and use this day to turn to each other and make a commitment to celebrate and unite as strong, young leaders. I finished my statement by saying it's hard being a woman in today's culture and girls should stick together and work to raise each other. My speech lasted about 60 seconds, most of the kids seemed receptive, and afterwards practice went on as usual. \n\n​\n\nThe next afternoon I get an email from the school's athletic director with the head coach and some other big honchos cc'd in. He instructed me, in no gentle terms, that I was a coach and my interactions with the students should be strictly lacrosse related. The AD was not thrilled with the fact I was \"pushing an agenda\" without the head coach present and gave me a slap on the wrist for \"unprofessional behavior\", implying that I wouldn't get a third chance. \n\n​\n\nI reached out to the head coach immediately to ask what the fuck was going on. She told me although my intentions were good, apparently some athletes thought I was specifically targeting them in my speech for being mean to other girls on the team. One told her parent who went over the coaches' heads straight to the athletic director. Head coach acknowledged that I had the best of intentions, but it wasn't my place to say that to my athletes.\n\n​\n\nI am utterly flabbergasted. I thought telling high school girls \"women are great, be excellent to each other\" was simple and safe but apparently not. I thought I was doing something good but everyone around me seems to believe I stepped out of line. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1117{"id": "IpPLdufktzk6RwkQk3Yhq6zDkSfPmxw5", "post_id": "ac3qn5", "action": {"description": "wanting an apology", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for wanting an apology?", "text": "Throwaway since my entire household uses reddit. Sorry, kind of long.\n\nOn Christmas day, one of the roommates offered everyone in the house some of his opened bottle of wine. It was gone by that night. \n\nI had received a different bottle of wine as a Christmas gift from my mom. I left it on the table for the next few days, intending to put it away, but it kept slipping my mind. It was one of those Game of Thrones bottles with a pretty cool label. Game of Thrones is a big deal in our house, and I had wanted to open it for the premiere. \n\nI came home from work Friday to find it opened and half drank. Pretty bummed, I wanted to know who did it so I could explain that it had been mine. When I found out, I texted him and just let him know what was up - that was mine and had been a gift. He immediately replied that it was the wine our other roommate had offered to him before it was offered to me. I explained that no, that bottle was gone. The one he was drinking tonight was mine. I got no reply. \n\nThe next day I was busy and really only saw him in passing. On Sunday afternoon when I saw him again, I asked if he'd be willing to replace the bottle or if I was just eating the loss. He got a little annoyed and said people drink his stuff all the time and he never asks for it to be replaced. Now, there is one person in this house who drinks other people's alcohol on a regular basis and it's not either one of us. And he knows that. I said I only cared because it was a Christmas gift that I had a plan for, then walked off to my room, deciding not to pursue it further at that point. I realized it was partially my fault for leaving it out. As I entered my room and pushed the door closed it shut rather forcefully. Totally unintentional, I swear. I wasn't really feeling more than disappointed and a little frustrated at this point, and I haven't intentionally slammed a door in anger since I was a kid. \n\nWe ran into each other a little bit later and he asked, \"You do understand it was a mistake, right?\" I said a bit tersely \"yeah, but you haven't even apologized for it.\" He started raising his voice at me at this point, and I definitely started to raise mine back in reflex. He was saying a lot about how it matters to him when people drink his beers but he never asks for it back or an apology. He kept saying it was a mistake, and I said I agreed that I shouldn't have left it out but once he realized it was mine instead of the other bottle that an apology would be warranted. That's when he screamed at me that he didn't make any mistake, but rather that I did. His reasoning was that I should have known that he would think it was the other bottle (the one opened, drank by all, and emptied 3 days prior) and open it and drink it, and my refusal to reconcile with my mistake was not his problem. \n\nIt was at this point that I got confused and dropped my raised tone. I said that made no sense. How could I have known that he would think that? He kept yelling, yelled that I was too emotional, then walked off. Now unfortunately he is also the landlord's son. He told me he wanted me out in 30 days. I thought it was just something said in anger and decided to let him cool off. I waited until I was about to go to bed that night and apologized for getting so heated and making him upset, because I was. I can be a little reactionary when I feel people getting upset with me and that's what happened here. My emotions were especially out of wack because I was/am stil dealing with being sexually assaulted on Christmas eve. Not an excuse for getting heated and I will own up to that, but it explains it a little. I never wanted a blow out fight over this, just a \"shit, sorry dude\" at minimum. Regardless, he told me my apology means jack shit to him, and that anybody willing to \"come at him\" in his own house like that would be willing to do it again. He said he lets us live here out of the kindness of his own heart and I abused that.\n\nHe served me with a notice on New Year's Eve in front of a roommate and a party guest. Now I'm being kicked out of my house over wanting an apology for a bottle of wine. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1118{"id": "GXWu0xhafGKVPTBFHHn7wMSVGiHfPEoe", "post_id": "avmyeb", "action": {"description": "giving up my share of the family home", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for giving up my share of the family home", "text": " Background Info.\n\nMy mum passed away last year and in her will, left the family home to the 3 of us (brother,sister and me)\n\n My brother, wife and 3 children currently lives there. Sister is in another country. She is not interested in this property. \n\nMy wife and I moved out in the 80's as she wanted her own place.\n\n They had been taking of our parents (they were financially independent) until they passed on. \n\nMy brother is a stay-at-home dad and has no other property.\n\n My brother and I have a joint agreement to sell the house upon the demise of any one of us and the proceeds to be distributed per mum's will. (Sister will also get her share) \n\nMy brother and my wife are not on friendly terms. \n\nMy family is financially stable\n\nCurrent situation. \n\nA few months after the passing of my mother, my wife tells me to discuss with my brother to give us a time frame to sell the family home and split up the proceeds per mum's will, citing that it would be troublesome to deal with the legal matters after my passing as she claims my brother will not honour the agreement.\n\nI told her I do not agree with her demands as my brother has no other place to move to and since he had been taking care of our parents, the least we could do is let him stay there. \n\nWife demands we (brother and I) confirm a time frame. I begged her not to disturb my brother's family. She said that if I don't meet her demands, she would go and harass my brother until he agrees. \n\nAgain I begged her not to. But she still insisted.\n\n As a final straw, I told her that if she still insists on harassing my brother's family, she would leave me no choice but to give my share of the house to my brother.\n\n Wife calls me a traitor to my family by putting my brother's family ahead of my own.\n\n I told her that everything will remain status quo if she backs off her demands.\n\n AITA for wanting to give up my share of the family home (if wife carries out her threat)  to my brother to allow him and his family to remain there?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1119{"id": "EJmxMDj6bsAu9THfQc7IXzGM5zPmq2W6", "post_id": "acdst6", "action": {"description": "requesting this from my friend who lives with me for reduced rent", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for requesting this from my friend who lives with me for reduced rent", "text": "Tldr; friend lives with us for cheap rent, reacted furiously to my request to give my long distance wife and I a day to ourselves in our home and asked that we do not do so again. \n\nI'll try to keep it to the point.\n\nMy wife and I bought a house last year. We live in a HCOL area so this was a big deal for us, a very significant part of our lives. Prior to that we had each been saving and living in random shared accommodation for years, so a huge motivation for us to buy was to have our own space together.\n\nThe property we got is somewhere we hope to one day start a family and so it is more than we need for two people. We considered getting a lodger and one of my best friends (let's call them J) was looking for somewhere at the same time. Despite being wary of ruining an important friendship through the friction of living together, we decided it made sense. This was the first time in my life that I was in a position like this and for reasons I can't really explain it was and I guess still is important to me that I was giving a friend a  good deal. We settled on offering J the room for 600 instead of 900.\n\nWe lived together like this with no problems for a while and then for work reasons my partner moved overseas. This means that we will see each other approximately 4 times a year for the next 3 years. I continued to live in the property with J for the next few months with no issues.\n\nThe first time my partner got time off work to visit was over Christmas. A few weeks before this we asked J if we could have the place to ourselves for a couple of days while my partner was here. His response did not seem particularly enthusiastic, but nor did I notice any particular resentment about it. J said he would work something out, and if necessary stay with his girlfriend. We did not discuss specifics such as dates and I was quite content that there were no problems.\n\nFast forward to the week before my wife got home and she wanted to confirm that it was still ok for us to have the place to ourselves so she sent a message with the dates we thought would be most convenient for J given the plans we knew he had over Christmas. His reply was very snippy and said he had not realised this was still a thing and it was not ideal to be unable to come home but that he would stay with his gf. We thought this was really weird but as he was away at the time we didn't have a chance to speak in person we just said thanks and left it at that.\n\nOver the next week J was very off with me, refusing to engage in conversation (messages) with me etc. This was out of character and definitely a consequence of simmering resentment that my wife and I didn't understand. Finally, my wife arrives home and we don't have much on our minds except each other and we have an amazing day spending our first Christmas together (not actually Christmas, just another day we chose to call that) as a married couple in our home that we had bought together (bonus: it was one of the best days of my life). As agreed J stayed with his girlfriend and we are grateful for this, despite being wary about his message and feeling that hanging over us. \n\nThe next day he sends a very hostile message asking us to do him a favour and next time my wife was visiting not to ask him not to be in the house he rents from us. I reply asking if that was everything that was bothering him and he confirmed there was nothing else. We suggested that we talk about it when he was home.\n\nHe arrives home and stays in his room for a couple of days (unprecedented behaviour for him) until eventually I ask him if he wants to talk. Basically, he said his problem was that it was inconvenient to him that we would ask him to be out of the house and that he found it mind blowing that we would think it was an acceptable request. He had run it past other people and they unanimously agreed with him.\n\nIn reply we were pretty firm that we didn't think it was an unreasonable request and that he should have said if he was unhappy so we could work something out that didn't inconvenience him. He said it was the general fact he couldn't come home that was inconvenient rather than the specifics. I know it's not really relevant, but for context his long term girlfriend lives reasonably close by and it's not unusual for him to stay with her. Obviously we would not have asked him to sleep on the streets or get a hotel or something. The conversation ended with an agreement that it came down to a difference of opinion about whether the request was normal and acceptable.\n\nThat was a couple of days ago now, but I have since been feeling rather bitter about the whole situation. I feel like a close friend of both of us should understand our need for some time alone in the brief spells we get together. I also feel extremely resentful about his bitterness towards us, and the fact he was speaking to other people about how unreasonable we are, despite the fact we give him a significant discount on his rent for being our friend.\n\nI have tried to be as unbiased as possible writing this, I hope I have managed to present an accurate picture because I am looking for honest feedback about whether my feelings are justified and whether I should set them out plainly to J.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1120{"id": "qPW0cJ29hL5VCogl1w2jAYi14ON9LRKn", "post_id": "amcnoj", "action": {"description": "falling for a joke by a deputy head but then they gave me a bag of food during class", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for falling for a joke by a deputy head but then they gave me a bag of food during class?", "text": "First time here, sorry for any issues and this happened years ago so it is kind of blurry with what was said. This account is mainly for a game but I do sometimes branch off and can be considered a throwaway.\n\n\nContext: This happened in high school, I believe my second year with Friday's being a shorter day and during break time, there was a lot more on offer including hotdogs with the usual bacon rolls, sausage rolls and there was plenty of choices normally. I should also mention I have autism which is kind of vital.\n\n\nStory: One day, after one of my classes, I went to the canteen and waited in one of the three lines with it being for hot food. I was behind the deputy head and trying to look to see what was left since I was quite a bit behind and even said to myself \"I hope there is still some hotdogs left\" since I liked having a hotdog on Friday.\n\nThat was when the deputy head looked back and said \"There's nothing there for you\" and, due to my autism, I took it literally and just left the queue and went off to the extension of the school as that was where my next class was. I was never great with jokes and always took them literally like if someone said I was in trouble, I would believe it and be worried at what I did.\n\nAnyway, I'm now in my maths class after the bell went off and a few minutes into it, the deputy head knocks on the door and asks to see me. He wondered why I wasn't in the queue anymore and I explained to him that he said there wasn't anything there. He said he was just joking around and offered to let me go back to the canteen to go get something. I refused since, in my mind, there wouldn't be much I'd want and I would be wasting 5-10 minutes in a class I really struggled with plus I wouldn't be able to explain it.\n\nI should mention that, after the confrontation and him saying it was a joke, I did start crying, high school was hell for me so I guess it all piled up at the time and the deputy head did say for me to wait after class as they would get something for me. I didn't believe it considering his past action before I went back into class. I imagine people were looking at me but the teacher did give me some tissues and didn't ask me any questions.\n\nAt the end of class, I waited for a minute but he never showed up and so I had to rush to next classroom which was on the opposite side of the main school which was History. I believe 20 minutes into the class, the deputy head found it and walked over to give me a bag containing two different sandwiches, a bottle of water and some grapes.\n\nI got a lot of questioning looks and my friend asked what I got and I just said quietly as I put it next to my bag \"I don't know why I got this...\" but I never threw it away and after my last class, I just went home as it was the end of the day and aside from one sandwich, I did eat it all.\n\n\nHowever, thinking back on it recently, I really feel like I was in the wrong for taking a simple joke so seriously and I feel like I might have unintentionally guilt tripped the deputy head without realizing it. As for the deputy head, I think he knew I should have something to eat since it was a lot of time to go without anything to eat or drink so that was probably their reason (about 6-7 hours) but still...\n\nTLDR: I took a joke seriously and left the canteen without food. The deputy head told me it was a joke after taking me out of class and did offer solutions with me leaving class for time but I refused. They then said to wait after class but I didn't, thinking it was another joke and not trusting but he did give me a bag of food in my next class.\n\nAITA for that situation in the past?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1121{"id": "ONxP8e3nN8DM4stbrNlo3oTryCkoPWBm", "post_id": "as1jfu", "action": null, "title": "AITA for wanted to play video games with my 5yo?", "text": "Back when I was a teenager I loved playing video games, mostly on the PC. Life happened and my passion dwindled to a couple of hours every other month, mostly around holiday season or when a new AAA title ships on a console, like Zelda, Mario or God of War. So far I've been playing only alone, after the kids go to sleep.\n\n​\n\nMy wife and I have two daughters, 5yo and almost 2yo. They almost never watch TV because apparently, it's not good for them. I'm totally on board with the <2yo not watching cartoons. But from my point of view, for the 5yo it should be ok to have a short 30min interval where she can indulge in the Kids area on Netflix. As long as this doesn't end up creeping into hours, or goes on later than 7PM. That should also help with keeping quiet while the younger one has a nap or to pleasantly take off some burden while we're doing house chores. There's a lot to be learned for some series in there, like 'The Magic School Bus'.\n\n​\n\nNow, since my wife is so anti-TV / cartoons, this is affecting my relationship with my 5yo, as we both want to play Mario or other kids video games together. We've played a bit over some weekends and she loves it. Only that after the fact I get into huge fights with my wife because: I'm destroying the kids\u2019 imagination and their eyes! \n\n​\n\nI feel that this is not normal behaviour and most other families have no problem with kids playing a small amount of video games every now and then. My perspective is that as the child grows, some critical skills accrued whlie playing games are easily transferable towards other activities. Top most one being grit.\n\n​\n\nNow, AITA for wanting to spend some time with my daughter playing video games every now and then? Did you happen to run into this problem in your life as a young parent? Any tips on how I could manage the situation, I think that sticking to facts is not the way to go, maybe more on a different level?\n\n​\n\nTHANKS!!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1122{"id": "DoCD4bN6vnCV3CLKxMm1i4999EEjEi9i", "post_id": "b688qd", "action": {"description": "calling my boss' children babies", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA: For calling my boss' children babies?", "text": "Throwaway because I don't know who in my office uses Reddit. \n\nMy old boss quit like 6 months ago.  New boss seems alright, pleasant enough, pretty high energy.  Due to the nature of our positions we work pretty closely together.  We know a little bit about each other's personal lives (nothing major or private,) just general stuff like spouse's, children's and pet's names, hobbies, education, etc. We get along very well but I wouldn't call us friends. Today he had to leave in the middle of the day, informing me that his 15 year old twins were home sick from school today and he was going to go pick them up some medicine, check in and come back. He was gone a little longer than expected but it wasn't a big deal, i'm pretty independent and had plenty to do. When he got back I asked: \"How are your poor babies doing?\" trying to be friendly. \n\nNow looking back, it could have seemed like an odd thing to say. In my family we call all the kids babies, regardless of age. When talking to my mother about my younger siblings we still call them babies. Pretty much it's interchangeable for \"my kid\" or \"your kid,\" even if said kid is an adult. That being said, the following exchange was surprising to me:\n\nMe: \"How are your poor babies doing?\"\n\nBoss: \"They're not babies, they're in high school.\"\n\nMe: \"Awe, but they'll always be your babies no matter how grown up they get\" *chuckle*\n\nBoss: \"Are you stupid? They're fifteen, they're not babies.\"\n\nHe then proceeded to enter his office and slam the door. I haven't spoken to him since as he left for a meeting while I was in the restroom. I'm not really upset more just perplexed. I don't plan on saying anything about it, just pretending it never happened but . . . AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1123{"id": "fDj5nPqnSBa81EATO62TjluwXlrz8gcL", "post_id": "avi3rn", "action": {"description": "not leaving anything to my brother in our will because we don't like his wife", "pronormative_score": 25, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I don\u2019t leave anything to my brother in our Will because we don\u2019t like his wife?", "text": "My brother and I aren\u2019t really friends, but we don\u2019t hate each other either. Just more like acquaintances that see each other a few times a year. His wife (my sister-in-law) is the most selfish person I know and no one in my family likes her. My wife and I are doing our Will and decided to leave everything to her brother. We don\u2019t have kids (yet) I\u2019m 37 and she\u2019s 32. If we have kids then of course they would get it all. My brother has 3 kids and I rarely talk to them. Maybe once a year when they call or text to say thanks for the birthday money. \n\nSo, AITA for not leaving anything to my brother and his kids because my wife and I absolutely hate his wife? And just for context, it\u2019s not like a few thousand. Our estate now is valued at well over a million and obviously the longer we live the more valuable it gets. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 25, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1124{"id": "vI63YDyA35cQk4l5wRnvexrRpGKxSWSn", "post_id": "a5ocvl", "action": null, "title": "AITA?", "text": "A sophomores friend told me, her friend thought I was cute and wanted my Snapchat. I just said thank you and laughed and kinda went back to what I was doing. I\u2019m a senior and wasn\u2019t interested but I feel like I went about the wrong way, and thought I might have hurt her feelings. Also this doesn\u2019t happen often. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1125{"id": "O20HmveVUyKIY1YWAoMVHiy8DL22lejX", "post_id": "axcfu8", "action": {"description": "pretending to be engaged", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I pretended to be engaged?", "text": "Throwaway because I don't want to risk anyone seeing this post on my main.\n\nNow before I start, I'd like to say that I know that this is going to seem a little bit similar to [that episode of HIMYM](https://how-i-met-your-mother.fandom.com/wiki/The_Stinsons), but believe me, I wish my situation was as comical as that one. \n\nHere's a bit of background- My mother was an only child with three kids, dad left after I, the third one, was born (though if I'm being honest I'm not even certain if we all have the same dad, she never liked to talk about our dad). Grandparents dead, no contact with any other family members. Me, my two brothers, and her are the extent of the family.\n\nSo let me start this off by saying that my mother is dying. She has probably a month to live, and that's being hopeful. I'm not going to bother going into the details, and if I'm being quite honest, I'm not 100% sure of all of them. Apparently it's common for patients with it to have heart attacks or strokes, and after she had one stroke she asked that if she had another one to not help her and let her go. I'm not certain if the hospital is allowed to do that, but that was her request (the reason I'm not sure of all the details is because I'm not at the hospital with her. My older brother stays with her, and me and my other brother try to make it to any important news sharing from the doctor. \n\nWhen we were younger, my mother always said she wanted to see all of us settle down and start a family with someone we loved, so we could have what she never got to. Both of my older brothers succeeded and made her happy with that, but I have not. However, I have been in an extremely casual relationship for the past year. I'm talking basically a FWB type thing but slightly more serious. We've gone out on dates with other people in that time with no jealousy, but if either of us ever wanted to maybe make things more serious, we'd be open to the possibility of it. I've brought her home to holidays and such at home, but my mom is aware of how casual we are. \n\nSo with my mother's wish she always expressed when we were younger, and the current... situation, I've been considering telling my mom that my \"girlfriend\" and I are engaged, so that she can die at least thinking I'm on my way to creating the life she always wanted for me. When I told my brothers my idea, they had different responses. The oldest said I was an asshole for even considering manipulating our mother, but the other understands where I'm coming from and would be okay with me doing it, even if he wouldn't do it if he was in my situation. I also talked to my \"girlfriend\" and she said she would do it if I thought it was for the best. I'm just worried that if I do my oldest brother will think I'm an asshole and resent me for it, and honestly I'm not too sure if it's the best idea myself.\n\nSo Reddit, WIBTA?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1126{"id": "qyuwJ7aD1TGb2xn7bSlzy0hDpY1ouAD4", "post_id": "amv0kn", "action": {"description": "snapping at my parents in front of their friends and family", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for snapping at my parents in front of their friends and family", "text": "So this weekend I (21/M) wanted to come home from college and visit my parents for the weekend. It's Super Bowl Sunday and the Lunar New Year (we're Vietnamese) is this coming Tuesday, so I thought it would be nice to spend some time with them. \n\nAs a full-time student and a part-time worker, I called out weeks ahead of time so I could make this visit. That being said, since I didn't have work this weekend, I thought that it'd be nice to finish up on this portfolio I'm working on since I don't normally get this much freetime during the week. For this portfolio I needed 10 of my best design pieces, a cover letter, and 2 essays. This seems pretty standard, but I'm taking this application very seriously as the program accepts only 30 students per year. And unfortunately this is something I have to do on the side, since my current classes and work are also a priority. Therefore I also had a couple of assignments to complete this weekend as well.\n\nSo on Friday night and all of Saturday, I basically worked my ass off doing as much work as I could, so I could do some more and on Sunday and be finished by the time the game kicks off. But earlier today, as I was still doing my homework the door bell rang and I discovered that my parents invited friends and family over for lunch and to hang out during the Super Bowl. This was something my parents didn't tell me about as I was expecting to have some alone time with them later tonight when we're watching the Super Bowl and having dinner. Since I was still busy with my work I kept myself shut in my room and didn't bother making menial small talk. \n\nIt wasn't until a bit when my parents came into my room and asked me to come out and hang out for a bit. I kindly declined, since I thought they would understand my circumstances. But after that, they would come back every 5 or so minutes to get me to come out and get some lunch despite how busy I was. But even then, I was indecent and still in my sleep wear, since trying to finish up my assignments was the first thing I did when I got up this morning. After a few more attempts, I finally snapped and raised my voice at them, enough to where (though not intentional) everyone in the kitchen and living room could hear me. I basically told my parents to leave me alone to let me do my homework and that I'll come out whenever I'm finished. They left, then my mom came back, brought food to my room, and has left me alone for the last hour or so. All I wanted to do was finish my work and watch the Super Bowl with my mom and dad, but I feel terrible about it as it must be embarrassingly awkward for their guests.\n\nOne half of me says yes I am the asshole, while the other says it was justified. Needless to say, I definitely could have handled the situation a lot better.\n\n​\n\n**tldr:** \n\nI came home to visit my mom and dad for the weekend, with a shit ton of homework due on Sunday along with portfolio work I needed to do to apply for a very competitive undergrad program. They had guests come over to watch the Super Bowl and celebrate the Lunar New Year, which I was not told about. After my dad was becoming very insistent on me coming out to have lunch with everyone, I raised my voice at him and told him to leave me alone so I could do my work.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1127{"id": "gsCFWHbV0SYshxt2BYMCgp8zhLiban3k", "post_id": "alugmf", "action": {"description": "getting annoyed when my roommates clean", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting annoyed when my roommates clean?", "text": "I am more of the kind of person that likes to upkeep vs. deep clean. So when I see something is dirty, I clean it. If I'm in the bathroom and the sink is dirty, I clean it up. If I see the trash is full, I take it out. Every now and again I'll go ahead and clean an entire room, but I don't feel the need to announce when I clean. I especially don't announce it if all I've done is wipe down the stove or counters. \n\nA couple of my roommates on the other hand, make it known when they clean something, which is fine, but it's how they say it that annoys me. For example, one of my roommates cleaned the kitchen and ended the text with telling us to keep up with dishes for the rest of the semester. We're all guilty of occasionally letting dishes rack up, but telling us to keep up with them for the rest of the semester rubbed me the wrong way. I hand wash all my dishes almost immediately after using them because I know if I don't, I will forget about them. So typically, it's not my dishes that rack up. Or in some instances, they'll be passive aggressive after they've cleaned up. I think the thing that gets to me the most is that they just assume I don't clean. I don't expect anyone to assume it was me that cleaned the kitchen if I don't say so, but they'll just assume someone else did and then jump to a conclusion. \n\nLast year I lived with different roommates and never had any issues with not being clean. I did the same thing I do now and never had any issues. \n\nAm I the asshole here? I don't say anything when they send these texts, but I just want to make sure I'm not getting in my own head. My thought process is that we all live here, we all clean. We're just doing what we're supposed to do so why make a big deal out of it? I really just want some other perspectives here so if I'm being a jerk I can adjust. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1128{"id": "3Cu9AJxzNQeDBfmFADulE1V6xXOH70Xj", "post_id": "azkt3i", "action": {"description": "beating Ornstein and Smough without my friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I beat Ornstein and Smough without my friend?", "text": "So me and my friend have been playing ds1re and are working to beat Ornstein and Smough, well I\u2019ve figured out a way to beat them and my friend isn\u2019t available to help. WIBTA if I beat them?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1129{"id": "yE79NCi3fmlVtfZ4T4Gy3tm5hXQY1bQC", "post_id": "ahf7dw", "action": {"description": "wanting to stay friends with an ex", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA For wanting to stay friends with an ex?", "text": "Long story short, I ended up breaking up with my boyfriend of 7 months. I wanted to keep things amicable and help him understand why I needed to break up, and why I still wanted to be friends. He has, at times, agreed that he wants to be friends, and at other times been very upset and said he never wants to see me again (understandable).\n\nAnyway, he's mentioned that his friends have said that I'm an asshole that's \"using him\" by asking him to stay a friend, because I know that he's emotionally invested in me and I'm supposedly using that to my advantage to keep him around for attention without having to commit. I think he's a grown ass adult and can make his own decisions; I've told him how I feel and what I want, and if he doesn't want to be friends, he can tell me and we won't see each other any more.\n\nSo, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1130{"id": "6l8mtIOQGmxgObGkvKy3YOYQMlWiRL64", "post_id": "ad7s15", "action": {"description": "refusing to attend a surprise party", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for refusing to attend a surprise party?", "text": "I went to a town where some of my family members live, one of them being my father who is part of large collective of friends and enjoys spending time with them. Right after we arrived home he told me one of his friends, knowing about my soon arrival, was throwing a party on boat that day and I was invited.   \nHowever, travelling is stressful for me, so I planned to simply have a day or two for rest before doing anything, and the perspective to spend rest of a day in a large company of people most of which I probably don't know/remember was far from comfortable, so I declined. Father asked me to reconsider, saying his friend had organised this party and put great effort in it because of and for me.\n\nI dislike parties in general, but hell, I could have even think for some time and eventually agree to participate, specifically to not disappoint father, if only this had been planned for next day; I would at least have been prepared for it coming and had had some rest by that time. Unfortunately, I had to decide almost immediately - and so, I was solid in my decision to stay home, so rest of the family went there without me. \n\nAs I've been told, everyone had a great time in company of each other, just as usual. I was completely okay on my own, too. However, after returning father scolded me, saying I behaved impolitely and ungrateful by not participating in my own party.\n\n​\n\n**TL;DR:** my father's friend set up a party for me but I refused to attend because I wasn't aware of it before it almost started, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1131{"id": "YdOutJbFU3j9PTqgOiwhyBm6bGfzZvM9", "post_id": "acoj7w", "action": {"description": "telling my autistic brother his filipina girlfriend is probably only interested in him because she sees him as a potential ticket to the US", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my autistic brother his Filipina girlfriend is probably only interested in him because she sees him as a potential ticket to the US?", "text": "My brother (early 30s) is autistic. He is high functioning but his disability is immediately obvious to anyone who interacts with him. He recently informed the family that he has a girlfriend in the Philippines he met through an online dating site that he video chats with. We all think it is very weird and we are pretty uncomfortable with it. We know American men who have lived in the Philippines who said tons of women their desperately want an American husband so they can live in the US, so we strongly believe that's what's going on here. At first we were discussing how it was weird but ultimately harmless because he has little money so would never be able to fly her across the world. (He works part time minimum wage and that barely covers living expenses). This is assuming she can't afford her own ticket. But then we noticed that they are Facebook official and both posting lots of cringy stuff on facebook, and he recently changed his profile pic to include a screenshot of her. So still I think ultimately probably harmless but pretty embarrassing. My mom wants me to talk to him about it and tell him what the men we know who have lived in the Philippines have said. Basically she (along with others in the family) wants him talked out of the whole thing but thinks it's better if it comes from a sibling. I am one of two siblings who is in a position to talk to him in person, and the other sibling refuses. Letting him know when he is making a big social misstep is something I gave often done, and I think this qualifies, but it also seems to make him happy. Would I be the asshole if I told him his long distance girlfriend is likely just looking to use him to get a greencard?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1132{"id": "lC1l95rl9T3D2f9bofEbtx8Wrxc3I3eh", "post_id": "ao53qy", "action": {"description": "using the women's restroom", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for using the women\u2019s restroom?", "text": "This happened about a month ago, but it still sort of bothers me.\nI\u2019m non-binary. (I respect your opinion if you believe that this isn\u2019t a valid gender identity, but I find the idea convincing from both my personal experience and a biological capacity.)\n\nAdditionally, I am extremely androgynous. I have been been asked what I *am* in everything from a swimsuit to a skirt to, once, rather remarkably, full nudity. \nIn a practical sense, this means that, because most people classify others as male or female, I have a lot of Schr\u00f6dinger\u2019s conversations- I don\u2019t know what a stranger perceives me to be unless they say something obviously gendered.\n\nAdditional relevant information is that I\u2019m mostly anatomically female. I do have some mild dysphoria from that (I genuinely hate most of my secondary/post-pubertal sexual characteristics, and am active working towards fixing that issue), but I can usually avoid situations where I know it\u2019ll crop up.\n\nSo, walking up to a public restroom, pay my 50 Euro cent and reflexively try to enter the women\u2019s restroom, because honestly, I just need to piss. The attendant waves me in the direction of the men\u2019s room.\nAfter a moment or two of hesitation, I call upon my limited German and tell him I am female. He looks me over, shrugs, and doesn\u2019t try to stop me agin. Some of the other patrons are noticeably uncomfortable, and I leave as quickly as possible.\n\nSo am I the asshole for making everyone else uncomfortable? I\u2019d have been happy to use the men\u2019s but I lack the anatomy, and I\u2019m unsure what the etiquette is about sitting and peeing there.\nThanks in advance for your time.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 25, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1133{"id": "mYxilhTXTIPsT3YKUB2GmgScBt9uQKMm", "post_id": "abh0ct", "action": {"description": "disliking my bf's close friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for disliking my bf\u2019s close friend?", "text": "My bf\u2019s close friend was the one who introduced us. My bf and i have been together for about 5 months. Let me tell you about his close friend: he\u2019s really something.\n\nHe\u2019s been obnoxiously annoying lately, especially when he\u2019s high. He\u2019s been high for about a whole month straight. I have no problem with my friends or anyone high but he\u2019s the worst when he\u2019s high. I used to smoke but i\u2019m 3 months sober. He recently tried pushing me to take a hit when we were all hanging out on the weekend. I told him no about 4-5 times and he proceeds to ask why. I told him i chose not to and i\u2019d appreciate it if he stops. He then still ask me why i\u2019m sober. I just ignored him. My bf is also sober for the same amount of months as me but his friend pressured him to take a hit from his wax pen (electronic THC vaporizer). My bf  told me he only took one hit just for his friend to shut up. \n\nAnother time, i had a half full water bottle. I was planning to finish it but he asked if he can have some. I said that i\u2019m thirsty and i plan to finish it myself. I guess he didn\u2019t process that and took my bottle and drank all of it. I had to buy another one but it was just annoying. Whenever he tags along with my bf and i, i stay quiet the whole time because knowing him, he will be rude to me if i open my mouth.\n\nThen, my bf and i were going to give his cat a bath. Guess who popped up the scene? His friend was also high during this. We bathed the cat but as my bf and i were busy bathing the cat, i needed help to get a cup of water so i asked nicely for his friend to get me a cup of warm water. His friend decided to pour the rest of his mountain dew in the cup, mixed with warm water. He didn\u2019t tell me and i almost poured the cup on the cat until i saw a hint of green. I just poured it out, washed the cup and refill it with only warm water.\n\nI get it that he\u2019s my bf\u2019s friends and i respect that. I even told my bf about all of this, my bf knows his friend annoys me to the max. My bf even agrees that he\u2019s been a drag lately because of the use of marijuana. Honestly, he probably think this is all a joke and i could possibly be taking this to heart. I just don\u2019t like having him around. Am i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1134{"id": "boOvXYgFaaRDloVMOMuOwO9LY6FXr8II", "post_id": "ag9cdw", "action": {"description": "feeling used", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Feeling Used?", "text": "One of my closest friends (we'll call him Jim) semi-recently (within about the past 5 months) broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years (we'll call her Ashley) and moved away.\n\n​\n\nI have always been very close to Ashley, and would consider her to be my closest, or at the very least second closest friend, especially with the distance between Jim and I making hard to stay close. The way she acted around me was always a little off, and Jim definitely noticed too. But after Jim moved, things started to get...weird. It started when she made a passing comments about how she would date me or how attractive she thought I was. I didn't think much of it at first, because she's an inordinately nice person, and I figured she was just trying to raise my spirits after my past relationship. Because we're good friends, we message each a lot, and she always tells me how I'm pretty much her closest friend. The second to last time we hung out, we were watching a movie, and she decided to lean up to me and cuddle. Well, no big deal, I figured-after all, I think two friends can cuddle without it being sexual, and have with other female friends.\n\n​\n\nWell at this point its pretty obvious that some sexual tension was building. The last time I hung out with her, we both got *extremely* drunk. She made some comments about how hard she was trying to not make out with me or take things further. Now, even in my borderline black-out levels of drunkenness, I had zero intention of taking things further, as I believe that would be incredibly scummy and immoral. However, by the end of the night we ended up cuddling in bed together-and I mean *really* cuddling. In the morning when I sobered up, I felt really bad about the whole situation. I thought i made that pretty clear, but she has a habit of not talking about these kinda things and acting like nothing happened.\n\n​\n\nWell a couple days ago, Jim was talking to me and told me that Ashley had \"a thing\" with another close friend of ours (this one we'll call Bob). All I really know is that she spent two nights over at Bob's house, and he then later texted Jim and told him that he \"didn't want to go behind his back\" and that he and Ashley were planning on having \"a thing\". Neither Jim nor I were fully sure on what he meant by that, but he didn't want me to talk to her about it, as he doesn't want her to know he told me and didn't keep it between him and Bob. He said he was OK with it but that he didn't understand why Bob would be OK with it. While I'm almost positive that they did not have sex, I am 100% sure that some wicked intense cuddling was happening, and maybe some slightly sexual stuff.\n\n​\n\nAshley never told me about any of this, and obviously has no intention to. Oddly enough, I feel used and cheap. Maybe I shouldn't, but I feel like she was kinda toying with me. I'm a pretty emotional person, so suppose I felt like we just had developed a closer bond, and the fact that she does shit with Bob  within the a month kinda hurts. She wont tell me about it because she knows it will hurt me. While I had no intention of trying things with her, the fact that she would do all this weird flirty stuff with me, not really talk about it, and then spend two nights at one of my close friend's house doing god knows what makes me feel used. I don't want to paint her in a bad light, though, as we are extremely close, and she has never been anything but overtly nice to me, and I have confided things to her that I would never  tell anyone else. That being said, with this whole situation, I told her that I no longer want to hang out with her 1 on 1, and I really don't feel like speaking to her at the moment. I know that I said earlier that two people can cuddle without it being sexual, but this whole situation with Bob feels off to me. Idk\n\n​\n\nAITA for feeling used and being mad at her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1135{"id": "YLNt4C29nDG7DjIgHAcJn8XInZgaZzvi", "post_id": "aqzi86", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my father for \"helping\"", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For getting mad at my father for \"helping\"", "text": "For some brief context I'm 20 going on 21. I'm trying to enlist, but had a ticket I had to take care of before I could go any further. My father has always been there and my mother has never been apart of my life, so he's filled both roles.\n\nMy dad has always been my best friend and will always be my best friend, but he's very much the \"overprotective\" type in terms of parenting. I've stated to him multiple times that I need to fight my own battles otherwise I never will and he agreed entirely with me, but since then he still acts like he's coming to my rescue whenever I need to stand up for myself. I just recently got a ticket for unreasonable speed with poor weather conditions (wrecked my car) and I had asked him for some advice and if he could come just so I know what I'm doing. It came time for me to go up and talk to the judge and DA to see if I couldn't get the ticket dismissed or bumped down so it wouldn't affect my time with enlisting. He asked if I wanted him to come up with me and I said yes, but let me do the talking I want you there as support (because yes he is very much who I look to if I get nervous or stumble) he agreed he wouldn't say anything. So the judge asked me if I wanted any documents explaining what unreasonable speed is due to it being a vague area. I was about to say no when my father starting viciously shaking his head yes, so I said yes. The judge said it may take up to 30 days for them to get some documentation from the State Trooper explaining, he asked me if there was a date I would prefer to come in on and just before I was about to explain my situation and that I didn't need the document I just need the whole court process over with so I could continue with the recruitment process my dad just started talking and explaining everything and said we could talk to the DA to lower the ticket. My dad then proceeded to not even let me talk to the DA and instead took complete control of the situation for me.\n\nAfter we had left the court room I confronted him saying that was exactly what I didn't want him to do. He started going off about how I wasn't going to push the issue and I was already done talking that's why he took over. I just got quiet and didn't say anything and he just kept pushing the issue saying he doesn't understand why I'm upset. I was set off by this and told him that he always does this, he needs to step back and let me fight my own battles. He didn't understand this and got extremely upset with me over this, explained that he only wants to help me. I explained even further there is a difference between helping and doing it for me, I'm 20 and need to deal with things so I know how to.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1136{"id": "OKBfQpOYsIZ672VbbcK0lY7Qr7cAYKCj", "post_id": "a7j607", "action": {"description": "keeping my daughter home from her class party because kids in her class got sent home yesterday with the flu", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I kept my daughter home from her class party because kids in her class got sent home yesterday with the flu?", "text": "We dont have health insurance, because we just dont have the money . If she gets sick I will find a way to pay for a doctor visit. She's 8 and has looked forward to this. But I'm worried about her getting sick. She got a flu vaccine earlier this fall but I know those aren't always accurate on the flu strand each season. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1137{"id": "eSeJaBVhiHzJggz4B8b9v6epaQLLEseV", "post_id": "b8fyjm", "action": {"description": "using my screen on an overnight flight", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for using my screen on an overnight flight?", "text": "Throwaway, I\u2019m on mobile, so sorry for formatting. I\u2019m writing this from the airplane, seeing as this just happened a few minutes ago. \n\nMy boyfriend and I are on a flight direct from California to Europe. It\u2019s 10 hours... we left at 6pm Monday and are arriving at 12pm Tuesday in Europe. So a lot of our fellow passengers are taking advantage of this to catch some sleep. \n\nBf and I are in window and middle seats, respectively. In the aisle there is (or was) a guy, probably in his 30\u2019s. Pretty nice guy, was chatting with us before takeoff, etc. \n\nThe entire flight, bf and I have been using the built-in entertainment systems provided by the airline to watch movies, track the flight, etc. since we aren\u2019t tired and are terribly bored. Most other people have their screens off and are sleeping, but a few others are doing the same as us. \n\nAbout an hour ago, I noticed the guy next to me (aisle guy) was shifting, trying to find comfortable sleeping positions, alternative between putting a blanket over his head and taking it off. I didn\u2019t think much of it, because I\u2019ve done that too, and it\u2019s never been because of light disturbance. I figured he was just trying to find a comfy sleeping position. \n\nSo finally, about 5.5 hrs into the 10hr flight (12am California time, 8am Europe time) he gets up, finds a flight attendant, and moves. He wasn\u2019t rude about it - when he came to get his stuff he said \u201cno offense, I\u2019m just switching seats because of the screens\u201d. Apparently our screens were bothering him and he couldn\u2019t sleep. \n\nThe fact that that might have been an issue honestly never even crossed my mind, which makes me feel a bit asshole-ish. But at the same time I feel like it would have been unreasonable for us to not use our screens when we aren\u2019t tired and can\u2019t sleep and have nothing else to do. He didn\u2019t ask us to turn them off, but I still feel like a dick for not even noticing and thus forcing him to move. \n\nWere we the assholes here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 20, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1138{"id": "yz4IdLDbKN6wXaIHSG8wOq1LCqlO5J5y", "post_id": "b4appy", "action": {"description": "absolutely hating my eldest brother to the point just talking to him makes me livid", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for absolutely hating my eldest brother to the point just talking to him makes me livid?", "text": "My brother (almost 21),  and I (18 f)  have essentially had it out for each other when we were kids,  I'd be forced to fight with him and my second oldest brother (19)  for the only tv in the house till I was 10. But I didn't really hold anything against him since we were just kids. \n\nSo as of recent every time my brothers on his phone with his friends he's been talking shit about me and only having the mic on when he knows I'm going to snap at him for telling his friends such shitty things about me,  normally i wouldn't care but this is a man who's specifically gushed to our mother about how I do the same thing (I don't,  my friends just hear how he's a cunt over the phone.  I don't need to talk shit,  he let's the shit talk for him.)\n\nBut where I drew the line is when yesterday I asked him to do a simple medial task.  Cook.  PASTA.  In x amount of time (half an hour),  and the amount of times I got told to eff off and all that were absolutely astounding.  He never gets in full trouble.  It's always me. It makes me livid just eating dinner in the same room as him and I HAVE to know AITA for not having more patience. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1139{"id": "RBsEMbQk4abECsVLl6XZZTwjyxc4NWkv", "post_id": "9x2tdc", "action": {"description": "turning down sex for being too in love", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA: Turning Down Sex For Being Too In Love", "text": "My ex has been extremely persistent over being best friends after our breakup. I tried, but after months i couldn't take it anymore. My feelings were still the same, and as she moved on to a new relationship, my heart was crushed. Now that she's single again, she tried to refuel our friendship. I was nice at first, but i began catching feelings and falling for her. So i asked for space and told her i was always here for her, but i was still to into her to be friends like that. (I've never been friends with an ex before) \n\nFlash forward to last night:\n\nMy ex came over to my house. Told me she's tired of me lying to myself. She said i didn't have feelings for her, and i only lust for her. So to prove it. She started stripping and told me to have sex with her. Cause after sex I'd know if i actually loved her or i just lust for her cause I'm single and horny and she's hot. \n\nI asked her that if she needed to do this to see if she had feelings for me and she said no, she only loves me as a friend and doesn't want to be with me at all. \n\nI told her what happens if we do this and i have feelings for her and she said \"I'd respect that and give you your space\" so i told her let's keep doing that. Cause sex isn't just sex with her. We've been through too much, and I'd definitely want more and want her to be with me. \n\nSo basically i turned down sex last night, cause she thought we'd bone and I'd be like \"wow I was just horny, let's be best friends\" \n\nTldr: \nTurned down sex with my ex, because i don't believe i could do that, or be close to her without having feelings for her. Am i the asshole for turning down a hot 22 y.o Female for sexy time because of my big heart? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1140{"id": "M11HLMLJnKQbd5PqY515BoFuXgniTVEg", "post_id": "b6e7hy", "action": {"description": "continuing to report my neighbor to my apartment's front office", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For continuing to report my neighbor to my apartment's front office", "text": "Background: I live in an apartment complex with my husband and two dogs. The complex is pet friendly, which means a ton of dogs. Leash law is in the surrounding area outside the property as well as mandatory in the complex. \nLast August someone moved down the hall from us with a lab puppy. No biggie, it was a small puppy and they had it off leash every now and then. He was just a little chonk so no harm, I suppose. \n\nHowever, now he is almost a fully grown dog and I'd guess around 80 pounds. It's pretty much daily that he's off leash and running around the apartment with my neighbor. My neighbor relies on an electric collar to make his dog behave, which works only after he's repeatedly called him and shocked him multiple times.\n\nTo avoid problems, I try to time when I go out with my dogs bc I don't want to be caught on the stairs/in the hallway at the same time with mine and his dog, but we've had run-ins before where I quickly have to duck away with mine.\n I'm not going to act like my dogs are perfect, one is reactive but I'm working on him. The other is pretty okay with other dogs as long as they don't invade her space. Even so, they are always on leash so I can control them, unlike my neighbor who relies on his dog listening to him and his collar.\n\nI contacted the front office (last October) about this happening and they told me to take a picture of them and email it. At this point, I've emailed them over a dozen times and I believe they have fined him once but it hasn't changed this problem.\n\nTonight we had a run-in and his dog was very close to mine. He finally got his dog away after shocking it a few times. I hadn't said anything to him until this point about it, but I spoke up and said \"Hey, he's a pretty big dog, he probably needs a leash.\"\nHe was pretty dismissive, \"Oh he's fine, he's just training.\"\n\nI have already reported him this week so I'm not sure if the office is already planning on doing something, but am I an asshole for continuing to report him?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1141{"id": "Jab3lJAlFnnDdEZI9zab2IPkyTi6yCib", "post_id": "agn9u7", "action": {"description": "confronting our upstairs neighbors", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for confronting our upstairs neighbors? (A.K.A. How do I avoid being the asshole here?)", "text": "This is a really stupid question -- you've been warned. But it's been driving me nuts. \n\nHere's the sitch': my partner and I live in a lovely apartment building, we get along with our neighbors and it's all peachy. However, the new upstairs neighbors are super inconsiderate with their noise-levels. I don't know *what* the hell they're doing, but there is consistent, non-stop, aggravating \"tap-tap-tap, taptaptaptap, tap-tap-tap, taptaptaptap\". It'll go on for hours. Not exaggerating here. \n\nMy hypothesis is that someone is at their computer or listening to music, and they habitually \"drum along\" with whatever they're listening to. They seem to wear headphones, at least, so that's nice. \n\nBut seriously, folks, this aggravates me to no end. (I get really bad tension headaches that sometimes morph into migraines, and I also have really weirdly specific anxiety triggers, which include strong wind, for an example. This tapping has turned out to be an anxiety trigger.) This endless tap-tap-tap-tap-tap when I'm trying to enjoy a quiet weekend afternoon, or at *fucking 11:30 at night*. It raises my anxiety to the point where my heart is beating like rabbit's, blood pressure is high, and sleeping gets pretty difficult. \n\n*Anyway, it's absurd, and I know that. Just giving some context as to why this drives me fucking bonkers.*\n\nMy partner says I should just bang on the ceiling when they do it, and they'll knock it off -- but I can't bring myself to do that, because I feel like nobody responds positively to that. (Why the hell should they?) \n\nSo. Would I be the asshole if I: \n1) Took my partner's passive-aggressive suggestion to just bang back at them. \n2) Took the time to go up to the apartment, introduce myself, and ask them to pretty-please stop drumming on the floor. At least in the fucking bedroom. At least at night. Please. \nor 3) (The one I'm least inclined to do) File a complaint with building management. \n\nI think #2 is the least asshole-ish option, but my partner says it'd be weird. \n\nSo, internet -- WIBTA? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1142{"id": "fBT3XT8NPtipdhcCi89kRyLtSOopvrQY", "post_id": "ayl3ta", "action": {"description": "trying to clean my parent's house", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For trying to clean my parent's house?", "text": "This began when I was a kid and noticed that my parents desk was a mess so I cleaned it as a surprise. My dad got mad at me for it. I'm now 29 and moved back into my parents house. I like to have a nice clean house so i keep my room clean and sometimes go on cleaning sprees where I'll clean the whole house.\n\nWe have had some drama in the past because of this. Basically, I try to clean something and my parents freak out, I mean like full blown insanity. I don't even clean it, I just suggest I might try cleaning it and ask if their OK with it. Its at this point that they just start yelling and say \"get out, get out right now, its our stuff don't touch it.\" And I try to remain calm but for some reason I don't instantly comply with their demands because in the moment I just freeze rather than instantly walk out of the room. their yelling gets louder and more aggressive and angrier which ends up making me mad so i may lose my temper and say something like \"fine, you want to yell at me for doing nothing... i might as well clean something\" I realize this is an asshole thing to do but I haven\u2019t done this in a while but done it before so I guess this is what my parents are worried about.\n\nI hadn't cleaned up their part of the house like their room or their office in years and tonight I finished cleaning my room and since it was my moms birthday (my mom usually actually likes when I clean but I think since my dad hates it so much she agrees with him) and they don't have a problem with just dusting their problem is when it comes to moving their stuff around/organizing. So I figured I would do some dusting, no problem, everyone is happy.\n\nmy mom comes to see the room, everything is fine. I ask her nicely \"Can I straighten out this pile of papers? Just straighten out not move or anything\" She says well OK. So I start straightening out the papers. Then my dad comes up like a tyrant lunatic, doesn't even know whats going on and starts with the \"get out! get out! get out!\" And like I said I just freeze so they keep getting louder. my mom instantly sides with my dad and everyone's yelling at me and i'm generally calm and waiting for them to stop yelling so loud so I can decide what to do.\n\nSo yes, I probably shouldn't mess with my parents stuff in their room.\n\nI probably should leave their room the second they tell me to.\n\nAnd yes I should probably move out and get my own house.\n\nBut I still have the aching desire to make their house perfect.\n\nIn the times when I've managed to clean things it in the past and created trouble none of their stuff is ever lost and they usually really like how everything is so clean in the end. So sometimes I think maybe I should just let them get angry and clean their room for the greater good. Well lately I don't (past 15 years) because they are so insane about it.\n\nSo am I the asshole? and what should I do about still wanting to make the house clean? or is that a question for [r/Advice](https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1143{"id": "4zlpYRMLa4kTFNx496JbjvLixSU7kkjw", "post_id": "a5odzx", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to my sister's wedding early", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to my sister\u2019s wedding early.", "text": "My sister is getting married this weekend, and while part of me is happy for her, most of me is dreading it because I don\u2019t think it\u2019s the right move. Some necessary context to help you decide if I\u2019m wrong here - \n\nI\u2019ve never liked her fianc\u00e9, even before they got together. I was vocal about my disdain, up until they started dating. Then I backed off completely with my outright dislike of the guy but I have to admit I\u2019m cordial to him at best, and definitely not friendly. Now to the actual question. \n\nMy parents are not good at planning parties. Her fianc\u00e9\u2019s parents are far away. My MIL is wonderful at party planning and is a saint, so my own mother asked her for help. But my MIL and I live a few hours from them. \n\nFor the past 4-5 months I have been transporting wedding items back and forth from my parents\u2019 house to my MIL\u2019s house. I travel for work, so sometimes these transfers have taken place during my work trips (which isn\u2019t out right prohibited, but it does make me feel sketchy. Which I expressed to my mother and she blew me off). These trips aren\u2019t super often, but probably one or two every other week. \n\nNow the wedding is three days away and there is still a lot to be transported. I have already volunteered to take off work Friday and drive down really early in the morning to get everything there. The wedding isn\u2019t until Saturday. My sister just texted me on behalf of my mother asking me to leave work early on Thursday as well so that I can get there sooner and make sure we have everything we need. \n\nI really don\u2019t want to do that. I\u2019m taking my vacation time for this already. And I\u2019ve already taken lots of time out of work to make trips for them. I want to tell my mom (who works from home) to make the drive herself tomorrow if she wants everything there so soon. But I am having a hard time deciding if I\u2019m just being really selfish and mean because I already don\u2019t want this wedding to happen, or if they\u2019re being unreasonable asking me to leave work a day and a half early for items they could have retrieved themselves much sooner. \n\nSo, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1144{"id": "sxEDdhnd160R3lzOOglECoUrUdeYZMQw", "post_id": "ag273y", "action": {"description": "telling my friend to get out of my house", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For telling my friend to get out of my house?", "text": "I hosted a party at my house a little while ago and when the party had wound down, me and my friend (casual friend, not super close) were hanging out having a drunken conversation. After a while, I had said I was tired and going to bed. This was around 5 am. He then continued to carry on a conversation which I had tried to end several times when I repeated myself again, saying I was tired and wanted to go to bed. I then followed up asking how he was getting home. He said he was driving so I offered to grab him a blanket and pass out on the rug since all the couches were taken. He ignored my question and continued to talk. I then told him I could call him a ride home and pick him up in the morning to grab his car which he also seemed to not hear. I tried bringing this up several more times until I finally started raising my voice and telling him to make up his mind and asking him if he could hear me. He seemed to ignore everything I said and kept trying to drum up more conversation. It ended up with me telling him to get out 45 minutes later (around 5;45 am) and (semi)forcibly escorting him to the door. He's usually a really good guy and I like hanging out with him, but I'm embarrassed to talk to him now. Am I the asshole for kicking him out?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1145{"id": "ZJb62BwJWMaX1XzpeSzvPh9D3gUK4BgF", "post_id": "avhfse", "action": {"description": "finding my Father's biological family through dna against his knowledge", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA to find my Father's biological family through DNA against his knowledge?", "text": "Blah blah mobile, dyslexic, please be nice. \n\nTL:Dr \nDad is adopted and doesn't want to find his biological family. I do. Ordered an Ancestry DNA test to do myself. I will not share my results with him. AITA?\n\n\nMy Father was Adopted from a foreign country within a few weeks of his birth. The adoption paperwork that he has has his original name and a few bits about his adoptive parents, but no information on his biological parents. I know specific bits of information about the circumstances of his adoption so will be able to verify if the right person is found (not sharing on here though). \n\nHe had a decent childhood with his adoptive parents and grew up knowing about his adoptive status. Both adoptive parents have passed away over 15 years ago.  \n\nThere have been many discussions over the years about his genetics and family. Every time he has said he has no desire to find his biological family. He is happy with his life as it is. \n\nMyself on the other hand, I feel really strongly that I need to find this side. I am nothing like my family on my Mother's side and have strong genetic traits for the country where he was born. I was deeply unhappy as a child being the outsider.\nI have ordered an Ancestry DNA test in hope that I can find out more about his family. Having information about medical risks too will be awesome. In a best case scenario there may be a relative linked too. The likelyhood of finding his parents is small due to their age, but there is still a chance. \n\nIf, and I am well aware that it may be an if, a relative is found I do not intend to inform my father. I don't really have a plan in place for how to deal with it if I do find them though. I'm not sure they would welcome knowing their biological son doesn't want to know them. I would not make contact if that was the situation. \n\nI will be doing the test, this thread isn't to discourage me. But AITA for doing it without informing him? \n\nAlso any advice is appreciated. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1146{"id": "9xHyei2hx71jEqS0ujgE2c0qqOUIYMpM", "post_id": "app5jz", "action": {"description": "not wanting to hang out with some of my friends anymore", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to hang out with some of my friends anymore?", "text": "Okay, so basically, I go to highschool with some friends I consider to be pretty good. At the very least, they're decent to me. They have a tendency to not get along well with eachother. I really hate the constant conflicts between them, but they continue to hang out with eachother. I can't separate them despite the fact that they seem to outright hate eachother, and only get along for brief periods of time.\n\nOne person in the group[we'll call her Allie (not her real name)] has a tendency to frequently hit another person[nicknamed Dan] in the group, sometimes over minor stuff or for no reason at all, like shaking a bag of chips to evenly coat them with seasoning. Basically, she straight up acts like she hates him, sometimes. \n\nDan has a tendency to take or mess other people's with stuff without permission[I tried to leave the group after an incident where I had to pick up my stuff and was nearly late to class because he stole Allie's mechanical pencil[to eat the lead a second time that day], and I dropped my stuff, but I guilt tripped myself into going back to them], like food, a computer that someone is already using, etc.\n\nThe entire group seems to hate on a third guy for seemingly no reason, one incident that springs to mind is when Allie got mad at him for making jokes. They weren't about any serious topics like death or something like that, she literally just got mad because, in her words, \"I hate jokes\" [she would joke with us very frequently]. \n\nI'm scared to confront them about this, since they'll probably ignore me, or just say that i'm being stupid and whining for nothing. Am I the asshole if I would rather go be alone than be around them when they're together?\n\nTL;DR- basically, I'm good friends with people. They treat me okay, but they act like they hate eachother sometimes.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1147{"id": "aUYnBo8LkdkPl2H9QZxCaAgJcMr8xBUG", "post_id": "ajv32u", "action": {"description": "expecting this guy to return my money", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for expecting this guy to return my money?", "text": "Yesterday I bought a phone from a guy via Facebook Market. I have bought and sold many items on there and have never had problems before. I even bought my old cell phone on Facebook Market so when I saw a phone I could buy my little sister for cheap, I decided to go for it. She was going to be upgrading from an iPhone 5s to an iPhone 7. I bought the phone for the cheap price of $200 and drove home to get the phone activated. Right when tried to get on, it was showing that I needed an update in order to be activated but it would not allow me get into the phone any further. Decided to take it to U.S Cellular, Verizon, and even to the Apple store to find out if there was anything I could do. I was still in contact with this guy and he told me at one point if it didn\u2019t work I could get the full $200 back. After figuring out the problem, a flaw in the logic board that this phone experiences often, the guy who sold me the phone told me it is too much of a hassle to meet up again and I should\u2019ve looked into it more before buying the phone. Is this my fault?? Should I have never expected him to let me return this phone in the first place? AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1148{"id": "uSdFqeFnrDgW2s6mQujrlQdsnvGrdZps", "post_id": "avtsyc", "action": {"description": "defending my girlfriend from a Discord Stranger", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For Defending my Girlfriend from A Discord Stranger", "text": "So some backstory both my \\[18\\] girlfriend \\[19\\] and I are part of the same discord server as have the same friends. One guy \\[\\~20\\] in the discord has been having some \"financial issues\" and has know my girlfriend for about half a year. Around August of LAST YEAR he asked her for money to buy some souvenirs at some PAX convention because he didn't have any money left over from his airfare/hotel. Being the incredibly nice person my girlfriend is, she gave him about $250 for a total. It turns out that within a week he's purchased some new video games. Suspicious, me and a couple friends figured he just used the money she gave him to buy them. He claimed he gets \"grants\" from his school that average around $2000 or something and he would pay her back yet come September. He then asked her for another $250 to buy a Razer mouse and keyboard that was \"on sale\" and could get it cheap and that he would pay her back. Again, being the nice person my girlfriend is, she gave him the money. Welllll come September and he says he needs until October. Alright...getting suspicious again, but I try to stay out of it because I hate internet/Discord drama. So he then gets back to her around the end of October/early November and pays her HALF claiming he would \"give her the rest plus interest.\" Unsurprisingly, he asks for another $250 for reasons my girlfriend won't tell me because I've expressed serious anger about it before. He then tells her sometime December that \"plans have changed\" and he's going to be joining up with the US military, whatever the hell that has to do with anything.\n\n​\n\nIt's now late February THIS YEAR and he has yet to pay her back. It came up again in a conversation with her and in a blind rage I went on to Discord and messaged him saying stuff like \"you're a pathetic adult,\" \"stop leeching off girls you've never met,\" and \"if you need financial help get it in real life not Discord strangers.\" He replied obviously angry saying stuff like \"You're so tough behind a screen\" and \"You don't know the full story so shut the fuck up.\"\n\n​\n\nNow I don't know the full story and frankly I don't care but if you need help you shouldn't be leeching off of someone you've never met to purchase expensive and unnecessary stuff and claiming to pay them back. Someone like him has no right to ask for MORE MONEY claiming to pay them back after already $500 in debt to them.\n\n​\n\nMy Girlfriend is now pissed at me because she got angry texts from him saying things like \"Keep your boyfriend in check\" and \"I don't need his shit when he doesn't know anything about it.\" She is in school and said she doesn't want anymore drama. Should I have just stayed out of it or was I in the right to get involved?\n\n​\n\nTLDR; Guy asks for $700 from my girlfriend and says he will pay her back but hasn't in in about 6 months, got pissed off any messaged him on Discord. Girlfriend gets pissed at me for getting involved and stirring up stuff.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1149{"id": "podd1Q0LpCuGCxHssNGOC2wfIq7ibZbW", "post_id": "a8hst3", "action": {"description": "confronting my mil", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA If I confront my MIL?", "text": "Ok here\u2019s the story, so back in 2012 my cousin was having problems (drugs/ her baby taken away by cps) so me and my SO decided to adopt her daughter. I love both of them and I don\u2019t treat them any differently, to each other they\u2019re sisters.\n\nNow my MIL is a good person I\u2019ve never had problems with her but as long as I can remember she\u2019s always had a preference towards my daughter. She\u2019ll buy her clothes ask her about her day etc etc she\u2019s very respectful towards my niece like way too formal and she doesn\u2019t interact much. Now that the girls are growing they both are starting to see the favoritism. It hurts me because both call her grandma. \n\nI\u2019ve talked about this to my SO and multiple times he\u2019s said something to his mother but she blows it off. I know I need to say something. My question is though wibta if I start rejecting gifts for my daughter ending her visits due to the favoritism? \n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1150{"id": "118HFn28OiG1fNVlEWDiFGPGHuMAYvPr", "post_id": "b7k7h0", "action": null, "title": "AITA My friend (15 M) Took away game share with me on Playstation and now I want my money back", "text": "AITA My friend (15 M) Let me take his primary for my play station 4 so I can get his games. We game shared for about 6 months before he took it away.  It was going really well until he complained I stopped playing his games. I now can't play a lot of games with my friends. The thing that makes me really mad is that I've given him $30 to playstation store so we can copay for black ops 4 on release day. I also gave him a code I didn't need which was for the stick of truth. He still refuses to pay me back or give me primary. I did play his games occasionally. I can't play on the weekdays because I have sports and school, and when we do play we usually play just overwatch and nba2k19 together which I own. It's not my fault he wants to play the same games we both own personally. Am I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1151{"id": "9nHPaDIkTE3RzI58M29y55Ul2iwpTfRz", "post_id": "axs8sh", "action": {"description": "not wanting my Great Aunt to come to my birthday celebration", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my Great Aunt to come to my birthday celebration?", "text": "Obligatory sorry for the formatting, I\u2019m on mobile.\n\nSo it is my [16M] today and my parents informed me that they invited my Great Aunt, who lives across the country and who I\u2019ve never met, to my small birthday celebration, with just my family, because she was in town. \n\nShe has a reputation among my family as being a bit of a nutjob, yet all of my family is really excited that she\u2019s in town. Because this is the only day that could work for her, we\u2019re combining the celebration of my birthday with our mini family reunion. \n\nI just feel like since she\u2019s never been in town outside of this week, this celebration for me is going to be focused entirely on her. I feel selfish for not wanting her there, but I just want this to be MY day.\n\nSo, reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1152{"id": "y7jBup0Qwmu8q6zNyUxGpn8i2U4tX4uV", "post_id": "aygsfl", "action": {"description": "feeding my vegan nephew meat", "pronormative_score": 860, "contranormative_score": 302}, "title": "AITA for feeding my vegan nephew meat?", "text": "My sister has been vegan for many years and she is also raising her son vegan. He has been vegan since birth. My nephew and son attend the same school so I pick them up from school everyday. My nephew has snacks + dinner at my house every weekday before his mom comes to pick him up. \n\nI usually make a dish for my family and a separate vegan dish for my nephew. A couple of months ago I left them with their homework and snacks and went to do some chores, came back and found nephew & son sharing chicken nuggets. I provided him with vegan snacks but he still ate the chicken nuggets. I told him those weren't vegan and he told me he that he eats meat in school sometimes. His friends share their meals with him sometimes. I thought about telling my sister but decided not to. \n\nSo basically I continue to give him vegan options but don't say anything if he chooses the non vegan option. Usually he goes for the non vegan one. Maybe because because he never gets to at home. I know my sister would freak out if she knows he's eating meat. She's staunchly vegan and eating animal products goes against her ethical beliefs which I completely understand and respect. My husband thinks IATA for not telling her and being dishonest, but I think nephew is old enough to make his own dietary choices (he's 10 this year). \n\nSo, AITA? Should I tell my sister what's going on?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 276, "OTHER": 631, "EVERYBODY": 26, "NOBODY": 229, "INFO": 7}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 860, "WRONG": 302}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1153{"id": "1tvtuFLWeuWYvDiQmDPfuGFLbmRecJQH", "post_id": "a5k50s", "action": {"description": "not letting new roomate get master bedroom", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting new roomate get master bedroom?", "text": "I\u2019m(20M) moving out for the first time into a house with 2 roommates. When we toured the house I asked if I could get the master, and even offered to pay more of the rent. My roommates said sure and turned down the offer to pay more. Now we are two days away from moving in and they are starting to express to each other how much they want the master and it is beginning to become an argument. They are both older than me by a couple years, and are trying to claim seniority.\n\nAm I an asshole if I stay stubborn on this or should I offer to pay extra again?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1154{"id": "nZuDXnAUF4xrLn3yctFpWzYrkHwtPeNk", "post_id": "b9syx6", "action": {"description": "cancelling a trip with a friend l", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for cancelling a trip with a friend l?", "text": "My friend and I are spending a semester abroad in Europe and planned a trip for the summer to go to Italy. But because in turning 21 I discovered I need to go back to the states to renew my visa and my meeting landed right in the middle of our planned Italy trip (which is already paid for) when I told my friend she got angry saying I shouldn\u2019t have planned a trip with her if my visa was in contention but I told her that I didn\u2019t know when my meeting would be given and I didn\u2019t want to wait all Summer doing nothing. She says I should postpone the meeting because she can\u2019t get her money back and doesn\u2019t want to go alone. But I can\u2019t because I turn 21 in June and i won\u2019t be able to re-enter the USA if I don\u2019t renew my visa. My friend isn\u2019t talking to me anymore and my other friend said I was inconsiderate. So reddit AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1155{"id": "ALyFNeuXfXH9orSwra8FRldt6GVHi6K1", "post_id": "9wvsel", "action": {"description": "swearing angrily at a guy right to his face after his dog ran out of his yard and attacked my wife walking our dog", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for swearing angrily at a guy right to his face after his dog ran out of his yard and attacked my wife walking our dog?", "text": "So it happened this morning, and I feel pretty guilty about loosing my sh*t at the guy, I\u2019m usually calm in most situations and have been attacked by two dogs myself a few years ago and didn\u2019t go off at the owners, while at a dog park with my GSD, who is pretty placid. \n\nWe were walking along the street like we do every morning , my wife and I walk to the bus stop for me to go to work. \n\nAs were were waking two boxer dogs ran out from a yard (side gate apparently) and ran towards us, one back paddled and the other body slammed our GSD and my wife, she had the lead of our dog. I moved in to stop the dog, but it started lunging and biting my dog things escalated pretty quickly. \n\nI kicked the dog off my wife a few times and it kept coming back (our GSD didn\u2019t retaliate which was good/lucky) few moments later of snarling, lunging and biting  the guy ran up and got his dog as it circled for another pass. \n\nI walked up to his face and said \u201care you fu*king kidding me, letting your dog off the lead like that, fu*k sakes\u201d he said \u201cthey got out the gate.\u201d My wife said \u201csorry (for me) it\u2019s the shock\u201d.  That I reacted like that.\n\n(This was the only exchange of words)\n\nIn saying that the fella was a bit bigger than me mid 30s or so, he did seem like he was ready for me to hit him I could see that cross his mind (I have never been in a fight) but for me the thought didn\u2019t cross mind. \n\nI turned around and walked away with our dog and wife, stopped around the corner checked on both of them, no blood drawn few scratch marks and a bit shaken up. \n\nMy wife said my reaction was fair and hopefully it makes the guy a bit more vigilant next time. \n\nAnyway spent the whole way to work over thinking my reaction... I know I\u2019d sign say anything I regret but it was a reaction personally I wasn\u2019t expecting... am I the asshole? \n\nTLDR ; dog attacks wife and my dog, I scream at his face for letting his dogs loose. \n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1156{"id": "Gv2MesLAt1lc8BfajsBeErZeGJzSuKPz", "post_id": "a5efmb", "action": {"description": "not wanting to deal with my parents", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to deal with my parents?", "text": "This will probably be a long one, so strap in folks.\n\nThis August I started my freshman year of college. I came to a university about an hour and a half from my home and my boyfriend from back home would come to visit every weekend. \n\nFor some background, my parents have always been kind of ...weird? I hesitate to call them outright abusive, but going out to see my friends would always result in them making me feel guilty about not staying home with my family. I\u2019d be expected to watch my sister (8) and brother (6) all summer long and during the week.\n\nThey were always specifically weird about me dating. My best friend when I was in 9th grade asked me out and I said yes. Yes we were both girls; yes I\u2019m bi. Anyway, my parents flipped actual shit. I had come out to them, but I don\u2019t think it was about that. They wanted me to explain why EXACTLY I liked my friend and wouldn\u2019t accept the answers I would give. They cut me off from my only 2 friends and put me on \u201csuicide watch\u201d (my mom is a psych nurse). When I told my psychiatrist I felt depressed and had considered suicide, my parents yelled at me and told me it wasn\u2019t that big of a deal. \n\nFlash forward to the fall of junior year, I start talking more and more to this guy that had always been part of my friend group but I never got to know that well. I tell my parents I want to date him. I immediately am told that I\u2019ll never be left alone with him and that he\u2019s not good enough for me and this and that. I broke it off with him quickly due to the intense pressure they had been putting on the relationship. Not too long afterwards, we started dating again because that\u2019s what horny 16 year olds do. It had been kind of rough, but once he got his own car, we were able to sneak around pretty well. \n\nMy parents always suspected we were together. I told them we were casually dating but not official and I honestly think they have forgotten I told them that. My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years as of October though, and I\u2019m honestly really happy in my relationship. \n\nFlash forward to early October this year: my parents find a corner of one of those sex ed condoms in my room back home and call me while I\u2019m studying in the library. I\u2019m essentially told I\u2019m a whore (which I\u2019ve actually been called due to my being on birth control because of suspected endometriosis), to send my phone (which my step father pays for... I wasn\u2019t ever able to get a job back home because I was expected to babysit and no one would teach me how to drive) back to my parents, and that my parents wouldn\u2019t be sending me the prescription for my Vyvanse (which I\u2019ve been on for about 6 years for ADHD). I was accused of having sex in the house \u2014 something that would have been nearly impossible due to my parent\u2019s schedules and also I just wouldn\u2019t do that. \n\nNeedless to say, university was pretty difficult while I was unmedicated. I also got a statement from my school telling me that I owed them some $5,000. Seeing as my parents had effectively disowned me and my school wasn\u2019t going to let me register for classes next semester because I had literally $200 in my bank account, I stopped going to classes and found a job. \n\nI was applying for a job at a coffee shop and an insurance agent from across the street told me to come in to her office and she\u2019d interview me right then and there for a job as a telemarketer. Long story short, I ended up being pretty decent so she paid for me to take the licensing exam and I\u2019m currently just waiting for the state to process my application. \n\nMy boyfriend from back home went to the local community college because he\u2019s going to be able to go for 2 years debt free and then transfer to a university for comp sci. He\u2019s moving down here on Friday (and I\u2019m moving in with him) and he\u2019s gonna go to the community here. Before you tell me how silly that is because we\u2019re only 18, trust me I know, but really there wasn\u2019t any other way I could get an apartment that I can afford before I get kicked out of my dorm because it\u2019s the end of the semester. His parents are helping us out so much and I will be eternally grateful for them. \n\nMy parents wanted me to come home for thanksgiving. Apparently my mom (39) has been having seizures? My family has a history of weird made-up sounding medical conditions and I\u2019m honestly not even sure what\u2019s real or not in regards to that. I didn\u2019t go home if that isn\u2019t obvious. I also don\u2019t think I want to come home for Christmas either. \n\nMy parents tell me it\u2019s not fair to my brother and sister that I don\u2019t come home, but I honestly fear for my safety if I were to go back home. My mom has filed a PFA against my step dad essentially for false imprisonment before and I honestly would have been able to do the same at least 3 times. \n\nTo be clear, my mom and I talk sporadically, but it\u2019s not like she\u2019s offering to talk about what\u2019s going on. They came down here after the incident to have dinner with my boyfriend and I go talk about what happened. It was actually terrible. They put my sister in the chair between him and I and they were essentially interrogating me the whole time. My step dad kept offering me money (which he wouldn\u2019t have actually given me) to break up with my boyfriend. My boyfriend isn\u2019t like a terrible person or anything. He was a decent student I high school and my friend group is really just d&d and mtg nerds. I was very involved in high school (president of like 3 clubs) and he supported me every step of the way. My parents know all of this. \n\n\nI know there are probably gaps that I didn\u2019t fill in all the way, so feel free to ask questions. I\u2019m also on mobile so idk if the formatting is gonna be weird or not. \n\nTl;dr: am I the asshole for not wanting to go home for the holidays after my parents disowned me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1157{"id": "2yIniAHVTIajzZ88tA0UPlbyKoxEIOje", "post_id": "asnnr9", "action": {"description": "calling off work when weather is bad", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For calling off work when weather is bad?", "text": "I feel guilty.\n\nWeather is bad this AM lots of snow and ice, local colleges closed. AITA for calling off work and having someone else cover my shift? I live a touch over an hour away from work and its all crappy country roads to work. Coworkers live a lot closer.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1158{"id": "B3Jy6NSPbnRAoQdYyJGkvnf3mNQyGim5", "post_id": "a73uq1", "action": {"description": "not tipping my barber", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AItA for not tipping my barber", "text": "For the last year I've had the same stylist, who I would see 2-3 times a month. She knew what I wanted and all I had to do was sit down and enjoy the experience. I have absolutely no clue what sized guards she used, what type of clippers, or anything to do with what I was paying her to do. A few weeks back I learned that she retired and my hair has been getting pretty shaggy since then.\n\n​\n\nI have a job interview tomorrow so I finally decided to find a new stylist. I went to my normal shop, sat in a new (to me) person's chair, and tried to explain what I wanted. I told her that I believed the sides were usually a 2.5-3 with the top longer because that's what I styled. I also said that I'd like to start with cleaning everything up and working down from there because I wanted to look good for my interview. I don't know where the miscommunication happened, but before I knew what was happening she popped on a 3 and did one long line right along the top of my head.\n\n​\n\nLong story short I sat there in silent rage as I lost all of my hair, paid, and walked out without leaving a tip. I talked to my buddy after calming down a bit and he says I should have tipped because she did her job and it was my fault for not better explaining or showing a picture of what I wanted.\n\nI understand the logic there and if I went to Great Clips I probably would've done just that and never would've made this post. The issue is that I pay $40 just for a basic cut at my barbershop and I feel that extra cost goes to having a stylist that knows better than to chop off large chunks of a customer's hair before making 100% sure that they understand the size they're asking for. On top of that, I clearly said a 3 on the side while keeping the top longer so why would I get a buzz cut out of that?\n\n​\n\n[This is what I had](https://menhairstylist.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/short-messy-hairstyles-for-men.jpg)\n\n[This is what I wanted](https://www.menshairstylestoday.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/06/Spiked-Fringe-Textured-Top-High-Fade.jpg)\n\n[This is what I got](https://www.menshairstylestoday.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/Number-4-Haircut-Buzz-Cut.jpg)\n\n​\n\nSo, AItA for not tipping? Is this entirely my fault for not showing a picture of what I wanted? Or am I in the right to be angry about this and not tip for what I feel to be poor service?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1159{"id": "ki0HsJT5YoDwMubxQwY9Y1kCgvkHCePz", "post_id": "au2nkj", "action": {"description": "thinking its wrong for my friend to date his ex's bestie", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for thinking its wrong for my friend to date his ex's bestie", "text": "Have a good friend. Three years ago he broke up with his ex of five years; it wasn't well known but they already had their life together planned out, and they almost were engaged (but, honestly, they may as well have been). They broke up b/c of some issues my friend was going through, but whatever. \n\nHung out with friend the other day. He wants to try and pursue his ex's best friend. I bluntly told him I thought that was a terrible idea and hed be a big asshole for even trying. \n\nOf course, no one likes being called an asshole. So He got mad and started getting defensive. I explained my reasoning, but that didn't matter. Our hangout ended early due to this. \n\nNow, I know you \"can't stop\" who you fall for. But you can control who you date. And i think that going after the friend of someone who almost married you is completely disrespectful. Now, if it was someome you only dated for a few months, yea sure it's not that big of a deal. Heck if the ex is obviously fine with it and has completely moved on,  go for it. \n\nI obviously get a lot of people who disagree with me... until they are in the position themselves. One moment theyre saying \"you can't stop love\" or \"I'm not going to let my ex control my future love life\", and the next theyre saying \"I can't believe my friend is now getting intimate with my ex\" or \"it's so awkward to go to get togethers and see my ex with someone who was supposed to be my friend\". \n\nI hold this opinion because I know what it's like to watch this happen. It hurts. It sucks. It tears apart friendships, even if one attempts to stay strong. \n\nI do not just hold this opinion to my friend. I think this should apply to all. \n\nObviously, I can't stop him. And im not telling him \"what to do\". But i do think it is not only stupid and disrespectful, but drama inducing. And i will look down on him for doing it. \n\nSo... Am i an asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1160{"id": "SnzDRfHyVtL4DazmMl0aIycJMGuKu8QF", "post_id": "au32nu", "action": {"description": "ignoring a guy that likes me", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for ignoring a guy that likes me?", "text": "So i (15M) started receiving texts from a guy my age (let's call him R) from my karate class that is mostly frequented by kids, with the exception of me, R and a girl (Let's call her K).\nSo one day he texts me that he likes someone in our karate class and it isn't K. I immediately know that he's talking about me because he treats me \"differently\" and tell him that i'm straight and that i have a girlfriend (lie). He stops flirting with me and treats me normal for some time.\nA few months later he starts flirting again and tells me that he likes me again, i say the same than last time, but that time he tells me it's ok and that he still loves me. That makes me kinda uncomfortable but i don't think much of it.\nA week later (yesterday) he sends me a big ass text telling how he loves me and how people told him to give up on me, but he wouldn't. That creeped the fuck out of me. Now i'm ignoring him and he's still sending me messages every hour.\n\n\nPS: sorry for my really bad grammar, english isn't my first language", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1161{"id": "c2HbU5KI7vD3wXDPwsZjWi7SIeUuk889", "post_id": "9zs1on", "action": {"description": "venting about my roommate to my wife", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for venting about my roommate to my wife?", "text": "Let me begin by stating I do not like dogs, but I like our friend/roommate so I was happy to put up with them. \n\nSo at the beginning of September, we moved in with a friend (I will call her Pat) who has two service dogs. These service dogs are not truly trained as service dogs. When moving in, Pat said she wanted the big room in the house so she could keep her dogs in there while she was at work. My wife and I agreed to this. We moved in, and she let the dogs roam around outside the room. We didn't mind, as they weren't bad or misbehaved in any way. Then the landlord didn't like the dogs being left outside the house, so she brought them inside and left them inside while she was away at work. \n\nOver the past two months, we have been coming home to find dog poop in the kitchen, hallway, and living room area. Not just in a single pile, but its normally spread out. It was one of the dogs in particular, so Pat said she would keep the dog in her room after a month of talking to her about it. We were happy and didn't mind the other dog being out as the second dog wasn't really a problem. Well, this week the second dog pooped TWICE in the house. The first time, my wife came home to it and there were over 10 spots where there was poo. The second time was 2 days ago. Pat had let out the two dogs in the morning. My wife got home and let out the second dog again. The dog peed outside, then came inside and pooped twice on the floor. My wife and I talked to each other about it, then she had to go to work. We messaged each other more about this via Telegram app, venting to each other our frustrations about this. We didn't say anything mean about our roommate, but just that this was her problem, and that she really needed to do something about the dogs pooping (mind you they have pooped in the house over 15 times in the past 2 months).\n\nThen last night we went out for a Thanksgiving dinner, and at the end of it I get a call from our roommate. In the past, I told her that if my computer is unlocked, she can use it to game or browse the internet or watch videos. I don't mind since she doesn't have her own. Well, I left Telegram open and she decided to read the messages between me and my wife. Again, we didn't insult her, we said nothing bad ABOUT her, just voiced our opinions that we hated having the dogs poop in the house and that we should talk to her again about this. She decided that she didn't like my wife and I \"talking trash behind her back, or talking behind her back at all\" and that she was going to move out. Today she began to move out her stuff from the house. \n\nWe have talked to her about the dog situation several times. She has brought up that she will get diapers for her dogs, or hire a dog walker. She has done none of those, stating she doesn't have a lot of money. But she goes out and eats a lot, spends money on weed (we do too, but not as much cuz she wont use edibles), buys new expensive wigs, and even bought a new mattress pad for her bed. She has friends who she borrows money from, but this doesn't seem to be as important. My wife and I are just very tired of coming home to find smelly dog shit everywhere, and we were just venting to each other about it. We of course don't share all of our feelings with her because we are roommates and we are trying to be nice and accommodating. We also don't want to keep bringing these things up over and over and over because then we feel we are nagging her. Are we the assholes for venting to each other and not just straight out complaining to her like she wanted us to?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1162{"id": "wJGTBwjw7xtMpXADQmZ3NkYowGdKgtOQ", "post_id": "ar0oc2", "action": {"description": "giving my roomate's friend shit for taking his bottle of wine home with him after the kick-back", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for giving my roomate's friend shit for taking his bottle of wine home with him after the kick-back", "text": "(posting for a friend who doesn't have Reddit, but ask I post this for him)\n\n\n  \"So one of my roommate's friends comes over to the house for a little kick-back and brings a bottle of wine with him.  Upon leaving, he takes his bottle back home with him that has maybe two glasses left in it. In a non-aggressive jokingly way I gave him shit for it. My roommate's said I shouldn't have done that, and it made him uncomfortable.  \n\n I'm very generous with my alcohol, so he's come over and drank plenty of ours before, as well as eaten our food.  Last night we opened a bottle of my champagne, my roommate cooked, and this guy ate and left with his half drank bottle of wine. People of Reddit,  AITA for giving him shit? \" ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1163{"id": "ligjChCbsGHQTU7N6dbl81brye6PF2IX", "post_id": "9yz78c", "action": {"description": "saying that people who donated to a Go Fund me should be updated before it's shut down", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for saying that people who donated to a Go Fund Me should be updated before it's shut down?", "text": "  \n\nTLDR: My sister is angry because I suggested that instead of just shutting down the Go Fund Me her daughter started for her and sending the funds to the adoption agency because she changed her mind about adopting, she should post an update explaining this to the donors and giving them a chance to have their money returned if that\u2019s what they wanted.\n\nI\u2019m going to try to keep this short but include everything that could be relevant. I\u2019ve talked with a few people close to me about it and they say I\u2019m NTA but I want to hear some objective opinions and maybe get some insight into what might be going on from people outside of the situation.\n\nMy sister, we\u2019ll call her Susan, is very angry with me/basically not talking to me after a conversation we had. I\u2019m really hurt and don\u2019t understand why. We\u2019ve had issues in the past but nothing we haven\u2019t gotten through, and I thought we were close.\n\nA while ago she decided to adopt a child from overseas, which can cost upwards of $35,000, and one of her daughters, we\u2019ll call her Lisa, started a Go Fund Me (GFM) to fund part of the cost of the adoption. In general I don\u2019t like GFM or the philosophy behind it. I think people should work for what they want, not ask other people to pay for it. Even though I\u2019m a bleeding heart liberal in some ways, I have a Libertarian streak. \n\nHaving said that, it\u2019s not always black and white and when Lisa started a GFM for an emergency dental surgery that sounded very scary over a year ago, I contributed to it, and I contributed to Susan\u2019s adoption GFM in the last month because it\u2019s a really good cause and adoptions are ridiculously expensive, but mostly because I love my sister and wanted her to feel supported. So I contributed to the first one because I was afraid my niece was basically going to die without the surgery (it was a huge tumor inside of her mouth, or something along those lines), and I contributed to the adoption one for the reasons I already stated. I will never contribute to another GFM again as long as I live.\n\nSusan asked me to forward the GFM page to friends/put it on social media. I told her I don\u2019t have social media and she said what about Reddit? (because I\u2019m always sending her stuff from Reddit). I told her Reddit\u2019s not like that, or at least not the way I use it. But I was trying to think of different ways to help her raise money, like doing a raffle or a race or something. I wanted to do something more quickly though and ended up making a donation and sharing the link with several close friends, 5 of whom donated. This was very hard for me to do because I really, really don\u2019t like asking friends to do this kind of thing. Like I said I don\u2019t believe in the GFM mindset to begin with, and I don\u2019t like putting friends in the position of saying yes or no. But I did it for my sister despite feeling very awkward and uncomfortable, which I never told her about. So this might be important\u2014she never had a clue how I feel about GFM, or knew that it was difficult for me to ask my friends. No reason to tell her that and make her feel bad. Either donate happily without complaint, or don\u2019t.\n\nFast forward to the conversation. We were talking on the phone about a week ago and she told me she\u2019s been having a really hard time. Our whole family is sad right now because my other sister\u2019s husband, our brother-in-law, an amazing, wonderful person, died unexpectedly three months ago. So we\u2019re all grieving for him and for my other sister. Our dad died last December too and even though (or because) I wasn\u2019t close to him, it\u2019s been hard, and I\u2019m sure to differing degrees that was hard on Susan, too. But the bottom line is Susan has been really sad and emotional. The reasons behind why she wanted to adopt and why she ultimately decided not to after all are related to trauma from her past that she\u2019s still working through. There is a lot more to this but the bottom line is she\u2019s having a hard time, and we talked about all of this for maybe over an hour. \n\nAs we were getting off the phone, I said \u201cThis is obviously not the most important thing about this situation, but can I ask what you\u2019re doing to the GFM?\u201d It\u2019s in quotes because I worded it very carefully in my head first because I didn\u2019t want her to feel I was discounting all the emotional things she's going through. She said that Lisa was the one who set it up and they were just going to shut it down and donate the money raised to the same adoption agency for the same child, but for the next person in line who wanted to adopt him. \n\nI suggested that they do a final post explaining briefly that the adoption wasn\u2019t going to happen and what was going to happen to the money, so people would know. I told her I did not want my own money back at all, but that it would be nice to offer people their money back if that\u2019s what they preferred, since although it was going to almost the same thing, it\u2019s not exactly the same thing. Susan really didn\u2019t seem to understand this and said that there was no way to make everyone happy. That even if they did make a final post explaining what they were doing, 50% of the people would still be unhappy. I said that might be true, but it doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s not a good thing to do. I said that it\u2019s nice when people donate money to let them know what happened to it, especially if what they initially donated for\u2014in this case Susan adopting a child\u2014doesn\u2019t happen. \n\nSusan said she didn't think this way. That when she donates to a cause, she knows she's \"pure of heart\" and she has good karma and she doesn't worry about what ends up happening to the money. I said that's not how I approach donating at all. That when I donate to a cause, I'm \"pure of heart,\" too, but that I expect the money to go to what I was donating to and if it doesn't, I think that's fraud. Obviously she and I are on very different spectrums when it comes to charity, and maybe just in our approach to life? I don't know, maybe this is why I'm not understanding why she's so upset.\n\nI said that for instance what about the GFM that Lisa started for the oral surgery over a year ago? The last I heard, as of a couple of months ago when I last asked Susan, Lisa hadn\u2019t had the surgery, and I hadn\u2019t heard any updates. My sister said Lisa had just had the surgery yesterday. I am wondering if this is what upset my sister, that I was asking about that. But all I was saying was that people like updates and to know how the money was used. So she said she was going to check with Lisa and see if there was a way to return people\u2019s money for the adoption GFM and I told her there was no rush. I told her again I did not want my money back, but I wanted to offer my friends their money back in case that\u2019s what they wanted. \n\nSusan did not seem to understand AT ALL why I was so concerned about my friends. But I felt responsible. Susan said \u201cBut all you did was send them a link to tell them this was available to donate to if they wanted to.\u201d I said no, that\u2019s not the way it is at all. They could give their money to a million causes. They only donated to this one because I\u2019m their friend and they care about me, and by virtue of that they care about her. So I felt responsible. She did not get that, not a bit.\n\nSo 5 minutes after we get off the phone, I realize none of this is necessary. I call her back and tell her I want to do the donation to the charity, so I will pay my friends back, explain the adoption isn\u2019t going through and so we wanted to return the money. But it will be out of my pocket because I am totally happy to donate to this cause. But my sister doesn\u2019t want to do that. She says she wants to talk to Lisa. Maybe 15 minutes later she texts me and says she\u2019s sending me the money and a few minutes later I have the full amount in my account\u2014the money I donated (even though I said I didn\u2019t want it back) and the money my friends donated. I emailed her that I got the money but I don\u2019t know why she returned my donation , too, when I told her not to. I also didn\u2019t tell her to return my friends\u2019 money\u2014I just wanted to offer it back to them and let them have a say. They probably would have said not to worry about it. \n\nSo I feel like by handling it all this way she twisted what I asked for. I didn\u2019t ask for my money back. I didn\u2019t even ask for my friends\u2019 money back. Just to offer to give it back if they wanted it. Why was that so bad? Why is it so hard to do a final post telling everyone who was kind and generous enough to donate what happened to their money? \n\nI told her about the site Go Fraud Me and how people use GFM to steal hundreds of thousands of dollars by doing things like lying and saying they have cancer. Not that she\u2019s doing that! Of course not. Just that it makes people cynical. I said in the email that it\u2019s my own personal conviction that when you accept money from people for a charitable cause, you have to be a good steward of those people\u2019s money. I said it that way so she wouldn\u2019t feel I was judging her. It\u2019s MY personal conviction.\n\nBut still I felt really bad because I know she\u2019s going through an emotional time, and so I dropped off a really beautiful bouquet of flowers for her later that day. She wasn\u2019t home so I left them on her porch and texted her letting her know I left her something. The flowers were meaningful because she told me during the conversation about how this summer she made everyone a bouquet of flowers from her garden and not one for herself, and this is related to how she never takes care of herself. So I got her fresh flowers. About four hours later she hadn\u2019t responded so I texted and asked if she got the flowers. A couple hours later she responded very coldly. \u201cYes. Thank you. I don\u2019t want to talk and want to be alone.\u201d So I\u2019ve left her alone but I feel her cold treatment of me is really unfair.\n\nAll I did was say that people who give you money o", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1164{"id": "hzCBdopG1gl9j2J97fyMLxf1YMmh96BI", "post_id": "a7ska5", "action": {"description": "not wanting to risk herpes", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to risk herpes?", "text": "So I have known this girl for about a year and I developed a crush on her. She is polyamorous and so am I. I find out she cut it off with this guy because aparently he has herpes. Well fast foward a few months and I finally hook up with her. Last night I found out that she slept with this guy again last week. Luckily I havent slept with her since they hooked up. Well I was alittle drunk when I found out and started a argument with her. And basically told her either she was lying about him having herpes because they were arguing. Or she stupid enough to actually fuck a guy with herpes? She said she takes precautions for her health and I say that's not good enough. I already decided I'm not going to fuck her anymore, and best part is I didnt even have to tell her she decided to break off sexual relations with me (apparently I dont trust her). Am I being a asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1165{"id": "rFBZJqCXi12PIDSywdoQrhrTIoG2R2g7", "post_id": "b9ngcm", "action": {"description": "telling a newly hired house cleaner that I have cameras in my home, as a warning not to steal things", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For telling a newly hired house cleaner that I have cameras in my home, as a warning not to steal things?", "text": "Idk why but I feel like this is something thats controversial even though in my mind its just common sense and taking reasonable precautions.\n\nSo me and my wife have a housecleaner who comes by twice a week to tidy up. We both work, me full time my wife part time, and we just figured it would be nice to not have to worry about hectic cleaning when people come over. Plus its nice to always come home to a pristine home.\n\nThe cleaner we usually use died, she was an elderly woman who we both had established trust with, but I still set up some nanny cams throughout the house just in case. You can never really know someone, and my wife has several thousand dollars worth of jewelry and I myself have several designer watches and glasses.\n\nBut even if we didnt have valuables i would want the security of a nanny cam.\n\nWith the death of our previous cleaner, we used a third party service that gave us a younger woman. She had a clean background according to said agency.\n\nHowever, I didnt want to keep it a secret that we video the cleaners anymore. Even if we did catch her stealing in the act, I really wouldnt want the drama of calling the police and finding a new cleaner. I told her outright, we videotape everything while youre here. This was meant as a deterence factor. \n\nThe girl meekly acknowledged and agreed and everything was normal. Until later, my wife told me I was rude to tell her that. That I shouldve just video taped her discretely and let the chips fall where they may if something does happen.\n\nI dont think i was rude, but what do you think? AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1166{"id": "LxfO2C8XAFjuLQOGXtK1tENKixyWrmxv", "post_id": "b6eknb", "action": {"description": "letting my Sister in Law watch my daughter instead of my parents", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Letting My Sister In Law Watch My Daughter Instead Of My Parents?", "text": "So. This might get a tad long. I'll put a TL;DR at the bottom.\n\nI got married 3 years ago. I live in the same town as my parents with my wife and daughter with a son joining us soon. I met my wife at college and she moved here with me as we both had excellent job offers in town. \n\nMy wife and my parents don't like each other. My father is a demanding man with what I believe to my Narcisisitic personality traits. My wife is a very independent aint-take-no-crap-from-nobody kind of person. Its not been fun, let me tell you. My mom just hates anything that causes issues with my father. \n\nSo. Low to mid grade discontement on that front most of the time. Recently, we decided to take a three day trip to see two national parks before the new baby arrives. Somehow, pure stupidity I guess, me and my wife had a conversation about who should watch our daughter she had come away thinking we were asking her sister to come down, and I came away thinking we were asking my sister and mother (my Dad is out with work right now). So both parties get asked. A month goes by and the date approaches. The issue comes to our attention. \n\nMy wife has asked my sister-in-law and she has taken time off work and planned travel to come and watch our daughter. My mom and sister are hugely, greatly, to my eyes unreasonably upset about this. My mother doesnt work and my sister is going to college nearby. I make the decision that its too late to call off the sister-in-law plan. So I tell this to my family and they explode. I mean. Three days of phone calls and yelling. My mother won't speak to me. Says I prefer my wifes family to my own. My Dad sent me a text today that says \"Your daughters grandparents lose out to an aunt.\" As if there were some sort of relational hierarchy. I also told them that I think it would be easiest to let my daughter stay the night another weekend and just let my SIL take her this weekend. So not just \"no\" (they were very excited that this was the first time my daughter was to spend the night with them), I did offer a solution as well.\n\nThis is all compounded by my family feeling like we tend to favor her family, which I believe is because we kind of do because we don't fight with them. \n\nAITA? \n\nTL;DR\n\nAccidentally double booked both my Sister in law and mother and sister to watch my daughter for a weekend. Family flips out like I've betrayed them because I decided since my SIL took time off work, she should get to watch my daughter for the weekend, and my family for another weekend. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1167{"id": "G23IWYSLOzy8dB647amk7ex92cePdtdJ", "post_id": "a1qiwh", "action": {"description": "nkt giving my phone", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for nkt giving my phone", "text": "Typing this in my phone so excuse the grammar and syntax. So last Wednesday, I was at dominoes on my phone whilst waiting for my order. A big guy who was twice my size (I am 16) busts into the restaurant asking for my phone, saying his gf was currently being raped. Who quickly tells me his life story, something like he went to prison at the age of 18 and his mum got raped by her uncle.\nHe dumps an iPhone 5, an iPhone 6 and a dumb phone on the table claiming he has no credit. In my mind I thought this was a mugging as how could someone possibly have the money to get 2 iPhones ( I also thought those phones were attained through previous muggings) not have credit on his SIM? Wouldn't it be easier to put on credit if it was that urgent?  What made me say no was the fact that he reeked of cigarettes, was bigger than me, and had a deep hoarse voice which was being used in its upmost volume. He also was definitely faster than me, as a general rule I don't give valuables to strangers who I think can outrun me. \n\nAfter my denial, he said \" I understand your concerned for your safety, but you're also an ignorant pussy\" and continues slagging me off for 5 minutes. He then proceeds to threaten me by punching me in the face. One of the lines I recall and will deeply reside in my mind is \"I TELL YOU MY GIRLFRIEND IS BEING RAPED AND YOU DONT HELP ME!\" which looking back now, I should've. He then says if I don't leave the restaurant he'll punch me, so I left. I walk around the restaurant to make sure he doesn't hurt the cashier, (I was the only one there). After a while the cashier gives him a phone and I hear yelling . Strange thing was he didn't call the police.\n\nHe stated that I shouldn't be around him, whilst he was having a fag near the entrance, I ask if I am now allowed inside to collect my order, to which he says yes after asking multiple times.\nWhilst I collect my order I am told he lived upstairs.\n\nI think I'm an arsehole. I think what I should have done was hold his phones for ransom whilst he uses mine. I was stressed, and put under pressure. In my only defense, I thought it was a  mugging, I don't ever trust strangers and he did come across as really dodgy. The area where I live is renowned for crooks, high speed chases and general criminal activity ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1168{"id": "4SYMVgbhNYNDaYrLu595LJzbj4J2RAgR", "post_id": "a4l7qa", "action": {"description": "being upset for being placed high in a competition", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset for being placed high in a competition?", "text": "I\u2019m not at all trying to brag, but I\u2019m sure I\u2019m going to be accused of that anyway.\n\nSo I\u2019ve been doing regions band and orchestra for 3 years, and I just had my audition for this years yesterday. I am one of the more qualified of my instrument, and I was able to get the second overall in last year\u2019s regions. However, when I did the audition this year, I noticed that my own band director was one of the judges. As a result, I made a few stupid mistakes, which I really should have been able to play correctly. I left the audition unhappy.\n\nThis morning, my private instructor, having the reach that he does, was able to get the results very early. I found that I got second overall again, but this time under a different person, a junior. I\u2019m a senior.\n\nI\u2019m upset for not playing to the best of my abilities, and as a result my placement suffered, but I still got into a high placement, second out of six spots available. Am I an asshole or being upset?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1169{"id": "KSZ4jU4LYR0AsVSdAt5KlXXk4bm1DMeY", "post_id": "aj5roj", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to a funeral", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to a funeral?", "text": "Our family had recently learned that a close friend to the family had died recently and that later on the funeral would be announced when more info was released. I wasn\u2019t very close but I still understood what the situation was for me and our friends/family\n\nThis afternoon we received word that it would be held this weekend mid afternoon. Everyone in my family was alright with this time besides me. For this entire weekend I was supposed to attend a mandatory band camp for a competition that was coming up. I told my father this and he started guilt tripping me along with my brother.\n\nIf I do attend the funeral, I would be supporting my family and those that are grieving but in turn I would not be allowed to participate in the band competition and would be considered a jerk for canceling last minute. I asked my family time and time again if I could attend the camp but they responded with passive aggressive remarks about how I don\u2019t care enough about anything, especially family matters.\n\nAITA for wanting to attend a mandatory band camp for a competition instead of join my family at a funeral for a friend of the family that I wasn\u2019t too close with?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1170{"id": "ohug1WVQscY2FRDasmnEryZy9RjTSnxR", "post_id": "a8f8rx", "action": {"description": "not breaking up with my girlfriend due to lack of sex because of the money she makes", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA if I didn\u2019t break up with my girlfriend due to lack of sex because of the money she makes?", "text": "My GF of two years made clear to me about 3 months into our relationship that she was sexually assaulted in high school. We are both 40 years old now and have had sex less than 5 times. We are great companions and are very much in love and do enjoy passionate times, but it rarely leads to actually crossing home plate. By that, I mean we do everything but have actual sex. \n\nNow she wants me to move in with her where I already know I will be extremely sexually frustrated. \n\nThe only reason I\u2019ve stayed with her this long is the \u201ceverything but actual sex,\u201d is actually really good and enjoyable and is very regular, consistent and so frequent that sometimes I\u2019m not into it but she still insists and gets me off. \n\nNow, I\u2019ve been looking at where my life is and I realize I\u2019ve made a lot of mistakes. She has not. She\u2019s got an amazing job and makes oodles of cash. \n\nWIBTA if I stayed with her because financially she helps me achieve a lifestyle I would never be able to achieve on my own even though I\u2019m not happy about the sex? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1171{"id": "dKcdv0wHHIkqTdlAZ1ZEako2mzmZF7PB", "post_id": "b9ujxu", "action": {"description": "anonymously snitching out the girl next to me who used a cheat on an exam today", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "WIBTA if I anonymously snitched out the girl next to me who used a cheat on an exam today.", "text": "She was clearly cheating during the exam and I have evidence of her cheating on the exam to get the right answer. I\u2019m going to fail the class for the third time and I am fed up that people are cheating to succeed while I am suffering in learning the material but refuse to cheat. If you\u2019re wondering how I have the evidence, she threw her cheat sheet in the trash and I got it out and it has her name and handwriting. Im sure it would be enough for student conduct to at least investigate it.\n\nI\u2019d feel bad if she got kicked out because there is a no cheat policy but if I\u2019m going to fail, there is no way I\u2019m going to let people who are cheating their way to the top cruise by on easy mode. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1172{"id": "NTHH0NZvFUnujpXrg7tT1ZftAGDS1mPb", "post_id": "av7rbh", "action": {"description": "scheduling my boyfriend with a male masseuse", "pronormative_score": 79, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for scheduling my boyfriend with a male masseuse?", "text": "My boyfriend and I planned on getting massages together. A male and female masseuse were available, so I booked him (M/21) with the male and me (21/F) with the female. When I tell him about this, he says he will never let a man massage him. He explains that its because massages are inherently sexual. I believe massages are purely therapeutic so I try to discuss this and understand why he believes they are sexual and if he believes this, why it's then acceptable to even get a massage from the opposite sex in the first place since we are in a monogamous relationship. He says my opinion is irrational and I'm making it up just to argue- massages are clearly somewhat sexual and that I'm wrong for pushing for something he is uncomfortable with and turning it into an argument. I kept trying to explain I just wanted to understand his logic and hear his reasonings- kind of like a debate.  I even offered to switch masseuses. He then says to just cancel his massages and that this is too much trouble. I'm still going to go without him even after all this. AITA? \n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 62, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 17, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 79, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1173{"id": "OJLTuCS8w8HZYzJKAN6FMI5BqdLCgPuU", "post_id": "b8nsvw", "action": {"description": "bothering my dad because he's protective with ice cream", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For bothering my dad because he's protective with ice cream?", "text": "This is pretty lame in comparison to some of the other posts but here we go! \n\n Long story short, my dad buys ice cream everyday AFTER I go to bed. No matter how late, he'll wait. Now, what he buys isn't a regular ice cream, I'm talking full on tubs of that special \"Oreo Belgium triple chocolate caramel swirl\" Kinda stuff. \n\n Now for someone with an unnatural love for dairy, a massive sweet tooth, and no way to get to a store in my day to day life, this sucks. \n\n I mentioned it one day to him and he yelled at me and used excuses about how it's his money and he works 9 hours a day so he deserves it. \n\n My mum was persuasive enough to let my dad give me 1/3 a tub yesterday, and it was nice as heck. I went back down today to hopefully get some more, and he stopped me by saying that \"I've had my third, have something else\" \n\n Me and him are the ONLY two people that like ice cream in this house\n\n So he's gone and taken 2/3 for himself. \n\n This wouldn't be a problem or anything but he makes me feel crap whenever I even mention the words \"ice cream\" anymore. \nLike he goes on this talk about his life and how I don't deserve it. \n Should I stop bugging him about it? I feel it'll be best considering I'm quite obviously annoying him too much about it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1174{"id": "Hvj5C1r7Uu4R4dUN6FPENtZOJzcX2EcT", "post_id": "axgzpd", "action": {"description": "reporting someone for starting at me", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA For Reporting Someone for Starting at Me?", "text": "I've been working at a new job for about four months, during my first month in training I had a side by side with a guy, \"Greg.\" Now Greg was showing me the ropes and we got into talking and it seemed we had a lot in common and that was great, to me (24f) it's always nice to meet people who share common interests. Our \"side by side\" last two hours\" and nearing the end of the time I realized he might be hitting on me a bit with the laughing, general comments, and him trying to get me to join a singles group in our area, so I dropped a comment as casually as I could about moving here and getting a place with my boyfriend, to avoid embarrassment on both parts. After my session few other of us new hires were making our way to lunch and I got some jabs about him flirting with me, and I laughed them off. \n\n​\n\nFlash forward to now. I've been working for two and some change on the \"floor\" (after training class) and Greg has been staring at me at any chance. It was clear when I first moved up to the floor that he had a crush. He'd walk passed my cube and stare. However, surprisingly he hadn't said anything to me, no \"hi\" or whatever. I wouldn't be hurt by him not talking to me, but i found it odd him staring at me and brushed it off at first as maybe a crush, a few weeks later, I mentioned something to my cube mate, and he mentioned that he'd noticed Greg staring at me. It's been two months of him staring at me and at points changing his route to the bathroom to come check me out at my desk. I feel very uncomfortable and Stressed. I know looking at someone isn't really a big deal, nor having a crush, but it's been a while and other's are beginning to notice and joke or share concern. \n\nWould I be an asshole to tell my supervisor I'm uncomfortable? I just don't like being ogled at work. FYI I don't wear flashy or revealing clothes, and don't think it'd be some \"attention grab\" that would give reason for him looking at me (not that an excuse). Also I noticed him a few times showing up in front of a coffee shop I frequent on my days off walking past back and forth.... I just feel rather uneasy. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1175{"id": "EfMm0SkcA9sWEIJhWcXmUJSPr6Q2Iw6f", "post_id": "ayb2zl", "action": {"description": "discouraging my roommates toxic relationship", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for discouraging my roommates toxic relationship?", "text": "So my roommate has been dating this girl for around a year now. She had to go study abroad for 6 months. That put a huge strain on their relationship. They broke up 2x while she was abroad. He tells me all his relationship problems. When they first broke up in the summer, he called me. He was very distressed and upset. I did my best to comfort him telling him that their dynamic wasn't the best and that they fought constantly and that it was no big deal. Sometimes it just doesn't work out. He ended up getting back with her less than 2 weeks later.\n\n​\n\nHis girlfriend is shy so she has trouble making friends. She was lonely when she was studying abroad. My roommate tried to fill the void but it wasn't enough for her. On many occasions, she has said hurtful things to him on why they should break up. Things like \"Give me reasons why we should stay together\" or \"You may think we have good conversations but i don't\". Everytime she comes over to see him, she ends up just watching youtube videos or they end up spooning for 2 hours. Ive heard their conversations and there are many awkward silences. \n\n​\n\nShe has dumped him 8 times. Every time it is because something upset her and he did not respond appropriately. She then dumps him and blocks him on FB. A week or two goes by and then she realizes that shes lonely and misses him. He always welcomes her back with open arms. Its gotten so bad that I can predict correctly within 3 days the next time they break up.\n\n​\n\nThey share the same major but next year, she will be working across the country. His field of study is not very diverse so a part of me believes that he thinks once hes in the work force, he won't find anyone else. I always ask him what he likes about her and all he can say is shes a nice person and he thinks they have good conversations. He is so desperate to stay with his girlfriend that hes whipped. Most of our mutual friends also believe that his relationship is not healthy.\n\n​\n\nI told my girlfriend and she said that its his life and who am i to tell him anything about his relationship. I asked him what he is going to change so that it will work. He tells me that every time they get mad at each other, instead of breaking up, they're just going to wait a couple days and then get back together. After pushing him for more, he gets mad at me. I also got mad and told him that from now on I won't ever talk with him about his relationship.\n\n​\n\nI understand that its quite literally none of my business but I tried my best to look out for him. I tried convincing him to see my and all our friends point of view by saying harsh things about his relationship. Is what I did wrong? Telling him that his relationship is not healthy and it won't end well? According to my own girlfriend it is. What do you guys think? AITA??\n\n​\n\nTL;DR- Roommate has rocky relationship with his girlfriend. I said harsh things about his relationship to try and get him to see my point of view.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1176{"id": "k1LGpDNp3By5zSdOnXc9PrSgqZMxkpGp", "post_id": "b2io5w", "action": {"description": "wanting to remain friends with an underage catfish", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 45}, "title": "AITA for wanting to remain friends with an underage catfish?", "text": " I have a really good friend who I'm going to call Lyra. We met on Tumblr, along with some of our other friends. We all have a group chat and even text and talk on the phone. We've been a friend group for about 4 years, and that's how long I've known Lyra.\n\n​\n\nI met Lyra IRL in January, and that's when I learned some stuff that I hadn't known about her before: she's white (she used a black girl's pictures), she's 15 (she said she was 21), and the details of her personal life were just really different from what she had said before. So...I met her irl thinking she was 21. I didn't know she wasn't a 21 year old black girl until she and her parents picked me up from the airport. (I just didn't say anything until we were alone \"I thought you were black\" and that's when she told me she was 15.)\n\n​\n\nLyra and I kind of had silly crushes on each other and had done some light flirting in texts before...she revealed her true identity lol. She wanted (and wants) to continue this flirtation and even date. I never really told her no because I've been so conflicted and I really value her friendship. Well...I actually DID say no at first, but then I felt like a major asshole because she said her age would only matter if I were in the relationship for sex, which I wasn't, and I'd like to clarify I only held her hand and hugged her a little.\n\n​\n\nAnyway, I know the situation is messed up. I want to remain friends without...I don't know, hurting her. We're best friends and I really love her. But there's another aspect to the situation which is that none of our other friends know her true age, and I've been informed that they could get into legal trouble. Lyra doesn't shy away from anime smut and fanfic and has written, drawn, and roleplayed adult scenarios with a couple of our other friends. \n\n​\n\nEveryone I've talked to so far seems to think I AM an asshole, but so far I don't. \n\n​\n\nTL;DR: my best friend turned out to be a 15 year old but I want to remain friends and not tell our other friends the nature of her deceit.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 34, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 11, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 45}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1177{"id": "SXVX2MvLnEiVvNrj90qsNowvCZMQR6BS", "post_id": "akq7p4", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend his dreams are unrealistic", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for telling my (19F) boyfriend (22M) his dreams are unrealistic?", "text": "A bit of context: I'm currently a college undergraduate, majoring in history. I'm also the daughter of two academics. My boyfriend of about 5 months graduated last May with his BA in history. He's currently working a sales job that he mostly likes, but doesn't love.\n\nThat out of the way, here's the situation. Boyfriend loves history, and intends to go to grad school soon with the intention of getting a PhD in history and becoming a professor. Thing is, the job situation for history professors is [atrociously terrible](http://www.megankatenelson.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/AHA-Today-November-16-2017-1.png). I know everyone in the humanities (or the arts, for that matter) thinks they can beat the odds, but I don't think he understands how bad the odds are. I also think he doesn't understand what grad school is actually like, and he's expressed a very rose-tinted view of being a professor (he called it \"a six-figure job where you get summers off\", which is inconsistent both with actual salary data and with my personal experience).  This is something he's really passionate about, but I think he's setting himself up for a lot disappointment and heartbreak.\n\nI know that, as his girlfriend, I should be supportive. We aren't financially tied, so it doesn't hurt me financially if he goes into debt. Even though I love him a lot, I know that realistically its unlikely we'll be together by the time he finishes he finishes his degree (things change, people move, etc). I just see what dismal prospects lie down this path, and I don't want that for him.\n\nThere's also the issue that as a history major myself, I also wanted to be a professor before my parents convinced me against it and diverted me to a (hopefully) more realistic career path. It's not something I want anymore, other than in the sense of, \"in a perfect world...\", but I feel like if the topic comes up I have to lie and say that I was never interested in to job, or I have to a hypocrite and say that I want something for him that I don't think is a good idea for me. \n\nSo, WIBTA if I expressed my concerns for him, or should I just keep my mouth shut?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1178{"id": "Kyx3JSoP2d7Q2mcb8tNRYvRkVvmbB3zq", "post_id": "aixifs", "action": {"description": "being cruel and demanding to my father", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being cruel and demanding to my father?...", "text": "Hi\n\n\n\nThis is going to be long and I'm sorry if there's mistakes and if it too difficult to understand.\n\nI never have a great relationship with my father. He is...a man who has a title of Father to me. Did I loved him? I did...I don't recall calling him daddy ever since i knew the truth. I think it's disrespectful not to, but i couldn't bring myself to call him that ever again.\n\nHe is a liar, cheater, heavy smoker, gambler and quite an alcoholic. I think he is abusive... but I can't understand it...not violence... he did slapped my mom once and treats us like grass.\n\nI don't love or hate him. I don't want to hate him. If I do, I just keep suffering. I could still imagine myself having a cup of tea with him.\n\nI think I am a bad person. Too cold and heartless.\n\nI couldn't look at him without 'it' being calm. I avoid talking to him as much as I could, I avoid his family as much as I could. Sometimes, I want to torture them and kill them, but that's not me. I have mental illness. It corrupts me, though I try to keep hold of it. I just want to get out of here.\n\nI remembered texting him long ago, writing a lot of swear words. I hate you.\u00a0\n\nYet I forgave you. I forgave someone who force mother to have abortions, someone who doesn't even want me from the start, someone who wanted to give me away and ruined our lifes and still hurt us.\n\nI feel...like i'm the bad one here. He took all my money that i was saving for school and a house ever since I was 11, maybe it's ok, right? He's my father...Mom asked him to pay for college or university if I ever able to get into one, he said no. ha..it's reasonable...?... But if it's his other daughter, why is he so willingly...to do anything for her? How different am I to her? Is it because I demand too much? Or is it he doesn't love me because i'm...a child from someone else...which was supposedly dead or is it because i'm not a boy?\n\nI have a list. I wrote what I want from him.\n\nA table and a chair. Piano class and art class, tutor , school , cheap drawing tablet, etc. Also have treatment about my mental illness, I don't want to do anything bad...again.\n\nHe earns 10k a month, but he refuse to pay treatment and always drag things so long. It been 7 years, in those 7 years, I should be in school and learn something. Honestly, it was my fault too. If I had just try to search for a school myself when I was 11, maybe I couldn't end up like this. Even so, I wonder will he pay for it? Last time I asked....he lied to me and i never end up going to a school for another year.\n\nI feel like i'm demanding him so much. But people are telling me they, his family, took more than we did. But still, aren't i too much? \n\nI just want to get a stable life and able to go school. Get a job and leave this place with my mom. I thought of bringing him along, but it will upsets mom. He might try to get me into something too...like mom said he did it to her. Get something from me.\n\nI thought of giving him money each month when I get a job. After all...he's my father and i'm grateful...he even give us money. It may be hundreds of dollar like 200 and expect us to live on that for the whole month, but it's still better than nothing.\n\nMom wants revenge. BY selling the house and leaving him. I...pity him, maybe I feel sad for him. I feel bad for turning a blind eye... mom said to not worry since he have 3 kids. But for someone like him, wasting all money on gamble and have little savings...I wonder if he is going to suffer. If he is...I feel bad. BUt there seems to be no way of settling these... he'll never listen and won't quit gamble if i recommend him to do so.\n\nAM I an A-H for wanting things and him paying for all of it and still leave him?\n\nAlso if you read all these, wow...I...thank you. I hope...it's not stupid. I'm nervous, very nervous while writing this. I think by doing this, i may get some advices from people.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1179{"id": "E5r6t9XDB7zqV4OZpSBJvL1M9P2c2Zxl", "post_id": "9zgo67", "action": {"description": "firing my dying employee", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for firing my dying employee?", "text": "AITA for wanting to fire my sous chef who is dying due to diabetes and intense hardheadedness? \n\n(Sorry this is long, got to get it off my chest.  TL;DR at end.)\n\nI\u2019m a chef, I hired this guy as my sous almost two years ago.  He has diabetes.  He\u2019s always sick, especially when it\u2019s really inconvenient, like when I am out of town or when we have really busy weeks with lots of banquets or offsite events.  I brought it up to him in the past, if he thought stress exacerbated it, because whenever we were really busy and I needed his help, boom! in the hospital.\n\nEventually, I had to take him off of salary bc he was missing too much work and I told him, you know I don\u2019t wanna fire you, I understand you don\u2019t have control over this, blah blah blah, but I\u2019m not paying you a salary when I can\u2019t depend on you.  So I put him on an hourly wage instead and I promoted one of my other cooks as a sort of junior sous chef so I had a fall back for 1st sous chefs eventual sick days and to ease the stress on 1st sous so he wasn\u2019t pushing himself so hard.\n\nHe\u2019s got this stomach thing where it goes into paralysis and won\u2019t digest the food sitting in this stomach and then when it starts pumping (?) again and drops all of the old food into his gut he gets really ill.  Apparently this happens with diabetes?  I have also, more than once, found him passed out on the floor of the employee room when he\u2019s gone up for a shot.  When he gets sick and goes home I won\u2019t hear from him for days and have to contact his sons to see if he\u2019s dead.  I ask him about it after and he says he just comes to after days and has to look at a calendar to see how long he missed. \n\n1st sous chef has had this illness for 20 years.  He refuses to go to the doctor for regular treatment or even when he\u2019s ill.  When I say \u201cin the hospital\u201d it\u2019s because he gets so fucking sick that his kids call 911 (they\u2019re all grown adults BTW).  He does take insulin, but that\u2019s as far as any self treatment goes.  He smokes like a chimney and drinks like a fish.  I know lots of other people with diabetes, my aunt for example has never ever had to go to the doctor for complications due to diabetes, neither did my friend in high school (and he was 17 and an idiot), and neither does my CURRENT prep cook, who ALSO has diabetes.  Because they take care of themselves! My prep cook brings himself little sugar free cookies and bananas to work with him and eats these cactus tortillas bc they have less sugar than corn. So it\u2019s increasingly frustrating to deal with his constant sickness, not because of the inconvenience to me and the business, I solved that with 2nd sous chef, but because we\u2019re all watching this dude kill himself in front of us and he\u2019s the most stubborn mother fucker in the world and it\u2019s breaking my heart.\n\nOk, so last Friday I\u2019m up in my office doing some paperwork and go into the kitchen to check on things and 1st sous is gone, 2nd sous says he got really sick and left an hour earlier.  No big deal, we\u2019re extra staffed with a new guy training so I\u2019m not worried about it and leave at my normal time.  Saturday 1st sous is a no show, I text and call, but as usual hear nothing.  2nd Sous coincidentally lives with 1st, so I ask him if he\u2019s okay and he says he hasn\u2019t talked to him that he was asleep when he got home the night before and was still sleeping when he left for work in the morning.  My days off are Sun. and Mon. and 2nd sous is going out of town to visit his fam for Thanksgiving, so I assume I\u2019m going to be working on both of my days off to cover for 1st sous.  C\u2019est le vie, they\u2019re super slow days so boring, but no biggie.\n\nTuesday comes and 1st sous comes in to talk to me.  We go outside and he tells me he found a diabetic ulcer on his foot and that it started to \u201cstink\u201d on Sunday.  He refuses to go the doctor bc he knows they\u2019re going to tell him to amputate.  His plan is to cut off the dead tissue himself, apparently he\u2019s done this before (\u2026) and his friend gave him some weird oil shit that\u2019s supposed to kill the infection before it can get into his blood stream (I forgot to mention, he says he is allergic to all antibiotics) I try and talk him out of it and tell him prosthesis have improved, he\u2019ll be able to do everything he can now, no one will even be able to tell, but he won\u2019t even consider it because HE WON\u2019T STOP DRINKING AND SMOKING.  Like it\u2019s his fucking life blood, I was like, what?!  You won\u2019t stop smoking to have more time with your kids?   And he shrugged and said he\u2019s raised 5 good men and they don\u2019t need him.  Basically he wants me to give him two weeks to \u201cget back to normal.\u201d  In my opinion, he is not going to get back to normal.  He is going to ignore this until he gets blood poisoning and dies.  I told him that I think he shouldn\u2019t waste what time he has left working and that he should spend it with his kids and he said, yeah maybe.\n\nThis situation has been really stressful in a lot of ways, I really care about him and I obviously don\u2019t want him to fucking die and he was crying telling me and I was crying and it was all very awful.  After our talk he went back inside and drank a whiskey while I input invoices, so what can ya do, he\u2019s not going to change for anything including his own life.\n\nThe owner of my place told me that I can\u2019t fire him over this.  I said I\u2019m not going to watch him commit suicide in front of me and that\u2019s not fucking fair to the staff and that it\u2019s not doing him any favors allowing him to continue working.  Every step he takes will be pushing the infection into his bloodstream (I\u2019m not a doctor, but I believe you\u2019re supposed to \u201coff weight\u201d?) It might seem callous, but I really don\u2019t want to let him back.  I honestly think it would be better to fire him because if he was unemployed he could get Medicaid, maybe hospice care, maybe die with some dignity instead of fainting in the bathroom at the bar after a long shift without eating.  Even in the event that he pulls off some sort of miraculous hobo surgery on himself and gets all the necrotic tissue out, how long until it happens again?  His kids are all moving away, 2nd sous is moving out of their house, who\u2019s going to call 911 next time? I worried I'm being selfish.  One of my cooks pointed out that maybe he really really loves cooking and wants to die doing it.  Ummm, I love cooking too, but I certainly would not be working myself into a grave were I in this situation, I love other things more. \n\nSo, AITA?\n\nTL;DR Sous chef is dying from complications from diabetes, refuses medical help, is literally going to cut away parts of his own foot, and wants me to hold his job for him until he recovers.  I think firing him is for his own good, the owner says I shouldn\u2019t, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1180{"id": "A0gRHfz9dZVSyhqcTW91dE9lXdFn4b2Y", "post_id": "avo6js", "action": {"description": "choosing not to have a handful of pointless plastic collectibles included in our work office shopping order", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA: for choosing not to have a handful of pointless plastic collectibles included in our work office shopping order", "text": "For those of you who live in aus, you\u2019re probably familiar with the Coles \u201cStikeez\u201d promotion. For those not, there are 25 collectibles, small plastic toys that look like little broccolis with names and faces etc. \n\nhttps://www.practicalparenting.com.au/media/11988/130219stikeez-lansscape.jpg?width=620\n\n^ for context. \n\nAt work, we do our weekly Milk order through Coles. Each $30 spent, entitles you to a Stikeez character. \n\nIt\u2019s my responsibility to place the order, and when asked if I wanted Stikeez included, I clicked no. \n\nThis is the 3rd promotion of this sort Coles have run in the last 6 or so months, of pointless plastic, with no proper intention other than to get more shoppers through their doors. \n\nPersonally I\u2019m trying to be more environmentally conscious, I\u2019m in my min 20\u2019s, and the future of environment feels like my responsibility, and my choice to make more pro-active decisions where I can. \n\nI could not, with sound conscience, say yes to having this pointless shit sent with our order. \n\n2 colleagues have since found out that I declined them and cracked the shits at me for doing so. \n\nI would agree it\u2019s not my decision to speak for the office as to whether we get them or not, but office workers aren\u2019t really entitled to them because they come with our work order. Go and spend your own money at Coles if you want to collect pointless landfill I reckon. \n\nAnyway, am I the asshole here for saying no, with our environment in mind. Or should I have said yes, since my colleagues collect and it\u2019s not really my decision. \n\nThanks lol", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1181{"id": "V4JH35K3a4Ce4kCBs7MlZDkFictRcnLx", "post_id": "ah781k", "action": {"description": "wanting my roommates to pay for WiFi that they don't use as much as myself", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my roommates to pay for WiFi that they don\u2019t use as much as myself?", "text": "We used to have unlimited WiFi, but 2/4 roommates don\u2019t use it as much as myself and the other roommate, so they wanted to lower our plan to save money. I was fine with this and didn\u2019t think it would be a problem. However, we went over our limit and got charged a late fee, and they got mad at me and other roommate for making us go over. Roommate and I wanted to go back to unlimited(lol) to avoid late fee and everyone just pays $6 extra per month. Obviously the two who don\u2019t stream as much (and said they use their unlimited phone data plans for WiFi instead of House WiFi). I get upset and start thinking about how one roommate takes the longest showers/baths yet I don\u2019t complain about the water bill(until now cuz I\u2019m upset). Basically I need internet strangers to let me know if this is a battle worth picking. Is it best to just split the WiFi between myself and the other roommate who uses it more, or is WiFi something we all should split evenly? am I in the wrong for asking them to help pay for a service they don\u2019t use as much. I guess a non related but upsetting thought I can\u2019t get out of my head is that this one roommate who wants to lower the usage, literally bought a $400 full length ballgown on eBay, with having no event to wear to, because it was so pretty. I guess my thought process is hindered by this waste of money, yet $6 a month is too much for unlimited WiFi. But I\u2019m probably just salty. Set me straight Reddit! I need perspective before I wrongly blow up. If anything I could just pay for WiFi myself with my own password... help provide clarity please! ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1182{"id": "iMIoM7FWZYGNimGEIgmSJ4FtgbnTc5pH", "post_id": "b8sp31", "action": {"description": "lying to my friend's gf about him cheating", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for lying to my friend's gf about him cheating", "text": "We're all in high school (16-17)\n\nSo basically my friend (lets call him T) has had a (kinda dysfunctional imo) relationship with his girlfriend (lets call her M) for around 2 years. Im not really good friends with her but we get along.\n\nRecently T has been talking to a different girl (A)  since he is no longer interested in staying with M. For the most part M is cool but she can get really dramatic and aggressive over the smallest things, and my friend has lost all romantic feelings for her. T has told me that he's only with her at this point for the sex.\n\nNow he's been getting serious with A (going to her house, kissing, I don't think they've fucked tho) but he still hasn't broken up with M. I've been clear with him that at this point its hardcore cheating and he should just end things with M to avoid any serious repercussions. He says that he'll do it but he has pussied out many times.\n\nJust now M texted me and asked me to keep something between us. I think it would have been better if I stayed out of it completely but stupidly I said yes. She then told me about how she thinks he's cheating on her because she saw some messages on his phone coming from A. I played dumb and said she was overthinking things, and that A was just a friend.\n\nShe explicitly told me not to share any of it with T, but honestly he's my one of my best friends. I may not agree with his decisions but I'll back him up no matter what. The way I see it, my loyalty ultimately lies with him and not M. So of course I sent him screenshots of the convo to basically say \"hey, she knows. Time to end it man.\"\n\nWell he ended up calling her, and he mentioned some things that were in the screenshots that I sent, so she figured out that I ended up telling him. She confronted me about it but I denied everything and left it at that.\n\nSo in conclusion, was I wrong to lie to her and break her trust? She must feel like shit after what I did, and I don't blame her. Was there a better way to cover for T?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1183{"id": "z9wm8z7cJUWldCzDhuo0BPZCLGXrXBw6", "post_id": "9tzsd9", "action": {"description": "not wanting to do a group gift", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to do a group gift", "text": "Please determine if IATA  \n\n\nI am an assistant marching band director at a school which I am a first year teacher. The band director, who is a second year teacher, said I think we (him and I) should get the staff members gifts as a Thank Yous!! Great idea... but I have a few problems.   \n\n\nOne, I was told at the beginning of the season from the school admin I was going to get paid 4k. However, like the little bambi I was (probably am), I didn't ask for this in writing. So I was recently called into the office so they could tell me, just kidding, here's 2k. Meanwhile, the director makes 14k for essential the same job responsibilities because we are both young and trying to figure things out. Two, while I cannot confirm I believe the staff makes about the same as me (2k) despite having less responsibilities. Three, there are five of them and two of us. Therefore to get them each something of value we will likely have to pay a pretty penny. Four, I have a buttload of student debt. Yes, that my bad and I know that is a personal problem but I am trying to remedy that with the next point. Five, I am on the path to FIRE, which means I save every penny outside of rent and home-cooked, coupon-clipped food. Thus paying $50 (which I think might be optimistically low) is absolutely heart-wrenching to me. To be honest, I don't think I have even spent that much on my boyfriend of three years (no worries, he hasn't on me either, we like it like that). Six, a first year teaching salary is okay, but nothing too fancy.   \n\n\nWIBTA if I said no?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1184{"id": "eUUVGw1olmDDgJuGveTaTKhFQlwF70Wv", "post_id": "ap6xzs", "action": {"description": "complaining about working 8+ hour shifts", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for complaining about working 8+ hour shifts?", "text": "A little backstory, I'm a senior in High School and currently working between 25-30 hours every week to pay for a college education and to have money on the side. My family is far from lower class but my parents have repeatedly threatened to not pay for my college education as soon as I do something they don't agree with. Just to give you some examples, so you don't think I'm a snot nosed brat whining about how my mommy won't let me play video games 24/7, the things I did which pissed them off include: coming out as gay, having left leaning views, and hanging out with \\*gasp\\* people who aren't white. I solved this problem by getting a job and having a reliable back-up plan if they ever decide to totally cut me off. I work in fast food and as much stigma as the job gets for being a \"dumb persons job\" it really is a lot of work and moving around especially if you work 6,7,or 8+ hours at a time.\n\n​\n\nAnyways, I'm constantly getting shit from my family for not being home as much, grades dropping from 95's to 89's and 90's (ikr), etc. Today, I do so much as open my mouth about how tired I am. I immediately hear from my sister \"well your the one who chose to get a job\". Um excuse me, wtf? I point out that regardless of whether I chose to get a job or not, work is still work and definitely not fun and that I don't appreciate being put down for choosing to be slightly more independent. She responds with \"I'm not putting you down, just reminding you that you chose to get this job that you don't need so you can't complain.\" This spiraled into a 30 minute argument over whether or not she was putting me down/if I have the right to complain. Honestly, I wouldn't even be asking this subreddit or questioning being right here if my ENTIRE family hadn't agreed with my sister. So, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1185{"id": "QEPwzbCf8e4KnxEyKaztPpLdRrP0pZGh", "post_id": "ac4yiz", "action": {"description": "losing my best friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for losing my best friend", "text": "My best friend of a few years left me after he told me that I never listen and that I\u2019m always doing the opposite of what he says when in all honesty I just don\u2019t understand most of the time. I have a really hard time putting myself in other people\u2019s shoes and I often don\u2019t understand how things affect other people. \nFor example, I struggle with mental illness and i asked him to not talk about disordered eating habits (which is a huge trigger of mine) around me and he started a fight with me because he sometimes needed to talk about that stuff because it\u2019s important to him, I understand that now but i didn\u2019t at at the time and i didn\u2019t get what i was doing wrong. AITA for not listening to him or not trying hard enough to understand? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1186{"id": "BPyxXbkeOQZBv7L867hCIE78A07kTeUW", "post_id": "au6ah7", "action": {"description": "fooling around with my ex girlfriend/close friend's brother", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for fooling around with my ex girlfriend/close friend\u2019s brother?", "text": " I dated this girl for about a month and a half back in the fall. We never did anything more than kiss and the relationship never really got that serious. We ended on good terms and are now very close friends.\n\n I was spending the night at her house and we were sleeping in their game room with her brother as usual. She was asleep on the other couch and me and her brother were on the couch together. He\u2019s tried to do things with me before when I was drunk or high, but this time I was sober. He kept getting closer to me and eventually started touching my boobs and under my underwear. He kept doing this for a while and eventually turned my face towards his and kissed me. I kissed back and let this continue for about 5 minutes before i looked at my friend on the other couch and realized what I\u2019d done. I told her brother I had to pee and ran off to the bathroom and then upstairs.\n\n I feel terrible about what I did and I just need to know if it\u2019s as bad as I think it is, not that bad, or worse.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1187{"id": "yTc9U5oWNoWqo6gtMag4iebYuVCmTQXS", "post_id": "9tfud3", "action": {"description": "coming out to my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for coming out to my girlfriend?", "text": "Me and my girlfriend are essentially best friends, and according to her (something that I believe), I'm one of, if not the only source of happiness in her life. A few weeks ago I had the realization that I am gay and I've been stressing immensely recently because I know I can't be in this relationship as a romantic partner. I don't know how I would do it, and I don't even know if I should. I'm scared of losing her as a friend and I don't know if I can go through with breaking up with her. We have mutual friends and I don't want them to turn away from either of us, because over the past year we've all built a great support system and I don't want to ruin that. I'm so scared that coming out would just cause more pain than happiness at this point, and that it'd just be greedy. Am I wrong for thinking the way that I am? Is it wrong to potentially ruin multiple great friendships just for myself? Would I be the asshole if I came out to my girlfriend, and potentially ruined her time at college?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1188{"id": "CgON5ivptHSF1zNuNR0tlOHEDytO6VgC", "post_id": "am8t2q", "action": {"description": "not paying the Venmo request", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for not paying the Venmo request?", "text": "Full story: Went on a weekend getaway trip Denver with friends and friends of friends. A few of the people were local while others (like me) were flying in from New York. Two friends of friends flew in before me and rented a car so they could go to the hotel first. I was picked up by my local friends and we had a great weekend in the city. On the day of departure, my local friends recommended I just ride with Jane and Kevin (the two aforementioned friends of friends) since they were on the way to the airport too. I agreed since it made sense for my local friends to go directly home and not waste time dropping me off if Jane and Kevin were going to the airport already. \nA few days later, I Venmo requested Jane and Kevin -and everyone else on the trip- food charges that we had eaten and split among the group. Kevin declined my request without any communication and sent back a request for gas. Now at this point I was a little confused since I had spoken to Jane (the one who had rented the car) and she had said gas wasn't an issue. The tank was only half empty when it was filled so with gas prices being around 3.50, I figured 20 bucks was the max that gas could cost - split among 3 would make it a little over 6 dollars. After declining my charge for food which was about 6 bucks, Kevin charged me an additional money for gas. I immediately declined the charge. Now several individuals who have been roped into this debacle are asking why I declined. Am I the asshole here? Is he? Both? Or is it just some miscommunication?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1189{"id": "ljZskAaiF5PL1texTN4ngZ1UbLAUHooz", "post_id": "ae79uq", "action": {"description": "asking my husband to help with our other kids on the night he has my step daughter", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITAH for asking my husband to help with our other kids on the night he has my step daughter?", "text": "My husband use to work at a company where he would finish work at 2:30 (instead of 5pm) on Fridays. He\u2019s since left that job, but part of his agreement at his new position is that he is allowed to leave work early one day of the week (Wednesday) to pick his 12 year old daughter (from a previous relationship) up at school. \n\nOn Wednesday\u2019s, he usually gets home around 3:45 instead of 5:30. He then usually makes supper and gives my SD a ride home between 7&8pm so that she can have a consistent morning schedule. \n\nWe have 3 other children (3 months, 4 and 7). Our two older kids take gymnastics and for the first time, their gymnastics lesson has landed on the same night as we have my SD. The 4 year old from 5-6, and the 7 year old from 6-7.\n\nI think it\u2019s great that the nights aligned because instead of me having to make supper and take all 3 of our kids to the 5pm lesson, I can start supper then take the baby and our 4 year old, and my husband finish supper then bring the 7 year old and his 12 year old to the later lesson (gymnastics is in the same city as his ex, so he drops off the 12 year old before or afterwards). \n\nMy husband thinks he should change which day he leaves work early because he feels that it\u2019s not fair to the 12 year old. I know it\u2019s not ideal, but I don\u2019t feel it\u2019s a huge burden for the 12 year old and IMO the fact that he gets to leave work early should also be used to contribute to the rest of the family\u2019s activities as well. \n\nIf it was the only time we spent with his daughter I would understand where he\u2019s coming from but she\u2019s with us the majority if of every weekend so there is lots of opportunity! \n\nAITA for asking him to use that time for the rest of our family as well? Or should I respect that he want to change the day he leaves early so that he can protect the time for his 12 year old?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1190{"id": "jRPYvqDQthjmjc5ZPpyZfG3jqt7eR4pi", "post_id": "a91vh7", "action": {"description": "not wanting my bf to play guitar while we watch shows/movies", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my bf to play guitar while we watch shows/movies??", "text": "My bf of over two years now is a musician and I am an artist. The first year or so that we dated he never did this but now that we live together he got a \"silent guitar\" and more frequently insists that he practice scales and plays this while we watch a series or a movie. He now claims he has always done this during movies and I should deal with it. I should mention that we have almost opposite schedules during weekdays and he practices guitar in the mornings already while I am not home. I have told him I find it extremely distracting during movies even the silent guitar makes little plucking sounds.. How can he pay attention to both or even be enjoying my company while multitasking this much? He doesn't understand that it's so rude to me. Am I the asshole for wanting him to never do this?? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1191{"id": "KPRKOaTnBEkC4jlQb1gA4ReqySizEUOL", "post_id": "aj4ggi", "action": {"description": "not wanting to paint at work", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to paint at work?", "text": "I'm a production assistant for a small news team. Recently they've been making us paint an office in the building, something I don't wish to do. I've honestly been kind of a jerk about it, complaining every time we have to do it. Sometimes they spring it on us like \"Surprise! You're painting today! Get in there and get started!\" and I don't even have the proper clothing for it or anything. There is nothing in the job description that mentions painting rooms. I probably wouldn't have a problem with it if we were painting in the news studio itself but the room we're painting has nothing to do with \"news production.\" We're the lowest paid people in the building so I just see it as the bosses trying to save a buck and not hire professional painters, therefore I'm not very motivated to do a good job. Others who have had the job longer than me don't have a problem with it because apparently they've done it plenty of times before. The most frustrating part is that they come in and go \"meh, look at this spotty job, do another coat!\" They should just hire professional painters!! So AITA?\n\nTL;DR: My job makes me paint rooms when it's not part of the job description and I'm a real jerk about it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1192{"id": "N2FK4iX8bs0yHNdlXk1VoynoaOFvIRII", "post_id": "amerj2", "action": {"description": "telling a classmate her project was lazy and uninspired", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 30}, "title": "AITA For telling a classmate her project was lazy and uninspired?", "text": "Okay well I posted casually in another AITA post and I actually got some good feedback on a minor disagreement with my gf. So I figured id ask about a situation that happened last year thats been bothering me.\n\nI was taking an art class at my university that allowed us to use whatever medium we wanted to create a work based around a central theme.\n\nI chose the camera and my theme was \"Decay.\" I took pictures of run down buildings, dying plants, and decomposing animals to show how \"temporary\" even beautiful things are. This took a lot of work and set up.\n\nThe class itself was meant to critque my work. I got good reviews, great even, but the pictures of dead animals and vegetation made my classmate remark \"This seems more like horror porn. Like a morbid curiosity.\"\n\nThis woman was very pretentious and offensive during the class. Her project consisted of clay animations forming from nothing and was sort of a counterpoint to my \"Decay\" work. Just a bunch of stop motion clay forming people and houses.\n\nI told her that her art was lazy and took no risk. It was just a \"stamp\" art project meant for school. Generic and not interesting. I may have been angry at her reaction to my art but it was still the truth. Also when you compare bravery its much more daring to go out into the world and capture it than to sit in a room playing with clay and cameras for a week.\n\nShe complained to the teacher that I was being harrassing and we had to go into mediation with a counselor. It was resolved but who do you guys think was the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 29, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 30}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1193{"id": "LqfxzNHfawttyEbtfhPtVP7OwHH9lQoz", "post_id": "awomdt", "action": null, "title": "AITA \"Homophobic\" And Career Choices get me in a fight", "text": "this is short but I need to know if i'm  in the wrong.\n\nMy mom asked if she the picture my brother sent of him getting a pedicure.\n\nI jokingly say \"Oh hah is he a crossdresser\" She then goes on a rant about how i'm being homophobic and such.\n\nI know that she meant that cause of my tone even though I have a deep sarcastic voice but this started cause I said I never wanna be a politician cause that can hurt careers. I asked for an apology and she never gave me one after I told her she's pushing my boundaries (She was upstairs while My dad asked me about careers) and she had come down asking what she missed and my dad told her about how I said \"If I could choose a job then I'd do a hobby like Basketball, or a VG, and I never do wanna be a politician but i'd like to maybe a work in the stock market (Which my dad never mentioned) if i'm being real for life goals\"\n\nI love my mom and she loves me (I hope) but i feel as if she's pushing her opinion and agenda by teaching me to not say my jokes", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}1194{"id": "Z8GPIj8ZkGeMXt7OhTqU0zJpcyt5Flez", "post_id": "b9uho4", "action": {"description": "not going to my SO's sister's baby shower because his ex will be there", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I don\u2019t go to my SO\u2019s sister\u2019s baby shower because his ex will be there?", "text": "His ex is bff\u2019s with his sisters.  She hates me guts and so my SO\u2019s older sister also hates me.  This is the younger sister\u2019s baby shower and she invited me (for the first time ever since I was \u201cbanned\u201d from their events) I think to make peace because my SO was refusing to attend events where I was not invited (but his ex was).\n\nWhile i appreciate the gesture I am getting crazy anxiety over being at a place with two people (ex and older sister) who have spent the last 2 years talking crap about me to anyone who will listen, including my SO.  I\u2019ve been called racist names (\u201cchun li\u201d \u201cfried rice\u201d), called trash, been threatened violence if I come near them, etc etc though things have been quiet since the sisters\u2019 dad died.  Though by the younger sister\u2019s admission \u201cthey promised not to hurt me but they might talk\u201d (????).\n\nMy SO\u2019s kids will also be there and I have never been in the same place as their mom and them.  Their mom has made it clear that she hates me to the kids and that she doesn\u2019t want them to like me.  So although the kids and I have a good relationshop I feel bad putting them in a place where they might feel divided in their loyalties and like they have to act a certain way towards me to please their mom.  I am also scared that if the ex sees them interacting with me positively she might make trouble for them or my SO.  \n\nMy SO says I am overthinking and have been promised \u201csafe passage\u201d and that I am being a coward and an asshole for not accepting his younger sister\u2019s peace offering.  I was hoping he could relay the message that I had other obligations (it\u2019s my sister\u2019s birthday) and give her a gift/card from me but he says no.\n\nAITA here?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1195{"id": "RHJcNNMUdd079h0dcCoIqvogeaXC2760", "post_id": "ag3vp7", "action": {"description": "asking my 9 year old (host)brother not to spoiler a movie I haven seen yet", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my 9 year old (host)brother not to spoiler a movie I haven seen yet?", "text": "I am living with a host family and my little brother (9) spoilers movies all the time, he told me that (careful SPOILER) spider man was gonna die in this one movie (forget the name) while we were watching it. And I general when we watch movies together as a family he likes to say stuff to the other family members (who all already saw the movie) doesnt this \\*inserts spoiler\\* happens next or doesnt the person XY dies in the car crash? \n\n​\n\nAnyways, today we were watching star wars together and he said this movie is the worst movie ever and I said \"Please dont spoiler anything\" and then he kept talking and I said: \"Seriously, please dont tell me what happens\".\n\nHe said he wasnt gonna spoiler anything and that was it and I did not think of it as a problem.   \nA few hours later his mom and my hostmother came upstairs and said she wanted to talk to me about something that happened. I said sure and she asks me about what happened downstair in the living room and that her son was quite upset and asked me if I was just joking or if I was being serious. I said I was being serious because I hadnt seen this movie yet and I wanted to watch it without knowing whats gonna happen. Then she said he is only 9 and he is just gonna spoiler stuff and theres nothing we could do about it. Then I added that I could apologize and she was like yes, please\". I didnt feel like apologizing but since this is not my actual family I did not want to have an argument with them.\n\nMaybe I was too harsh and I just do not see it? \n\nAITA?\n\n(excuse any spelling or grammatical errors, I am not a native speaker)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1196{"id": "i75o4p3fq7ZYuduHYyTtUHxI0CJQEsfK", "post_id": "b9ht0x", "action": {"description": "leading me on", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA? - leading me on..", "text": "Okay. I feel pretty petty after this so I've made a new account.\n\nTo start this off, I've wanted a dog for years, as so many kids do. Its always been a solid 'No' from my parents. Then recently it turned into 'Maybe..' and the last few weeks we've been looking at dogs. Now, there have been periods like this before but after research into the dog weve been interested in my mother has usually been put off. For what feels like forever, my father has wanted a Chow Chow. I introduced him to Samoyeds not long ago and hes slowly fallen in love with them. My Mother, surprisingly, has too. I ignored it at first because I assumed theyd just see it as a cute dog.\n\nHowever, recently, theyve been showing me dogs for sale near us. Within a reasonable price range too. I was excited, but didnt show it. I didnt want to get my hopes up. Until my mother allowed me to message one of the breeders.\n\nThey didnt respond. I didnt let it bother me, as by this point, my mother had promised me that when it was suitable, we could get a dog. We messaged another. They requested the money upfront. Another. Another. Another.\n\nFinally.\n\nWe found someone who told us we cod come view the puppies. They werent ready to be taken, and so we did. They were gorgeous. My father, mother and I fell in love with a little boy named Nico.\n\nWe get home, all giddy, fast forward a week. All I can think about is the puppy. I mention it to my mother and she smiles, \"Oh. Didnt I tell you? We're not getting the puppy anymore. I dont have the time.\"\n\nOkay. So. I understand my mother not having the time. Even though she stays home all day. It just annoyed me a little, if she'd told me at the beginning it would've been easier to process, like, we were at the point where my brother had bought dog collars, bowls, excetera. We had doggy-proofed the rooms of the house.\n\nOkay. This is where I feel like a bit of an asshole. I just kinda cried, I may of snapped slightly at my mother, saying she always seems to lead me on with these types of things and tease me and its not fair. Yes I cried. Yes it was petty. She shouted at me for being petty and I just feel stupid for acting so childish. Its not even like I can move out and afford my own dog, I'm 13. I dont know if there was some factor that im completely misreading here but I'd love some input from an adult who could come at it from a more mature outlook. x", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1197{"id": "pCFCcs8136V8E732uQI9osvvqYPTS3WF", "post_id": "anbuh5", "action": {"description": "not letting my girlfriend snoop around in my phone", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not letting my girlfriend snoop around in my phone?", "text": "Obviously I have nothing to hide, she knows my phone's password and I even set up her fingerprint on my device, the same way I know the password to her phone and can access it with my fingerprint. Transparency at its finest. \n\nHowever, last night a friend texted me as we were watching Netflix and she asked if she could see the conversation, she was just curious, but I neither wanted to reply, nor I wanted to pause the show for a session of gossip and nosing around, so I refused to give her my phone. After that she just turned around and basically never talked to me all evening. \n\nMost of the times I don't mind if she asks me to have a look at my phone and read the conversations I have with my friends, she knows I don't like her doing so without my permission, but if she asks it's okay.\n\nHowever, I feel I have the right to just say no, without the need to explain myself, if I don't want her to invade my privacy and snoop around in my private conversations. \n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1198{"id": "LDy624jXvsAuu2T7SpUR2mbbeujvQifi", "post_id": "as8yn9", "action": {"description": "supposedly being \"closed minded\" about astrology, spiritualism, and the supernatural", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for supposedly being \u201cclosed minded\u201d about astrology, spiritualism, and the supernatural?", "text": "I love my fianc\u00e9 to death, but this has been a constant pout of contention between the two of us for quite some time. She brings up the idea that places are haunted or that astrology has any actual bearing on our actual lives and most of the time I\u2019m willing to just smile and nod and let her go on thinking whatever she wants about that kind of stuff, but it actually makes me really angry when she tries to explain real life circumstances using astrology for example \n\nX can\u2019t get along with Y because he\u2019s a whatever sign and he\u2019s a whatever sign and so that means they are incompatible \n\nI think this is the biggest load of bullshit and extremely counterproductive to people actually understanding each other. Rather than fabricating a reason why they can\u2019t get along why not try to find common ground and common understanding. Wouldn\u2019t that be 10x better than ascribing some special meaning to the way the stars and planets align on any given night? \n\nAnother example of my supposed close mindedness is my refusal to believe in ghosts. I\u2019m an avid horror movie enthusiast and love a good possession story but I know it\u2019s all fake! When you die you get pumped full of chemicals and buried in a guilted box or you get cremated and have your ashes spread and you are gone. That may be an uncomfortable concept to some but gone is gone. My fianc\u00e9 claims her friend Beverly who passed away when she was young is still around and looking out for her, while I would never ever ever attack this belief as she is and always has been very sensitive about the matter but she believes my refusal to acknowledge the existence of spirits is a direct insult to her friends memory. \n\nAll of this was brought to a head the other day resulting in a brief fight followed by a long awkward car ride. It all started with a conversation about ouija boards. She said she would be upset if I ever brought one into the house, given her beliefs I understand that but i think it\u2019s genuinely silly to be scared of an inanimate object. The fact that this specific object is seen as a bridge of sorts doesn\u2019t really change my view of it. Come on it\u2019s a freakin board with letters and numbers. Sure it\u2019s a fun party game but there\u2019s always some asshole guiding the selector thing. Following me saying this we discussed both of the aforementioned situations and this resulted in her telling me I was being closed minded and inconsiderate of what she believes. I said it\u2019s healthy to be skeptical of things that are seemingly incorrect. (this may have been where I fucked up) \n\nWas I so quick to dismiss her beliefs that I hurt her feelings over it? Is she being overly sensitive? I honestly feel like it\u2019s a really stupid thing to fight over because the answer is so fucking obvious but I guess if you are brought up believing in that kind of stuff then it might be hard to shake later in life. AITA reddit?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1199{"id": "Uljc8hxZOdeiSmxODRfUhxMZukrbYhZl", "post_id": "a8vco8", "action": {"description": "starting an argument with my girlfriend after she snuck one of her guy friends into her house", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for starting an argument with my girlfriend after she snuck one of her guy friends into her house?", "text": "Hey all.\n\nA week ago, my girlfriend and I hung out with two of her girl friends. We are all sixteen. \n\nWe spent the whole day together, playing mario kart, getting food, having a good time. I had to go home at midnight. but my girlfriend was talking about how her friend, (let\u2019s call him D, for douchebag) was going to sneak into her house at 1. When she first talked about it, my whole mood changed.\n\nI trust my girlfriend with everything, but I do not trust D. Sure, we are all mutual friends, in fact, D is quite fond of me. The thing is, a month prior, me, D, my girlfriend, and two other friends were hanging out, and I repeatedly saw D staring at my girlfriends caboose. I told her about this, and she started defending him. She did the whole, \u201cI\u2019m not saying you\u2019re wrong, but are you sure you really saw what you think you did?\u201d Yeah, didn\u2019t feel too good. \n\nA week prior to this, I had told her how her sneaking him into her house made me feel super uncomfortable. My argument was if she can\u2019t sneak me into her house, she shouldn\u2019t sneak another dude. She didn\u2019t really fully listen to my argument, because she said \u201cIt\u2019s just what WE DO, it\u2019s what our friend group has always done!\u201d\n\nSo, Saturday night comes around and they sneak D in. He brought a dab pen and a Juul. They hang out, and he left at 5. On the drive home, I damn near had a mental breakdown. I felt like I was having a heart attack, and knowing that D having a dab pen with my girlfriend and being a horn-dog was a recipe for disaster. Was the thought of that kid fucking around with my girlfriend plausible? Possibly. Was it my anxieties getting the best of me? Most likely, but regardless, I shouldn\u2019t be put in that situation anyways.\n\nSunday morning comes around, and she could tell something was wrong because I didn\u2019t talk to her once I got home, I just gave her a \u201cgoodnight\u201d which I never do. \n\nI tell her the way she made me feel was the worst I had ever felt. The sole fact that she would sneak a dude that isn\u2019t me into her house made me uncomfortable as it is, let alone\n\n1. He had weed with him (he had her hit the dab pen, this makes me mad at him, not her, in this case).\n2. If they got caught, she wouldn\u2019t be able to hang out with me at least until 2019\n3. He\u2019s a horn dog who I have seen staring at her ass\n4. If I ever snuck a girl with weed into my house, she would have a goddamn epiphany\n\nShe started by trying to defend D, saying \u201cOh it\u2019s just what we do, and D is a very good friend of mine.\u201d\n\nI kept detailing how shitty it made me feel, and she realized she fucked up. She began crying and profusely apologizing. She said she was sick with herself. I told her I didn\u2019t mean to make her feel that way, but I was not okay with what she did and I needed to tell her. She cried more, and got off of her phone. We FaceTime later and talk about it for 4 hours. It was less of an argument, and more of a debate, because while this pissed me off monumentally I am pretty good at not starting an \u201cargument\u201d. \n\nShe eventually admits that she knows what she did was wrong, but she didn\u2019t at the time. She then goes on to tell me that she doesn\u2019t usually care what happens to her, and she always tries to put her friends first, because she hopes it will make her happier. I believe she may have been trying to guilt trip me? I don\u2019t know, but I said \u201cI\u2019m sorry you feel that way, I really am, but the risk she took that night risked our entire relationship and that is not an okay risk to take. She keeps apologizing, and I keep saying that I accept her apology, but we will have a real problem if that happens again.\n\nSo here we are now. After many days of being angry with each other, we are back to normal and ready for Christmas. \n\nI still feel a little shaken up over it, and I never really got an apology for what she did, just for how it made me feel.\n\nI\u2019m not going to push her about it anymore unless it happens again. It was our first big argument, and I don\u2019t want that to happen again.\n\nTell me what you think.\n\n\nTLDR; Girlfriend sneaks a guy friend into her house in the dead of night against my wishes, I tell her how that made me feel, she starts self deprecating and making me feel bad, whilst also apologizing for the wrong thing, and we argue. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}1200{"id": "yNyI5hQhktKnIkJZwnZQ7hJZN76W9haK", "post_id": "amk1ac", "action": {"description": "breaking my SO's heart w/o notice", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA for breaking my SO's heart w/o notice?", "text": "This is a throwaway account, as I don't want my SO to see this. \n\nMe (F18) and my girlfriend(F20) have been together for about 11 months and have already been through quite a few rough patches, mostly because we are both very emotional and have a lot going on around us. For the last few weeks everything has been going decently well but I just don't feel the same as I used to. \n\nWe were friends for a while before we started officially dating and we even helped eachother through past relationships. She is completely head over heels in love with me and I used to feel the same way but lately I guess the spark is just gone. I feel like our relationship has become a routine and honestly my feelings have become less romantic and more as those of a bestfriend. \nOur affectionate and sexual relationship also has gotten semi boring for me and honestly feels like the same pattern everytime enough to the point that I don't even want to bother anymore. \n\nMy girlfriend is also very close with my family so it may be awkward afterwards. She's been dumped before and everytime it's taken a dark toll on her. I feel like she's the closest thing to my perfect match that I'll ever find so I don't get why my brain is becoming indifferent towards her. \n\nI must add that I suffer from severe and chronic depression so I'm not sure if that may play a part. I know breaking up with her would tear her apart as we have a plethora of future plans and have even talked about marriage, adoption, and moving internationally.\n\nI don't want to break her heart or do anything I might regret but I have know clue how I can stay in a relationship with someone I now only love platonically. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}

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